Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

In one of the last recordings you said something like:The truth of us…Before the layers of conditioned separation…Before that just life in a form - intelligence just doing what made sense. So much science is now showing how trauma begins often times before birth. A fetus is taking in so much from the host/mother – all her fears, traumas, etc. This can even change the DNA and start the process of potential disease that will manifest years later. So, are your initial statements true? If so, when were “we” just intelligence doing what made sense? If trauma, fears, etc were already informing the body/mind system and already stored in the tissues/cells, then was there ever “ just life in a form and intelligence just doing what made sense?”

Wow, I’ve just listened to the shame part of life cycles and to one of the 1-1 recordings on this. This is it, this is everything that has dominated my life, my whole life. I carried shame from a very early age, I cannot remember a time without it. Shame is all encompassing, every area of my life. The decisions I’ve made/make have been driven by shame. Withdrawal, isolation, working so hard to create the self-image that will hide my shame at all costs. I just feel wrong. The wrong body, the wrong background, the wrong accent, the wrong mother, the wrong partner, the wrong coach. A failure. At 57yrs I have stopped trying to force myself into things. Stopped trying to have a coaching business, due to failures etc. My desire to heal myself has been longstanding and many qualifications and explorations have really helped. My coaching is both my superpower and my worst nightmare and I give up as the clients do not come. I feel shame. I have a core belief that I can only ever rely on me. I cannot trust others to see me. But at the same time feel guilt and shame for some of the decisions I have made. I am not good enough.When I first started listening to your programs I was intrigued by the non-doer. The way you describe the separation and pain of shame as so removed from reality of who we are is starting to shine a light. As I really have always felt separate, even with the 3P’s understanding, it hasn’t completely dissipated. So, I’m keen to see more. Can you point me to more on your explanation of the non-doer within the membership that I could look at please? Also I have ordered your books, Home and Real, so maybe in there. I haven’t attended the webinars live and I realise now that too is about shame! I have also noticed where my resistance comes up when I listening to the courses. Something is moving …..

When you see that your problem isn’t realistic, but brings up all kinds of kind created insecurity. How do you get to a place of knowing what ‘the child’ needs? For example, I’m unsure if my job is a good fit. Changing careers brings up feelings of anxiety and insecurity and I try to distract myself. I don’t really get the concept of inner child work. Can someone point me in the right direction?

I have a question for your podcast but not sure of the exact question- it’s something like…The personal development world is filled with ideas, concepts, tools and techniques on how to change your life. To overcome money blocks, lose weight, find love, be successful in business, be visible and popular etc. I see within Personal Development there’s a mix of focussing on personal agency and also focussing on an unknown force sometimes called ‘universal laws’.I remember experiencing tremendous freedom when the realisation that the self I had thought of as me was a creation, made up and that there were infinite possibilities and a limitless nature of being to experience. So why after years and years do the same patterns continue to play out. What truly can change them or are some patterns meant to be our life experience in the same way someone born with no legs isn’t going to grow legs in this lifetime. Are some things set in stone or are all energetic patterns possible to change?What would you say is the secret to changing seemingly set in stone patterns such as never having more than just enough money or always being in intimate relationships that don’t work?

I’ve heard you mention before that when we try to ”redirect attention away from thought” or “back away from thought” that we are kind of missing the point (something like that). I Feel like I’ve been caught in that pursuit for some time now, and I feel like I’m finally seeing something. It seems that when the mind takes on that goal, it then always comes up with an image of an “I” that is failing at the goal. Like the “I” that can never stay focused on the present moment or the “I” that cannot keep its attention away from negative or terrifying thoughts. All the while the intelligence of life is just responding in real time to what is actually happening. Is that kind of what you mean? I would love to hear your thoughts here or in a podcast. much love to you!

My husband & I are separating we still see a counsellor to keep up communication. I see that I love my husband (plutonically), I see he is a good person even though we don't want to be together anymore, I feel there is good will towards him. But the counsellor says that we are still stuck in a blame cycle. I find him too sensitive, emotionally immature, prone to sudden mood changes, he takes everything I say as a criticism. He thinks I critise him, I think ultimately I lost a lot of respect for him over many things that happened over the years & there was a lot of built up anger and resentment (which I think has gone but sometimes still arises). I feel like there is no going back but I still want to see what more I can do for my own learning about myself & for future relationships. What do you see I could learn? there is obviously judgement of him as I have stated above, how can I look further into to my part? I think we have gone past the point of no return & my feelings have fundamentally changed but I still judge who he is being a lot of the time, how he talks to my daughter, how he reacts to me, his impatience & anger blah blah blah.....

I started listening to your circles material after being introduced to it by my friend Ines. I have the membership so now slowly exploring the other content as well. Ive done years (decades) of meditation and non duality work and been in therapy my whole adult life, yet I feel like I always come back to this reality of my life right here and now. I haven’t been able to figure out exactly the circle I am in - I find myself in a repeating pattern of retraumatisation through work. Every job I take I end up being bullied, undermined and not paid for fairly for my work as promised. It feels like betrayal, I am very good at my job but there is no recognition or reward. I feel my very survival is threatened because I grew up poor and earning money is my route to safety, self esteem and being able to take care of myself without being dependent on anyone else. I just left an abusive job in New York (was there over 5 years) and moved to London and ended up in an even more dysfunctional and abusive situation than before. Its nuts. Meanwhile I am terrified of looking for another job and I am equally DESPERATE to get out of this place I find myself in. I also find my inner creativity is dried up - for example I used to want to start a business or help the homeless but I can’t act and I feel totally stuck. I have never grown or thrived at work - I have never been successful. When the last cycle of trauma and abuse happened at work it was only 4 months after joining the company from Aug-Dec. I had high hopes for this job - searching for a feeling of engagement and enjoyment at work. It was such a shock to my system to go through the same abuse again that I felt like giving up on life. I have since regained my perspective and been able to detach but something still feels raw inside. I have spent years doing inner child work, feeling feelings facing trauma etc. yet I feel none of it helped otherwise I would not have found myself in this same job / worse abusive situation than before. I am 46 and have been working since I was 22 years old. In addition, I am recognizing from your talk that I have limited my life for safety - I don have a partner nor many friends nor a social life - I work and then scuttle home to be with my dog with whom I feel safe. I think safety is a huge theme but not sure how to deal with it. I am currently working with a counsellor with whom I feel my inner child feelings and face them every two weeks or so. The rest of the time I am trying to be more conscious of triggers but instead find myself doing things like drinking half a bottle of wine or watching mindless telly but not sure what I am escaping from. I am not sure how to identify the circle I am in nor the nub of the issue. And I certainly dont know how to let go of the doer. Despite years of zen meditation and seeing and near finding the self I feel it is very much in charge.

Thank you for the Life Cycles course, so much has come to the surface.I see that Shame and Fear have been running the show all my life. Shame of not being good enough and Fear of what others will think.Coupled with this has been the huge sense of responsibility of getting everything right including agonising over making the ‘right’ decisions.I see that I’ve permanently lived in a state of fight, flight or freeze and that this has attributed to my many health issues.I currently have a health concern and see the usual patterns of behaviour playing out.Having suffered pain in the body in the past I find myself unwilling to ‘go into the body to feel the sensations’ as you would suggest. So I feel stuck.My question is, where do I go from here?

I went back to listen once again the shame part from our wonderful life circles course.As within this circle the identification with the self as a doer and chooser is really at the highest level.Holding the grip firmly with feeling enormous responsibility for my own words, actions and behaviours.I see it as a self feeding/maintaining circle as when it's set it goes round and round by itself.Until there is an inquiry of who we truly are. Being in this conversation seeing more and more that there isn't ''mini me'' inside my head orchestrating my life. Then shame loosens its grip. More source accountability/ no self accountability is present, more fresh and new information can enter the system and the system can self correct or self align with the truth.So to conclude this long writing with the question. Is the system already designed as an innate auto corrective system? And the only partybreaker here is the confusion and identification with the self as doer, chooser ?

A question about insight. It's often heralded as the "all that's needed" and sort of a reward for good behaviour in the form of a quiet mind. (3ps. And yet it seems to me to be one facet of healing. Almost as though as layers of thought are lifted from reality we may arrive at some insight which is more like "seeing eeper into truth". Would you speak of nsight and healing please? Perhaps you have a podcast on this already?

I heard Clare say that the self is the experience in the moment. So any idea of self can come up at anytime.I struggle to see the concept of no self. Is there anyone who can help me see more about this?I’ve listened to Safe and part of Home and it’s as though I just don’t understand the language around no self.I also don’t get how to relate to any thoughts that start with ‘I’. How to tell if it’s coming from your true self or the co conditioned self.

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Lately, I’ve noticed that when I have a pain or a discomfort in my body, my instant reaction is “Oh my God! You’re going to die,” and then I incessantly search the Internet to find every possible cause of my bodily sensation. And as is typical, I get really overwhelmed, I can’t face the overwhelm so I lie down and just let it pass, and it typically does. When I saw this particular subliminal I thought it might help with all this. And don’t get me wrong Clare, I feel humbled and grateful just to be alive. I feel like a walking miracle. Overall, I’ve never felt so resilient and so connected with my true nature. And sure, there’s a part of me that was hoping the subliminal would fix this aspect of me OR at least help. Clearly there is still a part of my brain that is overreacting to and sensitive to odd bodily sensations. So I guess my question is, “Do you think the subliminal can help with this?”

I have signed up for your membership programme and am finding it very insightful.I feel like I get it more and more, having those 'i see of course thats whats going on in truth' but still every day is some form of torture - anxiety, shame, trigger after trigger after trigger.I have seen a repeating pattern in my life struggle to find some peace and knew that the one constant fact in that was me, as I take myself with me for safe keeping everywhere I go. I knew the problem wasn't out there.The life circles course feels like it was written for me about me, almost as soon as I would have a thought about what's going g on in me, you would then say that exact thing or feeling. Spooky really.Intellectual understanding doesn't result freedom, its a start I know, but whatever source of healing I have tried I always end up with the feeling that the self is just using it as another means of escape from its suffering which enlightens noone.I was particularly impacted by the reference in this course to the triggers are from conditioned response to past trauma and it was such a relief to hear those words because it was a hell yes moment. You went on to say we need to parent and heal this traumatised child which sounds right. My question is who is doing the parenting or healing, if there is no healer or parenter why isn't healing or parenting just happening following that insight.

The circles are great! So much amazing insights. I do not want to feel abandoned so I go into relationships (just to have one with whoever shows a bit of interest in me) which make me even feel more abandoned (because it is more important to be in a relationship for me to feel secure than to really feel close and connected to that man). And at the same time while being in that relationship I neglect my long time friends because it is all about the boyfriend suddenly which makes me feel abandoned now by them. And I abandon myself because I do everything the boyfriend wants. It is really mind-blowing!

You refer toparentimng the child. For years, I have used inner child healing in hypnotherapy with my clients. I also use parts therapy to facilitate understanding, acceptance and integration of problem behaviours (parts) into the whole, Havening to offer comfort and reassure as difficult or traumatic situations are considered, EMDR to release unprocessed trauma, EFT and matrix reimprinting and mindfulness to turn towards the sensations and thoughts that create difficulty from a place of observation. Are these all legitimate healing methods and how does their emphasis change if used in a non-dual context? I can see without guidance how easy it would be to revert to the old conditioned appearance of a separate me being healed within a world of separate others and a separate world just because of the normal context within which all these healing techniques are traditionally employed. Any further light you can shed here would be so helpful, Clare. Thank you so much

I see there is no chooser and obviously accountability is vital. There’s still a gap between them – who is being accountable, how can I be more accountable if I can’t even choose to be, etc. I would appreciate you saying more about how the no chooser and accountability sit together and any examples from your experience.

I was listening to your podcast about subliminal (a listener wanting a refund because it seems not working). You said that it is always working but it might be that the topic is already obvious and therefore it seems not to work or it is too challenging for the system. I get that but my brain is now wondering, if a subliminal is working which is so subtle and I do not even know what is spoken, what about the music I listen to all day (the cheasy pop songs) at home while working. Do they also influence my system? There are not something I choose but the usual pop songs the radio is playing, so they are all about not having love, loosing love, wanting love, longing for somebody one cannot have anymore, etc. What are your thoughts about that? Is it because the subliminals are unconscious that they go deep and the pop songs don’t? Or do they, and that is why I am always in that longing?

1. You talked yesterday (and often) about ‘bodywork’ as a way to allow the body to truly feel feelings. What is bodywork? Can you give us some examples and why you recommend?2. I hear you talk about the absolute, the relative and the illusory. Can you remind me what these terms mean? I have it in my head that the absolute is the infinite/mind. The illusory is our constantly changing experience of form via the medium of thought. But then there this in-betweeny thing of the relative that is neither and the body, I’ve heard you say, sits in that category, and the body you talk of as ‘real’. I’m not sure why the body doesn’t also fall under the category of the illusory and gets its own category as it is also form. Confused…--

My fiancée broke up with me last month because he felt he was too young to settle down. I was and still am devastated. I think of him all the time and would do anything to get back with him. At the same time I hate him for what he has done to me. He is very clear that we won’t get back together but he wants us to be friends. He says if I really loved him I would still want to see and speak and spend time with him. I can’t imagine just being friends with him and especially not being out in a bar with him when he is with someone else say. I wanted him to be my husband. Should I be friends with him? Or should I cut him out of my life?

Do you listen to subliminal's yourself and are they with your voice?Do you think that if someone we did not know and trust as we do you made a subliminal with the exact wording you used It would have the same effect or would your familiar loving voice make a difference to how the subliminal is received?

My subliminal isn't working: client question

Just listened to the recording from the Life Circles course on Shame.I see it so clearly in myself and many of the clients I work with and my question is: is it possible that instead of hiding out one puts on the mask of success, becomes very public around the shame issue?For example: (and I may as well be transparent here 😉) my shame says that I am ugly ( to use one of your examples), but instead of hiding out in that shame and going into hiding, playing small, minimizing, I do everything I can to never allow anyone to know that – become a personal trainer/workout coach, run a Wellness Center where nutrition, mindfulness, fasting programs are taught, learn tips and tricks for aging around skin care, style, etc. Underneath all of that though I see a belief that I am ugly, fat, do not have an attractive body/appearance.Thanks for your time and for your dedication to this Work – it is setting us Free.

Today I watched day 22 life cycle video. I love all the courses you do, but ‘life circles’ has been excellent … thank you 🙏 I know I have heard you talk about shame before several times, but today I REALLY HEARD it.As I listened to you, It felt like I was suddenly being pounded by golf ball sized hail stones! Followed by feeling of heaviness deep within my belly.I have experienced much dissolution of some heavy stuff since we worked together on Reset last year. Recently though there has been an increasing intensity of ‘nudgings’ so obvious that there’s still more to be seen.Could it be that the encrusted,deeper layers are actually revealing a lifetime of a spider’s web of shame, that hasn’t been available to be even noticed by an unstable fragile system. Almost like the genius of the mind-body system was in protection mode until it was really ready? Its like there has been exhumation of some sort today! It feels uncomfortable but comfortable in a strange way.Does this make any sort of sense ?

For this system here it makes sense that there is no doer, it’s not that I‘m aware of it all the time but when I remember it’s obvious. Source accountability is not understandable, what is accountable and what has this body mind system to do with that?

So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport: Sunday Book

A fellow participant in the Circles course posted an exploration and noted this statement: "If the system believed that the Awareness that I AM is prior to the ideas of threat and safety, then ALL experience would be welcome."This sounds like passivity, as though if someone were to physically attack us we would welcome the attack experience, rather than the body moving out of danger or fighting back. Can you speak more if this is a paradox that "resistance" doesn't mean defending the body from harm?thank you!

I’ve just listened to this podcast (18 January) three times.What arose was…Does this mean that doing, words and action are much the same as thoughts in that they simply emerge?

Non-duality goes on about how our unreal ego suffers in its experience of life. Yes, it does...but not always. There is so much of my life (AND my ego, I blush to say) that I love, even when it's felt as separation: often precisely BECAUSE of separation (hugging myself with glee for being me!!) - although obviously at other times being me is experienced as the bottom-most pit of hell, fair dos. So how does non-duality see those of our positive experiences of apparent separation that we can't help but cling to and love? I think I hear you saying that's just me trying to secure my identity, and involvement of my ego means I'm not loving or seeing these things "clean". But even if I am but looking through a glass darkly, it's a wonderful picture I'm seeing a lot of the time, which somehow feels all the more wonderful because I'M in it.My 97 year old mother, who has dementia maybe said it best when she suddenly piped up the other week "nobody wants to die, do they, because God made the world so pretty". Yes, it's that feeling that often it's so brilliant surfing the wave of the illusory world, you just don't want to sink back into the ocean, no matter how much more real it is, thank you very much.

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Happy New Year! I'm so delighted to be in your membership again for another year. You truly transformed my experience of life last year for which I'm most grateful.There appears to be immense confusion again here so I'm hoping you can address it in a podcast.I'm loving the life circles course so far and I have identified quite a few of these! No surprise!One that is particularly confusing for me is around my husband.After a call with my coach last week I realised that I have a huge fear of separation from my husband; of repeating the loss that happened to me as a child when my father left. You might think therefore that with this programme I'd do everything in my power to make sure he loved me or I would be controlling of what he does and where he goes. However what I notice is almost the opposite. I get annoyed with him being so lovely to me (?!?), find him 'too needy' and have regular thoughts of whether I'm with the 'right man' - despite loving being with him. All of this creates an internal separation - it's as if there is a subconscious programme to keep him at bay.I know from working with you to sit with the feelings and not try to escape them but nothing seems to shift. Perhaps that's because I'm so desperate to see something here!?I'd love to hear you talk to this...Thank you so much for your incredible work.

As metaphor I see the absolute (life, intelligence) as water flowing in a river. Condition learning as dams created on this river which slows down or even stops the flow of the water. But the nature of water is flowing and new fresh water is coming to the river all the time and staying at the dam's mouth not bypassing it can cause the dam to collapse bringing the river ecosystems back to balance.What's the new seeing/insight made of? Isn't also a thought made from new fresh flow of life intelligence?

I've scribbled pages so far, I'm not done, this is what I have, still a bit fuzzy, help me out or pull me back from the brink. .... and thanks Clare. All my problems have the same base; not good enough, not smart enough, lacking in some way or another. All are formless - ideas and thoughts floating around in my head. My bio-computer brain believes the story it's telling itself and looks out into this world of form to see what others do to be happy. I give it a go. Alcohol, drugs, sex, becoming successful, acquiring the right material goods, getting my body into the best shape, being unique, having an interesting story .... eventually it all fails. I give up and just look forward to having enough money, health and maybe companionship until I depart this miserable world. (fuzzy part) No matter how many times I throw myself down the stairs I’m always pulled upright and given a do-over. In all spiritual studies I have been led to there is talk of separation of who we really are and what we believe we are. I’ve come to some awareness of this. I realize the self I call ‘david’ is a story, created around experiences, influenced by others, given meaning, value, and believed to be real & true. (very fuzzy part) Through these exercises I’m seeing practical solutions to my problems in the world of form. But how do I convince myself I’m just a story, I’m just awareness showing up in this body-form, there really isn’t any separation only a misunderstanding I forgot to laugh at.

Since 2 years I came across the principes and since then I have read dozens of books and listened to so many podcasts. I dit different courses and nothing seems to bring me insights that change things for me. At the same time, I feel distracted while reading/listening and that brings comfort. But as soon as I close the book, I’m in my thinking again. And I find it hard that I’m not present to being in life with my family, and closing myself off trying to find relief in reading/listening. Reading about non-duality scares me. The idea that you can’t choose what you think and you have no control whatsoever frightens me, because why can’t I feel love, peacefulness and joy if that’s my nature? Why all these negative thoughts?I’m very aware of the ticker tape of negative thinking playing in my mind. I thought I’d share, because I feel stuck.- I I’ll never feel good again.- Nothings is wrong in my life, what if something happens with my husband/parents. I won’t be able to cope.- What will I do when I’m free tomorrow.- I wake up early and I don’t feel like eating, I’m in my flight or flight response, I can’t think myself out of it, but I can’t stop these thoughts.- Is it hormonal? Should I try hormonal patches?- Do I have to get a diagnosis for ADD? Would ADD meds help? (My son was diagnosed last year and I have always recognized myself in the symptoms).- I spend my days reading/listening about the principles in the hope I will see something different, but I don’t have a sense of a deeper feeling or awareness. I know I should have other interests, but I can’t stay away from it.- If I don’t feel better, how can I ever get a different job with more responsibilities. - What if it gets worse and I cannot cope?- I wish I had more friends.- All this taking in information may be the reason my head feels fussy, but what can I do to fill my days? I feel bored at work and at home, how can I find my joy? etc. It’s exhausting and I don’t know how to relate differently to all that thinking. I’ve started the Circles course and my anxiety is revving up, because you say so clearly that there’s no hope to ever feel better if you can’t see past the illusion of a separate self. But in all the reading I did, I can’t see it. I wonder if this is the right course or what else I can do. Any advice is appreciated.

I have so many people, family, friends, clients suddenly showing up projecting abandonment on to someone or something. I know this is "my" stuff. I'm doing the Ho Ho as they appear. And I've been wanting to ask you for ages now and it seems the right time. How much work do I do for clients/ children "others" is Ho Ho enough? What is enough or When is it "done" ? I sort of feel that this is a silly question but can you say something to this please?

I just got off our first zoom call of the program and it prompted a question. You suggested going into the areas that seem most risky to the self. I do this all the time. It results in continued panic and panic attacks. I feel like I'm being re-traumatized over and over and it's been going on for years. My brain seems chrystialized in this pattern. Is it possible for something new to be seen and have this fall away? Or maybe it will happen and that's no big deal. I feel like going into the risky area of my life is not even a choice, it's as if I have a gun to my head. I don't even know where to begin to try to heal this through the body. Resisting is happening and I can't control that. Thanks Clare, I loved seeing your beautiful face today and listening to your words.

I HAVE had one thing that so far has NOT made sense to me. Perhaps you want to share in a podcast about it, or share in another way.It sounds to me like you say that NO healing happens until we stay with something, NO healing happens if we distract.That’s not been my experience, though it is clearly my experience that much healing has not happened for that reason. But I don’t see it 100%. I spent an entire winter watching marvel movies and experienced tremendous healing. It was the best thing I could have done (in the absence of Clare!)I have had profound shifts just in the joy of living, in dance, in walks in the woods, in distraction, full presence with a client, or with a bite of delicious food!And my understanding of the brain is that healing and shifts in one area extends to other areas that aren’t being used, and that the resistance of habitual neural pathways starts to return when left alone. I read an amazing book, somewhat separate look at it, at how people who can’t hear, come to actually hear through touch, etc. The system is brilliant and has work-arounds that infiltrate the lapses.Which is not to negate at all that’s happening here. This has been earth shattering in its truth for me.But the idea that something can’t heal without direct attention… To me, the only reasons this perhaps subtle discrepancy seems relevant, is 1) because the silence of the mind, the peace that Syd pointed to (from whatever crutch we may use - a walk in the woods etc) has been tremendously healing for me, and 2) because 100% dependence on our attention flies in the face of my reverence for the miraculous unfolding of life.Perhaps this is semantics. But it has been popping up for me! That said, it has been 100% clear to me that running away from experience has also been happening, and I feel graced beyond measure that that is happening less and less thanks to what you are sharing with us!

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"Stress is a feeling, and like all feelings, it comes only and always from our innocent misuse of the gift of Thought." I just read this from a 3P teacher. A couple of years ago I'd have said 100% yes. But interestingly it really jarred when I read it. Over simplification, spiritual bypass came to mind.

I often wonder if my 'problem' is the feeling like i'm broken and need fixing and all the solutions i have in seeking to 'fix' that e.g even being here and doing these courses ... do they actually somehow feed my problem.

Hi from India ...so happy to find ur game book in Kindle n then later found this blog. I was in the path of wisdom and devotion for few years...I go Tiruvannamalai every week as I live close by in a place called pondicherry...u made it very clear and simple ...it just resonated only from ur words even though u read loads of scriptures....there is no personal self ,u made it clear ...the moment it got cleared there is no more question if apparent reality or forms and it's mechanisms...But still m just curious ...this is my fav question ..what's your opinion on apparent forms ...is it more like a virtual reality. How this universal self becomes personal self ...and what is these bodies or images on the screen ...how it came. ...

if there is a lingering question it is related to this sentence;"Or, as I suspect, that as our understanding changes, so do the questions and the requests they are showing up with? Because they are ARE us. And simple giving and receiving happens.”How is it possible for the questions and requests to change from one day to another simply as our understanding changes?Say a therapist….. just because their understanding shifts, there will still be clients to be seen who had made their appointments prior to the shift in understanding (of the therapist) Same client, same concern, what is different as a result of a shift in understanding?Is it that the way the concern is heard/addressed by the therapist that changes due to the shift in understanding?If so, fantastic, I get it.If not, I have no idea what you are talking about, and please help!

if you’re into the 3p, you hard towards ease and flow, we do what our superpower makes us uniquely brilliant at, the easiest way to earn a living. If you’re into Clare, we navigate towards the areas of greatest difficulty and suffering. The hardest way to earn our living, but serves up the only way to know ourselves more deeply….which way to go?Assuming chooser and choices which in theory there are none but doesnt yet look like truth to me yet.And any area of our lives. It’s like you draw that coaching wheel of life and say ‘how can I get these areas closer to a one…?’

I wonder if you could talk a little about how your experience with NLP and hypnosis informs your work and the way you communicate with clients?Am I asking if I'm being hypnotised? Yes 😊You have full permission to do so of course (as per your podcast yesterday which I loved)Sometimes I listen to/watch your patterns of speech/gestures and I wonder if there are techniques that come from your background in these areas? I'm not a coach so I know nothing about these things. I'd imagine it's a huge question and you'll be utilising a vast array of skills but I wonder if it's possible to provide a bit of insight on these areas in particular?Perhaps you're just speaking really clearly from truth. What you say resonates and impacts behaviour simply because its true and its known on some level so it makes sense to the system to respond. Perhaps there's no difference between the two things I've just said. The longer I type the less sense the question makes. This is happening to me a LOT right now!Tia and I were joking the other day about paying you to brainwash us, which we kind of are!My brain needs a good wash anyway.... it's filthy and I can hardly see through it at times 😊

If you want to see Lottie 'the colleague' I'm referring to - she is here!https://www.dropbox.com/s/1w0h9nt3grg41do/Happy%20New%20Year.mp4?dl=0

I have really been struggling with my mh for the past yr.I think looking back it started with the pandemic, I had Covid & was quite unwell, from then on I experienced a large accumulation of very sad losses , several deaths , relationship breakup , empty nest son leaving for uni , Menapause,it all took a hold.Unfortunately my job came to an end, as I was unable to present for work. I am now in receipt of UC , so on limited income.My overall well-being is not good , personal care is limited as I have no motivation, I feel no purpose or place any more .Please can you help me, I am in such a dark pit, begging for help Please .

I spent Christmas on my own because I have broken up with my partner am estranged from my family. I don’t have anywhere to go for New Year either. I do have some friends but they live on the other side of the country and I’m too embarrassed to ask them . I am just so lonely. So fed up of being on my own. It is a deep pain to me to see groups of people laughing together and having fun. How can I create close relationships and stop this feeling of being on my own all the time.

Have listened twice. Will need to listen a few more times I think...but a follow up question:So if we are showing up with our clients who are asking us to create a six-figure business strategy with them so that they can prove to their parents that they can or so that THEN they can relax, or showing up to our kids who are asking us for more social media time so that they can show off how many snaps or toks they have (or whatever the cool kids do) - do we somehow need to first educate them about this separate secure-seeking self-thing so they are not asking for such ego-securing things from us? Here, however, I guess, we might notice there IS either a) obvious suffering in this interaction, or b) the sneaky "sigh, if only they were as enlightened as me" and then the natural suffering brought on by trying to 'educate' them LOLs. So this suffering indicates this is still a 'dirty one' and so brilliant - a chance to explore more deeply.Or, as I suspect, that as our understanding changes, so do the questions and the requests they are showing up with? Because they are ARE us. And simple giving and receiving happens.How cool if THAT is your answer:)Because then we get to show up with clients/kids and EVERY interaction is a gift so there really is nothing to lose through full engagement with it ALL.