Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

This conversation makes total sense but my question is what do we do about the world of form? What place is there for business planning? Or holidays? Or running courses? If there is no doer and no decider and everything that is thought is not fixed, constant or based on objective truth (agree) - then are we all left with nothing to do except share non-duality teachings with each other? What about planning how to build an aeroplane? Or deciding what to do about the war in Ukraine? If we're only ever in relationship with ourselves then....But then, am I correct in thinking, where there is suffering and resistance around creating a business plan, dealing with our children or dealing with the war in Ukraine, there is nothing to be done here except first self-enquiry. To engage with the 'problems' in order to see truth more deeply. And then, hopefully, once seen, the business plan creation or the war in ukraine either no longer appears to be happening or required or there's just simple information I'm feeling like I'm "not allowed' to run business coaching days or programs to support parents with teens until I pass some kind of enlightenment test. And that when I pass the test, that work won't be required.But I don't WANT to be a non-duality teacher and that be the only thing that can be taught as it is the only truthful thing to teach LOLs.

I recently saw a quote from you along the lines of 'Everything that is not here and now is imagination, categorically'. This is something I've been very very keen to impart to my followers. Can you say something more about this?

One of the things I admire most about you, Clare, is your utter uncompromising integrity. You tell it how it is no matter what, even if it's not what I want to hear. ESPECIALLY when it's not what I want to hear. How does this truth, this honesty look and feel for your, and why do you think this is SO important.

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It looks to me like we are using the same word “I” for 2 different experiences;There seems to be the Big I who is not identified in as the doer/controller and takes into account both the conscious and sub-conscious mind and then there is the little i that is totally identified in as the separate self. Am I seeing this correctly?If so, would it not be so much easier to use different words for the entire “I” (I) and the smaller conscious part of “I” (i)? It seems that every time I use the word “!” To describe my identified self (i) I re-enforce the misconception about who I really am.When I try to imagine how this would work in practice, I think it will be helpful for me to simply ask myself when I use the word (I?i) which one I mean.

And now I recall another thing I would love to hear you speak about again, and that is "separation". What is it, when you use this word what do you really mean? What is not separated from what. I think I know mostly but I remember months ago when you spoke about it I saw something new (but I do not quite remember). And I love that you all the time find new ways of explaining things.

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I’m finishing up the year the way I began it by going through the HOME course. It’s so nice of you to have updated the course with words that now make it so very much more relatable. (Joke) I’m amazed at how much more depth of resonance there is with this course and with the subliminals. I’m deeply grateful. A question comes to mind. It’s hard to express but I guess the essence of it is, does consciousness in form need an “I” to experience life in form? Is that why it bubbles up?I know there are people who write or speak about having had a major shift and declare the “I” totally gone or perhaps have a pervasive awareness of the illusory nature of the “I.” It seems to me for each being in form there is a body/mind system running the daily activities of, if you will, the tube. I get that consciousness or whatever perceives all, creates all, is all.Yet, it seems curious to me that beings in form as part of their design develop personalities which include an I. This uniqueness gives rise to unique expression, unique creativity, reactivity, etc. If it’s part of the design of us all, it must be some aspect of truth. Does consciousness in form “need” this to experience duality/form? And yet there’s a pull back to consciousness without it. This both/and-not have my poor brain in a spin. My heart is fine with it all. Would you share how you see this?

Hi dear Clare!I would love that you speak something about the balance between two things; to see the thing in myself that I see in another ("see the narcissist in me" from your recent podcast) and the thing that we are also influenced by others. I really like that you speak about seeing the same things in ourselves. For me there is a healthy humility that comes from this. But also at the same time see that we are influenced by one another and not bypass our own feelings and accept things from others that are not ok. So I guess I look for some kind of healthy understanding and balance of two important things at the same time😄.You have spoken of this before, I guess I just wanted repetition.

In a call with someone else, I don't remember who, you said 'it's bliss if it's just about the other', which I thought you can say about anything, like just about the form, just about the thing. Can you say more about that, maybe in a podcast

The Complete Book of Awakening. Interview with authors Helen Amery and Sara Priestley. https://thoughtfulraven.co.ukHelen Amery I guide others in their awakening and enlightenment. After my own journey through corporate HR, then psychology-based coaching, I realised there was something more fundamental going on. It opened the door to something I never thought I'd have in my life - a spiritual understanding. It led me to the recognition of who I really am - who we all really are - awakening. And to how we can experience life in a much easier, more light-hearted way - enlightenment. My passion now is to bring that to more people with a practical, 'normal' person approach. Sara Priestley Sara had a career in corporate IT before leaving to become a massage therapist and then Pilates teacher. These reinforced for her the inward path of knowing who we are for ourselves, which led her to The Three Principles and then into nonduality. She now hangs out with her little cat colony, drinks a lot of coffee, helps clients solve life problems, supports people who have been hurt by cult-like groups, hosts her local poetry society’s online gatherings, reads, writes, teaches nonduality, serves on the board of the Association for Spiritual Integrity, explores emerging voices in this field, and plays with this expanded understanding of who we are and how it shows up.

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Maybe you've already spoken to my question: thoughts are not reality, humans use thoughts to make up concepts, so to speak. Then howcome bypassing is a "thing" to take seriously? Isn't it just another concept? And bypassing / not bypassing becomes irrelevant as there is no bypassing or anything to bypass regardless?

Somewhere in between since i got to your teaching I got very angry thinking: Why it's always has to be on us to do the work. To explore out inside and what's true and to sit with discomfort.And others can walk around without any responsibility/acccountablity doing crazy things and being dick heads.How do we know when this work is done, that we enquiry something as much as we could....and then the jobs are left, relationships are ending, unspoken words get voiced...etc.Also at the same time not falling for a trap that's prolonging our circumstances in a way: I'm learning this reality thing so I should get my shit together. You always openly shared with us your divorce story. How did you know it was time to leave?

I've been noticing how challenging it is for the attention to stay with sensations. I revisited your Change course from last year (see attached diagram) where you indicated that physical sensations are intolerable as they confirm the story of self.In the experience over here it feels more like resistance confirms the story, not the feeling of the sensations. The sensations are transitory and reveal flow and change as constants. *Not feeling them* seems to hold the idea of separation in place. Maybe this is what you meant and I'm interpreting this upside down or something.

It seems the longer I am working with you the less I can make meaning of what you and other reset people are saying. I see your mouths moving and I know you are speaking English but I cannot understand. is that normal?

Clare, the WANT course was absolutely wonderful. I don’t know how you manage to record in advance a video that addresses a question or concern of mine each morning that I listen. Just wonderful! Totally mind-blowing!Throughout this year taking your courses so much has become clear. The suffering, the new information, and the logic of it all has resulted in major shifts.I came to your work to learn more about nonduality. But really with the ulterior motive of fixing/curing/solving a lifelong muddle of body/food/weight. What has shifted deeply is the knowing and respecting the logic and wisdom of the body. Shame and guilt and layers upon layers of innocent misperceptions and concepts have collapsed. Compassion and love flows through.But what I want to ask about is a bit that remains. While there is contentment in the moment as is, just as it all is, a part still wants to wear a smaller size jeans. In searching within and journaling and sitting with it, this want remains. It feels like this want is not to secure or stabilize or compensate for some wound. Or if so just the tiniest bit.Throughout this course we’ve talked about clean and dirty wants. I’m wondering for beings in form if these distinctions as metaphors describe opposite ends of a continuum? Can a want be clean-ish?It’s all just conceptual labels, but I’m curious if wants that come bubbling up like this from the body/mind system steeped in the culture, if a seemingly frivolous want (a judgement from the same body/mind that produced it) like this could be clean or clean-ish? Thank you so much for a transformative year!

My brother contacted me today. We've not spoken in years. When you asked if there were any things unresolved from our past, this is it. This, and my relationship with my Mam. All tied up in a lot of pain from the past. His messages really hit me. Aside from all the specifics of the stories involved in this, what I noticed was an immediate need to reach out. To a friend I have sought closeness with these past few years, to the group, to you. I wondered what can be seen in this. In some ways it seems a natural response. Connection. That's good for the system... a no brainer? At the same time, there seems a running away in it. Making it into something I can use to connect me to others. Get that strangely vibrant feeling that you feel when relationships deepen over shared pain. I'm not questioning whether I did the right thing or not. I know it's all exactly as it should be but it's clearly an opportunity for healing and so I'd like to be as open as I can be to whatever can be learned

What really confuses me is I feel like I am owning all of these “feelings” I have every day, every waking hour of my life. How do we let go, come home, and be home? I wake up, my MIND immediately goes to my teeth, (When I lost everything ($$) with the cancers, I had to stop going to the dentist and now I am embarrassed because every piece of food must be cut up, several teeth are missing, and I haven’t felt comfortable to smile for several years now. I feel horrible about myself. My dad used to tell me my smile lit up my face. I feel really stupid telling you this. I can give you many other direct feelings and if I cut to the chase, I am miserable. I feel like I have never really been myself and am always trying to “let go”. I have no other explanation for why I feel this way day after day after day and haven’t been able to shake it off. I have mentioned my boys. They are 14 and I want to be a better example for them. Nothing in my relationship has been anywhere close to being full of love. I can give you a long explanation and it would make sense, BUT it still doesn’t change the fact that I feel like a loser in their eyes. I am sure they can sense my unrest and negativity. I do. No more excuses, reasons, and examples. Why won’t my GOD help me? How do I get home? What am I missing? I know there is no “I” intellectually, and yet I so desperately want to “let go”, “be”, just feel good. Like I am making a difference. I am so sick of being miserable. I hate it. I want off the ledge and I have no idea how to just be, let go. Is life supposed to be this way? Amy Johnson asked me if everything was fixed, my home was paid for, my teeth were fixed, I have “LOVE”, I am loving my daily existence (Work, since I still have to. I’m feeling trapped with no one to take care of me if I fall.), my boys and I were closer, would it make a difference, and would I be happy? I’m not sure. Maybe GOD put me on this earth to be miserable. To suffer! I am so tired, Clare. I try to let go, and I am still miserable.

This thought came to mind today Clare, please will you create one of your beautiful podcasts around it…Find the narcissist in you. 💭

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I wonder if I could ask a question about triggers, and if I trigger is always a trigger. What I mean by that is when you feel unheard by someone else, or not free to say how you feel, is that always your wounding that is being triggered? How do we know when it is our wounding or them overstepping our boundaries and doing/saying things that are not ok? How do we know the difference and how do we know how to navigate a situation like that? I realise I am asking a lot of how’s, and I feel like the response will be that actions will be taken one way or the other, and I agree with that to some extent, but I also feel like sometimes that can be a way of avoiding doing what needs to be done or facing what needs to be faced.Thoughts?

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What about the things we want and don't want at the same time for example a dear friend of mine has said they are in love with me. They want a romantic relationship with me. I don't want that but I don't want to lose them as a friend. How do we navigate that?

I’ve read your book, ‘It’s Not You…It’s Not Me’ and found that incredibly illuminating and comforting, so thank you 🙏🏽🙂Your YouTube video on ‘Readiness’ also just appeared on my feed as I was struck by how you describe sitting with uncomfortable feelings such as loss for example. I believe I understand about not numbing. I have spent quite a number of hours on several occasions over the last 6 weeks intuitively‘sitting with the uncomfortable feelings’ arising from ending a relationship. It’s not easy and whilst I know there is no time limit on ‘grieving’ I do struggle to be with this stuff. I suppose I’m wanting to clarify if I’m understanding what you’re pointing to - is it possible for you to expand on this please?

Im still a little unclear on something. I have somehow come to conclusion that there is unexpressed emotion in the system. Other therapies call it shadow work..those feelings that werent ok to feel during childhood such as anger and sadness. This unwillingness to feel (albeit unconcsious) can later lead to anxiety and suffering as we struggle to keep the lid on those unacceptable emotions in our adult life. Isnt that the resistence you so often talk about? Am I making this up?! So when I asked about childbirth anxiety , I wondered if its just the feeling of anxiety / feelings that the system is trying to feel and express, that then gets hooked onto birth ..the mind always needs a reason after all!

As my first year of being a part of your membership is coming to an end, I would like to say a huge THANK YOU for everything you shared with us. Pointing us to the direction of inquiry of who we truly are.This journey wasn't pleasant at all, but it worked and generated new patterns and behaviours of which I never even dare to dream about. Now I'm facing things in my life which I avoided for decades.Observing ''identified self'' it seems that things that most piss us off, press our buttons, irritate us are indicators/directions where to look and uncover what's really beneath that?Could you say some words about this, please?

[Note from Clare: the description of 'Clare's way' in the question is not what I am suggesting in anyway] Isn't suffering simply thought - a temporary blip of energy passing through experience, in this moment upset-flavoured. And then that energy being felt in the senses (ie body). How can you HEAL a blip of energy? It seems you have the choice of 1. Clare's Way - sit and really let it be here as much as possible to allow for healing and use that same thinking to find a story to explain the suffering - usually based in the past. Say that equals 3 hours of upset a day due to dwelling on the low mood/feeling of rejection etc or 2. Three Principles - know from the feeling that you're in a low state of mind so everything you're thinking right now is complete bullshit and ignore yourself for a bit. Not spiritual bypassing - there simply isn't anything 'real' here to bypass. Probably equals 1 hour of suffering a day due to no story-telling/dwelling.You often say 'but the suffering continues so we have no choice but to look at it' but it's going to either way so WHY YOURS?

I am a nurse in an intensive care unit in a big hospital. Several colleagues have been signed off work with stress. There are not enough of us on the ward but recruitment isn’t happening. The pressure is immense. I am so tired. I am starting to make silly errors that I would not normally ever make. I am worried I will cause harm. I am getting more and more frustrated and resentful about being put in this position. How can a conversation about reality help this? Please don’t tell me this is just my thinking.

Clare Dimond this is amazing. Thanks so much for putting it into words so clearly. Im thinking of my clients who have huge anxiety about childbirth. They arent pregnant even but so fearful. Are you saying that this fear and anxiety is something thats in their system from childhood wounds and theyve just hooked it onto birth? Like it could have been anyhing? Its just a portal to feel and sit with anxiety that needs to be felt?

Some of my followers find these sorts of teachings leave them feeling a bit hopeless, with a sense of 'what's the point'. Some think all this 'looking for the self' business isn't important or helpful or just isn't for them. What might you say to people who can't see the point in this sort of teaching/understanding?

The truth will set you free. Wonderful words

For years, I've been looking at thought and limiting beliefs as a way to work through the feelings and behaviors that they create, to have a better experience in life. Now, working with you, I'm told to turn into the body and experience the physical sensations, to go beneath the labels and experience what's there. I can also be aware of the thinking, witnessing it but to stay with the body. I've also remained present with the behaviors and the conditioned thinking, witnessing what is actually happening rather than the projected reality onto another person making them the bad guy. I've found that incredibly enlightening to see that the experience isn't happening in the external world but is a projection of all the mental chatter and the attendant behavior. My question is do both approaches dissolve conditioning? I ask because for me, it seems that seeing the thinking and behaviors has far more impact, at least at this point. And yes, I am aware that going into the body or witnessing the thoughts and behaviors is done from a curious place rather than trying to get rid of it.

In the last episode of WANT (day 19) you spoke of money not having any meaning, just a means to buy what you need. And it was a lightbulb of revelation to me.I do not have an issue with money but with wanting a relationship (as you know ;-)) But the same is true for a relationship! If a relationship would not mean all that stuff I put into it (security, belonging, being lovable, being normal and so on)… what would it mean? it would mean a (male in my case) person I like spending most of my time with and love to be close physically - and it would develop into that organically over time. If there is no such person in my life - no big issue and no worries.You cannot imagine how big that insight was for me - I love WANT. And I am so grateful for your work and your generosity in sharing it!

What does it mean 'the phobia is on its way out'? Listener question

Also, unfortunately, I'm someone for whom the subliminals don't seem to have any effect, so it seems like something has to be revealed in a different way.Any thoughts on this would be so appreciated.

I've been listening to your recent recordings on the "Want"course. You speak about parenting that comes from the true nature of ourselves, to understand, or release our patterns, conditioning etc which you say are held in the subconscious. It seems fundamental then, that one comes into who they really are to be able to do this. If one hasn't, then what? I'm guessing the answer would be to start with seeing who we are before we can progress?

I am wondering if my current experience is ‘normal’I have been diligently moving into and towards all discomfort as you encourage us to do.I have found many things changing easily or just simply dropping away as well as some ‘sticky’ areas that I know I have more to learn from.I am also noticing that as I have less self created drama and trauma in my life, I seem to be floating in a space of what feels like ‘no mans land’ just a rather vague sense of purposeless as so many of the things that I am used to expending my energy on no longer have such a grip on me.I am hoping this space is going to open up and allow other possibilities, but wanted to check to see I am not off track here.

What if the behaviour of another that is impacting us is one we want to say 'this needs to stop' but we can't ask it because it's impossible for them to stop no matter how clear the ask (eg addiction)

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Hi Clare, hope it's OK to message you here. I have a problem I'd like you to discuss on your podcast if that's appropriate. It's about my 13 year old son who's " friends" have over a number of weeks , dropped him. They don't reply to his messages and don't invite him to join them any more . I have many scenarios in my head for why this has happened and I realise none of them are real..pure fabrication. I suppose my question is, how can I help my son deal with this rejection, my heart is breaking for him . Thanks x

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I definitely navigate through my feelings (I am a Myers Briggs Feeler rather than a thinker) and I can definitely see how this deep identification with whatever emotional response arises sustains and perpetuates the existence of “me” and keeps me unconsciously plunging back into full identification with the content of experience and attempts to secure “myself” within it. How can such a strong conditioned identification (it feels so dense and multi-layered) with the world and the strong emotional sensitivity towards what is perceived within it ever shift for any longer than fleeting moments of awakening ? So grateful for any further clarity in this area.

I wondered if you could please speak more around how we might recognise when our knowing is derived from a need to secure a separate self (impossible) and the knowing that is absolutely without question in support of thriving as life itself. I sense that really being able to recognise the difference between these two types of knowing as they arise on a daily basis is helpful to bring into the light.

It can be terrifying to listen to a subliminal if the body reacts extremely heavy. I was ‘lucky’ to recognize these reactions – because they are part of my life already for several years. It was the first time, straight from the beginning of this subliminal (not during the subliminals of THEM and GOLD). This heavy reaction IS the proof for me because thís subliminal hit me right in the core of the defence- and beliefsystem.It is what I need to regain faith in what I feel. With faith and trusting the body, all these anxious stressfeelings begin to feel no longer like a real danger for me. My high build up defencesystem can more and more calm down and so reveil more and more of who I really am – ‘An all tollerent loving peace- Home’. I can feel somethimes this beautiful peace in an acceptance moment of a stressfeeling.(can be grief, fear, distrust, lonelyness, resistance, anger..) It helps me(babysteps by babysteps) to trust to embrace everything I feel, and stay with ‘me’ instead of running away, as I did all my life. I don,t judge this running anymore because it is my believed only way ‘out’. I begin to see that a way ‘out’ does not exist . It is all-in. THAT was the neverending fight of which I can see more and more the uselessnnes. It exhausts me and causes physical problems I told you about. On the 2nd day I listen to the subliminal, my body was much calmer. I’m curious to see what the next period will bring.So all these words mean: I just say YES to the subliminal that helps me to trust the many reactions in the body and reveil who I really am. The body knows what it is doing . The emotions just want to feel alife. And therefore, I will feel alive again – at last 😊

We've been talking about boundaries and inner yes and no in a previous podcast and I've been wondering about that in relation to friendship and connection with people who we want a romantic relationship with but when that is seemingly not possible. The tension between wanting the person in our life still but not being able to have them in our life in the way that we would really desire. What do we do with that? What does an exploration of reality and 'no other' have to say?

Lifting consciousness is profoundly important - yet today very possibly far too slow and too late to stop this crazy juggernaut of distress, greed, bellicose tribes, fast negative judgement, bad thinking, closed hearts and minds, unthinking innovation combined with wild, untamed capitalism combined with often powerless global institutions - from crashing and killing maybe all our children – so - such lifting of consciousness is just not enough, nor will it happen fast enough. So, a question: You are doing some of the best work I have seen – but you and others like you just don’t have the time or scale to stop the crash – so what else to do as well – fast enough, profoundly enough?

I was interested in your work because it seems you are a kind of bridge between the 3 Principles and Non-duality worlds. I spent many years in the non-duality worlds, and have worked closely with a very kind hearted teacher and friend for the last 3 or so years. There were many profound and beautiful seeings and experiences, but somehow my work with him would always get me kind of stuck in very heavy mental structures. My sense is that the depth and profundity of his "transmission," if you will was so profound and loving and deep that is would stir up all my resistance at once,, cause the mind to spin out after really big openings or "popping throughs" So I my housemate brought me the 3 Principles around the beginning of the Pandemic, something eventually took with that, and it did help lighten things, and it did continue the work I was doing with the non-dual teacher. What I felt was lacking in the 3 Principles community was the embracing and empathy of the pain in the human experience. So in a way I found both paths lacking and excelling in separate areas. Mostly I was able to kind of do both, but I ran into some issues with this too, and it's been a source of confusion and some temporary mental illness. It's like my thinking mind kind of split and got confused about what's true etc etc... and a lot of fear and confusion have come up. I think where I'm at now is underneath it all I get to trust me, and if I oscillate between the two, then that is what I need to do for now. I think I do realize they are essentially pointing to the same place, with a slightly different approach. We are all so unique from one another, there must be a wide variety of ways to reach freer and freer understandings of being in the human condition. Anyways, I was hoping you could at least briefly comment on your understanding of the difference and similarities between the 3 Principles and Non-duality. I am curious if you consider yourself more in the non-duality world, or neither and what you got out of your time in the 3 Principles and what lead you onto your work you do now? Thank you so much for your offerings, you are truly offering a positive service to humanity.

It feels to me as if i want something and then that 'want' shows up but after it shows up THEN i panic and want to get rid of it or tell myself its unwanted. Its as if i resist letting the 'wanted' thing in fully once it shows up. Whats going on with this ? .. we want something, the want arrives or is got and then the resistance shows up. Does this reaction still mean that the original 'want' is unclean or is this reaction showing up due to some other dynamic. It seems different from the situation where resistance is preventing something wanted from being 'got' in the first place.e.g's could be wanting money, then money turns up freely and then we freak out or we see something we want, we buy it and then freak out or (in my case) recently designing a wanted patio door, getting a quote, it being much more affordable then ever hoped but then i freak out and can't order it. It's almost as if the system fights against the 'upgrade' or the things that could make life 'nicer/easier' so wants to push it all away again once it arrives.