Love Life With Matthew Hussey

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve coached who can’t let go of the past. Women who are still hating themselves for dating the wrong guy for so many years. Women who feel they’ve wasted their career so far. Women who still let an old family trauma affect their mood every... single... day. I know these things are hard. Believe me, I’m not pretending these are small problems.But if you want to know how to break free, let go of your baggage, and feel 100% more empowered, please, please make sure you hear this message. I’m going to share a mind-blowing story that will show how you can turn even the worst tragedies into a beautiful future... ---►► Deep down, you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life. GOOD NEWS - I have a proven method to transform your life in just 5 short days with me → http://www.MatthewHusseyRetreat.comFollow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever had someone come into your life, dazzle you with their initial investment and attention, only to disappear as fast as they came? This phenomenon has been nicknamed “Love Bombing,” and it can be very painful, especially when you were led to believe it was going somewhere. You may be asking yourself why someone would do this. In this week’s episode I’ll show you… My hope is that this will not only give you a sense of closure, but also help you to move past the heartache you are feeling right now if this has happened to you. I also show you how to avoid it in the future. Here for you, friend.Matthew x---►► Join my exclusive members community at AskMH.com►► Email us YOUR love bombing story at [email protected]  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are the most attractive people always the most confident? Is insecurity always an attraction-killer, or is it more important to own your flaws?In today's episode Matt gives his take on the topic of insecurity and reveals the difference between flawed vs. being weak.  ---►► Ready to transform your confidence and get the relationship you deserve? Get your copy of the At-Home Retreat at MHRetreatAtHome.comFollow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are many dangerous qualities of a toxic person, but the worst one of all may be their deceptiveness. They can be so subtle in their manipulation, you may not even realize what they’re doing to you, until you’re in too deep and they’ve completely eroded your confidence. I want you to have the awareness to SEE this behaviour for what it is and give you the strength to walk away so you never have to worry about those people again.In today’s podcast, I take you through the 5 signs you’re dating a toxic person so you know exactly what to watch out for…---►► Download the FREE confidence training at GetCoreConfidence.comFollow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What keeps relationships together? And what tears them apart? I've always been obsessed with looking at patterns of those in happy couples.Today, we share some research into a single behaviour that can make all the difference... Let us know your thoughts. Send us an email at [email protected]! ---►► Transform your core confidence...download the free training at GetCoreConfidence.comFollow Stephen @stephenhhusseyFollow Matthew @thematthewhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time. They can stop us from taking chances again in love. They can make us afraid of getting close to someone again… Afraid of being vulnerable again… Afraid of letting someone in… Because if the result of letting our guard down and choosing to love someone is that we give up all of our power, then why bother, right? Sure, we may be giving up the special experience of being in love, but at least we don’t have to experience those dreadful lows. If you can relate to this, today’s episode is for you. You’ll hear me doing a live demonstration with someone who is going through exactly this issue. And what I tell her may be exactly the words you need to hear right now. This isn’t isn’t a pep talk. It’s a rational, practical strategy for how to navigate your love life after someone has hurt you, or broken your heart or your trust (or all 3). ►► Be Brave and Invest in Love Again. To Learn How, Download Your FREE Guide… → http://www.3SecretsToLove.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Has this ever happened to you? You’re on a first date... and... He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry… But at the end of the night… he doesn’t ask for a second date (nevermind a third or fourth). If this has happened to you (or keeps happening), you’re likely missing one of the two essential things that makes him reach across the table and say: “I’d really like to see you again.” In this podcast, I tell you EXACTLY what to say so that he’ll ask you out again (and again, and again)... You might be surprised at how simple this is AND how often you’re skipping this step when you’re interacting with a guy you like, especially in the early stages of dating... It’s genuinely crazy to me how obvious the phrase in this podcast is, how simple it would be for people to say, how many more second dates it would get them… and yet, they still aren’t doing it. >>> Follow Matt @thematthewhussey >>> Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Download the flirting sample of How To Talk To Men at GetTheFreeChapter.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve been thinking about one of the biggest dangers of personal growth these last couple of weeks. The danger is this: we learn a crucially important, life-changing lesson, and then forget all about it and move on with our lives. Any one of us could fall into that trap this year. Like me, you’ve probably had some realizations about your life during this difficult time. Epiphanies about changes you want to make, or simple truths that you want to take forward even once things return to “normal.” But the integration of these lessons and truths into our lives going forward is no guarantee. In fact, for most people, it’s much more likely that nothing will change. Think of that, we were just forced into a giant reset, the likes of which we may never have again in our lifetimes. And yet, most people will go back to living the same lives they were before once the daily stresses, invites, and activities return. We simply cannot let this happen. So what can we do? Well, the first step is consciously taking stock of what those lessons are, and codifying them so we don’t forget them. In this week’s episode I reveal 6 of the unexpected lessons I’ve learned in the last 3 months... Come see if any of mine are the same as yours. And, in the process, write down what yours are. I can’t say this enough: do not move on from this moment in time without bottling the lessons and taking them with you, or all of this pain and struggle will have been for nothing. ►► Claim Growth and Happiness that LASTS. Learn More about The At-Home Retreat… → http://www.MHRetreatAtHome.com Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“How do you avoid negative self-talk after a breakup? My ex was extremely critical and I want him out of my head.” I say “we,” because I’m not alone in this one. I’m joined by a very special friend of mine, Jeannie Mai (@thejeanniemai)– Emmy Award-winning co-host of “The Real,” and host of the podcast “Listen Hunnay.” Jeannie is wonderfully entertaining to listen to, and has a first rate mind on these things, as you’ll her from the podcast. And, what makes this “extra” special is that it's taken from a 90-minute interview I did just for my Love.Life members, so you’ll get a taste of what goes on behind the curtain of my private membership. If you are struggling with negative self-talk, this podcast is literally a precise prescription for what to do next. It’s 7 minutes of listening that will make your life better today, I promise. P.S. If you find this video as valuable as I know you will, and would like to watch the full 90-minute interview, you can access it right now with a free 14-day trial to our Love.Life Membership. Claim your trial at http://www.AskMH.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why is it SO hard to leave, even when we know we are with the wrong person? How can we get the courage to follow what our brain and heart are screaming at us and leave? It's not easy, and there's a psychological bias that makes it even harder. In this episode, I share 3 techniques to re-wire your brain so that you finally have the strength to follow your heart and make the right choice. --- Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Email us your story and comments at [email protected] Download the FREE guide on "Dating After Heartbreak" at 3SecretsToLove.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A mere 2 weeks ago it would have been hard to conceive of a world that was about to heat up considerably beyond the tension and emotion already experienced in 2020. Then came the murder of George Floyd. Since then, I, living in Los Angeles, have watched the United States – and beyond – reach a boiling point on race issues. It’s a dark time, and yet it also feels like a time where real change could be possible. I find myself asking of what service I can possibly be. Another weekend rolls around, my weekly video spot awaits my thoughts, and I have no clever words chambered. It doesn’t feel like the week for a love life video. And yet it does feel like a week where I want to be with you, my community, more than ever. I ask politely that you not confuse that with my having any answers. All I have is me, letting the Black members of my community know what I have always felt – that I consider you my sisters and brothers, and that I, Matthew Hussey, stand with you, always. The fact that Black lives “mattering” is even an idea that needs support in the year 2020 is an astonishing prospect. But to all the Black members of this community, let the bloody obvious be stated here and now: My team and I love you, and you matter to us. To brighter days. For anyone interested I have included a list below of organizations I have chosen to support with donations this week. **In addition, when we first posted the new YouTube video this morning, I had it demonetized out of respect so as not to profit from this video. However many of you pointed out in the comments that it would be better to have ads turned on and have the revenue go to the cause. I love the idea, so I have, and 100% of the proceeds from this week's YouTube video will also be donated to the causes below. 1 - My Brother’s Keeper Alliance https://www.obama.org/mbka/ 2 - Center for Policing Equity https://policingequity.org 3 - Equal Justice Initiative https://eji.org 4 - NAACP https://www.naacp.org 5 - The Girls Opportunity Alliance Fund https://www.obama.org/girlsopportunityalliance/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey ►► Want Support to Navigate This Strange Time? Ask Me Your Burning Love Life Question Now… → http://www.AskMH.com This episode is an honest look at what the near future of dating could look like for you if you’re single right now. Even as parts of the world open up again, a vaccine appears to be at least 8-12 months away. That means that for about another year, there will be some significant implications for our dating lives. Is it safe to go out on dates in the coming months? When should you meet up with someone you’ve been talking to? How do you deal with awkward moments like the first hello where you would normally hug each other? Is there an elegant way to communicate what level of contact you are comfortable with? These are all questions I answer in this episode. At the beginning of COVID-19, I made a video outlining the immediate impact of this virus on our love lives. Consider this a round 2, but this time with a focus on the future of dating. A kind of “State of Our Unions” address for 2020, if you will. I’d love to know your thoughts in the comments, and please share with anyone who is anxious or concerned with the future of their dating life. There is reason for hope, my friend. As ever, I’m thinking of you as we go through this together. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Follow Matthew at @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen at @stephenhhussey --- 90% of people are making a mistake in the way they connect with other people without even realizing it. See, ever since I was 13 and first picked up my Dad’s copy of the Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People, I was fascinated with figuring what it is that allows certain people able to influence, attract, and be charismatic in the presence of others. Over years of being on TV and radio, running a company with over 30 full-time staff, and speaking to audiences of thousands of people, I’ve learned some really important distinctions that make people certain people immediately compelling. I’ve also learned some major things people get wrong that must be avoided at all costs if you ever want to win people over… (more on that in the video) So here it is, my #1 secret to getting people hooked in the first 60 seconds… ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve lost count of what week of social distancing we’re in. But I do know that if you’ve been living with someone since quarantine started then you’ve had your ups and downs. We need space in our relationship for desire to thrive. But how do you create space with someone who is always there? If absence makes the heart grow fonder, how do you stay exciting to your partner if you're never absent?In today's episode, we talk about some simple, practical ways to approach this situation and avoid making the mistakes that are hurting good relationships...This isn’t just about getting space, it’s about bringing back the moments of magic, and romance, and love. Even if you’re not living with someone right now, you can use these ideas to make sure your long-distance situation stays vibrant and alive. Your situation may be different, but the psychology is the same.Thinking of you, friend.Matt---►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.comFollow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People spend a lot of time asking the question: “How to do I get my partner to open up?” But they rarely think about the ways in which they regularly punish their partner whenever they want to reveal their beating vulnerable heart. The problem with just saying to someone, “you should open up more”, is that it’s a frustratingly vague request.I’ve noticed that a huge amount of my emotional openness depends on feeling like I have the right environment to be free to express what’s really going on inside. So if you want your partner, family, or friends to open up emotionally, here are 4 worries that are probably going through their minds that need to be dealt with first...  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“WTF? Do not use this.” This is a comment I received last week. It was in response to a flirty little text that I suggested you use with the guy who is on your mind right now. In fact, this text really seemed to divide people. Someone even said it could result in “catastrophe.” And this comment had likes. A lot of them. W. T. F. So, despite the fact that I was going to move on to a different topic this week, my director Jameson Jordan politely (feistily) asked (demanded) that I respond to these comments. And I never say no to Jameson when he gets feisty. So, here is that response... You might be a little surprised by my response, because if you felt like the texts I suggested were a little dangerous, it might reveal a bigger, deeper, more important red flag at play. I hope you enjoy it. And if you don’t, please don’t leave any more comments that make Jameson make me do more work. I’m tired, and I’m in my pajamas. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey :) In today’s podcast, I’m bringing you some practical advice on how to flirt at a distance. Some “Quarantexts,” if you will. Ahem. Think of them as little bits of irresistible charm that you can send to the guy who is on your mind right now. These texts are designed to bring a smile to his face (and yours), as well as kick off a playful dynamic so you can develop (or strengthen) your bond – even when you’re not physically together. Just because we’re stuck inside it doesn’t mean we can’t flirt, whether it’s with someone we’ve been seeing for months or someone we just met. In fact, we must flirt – none of our romantic situations will survive without it. Thinking of you, friend. P.S. Stay to the end of the clip to get a whole list of cheeky texts you can use to keep the attraction going. #8 is my personal favorite – adorable and sexy at the same time. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s a ridiculously simple principle Matt talks about in his seminars. So simple it seems kind of silly. Naïve even. But it’s actually great. It goes like this: “Make it a rule only to like people who like you back. If you can do that, you’ll never go wrong.” Sounds tough, I know. After all, attraction isn’t a simple choice right? Many of us feel we have no control over who we become attracted to, which can often lead to that great generator of humanity’s worst misery and best poetry: Unrequited love. Unrequited love is when we fall hard in love with someone who don’t love us back. It’s the painful kind of obsession that keeps you awake at night, and sees you spending hours at your laptop obsessively scouring your crush’s Facebook profile praying that they don’t change their status to “in a relationship”, or that makes your stomach convulse at the thought of catching them kissing another person. If you've ever fallen hard for someone who doesn't return your feelings, here 5 reasons this happens and what you can do to get your life back... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your phone buzzes. It’s a text from him ;) You can feel your stomach flip over with excitement. Every message he sends is like sweet honey for your brain. “Damn”, you think, “I’m an addict.” And then you fire a cute message back. And you wait...and wait… “Why isn’t he replying?” you want to scream to your friend on the couch next to you. But she’s too busy with her phone to notice. You try to shift focus, but you obsessively check for a text every 30 seconds. Sound familiar? We’ve all had this agony of “anxious waiting” with someone we like. It’s distracting, it’s unattractive, and it drains you of your peace of mind every minute you sit in limbo. If you’re sick of waiting for his text and want to finally take back your power, listen to this... --- Apply for our next retreat program at matthewhusseyretreat.com Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One big myth I've heard from thousands of women is, "I'm only attracted to the guys who are BAD for me". People tell ourselves the lie that there are either:(a) Boring, safe, dependable nice guys(b) Exciting, sexy assholes who will treat you badlyIn this episode, we blow apart this myth and show why UNIQUE PAIRINGS are the ultimate secret to attraction, and what you MUST look for in the guy you choose for a long-term relationship.---Follow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Another week in isolation... This crisis is really putting a magnifying glass on my (alarmingly natural) gift for hibernation, as well as my capacity for eating chocolate. How about you? It’s also exposing a lot of cracks in relationships – both those under the same roof and the long-distance ones – as they strain under the weight of this “new normal.” Just this morning, I had the pleasure of working with a woman who is in my live coaching group, and she confided that she was having an issue with her boyfriend. Like many, she found herself in a long-distance relationship all of a sudden, as she and her guy self-isolate about 30 minutes from each other in their separate homes. I said to her, “That must be tough. Are you speaking every day?” Her answer revealed more than I anticipated... It quickly became clear to me that her needs were being ignored, and that she was ignoring a conversation she needed to have. Something I’m worried too many people are doing right now.If you’re in a similar situation, where you’re feeling scared to ask for what you need, then you need to hear this episode.Thinking of you.---►► Get the FREE video training at TheBravestYou.comFollow Matt @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A couple of episodes ago we asked you: What are the moments that made you fall in love in the past? We call these moments micro-attractions. Yes, you can find someone sexy. You can like the same movies. But it's those little behaviours that totally fly under-the-radar that make us say, "Holy crap! I've never met anyone like this before!"So, Steve dived into the inbox and looked at YOUR stories of the moments that made you fall head over heels and discuss what this tells us about long-term attraction. ---Follow Matt @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Well hello there from isolation. Guess what? we made a new podcast for you. It’s about how to be a more interesting and engaging person in any interaction with someone through 5 quick principles you can instantly apply. And since most of us are having long-distance conversations with everyone right now, the ability to talk effectively has become utterly essential.These techniques will show you how to take your talking to another level. And I know they work because I live by them. They are relevant whether you’re in the same room with someone, sending voice notes to a new guy, or connecting with a love interest over the phone as we all social distance. (They also apply to business, so you get two for one in today’s episode.) Can’t wait to see what you think.---►► If you want the free training I mention in the episode so that you can have MASSIVE impact in the First 5 Minutes of Any Interaction, click here to download your copy: First5Guide.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is the secret that makes a man look into a woman’s eyes and think, “She is the one for me?” It isn’t her looks. It isn’t her masters degree in literature. It isn’t the fact that she had the same favorite pizza place in the city (though that helped…). No, the reason he fell hard for this woman was because of something no one talks about… Maybe it’s happened to you before: You knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him. How does this happen?? It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction...---►► Get Matt's free confidence training at GetCoreConfidence.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I don’t know about you, but I’m already exhausted by the avalanche of motivational quotes online right now. Advice everywhere. Everyone talking. It’s kind of numbing. Realistically, we’re not exactly focused on how to live our “best” life right now. We’re trying to keep ourselves and our families safe, salvage a few of our regular routines, and keep ourselves from devolving into a Netflix and Oreos spiral. Well, at least I am. And just like you probably do, I fluctuate between being OK and feeling intense melancholy about the situation. (I’m also sick of being taunted by home workout videos I’m not actually doing.)Anyway. If you can relate to any of this, I made this episode for you. I certainly haven’t got this all figured out. And you probably haven’t either. But I think there are some very manageable ways we can feel a little better right now, and release the pressure of the unrealistic expectations many of us are putting on ourselves in what is already a very difficult time. I explain them in this podcast. One day at a time, friends.---►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.comGet My Latest Dating Tips and Connect with Me…Blog → https://www.howtogettheguy.com/blog/Matt's Facebook → https://facebook.com/CoachMatthewHusseyMatt's Twitter → https://twitter.com/matthewhusseyStephen's Twitter → https://twitter.com/stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Time for a coronavirus Q&A! Today we're doing something a little different. We promised we'd read out some listener emails, so it's time to dive into the mailbox and hear about YOUR experiences dating in the time of corona! Topics include: being alone during a break up, how to love being single, and moving love forward when you can't leave the house. --- ►► Download the FREE video training at GetCoreConfidence.com Follow Stephen @stephenhhusseyFollow Matthew @thematthewhussey  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What a week... It’s a time of mixed emotions. Anxiety. Stress. Fear. Uncertainty. Boredom. Resentment about losing the year we thought we were going to have in 2020. This crisis is impacting people all over the world to varying degrees. And with how rapidly it is evolving, I have wanted to hold off on wading in with my opinions until I really felt I had something to say. Alongside all manner of life-related issues people are asking me about, they are, of course, eager to hear my answers to their love life questions during this time: How can I date during this time of social distancing? Should I move in with my ex so that I’m not alone in this time? How do I keep my (now) long-distance relationship alive? How can I handle living with someone I’ve never spent this much time with prior to isolating with them? How will I get through this if I feel totally alone?Whether you’re single and looking to meet someone special, or dating someone you can’t physically be with right now, or even if you’re in the middle of healing post-breakup… there is a silver lining I talk about in today’s special message... Please share this episode with anyone you know who needs it. And more than ever, I want to stress that I am here for you. We are a team. And we will get through this together. I love you, and I’m thinking of you.---Email us all about your coronavirus story at [email protected]►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Is there anything I can do to rekindle the relationship with my ex?” It’s one of the biggest questions we have after a breakup. And if you’re finding yourself losing sleep at night, replaying conversations and events, wondering if there was anything you could have said or done to keep the relationship… then this episode is for you.It’s an example of a conversation you can have that will empower you to either rekindle your relationship with your ex… or get the closure you want so you can move on.P.S. I had the best time with Ashley ( and Rayna on the Girls Gotta Eat Podcast! Tap here to subscribe on iTunes! Follow the @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg.---►► Download the free guide to dating after heartbreak at 3SecretsToLove.com!  Follow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What can we do when crisis hits? How should we change our goals, our routines, our emotional response when our lives get shaken by unpredictable problems?As we face the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, Matt had a powerful conversation with renowned entrepreneur, speaker and author Ed Mylett (@EdMylett) to talk about what this means for us and how we can be a for for good in this crisis.In this episode we cover:What health routines Ed is using to keep fit while remaining indoorsBetter questions you can ask yourself to reframe moments of crisisHow to do good when others are panicking (even if it's just for one person)What lessons we can learn from losing our usual comfortsHow to use this moment to set yourself up for a better future---►► Follow Ed's podcast "The Ed Mylett Show" on iTunes. ►► Download Matt's free training at GetCoreConfidence.comFollow Matt @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever been hurt or betrayed? Maybe someone broke your trust, cheated, or took your love for granted... If so, I’m really sorry. The pain that can come from heartbreak is unlike anything else. It’s sickening. But, there is something even more heartbreaking than heartbreak itself: Allowing the ghosts of the past to trick you into giving up on your next great love story. If you’re finding it hard to open yourself up to love again… If you are spending your life avoiding rejection right now instead of going after what you really want… If being vulnerable and letting your guard down scares you to death… This new video is for you. It’s natural to want to protect your heart… But if constantly playing defense is preventing you from meeting the REAL love of your life, you’ll never get to see just how much happiness your future still has in store for you. Come on. We’ve got this, you and I. Let’s be courageous together. No more holding yourself back. Let’s live! ---►►If you KNOW it's time to finally transform your confidence and get the love you deserve, go to MatthewHusseyRetreat.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Pull up a seat. It’s time we had an honest talk about men. When looking for love, I believe there’s no better way to start than by deeply understanding what drives the opposite sex.It teaches you not only the psychology of attraction, but also, how to avoid the wrong people who are driven by their worst instincts and toxic behavior.So in this episode, I sat down for a juicy conversation with my good friend Lewis Howes @lewishowes, host of the School Of Greatness podcast, to discuss the truth about masculinity, why certain men become “eternal bachelors”, and what this means for you as a woman in the dating scene. If you want to know how to spot which guys to date when it comes to finding commitment, you need to hear this…---►► Download my free guide: “5 Compliments Men Love To Hear” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com►► Email the show at [email protected] Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Last episode we talked about how to respond to a flakey guy using “Bliss Point” text messages - which combines being salty and sweet to make someone WANT to pursue you and live up to your standards. Except… Some of the more angry responses said things like: “Matt, why would I even think about being sweet to a guy who flakes on a date?? He should be chasing me already, and if not, I have a right to be angry when I text back…”To tell you the truth, I’m really glad these comments came up (and I kind of expected it). In this week’s podcast, we explain why this response relates to a huge mistake 99% of people make in dating. Make sure you don’t fall into this common trap...---►► Email the show at [email protected]►► Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey, or Stephen @stephenhhussey on Twitter and Instagram!   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most women are used to being told things like: “You need to make him work for it”, “You need to have standards”, “You need to respect yourself” But how do you actually do it? For example, if he sends you a flakey text on the night of a date, how should you respond to get him chasing again (whilst showing you have self-respect)? In this episode, we're going to give you 3 killer texts that show your standards, put you back in control, and double his attraction for you.---►► Download the free guide at 9texts.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is the limbo between being in a relationship and also not being in one? Recently it has been called a “situationship”: the moment when you’re in something more than a friendship but less than a relationship.There are obvious reasons one would choose this not-quite-a-relationship state of affairs for themselves. It’s flexible. It doesn’t ask you to give up huge chunks of your time. It lets both of you decide to get together only when you need temporary intimacy, or casual sex, or just a person to hang out with at the weekend. All well and good…in theory.The hard part is keeping things that way... Here are the 4 questions that tell you when it's time to leave your situationship and find the right person for you! ---►► Email the show at [email protected] Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey.Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let's talk about masculinity. In 2020, there is still such a gap of understanding between men and women that deeply affects our romantic relationships and prevents us expressing our love fully and honestly.In this episode Matt explains:- How men struggle with vulnerability vs. expectations of "being a man"- Why men are afraid to be honest about their fears and inner feelings- What men AND women can do to make men feel safer expressing their honest emotions---►► Email the show with your thoughts at [email protected]►► Download the 5 Techniques To Get Him To Open Up at GetHimToTalk.comFollow Matthew @thematthewhussey, and Stephen @stephenhhussey on Instagram and Twitter.     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There's no easy way to talk about infidelity. It's a painful, difficult topic that evokes a strong emotional reaction. But it's also one that so many people face that I wanted to bring you one of the wisest voices out there on this topic: relationship expert, psychotherapist, and bestselling author Esther Perel! (@estherperelofficial) Listen as we talk about why even happy people can be driven to cheat, what to do about it, and whether there is ever a path to recovering a relationship after infidelity.    ---►► Email your thoughts at [email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you fall in love, it's way too easy to start trying to fit someone into your world, even if their behaviour compromises your deepest values. You start to go off track, for weeks, months, years, until you're left asking, "How did I get here?" If you've ignored the red flags for too long. Stop. Pause. Make a decision that NOW is the time to get back on track and listen to this message... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You might be the kind of person who is funny, joyful, and amazing to be around when you’re in a great mood. But what about when things get tough? Or stressful? Or when there’s conflict and problems? It’s time to ask the really important question that defines so many relationships: “how are you at your worst??”Listen to the episode to find out why this is one of the most defining parts of yourself you can ever work on to improve your love life...---Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

*NEW SERIES* Could it be true? After 3+ years off the air…is our podcast ‘Love Life With Matthew Hussey’ really back?? YES. And what’s really exciting is that this time around I am joined by my brother, and co-writer of the New York Times bestselling Get The Guy book, Stephen Hussey! (@stephenhhussey)In fact, he’s going to be introducing each episode as we go on this new podcast adventure together. Exciting times! So whatever you’re doing right now, you don’t even need to stop it. Just fire up episode 1 in your car, or while you’re doing chores around the house, and let us know what you think!Today we talk about: Why The Wrong Guys ALWAYS Approach You. If you’ve wondered how to get the attention of the guy you really want instead of the ones you don’t, this episode for you!Send us your thoughts and feedback via email to [email protected]! Matthew x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

 After you break up with your ex (unless you flee to another state or get an entirely new group of friends) chances are good you’ll run into him again. So let’s get you prepared for this inevitability. I’ll be honest – there’s no way it won’t be awkward, but if you get yourself in the right state of mind, it will be a lot less awkward. I’ll even give you a line to say to your ex that will immediately break the tension and make you both laugh. Think of this episode like a mini-survival guide; Use my advice and you may even leave the interaction feeling better about your breakup, and yourself, than before. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ok… let’s answer this age-old question once and for all: Do men prefer women who are “hard to get,” or do they just want a woman who will take control and be the aggressor? The answer is – drumroll please – NEITHER! In this episode, I explain what “Men live for the ‘Maybe’” means, and tell you how you can attract the guy you’re interested in and challenge him to pursue you. In other words, you get to do the choosing, while he does the chasing. Hey, looks like the answer to that age-old question isn’t “neither,” but “BOTH,” after all. ;) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You love him. You want to be with only him. But he wants to keep his options open. He knows how much it hurts you that he can’t give you the commitment you want, so why does he stay in touch and keep stringing you along? The reason is simple. What you need to do about it, well, that’s the hard part. In today’s LOVE Life, I take a call from a young woman named Julia who’s in this painful situation. I explain what’s going on in his head and tell her how to respond. If you, too, have ever found yourself holding onto hope that a man will give you more because he’s not kind enough to let you go, don’t miss this episode. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today’s caller has a really interesting question: She knows for certain that she wants to marry a man who’s Jewish, but she just “accidentally” had a great date with a man who isn’t. What should she do? We all have our dating deal breakers, religion-based or not, so this is an issue most everyone can relate to. I break down this tricky situation and, together, we’ll weigh the pros and cons of enjoying the now vs. cutting things off quickly before anyone gets hurt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You may be surprised by my message today. After all, I’m the first person to encourage you to be ambitious. But I want to warn you of the danger of trying to be good at too many things or, at least, the tendency to label yourself as an expert in too many areas. I give you a real example from my own life, and share a brilliant quote from the infamous Jameson (who you may know from my YouTube videos) that will inspire you to stay focused on your passion. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is it wise to date a guy who just got out of a relationship? How can you know if he’s actually ready to get serious with you now or if he’s still too hurt from the past? Actually, I can’t answer that for you… but HE can. Grab a pen, because in today’s episode, I’m going to give you 3 questions you can ask Mr. Recently Single to uncover his true feelings about his breakup and reveal what’s in store for you if you get involved with him now. I also give you an important warning and my #1 tip for protecting your heart while his heals. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

 We all have insecurities about qualities we don’t have. Sometimes, gaining confidence is simply a matter of appreciating the other amazing qualities we do have. But today I want to share an even BIGGER secret to overcoming feelings of inadequacy about the things you want most, but lack. It begins with a simple mindset, and only takes one belief to become a reality. Before you tell yourself you can’t do something or put a negative label on yourself, please listen to this episode. It’s never too late… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Our caller, Karen, has a crush on her friend. She thinks there’s a chance he likes her too, but he’s very shy. Is there a way she can test the waters without risking too much, she wonders? Absolutely! In today’s LOVE Life, I’m going to give her – and you – my #1 strategy to take a friend from a familiar context to a flirty one (aka an actual date) without ever risking rejection. Before you know it, you’ll be on the road to romance, with the Friend Zone in your rear view mirror. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Recently, I picked up an iconic book for the first time that you likely read in your youth. (You’ll have to listen to this episode to find out what it is.) In this book, and the actions of its famous main character, I uncovered one of the most important life lessons that I also teach in my live seminars. I want to share it with you today because it’s a quick illustration of exactly what to do when you’re feeling low, abandoned or depressed… and gives you the secret recipe for overcoming weakness any time you feel it taking over. So grab a glass of wine and join our own (5-minute) mini book club for two! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

See that handsome guy over there across the bar? He actually wants to approach you. But he’s way too terrified of being rejected to take a shot in the dark. He needs the right signals from you to make his move. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I’m sharing 3 tips you can use tonight that make you instantly more approachable, along with a fascinating little fact about men that will literally change the way you look at them forever. Intrigued? Have a listen… But be warned, you may have to start turning the men away! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m going to let you in on a secret: Men desperately want to feel like real men. Even though we proudly use “product” in our hair and aren’t ashamed to cry at Pixar films, there’s still a part of us that loves it when our masculinity is validated by the women in our lives. So today I’m handing you 3 shockingly simple compliments you can give to your guy that will make him feel amazing around you. Say them cheekily, say them sweetly, it doesn’t matter – as long as you say them – and watch as he swells with pride and affection for you. (Yes, we really are that simple sometimes.) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.