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I am finally back. It has been a long year full of learning and I am excited to share it with you.To kick us off, as promised and promised, I finally gather the courage to express my feelings about plastic surgery and my sub fascial breast augmentation.I hope that what I learned can guide you if you are making a similar choice or battling some of the same questions in your head.I dive into my journey from perky boobs of my youth through nursing, losing volume, and wanting to feel more at home in my body again. The decision to get implants. The consults.And what happened after.The physical sensations. The complications. The exhaustion of holding something in your body that doesn’t feel right. The emotional weight of navigating that while raising kids, working, and moving through a divorce.About what happens when women make intimate decisions about their bodies inside systems that don’t always slow down, listen, or account for the full reality of our experience.And what it costs to override your own knowing. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

​​This episode is a balm to stress and overwhelm. If you are feeling trapped in the storm of life this episode is for you. Felica shares her favorite quick tips for regulating her nervous system when things are just too much!If you liked this episode don't forget to share it and leave a review! We appreciate you so much.Review of the week*nicole0304h*, 10/03/2023Can I be friends with them?I LOVE this podcast. As a mom, and a former therapist—they speak to my heart from such a real, empowering and practical perspective. I glean so many tips and tidbits from what they share and appreciate their honesty and ability to respect different points of views on topics. They truly do their research and have conversations that make me think, laugh and secretly want to be friends with them!Related Episodes Tips for Overcoming Distraction This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Our favorite sex therapist is back and this time we are challenging the assumption that sexual desire dies with long term relationships. Felica interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and they dive into the challenges we face to "keep the fire alive".Esther Perel said " Eroticism is the antithesis to everything a healthy family life needs, ritual, routine and knowing. Safety and security. Eroticism is adventure" , in this episode we tease out the nuance in this and discover what eroticism TRULY means. Hint ** it isn't all about sex/ desire.We also touch on the fact that families are more child centered than ever with higher expectations for couples. All responsibility often falls on parents, not community, institutions or society. We set up play dates and take pictures of and talk about and invest in our kids yet our personal and couple relationships are left to shrivel up. How can we do better?We tackle all this and more! Don't miss this chance to bring more erotic energy into your life. Links We Mentioned https://www.goodinside.com/podcast/4759/sex-after-kids-tell-me-more-esther-perel/Related EpisodesHow to Own Your Own Desires with Dr.Finlayson Fife Discovering Self within Our Sexuality & Overcoming Betrayal Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much! Each week we choose a winner to receive a FREE JOURNAL for leaving a review! Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

In this mini episode Felica helps us think about how we take on our role as mother. It is a blessing for all the women we have been and a challenge to shed our over identification with our labels. ENJOY! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

So often in parenting, we find ourselves...losing our cool, to put it nicely. We respond with anger; we use bribing or coercion to make our kids behave, and we hurt our relationship with our kids and ourselves in the process. In this episode, we take a deep dive into individual steps we can take anytime we find ourselves triggered by our kids’ behavior. We start with ourselves, pause, attune to our child, and then respond, not react, by setting limits and allowing logical consequences by looking at the need being expressed by our child’s behavior. This conversation will help you reframe difficult parenting situations and allow you to focus on the priority of your relationship. Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions. Pay attention to what you fear and ask yourself why? Parenting helps us see ourselves more clearly. Don’t parent from a place of lack. The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children Use breath to bring yourself into the present moment and pause Sometimes bad behavior is a cry for connection.Time Stamps 8:00- How do we live from a place of authenticity when parenting 12:31 - Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions 18:15 - Parenting from a place of lack vs. wholeness 21:00 - Meditation practice to give your child self love and acceptance 24:33 - Journal out your fears with your kids to process them 29:00 - The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children 37:30 - Zone of zero reactivity 46:50 - Come to each situation with a response vs. a reaction 52:31 - Natural consequences vs. Cultivating consequencesYou can listen to this episode on most other platforms here :)Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERERelated EpisodesAuthoritative Parenting / Arguably the most EFFECTIVE Parenting Style Holding Boundaries / Discipline Pt. 1Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family ConnectionsParenting with Unconditional Love How to Embrace Childhood Books and links we mentioned;The Awakened Family // Shefali TsabaryThe Conscious Parent // Shefali Tsabary This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Original Post date 10/25/22Fear is a powerful emotion. All of us face it at some point of another, and often, it really puts a damper on the way we live our lives. It can interfere with us loving wholeheartedly and doing things that inspire (and scare) us. In this episode, Taralyn dives deep into the concept of facing and processing our fears so they don’t hold us back in life. She addresses 3 different kinds of fear, and walks you through steps to free yourself from the fears that don’t serve you.Books Taralyn Mentioned:Gift of Fear // Gavin De BeckerFear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm // Thich Nhat HanhRelated Episodes:Escaping the Trance of Unworthiness and Finding Self Acceptance WithinStaying Open to the Present Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

The holiday season can feel overwhelming because we feel the need to do everything to make them exciting and special. However, the beauty of having our own families is that we can intentionally choose the holiday activities that serve us and let go of the ones that don’t. The magic of family traditions is that they help our children feel a sense of belonging and gives them roots, which helps them identify with the connection of the family instead of peer groups and can help with their behavior.In this episode, we share the traditions that serve us with simplicity and joy and give you many options to try with your own family. We talk about how sometimes all it takes is to recognize the traditions we already have and capitalize on naming them and making them reoccurring and special. From Halloween fun, ways to be grateful in November and loads of Christmas and winter traditions we hope that this episode inspires you to create new memories with your family and recognize your current traditions to turn them into magical ones that repeat every year! You can listen to this episode on iTunes here and many other platforms here.Books we mentioned:Hold on to Your Kids // Gabor MateThe Entitlement Trap // Linda and Richard Eyre Food Nanny Rescues Dinner // Liz Edmunds Related Episodes:Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

There is nothing quite like parenting--it’s something we want to desperately do well at, and it is simultaneously one of the most difficult things that many of us will ever do. We face fears, failure, triggers of our own emotions, often while experiencing physical and emotional fatigue. However, because of this, children have the capacity to be our greatest teachers. They allow us the opportunity to truly look inside of ourselves when we are triggered, and wake up to our own nature. In this episode, Felica had the incredible opportunity of discussing this topic with parenting expert and author, Susan Stiffelman, MFT. She explains how we can use the practice of being present to truly use this journey we have as parents to truly evolve ourselves as we face the daunting task of raising humans to do the same. Her books and her words are unbelievably inspiring and will help you as you navigate your own parenting experience. You can learn more about Susan Stiffelman and her work and sign up for her newsletter on her website: https://susanstiffelman.com. She is offering a webinar you can join her in about coparenting with a narcissist here.You can listen to this episode on iTunes here or on many other platforms here. Books we mentioned:Parenting with Presence // Susan Stiffelman Parenting without Power Struggles // Susan Stiffelman Loving What Is // Byron Katie Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen Related Episodes:Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every DayThe Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of ParentingStaying Open to the Present Tapping Into the Abundance Inside UsJanet Lansbury’s episode: The Best Way to Deal With Intense Tantrums This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

It can appear like people who are successful at achieving their goals simply possess an incredible amount of self control. That kind of belief lets us off the hook from creating the life we really want--we simply lack the self discipline, right? Well, it turns out that as we create habits that add value to our lives, we actually require LESS self control, not more. As we change our environment and our cues and rewards, we have the power to eliminate negative habits and build positive ones that can transform our life. Habits are the key to making our goals a reality. We discuss the science behind habits and explore the work of experts on the subject. We break down the steps for creating a good habit (or ridding yourself of a bad one), and give you applicable tips that you can use right away in your life. We share what has really worked in our own lives as we have experimented with habits and unlocked the magic of things like habit stacking.Books that inspired us:Atomic Habits // James ClearDeep Work // Cal NewportEssentialism // Greg McKeownGetting Things Done // David AllenThe Power of Habit // Charles DuhiggOur Related Episodes:Habits for High PerformanceSystems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family ConnectionMake Your Morning Routine Happen!We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners.How to leave a review on iTunes:* Open podcast app* Search for Find the Magic* Click on episodes* Scroll to the bottom of the page* Click on write a review* Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)* Hit SENDThank you! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We often receive the message that we can have it all; we can do it all. Social media messages, societal expectations, and our own self talk often feeds the lie that we can do EVERYTHING. When we don’t live up to the unrealistic expectation that we can do everything and succeed at everything, there is a cost to our mental health. In this episode, we discuss this topic with New York Times best selling author, Greg McKeown. He helps identify the lie that we can do everything, and instead offers a path of wisdom, balance, and priorities instead of the wild racing that we often indulge in when we are trying to say yes to everything. He gives us very applicable steps on how to make doing what truly matters to us easy. BOOKS AND LINKS:Greg’s Website: https://gregmckeown.comEffortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most // Greg McKeown Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less // Greg McKeownRELATED EPISODES Essentialism / How to Do Less But BetterDiscovering YOUR Life Essentials This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Research indicates that preschoolers, on average, make three demands/requests per minute! Wow. It’s no wonder we feel overwhelmed. “Watch me!” “Get that!” “Where’s my dinosaur?!” In this episode we talk about practical ideas and tools that have helped us navigate the barrage of daily requests, questions, and demands in a way that allows you to maintain calm and respect for your kids and yourself. Books & Links we mentionRaising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting // John Gottman with Joan DeClaireHunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Mom Watch Compilation by Johnson FilesRelated Episodes230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen DoucleffSystems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)How To: Create Pockets of PeaceTime Stamps10:00 How many requests our kids make per minute13:15 Why we future focus and how inputs from our kids overwhelm us 14:15 Are our kids self centered?23:18 Using body language and social cues25:55 Mom watch this watch this!!29:00 Do you have a hard time tuning out noise/ kids?32:18 Good parenting does not mean responding to everything request 40:01 Ask, is my child seeking connection?Sponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Having a secure relationship with our partner is the foundation for a long, happy life. Building on this relationship we create meaningful and lasting lives that support our psychological development as well as provide a strong foundation for our children, careers and physical health. We loved reading Relationship RX by Stan Tatkin and we had to distill this one for you! In this episode we discuss how knowing your attachment style can guide you to a self awareness that enhances your ability to connect, repair and forgive. We also share our favorite tactics from the book for putting your relationship first, healing past wounds and supporting each other in parenting. Related Episodes Putting Connection With Our Spouse FirstHow to own your desires with Jennifer Finlayson-FifeTime Stamps12:00 - Attachment styles14:05 - Anchors16:30 - Waves20:01 - Islands32:33 - The relationship as an entity should be the highest priority35:35 - Conflicts within a relationship44:30 - Am I putting my role as a parent, or my hobby over my primary attachment?46:17 - Supporting your spouse in parenting51:40 - Secret password for stressful parenting moments57:50 - Bring issues up preventativelySponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

There are lots of decisions that we make as parents that are made out of guilt or a sense of obligation. In this episode we talk about how to navigate parenting questions from a place of wholeness in order to figure out what will be best for parent AND child. We talk about whether or not to do preschool and *spoiler alert* there is no one perfect decision. :)Related Episodes228 // Making Friendships, Creating Community, and How to Know When You’re Done Having KidsPatience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner LandscapeGuidance for the Changing seasons of MotherhoodTime Stamps1:44 - To preschool or not to preschool?3:00 - Taralyn’s experience with kids going or not going to preschool10:30 - Felica’s experience14:15 - the questioning of our choices because it’s the worth the wrestle16:09 - What will be the best for you and your child?18:55 - Eliminating the guiltSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week from mamaErinESo much wisdom and humilityYou women are amazing, thank you This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Healing your body and spirit postpartum is a topic that is both under talked about and misunderstood. In this episode Katelin interviews Arielle Martone, doctor of physical therapy, yoga teacher and postnatal coach turned postpartum wellness coach after having 2 kids and overcoming postpartum depression and pelvic pain herself. She has 12+ years of experience and utilizes her knowledge and background to help new moms reconnect to mind/body and actually heal postpartum so they can feel strong and confident not only in their bodies but who they are becoming.You can learn from Arielle at the following links:www.findyourwaymama.comwww.instagram.com/ariellemartoneFree ResourcesPelvic Floor Recovery Guide Exhausted to Energized without Sleep Training Related EpisodesHOW TO Prepare Children for a New Sibling: a Conversation with UpbringingPrepping Kids for New Babies, Earning vs. Rewarding, Quiet Time Tips, & Our Favorite Life HacksTime Stamps1:42 - Intro to Arielle and the importance of postpartum care11:40 - The signs to be aware of with Postpartum mood disorders13:50 - Normalize seeking help vs. normalizing the struggle16:30 - Feeling like something is “off” is a signal20:20 - Trust yourself26:50 - Tips to recover if you feel like you have no time31:27 - Pay attention to when you’re saying “should”39:50 - Prioritize your sleep and give yourself grace41:25 - How “bounce back culture” can be a detriment to our overall health47:09 - Don’t rush back into physical exercise51:05 - Trust your body57:15 - Pelvic Floor Therapy exercises1:03:00 - Exhausted to energized1:05:16 - How to get back to our true selves after having kids This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

The beginning of the school year is filled with many conflicting emotions for both our kids and us as parents. In this episode we share favorite tips, ideas and traditions that will help you start the year off right and from a place of wholeness. Related Episodes207 // We Are All Good Inside: Parenting Without Using Shame and Repairing When We Do, with Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 1 210 // Navigating Tricky Transitions With Kids Ahead of Time and What to Do When Whining Feels Unbearable: Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 2 108 // Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Larence J. Cohen)118 // Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle)Links MentionedWeekly Clothes Organizer Fave Books back to schoolKissing hand by Audrey PenI Love You All Day Long by Francesca RusackasSuper Manny Stands up by Kelly DiPucchio Oh the Places You’ll Go by Dr. SeussTime Stamps12:25 - How to navigate the logistics of going back to school with systems15:35 - Weekly Clothes Organizer20:17 - Special back to school dinner with notes of encouragement from family22:21 - Helping your kids emotionally return to school by addressing your own anxieties25:21 - Emotional vaccination with your kids27:24 - Visualizing mediation the night before27:55 - Review the child whisperer to help your kids deal with the upcoming31:42 - Reading a back to school book34:19 - Making love bracelets35:00 - First day special events This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Fall is the perfect time to reset our rituals, intentions and systems. In this magic moment Felica shares 2 rituals that are resetting her emotional wellness. The first centers on grieving our losses; the small day to day things we try to push past. The second is a ritual for visualizing our intentions and future goals around parenting and reframing our day to day tasks. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Centering our minds and finding a place of peace in our days is crucial in modern parenting. Our phones are filled with demands that pull us away from ourselves, our desires and our families. On top of that the demands of our lives from appointments to chores call us away from creating connection and relationships. In this episode we refresh our determination to keep saying yes to connection and no to superficial distraction. We share why and our favorite tips and tricks for cultivating a present life. Related EpisodesHow to Enhance Your Ability to Be Present227 // Magic Moment: Recommitting to Your Phone Detox⁠204 // Daily Life As a Spiritual Practice⁠⁠Solitude Through Digital MinimalismTime Stamps11:04 - How can we curb distraction?12:15 - Delete your apps15:00 - Set aside time for phone time16:30 - Turn off notifications17:33 - A box for your phone19:23 - A key to having self control - change your environment22:46 - How to be present when our minds are preoccupied24:41 - Maybe lower your standards for what needs to be done27:20 - Magical mind will serve a magical body29:00 - Practice being stillThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)REVIEW OF THE WEEK:Kimberly Br0ssiI’ve enjoyed this podcast since 2019 and it helped me get through several hard moments. The mini magics are always awesome. All 3 hosts are so great and share how we can care of ourselves so we can better take care of others. Each are at different points in life and motherhood so there’s something for everyone. There are so many episodes that I re-listen to when I need the reminders!Great for any woman, young or old, new mom or veteran. Thank you!real and refreshing This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever tried to teach your kid a value? Or help them stop taking toys? Or handle a conflict within a friendship or with a sibling? As parents we have a (sometimes) underutilized tool that can help us in these situations: play. In this episode Katelin walks through how to use role playing specifically to help work through these situations with our children of all ages. Related EpisodesUsing Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen)Books & Articles Mentioned6 Steps To Do A Role PlayPlayful Parenting // Lawrence CohenThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)This podcast is my happy placeI am SO grateful for the time and effort that goes into this podcast. Every episode is packed with gold. There is so much education and real conversations about life and motherhood. It helps to calm my soul, reassure me, motivate me and so much more. THANK YOU! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Summer is half over and with all the fun comes exhaustion and overwhelm. In this episode, we address the concept of summer burnout, which can be applied to really any season of life. This episode was inspired by a voice message we received from one of our fabulous listeners. If you’d like to send us a question in the form of a voice message, just click ⁠here⁠.Related Episodes Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style230 // Pt. 1 What Ancient Cultures Can Teach us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen DoucleffDiscovering YOUR Life EssentialsSolitude Through Digital MinimalismThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)REVIEW OF THE WEEK:-Mandy SchuhI have listened to this podcast for years, it is hands down my favorite podcast! It is insightful, fun and full of great ideas. I feel like I have made a friend in Felica. I appreciate the realness from these ladies and within Find The Magic. Thank you for being a breath of fresh air!Still My Favorite! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Stuck in a rut? Are you feeling tired or disenchanted with your life or easily frustrated with your kids? Our days are made up of small moments, small seemingly insignificant moments that add up to our lives. Are we racing through or are we practicing presence and engaging with our day day? Inspired by Ross Gay on We can do hard things; this episode we share how finding small delights each day has inspired us to be more present for ourselves, our loved ones and especially in parenting. Related Episodes 229 // Applying Our Four Pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy BoundariesFour Pillars of Wholehearted Parenting We Apply to Any ProblemLinks We MentionedStart a Daily Delight Practice With Abby, Glennon, and Amanda! The Artist’s Way // Julia CameronWe can do hard things Start a Daily Delight Practice with Abby, Glennon & Amanda! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We all have negative experiences that impact our mental state day to day as we parent. It can be exhausting and disheartening to attempt to parent in this state of distress. Today we tackle a listener question on parenting while healing past trauma and parenting. We also hear from a listener seeking advice about her children's name calling, spitting and general boundary pushing.Book Mentioned:How to do the Work // Nicole LePeraRelated EpisodesHone Your Morning RoutineMorning Routines for a 30 day transformationHow To: Create Pockets of PeaceTime Stamps14:00 - How to deal with trauma and parent15:58 - Big T vs little t trauma16:30 - Repressed trauma17:40 - Adult trauma19:07 - Therapy is a major tool22:00 - Give yourself extra grace and self care24:01 - Name your trauma31:00 - 90 second rule with stress/anxiety34:57 - How to handle kids being unkind38:30 - This too shall pass42:00 - Name calling is a hard no46:40 - A family is a good testing ground for kids to figure out social interactions49:39 - Foster positive interactions to start a positive momentum53:35 - Honey vs. Vinegar analogy54:52 - Give yourself self-care so you can be your best1:01:00 - Laughter is a pressure relief valveThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Local1st 02/10/2023Most helpful podcastI listen to a lot of parenting podcasts, this one is my favorite! So many topics covered and ideas discussed. I always seem to get so much out of listening. Thank you! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Who doesn't want peace and homeostasis in the family environment? So often we can get to a place of chaos; where our homes and families feel out of sorts. In this episode Felica shares her experience of stripping away outside influence with their cross country move and how it affected her family environment. She shares tips on applying her learning to your home. She also explains how she felt the anxious buzzing energy in her home, recognized it, and found some settling. Hint hint, it always starts with us! Related EpisodesPatience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner LandscapeGuidance for the Changing seasons of MotherhoodTime Stamps1:52 - Recognizing something is out of whack4:00 - Our inner landscapes reflect onto our outer landscape --Focus on yourself6:45 - Find support from othersSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)MaryHag11/08/2022The highlight of my week🙏🏻Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

The Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. It unpacks the intention by with we interact with others and make the choices we make. In this episode we unpack our Enneagram types and discuss how they helped us unearth shadow sides of our egos that were limiting us or helped us see ourselves and our relationships in a new light. The Enneagram is a multi-faceted tool that can make us aware of who we are and how to work with our strengths and also help us determine weaknesses we may seek to change. In this episode, we use it to help us explore our own personalities and share how knowing ourselves has helped us capitalize on our strengths and understand and work with our weaknesses. Books and Links We Mentioned:Road Back to You // Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne StableEnneagram TestEnneagram Type DescriptionsFamous People’s TypesDr. Nicole LePera // the.holistic.psychologistTime StampsRelated Episodes⁠Building Bridges Back Home to Ourselves ⁠⁠Becoming Embodied ⁠Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle)Sponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:Unicorns are RealI have loved and listened to "Find the Magic" for years of motherhood. So many of those years I would listen to Taralyn or Felicia talk about reframing and even enjoying the mundane tasks (like changing diapers) and to dos that normally are mindless. They talked about enjoying these things, creating connection in them. Every week I tuned in but honestly, I didn't believe it. I said things like, "I can't be that mom, that isn't working for MY children, these women are just UNICORNS. And every episode I would still plug in my headphones and listen along and wish I could get there, be that mom. Then something switched, last year I went on (my first ever) solo retreat to South America. It was a women's empowerment, yoga, surf trip but a switch flipped and I started doing the work on myself. I continued taking steps like FINALLY starting a miracle morning routine (for me!) and guess what? Things started clicking with my kids, and at home. So if you are able, start with yourself. I was convinced that to be a good mom I had to read all the parenting books, listen to all the podcasts, plan all the activities but that is so far from reality. Start with your Self! So grateful to Find The Magic, To Taralyn, Felicia and Katelin... Thank you! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

In our lives there are things that we control, things we influence, and things we have no control over. In today's episode, Katelin explores one thing that is entirely within our control: our thoughts. Our thoughts have power over the way we see and subsequently engage with our world. She discusses tips and tools, including the work by Byron Katie, for how to change our thoughts, which will ultimately change our reality. Related EpisodesStaying Open to The PresentThe Power of being present NOWBooks & Links MentionedHow Your Thinking Creates Your Reality // Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. Can You Affect Another Person's Behavior With Your Thoughts?The Power of Now // Eckhart Tolle Loving What Is // Byron KatieTime Stamps1:14 - Three buckets in life2:32 - Our thoughts are within our control4:30 - How thoughts become belief and how that primes our brains7:45 - Beware of labeling our children – “terrible twos” “threenager”10:25 - Experiment on labeling “smart” and “dumb” rats13:51 - Step 1 is becoming aware of your thoughts are your thoughts15:12 - Step 2 create what you want to see16:50 - Step 3 - visualize every step and the end17:25 - step 4 - invite God into this process18:30 - Using the work by Byron Katie as a tool to unstick thoughts21:15 - Example of navigating sharing holiday time with families28:40 - Turning around your belief statementSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)MaryHag11/08/2022The highlight of my week🙏🏻Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 😝😘 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever driven in a city that isn’t well planned? The roads are often too narrow for the amount of traffic, and the flow of streets seem to have no discernible pattern. Navigating in such a place can be tricky and chaotic. In contrast, a city that has planned ahead of time what they want long term often has wide, orderly streets, and the initial time and thought investment pays back tenfold as their city runs much smoother as it grows. In this episode, we talk about using this theory of infrastructure in our own families. It takes some time upfront, but in the long run, it makes our family run sooo much more smoothly and makes parenting easier, while intentionally aligning it with our values.We discuss the systems that we have tried out in our own homes over the years that have proven themselves to be priceless.Books we mentioned:The Entitlement TrapSecrets of a Happy FamilyHold on to Your KidsMiracle MorningLinks We PromisedSerendipity Parenting Episode from Linda an Richard EyreRelated EpisodesDiscovering Your Life EssentialsHow To: Create Pockets of PeaceSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)MaryHag11/08/2022The highlight of my week🙏🏻Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 😝😘 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

In a few weeks our kids will be home for the summer, and our daily schedules will change drastically. A lot of jokes, angst and dread can surround this time of year. Let’s start as we mean to go on! In this episode, we are sharing some of our favorite tips for designing our summer. We touch on creating and setting boundaries from the start, letting our kids be and resisting screen entertaining. If we have learned anything this year, it is that being fluid and available for change can help us live in the present and create a calm atmosphere in our homes. As we let them be free to work through the B word (boredom!) we will come out the other side with having enjoyed our summer together!Related EpisodesHow to: Create Pockets of PeaceHOW TO Parent Less and Love it MoreThe Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of ParentingInterview with Dr. Mary Wilde: How to Joyfully Ride the Waves of Parenthood Without Drowning in ThemEncouraging Independent Play and Letting Go of GuiltTime Stamps10:00 - Summer bucket list11:56 - Beware of over scheduling17:00 - It's not our job as a parent to entertain our kids20:45 - Importance of completing your essentials during the summer22:27 - Consider eliminating screens23:41 - Embrace boredom27:23 - Give them a chore if they are bored29:11 - The moment of "reaching" when we slow down34:20 - Remind them to clean up35:15 - Take the time to teach them more household skills during the summer36:00 - Open the buffet39:00 - Set the expectation & infrastructure at the beginning45:34 - Verbally state your expectations46:01 - Let go of control47:31 - Children can contribute to the familyThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast appScroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We LOVE books. One of the casualties of our current age and our screen adapted/crippled attention spans is that we don’t read as much anymore. In this magic moment, Taralyn gives her best persuasion for reading and gives lots of easy tips to keep or acquire the habit of reading in your life. People ask us all the time how we read so many books, and she tells the secret to our habits:)Books and Links We Mentioned:Women Who Run With Wolves // Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.DThe Gift // HafizYou Can Heal Your Life // Louise HayRelated EpisodesThe Power Of Beautiful WordsBook Club Recommendations for 2020Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power HourMake Your Morning Routine Happen!Morning Routines for a 30 Day Transformation with TaralynHone Your Morning Routine with FelicaSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:I have loved and listened to "Find the Magic" for years of motherhood. So many of those years I would listen to Taralyn or Felicia talk about reframing and even enjoying the mundane tasks (like changing diapers) and to dos that normally are mindless. They talked about enjoying these things, creating connection in them. Every week I tuned in but honestly, I didn't believe it. I said things like, "I can't be that mom, that isn't working for MY children, these women are just UNICORNS. And every episode I would still plug in my headphones and listen along and wish I could get there, be that mom. Then something switched, last year I went on (my first ever) solo retreat to South America. It was a women's empowerment, yoga, surf trip but a switch flipped and I started doing the work on myself. I continued taking steps like FINALLY starting a miracle morning routine (for me!) and guess what? Things started clicking with my kids, and at home. So if you are able, start with yourself. I was convinced that to be a good mom I had to read all the parenting books, listen to all the podcasts, plan all the activities but that is so far from reality. Start with your Self! So grateful to Find The Magic, To Taralyn, Felicia and Katelin... Thank you! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We have all been here; there are times in life of discontent, resentment, perhaps even depression and often these coincide with a forgetting of ourselves. In this episode Felica interviews Tessa Brown, an artist and writer who focuses her work on womanhood and feminine energy and happens to be Felica's dear friend.They dive into reclaiming our younger selves and the decisions we made, wrestling with motherhood and its expectations as well as considering how we can build bridges to parts of our lives that we want to include and ask the right questions to determine what things we should leave behind. Time Stamps3:30 - What do we say yes to?6:45 - How did past selves make decisions for our future?14:35 - What is the right question to ask18:00 - The power of manifestation22:30 - Not merge with collective24:05 - I get to decide who comes onto the island25:25 - Do I want this life?Related EpisodesLiving Life Untamed and Releasing Others to do the Same (Untamed by Glennon Doyle)EP 99 HOW TO OWN YOUR OWN DESIRES AND THE ART OF INTIMACY WITH DR. JENNIFER FINLAYSON-FIFEThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:she.will.be.katie11/07/2022Absolute favoriteThis is the only podcast that I cannot wait for the new release each week. There’s so much to contemplate in each episode. Yet at the same time its easy enough to digest that, even when my mom brain is at an all time high, I finish each episode inspired. Thank you 💛 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

In today’s episode we talk about how to deal with your children squabbling repeatedly and what to do when you feel like you just can’t get it together. Time Stamps 13:42 - How to help our kids have a positive sibling relationship 19:17 - Sibling situation is working out a social dynamic for the real world 21:50 - We learn in families how to read people 21:21 - Emotional Preparing 25:00 - Code words 27:30 - Beware of comparison 31:48 - I feel like I’m drowning 37:43 - Life is a balancing act 40:40 - Be kind to yourself and othersBooks & Related EpisodesHow to do the work // Nicole Le PeraHOW TO Prepare Children for a New Sibling: a Conversation with Upbringing Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)Understanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of InsecurityThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Review of the week:Good for dads too!As a father of two grown children and now taking care of my 16 year old nephew along with my wife, I still find lots of great tips and inspiration from these three amazing humans. I love the “high 5” and “facepalm” stories and the podcast is a soothing way to start a day or listen to in the drive home after a busy day at work. I wish I had something like this when my kids were younger as I think back to some situations I could have handled better. Thank you Find the Magic for all the times you made me smile, laugh, think and grow as a parent.Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Some parenting wisdom feels true to our core; that is how we felt when we read much of the wisdom from Hunter Gather Parent by Michaleen Doucleff. Today we are sharing our favorite nuggets from the book pertaining to disciplining our kids. The advice is less prescriptive and more in line with what we know to be true as parents and humans. Our children are learning. Our role is to see them with love and respect and teach them the ways of their family tribe. We tackle how to direct our kids with less force, create cooperation, and reduce the amount of anger in our homes. Find part one of our conversation here - 230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen DoucleffBooks, Quotes, & Links MentionedUnderstanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of InsecurityHunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff “When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it's our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”― L.R. KnostTime Stamps7:15 - Premise of Hunter, Gather, Parent9:50 - 100 commands vs. 3 commands per hour12:00 - A request is giving our kids the chance to obey or rebel14:30 - Master the facial expressions and gestures15:11 - Ask 3 times calmly18:59 - Parent is the pole analogy22:11 - Don’t talk for your kids25:17 - At intersecting points, redirect your kids to the family27:58 - Misbehavior is a call for responsibility & freedom29:00 - Our work is their play32:15 - We can infuse connection into our daily chores35:35 - Never in anger39:19 - Take a breath & say nothing when feeling angry41:10 - Yelling trains our kids not to listen43:15 - When we respond with kindness & quiet, we teach them to do the same48:13 - How we see our kids is changes how we act towards themSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:Cherise L&D nurse, 03/15/2023I just want to take the time to thank you for being such a positive change in my life. I started listening to you guys while I was in nursing school back in 2020. Your very first podcast on morning routines changed my life forever. I then purchased “Miracle Morning” and have lived by this since then. I wake up every morning, oil pull, set my diffusers, do yoga, sip on tea, and if I have time run with my dog (I even make sure to do this on my work days). Being a busy mom of 2 kids ages 7 and 4 that I partially homeschool (they’re also in a homeschool co op), wife, and a nurse, I can’t thank you ladies enough. Your podcasts help center myself as a parent. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day busy lifestyle, and when I do find that happening, I pop my ear buds in and go on a run and listen to you ladies. I tell every single mom about your podcast. You have made such a positive change for my family. I truly can’t even begin to tell you how much gratitude I have for your show.Thank you,Cherise This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

"My kids never help", "It's like pulling teeth", "Our family life feels disconnected", "They don't care about me or what I do for them"; frustration over the lack of help in our homes from our children can send us into a spiral of hard days. The sentiment that "kids will be kids" and we need to cater to their whims can topple the structure of our families. In this episode, with the help of Hunter, Gather, Parent by Michaleen Doucleff, we are going to challenge the Western assumptions we all hold about parenting to bring a breath of fresh air and an ease to our parenting that just may revolutionize the way you think about your home environment! Time Stamps 8:00 - Intro to Hunter, Gather, Parent 10:13 - The silo parenting present in western culture (WEIRD) 15:51 - The drive to help and belong is naturally present in our kids from the beginning 20:30 - In the long run, forcing your kids is detrimental 21:30 - Example of five year old girl from the Nani Gandi Tribe 23:00 - Never force a kid to stay and work 25:00 - Less praise, more acknowledgement 26:38 - Independence vs. Autonomy 30:01 - “We clean it up” vs. “You clean it up” 34:15 - Example of autonomy the Hadzabe community 41:05 - Chore charts and how they work against intrinsic motivationRelated EpisodesSystems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)How To: Create Pockets of PeaceBooks Mentioned:How to Raise Kind Kids // Thomas LickonaHunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Sponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:AngelinaEM04/12/2023My new best friends.I am a busy mom of 4 (7 yo and under) and Find the Magic is something that I do for myself. I connect with these women SO well and they make me feel like I’m doing the best job, even when I feel like I’m not. Thank you ladies for being here for us mothers. ♥️ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

229 // Applying Our Four Pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy BoundariesWhen we first started Find the Magic, we realized through research and experience that many of the strategies and ideas we found in books boiled down to four pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy Boundaries. We labeled these pillars because they figuratively hold up the loving, kind, respectful homes we are striving to cultivate. We have found that if you are seeing behavioral issues with children or a lack of peace within yourself, these pillars can serve to help you recalibrate. In this episode we discuss how to ACTUALLY apply and do these four pillars. Time Stamps10:00 - What are the Four Pillars?11:09 - When our kids openly disobey13:32 - The stories we tell ourselves are important and shape our responses16:08 - Wholehearted parenting leads to kids who honor their own and others emotions20:07 - How do you “make” a child do something?21:51 - Pillar #1: The importance of connection 24:10 - Connect in the moment by acknowledging emotion and truly seeing them25:58 - Physical touch is a meaningful way to connect in the moment28:50 - Child Whisperer – type 3 energy32:10 - Preventative connection - acknowledging when kids are behaving well, holding hands, etc.33:22 - Caregiving tasks ARE connection times35:23 - Pillar # 2: Being present37:00 - Wholehearted attention some of the time is WAY better than half-hearted attention always38:20 - See the present moment as the main event rather than the precursor41:26 - In yoga the transition to the posture is the posture43:05 - Mantra for being present is “Here I am.”45:00 - A human need is to be witnessed47:27 - Pillar #3: Unconditional Love50:00 - What does love look like when I misbehave?54:07 - Pillar #4: Healthy Boundaries55:05 - Hold boundaries early1:00:00 - Maintain boundaries for yourself - take time to refuelRelated episodesFour Pillars of Wholehearted Parenting We Apply to Any Problem223 // The Power of Being Present NOWHOW TO Reconnect with Life, Your Marriage and Your Kids / Deep Dive into ConnectionLet Your Phone Be a Tool Not Your Master: Screen Detox Tips and Boundaries for Real Life183 // Putting Our Attention on the Beautiful Call of Our Lives with Johann Hari’s Stolen FocusCurbing Your Screen AttachmentHow to WAKE UP to Your LifeLinks & Books MentionedBlue spaces: why time spent near water is the secret of happinessGood Inside // Dr. Becky KennedySponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:I am a busy mom of 4 (7 yo and under) and Find the Magic is something that I do for myself. I connect with these women SO well and they make me feel like I’m doing the best job, even when I feel like I’m not. Thank you ladies for being here for us mothers. ♥️ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Friendships are exceedingly important, especially for mothers, in fact friendship is becoming a huge factor to over all health and wellness in a happy life. In this week's episode, we address listener questions and dive into how we can find and cultivate friendships and how that will look different in each stage of our lives as well as the age old question, should we have another baby? We dive into the intention to start from a whole place when making this decision and how Taralyn and Felica made the choice themselves.Related EpisodesPatience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner LandscapeGuidance for the Changing seasons of MotherhoodTime Stamps 11:57 - How to navigate friendships and create a community? 13:17 - Take a look at what friendships do you currently have 15:07 - Take the extra step to be vulnerable and create friendships 19:00 - Connection can look different in various stages of life 20:55 - Relationships can be a crossroads of human souls 25:00 - Don’t be afraid to instigate events 26:56 - How do you know you’re done having babies? 28:30 - The answer is inside of you 30:35 - There is a peace within 33:45 - Never make the decision to add another kid during a state of “lack”Sponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:normalizing motherhoodI have been listening to you ladies for some time, but todays episode was so spot on that I found myself crying. Felicia talked about “seeing our kids” in defiant behavior, and as she did, I actually felt so seen myself (after a very difficult day with my own 3 kiddos). Thank you for normalizing this difficult and hilarious thing called motherhood. I have found SO much inspiration, wisdom, practical help, and pure relief in your conversations. I am so grateful for finding your show This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

This episode is the encouragement and reminder you need to recommit to living. Felica touches on the tenants of why we choose to be intentional with our screen use and find presence in our lived reality. She offers practical tips and how to's for detoxing from our devices as well as mindset reframes for why we are doing so. Happy detoxing!Related EpisodesFinding Our Family Through Digital MinimalismFinding Solitude Through Digital MinimalismSaving Our Kids & Ourselves from Screens & Social Media with Collin KartchnerBooks & Links MentionedDigital Minimalism⁠ // Cal NewportTime Stamps 1:30 - Recommended water bottle 3:00 - The importance of digital minimalism 5:00 - You don't need a huge social media presence 5:44 - The fallacy of "If you didn't post it, it didn't happen" 6:40 - Too much media input isn't good for our brains 7:40 - Think of ways that you can make connections in real life 8:24 - Digital Detox 9:58 - A mantra for why you are making your choice to detoxSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Review of the week: THE ONLY PODCAST I RELIGIOUSLY LISTEN TOThis podcast saved my motherhood! I read all of Janet Lansbury’s books prior to my first daughter and told myself I can do this…then when my second was born (daughter had just turned 3), I started to fall apart. I found this podcast…and [went] down the amazing rabbit hole of this podcast. They dive into incredible topics, things I am thinking of, they read and discuss books I’ve read or are in my to-read list…I just cannot say enough good things about this podcast and these women. I listen while doing laundry, walking, making dinner…wherever I can. The mamas are like having coffee with best friends–they keep SO REAL. And during the pandemic–bless you girls. This time is so challenging, sometimes I feel like I am barely getting by–but they make me laugh because they remind you that everyone is going through this thing called life and motherhood–even now. Hugs and loves from NJ!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Are you carrying the weight of the things you own? Are you carrying the weight of your todo list? Do you think thoughts like "I should be able to keep up with the chores." or "There must be something wrong with me, everyone else is doing it!"Today's interview is with Leslie Alder, she guides caregivers through their clutter and chaos and out the other side to lighten the load that parenting and motherhood so often place on our shoulders. Felica and Leslie dive into the mindset shifts needed to access the feelings you want to feel in your environment. They question the more is more culture that we live in and offer an anecdote for slow living that could bring us a slow peace that we desperately all need.Link to Things We Talked About with LeslieSlow Home Podcast: The Tortoise with Brooke McAlarySlow Home Book: The Simple Home: A Month-by-Month Guide to Self-Reliance, Productivity and ContentmentGo fund me for Milo Sponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to ⁠https://gabbwireless.com⁠ and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app ⁠Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week by Cara Partridge:Life changing…Having a baby is one thing, but raising that baby, your child(ren) can be exhausting and confusing at times. Am I doing this right, should I do this? Etc. etc. This podcast halps shed light on parenting and literally gives the best advice. The title “Finding the magic” could not be more spot on. I find myself being able to be more connected to my children and husband sometimes when I just feel lost. It helps me understand nd see more clearly into our relationships. The more I listen, the more I love. Thank you so much for all you girls do. You rock!Time Stamps 1:50 - The magic of caring for sick kids 5:45 - How the adventure to New Zealand began 7:40 - How to live more minimally 11:22 - What is my motivation for change? 12:51 - A flawed filter of viewing our life is “I’m probably doing it wrong.” 15:50 - Replicating a more contemplative state 17:09 - Way of life in New Zealand and how it was a reframe 19:44 - Ritual is routine with intention 21:58 - “I don’t have enough time or energy” 24:12 - “All of this clutter is making me overwhelmed” 26:35 - It’s the stories we tell ourselves that bring meaning 31:00 - What does my house mean to me? And what systems can I make? 34:05 - Recap: I get to choose how to use my time and energy, overwhelm doesn’t come from the clutter––it comes from what I am making it mean, I haven’t figured this out YET. 36:00 - Leslie’s morning routine This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Our bodies are intelligent. They are the home to our mind, spirit and psyche and are affected by our emotions whether we acknowledge them or not. Making the connection between our bodies and our emotions can lead us to a place of wellness and wholeness. This week we explore the mind body connection with the work of Dr. Gabor Mate (When the Body Says No). We also dive into how we can process those emotions and perhaps allow them to move through and heal us. Feeling pain is hard. There is no way around it. Oftentimes, we try to numb it or avoid it. We continue our conversation we started in episode 222 about negative emotions. How does the repression of negative emotions affect our bodies? We discuss grief and anguish and we wrestle with the concept of finding the balance in relationships between authenticity and attachment. Can we be true to ourselves and also have nurturing relationships? It’s a balance we all face. Here are some of the questions we discuss that may be contributing to a build up of unprocessed negative emotions in your life:1- In my life’s important areas, what am I not saying no to?2 - How does my inability to say no impact my life?3- What bodily signals am I overlooking?4 - What is the hidden story behind not saying no?5 - Where did I get these stories?Related episodes:222// HOW TO Make Room for Negative Emotions and Why Processing Anger is So Important From the Work of Susan Cain and Gabor MateStaying Open to The Present216 // What Resentment Reveals and Understanding EnvyHow to Process Jealousy and Resist the Gaping Pit of ComparisonBooks and Links We Mentioned: When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection // Gabor Mate, M.D.Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole // Susan CainKali Ma Meditation Felica Mentioned Sponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:I’ve listened to this podcast from day one and obsessively check my podcast feed every Monday to see what the new episode is. Episodes are always exactly what I need to hear. They give concrete tips and ideas for a more wholehearted life and do it without making you feel guilty or like you need to change. Their views on parenting speak right to my heart and I am so grateful for the work they put into their thoughts every week. They’re changing my family one episode at a time. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

There is a lot of parenting advice out there and it can seem overwhelming to sift through. In this episode Felica breaks down her favorite steps to connecting to our child during recurrent misbehavior or unreasonable tantrums and a new way to see our kids during their hard moments.Related episodes:207 // We Are All Good Inside: Parenting Without Using Shame and Repairing When We Do, with Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 1 210 // Navigating Tricky Transitions With Kids Ahead of Time and What to Do When Whining Feels Unbearable: Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 2 108 // Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Larence J. Cohen)118 // Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle)Sponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:So very helpful!I’ve been so thrilled with this podcast. It’s been a huge help and has made me feel like I’m not alone in my challenges. You both are inspiring to me and helped me decide to learn to play the piano in the next 5 years after listening to your episode on a grown mindset. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

When experiencing beautiful moments of joy, wonder, or gratitude it can be easy to want to cling on to those moments and not want to let go. On the flip side, when we experience difficult, dark, or heavy moments it's hard not to try to rush through, avoid, or numb out in order to escape the present. In this episode, Katelin explores what we gain when we truly embrace the present moment during both the highs and the lows.Time Stamps 1:11 - Reluctance to let time pass 3:00 - “We suffer when we cling to or resist experience. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional” - Byron Katie 4:40 - When we resist being in the present, we also suffer 6:25 - Mindfulness is a powerful tool 6:40 - “The moment you realize you are not present, you are present." - Eckhart Tolle 8:00 - Being present with a stomach bug :/Related EpisodesStaying Open to The PresentBooks & Links MentionedThe Power of Now // Eckhart Tolle Loving What Is // Byron KatieWhy Mindfulness Is a Superpower: An AnimationSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week from bhelmich:When my daughter turned about 8 months I started to notice I was really struggling with all the challenges of motherhood. I was at a breaking point and felt like I couldn’t share my honest thoughts with anyone without the sting of their silent judgement. This podcast was a saving grace; not only have I learned some great tools and coping mechanisms, but I no longer feel like I am ALONE or I’m doing something wrong or I’m a terrible mother if I meet some hardships in parenting. I now realize it is completely normal and I am so much more patient with myself and my daughter. I look forward to listening to this on my way to work every day so much! I feel like I’m having an intelligent, productive conversation with some great people and reflecting on myself and growing after every podcast! I really don’t think I could ever thank these women enough! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We spend lots of time embracing positivity and focusing on ways to be positive, but where does that leave space for negative emotions? In this episode, we delve into why it's important to actually feel and process the difficult stuff, specifically the big emotion of anger. We know that flying off the handle in anger isn’t helpful, but neither is bottling it up. So where does that leave us? How can we process it in a healthy way? We use the work of Gabor Mate and Susan Cain to explore answers to this important question.Related EpisodesConnection vs. Detachment: Fulfilling Our Own Needs Without Becoming Islands of Selfishness Four Pillars of Wholehearted Parenting We Apply to Any Problem Putting Connection First Books and Links We MentionedBittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole // Susan CainWhen the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection // Gabor Mate, M.D.5 Steps to Transforming ResentmentHold on to Your Kids // Gabor Matehttps://drgabormate.com/liberal-conservative-anger/Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week from kaygutke:Since I have been listening to this podcast I have been such a better parent! They are so uplifting, yet real. I love how to the point they are with things but have fun in it too. Great balance and great advice that applies perfectly! Thank you ladies!Time Stamps 9:55 - The place of negative emotions in our lives 18:41 - The importance of processing healthy anger 23:00 - How can we actually process anger in a healthy way 24:47 - Name the emotion 28:54 - The difference between Rage, Healthy Anger, and Resentment This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

This episode is a sleep meditation that Taralyn has guided many people through in person, and at their request, she has recorded it to use anytime you’d like. Simply play before bed and enjoy the relaxation:) Simply download the episode, and then you can listen to it even without wifi and on airplane mode.Related episodes:Who Needs Sleep? How To Make Our Rest A Little BetterHow Light Affects Our Sleep, Fertility, Our Child’s Behavior, and More with Andy MantOur Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It’s an easy way to get yourself into the habit.Books and links she mentioned:Taralyn’s Fave Sleep Music: Slow Wave Sleep – Delta Waves // Kelly HowellStress Less, Accomplish More // Emily FletcherTaralyn on instagram:):Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week from Myka Almazan:I love these mamas, their vulnerability and the amazing tips, stories and info they share on this podcast! I look forward to each new episode each week. Every mama should be tuned in. LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!!! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Sleep. We all want good sleep. For many of us, it’s like this elusive prize we keep hoping to win but keep having it snatched away by little adorable people (our children:), or bad dreams, or night wakings, or panic attacks, or (insert your sleep woes here–thay can be endless).In this episode, Taralyn gives 5 specific tips for improving your sleep and explains the next episode, which is her guided meditation for sleep (you’re welcome all her yoga students who have been requesting it for years!).Each tip is an easy, low hanging fruit that has the potential to help you get the rest you need.Related episodes:How Light Affects Our Sleep, Fertility, Our Child’s Behavior, and More with Andy MantOur Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It’s an easy way to get yourself into the habit.Books and links she mentioned:Taralyn’s Fave Sleep Music: Slow Wave Sleep – Delta Waves // Kelly HowellStress Less, Accomplish More // Emily FletcherTaralyn on instagram:):Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week from Myka Almazan:I love these mamas, their vulnerability and the amazing tips, stories and info they share on this podcast! I look forward to each new episode each week. Every mama should be tuned in. LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!!!Time Stamps 2:19 - Sleep can be elusive 3:30 - Carve out the time you need for adequate sleep 6:00 - Blue-light blocking bulbs 7:22 - More reading before bed, less screens before bed 9:10 - Make waking up easier for yourself 10:50 - What about kid night-wakings? give yourself space 12:00 - Allow yourself a nap 14:45 - Sleep Meditation This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Finding home - a quest we are all on. What does it really mean and can we arrive? In this weeks mini magic Felica shares the impetus behind their adventure to Florida and 3 keys to help us navigate finding home. Home doesn’t always mean a concrete place or a city; what she unpacks helps us see that home is our heart and headspace. Home is a settled feeling of acceptance of all the unknowing, the good and the bad.Time Stamps 2:20 - Logistics of moving 4:41 - What makes home, home? How do we feel settled? 8:37 - Our place is a place we design and find acceptance in 9:09- Tip 1) Find good where you are, and then make a choice for change 12:31 - Tip 2) Accept the duality of life. Paradise is a state of mind 14:22 - Tip 3) Rest into the present momentIf you liked this episode you would love our episode with Heather Chauvin, find it here -- and don't forget, if you liked this episode please share it with a friend or on social media!RELATED EPISODESGuidance for the Changing Seasons of MotherhoodThe Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of ParentingFinding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every DayThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Hit SENDReview of the weekMost helpful podcastI listen to a lot of parenting podcasts, this one is my favorite! So many topics covered and ideas discussed. I always seem to get so much out of listening. Thank you! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

How do you make sure everyone’s needs are met when it doesn’t feel like there is enough time in the day? How can you better your relationship with your spouse or partner when also trying to run a household and life together? What do you do when your kid starts saying things you don’t want them to say? In this episode, we dive into some of our recent listener questions and aim to help you with concrete tips and ideas to remedy these common household concerns. Books MentionedPlayful Parenting // Lawrence CohenFair Play // Eve RodskyRelated Episodes217 // Finding Tranquility in Our Family Schedules with Laura VanderkamRunning a Household Without Resentment 8:21 - Routines - how can we help so that everyones needs are met? 12:15 - Use usual tasks that need to be done like meals, carpool, diaper changes as connection time 19:46 - Taking time for self-care and love 22:42 - Batching your time with an intention for a time block 26:10 - Building our relationship with our partner 29:15 - Being clear on expectations with yourself and your partner 32:42 - Conception, planning, execution 37:00 - Making date night a priority 39:58 - Responding when our kids copy negative behavior 55:01 - There are many factors why kids act a certain way 57:53 - Sassy, demanding, bossy - It’s ok to use your voice powerfullyThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Review of the week A parenting podcast for all the ages I have been listening to Find The Magic for a long time now and appreciate that they provide info that spans from mom of newborns to parents of teens. They have kids in all the stages (similar to me) and also connect to women in general (they don’t only talking about things related to being a mom). They share parenting tips and info on many great books, but also lots of information about meditation, miracle morning and taking time for ourselves amidst the chaos of parenthood. I can’t recommend this podcast enough! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

This episode covers tips of how to manage your time with intentionality and mindfulness. Felica interviews Laura VanderKam, author of Tranquility by Tuesday, and explores ways that we can get the most out of our time. She covers some ideas around how to avoid mindlessness in our schedules, bringing intention to our daily plans, and tips to help us feel less frazzled when it comes to using our time well.Learn more about how to manage your time better at Laura Vanderkam’s website and book:https://lauravanderkam.com/start-here/Tranquility by Tuesday // Laura VanderkamTime Stamps 3:54 - Time management and how we get the most of our time 6:50 - Mindlessness is the biggest obstacle 7:40 - Figure out where your time is going now = Time tracking 11:12 - Batch/schedule your day with intention 17:52 - Plan your weeks ahead of time 18:47 - As a caregiver take one night off 19:31 - Consider planning your week on Friday 22:36 - Handling the time underestimation trap = add time 25:35 - 4 minutes acknowledged makes for meaningful moments 28:00 - Make time for making memoriesSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week by JjaammieeBest podcast!I love this podcast; it makes me want to be better every time I listen and gives me the tools I need to be a better mom and wife and enjoy each day more. So grateful for their example and advice…[It’s] my number one favorite podcast and I recommend it to every friend! Love you girls! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We all know that we don’t love feeling jealous, but do we know the difference between jealous and envy? When we feel them, where do we go from there? What about when we feel resentful of someone? Where does this emotion come from and who is responsible for it? In this episode, we deep dive into these emotions using Brene Brown’s work as a guideline. Resentment is in the envy family, along with a host of other unpleasant emotions. We give some ideas on how to process these difficult feelings.Time Stamps 10:54 - Our language shapes our world, 13:20 - Comparison isn’t inherently bad, it’s a natural part of being human 18:00 - Stay in your lane and your journey 19:54 - Humans are happier if they are forced to commit to a decision 26:15 - Feeling content with fashion 32:30 - Definition of Jealousy vs. Envy 34:09 - Malicious envy vs. just plain envy 38:45 - Resentment is a part of the envy family 42:00 - What do I need that I’m afraid to ask for? 43:00 - Schadenfreude & Freudenfreude 45:20 - Cultivating flame-keepers 50:32 - “Rejoice in the success of others” 52:30 - Develop Freudenfreude using “Shoy” and “Bragitude” 54:52 - Social media can be a detriment for our ability feel freudenfreudeRelated episodes:How to Process Jealousy and Resist the Gaping Pit of Comparison Comparison vs. ContentmentBooks and links we mentioned:Atlas of the Heart // Brené BrownDecide Already by Hidden BrainSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

Parenting is overwhelming and unpredictable. Even in the best of times we can find ourselves reacting instead of responding to our kid's big emotions or perceived disobedience. We know that we are in charge of our internal landscape but often that feels much easier said than executed. Today Felica chats with host of Your Parenting Mojo, Jen Lumanlan about how we can identify and tame our internal triggers to create healthier relationships with our kids. This work often involves delving into our personal BIG T or little t trauma as well as "trauma" that is less obvious; we discuss how we can work with these triggers and how to do so in a safe space. We walk through 13 common reasons our kids "don't listen" and strategies for navigating this as well! If you would like to dive deeper you can find the PDF HERE! You can find more from Jen @yourparentingmojo RELATED EPISODESAuthoritative Parenting / Arguably the most EFFECTIVE Parenting Style Holding Boundaries / Discipline Pt. 1Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family ConnectionsParenting with Unconditional Love How to Embrace Childhood Review of the Week from SydneeSo good!!I love how supportive and inspiring this podcast is, and I love that each person brings their own perspective on things! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

We all go through hard times. People we love experience hard things. What do we do when we are faced with the suffering of others? It can be easy to either push it away because it is too painful to see, or we can go the other way and fully immerse ourselves in a way that is more enmeshment than compassion.In this episode, Taralyn shares some personal experiences that have recently invited her to delve deep into what it means to be compassionate. She uses the work of Brene Brown, Kristin Neff, and Chris Germer to define what compassion is, what it is not, and how to use the power of true compassion to love people in the middle of their suffering.Related episodes:Parenting with Unconditional Love 179 // Do You Want a House Full of Kind Kids this Summer? Techniques to Help Raise Kind KidsBooks and links she mentioned:Atlas of the Heart // Brené BrownBrene with Chris Germer on theThe Near and Far Enemies of CompassionSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week from bprauseMy go toI am inspired literally. Every. Episode. I recommend you to all my friends. I love my children to pieces and I am so grateful to have found a sound resource that I can turn to , to unfold the best version of myself for them. Until recent years I turned my nose up at all the ‘self-help’ type resources. Until I discovered one day I don’t know more than everyone. Now I want to learn from the best. I truly feel like you ladies are top tier, and I truly truly thank you. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

How do you feel about the New Year? Are you overwhelmed by the prospect of shaping a year? Do you rebel against the concept of new year goals? Do you thrive off of the excitement of setting intentions for the year?In this episode, each of us talk about our different approaches to the new year and how the different options suit our unique natures. It’s all about finding out what serves you best in your life. What do YOU want? We discuss liberating concepts like making vital space for what we love, aligning with who we truly are and our why, and then trying out bite-sized consistency.Related episodes and meditation links:Discovering YOUR Life EssentialsOur Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It’s an easy way to get yourself into the habit.Breathwork Exercises for Daily Habit Building with Taralyn Heart Centered MeditationBooks and links we mentioned:Ted Talk Katelin mentioned: Matt Cutts: Can You Change For The Better In Just 30 Days? Felica mentioned Oprah’s Super Soul: Intention Sponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week from kaykidwellA Must for MomsThis Podcast has been such a blessing for me. It talks about all the important things that we face with a foundation in motherhood. They provide inspiring and realistic goals and changes. It sheds light on ways to gently move myself into the woman and mother I aspire to be. It really limits my feelings of inadequacy and provides clear wisdom that is beyond what I could find on my own. They have also helped me see the cycles of trauma that I have faced growing up and how to break through that to provide a better life for my children. Truly a must listen.Sharing what they learn has helped me grow and I have loved and been moved by every single episode I’ve listened to! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

It’s easy to keep our cool, accept our children for who they are, and hold boundaries with unconditional love when our kids are behaving well, but what about when their behavior scares us? What do we do when our kids lie? What about when they are feeling extra reserved and we worry they won’t be able to navigate social situations? How do we handle when our kids are so easily frustrated for reasons we don’t even understand (does it really matter how your socks line up with your heel?In this episode, we draw on Dr. Becky Kennedy’s book Good Inside to address these issues. We share many ways of reframing these difficult situations in a way that really helps us as parents see things in a bit more clearly and patiently.Related episodes:207 // We Are All Good Inside: Parenting Without Using Shame and Repairing When We Do, with Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 1 210 // Navigating Tricky Transitions With Kids Ahead of Time and What to Do When Whining Feels Unbearable: Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 2 202 // Facing Our Fear 203 // Meditation: Letting Fear Go108 // Using Play to Diffuse Poser Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Larence J. Cohen)118 // Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle)41 // Our Take on the Grit PhenomenonBooks and links we mentioned:Good Inside // Dr. Becky KennedyThe Child Whisperer // Carol TuttlePlayful parenting // Lawrence J. Cohen PhdOwala water bottle Katelin mentionedSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much.Review of the week from BprauseMy go toI am inspired literally. Every. Episode. I recommend you to all of my friends. I love my children to pieces and I am so grateful to have found a sound resource that I can turn to, to unfold the best version of myself for them. Until recent years I turned my nose up at all ‘self-help’ type resources. Until I discovered one day I don’t know more than everyone. Now I want ot learn from the best. I truly feel like you ladies are top tier, and I truly truly thank you. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe