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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... - The urge may be to talk your child out of thinking they're "dumb," but it can be helpful to stay with this feeling and lean into being curious about her experience. - How to zoom out and determine if your child is speaking out of frustration and is just emoting or if they actually have internalized that they think they aren't smart. - How to talk with your child in a way that helps build back their confidence in themself when they are struggling to learn something new, like reading. - We also want to try not to catastrophize this situation either - just because your child is saying this doesn't mean they will permanently have a poor self-image. - You can boost your child's self-confidence by feeling confident in their ability to handle the challenges they face. - How to get clear with your kid about what they think "smart" and "dumb" means, and building flexibility around those ideas. REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: 👉🏻 If you're interested in exploring whether your child could benefit from a Neuropsychological Evaluation, CLICK HERE to learn about what we offer at Upshur Bren Psychology Group or SCHEDULE A FREE CALL to learn more about the available resources for your unique needs. 📚 BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity by Ruth Whippman 🎥 Inside Out and Inside Out 2 WANT TO LISTEN TO MORE EPISODES ON THIS TOPIC: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about what to do when your child says "I hate myself" 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about learning styles and what the research reveals are the best methods for teaching children with Dan Willingham 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about the hidden dangerous and pressures of achievement centered systems with Jennifer Breheny Wallace WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

How can you honor who your child is while still equipping them with the tools they need to thrive in our fast-paced world? That's exactly what I'm talking about with my guest, McCourtney Professor of Child Studies and Professor of Psychology at Penn State, Dr. Koraly Pérez-Edgar. In this episode, we dive into: - What temperament actually is from a psychological standpoint (it's probably not what you think it is!) and the factors professionals use to measure and map it out. - What impact temperament has on the way sensitive, shy, or explosive children regulate their emotions and respond to their environment. - How parents can create opportunities for their child to become self-actualized and why focusing on self-actualization is the precursor to helping them achieve and thrive. - Inhibited versus exuberant - how finding the right niche for a child's unique temperament can define their success, even if it doesn't align with traditional expectations. - How to find that middle ground between pushing your child when they need a bit of encouragement and nurturing them when they need more support and scaffolding. Tune in for valuable insights that will help you navigate the complexities of parenting with more confidence and compassion! LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. KORALY PÉREZ-EDGAR: https://www.catlabpsu.com/our-team-1 CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 How understanding your child's sensory sensitivities can strengthen their emotional intelligence with Alyssa Blask Campbell 🎧 Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions (SPACE) with Dr. Eli Lebowitz of the Yale Child Study Center 🎧 Debunking the myth of learning styles with Dr. Dan Willingham

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... - How there is a lot of weight put on attending all the birthdays your child gets invited to, and hear us share a permission-granting reframe you can tell yourself when you feel that pressure. - How to work toward identifying the aspect of birthday parties that are overwhelming for your child - and what the most common triggers are (like transitions, loud sounds, lots of kids) to help you get started. - Why it actually makes sense that this is so hard for parents when kids struggle with birthday parties. What social stakes are at play, and how to balance those with what is best for your kid. - How to celebrate the birthday boy or girl in a manner that is more realistic for your child, but that allows them to still feel included and fosters their peer relationships. - What you can do before the birthday party to help prepare your child for what they can expect and how to navigate their dysregulation if they get overwhelmed once you're there. - Two psychologist-mom's recommendations of exactly how to respond (when to nurture them and when to push them) when your child gets clingy at a birthday party. WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SIMILAR TOPICS: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about understanding your child's sensory sensitivities with Alyssa Blask Campbell 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping your child form strong friendship bonds with Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about what you can do when your child experiences peer rejection in elementary school WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

I'm joined by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe to discuss effective discipline strategies and how to approach those tough parenting moments with warmth, compassion, and understanding - for yourself and your child. In this episode, we dive into: - The profound impact of coregulation and why it's a crucial first step we don't want to skip if we want the discipline and lessons we're trying to teach our kids to stick. - How to navigate those "bad behavior" moments by rethinking the entire framework of discipline (Spoiler Alert: It starts with a mindset shift to help you understand how there is actually no such thing as "bad" behaviors.) - The up-side of having a more sensitive, reactive, or explosive kid - and how to nurture their more sensitive side to bring out their best qualities and help them manage their big emotions so they are more in control of their behaviors. - The powerful role of connection in discipline, including how to create a safe space where your child can learn and grow, even in the midst of challenging behaviors. - Strategies for parents struggling to keep their cool, working through feelings of guilt or shame, and understanding that it's never too late to implement new parenting approaches. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by traditional discipline methods or wondered how to discipline your child in a way that strengthens your bond, this episode is for you! LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. VANESSA LAPOINTE: https://drvanessalapointe.com/ READ DR. VANESSA'S BOOKS: 📚 Discipline Without Damage: How to Get Your Kids to Behave Without Messing Them Up 📚 Parenting Right From the Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler Years INTERESTED IN LEARNING MORE ABOUT DISCIPLINE? Click HERE to download my free guide on effectively disciplining your child with strategies that don't utilize shame or guilt - but still work to get your child to behave! CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 Positive parenting isn't permissive parenting: How to integrate effective discipline that prioritizes emotional and mental health with Sarah R. Moore 🎧 How to move out of power struggles and into cooperation with Jen Lumanlan 🎧 Busting positive parenting myths to help you authentically foster secure attachment and connection with Raised Good's Tracy Gillett

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... - Who can assess, evaluate, and diagnose neuropsychological diagnosises like ADHD, dyslexia, autism, etc., and how to go about getting one for your child if you don't have a formal diagnosis yet. - The benefits of a comprehensive evaluation, when your child might not need such an in-depth approach, and how to determine which is right for your unique child. - Navigating the school support system and what they are required to provide for you and your child after you make a formal request. - The basic differences between an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) versus a 504 plan. ✨✨✨Want more details?: CLICK HERE to read a blog article that breaks this all down for you.✨✨✨ - What are soft-building services and how your child's teacher can implement these tools to help your child thrive. - It can be helpful for parents to work with an advocate in this process - this can reduce anxiety and to allow you to have a dedicated person with a deep understanding of this process and your child's rights to advocate on their behalf. - What to do when the recommendations from your child's evaluation don't correspond with the services your child's school provides - and when to bring in a professional to help translate this jargon for you. - Never apologize for advocating for your child! It can help you feel more comfortable and empowered to go into these meetings with action items and knowing what you're asking for. - Working to come together to create a collaborative environment with your school system, your child's teachers, and your mental health professional. REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: 👉🏻 If you're interested in exploring more personalized support options, reach out to us at Upshur Bren Psychology Group for a free 15-minute consultation so we can suggest a treatment plan for your unique needs. WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SIMILAR TOPICS: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about parenting a child with Autism with Dr. Lynn Kern Koegel 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping your child feel comfortable utilizing school supports without feeling self-conscious 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about creating a secure attachment with your neurodiverse child with Dr. Norrine Russell WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Is your child explosive? Do you struggle to keep your own emotions in-check, then feel guilty after you lose your cool? We're all working with the same equipment and understanding the basics of what is happening in our kid's brains and our own brains when we get dysregulated can have a huge impact on how often we're able to stay calm in the face of life's chaos. I am honored to be joined once again by Dr. Dan Siegel to explore: - The "window of tolerance" - what it is and how to use it to help you and your child stay grounded, even during stressful moments. - Dan performs a visceral Yes/No Exercise that listeners can follow along with to become a more effective regulator of your own threat response. - There is no such thing as being perfect, real secure attachment boils down to proper repair after you lose your cool. We cover the most effective strategies and tools for facilitating repair in your relationship with your child. - Everyone has innate temperament and personality traits (like sensitivity, intensity of their reactions, and their response to novelty), but do those proclivities become intensified by our attachment relationships? - How to apply these strategies to kids who don't fit the mold - who are sensitive, explosive, neurodiverse, or quick to become dysregulated. - Dan's views as a psychiatrist on how medication and clinical interventions can be properly used with children. - How to look at any diagnosis from the perspective of integration versus disintegration - and by looking at it this way, what that means for treatment. LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. DAN SIEGEL: https://drdansiegel.com/ A FEW OF DAN'S BOOKS FOR PARENTS TO GET STARTED WITH: 📚 Parenting from the Inside Out 📚 The Whole-Brain Child 📚 The Power of Showing Up 📚 No-Drama Discipline CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 The neuroscience of mindfulness with Dr. Dan Siegel 🎧 How to use mindfulness for ourselves and our children with Diana Winston 🎧 How to support your child's secure attachment even if you didn't grow up with it with Dr. Miriam Steele

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 3:49 - How a child's developmental ability to conceptualize time is different than adults' and how this gets in the way of them sharing our sense of urgency. 6:58 - Kids often have trouble transitioning to things they don't want to do, we'll talk through strategies for helping them tolerate this better. 8:10 - The difference between a bribe and a positive reward, and when to use each. 10:45 - How integrating moments into the routine that promote autonomy and help your child feel a deeper sense of control can make a big difference. 12:25 - How Dr. Sarah adds elements of playfulness and gamification into the routine with her own kids. 18:55 - There is a huge tradeoff to our kid's mental health if they are obedient because they are are afraid of us - but that doesn't mean it wouldn't make parenting easier. REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: ⏰ Kids Visual Timer or Sand Timers to help your child learn about time 📖 My FREE workbook with 6 games to help you incorporate playfulness while teaching your child emotion regulation skills WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS TOPIC? 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode that covers a 10-step framework for getting your child to change their behavior in just 3 weeks 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about what to do when your child doesn't listen to you 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about bribery WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

In this episode, I'm sitting down with hostage and crisis negotiator Karleen Savage to share practical strategies to help you manage conflict and family dynamics. In this episode, we explore: Crisis Negotiation at Home: How to apply professional conflict resolution techniques to everyday parenting challenges. Encouraging Accountability: A framework for structuring conversations with your child that fosters honesty, responsibility, and effective communication skills. The Role of Playfulness in Discipline: The surprising power of levity and humor in diffusing tense situations and helping kids learn from their mistakes. Mantras for Success: How to meet your children where they are emotionally, helping them navigate conflicts while feeling understood and supported. Building Resilience: Practical tips for creating an environment that promotes self-awareness, confidence, and problem-solving skills in your kids. Tune in to get tools you can use to turn conflicts into growth opportunities for your whole family! LEARN MORE ABOUT KARLEEN SAVAGE: https://www.karleensavage.com/ READ KARLEEN'S BOOK: 📚 The Confident Teen Blueprint CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 How to resolve conflict, prioritize our needs, and set appropriate boundaries with Dr. Rick Hanson 🎧 How to talk so your teen will listen with Elizabeth Bennett 🎧 Fostering deep, authentic and connected conversations with your kids with Rebecca Rolland

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 4:38 - What Dr. Sarah says about assertiveness skills that causes Dr. Rebecca to have a major eye-roll moment. 6:08 - The assertiveness skills that you can expect to see at different stages of your child's development - and how to allow these things to shift, change, and be fluid. 7:02 - Understanding what is happening in your toddler and young child's brain as they grow, so you can be mindful of leaning into patterns that create neural connections that can serve them best throughout their life. 11:15 - Exactly when and how to step in when you observe an interpersonal conflict that supports your child while still allowing them to build their own problem-solving skills. 16:15 - How to build assertiveness skills outside the heat of the moment. And why these can also impact skills related to sharing, flexibility, and resilience. 22:43 - Strategies for parenting in a world where we have so much access to always be monitoring our kids - when it's helpful and when it becomes a hindrance for us and for them. REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: 📚 All Mine by Terrific Toddlers WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SIMILAR TOPICS? 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping your toddler learn to share 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping your toddler feel seen, validated, and understood with the co-authors of the Terrific Toddlers series 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about having a healthy relationship with technology with Emily Cherkin WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Are you feeling overwhelmed with all the conflicting parenting advice out there? In this episode, I'm joined by Raised Good's Tracy Gillett to discuss how one simple guiding principle can serve as your parenting compass. In this episode, we explore: - How the attachment relationship comes into play when our kids are "pushing our buttons" and what we can do to decrease how often they test the limits. - What rupture and repair is and how this can be an underrated and incredibly impactful strategy to utilize in to strengthen your connection with your child. - The empowering mindset shift you need to start "breaking the rules" and trusting your gut, plus how to get past the anxiety that can come with making these decisions. - The single overarching question you can use as your guiding compass (spoiler alert: it's all about connection) to inform every single parenting question and choice you're faced with throughout your child's life. - The trap we can find ourselves in between authenticity and attachment, and how to help our kids avoid those same pitfalls we may have experienced in our own childhoods. - The misconception that you must choose between connection and discipline, and exactly how we can effectively discipline our kids. - Practical strategies for building your parenting toolbox, like how and when to "bank connection," where to incorporate playfulness, and much more! Whether you're new to parenting or looking to deepen your connection with your kids, this conversation will offer valuable insights and practical tips on how to parent with intention and authenticity. LEARN MORE ABOUT TRACY GILLETT: https://raisedgood.com/ REGISTER FOR THE FREE RAISED GOOD ONLINE SUMMIT: The 2024 Raised Good Online Summit LEARN MORE ABOUT TIMEOUTS AND EFFECTIVE DISCIPLINE: 📚 READ Tracy's blog post 🤳 DOWNLOAD my free effective discipline guide 🎧 LISTEN to my podcast interview with Sarah R. Moore CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 How to support your child's secure attachment even if you didn't grow up with it with Dr. Miriam Steele 🎧 How nurturing shapes our child's brain and sets them up for lifelong mental health with Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum 🎧 How to use the attachment relationship to help your toddler fall and stay asleep with Eileen Henry

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, me, and and a very special guest talk about... 2:48 - The changes a 5th grader, Henry, is expecting are in store for him before the start of a new school year and how he feels about them. 4:22 - What it feels like to meet new people and how a kid views making new friends. 5:13 - The one thing Henry thinks would help him feel ready for the start of school, and what he thinks all parents should know would help your own kids. 8:04 - The most helpful tools and strategies he uses that help him stay focused in the classroom and how he talks to his teachers to get them to understand why these things are useful for him. 11:05 - How he calms his nerves during the summer before he knows who his teacher is, the other kids who will be in his class, and what he can expect in the fall. 13:38 - What makes him feel supported most by his parents when a kid at school is mean to him and what Henry thinks are the best thing other parents can do with their own kids. 19:26 - Managing technology, navigating group texts, and what his group of friends do during their in-person hang outs. WANT TO LISTEN TO SIMILAR PODCAST EPISODES: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping our kids form strong friendships with Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about handling peer rejection in early adolescence with Dr. Emily Upshur 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about talking to your child, tween, and teen in a way that helps them truly hear you with Elizabeth Bennett WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Is potty training causing your stress or anxiety? I'm unpacking everything you need to know to help your child learn to use the potty with more confidence and ease. In this episode, we explore: - Readiness Signs: What to look for physically, behaviorally, and emotionally to know if your child is ready to start potty training. - Setting the Stage: What to do before you start potty training to create a supportive environment that encourages independence and reduces pressure around the potty. - How to Potty Train: Practical tips and personal stories of how to actually start potty learning once you've determined your child is ready. - Navigating Accidents and Setbacks: How to stay calm and empathetic during the inevitable ups and downs, and when taking a break might be the best next step. - Avoiding Common Pitfalls: Why reward systems might not be the best approach, and what to do to foster intrinsic motivation instead. Whether you're just starting or already in the thick of it, this episode offers you a compassionate and realistic approach to getting your child to start using the bathroom. CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 A conversation about pediatric pelvic health with Quiara Smith 🎧 How to use the attachment relationship to help your toddler fall and stay asleep with Eileen Henry

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 3:40 - As a culture, we don't often talk about the way the body works and it can be shocking for parents when we see our young child have an erection or explore what feels good to them. 4:50 - Finding that in-between space between understanding that this isn't sexual at this age and also acknowledging that this feels good. 7:38 - When, where, and how it's best to have these conversations with your child. 9:22 - Understanding that kids sometimes touch their private parts as a way for self-soothing can help you identify if they are doing that in public as a means to regulate and how you can support that need in a more appropriate manner. 13:55 - We don't want to infuse shame in exploring your body, but hand-in-hand with that comes addressing safe and healthy boundaries. 17:58 - Understanding the nuances of privacy. WANT TO LEARN MORE THIS TOPIC? 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about sexual abuse prevention and teaching body safety to children with Feather Berkower 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about raising your child to be sex positive with Dr. Holly Richmond WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

What if the key to unlocking your full potential lies in a part of your body that's often overlooked and misunderstood? This week we're diving into the transformative world of holistic pelvic care with Tami Lynn Kent. In this episode, we explore: Integrating Eastern and Western Approaches: The importance of integrating both physical therapy for the pelvic floor as well as energetic practices, like breath work and meditation to help women connect with their pelvic regions. Addressing Gaps in Female Healthcare: Highlighting significant gaps in female healthcare and the importance of understanding the anatomy of the pelvic bowl to empower women. Supporting Mothers: What it means to "mother from your center" and how to tap into this in your parenting. Feminine versus Masculine Energy: The importance of understanding and balancing feminine and masculine energy within ourselves. Practical Tips for Pelvic Health: Practical advice for integrating holistic pelvic care into your daily life, emphasizing the importance of tuning into your body and harnessing your innate wisdom. Join us for this enlightening episode as we delve into the vital topic of pelvic health and discover how to better support and honor our bodies. LEARN MORE ABOUT TAMI LYNN KENT: https://www.wildfeminine.com/ PICK UP A COPY OF TAMI'S BOOKS: 📚 Wild Feminine: Finding Power, Spirit & Joy in the Female Body 📚 Wild Creative: Igniting Your Passion and Potential in Work, Home, and Life 📚 Wild Mothering: Finding Power, Spirit, and Joy in Birth and a Creative Motherhood CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 Cycle syncing, restorative practices, and natural rhythms with Dr. Jessica Plancich Shinners 🎧 The neuroscience of mindfulness with Dr. Dan Siegel 🎧 Bridging ancient wisdom and modern science with yoga therapist Nicole Katz

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 3:02 - The combination of a child who loves eating and a mom's anxiety about how much she is eating can be tricky. 4:04 - Strategies for slowing down mealtimes to build your child's ability for "tuning into their belly" versus just enjoying the taste of the food. 5:29 - What types and methods of restrictions are appropriate and which ones do you want to try to avoid. 10:42 - Understanding what is your job as a parent and what is your child's job, from the division of responsibility principles from Ellyn Satter's work. 12:14 - Limiting foods that are highly enhanced to make the flavors so rewarding that hunger/fullness cues are easily drowned out by the desire for more dopamine hits. 16:51 - Zoom out and look at meals of the week versus each individual meal. 17:44 - If your child does eat too much and feels uncomfortable from being too full, that can help them learn too. REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: 📚 Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense, Revised and Updated Edition by Ellyn Satter WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT MEALTIMES AND FOSTERING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS TO FOOD: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about cultivating your child's healthy relationship with food with registered dietician & nutritionist Katie Thomson 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about picky eating and ARFID with Dr. Yaara Shimshoni 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about diet culture with Amelia Sherry WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Are you worried about your child's lack of motivation or their constant struggle to keep up? This week I'm diving into the complexities of child motivation with Dr. Ellen Braaten. In this episode we explore: 👉🏻 Impact of COVID-19: The pandemic's role in exacerbating motivational challenges and what we can do to combat it. 👉🏻 Attachment Myths: Common misconceptions about attachment and the importance of separating parental anxieties from a child's development. 👉🏻 Fostering Responsibility: Practical strategies for helping children develop a sense of responsibility and self-efficacy without excessive pressure. 👉🏻 Balancing External and Intrinsic Motivation: How to encourage intrinsic motivation in children while appropriately using external rewards. 👉🏻 Rediscovering Pleasure: The importance of integrating pleasure into daily tasks for both parents and children, and how it influences motivation. Join us for this enlightening and practical episode as we uncover the keys to unlocking motivation and supporting the well-being of our children! LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. ELLEN BRAATEN https://www.ellenbraatenphd.com/ GET DR. ELLEN BRAATEN'S NEWEST BOOK: Bright Kids Who Couldn't Care Less: How to Rekindle Your Child's Motivation CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 The hidden dangers of an achievement centric approach with Jennifer Breheny Wallace 🎧 Debunking the myth of learning styles with Dr. Dan Willingham 🎧 Is fun the antidote to burnout with Dr. Mike Rucker

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... 1:40 - A mental health professional can help you determine whether you should start with parenting support or individual therapy for your young child. 3:05 - Understanding the therapeutic support options available for young kids. 6:05 - Having a parent present during the beginning of sessions can help facilitate and strengthen a therapeutic alliance between the child and the therapist more quickly. 10:32 - What you can expect from parent-child dyadic sessions with a therapist - building trust, increasing frustration tolerance, containing emotions, strengthen your attachment, and more. 16:27 - Having a thorough and comprehensive intake is key for finding a treatment plan that is best suited for your child and your family's unique needs. 19:10 - It's okay to speak up, push back, and be an advocate for your child if you feel the support your receiving is not properly helping them. WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT PARENTING COACHING AND INDIVIDUAL THERAPY? 👉🏻 Click here to lean more about support options at Upshur Bren Psychology Group and to schedule a free 15-minute consultation call to learn more about the available resources for your unique needs. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Get ready for an enlightening conversation with Dr. Jessica Plancich Shinners as we explore the importance of cycle syncing, the science and art of care, and holistic health. In this episode, we delve into: Whole Mind-Body Health: Insights into the importance of caring for our minds, bodies, and spirit in an integrated and holistic manner. Biological and Evolutionary Perspectives: The natural caregiving instincts biologically hardwired in women and how leaning into these evolutionary traits can enhance our well-being. Menstrual Cycle Awareness: A comprehensive guide to aligning care practices with the phases of the menstrual cycle, harnessing its power to enhance physical, emotional, and relational health. Parental Guidance: Tips for educating ourselves and our daughters about the significance of our natural rhythms. This episode is packed with wisdom, compassion, and actionable advice for women and mothers looking to live a more balanced, intentional, and fulfilling life. SHOW NOTES: https://drsarahbren.com/222-cycle-syncing-restorative-practices-and-natural-rhythms-taking-a-holistic-approach-to-self-care-with-dr-jessica-plancich-shinners/ LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. JESSICA PLANCICH SHINNERS: www.fiercegraceconsulting.com GET JESSICA'S FREE CHART THAT SHE MENTIONS IN THE EPISODE: Cycle Syncing Workbook CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 The neuroscience of mindfulness with Dr. Dan Siegel 🎧 Bridging ancient wisdom and modern science with yoga therapist Nicole Katz 🎧 Is fun the antidote to burnout with Dr. Mike Rucker

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:00 - Love languages help us contextualize how we can attune in our relationships and that reminds us that what we need may be different from what another person needs to feel connected. 6:22 - Love languages is a simpler way to break down the principles of reflective functioning. 9:50 - Understanding the 5 love languages: Words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. 14:44 - How love languages can be applied to the parent-child relationship. 19:20 - What Theory of Mind is and how it can be applied in your daily parenting. 21:46 - Dr. Sarah, Dr. Emily, and Dr. Rebecca share their love languages and how they receive and give love in their own lives. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Joining me this week is researcher, entrepreneur, and dedicated father, Wynford Dore. In this deeply personal and enlightening conversation, Wynford shares his transformative journey from successful businessman to pioneering advocate for neurodiversity, sparked by his daughter's struggles with learning difficulties. In this episode, we explore: Uncovering the Root Causes: Groundbreaking research revealing that many neurodiverse symptoms stem from an underdeveloped cerebellum and how this understanding can change our approach to treatment. Holistic Brain Development: A shift from pathologizing symptoms to a holistic view of the brain, focusing on what is working and how to build on those strengths. Practical Applications: How targeted exercises can improve fine motor skills, eye-tracking, and other critical functions, transforming the lives of those with neurodiverse brains. Educational Insights: The current state of education for neurodiverse students, the importance of teacher support, and proactive, preventative measures to better assist these children. This episode is an essential listen for parents, educators, and anyone interested in the future of mental health and cognitive development. LEARN MORE ABOUT ZING PERFORMANCE: https://www.zingperformance.com/ GET WYNFORD'S BOOK: Stop Struggling In School: The Secret Brain Reset for Children with Reading, Learning or Behaviour Problems CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 ADHD and attachment security with Dr. Norrine Russell 🎧 How do I help my child with ADHD utilize school support systems without-feeling self-conscious? 🎧 Treating Autism with a strength-based approach with Dr. Lynn Kern Koegel

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:47 - "When something is challenging for you, watching a close counterpart (like a sister) breeze through it is very difficult." 4:39 - These reactions can be externalizing (like being mean to her sibling) or internalizing (like feeling bad about herself). 5:12 - To what extent is it the older siblings job to manage her younger sister's struggles? 6:32 - Conversations you can have individually with each child to understand their feelings and validate their experiences before your work to collaboratively problem solve. 10:55 - How to give them a path toward a resolution, so being an ally to each other isn't in direct conflict with their unique needs. 13:12 - Reminding yourself of what you can control and reframing your goal to be: "How can I help them each get their needs met without controlling their relationship with each other?" 21:14 - Dr. Sarah shares her personal experience of being bullied as a child. WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT PARENTING MULTIPLE CHILDREN? 🎧 How can I handle jealousy and sibling rivalry 🎧 Navigating sibling fighting 🎧 Transitioning from one child to two ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Join me for an enlightening episode as we delve into the complexities of parenting and relationships with couples therapist Dr. Marina Rosenthal. In this episode, we explore: Differing Parenting Styles: We shed light on the stress that arises when partners have different parenting styles, values, or standards and strategies for communicating so neither parent feels criticized. Navigating Conflicts: Practical strategies for couples to build insight into their parenting patterns, emphasizes that there are multiple good ways to parent and highlighting the importance of recognizing shared values despite differing standards. Managing Resentment and Communication: Tips on managing resentment and building a system that works for the family through effective communication and modeling healthy conflict resolution in front of your children. Balancing Control and Flexibility: The balance between maintaining control over parenting practices and allowing flexibility for different approaches, ensuring that children grow up in a supportive and resilient environment. LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. MARINA ROSENTHAL: https://www.drmarinarosenthal.com/ GET MARINA'S FREE RESOURCES THAT SHE MENTIONS IN THE EPISODE: https://stan.store/drmarinarosenthal CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 The parallels between couples and family therapy, my first conversation with Dr. Marina Rosenthal 🎧 96. Balancing the load of parenthood: Becoming a team with your partner-in-parenting with Lauren A. Tetenbaum 🎧 144. Couple goals: Unlocking the secrets to a thriving partnership as you parent together with Dr. Suzanne Burger

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:23 - The developmental appropriateness of independent play - it might not last as long as our culture might lead you to believe it should. 4:25 - To foster independence, you might have to first allow your child to be dependent on you. (And the psychology of how and why this actually works!) 7:05 - The difference between independent play versus "why can't they play quietly so I can take a phone call?" 10:12 - In our culture, we're often taught that we should always be engaging, stimulating, and entertaining our kids to help them reach their full potential. 11:40 - When we say "play" what we really mean is exploration and engagement and by understanding this, it shifts what we think our role is in this interaction. 12:30 - How to foster independent play with older kids if you didn't start building this skill from a young age. WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT PLAY? 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode with The Workspace for Children's Lizzie Assa 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode with Jennie Monness 🎧 Listen to our BTS discussion about enrichment classes and brain development WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT RIE (RESOURCES FOR INFANT EDUCARERS)? 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about using RIE with babies with Deborah Carlisle Solomon 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about evolving RIE into respectful parenting with Janet Lansbury ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

>>> Click here to download my FREE Mental Health Postpartum Checklist that walks you through creating a personalized mental health support system and allows you to feel more confident and relaxed, knowing you have a plan for whatever your unique postpartum experience may be. Joining me this week is clinical psychologist and the author of Rattled: How to Calm New Mom Anxiety with the Power of the Postpartum Brain, Dr. Nicole Pensak. Together we have an enlightening conversation that not only acknowledges the challenges of motherhood but also celebrates the incredible strength and potential it brings. In this episode, we explore: Matrescence: Understanding the profound transition into motherhood and its impact on the brain's neuroplasticity. Silent Patients: Recognizing the often-overlooked mental health needs of mothers and advocating for better support systems. (Plus, how to do that for yourself until society catches up.) Neuroplasticity as a Superpower: How the brain's adaptability can be harnessed for personal growth and improved cognitive functioning in mothers. Motherhood as a Normative "Trauma": Addressing the intense, transformative nature of motherhood and reframing it as a period of growth and strength Connection, Bonding, and Burnout: Practical tips for navigating the emotional rollercoaster of early motherhood, from bonding with your baby to managing the transition back to work. Tune in to learn how to navigate motherhood with self compassion, resilience, and empowerment. LEARN MORE ABOUT NICOLE: https://www.drnicoleamoyalpensak.com/ GET NICOLE'S BOOK: Rattled: How to Calm New Mom Anxiety with the Power of the Postpartum Brain INTERESTED IN LEARNING MORE ABOUT THE FIRST YEAR OF PARENTHOOD? Click HERE to sign up for my FREE workshop, Confident Parenting from the Start, to get tools and strategies that you can put into practice right away to challenge self-doubt, put an end to your panic-Googling, and finally find the ease and enjoyment in early parenthood!

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 2:15 - Catharsis theory, letting out our feelings of anger, frustrating, or rage with aggressive behaviors (that do not hurt others) can be beneficial. 3:20 - Does teaching aggressive behaviors, even socially acceptable ones like punching a pillow, lead our kids' brains to pair their angry urges with aggressive actions? 7:52 - Working to understand the root of your child's anger can inform how you respond to each unique situation and the strategies you teach them to tap into to regulate their nervous system. 14:18 - If you want to mitigate children pairing aggressive urges with aggressive behaviors, try offering them a wide range of coping strategies so that doesn't become their automatic, go-to response. 17:20 - Going through the full fight-or-flight response can prevent us from storing these negative emotions inside of our body. 20:13 - Finding the middle ground that works best for your unique family - not encouraging explosive behaviors while also not always repressing your child's (and your own) anger. REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: Additional podcast episodes on the topic of anger: 204. The science of "mom-rage" and how to use mindfulness as a tool for being less reactive with Diana Winston WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

We're diving into the complexities of raising boys during a transformative time in history with our special guest, Ruth Whippman. Ruth is an acclaimed author whose latest book, BoyMom, masterfully blends memoir, cultural critique, and reporting. In this episode, we explore: Brain Development: The differences in brain development between boys and girls, highlighting why baby boys need more intensive caregiving in their early months and how these differences impact emotional regulation and attachment. Cultural and Social Influences: Insights into contemporary boyhood, including the evolution of feminism, the #metoo movement, and the nature vs. nurture debate in the development of boys versus girls. Emotional and Relational Intelligence: The importance of teaching boys emotional intelligence and relational skills to mitigate the report of a loneliness epidemic that teen boys and young adult men are facing. Early Attachment Relationships: Understanding the importance of early attachment relationships and how they set the blueprint for future interpersonal skills and emotional well-being. Practical Parenting Strategies: Realistic advice for parents on how to foster empathy, emotional intelligence, and strong moral values in boys, moving beyond traditional gender norms. Join us for this enlightening and heartfelt episode as we delve into the essential work of redefining masculinity and creating a more emotionally inclusive world for our boys. LEARN MORE ABOUT RUTH: https://www.ruthwhippman.com/ GET RUTH'S LATEST BOOK: BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 02. Attachment theory and fostering secure attachment relationships 🎧 140. How understanding our child's sensory sensitivities can help us strengthen their emotional intelligence with Alyssa Blask Campbell 🎧 24. The psychology behind dysregulation with Cara Goodwin

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 2:49 - Sharing information in an honest and developmentally appropriate way is helpful for kids, so it can be empowering to tell your child the name of the diagnosis. 3:50 - Want to learn more about helping kids feel comfortable and confident taking advantage of school supports? Listen to the podcast episode we reference in this conversation. 6:24 - Suggestions for specific language you can use to speak to your child about a diagnosis. 9:54 - When is the right time to share this with your child who received this diagnosis as well as their siblings? 10:45 - It's important not to avoid talking about the diagnosis or the symptoms with your child, which can inadvertently communicate to them that we don't think they can handle it. 14:41 - If your child is older, how to bring up this conversation and repair anything that they may have inferred and encourage open and honest conversation going forward. 19:00 - How to support the non-afflicted sibling so they know it's okay for them to take up space and also help them feel empathetic for their sibling that takes up a lot of space. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

We're talking about pregnancy, fitness, and mental health! Joining me is Dr. Megan Roche. Megan received her medical degree from Stanford University, is the co-founder of the running coaching group Some Work All Play, and is currently pregnant with her second child. In this episode, we explore: Navigating Confusing Guidelines: We tackle the often confusing and sometimes scary guidelines around pregnancy and exercise. Megan demystifies the do's and don'ts and emphasizes the importance of balancing science with your own intuition to help you make the best decisions for your health. Mental Health and Exercise: Understand the profound connection between mental health and physical activity during pregnancy and throughout parenthood. Practical Movement Strategies: Realistic and relatable tips for incorporating movement into your busy life, especially for parents who often find themselves at the bottom of their own priority list. Community and Support Systems: Discover the value of having a supportive community, whether through social media, local groups, or friends and family, to help maintain motivation and accountability. Join us for this inspiring and informative episode that blends scientific research with deeply personal stories, all aimed at empowering you to stay active, healthy, and happy during pregnancy and well into parenthood! LEARN MORE ABOUT MEGAN: Megan Roche LEARN MORE ABOUT SOME WORK ALL PLAY: https://swaprunning.com/ LISTEN TO MEGAN'S PODCAST, SOME WORK ALL PLAY: https://swaprunning.com/podcast DOWNLOAD MY FREE POSTPARTUM MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST: ➡️ Interactive workbook to create your personalized mental health checklist CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 Preparing your mind and body for pregnancy, birth and postpartum with Brooke Cates 🎧 Bridging ancient wisdom and modern science with yoga therapist Nicole Katz 🎧 Addressing the crushing weight of parenthood: How to lighten the load in pregnancy and parenthood with Dr. Christine Sterling

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 2:10 - In June there is often an influx of "end of the school year" activities, performances, and events added on top of our already packed schedules. 5:32 - School is winding down, we're starting to feel energized by the thought of summer, but we're also still confined to the school-year schedule. 7:30 - Practical strategies to make the end of the year more streamlined and manageable with your partner in parenting. 9:21 - How to set yourself and your kids up for success and communicate with your kids' school and teachers. 11:30 - Leaning into your community for things like carpooling, logistical support, and strategically figuring out how as a group you can take some tasks off your plate. 12:36 - Evaluating and being flexible with your child's evening and sleep routine. 19:19 - Be open to reevaluating and revising the plan when things aren't going as smoothly as you might want. RESOURCES WE REFERENCE IN THE EPISODE: 🥱 In the episode I talked about giving my kids Hiya Kids Bedtime Essential vitamins. This isn't a sponsored product, I just really love this company. Check them out if you're interested, but make sure to always consult your child's pediatrician before you give them any supplements or medications. WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT GETTING ORGANIZED: 🎧 Listen to my podcast about how to implement systems and schedules with Chelsi Jo 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about dividing responsibilities with your partner with Lauren A. Tetenbaum ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

In this episode, sleep specialist Eileen Henry and I discuss a common challenge: how to get your child to make it all the way through the night in their own bed. Eileen helps us unravel this complex issue by addressing: Assessing the Situation: When to let it be and when to make a change. Understanding Motivations: Identifying whether the desire to reclaim your bed is for personal space, relationship reasons, or concerns about your child's development. Balancing Needs: The importance of ensuring everyone gets quality sleep and how this impacts overall family wellbeing. Setting and Holding Boundaries: Strategies to help your child transition to their own bed while maintaining emotional security. Attunement and Emotional Health: Teaching kids to recognize and respond to negative emotions in a healthy way. Practical Tips and Tools: Using physical boundaries like gates, incorporating dress rehearsals for bedtime, and the power of storytelling and play in easing transitions. Whether you're struggling with co-sleeping, managing separation anxiety, or just seeking better sleep for your family, this episode is packed with practical advice and compassionate support! LEARN MORE ABOUT EILEEN HENRY: https://compassionatesleepsolutions.com/ BOOK A CONSULTATION WITH EILEEN HENRY: https://compassionatesleepsolutions.com/free-consultation-process/ DOWNLOAD MY FREE TODDLER SLEEP GUIDE: 7 ways to help create a more peaceful and effective nighttime routine LISTEN TO MORE EPISODES WITH EILEEN HENRY: Navigating sleep with a baby The basics of toddler sleep CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL EPISODES WE REFERENCED: RIE (Resources for Infant Educarers) from birth with Deborah Carlisle Solomon Evolving the principles of RIE to grow into respectful parenting with Janet Lansbury Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions (SPACE) with Eli Lebowitz

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 1:50 - It's very developmentally typical for toddlers to have trouble with sharing and also there are things you can do to encourage and build this skill. 7:25 - At 2.5 years-old, kids will likely need an adult to narrate and also facilitate the sharing so they learn how it's done. 11:40 - Kids can become territorial at this age, so it can be helpful to have playdates at neutral places, like a park or a playground. 13:40 - When you see your child start to get territorial, try to see this as an indicator that they need to take a break rather than a cue to teach them the importance of sharing - that can be done later, when they are more regulated and in control. 16:47 - To build the skill of sharing, it's helpful to break this down into smaller tasks like tolerating frustration, setting healthy boundaries, and perspective taking. 19:30 - We also want to be mindful not to encourage our kids to share without any limitations or we risk them feeling compelled to become more of a people pleaser. WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT HOW YOU CAN PARENT YOUR DAUGHTER SO SHE DOESN'T BECOME A PEOPLE PLEASER? Listen to the podcast episode we reference in this conversation ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

When a child is born, so too is a mother. In this episode, we'll explore this metamorphosis and how the abrupt shift into motherhood can shatter our former identity into many different parts (and why that doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing). Joining me is Rebecca Geshuri and Jessica Sorci, the brilliant creators behind The Mothercentric Approach, which blends Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy with maternal mental health. Rebecca and Jessica will help listeners understand IFS and how "parts work" can be vital for mothers. By acknowledging and accepting these different parts, mothers can begin to heal and integrate them, forming a more cohesive and balanced sense of self. This integration can shift how we feel about ourselves and how we show up as parents, leading to a more compassionate and effective approach to motherhood. LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MOTHERCENTRIC APPROACH - FOR MOMS: https://www.mothercentric.com/for-moms LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MOTHERCENTRIC APPROACH - FOR PRACTITIONERS: https://www.mothercentric.com/for-practitioners

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 2:27 - Reframe your goal from being about maintaining the specific friendships to be about maintaining the social skills your child has acquired over the school year instead. 4:13 - Using summer as your child's opportunity to get to try something new and allow them to explore different parts of themselves. 6:26 - If a child has struggled in the past, the friendships they have may feel precious and fragile now, and that can make kids and parents alike feel anxious that this might go away. 10:12 - It's helpful not to measure your child's social success based on their age and encourage them to have friends who are a year or two younger, if that they are lacking some social skills. 14:43 - Tangible tips you can implement to support your child's social skills and encourage their building and maintaining deep friendships. 19:10 - Having a plan-b with a singular person activity can be helpful for your child to have in their back pocket to play with if they struggle to join into a social group. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Reduce stress around mealtimes and help your child be more flexible with what they eat! Joining me today is Dr. Yaara Shimshoni, a clinical psychologist and a clinical assistant professor at the Yale School of Medicine, Child Study Center. We'll explore the complexities of Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) and its distinction from typical picky eating. Yaara will detail how this severe eating disorder impacts children's health and social lives, and offer practical strategies for parents to reduce stress around mealtimes, encourage flexibility in eating habits, and break the cycle of accommodation that often exacerbates these issues. Plus, we'll help parents take the guiding principles of a therapy approach called SPACE (Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions), and learn how to apply it with kids who are showing more normative picky eating challenges, that are not clinical, but still can be frustrating and exasperating for parents to navigate. LEARN MORE ABOUT YAARA: Yaara Shimshoni WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SPACE, CHECK OUT MY INTERVIEW WITH THE CREATOR, DR. ELI LEBOWITZ: Listen to the episode

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 1:53 - What "positive parenting" really is from a psychological perspective. 4:20 - Our child's development is not always linear, it's important to consider their regulation level and other situational factors when we set our expectations of them. 5:20 - As parents, we're often more triggered when our elementary-aged and older kids exhibit "bad behaviors." 7:19 - How to have a productive conversation with your child to pregame, collaboratively problem solve, and reflect on hot moments together once they are back in a regulated state. 9:10 - For older kids, you may need more structured behavioral interventions beyond just validating emotions and reflecting their feelings back to them. 14:17 - How to tailor your parenting approach to your unique child, rather than just accepting universal parenting strategies that may not be a good fit for you and your family. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

From neurological changes during pregnancy to the demands of parenthood, we explore the science behind "mom-rage" and how mindfulness can help rewire our responses. Here to help us explore the meaning behind anger, the difference between reactivity and responsiveness, and practical steps to navigate mom-rage with grace and understanding is Diana Winston. Diana is the Director of Mindfulness Education at UCLA's Mindful Awareness Research Center and is the author of The Little Book of Being: Practices and Guidance for Uncovering Your Natural Awareness. Whether you're a parent struggling with anger or simply curious about the transformative potential of mindfulness, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tools for navigating the complexities of parenthood and curating a mindfulness practice amidst the chaos of daily life. LEARN MORE ABOUT DIANA WINSTON: https://dianawinston.com/ DOWNLOAD THE UCLA MINDFUL APP FOR FREE GUIDED MEDITATIONS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ucla-mindful/id1459128935

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... 3:10 - What you can be on the lookout for to alert you to the fact that you are (or aren't) properly attuning to your child. 5:10 - Strategies to help parents attune to children whose cues and signals are harder to read and understand. 9:36 - Focusing on a granular moment can lead to confusion for parents, but zooming out can help you be more accurate in your understanding of what your child needs. 13:16 - Being a "good enough" parent is not just something we must settle for, it's actually scientifically-proven to be beneficial and necessary for a child's healthy development. 16:58 - Moments of misattunements help our child learn that there will be imperfections in their interpersonal relationships, which is an important life lesson. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Are we asking the wrong questions when it comes to our kids' screen usage? In a world where technology isn't going away, the right questions may be less about time limits, access, and controlling their behaviors and more about how we can build a child's internal regulation system and rewire the reward center in their brain and body that screens are designed to hijack. Joining me to offer a paradigm shift for the way we approach technology with children is somatic educator and therapist, Alé Duarte. Alé emphasizes the importance of going beyond mere behavior management and equipping children with the tools they need to override the algorithms designed to keep them glued to their screens. Whether you're a parent, therapist, educator, or caregiver, this episode offering you strategies for approaching technology through the lens of neuroscience and psychology is one you won't want to miss! LEARN MORE ABOUT ALÉ DUARTE: https://www.aleduarte.com/ RESERVE YOUR SPOT IN HIS TRAINING SERIES, SCREEN MASTERS: Live Classes start on Thursday May 23, 2024

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 2:04 - There are many dilemmas parents often face that can be seen inside of this listener's question: Weighing the pros and cons of whether staying at home or going to work is the best for you, your child, and your unique situation. If you do choose to use childcare, what type is most ideal for your child. And finally, addressing the struggles surrounding your child's potential separation anxiety. 3:58 - There is no right or wrong answer to any of these questions. 7:05 - This decision shouldn't only be about your child. It's also important to ask yourself: What is best for me? 7:58 - This decision doesn't have to be permanent - if it's feeling overwhelming, you can reframe this to be what is right for me and my family right now. 12:30 - Weighing between sending your child to daycare, bringing in a nanny, or staying home with your children. 15:06 - Even if you are a stay-at-home parent you can add in opportunities for your child to learn to trust other caregivers and to experience separations. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Our past experiences shape our present behaviors and patterns, but by working toward healing our inner child, we can make meaningful shifts! Jennifer Nurick joins me to discuss a profound way to approach healing by integrating many treatment approaches, including attachment theory, Internal Family Systems, EMDR, somatic psychotherapy, and more. In this episode, we explore practical strategies for healing past traumas and nurturing inner and outer secure attachments through "parts work." Plus, Jennifer shares poignant examples of how this work translates into real-life interactions, especially in the realm of parenting, where attunement and repair are crucial for overall mental health and well-being. LEARN MORE ABOUT JENNIFER: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/ READ JENNIFER'S BOOK: Heal Your Anxious Attachment: Release Past Trauma, Cultivate Secure Relationships, and Nurture a Deeper Sense of Self INTERESTED IN LEARNING MORE ABOUT ATTACHMENT SCIENCE? Click HERE to download my free guide, The Four Pillars of Fostering Secure Attachment, helping you parent with a focus on attunement and trust.

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 2:25 - Awareness and acceptance of the situation is your first step. 3:30 - Whether or not your ex is a narcissist, if you don't feel your co-parent is able to properly support your child emotionally, these strategies we offer will apply for all of those situations, too. 5:54 - Finding the delicate balance between not projecting your own feelings or "bad-mouthing" your co-parent to your child, while also not white-washing your child's feelings or gaslighting them either. 8:01 - How to use reflective functioning to help empower your child to cope when they are resistant to wanting to spend time with their other parent. 13:50 - Intentionally adding in elements for fun and delight in your own interactions with your child to help create security in your relationship. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Navigating the complex terrain of youth sports while promoting positive body image and mental wellness! Joining me is Zoë Bisbing, a psychotherapist specializing in body image and eating disorders and the creator of Body-Positive Home. In this episode, we emphasize the importance of creating secure attachments from the start, laying a foundation of resilience that can withstand diet-culture and societal pressures. We delve into the challenges faced by children in aesthetic sports, discussing the delicate balance between encouraging our children's passion and weighing the potential risks to their physical and mental well-being. Tune in as we explore the intersection of resilience, body positivity, and parenting, and discover practical ways to cultivate a nurturing environment where all bodies are valued and celebrated!

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 1:48 - A tantrum is a behavioral expression of emotions that feel to big to express in a productive manner. 2:25 - Tantrums typically tend to start around one-year-old and petter out by about 7. 6:37 - Try to compare your child to their own emotion regulation development and not compare them to another child. 9:37 - It's helpful to track the intensity, duration, and frequency of your child's tantrums - because our memories of these high stress times can often be flawed and being able to look at a log is very helpful. Click here to download my FREE OBSERVATION TRACKER to help you log these behaviors over the course of a week and work to change it over the course of 3 weeks. 14:10 - The red flags you should be on the lookout for that might mean there is something abnormal with your child's tantrums. WANT TO TAKE THIS TOPIC EVEN FURTHER? CHECK OUT THESE BOOKS, PRODUCTS, AND RESOURCES: HELPFUL BOOKS: The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune In to Your Toddler's Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, PhD Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids by Mona Delahooke, PhD Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral Challenges by Mona Delahooke, PhD ON-DEMAND COURSE FOR COMBATTING TANTRUMS: Learn exactly how to reduce the frequency, intensity and duration of your child's tantrums in my self-paced course, The Science of Tantrums. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Discover how you can use food to teach your children about acceptance, tolerance, and the beauty of cultural diversity! Joining me is Priya Krishna. Priya is a food reporter and video host for the New York Times and the bestselling author of multiple cookbooks including her new kid's cookbook, Priya's Kitchen Adventures. From redefining what constitutes a "kid recipe" to navigating picky eating habits, in this episode, Priya shares practical tips for making food playful, fun, and educational. Her mouthwatering recipes will offer you an easy entry point to teach your kids to embrace diversity and expand their palate, one delicious bite at a time.

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... 3:10 - Resilience and distress tolerance is baked into being a younger sibling. 5:31 - When you have the bandwidth to slow down to allow your child to foster their independence, try to lean into those moments. 7:32 - We often expect our youngest to keep up with our oldest. 8:43 - Unpacking the guilt we often feel about parenting multiple children. 11:09 - How to be "transparent about the triaging" we're doing and why we're doing what. 15:20 - How to shift these strategies to apply to younger children and help toddlers adjust to having a new baby sibling, too. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

This week my conversation about finding the beauty in life and learning to accept the inevitability of death with Rabbi Steve Leder continues. Along with being the Rabbi at Wilshire Boulevard Temple in Los Angeles Rabbi Steve Leder is the author of five books, including The Beauty of What Remains and his newest book, For You When I Am Gone. We're discussing how to answer your kid's questions about the afterlife, the best and worst things to say to someone who is grieving, how to model for our kids the power of showing up in the face of loss, and how to accept and embrace the non-linear process of grieving. This two-part episode will offer you tangible tools for infusing your daily life with even more meaning, purpose, and a profound sense of connection.

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 2:46 - Travel days can be free-for-alls when it comes to kids and screens - and that's okay. 7:10 - Incorporating a "brain break," a "snack break," and a "reading break" into your travel routine. 10:29 - Context switching can be difficult for children and is often something we need to help them build skills for, rather than expecting them to just be able to do it on their own. 12:08 - Dr. Rebecca shared some reflections of her own vulnerable parenting moments in real-time - sharing how even this conversation was kicking up feelings of shame and defensiveness, and how she worked through them. 16:14 - How to be kinder to ourselves and make mindset shifts when things don't go quite as planned. 20:58 - Modeling appropriate screen use can be one of the most effective forms of teaching (but we don't have to do it perfectly all the time to still have an impact!) ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Having to explain and help our kids process and grasp the concept of death, whether in a moment where it affects them personally, or simply as a concept as a whole, can be a particularly challenging conversation for parents to navigate. Joining me is Rabbi Steve Leder. Along with being the Rabbi at Wilshire Boulevard Temple in Los Angeles, he is the author of five books, including The Beauty of What Remains and his newest book, For You When I Am Gone. Whether you're seeking guidance on how to discuss life and death with your children or trying to come to terms with your own mortality, my hope is you walk away from this episode feeling a deeper understanding of how the very presence of death can make for more beauty in life.

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 4:00 - Using screens when YOU need a break is absolutely okay and you shouldn't feel any shame or guilt around doing this! 5:05 - The difference between television and a tablet in regard to your child's development. 8:40 - How to separate your own anxiety and fear mongering around screen time so you can be educated and intentional about your child's use of technology. 9:30 - The cost/benefit of giving your child a tablet versus you keeping them off of a screen and then feeling so burnt out that you lose your cool and yell at your child. 13:03 - Ask yourself, "are screens decreasing your stress or adding more to it?" 16:38 - What the research reveals about how screens impact executive function development and the development of attention span. 18:55 - The difference between independent screen time versus interacting with screens together with your child. Additional podcast episodes for how you can build your child's ability to engage in independent play: Fostering independent play and a love of learning with Lizzie Assa The Wonders of play with Jennie Monness How play could be the key to mental health and well-being with Mike Rucker ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Delve into the transformative power of storytelling across the spectrum of parenthood, identity, and navigating life's challenges. Joining me is award-winning journalist, speaker, and the author of Stop Waiting for Perfect: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone and Into Your Power, L'Oreal Thompson Payton. L'Oreal sheds light on the often-overlooked struggles faced by black women navigating infertility, and the importance of representation in storytelling. From grappling with postpartum depression and anxiety to challenging societal norms surrounding motherhood, L'Oreal offers valuable insights into embracing imperfection and finding strength in authenticity. INTERESTED IN LEARNING MORE ABOUT THE FIRST YEAR OF PARENTHOOD? Click HERE to sign up for my FREE workshop, Confident Parenting from the Start, to get tools and strategies that you can put into practice right away to challenge self-doubt, put an end to your panic-Googling, and finally find the ease and enjoyment in early parenthood! WANT TO TAKE YOUR LEARNING EVEN FURTHER? Join me in The Authentic Parent, my comprehensive self-paced course that takes my workshop to the next level and teaches you everything you need to know (that no one tells you ahead of time) for how to confidently move through your first year of parenthood.