Make Your Damn Bed

Summer break is coming to an end for me so I wanted so share one of my favorite tips again. This one is from day 267: Change your language to improve your mindset. YOU are not fat. You have fat. YOU are not depressed. You have depression. YOU are not insecure. You feel insecure. You are far more than the identities you have created for yourself. And you need to change your language to reflect that. Shift your mindset through shifting your language. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

we are always searching for evidence to confirm the way we think/feel/believe. insecurities become self-fulfilling if we don't take the time + conscious effort required to improve your mental health in the long run. reassure yourself + deny unhelpful/untruthful thoughts that pop up to convince your thoughts become beliefs, beliefs become what you search for, and what you search for becomes your reality. what if they care? what if I am worthy of love? what if it all works out?change the negative thought patterns into more productive ones, so you can improve your outlook + coinciding reality as a result. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From day 269, Glimmers are incredibly welcomed shifts from the standard, anxious thoughts that often overtake our day. That said, like anything else, there's power in nuance + balance, so don't get too caught up in toxic positivity, but it may help to think about when you do get distracted - throughout the day - even if it’s good thoughts or positive distractions, it can easily interrupt our flow. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Taking a brief summer break and releasing the fan faves. Today I am featuring the most commented on episode from day 44 - Why demonize the coping mechanisms that potentially saved your life? Thank them, and move on graciously. Demonizing yourself or your behavior doesn't rectify it. Reflect, grow and move on. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Taking a summah break + re-releasing the fan favorites and today is 349 and the science behind our ability to know what makes us happy. Spoiler alert: we're pretty bad at it. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Taking a summah break + re-releasing the fan favorites. Today's feature is from day 248, all about outgrowing yourself. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Taking a summah break + re-releasing the fan favorites. Today's feature is day 345 TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Taking a summah break so re-releasing the fan favorites and most shared. This is day 234 - all about reframing regret. You can’t change the past - but you can learn from it. Don’t be afraid to sit in your regret for a moment, as long as you’re comfortable recognizing it as a signal of strength, too. You wouldn’t be the person you are today, unless you were bold enough to make the mistakes you made yesterday. Keep being brave enough to make mistakes and feel the regret you need to feel to know you’re becoming a better person every single day. It takes a brave person to admit when they fuck up. We all fuck up. Don’t be ashamed of the fuck ups of the past - be proud of the improvements of your present. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Taking a brief summer break and releasing the fan faves. Today I am featuring the most-shared episode - so hopefully it resonates again for ya. DAY 271 I generally advise we steer clear of obsessing over problems and people. The only thing you should obsess over is your own wellbeing. Feel free to get caught up in a new hobby or joy, but when day in and day out your thinking is always coming back to the things that aren’t within your control - like ‘why didn’t she text me back?’ Or ‘what if I never make as much money as them’ you’ll miss out on a lot of time and energy that you could have been worrying about yourself or other things that are actually within your control and have the potential to solve the problems you’re hell bent on rehearsing in the first place. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Regardless of how we cut it - we live in a society that is constantly bombarding us with ideals and ways to think, live, abide by, - but when we let society dictate how we’re “supposed” to carry ourselves, how we’re supposed to live, breathe, be, do, go, do, act, be - And as humans go - conformity makes sense, it allows us security - a sense of community, the safety of acceptance + being part of a group that can look out for each other and protect each other. It’s a part of our basic survival. Webster dictionary presents two interpretations for "conformity," the simple definition, “behavior that is the same as the behavior of most other people in a society, group,” and the full definition “action in accordance with some specified standard or authority.” Therefore, breaking from conformity entirely seems utterly impossible. Though nonconformist acts can be from dressing a certain way to becoming an activist against a customary practice. The least we can do is try to break away from social standards that are holding us back.  TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sober curious movement can have downsides, it can blur the lines and downplay the red flags of alcohol use disorder. Here are some common red flags to watch out for: You feel as if you need to cut back on drinkingYou can’t stop thinking about drinking/you’re preoccupied with alcohol cravingsYou can’t stop drinkingIf you do stop drinking, the effects of not drinking are worse than the side effects of alcohol (nausea, shaking, sweating)You have to drink more and more alcohol over time to get the same effect (aka, you keep building a higher tolerance)You continue to drink despite knowing it’s affecting your healthYou spend a lot of time buying alcohol, getting drunk, or recovering from the effects of alcoholDrinking makes you neglect your responsibilities (going to work, caring for your children)You drink even when it’s physically dangerous (driving, using heavy machinery)Others have objected to your drinking habitsresources: https://sobercuriousmovement.org/https://www.psycom.net/addiction-substance-abuse/sober-curiousTUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You're not broken, you just need a little break. The reason theres not a one size fits all fix to depression, suicidal ideation, etc is because you are unique and your experiences are unique, so we have to approach our own treatment + management as a recipe/guidebook that can be adaptable + reasonable to bridge from your current state. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

social drinking has become such a normalized part of culture that there is little nuance between sobriety and social drinkers. lately, I have become increasingly "sober curious" which means I am getting more comfortable taking breaks, moderating, and being more intentional with my consumption of alcohol in general. https://www.healthline.com/health/alcohol/sober-curious#takeawayTUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We don't know what we don't know. The Dunning-Kruger effect is a cognitive bias in which people wrongly overestimate their knowledge or ability in a specific area. This tends to occur because a lack of self-awareness. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Our wardrobe can reflect our mood but it can also affect our mood.  TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

the sound-bath clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Chvb07-3GZomore from Ms. Pat: https://mspatcomedy.com/the episode I referenced: https://www.netflix.com/watch/81208826?trackId=14277281TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

HOW TO LIKE READING:• READ WHAT YOU WANT - NOT WHAT YOUTHINK YOU SHOULD.• TRY STARTING SMALL (TEN PAGES A DAY)• REMOVE DISTRACTIONS + SET A VIBE• BRING BOOKS WITH YOU OR TRYAUDIOBOOKS FOR READING ON THE GO.• FIND A READING BUDDY OR GROUP TOENCOURAGE + CONNECT.• DIVERSIFY GENRES FOR SUSTAINABILITY.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I don't think I realized how much intention it took to infuse a little enthusiasm in my day, but how the ripple effect of such intentional delight can truly change the game. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

my mind can race around like a puppy dog if I don't provide it with enough play-time during the day, which can keep me up at night. I find that the more free time I get to just be + think during the day, the easier it is to show up for sleeping without any resistance.  TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dan Charnas of 'work clean' says - Mise en place is not about making things tidy, it’s not about things looking clean. It’s about being able to work clean, which implies motion. The system has to be returned to order. So it’s not just about creating order, like, “Oh, look how I arranged my desk,” it really is about, “I’m going to move through all these projects, but I’ve also made the commitment to myself that when I’m done with this project I’m going to wrap it up.” I’m either going to deliver it or I’m going to put myself in a position where when I resume it, everything is in a place for me to pick it up. Because that’s going to save me 20 minutes, I can use that 20 minutes to do other kinds of work or I can use that 20 minutes to be with my kid and read him a story. I think being a parent, that also affected my venture into this because that time really means something to me. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

sometimes you gotta stop packing, start driving, and trust that you can find what you need at a walgreens on the way.  TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

day 69 was a fan favorite, you dirty dogs - so I figured I'd re-release her back into the world while I catch up on my time change + getting this bug out of this cheap hotel room so I can catch some ZzZ's before the continental breakfast. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

yeah, the concept of the mise en place is great but what about the opposite? can't we deter ourselves with anti-prep work too?TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastluh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

gentle mantras can help us start our days with the proper "programming" rather than stressin over to-dos, news, and the daily blues. lean in + get hokey with me for a few before we rush off to save the world! sending love, cutie. when was the last time you drank your damn water?TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastluh you. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what if i make choices that align with my highest good?what if i follow the things that feed my soul?i don't chase i attract. i'm at peace with my past, present, + future.i have faith in the universe's protection + investment in seeing me fulfilled.you are not your mistakes. i love you.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastluh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

prep work is good for the future you so think of ways to make it fun to prep so the current you can enjoy the process, too. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

prep work is a major part of time spent "in the kitchen" Cleaning, slicing, dicing is 90% of the process while sautéing, plating, and enjoying is very minimal in the scheme of things - but if you’re a happy and fulfilled chef its not because you dread the other mise en place - you find the meditative repetitive aspect of it; you build a relationship with the process, and you often do need to ebb into that obsessive place to stay excited about what you’re producing. Like life - if you’re not enjoying the tedious nature of being a human, you really should try to work to change your relationship with that part, since it is so important and such a valuable piece in actually producing the magic.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mise en place is a French culinary phrase which means "putting in place" or "gather" Learnin' how will not only improve your cooking game but it can also improve your life. Set yourself up with the prep work you need to make your work station organized; it helps you feel like Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Winning is defined differently for each of us but victory for me would be leaving here at peace with myself. I dunno what that is yet. You sometimes don’t like what you see + you become aware that you may need to change some things.” “Success is stumbling from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm”TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastluh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here's the second set of things I learned from watching the show ALONE: 2. The main thing that makes people give up on this dream of theirs - other than actual starvation or contracting some sickness or some shit, is that they miss home. Isolation is fucking horrible. 3. One Person’s trash is another person’s lifeline. Anything can become a resource or an asset if you are creative, persistent, practical, optimistic, and a decent problem solver. 4. The ability to shift when shit aint working + not getting your ego hurt by a disappointing outcome, can make all the difference in your longevity + the quality of your experience.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastluh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The most valuable lesson I've learned from binge-watching a bush-whacking show is: 1. Attitude is the number one dictator of success or failure. It’s almost fool proof to assume if one of the contestants is shown mourning their family or losing their cool, or losing their temper, or losing their positive energy around the “mission” that they will give up within the next few days. Whether that be an editing tactic or a real read of human psychology, I couldn’t care less - because it makes sense - as soon as you give up mentally you are almost guaranteeing your inevitable failure. It’s the classic quote, “whether you believe you can or you can not, you’re right.”TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastluh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

the lesson:even if your life is in shambles right now + there’s a big ass ugly black tree trunk right in the middle of your beautiful landscape of life + all you wanna do is throw the whole damned thing away!?? Tune into that bob ross energy and let it add to your masterpiece. Your curses can become assets with some honing. So, keep fucking going. Don’t give up - just stay calm + redirect that energy into improving the situation at hand instead of sulking about the way it used to be or look or feel. You can create magic when you take what you’ve been handed and view it as a gift + a tool for growth rather than a punishment. Life is hard enough + if we can focus on making those subtle shifts towards positivity, improving the situation with the tools we are supplied.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastluh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

this is the final episode in the anchor series - in which we can train ourselves to crave the kibble whenever we hear the bell, just like Pavlov's pup. create a soundtrack or jingles to trigger workout or bedtime or cleaning or work mode. Manifest good feeling associations. increase your reinforcement to improve the strength of the path vibe with what ritual you already have in place. be patient + consistent. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastluh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

tune into what your natural anchors + coinciding cravings are. how many of them are intentional? proactive? positive? can any of those natural anchors be honed to improve your quality of life?TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Keeping boundaries with ourselves is CRUCIAL to keeping us happy + safe + productive humans, but bear in mind when things are beneficial regulations meant to enhance your life + experience + the connection with those around you OR if those regulations are more like Constraints that you feel bound to and guilty + shamed about fucking up on. Challenge your self imposed rules + regulations once in a while. I feel like it’s a slippery slope before things become unrealistic standards that mean you’re setting yourself up for failure on a regular basis + consistently breaking the trust you have with yourself with can affect your mental wellbeing. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastluh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.hPo9t73K5t2uIkawH6UG Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Internal restrictions can be critical boundaries with ourselves, but they are also easy to fall victimized + become restricted by. We want to check in with our subconscious restrictive thought patterns so we don't become constrained by our internal regulation system - and we can continue to feel guided by it, instead. JOIN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBPodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

congrats friends, I am genuinely proud of all the hard work you've put in + sorry if I have been a lil tentative lately. SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Embrace the power of the clean slate - whatever that means to you at this stage in your life. if that means trashing the first attempt, revamping the whole thing, imploding what you thought you knew, donating some old memories, cleaning out your HD, rewriting a first draft, taking time off of a relationship, taking a step back from a job, taking a vacation - whatever you need to do to get a fresh perspective? Do it. Don’t be afraid to zoom the fuck out. It doesn't have to be permanent, either. You can donate or trash or burn, sure; but sometimes the power in setting the bullshit aside + re-setting yourself up with a completely blank canvas can be the difference between a masterpiece and just another piece. DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfundsGO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

times are rough + things are weird but you're a catch + most people feel the same way about social interaction as you do. so let's get out there and make some friends, tiger! don't force itgo to local events join online groups with similar interestsget out of your comfort zone + tryquality over quantity + let that shit flowSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's true. I got the plague + boy it kicked my ass - but the surprising part was NOT the ass kicking. It was the shame. I felt so much shame. Why? I did everything "right" and it didn't matter. Notice the quotes. This shit is a nightmare - there's no moral highground (unless you're deliberating being irresponsible, of course) here as long as you're trying. The shame came from the fact that I didn't want to let anyone down. I hate the idea that I could have a negative effect on anyone else's experience.All this to say - doing the right thing won't always feel good. It sometimes will be very difficult + personally challenging to do the "right thing" at the right time.But you got this. It'll feel better once you do.SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Social Interactions can be draining. Here's how to prepare: Take a friend-ventory. Know what friends you need more rest before seeing, or prefer in small groups. Note when you don't vibe with a venue or a group rather than an individual. Plan for recovery time, stretch breaks, bail out strategies, and other things you can do to parse out your experience with overwhelming stimulus. Sometimes, all we need is a quick break or a snack to reset the vibe. Replace FOMO with a lil JOMO - that feeling you get when plans you weren't jazzed about, happen to get cancelled by the other person. Channel that every time you say no. Be well rested, well fed, well hydrated, and in the right mindset before social experiences for best results. RESOURCE: https://thehealthsessions.com/how-to-deal-with-sensory-overload/Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sensory fatigue: When your brain feels overstimulated with sensory inputs such as noise, lights, visual stimulation, sounds, conversation, etc. We all experience sensory needs + I truly believe we’ve all experienced certain levels of sensory overstimulation in some capacity. Like with everything else in life, everyone of us beautiful humans is unique, which means our triggers are gonna be unique, so while some people are sensitive to all loud noises, some of us are more sensitive to specific tones or voices, we may besensitive to specific sounds like teeth on a fork, some are sensitive to more energetic misalignments, some are sensitive to certain smells, or sensations, like scratchy sweaters or clingy turtlenecks or too much human contact. I suggest: pacing yourself to make it through the workday, shortening your workload, automating, delegating, scheduling, pacing, or planning breaks can help build stamina. Mental breaks can come in the form of safe playlists, meditations, zone out tasks, socialization, disconnecting, walking, anything that encourages a change in focus to restore mental stamina + encourage sustainability.Go easy on yourself as you learn to process this shit. It’s gonna be harder on some days than others.RESOURCES: https://themighty.com/2018/04/sensory-overload-and-sensory-fatigue/ https://thehealthsessions.com/how-to-deal-with-sensory-overload/@Thebraincoach on instagram DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfundsGO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

stop trying so damned hard + it'll happen. confidence comes from making the choices from your most internally aware self. give the external world some time to catch up. DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfundsGO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"in coping with manipulation, it’s best to follow four basic principles: Know your rights and your limits; set clear, appropriate boundaries in a respectful and neutral way; recognize and avoid the other person’s efforts to escalate the conflict or muddy the issue; and always make sure to protect your own safety."RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/i-hear-you/201807/4-ways-deal-manipulative-peoplehttps://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/manipulationDONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfundsGO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Negging (derived from the verb neg, meaning "negative feedback") is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and increase their need of the manipulator's approval.DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfundsGO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lovebombing: A common manipulation technique is love bombing: "Love bombing" refers to behavior patterns where, at the beginning of the relationship, a partner showers the other with over-the-top attention, gifts, affection, etc. See: Kanye West's truckload of roses gesture...https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/love-bombing: "Genuine affection is mutual and should unfold at a pace that is comfortable for both parties. Love bombing, by contrast, tends to feel one-sided—with one partner showering the other with gifts, praise, and declarations of love—and moves at a pace where one partner feels overwhelmed or as if they’re caught up in a whirlwind. Someone repeatedly crossing stated boundaries—even if they claim to have positive motives for doing so—may also be an indicator of manipulative intentions. Similarly, while it’s normal for new partners to spend a lot of time together, feeling isolated from one’s family and friends because one is spending all their time with a new love interest may suggest that the relationship is falling into unhealthy patterns."Resource/inspiration: https://www.instagram.com/climateresilienceproject/DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfundsGO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

gaslighting: manipulating (someone) by psychological means into doubting their own sanity. Maybe by: telling blatant lies, deny everything despite proof, make you question your reality, blackmail you, wear you down over time, gain your confidence + confuse you with infrequent rewards, project their shit onto you, try to align others against ya, make you feel or call you crazy or a liar. Noticing + calling out patterns can be what breaks them. You got this. Don't let people distort reality to accommodate their feelings. Resource/inspiration: https://www.instagram.com/climateresilienceproject/DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfundsGO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

trying to control and manage someone else's journey + struggle may feel like a way to show love, but it's really a way to take a piece of their experience away from them. struggle = potential to learn and grow. and unfortunately we can't grow without it.PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfundsGO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Don't be afraid to take a step back every once in a while to see if the relationship dynamics + roles you're playing are aligned with who you'd like to be and where you'd like to go. PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfundsGO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.