Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

I have a question about today’s podcast (Friday 16th Sept)What you said is so true, I love it. The only thing not clear is what you mean when you say ‚remove or put in the barriers‘. I sounds to me like you need willpower and effort to do that. If we could just remove the barriers we would have done it long ago. My personal experience with food and exercise and substances is, when you fully feel the effects it has on the system the behavior changes by itself over time. You don’t have to remove or put in anything, you just do it or don’t do it anymore. Happened to me with several things from alcohol to fast food to other substances. Is that what you mean by removing the barriers or something else? I would love to hear a clarification. Thank you for reading 🙏

There’s no such thing as overreacting; it’s just that what someone is reacting to may no longer be what’s in front of them.Terrence Real

We’ll continue to lose what completes us until we realise we are already complete. That’s what pain teaches you— that you’ll always have a wound when your wholeness depends on another… and your love will always be conditional when it comes with the condition that you are incomplete without them. Mark Groves

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The body

Sorry for asking this again, you have spoken so much about this and still it‘s not really clear here what you mean by no self accountability. The no self part seems clear, there is no doer, life just lives and expresses through us shaped by our individual systems build of many things like genetics and conditioning. Maybe this already is wrong?So what is the accountability part besides noticing what happens and acknowledging it happens in this unit. If I follow the logic even if there is noticing or acknowledging happens or not, so there is no one deciding to notice etc. If there is no doer, what is accountable for anything and what decides to be? It seems accountability just happens or not. Can we call it accountability then?Sorry for this chaotic explanation, even formulating the question is not clear. I hope I could make myself a bit understandable. Happy for any thoughts.

I am a little hesitant to ask this question as I suspect that I am not going to like the answer, but here goes anyway….I was raised in a family that was very ‘reserved’ we did not raise our voices, express emotions openly, disagree with anyone in public etc.Of-course I married someone who’s family is quite the opposite ,lots of arguments, yelling, cutting off relationships over minor disagreements etc.At first I found this quite refreshing and if I were to be honest, was quite intrigued and enjoyed the drama.That novelty has now worn off and I find myself being resentful of the amount of time and energy that is spent, caught in the middle of all this conflict.I have been looking at where I do the same thing as well as sitting in the suffering and although this has been so helpful in almost every other relationship I have. I am stuck on this one. HELP. I just find myself wanting to avoid family get togethers or if I attend find a way to distract myself or withdraw from the conversations. Is there ever a time when it is better to just avoid/walk away from the whole situation?Thank you,Loads of love as always, (even if you send me back in)

I am at an in-between stage in my life, retiring from a very fulfilling and fun career as a veterinarian and looking at what is next for me.I feel I am in a place where I would like to make some kind of contribution to this world of chaos that seems to be ramping up, yet am hesitant to jump into trying to 'fix the world’ out there that is just made up of my projections.I do not have many limitations or restrictions on what I could do but as a result feel somewhat overwhelmed by the courses/choices/options available.Do you have any suggestions about how to go about finding the ‘right’ thing to do?

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What makes us ready for enlightenment?

I developed a connection with someone on a similar inner exploration some time ago, which turned into quite a deep relationship as we both shared vulnerabilities. In this 'inner adventure' on my part there have been revelations around deep-seated people pleasing tendencies which may well have begun in childhood, but no longer feel in alignment with the truth of what I am. The relationship with this person began to shift over time and I became aware of an intensity that sometimes felt uncomfortable and the boundaries felt a bit off. It felt appropriate to distance myself and this resulted in what looked like hurt behaviour from the other person, manifesting with some aggression. There was an immediate rush of fear with me and a sense that I'd been very naive to be so open and trusting and there was a capacity to see in me a tendency to become self-critical and apportion blame. The other person chose to block me on social channels, which appeared to come from a rational, loving place. It was a relief and something I didn't seem to have the courage to do as I was fearful of how it would be received. I see here a strong sense of responsibility for hurting that person, but also an instinctive desire to protect myself and not to accept a relationship dynamic that feels like it compromises healthy boundaries. There is still unease and lots of mixed emotions (and sometimes fearful thoughts and dreams) about this person as they seem to linger in my consciousness, as if there is some unresolved hurt. When I return to 'being' there is a quiet knowing of safety, wellbeing and empathy, but this often is at odds with a psychological self which feels afraid. It's hard to have clarity in these moments, though I see that allowing the feelings is safe and healing seems to come from breathing into this and seeing my own hurt, resentment and fear in the projections of the other - and finding incredible grace (and catharsis) in honouring the little girl in me who is so afraid. I'd love your perspective on this.

Thanks for your response to my email. I had a good week last week. I seemed to have dropped into a space where all there really was was 'right here, right now' and not much else. For whatever reason, it was almost like my unhelpful thinking just wasn't 'taking hold', wasn't sticking. Fear thoughts just passed by without anything grabbing onto them. It felt like I couldn't have 'terrorised myself' even if I'd wanted to. And all with little or no effort. Then, after a boozy night on Saturday everything seems to have fallen apart again. Feels like almost back to square one. Yesterday was a constant battle to 'just be in the body and feel whatever comes up without judging'. I was like a cat on a hot tin roof. Today I'm not a lot better either even though I had an alcohol free night ( I sound like a right old boozer, but the reality is that I only drink at the weekends and have no issue not drinking. The point is that if I'm prone to occasionally getting a taste for it and overindulging when I do drink - then I feel toxic the next day and the impact is even more psychological than physical). I should say that when this happened I didn't fall out with anyone, upset anyone or do anything that could have made me feel guilty. Just me feeling crap after one too many.I'm not sure how I get back to that place of clarity. On the one hand I know that it's there, because I've experienced it. On the other it's clear that at the moment it is easily lost. Feeling a bit discouraged.

I always begin my day with your podcast so yesterday I was delighted to receive the response to my question about game 1 and 2 right after I sent it Thank you!Today I listened to your podcast about discomfort and projections, all making sense (today anyway)My question is, does this ’sitting in the feeling’ hold true for all suffering?What about seemingly simple and somewhat ridiculous reactions for example getting mad about being cut off in traffic?I don’t want to over analyse my life but also don’t want to miss out on or write off opportunities to heal.

I've just listened to your podcast 'Capacity'. You were speaking about projections as not being true. I understand that what's happening right now is all there is and anything else is imagination. My body holds a lot of contraction and sometimes the mind gets involved as well. It seems like my projections always do come true though so it's hard not to see what's going to happen as being close and often worse than what my mind cooks up. My brain is now wired for this. When you talk about 'getting still' do you mean that literally as in I should sit down, be quiet and feel what needs to be felt. The dread never goes away and I'm always in the 'face the fear and do it anyways' program, so capacity or not it's in my face and has to be done.Thanks Clare❤❤❤

I listened to your podcasts on August 31 and Sept 1 (parts 1 ad 2) and they make complete sense to me and I have had significant changes occur in my relationships as a result of willing to sit in the suffering rather than point my finger out there at ’the problem’My question is around you saying that telling people to ‘find a nice feeling’ is not helpful and could be harmful (as I understand it) How is it that so many people seem to have life changing realisations from simply hearing that and so may (long time) 3P teachers mostly emphasise that as the foundation of their teaching? Sounds a lot easier than what we are doing?

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Why would I put myself through that? (Super power part 2)

Your super power

What other people think

Being wrong

Unwanted emotions

Well, what an interesting 24 hours! Yesterday was really rough. I think I was a bit toxic from too much wine at the weekend, but also my mind was sooooo full on that it was like torture. Trying to organise a hospital appointment too, had me (not quite literally) curled up in a corner shaking.This morning though I felt so much better. I'd rehydrated and slept great. I was listening to the subliminals and just watching what was going on with thoughts and feelings. Lots of the same old controlling thinking. Some full on and in your face...direct. Some a little bit more insidious...trying to sneak in with a benign thought which then led me back down the resisting path again. Anyway, focusing on the gap between thoughts, I realised that I had a feeling of what I can only call JOY bubbling up. I've had that before on occasion, but what I'd not seen/realised was thought's response to it was quite brutal. It was like I was somehow supressing the feeling because it was scary. I'd be out of control if it let it really take shape and explode. Thinking creeps in and thoughts of embarrassment and shame appear. I can only describe it as like trying to stifle an orgasm due to shame (if that makes any sense at all). A massive energetic feeling arises but the feeling of being out of control joyful was just too scary. In writing this I'm smiling because I was going to say...'who am I to experience this joy and freedom', but then realising that this was the real me that I have been suppressing all my life. I realised too that watching my wife's unbridled joy at greeting friends and being in the moment has always felt uncomfortable to me. I've been very suppressed. Locked down.Not sure that this makes any sense at all?

Identity under threat

Why bother exploring what is real?

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Super on edge today. I feel like my mind is in overdrive and am trying to concentrate on the physical sensation. I've been reading the book you mentioned on the Sunday podcast 'conversations on non-duality' and I keep seeing the word 'constriction'. That very much feels like the physical sensation I keep getting in waves. I have a thought, immediately followed by a sensation which I just try to 'be with/experience without judgement'. It will dissipate, then some time afterwards it will come again. It's like it's a thought that is really fighting to be responded to or fixed. It feels hugely unpleasant but I'm trying to just be aware of what the sensation is rather than trying to do anything about it.

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I've been listening to the subliminals daily since receiving them and am up to about 30 mins a day with them. I'm also continuing my reading and watching of books and videos on Non-duality. I've finished your book, Home, and have also finished Tony Parsons The Open Secret, plus Ruper Spira's You Are The Happiness You Seek. And I'm also dipping into the 26 conversation book you recommended last week.Perhaps I'm overdoing it and trying to force the penny dropping, but I just feel confused and overwhelmed. I have brief moments of clarity, but otherwise it's just a fog. Maybe because of the language that is being used to explain the inexplicable? The best way I can describe it is that I feel like I'm a millimetre away from 'getting it', but may as well be a thousand miles. Dead frustrating.Any thoughts?

"Reality is nothing but a Rorschach ink blot, you know" Alan Watts. "Reality is an illusion. Albeit a persistent one." Albert Einstein. Wonderful Words

Why do editors scaremonger? Listener question

Will a subliminal recording take away the pain of believed separation? Listener question

I am going thru the THEM course of Clare Dimond & have the following question: I understand that whenever we are being confronted with a disliked behavior in someone else, the first place to heal that disliked behavior is FIRST within ourselves. Is my understanding correct? If it is, how do we go about healing that disliked behavior within ourselves?

Triggers and re-traumatisiation

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Conversations in non-duality: twenty six awakenings: Sunday book

'Honestly I cannot understand what people mean when they talk about the freedom of the human will. I have a feeling for instance, that I will something or other; but what relation this has with freedom I cannot understand at all'. Einstein

Following Clare’s podcast on Tuesday about therapy and my subsequent post, some questions have come up about access to help for people in distress; I’d be grateful for any thoughts.Obviously, a person who is ignorant about nonduality (as I was) cannot discern whether or not the therapist they approach has this understanding.However, for a prospective or current client who knows about nonduality, such as the podcast questioner, is it better for them to forego the help of someone who doesn’t come from this understanding? They might be likely to, but are we suggesting that any therapist without this understanding is to be avoided?Are there currently enough therapists working from this understanding to meet the need out there? It seems not, so then what?Does Life itself know what we’re ready for (including coming across this conversation) and, if so, might what shows up be exactly right, nondual or not?Thanks to anyone who responds.

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You often use the metaphor mountain - no mountain - mountain. And you also encourage us to stay with the discomfort, to notice it, observe it, and see what's believed and what's actually true in those moments. A peer in your community shared with me that staying with the discomfort is "no mountain" - can you speak to that? I'm not seeing what she's seeing yet.

Is crying just part of selfing or an indication of or reaction to selfing. If we speak about something or hear something or see something and tears arise .. is this a sign of somehting healing and being let go of or a sign that we are selfing and to 'stop it'. I have often wondered what the bodies mechanism of producing tears serves .. tears can come in times of sadness or joy and maybe its all just a way of the system regulating itself and to 'get us back into body connection and presence'

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.What do you think, does our language express or create the “I?”The rules of our language identify a subject and a verb. For example, an I and something that is happening. “I am doing this.” Yet in this conversation it is seen that awareness is aware of the doing happening — I am not doing this. I am not the doer and there is no I.)Does the world look this way in language because this is how we think or do we think this way because of our language?It may ultimately be a chicken and an egg thing, or just a case of co-arising. But I wonder are there cultures/languages with sentences that developed without a subject?It feels like there is an intuitive sense of an I, but babies don’t seem to be born with it. Helen Keller, I’ve read, had no sense of an I or a self until she learned language. Or until language was learned by that localized body/mind system. I don’t know the attribution, but I’ve recently heard “The I in I am happy is the same as the it in it is raining.” How much does language shape our thinking? Or does our thinking shape our language?

Something became clearer this morning when I awoke. It was that there are no "them" that condition us. I used to think that my parents did most of my early conditioning but of course they didn't. This body/mind does/creates the conditions - yes, based on its environment, but the actual "data" it absorbs is its own. This was a Wow. I thought that if they had conditioned me then the same would be true for my children and I had felt guilty. But just as I had no control over my parenting, I/they had no control over what was accepted as true.Your thoughts would be great

You are truly my inspiration! Thank you! I already purchased your new book as soon as it came up on Amazon. Thank you!Yesterday, after attending my 14 year old son's tournament, where they won the whole thing, I was devastatingly down. This is where I wish I had a friend I could call at any time to just listen, and accept that I am low, and I would like that person to understand the way I believe about "thought", and "truth". I listen to your podcasts over and over, and I want to be able to have a person to call when I go low like this and not try to "fix" me. I have never been able to acknowledge my true feelings for what they are and if I talk to a male friend, he tries to fix me,.and I have no one in the female area I am close enough to divulge my inner most feelings, without being classified as "depressed ", etc.Also, here is what I believe is needed with some guidelines. We need to be able to call a friend or significant other, when we are feeling low, or down, just to chat. I tried calling a buddy; all he says is. "I understand"! His understanding has zero to do with yours truly, and what difference does it make? This wasn't me talking and telling him why I was down.

I am asking you cause i dont know who to turn to with this ... I am bedridden .. i feel so weak, depressed, and just have zero motivation and energy to do anything.. everything seems so boring and exhausting... But i am suffering in bed cause i want to be full of energy, have zest for life and have joy .. i feel depressed, i cant focus on anything other then movies or funny youtube videos.. how can one have more energy or feel energized, happy, motivated? I feel so pessimistic that i will never be able to get out of my sufferings. Is there a way? Can you help with getting out of weakness, depression, lethargy, helplessness, pessimism, hopelessness? I feel like i totally left myself, and i am totally submitted to negativity, pessimism and weakness.Hope you help

I have a pattern, which plays out with increasing regularity, where I discover a course/workshop/training that I am interested in, where the outcome would be that I could teach/lead/facilitate others. I sign up, and then either immediately, or soon after, think I have made the wrong decision and I usually cancel it or just don’t do it. I have a veritable graveyard of such unopened/unfinished projects. They are all, without exception, things that I thought were heart-led, that I really resonate with, and which I feel would be dreams coming true if I were lucky enough to do them in reality. I am beginning to see that they are perhaps yet another addiction, an escape from reality, a way of thinking that ‘when I’m doing that, then I will be OK’. I discovered non-duality teachings at least twenty years ago, and after many years previous to that of personal/spiritual development. If, after all that time - through reading, allowing, absorbing, becoming more aware, practicing witnessing and being present - I still haven’t ‘got’ it, if my knowing is only intellectual and my system continues to play out the old patterns, despite my awareness of them, how on earth will I ever be free to love what I’m doing, whether that is a ‘boring office job’ or some ‘amazing world-changing work’. I’m as tired of trying to ‘get it’ through exploring non-duality teachings as I am of the suffering resulting from repeating (conscious or unconscious) patterns. If you could address how I step out of this paralysis I would be so grateful, thank you.

Can you say more about the self-parenting idea with this understanding?I've been in and out of various forms of therapy since I was a teenager and self parenting has involved saying things like "I love you" to the system or to the idea of various ages of a younger "me". I had stopped doing this out of the impression that this practice is a form of separate self-concept reinforcement. Yet observing the system speaking aloud, to this memory of a small child created in this moment, and feeling the sadness or anxiety fluctuate to warmth and comfort - I'm wondering if that's presence?

Is the self, I, me, just a habit I've (we've) fallen into? I find, when I'm conscious/aware/brave enough, that I can momentarily switch off the dialogue and drop into (best way I can describe it) silence and nothingness. It's blissful, but always very short-lived. It's like flicking the pause button, but very soon worry and guilt bring the noise back.