Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

"You don’t have to create physical objects by your speaking. I don’t have to say, ‘chair, chair, chair’ to have the chair exist. It’s here. I can touch it. I can sit on it. But love is different. States of being don’t exist in physical reality. If you want love, you must speak it into reality, every day. If you stop speaking it, it will disappear.” Steve Hardison

One message some of your podcasts emphasize is that the identity, and what's believed, is in the reactions to things. So when you encourage us to get as close to life as possible by jumping in and doing whatever it is - we can see what's true and what isn't true based on what the reactions are.Today I received news that I've been hired to receive a short term work situation that will pay me the most money for a single job I've made in my life (thank you for these teachings as I think they've contributed to the receptivity for this moment). What I noticed was a storm of emotions: ups and downs and wild swings. It was almost like a snowglobe of emotions. And lots of crying. Or if you sped up a soap opera and watched it really fast. Yet none of them "stuck" if that makes sense. My interpretation of things you've said is that if there's a strong reaction then this is indicative of a lot of identity being believed. What about when the reactions are both strong and also fleeting? That seems to indicate loosening instead? The crying seemed to be healing somehow. Like it's not personal how we get paid or don't get paid. I don't have words for it.

I’m really struggling with what is going on in the world “out there” and how this equates to what we are learning about. Would a universal source allow this to happen? I recognise in my own mind body system a physical (sick) feeling caused by genuine fear and anxiety. Whilst I have done my best to avoid the news, it is everywhere. I can switch off when I’m working with the children in my class as I enter their world of joy. But I’m finding everything else completely overwhelming.I suppose my understanding of the universal source or however it is labelled is that it is in charge … it has the control as we as humans have none? It gave me comfort to use this as a point of reference - the universe has your back etc.

Been loving your podcast questions, be great to hear one regarding the minds use once the personal is dropped, and how much fun to be had with it. I was confused about that in respect to its actual use, thinking it had to go and be silent, and it's not like that at all!

What is the difference between enlightenment and grounding? Listener question

Do we keep questioning the way the mind functions at the same time we keep looking toward what is stable (what you call "true") because seeing the continual motion of thought, feeling and sensation compared to the backdrop of constant presence is what supports the realization of the core "I" as presence, instead of identification as temporary feeling/thought/beliefs?I noticed today that when there is more identification with a feeling, there is more resistance to the feelings we've been conditioned to view as wrong/bad. So the feeling experience of cranky becomes "I am cranky" and then there's resistance to it and then the body seems to move into default learned patterns that may have side effects that would also be resisted (junk food eating, scrolling, etc) indicating a seeking to avoid the first identification to feeling. cue vicious circle.And in contrast, in the last few days it seems that when there isn't this identification with a feeling, when there's just "oh here's crankiness again" then there's no resistance to it and therefore no related default avoidance/seeking patterns to escape that feeling...there's just the feeling and whatever else is going on. Yet whatever else is going on somehow ISN'T an escape/avoidance/distraction...it's like they happen side by side. cue virtuous circle.Oddly there's no efforting or the "I" that does either of these things, it seems to just be flipping back and forth like a switch.

Cracked. Why psychiatry is doing more harm than good.' by James Davies. The Sunday Book.

'The mind is its own place. And in itself can create a hell of heaven, a heaven of hell.' John Milton

Briefly my story is that I accidentally disovered the 3P in 2019, it completely changed how I saw things and I trained with Michael Neill Supercoach Academy in 2019. I find that the things I've seen bring so much ease and freedom to my life and I love helping clients find the same ease and freedom. However, I know that this only goes so far. Questions around behaviours, fears, other things, don't feel like they are fully addressed by the 3P understanding alone. Patterns repeat, fears stay in the way. (My personal "stuck" is that I am an "invisible coach" - I get my clients by recommendation and referral, but am unwilling (terrified?) to go public as a coach, be much more visible etc - this is very clearly a "self" protection problem, I know!). Here's where I'd love your opinion, if I may. I've set out on this journey with you a couple of times, as is the intention (of course!) it starts to wobble my realitiy to the point where I don't know which way is up. I have a pretty solid grouding in the 3P in that I've got myself, and can take my clients to, a place where life feels easier and lighter and freer than ever before. When I set out on this journey with your work, it (quite rightly) wobbles some of the solid ground that the 3P understanding sits on. A couple of times I've ended up in a place where I don't know how to coach my clients - I can see that what I'm offering through the 3P isn't true-true (isn't the WHOLE story), but during the two 60 day programmes I did with you, I didn't really find a solid footing in this deeper understanding. I don't want to short-change myself and my clients by offering them only part of what is possible/available, but I have the sense that I may well be "all at sea" in this new exploration for quite some time and may not see a new "truth" to coach from in the meantime.What can I offer from this place? If I could go on "coaching sabattical" for 5 years and take a break explore this more deeply and come back to coaching once I've seen more, I'd do that, but that's not realistic/or what I want to do. Do you have any brief words on how to continue to coach whilst exploring the understanding you offer, as I expect it will remove a lot of my "solid ground" which, whilst not true-true (and doesn't go all of the way), is certainly very helpful to my clients. I know there's a lot to gain in the long run (for me and my clients) by looking at this work with you - but until I really "get it" I feel I might lose the solid (if limited) ground that I stand on, before I truly understand what's there to take it's place. I think you made this journey yourself, so I'm wondering if you have any guidance/suggstions on how to navigate it.

Yesterday during the webinar you were talking going through it, feeling it all.But what about immediately reacting, numbing. This just happens.I didn't want to feel reality at that moment. Because I was ashamed I felt disgust about someone, I didn't want that. I felt sorry for the person and ashamed so I numbed it. I know I started, or the system started to do that. And now I am so numbed, closed, it's like the system isn't able to be natural anymore.It worries me.

I have a question after hearing the last Home webinar, which I could not attend in person. You spoke about the conceptual mind as a gift, the only problem being that it makes a concept of self. But as I understand it at the moment, to build a concept of self is inevitable in the developmental phase. There is a time where the child just realizes it is a separate entity somehow and we call this I. So if this is the problem, why is it built into our evolutionary design? Or is it only in our culture, where the I is so worshipped, that this happens, and in a society, where people would not give such an example the I wouldn’t develop? But even if, obviously the overall evolution favours the development of an I. There is a philosopher Jean Gebser who has a model of the evolution of awareness (he calls it mutation of awareness), where he shows we started with an archaic awareness where there was no sense of I at all and evolved over the magic and mythical state to the current mental state, the culmination of separation where the I sees itself as always facing a Not-I. He also says that we will move to the integral awareness, where we will combine all the previous states and can access them simultaneously. It seems the evolution leads us to the formation of a separate I.If this concept of self is the problem, why is it inevitable? It seems to me either the design is flawed and sets us up for suffering, and again, why would it be like that, or I don’t see something. I bet it’s the last one.Can you shed a light on this topic please?

You often use the metaphor mountain - no mountain - mountain. And you also encourage us to stay with the discomfort, to notice it, observe it, and see what's believed and what's actually true in those moments. A peer in your community shared with me that staying with the discomfort is "no mountain" - can you speak to that? I'm not seeing what she's seeing yet.

I have long turned to writing as a way of, what feels like, processing or making known felt insights.Something stirs in me and I reach for my laptop to try to put words to the knowing that is felt. I love the process of trying to match words to a feeling.When what is written feels as complete as I can make it, I go back and reread it. I’m often struck by the wisdom, beauty and deep resonance in my words. I know I’m reading Truth.The moment passes and if I were to reread these same words later on, they may or may not ring with resonance. The moment has passed.If they no longer ring as they did, I’m left with a mind that jumps in and somewhat snottily points out all the ways “Sure, you write that, but that’s not how you’re living.”In your conversation with Shelly you mention how writing like this comes through creating words for the mind to hear. My paraphrase. My mind jumps in and wants to control this process. Or work it somehow. I see through that. That’s the tail of the elephant judging it’s own ear and looking to fix it.And, darn it, my mind just wants to know how this works. Is seeing a belief believed in the light of day what dissolves the belief? Or sees the belief as part of the body/mind/psychology and nothing needs to be dissolved or done. Just is. IS fine?

When I hear about the observer and the observed being the same thing it feels like there is a deep truth to this. My (very simplistic) understanding of quantum physics seems to point in that direction. I teach in a school for a living. So in my day to day experience, it seems as if what I'm being asked to do by my employer is to control the behaviour and (to an extent) the thoughts of others. But really, if there are no pupils and no me this can't really be the case? I feel like there is a lot to be seen here and that the classroom I find myself in each day is really a space for expansion. Could you speak about this please?

The Body, A guide for occupants by Bill Bryson, Sunday Book

Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found.Pema Chödrön

I feel like a grenade has gone off inside of me, very thing going off and blown up inside of me.I am experiencing the raw grief and heart ache of loosing my husband as you know.I have properties trying to be sold and yet have no home. I have money held in the bank but have no money.The security I had with being with my husband has blown up I am no longer a WE. I no longer have my husband to do things together.Wills and taxes and so much more having to be dealt with.I am learning from the course about reality and mind activity but the reality is so real in all it’s goings on.Through your course Claire I am seeing bit by bit who I am not, about the self.However this afternoon I felt that without my husband life is going to be so much different and that is reality.But I felt hurt upset insecure lost and so much more and I found it difficult to actually see the difference in the reality and the mind activity making up stories.I feel very confused about what I am experiencing and making up.Life will change because I have never know really what it is like to be the real I to know the real I have lived worried and concerned about my family and others. People pleasing etc.I have had a melt down today and I think your amazing course and subliminals are blowing everything up to be seen but I feel overwhelmed which I feel is amazing. But also having to deal with life I just fell apart.And Clare you are teaching me that it’s not down to the self to control be in charge is the self doesn’t exist.I was just wondering if you have anything to say on when life throws so much stuff at one time and being open and real to it all but also living with the stress and also the effect on the body.Clare I love being with you, I love all that you point to, I feel so much love when you speak of this understanding. I respect you and most of all I thank my wisdom for guiding me to you because without you and Home I’m not sure I would be as ok as I am.

I was listening to the podcast about ‘Why do I shut down?’ As you know I’ve been experiencing anxiety and depression, everything has improved a bit even the low mood isn’t as low but the comment about triggers in the podcast and information that is being given made me curious. I notice that I am constantly comparing my life to others and as my life circumstances currently don’t feel favourable (although I know that is very outside-in) I have feelings of jealously, lack of connection and despondency that things will never improve, while at the same time not begrudging anyone else their joy and abundance. I am observing and trying to be with the feeling without judgement, sometimes easier than others when you want to feel better. Also wondered about that feeling of striving to move connected, reaching out to friends to meet and when they are busy taking it personally and starting the despondency cycle again. Seems like the striving to say connected is an attempt to be validated and being isolated feels like death as you put it on this weeks webinar. We are social animals so if feels natural to want to connect. I wondered if you had anything to say these points.

I love your podcasts and listen avidly . Can I ask you where should one keep the attention if it’s now not on thoughts. I try not to get attached to thoughts and see them just pass by but my mind goes haywire and seems worse and then I’m sucked back into my mind.

Can you please help me out? The 'i' concept is not real. Like Allan Watts said in the quote you discussed on the "Saturday quote podcast."But the experience of it seems real. I can see that we are the lifeforce/consciousness but on the other hand my experience from nanosecond to nanosecond differs.. i sometimes really get lost in the stories the i (made of thoughts intangeled in each other) spins. Full of blame, selfpity, anger and fear. Then my body gets contracted, my heart area hurts. I want to have control (to stop it) but that keeps the whole structure intact.When the "i" gives it up, i notice the story collaps. And i am free! But there is still a need for control, how can i lossen this? Or is that (the need to lossen it) the problem? What to do?

What I found harsh is: You are pointing toward a gap. It sounded to me like you are saying: look, where you stand right now, suffering will go on forever. What you see right now, will not help you. Unless you see this, there is actually no relief from all this. (in reference to Feb 3rd podcast)

'Ready for Anything, 52 productivity principles for work and life' by David Allen.

"But sometimes... and not very often... sometimes we'd get glimpses of the truth.We'd see someone across a crowded room at the prom and our heart would stop. Our thoughts about ourselves would disappear and it felt like we were in heaven. What was happening? Were we falling in love?Maybe what really stopped at that moment wasn't the heart. What if what stopped was just all those thoughts? All those thoughts that were headed for the future or else going into the past.What if when the truth (beauty) is glimpsed those thoughts fall away? And love is just the beauty arising out of feeling the here and now. " Right Now p. 172, Steve Chandler (The John Keats quote Steve refers to in the interview is:"Beauty is truth, truth beauty--that is all ye know on earth and all ye need to know."

Can you talk about planning? My coach said it is better to just turn up and let wisdom take over...

Can you speak to why it looks like there is a me that is making a choice? Is it that the brain creates a narrative that links the behavior the system took, based on what made sense/learning/belief in the moment, to an "I"?For example, it looks like there is a "me" that either pays things on time or not. Yet I can see that the system would learn due dates, and use them, while the brain could then claim that behavior after and say "I did that".

Can you tell me your thoughts about tools such as the Enneagram and Human Design.They seem to be quite helpful for many people but I wonder if this is another way of solidifying the ’self’ and may actually confuse the understanding I am gaining from your work?

How do I address the physical symptoms that seem to prevent me taking on this wonderful information?? For example, I can become so overwhelmed (shutdown) during a webinar I have no recall of the content.

'I don't exist? What does that mean?' Listener question

Work Clean, The Life Changing Power of Mise-En-Place to Organise your life, work and mind by Dan Charnas

Today's Wonder-Full Words are from Michael Neill When our thoughts look real, we live in a world of suffering. When they look subjective, we live in a world of choice. When they look arbitrary, we live in a world of possibility. And when we see them as illusory, we wake up inside a world of dreams.

I've been thinking about healing and I know I've heard people talk about healing also heals generational lines backwards and forwards. This makes sense in quantum physics and 'oneness' terms but not to the human mind view of linear time. Can you say more?

Follow up to 15 Jan podcastI listened to your answer to my question and I must admit that I've been reeling in a bit of a shame spiral. I may not have articulated it well, but my question was about seeing more within myself, not about how I could change them. I'm not at all going around telling my family that I know better and here's what they need to do, or judging them. What's happening is that I'm silently noticing the Grandchildren develop an identity that is based on the premise that their emotions are wrong, and that they're somehow faulty. Before I began this exploration, I probably wouldn't have even noticed the conditioning taking place, I would have just been lost in it without question. But now it's easier to see the conditioning happening, in real time, and it's hard to watch sometimes. So when my Grand Daughter says it's time to take her medicine, by not saying anything it feels like I'm just agreeing that, yes - you do need help because something is wrong with you. When in reality I can see her perfection.Are you saying that if only I were more enlightened I'd know just what to say? Or that I just wouldn't care and it would never bother me? Or that since I have times of suffering about it, that I'm not able to be present to honor, respect and listen to them? I'm feeling a bit discouraged by your answer because I have been looking within, and suspect that I'm never going to be enlightened enough. Jan 15 podcast 'How to Intervene'

I have been reflecting on my reactions in my close relationships. I truly believe (I'm actually convinced) that my reactions to a person are a reflection of what's going within me so I am always happy to look at myself and explore that. I have been thinking about two romantic relationships. Two different people. Very similar circumstances. Same me. Yet, it was only when with that one person that I had unbelievably strong, visceral painful reactions. For example, I would have trust issues with one but not with the other person. I would go into fear and anxiety when I didn't hear from one but be absolutely fine and at peace when I didn't hear from the other person. I would be scared of being left by one but not the other person, and so on. So, I am curious about it. On the one hand, it seems that if my reactions had to do with me, then I should have the same anxiety or trust issues and/or similar reactions in both of these relationships. On the other hand, when I look back, I feel like those reactions to some extent were my wisdom telling me this particular relationship wasn't right (and it wasn't and my trust issues turned out to be valid in the end), and yet, it is also clear to me that these reactions have very much everything to do with me! I'm just curious why they showed up in one and not the other relationship. Would love to hear your thoughts about that.

I am multi-passionate/curious about many things. I find it hugely energising to learn about new things, give myself space to pursue different possibilities and seemingly have options. However, I know underneath what is happening is what makes sense to happen based on the programming and until the programming changes the behaviour won’t change. I can see there is nothing wrong with the behaviour but at times it means that I can feel I am pulling myself too thinly and not making the progress possible on any one thing and feeling overwhelmed in the process. Yet when I focus on one thing and excluded others, I can feel bored or stagnant. Would love to hear your thoughts.

'The Expectation Effect' by David Robson. The Sunday Book.

This image of yourself is obviously not real. Any more than the idea of a tree is a tree. Any more than you can get wet in the word ‘water’.Alan Watts

I am interested in joining the course but I am also coming up with all sorts of reasons why I shouldn't!!I suppose the main area I am suffering in life is that when I was 8 years old I came upon using food to dull down uncomfortable feelings from a difficult period of childhood. So innocent I know but I am still doing that aged 58. I think I have tried everything to stop this habit and my mind is saying it is just another tactic and quite an expensive one too. I am also aware it is the same 'mind' that suggests eating rubbish makes me feel better...I hear so much that resonates in what you share Clare and I can see that going deeply into what I am beyond the behaviour will really help in all of my life not just with food and then I hear a voice that says you are not 'enough' for it; not understanding the conversation enough: not eloquent enough; not confident enough etc etcBut I do also know at times that I am pure love and potential.

I’m currently working through Voice in your membership and have a question that is bothering me. If I start to see the illusion of me and see that the identity doesn’t exist then does that mean others disappear? If ‘I’ don’t exist then nor do ‘others’? I know this can’t be true but since the thought has passed through my mind I thought it would be helpful to ask the question since it’s clearly going to hold back my exploration! I’m quite keen for this crappy insecure identity to disappear but not my family!

I love participating in your courses but have come to realise I am doing them in an attempt to feel better. I experienced early trauma (I’ve never felt safe) which on reflection seems to have underpinned most of my life. Interestingly, the ‘symptoms’ (freeze etc) of the trauma are becoming almost unbearable, whilst at the same time my conscious mind ‘piles’ on the pressure to move forward and achieve. It simply feels impossible to achieve anything given the opposing ‘forces’ and this is becoming intolerable.I am curious, because during my exposure the 3p and ND (8years) I have definitely witnessed others who simply cannot move forward. Regardless of their desire to and consequently suffer the backlash of ego and remain on this relentless hamster wheel.Could you shed any light on this? Can ND support those with early trauma? In view of this, is Home a good fit in these circumstances.

I am really tempted to do your new Home course. It sounds really fascinating and I loved the last course I did with you year ago. My only hesitation is sometimes I felt left behind by some of the people on the course deeper into the understanding you centre on. Whilst I know comparison of ‘me’ vs ‘them’ is unhelpful it did mean I sometimes found the live sessions a little overwhelming and my brain decided a few times that I didn’t really get it and therefore it was pointless. I suppose what I am saying is will this start from the beginning? I am well versed in the 3p’s so it’s not the very beginning, but will it be open to all and ‘slowed down’ enough for us that are still at the start of this exploration?

I have read all of your books but one and I get glimpses but the books (and the course I took) tend to make me think more and get conceptual. Is your goal here to really to have many of us awaken during the course or learn more about awakening?

Busting Loose from the Money Game by Robert Scheinfeld Every Sunday we will look at a book that is relevant to this conversation.

Your habit is not “you” and it is not personal. It is simply your brain doing what it does.Dr Amy JohnsonWe are beginning a series called Wonder-Full Words. Each Saturday we will look at a particularly powerful sentence or quote, wherever possible exploring it directly with the author. Today's words are from Dr Amy Johnson, author or the Little Book of Big Change and Just a Thought. https://dramyjohnson.com

I am in part aiming to transition from a career in the corporate world to a career in the third sector after voluntary work in the sector. I find myself naturally moving in that direction and really energised. One question I have been contemplating is the significant disparity in pay between the two sectors. I can see that money is a concept and as such nothing about it is ‘true’ and yet it doesn’t seem to make sense that they should be so differently paid. I appreciate that there are narratives/ beliefs around the third sector being short of money and people working in the sector get paid in fulfilment and yet I feel by accepting these and the salary that comes with them I am seeing the beliefs as true and being constrained by them. I can see at times a sense of ego popping up feeling it deserves more money and is ashamed it will not get this but when this isn’t so strong I can see that there is information in this which may be helpful. Would love to hear your thoughts on this.

A brief summary of this episode

I have a question about fear and avoidance. I heard you say to ask what the fear is and do it anyway and this will transform something. I have panic attacks as soon as I have a session (I am a therapist, or I was, because I stopped doing it). I just couldn’t tolerate this feeling anymore. I inquired into it (I feared I will die or dissolve), I felt the body sensations ( a lot, because this is where I come from as a body and movement therapist), later, when I came across the 3P I tried to see it as just thought (didn’t work), I did all sorts of traume therapy and looked at this as a client, but nothing ever helped, it got even worde and worse. I did go on with working as a therapist anyway over years and despite feeling always better after the session (maybe just because it was over), it never improved, I was terrified before each appointment. At one point I just couldn’t stand the severe symptoms anymore and decided to stop. This was a big relief.I thought this was maybe just the way life told me to not do this anymore. I teach apprentice therapists now in different skills like psychopathology and movement analysis, and although it’s fun and I don’t have panic attacks before teaching I feel like it’s a bit meaningless and not really using all I know and sometimes I find myself envying people who work as therapists or coaches, although I don't want to go back there. I’m totally confused about what life wants to show me here. Maybe you see something.

It seems we are consistently questioning reality in this understanding. Is there a potential in this of gaslighting ourselves? The question comes up in view of adverse childhood experiences. When we are babies and our identity hasn’t formed yet and our primary care takers are confused and traumatised themselves, the main survival mechanism for the brain is to conclude that „I am bad“ and later „the world is dangerous“. That seems to be running deep in the system. Sometimes when I immerse myself in this teaching, I feel like it’s confusing me more and I’m afraid of gaslighting myself into „everything is not as it seems, hence my perspective, voice, input is not valid“ along these lines.

About ADHD. Several years back i was told by psychiatrist i could have ADD (the more "dreamy' version) Can we see it as (different) neurotype instead of a diagnosis/label/"you are broken" point of view?The label or problem is made up but i think we can't deny the human body mind had different types of form.The "i" can easily get lost in the story of i have Add so "i am broken".So on the other hand we can acknowledge the diversity and get real with it what can leads to freedom.No denial but also not claim it..and get lost in it. How you see it fit in this conversation of reality and true Self?

I'm hoping you can help me see something new around worry and preoccupation with my Grandchildren. I can see that the Parents are doing the best they can from what looks true for them, but from my perspective I can see how much of it is based on misunderstanding. And I see my Grandchildren soaking it up (as the learning sponges that they are) and I just want to jump in constantly and say no - don't believe it! For example, my Son and his Wife put my 12 year old Grand Daughter on anti-anxiety medication because they see her emotions as a problem. I feel helpless to stop any of it and I spend way too much time thinking about it. Can you help shed some light on this?

Can you please do a podcast on What's at stake, I have been using that phrase and it really helps. When the need to ask that comes to mind it is usually at a time when the sensations are so constrictive and felt so deep. It has been helping me to not react at those times. It helps to have that realization that the only thing at stake is the thought of the identity. Why is it that the sensations are so dramatic at that time?