Love Life With Matthew Hussey

In today’s LOVE Life, I take a question from a caller named Crystal who wants to know why she’s 28 and can’t seem to find long-term love. I catch her off guard with a few unexpected questions, but before long I get to the root of what’s really going on. I reveal the one essential element that makes men see a woman as more than a friend, and share how to create it even in the trickiest circumstances. If you’re interested in a serious relationship, don’t miss this episode. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Meeting your boyfriend’s family for the first time can feel like a lot of pressure… especially when he saves your introduction for a big holiday get-together. What should you say? How should you act? Should you bring a gift and, if so, what??? First of all: breathe. You’ve got this. I’m going to take you through my simple, 3-step survival guide that will tell you exactly what to do. I’ll also share a secret that will take all of the pressure off. Hint: You actually don’t have to worry about impressing his family after all.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve all done it: Stressed ourselves out before a trip by making epic to-do lists, cramming our suitcase full of the books we think we “should” read while we’re away, and all other manner of sucking the fun out of traveling. Well have I got a TO-DO list for you, and it’s packed with 5 tips to actually make your next trip more enjoyable. Consider this your upgrade to first class relaxation! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Just trust me when I say this: You need to tune in to this episode of LOVE Life. I’m sharing with you an email I received from a woman who has a rather, how shall I put it… unusual obstacle to finding love, specifically in December. When I first read it I thought, well this is insane. But then I realized: This is her excuse. This is the story she tells herself that keeps her from putting herself “out there” and meeting men. So what’s YOUR excuse? We’re going to talk about this obstacle today and I’ll give you a challenge to overcome yours for good. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most people don’t realize it, but there’s actually more to being a good dinner guest than remembering to bring a nice bottle of wine. Sure, your hosts want to entertain you, but you’ve also been invited because they find you entertaining. In today’s episode, I’ve got 5 quick tips that will help you to bring your best self to the table (pun intended) and add value to the evening. Warning: May result in massive popularity and an increasingly busy social calendar well beyond the holiday season. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is it really possible to “have it all?” And if so, what does it take to get “it” so we can finally be happy? Everyone – from your best friend to your work colleague to the latest self-help “guru” – seems to have a different opinion on the matter. Well, in today’s LOVE Life, I argue that we’re actually all asking the wrong question. I’ll explain how to identify exactly what you DO want and why happiness (and balance) is a lot easier to achieve than you may think. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s kind of ridiculous, when you think about it, just how much time and energy we waste stressing over how to make the perfect first move. What would happen if we just dropped the pretense and showed a little interest, for God’s sake? In today’s episode, I’m taking you back to basics with the simplest – and CUTEST – flirtation that will immediately get a guy’s attention. It’s brilliant because it puts the power in your hands to make the first move, but it’s so irresistible that, suddenly, he’ll be the one chasing you.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you dream of kissing someone special at midnight this New Year’s Eve, but you don’t have anyone in your life right now, it’s actually not too late. I’ve got a challenge for you… well, it’s going to require you to get out of your PJs and away from that cozy fireplace but I promise you it’s worth it because… it’s going to get you meeting all kinds of exciting new men. Who knows, one of them might just be Mr. Right of 2017! To help you make this happen, I’ve got a special free gift just for you, but you’ve got to listen all the way to the end to find out how to get it… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ve had your eye on Jeff from accounting all year, but you’ve never had the guts to let him know. Now your office Christmas party is here. You’re all dressed up, the cocktails are flowing and, suddenly, anything is possible. You’re feeling flirty, but you don’t want to say the wrong thing or you risk work being very awkward on Monday morning. Look, there’s Jeff right now! What do you say? Well you’re in luck… In this episode of LOVE Life I’m giving you 3 original, adorable, and completely risk-free flirting tips that will break the ice and transform you – in any guy’s eyes – from work colleague to total catch. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The holidays can be a magical time of new romance and quality time spent with family… But attempting to combine the two? Now that can get stressful. So is there a way to invite the guy you’re dating over to your house for an eggnog without making things seem too serious and freaking him out? Actually, yes. It’s quite simple, and in this episode I’ll give you a word-for-word script you can use that takes all the pressure off and makes him want to meet you under the mistletoe…even if it means meeting your mom, too. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“How thoughtful of you! I love it!” There’s nothing better than hearing those words when you hand a present to someone you care about. But what makes someone a thoughtful gift giver? It’s not an innate quality; it’s a skill that can be learned. In today’s episode, I’m going to share my secret action plan to help you gather clues about the memorable (not expensive) things that will delight your loved ones. Listen up and you’ll be ready – at the holidays, and year-round – to gift them something great. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you keep a guy’s interest when you really like him? Do you make him wait for a kiss until after the first date? Hold off on intimacy for as long as possible to show him you’re “not that kind of girl?” Some women think so… until they have a moment of weakness (aka attraction), and break their game of “hard to get.” Then they panic – will he still want me now? In today’s LOVELife, I’ll tell you exactly what I think of playing “Hard to Get,” explain the danger of creating a rule that’s not reality, and give you a script you can use to pump the breaks and reclaim your standard for intimacy while still building attraction. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s been a lot of talk about who should pick up the check on a date (my video on this topic went viral recently with over 18 million views!). Many people seem to think the rules of paying in the “courtship phase” are pretty black-and-white. But what about when you’ve been seeing someone for a while and money matters get more complicated than who’s grabbing the movie popcorn? In today’s LOVELife, I go beyond the basics of “who pays for a date” to discuss how to handle it when your partner has more disposable income than you. I’ll show you how to contribute the best way you can to the activities you share, while also gracefully allowing him to treat you, so you can keep the balance of the relationship in tact.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s no secret that if you want to meet Mr. Right, you have to actually get off your couch. But it can be hard to leave the comfort of home (and Netflix) when you’re uncertain about the situation (What’s the party going to be like? What if I get there and none of my friends show up? Will any guys actually talk to me?). In today’s episode, I share with you a magical, 5-word phrase my friend, famous fashion stylist, and fellow secret introvert Louise Roe told me that changed my ability to motivate myself forever. Say these words to yourself and you’ll open your world up to meeting all kinds of great new guys (starting with opening up your front door!). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Breakups would be a lot easier if feelings were black-and-white. But it’s the shades of grey – we really did love each other, maybe we could have made it work if we shared the same goals – that make them so painful. And make it so difficult for you to trust your decision. Today I take a call from a listener named Tika who just ended a serious relationship after four years and wants to know if she’s done the right thing. I help her sort through her feelings and give her an exercise to use when she’s feeling tempted to go back to the “safety” of what’s familiar. If you’re going through a breakup, this one tip is something you can use right away to instantly boost your confidence in your decision to move on to something better. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Listen up, “Type A” ladies – this one’s for you! If you find yourself so intensely driven to achieve your goals that there’s no time for much else, trust me and take the next 5 minutes to listen to today’s episode. I’m sharing with you my life lessons from years of obsessively focusing on reaching the next milestone in my career. You may be surprised at what I discovered after attaining a certain level of success. I’ll tell you what really buys you freedom, and the truth about what makes you rich. It’s not what you think, and it’ll free you up to actually enjoy your life in the process. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’re really into this new guy you’re seeing, but as much as you’d like to take things to the next level, he hasn’t even mentioned commitment. So like the smart Get the Guy student you are ;), you keep your options open and continue to go out with other guys. Now you have a dilemma: Do you tell Mr. Maybe-Right you’re dating other men? And, if so, how will that impact your budding relationship? In today’s episode, I show you how to handle yourself in a graceful way that doesn’t use the situation as an ultimatum, yet still shows him how much you’re in demand. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you feel entitled to the things you’ve “earned” in your career – title, status, salary, perks – because of how much time you’ve put in to your job? What about the attention, affection and devotion you get in romantic relationships – do you deserve this treatment for “sticking it out” with your partner? If you think this way, I’ve got a major wake up call for you today. This may be a bit different from my usual LOVELife advice, but I strongly recommend you tune in, because I’m going to teach you the one secret to make sure no one else ever “steals your spot” and how to become indispensable in every relationship. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Getting a new relationship off the ground can be tough. Pacing is everything, and if one person emotionally gets ahead of the other too quickly, it can cause major problems. In today’s episode, I take a call from a woman named Tiffany who’s not sure how to regain her footing in a relationship after her self-professed “clingy” behavior caused her guy to suggest they see other people. I show her how to make her happiness a priority, which could end up restoring the balance in her current relationship… or lead to a new relationship with a man who’s even better for her. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Imagine this: You’re casually dating a guy you really like. He makes plans with you on a Monday for the following weekend, and says he’s looking forward to seeing you, and then… SILENCE. Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday…no phone calls, no texts, nothing. What does this mean? Is he still into you or has he completely forgotten about you in the meantime? What should you do? Should you call or text HIM? Or would that seem desperate? This is what our caller, Anna, wants to know. I talk her through this tricky situation, lend her some insight about what’s going on in her guy’s mind and give her some surprising advice. If you know a man who disappears in between dates, don’t miss this episode of LOVELife.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s a common misconception that, in order to achieve big things, you need to “stay hungry.” But is that really the truth? Is the key to living an ambitious life never being satisfied with what you have? I challenge that belief in today’s episode of LOVE Life, and reveal what I think is the one (counter-intuitive) attitude that actually fuels ambition and leads to real achievement. It certainly has proven true in my life, and I’ll explain how it will work in yours. Hint: It allows you to be happy NOW, rather than waiting for the moment when you reach that big goal. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve all been there. You send a fairly benign text, and the other person texts you back something like “Hmmm….OK.” What does THAT mean? It seems like they misread your tone. Are they annoyed with you now? Mad, even? So you text back, “What’s up with you?” And then they text back, “What’s up with YOU???????” Before you know it, you’re in a Negative Text-Tone Spiral. Well, I’ve got the simple solution to break this frustrating cycle, and it’s going to save you HOURS of time and emotional anguish. So put down your phone and listen to this episode now… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s inevitable: Everyone argues with his or her partner from time to time. But we have to be careful; Often, the people we love the most are the ones we end up hurting the most with our words. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I’m giving you my 3 rules to fight fair in an argument to protect your relationship from the irreversible damage caused by the top 3 miscommunication mistakes. (#1 might surprise you!) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In our last episode (“Quieting the Voice in Your Head [Part 1]”), we discussed how your inner voice directs your thoughts and feelings and, when allowed to run rampant, can distract you from relaxing and enjoying your life. In today’s episode – Part 2 – I’m going to share with you the secret to quieting the voice in your head. It may be something you’ve heard before, but I’m going to demystify it and give you the simple steps to put it into practice. By learning how to focus on the present, you’ll be a much happier person – starting now. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you hear that? It’s the voice in your head… reminding you of your to-do list, nagging at you about your insecurities, analyzing that confusing text you got from your guy last night. This voice is normal, but it can cause problems if it becomes too loud and drowns out your ability to relax. In this episode of LOVE Life – Part 1 of 2 – I’ll hand you one strategy to separate yourself from your inner voice, and give you a challenge that will set you up to learn the ultimate solution in Part 2. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve got a bit of a different message for you today. It’s a lesson I learned from – of all places – my local hipster coffee shop. No matter what your career, from billionaire business owner to bartender, you’re going to want to hear the tip I have for you. It’s all about creating loyalty with small, simple actions we can do every day. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A dead-end career…A lackluster love life…It can feel impossible to stay motivated when more than one important area of your life isn’t going your way. So how do you climb out of a life funk when you’re completely overwhelmed by where to begin? It’s easier than you think (hint: you can start seeing results as soon as TONIGHT) and I’ll show you exactly how to do it in this episode of LOVE Life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you ever feel judged by the people in your life for the decisions you make or your desire to try new things? Ever wish you could just do what you want without worrying about what other people think? Well, you can, and I’m going to show you how. First, it starts with an internal mindset shift. Then, there are two external reactions I’ll teach you that will instantly disarm those “judge-y” friends and possibly even win them over to your side. Either way you’ll be free to do what you want, and they’ll be left without a leg to stand on.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you don’t have a clear vision for what you want in life and an action plan to achieve it, it’s easy to become overwhelmed, or worse, completely paralyzed. Fear of the unknown, fear of the path being tough, fear of making a mistake…these can all hold you back from a fulfilling life of all of the wonderful things you deserve. The good news is, there’s only ONE thing you need to do to take control of your life and begin to get clarity: Just. Start. Taking. Action. I explain how in today’s episode of LOVE Life.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you ever feel judged by the people in your life for the decisions you make or your desire to try new things? Ever wish you could just do what you want without worrying about what other people think? Well, you can, and I’m going to show you how. First, it starts with an internal mindset shift. Then, there are two external reactions I’ll teach you that will instantly disarm those “judge-y” friends and possibly even win them over to your side. Either way you’ll be free to do what you want, and they’ll be left without a leg to stand on.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why does it seem so difficult meet people as an adult? When you’re in a new city, job, or situation, it can feel embarrassing to try to make new friends. Well, guess what? We all feel this way, and yet most people do want to enjoy a great social life with fun and interesting people. So it’s time drop the shame. I’ve got 4 tips to help you connect with new people and strike up friendships. Before you know it, you’ll be out on the town with your new crew!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s a disturbing new trend on YouTube that’s indicative of a larger social problem; perhaps you’ve noticed it too. I’m going to tell you all about it in today’s episode of LOVE Life, and then I have an important challenge for you. Together, we’re going to make a small yet significant step in tackling a destructive issue that plagues young women - and many adult women as well: the Beauty Obsession. But for once we won’t spend time talking about all of the obvious places it comes from; we’ll get right into the (surprisingly simple) solution. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The beginning stages of a new relationship can be incredibly exciting; Along with intense passion for your partner, you start to form feelings of connection and trust. But wait – before you confuse those feelings of trust with physical safety and decide it’s time to stop using a condom, listen to this episode. I’m going to explain why I believe using a condom is actually sexier than throwing caution to the wind. I’ll even give you a line to say to him that will make you more intriguing and irresistible to him than any other woman he’s ever been with. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ve been friends with a guy for a while now, but you want more. So how can you cross over from “one of the guys” to “girlfriend material” without risking rejection? It’s a simple formula: Femininity + Sexuality + Challenge = Desire. I’ll show you exactly how to put these elements into place in today’s episode of LOVE Life, plus give you a sneaky bonus tip that will drive him crazy wanting you and give you your pick of other men in the process! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you addicted to complaining? In this episode of LOVE Life, we take a look at why it’s dangerous to seek significance in the sympathy of others, and I’ll reveal the most rewarding way to get validation through actually solving your problems. It may not be instant gratification, but I promise it’s the most fulfilling way to live. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you think all charming people are just born that way, think again! You can actually learn to build rapport with others and make them feel fantastic around you, and I’ll teach you how with my 4 simple tips. The best part? This is something you can do right away – in the very next conversation you have with someone – to charm them in 2 minutes or less. Ready, set, go! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’ve been following my advice for even a little while, you know I always encourage you to have standards and expect men to treat you like the high-value woman you are. So when it comes to your partner finding other women attractive, you may be surprised at my opinion on the topic: It’s not necessarily a deal breaker! Find out why I believe this, and the ONE important question you need to ask yourself to know whether he truly wants to be with you above all other women. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ah, the “frenemy.” One moment she’s a blast to be around, and the next minute she’s tearing you down with her criticism and negativity. Is it healthier to cut ties entirely, or can the friendship be saved? My answer: It depends. Check out this episode for 4 steps you can try to pull the “friend” out of the “frenemy.” Good luck… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

(Sorry, guys, but I’ve got to give away one of our biggest secrets…) Ladies: Did you know that most times men walk away without getting your number because our interaction with you ended just 5 seconds too soon?  Well, today I’m going to give you 3 simple tricks you can use to extend your conversation with a guy just long enough for him to gather the courage to ask you out. Sneaky? Kind of. But it may just mean the difference between “it was nice talking to you,” and “can I take you to dinner on Friday?” So help us out, ok? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I have a mission for you today: You just need to do two simple things. I’ll be honest, though: It’s going to take courage, and it requires stepping out of your comfort zone. But you’ll thank me for it when you’re done. I did this myself recently, and the reward was well worth the risk. Curious yet? I explain everything in this episode of LOVE Life… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s the cure for a broken heart? “Stay busy,” most people will say, “and before long, you’ll have forgotten all about it.” While this tactic may work in the short term, it’s not going to fix the root of your problem. In today’s episode, I’m going to reveal the REAL, lasting cure for heartache, and teach you a how you can take action today to feel better fast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You may not realize it, but there are one or two days a year unlike any other where you just plow through your to-do list and GET. STUFF. DONE. In this episode of LOVE Life I’m going to remind you when those days are (and exactly what makes you so productive), plus reveal my fun productivity hack that tricks your brain into recreating these hyper-focused, super-effective days whenever you choose! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What makes a great conversationalist? Sure, being knowledgeable about a lot of topics and sharing about them in an interesting way is a great start. But there is one crucial conversation skill that most people don’t use. The funny thing is, this skill is so simple to implement; it actually takes the pressure off of you, helps you to grow, and makes the person you’re speaking with feel amazing about themselves around you. You don’t want to miss this quick but useful tip in today’s LOVE Life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When your partner is acting selfish, it’s only natural to feel resentful. Why should you be giving, giving, giving when all they’re doing is taking? So you withdraw and focus on your own needs to protect yourself. But this is the beginning of a dangerous pattern, as we explore in today’s episode of LOVE Life. Listen closely because I’m going to share a totally counter-intuitive, yet completely simple approach you can use when your relationship starts to feel like a transaction. Do this and you’ll immediately break the negative pattern and discover whether your partner is truly capable of meeting your needs. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Statistics say that 2/3 of people meet their partner through friends or work. But that doesn’t mean it’s the best way to find the right match for you! Before you start dating Dan from Accounting because you’re bored and think you don’t have any better options, STOP and listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life.I’m going to tell you how you can open your world up to more opportunities with much more exciting men. Bonus: If it doesn’t work out, you don’t have to pass them at the water cooler! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I like that restaurant.” “Ehh...I didn’t really like that movie.” Listen, anyone can say these things about anything. Liking or disliking something doesn’t mean you have an opinion. Having a compelling reason why you do or don’t like it is what makes you intriguing. Want an example? Boy, do I have one for you in today’s episode… Warning: I go on a bit of a rant, but I think you’ll find it amusing (or perhaps you’ll just think I’m a little crazy). Either way, I guarantee my advice will make you a lot more interesting to the guys you date! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If I asked you to list the characteristics you’re looking for in your dream man, what would you say? Whether we want to admit it or not, most of us have a mental checklist of what we want in our perfect partner. Is it helpful to be so focused, or could it actually hinder us from finding the person we’re most compatible with? In today’s episode, I tell you exactly what I think you should do with your checklist, and explain why the qualities that will truly bond you to a great guy might be the most surprising of all.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You love your friend. You want nothing but the best for her, including an amazing relationship. So why does it feel so sucky when she falls hard for a new guy and wants to spend alllllll of her time with him? You don’t want her to make a mistake, of course, but could there be something else going on? In today’s LOVE Life, we explore what happens when your BFF takes a “Boyfriend Hiatus” and what you can say to her to bring her out of it to spend some time with you. But be warned: she’s not the only one getting a reality check in today’s episode!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s not news to you that giving your guy space can actually bring you closer in your relationship. But how do you put this behavior into practice, especially when you’re so used to spending all of your time together? Today I’m going to give you a quick, unexpected tip you can use that will shock your man, make him insanely attracted to you, and squash any “dude” instinct he has to rebel against commitment. Bonus points for you being awesome: I guarantee this is something none of his past girlfriends have ever said to him before! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What creates confidence? Many people will tell you that it’s attractiveness. But how can you ever feel good about yourself until you get the validation from others that you look good in the first place? It’s a trap, you see… and the only way to close that gap is to realize that there is another, entirely different way to get your validation and create feelings of confidence. I’ll give you that secret recipe today and give you an everyday-life illustration that will make you understand exactly why it’s confidence itself that makes you attractive in the first place! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.