Parenting the programme: listener question

I've been listening to your recent recordings on the "Want"course.  You speak about parenting that comes from the true nature of ourselves, to understand, or release our patterns, conditioning etc which you say are held in the subconscious. It seems fundamental then, that one comes into who they really are to be able to do this.  If one hasn't, then what?  I'm guessing the answer would be to start with seeing who we are before we can progress?