ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

The wedding bells ring, you say your "I do's", and the honeymoon is bliss. You're married, the two of you have become ONE and yet you're not on the same TEAM. Shortly after that blissful day you find yourselves on opposite sides working against each other. You didn't expect this to happen in your marriage, yet it has. In this episode, we introduce you to another way to focus on your TEAM. Looking at each of these will enable you to tackle issues in your marriage with a plan. T - Talk: He said to them, “For whatever is hidden is meant to be disclosed, and whatever is concealed is meant to be brought out into the open. If anyone has ears to hear, let them hear.” Mark 4:22-23 E - Effort: As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead. James 2:26 A - Attitude: May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had... Romans 15:5 M - Motivation: Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people... Ephesian 6:7 What will you do to be on the same TEAM with your spouse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This past week we received an email from a listener asking why her husband won't come right out and ask for sex. There is cuddling, kissing, and yet he won't come out and ask for sex. Join Tony and Alisa as they talk about the fear of rejection, the different love languages in marriage and why it's so important to have conversations about sex before they grow into something larger. The 5 Love Languages (affiliate link via Amazon) Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As you sit in your living room laughing from the depth of your belly, tears rolling down your face, the world is left behind and all you see is your spouse smiling and laughing too. Both of you enjoying a moment that has pushed aside the emergencies of the day and allowed the two of you to enjoy one another. Laughter is beneficial in many ways. In your marriage laughter allows for you to let loose and have fun. Your endorphines, your body's natural feel good chemicals, are released and you never know where you might go from there. In this weeks show Tony and Alisa talk about how laughter hasn't been a big part of their marriage. They share their struggles with this and what they are doing to get some laughter back into their house. Heaven is for Real (Aff link) Things Not to Say to Your Wife by Tim Hawkins Sinbad Where You Been? (Marriage segment starts at 12:00 mark) Laughter is the Best Medicine What do you and your spouse do that makes both of you laugh? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's natural to fantasize, but are you fantasizing about your spouse or someone else? Fantasies can be a great way to spice things up in your marriage by changing things up. The opposite side is that they can also tear down the foundations of your marriage. In this episode we share the bad and good of fantasies in our marriage and how you can have mind blowing sex when you approach fantasies the right way. Do you and your spouse have fantasies that you play out in your marriage? 4 E's to Live Your Marriage By - Don't miss the special bonus Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What kind of checking account do you have? The truth is that finances are always going to be a part of your marriage and how you come to handle money will color many aspects of your married years. Each of us comes into marriage with financial baggage. Learning how to join that financial history together is one challenge that ALL married couples face. For us, the decision to have a joint account was indicative of our decision to be unified in all aspects of our marriage. For other, having separate accounts allows them to have more control over how money is spent. 15 Reasons Why You Should Have a Joint or Separate Checking Account Do you and your spouse have a joint account or choose to have separate accounts? Why? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Men it's time! It's time to show your wife how much you honor and cherish her. In this world where battles are raging against marriage every minute of the day your wife needs to know that the two of you are on the battle field together. She needs to know that there is nothing that you wouldn't do for her. Make a decision that after God she is next on your list of priorities. Do it today! Ephesians 6:10-18 Stripped Down Small Group Podcast Series Are you on the battlefield with your spouse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many of us don't like confrontation. To avoid a confrontation we'll us different strategies. One of the most damaging is by saying one thing to our spouses with the full intention of doing something else. Instead of being honest with our spouse, we sabotage our marriage with these deceptions. This behavior requires us to expend so much more energy in trying to keep up pretenses then if we had just said the truth in the first place. It's time to draw that line in the sand and decide whether or not you are going to be a person that you can spouse can always count on. Blow Up My Marriage (Affiliate Link) 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's podcast comes from our son and little league baseball. We're sure that many of you can relate to kids and their athletic endevours. Early in the season, his first season playing baseball, things were not going so well. He wanted to quit just like many of us want to do at times in our marriage. We asked his coach to talk to him about the problems he was facing on the ball field. His attitude changed, his playing changed and he was having a blast. Even though his game improved and that of his time they couldn't seem to get a win. In fact they only won 3 games out of 23 this season. In every game, they continued to show up, continued to play hard and continued to believe that they could win. Why are we grown ups so quick to give up? Why are we so quick to throw in the towel? It's time we took a lesson from the kids and realized that if things aren't going well, if we desire a different outcome then we are going to have put forth some effort, we are going to have to work to overcome the challenges we are facing. Behind every happy couple lies to people... The Cure: What if God isn’t who you think He is and neither are you? 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Summer is here and it's time to add some adventure into your physical intimacy. This is a lighthearted look at many different places that you can have sex. Get out of your "comfort zone" and have some fun this summer. What places have you or would you like to make love? Share with us below. The Adoption Key Emergency Kit (video) 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This weeks podcast is about finding your way back to intimacy after struggling for years with infertility. We share ideas that we have learned from friends of ours who have found intimacy in their marriage after years of struggling with infertility. When we started this episode our main goal is to give a voice to all of you who have struggled with infertility. The ONE community needs for you to share how you overcame your struggles with infertility. Speak up in the comments below. I Am Second - Scott Hamilton The Cure: What if God isn't who you think He is and neither are you? 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Great expectations... All of us have them. The way we want things done, the way we want those in our life to do what we want and yet, it doesn't always turn out the way we want. What do we do then? Sometimes we lash out, sometimes we shut down, but really there has got to be a better way. What would it look like if you changed the way you communicated with your spouse? What would happen if you expressed your expectations? Big Question to Ask: What is it about our marriage that is important to you? The Cure: What if God isn't who you think He is and neither are you? 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Who is at the center of your marriage? Have you thought about that. Really taken the time to sit down with your spouse and discuss who is at the center of your marriage. As we prepare for the 3rd annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge we are looking back at when we fully committed to letting Christ be the center of our marriage. It wasn't that long ago, but once we realized that neither one of us was the center lots of good things began to happen. This year we feel the gentle nudge from God to talk about spiritual intimacy as we enjoy the physical intimacy in our marriage. Commit to joining us for the 7 Days of Sex Challenge and be ready to bring God into your marriage and into your bedroom. 3rd Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge I Am Second Lifetime 7 Days of Sex Episode 1 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You have a choice everyday to either have Mad, Passionate, Extraordinary Love or Mediocrity love. No where is it said or written that you have to "settle" for anything in your marriage. Just because you've been married for (insert years married here) years doesn't mean that you can't be crazy in love. Go have Mad, Passionate, Extraordinary Love today! 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Over this last week we have heard from many couples that are struggling with emotional affairs, separation or even divorce. It's been frustrating for us to hear the lines spouses are saying during these times such as: You don't make me happy anymore. I don't think I have ever loved you. This other person is so much more in tuned with me. When one spouse is trying to justify the decisions that they are making it wreaks havoc for the marriage. Stop making excuses, have the conversations that you need to build your marriage and fight for it. 7 Days of Sex Challenge book launch - Friday April 20th, 2012 from 9am-11am PST on Ustream 3rd Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge - Sunday May 6th - Saturday May 12th, 2012 Winning the Clutter War Intimacy & Desire Stephen Fishwick (painter) **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Version Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Our house saga is finally coming to a close as we wrap up the short sale. Over the last 4 months we've had the opportunity to really think about those things that serve as a distraction to our marriage. Are you so wrapped up in work or with your friends that you forget to spend time with your spouse? Do the financial burdens cause worry and stress? Are you holding back emotionally out of fear? It's time to simplify your life, to take stock of where you are and decide to make changes and grow. Winning the Clutter War **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Version Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We've all done it, somebody walks across your path and you look. Then maybe you take another one or two looks. Unfortunately, most of the time our spouse catches us looking. This leads to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity in our marriage. We've been there! So what do you do? It's time to have those conversations about what you are feeling and begin the process of healing. The biggest gift you can give your spouse is the gift of making them #1 in your life. Smart Passive Income on Stitcher Radio **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Edition Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Love is an overused word in our society. We love ice cream and we love our spouses, but how did God really desire for us to love our spouses? There are three different types of love used in the bible: raya, ahava and dod. When we think of these as flames burning in our marriages we realize that we need to have all 3 burning bright to have that extraordinary marriage. Where are the flames burning bright in your relationship. Flame Intimacy & Desire ONE Show on Stitcher Radio **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Version Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Kindle Version today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of you wants sex all the time, one of you not so much-what's wrong with this picture? Nothing! You are just like the rest of us, dealing with differing levels of desire within your marriage. What's a couple to do? Spend some time today learning about high desire and low desire and it's impact on your marriage. Be aware that all couples face this and it impacts more than just what happens in the bedroom. There's nothing wrong with differing levels of desire, what can make or break your marriage is how you deal with this. Once you acknowledge the reality of differing desire you can learn to accept your spouse for who they are and create the marriage that you want with this information. Intimacy & Desire Not a Fan Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It hurts when someone violates our trust, especially when that someone is the person that we are married to. Building trust is not easy and it's not automatic either. Building trust requires both a husband and a wife to be willing to draw the line in the sand, the line that says, "I chose this person and I am going to make my marriage work". When both of you decide to give 100% into your marriage, hurts can be healed and relationships can be repaired. Are you willing to rebuild the trust in your marriage? Bo's Cafe Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What do your vows mean to you? In our society when everything seems disposable The Vow made us stop and wonder how would we handle a catastrophic incident in our marriage. Do the words "as long as life shall last" really mean that? And what about how God feels about us, there are powerful parallels between God's love for us and Leo's love for Paige. Tony & Alisa's renewing their vows on their 15th Wedding Anniversary The Vow Movie Trailer Simple Natural Health Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When was the last time you sat with your spouse with nothing on. No TV, computer, phones, iPad or other electronics? In today's show Tony & Alisa discuss how turning all the electronics off is helping them to focus in on each other more. Their tips and ideas are to help you and your spouse connect on a deeper level while you engage in emotional intimacy. The problem is that when there are to many distractions around us we aren't focusing in on our spouse. This can lead to misunderstandings, confrontations, and a lack of "connection". It's time you turn everything off. Not a Fan Blow Up My Marriage Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy Valentine’s Day! So often our sexual intimacy follows the same old patterns until it becomes a habit instead of an experience. This Valentine’s Day message will help spice things up in your bedroom. It can be as easy as turning the lights on, opening your eyes, or finding a new location. The two of you could even incorporate games or foods. The sky’s the limit for you and your spouse when you open up and challenge each other! Start talking and praying about your sex life and see the changes that can happen! Intentional Moments Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference was held in Okemos, MI. Tony and Alisa had a phenomenal time sharing their story and the importance of sexual intimacy in marriage. From singles to couples married 50+ years, there was something for everyone who wanted to make their marriage extraordinary. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A listener wrote in describing a week of sexual frustration. She shares that while she and her husband both verbalized their desire for sexual intimacy, it didn't happen for various reasons. So what do you do when you have a week or weeks when the connection isn't there? Tony & Alisa have cycled through this same thing many times over the years. They share what you can do to make intimacy a priority each and every week. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The future is not promised to you so what are you doing right now to make a difference in your marriage? You need to live in the present with your spouses, loving on them and sharing your life with them. You cannot live so focused on the future that you stop living today. Make the time RIGHT NOW to build up your marriage. Text the Romance Back Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Life throws us curve balls at times. Tony & Alisa are no exception. Based on circumstances Tony & Alisa are facing the start of 2012 with the realization that they need to short sale their home. In this episode they talk about the impact it is having on their marriage and their family. Through this they are relying on connecting in their financial, emotional, and physical intimacy. How do you work through hardships in your marriage? ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference in Okemos, MI on Feb 3-4, 2012 Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you long to spend time with your spouse on a date night? Many of you have shared with us that the one thing you want to do this year is to have date nights. This week Tony & Alisa share 3 ways you can make sure that date nights or date days happen in your marriage while having a lot of fun. 300 Creative Dates Josh Turner - Would You Go With Me (Intro music) Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's the start of a new year and now is the best time to take a good look at your marriage. Sit down with your spouse and examine all 6 forms of intimacy, evaluate where you are and where you want to go in 2012. Episode 101 Off and Running is a time of reflection for us. We share where we have been over the last year, changes that have happened and a sneak peak of what we have planned for 2012. What intimacy or intimacies are you going to dive into this year? Family First Fitness Challenge Jesus Calling Not a Fan Bo's Cafe Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast presents the 100th episode! This week Tony & Alisa share your stories. Your marriages have been impacted by the podcast, 7 Days of Sex Challenges, and other resources over the years that it was time to share your marriages. Thank you to all of you for your continues support. We look forward to many more shows. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In light of watching He's Just Not That Into You and recent conversations with friends going through divorce we find ourselves asking the question... Do you really have the time to invest in another relationship? Whether it's another person, work, volunteering or addiction there are so many places we can find ourselves investing our time when we should be investing in our marriage. Take a minute and think about where you are spending your time...do you really have the time? BarlowGirl - I Need You to Love Me Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's that time of year when we can get very wrapped up in all the "goings-on" and lose track of who we are. Now is the time to take stock of your marriage and make the changes necessary to make sure that you are coming home. Shop Amazon & support ONE Ready-to-go-Dates Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Christmas is right around the corner and this is a challenging time for couples in terms or finances. Last year, Alisa overspent shopping for everyone in the family. We are changing things up this year. In this episode we discuss working on your financial intimacy before you spend your money on gifts. Give yourself the greatest gift this Christmas season, the gift of peace. Amazon.com 10-Life Changing Online Christmas Gifts for Married Couples Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We've all had those weeks where absolutely nothing seems to go right, when it seems as if Murphy's Law is the only law in your house. That was our week and in the midst of all of that God's blessings continue to tumble forth. This week as you celebrate Thanksgiving take the time to let your spouse know what you are thankful for. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode we tackle another one of those taboo topics...plastic surgery. Two years ago Alisa had breast augmentation. So why share now? Because once again being transparent about this topic has given women the courage to talk about their own desires, to bring this out into the open. It was a long road from thinking about surgery to actually going through with it and the road definitely had a lot of curves in it. Part of what holds us back from sharing is our fear of being judged, once you've reconciled your decisions, you can live knowing that judgement is about the other person. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"I want you tonight. C'mon, Let's do it tonight." These were words that would flow out of our mouths in those early years of our courtship. We couldn't get enough of each other then, but as the years have added on things change. The passion that we had for each night we were together isn't there as much, we take each other for granted at times, and overall we pretty much know we are going to be around. What if tomorrow doesn't come? In this weeks show Tony and Alisa discuss the hardships that have rocked friends and family and the question those involved always asked. You need to listen to get the full scope. What are you going to do tonight? Give Me Everything by Pitbull & Ne-Yo The Daddy Difference Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Talking to our spouse about certain topics isn’t always easy but it can have such a positive impact on our marriage in terms of increasing our emotional intimacy. The events of our pasts color our future and by sharing with our spouses we can change the course of our history. In this episode Tony & Alisa share their years of experience when it comes to oral sex. They share from the early years of their marriage up to last week when they had some of the best oral sex in their 15 years of marriage. Taking Charge of Your Fertility Couple to Couple League - Natural Family Planning Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is a lot to be said for celebrating 15 years of marriage. First you lasted 15 years with your spouse, that's big, second you've had your ups and downs along the way, & third it's time to celebrate! In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share their renewal, getaway trip, and the fun they had all along the way. Don't miss the quick tips about how to make your next anniversary trip or any trip one that. Confessions of a Family-First Fitness Coach (Fit Marriage) The Jadedvisalian - Walk and Talk Shirley Valentine Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As Tony & Alisa get ever closer to their 15th wedding anniversary, happening on Wednesday October 5th, the movie Shrek 4 made them think back to those days before life got crazy. What they discuss in this show is that even though life has become more complex, would you give it all back? It's a question many of us ask ourselves at some point in time in our married lives. Listen and make sure to leave your thoughts and comments below. Big thank you goes out to Evette and Mary for their contribution to ONE Extraordinary Marriage. We are so thankful for your support. If you would like to contribute to ONE Extraordinary Marriage pick your monthly contribution to the right and click "subscribe". PayPal will take it from there. Internet Business Mastery Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today's social internet world we live in everyone is looking for individuals that are transparent. Listeners, viewers, readers all want to know that they are like those that they are following. That's great, but are you transparent in your marriage with your spouse? This week Tony & Alisa share how you can become transparent with your spouse. It's vital for your marriage so that you can experience the love you desire. Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There comes a time in all of our marriages when things just aren't going the way we think it should. Over the past couple of months Tony & Alisa have realized that the darkness has slowly fallen upon them and their marriage. In this episode both Tony & Alisa share why this occurred in their marriage and how YOU can make it through a dark time in your marriage. The Dip by Seth Godin (Not an affiliate since Amazon pulled out of California.) Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There will come a time in all of our marriages when we will come upon a fork in the road. It's at this fork that our faith, our love, our marriages will be put to the test. Tony and Alisa have come upon one in their marriage. In this episode they talk about that fork as they stand in front of it deciding which path to take. What do you do when you come up to a fork in the road? Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when we don't have a topic to start the podcast? An emotional tidal wave of issues that have been building up over the week. In this weeks show we discussed a plethora of topics: 2 Family arguments Learning that Alisa isn't happy with our devotional time Tony being rejected in the bedroom Finding time during the week to talk Planning date night Feeling distant from God And much more. Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My bed is spread with beautiful blankets, with colored sheets of Egyptian linen. I've perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. —Proverbs 7:16-17 It seemed a little question...What size bed did you start with and what size bed do you have now? Wow! We heard from so many of you and the answers were just as diverse. On today's show we reflect on our own journey from twin to king and how it often mirrored what was going on in our marriage. What does your bed say about your relationship? Is it a place to connect after a long day, a sanctuary from the hustle and bustle of life, or is it a place where you plop down and forget about everything around you? Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Back from vacation and we are ready to start a new school year. This time of year is a great time to reflect as a couple on what you have done over the past year as well as a great time to look forward to where you are heading. In this weeks show we take the time to evaluate some friendships that have become very dear to us. Alisa shares a book review, The Garter Brides. As our 15th wedding anniversary approaches we discuss why renewing our vows is important to us. Lots of planning and we need to get on it! Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It had been a rough day. Tony lost his temper, grabbed Alex's arm and scared Abby. And on top of that we got into it ourselves. What do you when it seems like the world is crashing down around you? We made the decision to have a "conference" with our kids and talk through this with them and then with each other. It stinks when things feel out of control but you have a choice as to how you will resolve the situation. What do you do, work through it or push it under the rug? Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are stressful situations good for your marriage? This week Tony and Alisa were hit with an unexpected case of lice (times 3). Tony and Alisa had to make decisions on how they were going to treat each other and how they were going to serve one another. There wasn't much time to think, but the decisions they made had an impact on their marriage. It turns out that having lice this week was really good for our marriage. Next time you are facing a stressful situation stop and think before reacting. Doing this will be the best way for you to serve your spouse during this time of difficulty. Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Husbands, it's time to stand up! Take a hard look at yourself in the mirror. Are you taking a stand in your marriage and becoming the man your wife desires? Or are you pulling the "I don't like it card"? It's time that you start taking the lead on date nights, helping around the house, and being the spiritual leader. It's time to become a man. In this episode we rant and rave, but Tony & Alisa do it in love. You want the sexual intimacy in your marriage like you did when you first got married well take a listen to what you can do to make that happen. The Art of Manliness Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of these days we are no longer going to walk this earth. We'll be in heaven with our Father enjoying the good life. Those left behind though will live on with the teachings we showed them. It is while we are here on earth that we can leave a legacy, a marriage legacy that is. It's not about you leaving a legacy, but the legacy you and your spouse leave together. Sharing the good times, tough times, and the fun times about your marriage to your kids. Teaching the six forms of intimacy at certain times as they grow will help them to have a marriage that will be extraordinary. Mary James Intentional Moments Fundraiser Nicole Nordeman - Legacy Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is it just about sex? Is a question we get asked often. Is that the secret to our extraordinary marriage? You just have a lot of sex and then the marriage gets better? NO! It's not just about SEX. It's about growing in all 6 forms of intimacies in your marriage. It's realizing when you are off track and investing the time and energy in getting back on track. Yes, sex does matter in a marriage but it's not the most important thing...all forms of intimacy are. So, take some time this week and focus on the intimacy in your marriage. Make sure that you are both giving instead of having a give and take, you'll be amazed! 77 Questions to Get the Conversation Started The Go-Giver Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Marriages ebb and flow over days, months, and years. This week Tony & Alisa discuss what to do when taking the lead is not happening during their Intimacy Lifestyle. It was time to bring this up and work through the why's this is happening. It's time to sit down with your spouse and take stock of where you are in your marriage. Stripped Down Podcast Small Group Intentional Moments Fundraiser Take the Challenge Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices