ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Recreational intimacy is being active together. Finding activities you both like to do and do them with each other. Take a walk, hike a mountain, go surf...whatever it is do something with your spouse that will bring the two of you together. When you spend time together you get your sexy back as you see each other excel and have a great time. Fitness doesn't have to be complicated. Get up and move your body. This week Tony & Alisa share how they make fitness and health part of their everyday life and marriage. It's by doing activities together that you will experience a deep connection with your spouse. FREE Core Blast Workout P90X3 Insanity Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've been praying for healing, peace, forgiveness and change in your marriage for a long time. There are times when you wonder if God hears you or if He even cares about your marriage. It's easy to pray and then procrastinate. You've prayed and yet it is what you do afterwards that can have a profound impact on your life and marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share the what it looks like to pray and procrastinate. You'll also learn why it is important to take action and move when you are praying. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Words that you hear and then say back to your spouse can have a serious impact on the issue you are discussing in your marriage. The walls go up, the conversation stops and then the aftermath occurs. Your perception and the filters you have about what your spouse is going to say can lead to ineffective behavior and communication. There are two words that can change the entire conversation. These two words are: I HEARD (fill in the blank). This week Tony & Alisa dive into why it is important to make the change from "You Said" to "I Heard" when you are discussing issues that impact your marriage. Not only for your spouse's benefit, but for yours as well. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Conceiving a child or not to conceive a child is something many married couples talk about. When it comes to knowing all the ins and outs of ovulation...well that is another story. When the two of you are educated on your (your wife's) menstrual cycle from month-to-month you are better able to understand your sexual intimacy. It's a way for each of you to connect because of the knowledge you now have. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have been using the Fertility Awareness Method so that they are able to make love without the use of contraception. 5 Secrets to Understanding You, Your Spouse & Your Marriage Live Webinar Taking Charge of Your Fertility (Amazon Link) Clearblue Easy Fertility Monitor (Amazon Link) Period Log (App Store) Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You never plan to be out of work and yet there will probably come a time in your marriage when you or your spouse has lost their job. This can be a stressful time for you as you look for work again. The loss of a job can add financial stress, drive a wedge in your emotional intimacy and impact how you relate sexually with your spouse. It's during this time that you need to get out of the pity party and move. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can stay connected with your spouse even when you are out of work. 5 Secrets to Understanding You, Your Spouse & Your Marriage Live Webinar Alisa's Kenya Trip Highlight Video 48 Days to the Work You Love by Dan Miller Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sexual intimacy is an important part of your marriage. There is a connection only you have with your spouse and it's amazing when you have it. The problem is that you're always initiating sex. After awhile it would be refreshing if your spouse were to pursue you. What would happen in your marriage if this were to happen? This week Tony & Alisa speak frankly about what it means to initiate sex. Their insights in their own marriage will have you learning what you need to do in your marriage so that both of you are initiating sex. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is so many things going on in your marriage that more often than not the connection you and your spouse have has been placed on the back burner. You can't even remember the last time you two had uninterrupted moments together. It's time to get back to the two of you. It's making a choice right now that your marriage needs to be in the forefront of your lives. Not only so you can talk, but that you can be connected in all forms of intimacy. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do together even when you have work, kids, laundry, and the dishes to do day in and day out. It’s what you do to connect even with all of this stuff happening in your marriage. 77 Day Marriage Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every opportunity you have to fight for your marriage is one that you should take. There is so much out in your every day life that is trying to pull you away from each other. It is time for both of you to focus on each other and fight for your love. It may be for your spiritual intimacy, sexual intimacy, or for dates so you can be alone together. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share that it is important to fight for the romance and passion in your marriage. You don't need to be at the brink of divorce to rise up and fight for an extraordinary marriage. Take Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There may come a time in your marriage when you and your spouse are miles apart. This may be due to a deployment, work, caring for a family member, a mission trip or many other reasons. It is during these time that you and your spouse need to have a mindset of togetherness. You'll also need to have a few ideas that will keep the two of you connected. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have stayed connected during times apart. Most recently when Alisa spent 12 days on a short term mission trip to Kenya. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Temptation has been around since the beginning of mankind. It happened in the Garden of Eden and temptation may impact you and your marriage at one time or another. Even though temptation is present and will put your marriage in jeopardy there are safeguards that you need to put in place. These safeguards are set for the sole purpose of keeping your attention on what is most important, your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa share how temptation if not communicated with your spouse can drive a wedge between the two of you. OpenDNS Start Email Coaching Today Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It is very easy after a confrontation with your spouse to say something like “Are we good?” and expect the issue to be resolved. In other situations you may not say anything and just go about your business with this unfinished issue hanging around you and your spouse. When you have many of these stacked one upon another there is going to be frustration and irritation in your marriage. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa are going to discuss the importance of saying "I'm sorry" so that your spouse knows that you have not minimized, failed to acknowledge or brushed the issue under the rug. Love Always: 90-Day Marriage Makeover Question Behind the Question (via Amazon) P90X3 Workout: Get Ripped In 30 Minutes a Day Alisa Interviewed on What Do You Do Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's a fresh start, a clean slate and the beginning of a New Year! As you start a new year give serious consideration to where you and your marriage will be over the course of the next 365 days. What intimacy do you and your spouse want to focus in on for 2014. This week Tony & Alisa share the 6 intimacies and ideas that you can use starting now to have an impact on your heart. Man Up Gods Way Facebook Page Lessons Learned While Pedaling a Cruiser Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We know that you are busy with last minute preparations, trimming the tree, wrapping the presents, traveling and setting out the cookies for Santa. So we just wanted to take a few minutes to reflect with you on this season. As you unwrap this holiday season remember that the biggest and best gift that you can give your spouse is the gift of you. Your attention, your intention, and your commitment to the marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can love in spite of life’s challenges. Loving your spouse is not always easy but recognizing that you have the choice to love in spite of these circumstances is what matters most to your spouse and your marriage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Reaching a milestone in your marriage, your 5th, 10th, 25th, etc anniversary, is a time of celebration. A time when you get to look back at all the amazing things you have done with your spouse. It's a time to share stories of how your spouse impacted you and your marriage. The two of you are the stars on this day. This week Tony & Alisa are celebrating. Not because the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show has reached 200 episodes, but the impact the show has had on couples around the world. Don't miss these inspiring stories. Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint WEIRD: Because Normal Isn't Working by Craig Groeschel The Married Virgin Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your spouse is asking you to get involved in the marriage because there is a problem. Ignoring it will not make it go away. Apathy will not make it go away. Getting involved with someone else will not make it go away. When this is happening you need to take look at all aspects of your marriage. More importantly you need to get involved with your spouse quickly. This week Tony & Alisa unwrap how you can get involved in your marriage so that you change the future of your relationship. How to Write a Romantic Love Letter Write Me a Letter, Speak to My Heart He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Words are interesting and the subtle differences in meaning can often go unnoticed. Except that these words can be played over and over in your head. The words that you choose to use when you have to do something have meaning. These words carry weight not just to you but also for your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa look at two words that can lead to a ho-hum marriage or one that is extraordinary. They share the difference between "Need To" or "Want To" in your marriage and in your life. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As the years pass in your marriage it is very easy to settle where you are. Between work, kids, church and other activities you aren't living your life out loud. It's time to bust out of your comfort zone so that you can go after that adventure that inside of you. Both of you will experience a new level in your lives and your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how they are getting out of their comfort zone in different ways to experience life to the fullest. GoFundMe - Alisa's Mission Trip to Kenya Reignite the Love Telesummit Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Getting creative in your marriage and trying new things can definitely spice things up for the two of you. When sex toys become part of your marriage toolkit you need to keep your motives in check. When you are looking for a way to add something new that you both agree upon, that's OK. If you're looking for a way to replace your spouse because you don’t want to be sexual intimate then there is an issue at hand. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have used sex toys in their marriage over the years. Some have been well received while others have only interfered with their sexual intimacy. Fun Board Games You Can Play to Spice Up Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's a choice to remove the masks and let down the walls in your life. These are holding you back from truly experiencing the joy in your marriage. Your choice to continue living like this is causing your spouse to wonder if you are truly engaged in the marriage. They are frustrated, confused, isolated and/or scared. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to remove your masks and show your emotions to your spouse. When you take off your masks you are loved more not less for who you are. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path 169 - Is This Abuse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The two of you have probably talked about being sexual intimate via a blow job. It's a topic that is brought up, but have you discussed what it would be like to have your spouse get to the point of ejaculation? Over the last couple of months many emails have come in asking this particular question. This week Tony & Alisa dive into a topic, blow jobs, that many in the marriage arena are not willing to discuss. They share 7 tips that could help you and your spouse enjoy blow jobs in your marriage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you say "I Do", the furthest thing from your mind at that very moment is uttering the word "Divorce". As the months and years pass the "D" word begins to enter your vocabulary. The first time it stings and you can't believe it was even uttered. Slowly and over time it doesn't even mean anything to you or your spouse. It is used flippantly and yet it is undermining how you see your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have taken the word "Divorce" off the table in their marriage. They will share with you how you can do the same in your marriage. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and breakthrough the walls that are holding you back? If so we now offer email coaching so you can get those big questions answered on your schedule. Go to Email Coaching and learn what email coaching is all about. Through October 31st Use code: DoItNow and receive 20% OFF any email coaching program. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've been married for any length of time you may have hurt your spouse. This could be through the words you have said, by being silent, pulling away, not spending time with them, and more. Even though this has happened you can rebuild the trust in your marriage. You need to ask your spouse right now, "Give Me A Chance". This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to rebuild the trust in your marriage and be given another chance. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and breakthrough the walls that are holding you back? If so we now offer email coaching so you can get those big questions answered on your schedule. Go to Email Coaching and learn what email coaching is all about. Through October 31st Use code: DoItNow and receive 20% OFF any email coaching program. Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint Heaven's Door Feelings List Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Masturbation in marriage can have a profound impact on your sexual intimacy. When masturbating in private without your spouse you are diminishing the joy of sex with your spouse. If you are masturbating in your marriage and your spouse does not know you are doing this it’s time to have a state of our marriage conversation. You need to take off the masks and acknowledge what’s going on in your sex life. On the other hand masturbating together can add to your marriage bed. This is where you learn what pleases each other by showing your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa share how masturbation has negatively and positively impacted them in their marriage. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and breakthrough the walls that are holding you back? If so we now offer email coaching so you can get those big questions answered on your schedule. Go to Email Coaching and learn what email coaching is all about. Through October 31st Use code: DoItNow and receive 20% OFF any email coaching program. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You live in a world ruled by your phone, you feel lost when you don’t have it. You send text messages when you don’t want to bother someone and yet you are a slave to those text alerts. Unfortunately, some of you are using your cell phone, specifically texting as a way to have the tough conversations in your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share why using a text message is not the best way to communicate with your spouse. During this show you'll learn: What's the problem with using a text message? Why is this happening? What do you do? A big thank you to our sponsor, Redeeming Pleasure, a Christian sex toy boutique for marriage couples. For 20% OFF anything through October 2013 use offer code "ONE2013". Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You do everything for your spouse. The laundry, cooking, cleaning, kids, devotional, gardening, and on and on. You don’t understand why your spouse can’t help out around the house. Why are they not engaging with you? Has your marriage become one where you are treating your spouse more like a child than an adult. It's time to treat them like an adult so they can have a sense of value in your marriage. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa are going to share with you how you can take steps today so that you can begin to treat your spouse as an adult. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It is critical that you make the decision to honor the promise you made on your wedding day. It is by keeping this promise that you will experience the true meaning of love in your marriage. Take time to consider these three promises that you can make and keep in your marriage. You wedding vow Transparency Variety In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share how you can make a promise, keep it, and most importantly demonstrate it to each other. Cuddle Up Online Audio Program Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's time to live the marriage you desire. For change to happen you are going to have to take action. Your marriage has changed over the years. Your priorities are so out of whack that you, your spouse, and your marriage is lost. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can make change happen in your life. Start today. 40 Romantic Ideas You Can Use Today to Spice Up Your Marriage Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fear. It stops you from taking off your masks. You sit there as you look at your spouse knowing you need to share where you are and yet FEAR is holding you back. Expressing yourself has become difficult. The kids, work, electronics, have made it easy to disengage in your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to reengage each other so that you don't wait until your marriage is at the brink of ending. 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fear The Question Behind the Question Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One area that is often mishandled in marriage is the art of listening. It's the ability to keep your mouth shut and your ears open as your spouse shares what is happening in their life. During this time you get to learn about your spouse. Better yet, you now have the opportunity to show them that you heard what was spoken. This is not a time to get defensive or fight your position. Relax and open yourself up for a time of growth. You will see the transformation in your marriage as you listen up. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can listen and gain insights on your marriage that can take it to the next level. 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Remember back to those days when you played a sport, competed in a competition, or were launching a new business, product or service. You knew where you wanted to get and yet you didn't have the blueprint to help you get there. Well in your marriage there can come a point where you know that there is more, but you don't know how to work with your spouse to reach that point. Marriage coaching may be the answer for you. This week Tony & Alisa share why it's important to consider marriage coaching. They breakdown the myths associated with coaching and how you can start working with them today! Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint Email Coaching - Starting at $10 Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You can believe what you are seeing. You're heart sinks as the shame and anger inside you begins to burst out. Right there in front of you on your husband's phone, tablet, and/or computer there are pictures of naked women. The shock has left you wondering why he's looking at it. You're heartbroken as the foundation of your marriage, trust, has been compromised. You're not alone. This week Tony & Alisa share how pornography impacted their marriage from the perspective of the wife. Overcoming Pornography with Marriage Coaching The Porn Antidote: God's Secret Weapon for Crushing Porn's Grip, and Creating the Life and Marriage You Dream Of OpenDNS - Internet Security Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is marriage Before Kids (BK) and then there is marriage After Kids (AK). You know what we are talking about as these can be two extremes. It starts from little sleep, to low sex drive, on to school, sports, and many other good and tough issues as they grow up. One area where this can be most prevalent is in your emotional and intellectual intimacy with your spouse. Kids can be a wedge between the two of you. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share how you can stay connected when your child wants you to keep a secret from your spouse. 30 Minute Initial Coaching Session He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication On the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've been living long enough in a lack luster marriage. Today is the day that you are going to put on your armor and be a warrior for your marriage. To often you and your spouse get complacent in your marriage. Your expectations are that they will take the initiative and yet it's you who needs to stand tall. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do today to be the warrior you need to be so that your marriage can thrive and grow. Coaching with Alisa Thrive90 Fitness Program He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

These words are uttered across the globe by kids who see their parents kiss, hug, or show some form of affection. You want to hear them say this. It's your responsibility in your marriage to show affection around your kids and their friends. Your ability to show them a healthy marriage is vital for you and for them. This week Tony & Alisa share the times when they have heard these words spoken by their kids. They also share with you what is appropriate affection and what you should leave for when you are alone. The Sex Talk Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You feel like something’s not quite right in your marriage right now. As you think about what is going on you wonder if you are making too much out of nothing. Your intuition or gut is telling you something. There are warning signs that something is not the way it should be in your marriage. These warning signs by themselves may not lead to separation and yet a few of them together can mean that things are in jeopardy in your relationship. All in all when your warning signs go off a serious conversation is required. This week Tony and Alisa go over a list of warning signs that you should be aware of in your marriage. 30-Minute Initial Coaching Consultation He Zigs, She Zags Bondage Breaker Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You are all excited to take some time away, maybe a long weekend or a week long vacation, with your spouse. You know the two of you are going to have sex and yet have you discussed how many times you will have sex while away. Your sexpectations and those of your spouse may be drastically different for the trip. Taking time before you leave to clarify what each of your sexpectations are will allow for both of you to enjoy your time off. This week Tony & Alisa talk about how their sexpectations were drastically different on a recent vacation. They share the highs and the lows from before they left until the time they got home. He Zigs, She Zags: Getting You Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Having your own activities and hobbies separately from your spouse is a healthy way for you to grow individually. At the same time it's also a way for you and your spouse to grow your marriage. Do something that makes your heart sing, brings joy, happiness, and a passion to your life. This joy then is brought into the marriage where you are able to discuss new interests. This week Tony & Alisa share what interests they have together and what interests they have separately. Both have been vital to their marriage over the years. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So often you find yourself in making advances on your spouse with the sole purpose to have sex. You're touching your spouse for one thing only and it's not appreciated. What transpires is either you getting accepted after numerous advances or you get rejected. Either way you feel as if your spouse really isn't interested in having sex with you. What if you focused on building a connection without the expectation of having sex? Building this connection for the sake of being close to your spouse will lead to much more. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can connect with non-sexual touches so you can have the sexual intimacy you desire. They outline what you should be doing to connect and those special touches that will enhance your marriage. 20-Minute Consultation Call 111 - High Desire, Low Desire State of Our Marriage Conversation Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've had enough of your spouse's antics. The word "Separation" or "Divorce" have been said in hurtful ways and now you are really considering one or both. Before you step out of your home you both need a plan to be working on yourself as well as you marriage. If not, the likelihood of both of you working together diminishes. In this weeks podcast Tony and Alisa talk about what to do when you feel like you need to separate to gain clarity in your marriage with the goal of being together again. This isn't a we're separating to never get back together, but a time of distance to get back together. Contract of Reconciliation Worksheets The Bondage Breaker He Zigs, She Zags: Getting Your Communication on the Same Path ONE Marriage Coaching Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you first got marriage you may have thought of you marriage as a covenant and/or as a contract. To this day in your mind your marriage is either one of these or both and yet do you know which each of them mean in your marriage? If you view your marriage as a contract it is self-focused. In a covenant you are other-focused. This week Tony and Alisa discuss the major differences between the two to help you better understand which marriage you are in. Either a covenant or a contract you should know so that you can fully experience your marriage. The Bondage Breaker Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You don't have the sex drive you once had within your marriage. It's waned over the years and really you're a bit frustrated that you don't have "IT" like you once did. Your physical well being may be an area that is having a big impact on your sex drive and libido. Being physically fit, eating the proper nutrition, getting the vitamins and minerals you need, as well as having the motivation is paramount to your sexual intimacy. This week Tony and Alisa go over where they are in their continued pursuit of having a healthy sex drive. It's something that they thrive for individually and together. Don't miss how you can make changes to your body to crank up your sex drive. Thrive90 Fitness Program Happy, Healthy, & Hot Les Mills Pump Fitness Program What Are Your 50 Reasons? Irwin Naturals Men's Living Green Liquid-Gel Multi Irwin Naturals Women's Living Green Liquid-Gel Multi Irwin Naturals High-Performance Ripped-Man Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know those noises that come from your spouse. Either in the bathroom or right there in the kitchen they come out and boy is it getting a bit much. Never did you think about the burps, farts, throw up, diarrhea, or those weird noises in bed when you first got together. Now after years of marriage they are beginning to wan on you. This week Tony and Alisa share those noises in their marriage and how they have been able to understand why they occur and when. You don't want to miss this episode on Those Weird Noises. Mattress Warmer Pain Free: A Revolutionary Method for Stopping Chronic Pain Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ouch! My body hurts. Physical ailments can cause strife in your marriage when you are unable to be sexually intimate with your spouse. You are not doing this to hurt your spouse and yet there is frustration for both of you. Is the pain manageable? Can you make changes to your medication? Would non-vaginal sex satisfy both of you? This week Tony and Alisa share ideas that you may not have thought of so you can be physically intimate with your spouse. Take one action step this week toward healing your body. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are times in your marriage when everything seems to not be going as you planned. It's easy to point the finger at your spouse for all that is happening and yet the issues may be with YOU. Yes, you may be what's wrong with your marriage. Most times it is easier to lay the blame on your spouse. Why do you have to go through all the work to change yourself when your spouse can do it. This week Tony & Alisa share times in their marriage when one of them was the problem in their marriage. They share how they have looked at their issues and how they have been able to overcome them. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You feel alone, unworthy, spoken to like a child, or watched everywhere you go. Physically your spouse hasn't laid a hand on you and yet the verbal and emotional barrage that you get daily has you at wits end. Have you experienced: Humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing Domination, control, and shame Accusing and blaming, trivial and unreasonable demands or expectations, denies own shortcomings Emotional distancing and the “silent treatment,” isolation, emotional abandonment or neglect Codependence and enmeshment If so, then you are in an emotional and verbally abusive marriage. This week Tony & Alisa shine the light on what these may look like in your home. More importantly they share the 5 steps you need to take to free yourself and your spouse from continued abuse. If you need help don't wait. Call or contact the agencies below for assistance. Women call: US: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247. Australia: Call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732. Worldwide: Visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a global list of helplines and crisis centers. Men call: U.S. and Canada: Call the The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women at 1-888-7HELPLINE UK: Call the ManKind Initiative at 01823 334244 Australia: Visit One in Three Campaign Other links: Creating a Safety Plan Uberlube Luxury Lubricant Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Get out of your comfort zone and do something exhilarating with your spouse. When you do amazing changes can happen in your marriage. You're flying high as you face your fears and stay present in the moment. To often in your marriage there is so much going on, kids activities, electronics, church function, etc, that you put on the brakes before you ever get the chance to do something new. This week Tony & Alisa are flying high as they talk about how flying on the trapeze helped them overcome some fears, expand their level of trust, and grow together in their marriage. He Zigs, She Zags: Getting Your Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your marriage is a participation sport. There are no rewards for sitting on the sidelines watching as the weeks, months, and years pass by. It's time for the two of you to stand on the field together, playing together, and enjoying this game we call marriage together. When you do your emotional, spiritual, financial, and sexual intimacy are going to be in sync. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can stand together on the ball field and participate in your marriage together. It's time to Play Ball! 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Fireproof (Movie) The Love Dare Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Those underwear you are wearing are dragging you down. Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don't feel sexy. Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down? Git rid of those hoely underwear! It's time for some spring cleaning so get those holey underwear out of your drawer and put them in the trash. In the process you'll lift your self-esteem and self-confidence. This week Tony and Alisa share their experiences with holey underwear, what they have done to rid themselves of them, and how it has impacted them as well as their marriage. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cuddling up with your spouse after a great love making session can do wonders for both of you. Your skin is the largest organ on your body and when it is in contact with your spouse's skin it can do wonders for your marriage. The act of cuddling with your spouse releases the hormone oxytocin, "the feel-good hormone", which can lead to overall happiness. Cuddling can also release endorphins, which are the same hormones that are released during a good workout. This week Tony & Alisa share how the act of cuddling, which was prevalent in their early years of marriage, has faded over time. They get to the root of why cuddling has faded over time and what they are going to do to get more cuddling in after sex. Cuddle Positions Intimacy Ignited Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The amount of sleep you get can directly impact your vibrancy as well as the quality of sex you have in your marriage. When you are tired and worn out sex is the last thing you may want to be doing. If anything, you would rather roll over and get more sleep. Well, a good night of sleep will benefit your sex life and many other areas of your life as well. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can feel better by getting more sleep. Not only will you learn the impact from lack of sleep, but tips on how to have a great night of sleep. Find Your Perfect At-Home Fitness Program Sleep Aids: Iso-Cool Memory Foam Pillow Sleep Master Sleep Mask Resources: Sleepless in America Sharing a Bed 9 Things That May Impact Your Sleeping Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices