The Dildorks

This week we’re answering some sex-educator FAQs! Hear our Hot Takes on butt stuff, deepthroating, and dick size, among other things… “Educate Me” | Convincing a Partner | Disclosures | The Best Sex Toy | Invasive Creeps | Butt Stuff | The Butters | Njoy Pfun | Fun Factory Bootie | Tantus Neo | Dick Size | BigDickProblems | How to Orgasm | Deepthroating | 4/20 Episode Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Negotiation is a crucial kink skill, and this week we’re sharing our best tips! Find out our fave questions to ask, common negotiation pitfalls, and how to navigate awkward pre-scene discussions. Vanilla Negotiation | Trans Folks | Negotiation Cheat Sheet | Mid-Scene | Contracts | Blame Someone | Options | Kink Voices | Limits | When Scenes Fail | Marks | Aftercare | Doms’ Needs | Fave Questions | Going Nonverbal | Pausing | NobEssence Seduction | Tantus Uncut #1 | “What Are You Into?” | Time Constraints | Dark Odyssey Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re giving you our two cents about financial domination, cash fetishism, and sugar daddies! Find out why we’re into these kinks, how you can play with them, and how to navigate awkward money situations on dates. Why Are People Into Cash? | Paying For Dates | Cheap Dates | Findom | Sugar Daddies | Bank Balance | Presents | Cash | Money Anxiety | Peepshow Toys | Cissplaining | Furniture | Con Sched | Phone Sex | Ace in the Hole Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We just got back from the Playground Conference in Toronto! Find out what we learned from the sessions we attended, what conference protocol is and why we like it, and what kinds of sex we had at the con! Cum-Covered Clothes | Opening Plenary | Overwhelm | Kevin Patterson | Turning Fantasies Into Realities | Psychology of BDSM | Polyamory & Masculinity | Intersectional Dating | Blowjobs | Ask a Sadist | Live Show | Protocol | Marco Polo | Con Sex | Aftercare | Tote Bag Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Here’s the live show we recorded at the Playground Conference in Toronto! We talked about sex and travel: which toys are our suitcase must-haves, how we handle TSA snafus, why we love hotel sex so much, and more! Hellish Bus Ride | Bag of Dicks | Travel Locks | We-Vibe Tango | Tenga SVR | Crave Vesper | TSA Tips | Njoy Eleven | Packers & Collars | Tindering on the Road | Sexpectations | Protocol | Hotel Sex | Sex Work Stigma | Anxiety | Fisting Day | Discreet Toys | TENS Unit Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate interviews porn legend Joanna Angel, of the Burning Angel Empire, about her new venture: a choose-your-own-adventure erotic novel, Night Shift! We talked masturbation, erotica ethics, tattoos, and more. Authorly Ambitions | Porn Scripts | Book Feedback | Night Shift | Varied Voices | Trucker Culture | Masturbation | Consent | Rachel Kramer Bussel | Sex Vocabulary | Pegging | Tattoos | Doom’s Whiskey Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Not all sex toys live up to their hype! This week we discussed some of the most overrated toys on the market, why they suck, and how they could be better. #SexToyReviewerLyfe | Toy Hype | Stronic Eins | Rabbit Vibes | We-Vibe Nova | Magic Wand | TooTimid.com | Discreet Sex Toys | Pink BOB Lust Silicone Rechargeable Wand | Pink BOB 10-Function Silicone Anal Plug | Sybian | Cowgirl | Beginner Kink Toys | Couples’ Toys | We-Vibe Sync | VixSkin | Njoy Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we talked to Kevin Patterson from Poly Role Models, a blog about the diversity of experiences and identities in polyamorous communities. We touched on jealousy, compersion, poly screw-ups, and more! Poly Role Models | Caribana Threesome | Cautionary Poly | Customer Service | Edu-Dating | Communication | Identities | Poly & Race | Love’s Not Color Blind | Thick Skin | Masculinity | Growth | Flirty Energy | Jealousy | Steven Universe | Compersion | Definitions | Playground Conference Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Relationships between kinksters and vanilla people aren’t inherently doomed! This week we discuss navigating these mixed-orientation connections: how to make compromises, assuage fears, and communicate clearly. Kink Without Sex | Service | Vanillas vs. Kinksters | Tickling | Inner Monologues | Why Do You Like That? | How to Get a Vanilla Person to Spank You | Media Hints | 50 Shades of Kink | Playing Well With Others | Gateway Kink | Scat Story | Check-Ins | “Into Everything” | Crying | Creativity | Baby Doms Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we tackled some questions from listeners (and one from Kate). Hear us weigh in on cultivating a desire to masturbate, sex party etiquette, unpacking toxic masculinity, and more! Reid Mihalko | Barista Crush | Masturbation Motivation | Repopulate Your Sexual Fantasies | Erogenous Zones | Erotica | Toxic Masculinity | Sex Science | Play Parties | Non-Monogamy Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

(NOTE: We've opted to leave this episode up because we still think the info in it is valuable – but we have heard the recent accusations levelled against Reid, and we believe them. We'll discuss this in more detail next week.) We were so excited to talk to one of our fave sex educators this week, Reid Mihalko! He’s a communication mega-nerd like us, so we discussed flirting, consent, body language, and more. Sex Geek T-Shirts | Shame Literacy | Family Dynamics | Shame Party | Sluts vs. Musicians | Marvel Comics | Safer Sex Elevator Speech | Difficult Conversation Formula | Speed-Flirting | Embrace the Awkward | Power Disparities | Meta-Communication | Body Language | 50 Hot Ways to Ask For Consent | The Truth | Racism | Ruining the Moment | Dating Newbies | Wine Glass Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

For our 69th episode, we discussed the contentious sex act of 69ing! Find out why we usually don't like it, which factors make us like it better, and what other reciprocal sex acts we dig. Sex Robots | 420 | Distraction | Twitter Poll | Romantic Sex | Power Exchange | Positions | Insecurities | Overwhelm | One-Sided | Kink Game | Reciprocality | Dominant Bottom | From Above | Fuck 69 | Choking Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy new year, babes! This week we took stock of how we did on our 2017 sex goals and set some new ones for 2018. Hear about dates we went on, good and bad decisions we made, and what kinks we want to explore this year. First Orgasms | New Year’s Eve | Kink Events | Quality Over Quantity | Dates | Twitter | Fisting | Vulva Stuff | Porn | Teaching | Intentions | Hypnokink | Being Loaned Out | Bootblacking | CBT | Forced Orgasms | Sexy on Camera | Dom Side | Dissociation | Body-Shaming | Consistency | Comfort Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Did your 2017 sizzle or fizzle? This week's our year in review: we discussed our best and worst sex of the year, our favorite locations in which we banged, and the new kinks we picked up along the way. Sex Spreadsheet | Not Enough Sex | Permission to Come | Kink Katamari | Types of Pain | Locations | Group Sex at Camp | Partners | Romantic Kink | Bad Sex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy holidays, dorks! Here's an episode about navigating this festive season as a weirdo/queerdo. We discuss wintertime traditions, family snafus, and the importance of jerkin' it as the year "comes" to a close. Festive Fucking | Christmas Music | Feast of the 7 Fishes | Holiday Kinks | Traditions | Baking | Birthday Blowjob | Stressturbation | Over-Gendering | Poly Quandaries | Self-Care | Field Reports | Liberal Bigots | Party Buddies | Baby It's Cold Outside | Wholesomeness | Service Sub | Switchiness | Playground Conference Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We're bringing our A-spot A-game this week to talk about the little-known anterior fornix erogenous zone! Find out how we discovered this spot, how we like ours touched, and what toys work best for this task. UTI | A Vs. G | Dr. Chee Ann's Study | Vixen Outlaw and Maverick | "Press Here For Orgasm" | Length Fantasies | Instructing Partners | Fingerbanging | Cervix | Orgasms | Overstimulation | Firm Vs. Squishy | Double Trouble | Snake Dick | Perfect Dick | The Dildork | Straight Men | Size Anxiety | Half-Asleep | Standard Glass S-Curve | Glamour Piece | 2nd Clit Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Bex is sick this week so Kate is joined by her brother, Max Bornstein, drummer for garage rock band Goodbye Honolulu and co-founder/director of Toronto label Fried Records. We chatted about touring, dating fans, and our deeply embarrassing creative collaborations. Radio Free Calamity | Goodbye Honolulu | Introversion | Sideboard | No Chill | Fox Martindale | Dating Fans | Gene Simmons | Approaching Band Crushes | Disagreements | Ass | Our Mom | Impressions | Snapchat Nudes | Stealing | Cavern Show | Missy Bauman | Sexy Music | Everybody Loves Raymond | Sex Myths | Fried Records | Inspirational Songstress Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Things are about to get messy: this week we discussed sexual fluids! Find out our thoughts and feelings on cum, piss, blood, sweat, spit, and all manner of other lascivious liquids. Earwax | Drinking Piss | Power | The Devil's Deal | Facial Etiquette | Creampies | Bad Date | Blood | Period Sex | Spit | Sweat | Body Smells | Pheromones | Vomit | Sweaty Sex | Boots | Natural Harvest Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We were both in a real weird mood this week and it shows. Whoops. Enjoy this mess of an episode about gratitude, recent aggravations, and life as a Sex Person. Pizza & Video Games | Spanking | Listener Appreciation | Sex Friends & Vanilla Friends | Thank You | Gift-Giving | Reaction Anxiety | Hobbies | Buck Angel | Misgendering | Phone Sex | Feedback | Morning-After Text | Dating Your Species | 50 Hot Ways to Ask For Consent | PizzASMR Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, a civil discussion of sexual labels devolves into a rant about bisexual erasure before your very ears! Find out what labels we do and don't use, how our identities have shifted over time, and what rage-inducing things people say and do to bisexuals. Validity | SuicideGirls | Coming Out | Gender Shifts | Super Gay | Binary | "Not Queer Enough" | Self-Erasure | Boyf | Double Standard | The Power of Dick | FYI, Still Bi | Label-Free | Sapiosexuality | Kink Identities | Non-Monogamy | Carpet-Munching Bitch Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Our guest this week is Princess Kali, author, former pro domme, and erotic humiliation expert! We chatted with her about the appeal of humiliation play, how to approach it thoughtfully, and why some people love being humiliated. Organization | Enough to Make You Blush | Creativity | Emotional Language | Negotiation | Cultural Context | Scene-Starter Deck | Topping From the Bottom | Small Penis Humiliation | Body Image | Therapeutic Kink | Kink vs. Abuse | Tips for Doms | Aftercare | Collaboration | Kink Academy Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This year for Halloween, we watched the scariest thing we could think of: Fifty Shades of Grey! Get your hands on the unrated version and watch along with us – or just listen as we complain about the coerced consent, food thievery, and bad accents in this nightmare of a movie. (Sorry for those few minutes of silence around 46:00 where we had connection issues! Feel free to skip past 'em.) Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Friends with benefits: a fantastic idea, often poorly executed! This week we're discussing FWBs: how to find one, how to keep one, why they're great, and ways these copulationships can go horribly wrong. Solo Poly | Sexual vs. Romantic | Time & Trust | Easy Sex | Intimacy | Same Page | 10 Commandments of Successful FWBs | Comfort | Casual Love Letter | Ruining the Mood | How to Find a FWB | Negotiation | Attraction | Off the Cuffs Podcast | Informed Consent | Messy Endings | DM Slides | Condom BJs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We're showing off our cunning linguistics this week and talking about dirty talk! Find out about Kate's passion for porn captions, Bex's boner for aloof doms, and our favorite and least favorite filthy words. Yes/No/Maybe List | Diligent | Absentmindedly | Filthy | Power Exchange | Affirmation | Mental Stimulation | Porn Language | Bottom Guilt | Submissive Dirty Talk | Come For Daddy | Napoleon | Moist | Horny | Jizz | Boner | Sweetheart | Faggot | Pathetic | Fingerbanging | Pussy | Slave | Squirm Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We were so excited this week to talk to Lynsey G, journalist, author, and porn critic! She chatted with us about how porn has changed, how amateur porn affects the industry, what kind of porn she likes best, and more! Porn Critic | DVD Reviews | Improvements | Feminist Porn | Porn Awards | Amateur Porn | MakeLoveNotPorn.TV | "Watching Porn" | Sex Toy Reviewing | Plzur | Tom of Finland Dick | Chemistry | Tristan Taormino | Negotiation | Sex Ed | Porn Around the World | Mickey Mod Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

First dates: so fun, so scary, so rife with potential! This week, we discuss what makes a good first date, the best and worst ones we've been on, and whether sex after a first date is a good idea. Spreadsheet | First First Dates | Family Names | Awkwardness | Asking | Date vs. Not | Best Dates | Activities | Conversation Starters | Passions | Sex | Flirting | Good Sex Predictors | Negotiation | Alley Makeouts Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Orgasms! We love 'em. You probably do too. Hear all about our first orgasms, what gets us off now, and how testosterone is changing Bex's orgasms, among other climactic tidbits! O: The Intimate History of the Orgasm | Firsts | JoEllen Notte | Partnered Sex | Testosterone | Grain of Rice | Tenga SVR | Multiples | Build-Ups | Urban Tantra | Edging | Denial | Blue Clit | Over the Edge | Spreadsheet | Different Types | Consistency | Hacks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we sneezed and grumbled our way through a discussion of exhibitionism. Find out why we like showing off and why we don't – and why we occasionally fake our orgasms! Consent | Validation | Fisting | Storytelling | Anxiety | Authenticity | Fake Orgasms | Noises | Laughter | Voyeurism | Threesome | Looking | Winks | Enthusiasm | Body Parts Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we're joined by Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg, kink educators and fellow sex podcasters! We talked with them about humiliation, clowns, and much more. It's also our one-year podcastiversary, so we reflected on our fave memories from a year of Dildorks! Sick Voices | #BirthdayBruises | Anniversaries | 4/20 | Cunnilingus | Our Brand | Nude Dicks | Online Dating | Bex-isms | Dream Guests | Dr. Nerdlove | Dirty Talk | American Sex Podcast | ROUGH BS | Dark Odyssey | Humiliation | Clowns | Play Theory | Fear | Negotiation | Aftercare | Editing | Impostor Syndrome | Best Friendz 4Ever Giveaway rules:-Open only to residents of the U.S. and Canada-Tag @TheDildorks in a tweet containing a favorite moment or quote from a Dildorks episode and a link to the episode-You can do this up to once a day until September 20th Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Kink is an important aspect of our friendship, even though we don't have sex with each other. Find out what kind of kink stuff we do, how it helps us, and how to handle platonic kink in your own life. Our Average | Definitions | Sexual vs. Romantic | Masturbation Coach | Platonic Sexting | Fetish vs. Kink | Skill-Building | Self-Care Domming | Daisy Ducati | Too Intense | Subspace | Noises | Benefits | Aftercare | Wiggly Eyebrows | Alley Hookup | BirthdayBruises | Bex's Wishlist | Erotic Massage Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We sat down with the delightful Claire AH, of Tell Me Something Good and Friend of a Friend Matchmaking, to talk about sexy storytelling, making matches, and life after her stroke. Tell Me Something Good | Bawdy Storytelling | Bad Spanking | Story Ethics | Glad Day Bookshop | Braces | Confidence | Andrew Gurza | Stroke | Orgasm Changes | Fatigue | Natalie Rose | The Ultimate Guide to Sex & Disability | Rehab | Qualitative Data | Matchmaking | Queer Priorities | Physical Attraction | Ghosting | Sex City Radio | Content Notes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We're both pretty subby, but we have some feelz about dominance. Find out the difference between topping and domming, what sex acts make us feel toppy, and what we enjoy about bossing people around. Topping vs. Domming | Kink-sey Scale | Partner-Dependent | Vanilla Sex | Gender Differences | Suz | Toppy Fantasies | Facesitting | Empathy | Spanking | Fisting Lessons | Caretaking | Overstimulation | Beating the Stigma | Being the Bad Guy | Mental Health | Difficulties | Blindfold | Buddy Comedy | Aftercare | Debriefs | Switching | Performativity | Surprise | Bruise Pictures Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We just went to the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit and had some Thoughts and Feelings! Hear about our favorite and least favorite sessions, the weird/cool sex stuff we got up to, and the new toys we got! BLM, NAACP, and Beloved Community Charlottesville | Live Show | Whiteness | Femme As Fuck | Keep Giving a Fuck | The Height of Luxury | Body-Safe Toys | Shame & Perfectionism | Why Does He Do That? | Fisting | Spanking Party | Hotel Layout | Sleep | New Things | Doxy Die Cast | Pure Plug 2.0 Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We recorded this episode live at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit! Find out our best tips for attending conferences: how to meet people, learn things, and take good care of yourself! Playground Conference | Sex Blogger Summer Camp | Approaching People | Twitter | Nina Hartley | Information Processing | Rest | Spreadsheets | Expectations | Self-Care | Jiz Lee | New York Toy Collective | Oral Loving | Collar | Regrets | Con Drop | Outreach | Advertising | Meeting Fans | Edutainment Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we sat down with our friend Suz, a sex blogger, unicorn, and online-dating aficionado. She told us about her best and worst threesomes, gave some group-sex advice, and shared her Tinder secrets! Threesome Math | Dick Video | Bloody Panties | Fi(r)st Time | Worst Time | Sex Movies | Power Dynamics | Best Time | Put Your Mouth On It | Boundaries | Unicorn Hunters | Football Team | Tinder Tips | Feminism | Neglected Unicorn | Group Flirting | Negotiation | Patreon Nudes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we sat down with our friend Taylor J Mace, blogger, educator, and sex worker! They told us the nerdy strategies they use to plan group sex, some tips for attending sex parties, and thoughts on playful domination! Anal Fisting | Intense Talkers | Hotel-Room Orgy | Spreadsheets | Privacy | Feelings | First Time | No Expectations | Going Solo | Condom Fairy | Playful Domination | Dom Stereotypes | Consent | Yes/No/Maybe List | Punishment Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we get wild and talk about edgeplay: kinks that kinda terrify us, but in a hot way. Find out what we find compelling about knives, piss, consensual non-consent, and a plethora of other pervy deliciousness. Rekinkarnation | Taboos | Humiliation | Knives | Open Source Sex | Fantasy vs. Reality | Watersports | Service | Embarrassment | Enough to Make You Blush | Anxiety | Consensual Non-Consent | Rape vs. Ravishment | Ageplay | Feminist Partners | Shame | Facials | Chill Partners | "What Do You Want?" | Pegging | Forced Feminization | Cocksucker's Mirror Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Our passion for penises knows no bounds. In this episode, we discuss all things dick: our first schlong sightings, our current criteria for commendable cocks, and our favorite things to do with wangs. This one gets a little porny, folks! BJ Cast | High Passion | All Dicks Are Good Dicks | Surprise! | Sementics | Dick vs. Cock | First Time | You Show Me Mine | Envy | Anxiety | Technique | Responsiveness | Dick Rating System | Mouths & Butts | VixSkin Mustang | Foreskin | Dicksperiments | Turtles | Clit Pump | Facefucking | Bex's Patreon | Yelling Into the Void Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ah, the wonderful and complex world of non-monogamy! This week, we get nerdy about polyamory. Find out how we realized monogamy didn't work for us, which resources taught us about poly, and what the hell we do with all our feeeeelingz. Polynormativity | Choosing Monogamy | Proto-Kate | Solo Poly | Monogamous Exes | Unnatural Rules | Labels | Freedom | Disclosure | Jealousy | Reid Mihalko | One-Penis Policy | Femme Competition | Orientation vs. Behavior | Dashboard Light | Feeling Feels | Distractions | Scheduling | Pressure | Communication | Life on the Swingset | Opening Up | More Than Two | Jealous Listener | Compersion Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What the heck is sex-positivity and why does it matter? This week, we discuss the sex-positive movement: its advantages, its criticisms, and how to live a sex-positive life. Pride Glitter | Definitions | Safe vs. Risk-Aware | SwedenManatees | Sex is Fun | Sex Nerd Sandra | Vanilla-Shaming | Opposition | Kinks vs. Behaviors | Callouts | Beacon of Permission | Sex Shops | Sexual Attitude Reassessment | Asexual Erasure | Self-Shaming | Testosterone | Cake-Sitting | Live Recording at Woodhull Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Father's Day! Let's talk about Daddy Doms. Find out how we realized we were into Daddies, how we deal with weird feelings around this taboo, and how we feel about people calling us Daddy! Coffee Dom | Pup vs. Little | Nice Dominance | Lawyer Prof | Why Are People Into Ageplay? | The Big Little Podcast | Ageplay | Little Space | DD/lg and Pups vs. Poly | Incest?! | Vanilla Daddy | Daddy Feelz | Honorifics | Toppy Bex | Dad Costume | When Kink Isn't Fun | Sub Stereotypes | Gender-Bent Daddies | Rosa Diaz | Productivity Domming | Solo Kink | Daddy Issues | Bex's Dentist | Chameleon Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We were thrilled this week to chat with Andre Shakti, sex educator, sex worker, and sex journalist. She gave us advice on managing jealousy, meeting metamours, and getting fisted for the first time! I Am Poly and So Can You | Vocabulary & Context | Therapists | Jealousy | Metamours | Femme Competition | Compersion | Humanization | Strap-On Workshop | Sex Down South | Fisting | Cathartic Crying | Black Dragon Nitrile Gloves | Sliquid Sassy | Inflatable Toys | Fist Dildos | Wonder Woman | Magic Wands Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Fanfiction is a wonderful exercise in imagination and perviness! Find out our favorite fic pairings, our thoughts on the ethics of real-person fic, and why we wanna make out with Gregory House and Jake Peralta. Testosterone | Grindr | Rachel Kramer Bussel | Nerve Endings | Bones | Harry Potter | Brooklyn Nine-Nine | House, M.D. | Real-Person Fic | Cumbersmut | Stephanie Beatriz | Supernatural | #DildorksFic? | Good Fic | I'll Know My Name As It's Called Again | Enthusiastic Consent | Bad Euphemisms | If Stanley Tucci Were Your Boyfriend | Nightstand Necessities | Holtzmann | New Kinks | A Cure For Boredom | Fic Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Maaan, we really like making out. This week we're talkin' about kissing. Find out which Indiana Jones movie underscored Bex's first kiss, what improv has to do with kissing, and whether good cunnilinguists make good kissers. Ziti Siren | Indiana Jones | Report Card | Spin the Bottle | Passion | The Thigh-Grind | Koala Nest | Contact Improv | Lip-Biting | Casual Kisses | Oral Sex | Bad Kissers | IKEA | PDA | Trapped Gazelle Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we're chatting with Stella, a sex-savvy, queer, kink-positive, badass astrologer. They taught us how our star charts inform our sex lives, relationships, and even our business partnership! Skepticism | Sun, Moon, Rising | Antisocial Scorpio | Service | Spreadsheets | Poly Boundaries | Libra Logic | Flirting | Bossy Sub | Taurus & Virgo 4Ever | Luxurious Masturbation | Too Many Ideas | Transcendent Kink | Clit Instructions | Gender Essentialism | No Chill | Introspection | Dom Cat Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy belated Mother's Day, y'all! This week we're talking about how our childhoods and parents influenced our sexuality. And, bonus: Kate interviews her mom about masturbation, boys, and celebrities! DD/lg | Fellati-eww | Pleasure | Books | TMI | Anatomy | Equality | Acceptance | Butts | Bath Faucet | Sex Therapist | Sexagenarian Superbabe | Feminist Hero | Boy-Thirsty | White Wine | Funny Weirdos | Goodbye Honolulu | Meeting the Parents | Break-Ups | Celebs | Kink Newb Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Aftercare is an oft-overlooked part of kink, but a super important one! This week we discuss why aftercare matters, how we like to do it, and what happens if we skip it (hint: bad stuff!). Pajamas | Altered State | Distance | Poly Partners | Debriefing | Chocolate | #BirthdayBruises | Little Space | What Do You Need? | Kink Savasana | Dissociation | Casual Kink | Mike Tyson Mysteries | Tops/Doms | Potatoes | Crying | 7 West | Massage | Inopportune Subspace | Piercings | Zipline Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We went to the Toronto International Porn Festival and it really pissed us off, y'all. Here's our episode-long rant about the consent issues, organizational problems, and ethical snafus at the porn fest. Oh, and a few good things happened too, I guess. Feminist Porn Awards | The Best Porn of the Last Decade | Trans Entities | Sexing the Transman 3 | Morgana Muses | Crash Pad Series | Rough Sex 2 | Best Slumber Party Ever | Liberté Sexuelle | Ciné Sinclaire | Disorganization | Spit | Gay Stuff | T-Slur | Non-Consent-y Jokes | Bloodplay | Lelo Hex Condoms Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re talkin’ shop with Kenton, lead fucksmith at Funkit Toys! Find out how silicone toys are made, what’s in the works at Funkit, and what inappropriate question people always ask Kenton at cons. Genderless Toys | Paddles | Customer Feedback | Ideas | Silicone | Signet | Dream Toys | Glass | Toymaker Brain | “Is That Your Dick?” | Tantus Plunge | Plagiarism | “Revolutionary” Toys | Versatile Implements | Bruises | Theme Songs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week is 4/20 so we decided to get high and ask each other goofy hypotheticals. How do you suck a 6-foot dick? What are our desert-island dildos? And which two Beatles would be the best threesome buddies? Podcasting High | #DildorksLive | Magic of Editing | Dick-Sized Persons | Sex on Food | Grocery Store | Edible Toys | Cheese | Labia-Swappin' | Good Pups | Gender Constructs | Beatles | Subby Wolf | Podcast-Married | Musicals & Video Games | Cis Man-ception | Warrior's Burial | Lightning Round | Risky Dick Texts Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.