Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

If you were an all-powerful, all-knowing consciousness, you could never know sadness, loss, anxiety, surprise, or the excitement of not knowing what will happen next. An all-knowing consciousness could not enjoy jokes or cry at tragedies. By playing the game, consciousness delights in every experience possible, and the only way to do that is for it to lose itself in us.In the same way that a glass of water is exponentially more satisfying after a five-mile hike in the desert, the experience of feeling the interconnectedness of everything is more fulfilling after the illusion of separation. This is the fun of the game. This is the fun of waking up.

I made a quite funny and interesting observation about the change of your spreaking rhythm over time.I listen backwards to your podcast while driving from the day on I found it, and I also listen to the daily actual one. So now I am in Oktober 2020. I listened to the new one and immediately after I took the old one on where I left it and there I heard how your speaking rhythm has immensily changed. In the old on you had a lot more abruptness and acceleration, like rushing and doing sudden changes, and in the actual one there is a lot more evenness and decceleration, like there is more relaxation and more indulging in time. It was beautiful to notice the development. I hope this doesn't offend you, for me it was so revealing how change can be seen.

I am suffering severe depression and anxiety at the moment. Nothing helps and I cannot pull myselfout of it. I sleep 18 - 20 hours a day and am still tired when awake. I find it hard to wash. I don’t want to exist like this anymore. I’m on a lot of medication from my Psychiatrist and I tried therapy which didn’t help as i was too I’ll to engage. I know what you speak of touches me, it feels like truth.

The other part of the question is: is the shift happening in our programmed mind or is it something deeper? Some people describe a shift which seems like an experience of the formless. What is really shifting? I love that you show the logic in this because that is very helpful for me. At the same time I wonder if the shift is also of a formless happening which can be difficult to put into words. Sometimes it has been powerful for me to have a deeper understanding of the formless, and then it seems like the form is dissolving. If we concentrate on the form and the thinking it seems like we sometimes can be more trapped in it and there is more focus on the activity of the mind. What are your thoughts about this?

Lately you have been speaking in podcasts and webinars about understanding the selfing and the separate self and how all suffering is because we do not understand that there is no I controlling, choosing and doing. This is really starting to make sense for me and I understand why you want to make this point clear. You have mentioned words like: hopeless, no other way, impossible, no genuine rest, sickness etc to describe what happens when we do not see/understand this. And the thing is; at least for me, it takes time to see this. My question is partly; other people who have experienced a big shift/enlightenment have used other words and concepts to describe it. I wonder if it is helpful to use those words (to be categorical) about consequences of not seeing this? I am thinking it might be possible to have a shift through other "routes" to reality/truth and maybee therefore not helpful to use such strong words? Some people also talk about the difference in where we talk from (the understanding and the experience of it) and what we speak to (the conceptual mind or the formless space). I feel that you do that to a great extent but sometimes lately maybee pointing more to what people do not understand and the hopelessness of that?

I am currently on your Rest course and a member of your community. I have been listening to you for about 2 years now and really love your work and descriptions of the reality of human life. I came to find you from being in Nicola Birds ALPOM community for about 5 years.I am find that although my body mind understands you perfectly, this understanding has not drop into reality. When i first found Nicola Bird it was at a time when my husband had died of cancer and then 3 months later my brother and only sibling committed suicide. I inherited my husbands business , which i had absolutley no experience of at all and my life felt and still to a lesser degree, felt very insecure. During my childhood i was tramatised by my Mums own insecure behaviour which i now see set up a beleif in myself of fear and shame, having to keep myself small in relationships, plactating to keep myself safe and others happy with me so as they would still like/love me and not be angry with me. It is only just recently that i have seen these traumas/wounds as being present. My response to my husbands and brothers deaths was to press on. and try and keep my kids, my brothers kids and parents going and at the same time navigate a business i knew nothing about, all happening from the beliefs of my lack which i took on as a child. Anxiety and fear ruled! Being part of this community has helped, but i can feel and hear my frustration at not coming to a deeper place within this conversation. Am just so tired of all the fear and my family are now finding my low moods and anxiety wearing and i am a worry to them. My lack of faith in myself or anything else can sometimes be very heavy for them.I would be so grateful for any suggestions and thank you so much for all your work it really is so affirming even if i then go straight back to my belief system, it is a releif to be imursed in your words for that time that i am listening.

Thank you so much for your response to my question about generational domestic abuse. (May 27th) I'm listening to it again and again. I think I'm beginning to see more of what you're pointing to. After I separated from my children's dad, I went as "no contact" as was possible, but even the tiny bit of communication we had was fraught with fear from my side and anger from his. I spent so much time attempting to forgive and release him and myself and yet it was only when I had a beautiful moment of clarity that everything changed. I saw so clearly that we were both innocent. I saw that he had done the very best he could. That if he could have possibly done better he would have. And I saw the same for myself. All the blame and guilt fell away. Grace and peace were left and I fell into a space of such love. Love and acceptance for him, for us and for the life we had created. A miracle happened without anything changing on the outside because from that moment on, our communication has been respectful and gentle. He hasn't changed. His relationship with our children and with his second wife hasn't changed butHe and I can meet and there is only peace and kindness. When I see an old pattern begin to surface ...That's all it is. Something to see, I have no judgement on it or interaction with it .... it passes and is gone. No more games. This shift has already changed much in how I see my children and others and listening to your beautiful answer to my question about my son and daughter in law shows me the direction to look in. It is clear to me that that there is more to see. There is more to sit with. There is more to Love. So I think my question is ...When I feel the pain, judgement, worry, fear rising is that where I look? Allowing the feelings to have full space in my body? I get hazy here so if you can say more to this I'd be so grateful. I'm reading your book Well, and listening to you every day. Thank you, Clare, from the bottom of my heart.

Can you talk a bit more about how experiencing emotions is not the same thing as suffering?If we take grief as an example - it would seem that the system learns grief as a way to support the body's need for resources. We aren't expecting grief to go away once it's learned that there's no self. So when does grief transition into suffering?

I've listened to your podcast on "What do you mean by feel the feelings that arise". Can you give any pointers on how to do this when you're in the middle of situations where it seems like this isn't possible. For example, I've been trying to go deep into the body when I have panic, or panic attacks at work. This results in a sort of confusion as to what I'm doing at work as the focus isn't on the task at hand and I'm kind of out of it in terms of the job flow. Do we just do the best we can? I'm thinking of your public speaking situations. If you ever do get uncomfortable any more, are you able to go into the body and still stay on track?Thanks Clare,I don't know why this is so difficult for me. I do ask the questions about what I am etc and everything you point to makes sense and yet the" I" still hangs tight.

I wonder if you can speak a bit about readiness you often mention in the context of being ready for this sort of conversations? It looks like the system presettles itself so the experiences arised in the body can be felt, questioned, looked at and it doesn't look so frightening anymore.

I hope you are keeping well... I love all your work and pointings to who we truly are..it's been so helpful....I wanted to ask you what is it like for you living from a place of openness and surrender... What does it feel like to let life live you? I know you said it wasn't always like that for you, especially around speaking up at meetings and the anxious feelings that arose from being in certain situations.. How has life changed for you? Do you still experience your conditioning and learned behaviours or are they only very faint and in the background...how do I get out of my own way? I'm curious as I'm exactly as you used to be afraid to speak up at meetings and shy away from public speaking as my face goes bright red and I basically say the bare minimum 😊...It's ironic really that I ended up in an organisation that is all about marketing, a lot client facing and surrounded by Uber confident people who can speak off the cuff.. I really feel like a fish out of water and have ended up where I am as I had no clue of my true nature and what my heart really longed for.. Apologies for the long winded email and so many questions!

I heard another non-dual teacher mention the intense friction that we experience when our thoughts and feelings clash.The statement really resonated but I haven't got a clue why.Could you have a go at speaking to this?

I was recently triggered by a conversation with a friend and 'I' have been unable to let it go since.I am meeting up with her again. 'I' want to put it all behind me, move on, whilst at the same time wanting her to see where she is wrong, how hurt I was, in short I want to control the whole situation!I know that 'all' I have to do is notice everything that is going on, bringing awareness to it, without having to do anything to 'fix' it. But how do I sit with something that is so thought based? How do I sit with the feelings when they are only there because of my thinking?Is it simply noticing all that? Of course the I wants it all to go away, so I notice that too?

REST by Alex Sooting-Kim Pang. The Sunday Book Listener question I've been listening to the book Rest more today and it is bringing up a question. I wonder if you would consider it for the podcast? The book seems to suggest that our ideas about creativity are wrong and that what is really needed is a slow pace to life and space for play in order to allow the subconscious to do what it does best; that contrary to the dogma that we should work harder, creative genius is a product of this more restful existence. This is where I get stuck. It seems that everything is stacked against us here (as the book also points out). Almost everyone I know feels overworked. There is an apparent reality to a hypermodern demanding non-stop world? If everything 'out there' is created in this conscious space does this mean that this apparent busyness and overwork are sort of an illusion? That if it makes sense to the system then choices will be made to opt out of that somehow and and choices to remain in the 'rat race' happen because it makes sense based on beliefs? I can increasingly feel myself opting out of this as a result of this conversation...finding space where I believed there to be none, but I also find myself back in the middle of it regularly.

The notion of a separate organism is clearly an abstraction, as is also its boundary. Underlying all this is unbroken wholeness even though our civilization has developed in such a way as to strongly emphasize the separation into parts. David Bohm

I recently became aware of how deeply domestic abuse is rooted in my family. As I'm reading See what you made me do. 7 years ago I left a marriage of 22 years of crazy abuse, and now I'm watching the cycle repeat itself with my eldest son and his wife. I don't know what to do. She is very much in the place of protecting him and justifying the abuse. I have tried to broach it before but if I bring it up with her she will most probably tell him and it will backfire and hurt her more. It will also alienate her from me and make it more difficult to help her in the long run. I have thought of giving my son the book "See what you made me do" and asking him to read it. That may make it worse too. I'm feeling confused between understanding the relative truth and the truth in this situation. I don't want to fall into spiritual bypass either. I'm also wanting to see more deeply into what's really going I here so I can help clients in similar positions. Can you help me shed some light on this please Clare.

All this talk in the REST course of sitting with discomfort and feeling what is asking to be felt has made me realize that I really haven’t a clue how exactly to do this.From my earliest childhood I remember my emotions were problematic for my mother who often told me, “Don’t be like that.” I could see my emotions were frequently in turn annoying or too needy or overwhelming or terrifying for her to deal with. My father, while kind, was mostly emotionally absent in my life. Having no real role models for dealing with feelings, I turned to food at a young age and still use it to numb and cope. Another strategy I’ve employed my whole life is to journal about feelings. Now when I hear you talk about exploring the edges of the identified mind’s comfort zones, I’m wondering how exactly to do this? When I try to sit with feelings I find myself trying to name them and narrating the experience. Or I write about them and similarly find myself involved with choosing the closest labels. Inevitably this leads to writing words that invent and describe the psychology of the system, complete with numerous finger-pointing stories.Intuitively this feels more removed than what you’re describing. That the words are a dodge, a movement away from feeling them.It is a little embarrassing to ask, but what do you mean by and how to feel the feelings that arise? How are they witnessed when they’ve been blocked out by the system for most of my life? I would appreciate any pointers you could offer.

I‘m wondering about something.. over the next two months there are many different projects coming up, that need preparation. It seemed to me that it should be possible to handle everthing and to be prepared well.. but now I‘m sick and my body is in so much pain that it feels like I can‘t do the work that should get done..In my mind it looks like, the only way out of it would be if one of the projects would be moved to a later date.. it looks so real but what makes me suspicios about it is that it looks so much like the ONLY way out of it and i guess out of my pain..I‘m on your REST course and have been listening to the subliminal a couple of times.. it seems to me that there is so much in the topic of rest for me that I can‘t see yet.. also it seems to be my thing to get sick or to be in pain when there is a lot to get done..Is it possible that all of this is a reaction to the subliminal or to being confronted with those copingmechanisms?Sorry for this long question, i think it shows how confused I am 🙈

I loved todays blog on mental health and the accompanying podcast (19th May).I understand that we cannot control our thinking, but what about changing/choosing the thoughts we focus on?I seems to me that “I” do do have some control over that or am I imagining that?https://claredimond.com/loneliness-mental-health/

I always find “no doer” confronting but I did feel resonance with the very end of the talk that even self inquiry might be doomed until the doer is made more transparent. As you know, I struggle with the Witness as I find that term to be nihilistic. An entity or process that just observes is passive with no power. The truth is I rarely see this logic that you say is so obvious. I am aware that motor functions occur before the conscious mind is even aware, yet the artificial intelligence movement has created machines with far less power than the brain that do take responsibility for actions based on sensors. Maybe that metaphor fits your dialog also, but the obvious logic is really not obvious (I had this problem throughout HOME as well). I suppose my greatest problem with “no doer” is that it requires Faith that in giving up the doer all of this wonderful accountability and Wisdom will appear to align the mind and body to its greatest good (healthy behaviors, compassion, happiness for no cause, etc,). This has always been my only obstacle to fully understanding Syd Banks remarkable teachings, which you know I view as life-saving for me. What is the evidence for this Faith? What is the evidence that this Wisdom and accountability that appears will protect the doer as best as it can be done so the doer can let go. Or if we don’t have any evidence, how does one actually take the leap?

Humankind by Rutger Bregman. The Sunday Book

No-self Accountability - words of the week

Today’s ‘how should I listen’ podcast finds me excited. Excited enough to return to exploring what is true. Yet what does that truly mean?The Work of Byron Katie starts with questioning ‘is it true?’ I get that. It’s crystal clear. Please can you dive deep into what exactly you mean by “Just listening to see what’s true. That’s all.”…And how exactly do I/we do this? Thank you. 💎🙏🏼💙

'YOU need to change YOUR thinking!' This is something we hear and read quite often. What is true in it, if anything?

Can you clarify the difference in terminology between the 3 principles and nonduality/advaita, by use of a metaphor (for example the ocean and the waves, or the movie and the screen)?

I am on my second round of Home and really getting something from it slowly and surely. It’s like so many little YES moments. Little snippets of truth that i recognise as such. But … I’m having traditional therapy for the first time and really enjoying it. Is there benefit, alongside this, for the ‘I’ to examine the avator self to examine the conditioning to bring it into the light ? I find it interesting to see the links my brain has made and why but does this drag me more into the brambles and less into seeing that it’s all made up? Would appreciate your view !

You asked me what was driving the need to understand - for the mind to understand what you were sharing. It stopped me in my tracks because up until this point I had understood that the tension I perceived was being created from the mind trying to grasp something it can never grasp, was the indicator to let go. What you pointed to was that it was no problem that the mind wanted to understand but it was the underlying reason for needing to understand.And it came to me this morning. I need to understand because of what's on offer that I don't already (perceive) that I have. Ultimate peace, relaxation, sleep, trust, unconditional love. In everything you share there is the perceived message that once the mind is no longer identified life will be amazing. So obviously I want that and therefore have the need to understand.Intellectually I know what you are pointing to - that we are that already. But right now, where I am, it doesn't feel like that and hence the minds desire to understand!Does that make sense? I don't know what the question is except how does seeing what the need to understand is about, help?

Think Again by Adam Grant. The Sunday Book

'Trojan Horse' words of the week

I have a question about conditioning. If I understand correctly, we are all like robots acting according to whatever programs were learned along the way until we come to learn more about who we really are. Then gradually (or all at once those lucky ducks!) the navigation system shifts out of this programming and more and more life is lived as LIfe, Love or the space of awareness etc. My question is that when the conditioning is seen, but doesn't fall away and is not serving the body mind, is it because there's still some belief in it being true, or that it's very persistent and takes time to do so? Maybe focusing on the conditioning is the wrong direction to look? I feel like I'm stuck with this robot and this is my life.

One thing remains a bit of a mystery (Well, not just one, but this is flavor of the day!). Why does the identified mind continue to feel the compulsion to pounce on us with anxieties and concerns the moment we open our eyes in the morning? It doesn’t make a lot of sense. I can’t speak for my friend, but for my part I generally surrender to sleep with thoughts of gratitude for the day that I have had the delight of experiencing. Sleep comes easily. I sleep well. Morning arrives without the jarring voice of an alarm. Instead, my thoughts seem to feel compelled to slap me awake. I know it was not always like this. As a child one springs from bed full of joy and eager to greet the day. Since resistance what is is what holds a pattern in place, I guess the better question is why do I object to being slapped awake by my identity? I just do.

I understand that the concept of good and bad are just that, and the identity is fixed in place, through this process. So, if I was in this scenario, and purposely change the words with no reference to "you're good", who is taking control there? Who makes the change? Is it is something to do with prior conditioning or does the identity have some ability to affect change? As you have said before to try and answer our own questions.... So, what came up is - Is it the identity trying not to do something wrong, or to correct itself, which I guess would come from some conditioning? Is the identity and conditioning the same thing, I think maybe? However, I may be seeing conditioning and identity as separate, in a way that "I have conditioning". I think that change happens from new thinking but can't see it in this situation. I am getting a bit lost there.

My biggest problem right now is that I feel like I'm in a prison that I can't get out of. Things that people take for granted like having a shower have become very difficult for me and whatever I do doesn't seem good enough.My adult children are suffering because they are trying to help me but are frustrated because I'm not doing anything to help myself eg eat healthy food and exercise.I seem to have no desire to do anything at all.I seem to be very lazy and also incompetent and I don't know what to do about it. If I can't start looking after myself I'm afraid of what my future will be. I could very well end up on the streets and so could my children, especially my son. I'm living with my elderly parents in a rented house and I'm not doing a good job of looking after myself and spend most of my time doing nothing except lying on my bed, walking up and down the hallway, eating or watching a couple of quiz shows on TV.It's a very insecure, confusing and frightening place to be.My son came back from Europe to try to help me and is so disappointed and frustrated because no matter what he says and how hard he tries to motivate me, he can't see me trying to help myself at all. My daughter had a baby 7 months ago and I haven't been able to be the support she would have liked and I'm not the Nana I think I should be.I feel very separate, lonely and isolated. How can I move forward? There are so many reasons why I'm struggling right now but others eg my son just think I'm making excuses for why I'm not doing what I "should" be doing.I have no desire to do anything, which is a real worry for me.I'm currently under the mental health act here in NZ and am taking medication for anxiety and depression.I've done my best to explain what's going on with me but I don't believe you or anyone can fully understand what I'm going through.I don't know what I want from you or if there's anything you can say or do to help but I'm reaching out anyway.I wonder if I am a special case, the exception to the rule and maybe there's no hope for me.

As you know I lost my husband at the end of last year. I found you just after that.In the grief, the pain, the loss, the sadness, the heartache, the fear, the insecurity and situations that I have now to face without my reference point my soul mate I have never before been in the reality of life as I am now.I have come to understand that I have Spiritually bypassed and denied so much of life. The courses and books you write are showing me this. I am feeling and being present like never before.I also have been pushing away physical symptoms of illness for many years because I have so much conditioned ideas about ‘it’s my thinking, if only I could change my thinking, it’s all my fault if I didn’t think this way, eat this way, was more spiritual I wouldn’t have this illness. I took it so personally and so much shame and blame showed up.And punishing myself for all that was happening to me, taking it all personally because that’s what some spiritual teaches brought to me. So I spent years trying to fix the broken me with everything I could and then when it didn’t work blame shame game again.My understanding through you is becoming so much clearer. I have sought medical advice because in the quietness of mind activity that’s what came up and I acted on it.So in spiritual bypassing damage has been caused to my joints because I ignored the symptoms.Sorry I have wondered a bit. So I was wondering if you could talk a bit more on spiritual bypass.Sending lots of love your way and so much gratitude to you.

I have a question about the difference between depression, numbness, and what you sometimes call 'intelligence'. Life has been hard recently. Sometimes I have felt some relief, when the stories about what 'should' be drop away and there is just the bareness and rawness of what is there. The thing is that I don't know whether this is 'me' seeing through the stories of the self, or just giving up and lapsing into a kind of numbness or spiritual bypassing, since when it happens it feels like a kind of relief, which suggests it may just be another escape? How do you know the difference?I hope my questions makes some sense. It is hard to articulate.

'A mind at home with itself', by Byron Katie. Sunday book

Hi Clare,I am still listening to your daily podcasts. Each time I take a break I am drawn back and catch up. Sometimes the understanding lands and sometimes I just listen.Going through an interesting period of change this Spring. This quote of yours, taken from a webinar, helped me though the past two years of pandemic uncertainty. Please can you open up about these wonderful words in a May podcast.

You point out that every time the mind creates a thought that is then believed to be about the "me", so awareness becomes identified with that thought, the body will resist this. So any time there is this resistance, this repellent pushing away of one of these thoughts, (for example "people won't like me if they know me") this is a signal that the mind is believing something of its own creation.And when you say the thought isn't true you don't mean that the suffering isn't valid, that it's not true that we feel bad when that thought is believed, right? You're saying that what's not true is the idea that what we are is this limited thought...And the brain is just spitballing with its creative ideas - and then believing what is basically narrative noise.What's harder to see here is that we are the awareness behind the thought, that witnesses the thought.Can you say more about this thought not being true?

I really enjoyed the GOLD course and feel like I have gotten a lot out of it, but in a surprising, to me, indirect way. While I’m not without plenty of money issues, this is not my most pressing concern. The gift of this course for me has been that, as I watched the lessons, a distance, a space, a measure of objectivity, opened for me . As you discussed untangling money from the self-identified mind, over and over I heard money as a metaphor for anything the mind uses to seek security, worth, love, etc. You spoke of money, and I heard this as a metaphor for how this body/mind uses food and weight. So I’ve journaled and been curious about the feelings and thoughts around food/weight which has really been ramping up the more I explore the body/mind system with a rollercoaster mix of urgency and compassion. Where I’m really confused and what I’m asking for help with, is how to formulate a “clean” action plan, as it were, around food. I’ve been on and in rebellion of so many diet plans my entire life and my mind is full of contradictory science, labels and rules. I love how at the end of the GOLD Day 5 lesson there is a clean action plan for money. Could you offer me pointers on how to formulate something similar for approaching food? I sense I need something back in alignment with body needs for health, but am at a loss for how to proceed. I feel like I’m almost there, but it’s just out of reach and I need a nudge or pointer.Thanks so much for all your sharing and love.

If the idea of me is based and built on conditioned beliefs why do we concentrate on it, why do many people teach to change the idea of a me. Why not look at the flowing of energy and knowing that the energy just flows and there is no identification that is real. The identification stems from conditioned beliefs that just are not true.

I want something to do about it. I just don't want to be like this anymore. But I'm scared I'm in too deep, creating an unhappy life. I saw I was doing it, but was too scared, fear, guilt. As if I can, could not admit. I guess I have to protect something. I'm so tensed in my jaws, mouth. I think a story of guilt, fear is playing around, keeping things in place. Guilt is a big one. (a lot of thinking about relation, work) I'm disappointed that I have become like this, creating this story, mess. How can I see beyond that it's not me. Why would I do this to myself. Going against life. It's almost rage. A crazy story

I have been studying 3P for two years now. Via a podcast by Nicola Bird I found your book REAL. Read it, like it. But two weeks ago I read it again and it hit me like a brick. I have read many 3P books, and I understand it. But now all of sudden it saw it on a next and deeper level. So I joined your one month program. And strangely enough (I am at day 6 now) most of it is over my head. The videos and the live talk. I like it, but what are they saying? But in your book I understand almost everything. Feel and see it deeply, I can feel the peace. What's the difference? Listening to your program gives me a good feeling. That's what you should look for Syd Banks said. Should I listen to it like music. Without trying to understand and enjoy the ride? That's the thing to do now? Hope you can give me a small hint 😊

'See what you made me do. Power, control and domestic abuse' by Jess Hill. The Sunday Book

'Clean': Wonderful Word of the Week

I noticed how much of my life I'm navigating from my feelings. How I'm deciding to do or not to do something (for a example call a person on phone) on the basis how I feel in that moment. Even considering myself confident or not confident is perceived or judged from my feeling. I guess this is a part of my conditioning. I also loved your explanation on a HOME course how this learned system is corresponding with circumstances and others moment by moment. I understand this astaking actions and behaviours away from pain towards the pleasure to benefit the system, which is totally arbitrary thing for each of us. It looks like there is hierarchy inside the system choosing actions and behaviours moment by moment in correspondence with what is learned. Do you you have any thoughts on that? Are we somehow recalibrating our systems with this new understanding?

Thank you for the money course. The first two days have really got me thinking about how my relationship with money has developed and is now represented by the word itself. I can also see how it is so closely entwined with the identity, of who I am, whether or not I am worthy or responsible. Day 3, no self-accountability was different. Although I have heard of this before in previous courses, the accountability part resonates but the no self part is very grey. It highlights how this identity still believes itself to be real. My question is, does the fact that I the self is tied up with protection in others areas eg. health, mean that money and NS-A are unable to be free? I guess that I'm questioning whether it's all or nothing?

I wonder if you can help me... I was introduced to the 3ps a few years ago and took a deep dive into them. My coach has been pointing to the idea of non duality, and I can feel there is something for me to see here. I'm intrigued to say the least. What do you see is the difference (if any), between the understanding of the principles and non duality and where do these understandings overlap?

Once again just when I think I have got my head around this conversation there is a podcast that makes me want to yell at you!I do see that there is often a reflection out there of something in myself when I judge others.Is this true EVERY time we judge others? What about Hitler??Surely I don’t have to look at myself when there is such hideous behaviour.I am kind of dreading and also looking forward to your response as I am sure there is more for me to see…Thank you fo always making us look at ourselves!

Repressed feeelings of abandonment keep surfacing again and again and there is confusion spiritually.. do I stay with them and the thoughts arising or look from awareness? Sometimes I stay as the feelings and it’s very uncomfortable and sometimes I see them from afar. Then there’s overthinking about how to deal with it all and even as I say that it sounds crazy like who is trying to do that?

Are we smart enough to know how smart animals are?' by Frans de Waal. The Sunday Book