Make Your Damn Bed

William Penn said “Time is what we want most, but what we use worst. physicist Albert-László Barabási once wrote, “Time is our most valuable non-renewable resource, and if we want to treat it with respect, we need to set priorities.”Years of research provides us with evidence that those who choose time over money are inherently happier - and recent research dives even deeper into the severity of the pursuit of which takes on our mental health. Time is valuable as hell. Respect that shit. You can't get it back. And the time of those around you, as well. It means they're investing their MOST valuable resource on you! Now this episode is gonna go on and on about how valuable our time is - but as always, I have one GIANT disclaimer/caveat which is - most of my content (and most other self help/motivational/inspirational content) cam only occur after our basic needs our met (shelter, food, safety, etc) only if were full, safe, and whelmed - can we begin to even consider thinking our way out of our shit.As always, I recognize and want to remind you of the privilege take I am using when addressing this concept and hope to not spread any sense of shame for those who may find this unattainable. DISCLAIMER: The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained or presented is for general information purposes only. All content is presented on an "as-is" basis.See the extended bonus version of THIS episode on youtube.com/juliemerica and rate us 5 stars on apple podcasts if you haven't already. If can share this with a friend (or enemy) that you think would benefit from it, that would truly be a game changer. Subscribe to the newsletter at www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com or visit our patreon for highly exclusive bonus content. Support our sponsors, because they support us (which supports the accessibility of this daily content). Honestly, though, thank you for simply being here. for existing. it really means more than you know. luhh ya.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today's episode is a pick-me-up with a lil good news for your earholes. Plus, it's got a BONUS video with BONUS content here at BONUS town.1. Good news about the EU passing historic pro refugee laws.2. Plastic regulations for major corporations taken on by many nations. 3. Good news about the Arctic + commercial fishing there. 4. Humpback populations have increased in Australia (1,500 to over 40,000!) removing them from the threatened list after 60 years of conservation efforts. 5. The Betty White challenge raised over $13 million for local animal shelters around the US. 6. The tequila fish has been reintroduced to it's native Jalisco, after being considered extinct. 7. Wales is using waste (specifically, dirty diapers) to pave roads! 8. Plus info on cancer research and sculpture parks that have been saving the fish, in Italy. Send me some good news if you have any! I am always looking for a new reason to get excited about the future. Hope you have a magical rest of your day.RESOURCES:https://sdgs.un.org/sites/default/files/2022-04/UNOC_political_declaration_April_draft_clean_final.pdfhttps://www.youtube.com/EuronewsUSA/videosAccess the daily motivational podcast here: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comIf can share this with a friend (or enemy) that you think would benefit from it, that would truly be a game changer.Please visit my patreon for highly exclusive bonus content.Support the sponsors, because they support us (which supports the accessibility of this daily content). Honestly, though, thank you for simply being here. for existing. it really means more than you know. luhh ya.Thank you so much for watching. Feel free to subscribe if you want more content like this!Have a good one, friend!The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained or presented is for general information purposes only.All content is presented on an "as-is" basis.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you can't single-handedly save the planet, you CAN opt for harm reduction. Get to know your recycling laws and start doing it. Encourage those around you to, too. Maybe start composting! Some companies even pick it up for ya. Start buying compostable trash bags Keep Tupperware containers in a bag in your car. Then ACTUALLY go out and get them when you’re about to take leftovers home. Styrofoam is a common restaurant takeout choice and it takes over 500 years to break down because they’re not recyclable.  Leave your reusable bags in the door of your car or your passenger seat or next to your keys so you’ll grab them when you go grocery shopping. If you leave them in the car, which we all do, bring your loose groceries out or go grab them - it’ll be enough of a pain in the ass to not reinforce the behavior, so ideally you’ll remember the next time.If you have the space and the thumb for it - plant a small garden of your most purchased produce items. This will save money, plastic, and shipping costs. It also means you can get your produce locally + organically, which is real cool.  Make your own sauces, beverages, and smoothies to reduce your purchases of single use containers. Buy less fast fashion, learn to sew and mend and up cycle, and donate to better organizations than those weird boxes on the side of the road. Doing dishes in the dishwasher is often less wasteful than running the water while you hand wash. Turning off water between lathers, shaves, etc. can also be a simple way to conserve. Of course, we already covered the importance of taking less flights, especially international, if you can. Walking more, biking more, and opting for carpools when the option is available. But in my honest opinion, these are all incredibly important ways to treat the symptoms to a bigger systemic issue. The way to address the system is through community effort. Plan a litter clean up event or a micro trash collection clean up. Organize a letter writing or a social media frenzy event where you and your community voice your concerns to your local officials about their stance and intentions with the climate crisis. We should also be contacting the major companies and businesses that we shop at requesting information or changes to their practices revolving around the environment. Invest in low emission technology like wind, solar, and electric vehicles. Remember - you’re not responsible for saving the world, but we can all do our part to leave this place a lil better than we found it. The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained or presented is for general information purposes only. All content is presented on an "as-is" basis.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Organizing is a democratic strategy used by social movements, labor unions, under-represented communities, and marginalized groups to gain rights, win collective political power, and create positive change. 7+ million people went on climate strike this past month (in a single week). And much of this shift has been led by newer movements like Extinction Rebellion, Sunrise Movement, and the Greta Thunberg-inspired Friday's For Future / Youth Strike for Climate. What's particularly impressive is all three are largely decentralized, grassroots movements that are at most one to two years old."Link to resources + groups already putting in the work: https://www.brightest.io/climate-change-solutionThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained or presented is for general information purposes only. All content is presented on an "as-is" basis.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know our phones have good stuff hidden inside, too? smile.amazon.com, freerice.org, bstow, spotfund, googleone, charitymiles.org, toogoodtogo, I can go without, are just a FEW of the incredible nonprofits doing the work to save the planet. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I've been thrifting for over 2 decades and here are my favorite lil tips for those of ya who aren't as versed in consignment/thrift hunts. Establish your style? What do you need to fill gaps in your wardrobe? Wear things that are comfortable and easy to try things on over. Browse various stores in your area to get to know what they "specialize" in. Branch out of your typical section - because sizing + gender is weird af. Check for stains, seams, buttons, armpit wear, etc. Bring headphones + hand sani + snacks + a budget. Be kind to others + don't just buy to buy. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

before you can know WHAT to buy you need to know WHO you're buying for. what style are you drawn to? what is your vibe? how do you like to present/feel most comfortable? can you be more intentional when making purchases to fit in that world? DISCLAIMER: The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained or presented is for general information purposes only. All content is presented on an "as-is" basis.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

call out the brands you love instead of feeling guilty about buying the shit. they should feel guilty - not you. pass the guilt back to the brand with the crappy labor practices with every new purchase.https://www2.hm.com/en_us/customer-service/contact.htmlhttps://www.forever21.com/us/contact-us/contactus.htmlhttps://www.zara.com/us/en/contacthttps://www.amazon.com/gp/help/customer/display.html?nodeId=GSD587LKW72HKU2VDISCLAIMER: The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained or presented is for general information purposes only. All content is presented on an "as-is" basis.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Don't feel bad if you still "need to" shop at these places, but it's good to recognize when we're buying just to buy or buying to really fill a need, especially since it does have such an enormous (negative) environmental impact. Fast fashion trash behaviors: Uniqlo, H&M, Nike, Forever 21, Zara, Old Navy, Target, Walmart, BooHoo, Shein, Asos, Victoria's Secret, American Eagle, Abercrombie + Fitch, Primark, Brandy Neville, Gap, Free People, Men's Warehouse and more. SOURCES: https://brightly.eco/fast-fashion-brands-sustainability/https://www.sustainably-chic.com/blog/fast-fashion-brands-to-avoidhttps://goodonyou.eco/how-ethical-is-hm/DISCLAIMER: The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained or presented is for general information purposes only. All content is presented on an "as-is" basis.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

OPE, you mean our individual impact on climate change is totally dependent on our individual circumstance!? Looks like another thing we're supposed to feel guilty about. That said - it's still incredibly interesting + important to recognize."A new study has identified the four actions that would have the greatest impact on an individual’s greenhouse gas emissions: eating a plant-based diet, avoiding air travel, living car free, and having fewer children."SOURCE: https://www.kimnicholas.com/responding-to-climate-change.html#:~:text=A%20new%20study%20has%20identified,free%2C%20and%20having%20fewer%20children.THE DISCLAIMER: The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained or presented is for general information purposes only. All content is presented on an "as-is" basis.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Yesterday - as a part of the tiny eco choice challenge - I skipped the take-out and cooked stuff I already had in the pantry, but when I do order from local spots - I choose some of them based on the reusability/recyclability of their to-go containers. Other notable points: Don't throw away what's already working - even if it's plastic. Estate sales, yard sales, thrift stores, and online consignment shops are great ways to buy new products. Fix it, instead of upgrading it, if you can! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Morning sunshine! Collective action challenge for today: what TINY action can you do today to make a difference for the future of our planet?(tag me @MYDBPodcast with ideas if you can, cuz I love it) A listener asked for climate change strategies and my brain went WILD with the stuff I have done to "do my part" but let's be real. It's 100 companies responsible for 71% of the ding-dang global emissions - so we really need to keep that in perspective when we're "saving the world" by dehydrating ourselves on the roadtrip to save a damned bottle from a recycling bin... just me? cool. Either way, I guess what I am trying to say is if you want to save the planet - use the paper straw when you can but call the CEO of Exxon Mobil when you can't. Love you! Talk to you tomorrow. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Improv: Keeps you open. Keeps you listening and curious and present. It helps you stay in the moment and not planning ahead or dwelling on the past, but instead allowing it to guide your future actions. Helps you let go of your ego. When you realize how fun life is when you confidently allow yourself that are considered by society to be less attractive or cool, or even stupid looking - you show you could care less about societal standards and your ego which is the most confident you can possibly look in my opinion. Improv means we are focused not on our internal dialogue but the real connections and relationships we are building through our interactions in real time.Increases creativity, whimsy, exploration, fun, and connections. It’s a reminder that we can live a life full of magic without any limitations if we just open ourselves up to building worlds outside of ourselves once in a while. When was the last time you got weird and used your imagination with a group of grownup friends and goofed off together?The idea of “yes, and” reminds us there is always more to discover if we just open ourselves up to the possibility. Improv teaches us to get comfortable accepting offers, shifting gears, and allowing things to flow and unfold.Improv helps us learn when it’s appropriate for us to take the lead and when it’s time to step back and follow,  Improv gets us out of our heads, keeps us open, and allows us to find fun in the mundane. INCREASES: Creativity, imagination, collaboration, team work, perspective, public speaking skills, communication (nonverbal and verbal) makes you a better leader, a better follower, a better listener, and a more fearless person when it comes to approaching new things. Most importantly - improvisation reminds us there is a power in our taking action. We often think ourselves silly and never get around to actually making any progress. Improv is proof that taking unplanned action is often more effective than overplanning and overthinking ourselves to death. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You can be ANYONE you want, any time you want, as long as you're making choices that align with who you want to be. Stop stressing about the rest. Trust that you'll discover your "why" along the way, by accepting who you are, where you are, now. Establishing your point of view is a lot easier when you know who you are. So figure out who the heck you are first, then trust that you will be able to align with that self and thrive in any circumstances that arise. Plus, knowing who you are doesn't mean you can't grow and adapt and change into something better in the future! Learn, stay open, and listen. Allow things to flow and accept where you are at now in order to adapt to where you want to be in the future. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Figure out WHO you are first, so you can make choices that align with your WHY. Not everything that gets thrown at you is going to be worthy of your time, energy, and thought. Release the need to address EVERYTHING all the time. You can't be everything to everyone, all at once. So focus on the important, and you can only get to know what's important by actually leaning into who you are and why you're here. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Know when to stay silent. Learn when the situation needs space and time to breathe. Building tension through pauses can really increase your confidence, improve the energy surrounding it, and allow you space to come up with even better and more rewarding responses. Some things don't even need a response. Know when to hold, and when to fold, and when to play. Timing is important. It changes EVERYTHING, even if every other condition was exactly the same, the timing can make or break a situation. Learn WHEN to make the move, so you can increase your odds of making the next best one. You got this! Embrace the down time. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Learning to trust yourself is the most important part in being able to ACCEPT the current REALITY of what is, now. Being a great human starts with accepting the reality as it as now, so you can react and respond in alliance with your foundational values to improve the situation, one step at a time. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trust yourself to make the next best choice. Flow, don't plan. Lean into the mistakes. You've done hard things many times before - and you'll do more again - so don't stress it. You're gonna do great, like you have so many times in the past. You're great at what you do, don't ever forget that. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are no mistakes. As long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone else, every mistake is an opportunity for growth, learning, change, or re-routing. Never be afraid to make a contribution, even if it feels like other people won't understand. Go in with clarity and connection and lean into the idea that the mistakes are where the magic live. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In day 6 of the @MYDBPodcast improv series, I discuss "yes, and" vs. consenting to the things that do not align with your personal values. Get comfortable saying no to things that are dangerous or problematic. You don't have to be a people pleaser to say "yes, and" once in awhile. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is day 5 in the improv series of the Make Your Damn Bed Podcast. Today we're discussing how to "yes, and" someone and still disagree proactively. Get the foundations built before you reform it. Build, then edit. Get curious. Play TOGETHER to build connections and understanding. Explore together to learn and expand. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In day 4 of the improv class series we discuss the concept of "yes, and", which is a principle that you will accept other people's suggestions, ideas, and contributions and expound upon them instead of shutting them down. It increases receptivity, decreases judgement, improves expansion, and increases connection. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Taking a brief "commercial" break to tell you about an app I have discovered (non-sponsored, just truly couldn't wait to share this) that is aiming to help you get cheaper grub and help restaurants eliminate food waste. Check out TooGoodToGo.com and smile.amazon.com next time you're online shoppin' and would like to make a little bit of a positive impact with your purchase. Back tomorrow with more improvisation advice! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

improv is overwhelming, but don't sit on the sidelines. go with the flow and enjoy the journey. lean on the connection and your ability to make everyone around you look amazing. a commonly discussed foundational rule in improv is the principle of "yes and", and I want to clarify on the real meaning of that and how it can be expanded to include: "no, but" as well. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Rules* of improv: There are no rules. (other than the basics like: avoiding intentional harm, etc.) No wrong answers. Mistakes are opportunities. Lean in. Flow vs. Plan Stay open. Open to new ideas, new directions, and new perspectives. It's a team effort. There are no winners or VIPs. Prioritize making EVERYONE else look good. Don't derail the scene by going for the oke. Have fun! It's a time to play, so play. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I share the very basic structure of my improv classes. Boundary check - How does everyone feel about physicality? any limits we should know about? Warm ups - connect + get comfortable with those around you. Play - in the world you BUILD together on the foundations you've already built together. Reflect + follow up. Subscribe to the monthly newsletter: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comSubscribe for extended eps on patreon: patreon.com/mydbpodcastFree bonus content also available on: instagram.com/mydbpodcast youtube.com/juliemericatiktok.com/mydbpodcastSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today begins the first of the Improvised Improvisation series. Starring me improvising an introduction to my experience with improv in Chicago + how it's (quite literally) changed my life for the better. IMPROVISE: to compose, recite, play, or sing extemporaneously OR to make, invent, or arrange offhandto make or fabricate out of what is conveniently on hand.IMPROVISATIONAL THEATRE: live performances in which everything is created in the moment. scripts, characters, plots, stories, scenes, etc. are all made up on the spot. (finished and scheduled with 34 minutes to spare, if you were curious) SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE CONTENT:www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com - MONTHLY NEWSLETTER SIGN UP patreon.com/mydbpodcast - EXTENDED EPS + JOURNALSinstagram.com/mydbpodcast tiktok.com/mydbpodcastyoutube.com/juliemericaSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is the final part of a three part series. Please listen to yesterday's episode before this one!Feel free to use genuine, earnest real life first hand stories to show and demonstrate your perspective. Just like you should have been attempting to really understand their perspective on that position - it’s your turn to share yours, so don’t be afraid to get real, vulnerable, and honest. This doesn’t mean you have to wreck them with a Shonda rhymes level soap opera diatribe. Be you. Keep it real. But go in with the intention of helping them understand why you truly do feel so differently about the topic. Some other general tips include: Try not to use the word but. It negates people and ideas, so to be more inclusive replace it with the word AND instead. Also, don’t feel like you ever apologize for disagreeing with someone. Unless you’ve made a mistake and actually do something wrong or hurt someone in real time. You don’t need to apologize for having and voicing an opinion - unless that opinion is inherently dangerous or negative to another human’s well being - in which case - your opinions can be wrong. For more exclusive hot hot bonus content: Sign up for the monthly newsletter here: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comInstagram: instagram.com/mydbpodcastTiktok: Tiktok.com/mydbpodcastPatreon: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast Youtube: www.youtube.com/juliemericaSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is the second part of a three part series. Please listen to yesterday's episode before this one! People are nuanced. They can be wrong and right at the same time. Find what’s right before delving into what’s wrong. Connect before you correct. A good way to diffuse and connect- especially if you’re starting to get a lil defensive is by finding a common ground. If you really are struggling to do this - call out your intention directly - I’d really love to refocus on some of the things we do agree on. Hearing people out doesn’t change your internal beliefs, so listen. Hear them out, connect on SOMETHING and have empathy towards the emotions that they are feeling in any moment. This is the best way to diffuse situations without standing beneath your own morals or sense of alignment. For more exclusive hot hot bonus content: Sign up for the monthly newsletter here: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comInstagram: instagram.com/mydbpodcastTiktok: Tiktok.com/mydbpodcastPatreon: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast Youtube: www.youtube.com/juliemericaSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Build the connection before you reach for the correction. a lot of communication does happen non verbally - so offer kindness and listening and empathy through your expressions. If you’re standing, face the person directly but don’t tower or “muscle up”, show you’re receptive by sitting up straight and actively listening to the speaker. People who roll their eyes and shake their head and keep attempting to speak over others are far less likely to actually get any points across because it only serves to escalate emotions and trigger people’s fear of feeling unheard and disrespected.But obviously verbal communication is VERY important to manage and streamline as well. If you can continuously approach people with a respectful tone regardless of how angry, frustrated, or petty you feel; you’re ahead of the game. Maybe it comes in the form of being more passive, or sarcastic, or some of us are more direct - but tone and expression can change the entire conversation - even if the words you say are identical. Saying - “I’m feeling like you didn’t understand me” can come off very different than “I’m feeling like you didn’t understand me” When a conversation is getting tense, it can be good to reassure the other person, that you’re on their team and you’re acting in good faith and not attempting to pull the rug out from under them. This will allow them to let their guard down and trust you so they aren’t coming from as much of a defensive and shut down place. Remember, if someone has their defenses up, those shields block EVERYTHING from entering - including logic and reasoning. So the key is deescalate so they know that they are safe with you. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The detour today is brought to you by ADHD.Today I share the true meaning of "staying present" and how to do so without becoming hyper self critical. I also share tips on how to stay confident by bringing your real self to the table. And there's a few other nugs of wisdom you'll have to tune in to find out, please and thanks. if you haven't already, please rate Make Your Damn Bed Podcast FIVE glorious stars on apple so I can spread this info and make it accessible to more and more people. For more exclusive hot hot bonus content: Sign up for the monthly newsletter here: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comInstagram: instagram.com/mydbpodcastTiktok: Tiktok.com/mydbpodcastPatreon: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast Youtube: www.youtube.com/juliemericaSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes people will get heated and things may escalate quickly and get tense out of nowhere and we may not even know what or why things are happening this way, but if we create a tool belt of things we can return to, we can remember that we do have some power in whether we choose to defuse or further escalate a potentially tense situation. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

 The conversational awareness series summary: Stay present, don’t prep responses. Read the room. Take your time. Not every convo needs to be gossipy and ruthless and petty. Steer conversations more positively if they become too negative. Keep shit neutral for the most part. If sharing is the vibe great but don’t pry and probe if people wanna share they will - and people are more comfortable sharing with those who share and listen also but it can be really awkward to keep pressing and prying. Take responsibility if you say inappropriate shit, in the moment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to tell a better story: Be present, stay confident, get curious and honest. Then ask yourself: Why this story? Why now?Is the audience and timing appropriate? Don't derail the energy. Read the room. Is this story worth telling? Keep your central message in mind throughout the story. Am I building a through-line? Drop breadcrumbs so your listeners can relate and pick up on clues that help keep them on board throughout the story. Give yourself a thread to follow from the beginning of your story to the end. Am I sharing too much? Avoid TMI. Keep your backstory relevant and don't over-do details that don't actually build the story. Change your inflection and pacing to build tension. Punch up, don't be petty. Take your time and have fun. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you wanna have a good conversation with someone, you'll be present, stay confident, get curious, treat everyone like a friend, and focus more on being interested than interesting.Find common interests and passions and get real! Bein' vulnerable helps people open up in return. Hope today is as magic as you are. Love you, cutie!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

once you practice aligning your external actions with your internal self-awareness, you will get better and better at creating natural connections, but it can be helpful to know when and how to gracefully excuse yourself from a conversation that is no longer serving you. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BEING INTERESTED IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING INTERESTING. If you're more concerned with "proving" yourself than "staying present" - you're wasting valuable time and energy. Competence is proven through actions, behaviors, choices, and taking responsibility for mistakes in real time. We're not typically impressed with braggarts and show-offs. We see right through the inauthenticity that comes from people attempting to be "interesting".Being someone who offers genuine interest in others and themselves from a place of earnest curiosity, is far more interesting than those who are forcing it. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cultivating external self awareness comes from aligning with your internal self awareness and goals. When you know how you are - you can streamline your actions, choices, words, and behaviors to align with who you are AND what the room needs in any given moment. Tone, volume, topics, etc. should be accounted for when building connection - but we should be able to both "read the room" and "stay aligned with our highest self" in a way that doesn't feel overwhelming. Practice listening, keeping conversations fairly neutral, sustaining respect and objectivity when you can - and you'll feel less self-conscious and more self-aware as a result. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

when your internal self awareness isn't aligning with your external - you can self correct in real time to feel more safe and confident in your personal guidance system. don't be afraid to check in regularly (as objectively as possible) to ensure your external is matching up with the internal. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do your beliefs, thoughts, actions, decisions align with your internal favorite version of yourself? The more you practice internally evaluating the things that make you feel the best and most aligned - the less you'll have to over-analyze and critique your external presentation to ensure it's aligning with your best self, internally. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The key to building self awareness (that doesn't ebb into self-consciousness) is being aware internally of the things that align with you and your favorite version of yourself. Trust that your external will naturally begin to match the internal as you begin to get clear about the things that make you feel the most whole and well-rounded. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Taking an extra second to look back now can save you hours of stress and worry in the future. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Day one of a self awareness series in which I share strategies and techniques to become LESS self-aware about the stuff that removes you from your ability to stay present and mindful and MORE self-aware about the things that truly matter. Internal self-awareness is far more powerful than external self-awareness. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People generally just want to feel heard and being a good listener is a huge part of that. Practice waiting to respond, silence allows space for people to continue. Practice making eye contact + repeating what they've just said back to them in their own words. And practice really being there while they create their own conclusions. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes it can be the right move to just change the subject. Whether to diffuse, or just escape an awkward situation - learning how to change the subject can help others get out of toxic cycles too. Whether discreet or obvious - don't be afraid to change the subject if things are starting to spiral out of control. Thank you for listening to the daily motivation podcast to help you get out of bed, so you can start making it. Rate and review 5 stars on Apple, if ya dig it. Sign up for the newsletter at www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The more we remind ourselves that we don’t need to be positive all the time, we will realize there is also no need to be negative either - but by relaxing and redirecting to my breath I can remind myself that there’s nothing I can do NOW and the best possible thing I can do - for my own well being - is to drop it. To let it go. To move on. And allow myself some space between me and the perpetual thought. Thank you for listening to the daily motivation podcast to help you get out of bed, so you can start making it. Rate and review 5 stars on Apple, if ya dig it. Sign up for the newsletter at www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re finding yourself dwelling and turning the same concern over and over and over and over, you’re ruminating. And even though it’s incredibly common, it’s also terrible for your mental health. Although the reflection portion of rumination can often be fairly beneficial in finding a solution or process the strong emotions that are associated with the situation, rumination in general is often less proactive and only perpetuates a negative mood surrounding it. Plus, when most people ruminate it’s not with the intention to reflect and grow, so it ends up making us feel more helpless and stressed about the situation occurring in the future. It’s linked to depression and anxiety and is not only a symptom but a cause - so it often becomes a self fulfilling and compounding cycle of toxic thinking. Rumination can make you feel isolated, and can in turn push others away, which becomes a self-fulfilling negativity. It’s also a way to prolong + intensify depression, plus when you’re ruminating on something - you’re not present in the now. You can’t think clearly about next steps if you’re dwelling on past problems. Thank you for listening to the daily motivation podcast to help you get out of bed, so you can start making it. Rate and review 5 stars on Apple, if ya dig it. Sign up for the newsletter at www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Take your time with the journey and lean into what YOU really want at a pace that works for you, not against ya. There's a freedom in traveling alone, don't be afraid to do it and take control of your own schedule. Pit stops are enjoyable, when you let yourself enjoy 'em. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Pareto principle states that for many outcomes, roughly 80% of consequences come from 20% of causes (the "vital few").Increase productivity by focusing on the 20% of the input that impacts 80% of the output. https://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2016/03/07/80-20-rule/?sh=37bfd0a3814b“How to 80/20 your work:(1) Make a list of the 10 things you spend the most time on.(2) Circle the two that truly drive your results. Do more of those.(3) Look at the others. Eliminate ruthlessly. Automate or outsource what you can. Press pause on the rest.(4) Repeat” — James ClearSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes we think we're helping and we're actually making it worse. Protect yourself first, it'll show others they can do the same. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.