ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

The time is right and you are ready to make love to your spouse. You've been romancing each other and it's your time to initiate sex. There are certain rituals that you both may have before you make love. These may include, but not limited to... Dimmed lights Light candles or turn them on Warm the bed (turn on electric blanket) Turn up the heat Turn on the sound machine Take a shower Essential oil diffuser On the other had what you do afterwards also plays a part in your sexual intimacy. You may... Hurry up to get the towel or the sheets are going to get dirty. Aren't the sheets already dirty? Jump up and out of bed to get cleaned up or you may bask in the joy as you cuddle. No matter what time it is or what may be coming up you take a shower to clean off. There's also the do we put clothes back on or sleep naked. Both the before and after sex rituals are an area that need to be looked at and discussed in your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the many rituals that can take place before and after sex because there's a lot more happening than just the physical act. EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Scheduling Sex & The Intimacy Lifestyle Where Are Your Priorities The Truth Shall Set You Free Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you first met your spouse there was this time when each of you were each others priority. You made sure that you spent time together and if something got in the way you'd reschedule that obligation. As time has past the priorities of life have now take over. Instead of making sure you and your spouse have time together it's everything else that takes priority. Is this the way you want to live your life and marriage? We don't think so because you are listening to this show. It's time to take action, pick one specific change, that you want in your marriage today. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of choosing your priorities instead of letting your obligations dictate your life. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Strategic Coaching with Alisa DiLorenzo Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There’s a reason that things are so good at the beginning of a relationship... Both you and your partner are putting forth effort into making the relationship work, into learning all about each other, and being on your best behavior. Then comes the ring, the wedding and life: kids, bills, obligations and the two of you... well you get relegated to the back burner. All those little things that were so important in the beginning don’t seem so important as the two of you have the stability and commitment of the marriage. The reality is a different story though. When you don't invest in your marriage and get back to basics this is a recipe for disaster. Why? Because your spouse's need to know that they are valued and desired. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about going back to basics and the importance of continuing to do what you did at the beginning of the relationship to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

To tell the truth or not to tell the truth? That is something you may ask yourself when talking to your spouse. It's something that seems so minimal and yet it can have a huge impact on your marriage foundation. There are topics that are not always easy to bring up to your spouse. Topics that can make you feel uncomfortable or “fudging” things a little bit. The reality is that you aren’t “fudging” things you are destroying your foundation. When you and your spouse are able to tell the truth and be open with each other that is when your marriage begins to grow. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how and why it matters that you tell the truth when you are talking to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR – The Perfect Love Letter Checklist When you grab The Perfect Love Letter Checklist you will receive 5 simple steps to never get stuck on what to write about, discover the secret ingredients to craft the perfect love letter, no matter how uncreative you think you are, exactly what to say to make your spouse melt every time, and how to deliver your romantic letter in a way that will WOW your spouse. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Divorce Is Off The Table Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

the book 50 Shades of Grey has become the most successful erotica book ever to be written. It's a #1 Best Seller with over 100 million copies sold. In it's path it has left many who have read it yearning for more in their marriage. The problem is that you feel let down and unsatisfied with what you have. Erotica, the written form of pornography, impacts you as much as someone who is viewing naked pictures on the internet. The hold erotica has on you, your mind and how you view your spouse are as detrimental. It's time to realize that if you desire more in your marriage then it is time to ditch the erotica so that you and your spouse can experience true sexual intimacy. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about a women’s dirty little secret...also known as erotica. EPISODE SPONSOR – How to Argue Less (in 2 Minutes) Stop Bickering With One Simple Movement. It Really Is This Simple, Try It And Be Amazed... You'll instantly learn how this One Simple Movement can breaks the tension and changes your body language as it diffuses the situation in a LOVING and respectful manner. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you choose to only have sex when your kids are away or when everyone is, can be limiting in terms of when the two of you can be sexually intimacy. Giving yourself permission to have sex when the kids are home can be liberating. Your kids are not going to die if they find out that their parents have sex. In fact, they might just feel a bit more secure about their family knowing that their parents are choosing to be sexually intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to become more comfortable having sex when the kids are home. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse... forever. Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine The Sex Talk Blueprint Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Delayed ejaculation is a condition in which it takes an extended period of sexual stimulation for a man to reach sexual climax and release semen from the penis. There are times when a man will not achieve climax as well. There are three causes to why you may be experiencing delayed ejaculation during sexual intercourse. These include physical, psychological or medicinal. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about delayed ejaculation and the physical as well as the emotional ramifications this can cause for a couple. ***Please note that Tony and Alisa are not medical doctors. Nothing in today’s show is medical advice. Should you have an ongoing issue please seek out help from your medical professional. EPISODE SPONSOR - Stop the Bickering in Your Marriage Learn a simple, easy strategy that will stop escalation in its tracks, spare your marriage of tons of unnecessary stress and drama. This strategy is proven to work with our coaching clients virtually every time. Download this free report. It's pure, no-fluff, actionable information. Once you read it, you can apply it within minutes! Includes an easy-to-use 6-point checklist to help you stay on track. Stop Premature Ejaculation with the Ejaculation Trainer He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates sooner during sexual intercourse than he or his partner would like. It's a time when you can feel embarrassed and/or lacking as a man. The ability to extend sexual pleasure is directly related to your manhood and premature ejaculation doesn't make you feel this way. The moment after this happens is a critical time between you and your spouse. What the two of you do, how you react, and where you go from here are all important as you process the situation. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the physical as well as the emotional ramifications of premature ejaculation. ***Please note that Tony and Alisa are not medical doctors. Nothing in today’s show is medical advice. Should you have an ongoing issue please seek out help from your medical professional. EPISODE SPONSOR - Stop the Bickering in Your Marriage Learn a simple, easy strategy that will stop escalation in its tracks, spare your marriage of tons of unnecessary stress and drama. This strategy is proven to work with our coaching clients virtually every time. Download this free report. It's pure, no-fluff, actionable information. Once you read it, you can apply it within minutes! Includes an easy-to-use 6-point checklist to help you stay on track. Stop Premature Ejaculation with the Ejaculation Trainer He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are many things competing for your time, attention and energy and yet you want to have the best marriage you can possible have. Being over committed, busy and overwhelmed is not healthy for you or your marriage. When you have too many things to do or too many things vying for your attention (no matter how good they are) you tend to place less of a priority on your relationships. They are good for the most part, but you want a great marriage! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it can be important to say no to good things so that you can say yes to great relationships. EPISODE SPONSOR Give us 30 minutes and we will give you a sexy body you’ll love to share with your spouse. It’s time to take your life back, look and feel fantastic, and be the spouse and parent you and your family deserve. Thrive90 Fitness was designed specifically to take you by the hand and lead you to the best shape of your life while keeping your family first – guaranteed! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

An orgasm can enhance your sexual experience for yourself and your spouse. However, an orgasm shouldn’t be the ultimate goal of every sexual encounter. The experience of being together, of sharing that time and space in your marriage bed, that is the ultimate goal of your sexual intimacy. Your sexual encounters are about bringing the two of you together in a way that is only for you two. When it’s not all about achieving an orgasm you can find yourself with mind blowing sex. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why having an orgasm is a special part of the sexual experience but not the ultimate goal. EPISODE SPONSOR Give us 30 minutes and we will give you a sexy body you’ll love to share with your spouse. It’s time to take your life back, look and feel fantastic, and be the spouse and parent you and your family deserve. Thrive90 Fitness was designed specifically to take you by the hand and lead you to the best shape of your life while keeping your family first – guaranteed! The Joy of Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many marriages have experienced broken trust in some form or another. Everything from little white lies, financial wounds, infidelity and addiction impact the trust you have with your spouse. Hiding the truth and not owning up to your actions prevents trust from being experienced between the two of you. After many times of this happening it's difficult for your spouse to believe you when you say, "Trust me". It's natural to want to paint yourself in a pretty picture or to fudge what really happened so that your spouse won't be angry, sad, disappointed or frustrated. The problem is that this does not rebuild broken trust! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about when trust is broken and the first steps needed to begin rebuilding that trust with your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Thrive90 Fitness Program Give us 30 minutes and we will give you a sexy body you’ll love to share with your spouse. It’s time to take your life back, look and feel fantastic, and be the spouse and parent you and your family deserve. Thrive90 Fitness was designed specifically to take you by the hand and lead you to the best shape of your life while keeping your family first – guaranteed! He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you get under the sheets and sleep naked with your spouse there are a number of benefits that both of you will experience. There are three ways you will benefit from getting under the sheets and sleeping naked. You will experience health benefits (think hormones), better sleep as well as both physical and sexual benefits. Take on the challenge of sleeping naked and experience the connection you'll have with your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the benefits of sleeping naked for both you and your marriage. Join us on February 20-22, 2015 for the Refresh Retreat at the Courtyard by Marriott in Liberty Station for a marriage retreat that will enrich and strengthen your marriage and relationship with God. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We had sex before marriage. Probably like you or someone you know. It's really between a couple and yet there seems to be someone always pointing a finger at you for doing so. You cannot change what you did prior to getting married and yet you can learn from the past to better your current situation. Having sex before marriage can impact you and your spouse or maybe it hasn't. Either way there are lessons learned. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about why sex before marriage can leave you both emotionally and sexually unsatisfied. Join us on February 20-22, 2015 for the Refresh Retreat at the Courtyard by Marriott in Liberty Station for a marriage retreat that will enrich and strengthen your marriage and relationship with God. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Intimacy Reignited: Bring Back the Spark in Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've been there before... whether after a large Thanksgiving meal or a meal where you ate too much and need to take a long rest after. It’s that time when the food coma sets in. That period of time when you check out and don’t do anything. When you have pushed yourself past the point of no return. Where you can’t really do anything because your resources are depleted. Food coma is one thing and yet similar to it is a marriage coma. Unlike a food coma where you knowingly eat more than you should a marriage coma is a bit different. It happens slowly where one or both of you starts to check out of the relationship. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about how often a food coma (think after Thanksgiving dinner) can also play out in your marriage. Join us on February 20-22, 2015 for the Refresh Retreat at the Courtyard by Marriott in Liberty Station for a marriage retreat that will enrich and strengthen your marriage and relationship with God. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Intimacy Reignited: Bring Back the Spark in Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Being thankful for your spouse and your marriage is something that you may or may not think about often. Each year we love to share what we are thankful for in our marriage and lives. It's a way for you to listen in, get ideas and then do this with your spouse. Really this should be done monthly and yet if not this is a great time to start. Share why you are thankful for your spouse. Grab a notepad and write down the reason. Share them face-to-face, on a note, or text one reason a day until you are finished. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why it is important to share what you are thankful for with your spouse. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The different situations you will have sex for the "first times" as a married couple are important to acknowledge. The truth is that there are many firsts over the years as you may not have even recognized them. Each first is a time to connect with your spouse sexually at a new level. These times can deepen your desire for one another as you begin to fully enjoy your sexual experiences. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the "first times" you have sex in different situations that you may encounter during your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR - #TakeAction T-Shirts “Taking Action” is more than just two words out of the dictionary. Those words mean everything. #TakeAction has made all the difference in our lives as well as the lives of countless couples that we've helped over the past 5+ years. Now, it's time to take it to the next level, and that's what #TakeAction is all about! 21 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As a married couple the way you choose to combine your finances is going to play out in your relationship. How it is combined (or not), how it is spent, how it is saved, as well as other factors impacts the two of you. Finances do not and cannot exist in a vacuum in your marriage. This is an area of your marriage where the two of you need to become one so you can experience financial peace. This is one intimacy that should not be avoided, rather it is an area that you and your spouse need to be completely transparent. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about creating financial peace no matter where you are in your marriage. How to Write a Romantic Love Letter That Will Make Your Spouse's Heart Sing 25 Christmas Gift Ideas for That Special Married Couple Dealing with the Financial Friction in Our Marriage Financial Peace by Dave Ramsey EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the hustle and bustle of the holiday season it is so easy to lose sight of one another. Between holiday parties, buying gifts and making sure everything gets done you often find yourself putting your spouse at the bottom of the to-do list without even realizing that it has happened. Unfortunately, every day that goes by without connection, without investing in your relationship can make it harder on both of you to reconnect. On your wedding day when you both said, "I Do", you didn’t say those words to be the second or third or fourth priority in your spouse’s life. Choosing other activities or other people over your husband or wife, lead to feelings of alienation, despair, and lose. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the power of creating an intentional interruption in your life and marriage. An interruption that will change your marriage for the better for years to come. [FLASH SALE] The 7 Days of Sex Challenge Kindle Edition… The 7 Days of Sex Challenge is for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. Get yours now: http://www.7daysofsexchallenge.com Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When tears are withheld and emotions are stuffed down inside of you this is a recipe for disaster over time. Stuffing it down again and again lead to frustrated people. Frustrated people lead to angry conversations and than more hurt. As a society and more specifically as married couples you need to make your marriage a safe places to cry. A place where you can release your emotions to be real with our spouses. It’s time to STOP living the lie that stuffing it down is the way to go. In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about the power of tears and how crying can help you be emotionally connect in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are many benefits to touch that have been studied over the years. They range from increased levels of oxytocin to lower blood pressure as well as an increase in overall connection. Physical touch that doesn't lead to sex is important. It's something that you should be doing in your marriage for your benefit and that of your spouse's. Three ways you can have non-sexual touch are when you hug, cuddle or even sleep naked with you spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about making physical intimacy a priority because touch is important! EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Woman's health may have an impact on your marriage when the time comes for a mammogram, ultrasound or when sterilization is brought up. These are just a few of the health procedures your spouse can have. The emotional toll these may take can lead you both feeling drained and on an emotional roller coaster. Through effective communication you can get through these woman's health issues together. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the challenges of this woman's health and how you can support your wife during these times. EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether you are celebrating your first wedding anniversary or your fortieth, this is a time to celebrate the good times you've had together. It's a time to look back over the past year and then look forward to what's ahead. Make it a day where you celebrate one another and your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about celebrating those good times on that annual milestone in your marriage, your wedding anniversary. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path "Love You Guys" Wall of Fame EPISODE SPONSOR Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Pornography is becoming the drug of choice for many individuals. It's easy to conceal, doesn't cost as much as alcohol or drugs, but gives them the same euphoric high that they enjoy. Unfortunately, pornography in marriage is destroying the sexual intimacy that you desire. The sex is not what it used to be, your spouse has become withdrawn, or you may not be getting straight answers from your spouse. These are just a few indications that pornography has permeated your life or of someone you love. It's time to realize that the pornography "problem" is a pornography addiction that needs to be addressed NOW! In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about when you or someone you love says that they have a “problem” with pornography when in reality it’s a pornography addiction. The Bondage Breaker The Porn Antidote: God's Secret Weapon for Crushing Porn's Grip, and Creating the Life and Marriage You Dream Of Project Know: Understanding Porn Addiction EPISODE SPONSOR Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Common courtesy is something that you know you should extend to your spouse and yet it's not happening. It may be because you allow your spouse's actions to dictate if you will be courteous or not. The thing is that true common courtesy should not be a reaction but instead a heart attitude. This means that you say "please" and "thank you", you call to let your spouse know that you are running late, and even ask what can you can do for your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact you can have on your marriage when you use common courtesy with your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your job as a parent is to have your children for a season in your house. While they are there you must equip them with the tools that they need to leave your house and live on their own. Being your child's savior, rescuing them and providing for all of their needs and wants impacts three generations. These three generations could be impacted for the positive or for the negative. You get to decide. In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact of continuously putting your kids ahead of your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fear or worry can stop you in your tracks when it comes to moving forward in your marriage. Events in the past, words spoken or unspoken, or what may happen leave you feeling helpless. Fortunately for you love is great than fear. The love you have for your spouse can overcome the fear that is holding you back. It's time to push past the fear. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact fear has on your marriage and your intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other, Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You and/or your spouse may struggle with how to be vocal and speak up during sex. There isn't a one-size fits all, but there are a few different ways that you can speak up. Vocalization during sex is one way to encourage your spouse during sex. Both of you share in the enjoyment and excitement. Incorporate any of these and you will transform your sex life as it brings another form of communication to your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the different ways you can speak up and vocalize your satisfaction to your spouse during sex. EPISODE SPONSOR Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other, Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There will come a time when you will come to a point in your life when you feel depleted, whether it is because of circumstances at home, at work, with family or health. At some point you are going to run out of steam and hit the wall. Your marriage is great when all is running smooth and yet it is what you do in those times when you bonk. You will either push through and let your ego take over, you may freeze up to ask your spouse for help, or when help is offered you'll accept it so you can heal. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what happens when you are doing great in your marriage and then it happens…you bonk. You are complete depleted of all energy to move forward in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other, Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your spouse gives you advice that is unsolicited you may become defensive toward them. It's times like these that you need to check yourself and understand where they are coming from. Advice that is given in love without complaining or grumbling could very well be one of the most important things you can do. When you do this you show your spouse that you value them for seeing something you may not have seen. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about listening and taking advice given in love from your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other, Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You are uniquely made as there is no one else on this earth that is like you. Even though this is true, you have a personality type that can be learned to better understand yourself and your spouse. The Ennegram with it's nine personality types is a tool that should be used by you so that you can grow in your life and marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how personality types impact perception when it comes to the high desire spouse and low desire spouse. Wisdom of the Ennegram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types Understand Yourself, Understand Your Partner: The Essential Ennegram Guide to a Better Relationship Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Intimacy Lifestyle at it's core is about being able to set specific days that you initiate sex and the days your spouse will initiate sex each week. It's also a fantastic way for the both of you to not put off sex to another time, but to make it a priority in your marriage. By having days where both of you initiate sex it ultimately brings you closer together. There will be times though when both of you or one of you is not tracking. We can totally relate because we have been there. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what happens when there is a lack of clarity on which days you are to initiate sex. You don't dump all that you have accomplished, instead you communicate what can be done better moving forward. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy In Your Marriage He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In your marriage the vulnerability you experience sexually with your spouse can be a challenge. Trying any position outside of the missionary position feels uncomfortable. For you it may be that the missionary position is efficient. Your spouse does this, you do that and wham bam it’s all done. You’re on your way and the next thing on your to-do list. Or maybe it’s routine. No need to think outside the box and complicate things. Your go-to position works so why rock the boat and change things up. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why it's important to try new positions in your marriage. As they talk about the vulnerability you and your spouse face when trying new sexual positions you will gain insights on how you can add some to your marriage bed. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Taking Charge of Your Fertility 31 Days to Great Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are many ways that you can connect with your spouse. The way that you do this depends on where you are and the time you have scheduled for each other. You may even FaceTime your spouse if you are traveling or away from each other. FaceTime is important in many ways as you get to experience more than just their tone of voice. The same goes for us here as our main way of connecting with you is through emails, phone calls or voice mail. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why the FaceTime they had with couples at FlameFest as well as the Meetups in the Midwest were so important for them. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Low libido due to stress can be frustrating to you and your spouse over time. You want to have a libido that is ready to go and yet the stress you endure has impacted you. This may be a phase or it may be going more prevalent due to work demands, family or other issues that you face. Stress has a direct impact on you libido because there is an increase in hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine (adrenaline). The increase of these in your body can also interfere with the hormones involved in your sexual libido. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share how stress has impacted their libido over the years. Even though this has been the case there are ways that they have continued to make their sexual intimacy a priority during these times. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The words you never thought you'd hear in your marriage, "I want a divorce", have been uttered by your spouse. They hit you as if you slammed into a brick wall and at that moment you're back against the wall. Your mind is flooded with all the reasons why this is happening to you right now. As you get your wits together you begin to recall all the times you've been asked to make a change. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why you need to DO SOMETHING when you're back against the wall. It's time to take some serious action toward a better tomorrow. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Meetup Initial 30 Minute Consultation He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You are constantly sending your spouse facial expressions. When things are going well you give a smile, bat those loving eyes, as well as radiate joy. When things aren’t going as well those facial expressions are not positive. From grunts, to the raised eyebrow, the looks of frustration and irritation. You send out these messages expecting that your spouse will make a change. Unfortunately, sending out those messages OVER and OVER and OVER again doesn't have the desired effect you expected. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share what happens when the man in the mirror, YOU, look at what you can do to make change in your life. The change that happen will leave a legacy for you and your family for years to come. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Instagram - Bizzaro Comics Michael Jackson - Man in the Mirror Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your marriage is pushed to the bottom of your priority list you can sense a disconnect with your spouse. Our priorities have been messed up in our marriage as well. Kids are one of the biggest reasons that your marriage has a lack of priority. How do the two of you expect to grow your marriage and your relationship if you don't put yourselves at the top. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what your priorities are when it comes to who should be at the top of the list in your life. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Meetup Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Summertime is here, the kids are out of school, and learning is the last thing on their mind. Unfortunately many of you have taken the same attitude in your marriage. School has been out for awhile now. You know what you know about your spouse and you don’t need to learn anything more. We can relate this to the high school senior that has stopped studying after receiving their college acceptance letter. No need to work hard now that the prize has been obtained. When it comes to your physical intimacy you got that acceptance letter long ago. And yet you may be frustrated, are experiencing a drift, or have stopped talking because you don’t know how to say what’s going on with you and your body. The arguments starts and the learning stops. On this week's show Tony & Alisa share the importance of continued learning when it comes to your physical intimacy. Each phase of life and your marriage is going to be a time for both of you to go "back to school". This is a time to learn what physical intimacy means. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Meetup 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Summer is a time when your sexual intimacy can take a back seat. There is no down time for you and your spouse with the kids home. The thought of having sex during the summer is the last thing you even think about. We’ve been there! The awkward moment when you hear the footsteps in the hallway. A knock on the door at an inopportune time. Or you're having a fantastic love making session and the kids hear you. Oh, sex during the summer has it's own challenges. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share ways that you and your spouse can make sure you are sexually intimate when the kids are home for the summer. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you participate in activities that are going to impact you, your spouse and your marriage these are not good choices. These choices don't foster trust, nor do these choices bring the two of you together. In fact it’s just the opposite. Knowing what to do so you don't make these choices is half the battle. It's the actions you take daily that allow for growth in you and your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share how the choices you make can be detrimental for you and your marriage. These choices have not been forced upon you, these are decisions you have willingly made. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Tour | Columbus, Indianapolis & St. Louis - July 2014 He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How many times have you had a conversation with someone about their marriage and heard, “Well, we’ve been married (insert number of years) years", as if that’s all their marriage is about. The longevity of their relationship means so much more instead of the quality of their relationship. We've been there too. When it comes down to it you can be married 6 months or 50 years and yet it's about the quality of that time together that matters. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share that it's more than just about the number. You need to do SOMETHING if you want your marriage to be more than just a collection of numbers. It's time to get in the game and make it happen Bring Back the Spark: 5 Ways to Rekindle Your Sexual Intimacy Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Foreplay is an opportunity for the two of you to mentally and physically get in the same place before intercourse. It's a time when you are brought into the present with your spouse as you enjoy one another without the distractions of your daily lives. During foreplay the two of you have time to love on each other in anticipation of what is coming up. And yes, both MEN and WOMEN need and desire foreplay. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important for you to explore what foreplay looks like for you and your marriage. Bring Back the Spark Live Online Workshop The Joy of Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

These nine words, "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You", when said in your marriage are a sucker punch to the stomach. They convey that you or your spouse are no longer willing to put forth any effort into the relationship. "In love" is really about the idea of being in love with the ideal spouse. Loving your spouse is love on a whole other level, it’s knowing what they look like when they don’t have any makeup on or when they have had a rough day at work. It’s honoring the vows that you took when things were good and also when times are challenging. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do so "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You" will not be uttered in your marriage. If they have been don't worry because they have been there too. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In your every day life you see the world and all that is around you in shades of grey. On the other hand you look at your marriage and there is only black and white, it's either all good or all bad. Your perception is that if your marriage isn't in one of these extremes then there is something wrong. Well, that place in the middle is where you want to be. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important to live your marriage in the middle instead of living as if it is all good or all bad. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you get engaged and become newlyweds you get lots of advice from family and friends. They want you to start your marriage out on the right foot and yet the advice usually given is the same ole thing. After hearing, "don't sweat the little things", "hold hands all the time" and "be there for one another", for the hundredth time you want more. You're an engaged couple or married now and you know that marriage isn't going to be as easy as this. This week Tony & Alisa share the things they would share with an engaged couple or newlyweds about what they should know about being married. Listen in and learn what you should know to make your marriage extraordinary! Stop Living Your Marriage Like It's a 30-Minute Sitcom Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

At some point in time you have been interrupted while trying to have sex with your spouse. It’s not always the kids that interrupt you, but maybe a phone call, an alert on the phone or a knock at the front door. When interrupted there is a break in the connection you are experiencing with your spouse. It's the "Ughh! Interrupted Again" moment. What do you need to do to get back to being intimate after you've been interrupted. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share a recent time when they were interrupted. Learn what you can do to reengage with each other so that you can enjoy the love making session that got interrupted. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Live Online Workshop Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you leave your marriage bed and begin to sleep in separate beds it can be the beginning to the end to your physical as well as emotional intimacy. Separate beds lead to separate lives and an up hill fight to keep your marriage together. What is it that has happened to you and your spouse that you would sleep outside of your marriage bed? Both of you need to take time and look back at why you even started down this path. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important to face your problems head on in your marriage. Stop running away to another room and sleeping in separate beds. Flame Fest Chicago: July 10-12, 2014 Gain Insights Into ONE Challenge You Face in Your Marriage X3Pure - End Your Addiction to Porn Today Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you allow you marriage to be stagnant for any amount of time you become distant from your spouse. This leads to a disconnect between the two of you and ultimately you become strangers. Be aware of the signs of stranger danger. It's a point where you or both of you are no longer able to recognize the person you married. You can reconnect again! This week Tony & Alisa share how you can put protections into your marriage so that you will not have to worry about stranger danger. Flame Fest Chicago: July 10-12, 2014 Connect Like You Did When You First Met Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your sex life has simple become a physical act that you and your spouse are doing it's time to evaluate what's going on. The quantity of sex you have each week or month is not a complete barometer of your relationship. Sexual intimacy is only one of the six forms of intimacy that the two of you should focus on to build a strong marriage. These six intimacies are vital to a marriage based on transparency, honesty & trust. This week Tony & Alisa share why you should make sure to not only look at how much sex you are getting each month. Instead begin to grow closer together where the quality of sex gets better and better over time. You, Your Spouse & Sex Audio Workshop He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You want spontaneous sex and you want it often and yet do you even know what spontaneous means? Dictionary.com says that spontaneous is: coming or resulting from a natural impulse or tendency; without effort or premeditation; natural and unconstrained; unplanned. How often is this happening in your life? Expecting to have spontaneous sex seems a bit unrealistic as you have many activities in your day-to-day that are planned. What we have come to realize is that you are not looking for spontaneous sex, but rather CREATIVE SEX. Sex that is not the same every single time you slip into bed. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share what you need to do to change your mindset from spontaneous sex to one where the creative juices flow freely in your marriage bed. You, Your Spouse and Sex Workshop 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices