Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Are you seeing someone who won’t commit but who doesn’t let you move on either? You’re about to hear a phone call between me and a young lady who had this issue and wanted to know what was going on in his mind. If you check out the video on my YouTube Channel also get to see me portrayed as a detective getting to the bottom of the case…In this episode, you’ll learn about the psychology of someone who won’t commit, and what you should be doing about it if you find yourself in this situation. Stay safe out there, my pickles.---►► Is He Ready to Commit to You? This Conversation Will Help You Know for Sure. Tap Below for Your FREE Training: HowToGetExclusive.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ll keep this short so you can go straight to listening to this episode. It’s not just essential listening if you’re single right now… It’s essential listening in the context of the year we’ve just had and how to navigate being single in it.Life is precious. Let’s not waste it. P.S. Please share this with any and all the single people you care about in your life.---►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” at 9texts.com►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You" at SayThisToHim.comFollow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you ever find yourself getting attracted to people who are unavailable (emotionally or otherwise)? Treat you poorly? Or simply aren’t interested in you? Why does this happen? Why do we conveniently keep getting attracted to the least convenient people? It can be deeply frustrating, especially when there might be someone who does like us but who we just don’t want. In this episode, I explain two fundamental reasons why this keeps happening. At the end, I give you a practical “mind trick” you can do on yourself to change this... Learn the 2 mistakes that keep you from meeting the right person... -- Claim Your Spot on The Matthew Hussey Virtual Retreat. Let’s Hit Reset on This Year, Together... → http://www.MHVirtualRetreat.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In his book Zero To One, the venture capitalist and entrepreneur Peter Thiel famously says: “Competition is for losers”.Whether you are running a business, deciding what to do with your life, looking for a relationship – if you worry about what everyone else is doing, you’ll end up chasing the wrong thing.The only way to escape competition, and feel deeply confident to your soul, is to have your own unique monopoly.You don’t need to win at everything to get a great relationship – you only need to build your unique monopoly in a way that makes you irreplaceable for the right person... ---►►Join us for our life-changing 3-day virtual retreat MHVirtualRetreat.com►► Send your emails to [email protected] Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does he REALLY like you? You may be asking yourself this question right now. Sometimes people ask themselves this question because they want to know whether to make a move in the first place... Other times they ask it because they want to know whether the person they are spending time with really cares or is just wasting their time. This episode is going to help. I give you 7 surprising and unexpected signs that someone genuinely likes you. Watch it now and see how many of the 7 things he’s doing with you... Don’t forget to leave us a comment at [email protected]! --- Get the 5 Compliments That Build Deep Attraction. Tap Below to Download Your FREE Guide... → http://SayThisToHim.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m a big believer these days in the power of no. What we decide to say “no” to in relationships is often as important what we say yes to. And I’ve seen thousands of women saying yes to all the wrong things, like men who say “I’m not sure about us,” for whom they wait months and years in the self-torturing hope he’ll change his mind. I even had a woman recently say to me, “He says he’s trying to choose between me and another woman. Should I wait for an answer? Or should I move on?” Seriously? Wait for an answer? Screw that. It’s time to say no to being undervalued forever. One of my favourite quotes says: “If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise your price.” So if you’re still hanging on that “one guy,” I need, need, need you to hear this. It may just be the biggest wake-up call you’ll ever get... ►► Deep down, you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life. GOOD NEWS - I have a proven method to transform your life in just a few days with me → our first ever ONLINE RETREAT! Claim your spot today for October - http://www.MHVirtualRetreat.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever found yourself in a situation where the person you are with is doing something that affects you negatively, only they don’t see it as a big deal? They tell you they don’t think they’re doing anything wrong, and that you should be OK with it. That’s what happened to the woman whose story I tell in this episode. Her boyfriend was regularly texting a female friend he’d made only recently. Every time she got upset about it, he told her she was being unnecessarily controlling and jealous and that he wasn’t doing anything wrong. In today’s podcast, you’ll see exactly what I think she should do about this situation... I always think one of the hardest things in a relationship is trying to figure out where we are overreacting and where we are justified. It can be maddening. If you’re wondering whether what someone is doing around you should be a deal-breaker, this will help you figure it out once and for all. Always in your corner. P.S. The first-ever Live Matthew Hussey Virtual Retreat is just around the corner. People from all over the world are signing up to join us October 16th - 18th, not just because they have always wanted to take my Retreat, but because it’s a fraction of the cost of my live Retreat (and with none of the travel and time off work!). There may never be a better time to join the Retreat than this. Go here to book an appointment with one of my team and find out more: http://www.mhvirtualretreat.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Answering YOUR questions on topics including:- what to do when a guy is acting flakey- creating a "flirtatious energy" (and how to do it)- how to be less insecure in a relationship---Follow Matt @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you do if the person you are with comes to you telling you he wants a break? You’re devastated, you’re scared, and every instinct in you tells you to fight for this person you care about so much. What would you say to him?In these moments we often do exactly the opposite of what we need to. If you’re in this situation, or you ever want to know what to do if someone says this to you again, I',m going to give you the only response you’ll ever need... ---►► Handle Heartbreak in a Strong, High-Value Way. Download your free guide: MoveOnStrong.com Follow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you ever worry that the chemistry will fizzle in your relationship? Or does it seem as though the butterflies have already flown away? Don’t worry. This episode contains a game plan to save you... --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com --- Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you been gaslighted before? Is it happening to you right now? If you’re not sure what “Gaslighting” means… It’s when someone manipulates you by psychological means into doubting your own sanity.Over time, this can have a dramatic effect on our self-esteem as we slowly begin to doubt ourselves until we no longer trust our own instincts. It’s nasty. If you’ve ever expressed your needs to someone or tried to tell them about something they did that hurt you and you were made to feel crazy, this message is for you. It’s a horrible feeling when we are upset or anxious and we don’t even know if what we are saying is reasonable or whether we are overreacting… that’s why I’m so excited for you to listen to this episode. It’s going to bring you a sense of peace and calm again... I’ve got your back, friend.---►► Deep down, you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life. GOOD NEWS - I have a proven method to transform your life in just 6 short days with me: MatthewHusseyRetreat.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Question: What’s the #1 secret to powerful, seductive flirting? For some people, that’s a silly question. “Flirting is simple,” they’ll say. “It’s just something you do when you like someone.” And yet, in my 10 years of learning about attraction, I’ve seen so many make the same mistakes. They try to talk to that cute guy at the party, the conversation fizzles out, and they’re left scratching their heads wondering, “Am I being too keen? Too aggressive? Am I just boring?” But I understand. Knowing what men/women want when it comes to flirting can feel massively confusing. In fact, I’ve never seen flirting skills broken down in a useful way – so today I’m going to reveal the ultimate flirting formula. (Trust me, you won’t want to miss this). It's time to finally make this confusing topic clear... --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Download the FREE flirting chapter at GetTheFreeChapter.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Maybe you’ve always been afraid of rejection. Maybe there was a specific moment in your past where you experienced a devastating rejection that has left you fearing getting hurt again ever since. The problem with the fear of rejection is that it still hurts even when we are not getting rejected. I was taught by my boxing trainer, Martin Snow, that the worst punch you get is the one you never actually get hit with. It’s the one you think about and fear in your mind. That means that even without literally being rejected, we experience the pain by imagining it over and over again. On top of that, we beat ourselves up for all the things we are missing out on as a result of our fear: potential partners, opportunities, experiences, adventures, and most importantly – our full potential. Fear of rejection is one of the most human things in the world. We all experience it. But how can we learn to manage it, live with it, and even occasionally, overcome it? I know you’ve been dealt some really unfair situations. I know that sometimes it feels like we can’t take anymore pain. But life is short... I’m with you, friend. -- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You watch the cliché rom-coms and sitcoms. They tell you to be witty, urbane, “sassy”, sophisticated. And that’s what everyone wants to portray on their profile on Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, Grab-a-mate, Blah-bar (Ok, I made up those last two up). What hardly anyone does in conversation pay an actual memorable compliment. And this doesn’t just for for online dating. It’s also lacking in many flesh-and-blood conversations. Both men and women defer to trying to look impressive (through their career, fancy degree, social status) instead of making a real connection.One reason we avoid being genuine in our compliments is because we’re scared to put ourselves on the line. And yet, there is this weird phenomenon: we tend to like people who actually see something special about us. If you agree and want some practical advice on being memorable in other people's eyes, listen to this episode...---►► Learn the 5 compliments that everyone loves to hear. Download the free guide at SayThisToHim.comFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ah yeeeeah, it’s that time, friend… a brand new spicy epsiode for you. This one is about compliments, and there’s some really interesting psychology in it about the compliments you can give to a person to create deep attraction between the two of you. One of them works for when you first message someone on an app… The 2nd one is great for when you are meeting someone in person… The 3rd one is for someone you already know and want to build more attraction with. This episode is super practical. Take a few minutes to watch it, then use one of these compliments today. If you’re not going to use one of them, you’re not allowed to listen to it. OK? Don’t listen to this episode then NOT use one of them, because I’LL KNOW. ;) Hope you’re having a great day, you beautiful human. ►► Get 5 More Compliments That Build Serious Attraction. Tap Below to Download Your Free Guide... → http://www.SayThisToHim.com ▼ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've ever worried about having the "awkward" conversation, answering the booty call text, or speaking out for your needs, this is for you!  It's time to start being ok with being weird...---►► Email us at [email protected] Stephen:Twitter - @stephenhhusseyInstagram - @stephenhhusseyFacebook - @stephenhusseywrites Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I can’t tell you how many times a week someone online says to me: “Matthew, I’ve had enough. I’m just going to give up on dating altogether.” It may be because they are sick of getting their heart broken. It may be that they are exhausted from going on dates that don’t go anywhere, or online conversations that never even get to the point of a date in the first place. It could be the frustration of never meeting people they have true chemistry with, or when they finally do, discovering that they aren’t looking for a relationship.If you feel any of these things, I made this for you. If you feel you’re close to giving up on this area of your life, I have no righteous ground to take in telling you you’re wrong. I completely understand it. It is unbelievably frustrating, especially when you want nothing more than to just get on with sharing your life with that special person instead of more time passing without them in it. You’re not weak or crazy for feeling the way you do, so give yourself a break. But before you give up, just do me one favor – listen to this podcast today.---►► If you're ready to do something truly special this year and transform your life over 3 magical days, join me for our first ever LIVE Virtual Retreat at MHVirtualRetreat.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s hard to find love when you don’t feel loveable yourself. When you know you’ve made a ton of mistakes. Or you’ve internalized the idea that you’re just not a likeable person. It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle: “I don’t like myself, so why should anyone else like me?” Then we feel lonely, beat ourselves up, feel like a failure, and like ourselves even less than before. We retreat more and more into our shell and lose that “spark” that makes us attractive to someone else as a potential partner This is exhausting. It’s unfair. And it doesn’t do justice to who you really are on the inside and everything you have to give to the world. It’s an overwhelming step to think about how to suddenly become supremely confident. So let’s do something more modest today. In this episode, I want to share a small thing you can start doing today to get back your self-esteem and begin to reclaim your core confidence... ►► Deep down, if you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life...GOOD NEWS - I have a proven method to transform your life in just 6 short days with me → http://www.MatthewHusseyRetreat.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you hurting? Is that hurt leading to overthinking? Rumination? A downward spiral of negative self-talk? Do you feel trapped inside your own head, desperate for some relief, and anxious for the time to come when you will finally feel better? If so, this is required listening. To do something special for my Love.Life members, I invited the one and only Guy Winch (@GuyWinch) on for a special hour to help people overcome pain and hurt. Guy Winch is one of the world’s foremost experts on dealing with heartbreak and “emotional first-aid.” This episode is a special moment taken from that hour where Guy talks about how to deal with moments of terrible pain in a productive and healthy way. As Rainer Maria Rilke said: “No feeling is final.” If you’re hurting right now, it’s going to get better. I promise. One step at a time. -- ►► Ready to join our members area and hear the full conversation (plus more LIVE coaching from Matt?) - go to AskMH.com to join our VIP community today! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We respond to YOUR emails all about the topic of Love Bombing. Including:Why we get sucked in by love bombingWhat "red flags" to look for early onHow to be (healthily skeptical) before diving into romanceHow to move on after heartbreak---►► If you're ready to deep dive into your love life and want to see Matt answer real love questions on our live webinars, join our Love.Life VIP Members club at AskMH.comFollow Matt:Twitter - @matthewhusseyInstagram - @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen: Instagram - @stephenhhusseyTwitter - @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I talk a lot about letting go of the wrong person. But how do you know if someone is the wrong person? What are the red flags? How can you tell if someone is serious or just stringing you along so that you don’t waste your time? This episode solves that problem for you. In this podcast, I add a distinction that I’ve never said before and I don’t think you will have ever thought about… Let me know what you think once you’ve heard it, friend. Much love. P.S. For all the sh*t you’re going through right now that others don’t know about, I love you and I’m with you. --- Follow Matthew: Twitter - @matthewhussey Instagram - @thematthewhussey --- Follow Stephen: Twitter - @stephenhhussey Instagram - @stephenhhussey --- Email the show at [email protected]! --- Download the FREE chapter of our How To Talk To Men program at GetTheFreeChapter.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You have to help me. I believe there isn’t a woman (person) alive who doesn’t need to hear this message at least once in her lifetime. I know, that’s a bold statement. But when you see it, you’ll know why.My work is about more than dating. It’s about time. Time = Life. And this podcast is designed to save your precious time. It's all about what “it’s complicated” really means. If you’re in a situation with a man that gives you far less than you want or deserve, this is the most important thing you could do with your time today.And I rarely ask this, but please do more than listen to this. Share it with every woman you know. I have spent over a decade working with women in their love lives. I’d go as far as to say no one has been witness to more women throwing away their precious time on the wrong situations than me.My No.1 objective is for this episode to help you get brave enough to say “enough is enough” in your own life. My 2nd objective is for you to help me save the lives of other women – your friends, your sisters, your mum, your daughters… anyone you care about. People don’t always have the wake up call on their own. Sometimes they need our help. No more wasting time. I know it’s hard, but I’m with you. I’m in your corner, always.---►► Relationships Don’t Have to Be Complicated. Learn 3 Simple Secrets to Get the Love You Deserve. Tap Below for Your FREE Guide: 3SecretsToLove.comFollow Matt:Insta – @thematthewhusseyTwitter – @matthewhusseyFollow Stephen:Insta – @stephenhhusseyTwitter - @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Too many people in the single world waste time and emotion pursuing TERRIBLE leads. They date men and women who don’t invest in them, they spend hours waiting for texts back only to get one-word answers, and they chase intimacy from people who only want attention/sex/validation... I don’t have a dog in this fight. Being in a relationship can be incredible. But being single is also AMAZING and gets taken for granted way more often...."---►► Want to build the self-worth and confidence that makes you TRULY fall in love with your life? Click here to reserve your spot on our next LIVE retreat program!Follow Steve:Twitter - @stephenhhusseyInstagram - @stephenhhusseyFacebook - @stephenhusseywrites Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I still remember every heartbreak I’ve ever had. If I try I can still bring back the agony of those months after a relationship ended, wondering if I was ever going to feel better and get back to my normal self. When you’re feeling that pain of losing someone, food doesn’t taste good. TV shows depress you. Your favourite places feel cursed because they bring back bittersweet memories. But there is a secret to emotionally recovering from a breakup, one that is shockingly simple but so crucial that if you forget to do it, you will inadvertently DOUBLE the amount of time it takes to get over your ex. See, most of us make bad decisions in a breakup. We drink to numb the pain, we have one-night stands with people we don’t care about, or we eat ourselves into oblivion with junk food. It sucks now, I know. But it will get better, trust me.... Blog → http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/blog/ Facebook → https://facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter → https://twitter.com/matthewhussey Instagram (Matt) → https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/?hl=en Instagram (Steve) → https://www.instagram.com/stephenhhussey/?hl=en Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever sat ruminating obsessively over something you could have or should have done differently in your relationship? Something you said, something you did, or something you wish you’d have done more? It’s a dreadful, sickening feeling. I know because I’ve felt it. It leads to regret, anxiety, self-loathing… not to mention a lack of appetite and insomnia. We turn over every memory, imagining where we could have been with that person had we just behaved differently. And this feeling isn’t limited to situations that have ended.Sometimes we are still seeing someone but we have this crippling anxiety over having irreversibly damaged the relationship. We feel we’ve created a perception of ourselves in that person’s eyes that we can’t now undo. If for any of these reasons you are currently torturing yourself, this episode will be life-saving for you today. Trust me when I say it is essential.I break down for you why you don’t need to be wallowing in pain, and why, despite everything that destructive voice inside is saying, you actually have reason to feel good today. Please also share this with someone you know who may be beating herself up right now. Life’s too short for any of us to suffer needlessly. I’m with you, friend. You’re loved. ---►►Start transforming your confidence from wherever you are TODAY! Get the At-Home Retreat program at MHRetreatAtHome.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve coached who can’t let go of the past. Women who are still hating themselves for dating the wrong guy for so many years. Women who feel they’ve wasted their career so far. Women who still let an old family trauma affect their mood every... single... day. I know these things are hard. Believe me, I’m not pretending these are small problems.But if you want to know how to break free, let go of your baggage, and feel 100% more empowered, please, please make sure you hear this message. I’m going to share a mind-blowing story that will show how you can turn even the worst tragedies into a beautiful future... ---►► Deep down, you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life. GOOD NEWS - I have a proven method to transform your life in just 5 short days with me → http://www.MatthewHusseyRetreat.comFollow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever had someone come into your life, dazzle you with their initial investment and attention, only to disappear as fast as they came? This phenomenon has been nicknamed “Love Bombing,” and it can be very painful, especially when you were led to believe it was going somewhere. You may be asking yourself why someone would do this. In this week’s episode I’ll show you… My hope is that this will not only give you a sense of closure, but also help you to move past the heartache you are feeling right now if this has happened to you. I also show you how to avoid it in the future. Here for you, friend.Matthew x---►► Join my exclusive members community at AskMH.com►► Email us YOUR love bombing story at [email protected]  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are the most attractive people always the most confident? Is insecurity always an attraction-killer, or is it more important to own your flaws?In today's episode Matt gives his take on the topic of insecurity and reveals the difference between flawed vs. being weak.  ---►► Ready to transform your confidence and get the relationship you deserve? Get your copy of the At-Home Retreat at MHRetreatAtHome.comFollow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are many dangerous qualities of a toxic person, but the worst one of all may be their deceptiveness. They can be so subtle in their manipulation, you may not even realize what they’re doing to you, until you’re in too deep and they’ve completely eroded your confidence. I want you to have the awareness to SEE this behaviour for what it is and give you the strength to walk away so you never have to worry about those people again.In today’s podcast, I take you through the 5 signs you’re dating a toxic person so you know exactly what to watch out for…---►► Download the FREE confidence training at GetCoreConfidence.comFollow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What keeps relationships together? And what tears them apart? I've always been obsessed with looking at patterns of those in happy couples.Today, we share some research into a single behaviour that can make all the difference... Let us know your thoughts. Send us an email at [email protected]! ---►► Transform your core confidence...download the free training at GetCoreConfidence.comFollow Stephen @stephenhhusseyFollow Matthew @thematthewhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time. They can stop us from taking chances again in love. They can make us afraid of getting close to someone again… Afraid of being vulnerable again… Afraid of letting someone in… Because if the result of letting our guard down and choosing to love someone is that we give up all of our power, then why bother, right? Sure, we may be giving up the special experience of being in love, but at least we don’t have to experience those dreadful lows. If you can relate to this, today’s episode is for you. You’ll hear me doing a live demonstration with someone who is going through exactly this issue. And what I tell her may be exactly the words you need to hear right now. This isn’t isn’t a pep talk. It’s a rational, practical strategy for how to navigate your love life after someone has hurt you, or broken your heart or your trust (or all 3). ►► Be Brave and Invest in Love Again. To Learn How, Download Your FREE Guide… → http://www.3SecretsToLove.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Has this ever happened to you? You’re on a first date... and... He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry… But at the end of the night… he doesn’t ask for a second date (nevermind a third or fourth). If this has happened to you (or keeps happening), you’re likely missing one of the two essential things that makes him reach across the table and say: “I’d really like to see you again.” In this podcast, I tell you EXACTLY what to say so that he’ll ask you out again (and again, and again)... You might be surprised at how simple this is AND how often you’re skipping this step when you’re interacting with a guy you like, especially in the early stages of dating... It’s genuinely crazy to me how obvious the phrase in this podcast is, how simple it would be for people to say, how many more second dates it would get them… and yet, they still aren’t doing it. >>> Follow Matt @thematthewhussey >>> Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Download the flirting sample of How To Talk To Men at GetTheFreeChapter.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve been thinking about one of the biggest dangers of personal growth these last couple of weeks. The danger is this: we learn a crucially important, life-changing lesson, and then forget all about it and move on with our lives. Any one of us could fall into that trap this year. Like me, you’ve probably had some realizations about your life during this difficult time. Epiphanies about changes you want to make, or simple truths that you want to take forward even once things return to “normal.” But the integration of these lessons and truths into our lives going forward is no guarantee. In fact, for most people, it’s much more likely that nothing will change. Think of that, we were just forced into a giant reset, the likes of which we may never have again in our lifetimes. And yet, most people will go back to living the same lives they were before once the daily stresses, invites, and activities return. We simply cannot let this happen. So what can we do? Well, the first step is consciously taking stock of what those lessons are, and codifying them so we don’t forget them. In this week’s episode I reveal 6 of the unexpected lessons I’ve learned in the last 3 months... Come see if any of mine are the same as yours. And, in the process, write down what yours are. I can’t say this enough: do not move on from this moment in time without bottling the lessons and taking them with you, or all of this pain and struggle will have been for nothing. ►► Claim Growth and Happiness that LASTS. Learn More about The At-Home Retreat… → http://www.MHRetreatAtHome.com Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“How do you avoid negative self-talk after a breakup? My ex was extremely critical and I want him out of my head.” I say “we,” because I’m not alone in this one. I’m joined by a very special friend of mine, Jeannie Mai (@thejeanniemai)– Emmy Award-winning co-host of “The Real,” and host of the podcast “Listen Hunnay.” Jeannie is wonderfully entertaining to listen to, and has a first rate mind on these things, as you’ll her from the podcast. And, what makes this “extra” special is that it's taken from a 90-minute interview I did just for my Love.Life members, so you’ll get a taste of what goes on behind the curtain of my private membership. If you are struggling with negative self-talk, this podcast is literally a precise prescription for what to do next. It’s 7 minutes of listening that will make your life better today, I promise. P.S. If you find this video as valuable as I know you will, and would like to watch the full 90-minute interview, you can access it right now with a free 14-day trial to our Love.Life Membership. Claim your trial at http://www.AskMH.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why is it SO hard to leave, even when we know we are with the wrong person? How can we get the courage to follow what our brain and heart are screaming at us and leave? It's not easy, and there's a psychological bias that makes it even harder. In this episode, I share 3 techniques to re-wire your brain so that you finally have the strength to follow your heart and make the right choice. --- Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Email us your story and comments at [email protected] Download the FREE guide on "Dating After Heartbreak" at 3SecretsToLove.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A mere 2 weeks ago it would have been hard to conceive of a world that was about to heat up considerably beyond the tension and emotion already experienced in 2020. Then came the murder of George Floyd. Since then, I, living in Los Angeles, have watched the United States – and beyond – reach a boiling point on race issues. It’s a dark time, and yet it also feels like a time where real change could be possible. I find myself asking of what service I can possibly be. Another weekend rolls around, my weekly video spot awaits my thoughts, and I have no clever words chambered. It doesn’t feel like the week for a love life video. And yet it does feel like a week where I want to be with you, my community, more than ever. I ask politely that you not confuse that with my having any answers. All I have is me, letting the Black members of my community know what I have always felt – that I consider you my sisters and brothers, and that I, Matthew Hussey, stand with you, always. The fact that Black lives “mattering” is even an idea that needs support in the year 2020 is an astonishing prospect. But to all the Black members of this community, let the bloody obvious be stated here and now: My team and I love you, and you matter to us. To brighter days. For anyone interested I have included a list below of organizations I have chosen to support with donations this week. **In addition, when we first posted the new YouTube video this morning, I had it demonetized out of respect so as not to profit from this video. However many of you pointed out in the comments that it would be better to have ads turned on and have the revenue go to the cause. I love the idea, so I have, and 100% of the proceeds from this week's YouTube video will also be donated to the causes below. 1 - My Brother’s Keeper Alliance https://www.obama.org/mbka/ 2 - Center for Policing Equity https://policingequity.org 3 - Equal Justice Initiative https://eji.org 4 - NAACP https://www.naacp.org 5 - The Girls Opportunity Alliance Fund https://www.obama.org/girlsopportunityalliance/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey ►► Want Support to Navigate This Strange Time? Ask Me Your Burning Love Life Question Now… → http://www.AskMH.com This episode is an honest look at what the near future of dating could look like for you if you’re single right now. Even as parts of the world open up again, a vaccine appears to be at least 8-12 months away. That means that for about another year, there will be some significant implications for our dating lives. Is it safe to go out on dates in the coming months? When should you meet up with someone you’ve been talking to? How do you deal with awkward moments like the first hello where you would normally hug each other? Is there an elegant way to communicate what level of contact you are comfortable with? These are all questions I answer in this episode. At the beginning of COVID-19, I made a video outlining the immediate impact of this virus on our love lives. Consider this a round 2, but this time with a focus on the future of dating. A kind of “State of Our Unions” address for 2020, if you will. I’d love to know your thoughts in the comments, and please share with anyone who is anxious or concerned with the future of their dating life. There is reason for hope, my friend. As ever, I’m thinking of you as we go through this together. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Follow Matthew at @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen at @stephenhhussey --- 90% of people are making a mistake in the way they connect with other people without even realizing it. See, ever since I was 13 and first picked up my Dad’s copy of the Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People, I was fascinated with figuring what it is that allows certain people able to influence, attract, and be charismatic in the presence of others. Over years of being on TV and radio, running a company with over 30 full-time staff, and speaking to audiences of thousands of people, I’ve learned some really important distinctions that make people certain people immediately compelling. I’ve also learned some major things people get wrong that must be avoided at all costs if you ever want to win people over… (more on that in the video) So here it is, my #1 secret to getting people hooked in the first 60 seconds… ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve lost count of what week of social distancing we’re in. But I do know that if you’ve been living with someone since quarantine started then you’ve had your ups and downs. We need space in our relationship for desire to thrive. But how do you create space with someone who is always there? If absence makes the heart grow fonder, how do you stay exciting to your partner if you're never absent?In today's episode, we talk about some simple, practical ways to approach this situation and avoid making the mistakes that are hurting good relationships...This isn’t just about getting space, it’s about bringing back the moments of magic, and romance, and love. Even if you’re not living with someone right now, you can use these ideas to make sure your long-distance situation stays vibrant and alive. Your situation may be different, but the psychology is the same.Thinking of you, friend.Matt---►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.comFollow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People spend a lot of time asking the question: “How to do I get my partner to open up?” But they rarely think about the ways in which they regularly punish their partner whenever they want to reveal their beating vulnerable heart. The problem with just saying to someone, “you should open up more”, is that it’s a frustratingly vague request.I’ve noticed that a huge amount of my emotional openness depends on feeling like I have the right environment to be free to express what’s really going on inside. So if you want your partner, family, or friends to open up emotionally, here are 4 worries that are probably going through their minds that need to be dealt with first...  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“WTF? Do not use this.” This is a comment I received last week. It was in response to a flirty little text that I suggested you use with the guy who is on your mind right now. In fact, this text really seemed to divide people. Someone even said it could result in “catastrophe.” And this comment had likes. A lot of them. W. T. F. So, despite the fact that I was going to move on to a different topic this week, my director Jameson Jordan politely (feistily) asked (demanded) that I respond to these comments. And I never say no to Jameson when he gets feisty. So, here is that response... You might be a little surprised by my response, because if you felt like the texts I suggested were a little dangerous, it might reveal a bigger, deeper, more important red flag at play. I hope you enjoy it. And if you don’t, please don’t leave any more comments that make Jameson make me do more work. I’m tired, and I’m in my pajamas. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey :) In today’s podcast, I’m bringing you some practical advice on how to flirt at a distance. Some “Quarantexts,” if you will. Ahem. Think of them as little bits of irresistible charm that you can send to the guy who is on your mind right now. These texts are designed to bring a smile to his face (and yours), as well as kick off a playful dynamic so you can develop (or strengthen) your bond – even when you’re not physically together. Just because we’re stuck inside it doesn’t mean we can’t flirt, whether it’s with someone we’ve been seeing for months or someone we just met. In fact, we must flirt – none of our romantic situations will survive without it. Thinking of you, friend. P.S. Stay to the end of the clip to get a whole list of cheeky texts you can use to keep the attraction going. #8 is my personal favorite – adorable and sexy at the same time. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s a ridiculously simple principle Matt talks about in his seminars. So simple it seems kind of silly. Naïve even. But it’s actually great. It goes like this: “Make it a rule only to like people who like you back. If you can do that, you’ll never go wrong.” Sounds tough, I know. After all, attraction isn’t a simple choice right? Many of us feel we have no control over who we become attracted to, which can often lead to that great generator of humanity’s worst misery and best poetry: Unrequited love. Unrequited love is when we fall hard in love with someone who don’t love us back. It’s the painful kind of obsession that keeps you awake at night, and sees you spending hours at your laptop obsessively scouring your crush’s Facebook profile praying that they don’t change their status to “in a relationship”, or that makes your stomach convulse at the thought of catching them kissing another person. If you've ever fallen hard for someone who doesn't return your feelings, here 5 reasons this happens and what you can do to get your life back... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your phone buzzes. It’s a text from him ;) You can feel your stomach flip over with excitement. Every message he sends is like sweet honey for your brain. “Damn”, you think, “I’m an addict.” And then you fire a cute message back. And you wait...and wait… “Why isn’t he replying?” you want to scream to your friend on the couch next to you. But she’s too busy with her phone to notice. You try to shift focus, but you obsessively check for a text every 30 seconds. Sound familiar? We’ve all had this agony of “anxious waiting” with someone we like. It’s distracting, it’s unattractive, and it drains you of your peace of mind every minute you sit in limbo. If you’re sick of waiting for his text and want to finally take back your power, listen to this... --- Apply for our next retreat program at matthewhusseyretreat.com Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One big myth I've heard from thousands of women is, "I'm only attracted to the guys who are BAD for me". People tell ourselves the lie that there are either:(a) Boring, safe, dependable nice guys(b) Exciting, sexy assholes who will treat you badlyIn this episode, we blow apart this myth and show why UNIQUE PAIRINGS are the ultimate secret to attraction, and what you MUST look for in the guy you choose for a long-term relationship.---Follow Matthew @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Another week in isolation... This crisis is really putting a magnifying glass on my (alarmingly natural) gift for hibernation, as well as my capacity for eating chocolate. How about you? It’s also exposing a lot of cracks in relationships – both those under the same roof and the long-distance ones – as they strain under the weight of this “new normal.” Just this morning, I had the pleasure of working with a woman who is in my live coaching group, and she confided that she was having an issue with her boyfriend. Like many, she found herself in a long-distance relationship all of a sudden, as she and her guy self-isolate about 30 minutes from each other in their separate homes. I said to her, “That must be tough. Are you speaking every day?” Her answer revealed more than I anticipated... It quickly became clear to me that her needs were being ignored, and that she was ignoring a conversation she needed to have. Something I’m worried too many people are doing right now.If you’re in a similar situation, where you’re feeling scared to ask for what you need, then you need to hear this episode.Thinking of you.---►► Get the FREE video training at TheBravestYou.comFollow Matt @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A couple of episodes ago we asked you: What are the moments that made you fall in love in the past? We call these moments micro-attractions. Yes, you can find someone sexy. You can like the same movies. But it's those little behaviours that totally fly under-the-radar that make us say, "Holy crap! I've never met anyone like this before!"So, Steve dived into the inbox and looked at YOUR stories of the moments that made you fall head over heels and discuss what this tells us about long-term attraction. ---Follow Matt @thematthewhusseyFollow Stephen @stephenhhussey   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Well hello there from isolation. Guess what? we made a new podcast for you. It’s about how to be a more interesting and engaging person in any interaction with someone through 5 quick principles you can instantly apply. And since most of us are having long-distance conversations with everyone right now, the ability to talk effectively has become utterly essential.These techniques will show you how to take your talking to another level. And I know they work because I live by them. They are relevant whether you’re in the same room with someone, sending voice notes to a new guy, or connecting with a love interest over the phone as we all social distance. (They also apply to business, so you get two for one in today’s episode.) Can’t wait to see what you think.---►► If you want the free training I mention in the episode so that you can have MASSIVE impact in the First 5 Minutes of Any Interaction, click here to download your copy: First5Guide.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is the secret that makes a man look into a woman’s eyes and think, “She is the one for me?” It isn’t her looks. It isn’t her masters degree in literature. It isn’t the fact that she had the same favorite pizza place in the city (though that helped…). No, the reason he fell hard for this woman was because of something no one talks about… Maybe it’s happened to you before: You knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him. How does this happen?? It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction...---►► Get Matt's free confidence training at GetCoreConfidence.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I don’t know about you, but I’m already exhausted by the avalanche of motivational quotes online right now. Advice everywhere. Everyone talking. It’s kind of numbing. Realistically, we’re not exactly focused on how to live our “best” life right now. We’re trying to keep ourselves and our families safe, salvage a few of our regular routines, and keep ourselves from devolving into a Netflix and Oreos spiral. Well, at least I am. And just like you probably do, I fluctuate between being OK and feeling intense melancholy about the situation. (I’m also sick of being taunted by home workout videos I’m not actually doing.)Anyway. If you can relate to any of this, I made this episode for you. I certainly haven’t got this all figured out. And you probably haven’t either. But I think there are some very manageable ways we can feel a little better right now, and release the pressure of the unrealistic expectations many of us are putting on ourselves in what is already a very difficult time. I explain them in this podcast. One day at a time, friends.---►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.comGet My Latest Dating Tips and Connect with Me…Blog → https://www.howtogettheguy.com/blog/Matt's Facebook → https://facebook.com/CoachMatthewHusseyMatt's Twitter → https://twitter.com/matthewhusseyStephen's Twitter → https://twitter.com/stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.