ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

It’s time to change how you view forgiveness. Learn about the destructive nature of unforgiveness and what happens when you let forgiveness into your heart. | "When you hold onto anger and unforgiveness you can’t move forward." —Mary J Blige FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn about making time for the two of you as a couple, why you need to do this and where you can find those precious moments. | "The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Because when you are giving your time you are giving a portion of your life that you can never get back." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you want to create an extraordinary marriage, it starts with one question and only one question...What Can I Do? | "It’s easy to blame others when things are broken. The hard part is recognizing the part you played in it all." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn about transitioning from one season to another and how you can make the next season the best ever in your marriage. | "There will come a time when you think everything is finished. That will be the beginning." —Louis L’Amour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn how you can heat things up in your bedroom by playing some sexy games together. | "Just play, have fun, enjoy the game." —Michael Jordan FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn what happens when you are faking your happiness during the holidays, in social situations and with your spouse in the bedroom. | "Saying you’re happy isn’t the same thing as being happy." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn what comes after you complete the 7 Days of Sex Challenge and how you can continue to grow and strengthen the physical intimacy in your marriage. | "I didn’t come this far to only come this far." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn how you can rock your sex life and change the dynamics in your marriage in just seven days. | "A lot could happen in a week. Just look at the last one." —Julia Quinn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn about the impact being thankful has on your marriage and how you can increase your gratitude awareness any time of the year. | "When I started counting my blessings my whole life turned around." —Willie Nelson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn about those special marriage hacks that you can do to make this the most amazing holidays you will celebrate with your spouse. | "It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way that you carry it. "—Lou Holtz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn about the impact you have on yourself and your spouse when you moan and verbalize your pleasure during sexual intimacy. | "There’s nothing more exciting than hearing your spouse moan in pleasure and knowing you are responsible for it." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Over the last 399 shows you have meant a lot to the ONE Family. And this show is all about you as we share hugs from near and far! | “Remember to celebrate milestones as you prepare for the road ahead.” —Nelson Mandela Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The slippery slope of having a work spouse is real. Learn what you need to do to put guardrails around yourself and marriage to protect yourself. | "Most people involved in emotional affairs will downplay the seriousness of the event by claiming that they are just friends or it’s not big deal, nothing happened." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Thanksgiving and Christmas are almost here. Learn what you can do to get on the same page with your financial intimacy as the holidays approach. | "Planning for Thanksgiving and Christmas should take place months in advance. They are not a surprise." —Dave Ramsey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn what to do with those feelings you have when you are rejected or when you reject your spouse and what you can do to create change in your marriage. | "Rejection doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough. It means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer." —Sam Keen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You spoke your vows on your wedding now now learn what you can do to honor those words you spoke through tough times and good times. | "You come to love not by finding the perfect person BUT by learning to love an imperfect person perfectly." —Sam Keen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A woman's period happens every month. Learn how you can stay connected physically and emotionally when it’s that time of the month in your home. | "A great marriage is made of two people who continuously put their vows ahead of their feelings." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The truth is that we spend so much time being exhausted that often we don’t even realize that it’s impacting our marriages. | Survival mode is supposed to be a phase that helps save your life. It’s not meant to be how you live your life. —Michele Rosenthal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn how the vibrator might be a crutch for your sexual intimacy and what it might look like to consider a different path. | "Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great." —John D. Rockefeller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you find yourself in a place where you can’t do anything right OR thinking that your spouse can’t do anything right your marriage has a big problem. | "Why can’t my spouse see just how much I am trying." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Pull out the lubricant and get ready to enjoy some special one on one time together. | "...friction is likely to generate heat instead of progress." —George Eliot Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Creating drama can hurt your marriage. Learn what you can do instead to build up, strengthen and support one another. | Don’t start drama and then say you hate drama. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The two of you can handle the storms in your marriage while becoming united in your commitment to one another like never before. | Relax. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are living and learning. Forgive yourself and grow from the experience." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Should an orgasm be the ultimate goal for you and your spouse every time you have sex? | Once your learn to appreciate the small victories there is no need for a finish line. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stop looking down at your phone. It's important to know where your eyes are looking and the message that they send to your spouse. | I love the look you give me when you really want me." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn what you can do now to make your marriage better tomorrow, next week and for years to come. | It’s not about being the best. It’s about being better than you were yesterday. —Anonymous | Subscribe to the show today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn the different ways to let your spouse know what you like about your sexual intimacy in the bedroom. It's worth every word. | We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve. —Bill Gates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn what you can do to be sensual and how you can share these ideas with your spouse. | Being sensual in your marriage doesn’t end on the honeymoon, your marriage needs all 5 senses working throughout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn the responsibility and impact a father has to give sound advice to his children on living a marriage for years to come. | Son, don’t cheat. I’ve had plenty of opportunities over the years but it’s like this...why would I go out for a hamburger when I have a steak at home. —Carmen DiLorenzo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn why foreplay is a powerful skill you need to know as you lead up to intercourse. | Go down a water-slide without any water and you will understand why foreplay is important. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn a number of different date ideas you can enjoy so your marriage doesn’t take a vacation during all your summer fun. | Remember the tans will fade but the memories will last forever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn how your commitment to marriage is the ultimate marathon with an unknown finish line. | Your marriage vows say for as long as life shall last NOT until you get tired or you don’t want to anymore. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You are not just waiting in vain. There is a purpose behind every delay. —Mandy Hale | Learn about the reasons why he can’t orgasm and how the two of you can get through this together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your life does not get better by chance it gets better by change. —Jim Rohn | Learn how you can have mind-blowing sex and surprisingly it has very little to do with the act itself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you take everything personally, you will remain offended for the rest of your life. What other people do is because of them, not you. —Vivian Benson | Learn what happens when you are offended and how to work through offense with your spouse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Each generation will reap what the former generation has sown. —Chinese Proverb | Learn how to break free of those negative parenting behaviors that have held you back from having the extraordinary marriage you desire. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Honor the space between no longer and not yet." —Nancy Levin When you are married, transitions don’t only affect you, they also affect your spouse. Transitions can impact the different intimacies in your marriage. Marriage is full of transitions: First house First baby Moves Job changes Job losses Taking care of kids Taking care of your parents One income Two incomes Kids becoming adults And the list goes on You can seemingly be going along thinking... "Ah, life is good, we’ve got everything figured out", then BAM transition comes. Or, you’re planning for a natural transition, kids growing up, buying a house, moving and yet, no matter how much you plan for it, there are still situations in that transition that catch you off guard. Everyone handles transitions differently. Some people jump right in, put their blinders on and power through whatever that change is. Some people can become paralyzed with all of the decisions that have to be made, they can feel helpless in those seasons, not knowing which way is the right way to go and so they withdraw from doing anything. For some, transitions feel very uncertain, and there is a high level of fear. For others, the transitions may be unwelcome or unplanned and there is a high level of anger or sadness. All of these reactions will impact you and your spouse. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can navigate life, work and other transitions you will face together as a team. EPISODE SPONSOR | HelloFresh HelloFresh is the meal kit delivery service that makes cooking fun, easy, and convenient! Each week HelloFresh creates new delicious recipes with step-by-step instructions designed to take around 30 minutes. For novices to seasoned home-cooks who are short on time HelloFresh sources the freshest ingredients, measured to the exact quantities needed so there’s no food waste. Take $30 off your first week of deliveries when you enter promo code OEM30. Other Resources: 140 - Scheduling Sex Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Never stop showing someone how much they mean to you." Over time you have lost the anticipation and excitement of your relationship. Your marriage has become something you have to tolerate, something you have to survive or make it through. For some it's like the song from the Righteous Brother’s “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling”. You may have lost that loving feeling and you're wondering on what to do next. Do you remember when the two of you were courting one another? There was anticipation and excitement when you would spend time together. During your courtship both of you invested in the relationship by getting to know one another, spending time together and being intentional about your time together. You prepared and thought about the other’s needs. You planned for dates, conversations, and everything else. It wasn’t just “anything goes” rather it was a season of “let me put my best foot forward. After the honeymoon and many years together your lives fall into routines. You have a comfort level with one another and if you are really truthful with yourselves you've become lazy in your marriage. Time together has not been important, you don’t do the little things anymore, you've stopped having conversations that meant so much when you were courting one another. You're beginning to hear these phrases more and more: This is too much work. You’re too needy. Why won’t you spend time with me? It's time to get those loving feelings back by courting your spouse like you did when you first meet. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can have those loving feelings of affection and connection with your spouse once again. EPISODE SPONSOR | StoryWorth StoryWorth is an amazing way to preserve memories and to learn about your spouse, mom, dad or any relative or friend with their responses. Each week StoryWorth will send your loved one an email with a question to be answered (you can either choose from the questions provided or come up with your own). At the end of the year, the stories will be printed into a hardcover book. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to capture life’s most treasured moments. Grab your subscription to StoryWorth today! Other Resources: 3 Marriage Tips From A Pageant Coach Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Never be afraid to try something new BECAUSE life gets boring when you stay within the limits of what you already know." The first sex challenge we completed happened 9 years ago in the fall of 2008. We had been married 11 years and these years were not the best years. Two kids ages 2 and 5 years old had taken up much of our times We lived as roommates with little to no intimacy. It was at this time that we decided to take on the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. A bit crazy... Yes. Worth it... Absolutely. We had no idea at the time what would happen in our life when one question was asked and the one answer was given. The same thing is true in your marriage. There are so many pivot points in a relationship. So many times when you could go left or right, working with each other or working against each other. We made one decision, 9 years ago, to make sex a priority in our marriage, to go from living like roommates to living like lovers, to being open about our sexual needs and to being transparent in the bedroom, and out of it Your marriage can experience the same. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what can happen in your marriage when the two of you take on a sex challenge. EPISODE SPONSOR | CanvasPeople.com CanvasPeople.com has a very easy to use Photo-to-Canvas service that takes your favorite photo memories and turns them into beautiful artwork for you to enjoy every day. Instead of snapping that beautiful photo and letting it rot on your cell phone – you can bring that photo to life on your walls at home, in your office, or to give as a great gift. Limited Time Offer: Order an 11x14 canvas for FREE. All you pay for is shipping. Use Promo Code: marriage at checkout. Grab your FREE canvas today! Other Resources: Intimacy Ignited 7 Days of Sex Challenge 19 Questions to Amazing Sex Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"She's not nagging. She's trying to tell you something. The only reason she's being persistent is because she cares. When she stops nagging, you should be worried because at that point she no longer cares." Nagging usually doesn’t start out as a problem in marriage. As time goes on though you begin to share things with your spouse that are bothering you. You don't see any change in behavior so you repeat yourself, over and over again. Then you get demanding. Sometimes you get mean and angry. Other times you get loud because you want to make sure they hear you. And still no results. You continue to nag and to you it seems that your spouse just ignores your requests. Why? Because nagging isn’t solving your communication problems. In fact it could be making your communication worse. When nagging is present in your marriage, it’s time for both of you to evaluate what’s going on. If you are repeatedly nagging your spouse you need to ask yourself... Why aren’t your requests being heard or acted upon? Are you treating your spouse like a partner or like a child? Do they hear encouragement from you or is it only criticism? If you are continuously feeling nagged you need to ask yourself... What is my spouse trying to tell me and what action(s) do I need to take? What is my spouse pointing out that I don’t want to change or acknowledge? Nagging is a symptom that there is disconnect in your marriage and when nagging is present it’s time to take action. Nagging over time is incredibly destructive as it literally chips away at the foundation of your marriage, one comment at a time. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact of nagging on your marriage and the strategies you can use to stop this style of communication. EPISODE SPONSOR | CanvasPeople.com CanvasPeople.com has a very easy to use Photo-to-Canvas service that takes your favorite photo memories and turns them into beautiful artwork for you to enjoy every day. Instead of snapping that beautiful photo and letting it rot on your cell phone – you can bring that photo to life on your walls at home, in your office, or to give as a great gift. Limited Time Offer: Order an 11x14 canvas for FREE. All you pay for is shipping. Use Promo Code: marriage at checkout. Grab your FREE canvas today! Other Resources: 295: The No Rejection Zone 334: The Emasculated Man 335: She’s Not Your Mother Feelings List Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire." —Arnold Glasgow For the most part your day-to-day activities are ruled by your calendars, by schedules, and by alerts popping up on your phone. It doesn’t matter how you stay organized, the fact is that you have ways to keep your time organized and keep you moving to the next thing. And then... It comes to your sex life. You desire spontaneity and yet your life is ruled by schedules. Or you are waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect energy level, the perfect number of chores, obligations and to-dos to be done. Waiting for all of these things to line up will cause you to miss out on opportunities to connect with your spouse. Instead begin to look for those opportunities to be spontaneous within the structure of your marriage. You desire a quick encounter and be a spontaneous lover but then you are not on the same wavelength with your spouse. There is a yearning to have sex outside of your bedroom and yet you don’t always know how to make that happen so it doesn't. Many of us often fight against structure or planning because we feel like it’s going to take away from our freedom. In actuality the opposite is true. Why? Because if you know the framework, the starting line, then anything is possible. For example, many of you have heard us talk about The Intimacy Lifestyle. We have structure only in the way that the days of the week have been split up. That’s our starting line. The creativity comes in when we choose our own ways to initiate. So let the fun begin as you become a spontaneous lover. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can have fun and excitement in your bedroom by being a spontaneous lover. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Marriage doesn't have to be so complicated. There is a manual on how to do this thing called "happily ever after." In Called to Love you will be equipped to look at your spouse the way that Jesus does, take time to pray for your marriage instead of throwing up your hands and saying, "Heaven help me" and transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Grab your copy of Called to Love and the audio book bonus today. Other Resources: 21 Ways to Initiate Sex With Your Spouse 001: 60 Days of Sex Jinshi Bamboo Boxer Briefs Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness rather it is a sign of strength. It takes courage to let others into your world." —Anonymous As a couple you may be stuck. You may be stuck in the same routines. Maybe you're stuck in the same fights. Or you've noticed that your marriage is stuck in the same cycles. It’s as if every day is groundhog day. You wake up and the same day is repeated over and over again. This repetition in your marriage leads to feelings of boredom, discontentment and a lack of interest. Recently you’ve been asking yourself, "Is this is as good as it gets?" Well... If you are not willing to make a change it might be time. With a few tweaks you'd be amazed what could happen in your marriage. Here's the thing, to get something different you have to do something different. What are you willing to do in your marriage to experience a shift like never before? Where can you begin to change the environment in your marriage? How will stepping into a new habit impact what you do with your spouse? To get to extraordinary you need to stop waiting for your spouse to grow or change first and take the lead. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of taking action to create change in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Marriage doesn't have to be so complicated. There is a manual on how to do this thing called "happily ever after." In Called to Love you will be equipped to look at your spouse the way that Jesus does, take time to pray for your marriage instead of throwing up your hands and saying, "Heaven help me" and transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Grab your copy of Called to Love and the audio book bonus today. Other Resources: The Intimacy Wheel 15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Men who trust other men will make fewer mistakes than he who distrusts them." —Camillo de Cavour When you think about your friendships as a kid and as an adult a few things stand out and the research is supporting this. During childhood both boys and girls have friends and often make deep friendships. From roughhousing on the playground to building with Legos, from competing on the sports field to running to winning the debate, there is a connection that boys have that as children often looks similar to girls. And then somewhere in those middle teenage years research says that the friendships boys have start to change. They don’t necessarily have that emotional connection, it’s not a place to be vulnerable and yet men need this as much as women. Think about the friends that each of you have. Maybe your friends are couple friends. You both share and hang out together on the weekends. Or the friends that you hang with are the husbands of your wives friends or the dads of your kids friends. Men need their own friends. Wives you can’t be everything for your husband. It’s not healthy for either of you. Husbands you need to hang out with men. Without deep, vulnerable friendships men live in a facade. They keep up the image at work, at home, everywhere and become more and more isolated. Truth is that men have the same emotional needs that women do, granted it looks different. Wives, you need to be encouraging your husband to grow strong, positive friendships with men who will encourage him to be a strong man and husband. Guys you need mentors and peers who will elevate who you are, who will provide you with that sounding board and understanding. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why you as a man and husband need friends that will encourage, lift you up and support you through all seasons of life. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Mark your calendars for April 4th because you’re not going to want to miss the release of Alisa's upcoming book, Called to Love. ONE Family sign up now as you will be receiving an extra special opportunity during the launch of the book. The finishing touches are happening to help you experience your best marriage. Get signed up today! Other Resources: Emerge Conference Maximized Manhood Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"We don’t grow when things are easy, we grow when we face challenges." —Anonymous You want to last longer and yet most of the time you ejaculate quicker than you'd like. When you orgasm within 1-3 minutes of penetration this is general considered premature ejaculation. 20-30% of men (and their partners) are impacted by what is considered the most common type of male sexual dysfunction. Here’s the thing... you are not alone. 60% of US men feel that this is embarrassing which equate to roughly 77 million men who are feeling challenged in this area of sexual intimacy. 37% of women say that they are disappointed with their partner finishes before they do. Due to media messages of what’s normal 40% of men are feeling self conscious about their performance. That’s a lot of stress around one of the most intimate areas of your relationship. All of that stress is not making things any easier for either of you as the impact on marriage can be devastating. In many marriages the husband feels less than or inadequate. The wife is frustrated that there is so much focus on lasting longer and not so much focus on growing the relationship. He doesn’t know what to say. She doesn’t know what to say. Over time having sex become awkward and the two of you feel more disconnected. Without conversation around the topic it can truly become a wait and see place of nothingness in your marriage. Which often leads to nothing in the bedroom, also known as a sexless marriage. It doesn’t have to be like this. You don’t have to stop talking when things aren’t going well. You also don’t have to feel helpless, like there’s nothing that you can do. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what both you and your spouse can do in the moment to help you last longer in bed. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Mark your calendars for April 4th because you’re not going to want to miss the release of Alisa's upcoming book, Called to Love. ONE Family sign up now as you will be receiving an extra special opportunity during the launch of the book. The finishing touches are happening to help you experience your best marriage. Get signed up today! Other Resources: Essential Oil Diffuser Promescent Prolonging Delay Spray Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"When you can’t talk about your sex life there’s a connection that the two of you are missing out on." —Anonymous The world that you live in is hypersexualized and yet couples struggle with talking about their sex life with each other. How-to talk about sex is everywhere... it's on TV, on magazine covers, right here on the internet, with your friends but, when couples are asked if they are talking about sex the answer more often than not is "no". As a spouse in a committed relationship you may experience these thoughts: I don’t even know what I want. I’m not comfortable asking for what I want. What if my spouse says no. Our marriage already has enough rejection. My parents never talked about sex why should we. I don’t know how to start the conversation. These thoughts are swirling around your head as you think about having a deeper sexual experience. The thing is there is no way for your spouse to meet your needs sexually if you won’t tell them. Just because you don’t know how to do something doesn’t mean that silence or avoiding it is the best remedy. These emotions of fear, frustration and rejection can, over time create a huge amount of distance or disconnect in your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to overcome the challenge of not talking about your sex life so that you can try something new. EPISODE SPONSOR | HelloFresh HelloFresh is the meal kit delivery service that makes cooking fun, easy, and convenient! Each week HelloFresh creates new delicious recipes with step-by-step instructions designed to take around 30 minutes. For novices to seasoned home-cooks who are short on time HelloFresh sources the freshest ingredients, measured to the exact quantities needed so there’s no food waste. Take $35 off your first week of deliveries when you enter promo code OEM. Other Resources: 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"The moment when he rolls over, puts his arm around me and pulls me closer, in his sleep. I like that." —Country Thang Many marriages are suffering from some lack of connection. Often it’s due to our busy schedules and the commitments that keep us running around like crazy. Maybe it’s the kids or your parents who have you running around. Work, volunteering and keeping the house inside and out add a lot to your plate. Then the end of the day comes and all you want to do is veg out. Not just from the world but also from each other. And when couples stops going to bed with each other they miss out on that chance for connection. You miss out on: Cuddling before falling asleep. Conversations that happen in the quiet of your bedroom away from the kids. Random spooning in the middle of the night. Spontaneous sex because the two of you are in the same place at the same time and the door is already locked. Early morning snuggles when your hair is a mess and you have your sleepy face. You and your spouse are desperate for connection and yet you choosing to miss out on this time that you simply cannot get back. Being together in the same bed is all about non-verbal communication. It’s about being together. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact that going to bed together has on your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Total Package With so many couples struggling with how or when to make sexual intimacy happen it’s time to take the guess work out of wondering when you are going to get some. This package includes the 7 Days of Sex Challenge ebook, audiobook and kindle versions along with 4 bonuses. Get your 7 Days of Sex Challenge Total Package TODAY! Other Resources: 6 Benefits of Cuddling With Your Spouse Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Sex solves most problems including headaches." —Anonymous You have a crazy headache, while on vacation, with plans to have sex, on the only night you have away from your kids. You take a nice nap to see if that would take care of it and it didn’t. You still have a headache. You're still in the hotel room you booked. And... you still have a spouse with the expectation that this is your opportunity for sex. What if having sex during this time will help your headache go away? Most of the times it's used as an excuse, an obstacle or a form of rejection. The next time you are about to say, "Not tonight, I have a headache", what if you said, "Yes, tonight! I want to get rid of this headache." What if an orgasm could relieve the pain of your headache? What if when you're not feeling well you could turn to your spouse for comfort instead of pushing them away? What if sex became the treatment to embrace instead of the action to avoid? In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about changing your mindset from “I can't have sex because I have a headache to let's have sexual because I have a headache.” EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all — the bedroom! Use this list to take this show and the ideas in it to the next level as you build your toolbox with resources to make awake sex even more extraordinary. Get 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom NOW! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"In life it’s not where you go, it’s who you travel with.” —Charlie Schultz There are times when your vacations don’t always go as planned. You have your expectations for everything. From how relaxing it’s going to be to how often the two of you are going to have sex. You think about the adventures you are going to go on, the shows you will see, the relaxing you are going to do and the money you will spend during your trip. And then, you have instances like we have had on our last couple of vacations where we have discussed the sex part but no expectations about anything else. When you go on vacation with expectations that you don’t share with your spouses or you don't have a plan for high stress situations on vacation then the wheels can fall off of a good vacation. Been there, done that! You find yourself remembering the drama instead of the good times. That’s not why you go on vacation. You're not looking for more drama, you want to have an amazing time with your spouse and enjoy this time together. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about communicating to each other those vacation expectations you have so you experience the best travel possible. EPISODE SPONSOR | Connect Like You Did When You First Met — Free Softcover Book Hidden inside this book you’ll discover how to have fun, deep and meaningful conversations so you can connect with you spouse again. Get started on your emotional intimacy journey with your own softcover copy of Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couple PLUS 4 digital bonuses. Limited quantities available so get yours today. Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 178: Sexpectations 334: The Emasculated Man 335: She’s Not Your Mother Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Let’s cuddle so that I can steal your body heat.” —Anonymous There are different reasons and times of the year when your bedroom is cold. It could be winter time, the air conditioning is on to beat the summer heat or your bedroom is in a cool part of your home. On the other hand one of you may run colder than the other. (We live this in our marriage.) When you are cold it makes heating things up in the bedroom a challenge. Let's face it... It’s tough to be naked when you are cold. It's difficult to be adventurous when you are freezing. There can be a serious disconnect in the bedroom when it comes to temperature. But how are going to heat up the bedroom so you can heat things up under the sheets? What can you do to create an environment where you want to be naked with one another, a place where you are comfortable being naked because you aren’t freezing? It's time to find different ways to heat up your bedroom. When you do you will begin to eliminate the excuses so that you can heat up your physically and sexually intimacy during those cold nights. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of heating things up in the bedroom when it’s cold outside for more enjoyment under the covers. EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! Use this list to take this show and the ideas in it to the next level as you build your toolbox with resources to make awake sex even more extraordinary. Get 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom NOW! Other Resources: Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Quilted Polyester Heated Mattress Pad Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.” —Anonymous Spiritual intimacy has a huge impact on you and your marriage. And yet it’s the one intimacy that often gets overlooked or minimized even though it’s just as important if not more so than the others. In our marriage there have been seasons when we are clicking in our spiritual intimacy and times when we experience a dryness. The same may happen in your marriage. It can be with your emotional intimacy, your physical intimacy as well as in your spiritual intimacy. At those times when there is a disconnect it's time to get on your knees in prayer. You gain a different perspective on your situation. The challenge of trying to figure everything out on your own gets unstuck. New ideas for growing spiritually begin to happen. Prayers that are seemingly unanswered are answered. Those questions about your faith get unlocked. Often it's the starting that keeps you from the spiritual intimacy you desire. You see other who are amazing prayer warriors so how could you be like them. This stops you dead in your tracks and yet you can become a prayer warrior. You and your spouse can experience the closeness that comes through prayer, but you have to put your knees on the floor. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what can happen to you when you are on your knees praying for your marriage and your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle Sometimes it can be hard to think of what to get your love... chocolates, lingerie, a night out. Each of these are great choices and yet what about something truly unique this year? What about something that extends Valentine’s Day beyond one day? Get the 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle NOW! Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now C3 San Diego Emerge Conference Night Light: A Devotional for Couples Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices