Love Life With Matthew Hussey

When you first start dating someone you like, it’s not uncommon to want to spend all of your time together. But eventually your inner voice of reason says, “Being with my guy’s awesome, but I still need to go to work/sleep/catch a yoga class from time to time/oh yeah, and eat something.” But what happens when your guy doesn’t feel the same way? Or worse, he gets hurt when you gently try to explain that you need some time apart? Today I take a great call from Jessica and coach her through this tricky issue. I even uncover a bombshell confession that even she didn’t see coming! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The big proposal could come at any moment… but is there any way to know WHEN- exactly – a man’s going to drop to one knee and pop the question? If you’ve been dating your guy for a while you may be wondering this yourself. And if not, you’ve probably taken part in the female sport of speculating when your friend’s boyfriend is going to put a ring on it. I’ve been getting asked about this a lot lately, and in today’s LOVE Life, I finally give my answer. You may be surprised to hear what I have to say… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’re intrigued by a cute guy you’ve met, but you don’t know him very well. Is there a clever way to test the waters to see if he’s interested in you too without coming on too strong? Why yes, there is…and I’m going to tell you exactly how to do it in today’s LOVE Life! My simple plan is completely risk free and allows you to 1) get talking to him 2) create a spark and 3) give him incentive to pursue you by letting him know he’s got a chance with you…MAYBE. Because as I’ll explain, men live for the “maybe.” Just wait until you try this one out – get ready for instant results! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Do what you love,” we’re always told. And if we’re fortunate, we get to pursue a career doing the things that bring us the most joy. But have you ever noticed what happens when you take an activity that you love and start to associate it with “work?” It sucks the pleasure right out of it. Before you know it, the things that once brought you happiness now feel like a chore. In today’s LOVE Life I’m going to teach you the most important life skill you could ever have: how to derive enjoyment in life without having to change your situation, putting you in control of your happiness every day. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you do when your co-worker is impossible to work with? Especially when management doesn’t seem to notice or care? That’s the question today’s caller, Crystal, asks. She’s looking for my advice on how to change the situation, but I show her how the real relief will come from changing her mindset and her actions. If you’ve ever dealt with this situation (and who among us hasn’t?), you’ll want to catch this episode where I reveal the 3 secrets to being “so good they can’t ignore you.” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you start over again after ending a long-term relationship? In today’s episode I take a call from a lovely woman named Christina who thinks she’s ready to get back “out there” after she and her boyfriend of 5 years called it quits. I give my best tips for getting stronger, keeping perspective, dating again without burning out, and my surprising secret for dealing with the pain while your heart is still healing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How many hours, days, months – dare I say it – years have you wasted trying to make things work out with the wrong men? How much precious time in this beautiful life has been squandered pining over an ex? Life is short and, sadly, that is time you can never get back. But what if there is one ex that you can’t seem to get over because you’re sure, in your heart of hearts, that you belong together? If I’m talking to you right now, then I want you to listen to today’s episode, because I am going to reveal a plan to get your ex back and make your relationship stronger than ever…OR get over him for good so you feel confident and excited to find your real Mr. Right.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A lot of women ask me whether I think it’s a good idea to be friends with an ex. My answer is, it depends on your motive. In today’s LOVE Life, we’ll take a look at your reasons behind wanting to hold on to a former flame, and how it could impact your future relationship with the man who is better suited to make you happy in the long run. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you in a long distance relationship, or considering one? If so, then today’s episode is for you. I’m giving you my honest opinion on “LDRs,” asking you some tough questions, and sharing my 4 unbreakable rules to follow if you want to make sure your relationship works – and is worth it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s easy to be happy when you’re surrounded by happy people. But what happens to your mood when you encounter a rude waiter, a cold neighbor, or a cranky person working behind the desk at, say…the DMV??? You have a choice – you don’t have to let grumpy people drag you down. Listen in on today’s episode and I’ll tell you my secret trick for maintaining your positive state in a sea of negativity (using a fun piece of advice from my very own mum!). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’re at a friend’s party, and across the room, you spot him: The hottest guy you’ve ever seen. What’s your first thought? Let me guess: “He’s out of my league. I could never talk to him.” If I’m right, then I want you to listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life. I’m going to reveal a shocking fact about 99% of the “beautiful people” out there, and give you a piece of surprising advice that will have you approaching Mr. Perfect in no time flat. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How soon is too soon to take the plunge and move in with your boyfriend? Should you wait until marriage is on the table? That’s what our caller Amber wants to know in today’s episode of LOVE Life. I give her – and you – my (somewhat controversial) opinion about the significance of this “milestone” as well as some concrete advice on the risk-free way to move your relationship forward without freaking him out. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Imagine it’s your first date with a guy you’re really into. You’re sitting across the table from him in a romantic, candlelit restaurant. You make some small talk, share a nervous laugh, and then, suddenly…you can’t think of anything to say. It’s the dreaded Awkward Silence, where one minute feels like 10, and you don’t know how you’ll recover. WAIT… before you get yourself in this situation in the first place, I have 3 simple secrets that will make your date fun, effortless, and full of the sparks that build a connection. (Don’t miss this episode, if for no other reason than I guarantee Secret #2 is something you’ve never thought of before!) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You: “How are you?” Him: “I’m good… How are you?” You: “Good.” Have you ever gotten stuck in a boring conversation like this? We all have. But guess what? You are just as much to blame for this dead-end dialogue as the other person is. But I’m going to help you fix it. In today’s episode, I’m going to teach you the difference between “conversational tennis” and “conversational basketball,” and three quick tricks that will make you a confident, fascinating, and charismatic conversationalist in 30 seconds or less.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When we get into a new relationship, we all have that one issue or experience from our past that’s difficult to share. In this week’s LOVELife… I take a call from a brave woman named Rhonda who is getting back into the dating game after an 18-year hiatus from sex. How should she bring up this tricky subject to the new men she’s meeting? You may be surprised at my answer… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes in life, when you do something too much – even something you love – you can forget why you do it. I had a small, but nonetheless life-changing encounter with one of my personal idols recently that helped me recapture my sense of childhood wonder and passion for my calling. I’m sharing the story with you in today’s episode in hopes it will encourage you to look to one of your heroes for inspiration in your own life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you think back on your past romantic relationships, what do you feel? Regret? Disappointment? Shame? You may be surprised to hear this, but dating lots of “Mr. Wrongs” is actually the best thing you can do to prepare yourself for your Mr. Right. I explain why in today’s episode of LOVE Life… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all encounter obstacles that stand in our path to the happiness we want and deserve. But whether those roadblocks will stop you dead in your tracks, or serve as a catalyst to motivate you to fight for the things you want most in life, is completely up to you. Today I’m going to teach you how to reframe your negative experiences as opportunities to fiercely pursue your dreams. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’re at a party when you notice your guy across the room talking to another woman… and she happens to be gorgeous. Suddenly, your cheeks get hot and flushed, your breathing becomes more rapid, and your heart pounds in your chest. You even start to feel tears welling up in your eyes. It’s that awful, ugly feeling – jealousy. What can you do to stop it? In today’s episode of LOVE Life I’m going to teach you a trick that will immediately stop your feelings of jealousy and put you back in a confident, high-value state of mind. This is something that you can tell yourself every time you feel insecure that will instantly remind you why your man is attracted to you the most. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you’re dating someone, it’s hard not to wish that everything you do together would be a “first.” The truth is, your guy had a life before you. In today’s LOVE Life I share my advice on how to accept that fact and create new experiences together that will be meaningful for both of you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You find a man sexy…but you don’t want to have sex with him just yet. If you flirt with him, does it make you a tease? In today’s episode of LOVE Life I coach a caller named Lauren who is hesitant to let guys know she is attracted to them because she is saving sex until marriage. I show her the secret to communicating desire and her standard at the same time so men feel validated while still respecting her boundaries. If you need help pacing your relationship – whether you’re waiting for your honeymoon or your third date – this episode is for you! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Remember that old saying, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression?” It’s corny, but true. Today I’m handing you 5 seemingly obvious - but constantly overlooked - tips to send the message that you’re likeable, capable, and confident the moment you walk into any room, whether it’s for a job interview, an audition, or an important first date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you do if your guy has every quality you want – attractive, funny, smart, loving – but there’s just one thing missing: he’s not satisfying you sexually? You really want to make it work, but how do you improve the situation without crushing his masculinity? I tackle this tough topic in today’s episode, telling you exactly when, how and where to talk to him about sex (hint: it’s not in the bedroom). When done right, your man will actually end up thanking you for it (and you’ll be pretty pleased yourself)! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If a guy were attracted to you, would you be able to tell? Sure, some signs men give are obvious, but many of them are much more subtle. In this episode I reveal 7 foolproof – and sometimes surprising – ways to be sure he’s totally into you Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, I want to talk to you about the power of compliments… But not in the way you might think. I don’t want to focus on GETTING compliments and how that improves your self-esteem, but rather how GIVING compliments can create rapport with men and dramatically improve your love life. Make sure you listen until the end, because I’ve got a challenge for you, and I’ll also hand you 3 quick tips to make you instantly more attractive to everyone you meet. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Warning: if you enjoy playing the victim, don’t listen to this episode! I explain why it’s impossible for someone to “steal” your boyfriend, and how to get closure if he leaves you for someone else. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ok, I’ll say it…I think it’s a ridiculous idea that there’s just one person out there for each of us. But before you go calling me a cynic, I want to share with you my theory about what makes someone “The One” for you…and I think you’ll find my approach to choosing the man you spend your life with is far more romantic than “love at first sight.” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you’re out socially, one of the worst feelings is to be approached and feel like you’re “trapped” in a conversation. Today, I have some great tips, both for body language and what you can actually say, to gracefully enter and politely exit a conversation. I’ll even share a trick that allows you to approach a group of guys and then turn the tables, leaving them wanting more so they are desperate to reengage with you! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s a delicate dance… You’ve had a romantic dinner with the guy you really like and then the check comes to the table. Do you reach for it? Feign searching in your handbag for your wallet? Let him pick up the tab so you don’t bruise his ego? And if you’ve been dating for a while, does this change the dynamic? I’ll share the secret thoughts men have on this issue that they would never tell you, and give you specific advice of when and how you should “treat” your man. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s a delicate dance… You’ve had a romantic dinner with the guy you really like and then the check comes to the table. Do you reach for it? Feign searching in your handbag for your wallet? Let him pick up the tab so you don’t bruise his ego? And if you’ve been dating for a while, does this change the dynamic? I’ll share the secret thoughts men have on this issue that they would never tell you, and give you specific advice of when and how you should “treat” your man. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Flirting over text message is a great way to connect – and amp up your sexual chemistry – with that guy you like. But what exactly do you say? You want to come off as fun, confident, playful and not at all needy. In this episode of LOVE Life I’ve got you covered… I’m literally going to have you take out your phone and type in foolproof texts that are guaranteed to drive him wild. He won’t be able to get you off his mind! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When a guy you’re not into hits on you, what should you do? You don’t want to waste precious time in a lame conversation and, worse, you don’t want to give him the wrong idea that he has a chance with you. But wait—before you give him the cold shoulder, there’s something you need to know. How you handle this situation could have a huge impact on whether that hot guy across the room you’ve had your eye on ends up approaching you, or dismissing you altogether. I break it down in today’s episode of LOVE Life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you get a super hot guy – or any guy in general – to approach you? If you’re not the best looking woman in the room, do you even stand a chance? You might be surprised by my answer. Hint: Your competition is not as threatening as you think it is, and I’ll show you the one thing that will win a guy’s interest over looks any time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Uh oh… you have a crush on a guy from work. This could get tricky… Should you try to ignore your feelings and keep it professional? Hope he makes the first move? Make a pass at him in the elevator? My answer is “none of the above.” In today’s episode, I’m going to give you some practical, risk-free tips for you to test the waters and see if he’s ready to move out of the “work zone” and into the “flirt zone.” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’re dating a great new guy. Things couldn’t be going better. You start to really feel yourself falling for him and then – all of a sudden – he starts to back off and act strange and non-committal. What’s going on here, and how can you reignite his interest? I share the secret to becoming the sexiest woman alive to him, and it’s not what you’d expect. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Valentine’s Day masquerades as a holiday of love and romance, but for many of us it’s actually filled with pressure and disappointment. No matter what your situation – single, dating, in a (complicated) relationship – I have tips for you to actually enjoy this day (which is JUST, by the way, A DAY…) and how you can use 1% shifts in your attitude and behavior to guarantee it’s filled with love. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the question every single woman dreads. Even if the guy asking means it as a compliment (“How is it that someone great like you doesn’t have a boyfriend already?”) it’s still a loaded question and if you don’t answer it skillfully you could end up sending the wrong message that you’re desperate, jaded, or undesirable. In this episode of LOVE Life I’m giving you the exact words to say to communicate that you are high value, in demand, and any man would be lucky to win you as his girlfriend. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s your biggest fear when you think about striking up a conversation with a man you’re attracted to? That you’ll run out of things to talk about, of course. We all feel that way. In today’s LOVE Life I’m going to give you 3 tips for becoming an amazing conversationalist – including my #1 tip that guarantees you’ll never have another awkward silence again. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chill for a minute… So that guy you want to talk to is super hot. Before you let your nerves get the best of you, leaving you a giggling, babbling mess, listen to today’s LOVE Life. I’m going to tell you how to take your power back and remain in control of the conversation. That’s right – YOU are going to set the pace and tone with this guy, which will make you seem confident and magnetic on the outside (no matter how nervous you are on the inside). Who’s the ridiculously hot one NOW??? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dinner? Movie? Dinner AND a movie? What makes a great first date? None of the above! In this episode of LOVE Life I’m going to give you 4 fresh ideas for a dynamic first date that encourage connection, intimacy, flirtation and fun, and explain exactly why they work. Try one of these out next time you meet a guy you really like and you’ll get a second date, guaranteed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode of LOVE Life I take a fascinating call from a woman named Kailani who wonders if there’s a reason why the modern man has so much trouble committing to a relationship. I dig in deep to reveal some powerful truths about the way men think about commitment – including the real reason why a guy can meet his “dream woman” and still not be able to settle down. I give one of my most important pieces of advice so that you’ll never waste your time again on a guy who’s not ready to get serious, and I tell you the exact questions to ask to find out if he is. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

No relationship is perfect. You’re going to have your ups and downs, your disagreements and your rough patches. At times, you may feel the need to talk to someone outside of your relationship to get emotional support or even just another point of view. So what’s the appropriate way to do that without being disloyal to your partner or souring others’ opinion of him? Let’s dig into this delicate topic together and I’ll give you my two best pointers to protect the emotional energy of your relationship, even in its most precarious moments.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If a guy is interested in you, he’ll ask you out, right? Not necessarily. Some men – especially if they’re shy – are waiting for a sign that you like him, too. In today’s episode I’m going to teach you a playful way to give that shy guy a little push to ask you out. The best part? There’s zero risk of rejection. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Would you like to get more done in a day? How would it feel to accomplish all of your biggest goals before everyone else has had a chance to down their morning coffee? I’ve got a simple secret to smashing through distractions, making the most of your energy, avoiding “decision fatigue,” and earning yourself some much-deserved downtime. I tell you how in today’s LOVE Life… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the modern dilemma all daters must face: “When should I change my Facebook status from ‘single’ to ‘in a relationship?’ And how do I bring it up to my guy without looking needy?” I’ve got the answer for you in today’s LOVE Life, and I give you a clever way to say it that actually shows your loyalty and encourages him to change his status without ever having to ask him to do it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here’s a little secret about men: More often than not, we want to be in a committed relationship. We just want to believe that it was our idea in the first place. That’s why putting pressure on a guy or “selling” him on the idea of exclusivity will only push him away. In today’s episode I’m going to hand you the exact words to say to a guy to let him know you’re interested in something more serious without sounding like an ultimatum. This allows you to show your standard and send the subtle message that if he doesn’t make up his mind he risks losing you forever. Chances are, after this talk, HE’LL be the one asking YOU for the commitment. (He’ll only think it’s all his own idea!) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ve just started seeing a guy you’re really into. You just can’t get enough of each other. You spend night and day together. You cancel plans with friends so you don’t miss a chance to see him. Before you know it, you’ve got a toothbrush and a drawer of clothes at his place, and you’re wondering whether to say “I love you” (even though it’s only been a whirlwind few weeks). Then suddenly, out of the blue, he starts ignoring your texts and phone calls. He ditches plans with you to go out with the guys. You can feel the shift: he’s starting to pull away from you. In today’s LOVE Life I’m going to explain exactly WHAT is going on inside his head, WHY this is happening, and HOW you can get through this tricky phase with your relationship intact. I’ll even give you a script of what to say to reverse the situation, create more attraction, and make your relationship even stronger than it was before. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is Facebook killing your confidence? Making you feel like everyone else has a perfect relationship? Chances are it is without you even realizing it. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I tell you why comparing your life to others’ seemingly perfect existence is a dangerous game…and how you can create an extraordinary life no matter how ordinary your circumstances. Stay tuned to the end because I’m going to leave you with a brilliant quotation that will remind you why your happiness should never be measured against anyone else. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode of LOVE Life I take a great modern-day dating question from a caller named Sarah: Do men spend hours looking through the social media profiles of women they like? You may be surprised by my answer, and why it’s not necessarily a bad thing. I also explain why it’s important to get offline and meet in person, so your real personality can shine through. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ok, let’s do this. Let’s answer this age-old, much-debated question once and for all right now. But, brace yourself: you may be surprised by what I have to say. The truth is, I don’t think we’re asking ourselves the right question in the first place. In today’s LOVE Life, I’m going to tell you what that question should be. I break down the secret, underlying dynamic between all men and women and explain what it REALLY means to be loyal to your partner. If you think it means neither of you should be attracted to anyone else outside the relationship, think again… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.