Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

This may have been answered before, but how do you know where to draw the line in relationships? I have been married for over 30 years. My husband regularly -maybe once a month or every couple of months - loses his temper and then will shout and swear at me. I have told him not to do that on many occasions, and how my ‘self esteem ‘ ( I know, intellectually, no such thing, if no self)then sinks even further because I don’t just walk out. But if all is inside out, it is my thoughts about the shouting and swearing, I could instead - in theory- feel compassion for his discomfort and stress. But the pattern is that I tend to freeze or shout back . Sometimes now I can just be present with it for a bit, but can’t maintain it, and it doesn’t seem to help much. But if we are supposed to be unconditionally loving of our partners, then I feel I should be able to accept this, when otherwise things are ok, and he has to put up with my almost constant anxiety and depression. ( and then the question arises , would I be different without the regular injections of bile) And I know that other people in my position probably wouldn’t give it a second thought and just brush or laugh it off, it’s probably just my insane overthinking and analysing that keeps me stuck. It feels like all the positive things are just wiped out when he behaves like that, but then that is me expecting inhuman perfection perhaps.Thanks for your help

I was wondering if you could follow up on your recent Podcast about 'Who are we' to talk about what makes us unique? Fundamentally we are all the same awareness, intelligence & energy made into form but what about personalities, preferences and skills? People in reality can seem very different - some people are more analytical and scientific whereas others are naturally creative or good at practical things. Where does this conversation sit with nature v's nurture? I like the idea that we all can do anything if we practise enough and that our abilities aren't fixed but how similar or different are we really?

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I have been reflecting on the use of the terms consciousness/awareness which appear to be interchangeable in the way some teachers use them and life/animating force/intelligence. I have heard our true self as both awareness and life/animating force/intelligence and although I know they are all concepts I wonder if you could help me understand them as relative concepts a bit better or in fact if they are pointing to the same indescribable truth.

Can you speak more to how dissolution of the self concept, or the belief in it, makes us more of what/who we really are? Who are we if we aren't identified with the constriction of fear?Thank you

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I wanted to ask you about a lack of motivation for the conversation I have felt since dropping out of the STRESS course, I am doing the YOU course but feel I'm just going through the motions. I still enjoy and always listen to the podcasts, it seems to be the courses that are affected. When I dropped out of the STRESS course I could see that it was because the lesson (16) hit a nerve. I was having to face my biggest fear. I can see that it was part of SELF preservation but I'm getting caught up with SELF preservation and physical preservation. The fear is around 1, having a seizure or panic and 2, having it where I am not safe e.g. on my own or somewhere I could inflict harm to myself and yes even die. Point 2 is clearly a sensible thing to thing about but how does it fit in with point 1 they seem to be connected. Life is also throwing connected things at me, like, an old friend has asked me if I wanted to meet, in an area I have felt anxious before and she thought it would be where I would be dropping of my daughter for work, so I have to say I don't do that anymore, I cant meet her and have to say why, that I don't drive anymore and that all my instincts are saying in ignore the message!! I know I'm withdrawing and most of these things can be worked around. I embarrassed about my situation and worry that she think she will be meeting the old Karen not this version. All Embarrassment, self consciousness, fear and helplessness.Really want to hide from this.

Listener question: what can a participant expect on a course about reality?

Listener question: what do I expect to see change in someone who is doing the courses?

Listener question: Being at work I am acutely sensitive to other peoples moods, interpersonal undercurrents and not to mention so-called elephants in the room. It feels like my sensitivity is too open for this maybe unhealthy atmosphere. What am missing here, what's true? How can I feel safer in this environment?

For anyone waking up in the night or struggling to sleep. This podcast reminds us of the ultimate peace and relaxation of our true being.

Listener question: can you talk more about experiencing emotions without identifying with them or becoming them?

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Listener objection: This is chilly, abstract and off-putting

Your courses seem to provide a safe place to explore that the identity is not what we really are. So is that we are providing a support for the brain-body system so that the identity is less insecure that the information goes in? Or is it that when wholeness speaks to the wholeness the identity is simply less of a factor? both/and?

Listener question: What should I do? I hate my job.

Hello, Just want to ask what you think of something that bothers me. Don’t really know why, but I’ll ask and if you don’t want to answer it’s ok. I don’t like subliminals. It’s not that I don’t like it, I would love it if I worked, and maybe it does, just like hypnosis,nlp,eft and so on. My thought is why do you use that, isn’t it to “risky” for you to get involved in “a technique”. What I come to like about 3p and non duality is that it’s vey pure, just our basic understanding of how we work as humans and how our experience of life happens. Hope you understand what I mean, I am not very good in writing in English. And I should say that I really love listening to you and reading your books. I’ll explain a little of my background, then my question maybe becomes a bit more understandable. I have like you had a lot of social anxiety. Some years ago I got tired of eating pills and started looking at alternative methods. First I tried hypnosis, seemed to be perfect, someone hypnotizes you and then the problem is gone. Didn’t work for me. Then I tried hypnosis Together with nlp. Didn’t work. Then I started to learn nlp, it was interesting but my problems just got worse. Tried different coaches, and lots of approaches like eft and so on. All of this just made my problems worse. Then I talked to a guy who pointed me in the direction of 3p and non duality. And this seems to be the most logical approach to life. I still have alot of anxiety in social situations but in some way it feels better, I guess I haven’t really got it jet.

I currently feel as though I'm putting in a lot of mental effort to be 'conscious' of my thoughts and to bring awareness to what is being believed and felt in the moment. It's like a huge amount of self-talk back and forth with the ego. Especially in those moments of heightened anxiety or in anticipation of future events, I am trying to coach myself or rationalise the feelings in order to calm down*. I definitely have an increasing level of awareness but it has not become natural or effortless. Is it likely to become more effortless in the future?

In relation to the podcast I have been noticing when I tell someone something, because of a hidden reason that I want to tell them. For example, I may bring up to someone about me being busy on Saturday doing a bike ride because I secretly want them to know I am going biking. When they never asked and I could of just said I am busy on Saturday. That is not a great example however it happens all the time. It is not a clean response to an answer to someone’s question because I, for some ego based reason, want them to know what I am doing. Does that make sense?My podcast question is does this go along with your clean response podcast? Because I notice I do it a lot.

I am unsure how to be in the relationship with this man whom i care deeply about but because of all thats coming to the surface around my sexuality and sense of feeling unworthy, i feel too vulnerable right now to sleep with him, but don't know how to tell him and ask for the space i need right now as its a big part of the relationship. You said in podcast to just leave the relationship alone for now, which i agree with but unsure how to navigate this piece with him. Any thoughts appreciated.

Listener question: You may recall our conversation regarding my dilemma about moving. In brief: my partner had asked me to marry him a few months ago and so a move was on the cards and my daughter was very unhappy about this. An update on that: last week we moved and my daughter started her new school. Sadly she hates it. She has cried and cried and cried (as have I) the entire week. We've barely slept or eaten. Myself and my partner have been into school and had extensive meetings and the school have put a robust system of support in place for her. My partner has been brilliant with her and of course she's getting a lot of support from me. So from that respect she is not alone. None of that changes the fact that she hates it. She says no-one speaks to her apart from one girl (but she doesn't see this girl all of the time because they are in different lessons). So she is largely alone during the days. I don't think there is anything wrong with the school and I don't think the kids are being deliberately mean, I think she is just feeling so vulnerable, out of her depth, misplaced, scared, insecure, lost, shy, awkward etc. that it's so hard for her to connect with anyone- and of course the more she feels alone the less she feels she can join in and the worse it is- so it's a vicious cycle. She says she's living a nightmare and it's killing me witnessing it.I'm considering moving back because I can't stand to see her suffer like this but there is a part of me that knows with love and support that I shouldn't run away from the suffering, and that neither should I be taking it away from her necessarily. My partner is not in favour of us or her (there is an option for her to live with her relative) moving back. He feels we should work through this with her and help her get to the other side. I see that point, but I am finding it very hard to see her suffer and I want to make things ok for her again.I feel so lost with this. Is there anything you can see that might be helpful?

Can you say more about when there is a trojan horse request where the outside superficial ask is hiding a deeper, what most of us would call an unconscious, ask? For example if I were to post repeatedly in a facebook page seemingly to be helpful and really a deeper desire is to be seen or approved of. Why would we listen to, or ask for, the unconscious ask when emotions and thoughts are so transitory? Why take that unconscious ask seriously? Aren't both coming from an insecure self?

Listener question: I had a falling out with my friends several years ago. Should I contact them to try to reconcile?

Clare said on the last webinar something like, "Nonduality teachers say there is nothing to do but there are things we can do to settle the mind.". What things can be done to settle the mind?

Listener question: what are the pros and cons of the COVID vaccine from the 3P perspective?

In July i began to listen to the subliminal you made for me.The funny thing is that my ego construct is a bit afraid to listen to it. It seems to me this is an attempt to control and protect the self identity..I still listen to it but i was wondering if you heard this before and what you think about this.

Finding the concept of the self being pre-programmed into the system fascinating. I can see how the incredible ability to conceptualise is key within society and all the incredible things that have come from it. But I wonder if you could talk more about if there is a point where the evolutionary benefit of having the avatar/self is outweighed by the suffering/threat to survival of having an avatar/self. Hope this makes sense?

In meetings at work I often find myself very self conscious and so I don’t often speak. I try to force myself to but i feel awkward and even more self conscious. How can I stop feeling like this?

Dear Clare,If someone has spent most of their life dancing between fight, flight or freeze and living in the survival mode. It is likely that this may have taken a toll on the physical body at the cell level. If, as a result, the cells are no longer to work optimally this suggest that the cell trauma might then limit a persons connection to their 'life energy' and even an ability therefore to connect to their 'truth'. Literally, as if the cell 'processor' for truth and life energy is worn out. In your view, if the body isnt functioning very well at that cell level, does that inhibit being able to 'access the back room' and is there a place for taking things like 'bio-hack' health supplements, etc OR should we leave alone and trust that our bodies 'innate' built-in health repair system is 'on the case'. Is healing at the physical level more about letting go of the resistance and conditioned patterns and getting our minds out of the way OR does taking bio-hack type supplements, etc support us in changing conditioned patterns from stored trauma in the body.

Listener question: the professional coaching world I've lived in (up until now) was about choice and who I was being, etc... What would you love to create? How would you like to feel? Your reality comes from how you think so change your thinking! How does that make sense based on what I'm seeing here with you and our group? Presence. Love. Awareness... I read books that talk about choice and living with intention around Who do I want to be? Or how do I want to feel? Your feeling state if a choice. Would you share your thoughts on this? Is there a way to reconcile these two "worlds"?

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Listener question: I'm curious if when the 'self' (as a mental concept) dies ... does it die once and thats its we can't go back seeing that 'self' as real ever again OR is it more a process where it continues dying and birthing, dying and birthing over and over again through our whole life OR is it more that it crumbles away slowly over time but onces its fully crumbled that' it.

I am in a lot of self-inflicted emotional pain and hoping maybe as a topic for one of your podcasts you could talk about conditioned beliefs around sexuality and self-worth. I have been in a relationship with someone for nearly a year and theres not been a declaration of love or wanting commitment from me from him but we are exclusive. I think that because of my conditioning in childhood I have been unable to ask the question and ask for what I need from him and also believe my inherent worth to him is in the bedroom. But are all those just thoughts and not true? Then why does it feel the relationship manifests that way? I don’t know whats true anymore and feel very stuck in what to do around my communication with him regarding this and our relationship moving forward. How do i get unstuck and ask for what i need when i dont feel i deserve it?

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My question is this: I make art. I can see that in part, this is driven by a desire to impress and make myself feel ok. I started doing this after a particularly bad break up and it has become a large part of my identity, proving to myself that I am worthwhile and have something to say. At times it feels like I'm torturing myself, trying too hard, and not being able to achieve the things I want to. At other times my art feels really free and joyful. At these times it seems to be coming from somewhere outside of me. For some reason I value the art I find difficult to master more highly than the stuff that comes very naturally to me. How can this learning help me to create more consistently from a place of freedom rather than striving and lack? Should we keep trying to do things that are so hard they make us feel awful?!

How to release the iron grip of old conditioning?

I've done a couple of online courses with you. Although they resonate with me, i still feel very stuck. I know that fixing isn't the solution. Because i've tried a lot of fixing. So i have (and really want) to take the healing road. Problem is that i don't understand this process. It feels like i have to do something to heal, but i don't know what.

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Exploring how 'being right' is an addiction of separation that obscures the love, presence and potential for change that we really are.

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i'd love you to make another podcast about it which would give me a more practical answer if possible ... For example how true acceptance works, will it calm down the mind or i will still have a scattered mind but i will be able to focus despite my scattered mind?! and i'd also love to hear if you had similar issues and how you managed to get things done?

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