Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

Instructions for living a life. Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.”― Mary Oliver

Can you say more about the idea of self centeredness qualities when there is no self?There is a best friend of my partner's who this mind judges as cheap, selfish, know it all, and self centered. Which of course is just a reflection of how I am being...or rather what this system does based on what is believed. And the same is true for him.There is resistance to not liking him, to feeling these judgments. Resisting them makes it worse. Beyond noticing this system flip flopping in pretending to like him out of politeness and likely being a jerk...what is there to see?Thank you,

I am probably someone who keeps things, mysery in place, especially hurtful thinking, living, that I don't recognize it anymore etc. Or I am just to scared to do something about , acknowledge it. Or don't care. New or nice things are not allowed, I can't or don't know how to enjoy that anymore. Or if I feel it, it's not important, enough etc. or I numb. (automatically). For me it almost means 'that's just how I am' , sometimes it feels I am' killing', destroying myself, giving up. In a way I feel like a lost person. Asking, talking to people but no change. Listening, reading, sometimes a bit of relief. Tired of it. (you will probably say, I am not..) Maybe I am too defensive, controlling, protecting. That I don't want to change. When I ask 'what's at stake', nothing is I guess. The high tone in my head is not helping it's there all the time, never quiet. Feeling like a robot quite often because of this, probably all thinking. I don't know what I am asking, I guess I just want to share, vent.I guess I am scared..

When you say "that's why we're here" I just can't seem to get on with the video, my mind is just too intrigued by this as it sounds like you say we have "a purpose" on this earth. Could you maybe please elaborate?

I’m writing you because I am desperate. Since the days before 3P, when I was in a constant state of desperation, living from one therapy session to another, I haven’t been so desperate. It feels like total regression.I reached a point of total hopelessness. You say it’s something good, but it feels just awful. I took your advice and let the topic of weight loss rest for the duration of the Home course. This showed me a total unhappiness I am living in, like being totally separated from life. Or maybe I cannot be separate from life, but I don’t want the things life gives me, I fight with them, and I can’t stop myself from fighting. My whole day is a fight and desperation and not wanting to.It's like realising in what dark place I was living all the time, now not being able to paint over it with hope and looking for a good feeling or looking for the innate wellbeing. Is there even such a thing, or is this just another nice sounding concept?And yes, I want this to go away, and you say, this is what keeps it in place. I get that, so here again no hope at all, because how could I honestly not want the suffering to go away? I can’t imagine.I don’t even have a question, because the only thing I would want now is for all this to go away and for me to finally be happy. And this is the suffering.I also would like to understand something, but it seems to me that I just don’t get anything. I don’t know what is true, well what I wrote is true for me at the moment. And this other truth you talk about, I don’t know what this is, I don’t know what this would even help, if I am an entity controlled by a program. The more I think about it, the more it gets confusing.If the system does what the system does, and only an understanding of the system might change the system or not, who does this understanding, and if there is no self, who has this conversation anyway, and what is there to be seen anyway? It seems to me I understand nothing. All I know is there is this heaviness in the body and tears.Thank you for reading, it’s good to have someone to write to.

I recently had my second child and am struggling with the demands of life with two small children. My question is about parenting: what is it about this relationship that it can bring up so much suffering? What do you think this understanding can offer to parents in particular? I was also wondering if you would ever offer a course specifically aimed at parents as I feel there is so much to explore there. I would love to hear your thoughts on this.

How Not To Die by Michael Greger MD. Sunday Book

The images of the unconscious place a great responsibility upon a man. Failure to understand them, or a shirking of ethical responsibility, deprives him of his wholeness and imposes a painful fragmentariness on his life. Carl Jung

I'm working my way through the course and I'm finding it to be a combination of enlightening and overwhelming-sometimes both at the same time!!As a result of meditation(which is something that you never refer to, which I found surprising), I'm aware of my thoughts, and I often "catch myself" during the day. I sometimes get the sense that I'm watching myself think, but wonder if this is one part of the mind watching another part of the mind, or if that's the witness that you refer to.I suppose my question is, once I finish the course, where to next? I say this while knowing that I spent a lot of my life being "somewhere else" , or thinking that once I get somewhere I will be happyI know what I want( an end to suffering(worry & anxiety) and a sense of direction) but from listening to your course/podcasts etc, you seem to suggest letting things be and the universe will sort out the rest.

To make long story short I purchased something online and had to be assembled. The instructions were confusing and they didn't answer the phone and my husband who was trying to build it got very angry. He had other things going on this week and I think this was his boiling point.All my life I have had a trigger about anger and both my husbands have had anger issues. In the past I would numb out and do anything to not have the anger affect me, get defensive, angry back, and afterward do anything to distract myself from sitting with the bad feelings. This time I stayed calm and told him I would send it back but after I felt gut punched and it took awhile to get peace back. I realized after listening to your video I was doing anything to escape the feelings even diving into 3P.It wasn't the situation with the assembly, I knew it might cost money if seller refused to take back, but I was more upset and fearful of my husbands anger and just like in your video #2 where you say it happens over and over again, that has been the pattern all my life and I am 65!I found out about 3P year and half ago in a senior course at local university and now a few of us from that course started a weekly discussion group a few months ago and that has really changed my life. So far what it sounds like you are saying is to sit with the emotional pain and feelings and explore what they mean. In the past if I try to sit with feelings or journal them the thoughts about the situation send me down the rabbit hole and instead of seeing wisdom it gets worse.So I am not understanding how you can sit in pain and be comfortable with that?

When the identity is struggling to survive I am noticing a yucky feeling especially when conversing with others as if I am trying to bolster my identity and then I reflect back on the conversation and feel double yucky.

Hi lovely Clare, your video on generational healing was so timely for me. I recently met a homeopath for my son. She was very intuitive and told me that his 'autism' is not really autism but rather a result of generational trauma! She said in order for him to heal that I need to go into long term therapy to have someone connect me back to my heart space and my feelings. She said I am traumatised and emotionally disconnected and this has been passed down from my parents/grandparents etc due to holocaust stuff which is all over my family from both sides where everyone was completely traumatised and on the run. And that now I am on the run and cant settle anywhere. And this is why my son cant develop because he is too busy coping with such a chaotic environment. Everything she said felt so true. Would you agree that I need to feel all the pain (my own and that of past generations) in order to heal?? Must I really go sit in therapy for months and feel the pain ?! It feels like the answer is yes and I do feel like I am in constant fight flight barely keeping things together. And it feels like so much sadness does need to be felt and expressed. But Im so confused and really dont want to get caught up in stories. What is true here? Is it just to feel the emotions from an impersonal perspective? Feel the raw feeling without getting attached to any story? This feels like it would be almost impossible. I would love your view on this!

I know that a lot of suffering is caused by the future imaginations of the mind. If I understood properly, you suggested that not avoiding things and meeting reality with whatever shows up will reveal and heal. What if this doesn't seem to be happening. I don't avoid things as it's work related so it seems that I can't, and I keep having the same experience. The revealing part is showing up, but I don't think any healing is happening. I have a suspicion that you might say something about resistance, but how does one go into the body and meet the emotions in that moment when there's a job to be done. When I focus on my own sensations in this situation, they seem to get worse, which is really the last thing that's needed at that moment.

When The Body Says No by Dr Gabor Maté. The Sunday Book

Should you really open your eyes and see, you would behold your image in all images. And should you open your ears and listen, you would hear your own voice in all voices.Khalil Gibran

If you get a chance, I’d love it if you could say more about something I hear in the first wholeness video. You said that’s when something has happened and we say ‘I’m ok with it now’ we aren’t. If there is still an ‘it’ we are not done.This feels really cool and important somehow but I can’t put my finger on it. So, for example, with sleep I have felt and said on numerous occasions that I’m ok with not sleeping and the issues it caused me BUT this is the same as saying I’m not ok with it 😂🙃I was still seeing it as a problem that I overcame. I think what your saying is that if ‘it’ is still seen as a ‘problem’ or even as a ‘thing’ then we are just on the flip side of the coin again.When it becomes ‘no thing’ it just isn’t there to be ok or not ok with….Hope that’s makes sense…probably not!

Something keeps popping into my head and I am hoping you can shed some light on it. Hopefully I will be able to explain what the question is. I have an understanding through your teachings that we really don’t have any control over the future – that we are life experiencing itself. That life happens from moment to moment. I also keep hearing in the spiritual world about manifestation… about being able to manifest your future. I am wondering if I have some missing understanding here as this is confusing. One of these statements somewhat contradicts the other? I am probably spending too much time ’thinking and trying to work this out and hence not hearing the answer’, so I wondered if you would be able to unpick this and make any sense of it?

Have you experience in working with people who have been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder. I’m looking for some support. I am a student of non duality for over 10 years. I’m struggling to deal with the nuts and bolts of life with this condition. I was diagnosed six years ago when I was 54 years old after having read Gabor Mates book. I would like to know your thoughts. Many thanks.

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First off I want to express my profound gratitude for you and for the HOME course. The videos, the subliminals, the webinars, the FB page, interactions with other participants have all been revelatory. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.My question: I've been loving the subliminals. With the first one I felt some, for lack of a better description, movement in the body/mind. But as I became acclimated to it I found I could play it and subsequent ones pretty much all the time and could even fall asleep with them playing.But the last two, peace and even more so with love, I've had very strong reactions so that I could not fall asleep with them on. While they played, as the love one is playing now, I feel a strong kind of buzzing energy in the middle of my forehead. I feel them physically. This puzzles me.In moments of connection and expansion, there is always a sense of both of these, love and peace. And I would expect (Oh, oh -- an expectation) that love and peace would not be challenging or confrontational or cause the ripples I feel. I would think (!) they would be soothing and calming.Although it's not imperative that I understand why, I'm wondering why this is so. Can you/would you explain?

Story by Robert McKee.

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Some comments on this article: https://claredimond.com/hopelessness-of-hope/"I’ve got to say it’s the very toughest absence as a clinician to work with someone who is hopeless. ""Or being the person without hope it’s almost impossible to see around it at the time.""Without some differentiation some readers may miss the great message because they may feel you are saying we are helpless pawns unable to change the world."

I'm seeing a person I care about struggling. Seeing the world as against them. Playing out the patterns of their childhood. There are urges to point out where this person is getting things 'wrong'. And maybe to be their 'saviour' even. I see that ideas of me...and them are all over this ...It's confusion. For sure. Starting here, I can look to the ways that I do this? Does this mean not challenging the thinking of others? Ever? I want to ask if it's wrong to try to share the things this conversation has shown me (even though I know that question in itself containx the confusion)The confusion is suggesting to me that this whole dilemma is created from the idea of self and other

Much of what you write seems to touch on the illusion of the self and how this is the source of a good number of our problems. However, I think I can differentiate between two 'selves': there's the 'fictional' self which is the one which creates either hypothetical future scenarios (about which we can scare ourselves sh*tless) or which ruminates needlessly over past regrets; and there's an 'authentic' self which seems to me at least to be able to step back and observe such imaginings more dispassionately. This latter self seems to be able to experience moments which are hard to put into words because they seem to be accompanied by feelings of expansiveness or perhaps transcendence, and they are very fleeting, but the poets and mystics have spoken and written about them throughout the ages, and far more eloquently than I can muster.

I was wondering how prayer fits into this conversation. I have always spoken to whoever :God, angels, the Universe, and it is always soothing and helpful. Now I am wondering, what is this, the 'I' speaking to itself? I always feel guidance and help through this conversations, so how would you see this topic?

I really want to have insight in reality. I’m all in, but it feels like I’m doing something wrong. Instead of sleeping, I lie awake at night - pondering on what is true; instead of playing with my kid, i’m asking what’s at stake; instead of working I’m trying to feel what I’m feeling. It’s a total mess and I’m afraid that if I continu like this, I end up in a straight jacket and getting a lobotomy ;-) So for one more time: can you please elaborate on what you mean with the question: what is truth? I think that you mean that all the thinking and ‘selfing’ exists only in my head and therefore it isn’t truth. But for me, the thoughts and feelings look very real. Knowing on some philosophical level that thought isn’t real, isn’t enough for me. I really want to know.

Stealing Fire by Steven Kotler and Jamie Wheal. Sunday Book

Life events can be tragic and challenging, but who we are is never broken. We have the resource of our true nature that does not exist in the world of form. It cannot be comprehended by the intellect, but the deeper knowing of the resilience and wellbeing it provides can be felt.

I wonder if there exists something which could be called ''Innate morality''?That rules given from society, what's right what's wrong are no longer needed on macro level and something new arises from understanding of who we truely are, as more and more people start to live their lives from this understanding. Would wars, murders and violence still exsist as behaviors?

My whole life has been turned upside down since my divorce and I have recently become aware of an intense fear of abandonment that seems to be controlling all aspects of my life especially my relationships. Also a deep fear has been uncovered that I do not want anyone to know my true feelings and self for fear of this rejection and abandonment. I cannot go on living this way and so desperate want to be free but it is not clear how and the control and hypervigilance continues.. it seems to be so wired in my body and I wake up in terror a lot. I love the teaching and would like some insight on how to hold such strong feelings without perpetuating them and just let them be?

I was overweighed and (in my eyes) unattractive since I was a kid. I went through periods of dieting and binging until about 12 years ago I fell in love with movement/fitness and when exercising stopped being a way to lose weight but something I simply etnjoyed; it made me feel good and gave me energy. The weight loss followed naturally and so did changes in what I ate. My whole body shape changed and I’d be getting a lot of compliments since and I also got to the point where I could have said I liked how I looked. I think, because of it, I was convinced, until today, that my “looks”/“weight” issue was gone. Part two: my partner is overweight and unfit. Fitness/movement is something he resists and struggles with. He recognises this struggle and resistance in himself. He had a major health scare and even that didn’t lead to any changes as far as diet or fitness. Any attempts have always been short lived. It is the only issue in our relationship. It upsets me. I thought the reason why it upsets me so deeply is because I am afraid of losing him (after that major health scare). It looks like it’s only partly true. Today, I noticed he put on weight again. I wanted to cry. I felt angry and upset at the same time but couldn’t because I had a Zoom call. Before the Zoom call I sat down and saw myself in camera and my arms in particular. I saw fat arms and I thought how fat and ugly they were. How fat I was (even though I am not fat generally!). I felt shocked and broken. I have not felt this way about myself in years and than it hit me. I did not stop having “looks”/“weight” issues even though I lost weight years ago. I remained critical of myself since, I just wasn’t aware of it (until today)and the hatred of my fat arms/body I felt today and that self-criticism, is something I think I have been projecting on my partner for years. I don’t know what to ask to be frank, other than what do I do with this revelation? Go deeper into this feeling of fear and hatred? It’s all very fresh and as shocking as it’s been, I’m glad it came out! I’d appreciate your input. Thank you!

Would you be able to say a bit more about the reason why "Non Duality" speaks to Wholeness, more than the word "wholeness" does? (ref your first video on Wholeness in Home). For me wholeness is the whole, there isn't anything outside that. If there's an implication, inherent in the word "whole", that there is something else that is not whole, then why isn't that also true for the word Non Duality - which points to the state of the very absence of non-duality very clearly. Simply because of the prefix Non" and the word "dual". I know we're using words and concepts to describe something beyond the intellectually understandable. Yet the use of Non-Duality to describe what we're exploring in this conversation doesn't really settle into my mind - it always somehow makes it seem cerebral and distant when we're talking about something so very very intimate to every moment experience.

As we progress through the HOME course I have noticed that I have been unsettled, unhappy, scared and just haven’t really felt happiness and peace inside me.The more I listen the more I am becoming scared of my feelings, of what is showing up in life.At first I was meeting whatever is showing up and felt my understanding was growing. My question is I feel my ego, self whatever we call it is trying to self sabotage.To frighten me off.My mental chatter is becoming so much louder and constant that I sometimes feel I’m going crazy.I’m becoming just so scared of everything I do .Can you help please.

Frientimacy by Shasta Nelson

We're not human beings having a spiritual experience. We're one spiritual being having seven billion human experiences. And who you really are is that one spiritual being. Your true identity is consciousness itself.Teilhard de Chardins

Can I ask you a question please ? I heard Jeff foster say that once the fear is in the body it has been admitted/ allowed there . And it’s just like a wave not separated from the ocean . Is this my opportunity to see the fear for what it is ? The apparent seperation - but still one with consciousness. My resistance by the mind to whatever the body has admitted is the source of my suffering? And unless I just allow it to be there it will plague me forever. It makes acceptance a little bit easier to accept if you get what I mean . The intelligence of the system has allowed the fear and pain to be in my body and i should respect universal intelligence by not resisting whst is happening in the moment ?

In one particular area the stakes seem really high if I’m not going to be able to face a certain situation which is quite imminent. I’m aware this is just a story as I have no idea how it will turn out but equally I feel very uncomfortable and sometimes overwhelmed about this sticky area.

I have real financial problems. I am living hand to mouth in a job I hate and am desperate to leave. I feel completely trapped. It seems to me that there is a reality to money and that anyone who says it is just a mental creation is just denying the facts and making it worse for those of us in poverty. There is a webinar on 6th April 8-9 pm BST to look at the hidden treasures that money reveals.

'How can a person develop insight into madness and sanity without again ending up in the searching looping from hell?'

I have seen a lot about my weight issues in the last few weeks and days. I saw the war going on inside between wanting to be thin and not being thin and also about wanting to be thin and not being able to make myself thin. Two wars going on, so much effort and exhaustion.In looking deeper, I saw that what I want from being thin is life to be easy, because life is so hard for me. I don’t really have a hard life, the opposite is true, but life appears just so hard, except for eating, sleeping, reading and watching TV. When I realized this, it struck me that this is exactly how my parents were living their life, or how it appeared to me. Thinking everything is hard and/or dangerous and the only allowed ease and joy was eating and watching TV, well and reading and sleeping. I had to sleep a lot as a child and I didn’t want to. Same with food, I had to eat a lot and I didn’t want to. It was such a shock to see that after all the therapies and stuff I’ve done, I still function with this old pattern. I also understand that all the life I lived before which was completely different to my parents’, like a ballet career and decades of partying and doing lots of adventures, even having lots of children and pets, was always done with a sort of fight spirit, fighting against this old pattern but the older I get the more the fighting ability vanishes and only exhaustion is left. The true program is revealed, eating, sleeping, reading and watching TV. No other thing is classified as easy or worthwhile, all other activity need more or less amounts of effort to push through. Even my handstand training this is true, which I love on the one side but I have to overcome resistance to do it every single day. It’s a relief to see the deep programming I didn’t know it existed but on the other hand I just don’t know what to do with that. It’s like realizing I am in a trap but not being able to leave the trap.

You often say something like : see what's true, or what is real. This is highly confusing to me. I don't know what the definition of 'true' or 'real' could be. Doesn't it depend of situation and person and, and, and? So it's highly subjective and transient?For example I might see in a moment the truth as beeing treated unfairly by someone, and in another moment just feeling angry, in another moment just feeling energy moving through my body and in another moment just a body sitting. All truth about the same situation. Someone else might not even see a body, as there are no bodys. Well I'm making this up, it's not my experience but I have heard people saying that. So many different truths and realities? Is truth always the momentary subjective truth? Or is there another truth? So what is the truth or the reality you speak about? This words really send me in a complete confusion.

The Mind-Gut Connection Emeran Mayer. The Sunday Book

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I am afraid to do things wrong in eyes of this course.. or that i am not allowed to have a different view. (Projection)My upbringing was, based on indoctrinate with less room of free thinking and was a lot about those topics of approval and judgment of God. (someone outside of me who says and dictate what i have to think or do.)This caused that I project on others around me, like; They know better than me. I am not good enough. When i am writing this i see it's total confusion. And maybe that's why it feel so contracted, although i know that I am freedom itself, however something inside me still think i am not. This routine habbit still need to fade away.

Over the years I have learned to trust in following my intuition as best I can.As I might put it now, to make the choices that I most "resonate with" at the time.To put it in your words, I might say that my system will make the choice that makes the most sense to it at the time of the choice.I might also say that in the moment of the choice/action, is the only time that I will know the best choice to make.So, be faced now with some major life changing choices, I wonder.Can I teach my system to be even more aligned with some kind of inner knowing or True Self/Higher Self knowledge?Is there even such a thing?It seems that you teach that by observing the beliefs and patterns in the system, that they begin to loosen and maybe dissolve, allowing more possibilities, which I might relate to wisdom.Knowing I have these choices to make in the near future, how might I teach my system to be as wise as possible by the time I must make those choices?Again is that even possible?If there is no "I", then there is no "my system" that is getting in the way of being-ness or knowing-ness.So maybe nothing to do?

The mind is just going very hard, fast for such a long time. Attacking itself etcIt feels like the fear is too big. Guilt, shame. I feel, think that I will never be normal again. Too damaged with all the thoughts.

I have a question about the home course. It seems like it’s increasing my patterns of social anxiety. On the other hand, the things you say don’t really sink in. The information looks like interesting concepts, but i doesn’t cause me to really experience that i am awareness of intelligence of live etc. So listening to the courses and noticing the thoughts and feelings apparently isn’t enough. How does a person comes from the perspective we’re i’m in, to the perspective that you describe? What can a person that is living from the first perspective do in order tot see things in new way?

I have just watched day 22 video on Aliveness. Your description of your Dad passing reminded me of seeing my Grandad pass, that life of him there one moment and gone the next. He was elderly and poorly and it seems to me that the body couldn’t sustain the life force or aliveness any more.I’m now piecing this together with the suicide of my relative, where it looks to me that the actions of the body prevented the life/aliveness from being able to be in that form any more. Although the body was sick, he died as a result of his own actions / the actions of the body. The aliveness was prevented by the action taken and there was intention to do so. Whose intention? Does aliveness have intention? I sense not…but there’s something here jarring. I was thinking today…I was sat in the chair drinking tea and I asked “who decided to sit and drink tea?” And I thought, the system did, it made sense to the system here given all learning and conditioning…I guess it was the same for my relative in taking his life?

The Choice by Dr Edith Eger; The Sunday Book This is the passage I read out: A fourteen-year-old boy who had participated in a car theft was sent to me by a judge. The boy wore brown boots, a brown shirt. He leaned his elbow on my desk. He said, “It’s time for America to be white again. I’m going to kill all the Jews, all the niggers, all the Mexicans, all the chinks.” I thought I would be sick. I struggled not to run from the room. What is the meaning of this? I wanted to shout. I wanted to shake the boy, say, Who do you think you’re talking to? I saw my mother go to the gas chamber. I would have been justified. And maybe it was my job to set him straight, maybe that’s why God had sent him my way. To nip his hate in the bud. I could feel the rush of righteousness. It felt good to be angry. Better angry than afraid. But then I heard a voice within. Find the bigot in you, the voice said. Find the bigot in you. I tried to silence that voice. I listed my many objections to the very notion that I could be a bigot. I came to America penniless. I used the “colored” bathroom in solidarity with my fellow African American factory workers. I marched with Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. to end segregation. But the voice insisted: Find the bigot in you. Find the part in you that is judging, assigning labels, diminishing another’s humanity, making others less than who they are. The boy continued to rant about the blights to America’s purity. My whole being trembled with unease, and I struggled with the inclination to wag my finger, shake my fist, make him accountable for his hate—without being accountable for my own. This boy didn’t kill my parents. Withholding my love wouldn’t conquer his prejudice. I prayed for the ability to meet him with love. I summoned every image I had of unconditional love. I thought of Corrie ten Boom, one of the Righteous Gentiles. She and her family resisted Hitler by hiding hundreds of Jews in their home, and she ended up in a concentration camp herself. Her sister perished there—she died in Corrie’s arms. Corrie was released due to a clerical error one day before all of the inmates at Ravensbrück were executed. And a few years after the war, she met one of the most vicious guards at her camp, one of the men who were responsible for her sister’s death. She could have spit on him, wished him death, cursed his name. But she prayed for the strength to forgive him, and she took his hands in her own. She says that in that moment, the former prisoner clasping the hands of the former guard, she felt the purest and most profound love. I tried to find that embrace, that compassion, in my own heart, to fill my eyes with that quality of kindness. I wondered if it was possible that this racist boy had been sent to me so I could learn about unconditional love. What opportunity did I have in this moment? What choice could I make right then that could move me in the direction of love? I had an opportunity to love this young person, just for him, for his singular being and our shared humanity. The opportunity to welcome him to say anything, feel any feeling, without the fear of being judged... ....I thought of a statistic I read, that most of the members of white supremacist groups in America lost one of their parents before they were ten years old. These are lost children looking for an identity, looking for a way to feel strength, to feel like they matter. And so I gathered myself up and I looked at this young man as lovingly as I could. I said three words: “Tell me more.”