Love Life With Matthew Hussey

I’ve got a bit of a different message for you today. It’s a lesson I learned from – of all places – my local hipster coffee shop. No matter what your career, from billionaire business owner to bartender, you’re going to want to hear the tip I have for you. It’s all about creating loyalty with small, simple actions we can do every day. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A dead-end career…A lackluster love life…It can feel impossible to stay motivated when more than one important area of your life isn’t going your way. So how do you climb out of a life funk when you’re completely overwhelmed by where to begin? It’s easier than you think (hint: you can start seeing results as soon as TONIGHT) and I’ll show you exactly how to do it in this episode of LOVE Life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you ever feel judged by the people in your life for the decisions you make or your desire to try new things? Ever wish you could just do what you want without worrying about what other people think? Well, you can, and I’m going to show you how. First, it starts with an internal mindset shift. Then, there are two external reactions I’ll teach you that will instantly disarm those “judge-y” friends and possibly even win them over to your side. Either way you’ll be free to do what you want, and they’ll be left without a leg to stand on.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you don’t have a clear vision for what you want in life and an action plan to achieve it, it’s easy to become overwhelmed, or worse, completely paralyzed. Fear of the unknown, fear of the path being tough, fear of making a mistake…these can all hold you back from a fulfilling life of all of the wonderful things you deserve. The good news is, there’s only ONE thing you need to do to take control of your life and begin to get clarity: Just. Start. Taking. Action. I explain how in today’s episode of LOVE Life.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you ever feel judged by the people in your life for the decisions you make or your desire to try new things? Ever wish you could just do what you want without worrying about what other people think? Well, you can, and I’m going to show you how. First, it starts with an internal mindset shift. Then, there are two external reactions I’ll teach you that will instantly disarm those “judge-y” friends and possibly even win them over to your side. Either way you’ll be free to do what you want, and they’ll be left without a leg to stand on.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why does it seem so difficult meet people as an adult? When you’re in a new city, job, or situation, it can feel embarrassing to try to make new friends. Well, guess what? We all feel this way, and yet most people do want to enjoy a great social life with fun and interesting people. So it’s time drop the shame. I’ve got 4 tips to help you connect with new people and strike up friendships. Before you know it, you’ll be out on the town with your new crew!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s a disturbing new trend on YouTube that’s indicative of a larger social problem; perhaps you’ve noticed it too. I’m going to tell you all about it in today’s episode of LOVE Life, and then I have an important challenge for you. Together, we’re going to make a small yet significant step in tackling a destructive issue that plagues young women - and many adult women as well: the Beauty Obsession. But for once we won’t spend time talking about all of the obvious places it comes from; we’ll get right into the (surprisingly simple) solution. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The beginning stages of a new relationship can be incredibly exciting; Along with intense passion for your partner, you start to form feelings of connection and trust. But wait – before you confuse those feelings of trust with physical safety and decide it’s time to stop using a condom, listen to this episode. I’m going to explain why I believe using a condom is actually sexier than throwing caution to the wind. I’ll even give you a line to say to him that will make you more intriguing and irresistible to him than any other woman he’s ever been with. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ve been friends with a guy for a while now, but you want more. So how can you cross over from “one of the guys” to “girlfriend material” without risking rejection? It’s a simple formula: Femininity + Sexuality + Challenge = Desire. I’ll show you exactly how to put these elements into place in today’s episode of LOVE Life, plus give you a sneaky bonus tip that will drive him crazy wanting you and give you your pick of other men in the process! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you addicted to complaining? In this episode of LOVE Life, we take a look at why it’s dangerous to seek significance in the sympathy of others, and I’ll reveal the most rewarding way to get validation through actually solving your problems. It may not be instant gratification, but I promise it’s the most fulfilling way to live. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you think all charming people are just born that way, think again! You can actually learn to build rapport with others and make them feel fantastic around you, and I’ll teach you how with my 4 simple tips. The best part? This is something you can do right away – in the very next conversation you have with someone – to charm them in 2 minutes or less. Ready, set, go! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’ve been following my advice for even a little while, you know I always encourage you to have standards and expect men to treat you like the high-value woman you are. So when it comes to your partner finding other women attractive, you may be surprised at my opinion on the topic: It’s not necessarily a deal breaker! Find out why I believe this, and the ONE important question you need to ask yourself to know whether he truly wants to be with you above all other women. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ah, the “frenemy.” One moment she’s a blast to be around, and the next minute she’s tearing you down with her criticism and negativity. Is it healthier to cut ties entirely, or can the friendship be saved? My answer: It depends. Check out this episode for 4 steps you can try to pull the “friend” out of the “frenemy.” Good luck… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

(Sorry, guys, but I’ve got to give away one of our biggest secrets…) Ladies: Did you know that most times men walk away without getting your number because our interaction with you ended just 5 seconds too soon?  Well, today I’m going to give you 3 simple tricks you can use to extend your conversation with a guy just long enough for him to gather the courage to ask you out. Sneaky? Kind of. But it may just mean the difference between “it was nice talking to you,” and “can I take you to dinner on Friday?” So help us out, ok? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I have a mission for you today: You just need to do two simple things. I’ll be honest, though: It’s going to take courage, and it requires stepping out of your comfort zone. But you’ll thank me for it when you’re done. I did this myself recently, and the reward was well worth the risk. Curious yet? I explain everything in this episode of LOVE Life… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s the cure for a broken heart? “Stay busy,” most people will say, “and before long, you’ll have forgotten all about it.” While this tactic may work in the short term, it’s not going to fix the root of your problem. In today’s episode, I’m going to reveal the REAL, lasting cure for heartache, and teach you a how you can take action today to feel better fast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You may not realize it, but there are one or two days a year unlike any other where you just plow through your to-do list and GET. STUFF. DONE. In this episode of LOVE Life I’m going to remind you when those days are (and exactly what makes you so productive), plus reveal my fun productivity hack that tricks your brain into recreating these hyper-focused, super-effective days whenever you choose! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What makes a great conversationalist? Sure, being knowledgeable about a lot of topics and sharing about them in an interesting way is a great start. But there is one crucial conversation skill that most people don’t use. The funny thing is, this skill is so simple to implement; it actually takes the pressure off of you, helps you to grow, and makes the person you’re speaking with feel amazing about themselves around you. You don’t want to miss this quick but useful tip in today’s LOVE Life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When your partner is acting selfish, it’s only natural to feel resentful. Why should you be giving, giving, giving when all they’re doing is taking? So you withdraw and focus on your own needs to protect yourself. But this is the beginning of a dangerous pattern, as we explore in today’s episode of LOVE Life. Listen closely because I’m going to share a totally counter-intuitive, yet completely simple approach you can use when your relationship starts to feel like a transaction. Do this and you’ll immediately break the negative pattern and discover whether your partner is truly capable of meeting your needs. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Statistics say that 2/3 of people meet their partner through friends or work. But that doesn’t mean it’s the best way to find the right match for you! Before you start dating Dan from Accounting because you’re bored and think you don’t have any better options, STOP and listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life.I’m going to tell you how you can open your world up to more opportunities with much more exciting men. Bonus: If it doesn’t work out, you don’t have to pass them at the water cooler! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I like that restaurant.” “Ehh...I didn’t really like that movie.” Listen, anyone can say these things about anything. Liking or disliking something doesn’t mean you have an opinion. Having a compelling reason why you do or don’t like it is what makes you intriguing. Want an example? Boy, do I have one for you in today’s episode… Warning: I go on a bit of a rant, but I think you’ll find it amusing (or perhaps you’ll just think I’m a little crazy). Either way, I guarantee my advice will make you a lot more interesting to the guys you date! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If I asked you to list the characteristics you’re looking for in your dream man, what would you say? Whether we want to admit it or not, most of us have a mental checklist of what we want in our perfect partner. Is it helpful to be so focused, or could it actually hinder us from finding the person we’re most compatible with? In today’s episode, I tell you exactly what I think you should do with your checklist, and explain why the qualities that will truly bond you to a great guy might be the most surprising of all.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You love your friend. You want nothing but the best for her, including an amazing relationship. So why does it feel so sucky when she falls hard for a new guy and wants to spend alllllll of her time with him? You don’t want her to make a mistake, of course, but could there be something else going on? In today’s LOVE Life, we explore what happens when your BFF takes a “Boyfriend Hiatus” and what you can say to her to bring her out of it to spend some time with you. But be warned: she’s not the only one getting a reality check in today’s episode!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s not news to you that giving your guy space can actually bring you closer in your relationship. But how do you put this behavior into practice, especially when you’re so used to spending all of your time together? Today I’m going to give you a quick, unexpected tip you can use that will shock your man, make him insanely attracted to you, and squash any “dude” instinct he has to rebel against commitment. Bonus points for you being awesome: I guarantee this is something none of his past girlfriends have ever said to him before! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What creates confidence? Many people will tell you that it’s attractiveness. But how can you ever feel good about yourself until you get the validation from others that you look good in the first place? It’s a trap, you see… and the only way to close that gap is to realize that there is another, entirely different way to get your validation and create feelings of confidence. I’ll give you that secret recipe today and give you an everyday-life illustration that will make you understand exactly why it’s confidence itself that makes you attractive in the first place! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On your journey to finding your Mr. Right, you may find yourself getting set up on a date. Whether it’s a cultural thing, or thanks to the (relentless) suggestion of well-meaning friends or family members, suddenly you find yourself sitting face-to-face with a virtual stranger who knows things about you that you’ve never told him. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I give you some creative ways to break the ice, address the awkwardness, and create a real-life connection of your very own choosing! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s face it – we all work too hard to risk wasting an entire, precious Friday night with someone we just met if the date doesn’t go well. Allow me to propose the low-pressure, high-value first date: My formula allows you to spend some fun, flirty time with that new guy you’re interested in and you’ll still get to meet up with your girlfriends for a proper night out. You’ll leave on a high note, which is guaranteed to leave him wanting more, and before you know it he’ll be calling (not texting!) for a second date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re anything like me, the higher the expectations you set for yourself for what you want to accomplish in a day, the more overwhelmed you get. And the more overwhelmed you get, the less stuff you actually get done. So I’m going to get you in on my (slightly embarrassing) productivity trick that – when you put it into practice – guarantees you’ll actually achieve your goal by the end of the day. And no one has to know how you got there but you and me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why do bad things always happen to me? If you find yourself thinking that way, it’s time to STOP. We all face problems and setbacks in life, and having a victim mentality is only going to hold you back from having the happiness you deserve. In today’s episode, I give you the two essential questions you need to ask yourself when something goes wrong so you can learn from it, move forward, and make sure it doesn’t happen again. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all need other people to help us achieve our goals in life. But the more successful our adviser, the more likely he or she is to be insanely busy! So how can we get on their radar… and even more challenging, their calendar? I’ve got a sneaky tip for you that may be just a tiny bit unfair but, hey – you gotta do what you gotta do to get ahead! Plus, it will make your mentor feel like they’ve done something good with their day too. In the end, it’s a win-win for everyone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Well of course your best guy friend’s new girlfriend is going to be threatened by you. You two have a history that she can only imagine, inside jokes she just doesn’t get, and a friendship that’s stood the test of time… But the reality is, they’re getting serious and she’s not going anywhere. So how can the three of you make this relationship work? I give you 3 quick tips that will put your guy friend’s GF at ease, build your bond with her, and make sure that both of you stay the most important women in your best friend’s life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when you meet a guy you’re really into, you have a few amazing dates, and then he has to move away due to circumstances beyond both of your control? You haven’t had time to build a solid foundation yet, but you don’t want to throw away a great connection either. In this episode of LOVE Life, I’ll explore this tricky situation and give you an elegant way to test the waters to see where your guy stands on the issue. In the end, you’ll know whether it’s worth pursuing something more, or keeping your options open for love that’s closer to home. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of LOVE Life, our caller, Getty, says it best: “Rejection sucks.” Yet it’s inevitable that we’ll all face it in our lives from time to time. So the question becomes: How can we move on from the grief and heartache of knowing: I’m not the one they chose? I break down my (somewhat surprising) theory about insecurity, and explain why taking small risks every day is actually a privilege to seize rather than a chore to dread. With this new mindset firmly in place, you’ll be ready to get back “out there” in no time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’re all busy and, often, the people we admire most are the busiest of all. So why is it, then, we can’t seem to help ourselves when writing them an email? We get carried away, typing paragraph after paragraph, hoping to convey every single point we want to make. And then we wonder why they never get back to us! Today, I’m going to give you my 3 Commandments of Email Communication to ensure your message gets across loud and clear, you get the response you’re hoping for, and you yourself come across even more important in the process! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s nothing quite like the thrill of “the chase.” When you’re just starting out dating someone new, attraction is at an all-time high and you can’t get enough of each other. But is there any way to recapture some of that excitement and keep the attraction alive long-term? That’s what our caller, Tori, wants to know. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I reveal 3 ways to keep a relationship fresh and sexy no matter how long you’ve been together. Hint: one of my tips is the reason why certain playful couples in their 80s are still together… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Fact: some men are just liars. And if you discover this trait in the one you’re dating, RUN. But as for all the other good guys out there, they really DO want to tell you the truth. In today’s episode, I give you 5 specific, actionable tips you can use right away to create an environment in your relationship where your man feels comfortable being honest with you about the little things, the big things, and everything in between. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Moving to a new city can be daunting, especially when you’re single. But with the right attitude it can be the perfect opportunity to create an exciting life filled with interesting new friends, fun activities and, yes, amazing new dating prospects. I take a call today from Sarah, who is interested in a guy in her new area and wants to know what comes first: building her social circle or pursuing her love life? My answer to her may surprise you… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s that time again… We’re giving appreciation to someone who deserves credit for the little things they do that make a big difference in others’ lives. In today’s episode of Love Life we’re celebrating Justin, the waiter at a fish restaurant in Seattle, for his warm and welcoming one-liner that I’ll remember forever. Try this one yourself to make anyone in your business - or your life - feel like they belong. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode of LOVE Life I take a great call from a listener named Sarah who wants to know if certain types of men are attracted to introverted women, or if being introverted is something that she needs to overcome. I turn this question on its head and challenge Sarah: Is she really JUST an introvert? Or might there be more to her than just that label? If you consider yourself shy or not a “people person,” you’ll definitely want to tune in today to discover how appreciating all the facets of who you are can open a world of dating possibilities to you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Uh-oh. Here it comes. You’ve been dating a man for a while now and everything is going great until you mention a guy “friend” of yours. Suddenly, he’s obsessing about this “friend” and wants to know exactly how “friendly” you’ve been in the past. Before he hooks you into this conversation trap, listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life for my 3 tips on exactly what to say to diffuse his jealousy, ease his mind, and keep your new relationship going strong. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I have a challenge for you today… It’s something that you think about doing almost daily, yet you probably never make the time to do it. It’s something that would make another person in your life very happy, and yet would make you even happier. It won’t cost you a cent, and will only take a few moments out of your day. You’ll feel better afterwards than before you did it. Are you up for the challenge? Listen to today’s LOVE Life and let’s do it together… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you’re having sex with someone, one of the least sexy things to talk about is STDs. But it could be the most important conversation you’ll ever have in a relationship. So when is the best time to bring it up? And what should you say to make sure you’re comfortable enough to trust your partner? In today’s episode, I help our caller, Jasmine, navigate this tricky situation and give her a script she can use that will allow her to look after her health, stand her ground, and get more respect from her partner in the process. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you cram for dates like you used to cram for exams? Pulling all-nighters beforehand, stressing about where to go, what to do, and what to say? Well no wonder you’re overwhelmed! Today I’m going to get you to stop this counterproductive behavior and give you 5 tips you can use now to bring real (not superficial) change that will make sure you ace any date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you think that people with charisma are just “born with it”… If you think people who influence others or tell captivating stories are spontaneous and it just “comes naturally” to them, then you are going to want to listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life. Not only am I going to dispel this myth once and for all based on my own experience, I am going to give you a set of free, downloadable tools you can use to learn how to develop these skills for yourself.Hint: It includes a shocking expose written about me by my brother Stephen AND a secret screenshot of my iPad. Curious yet??? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you think of “heroes,” what comes to mind? Superman leaping tall buildings in a single bound? Well, it’s not always feats of strength that make someone a hero. In fact, there are everyday superstars all around us if we only take the time to notice. That’s why I’ve created a segment I’m calling “Boring Heroes,” and in example #1, I’m sharing with you the 4 words a pool boy – yes, a pool boy at a resort – said to me that changed the way I approach life, and just might do the same for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is there anything worse than going to dinner on a first date and realizing that you’re not a match before your appetizer even hits the table? Now you have to sit through another two courses, make excruciating small talk, AND do the “I’ve got this,” “No, really, I’ve got it” dance around the check before you can make your escape. Do yourself a favor and listen to today’s episode, because I’m going to share with you my “Rule of Thirds” Formula that guarantees you’ll invest exactly the right amount of time in someone you date (that way you can cut your losses quickly OR if you really hit it off, you can keep on going all night!).  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You know you’re awesome, and any man would be lucky to date you. But how do you get that across in a paragraph (without the use of the dreaded humble-brag)? Well you’re in luck, because today I’m going to break down, line-by-line, what I consider to be THE most perfect online dating profile I’ve ever seen. In subtle, witty, playful ways, this woman communicates who she is, what she has to offer, and what she’s looking for in a partner (including the most genius way of inconspicuously mentioning that she wants to have kids someday). Oh yeah, and I also give you a link to download the profile so you can use it as a template! (You’re welcome ☺) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s face it: Some conversations are way more difficult than others. But sometimes we have to be grownups and face these tricky conversations head-on. Today, I’m giving you my 3 simple tips to quit your job gracefully, so you say the things that need to be said (and not the ones that cause hard feelings).Both you and your superior will feel good about the experience, and you’ll walk away knowing that you’ve left a door open to possibilities down the road. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s the big deal about a little gossip? Well we all know that talking trash about someone else can hurt their feelings if (when!) they find out, but you may not realize just how much this behavior is hurting YOU in the process. I uncover the ugly truth about gossiping in today’s episode of LOVE Life, and explain why the real recipe to building yourself up is not tearing others down. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

First dates are awkward… but meeting a blind date for the first time ever can be positively terrifying! Before you freak out, listen to today’s episode, because I’m going to hand you 6 adorably unique lines you can use to ease the pressure, have some fun, and – if you’re into him – lay the groundwork for a great second date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.