Make Your Damn Bed

Build the connection before you reach for the correction. a lot of communication does happen non verbally - so offer kindness and listening and empathy through your expressions. If you’re standing, face the person directly but don’t tower or “muscle up”, show you’re receptive by sitting up straight and actively listening to the speaker. People who roll their eyes and shake their head and keep attempting to speak over others are far less likely to actually get any points across because it only serves to escalate emotions and trigger people’s fear of feeling unheard and disrespected.But obviously verbal communication is VERY important to manage and streamline as well. If you can continuously approach people with a respectful tone regardless of how angry, frustrated, or petty you feel; you’re ahead of the game. Maybe it comes in the form of being more passive, or sarcastic, or some of us are more direct - but tone and expression can change the entire conversation - even if the words you say are identical. Saying - “I’m feeling like you didn’t understand me” can come off very different than “I’m feeling like you didn’t understand me” When a conversation is getting tense, it can be good to reassure the other person, that you’re on their team and you’re acting in good faith and not attempting to pull the rug out from under them. This will allow them to let their guard down and trust you so they aren’t coming from as much of a defensive and shut down place. Remember, if someone has their defenses up, those shields block EVERYTHING from entering - including logic and reasoning. So the key is deescalate so they know that they are safe with you. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The detour today is brought to you by ADHD.Today I share the true meaning of "staying present" and how to do so without becoming hyper self critical. I also share tips on how to stay confident by bringing your real self to the table. And there's a few other nugs of wisdom you'll have to tune in to find out, please and thanks. if you haven't already, please rate Make Your Damn Bed Podcast FIVE glorious stars on apple so I can spread this info and make it accessible to more and more people. For more exclusive hot hot bonus content: Sign up for the monthly newsletter here: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comInstagram: instagram.com/mydbpodcastTiktok: Tiktok.com/mydbpodcastPatreon: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast Youtube: www.youtube.com/juliemericaSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes people will get heated and things may escalate quickly and get tense out of nowhere and we may not even know what or why things are happening this way, but if we create a tool belt of things we can return to, we can remember that we do have some power in whether we choose to defuse or further escalate a potentially tense situation. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

 The conversational awareness series summary: Stay present, don’t prep responses. Read the room. Take your time. Not every convo needs to be gossipy and ruthless and petty. Steer conversations more positively if they become too negative. Keep shit neutral for the most part. If sharing is the vibe great but don’t pry and probe if people wanna share they will - and people are more comfortable sharing with those who share and listen also but it can be really awkward to keep pressing and prying. Take responsibility if you say inappropriate shit, in the moment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to tell a better story: Be present, stay confident, get curious and honest. Then ask yourself: Why this story? Why now?Is the audience and timing appropriate? Don't derail the energy. Read the room. Is this story worth telling? Keep your central message in mind throughout the story. Am I building a through-line? Drop breadcrumbs so your listeners can relate and pick up on clues that help keep them on board throughout the story. Give yourself a thread to follow from the beginning of your story to the end. Am I sharing too much? Avoid TMI. Keep your backstory relevant and don't over-do details that don't actually build the story. Change your inflection and pacing to build tension. Punch up, don't be petty. Take your time and have fun. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you wanna have a good conversation with someone, you'll be present, stay confident, get curious, treat everyone like a friend, and focus more on being interested than interesting.Find common interests and passions and get real! Bein' vulnerable helps people open up in return. Hope today is as magic as you are. Love you, cutie!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

once you practice aligning your external actions with your internal self-awareness, you will get better and better at creating natural connections, but it can be helpful to know when and how to gracefully excuse yourself from a conversation that is no longer serving you. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BEING INTERESTED IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING INTERESTING. If you're more concerned with "proving" yourself than "staying present" - you're wasting valuable time and energy. Competence is proven through actions, behaviors, choices, and taking responsibility for mistakes in real time. We're not typically impressed with braggarts and show-offs. We see right through the inauthenticity that comes from people attempting to be "interesting".Being someone who offers genuine interest in others and themselves from a place of earnest curiosity, is far more interesting than those who are forcing it. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cultivating external self awareness comes from aligning with your internal self awareness and goals. When you know how you are - you can streamline your actions, choices, words, and behaviors to align with who you are AND what the room needs in any given moment. Tone, volume, topics, etc. should be accounted for when building connection - but we should be able to both "read the room" and "stay aligned with our highest self" in a way that doesn't feel overwhelming. Practice listening, keeping conversations fairly neutral, sustaining respect and objectivity when you can - and you'll feel less self-conscious and more self-aware as a result. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

when your internal self awareness isn't aligning with your external - you can self correct in real time to feel more safe and confident in your personal guidance system. don't be afraid to check in regularly (as objectively as possible) to ensure your external is matching up with the internal. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do your beliefs, thoughts, actions, decisions align with your internal favorite version of yourself? The more you practice internally evaluating the things that make you feel the best and most aligned - the less you'll have to over-analyze and critique your external presentation to ensure it's aligning with your best self, internally. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The key to building self awareness (that doesn't ebb into self-consciousness) is being aware internally of the things that align with you and your favorite version of yourself. Trust that your external will naturally begin to match the internal as you begin to get clear about the things that make you feel the most whole and well-rounded. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Taking an extra second to look back now can save you hours of stress and worry in the future. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Day one of a self awareness series in which I share strategies and techniques to become LESS self-aware about the stuff that removes you from your ability to stay present and mindful and MORE self-aware about the things that truly matter. Internal self-awareness is far more powerful than external self-awareness. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People generally just want to feel heard and being a good listener is a huge part of that. Practice waiting to respond, silence allows space for people to continue. Practice making eye contact + repeating what they've just said back to them in their own words. And practice really being there while they create their own conclusions. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes it can be the right move to just change the subject. Whether to diffuse, or just escape an awkward situation - learning how to change the subject can help others get out of toxic cycles too. Whether discreet or obvious - don't be afraid to change the subject if things are starting to spiral out of control. Thank you for listening to the daily motivation podcast to help you get out of bed, so you can start making it. Rate and review 5 stars on Apple, if ya dig it. Sign up for the newsletter at www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The more we remind ourselves that we don’t need to be positive all the time, we will realize there is also no need to be negative either - but by relaxing and redirecting to my breath I can remind myself that there’s nothing I can do NOW and the best possible thing I can do - for my own well being - is to drop it. To let it go. To move on. And allow myself some space between me and the perpetual thought. Thank you for listening to the daily motivation podcast to help you get out of bed, so you can start making it. Rate and review 5 stars on Apple, if ya dig it. Sign up for the newsletter at www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re finding yourself dwelling and turning the same concern over and over and over and over, you’re ruminating. And even though it’s incredibly common, it’s also terrible for your mental health. Although the reflection portion of rumination can often be fairly beneficial in finding a solution or process the strong emotions that are associated with the situation, rumination in general is often less proactive and only perpetuates a negative mood surrounding it. Plus, when most people ruminate it’s not with the intention to reflect and grow, so it ends up making us feel more helpless and stressed about the situation occurring in the future. It’s linked to depression and anxiety and is not only a symptom but a cause - so it often becomes a self fulfilling and compounding cycle of toxic thinking. Rumination can make you feel isolated, and can in turn push others away, which becomes a self-fulfilling negativity. It’s also a way to prolong + intensify depression, plus when you’re ruminating on something - you’re not present in the now. You can’t think clearly about next steps if you’re dwelling on past problems. Thank you for listening to the daily motivation podcast to help you get out of bed, so you can start making it. Rate and review 5 stars on Apple, if ya dig it. Sign up for the newsletter at www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Take your time with the journey and lean into what YOU really want at a pace that works for you, not against ya. There's a freedom in traveling alone, don't be afraid to do it and take control of your own schedule. Pit stops are enjoyable, when you let yourself enjoy 'em. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Pareto principle states that for many outcomes, roughly 80% of consequences come from 20% of causes (the "vital few").Increase productivity by focusing on the 20% of the input that impacts 80% of the output. https://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2016/03/07/80-20-rule/?sh=37bfd0a3814b“How to 80/20 your work:(1) Make a list of the 10 things you spend the most time on.(2) Circle the two that truly drive your results. Do more of those.(3) Look at the others. Eliminate ruthlessly. Automate or outsource what you can. Press pause on the rest.(4) Repeat” — James ClearSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes we think we're helping and we're actually making it worse. Protect yourself first, it'll show others they can do the same. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Parkinson’s Law - according to wikipedia, is the adage the amount of work expands to fill the time available for its completion. If you wait until the last minute, it only takes a minute to do. If you give yourself a week to do a two hour task, psychologically speaking the task will increase in difficulty to fill the time available. Typically stress and tension and overwhelm fill the space of the task. I’ve had months to do my taxes and the amount of stress thinking I have done considering doing the taxes, I could’ve completed the damn things three times over already. If you’re trying to clean your house and you don’t have a time limit, you may get caught up detailing a drawer for two hours but if a friend is on their way and you have 20 minutes to tidy - you’ll get more done in less time. Set a vision and a REASONABLE timeline to accomplish the tasks, and watch your time open up!https://www.atlassian.com/blog/productivity/what-is-parkinsons-lawSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I had high expectations for this trip, and while I only met a few of them - I am proud of myself for prioritizing the things that weren't optional for me. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Take care of sh*t before it compounds. Take care of future you. Ask yourself: "is this gonna cause me more pain/drama/stress in the future?" And if so, take care of it NOW. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cleaning tips for sloppy babes: NEVER LEAVE A ROOM EMPTY HANDED TOUCH IT ONCE STRATEGY - instead of putting it down, put it away CLEAN AS YOU GO DO EASY STUFF FIRST to inspire later stuffUSE TIMERS 5 MINUTE NIGHTLY TIDY Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chores can be hella irritating because no matter how well you do them, you still have to show up and do them again in a day or so. I will be sharing some tips to make chores less tedious and more efficient, enjoyable, and sustainable. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In a healthy relationship, you will feel respected by your partner. Your emotions are validated and they don’t tell you how to feel or get angry with your emotional states. A healthy relationship means you and your partner respect that you each have lives outside of each other. You respect each others space, privacy, relationships, and goals. Encouraging each other to be full people outside of your relationship can make such a huge difference in both party’s mental health. A healthy partnership means each partner is treated as an equal. Conflicts can be rational and calm and openly communicated. You are both free to express your feelings and you understand each other’s boundaries and preferences within them.  A healthy relationship is definitely not always perfect, but abusive or controlling behavior should never be a part of a healthy relationship.  Partners treat each other like that - partners. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TW: ABUSE https://stopthehurt.org/is-your-relationship-headed-for-trouble-recognizing-red-and-yellow-flags/Yellow Flags in a RelationshipEarly signs of abuse may be based on attempts to control the other person. Some “Yellow Flags” that a relationship is turning abusive include: Always checking in on you (by text, calling, or asking your friends/family/workplace where you are) Not supporting or encouraging you  Putting you down (in private or in front of others) Pressuring you to do things that make you uncomfortable. Becoming angry too quickly or unreasonably. Love Bombing – overwhelming you with affection and talk of the future very early in the relationship Red Flags in a RelationshipAbuse may escalate to a “Red Flag,” which is any behavior that attempts to gain power and control in a relationship. Common red flags include: Intimidation (through looks or actions) Threatening to harm you or loved ones (including pets) Damaging/destroying your belongings, or home Accusing you of being unfaithful without any proof  Using their financial power as a justification for their actions Showing extreme jealousy of your friends/family  Even one or two of these behaviors in a relationship is a red flag that abuse may be present. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

@ALEX_ELLE on instagram: I stopped doing these things to create healthier relationships with others (and myself): Expecting people to read my mind. Instead, I started naming my needs and being clear about my boundaries.Pretending to be strong and okay when I'm not. Instead, I started being honest and vulnerable about my feelings.Being silent about the things that have hurt me. Instead, I started speaking up and having hard conversations with those around me.Dishonoring my boundaries to "keep the peace." Instead, I started advocating for myself.Punishing myself for not healing fast enough. Instead, I started giving myself grace and being patient with my process.Carrying emotional baggage that didn't belong to me. Instead, I started putting things down that I no longer wanted to carry.Overextending myself to make everyone happy. Instead, I started saying no, I can't, or I don't want to do that.Trying to get people to change, heal, and grow. Instead, I started meeting them where they were and accepting them for who they were.Staying in relationships that have expired. Instead, I decided to part ways with love and compassion.Refusing to let go because I was too scared of what could come next. Instead, I started releasing the things I knew were no longer healthy for my growth.Avoiding conflict and hoping things would "just get better." Instead, I started facing conflict head-on, even if it felt uncomfortable.Excusing unhealthy behavior because "I love them." Instead, I learned that I can love people and choose not to engage.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re struggling to know whether or not you’re falling victim to the sunken cost fallacy in your current relationships, there are some reflective questions you can ask to check in and ensure you’re not settling. Do you feel like you need to stay in your relationships?Or do you feel like you want to stay in your relationships?Do you resent the amount of time or energy you’ve put in? Or do you focus more on the amount you’ve grown and changed together through that energy?If you find yourself focusing more on the things you’ve lost in your relationships (which are things you can never recover) rather than the things you have gained? (which is growth you can never lose) than you may be staying out of obligation rather than desire - which is a surefire way to build resentment and toxicity in your relationships, if you haven’t already. Realize that past investment is exactly that. Your time and your energy and your efforts cannot be recovered - no matter what happens next.Ask yourself, if you were starting over today, would you choose this person again? I do that regularly when I clean out my closet and decide what clothing gets to stay - as well as with my relationships and friendships to really ensure that I am continuously choosing people who are best for me and where I would like to go. Then imagine what the future will likely look like if things remain as they are right now, with your person. What do you feel about that? Would anything NEED to change on your end or on their end to make a happy union more likely?Think about a time when you have left a relationship in the past. Is that a relationship you wish you had back? Probably not. Making the decision to leave is often the hardest part. But cutting your losses now will be easier than cutting even higher and broader losses in the future. (WEBSITE) says: https://health.clevelandclinic.org/how-the-sunk-cost-fallacy-could-be-keeping-you-in-bad-situations/“If you find yourself fixating on ‘getting your money’s worth’ out of unenjoyable experiences or lose sight of your future goals, one helpful strategy is to consider what you’d advise a friend or family member to do in a similar situation. Flexible thinking and self-compassion are invaluable. They can also help us realize that the only way to ‘win’ an unwinnable game is to stop playing it.” - Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People seem to think because they have invested months or years of time into a person that they shouldn’t give up on the potential for them to change, when their current reality is miserable and undeniably better if they cut ties. I have heard countless friends justify staying too long bad relationships with “but we’ve been together for so long” or “I’ve put so many years into this,” or and “we’ve worked so hard at it,” or “We just have so much history” The key to not falling victim to the sunk cost fallacy is by being real with yourself about the reality of your current state and remember that ALL sunken costs cannot be recovered. Forget the past instead of dwelling on what used to be or how hard you worked, instead get real about the current costs and current benefits - and if the current costs aren’t outweighing the current benefits or looking like they’re going to realistically change in the foreseeable future, you gotta cut your losses. Remember as humans, we have a tendency to fear losses more than we expect gains - so we must keep that in mind when we find ourselves clinging to things that we’re far better off without. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

staying aligned with that favorite version of you, in every situation, no matter how stressed, how hungry, how angry, how frustrated, how down, how unheard you feel, is the highest form of alignment and self-mastery in my honest opinion. If you can still make choices that make your favorite version of you feel the most proud, no matter how crappy and off kilter you feel? It’s not easy - it may not even be doable for all of us - but damn it’s a beautiful thing to strive for. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you do find it to be a struggle to know what the next best choice is for your current self - channel that version of you that feels the most badass before you make a decision? If you need to create a more confident alter-ego, great! Whatever you need to do to ensure you’re making the choices that make you feel the most empowered on a regular basis. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Don’t be afraid to go after anything you want even if you’re a lil scared its not the perfect fit because who the hell cares if its a temporary gig, at the very least you’ve got a dope party story and best case scenario you get to combine all your skills into the ideal life for yourself. Open yourself up to new experiences, be brave, face the what if I hate it’s with so what if I hate it - at least I frickin’ tried. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the book, Stumbling on Happiness, Dan Gilbert says: "Most of us do have the expectation that our lives are improving and will get better and better, but often we’re not ready to do anything to actually achieve that next level. So, we spend our days hoping for better, our evenings dreaming of better, but our time doing nothing to make anything better - which means - things probably aren’t actually improving for us. We’re just hoping and dreaming, which is fine, but if those hopes and dreams started to spill into your genuine world of expectations in any way, it can be a painful reality check to realize your fantasies are simply fantasies. Those feelings of peace, luxury, decadence, freedom, love, connection, or whatever else I am seeking through the lil imagination beach getaway of my mind, that’s what I want to create more of. I want more of the feelings, not the environments I am convinced will create those feelings.  When I realized that that’s the perk. The escapism into my head, is the perk I am looking for, and not the dream home, because the dream home downs exist. There is no such thing as the villa I created because life isn’t a fantasy.So stay optimistic AND realistic. Ask yourself what you are really seeking through your hopes and fantasies and see if you can manifest more of that, now. In your current space. Let your optimism drive you towards discovering more of it, in your life rather than allowing it to remind you of where you may be lacking it.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Save the work until you get to the work. So often, we get caught up in our heads about potential problems and our workloads that we basically double the work on our plate by basically having to go through it twice. Have you ever been driving to work and pre-writing emails, or pre-planning meetings, or predicting problems? How many times have you left a job and started planning for the next day? Or worse - deciding what you can finish when you get home? Some jobs don’t allow you to leave the work at work - but I still encourage you to schedule in adequate time to take c are of yourself so you don’t burn out. In the show abbott elementary - which I cant get enough of and think everyone should watch immediately it’s so funny and heartfelt - but in case you haven’t seen it I will butcher a beautiful moment in my retelling of an episode where the main character was trying to do everything in her power to “save the school” on her own and she kinda screws everything up in a comedy of errors and another teacher offers a beautiful monologue explaining that the more experienced teachers aren’t stepping into the line of fire because they don’t care but because they don’t want to burn out. We care so much we refuse to burn out. If we burn out who’s here for the kids?And that’s something I had to learn the hard way as a teacher. I had to learn that in order to make the difference i was so desperate to make - I had to preserve my own wellbeing first. I had to create healthy boundaries or id work myself to the bone and never be able to recover. If you take it like a staircase instead of a projectile, you’re less likely to fall straight back down to the earth.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When being propositioned for anything, practice saying oh that sounds great can I get back to you in ____ insert appropriate time frame here. I typically tell people I will put it in your calendar and check back in closer to the date. Then immediately I will set a second calendar event for a week or a day or so prior to the event reminding me to check in about it. That way I can have time to flesh my schedule out and decide with adequate reflection if it’s something I actually do want to attend or I just felt obligated to in the heat of the moment.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today's (and tomorrow's) episode references: https://time.com/4116259/google-search-2/https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2019/11/02/expert-tips-for-google-search/4113013002/Duck Duck Go: Private searching browser. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Good morning sunshine!Hope today is magic for you.Today's (and tomorrow's) episode references: https://time.com/4116259/google-search-2/https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2019/11/02/expert-tips-for-google-search/4113013002/MEDIA BIAS CHART EXPLANATION: https://adfontesmedia.com/how-ad-fontes-ranks-news-sources/ https://www.allsides.com/media-bias/media-bias-rating-methods1. Language is important. You don’t want to write when did such and such start if you really want to know when something was founded vs. established, or published vs. written. Figure out what you REALLY, specifically are looking to find out, and choose the appropriate (but fewest possible) words to get you there. 2. Don’t lead the witness. When asking a question, google for the answer don’t ask if your answer is right - you may just find other people who agreed with you confidently enough to publish a website but not enough to figure out you’re both incorrect. 3. Use quotation marks to get results with those exact key word phrases included in the results. Choosing and putting quotes around important contextual words can help get you more useful results, more efficiently. According to USA Today article, Google’s advice is to add or remove words in your query to see different results, starting out with a broad search and narrowing it down as you go.The word order matters in your searches, so try one way then the other if you’re not getting the results you want. 4. In addition to quotation marks, you can also add - minus sign to your search to remove things you don’t want to see in the results. Like if you’re looking for a new car but don’t want a certain type, you can put -convertible so you don’t have to see convertibles show up in your results. There needs to be a space before the minus sign and then not before the word you’d like to exclude. The opposite is true for the + plus sign to ensure anything you add after MUST be included in the search results. Similar to the “quotation mark” strategy but this one is more for single keywords. 5. You can also use an asterisk * if you forget a word in a quote or a common sentence that is essential for the search. 6. I am personally a huge fan of image search. I find a lot of things I need, like resume examples, quotes, scripts, etc. are created in PDF or visual form and you don’t have to scroll through all the various webpages seeing if the information you want even exists. Just scroll through images quickly to see if it’s there. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I feel the need to remind us all that truly unbiased humans don’t exist so truly unbiased news sources can’t exist either. Buuuuuut, luckily there are some resources that don’t explicitly sell out to advertisers, politicians, agendas or whatever else people get brainwashed by or choose to sell their souls for and fortunately for us - that means there are the occasional resources that opt for good journalism and with that, we have something to work with!  By now you may have seen the media bias chart by Vanessa Otero to see how 104 news outlets rank on reliability and bias. When we’re consuming content of any kind, but especially informational or educational stuff, and especially especially the news, we should not only be very conscious of the reliability of our sources but also become more selective and choosy about WHAT we’re consuming from those sources, how we’re consuming that information, how often we’re consuming it. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

sometimes when I am really missing the beach - and I can’t make it to the lake because it’s 17 degrees outside - I put on my insight timer to beach sounds, get a lil high, put the fan on full blast and the heater on my toes and I imagine that I am on the beach while I meditate. In the summer, I go to the lake and sincerely pretend it’s Florida. And I gotta say - pretending works. Plus, when you do inside beach, you don’t have the fish smell or the seagulls so I mean - there are bright sides to everything.Ever since I did the episodes on the power of imagination I have been finding ways to lean into my best life EVEN if I have to imagine it. I set up my environment as effectively as possible and I imagine it as well as I can fulfilling my wildest fantasies in the most vivid way possible. It’s helping too - it made me realize I was under optimizing my home environment, which is making me appreciate what I already have available, a lot more. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I don’t think there is any industry that people discourage more immediately and blindly than they do of anyone pursuing a life in the arts. People are happy to tell you how hard it is - but they’ve never tried. They claim safer industries and careers and condescendingly claim to admire your passion while silently offering fearful judgements and thinly veiled disappointment in you. Being someone who has chased both a “safe” and a “risky” career - I can honestly say - art is an admirable field partially because of all the doubt we face. But it’s not as impossible as people make it out to be. Sure immediate overnight success and becoming a millionaire may be a bit out of touch as far as goals go - but making a sustainable career in the arts is not only possible - but it’s commonly done. I’m not saying it’s easy - but dammit I am so tired of people pretending it’s not something that is even possible. Art is a billion dollar industry - Creativity is all around us - we’re all consuming it all the time - almost every industry needs and pays a creative of some kind and regardless - so it’s wild to me that people are so discouraging about those of us who want to pursue something creative or out of the ordinary as a career. There are thousands of actors we don’t know the names of - who are happily making a solid career doing what they love on a smaller scale. And I’m sure they feel like they aren’t successful if the relative scale is Meryl Streep but if the regular scale is real life- people who hate their cubicle jobs and make the same amount as he does - I’d say that he was actually incredible successful. Sure, art a very difficult career trajectory for a lot of reasons - but let’s not forget a lot of “safe paths” are difficult as hell to become successful in, too. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do the prep work, then forget about it. You’re more likely to be able to handle whatever the universe throws at you if you’re already ready to handle what was expected.  It’s less stress to prepare for a mess than it is to be surprised by one.Most of the time, I am proud to be the prepared friend. My official @MYDBPodcast tote bag is never lacking on snacks, lotions, hot sauces, or pens. I carry a sewing kit, and I’ve typically mapped the place and scoped the menu a few times before we arrive. If they do reservations, I will call them on the way to make sure we’re not forced to wait any more than we have to. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SPECIAL EPISODE: Evening wind down guided meditation. Take and adapt this lil wind-down to fit your needs! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SPECIAL EPISODE: this is an adaptable guided meditation to help you wake up in the morning and recharge with positive, warm energy for the best possible start to your day! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

if you’re like me - and you have ever felt resistance or a sense of overwhelm with trying to convince yourself that you need to meditate and seem to struggle sitting down for three to five minutes at a time, and cant quite understand why? I get it, bc I’ve been there. Quite a bit. And in my experience, the best way around that resistance is to remind yourself that meditation is not a time to DO meditation and all the other pre-assigned definitions of the word - you’re kinda defeating the purpose of the damn practice in itself, which is to release expectations.So, instead of stressing out finding the right insight timer, or worrying about how hard it’s gonna be to clear your head, or how much you don’t feel like focusing on your breathing, drop all that shit and just focus on showing up as you are. Switch from “damn, i should get up and go meditate” towards “I love the time and peace I get to create through taking time and space for myself by doing and being nothing for a few moments every day.” For me, personally, when even the idea of meditating is off-putting, i don’t tempt fate by wrestling with finding the right guided voice - I simply turn on the timer on my phone and breathe. If I struggle to focus on my breath and it’s not a good vibe - I toggle between two mindfulness strategies that my friend Casey introduced me. Because typically if I am unable to focus on my breath for more than a minute it’s a signal for me that it’s a good time to either release something or fill my cup up a bit cuz I am running on empty. Depending on what I need more of in that moment, I kinda vibe with an internal guided monologue which I want to encourage you to listen through the one I will be sharing with you so you can create your own version that feels right.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In my opinion, the only true, long term solution to not wanting to stay in bed all day, and that is to create genuine motivation to get your ass out of bed and begin your day. Obviously knowing you have to do taxes wont get you out of bed but knowing you have a zoom friend date with some grocery store sushi and a bestie from middle school this evening is far more likely to get your ass amped for making moves. Focus on the parts that sound good. I don’t like making my bed but I love having a tidy space, so I focus on that. I don’t like showering but I like feeling clean and smelling good, so I focus on that. I don’t like making breakfast but I love housing it. So I focus on that. Figuring out what truly gets you going, isn’t easy. It’s a lifelong journey of trial and error and a bit of discomfort for most people - but a good place to start is anywhere. So just start looking, figure out what works and try to have a bit of fun in the process. Life is not meant to be all work and no play. But if you’ve ever done too much play and not enough quality work - you know you can also get burnt out with that too. Find your balance. Ideally you can work towards creating work and play that suits you in a way that makes it easier to get out of bed and get your day started. When we create a good mix of both fun and purpose, we feel more balanced in general and less resentful that one isn’t the other.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it’s time to start moving there are a variety of tactics I find myself cycling through to effectively get myself off my ass and in a better energetic mindset for the day. Some ways to help you get out of bed: MYDB PODCAST: Listen to the Make Your Damn Bed Podcast + practice associating it with starting your day.PLAYLIST: Put on a hype up/game day playlist and blast it. BLAST OFF: count down 3-2-1 and bounce up on the 1. BUG DROP: Imagine bug on you, get up with a jolt + scream. SHAKE OUT: Start shaking + wiggling until your energy rises. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you want to participate in discourse get educated if you’d like to have opinions. Ideally you are only listening to multiple Reputable sources from different organizations and areas and are as unbiased and unsponsored as possible.  then - if you have the capacity to do something to help in any way - which I have to be honest, I don’t know that writing our alderman is really gonna work on this one so if you have suggestions, I’m all ears and down to do what I can to fight the good fight - but once you’ve researched, educated, and done what you can to be of support, you gotta set it down. That shit is heavy and will weigh you down in ways you don’t even know if you aren’t careful. If you are safe, currently, and have the privilege to set it down, please do so.  Get to know when you’re starting to burn out. Recognize signs of obsession, fatigue, burnout, fear, anxiety, and take breaks. Schedule and stick to times you will and wont research and discuss this shit, etc. and so on. Whatever you need to prevent burnout so you can be the most well rounded, protected and accounted for version of yourself is always gonna outweigh being the the most profoundly educated or motivated. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I believe, in general, if bad news or even just the idea of news genuinely incapacitates you from life and you cant deal with learning or knowing or watching or doing anything that makes you feel heavy, fuck it. You are under no obligation to learn or know or watch or cater to anything heavy for a while.  Nobody is checking you to ask what you know or what you don’t know about current events. Don’t feel guilty if you need to sit this one out. Maybe check in with the real world once in a while because if you want to function and also sustain boundaries in our society it’s always helpful to be informed, but if you really do need to sit a couple weeks of news cycles, do that shit. If you never need to look at the news again, great. Boycott it. People survive in this world all the time without knowing a damn thing about a damn thing and we are none the wiser. Do whats best for you. That said, if you are more on the cusp of this concept and, like a lot of people, see the value and maybe even like to know what’s happening in the world but still struggle with how and how much and when and where and all that shit, this is for you. And if you are like the person above that really does believe learning about the current conditions of the social and environmental climate is genuinely not worth your time, I encourage you to listen anyway because I may have snuck in a few nuggets of wisdom for you, too. Lemme start by saying, there are a lot of valid reasons to want to avoid the outside world. Maybe You’re like me and you are a very sensitive sally and when everything sucks and hurts out there, it also sucks and hurts in here. If this is you, too. I’m telling you, I get it. That said - we really gotta learn boundaries so we can feel safe when life happens and not feel like wee have to hide all the time. Because we really gotta know the bullshit so we can better understand the bullshit if we want to have any chance of figuring out how to how prevent, stay out, and help others out of the bullshit if we do have ANY window of control, which most tragedies don’t allow for but regardless, knowing the basics of whats going on is typically something that makes me feel slightly more in control. So, whatever your thing is - find your motivation to learn about shit way we can continue to feel in the loop but not bound by it. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.