The Dildorks

How do you do kinky stuff if you don’t have (or don’t want) someone to do them with? This week we’re talking about solo kink: why it’s fun, how to do it safely, and (of course) how it’s relevant to the current global pandemic. #StayTheFuckHome | What Is Solo Kink? | AFemmeCock Post | Reasons | Masturbation Comparison | Pain & Self-Harm | Dangers | Negotiation | Headspace | Fantasizing | Toys & Products | Mirrors | Internet Integration | Edging | Chastity | D/s | Self-Compassion | Aftercare Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Don’t listen to this episode while driving! This week Kate busted out her fledgling hypnosis skills and hypnotized Bex, after an extended scene negotiation. You’ll learn about communication, recreational hypnosis, and what Kate’s hypno top voice sounds like…! Erotic? | Desires | Kinesthetic | Inductions & Deepeners | Fractionation | Sex & Touch | Intensity | Meta-Communication | Motivations | End | Risk Assessment | Pendant/Pendulum | Mini Scene | Debrief #1 | Taking Too Long? | Bondage Scene | Debrief #2 | Resolution | Debrief #3 Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we’re chatting with writer and mental health advocate JoEllen Notte about her incredibly helpful soon-to-launch book on sex and depression, The Monster Under the Bed! Crying | Double Taboo | Introverts at Conferences | Sex Educator BFFs | Research | The Book You Need | Us vs. the Problem | Unqualified | Horny Depression | Kink | Self-Harm? | Caretaking Guilt | Desirability | Waning Libido | Sex-Positivity | Lube | Wand Vibes | The “Normal” Way | Doctors | Medications | Scaring the Public | One Takeaway Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re talking about play parties again this week, and this time we’re focusing on what happens once you get to the party. Hear our best advice on approaching people, negotiating pickup play, saying “no” nicely, and more! Nerves | Different Types of Party | Approaching People | Negotiation | SIMMER | Watching | Feeling Awkward | Expectations | Saying No | Self-Consciousness Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about collars: what they are, why people like them, and how to go about buying one, negotiating one, and wearing one! What is a Collar? | Kate’s First Collar | Gifting Collars | L’Amour-Propre | Old Guard | Bringing It Up | Play Collars | Negotiating Rules | Flagging | Touching | Doms | Double Duty Cuff | Reactions in Public | Necklaces & Day Collars | Inappropriate Situations | Complimenting Strangers | Contextualizing | Buying One For Yourself | Radical Self-Love Totem | Old Collars | Ceremonies | Non-Monogamy | Breakups | Wear & Tear | Aslan Leather | Eternity Collars | Locks & Keys | Collarversary Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re joined by Ashe, the photographer extraordinaire behind Rose Glass Photos, who also happens to be Bex’s partner! We discuss how photography interacts with gender expression, kink, personal branding, and more. Butt Selfies | Marginalized Folks | Gender on Purpose | Perfection | Comfort vs. Awkwardness | Preparation | Shoot with Matt | Kinky Photographers | Giving Direction | Intoxication | Gendered Posing | Faces | Cameras | Social Media & Branding | Diversity | Sensitivity Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Play parties are so fun, but also confusing and scary at times! This week we’re demystifying the processes of finding play parties to attend, mentally preparing yourself to play, and putting together your party outfit. Sex or No Sex? | Finding Parties | Vetting | Not Kinky? | Alone vs. With People | Mental Prep | Logistics | Dress Codes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering some of your big kink questions, including how to keep things casual in a kinky friendship-with-benefits and what to do when a top safewords! Pervy Purview | D/s FWB | Slut Protocols | Hobbies | IRL Fanfiction | Aftercare | Sub Drop | Giving Feedback | Tops Safewording Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Let’s be cool and heat things up: this week we’re discussing temperature play!Weather | Sensation Play | Easy vs. Advanced | Ice | Topping | Risks | Wax | Toys | Enemas | Lube & Oil | Emotions | Safewording Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What skills do bottoms develop that allow them to take more sensation, feel good about doing so, and make their tops happy? This week’s episode is all about bottoming skills, which are sometimes underacknowledged in the kink world. iTunes Reviews | Switching | Subbing vs. Bottoming | Bottoming Skills Workshop | Underrecognized | Masochism | Subspace | What You Want | Negotiation | Providing Data | Building the Playground | Pain Processing | Safewording | Expressiveness | Feedback | Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Vulvas and vaginas are great! This week we’re discussing our feelings about these widely venerated and vilified parts – both our own and other people’s. Vulva Collector | Our Own Bits | Vag vs. Dick | Queer Impostor Syndrome | Transferrable Skills | Sucking Clits | “Switching” Genders | More Complicated | Visual Representation | Vag Smells | Tightness | Aesthetics | Semantics | Sex Ed | Stigma & Shame | Labia Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy New Year! This week we’re reviewing how our sex lives progressed in 2019, and looking forward to discuss our 2020 sex goals.You’re Wrong About | Overall Trends | Sex Ed | Decentering Sex | Bad Sex | Keeping Track | Number of Partners | Locations | Best Sex | Roleplay | Phone Sex | Topping | Hypno-Topping | Sex Toys | Sex Media | Last Year’s Goals | Passion Projects | Apologies | Submitting | New Orgasms | Dicks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re back to chat more about taboo kinks! Hear us unpack incest porn, edgy ethnoreligious roleplays, forced feminization, and more. Relativity | Legislation | Incest Porn | Context | Trauma | Fantasy vs. Reality | Spicing Things Up | Uncool | Beducated Female Orgasm Course | Race Play | Hate Crimes | Motivations | Forced Feminization | Limits | Bringing It Up Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re talkin’ taboos! Hear us discuss some of our favorite taboo kinks, like intoxication, consensual non-consent, and sleepy sex. More to come next week! Toybag Guide to Playing With Taboo | What Is Taboo? | Vanilla Taboos | Fantasy vs. Reality | Gateway Kinks | Blood | Jillian Keenan | Consensual Non-Consent | Aftercare Buddy | “Slave” | Triggers | Check-Ins | Intoxication | Beducated Female Orgasm Course | Negotiation | Poppers | Sleepy Sex | Forced Bi | Taking On the Oppressor | Identity vs. Behavior Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Almost everyone’s curious about hypnosis, so we’re back this week doing Hypno 101! Learn about how trance works, what it feels like, and what kinky stuff you can do with it. Mind Play | Scripts | Pre-Talk | Negotiation | Speaking in Trance | Children | Surprises | Vetting Tops | Inductions | Relaxation | Fixation | Resisting | Confusion | Covert Hypnosis | Rapid Inductions | Coercion | Derren Brown | Are We There Yet? | Utilization | Fractionation | Triggers | Aftercare | Hypno Bondage | Love Dial | Indirect Suggestions | Phrasing | Arousal | Dials | Tools Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We attended a hypnokink event together recently so this week we decided to chat about erotic hypnosis! Hear about our fantasies surrounding this kink, some scenes Kate has done, and some hypnosis misconceptions we love to debunk. TES Hypnokink Group | Distractions | Validity | Tricks | Orgasm Countdown | Lazy Tops | Mindlessness | Perception vs. Reality | Metaphor | Relaxing | Risks | Two Hyp Chicks | The Brainwashing Book | Fantasies | Intelligence Play | Undoing | Service | Training | Nipples Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Bex sits down with Rachael Rose, a chronically ill and disabled sex educator, to talk about their shared diagnosis: ADHD! Find out how this condition intersects with sex, dating, creativity, and more.Diagnosis | ADHD Brain | Getting Things Done | Homework | Brain Engagement | Watching Movies | Gender Bias | Restlessness | Gamification | Time Blindness | Reaching Out | Notifications | Relationships | How to ADHD | Motivation | Food | Deep Dives | Noisy Brain Workshop | Distraction | Sex Tips | Joy | NRE | Long-Distance | Looking Forward Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re tackling the sex and kink elements of long-distance relationships! Tune in to hear our best Skype sex tips, how protocol works in LDRs, and whether we would have sex on an airplane. Mile-High Club | Skype Sex | Feeling Silly | Flirting & Foreplay | “Real Sex” | Accessibility | Protocol | Sadomasochism | We-Vibe Sync | Aftercare | Protocol Changes | Shopping | Research Tasks | Collars | FaceTime Makeup | Travel Tips Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’ve both been in multiple long-distance relationships, so today we’re discussing the weird, wonderful, and sometimes wistful realities of LDRs!What Counts? | Initial Opinions | Because Internet | Day-to-Day | Unreality | Chemistry | Communication Style | Touch | Dates | Finances | Endgame | Polyamory | Balance | Traits | Soulmates | Asking | Important Conversations | Time Management | Emotional Support | Watching & Reading Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Bex is back from the hospital after his top surgery! This week he’s telling us the story of his experience (with some contributions from Kate, who was there too). Current Status | Early Morning | Preparation | Money | Dad | Lip Ring | Anaesthesiologist | Sharpie | Joking/Coping | Misgendering | Peeing | Aromatherapy | Sex Break | Hot Nurse | Graham Crackers | Elevator | Pain | Marvel | Partners | Recovery Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We sat down with therapist and educator Aida Manduley to discuss the psychological model known as attachment theory – how it works, why it matters, and (of course) how it relates to non-monogamy and kink! What Is Attachment Theory? | Insecure | Secure | Anxious-Preoccupied | Dismissive-Avoidant | Fearful-Avoidant | Caveats | Childhood | Abuse | What to Work On | Distress Tolerance | Different Manifestations | Becoming Secure | Feelings | Silence | How to Say No | Emergencies | Non-Monogamy | Kink | Bragging | Reinforcement | Context Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

In preparation for Bex’s long-awaited top surgery, we had a conversation about his reasons for getting it, what he’s been doing to get ready for it, and what he thinks will happen during recovery and beyond. Time Travel | Rude Questions | What Is It? | Deciding | Process | Risks | Fears | Pain | Recovery | Depression | Regrets | Saying Goodbye | Chest Hair | Looking Forward | Sex | Friends & Partners | Advice | Thirst Traps Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week rounds out our 3-part series on breakups! We’re addressing some awkward post-split situations, like reclaiming your possessions, saying goodbye to your ex’s family, and dealing with passive-aggressive tweetstorms. Getting Back Your Stuff | Impulsive Breakups | Taking a Break | Close Quarters | New Dates | Harping On | Friends & Family | Subtweets Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We had more to say about breakups, so here’s another episode about the ends of relationships!Grammar/Gender Rebel | Rebounds | Staying Friends | Small Talk | Best Breakup | Pre-Negotiation | Friend Breakups | Poly Breakups | Supporting Partners | D/s Breakups Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

How did it take us this long to do an episode about breakups? This week we’re discussing some of our worst splits, how we think they should be done, and what should happen afterward.Which One Is Harder? | First Breakup | Text vs. In Person | Long-Distance | Teenage Bullshit | When Is It Time? | Downleveling | Clarity | Reasons | Safety | Location | Post-Breakup Conversations | Getting Better | Uncertainty | Grief | Time Heals All Wounds | Trauma | Attachment | Distraction vs. Processing | TV Marathons | Rorschach | Crying Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re interviewing Dr. Liz Powell, psychologist, speaker, and author of our favorite book on non-monogamy, Building Open Relationships. We touch on polyamory struggles, love as a verb, and creating the relationships you want, among other things! Building Open Relationships | Jealousy | Desire-Based Approach | Breaking Up | Downleveling | Hierarchy | Flexibility | Boundaries | Perfect Poly | Fucking Up | Monogamy Mindset Hangovers | Soulmates | Real Love | Transference Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Truth or dare? We DARE you to join us this week for a discussion of sex games: different types, ways to play them, and why they might be beneficial. Travel Exhaustion | Why? | Mass Market Games | Excuses | Dulcinea Pitagora | Competition | Game Development | Strip Scrabble | Video Games | Roleplay | Reward vs. Punishment | Consent | Sex Dice | Truth or Dare | Intoxicants | Who Would You Fuck? | Gamification | Protocol | Habitica | Sticker Chart | Skill Equity | Group Sex | Making a Game | Dating Sims | OMGyes | Question Box Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Bex interviews his friend and roommate, sex educator and queer pirate Jo Goforth, about finding identity through fandom, positive representations of masculinity, and their new sex ed comic, among other things. Coworker Chart | Union-Busting | Fandom | A Song of Ice and Fire | X-Men | Black Sails | Resonant Characters | Quicksilver | Cosplay | Musketeers | Jake Peralta | Positive Masculinity | Queer Representation | Queer Utopia | Trans Generations | Transphobia | Coming Out | Shifting Orientation | Introspection | Sex Talk Comic | Trans Sex Ed Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re back to smash more romantic myths this week! Hear our takes on unconditional love, jealousy, internet relationships, and more. Femme Multitasking | Someone For Everyone | Commitment | Love Conquers All | Unconditional Love | Who’s the Man? | Center of Your Universe | Obsessed | Online Relationships | Jealousy | Political Views | Cheaters | Bodily Functions | Sharing a Bed | Dressing Up | Leagues Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

There’s so much bullshit discourse about dating and relationships out there, so this week we’re busting romantic myths! Hear us debate first-date protocols, compatibility adages, gender stereotypes, and more. I Love You | 3rd Date | 3 Days | Hard to Get | Preserving the Mystery | Attachment Style | The First Move | Who Pays? | Mentioning Exes | Opposites Attract | Conflict | Love at First Sight | First Date | Self-Love | Happy Wife | Going to Bed Angry | Persistence | Bad Relationship Material | Virgins Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Kate recently came out as demisexual, so this week we’re discussing that identity: what does it mean, how does it manifest, and how does it relate to other concepts like sluttiness, responsive desire, and demiromanticism? Definitions | Romantic vs. Sexual | Identities | Oppression & Invisibility | Sex Industry | Attraction or Lack Thereof | Demiromantic | External Factors | A New Development | Dating Apps | Mid-Day Dates | Casual Sex | Anticipation | Romantic Topping | Responsive Desire | Sluttiness | Sex Dreams | Submission | Asexual Outreach Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Safer sex protocols don’t have to be boring or a mood-killer! Today we’re diving into our thoughts and feelings on condoms, dental dams, STI testing, and more. TARDIS | STI Panels | Compromise | Gloves | Elevator Speech | Pushback | Contraception | Cum | Myths | Condom Skepticism | Internal Condoms | Condom Tricks | UTIs | Gloves | Fertility Tracking | Vasectomy | IUDs | Dental Dams | Fucking Trans Women | Safer Sex For Trans Bodies | Kissing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Step back in time with us and let’s discuss 1950s household dynamics! Hear us weigh in on why this style of D/s is hot, complicated, and even potentially empowering. Paradigms of Power | Definition | Reclamation | Feminism & Choice | Modesty | Satisfaction | Mastery | Closeted Kinksters | House-Husband | Drag & Glamour | 24/7? | When You Don’t Live Together | M/s Language | Polyamory | Media Influences | Baby Steps | Clothes & Makeup Recs | Cultural Skills | Cocktails Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Home is where the heart is, and also (often) where the sex is! This week we’re discussing the ways home decor can interplay with your sex and dating life, from beds to lighting to lube dispensers. Suction Cup Dildo | Easy Access | Lube | Condoms | Beds | Smart Home | Hospitality | Art | Air Conditioning | Partner Pics | Between Partners | Amenities We Like | Celebrity Pillows | Lube Dispenser | Nursery Dungeon | Rope Storage | Bex’s Fundraiser | For Hire: Audition | Question Box Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ever noticed how sometimes you can say a lot without saying anything at all? This week we're discussing the delicate art of non-verbal communication – in flirting, sex, kink, and more! Blushing | Skill Level | Reading Into It | Body Language | Proximity | Queer Intimacy | Cheating | Non-Verbal Consent | Pleasure | Overanalyzing | Cultural Influences | Saying No | Dysphoria | Screw Consent | False Negatives | Signs of Readiness | Kinky Invitations | Bex’s Fundraiser | Touchy-Feely? | What They Do | Crushy Voice | Subspace | Safewords | Practicing Expressiveness Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Bex just got back from TES Fest, a thought-provoking kink conference in New Jersey. This week, he recaps what he learned there, and we discuss some kinky fantasies that the workshops brought up. Hotel Privacy | DM Training | Blood Play | Raven Kaldera | Risk Assessment For Masters | Real Service | Head Pats | Knives & Scarification | Sadism | Interrogation | Facial Torture | Mind Games | Drug Play Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Getting the ball rolling is hard sometimes, so this week we’re discussing the intricacies of initiating sex. What are the best and worst ways to do it – and what should you do if there’s an initiation imbalance in your relationship? Do We Initiate? | Direct vs. Indirect | When Does Sex Start? | Pre-Initiation | “Hey, We Should Talk” | Butt-Rubbing | Personal Space | Allusions | Responsive Desire | Escalating Touch | Other Senses | Massage | Rushing | Foreplay vs. None | Arousal vs. Consent | Imbalance | Power | Rejection | Saying No | Gender Socialization | Submissives | Circumcision Status Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re talking about body mods this week: tattoos, piercings, and how they interplay with our sex and dating lives. Tune in for tattoo advice, kinky feelings, and tales of piercings gone awry. One vs. Multiple | Lay of the Land | Sexy Feelings | Nipple Piercings | Cravings | Ownership | Kink | Roleplay | Partner-Specific Mods | Meaning | Regrets | Deciding | Designs | Finding an Artist | Visibility | Tatcalling | Needle Play | Branding | Disclosure | Impact | Asking Permission | Kinky Meanings Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Pride month! This week we’re discussing our favorite and least favorite things about Pride, from tutus and play parties to biphobia and cops. NYPD | First Events | Outfits | Play Party | Gatekeeping | Cops | Grassroots vs. Corporations | Professionally Queer | Pride Sex | Creeps | Consent | Kink | Your First Pride | Bringing People | Naked Boys Reading | Queer Liberation March | Fake Male Assistant Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Up, up, and away: this week we’re discussing our sex drives! What is the libido, what stokes it, what tempers it, and what can you do when yours doesn’t match your partner’s? Where’d It Go? | What Is It? | Responsive Desire | NRE | High/Medium/Low | Never Enough | Sex Begets Sex | Sex Industry | Boosting Desire | “Just Do It” | Testosterone | Toning It Down | Mismatches | Environment | Antidepressants | Asexuals | Polyamory | Talking to Doctors | Kink Drive | Punch in the Gut Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Do you see what I see? This week, we’re discussing the visual aspects of sex, and how the acts of looking and seeing (or not) play into our sexuality. MakeLoveNotPorn | Attraction | Arousal | Nudes | FaceTime and Skype | Eyes Closed | Anxiety | Enthusiasm | Watching | Romantic Sex | “Look At Me” | Fear Play | Helen’s Toybox | Blindfolds | Onoir | Glasses | Men vs. Women | Cultural Bias | Lighting | Phone Sex | Sex Spreadsheet Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Take a deep breath now: it’s time to discuss sex smells (and tastes)! We divulge our fave and least fave olfactory experiences during sex, our thoughts on our own smells and tastes, and more. How Important? | Mismatches | Artificial vs. Natural | Hormones | Preparation | Tasting Yourself | No Deodorant | Favorite Spots | Perfume: The Story of a Murderer | Bad Smells | Fantastical Fetishes | Dry Mouth | New Merch Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing what it means to be “good at sex” – physically, mentally, and otherwise. Blowjob Skills | Good At Sex? | Bad Chemistry | Communication | Knowing What You Want | Rhythm | Uncool | Comfort | Enthusiasm | Bad At Sex? | “Did You Come?” | Too Much Pressure | How to Improve | Porn & Cosmo | Are We Good? | Generosity | Room For Improvement | Notifications | Endurance | Impostor Syndrome | Ableism | Sex Hacks | Not Vocal | Signals | Bottomy Subs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

You asked, we answered: in this episode, we discuss queer etiquette quandaries, from pronouns to flagging to threesomes. Femme Flirting | Pronouns | Misgendering | Pre-Transition Photos | A Date? | Coming Out As Kinky | FWB Feelz | Workplace Flagging | Friend’s Ex | Fetishwear | Sex Party | Threesome Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate invited her partner Matt onto the show for an interview about sadism, hypnokink, productivity domming, and other aspects of their relationship! Dating a Podcaster | Topping For Catharsis | Sadism | Reassurance | Programmer Brain | Taking Notes | Sex Spreadsheet | Phone Sex | Hypnokink | Protocol | Productivity Domming | Sex Toys | Travel Sex | Sex Apps Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Warm up those vocal cords – this week we’re discussing sex noises! Hear us pontificate on our favorite and least favorite sounds, the best erotic audio mediums, and how we learned to let loose. Dudes | Feedback | Porn Audio | Solo Sounds | Active Listening | Learning | Gender | Performativity | Guidance | Factors | New Noises | Voyeurism & Exhibitionism | Favorite Sounds | Body Noises | Distractions | Memories | Bad Sounds | How to Start | Erotic Audio | Phone Sex | I’m Deep Throat Podcast | Forced Silence | Sub Missives Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy (early) 4/20, stoners! This week is our annual Highpotheticals episode: we’re gettin’ blazed and asking each other weird questions about sex, dating, and masturbating. Enjoy! Smoking Fetish | 3 Questions | Sex Toy Brands | TV’s On | Toys Personified | Cartoon Orgy | Famous Band | No Vibrators | Fictional Universe | Time Machine | Face Mask | Dong/Schlong/Wang | Shower vs. Floor | Sploshing | Silence | Pokémon | Sex Robot Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re digging into the comfort and excitement we glean from rituals and protocols! Hear us explain why we love these kinky traditions. Creatures of Habit | Listener Email | Protocol vs. Ritual | Pre-Date Rituals | Deciding Together | Too Many | Conference Protocol | To-Do List | Long-Distance | Airport | Day-to-Day | Service | Food | ‘50s Housewife | Daily Blowjob | Cleaning | Headspace Transition | Topping | Collars | Punishment | Public Play | Conflict | Check-Ins | Switches | Names | Personal Development Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We talk so much about sex that sometimes we forget to discuss non-sexual touch! In this episode, we’re getting into the fine points of cuddling, hugging, wrestling, foot rubs, and other types of not-explicitly-sexy touch. Hug Rejection | Wrestling | Dates | Touch Starvation | Gender Dynamics | Touch Barrier | Aftercare | Cuddle Parties | Goal-Oriented | Foot Worship | Feet & Gender | Family | Professional Cuddling | Nuzzling | Massage Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re busting more shitty sex-negative myths! Hear our hot takes on libido imbalances, biphobia, STI stigma, and more… Stereotypes | Sex Toys | Simple Dicks | Foreplay | What is Sex? | Sex Drive | Bisexuality | Changeable Orientation | Flagging | D/s Stereotypes | Mollena Williams | American Sex Podcast | Older Adults | Joan Price | STIs | Ella Dawson | Boners & Wetness Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.