Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

This episode is about shared values and looking at the part we play in the relationship. Today's caller, Sarah, feels she is at the end of her rope in her relationship and is not sure if she should stay in it or go. The discussion revolves around the different circumstances in her relationship and what we get to is that there is just not enough information yet. If you find yourself at a choice point in your life and are struggling with what to do, either you need more time, or you know the right path and you are resisting taking it. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode334] Many people ask if they should stay or go. Whether it is a relationship, job, or city it can be very difficult to make a decision. If the answer isn't clear, it means one of two things, either the answer is clear but we don't like it so we try to make it work. Or, we just don't have enough clarity about it. In which case, it may not be the right time to make a yes-or-no decision. For a relationship to be successful, there needs to be a level of growth and connection, a level of satisfaction, and the freedom to be ourselves in what we create together. Those are just a fraction of the things that define success in relationships. In a relationship, we must have shared values. At least three or four of our values must be mirrored by our partner. If you don't have shared values, what is the compass? What is your North Star? What truly brings two people together if not their shared values? Enrollment for the 2022 Elementum Coaching Institute is open. It begins mid-March. It is a 9-month comprehensive coaching certification program. It is a mix of learning the best coaching materials compiled into one curriculum. On Feb. 10, 2022, there is a free webinar; to sign up visit ElementumCoachingInstitute.com/go-pro-masterclass. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a situation where you are doubting whether you should end it or keep going? Do you feel like you are in a relationship where you feel you are focused on growth and you want your partner to be but they don't value it as much as you do? Do you show up more controlling in a relationship? Do you have communication breakdowns and issues in your relationships? Sarah's Question: Sarah is having communication issues in her relationship and feels that she is at the end of her rope when it comes to the conflict. She wants guidance on whether or not she should stay or go. Sarah's Key Insights and Ahas: She thinks her partner is a great guy. She has communication issues in her relationship. The couple had been in counseling but had to quit. She gave her partner an ultimatum about getting counseling. She has learned to express her needs. She values growth and personal development. She could be in a Journeymate relationship. When she wants to talk things out he gets triggered. They have been together for six years. She is intentional about her life. She feels as if she has to take care of everything and is doing all the work on the relationship. She perceived women to be weak when she was younger. She feels at the end of her rope. She wants to find balance in her life and get out of her head. How to Get Over It and On With It: Acknowledge her partner and thank him for his efforts toward therapy. Ask her partner if he wants similar things from their relationship. If she does end the relationship, she needs to own 50% of what is happening and see what lessons can be gleaned from it. Listen to the Coaches Corner interview with Dr. Richard Schwartz about Internal Family Systems. Start focusing on the family dynamics she grew up with. Takeaways: If you are in a relationship, consider what values you and your partner share. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

You are going to love this episode with Britt Frank who is a therapist, teacher, speaker, and trauma specialist who is committed to dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK. We talk about how to heal trauma, myths the wellness industry perpetuates, why you are NOT broken and so many other juicy topics! Brit's work focuses on empowering people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change. Whether she's leading a workshop, teaching a class, or working individually with private clients, Britt's goal is to educate, empower, and equip people to transform even their most persistent and long-standing patterns of thinking and doing. Britt is also the author of the upcoming book The Science of Stuck—available March 15th wherever books are sold. It's a research-based tool kit for moving past what's holding you back—in life, in love, and in work. Learn more here: www.thegreenhousekc.com

This episode is about the dangers of sweeping things under the rug in relationships. Today's caller, Angela, is looking for clarity about why she is frustrated and triggered in her family relationships. We discuss ways she can speak her truth with love, use her voice, and stand in her power in her relationships and her life. She brushes things under the rug. If you identify with being a people pleaser, someone who prefers to avoid conflict, or shrug things off when they happen but internalize it later this is a great session for you. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode333] When we don't stand in our power in our lives, we can't stand in our power in relationships. Standing in our power can also be said as standing in our empowerment. Sometimes the word power can sound oppressive as if we are not being compassionate, or being selfish. But that is not really what standing in our empowerment means. It's about being in our truth. If your truth upsets someone, it is not your responsibility as long as you are not blaming them and are taking responsibility for your part, and communicating your thoughts in the most loving way you possibly can. Sometimes speaking our truth can hurt others but if it is done with honesty and love it can lead to growth or growth of a relationship. There is a way to deliver truth and love together. If you are delivering something that may be hard for someone to hear, do it with love. Standing in our empowerment also means not time traveling and being able to regulate our nervous system. There were times as children when we were disempowered or when we didn't have a voice that led to a pattern of disempowerment in our adulthood. When we are in our power, we are in the present, we are taking care of our inner child. Our nervous system isn't activated. We aren't in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. And, for HSPs or internalizers, big feelings and big reactivity can be scary. When big feelings come at us, they rattle our nervous system. HSPs often have intuitive gifts growing up but internalizing stuff and repressing relationship issues as adults can suppress intuitive gifts. The nervous system doesn't feel safe. We can't choose what we want to suppress and expect our intuitive gifts to open up and be expressed. When you suppress anything you suppress everything. Enrollment for the 2022 Elementum Coaching Institute is open. It begins mid-March. It is a 9-month comprehensive coaching certification program. It is a mix of learning the best coaching materials compiled into one curriculum. On Feb. 10, 2022, I will have a webinar, so be on the lookout for an email from me. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you consistently triggered in your relationships and wonder why you are having the same argument over and over? Did you grow up in a home where your needs were not met? Maybe you couldn't speak up for yourself or didn't feel empowered. Are you someone who is great at confrontation or do you avoid conflict? When you are in a situation of reactivity or frustration comes at you, do you fight, flight, freeze, or fawn or do you respond in a regulated way? Angela's Question: Angela is triggered by situations in her family and struggling in her relationships. She would like guidance on how to build harmony in her home. Angela's Key Insights and Ahas: She is in a 10-year relationship with her partner. She has a blended family. She is doing personal development work around what in her past may be triggering her. She wants to build harmony in her home. She was invalidated when she was younger. She had to care for her younger brother when her step-father passed. She gets triggered quickly. Her family has had to leave three different houses. Her partner is quick to anger. She believes a lot of the issues are about power dynamics. She believes men can't handle their anger. There is a power struggle in her relationship. How to Get Over It and On With It: To stand in her healthy feminine and learn how to not personalize what confronts her. Don't time travel, stay in her adult self, and stay calm while her partner is reacting or explosive. Allow little Angela to stand up for herself and have a voice. Tell her partner how his actions affect her and maybe listen to this episode together. Bring things out into the open. No more sweeping stuff under the rug. Takeaways: Get out of the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Don't time travel in highly reactive situations so you can respond as an adult and be in your power. Try to have a conversation with your partner in a calm place to remind them that you agreed not to talk to each other in that way. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHas

So many of us are trapped in a never-ending to-do list, looking for the next solution to make us more efficient. But often what we're left with is feeling inadequate, overwhelmed, burnt out and alone. Madeleine Dore is a writer and interviewer who explores how we can broaden the definition of a day well spent, through regular life experiments and events to examine how creativity isn't just something we do, but how we approach our lives. Madeleine spent five years looking for the secret to productivity, only to find there isn't one. Instead, she reveals, we're being set up to fail. Her new book, I Didn't Do The Thing Today, encourages us to say no to more time management techniques and yes to the joyful messiness and unpredictability of life Dore has been asking creative thinkers how they navigate their days on her popular blog Extraordinary Routines and podcast Routines & Ruts. She regularly conducts life experiments and hosts events to examine how creativity isn't just something we do, but how we approach our lives.

This episode is about making self-honoring choices that empower us. Today's caller, Jade, wants to break the cycle of being in broken and toxic relationships. We work through helping her connect the dots of needing validation from her current relationships to being disempowered by her mother when she was a child and guidance on how she can break the cycle. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode332] On-and-off-again relationships are a huge red flag. Some relationships need a break where both people can take time apart and work on themselves individually. When they come back together they decide to work through future conflicts together or that the relationship is not working and dissolve it. But, an on-again-off-again relationship demonstrates that the issues in the relationship are not being dealt with. It is a ping-ponging cycle of neither partner changing. If you are in an on-again-off-again cycle I invite you to turn it off for good. If you are in a toxic or on-again-off-again relationship, think about the consistent feelings that come up, ride those feelings back in time, ask those feelings what they are reminding you of, and then deal with it. When we think about connecting the dots of our current challenges to our past it is not always obvious. Often, when we have a "decent" upbringing we overlook the challenges because there isn't a major trauma that sticks out. Not feeling good enough for a parent and constantly feeling like you need to do what they need you to do, or become some version of yourself they approve of, is a big hurt. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a pattern of being in on-again-off-again relationships? Did you grow up with a parent who was hard on you? Did you hear the phrase "I'm really disappointed in you" a lot? When you do try to end toxic relationships, do you feel so guilty and worried about upsetting the other person that you don't break up or maintain your boundaries? Do you feel empowered in your life and specifically in relationships? Do you find yourself consumed by the fear of rejection? Jade's Question: Jade feels anxiety about her pattern of entering toxic relationships. She wants to know how it connects to her past and guidance on how to heal her inner child. Jade's Key Insights and Ahas: She has been in a cycle of broken/toxic relationships. She tries to adjust herself to the other person. She feels anxious, ashamed, and angry with unpredictable people. Her mother made her feel not good enough and ashamed if she didn't meet her mother's standards. She is seeking validation and acceptance in a relationship. She didn't have a chance to build a relationship with her mother until she was an adult. Her mother disempowered her by not allowing her to make her own decisions. She attracts people who make her feel that she is not enough. Her mother forced dancing on her and she wasn't able to make her own decisions. She is afraid to lose love and validation. She takes on responsibilities that are not hers. How to Get Over It and On With It: End her relationship without any guilt. Explain to her partner's daughter why she is breaking up. Tell herself she is not responsible for making sure everyone else is okay. Hold off on dating for a while. Investigate healing her mother wound. Acknowledge herself for stepping into self-honoring choices and empowerment. Takeaways: You are not responsible for how other people feel. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about healing wounds, feminine or masculine. Today's caller, Emily, wants to heal her sister wound. She has struggled with feeling judged or rejected by other women and fears being vulnerable with them. She would like guidance on how to make new female connections without being anxious. Anyone who may have wounds from their past when it comes to belonging will benefit from listening to this session. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode331] When we are teased, bullied, or have a strict, oppressive, or critical parent we develop an inner critic. Our inner critic can be much worse to us than the original offender was. Because we think if we are harder on ourselves than they were to us we will be more equipped to handle the adversity and pain. We believe it will hurt less when others do it. But, when we have a fierce inner critic it is impossible to be authentically ourselves. When it comes to making friends and being vulnerable we have to dim down the voice of our inner critic. Because our inner critic creates fear and doubt within ourselves and puts up walls, masks, and facades. But, when we show up authentic and honest we are lovable. We fit right in. Remember, childhood wounds are not something we heal in a few days. Part of the healing is to become aware of our patterns and practice transforming them. We heal the sister wound by getting honest and vulnerable with our sisters. Listeners of this show are invited to attend a free training session from Steven Kessler. His The Secret to Better Relationships: Let the Insight of 5 Personality Patterns will show you how to create thriving relationships. To register for the Wednesday, January 19th session at 11 am PST or 2 pm EST, go to ChristineHassler.com/Steven. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a wound when it comes to belonging and making friends? If you identify as a woman, do you have a sister wound and find it hard to make friends with other women? Did you grow up in a family with a parent or step-parent that was super critical of you and now you have a worse inner critic? Is it often hard for you to be vulnerable and to feel seen? Do you second guess yourself when it comes to interactions with other people? Emily's Question: Emily struggles with vulnerability, judgment, and rejection and would like guidance on how to heal her sister wound. Emily's Key Insights and Ahas: She feels anxiety when making new connections or strengthening existing connections. She gets stuck in her head a lot. She fears being judged, rejected, and vulnerable. She attended the Inner Child workshop. She wants authentic relationships. Her inner critic keeps her from being authentic. At age 7, her parents divorced. Her mom had a 15-year relationship with someone who was critical of her. She felt her mom didn't protect her. She feels anger toward women. She does not feel a sense of belonging with other women but she wants to be part of the group. She has competing intentions. How to Get Over It and On With It: Journal about what she learned about women and what she thinks relationships with women could be. When interacting with women, keep herself present. When with a woman, or a group of women, internally remind herself that the past is the past. She is in the present and no one is judging her. Console her inner child and provide her with the protection she didn't get from her mother. Initiate a friendship with a woman she can be vulnerable with. Talk to her inner critic in compassionate ways. Takeaways: Practice working with your inner critic to come across more authentically. Explore the inner feminine wound by completing these sentences in a journal: "My beliefs about women are …" "What I learned about female relationships as an adolescent is …" "Female friendships are …" "When I think about being friends with women …" It is time to find your soul sisters and brothers. Find friends that are family. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

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This episode is about having a pattern of needing to be in a relationship and feeling like something is missing if you don't have a person. Today's caller, Lee, has a lot of awareness, but something is missing, and that is being able to access and release his anger. We work through how to release his anger, grieve his childhood, and step into his power. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode330] If we grow up in a household with a lot of anger, we think all anger is that way. Yet, anger itself is not bad. It is what we do with anger that can be harmful to ourselves or others. Anger projected onto others through words, yelling, abuse, or violation is unhealthy and dark. Anger directed inward such as being hard on yourself, having a bad inner critic, or self-harming is also unhealthy anger. Yet, anger itself is a natural human emotion. If we get our anger out in a safe way we show up more grounded and more present. We become calmer. Remember, we never want to direct our anger at someone and never inward onto ourselves. We want to get a pillow and let our anger out to allow the parts of us that are angry a chance to heal. Releasing anger is an important way we become empowered. Often, what makes us needy is that we haven't found our fierceness or our voice and we are always looking for somebody else to make us feel a certain way. But, when we can get our anger out and step into our power we stop looking to others to fill a void. If you missed my Release 2021 Ritual Coaches Corner make sure to do it before doing the Calling in 2022, Stepping Into the New Year Ritual. Enrollment for the Elementum Coaching Institute is open. Become a master coach upon graduation from the 2022 program. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like something is missing if you are not in a relationship? Do you tend to attract people with an avoidant attachment style? Did you grow up with one or both parents that were either neglectful or abusive? Did you feel unwanted as a child and are consistently trying to love yourself but you can't seem to let the unloved feelings go? Lee's Question: Lee always feels that something is missing in his life. He feels he is drawn to people too quickly. Lee's Key Insights and Ahas: He strives to work on his physical and mental health. He feels something is missing in his life. Being with another person makes him feel safe. He uses relationships to fill a void. He has an anxious attachment style. He was neglected and abused in childhood. His father tore the family apart. He felt unwanted and not good enough as a child. He does things to self-soothe. He represses his anger and turns it inward. He outsources his self-worth to other people. He is needy in relationships. How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion for himself. Allow his inner child to fully grieve. Let his anger out to release his emotions. Examine the conscious and subconscious vows he made to not be like his father. Step into his masculinity and power. Takeaways: Do the Anger Release exercise to move the energy of anger out. Are there any conscious or unconscious vows or oaths you made to never be like someone? If so, you may be denying a part of your expression and it is likely holding you back from authenticity. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine leads you through part two of her annual new year's ritual and guides you through a meditation / visualization to consciously call in 2022. You can access the breathwork and meditation series Stef and Christine created and get a holiday discount using code HOLIDAY at https://christinehassler.com/breathwork/

This episode is about discerning intuition from fear-based thoughts. Today's caller, Tamy, doubts herself and uses constant learning as a compensatory strategy when she may not have fully integrated the information she has already gathered. If you have ever wondered if your feelings are fear-based or truly your intuition, or struggle with self-doubt, this is a great session to tune into. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode329] We often try to compensate for our self-doubts by people-pleasing, caretaking, obsessing about how we look, or being on a constant train of achieving or learning. Too much learning can be compensation for where we feel self-doubt. You can be in radical self-acceptance or confidence, and still know there are things you are practicing and integrating. When we truly listen to our intuition and when we are on track with our personal development work, we stay aligned. We won't get on an ego-driven path. Ego-based success and compensatory success are houses of cards. And, that is what we fear because we can start to feel like a fraud. We feel as if we could lose everything. If you listen to your intuition, you will stay on a path of success that is sustainable. Start paying more attention to how your intuition works. Start with little things. Intuition comes in more clearly when we are not distracted. The less we distract ourselves with thoughts of self-worth, validation, and acceptance the more space our intuition has to present itself. If you missed my Release 2021 Ritual Coaches Corner make sure to do it before doing the Calling in 2022, Stepping Into the New Year Ritual available this week. We have a holiday gift for you this January. Get $30 off of our Breathwork and Guided Meditation series. Use promo code 'holiday' at christinehassler.com/breathwork. The Early Bird discount for the Elementum Coaching Institute ends December 31, 2021, so get your application in. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you sometimes wonder if the information you're getting or if the thoughts you are having are your intuition or fear? Are you addicted to learning, always believing there is more you need to learn? Do you doubt yourself or struggle with self-acceptance? Do you have a fear of success; not just failure, but a bit of fear of success? Tamy's Question: Tamy wants to know how to recognize and trust her intuition and get rid of self-doubt. Tamy's Key Insights and Ahas: She is an intuitive person. She fears taking action. She has developed ways to rely on herself. She judges herself and doubts her abilities. She feels she doesn't know enough. She has higher standards for herself than she does for others. She has been chronically learning without leaving time for integration. She fears success. How to Get Over It and On With It: Listen to her intuition and consider where she is being guided next. Consider how her thoughts make her feel. If it makes her feel fear it is not her intuition. Respond to the guidance she gets. Takeaways: Journal about what would happen if you are successful. Start with 'If I am successful then…' and see what comes up for you. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Welcome to my annual two-part ritual to complete this year and step forward into the next with intention! In this episode, I guide you through a step-by-step process to complete 2021 with awareness and intention and let it go! And stay tuned for next week's episode where I offer you a process to receive 2022. I record these fresh every year so be sure to tune in even if you are familiar with the process :)

This episode is about prioritizing ourselves and our children. Today's caller, Aprisa, is a single mother who looks to others to get her needs met. She had a traumatic childhood and has not yet healed her inner child wounding. We also discuss depression and how highly-sensitive people have more proclivity to depression because feeling big emotions can feel scary. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode328] With single parents, the rightful roles of parent and child can get a little murky. It is important not to hide our emotions from our children. It is okay for them to see us sad or angry but we want to make sure they know it is not their responsibility. Sadness doesn't last forever but it is important to feel it because when we hold down our emotions they get stuck. What often happens with people who are depressed is that they don't know what to do with their big feelings. They end up being distant, irritable, or sad. When what they need to get at is their anger, rage, grief, shame, and other big feelings. Oftentimes, when someone is diagnosed with depression it is important to look at the root cause and what else could be going on. And, many times the diagnosis of depression can be limiting. When we suppress our feelings and are not connected with our inner child we can collapse into the subconscious programming, patterning, and time travel when we are triggered. Be on the lookout for my soon-to-be-released Year in Review episode and join me in releasing 2021 and calling in 2022. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you an introvert or a highly sensitive person who has a proclivity to depression, especially when you suppress emotions? Have you found yourself parentifying a spouse or partner? Or, are you spousifying your child? Aprisa's Question: Aprisa is triggered by her traumatic past and doesn't feel her needs are being met in her current relationship. Aprisa's Key Insights and Ahas: She is a single mother. She has abandonment trauma from her past. She just moved to a new continent with her son. She is currently in a relationship and puts her boyfriend before herself and her son. She has been clinically diagnosed with depression. She feels her needs are not being met. She wants to feel peace and not be triggered. She has big emotions and doesn't know how to explain them. She looks to her partner to heal her inner child. She gets triggered and emotionally falls back on her subconscious programming. She is passing on her anxious attachment style to her son. How to Get Over It and On With It: Reduce the burden on her son by reframing how she explains her depression to him. Create a secure attachment to her son to bring her closer to her inner child. Acknowledge her big feelings and realize she is not doing anything wrong. Connect to her inner child and love and parent herself with love and compassion. Resist the addiction to codependency. Prioritize herself and her son. Takeaways: Listen to my Coaches Corner #286 — Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess with Dr. Caroline Leaf. Remember, you have the power to transform and heal, no one else can do it for you. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Another dear friend of mine joins me on the podcast today to discuss how to tap into and trust your intuition, the importance of leaving unhealthy relationships and the magic and power of animals. Alyson Charles is a shaman and spiritual teacher who is devoted to living by the calls of inner wisdom, mysticism, energy medicine, and shamanic practices she has mastered through her studies with spiritual teachers, both of and beyond this world. She leads global courses, events, and talks to reconnect people to their fullest power and confidence through sacred practices and rituals. Alyson's power animal shamanic journey was named a top meditation to try by O, The Oprah Magazine, and she has collaborated with a range of media outlets and brands, including the New York Times, HBO, National Geographic, Well + Good, mindbodygreen, Forbes, Elle, and Self. You can pre-order her beautiful new book here: https://www.alysoncharles.com/animalpower

This episode is about making self-honoring choices without feeling selfish. Today's caller, Pooja, has a beautiful relationship with her parents but is torn between pursuing her dream of being a life coach and staying in the U.S. or moving home to be closer to her aging parents who miss her. This episode will help you to get out of limbo and make decisions that feel selfish. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode327] We want to make choices that are aligned with us versus a "should." Choices made from "should" create a higher likelihood of resentment. We either end up resenting the people who pulled us to make the choice or we resent ourselves for making the choice because we feel like we betrayed and abandoned ourselves, which is never a good situation. Whenever you feel the pull of both duty and desire, ask yourself what the most self-honoring choice is, because when we make the most self-honoring choice we are less likely to feel resentment later. We show up more authentically in our relationships when we make choices that are self-honoring. Choose something, start to take steps forward, and then if you need to choose something else, you can. If you are considering becoming a great coach, the $2,500 early bird discount for enrollment in ElementumCoachingInstitute.com ends on December 31, 2021. Email [email protected] if you have specific questions. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you struggling with a decision or choice, or have you been in limbo and it is causing you a lot of anxiety? Are you often torn between what you want to do and duty, obligation, or love you feel for your family that is pulling you in a different direction? Do you live far away from your parents or your family and feel a pull to be closer to them but also pull to stay where you are because you love it? When you make a choice that feels self-honoring does it feel selfish to you? Pooja's Question: Pooja is transitioning careers and is not yet ready to return to India to be with her aging parents. She would like guidance on whether to return or to follow her dream. Pooja's Key Insights and Ahas: She moved to the U.S. with the intention of returning home after a work assignment. She and her husband have been in the U.S. since 2013. She is going through a career transition. Her parents may expect her and her husband to return to India. Her dream is to be a life coach. She is torn between duty, obligation, and love. She hasn't had a heart-to-heart conversation with her parents about her dream. Her values are aligned with her parents' values. Her parents have given her freedom in her life and have never asked her for anything. Her parents are aging but healthy. How to Get Over It and On With It: Make a decision without expectations or "shoulds." Have a conversation with her parents about her dreams and goals. Commit to a decision and know that she can change it if she feels a nudge from her intuition. Keep in contact with her parents via video. Takeaways: If you are struggling with a decision/choice, remember you are not locked in. Empower yourself by getting out of limbo. Sponsor: STORYWORTH — Do you have your gifts ready for the holidays? A thoughtful and meaningful gift you can give a family member is Storyworth. Storyworth helps your family share stories through thought-provoking questions about their memories and personal thoughts. Storyworth has helped numerous families learn about each other in profound and special ways. After a year, Storyworth compiles the stories and pictures in a keepsake book that ships for free. Give the important people in your life a meaningful gift Storyworth.com/overit and get $10 off your first purchase. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is incredibly educational when it comes to our attachment styles. I talk with licensed psychotherapist Ellen Boeder about how attachment styles are formed, how they impact our adult relationships, and what we can do to heal them so we can have more secure attachments. A little more about Ellen . . . She has been a therapist since 2003. She has a strong background in yoga and meditation, and her graduate training in Transpersonal Psychology also deeply inform her work. Since getting married 12 years ago, and becoming a mother to two children, Ellen transitioned from working primarily with women to focusing on couples. Ellen is trained in PACT, a therapeutic modality for couples founded by Stan Tatkin, PsyD., that synthesizes attachment theory, neuroscience, and affect regulation models to support couples in creating an enduring and nourishing relationship through secure functioning. In addition to maintaining a part time private practice, Ellen is on faculty for the Relationship School—a business founded by her husband Jayson Gaddis that provides in depth relationship education for anyone who wants to learn, as well as training for relationship coaches.

This episode is about setting healthy boundaries and speaking our truth. Today's caller, Nicole, grew up in an unhealthy family dynamic. Her grandmother didn't accept her family and tried to split them up. She wants to be at peace with the situation but has not yet dealt with her anger. During the holidays, if you are the one who is breaking generational patterns, you may be called selfish or righteous. It can be a difficult place to be put in. But, I encourage you to stand in your truth. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode326] So many families use guilt and obligation to get people to do things. If you don't play into it then you may be told you are uncaring or disappointing. But, remember, guilt and obligation are not love. Just because you say no or have a boundary does not mean you do not love your family; it just means you are not playing into the unhealthy family dynamic. Love itself is unconditional. You can love your family and have compassion for them but relationships are not unconditional. You wouldn't stay in a relationship if the person lied, cheated, or took your money. And, just because someone is a blood relative doesn't give them the right to have a relationship with you if they are violating certain boundaries. We can all have loving boundaries and have compassion for people but not tolerate their behavior. I don't believe that just because someone has had a hard life and has been hurt, that they should have a get-out-of-jail-free card to mistreat other people. We don't have to let that into our lives. Just because someone has had a hard life it doesn't give them the right to make our life hard. Considering becoming a coach? Take a moment to listen to my Coaches Corner episode #312 with Alexi Parnos, co-founder of ElementumCoachingInstitute.com. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel guilty if you shut certain people, especially family members, out of your life? Are you carrying around anger or resentment about how you've been treated by your family? Are you mad at your parents for not sticking up for you inside of their family? If you are a parent, what do you want to teach your child about family dynamics? Nicole's Question: Nicole is considering cutting her father's family out of her life and would like guidance on how to navigate through an unhealthy family dynamic. Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas: Her father's family tried to split her parents up. She wants to cut her father's family out of her life. Her grandmother wants to form a relationship with her daughter. She is holding onto hurt and anger. She wants to be at peace with the situation. She hasn't recognized the impact the situation has had on her. She played a therapist for her mother as a child. Her father was afraid to stand up for his own family. Her grandmother sends passive-aggressive notes. She gets triggered by her grandmother. How to Get Over It and On With It: Process her emotions to move into forgiveness. Do the Empty Chair process and have a conversation with little Nicole about what she needs and give her a voice. Mother her inner child. Let herself release her anger or write an FU letter. Set boundaries and open her heart. Takeaways: Get honest with yourself about unhealthy family dynamics. Will this be the year you speak your truth? Will you have a care-frontation conversation about what is going on? Or will this be another year of people-pleasing, swallowing your feelings, and having guilt and obligation, or just avoiding your family altogether? Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Thirdlove obsesses over every stitch. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you are interested in becoming a coach or already are a coach and want to be even more impactful, don't miss this episode. You've heard me talk about the coaching certification program I co-founded with Stef, Preston Smiles and Alexi Panos. Today, my dear friend and partner, Alexi, joins me as we take a deep dive into describing the Elementum Coaching Institute. We cover: why and how it's different from other certification programs, how it's structured, what you learn, what you receive, and SO much more. If you've been considering enrolling in Elementum, this episode will answer so many of your questions. A little more about Alexi . . . A leader in the Emergent Wisdom movement, Alexi Panos was named as one of FORBES Top 11 Women Entrepreneurs, INC's magazines TOP 10 ENTREPRENEUR'S CHANGING THE WORLD, one of Origin Magazines TOP 100 CREATIVES CHANGING THE WORLD, and is a featured expert in the films THE ABUNDANCE FACTOR, RISEUP and AGE OF THE ENTREPRENEUR. Alexi is a Master Leadership and Embodiment trainer and co-founder in The Bridge Method workshops and The Elementum Coaching Institute, host of the Top 10 Self Improvement Podcast UNLEASHED, business strategist, filmmaker and humanitarian (through her organizations E.P.I.C. and The Sisters Society); and as a bestseller, Alexi has authored the books 50 WAYS TO YAY! and NOW OR NEVER, both by Simon & Schuster. Alexi is a proud mama to 4 kids and currently lives in Austin, TX. Follow her on Instagram and Youtube @alexipanos. www.alexipanos.com @alexipanos

This episode is about healing sexual blocks in relationships. Today's callers, Adam & Reanna, want to heal past trauma and have a healthy sex life together. I guide them through an exploration process. This session is useful even if there is no trauma in your past; It is an intimate process that brings couples closer together. And, because in many ways sex is something still taboo to talk about, and often shamed, I want to normalize the conversation. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode325] Many times, we think men are the ones who want more sex but it's not gender, sexual identity, or sexual orientation specific. It is life-experience specific. Our experiences impact our sex life. There isn't a childhood trauma that doesn't impact our sex life, even if there is no sexual abuse. Any kind of childhood trauma impacts our emotional, mental, financial, and sex life. We often forget about intimacy and what a turn-on intimacy can be, even when we are dating. Our bodies talk to us. Especially as women, if we do not feel safe in our emotional body, our physical body will give us signs. And, many of the blocks in couples' sex lives arise because they aren't reaching the levels of deeper emotional intimacy. Having healthy sexuality is more than just having a good sex life. It is about feeling comfortable in your body, enjoying the sensual experiences of life, and knowing what your turn-ons are. When it comes to sex many of us consider the performance and pleasing the other person versus what feels good. Healthy sex is about feeling alive and vital and creative. We don't need a partner to have great sexuality and a great sex life. Sexuality and sex is about more than the physical act. It is an energetic experience. Get my free 2-part Sacred Union process at ChristineHassler.com/SacredUnion. If you are in a relationship or you are your own beloved this is a great process to increase intimate connection in your life. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have sexual trauma or any other type of trauma that shows up in relationships? Is sex hard for you? Do you mentally want to be able to do it but when it comes to the physical act your body just shuts down and you experience trauma triggers? Are you someone who may have an overactive sex drive, sexual compulsion, sexual addiction, or do you look to sex to fill a void? Does your sex life in your relationship feel stagnant or that it needs some improvement or do you feel stuck? Adam & Reanna's Question: Adam & Reanna have sexual issues affecting their relationship. They would like guidance on how to have a healthy emotional and physical relationship together. Reanna's Key Insights and Ahas: Her mother didn't talk with her about sex. She had a teacher be physically inappropriate with her. She was in a long-term relationship with a controlling person. She has trauma, shame, domestic violence, and PTSD in her life. She wants to do the work to have a healthy relationship with Adam. Adam's Key Insights and Ahas: He is frustrated because he wants to help Reanna heal. He wants Reanna to want to have sex with him. He sometimes thinks he is addicted to sex. He does not always feel worthy. He relies on physical intimacy to replace emotional intimacy. How to Get Over It and On With It: Continue counseling and somatic therapy. Slowly and gently explore each other. Take baby steps to intimacy. Practice communicating their needs during the exploration process. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

We cover so much ground in this episode about diet, metabolism, hormones and overall health. Dr. Jade Teta is an integrative physician, author and expert in the realm of natural health, fitness, metabolism and self-development. He spent the last 25 years immersed in the study of strength and conditioning, hormonal metabolism and the psychology of change and success. He has written five books on metabolism, and coauthored the exercise and sports nutrition chapters, of The Textbook Of Natural Medicine. Dr. Teta runs both, Jade Teta,LLC and Next Level Human Inc., that combine his medical and fitness knowledge with his expertise in self-development and mindset change. He writes and lectures extensively on the subjects of lifestyle medicine, natural health, and mindset change to both healthcare professionals and the public. His latest book is a daily meditation on making life changes and based on his 6 Powers. Human 365 is available on Amazon.

This episode is about breaking a pattern. Today's caller, Aimee, wants to end a relationship but keeps going back for more. She has a lot of awareness about why it isn't healthy but she hasn't taken the action to end it for good. We work through how she can find clarity and commit to her truth. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode324] When we don't feel integrated, when all of our parts are not working in harmony, or we have parts of ourselves we have abandoned, we can feel fragmented, off-balance, and lost. If you ever feel lost, ask yourself — what parts of me have I lost versus why am I lost or why do I feel lost? — then, think about what parts of yourself you need to bring back in and integrate. We can get caught in a bind and judgmental of ourselves when our adult brain, our conscious mind is like — this is a terrible situation. Why am I here? We can't seem to get out of it or we get out of the situation and we go back for more. It is because the subconscious is looking for an unmet need. Healing comes when we give ourselves what we need, take action, and keep our promises to ourselves. Remember, feeling relief is an indicator that we are on our way to the truth. Do you want to call in a healthy relationship and break patterns when it comes to dating and men? To start your journey and create an epic relationship, on November 30th, Stefanos and I will facilitate our last Be the Queen program for a while. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen to apply. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there a situation you are in, a behavior you repeat, or a relationship you know needs to end but you just can't seem to get out of it? Do you find yourself calling something love or calling a relationship healthy or calling a situation okay but it isn't? It is just familiar. Are you confusing true love and safety with familiarity and certainty? Are you abandoning your inner child by continuing to put yourself in situations that aren't for your highest good? Aimee's Question: Aimee doesn't know how to end her relationship of 11 years. She keeps going back and putting her needs aside. Aimee's Key Insights and Ahas: Her relationship is not loving, it is familiar. Her relationship doesn't meet her needs. She feels disconnected and lost. As a child, she felt she had to earn her mother's love. She has chronic trauma and doesn't feel safe. She is ready to break her pattern of going back but feels guilty. She knows she will never be loved by her mother the way she wants. She doesn't want to be in this relationship. She cannot tend to her inner child if she goes back to the unhealthy relationship. She finds it hard to get out of her head. She is scared to show her true self. It is time for her to receive. How to Get Over It and On With It: Let her inner child grieve the pain for the love she didn't get from her mother. Connect and commit to her inner child. Leave the relationship and get professional support. Stay committed and strong when she feels guilty. Write a letter or record the promises she is making to herself. Takeaways: If you have a pattern you can't seem to quit, ask yourself if it is what you think it is. If you need help connecting to your inner child, listen to the Inner Child Workshop at ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild. Sponsor: STORYWORTH — is an online service that offers a unique gift. Storyworth helps your family share stories through thought-provoking questions about their memories and personal thoughts. Storyworth has helped numerous families learn about each other in profound and special ways. After a year, Storyworth compiles stories and pictures in a keepsake book that ships for free. Give the important people in your life a meaningful gift Storyworth.com/overit and get $10 off your first purchase. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Nate Klemp joins me to talk about "The 80/80 Marriage," a new model for balancing career, family, and love. The 80/80 Marriage pushes couples beyond the limited idea of "fairness" toward a new model grounded on radical generosity and shared success, one that calls for each partner to contribute 80 percent to build the strongest possible relationship. Drawing from more than one hundred interviews with couples from all walks of life, stories from business and pop culture, scientific studies, and ancient philosophical insights, husband-and-wife team Nate and Kaley Klemp pinpoint exactly what's not working in modern marriage. Their 80/80 model of marriage provides practical, powerful solutions to transform your relationship and open up space for greater love and connection. Learn more here: https://www.8080marriage.com/

This episode is about opening ourselves up to opportunity by courageously embracing change. Today's caller, Marilyn, just turned 50 and feels lost in life and with no clear direction for her future. She has been playing it safe and fears making changes in her life. We discuss how she can listen to her intuition to be open to the opportunities that may come from shaking up her life. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode323] Many of us have put up a wall to protect ourselves and as long as we are more invested in protecting ourselves from getting hurt, we are not going to be open to living into our full potential and achieving our heart's desire. Because that protective wall keeps us from being hurt and blocks out the amazing possibilities that can come from having an open heart. And, often, the older we get, the harder it can be to make changes in our lives. Because we become comfortable and complacent. Some people are happy with complacency. They are content in a rinse-and-repeat life, comfort zones, and doing the same things. It is totally fine that they find meaning in other things. But we grow when we put ourselves through challenges and in new situations. So, no matter what your age, instead of settling and giving up on new experiences, make some changes. Are you a woman looking to call in your beloved? Do you put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship? To start your journey, on November 30th, Stefanos and I will facilitate our last Be the Queen program for a while. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen to apply. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you more comfortable playing it safe even if it means you don't love your life? Do you consider yourself risk-averse unless you weigh all the options and it seems like a smart thing to do? Do you feel disconnected from the way you were as a child? Maybe you were brave, creative, or outgoing as a child and as you've gotten older you've wondered where that person went? When you think about making a change do you focus too much on all things that could go wrong versus what could go right? Marilyn's Question: Marilyn feels lost and doesn't have a clear path of what she wants for her future. Marilyn's Key Insights and Ahas: She is single and finds it easy to be alone. She thought she would meet someone more quickly. She feels lost and has a wall up. She is conservative in her actions to protect herself. She has done the inner child workshop. She has been with the same company for 20 years. She is considering relocating and finding a new position. She was a brave child. She is focusing on what could go wrong instead of opportunity. How to Get Over It and On With It: Make a change. Shake her life up a little bit. Tap into her warrior woman. Consider what could be great about making a change. Do the empty chair process with her inner child. Takeaways: Choose change or let life bring change to you. Take some risks. Start paying attention to things that could go right instead of what could go wrong. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

A friend and former yoga buddy of mine, Todd McCullough, joins me to dispel some myths about what it takes to transform your body and live healthy! He's a fitness and mindset expert and takes us through a wonderful meditation at the end of the interview. Todd attended University of Florida, where he was a starting football player. Like many athletes, he suffered numerous injuries. He had a career in finance at Merrill Lynch, and was laid off during the financial crisis of 2008. Todd knew it was time for a new direction. His football injuries led him to a yoga studio, where he discovered a way to move with his physical restrictions. This led Todd to merge his new passion for yoga with athletic training — and TMAC FITNESS was born. It began as a personal training business, where Todd trained thousands of clients, including Olympic athletes and celebrity artists. Eventually, it was time to scale. Now, TMAC FITNESS is an online membership-based company that provides short, fast, and effective workouts — with a strong emphasis on mindfulness. Todd's signature online program, TMAC 20, has helped more than 20,000 people get in shape and get their mind right from home. Learn more here: https://www.tmacfitness.com/

This episode is about realizing control is just a protective behavior. Today's caller, Beck, wants to feel safe and worthy of love without feeling the need to calculate and devise a plan to control the outcome of a situation. We work through ways she can express her emotions and voice her truth to meet her needs. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode322] We all have, at some level, an addiction to control. We have different relationships with it and it is hard for us to completely be in uncertainty, non-attachment, and surrender. The more personal development work we do, the more we are able to step into those things but it is naturally human to have those kinds of controlling pieces come up. Often, what we consider as controlling is a part of us that doesn't feel safe. And, that part is trying to protect us. I also believe semantics and words are very important. No one wants to be called controlling. It is hard to get leverage and to do the work we need to do on ourselves when we use a word that has a lot of judgment on top of it. Instead of thinking of your behaviors as controlling, think of them as protective behaviors. It feels better and makes it easier to understand, accept, and shift them. Are you a woman looking to call in a man? Do you put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship? To start your journey, join our free live call on November 11th, and then on November 30th Stefanos and I will facilitate our last Be the Queen program for a while. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen to apply. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you find yourself fighting for control or manipulating situations to make yourself feel safe? Are you someone who holds your thoughts and emotions in for a long time? How are you asking for what you need? Think about your childhood and the times you got in trouble, or the times you were told you were naughty, or when you did something wrong, did you collapse the "I did something wrong" to mean "I am wrong"? Do you have an old childhood belief that because you did something bad or wrong it means you were wrong or unlovable? Beck's Question: Beck wants to explore her relationship with control and guidance on how to work through it to support herself in her relationship. Beck's Key Insights and Ahas: She's been doing inner work. She fears being perceived as a controlling person. She manipulates situations to get what she wants. She experiences expectation hangovers. She controls things to protect herself. Her parents loved her, but it felt conditional when she did something wrong. She is afraid of losing love. She is sensitive and has big feelings. As a child, she couldn't separate her actions being wrong from her being wrong. She creates distance in her partnership when she doesn't show her true emotion. She doesn't always know what she needs. Her partner struggles to handle her emotions. She tests people to see if they love her. She outsources getting her needs met. How to Get Over It and On With It: Communicate her truth when she feels it. Ask for what she needs, consistently. Know she can make mistakes and still be worthy of love. Sprinkle the release of her emotions out when they arise, not to let the floodgates open after keeping them inside. Takeaways: Realize that you can make mistakes and still be worthy of love. Look at where you are not speaking your truth. Emotions are better let out than kept in. Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Thirdlove obsesses over every stitch. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is such a rich conversation about relationships, sex and sexuality, monogamy and love. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in theDepartment of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own YourSexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; NewHarbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the LoveYou Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. She is an international speaker and teacher whose work has been featured on six continents. She is also a strong,positive resource on Instagram, where she has earned more than 160K followers to date. Her website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/

This episode is about mothering the inner child and connecting to the little one inside. Today's caller, Nyikia, is working to give herself the love and compassion she didn't get as a child but is having difficulty connecting with her inner child. We work through that connection and a daily practice she can use to nurture herself and her little one. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode321] We are often good at giving others what we need to give ourselves the most. This is where we can fall into traps in relationships. Whether it's romantic relationships, work relationships, or friendships, we can be loving, compassionate, loyal, and show up for others but the person we need to do that for is our inner child and ourselves. We can't go back in a time machine and change our parents or live a different childhood. But, remember, the mind doesn't know the difference between a well-imagined thought and current reality. So, we can give ourselves the childhood we never had by being a mother or father to our inner child. Join Us for a Special Master Class, "Calling Him In Masterclass". Learn How to Attract a Man Who Is Your True Match So You Can Experience the Epic Soul Mate Love You Desire Nov. 4th at 5:00 PM PST. Sign up here: https://christinehassler.com/lovemasterclass. Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have a mother or father who didn't fall into the traditional role? Maybe, your mom wasn't nurturing or your father was absent or not protective and you have a hard time connecting with that inner parent? Are you good at loving others and taking care of others but not so great at taking care of yourself? Have you done a lot of self-work in the last several years or months, but feel in some areas, especially with the inner child, you don't know what to do or you are not making progress? Nyikia's Question: Nyikia is looking to heal and move past childhood issues but is finding it difficult to connect to her inner child. Nyikia's Key Insights and Ahas: She grew up with only her mother as a caregiver. Her mother was emotionally and verbally abusive. Her father was absent, for the most part. She has an adopted brother. She is doing personal development work to connect with her inner child. She has avoidant strategies and distracts herself. She wants to acknowledge her inner child. She longed for feeling safe when she was a child. Her IQ has been rewarded more than her EQ. She often shuts down her emotional releases. It is easy for her to find compassion for others but not for herself. Her inner child doesn't feel worthy of nurturing. How to Get Over It and On With It: Check-in with a picture of her as a child once a day. Tell her inner child how worthy she is of nurturing and love. Takeaways: Check-in daily with your inner child and have a conversation. Re-visit the recording of the Inner Child Workshop at ChristineHassler.com/innerchild. Consider what you didn't get as a child and how you can give it to yourself. Sponsor: STORYWORTH — is an online service that helps your family share stories through thought-provoking questions about their memories and personal thoughts. Storyworth has helped numerous families learn about each other in profound and special ways. After a year, Storyworth compiles stories and pictures in a keepsake book that ships for free. Give the important people in your life a meaningful gift Storyworth.com/overit and get $10 off your first purchase. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I am so thrilled to have one of my best - and also most powerful - friends back on the show. Kate Reardon gives those in need of healing guidance the inspiration and tools for growth so they can achieve the unthinkable and conquer the impossible. Kate is a qualified practitioner of Naturopathy and Nutritional Medicine, an Intuitive Metaphysical Healer, best-selling author, keynote speaker, facilitator, yoga teacher, devoted mother and host of the ever-popular, Lean In podcast. Kate is the co-founder and managing director of Natural Instinct Healing, the internationally acclaimed and award-winning private Detox, Health and Wellness retreat centre in Bali - which now offers virtual cleansing retreats! Kate also mentors clients from all walks of life across the globe, including high profile celebrities, public figures, doctors, psychologists, business leaders and even royalty, treating and guiding each individual on a mind, body and soul level. Her best-selling book, "The Essential Cleanse" is the ultimate guide to unlocking the potential to drastically heal from the inside out. When she's not in the consulting room or preparing for a workshop, Kate can be found either being Mama bear to three beautiful girls, immersed in nature, soaking up a book or dancing her heart out! Register for her 7 day immersion here: https://go.naturalinstincthealing.com/free-vital-wellbeing-immersion Learn more about Kate here: http://katereardon.com.au/

This episode is about obsessive thinking and anxiety. Today's caller, Megan, wants to know why she obsesses over things such as decisions, relationships, and her body image. She would like guidance on how to shift her patterns but feels she may always have anxiety. We dial back the clock to discover why she adopted it as a coping strategy and work through how she can empower herself so her anxiety can be an alarm instead of a constraint. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode320] One of the best things the mind does to deal with anxiety in the body is to obsess because it is a distraction and keeps us from feeling the physiological discomfort in the body. Anxiety is energy that is fast buzzing energy. This frenetic energy is in our minds and our nervous systems. It can be really overwhelming so we develop ways to do something with it or to turn it into something. When we obsess over things and think about things over and over and over again, it's the way the mind is trying to deal with all that frenetic energy. Obsessive thinking is a coping strategy. If we look at those patterns as alarm systems, have compassion for ourselves, and understand there is nothing wrong with us, it is easier to shift patterns like anxiety and obsessive thinking that are not serving us. The hardest things to change about ourselves are the things that are protecting us. The patterns cling to us because they believe they are helping us like they had in our childhood. If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. In late November, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last live event until at least next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information. Sign up early and get access to the Bonus Call on 11/11/21. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are there things in your life you obsess about or just can't stop thinking about? Do you obsess about your body, what people are thinking about you, or your dating experiences? Did you grow up with an anxious parent? Do you doubt your self-worth? Do you fear you will never be able to change the patterns you don't like or judge yourself over? Megan's Question: Megan has a pattern of obsessing over things in her life and would like guidance on how to shift her obsessive thinking and to become more empowered. Megan's Key Insights and Ahas: She obsesses over body image issues, men, and romantic relationships. She feels her anxiety is robbing her sense of inner peace. She has done personal development work. She believes she has always had anxiety. Her mother was hard to predict and inconsistent. She gets frustrated trying to shift her patterns. She fears she will always have anxiety. She doesn't speak up for herself or set self-honoring boundaries. How to Get Over It and On With It: Be compassionate and make friends with her obsessions. Make a list of the things she is certain of and has control over in her life. Surrender and accept that her anxiety is trying to protect her from getting hurt. Focus on meeting her needs and speaking her truth by empowering herself. Listen to the Coaches Corner How to Navigate, Resolve, and Prevent Conflict with Jayson Gaddis. Takeaways: When you feel anxiety, consider the highest purpose of your obsessiveness. How is it serving you? Do not put a label on yourself. Empower yourself to react to things differently. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My guest today talks to us about what attention really is, how to focus it (and stop a wandering mind), and leverage our minds to not only bring us success, but peace. Dr. Amishi Jha is a professor of psychology at the University of Miami. She serves as the Director of Contemplative Neuroscience for the Mindfulness Research and Practice Initiative, which she co-founded in 2010. She received her Ph.D. from the University of California–Davis and postdoctoral training at the Brain Imaging and Analysis Center at Duke University. Dr. Jha's work has been featured at NATO, the World Economic Forum, and The Pentagon. She has received coverage in The New York Times, NPR, TIME, Forbes and more. She is the author of the new book Peak Mind which we talk about in this episode.

This episode is about overcoming not-enoughness and meeting our own needs to be secure in relationships. Today's caller, Boston, has a protective pattern from his childhood that shows up as jealousy. It is blocking him from feeling secure in his relationship. He is working to shift his jealous feelings and is asking for guidance to understand the origin of his feelings and heal his anxious attachment style. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode319] We are human. We are going to have patterns and we are going to have programming. There will be feelings that come up. There may be anxiety, OCD, insecurities, jealousy, co-dependence, people-pleasing, etc. It is not who you are. I say it again, it is not who you are. Just because you have jealousy doesn't mean you are a jealous person. Just because a pattern comes up for you, jealousy, or anything else you want to shift, it doesn't mean you are that pattern. It is so important that whenever we are working to shift something, we accept it. The more we judge and shame ourselves, the more it sticks and the harder it is to change. So, if you are trying hard to change things about yourself, do not make yourself miserable. Being aware and accepting your patterns is the path forward. Often, we make things more complicated than they need to be. Our primary desire is to feel safe, seen, heard, and loved. The more we get it from within ourselves the more we get it from others. The more we can acknowledge the tender parts inside of us the less we need external validation. If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. So, starting late November or early December, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last event until next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle with jealousy in your relationship even if there is no reason for it? Do you judge yourself for getting jealous? Did you grow up feeling like you fit into society, your family, or your peer group? Did you look or feel different, like you were not good enough? How are you at meeting your own needs? Boston's Question: Boston has a pattern of exhibiting jealousy in his relationships. He would like guidance on how to heal his triggers. Boston's Key Insights and Ahas: He recently started his personal development journey. He puts his jealous behavior on to his partner. He judges himself for his jealous tendencies. He is mentally working through his patterns to interrupt them. He has an anxious attachment style. He is looking for reassurance in his relationship. He grew up in an area where people were discriminatory. He had very little emotional connection with his parents. His parents argued a lot in his childhood. He didn't feel good enough as a child. He was jealous of other families and the love he thought they shared. He moved to a new country at a very young age. He developed tough skin to protect himself. His partner is patient and understanding. He has old hurts and insecurity. His fear of losing his family is preventing him from enjoying it. How to Get Over It and On With It: Understand his jealousy is trying to protect him. Be compassionate with himself when he is triggered. Remind himself he is enough. Talk to his younger self about what he needs and reassure himself. Ask his partner to work with him on his inner child work. Embrace and enjoy the life he has created. Takeaways: For a refresher on healing your inner child, listen to the Inner Child Workshop. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you avoid or dread conflict or find you have too much of it in your life, you will find this episode so helpful! Jayson Gaddis is here to talk about his new book Getting To Zero: How to Work through Conflicts in your High-Stake Relationships and teach us SO much about how to have healthier relationships. He is a relationship expert and sought-after coach, as well as the Founder of The Relationship School and host of the successful Relationship School podcast. Jayson leads the most comprehensive relationship training in the world of intimate relationships and partnership, as well as trains and certifies relationship coaches. He has a master's in psychology and lives with his wife and two children in Boulder, Colorado. Get the book and free goodies here: https://www.gettingtozerobook.com/

This episode is about taking the pressure off of self-imposed timelines. Today's caller, Elizabeth, has a sense of urgency. She feels she needs to get into a relationship and have children. But, at the same time, she is experiencing rejection, ghosting, and men leaving. She thinks she is doing something wrong. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode318] For whatever reason, we put ridiculous timelines on ourselves. Who knows where they come from society, parents, or our inner critic. We also put unnecessary pressure on ourselves to be or to achieve certain things. And, all the while we're not really paying attention to what we truly need to be learning. We miss out on the magic that can come from being present and in the moment. And, enmeshment or co-dependence means that we are a little bit too reliant or dependent on another person to make us feel a certain way. We all want a mother to be the constant source of love and nurturing but we also want a mother to let us go on our way or let us suffer and find our own way. If we have someone who always rescues us, how do we ever learn to rescue ourselves? If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. So, starting late November or early December, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last event until next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you unconsciously put pressure on yourself or others and it is sabotaging you from getting the things you truly want? Did you have too close of a relationship with your mother or a parent? Do you feel a timeline or sense of urgency to get married, have babies, or accomplish something at a certain time? Would you say that you were an exceptional partner to yourself? Elizabeth's Question: Elizabeth feels she is the reason her relationships don't work out. Elizabeth's Key Insights and Ahas: She feels she can't get relationships right. She feels she has been called to have children. She was very close to her mother, maybe too close. She is trying to source her love through other people to fill the void. She clings on to men. She misses being in a close relationship. She didn't develop her own sense of self. She is scared to voice her feelings in relationships. How to Get Over It and On With It: Prioritize loving herself and individuating. Find her wise inner mother and untangle her enmeshment with her mother. Look back at past relationships and consider how she could do things differently. Write a reassuring letter to her future self that everything is going to be alright and then have her future self write back. Realize it wasn't her fault that guys take off but she can take responsibility for her part in the relationship. Takeaways: Listen to the Coaches Corner interview with Bethany Webster, The Mother Wound. If you feel pressured to get somewhere, write a letter to your future self and then have your future self write back to you about how everything works out. If you are in a pattern, ask yourself what wound is it bringing attention to that could be healed. Join the Be the Queen program. Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. They do comfort, so you can do you. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Sex and sexuality. These are part of the human experience. Yet for so many, sex and sexualty brings up shame, insecurity and even painful memories. It is possible to enjoy your sexual expression no matter what you have been through while empowering yourself by learning about your preferences and consent. There is no one better to discuss these topics with me than. Dr. Betty Martin. She has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training "Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners." Wheel of consent videos: short: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7x2jAm3HxHM long; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=auokDp_EA80

This episode is about doing inner child work to heal the mother wound. Today's caller, Abigail, feels she is struggling to connect with her feminine energy but we discover that she is being triggered by her circumstances and it is revealing a coping strategy she relied on in her childhood. We discuss ways she can make the most of this healing opportunity. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode317] You can't really tap into true masculine and feminine until you do inner child work. Because we can confuse being in our feminine or masculine energy with protective behaviors and coping strategies. It is important for us to find our divine mother and father energy but healing our childhood wounds is the starting point. When past trauma in her child wounding is triggered, it is an invitation for us to deal with it by speaking to our little one and giving them a voice. It makes it much easier to trust because our inner child isn't tugging at us telling us they are not okay. What keeps some people from doing inner child work is that they think they have to relive their trauma or relive memories of their childhoods. It is possible to heal your childhood and connect with your inner child even if you have no memories or traumatic memories. When we are given pauses in life, or when we feel we are in limbo, they are opportunities for us to focus on our inner work. Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild. If you can't make it live you can get the recording. If you need help financially go to ChristineHassler.com/Scholarship. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you struggling with identifying what is masculine and feminine energy? Or, you are not sure how to be in your masculine or feminine? Have you worked on the mother wound and know intuitively there is still more to do? Do you identify with being a caretaker? Someone who takes care of other people's needs as a way to try and get your own needs met? As a child, were you more in the parent role than you were in the child role? Did a parent count on you for emotional support? Did they confide in you? Were you more of a friend to them and not allowed to truly be a kid? Abigail's Question: Abigail struggles with staying in her feminine energy. Abigail's Key Insights and Ahas: She has had a lot of uncertainty in her life. She has difficulty adjusting and trusting changes. She holds fear about changes in her life. She frequently changes her residence. She left her nursing career to be a doula. Her parents dealt with uncertainty differently. She didn't have a good role model for embracing uncertainty. She didn't feel safe as a child. Caretaking became a coping strategy for her. She beats herself up emotionally. She felt responsible for everyone else's happiness. She wants to be free to express her needs. Her mom treated her like a friend and not a child. She feels worthless if she isn't caring for others. Her partner feels safe to her. How to Get Over It and On With It: Check-in with little Abigail to see how she is. Accept and have compassion for herself. Give her rage a voice and write an F-U letter to her mother. This is a healing opportunity for her. She is exactly where she needs to be. Join the Inner Child Workshop. Check out the Mother Wound Coaches Corner and the work of Bethany Webster. Takeaways: Use the pauses in your life to give your inner child a voice and to heal unhealed wounding. Sponsor: SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Don't miss this episode with Bethany Webster where we discuss a wound we ALL have: the mother wound. Bethany Webster is a writer, international speaker and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. Bethany speaks, consults and mentors around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women's leadership and personal development. Learn more at www.bethanywebster.com Bethany's book: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780062884442 Bethany's online course: https://www.bethanywebster.com/inner-mother-course/ Bethany's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/innermother

This episode is about finding your passion by releasing repressed anger. Today's caller, Illarion, feels lost. He is in his twenties and is struggling to find his purpose. Emotions from his childhood are bubbling to the surface of his unconscious. If you relate to this call and feel blocked, anxious, or lost, this episode will help you tap into your fire and find your voice. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode316] So many of us that may be dealing with anxiety, depression, or feeling lost have a bit of indifference, hopelessness, and apathy we can slip into. That is a dangerous place because there is numbness. Whereas anger, if understood and expressed in a healthy way, is a very useful emotion. Anger is often the gateway to reaching our deeper hurts and it's the thing that unleashes our passion. Repressed anger takes up a lot of energy. It is a fiery emotion that just sits inside of us. Passion is fire too. If we have a lot of anger that we haven't processed, it can be a block to our creativity and passion. A lot of creative and artistic people have trouble accessing their anger. It ends up manifesting as anxiety. When we have the creative archetype, there is also gentleness. We want to be the peacekeeper and avoid conflict. We don't feel the warrior spirit because we are more on the creative side. However, when we don't access our anger and our rage, it can hold our passion back. It is often anger and resentment that keep us from getting to the true energy of forgiveness. Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel stuck or lost in your life? Did you have parents that supported who you are but not 100% of the time? Have you analyzed and talked about your issues and have been in therapy but things are not changing? Is anger something that turns you off? Illarion's Question: Illarion feels lost and is struggling to find his purpose. He goes through bouts of loneliness, anxiety, and low self-worth. Illarion's Key Insights and Ahas: He moved to New York City. He is going through imposter syndrome. He doubts every choice he makes. His feelings go up and down. He may have unresolved issues from childhood. He has been in therapy for three years. He looks at what he should be instead of what he is meant to be. He didn't feel he was able to be himself as a child. What he is going through is normal for his age. He is not sure he is lovable and enough for his parents. He doesn't speak with his father. He hasn't dealt with the anger he feels at his parents. He seeks approval from other people. He wanted someone to stick up for him as a child. How to Get Over It and On With It: Tap into his anger and be pissed. Do the temper-tantrum technique at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease Write an F-U letter to his mom and dad without sending it to them. Go to a quiet place and expel rage while he punches a pillow. Find his fiery passion. Sponsor: SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is an episode NOT to miss. My husband and I get so raw and vulnerable as we talk through something that upset Stef and triggered his inner child. If you want an intimate look at how we work though triggers and comfort our own (and each other's) inner child, be sure to listen. You will learn so much about your relationship with your own inner child as well. We all have a tender, sensitive little one inside who needs us to parent them with love, safety, acceptance and consistency. If you want to learn more about the virtual retreat we are teaching on healing your inner child, please go here: https://christinehassler.com/innerchild/

This episode is about taking a stand for what we value. Today's caller, Sebastian, is not getting his needs met in his relationship. He is attempting to talk through his issues, but the results are not changing. We discuss ways to get clarification from his partner about what she needs and how he can have his needs met by taking a stand for his values. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode315] If communication solved every issue in a relationship, we could all just read communication books and have the most amazing relationships, friendships, and parental relationships. Everything would be easy. But, it is not. We need to do the inner work. We play out our childhood stuff in our adult life, especially in relationships. When a child has emotionally unavailable parents, they learn to tolerate a lot more hurt. When they grow into adults, they may have a pattern of thinking things are better than they truly are in their intimate relationships. In relationships, friendships, or any kind of intimate relationship, we often love and give in the way we want to be given to and loved, not necessarily the way that person needs or wants it. We have to be bold when it comes to things like love, our families, our health, our well-being, and what is important to us. We must take a stand for our values. Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you find yourself not being a firm stand for what you want in your life? Do you ever tiptoe around people afraid of upsetting them? Do you often feel disrespected in conversations or just not heard? Do you have some codependent patterns and let people walk all over you? Do you often find yourself with emotionally unavailable or avoidant-type people? Sebastian's Question: Sebastian feels he doesn't get his needs met in his relationship and would like guidance on how to have a healthier relationship. Sebastian's Key Insights and Ahas: His relationship has ups and downs. Hurtful things are said between him and his partner. He and his partner have done couple counseling. He has a 10-year-old son with his partner. He feels disrespected by his partner. He loves his family. His partner finds it is overwhelming to deal with his emotions. He is trying to uncover and overcome the relationship issues. He is codependent. How to Get Over It and On With It: Get curious about what his partner needs. Have a conversation about what each other needs emotionally. Stand in his strong, healthy masculine and ask his partner if she wants the relationship to work. Step into his power and take a stand for himself and the relationship. Takeaways: Take a stand for your values. Be very clear about what you want and where you are going. Sponsor: SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you ever struggle with anxiety, worry or even depression, do NOT miss this episode. One of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and an international bestselling author Mel Robbins joins Christine and gives a TON of soothing and practical advice for creating more calm in your life. Mel's work includes the global phenomenon The 5 Second Rule, the upcoming The High 5 Habit, four #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide. Her groundbreaking work on behavior change has been translated into 36 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans' organizations, and the world's leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled. As one of the most widely booked and followed public speakers in the world, Mel coaches more than 60 million people online every month and videos featuring her work have more than a billion views online, including her TEDx talk, which is one of the most popular of all time. There's nothing Mel loves more than making a real difference in people's lives by teaching them to believe in themselves and inspiring them to take the actions that will change their lives. Mel lives in New England with her husband of 25 years and their three kids, but she is and will always be a Midwesterner at heart.

This episode will support you in getting through and to the other side of any kind of loss. Today's caller, Regina, is a widow who is grieving over the loss of her husband. She says she regrets not being the best mother in the world and not living the life she wanted to live. She is questioning her purpose and experiencing quite a bit of apathy in her life. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode314] Loss is an incredibly painful but inevitable part of our life. When it happens it is important we give ourselves time to grieve and not try to be strong and move on right away. But there comes a point in our life when life has to go on. Whether it is the death of a loved one, a pet, a relationship, or a job, we can't allow loss to suck the life out of us. Otherwise, we end up existing, not truly living. We honor those who transition by continuing to live. People who deal with expectation hangovers often feel guilty to admit it but they tend to be apathetic to life. The reason for the apathy is the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference or apathy. When we go through something challenging, especially if we are lonely through it, we allow our self-love tank to get so low that we slip into indifference. Without love there is apathy. Getting out of it requires choosing to live, not just to go through the motions; we need something we want to live for. Give yourself permission to live for and find something that reconnects you back to love. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you recently been through a loss and can't seem to move on? Have you been through a loss and are aware you need time to grieve? Do you tend to look back on your life and wish you could have done things differently? Are you at a point in your life where you are just existing and need to start living again? Regina's Question: Regina would like to move past her sadness and regret of not living the life she wanted. Regina's Key Insights and Ahas: She is approaching retirement. She is not in the place she thought she would be in her life. She lives alone. There is a part of her that doesn't want to be anymore. She has regrets about how she raised her children. She doesn't believe we get more than one love in our lives. Her husband was her best friend. She beats herself up a lot. She knows if she can create a negative story for herself, she is capable of creating a positive story, too. How to Get Over It and On With It: Choose to create a future that is enlivening. Give herself permission to live and allow love in. Have a loving relationship with herself. Speak to herself as a loving mother would to a child. Forgive herself for being mean to herself. Write out some promises to herself. Takeaways: Practice self-love. Consider that loved ones who have transitioned are angels and guides in your life. Accept that you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time. Content that focuses on overcoming regret. Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Check out their new seamless Form line. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and body mind transformation for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. fromStanford in 1974, Gay served as Professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap, Conscious Loving and Conscious Loving Ever After, (the last two co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks). He is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu, as well as a new mystery series featuring a Victorian-era London detective, Sir ErrolHyde. His latest book, Conscious Luck, reveals eight ways to change your fortune through the power of intention. Gay has appeared on more than 500 radio andtelevision shows, including Oprah, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. His new book, The Genius Zone, was published in June, 2021.

This episode is about learning the tools to deal with triggers and the avoidant attachment style. This week's caller, Mike, would like guidance on how to be more open-hearted and vulnerable in his intimate relationships. This session will be of service to those who have an avoidant style and for those who attract Avoidants. We discuss how to understand them and how not to take their actions personally. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode313] Anything is healable. It doesn't matter what is in your background, childhood, or past. I've seen it over and over again. Does it happen overnight? No. Is it always easy? No. Is it going to change overnight? Healable doesn't mean we go from having an avoidant attachment style to being totally open-hearted, totally secure, and never having triggers. Healing is not being perfect, not being free of any triggers but really learning how to work with those triggers, manage those triggers, so that they don't become roadblocks in our life. Triggers can be alarm systems for growth and not a dead end. Awareness is not enough to heal. People with an avoidant attachment style are not trying to avoid being close or being in love. They are trying to avoid rejection, hurt, and pain. When we are with an Avoidant, and they pull away or put walls up, it can make us feel as if we have done something wrong. But, we cannot take it personally. If you are with an Avoidant, the best thing you can do when they are triggered is don't attack them, don't tell them they are doing anything wrong, then reassure them that you are there and you love them. On September 14th, Christine and Stefanos will teach a virtual group call at 5 pm PST. Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8‒10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild. Mike's Question: Mike would like guidance on how to be more open-minded and open-hearted when approaching his relationships. Mike's Key Insights and Ahas: His marriage of 12 years recently ended. He emotionally shut down in his relationships. He has an insecure attachment style. Fear of rejection keeps him from being vulnerable. He was not loved for being himself as a child. He is self-aware. He feels as if his personal development work has stalled. He does not want to repeat the mistakes of his past. He is ready to date again. He has high standards. He puts walls up to protect himself. He struggles to be vulnerable. He feels he can apply the practical guidance. How to Get Over It and On With It: Acknowledge himself for the personal development work he is doing. Start dating again. Lean into vulnerability. Accept himself for who he is. Have compassion for himself and his fear. It is okay to be scared. Takeaways: On the field is the best way to get good at a game. We cannot run from hurt. We have to expose ourselves to triggers so we can integrate and deal with hurt and fear. Sponsor: SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

The feeling of being in love is the best. Not to mention the blissful feeling of certainty when we feel like you've met "the one" (finally!). You start fantasizing about the future and are convinced that the other person is on the same page you are. And then it ends. And you are not only heartbroken, but shocked because it seemed so right and you don't understand what went wrong. I know that is not comforting if you are in the pain of a break-up, but understanding why the one you thought was going to be forever ended may offer you some relief. This Coaches Corner will help!

This episode is about stepping into your purpose and fulfilling your dreams. This week's caller, Mike, thinks his problem is complex, but it's not. His constant search of products and materials leads him to believe his next steps need to come from outside of himself. We discuss how he may be stalling by continuing to do research instead of listening to his internal inspiration and moving forward. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode312] Dreams or anything we long for; the dreams we feel in our heart are different from the kinds of dreams we hope will make us feel better about ourselves, or fill a void. Those are ego-based desires. But, listening inside to hear our heartfelt dreams is part of our psychic ability. And, we are all a little psychic or intuitive. We don't long for something if we don't feel that it is coming. If we have a premonition, on some level our dreams are already coming to fruition. We cannot control the exact timing of it. If we feel it and we want it, it may take a week or ten years because it takes time for dreams to evolve. What stalls a lot of people from really stepping into sharing their gift, or serving people in a greater way, is they think they have to be perfect. To achieve our dreams, we just need to be honest, vulnerable, and committed, not perfect. We have all the answers inside; we just need to take time to question ourselves and answer. Consider/Ask Yourself What heartfelt dreams are calling you forward? Do you have a sense of what you want to do but are not taking action? Do you start a lot of projects but do not follow them through to completion? Are you waiting for some kind of answer or sign from the universe to make a decision? Mike's Question: Mike has a dream of becoming an entrepreneur but he lacks confidence in his decision-making process. He would like to break the cycle of never moving forward. Mike's Key Insights and Ahas: He wants to be an entrepreneur. He put his dream on hold when his daughter was born. He is always looking for the next big thing. He gets easily redirected. He lacks confidence in his decision-making process. He is a Preacher and motivator. He is good at inspiring others. He wants to make a difference in other people's lives. He is in a cycle of frustration. How to Get Over It and On With It: Let his inspiration drive his next steps. Let God use him as an instrument. Write his life experience resume. Meditate and recognize his unique gifts. Start with his big vision and work backward. Takeaways: Write a life experience resume. Re-orient towards an internal direction. Listen to your own inner wisdom. Try it for thirty days. Answer these questions: Who am I here to serve? What can I offer? How can I deliver it? Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you ever compare yourself to anyone else, this episode is for you! Learn the difference between healthy and toxic comparison and how to form closer connections when comparison is gone. Melissa Ambrosini is the bestselling author of Comparisonitis, Mastering Your Mean Girl, Open Wide, and the Audible Original PurposeFULL as well as the winner of 'The Best eBooks Of All Time' as voted by Book Depository. Melissa is the host of #1 rated podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show, where she shares her wisdom and interviews with the biggest thought leaders and experts in the world to help her audience unlock their full potential and live their dream life. When Melissa isn't writing books and recording her podcast she is speaking on stages, teaching and creating online programs, meditations and life changing live events. With a deep commitment to empowering others to become the best version of themselves, Melissa believes that awakening is possible for everyone. She strives to inspire others to reclaim their power, step into their truth, live with intention, and move in the direction of their dreams.

This episode is about making empowered decisions and changes with integrity. Today's caller, Anne, is questioning whether or not she should leave her 25-year marriage. She feels she has tried to communicate her needs. We work through how she is communicating and whether or not she is being vulnerable enough to make an empowered decision. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode311] Often, in masculine-feminine dynamics, it requires the feminine dropping into a deep vulnerability with no victim, no blame, no anger, no reason, just an open, heart-baring, soul truth that ignites the masculine to look within so it can open up. When we are too much in hopelessness-helpless, when we are too much in victim, the only answer seems to be to get out of a situation because we don't feel empowered. One of the ways we get empowered is to look at our side of things and then we communicate vulnerably, because we are not empowered when we communicate emotionally, reactively, or with blame or neediness. And remember, vulnerability is different than a victimy emotional reaction. It has a different frequency and people can hear us when we are vulnerable. They can't hear us when we are emotional or blaming them. It puts their defenses up. They can't hear the truth and intimacy of what we are saying when they are defensive. Consider/Ask Yourself Are you torn about what to do in a relationship? Do you want to stay? Do you want to go? Do you tend to look at what someone else is doing wrong and all the ways that they're not meeting your needs and maybe don't look quite enough at how you're perpetuating it? Are you aware of what your needs are? Are you good at communicating your needs? Do you feel in your gut that you just want to do something but you just can't take the action? Anne's Question: Anne is struggling with the decision to stay in her marriage. Anne's Key Insights and Ahas: She has been married for 25 years and has four children with her husband. She feels she and her husband have grown apart. Her husband says he wants to make the marriage work. Her husband's job and commitments took a lot of his time. She asked him to take more time with her and the children. She collected evidence of the ways he wasn't showing up for the marriage. She doesn't know if she still loves him. Fear may be driving her choice. There is some part of her that may be shut down. She wants to be loved by him. How to Get Over It and On With It: Continue to have vulnerable conversations with her husband. Drop into her feminine vulnerability. Consider where she may have walls up around her heart. Use "I" language, not "you" language. Write out her fears, desires, and insecurities and read them to her husband. Takeaways: If there is something you are looking at that you think is wrong and you just need to get out, consider where the decision is coming from. Are you empowered? Have you been vulnerable? Have you looked inside yourself to see if you are mad or blaming? Do you feel like a victim and feel like the only decision is to leave? Sponsor: Organifi — has organic superfood blends that offer trusted plant-based nutrition. They are convenient and delicious. Many of us have the time or means to get the natural, fresh, organic vegetables we need. Upgrade your nutrition every single day with Organifi Gold, Organifi Vitamin C packs, or Green or Red Juice. For 20% off your order, go to Organifi.com/overit and use the code "OVERIT" at checkout to receive 20% off all products. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Brandy Gillmore, PhD in natural medicine, is a world-renowned mind/body energy expert who is well known for her discoveries in self-healing and working with the power of the mind to get tangible results. Her breakthrough work has been featured in an award-winning documentary and various docuseries. Brandy speaks on stages around the world and has also given a mind-expanding TEDx talk. Brandy's expertise in self-healing originated from her own devastating accident that left her disabled and living in excruciating pain despite being on multiple medications, including morphine. When doctors told Brandy there was nothing they could do, she became determined to find a solution. After years of trial and error, she was able to make incredible discoveries with the mind that ultimately enabled her to heal herself. Today she uses these same discoveries to help others also get radical life-changing results. Today, Brandy works with top celebrities, Olympic athletes, CEOs, entrepreneurs, and groups worldwide sharing her leading-edge discoveries. Her goal is to help advance traditional research to bridge the gap between science and spirituality. You can register for her free video event "Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind for Positivity, Healing & Successful Manifestation" here: https://christinehassler.com/reprogram

This episode is about taking the time to explore life and relationships. Today's caller, Marley, is putting a lot of pressure on her current relationship. She future-forecasts instead of considering what the relationship may be able to teach her. We delve into how she can be curious, explore, and take the pressure off. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode310] Often, we go into relationships wondering if the other person is the one, so much so that we miss out on what we can learn from the other person. It is important to let your early relationships be a discovery process and explore instead of collecting evidence about what may be wrong with the other person if they are THE one, or how to make every relationship the relationship of your dreams. Every relationship is a growth opportunity. It is a misstep to base relationships on their longevity potential. Many times, we get into a relationship, and right out of the gate, we put pressure on it by wondering if the other person could be the one to marry or have children with instead of considering what the other person can teach us, what mirror they may be holding up, what parental patterns, wounds, or issues are they triggering? What could you be attracted to that is also a healing opportunity? Enjoy where you are. Be curious, explore, and take the pressure off. Have you listened to my Coaches Corner episodes recently? Check out Byron Katie on — Loving What Is. Consider/Ask Yourself When you are in a new relationship do you jump to — Is this the one? — and start to analyze it all out? Did you grow up in a home where there wasn't a lot of emotional availability and you panic when you don't have that in a partnership or friendship? Do you spend a lot of time trying to figure things out and not enough time creating and exploring and allowing things just to be? Are you more caught up in judging and changing someone else than looking at how you can meet your own needs? Marley's Question: Marley is struggling with her ability to let little things go and accept her partner for where he is. Marley's Key Insights and Ahas: She is aware and open with her emotions. Her boyfriend may not understand himself emotionally. She is an old soul and emotionally mature. She is putting a lot of pressure on the relationship. She and her boyfriend had an intense connection immediately. There was inconsistency in her childhood. She believed she had to fix her family. She feels pressure to be in a relationship. Her boyfriend is committed to her. She feels intimidated by his commitment. She feels she is one-foot-in and one-foot-out of the relationship at all times. She is collecting evidence against her boyfriend. She doesn't feel heard or seen by her boyfriend at times. How to Get Over It and On With It: Explore herself within her relationship. Stop overthinking, or overanalyzing her relationship. Be curious about her relationship instead of managing it. Communicate her needs in an empowered way. Approach her boyfriend from a vulnerable place. Takeaways: Read or reread 20 Something, 20 Everything, and 20 Something Manifesto. Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I am thrilled to Byron Katie whom I respect and adore so much on the show this week! In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning in a state of joy. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn't suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of self-inquiry, which she calls The Work, consists of four questions and the turnaround, which is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe. Katie has been bringing The Work to millions of people for more than thirty years. Her public events, weekend workshops, intensives, and nine-day School for The Work have brought freedom to people all over the world. Her books include the bestselling Loving What Is, I Need Your Love—Is That True?, A Thousand Names for Joy, and A Mind at Home with Itself. For more information, visit thework.com. Here is a to the worksheets we discussed: https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/

This episode is about discerning between the patterns we can change and which are a part of us. Today's caller, Bree, has patterns coming up when it comes to dating and finding a partner. We discuss how she can bring forth different, more feminine, parts of herself in place of her patterns. When it comes to dating, we get far more accurate information from our bodies, heart, and intuition than we do from evaluation. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode309] At the beginning of dating, there is so much uncertainty. We don't really know the person and we don't know where the relationship will go. There is a lot of excitement, but there is also a lot of uncertainty. Uncertainty can be triggering for some, especially if they had instability in their childhood. Part of how the mind and psyche try to get certainty or control is through evaluation, analysis, and by trying to see into the future. We all have an operating system. A lot of it gets programmed by our childhood, our life, our beliefs, and everything that happens in our environment and society. Then, there is just how we're wired, our personality, our soul journey, etc. It is more important to learn to live with our wiring and find the gift within it than it is to change it. Some things about ourselves are appropriate to change and heal but there are some things that it is best to just accept. Learning to inspire a different part of ourselves in certain situations may be the key to getting what we need. Join me August 18, 2021, at 5 p.m. Pacific for another group coaching call. This call will focus on all things inner child. The cost is only $20 and if you cannot make it live, it will be recorded. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to sign up. Have you listened to my Coaches Corner episodes recently? Check out Dr. Richard Schwatrz doing parts work with me here — Internal Family Systems. Consider/Ask Yourself Do you notice that sometimes when you're in an unfamiliar situation you do things like ask a question to go to places in your head to try to get some kind of control? Did you grow up feeling safe in a stable household? If you are female and you orientate to being a heterosexual female when it comes to dating do you feel like you can really slip into your feminine energy? Or, if you're in a job that requires you to be in your masculine energy is it difficult for you to make the transition? Are you trying to change things about yourself that are part of your wiring? Bree's Question: Bree feels she is ready for a long-term relationship and would like the tools to assist her in minimizing her projections when dating. Bree's Key Insights and Ahas: She is ready to find a long-term partner. She is looking for someone who appreciates a rural lifestyle. She had a volatile and unstable childhood. Her parents were emotionally unavailable. Her little girl is looking for the stability she never had. She sees the pattern of her previous relationships. She felt judged and would like the freedom to be herself. She uses evaluation as a skill in her job. She is a professional photographer and previously a dance instructor. How to Get Over It and On With It: Get out of her head and into her heart. Help her little girl feel safe. Limit her evaluations and increase her curiosity and magnetism in dating. Create a physical anchor and write a letter to celebrate her evaluator self. Be aware her masculine part is hyper-developed. Discover things that drop her into her feminine energy. Move her body in a feminine way daily. Takeaways: Look at the patterns in your life without making them wrong or bad and determine how much of them are how you are wired. Learn what parts of yourself that need to step back and which need to come forward. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.