Sex For Couples with Heather Shannon

Heather’s guest this episode is Chris Trew. Chris is a comedian and improv coach living in New Orleans. He's been featured at over 75 comedy festivals in North America and seen on MTV, America's Got Talent, and GQ Magazine. He runs Comedy House New Orleans, Hell Yes Fest, and teaches improv comedy all over the world. Plus President Barack Obama follows him on Twitter, which Heather thinks is pretty cool!In this episode, Heather and Chris talk about Air Sex–yes, you read that right! Chris was responsible for bringing the Air Sex Championships to the United States. In case you’re still like “Whaaaa?!”, the Air Sex Championships is a hilariously over-the-top competition that combines the concept of air guitar with pretend sex. Heather and Chris discuss the show and how it became an unexpected hit, while also delving into the incredible benefits of improv comedy for mental health, enhancing relationships and opening lines of communication. In This Episode, You’ll Learn:How to flirt, approach people, and handle mistakes like a proHow comedy can make you a brave emotional warrior & superior communicatorWhy it’s so essential to get over your fear of rejection and how improv can help you do it.TIMESTAMPS[00:00:01] Interview with Comedian and Air Sex Champion Chris Trew[00:03:28] Connecting on Social Media: Air Sex Championships & Vulnerability[00:06:47] The Two Types of Air Sex Performances[00:09:57] Origins and Evolution of Air Sex Championships[00:13:11] Benefits of Improv for Social Skills and Mental Health[00:16:23] The Overlooked Fun of Improv[00:19:26] “Yes And" Technique in Taboo Topics[00:22:38] The importance of "Turning Towards" in Relationships and Improv and How Improv and Gottman Couples Counseling Research Have That in Common[00:25:47] The Art of Flirting and Improv[00:28:54] Improvisation for Improved Social Skills[00:31:48] Overcoming Screen-Based Social Anxiety and Getting Over Fear of Rejection[00:34:53] Benefits of Adopting Improv Mentality in Real Life–There Are No Mistakes![00:38:02] Improv Training Programs and Air Sex ChampionshipsEPISODE LINKSWORK WITH HEATHER:Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.coHeather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapistJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOwCONNECT WITH CHRIS TREW:Where you can find Air Sex Championships: Sturgis Music Festival (August, Buffalo Chip)Richmond Virginia Tattoo Convention (October)Follow Chris on Instagram - https://Instagram.com/ChrisTrew (Zoom classes, membership opportunities, 1-on-1)Chris’ Website - https://hellyescreative.com (corporate training, etc) SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Episode 25 - Sex & The Single Life - https://pod.fo/e/17c237Episode 19 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/171671RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapistAll Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront (https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc). Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

In celebration of Pride month, let's explore the concepts of queerness and questioning. In this episode, Heather questions the usefulness of labels and expertly navigates the topic of "Am I Queer?" Through personal anecdotes, Heather explores how sexuality can be fluid and how cultural biases can impact one's sexual identity. Whether identifying as queer, lesbian, bicurious or genderfluid, listeners are encouraged to question their own sexual identity, and to explore their motivations for sex too. This episode is about questioning everything we've ever been taught about sexual identity, increasing consciousness around sex and breaking free from the matrix of who we "should" be. You won't want to miss out on this thought-provoking episode, and be sure to follow the show for more enlightening discussions on sex and relationships with Certified Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon.Listen in for:How we define "queer"The pros & cons of choosing labelsWhy it's important not to get too attached to a sexual identityHeather's personal exploration of labels, social biases and queerness Timestamps:[00:00:01] Questioning Identity: Am I Queer?[00:03:52] Navigating Fluid Sexuality and Non-Binary Relationships[00:07:28] Exploring gray areas of queerness[00:10:54] Culture and Bisexuality[00:14:21] Fluidity and Queerness in Society[00:17:45] The Pros and Cons of Labeling YourselfWORK WITH HEATHER:Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.coHeather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapistJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOwSIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Episode 28 BDSM, Play Parties & Queer Sexuality with Kesiena Boom -Episode 19 Listener Sex Questions - Episode 6 Fucked Up Ideas About Sex - RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapistYou want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Here’s a YouTube video of how to rate & review on Apple (iPhone/Mac) https://youtube.com/shorts/8EEOq-RltwI?feature=shareAnd here’s one for Spotify/Android: https://youtu.be/_Y95wV80yk0 All Apple reviewers are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront (https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc). Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Join host Heather Shannon and guest Kesiena Boom in an engaging and enlightening conversation as they explore the captivating world of queerness, kink, and fearless communication. Unravel the meaning of "femme" within the queer community as they provide insights for queer women on confidently approaching and asking out their crushes. Discover the allure of play parties, gain wisdom on direct communication, learn the art of hitting on someone without being creepy, and explore the depths of desire. Get ready for an adventure of self-discovery and empowerment!In this episode, Heather and Kesiena delve into the dynamic realms of queerness, kink, and daring conversations. They decode the essence of "femme" within the queer community, offering guidance for queer women seeking to approach and ask out their love interests. Embracing the spirit of rebellion, they discuss play parties, direct communication, and the art of pursuing desire while maintaining respect. Join them as they share valuable insights for navigating intimate relationships and embracing your true desires.Key Topics Covered:Understanding the diverse aspects of "femme" within the queer community.Empowering queer women to confidently approach and ask out their love interests.Embracing queerness as a celebration of self-expression and individuality.Exploring the captivating world of kink and the role of play parties.Effective communication, consent, and respectful approaches to expressing desire.Timestamps[00:00:00] Navigating Queer Women's Desires[00:03:28] Importance of Understanding Desires in Queer Women[00:07:20] Exploring BDSM, Kink, and Queer Identities in "X[00:11:26] Embracing Non-Traditional Relationships[00:15:06] Discovering and identifying sexual desires[00:18:32] Deconstructing Cultural Views on Sexuality[00:22:23] Exploring Women's Same-Sex Sexuality[00:26:00] BDSM Play Parties: Finding and Staying Safe[00:29:48] Requirements for attending play parties[00:33:20] Queer sex and power dynamics[00:37:07] Navigating Desire As A Queer Woman[00:40:48] The Art of Asking Someone Out[00:44:08] Boldly Pursuing Romantic Connections[00:47:14] Aggressive flirting in relationshipsEpisode LinksWORK WITH HEATHER:Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.coHeather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapistJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOwRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Paul Takes The Form Of A Mortal Girl - https://amzn.to/3IU1B6U (referral link)FIND OUT MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST:https://kesienaboom.journoportfolio.com/ SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Episode 25 - Sex & The Single Life - https://pod.fo/e/17c237Episode 19 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/171671Episode 13 - Is Monogamy Realistic? - https://pod.fo/e/166e5eRATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapistYou want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Here’s a YouTube video of how to rate & review on Apple (iPhone/Mac) and here’s one for Spotify/Android. https://youtube.com/shorts/8EEOq-RltwI?feature=shareAll Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront (https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc). Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

In this episode, Heather answers listener questions on kink differences, rimming, nipple play and sex with vaginal prolapse. She also addresses how our thoughts (not our partner and not our circumstances) create our turn-on and how our conditioning might make us feel like certain sexual activities are “good” or “bad,” when that is not actually the case. Plus, find out what “soft swapping” means and if you want to do it!IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:1. How to navigate your kink differences by managing your own mind.2. What a vaginal prolapse is, how WILDLY common it is and what you can do about it.3. Some ideas for nipple play and if nipple orgasms are really a thing. Timestamps[00:00:02] Sexual Exploration and Comfort with Prolapsed Vagina[00:03:17] Navigating Kinks in Relationships[00:06:39] Exploring Non-Consent & Swinging[00:10:13] Exploring Soft Swapping in Relationships[00:13:42] Achieving a Nipple Orgasm[00:17:22] Exploring Nipple Stimulation for Arousal[00:20:30] Giveaway and Sexual Freedom[00:23:41] Navigating Sexual Health Concerns[00:27:01] Sexual Health and Vaginal Prolapse[00:30:18] Encouraging Subscriptions and Promoting Coaching ProgramEpisode LinksWORK WITH HEATHER:Register for Heather’s free “Get Your Sexy Spark Back” workshop on Tuesday, May 30th @ 7pm Eastern https://askasextherapist.clickfunnels.com/optin1683846259317Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.coHeather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapistJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOwRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Vaginal Prolapse: https://www.johnmuirhealth.com/services/urology-services/womens-urologic-health/vaginal-prolapse.html#:~:text=A%20vaginal%20prolapse%20is%20a,fall%20from%20their%20normal%20positionsSIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Episode 19 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/171671Episode 15 - Unlearning Sex Negativity - https://pod.fo/e/16a6b6Episode 8 - Spicing Up Your Sex Life - https://pod.fo/e/15e879RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapistYou want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Here’s a YouTube video of how to rate & review on Apple (iPhone/Mac) https://youtube.com/shorts/8EEOq-RltwI?feature=shareAnd here’s one for Spotify/Android: All Apple reviewers are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront (https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc). Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Register for Heather’s free “Get Your Sexy Spark Back” Workshop taking place on Tuesday, May 30th @ 7pm: https://askasextherapist.clickfunnels.com/optin1683846259317"Don't let fear, guilt, or shame keep you from connecting with your original sexual essence and experiencing more pleasure." ~Tilly StormTILLY’S BIO:This week's guest, Tilly Storm, is a certified sex and intimacy coach, using deep transformational tools to help high achieving men and women experience epic sex and pleasure. She is the host of the Multiorgasmic Millionaire podcast and has been recognized as one of the top 20 sex coaches in the world.Growing up Southern Baptist in New Orleans, Tilly Storm was shamed for walking out of the bathroom naked at the age of 6. This led to a lifetime of guilt and shame around sex and her body. Tilly eventually found the jade egg practice, and within two months, the guilt and shame was gone. She then dedicated herself to coaching and helping others go through their own religious trauma and reconnect with their inner sex goddess. Now, Tilly teaches her clients how to complete stress cycles and feel into emotions, allowing them to show up authentically in sex and relationships.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:1. How to Heal and Integrate Sexual Shame, Guilt, and Fear2. Understanding the Impact of Religious Trauma on Sex and Relationships3. Discovering the Power of Self Pleasure Practices and Embodiment WorkLINKS & RESOURCES:Book a no pressure $1 discovery call with Heather (to learn about potentially working with her as a coach!) https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website https://HeatherShannon.co/Heather’s Instagram http://Instagram.com/AskASexTherapistJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group https://m.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717/?ref=share&mibextid=kdkkhiHeather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! http://youtube.com/@AskASexCoachFIND OUT MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST, TILLY STORM: Tilly’s free 5-days to Epic Sex and Pleasure training - https://www.tillystorm.com/5daytrainingThe Multiorgasmic Millionaire Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-multiorgasmic-millionaire/id1323538015SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Healing Through Seduction with THE Black Burleque Queen Perle Noire - https://pod.fo/e/16c40fUnlearning Sex Negativity https://https//pod.fo/e/16a6b6Fucked Up Ideas About Sex https://pod.fo/e/15d294RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. You want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Here’s a YouTube video of how to rate & review on Apple (iPhone/Mac) and here’s one for Spotify/Android.All Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront. Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

How much do you really need to have your shit together to date? Should you work on yourself first or just go out there and date exactly as you are? Listen in for Heather’s advice on how to handle insecurities while putting yourself out there in the dating world. Heather discusses the importance of authenticity, consent, communication and boundaries when it comes to new sexual relationships. Discover how being vulnerable can actually be a transformative (and fun!) growth experience. Heather shares her own experiences in the dating world when she tells people she’s a sex therapist and offers tips on healthy ways to approach sex & dating . . . including when to take a break.IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARNWhen it’s time to make a move and the importance of discussing communication preferencesThe age old question . . . dating apps or no?Why it’s important to FOLLOW THE FUN and how you’ll actually get better results with dating if you do.Why pushing yourself to be authentic is hard . . . and worth it!How sex with someone new can trigger our attachment wounds and how we can practice showing up for ourselves when that happens.TIMESTAMPS[00:00:00] Navigating Sex and Vulnerability While Single[00:03:32] Embracing Self-Acceptance for Personal Growth[00:06:51] Challenges of Dating as a Therapist[00:10:04] Mindset Shifts for Better Dating[00:13:10] Importance of Authenticity and Communication in Early Dating[00:16:34] Healthy Sexual Boundaries Resource[00:19:41] Join Our Community for Free Coaching and Q&ALINKS & RESOURCESWORK WITH HEATHER:Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.coHeather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapistJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717Heather’s YouTube - http://youtube.com/@AskASexCoachSIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODESLiked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:#17. Healthy Sexual Boundaries - https://pod.fo/e/16dfad#14. Why “Self Love” Is Annoying - https://pod.fo/e/1689e1#12 Why Consent Is Sexy AF - https://pod.fo/e/164fe6#9 How To Feel Sexy - https://pod.fo/e/15f72aRATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist You want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Spotify/Android Instructions: https://youtu.be/_Y95wV80yk0 Apple Podcast Instructions: https://youtube.com/shorts/8EEOq-RltwIAll Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle from Heather’s Amazon Storefront (https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc). Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Join Heather and hilarious guest Jordyn Hakes for a truly unfiltered chat about about owning your sexuality and how mental health is the sexiest thing of all.Jordyn is the host of the wildly successful podcast “The Horny Housewife,” which focuses on dating your spouse and locker room talk for couples. In today’s episode, Jordyn shares her journey of becoming a podcaster and how the sudden loss of her mother spurred her to seize the day and go after what she really wanted to do with her life (get paid to talk!). She also opens up about her marriage, love of sex and passion for therapy and mental health. If this episode doesn’t have you laughing while you’re learning, we’d be shocked!You will learn about:How to create a safe space with your partner to give and get feedback about sex How to deal with mismatched libidos in a long term relationshipRegulating your nervous system for improved sexual performanceFinding the balance of using sex for validation versus truly connectingThe importance of therapy & coaching for sexual wellness and why mental health is the sexiest quality of allHow to find a sex therapist if you need oneTime Stamps:[00:00:00] Maintaining Sexual Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships[00:03:29] Starting a sex podcast after becoming a mom[00:06:36] Intentional Relationships[00:10:01] Effective Communication in Intimate Relationships[00:13:15] Creating a Safe Space for Sexual Feedback[00:16:29] Managing Nervous System Responses in Relationships[00:20:01] Overcoming mismatched libidos in relationships[00:23:12] Improving Intimacy in Relationships[00:26:29] Managing Sexual Relationships in Marriage[00:29:54] Navigating therapy and sexual trauma[00:32:55] Challenges of Finding a Therapist[00:35:48] Prioritizing Mental Health in Relationships[00:38:47] Sexual empowerment and coaching program promotionLinks & ResourcesWORK WITH HEATHER:- Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching programLET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:- Heather’s Website  - https://HeatherShannon.co- Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist - Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717 - Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:- ZocDoc - AASECT- Psychology Today FIND OUT MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST:Jordyn’s Patreon w/Audio Erotica - https://www.patreon.com/thehornyhousewifepodcast The Horny Housewife Podcast - https://www.thehornyhousewifepodcast.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/_thehornyhousewifepodcast/ SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODESLiked the episode? Here’s a couple more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:- Ep. 22 The Orgasm Gap with Dr. Laurie Mintz - https://pod.fo/e/176a8e- Ep. 15 Unlearning Sex Negativity - https://pod.fo/e/16a6b6- Ep. 13 Is Monogamy Realistic? - https://pod.fo/e/166e5eRATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist You want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Here’s a YouTube video of how to rate & review on Apple (iPhone/Mac) and here’s one for Spotify/Android. https://youtube.com/shorts/8EEOq-RltwI?feature=share All Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront (https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc). Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

In this week's episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon coaches a woman named Vanessa to help her evolve her emotions and sex life. Vanessa is learning to break free from her sex negativity and integrate the sexual and the emotional. But as she tries to do so, an inner voice of self-protection is preventing her from fully letting go. What is this mysterious inner voice trying to tell her, and how can she learn to listen? Find out in this week's Ask a Sex Therapist, and brace yourself for a shocking realization!In this episode, you’ll learn:How to strengthen your intimate relationships by integrating passion and emotional closeness.What is the Internal Family Systems healing model & why is it so helpfulWhat is Self Energy & how it’s the best way to lead your lifeTo befriend even the more challenging aspects of your personality . . . And how this will accelerate healingHeal shame, emotional wounds, and vulnerability with the help of practical parts work guidance.The key moments in this episode are:00:00:00 - Introduction,00:03:11 - Attachment Styles,00:06:57 - Integrating Emotions,00:09:30 - Internal Family Systems,00:12:37 - Befriending Parts,00:13:12 - Overcoming Fear of Letting Go During Sex00:16:02 - Acknowledging Parts and Managing Overthinking00:19:52 - The Benefits of Being in Tune with Your Body and Emotions00:23:47 - Fear of Attachment and Identifying Sensations00:25:45 - Battling Sensations00:26:25 - Burning in the Throat,00:28:05 - Acknowledging All Parts,00:29:54 - Self Energy,00:34:21 - Factor in Other People,00:38:01 - Using Self Energy,00:39:19 - Understanding Parts and Practicing Gratitude,00:39:41 - Appreciating Vulnerable Parts,00:40:06 - Positive Self-Relationship,00:40:25 - Thanking Vanessa,00:40:39 - Holistic Coaching Program.Episode LinksHEATHER’S “INTIMACY INFUSION” SIGNATURE COACHING PROGRAMBook a no pressure $1 discovery call with Heather to learn about her new Intimacy Infusion coaching program  (for singles or partnered people)LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:Heather’s WebsiteHeather’s InstagramJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupHeather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Episode 19 - Listener QuestionsEpisode 3 - The emotions of sexRATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapistYou want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Here’s a YouTube video of how to rate & review on Apple Podcasts (iPhone/desktop).https://youtube.com/shorts/8EEOq-RltwI?feature=shareAnd here’s one for Spotify (Android): https://youtube.com/shorts/8EEOq-RltwIAll Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront (https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc). Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

In this exciting episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, your host Heather Shannon interviews Dr. Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate and an award-winning college professor with over 20 years of experience working with sexual issues. Join them as they share their passion for closing the orgasm gap, encouraging pleasure for vulva owners, and challenging the myths perpetuated by society about female pleasure. Learn about the importance of understanding female anatomy, proper hygiene, and seeking advice from a pelvic floor physical therapist. Discover the significance of mindfulness, positive thinking, and open communication with partners for a fulfilling sexual experience. Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation that empowers women to prioritize their pleasure and take control of their sexual health.Timestamps[00:00:01] Closing the Orgasm Gap[00:03:45] Expert's journey in human sexuality[00:07:23] The Orgasm Gap and Gender Conformity[00:11:23] Debunking Myths About Orgasms[00:14:54] Misconceptions about female genitalia anatomy[00:18:42] Challenges in Educating about Women's Sexuality[00:22:33] Realistic Sexual Communication in Media[00:26:30] Importance of Masturbation for Female Sexual Health[00:29:55] Optimizing Orgasms and Pelvic Health[00:33:28] Mindfulness and Communication for Better Sex[00:37:17] Revamping Sex: Tips for Enhanced Pleasure and Exploration[00:40:56] The importance of sex positivity and genital hygieneLET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s WebsiteHeather’s InstagramJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupHeather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!FIND OUT MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST, DR. LAURIE MINTZ:Laurie’s website (for books, bookings, etc)InstagramSIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Episode 5 - The Clitoris - https://pod.fo/e/15ce78Episode 15 - Unlearning Sex Negativity - https://pod.fo/e/16a6b6RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. You want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Here’s a YouTube video of how to rate & review on Apple (iPhone/Mac) and here’s one for Spotify/Android. All Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront. Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Erectile dysfunction is one of the most common issues I’ve dealt with as a sex therapist. Turns out there’s a lot of pressure on people with a penis! There’s the idea that they need to last super long and manage their erection. There’s the idea that they should always want sex and should really never say no to sex. And there’s the idea that they’re just sex machines who don’t have feelings or require emotional intimacy for sex to fulfill them. These ideas are mostly wrong and I just want to set things straight for you in this episode. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:The difference between physiological erectile dysfunction and psychological erectile dysfunctionWhy viagra and cialis often don’t workHow partners typically respond to erectile dysfunction and why that’s unhelpful and inaccurate 95% of the time.My tips on what to do when an erection goes away during sex. My unique insight about the penis and emotions.Share this episode with your partner to get a healthy dialogue going about how you want to manage E.D. together. RELATED EPISODES:003 The Emotions of Sex012 Why Consent Is Sexy AFCURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?Book a No-Pressure $1 Discovery Call LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:Heather’s WebsiteHeather’s InstagramJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupHeather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!REVIEWER PRIZES!!!Was it your review that was read on today’s episode? You get a free book bundle! Choose any 3 books from Heather’s Amazon Storefront and we will mail them to you. Reach out via email at [email protected] to claim your prize. If you prefer audiobooks instead, we can gift you a 3-month Audible membership as your prize.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Join Heather as she speaks with Alexandra Harbushka, the founder of "Life with Herpes," a supportive community aimed at shattering the stigma surrounding herpes. Alexandra shares her personal story with herpes, how she got over the stigma and how she got SO FREE of shame and stigma that she turned it into a public-facing career helping others! In this episode, you will learn:Why even married/monogamous people need to know about Herpes. Testing for Herpes isn't automatic when you get an STI panel--how to get checked!Why Herpes is more of a nuisance and really isn't the end of the world (and we need to stop stigmatizing it).How common HSV 1 and HSV 2 are and where in the body each strain can be located. Smart precautions to take and factoids to help you be more risk-aware.LINKS & RESOURCES:Book a no pressure $1 discovery call with Heather (to learn about potentially working with her as a coach!)LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s WebsiteHeather’s InstagramJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupHeather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT ALEXANDRA AND HER LIFE WITH HERPES COMMUNITY?Alexandra's Website The Secret Society (Herpes Support Community) 21-page Guide on Herpes w/8 Natural RemediesAlexandra's YouTube Channel RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. You want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Here’s a YouTube video of how to rate & review on Apple (iPhone/Mac) and here’s one for Spotify/Android.All Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront. Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

In this episode, you really get to Ask A Sex Therapist! Listeners asked Heather their most pressing sex questions including:How can I have anal sex without it hurting and actually enjoy it?I’m interested in sex with other women, but need some help with approaching women. Any advice?I’m experiencing guilt with masturbation–my partner has said she doesn’t like it when I masturbate. How do I get past that?I want to make my girlfriend squirt. Some women I’ve been with before have, but it’s the minority of them–what can I do to increase the chances?I feel awkward with roleplay, but it’s something my boyfriend is interested in. How should beginner’s approach roleplay to make it less awkward?Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon answers these questions with practical tips as well as mindset advice. Submit your questions for Heather’s next Listener Q & A via her free FB community or her website.CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?Book a No-Pressure $1 Discovery Call LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - HeatherShannon.coHeather’s Instagram - @AskASexTherapistJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupHeather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - @AskASexCoachREVIEWER PRIZES!!!Was it your review that was read on today’s episode? You get a free book bundle! Choose any 3 books from Heather’s Amazon Storefront and we will mail them to you. Reach out via email at [email protected] to claim your prize. If you prefer audiobooks instead, we can gift you a 3-month Audible membership as your prize.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

This week's guest is Kimmy Seltzer. She is a confidence therapist, authentic dating strategist and image expert. With vast knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach and matchmaker, Kimmy has helped people find lasting love and connection, attract success, and build valuable relationships using her unique competence makeover process. Listen to the full episode to learn more about the importance of combining emotional work into the body and what is the biggest thing that stops people from putting themselves out there.In this episode, you'll learn: The three pillars of flirtingThe importance of body language for men and womenHow your wardrobe choices can help you feel confident from the outside in!Dressing for your body and personality type.LINKS & RESOURCES:Book a no pressure $1 discovery call with Heather (to learn about potentially working with her as a coach!)LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s WebsiteHeather’s InstagramJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupHeather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!FIND OUT MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST,  KIMMY SELTZER: WEBSITEChat with KimmyInstagram: @kimmyseltzerTwitter: @kimmyseltzerJoin her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover InsidersSIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:How to Feel SexyThe Libido IssueThe Sexual PlaceboRATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. You want to leave a review, but you’re tech challenged? Here’s a YouTube video of how to rate & review on Apple (iPhone/Mac) and here’s one for Spotify/Android.All Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront. Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at [email protected] to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Healthy boundaries are all the rage . . . and with good reason. Having them helps us feel empowered, reduces resentment and encourages self-respect. But what about when it comes to sex? How can you practice saying no and communicating your needs without pushing the other person away?Do healthy sexual boundaries mean you’re never going to have casual sex (answer - no!)? How can sexual boundaries help you feel safer with your partner? Embodiment practices can help. By being in your body and not just your head (the brain head, not the other one), you’ll learn what a YES truly feels like and what a NO feels like. In this episode, you’ll learn: How Heather set boundaries in a dating situation & how it worked out.Having sex more than you truly want to: Using sex for validation. Having sex early on so it’s not an issue. Getting sex out of the way.Sexual boundary issues often stem from a disconnect in your body. Your mind could be bulldozing your body specifically. The ability to tune into your body is important to all this. Ways you can practice: Do a body scan guided meditation. Do a sensual massage with your partner and notice where you feel relaxed, if you feel self-conscious or squeamish anywhere. Practice feeling your emotions in your body. Not being vulnerable enough. Working through fear and aversion. If it’s a safe space and you’re committed to showing up for yourself, it’s ok to push the envelope a bit.Resources Mentioned:GRAB YOUR HEALTHY SEXUAL BOUNDARIES CHECKLIST HERE!CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?Book a No-Pressure $1 Discovery Call LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:Heather’s WebsiteHeather’s InstagramJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupHeather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!REVIEWER PRIZES!!!Was it your review that was read on today’s episode? You get a free book bundle! Choose any 3 books from Heather’s Amazon Storefront and we will mail them to you. Reach out via email at [email protected] to claim your prize. If you prefer audiobooks instead, we can gift you a 3-month Audible membership as your prize.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Join Heather and her first ever guest, THE Black Burlesque Queen - Perle Noire, for a high vibe discussion on purpose, healing, sexiness, therapy, embodiment and intuition. Perle’s path to her current success and alignment is NOT a boring one and you’ll definitely want to listen in to learn from her Wild Wisdom and Passionate Purpose. The ladies discuss how to relate to your emotions in a healthy way, falling in love with yourself and not holding yourself back anymore.We’ll cover: Becoming Perle Noire (and not a crackhead) thanks to Intuition & The MoonTricked into prostitution, an understanding pimp & going to work at a castleFinding purpose & Perle realizing she’s the embodiment of Josephine BakerTouring the world with legendary burlesque performer Dita Von Teese for a decadeHealing Through Seduction & seducing yourself—including your trauma!Therapy, healthy boundaries & GOING FOR IT!!!Sensual self-care ritualsThe best place to learn more about Perle is through her Instagram. You’ll be able to see her workshops in action, hear from her and her students and get a sense for how she can help and inspire you! And Heather will even be making a guest appearance on Perle’s IG live soon! Visit her profile at instagram.com/theperlenoire.CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?Book a no pressure $1 consultation call LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:Heather’s WebsiteHeather’s InstagramJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupHeather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

As most of us have realized by now, sex education is sorely lacking in the US and most of the rest of the world! What we learn from most religions is a sex negative message—that there are a lot of rules about who you can have sex with, when you can have sex with them and what kind of sex acts are ok. Schools typically try to scare us into abstinence with talks about STIs and unwanted pregnancy. And then add in legislation in the US that targets LGBTQ people and women in a way that makes sex and love more difficult. It’s no wonder we’ve got some baggage around this topic, huh? If you’re ready to drop your sex-negative suitcases in the trash and relearn intimacy from a sex-positive perspective, listen in!In this episode you’ll learn:Ways in which Heather (and maybe you too!) experienced sex-negativity in her upbringingThe beginner’s mind: Wiping the slate clean of sex-negativityBuilding your own sex-positive belief set and putting it into practice. Self-Coaching Model of Life Coach School: How to apply thought work to create change in your sex lifeResources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDESelf Coaching Model - The Life Coach SchoolCURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a $1 consultation call Resources Mentioned:Life Coach School - Self Coaching Model (Thought Work)LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Do you really need to love yourself first before loving someone else? Self-love is one of the most talked about topics in the self-help movement and one of the most common things relationship coaches discuss on social media. Many of us identify as having self-esteem problems and that is actually be holding us back more! The problem is that constantly striving for self love, self esteem and a healthy body image reminds us we aren’t there yet. And thinking we need to keep working on ourselves before we can be in a healthy relationship can actually keep us stuck.In this episode you’ll learn:Why “self love” and self-esteem become an obstacle to the relationships we wantThe concepts of “no self,” and non-duality that Buddhism and Eckhart Tolle talk aboutBody appreciation: Changing your perspective on body imageThe ways in which “self love” can actually be helping us: self energy, inner security, self-care, genital love, masturbationHeather’s experience learning self love and self acceptance through accepting and loving others. The outside-in concept of self loveResources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageEckhart Tolle Video: The Direct ExperiencingLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Monogamy? Non-monogamy? Which is the right or wrong choice? Monogamy is still the default relationship style for relationships for most cultures in the world. But that doesn’t mean it’s the right one for you. Let’s question the default and shed some light on options so you can choose the right path for yourself and your relationships. Because the truth is there isn’t a right or wrong! It’s all about making it a conscious choice instead of an autopilot one. What you’ll learn:What is the default setting of your relationship style? Monogamy or Non-monogamy: What to choose? (A sex therapist’s experience)Exploring the different relationship paths that you can chose fromWhat people or couples should consider when diving into non-monogamous relationshipsShit can get real very quickly in a non-monogamous relationship. But at the same time, it promotes growth, open and honest communication, and positive change.And we can also bring a lot of conscious thoughts and concepts from non-monogamy into our monogamous relationships.  Resources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageEPISODE RESOURCES MENTIONED:YouTube Episodes About Monogamy & Non-Monogamy with My Friend Peter:Part 1 Part 2The Ethical Slut Book LET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Consensual sex is important because it allows partners to start a sexual encounter from a foundation of trust and respect. Everyone should have the final say in making decisions about their own bodies and sexual experiences.Not only does great communication about consent help to prevent sexual violence and abuse, it actually allows partners to relax and let go more knowing that they are safe. It's this letting go & freedom that make consent sexy AF.   What you’ll learn:The definition of consentWhy R.A.C.K. (Risk Aware, Consensual Kink) is importantWhy pestering and pressuring are not okayWhat to do when there’s pressure or pestering about sexFactors to consider with consent in longer term relationships Navigating consent when there’s a power dynamic involvedThe importance of enthusiastic consent regardless of genderResources:Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network - https://www.rainn.org/Resources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Attachment styles indicate how we attach to others in relationships and how we feel about ourselves. They therefore impact all our relationships and nearly everything we doAbout half the population has a secure attachment style. The other half has an insecure attachment style. Insecure styles include anxious attachment, dismissive avoidant attachment and fearful avoidant attachment. Attachment styles are not mental disorders and are not permanent labels. They are fluid and flexible and can evolve over time and with effort. In this episode, you’ll learn the characteristics of each attachment style and Heather’s tips on the healing process to become more secure in yourself and in your relationships. So listen till the end and enjoy!    What you’ll learn:What is attachment? How do we connect with other people in relationships?What are the feelings when you are in a secure relationship? How are the insecure types of attachment manifested in a relationship?Why does a dismissive avoidant person tend to be more independent?What are the characteristics of a fearful avoidant person?Why do the anxious types attract the avoidant types of persons?What do you need to do if you are in an insecure relationship e.g you are anxious, the other is avoidant?Heather's tip for people who have the avoidant, dismissive, avoidant relationship attachment style. (Why is it good to pace yourself at the beginning of a relationship?)What are the things that have helped Heather with the healing process and becoming more secure about herself in a relationship?Why is hypnosis a game changer when it comes to managing your fear of abandonment to showing more compassion to yourself?Resources:The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern You Are the One You've Been Waiting For (Internal Family Systems) by Richard C. Schwartz Grab your freebies hereFREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Sometimes, it’s your thought process that is making you resist the good things from happening in your life.  What you think, you create!  When we're thinking negative thoughts, we're going to feel negatively, as well. Our thoughts and beliefs can greatly influence our reality, and this can also apply to our experiences in sex, love, and dating.  This can include attracting a loving and fulfilling relationship, or improving the connection and intimacy in an existing one.In this episode, I will be giving my insights on how manifesting,  setting clear intentions and focusing on positive outcomes can help boost self-confidence and attract positive energy. So I invite you to feel curious and listen to the very end. What you’ll learn:What is the Law of Attraction and how does it relate to our thoughtsIf our thoughts are creating reality for us, should we then work better on our thoughtsMy personal story back during my college days, and how I was able to shift later on in life about how I think about myselfFind out what causes you to resist positive results in your life and how to get out of itHow do you practice manifesting something that you want? (...What are the results you want to create?) Resources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-page "Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill  EPISODE RESOURCES MENTIONED:How to Feel SexyThe Get Coached Model Guide from the Life Coach School Grab your freebies hereLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

I’ve definitely been there, and I’m guessing you’ve been there as well, when you haven’t felt really sexy. And that’s okay, that’s what we’re talking about today, how to feel sexy and feel yourself again. We’re going to go over a few different ways you can remove the obstacles to feeling sexy and get in tune with your body, with your energy and thoughts. So let’s get our sexy back again! What You’ll Learn: Where our definition of sexy comes from and how to redefine itWhy we need to be mindful of the media content we consumeHow past trauma affects how much we feel sexy and how to tackle itBack to basics - what taking care of our body really meansWhat your daily schedule has to do with feeling sexyThink of your sexual energy as a life force radiating out everywhere. Once you put some of the things we talk about in this episode into action, you’ll see the change in how you feel and how you show up. Yes, it may be hard work, but the reward is just immense and the skills you’ll develop along the way are going to make you unstoppably sexy!Resources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

One of the most common questions I get from clients is, how do we spice things up in sex? Answering this question is a bit more complicated than you would think. So today we’re going to dive deeper into how to avoid falling into a rut when it comes to sex, and how you can keep stoking the fire and keep seeing each other as sexual beings, especially if you are in a long-term relationship. Tune in and look out for the resources section! What We Cover:Ask yourself: what did you do when you were dating?How to keep the sense of independence in a long-term relationshipThe importance of creating safe space so you can explore new things in sexMindset shift that will help you expand your sexual creativityInspiring resources to get you and your partner excited about sex again Want more awesome ideas for venturing out of your sexual comfort zone? I developed a new quiz to help you spice up your sex life based on your personal preferences. Check it out at https://heathershannon.co/quiz.Resources:Make Love Not Porn FetLife Yes, No, Maybe ListWe Should Try ItSex, Love & goopHow to Build a Sex RoomFREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

The topic of today’s episode is low libido or sex drive. It’s one of the most common issues that sex therapists see in their practice. Usually, it’s either the partner who doesn't have much of a libido and you miss feeling connected to it, or you're totally fine not being connected to your sex drive, but your partner is not. If you find yourself under the dry spell or in a sexless marriage and you wonder what the heck is going on, today I’m going to unpack the most common reasons behind the low libido and what you can do about it.What You’ll Learn:Libido issue may be a quick fix, but it can also be complex and very holisticHow to get to the deeper aspects of libido issues using Internal Family SystemsMy own experience with low libido following a breakupThe brakes and accelerators of sex drives and how to discover your brakesResponsive and spontaneous desire and how to intentionally increase your responsive desire with “sexual reminders”  Accept your circumstances - it’s normal for things to slow down when you have kids, for exampleThe difference between high libido and “sex addiction” or “out of control sexual behavior”You’ll hear me often saying that I view sex drive and sexual energy as a life force energy. So, I invite you to get curious about it and check out my Mojo Magic guidebook for low libido at https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies Resources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageCome As You Are Worksheets — Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.Come As You Are WorkbookDaring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead - Brené BrownLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

What's your most fucked up idea about sex? This week, I'll talk about the myths, lies, and fucked up ideas about sex, people's sex lives, choices and preferences. I invite you to join me on a quest to rip off the negative labels our culture loves to cling to sex. I share my views on the health benefits of being sexually active, gender identity, BDSM and kink, sex work, and much more. What You'll Learn:What sex positivity and sex negativity are, and how they affect our behaviorSome benefits of sex that we are not aware ofWhich beliefs can turn sex into a choreWhy there is so much confusion about gender identityWhy people feel BDSM is scary, violent, or not a form of loving sexWhat options there are for those who think monogamy is not for themWhy most of us feel sex is bad and immoralAlmost all the information and knowledge we have about sex has been handed to us, whether by religion, cultural environment, the education system or our family. Most of us accepted them as the truth, and created a meaning and a purpose for sex based on those ideas. It won't do any harm to revise that knowledge, get curious, and build our own conception of sex and what it represents in our lives. Resources:Justin Lehmiller - Tell Me What You WantFREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

How much do you know about the clitoris? Do you even know how to find it?Today's episode is dedicated to the clitoris. I'll cut right through the noise and misinformation about this organ with only one biological function: pleasure. I explain how to find the clitoris, how it works, what it looks like, and what sensations it produces in the body. What You'll Learn:Why we need to know as much as we can about the clitoris What is the orgasm gap, and what has the clitoris to do with it?What the clitoris looks like and how to find itAre vaginal orgasms superior to clitoral?What you can do if you are having a hard time finding the clitorisEven after all these years, female sexual pleasure still has a sinful aura hovering over it. The taboo vibes around it and the difficulty of accessing reliable and educational content about it have catastrophic effects on people's pleasure and sexual experiences. A viable, simple, and extremely powerful solution is communicating with our partners about what they like, how they like it, and the best way to get there. Resources:Dr. Laurie Mintz - Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get ItEmily Nagosky - Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex LifeOMGyes.comFranny White - Pleasure-producing human clitoris has more than 10,000 nerve fibers3D Model of the Clitoris Exposes Pleasurable Female AnatomyFREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Do you see your partner as a good co-parent, a long time friend, a roommate, or anything but an attractive, sexual being? This week, I talk about what happens when the spark starts fading within a relationship. I invite you to rethink how attraction is built, to avoid falling into that kind of rut that says attraction is only physical, and explore new ways of feeling attracted and connected with your significant other. In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why it’s easy to lose attraction in a long-term relationshipA three-step plan to reignite or create the sexy spark in any relationshipHow to avoid looking at attraction not only as a physical thingThe importance of feeling sexy for yourselfHow being intentional and communicating what turns you on can improve your sex lifeWhy sharing your sexual energy is crucial to create a sexual sparkThe cornerstones of eroticism and how can they change your relationshipLosing interest in your partner sexually or feeling disconnected from them is expected in long-term relationships. But that doesn't mean it can't be prevented before it happens or reversed when it does. Resources:Book: Jack Morin - The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Mind-Unlocking-Sources-Fulfillment/dp/0060984287 FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

How aware are you of your emotions around sex? This week, I talk about the emotional rollercoaster that relationships, dating, and sexual situations can provoke on us. I'll approach this issue from the Internal Family Systems model, which will help you better understand why you feel the way you feel about sex, intimacy, and personal relationships in general. What You'll Learn:How managing your emotions can help you improve as a sexual beingWhat your emotions are telling you about how you feel about sexWhat your self-energy is and how you can tap into itManager, firefighter, and exile parts, and their job in Internal Family SystemsWhy it’s so important to recognize and be aware of your protective partsWhy it seems so hard to get out of your head and process your feelings Being comfortable with and aware of how sex makes you feel is an excellent self-confidence builder. It will also enhance your sexual experiences, because as you learn to process your feelings physically, your anxiety levels will go down and you'll get more and more out of your head and into your body during sex. Resources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Why is it that even when it could potentially be a deal-breaker for your partner, you avoid talking about sex?This week, I reveal why you find talking about sex so hard, how it affects yours and your partner's sex life, and how you can bring those barriers down. I also share tips on discussing sex with your partner, dealing with the natural awkwardness of discussing it, and caring for yours and their vulnerability. What You'll Learn:Why talking about what we are into in bed makes us feel so vulnerableWhy talking about your partner's performance feels like a hurtful thing to doHow to create a healthy conversations about sexHow to get in the right headspace for discussing sexHow to avoid getting social conditioning into our sex conversationsOnce you create a safe space where you and your partner can share what you're into, what turns you on and what doesn't, that space can only grow. As you feel freer to share how you feel about certain things in sex, you'll be more open to discovering, trying, and experiencing new things. Resources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDE - https://heathershannon.co/dirty-talkCURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:Website - https://heathershannon.co/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/askasextherapistJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717/?ref=share&mibextid=kdkkhiTwitter - https://twitter.com/HeatherAShannonYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!) - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoachLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/heather-shannon-7697235/This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Let's start with the basics - what turns YOU on? Not what society, culture or religion says should turn you on, but what makes you feel vibrant and alive?In this episode, I approach this question from four different layers. I invite you to think about and debunk the social scripts around sex, redefine foreplay, and broaden the definition of sex beyond intercourse or penetrative sex.   What You'll Learn:Why it is essential to be aware of what turns you onHow social scripts around sex interfere with your pleasureThe benefits of becoming more sexually self-awareWhat actually is foreplay?How to discover your sexual accelerator and sexual brakeHow broadening your definition of sex can be a gamechanger How can your partner pleasure you if you don't clearly understand what turns you on? Connecting with what indeed turns you on might require getting rid of social conditioning or ingrained beliefs about what is "normal" and "acceptable" in the bedroom. This is an excellent opportunity to question how you've approaching sex. Resources:Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life - https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1982165316/ Survey Reveals America’s Biggest Turn Ons - https://swnsdigital.com/us/2018/10/survey-reveals-americas-biggest-turn-ons/ FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDE - https://heathershannon.co/dirty-talkCURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:Website - https://heathershannon.co/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/askasextherapistJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717/?ref=share&mibextid=kdkkhiTwitter - https://twitter.com/HeatherAShannonYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!) - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoachLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/heather-shannon-7697235/This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Welcome to the Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast! This podcast will help you change how you look at sex. I'm Heather Shannon, a Certified Sex Therapist, Holistic Health Coach, and a Shambala meditation guide. I hold a Master's Degree in Counseling, but most of my knowledge and expertise comes from my lived experience, personal exploration, and constant seeking of knowledge. On this show, you can expect raw truth about pleasure and intimacy, how to enjoy your body and how to let go of any trauma, shame or stigma you might have about your sexuality, sexual expression or how you enjoy sex. If you are exploring non-monogamy, BDSM or kink, or feel that something might be wrong with your sexuality or that it is not as exciting as it used to be, then this show is perfect for you. It is also a space that celebrates diversity, a space that embraces all sizes, shapes, abilities, disabilities, races, religions, ages, sexual orientations, gender identities and relationship structures.  But this show is also for vanilla folks, sex workers, and those who might have judgment around sex or sexuality. Ask a Sex Therapist is not about being woke or cancel culture; it is a safe space where we respect each other's autonomy and personhood and learn from those who are different. Hop on and join me every week to remove the shame, conditioning and stigma around sex, and become a more conscious relationship partner.Resources:Grab Your Free Dirty Talk Guide: https://heathershannon.co/dirty-talk/Website: https://heathershannon.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherashannon/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HeatherShannonLCPC/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/HeatherAShannon YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoachLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heather-shannon-7697235/ This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp