Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

This coaching call is about honoring yourself and another person by completing an unhealthy dynamic. Jade & Matthew both join this couple's session to ask Christine for guidance about where to go in their current relationship. If you are going through a relationship breakup or if it is time to end a relationship, this episode is valuable especially if there is wounding playing out in your relationship. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode411]. One of the ways that we suffer most in relationship is thinking that our love will change someone. But, the opportunity to truly heal and step into their greatest potential is up to that person. Oftentimes, coming together in relationship does help someone step into their fullest potential, but there's a caveat: they have to do it. They have to want it and it has to happen quickly. If you're in a relationship where it has been years of the other person going back to their old patterns, then you are in the cycle of them apologizing and feeling awful and you taking them back thinking things will be different. They are going to do their work and then something else happens but you see their little boy or little girl, and you love them, and this time was different and they're really doing the work, and they're seeing the counselor, but then they do it again. It's just a loop. I encourage you to choose you, to love you. They need to do their healing on their own. Making the choice to end, or complete, an unhealthy dynamic to heal individually is a gift we give to the other person. When we trust love and truth it always gets us to where we want to go. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you an enabler or are you addicted to someone else enabling you? Do you tend to be a little codependent or a lot codependent in relationships? Do you know that you love someone so much but no matter how much you love them it's up to them to change? Are you feeling that it is time for a conscious uncoupling in your relationship? Jade & Matthew's Question: Jade & Matthew ask for guidance about how best to heal themselves. Jade & Matthew's Key Insights and Ahas: Matthew feels relieved. They separated after he returned from his travels. Matthew shared his shadows with Jade. Matthew became aware that he seeks validation from other women. Matthew will do inner child work via therapy. Jade believes it is best for them to not have contact while they are healing. Jade needs to see Matthew needs to love himself. Matthew wants Jade to be in his life because he feels a soul-level connection to her. How to Get Over It and On With It: Have no contact with each other for one year so they can heal themselves. Use the sentence starters Christine gave them to journal about their feelings. Jade needs time alone and for Matthew to respect that. Take the opportunity to learn what healthy, mature love is. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance, calming device that when synchronized with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and improving well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions to tone the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I'm answering another question from a listener this week! She asked me to expand upon a phrase I've used in the show: leaky sexual energy. In this episode I'll describe what leaky sexual energy is, where it comes from, how to recognize it, how it impacts

This coaching call is about when our childhood wounding is triggered by a child. Lorena feels she has a parenting blind spot when it comes to her relationship with one of her stepchildren. She would like guidance on how to be a better stepmom and how to respond rather than react when she is triggered. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode410] There are different blessings that go along with being a stepparent. But, in general, parenting can be hard. You can love a child so much but still get frustrated and triggered and then feel guilty about it. Understanding that we are human and we get triggered goes a long way. Parenting is a spiritual practice. For these little beings that choose us, either as parents or step-parents, we have a soul contract. And, relationships and parenting are some of the biggest ways we evolve as humans. With that said, we tend to reject people and behavior that reminds us of our wounded parts. We can have an ick factor towards it or them because we carry internal judgment and have self-protection mechanisms in place. It is much easier to love someone who doesn't share the same wounding. When we are triggered, pausing and taking the time to regulate our nervous system allows us to be in the moment and respond to children, not from the viewpoint of our inner child, but as the adults we've become. Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you ever feel rejected or neglected as a child? Did you want more nurturing and love? Do you have a child or a stepchild that you just don't connect to and it bothers you, and you feel guilty because you don't like being around that child as much as you do your other children? Are you committed to being a better parent both to yourself and your inner child and your child or children? Lorena's Question: Lorena feels she has a blind spot in her relationship with her stepchild and is asking for guidance about building a better relationship. Lorena's Key Insights and Ahas: She has been a stepmother since 2016. Her stepchild struggles with emotional regulation. She has a baby and two stepchildren. There may not have been an original mother/child bond in her stepchild's life. She doesn't want to be around her stepchild. She feels invaded and resents the extra effort it takes to nurture her stepchild. Her father was an alcoholic and made inappropriate requests of her. Her stepchildren are there 50% of the time. Her husband looks to her to be a mature stepparent. She beats herself up for her feelings toward her stepchild. She didn't get loving attention from her mother. How to Get Over It and On With It: Tell her inner child that her father's care wasn't her responsibility. Accept that her stepchild is a trigger for her. Try seeing herself in her stepchild. Pause, take a deep breath, and say — I love you, and I got you — when triggered to regulate her nervous system. Do not underestimate what a nine-year-old can talk about. Get in alignment with her husband about her stepparenting. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when synchronized with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and improving well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions to tone the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Let's talk about sex and shame and desire and pleasure! Emily Morse joins me to dive into why our sex life is so important and how to up our Sex IQ. Emily is the host of Sex with Emily, the #1 podcast on sex and relationships. She received a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institutefor the Advancement of Human Sexuality. She is a regular guest on The Today Show and The Doctors and a go-tosource on sexuality for Cosmopolitan, Bustle, and Harper'sBazaar. She has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes,and Men's Health. You can learn more here: https://sexwithemily.com/

This call is about deciding whether or not to rekindle a relationship after experiencing infidelity or betrayal. Today's call was originally intended to be a couples session with Jade and Matthew. But, Jade has decided to exclude Matthew from the call. She describes why she made the decision. Some people can work through infidelity and have it strengthen their relationship. Other people need a clean break. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode409] What can happen when we are working through trust issues and articulating our needs is that when we get to a point where we are triggered, we throw up a barrier rather than a boundary. When we are a person who hasn't been great at boundaries in life, what can happen when we're pushed to an edge is we can just throw up a wall. Anytime we cheat, there's a part of us that's scared of intimacy with the person that we're with. There are a lot of other reasons but it's like we're afraid to go deep with the person we're with. There can be a pattern of not being able to be fully intimate and fully vulnerable in relationships. Most things that happen to us that aren't necessarily what we want to happen are on some level due to our soul calling in a situation to help us heal something that isn't optimal inside of us. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you often not hold boundaries to the extent of when you're pushed to an edge a wall and barrier comes up? Have you tried to forgive someone and tried to heal through relationships but you just keep getting hurt? Do you have a hard time trusting? Do you beat yourself up when you've been hurt because you think you should have seen it coming? Jade's Key Insights and Ahas: She found it difficult to trust Matthew as he traveled. She felt like he was hiding information from her. She has decided that she can't be in the relationship any longer. She felt energetically that things were off. She wants a healthy relationship in the future. She has questioned her truth when it comes to Matthew. She needs transparency in her relationships. She has a pattern of not being fully vulnerable and intimate in relationships. She thought she would feel enough if someone changed for her. She felt this relationship will help her heal from her previous relationship. She wishes her mom was emotionally supportive and less reactive. How to Get Over It and On With It: Examine her trust issues and why she continues to be in relationships with people she doesn't trust. Forgive Matthew without continuing the relationship with him. Create emotional safety for herself. Don't waste her time thinking she "should" have known sooner. Trust herself and give herself time to grieve without beating herself up. Get clear about her boundaries in a relationship and write them out. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on their full suite of products by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Anger. We all feel it at some point or another. It's a natural human emotion and expression. However the way we deal with our anger often is very unnatural. We suppress it, numb it, try to escape it or let it consume us so much so that it can make us sick and/or ruin our relationships. In this episode I talk about how to release anger in a healthy way and walk you through the process of writing an f*** you letter.

This call is about deciding whether or not to rekindle a relationship after experiencing infidelity or betrayal. Today's caller, Matthew, has childhood trauma that is affecting his adult behaviors. He wants to continue his relationship with Jade but struggles with self-worth and trust. This is the second of three conversations. In next week's call, Christine speaks with Matthew and Jade during the couple's session. Listen to Part One with Jade. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode408] Most of the time people don't act out intentionally to hurt other people, they're acting out because they're asking for help, even if it doesn't seem like it. When we have chronic trauma it is very hard for us to be aware of how it is affecting our behavior. When we look at behavior, especially something like unfaithfulness or cheating, if we just look at the behavior we can get angry. Angry at ourselves and angry at the person. We may call it unforgivable, and maybe it is. But when we look at what is underneath the behavior, what's really driving the behavior, it can give us a different perspective and move us into compassion and ultimately forgiveness. Compassion and forgiveness offer hope that a relationship can be healed. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who are ready to let go of their limiting beliefs. For a nurturing self-care experience join like-minded women from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. Apply by July 10th to get the early bird discount. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle with self-worth issues? Have you ever been unfaithful or have you been in a relationship where someone has betrayed you, lied to you, or been unfaithful to you? Did you grow up in a home where there was abuse and chaos and you never really felt worthy or loved or safe? Are you on a personal discovery journey and you're clear that you're changing things but the people around you may not believe you and that can be frustrating? Matthew's Question: Matthew struggles with self-worth and trust issues. He would like guidance on how to find internal validation and create a safe space for Jade. Matthew's Key Insights and Ahas: He lied, manipulated, and cheated during the relationship but, that's not who he wants to be. He feels Jade is having trouble trusting him again. He has trouble trusting Jade. He wants to heal his past traumas. He wants to feel loved, cared for, trusted, and secure in his relationship. He feels his needs can be met. He is on a self-discovery journey. He has always felt he was insignificant and had to fight for love. He has witnessed infidelity and abuse in his life. He is working on forgiving himself. He seeks external validation, mostly from women. He is seeking out ways to bring joy into his life. He is becoming aware of the energy he shares with women. He has an anxious attachment style in his relationships. He is in awe of who Jade is and sees potential in their relationship. He loves Jade but he feels he is under attack. How to Get Over It and On With It: Find ways to feel expressed, worthy, and validated. Discover what being a man means to him. Talk to an outside resource about his childhood wounding. Breathe deeply to calm himself when he feels defensive. Have compassion for himself and the things he feels shame about. Assignment: Write out the agreements he needs to make in the new version of this relationship. Write down the needs he would like to have met in a relationship. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Dr. Will Cole, health advisor to Gwyneth Paltrow, top functional medicine practitioner, and New York Times bestselling author has dedicated his career to teaching people to apply skepticism to nutritional trends and instead, pay closer attention to their own intuition. His new book, GUT FEELINGS, demystifies the gut-brain connection and provides a framework to repair the relationship between what you eat and how you feel. After over a decade as a functional medicine expert, Dr. Cole discerned that shame can cause gut inflammation and sabotage wellness through what he's named "Shameflammation." When you send signals to your brain that you are overwhelmed, overworked, or overtired, your body reacts. Shameflammation can be the cause of chronic health conditions such as autoimmune disorders, depression, IBS, and more.

This call is about deciding whether or not to rekindle a relationship after experiencing infidelity or betrayal. Today's caller, Jade, has recently been brought back together with someone she loves but whom she left because he betrayed her. This session is the first of three conversations. In next week's call, Christine speaks with Jade's partner. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode407] When we are betrayed and we are cheated on, of course, we feel anger and hurt, it was an awful thing to have happened, and we get to be mad and angry at the other person. But if we hold on to those things for too long then we're the ones who continue to hurt ourselves. For many people, infidelity or any kind of betrayal is a deal breaker and sometimes it's not. Sometimes there are so many other things leading up to the betrayal or infidelity that, of course, do not excuse it, but also contribute to why there might be an opening for forgiveness and an opportunity to rebuild the relationship from a fresh start. When it comes to infidelity or betrayal, it's not a black-and-white topic. Forgiveness is a process; it doesn't happen overnight and it is not something we can do just with our mind. We need to do it with our hearts and our somatic body. We need to move through those emotions of anger, sadness, hurt, and shame to get to a place of — "How do I really feel about this situation, and is my heart open to repair?" Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you ever been unfaithful in a relationship or have you been cheated on? What do you define as betrayal? Have you gotten clear inside your mind, inside your heart, and with your partner on what is a betrayal and what the agreements are in your relationship? If you have let someone back into your life after betrayal, have you been able to trust again or have you always been looking over your shoulder? Have you always lived with a sense of really not getting your needs met? Jade's Question: Jade is having trouble navigating trust in a rekindled relationship that ended through betrayal and infidelity. She would like guidance on how to move past the betrayal to build a new relationship. Jade's Key Insights and Ahas: After one year, her relationship ended with betrayal. Both she and her partner are doing work to rekindle the relationship. She is doing inner work to recognize when she is triggered. She loves her partner and recognizes the humanness in the betrayal. She fears self-betrayal by letting him back into her life. She knows letting him back into her life will be challenging. She doesn't know if she can ever trust him again. There was dishonesty in her past relationships. She felt not enough in her childhood home and didn't feel safe. Her mother did not validate or reassure her. She hasn't felt safe in her relationships. She is hyper-vigilant. She is leaning into the discomfort of the situation. How to Get Over It and On With It: Put prevention plans and agreements in place to start with a blank slate to create safety for herself in the relationship. Know that whatever happens, she is going to be okay. Find a place to process her feelings with someone else besides her partner. Do not worry about other people's guilt and shame. Release her fear and regulate her nervous system. Assignment: Write about trust and what it means to her. Write out the agreements that need to be made to move forward in the relationship. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrasound resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and improving well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions to tone the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Jenny Eversole is the founder of Stylespace.com a virtual styling platform to elevate your style with expert stylists. After nearly a decade running her own fashion label, she learned how personal style can make a big difference in one's confidence, happiness and overall success. Jenny founded Style Space for people to discover their best style and to look, feel, and BE their best.

This call is about setting boundaries and taking care of your own needs. Today's caller, Caitlyn, has an expectation hangover about her engagement planning process. She is excited about her wedding, but her family and friends don't seem to be. We cover a lot of ground and we go really deep in this episode. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode406] Being a caretaker can be a survival skill. Survival needs can be the need to feel loved, valued, and like we belong. When one of our patterns is tied to those needs, it can be hard to release. Consciously, we may know it's not healthy for us to be a caretaker and that we should set boundaries but unconsciously, there may be a part of us that wonders who will love us and how we will fit into your family if we stop caretaking others. When our bodies are working hard to hold all of our suppressed emotions together it needs another outlet for release. Our third chakra, our energy center, is tied to personal empowerment. If we don't have boundaries and allow other people to suck our energy, things will shift within the body to compensate. We can manifest a physical ailment when keeping emotional issues bottled up or by not feeling empowered. Join in for the live group coaching call on June 22, 2003, at 5 pm PST / 8 pm EST on self-love. It's only $20 and you will get live access or if you can't make it live, it will be recorded and mailed to you so you can listen at any time. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to save your seat. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there a current expectation hangover upsetting you and reminding you of something that happened in the past? Do you relate to being a caretaker in your life? Are you afraid to stop taking care of others because you fear losing love or validation? Is it challenging for you to set boundaries? Do you say yes to things when you really mean no? Do you over-compromise and sacrifice your own needs because it is easier than upsetting people? Is there a prolonged physical condition you are dealing with that cannot be resolved? Caitlyn's Question: Caitlyn wants to know why she is having so many expectation hangovers while she is planning her wedding. Caitlyn's Key Insights and Ahas: She wants more support from friends and family about her wedding. She is trying to get out of the caretaker role in her family. She has always been a planner. She feels tired, disappointed, and hurt during the wedding planning process. She stepped into the caretaker role in her family as a teenager. She was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis at thirteen. She taught people how to treat her. She is manifesting her physical condition. She gives away her power by always taking care of others. She puts herself last. Emotions were not expressed in her family. Her sister is also planning a wedding. How to Get Over It and On With It: Put herself first and not worry about other people's upset. Allow herself to feel her emotions. Connect and talk to her younger self. Say thank you to her illness for sending her a message. Start writing from her heart with release writing. Have self-compassion and know it is okay to be seen. Talk to her sister about the things that matter to her. Forgive herself for buying into the understanding that being a caretaker is a way to get love. Takeaways: If you are dealing with any type of expectation hangover, go back in time and ask yourself, "What does this remind me of?" Do the "empty chair" process at home. Let things go through journaling and release writing. Set and stand by your boundaries with people and let them be upset. Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters plus the water tastes fantastic. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any purifier. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Meet Mark Groves: Human Connection Specialist, founder of Create the Love and Mine'd and host of the Mark Groves Podcast. In other words, he's a speaker, writer, motivator, creator and collaborator. Mark's work bridges the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the beautiful sides of connection.His purpose? To empower individuals to step into their power, transform the way they relate to themselves and others, and create authentic change for a life + love they'll look back on with a resounding "f*ck yes! Learn more: https://createthelove.com/

This episode is about leaning into femininity and recognizing self-worth. Today's caller, Lana, has childhood wounding that makes her wish she looked a different way. She would like guidance on how to be more feminine, have a healthier body image, and stop feeling jealous. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode405] Many women have mothers who did not have a healthy body image. And, often as children, we take that on. But, there is so much more than how we look. If we focus on how we look and compare ourselves to other people, we miss out on the incredible gifts that we are here to enjoy in this lifetime. We are constantly being programmed with what is "beautiful." We all have different ways in which the feminine expresses through us. It is essential for us to change the way society frames beauty for the future, for women, and for little girls. It is changing, but we have a long way to go. And, jealousy is a waste of energy. It is often a positive projection. When we look at someone who is "attractive," what we are really seeing is their confidence or the way they feel comfortable in their body. The next time you feel jealous, think about how you would rather be using that valuable, precious energy. Because jealousy kills our self-worth, sense of spirit, femininity, and relationships. It is no one else's job to make us feel secure in a relationship. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. There is still time to get the early bird discount. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode to find out what happens during the retreat ChristineHassler.com/2022/08/coaches-corner-346. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you deal with jealousy? Do you think that if you looked differently that your life would be better? Did you grow up with a mother or a parent who didn't have a good body image and they passed that on to you? Do you know what being in your feminine and femininity means? Lana's Question: Lana would like tools to boost her body image and overcome jealous feelings in her relationship. Lana's Key Insights and Ahas: She deals with extreme jealousy but trusts her boyfriend. She has been in her current relationship for five years. She has low self-confidence. She doesn't feel feminine. She compares herself with other people. She's been hurt by relationships from her youth. Her mother didn't have a healthy body image. She is focused on looking a certain way. She is creative, loving, and has a big heart. Her soul wants acceptance for who she is. She puts a lot of energy into thinking she should look different. She wants to enjoy her life. How to Get Over It and On With It: Be compassionate with her feelings when she is triggered. Begin studying what it means to be in her feminine power. Instead of using her energy on jealousy and comparison, use it to enhance her creativity and joy. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on their full suite of products by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My friend and co-founder of Elementum Coaching Institute Alexi Panos joins me to talk all about the coaching industry. We cover why it's a GREAT time to be a coach, how to get over imposter syndrome, what makes an impactful and profitable coach, the "dark side" of the coaching industry and so much more. We also dive into why we founded Elementum and what makes this program so unique. Learn more here: https://elementumcoachinginstitute.com/

This episode is about embracing our gifts and making a living. Today's caller, Janelle, has lost the motivation to make a living by expressing her gifts. She would like guidance on how to reignite her drive. Christine offers her practical tips about shifting her limiting beliefs about money, and separating her survival needs from what brings her joy. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode404] Our gifts do not have to translate into a career. Our gifts are there for us to enjoy them. They don't necessarily have to be the thing that makes us money. It is completely possible to have a job you like that isn't your passion. We all have gifts and some of them translate into a lucrative career and sometimes they don't. Give yourself permission to explore your gifts without the pressure of needing to make money at it. Many people feel like a failure if they can not make a sustainable income doing what they love but as long as they are expressing what they love there is no failure. It's important not to marry gifts and purpose with survival. At some point in our lives, we are asked to look at what we have done to meet our survival needs and consider what we have to do to be more strategic. When we have a "Watch, I'll show you" energy, it can push us but it doesn't generate a lot of safety and abundance because we are constantly pulled back by our old beliefs. A caterpillar works hard to become a butterfly. It's a metamorphosis that needs to happen. It completely transforms and transmutes things. When we are in the chrysalis moments, we need to ask ourselves what needs to transform. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. There is still time to get the early bird discount. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode to find out what happens during the retreat ChristineHassler.com/2022/08/coaches-corner-346. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you doing something you love but not making the kind of money you love? Do you think you can make money and have enough to live doing what you love? Were your creativity, expression, and natural gifts encouraged as a child? Or, were you told you could never make a living at it? Do you have a good relationship with money? Janelle's Question: Janelle has lost her motivation to continue her dancing career and is looking for guidance on how to make a living following her passion. Janelle's Key Insights and Ahas: She knows her spiritual purpose. She is at a crossroads. She no longer feels excited about her career or art form. She is a professional dancer and actor. She expected to be more financially secure by now. The pandemic shifted her momentum. She is adaptable and independent. She was told being an artist would be a struggle. She was driven to succeed to prove to others that she could. She has completed the personal mastery course. She feels called back to her passion and desire. She has the tools but doesn't know how to use them. How to Get Over It and On With It: Shift her limiting beliefs about money. Do the "temper tantrum" technique and give her little girl a voice. Strategically consider her next steps and where she wants to go. Takeaways: Check out these Coaches Corner episodes with Jade Luna & Kate Northrup. Consider where you are. Is it time to take some risks and share your gifts with the world? Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Get ready for a great conversation about where we have been and where we are headed collectively with Jade Luna. Jade is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format. Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia. Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations world wide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high level practice for over 18 years.

This episode is about taking risks or making changes when you don't feel safe or secure on some level. Today's caller, Julie, feels stressed about making money because she is not doing something she is passionate about. Christine offers her guidance on how to shift her perspective into making an intentional transition. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode403] One of my pet peeves of the personal development industry is the implied pressure to just make changes, take leaps, or have courage. And, while it is important to be able to make changes and to be able to take leaps, when you feel not safe on some level, it is going to be challenging. It's always a blend of not staying in something that is familiar and "safe" but not what you want to be doing for so long that you get accustomed to feeling safe but not feeling alive, Not really feeling like you're doing what you're passionate about. Because the years will go by and your dream will quickly fade. However, you don't want to just drop everything and make a drastic change when you don't feel safe. When it comes to safety, we are humans who have basic needs. We have the need for love. We have the need for feeling that our physical needs are met also. There is a part of us that if we're not doing what we love or what we really desire, it can be difficult to make money at it because if we're really being called to something else, and we're not listening to it, often we'll have a sabotaging part that will come up. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. There is still time to get the early bird discount. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode to find out what happens during the retreat ChristineHassler.com/2022/08/coaches-corner-346. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a people-pleaser and make decisions based on what you think other people want from you versus what you truly want from yourself? Are you making choices or doing things that are breeding resentment, maybe in your marriage, a friendship, in business, or with your parents? Do you feel unsafe and unstable in some way and you are doing something just for the money? Do you want to make a change but you feel like you just can't because you're not financially "stable" enough? Julie's Question: Julie is looking for guidance about personal finances. Julie's Key Insights and Ahas: She and her husband feel stressed about money. She is self-employed in her small business. She started working with an IFS therapist. She consumes a lot of information about her small business. She is a people-pleaser. She feels pressure from her husband to make more money. She likes helping people. She tires of doing what other people think she should do. She felt love from her parents was conditional. She judges herself for not doing what she wants to do. She has a love/hate relationship with money. How to Get Over It and On With It: Create a self-love-healing plan and an action plan. Approach her work from a different perspective. Identify where her triggers originate. Create safety in her system. Love herself through it. Check out the upcoming Women's Retreat. Takeaways: What are the steps, both internally and externally, you need to take to make an intentional transition? Get your applications in to join Christine at her Signature Retreat. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and improving well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions to tone the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Aviva Romm MD is both a midwife and a Yale trained MD and Board Certified Family Physician with specialties in Integrative Gynecology, Obstetric and Pediatrics, with a focus on women's endocrinology. She's also a world renown herbalist, and author of the textbook, Botanical Medicines for Women's Health, as well as 8 other books, including The Adrenal Thyroid Revolution and her new book, Hormone Intelligence, an instant New York Times Bestseller, which explores the impact of the world we live in on women's hormones and health, and brings us a new medicine for women that is at once holistic and natural, while being grounded in the best science and medicine have to offer. A practitioner, teacher, activist and advocate of both environmental health and women's reproductive rights and health, she has been bridging the best of traditional medicine, total health ecology, and good science for over three decades. Her podcast, articles, books, and online programs are wildly popular and successful, helping women take back their health, She practices medicine in both NY and MA, and lives in the Berkshires of Western MA. Learn more at: https://avivaromm.com/

This episode is about feeling safe in our bodies by regulating the nervous system. Today's caller, Nicole, struggles to change her body weight and feels she lacks motivation and follow-through to do so. She asks for practical tips on how to shift it and create peace and love within herself. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode402] Nervous system regulation is bringing awareness to our state of being. Meaning, are we in a state of hyperarousal or hypoarousal? Both states can be a trauma response. Trauma, simply defined, is too much, too fast, too soon, or too little for too long. Hyperarousal means we are anxious, constantly bracing ourselves, staying busy and distracted to avoid pain, or we are nervous, vigilant, and possibly aggressive. Hypoarousal means we can be depressed, or we may lack motivation. We can even go into apathy or indifference. Whether it is hyper or hypo, it means we are functioning with an unregulated nervous system. It is hard for people in an unregulated state to be present. A regulated nervous system is when we feel safe inside our body. Yet, it doesn't mean we're in a meditative state and doesn't mean we are a Zen master. For those who grew up in an unsafe or chaotic house, your baseline is not going to be regulated. You can do all the emotional processing in the world to move the trauma and do inner child work but you have to practice a nervous system reset multiple times a day. Elementum Coaching Institute is beginning its 3rd year with a comprehensive 7-month program starting in September 2023. This program is for coaches of all skill levels. Apply to become a certified coach and get a 3-month business bonus at https://elementumcoachinginstitute.com. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel busy all the time and there don't seem to be enough hours in a day? Have you been wanting to release weight but you just can't seem to let it go? Do you know the benefits of self-love and self-care but you can't seem to do them? Did you grow up in a chaotic household and you long for peace and calm in your life? Nicole's Question: She struggles with prioritizing herself, practicing self-love, and having self-worth issues. She wants to lose weight but doesn't understand why she cannot stay motivated to do so. Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas: She attended the Be the Queen program. Her father didn't value overweight people. Her mother was self-critical. She tries to eat healthily and has a gym membership. She loves being outside, dancing, and being with her dog. She is finishing her Master's degree. She finds little time to do the things she loves. Her nervous system baseline is hyper-aroused. She longed for peace and calm in her chaotic childhood home. She focuses on losing weight. She tells herself she will do the things she loves when she loses weight. She is a people-pleaser. How to Get Over It and On With It: Break the pattern of being in a hyper-aroused state. Recalibrate her nervous system with hourly breaks and resets. Check out Style Space and use the promo code Christine10. Create peace and calm in her home and body. Practice transitions and be conscious about her next move. Practice saying no to create space for herself. Takeaways: Find online content about nervous system regulation. Sponsor: StoryWorth — Looking for a meaningful Father's Day gift? Storyworth helps your loved ones feel special, unique, and connected by sharing and preserving their precious memories. For a limited time, get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/overit. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Anna Lozano is a Coach and Mentor who supports people in changing their mindset and frequency to create their deepest desires. In her coaching and advocacy work, she emphasizes the importance of leading with feminine energy in entrepreneurship. She works with female founders and CEO's, product and service based entrepreneurs, who are looking to launch and scale their businesses. Get the FREE gift of a 3 day program of "Quantum Wealth" she is offering my audience here: https://anna-lozano.mykajabi.com/offers/LhwAzZUv?coupon_code=CHRISTINEH

This episode is about getting over someone we can't seem to get over. Today's caller, Matthais, is hung up on someone he can't seem to get over but, as usual, it has to do with something much deeper. Often, it is the relationships that don't work out that teach us the most. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode401] As children, we are naturally intimate, but if our parents can't be intimate back we start to shut down. Because intimacy feels scary and unfamiliar. And, even though everyone wants to be loved, they push love away because love has hurt them in the past. So, when love comes to us we push it away because it is unfamiliar. An avoidant attachment relationship pattern is when someone loves us and we push them away. It's because love feels unfamiliar and scary. Love feels like it hurts because as children, we naturally love our parents. When we don't feel that love back from our parents in the way we as children give love, it's very disorienting and it can make us not trust love. So, when someone wants to love us, it feels unfamiliar and unsafe. Whereas, when there is someone distant and aloof with us and maybe love bombs us, it feels great in the beginning but then the great feeling fades. Or, the person will give us ultimatums we have to fulfill and make us chase them. It makes us yearn for something familiar to us, and we often confuse the feeling with love because it is familiar. When we are hung up on someone, we think we are missing them but what we are missing is something we need to embody within ourselves. When we heal our inner child, we begin to choose the love we truly desire, not a feeling that triggers us. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there someone that you've broken up with or that broke up with you but you just can't seem to let them go? Did you have a parent that wasn't there for you in the way that you truly desired? Do you relate to having an avoidant attachment style? Did you have a parent that parentified you or even made you their spouse and you didn't get to be a kid? Matthais's Question: He had a painful breakup that he can't seem to get over. He would like guidance on how to get over it and move forward. Matthais's Key Insights and Ahas: He hasn't felt emotional pain in his life before like he did with this breakup. He is having difficulty connecting with new people. He was very much in love. The breakup was abrupt. His ex triggered something deep inside of him. He has some wounding in his past about his looks. His ex said he triggered her childhood wounding. He has an avoidant attachment style. His parents divorced when he was 15 and has struggled with it for 25 years. His mother was caring but he has been the only man in his mother's life. He may be choosing partners who mirror his relationship with his father. He hasn't experienced true intimacy. He felt his dad didn't want him and his mother parentified him. He is attracted to controlling women. How to Get Over It and On With It: Discontinue any communication with his ex. Let her go. When he thinks of his ex, tell himself that it wasn't a healthy love and that real love is safe. Work on his inner child by exploring the self-guided Inner Child Workshop. Feel into self-love. Takeaways: Read the book Attached or dive into the Coaches Corner episodes on attachment styles. Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any purifier. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Emily is the founder of Ziva and has taught the Ziva Technique to over 40,000 people. Her best-selling book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon and has been translated into 12 languages. In 2021, she launched zivaKIDS, the first meditation course of its kind for kids ages 4-14. A formerly stressed Broadway performer who was going gray at 27, Emily discovered a powerful practice that cured her insomnia and improved her health on the first day. The Ziva Technique is a powerful combination of mindfulness, meditation and manifesting designed to help you get better at life, not meditation. You can join her for a FREE embodiment and manifestation event on May 17th at christinehassler.com/emily

This episode is about pausing and not deciding. Today's caller, Lydia, has been experiencing massive changes in her life over the past year. She is questioning whether or not to get married. She wants guidance about how she can relieve the pressure of making a choice and how to know what is right for her. She finds that sometimes not making a choice is the best choice. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode400] There's nothing wrong with questioning. There is always a purpose in it. When we're in a place of doubt or questioning, it's good to explore it. When there's so much change happening, it can put us in more of a fight-or-flight survival-based response and we come from the emotionally reactive part of our brain. Or it can put our priorities and our values front and center to make us question anything that is not aligned. When we are experiencing a lot of change or grief, it takes a while to find our footing. In times of transition and change, major decisions can be tricky. The part of us that likes to control and to know things, can have a hard time when we go back and forth about big decisions. If your life is steady right now; if you're not going through grief or a big change, but you are finding it difficult to make a choice, you might just be scared of change. You might just need to make a choice. But, if your life has a lot of chaos in it or there are a lot of changes and uncertainty about making another big choice, that's when you can take time to pause and let what is in alignment with you rise to the surface. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat . There is still time to get the early bird discount. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there something you're trying to decide, or choose about, like a relationship, or whether to leave a job and you just can't get clarity or, you could talk yourself into either direction? Are you grieving? Did you just lose someone that was important to you and it's clouding your ability to choose? Did you go through a breakup or a job loss where you felt a sense of rejection and your self-confidence took a hit? Do you like to control? Do you like to have answers and being in that in-between of not making a choice can be a little wobbly for you? Lydia's Question: Many things in her life are changing. She is grieving the loss of her mother and having doubts about getting married. She would like guidance on how to move forward with confidence. Lydia's Key Insights and Ahas: She is grieving the loss of her mother. She is going through a job transition. She is planning her wedding and a move. She is questioning her decision to get married. She is judging her fiance and feels guilty about it. As an adult, she had to distance herself from her mother. Her job transition left her feeling rejected. She feels resistance when she tries to make a choice. She doesn't have safety in her nervous system. She is concerned about disappointing people. How to Get Over It and On With It: Pause, give herself some grace, and wait to make a choice about her relationship. Allow herself to be in the unknown as much as possible. Work on establishing safety in her nervous system. Surrender and take off the pressure to make a choice. Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code "Overit" and get up to 35% off on selected models. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you feel like you have a lot of awareness but things in your life are not changing…it may be time for some "experiential" work. In this episode Christine and Jill about what happens at Christine's Signature Retreat to help you discern if it's right for you. More info about the retreat here: https://christinehassler.com/signatureretreat/

This episode is about going back to move forward. Today's caller, Samm, missed out on some developmental learnings in childhood. She wants to empower others but is still not sure she can fully empower herself. If you feel that you don't have clarity about something, or feel you can't take the next step forward, it might be because of past trauma. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode399] We all need to have compassion and be easier on ourselves when we miss out on things in our childhood that make parts of adulthood harder. Remember, compassion is different than scapegoating. If we blame everything on our childhood and everything is our parent's fault, that is being the victim. That is scapegoating. It's very different from compassion. Compassion is understanding that we never got to that developmental stage as a child. So, it is harder for us to do it as adults. We need to have patience and compassion with ourselves. We all need to have compassion and be easier on ourselves when we miss out on things in our childhood that make parts of adulthood harder. It's necessary for us to go back and give our inner child what they didn't have and then move forward. To expect ourselves to feel safe, to put ourselves out there, as a coach for example, when we didn't have safety as a child is like expecting a one-year-old to do algebra. It's just completely unrealistic. It is not developmentally possible. Please be kind to yourself. Look at what you did not get in childhood that may have impacted you and not from the perspective of being damaged or broken. We have the parents we have to learn what we need to learn in this lifetime. Elementum Coaching Institute is beginning its 3rd year in September 2023. Christine co-founded Elementum Coaching to assist coaches and would-be coaches with the skills needed to build their businesses. Attend the free webinar for more information on May 15, 2023. To take advantage of early bird pricing and get more information about the upcoming Coach on Fire workshop go to https://elementumcoachinginstitute.com/coach-on-fire-workshop. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you're unclear about something or do you lack clarity in some way? Did you have a childhood where you did not feel safe? Do you often feel disconnected from your own inner child? Is there something you want to do but you keep telling yourself that you're just stuck and you can't move forward? Samm's Question: Samm seeks clarity and would like guidance on how to create a safe place without feeling paralyzed to act on it. Samm's Key Insights and Ahas: She is a coach. She holds herself back when expressing herself. When she feels like putting her heart into something, she gets paralyzed and scared. Her parents were addicts. She chose a different path. She didn't feel safe as a child. She doubts she can fully support herself or others. She has been in survival mode for most of her life. She has a freeze response as part of her nervous system wiring. She feels she is not enough. As a child, she yearned to feel like she was important and that she mattered. She wanted to be held and know everything would be OK. She would like to build a group container with her clients. She wants to help empower others. She internalizes her sadness and has difficulty getting mad. How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion for where she's come from. Work with herself with patience and love. Connect with the motherly part of her. Allow herself to get angry. Recognize when she is in a trauma response and make her inner child feel safe. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good-looking clean cooking. Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off on their full suite of products, including their new food storage sets. Be sure to use OVERIT at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Natalie Lue is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. She just released a new book, The Joy of Saying No, which highlights her six-step plan to help readers find their "no" so they can create healthier boundaries and reconnect with their values and authentic self.

This episode is about healing past trauma without reliving it. Today's caller, Suzy, knows there is trauma in her past but fears she must relive it to heal it. This conversation is helpful if you know there are things in your past you haven't dealt with and don't know where to start or have fears about addressing them. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode398] When we experience trauma, we disassociate. We have to do it. It doesn't make us weak. It doesn't make us not vulnerable. And, it doesn't make us not emotionally intelligent. It is what we do to survive. We need to have compassion for our disassociation because it is a coping strategy and it's the only way we can survive trauma. There comes a time when all the dissociation starts to add up, and it may make us feel dead inside. It is important that we do not go back and relive our trauma. We can use current-day triggers to ask — What is this triggering inside me? What is this reminding me of? Then, give ourselves the permission to feel and express all the feelings we didn't get to express, state our needs, and make our requests. That is how we heal. That's how we repair not by reliving the trauma. Riding a current trigger or feeling back in time to see where we end up is one of the most useful ways to heal. It's about giving ourselves a voice, giving ourselves the freedom to express ourselves, giving ourselves compassion, and nurturing ourselves to meet the needs that didn't get met at that time. It's not about reliving our experiences. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. It is October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have trouble accessing feelings from your past? You can talk about your past but there's no emotion there. Are you finding you do have emotion in your current day situations and you don't quite know what to do with those triggers? Were you emotionally abandoned by your parents? Maybe they were physically there but they didn't really meet your emotional needs. Do you have trouble accessing your inner child? Suzy's Question: Suzy knows there are things in her past she has not dealt with but she doesn't know where to start or how to address them. Suzy's Key Insights and Ahas: She is seeing a therapist. Her past is affecting her current relationships. She feels abandoned by her husband. She feels sad and lonely. She fears reliving her past trauma. As a child, her physical needs were met but not her emotional needs. She has tried to share her feelings with her mother. She feels hopeless. She has never felt safe. She is surprised by the wise words from her inner child. She is capable of holding herself through her feelings. How to Get Over It and On With It: Commit to continue to talk with her inner child. Recognize her triggers as an opportunity to check in with her inner child. Write or send herself a message starting with "I learned…, I feel…, what I am going to do moving forward is…". Get pictures of herself from different ages and see which she connects more deeply with. Be gentle with herself as she maneuvers the healing process. Takeaways: If you are afraid to deal with your past, find a qualified practitioner. Check in with your inner child whenever you feel triggered. Come to the Signature Retreat in October. Listen to the previously recorded 3-day Inner Child Workshop. Be gentle and patient with yourself. Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code "Overit" and get up to 35% off on selected models. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My longtime friend and the #1 resource I recommend when it comes to shifting your relationship with money, Kate Northrup, joins me today for an insightful and inspiring conversation about money. As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital platform called The Origin Company that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. She's committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out. Kate teaches data and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. She's the author of Money: A Love Story and Do Less and the creator of the Do Less Planner System. Kate's work has been featured by Oprah Daily, The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women's Health, Glamour, The NY Times, Harvard Business Review, and more. She lives with her husband and their daughters in Miami. You can access her FREE workshop "Plenty" which will help you Clear Your Money Blocks and Discover True Prosperity While Positively Impacting the World here: christinehassler.com/relaxedmoney

This episode is about a conflict between what our inner child wants and what our adult self needs. Today's caller, Cindy, is in a relationship that she knows she needs to leave but she feels frozen. She is looking for guidance on how to move forward and take action. This can be applied to anything whether it is a relationship, a job, or a pattern. There are some great tidbits about why we don't shift. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode397] When we know there is an action we need to take but we just can't seem to do it we can analyze it, process it, and have awareness about it but we may still feel frozen and unable to take action. Freeze is a trauma response. It doesn't matter how much we know what we "should" do when we are in a trauma response it all gets overridden with survival patterns. Our inner child believes that we will heal a wound by being with someone similar to the person who prompted our trauma. One of the best ways that you can make a change in your life is to do something different to get out of your comfort zone but to do it with a lot of love. For empathetic or people with co-dependent threads, love bombing is like a drug. Whether someone's a diagnosed narcissist or they have narcissistic tendencies, love bombing is not about the person receiving the love bomb. It's about control. It's not love. So, choose yourself. Legitimately and authentically love yourself out of the situation. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their own consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. It is October 13-15 in San Diego, CA. Early bird pricing ends soon so to sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a situation, relationship, friendship, or work situation where you know you need to make a change but you just can't seem to do it? Do you know that some of your choices are coming from your inner child but can't seem to make different choices? Do you often let fear stop you from doing something you need to do? Are you frustrated with yourself because you know better but you just keep wondering why you're not doing better? Cindy's Question: Cindy is in a toxic marriage. She wants to end the relationship and get a divorce but she feels stuck and is not sure how to move forward. Cindy's Key Insights and Ahas: She is finding it difficult to make a decision. She struggles with shame and anger about not leaving. She feels frozen. She feels her partner and her father are similar. Her father had an undiagnosed mental problem. Her partner love bombed her at the beginning of her relationship. She knows the relationship is not good for her. She feels her partner destroyed her life. She knows she has choices to make. She is a people pleaser. She feels financially tied to the relationship. Her partner plays on her core wounds. She found it easier to get out of her first marriage. She will keep herself away from men that come with red flags. How to Get Over It and On With It: Talk to her inner child about what love truly is. Assure her inner child that she will take care of her. Attend Christine's Signature Retreat. Make a decision by May 1, 2023. Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any filter. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My friend Brooke Nichol joins me to talk about how to build a business by being great at relationships with people. Brooke is a registered nurse and the owner of Saving Face in Austin, TX. Her specialty is relationships and keeping clients looking natural and the best version of themselves. She has organically grown to two locations, becoming the most sought out feel good destination in Austin. She has an extensive background and training from world renowned plastic surgeons and experts in the field of aesthetics. She was named top 100 injector in the US in 2018. She is a national trainer for Allergan and was named top 10 lip expert in 2020. Brooke serves on Advisory Boards for Allergan and Revance. Brooke is a true entrepreneur who wears many hats. She is mama to two beautiful children, Knox (5), Miller (8). She created Post Love Skincare and will soon launch Saving Face Academy. There is much growth for Saving Face in the future and Brooke is quite certain that goodness will bring about more goodness.

This episode is about healing anxiety, unworthiness, and shame. Today's caller, Matt, recently came clean about some secrets about his past with his partner. He sabotaged his relationship but would like to date again, fully able to love and commit. Any listeners who felt instability in their childhood will benefit from this conversation. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode396] Often, the people who are most free-spirited are the adults who as children wanted stability and didn't have it. They've never known stability so they have to fall in love with freedom or fall in love with not having accountability. If you were adopted, didn't have time with your mother, or something happened, it doesn't mean you are doomed for life. Give yourself the dignity of your process. Give yourself the compassion, TLC, mothering, and nurturing you didn't receive. Having compassion for yourself and an understanding of why you are the way you are is important. Adoption is a beautiful thing. There are so many people who have had much better lives because they've been adopted versus if they had stayed with their biological parents. And people who choose to give their child up for adoption because they know another family could give them a better life are angels in so many ways. Adoption can create a beautiful life for someone. And if you do meditation, or a personal practice with the intention of fixing something, remember nothing heals in judgment. Go into modalities to feel, to heal, and to allow what is there, not try to get rid of it. Because nothing heals when we think we are broken. Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you grow up feeling a sense of not belonging? Perhaps you were adopted, you were a different race or culture and you had that feeling of where do I fit? Do you deal with a sense of anxiety? Do you ever feel a sense of unworthiness? Have you shown up in relationships, friendships, or any aspects of your life that you haven't been proud of or that you have shame about? Have you held secrets and told lies? Matt's Question: Matt wants to start dating again but would like guidance on how to heal from his deep childhood wounding. Matt's Key Insights and Ahas: He moved into a van to pursue a new life. He felt isolated after three months. He kept his trauma a secret. He was sexually abused. He was adopted by parents of a different race. He used drugs and alcohol to cope with his trauma. He is on a self-awareness journey. He opened up to his partner and they broke up. He cheated on his partner during their time together. He joined a 12-step program. He is struggling with rejection and failure. He doesn't truly trust himself. He has always felt like an outcast in many ways. He hasn't been able to love and commit in past relationships. He knows he is loved and wanted but often forgets. How to Get Over It and On With It: Use meditation and breathwork to rebirth himself and remove judgmental thoughts. Have compassion for his journey. Know that he deserves to be loved and accepted. Find a practitioner to help him love his inner child. Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code "Overit" and get up to 35% off on selected models. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you want to truly understand the power of surrender and acceptance, don't miss this episode! KUTE BLACKSON is a beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events including A-Fest, YPO (Young Presidents' Organization), and EO (Entrepreneurs' Organization). He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a select group of one hundred of the world's foremost authorities in the personal development industry. Winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden Award, Blackson is widely considered a next generation leader in the field of personal development. His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life's purpose. www.kuteblackson.com

This episode is about love and relationships. Today's caller, Rocio, is in a pattern that is blocking her from calling in love. She would like guidance on how much of her dating is based on divine timing or if there are things she can do to date from a more empowered, emotionally available space. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode395] A lot of times we think we are emotionally available because we want love and connection and we've done the work to make ourselves vulnerable. But, often, there is a hurt part of us that is a protective mechanism that makes us put a guard up so we are not completely emotionally available. We are co-creators in our life. The spirit of the divine meets us at the point of action and intention. If we are not actively participating in getting what we desire, then we are not fully meeting the divine at the point of action and intention. If we have fear, it can block us. A lot of the time we spend avoiding love because we are afraid of rejection more than we are into opening ourselves up and putting ourselves out there. When we have a parent that created an anxious attachment style, we draw in people who trigger that feeling inside of us because we are attempting to heal it. As children, we can't advocate for ourselves as we can as adults. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you frustrated with dating and want to know how you can shift it? Did you think everything was going well with the last person you dated and then it just didn't work out? If you look back at it, did you miss some red flags? Did you have a parent you craved more from and you can see how that wound impacts how you date? Are you willing to be vulnerable, emotionally available, and honest about what works for you and what doesn't? Rocio's Question: Rocio would like guidance about how much she should trust timing and intuition to call in love. Rocio's Key Insights and Ahas: She has been meeting emotionally unavailable guys. She fears rejection and being vulnerable. Recently she thought she met someone and their energies aligned but there were inconsistencies. She feels that she is putting herself out there and trusting her intuition. There were inconsistencies in her relationship with her father. She is not fully healed from an unmet need from her childhood. She wants to call in a relationship. How to Get Over It and On With It: If triggered, call it out and stand up for herself right away. Normalize being emotionally available and asking for what she wants. Don't let her fear of rejection stop her from speaking her truth. Trust herself to express her needs. Remember the guys she dates are not her father. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good-looking clean cooking. Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and it is non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off on their full suite of products, including their new food storage sets. Be sure to use OVERIT at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

McCall McPherson is a Physician Assistant, a thyroid-patient gone expert after suffering for years due to mismanagement of her own thyroid disorder. She is the founder of Modern Thyroid Clinic, a functional medicine practice in Austin, Texas specializing in complex thyroid disorders and a believer that with proper care and treatment there is no reason to still have thyroid symptoms. Learn more about her practice here: https://www.modernthyroidclinic.com/ And her course for optimal thyroid function here: http://www.mccallmcpherson.com/#/courses/

This episode is about relationships. Today's caller, Anthony, feels ready to call in love and fulfill his purpose but is unsure why he feels blocked. He would like guidance about how to move past the blocks and step into the life he desires. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode394] If you are in your 20s, remember you have time. Be patient with yourself and be patient with the way life is going to unfold. Especially, those of you who are on a personal development path. There is a co-creation aspect to growth and there is a part of you, a higher-self part of you, that may keep you from some of the things your ego and mind want right now because how you are meant to evolve is more important. Trust the unfolding of your life. Trust divine timing. And, try not to put pressure on yourself to get something by a certain age. Put intention into yourself to know yourself, love, accept, and be a good partner to yourself. We all have places inside where we might feel a little insecure and it's normal to feel like that. When we have had challenges we can wonder who will want us in that state. Our unmet needs come up when we are dating until we really work on it. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you wanting to call in a relationship but you don't exactly know how? Is there a part of you that is confident about what you have to offer but then a part of you wonders if someone will really love that one thing? Did you have a super present parent, or did you have one or maybe both parents that weren't so available and you may be looking for a relationship to fulfill that void? Anthony's Question: Anthony wants to know how to find a committed relationship as well as walk fully into his purpose. Anthony's Key Insights and Ahas: He is looking for someone to grow with. He feels that something is missing. He helps people take control of their health. He's never been in a relationship and feels like it is time. He wants to be more emotionally secure. He has trouble sleeping due to physical pain. He had Lyme disease. His father was emotionally unavailable. He feels he can't fully access love and compassion for himself. He didn't have a role model of emotional acceptance. He has an unfulfilled childhood need. How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion, love, and acceptance for himself. Begin a meditation practice to get more in tune with his emotional self. Do the things he loves to do. Make it a priority to be the best father and partner to himself. Sponsor: Cured Nutrition — What a difference a good night's sleep makes. And, CBN Nighttime Oil with sleep support properties makes a good night's sleep possible. Other Cured products include RISE, and ZEN to balance out well-being. Go to CuredNutrition.com/OVERIT to get 20% off your entire order. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Steven Chandler is one of my coaching mentors. Being his client over 10 years ago dramatically improved my success. The "MindShift" he offers frees people from unnecessary pessimism and puts them back in touch with the source of their enthusiasm for work and life. Although Steve Chandler graduated from the University of Arizona with a degree in Creative Writing and Political Science, and spent four years in the military studying language and psychological warfare; he credits his own life experiences with failure as the most valuable tools for helping others. Steve's audiences are inspired by stories of his "low points" – it gives them hope, because they realize that they are not nearly as bad off as he was – they figure if Steve can transform his life, so can they! Steve Chandler is now the author of 30 books that have been translated into over 25 languages. His personal success coaching, public speaking and business consulting have been used by CEOs, top professionals, major universities, and over 30 Fortune 500 companies. He has twice won the national Audio of the Year award from King Features Syndicate. A popular guest on TV and radio talk shows, Steve Chandler has recently been called "the most powerful public speaker in America today." Steve is also a master coach that has helped train hundreds of coaches to transform many lives and businesses. He created the Coaching Prosperity School to assist coaches to build a strong practice and create great clients www.CoachingProsperitySchool.com You can learn more at https://www.stevechandler.com/index.html

This episode is about when we just can't seem to get back to feeling ourselves. Today's caller, Monica, has been injured by trauma over the last several years. She feels stuck and can't seem to recharge. She asks for guidance on how to get over it and on with it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode393] When we are not feeling like ourselves. It can be frightening. We need to remind ourselves that even though we don't feel like ourselves at the moment, we know who we are. When we have been through a lot of trauma, just because it's over doesn't mean it's over. Time does not heal all wounds when it comes to trauma. Our nervous system gets unregulated. We get depleted. Our brain gets all scrambled. We get put into survival mode, and it is hard to connect to creativity, to other people, and sometimes to spirituality. When we are completely depleted and in survival mode, there are things that happen in our brains that make it impossible to do it. But, at the same time, we have conditioning that tells us we should be able to get over things. But, whether it is trauma or transition, there is an in-between state when we want to get back to how we used to be but oftentimes there is a newer version of ourselves post-trauma, post-transition, that we don't know yet. That is a beautiful new version of ourselves. We need to give ourselves the grace, compassion, passion, support, and time to get there. Christine is hosting her Signature Women's Retreat on October 10‒13, 2023 in San Diego, CA. To take advantage of the early bird special and reserve your spot, go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you had a rough couple of years and even though the storms are over you still feel that you can't get over it? Are you in a place in life where you're not really depressed but you're just not yourself? Have you been through a lot of trauma, or difficult times and you can't seem to shake it? Have you ever considered that you may have PTSD? Monica's Question: Monica has had a difficult few years. She feels she has nothing left to give and wants to get over it and on with it. Monica's Key Insights and Ahas: Several people in her life took their own lives. She was in a motorcycle accident. She owns her own business. She goes from crisis mode to crisis mode. She has been in survival mode for a long time. She judges herself for not being able to move on. She may have PTSD. She self-isolates at times and needs to recharge. She doesn't understand why she feels the way she does. She feels stuck. How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize there is nothing wrong with her. Look for a trauma-trained practitioner that can help with nervous system trauma, such as EMDR. Do things that nourish her, like a massage, and replenish herself. Takeaways: If you are suffering from PTSD or PTSI, reach out for help. Recovery is not something you should do alone. Sponsor: Cured Nutrition — What a difference a good night's sleep makes. And, CBN Nighttime Oil with sleep support properties makes a good night's sleep possible. Other Cured products include RISE, and ZEN to balance out well-being. Go to CuredNutrition.com/OVERIT to get 20% off your entire order. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

We cover a lot of ground about mental health, emotional processing and feeling comfortable with ALL our emotions. Alex Wills, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist. He is a graduate of the Sackler School of Medicine and completed his residency and fellowship training in Hawaii with additional training from Columbia University. He is the owner of Perma Mental Health, a private psychiatric practice with offices across Idaho. Alex's clinical days are spent using the Radical Emotional Acceptance method to help patients heal from issues ranging from past traumas to interpersonal struggles in their marriages. Give a F*ck, Actually is based on that experience. Learn more at www.RadicalEmotionalAcceptance.com The breathing website mentioned is: https://xhalr.com/

This episode is about busting through limiting beliefs to get down to love and truth. Today's caller, Andrew, finds himself at a challenging crossroads in his marriage. He would like to know how to be supportive of his wife after her recent cancer diagnosis without becoming a doormat. There are many common, limiting beliefs when it comes to love and romance. One belief is the success of a relationship is based on the time it lasts. So, if there is a breakup or divorce, the relationship was considered a failure. Or, if you love someone, you must love them unconditionally and stay with them, for better or for worse, no matter what. Another limiting belief is, the purpose of a romantic relationship is to find THE one who completes you. Diagnoses can be an opportunity for deep healing and transformation. Sometimes, what is for the highest good is not always the easiest or most obvious choice. It basically comes down to love and truth. People in a relationship can be growing at different speeds, but still along the same path. Remember, spirituality is not tolerating people treating us the way they want to treat us. Love and truth go together. Self-honoring choices are often for the highest good of all, and that is the ultimate high road. We can love, encourage, support, and be an example for people, but we cannot save anyone else, that is up to them. Would you like to raise your wealth consciousness? Another Group Coaching Call is coming. In it, we talk about money and prosperity. It is only $20 to join in on Tues. March 21st, 2023 at 7:30 pm CST. Don't worry if you cannot make it live, it will be recorded. I will include a guided meditation and group coaching questions. Go to christinehassler.com/group to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: What soul lessons are you currently learning from your relationship or relationship status? Are you making your relationship with yourself or your higher power a priority? Are any of your relationships at a point where you are growing in a different direction from each other? Do you wonder if being there for someone else in a supportive way is putting your own needs at risk? What is the difference between having a spiritual orientation to your relationship, and doing a spiritual bypass and becoming a bit of a doormat? Andrew's Question: Andrew's relationship is experiencing trials and tribulations. He would like to know how to spiritually cope with his wife's recent thyroid cancer diagnosis. Andrew's Key Insights and Ahas: His wife's hormones have been elevated due to a thyroid problem. He feels spirituality calling him. It's not his responsibility to save his wife. He has recently started a spiritual practice. He doesn't believe his wife is a willing participant in the relationship. His current lesson may not yet be resolved. It is now up to him to re-parent himself. How to Get Over It and On With It: Write his wife a letter to share what feels about her and how the diagnosis may be a wake-up call to stay committed to working on their relationship. Also, let her know he cannot do it alone. Hug his wife every day. Take 100% responsibility for his 50%. Takeaways: Look back at your romantic relationships to see what lessons you have learned. Write down how each partner has been a soul mate. Nurture a relationship with a higher power. Do something intentional and devotional every day for someone you care about. If there is a difficult conversation you need to have, write a letter and either read the letter to the person or give it to them. Sponsor: Cured Nutrition — What a difference a good night's sleep makes. And, CBN Nighttime Oil with sleep support properties makes a good night's sleep possible. Other Cured products include RISE, and ZEN to balance out well-being. Go to CuredNutrition.com/OVERIT to get 20% off your entire order. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is a very important conversation about how all of our devices both help and hinder our lives. Gloria Mark studies the impact of digital media on people's lives: their attention spans, multitasking, distraction, mood and behavior when they use their computers and smartphones. She also studies the future of work, and how remote work impacts how we use our devices. Dr Mark is Chancellor's Professor ofInformatics at the University of California, Irvine and has been a visiting senior researcher at Microsoft Research since 2012. She received her PhD from Columbia University in psychology. She regularly publishes in the top conferences and journals in her field. She was inducted into the ACM SIGCHI Academy in 2017 recognizing leaders in the field of human-computer interaction. She has presented her work at SXSW and the AspenIdeas Festival, and her work has appeared in The New York Times, Wall StreetJournal, NPR, The Atlantic, the BBC, and many others.

This episode is about shifting your external world while making internal changes. Today's caller, Jenn, has been through transformational changes and believes she is confused about her work as a relationship coach. Anyone who is on the growth path will relate to this call in some way. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode391] As we uncover and heal our issues, either in relationships or in the physical, we shift our vibration. Our energetic selves change, which creates a shift in what we're attracted to and what we attract. Dis-ease and/or toxic relationships are heavy in energetic weight. As we heal, clear, and forgive, it shifts our vibration and creates changes in our outside world. Some changes happen naturally and some just give us an unsettling feeling about something not being right. As we shift consciousness, our identity shifts and as it does it can feel confusing because our external life is not congruent with our internal life. Just because you don't have clarity about something or something doesn't feel as fulfilling as it used to, doesn't mean you are confused. You are in a time of change and transformation. For something to transform, it must go through a period of chaos and uncertainty. Don't rush to figure it out — allow it to be revealed. Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? Find out more about the Be the Queen program, which began on February 28, 2023. It includes an in-person one-day retreat in San Diego on October 12, 2023, and the self-paced evergreen course at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or email [email protected]. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there some aspect of your life that doesn't feel right, or just feels off? Have you healed a relationship or physical issue that has catalyzed wanting to make changes in other aspects of your life? Can you relate to being a chameleon to stay safe? Are you a people pleaser? Are you scared of being vulnerable or being seen? Jenn's Question: Jenn feels she has lost her inspiration and passion for her business. She wants to gain clarity about her coaching business. Jenn's Key Insights and Ahas: She had a falling out with her mother. She was physically ill. She internalizes her mother's issues. She was a people pleaser and chameleon around her mother. She has always been there for others. Her relationship coaching feels shallow to her now. She's committed to getting out of her head. How to Get Over It and On With It: Bring more of her own voice into her business. Don't underestimate the value she brings to her clients. Consider the way the people she appreciates share their stories. Share more of her emotional depths. Takeaways: Get Expectation Hangover if you don't have it already, and in the spiritual section do the lesson quest exercise under the role of the seeker. Take an inventory of your external life. Does it match your internal life? How can you be more vulnerable and honest? Think of the ways you are a people pleaser or play small. How can you step into a deeper level of authenticity? Where are you telling yourself you are confused when you are not? Can you allow yourself to be in uncertainty? Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community @ChristinHassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler

CC: Loving (and leaving) an addict with Dana Killion Dana Killion debut memoir, Where the Shadows Dance: He Got Sober. I Got Broken, explores her struggle as she became collateral damage in her husband's self-destruction. After saving him, she realized she also needed to save herself. She is the author of the Andrea Kellner Mystery series. You can pre-order her new book here

This episode is about why we may feel blah like nothing's wrong but it is not right either. Today's caller, Judith, keeps herself busy to avoid things in her life and would like guidance on how to find a sense of purpose. If you have ever had a sense that nothing feels terribly wrong but nothing feels really right either, or you are not depressed and just feel blah, you will enjoy this episode. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode390] So many people are operating with the sense that nothing is really wrong but nothing feels quite right either. Some may not even know that it's not ideal to have a sense of malaise. If you have a pattern or a way you've gotten love, fulfillment, attention, acknowledgment, recognition, etc., and you feel a sense of malaise, or that nothing's wrong but nothing feels right either, it is usually an indicator that you are using some kind of behavior to give you a sense of fulfillment. Try making a choice not to do something that gives yourself a sense of fulfillment because it's a pattern or a reaction. Instead, consciously and intentionally choose to go in a direction that will enhance internal fulfillment. Because we cannot get true lasting internal fulfillment from external sources or external behavior. Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? Find out more about the Be the Queen program, which began on February 28, 2023. It includes an in-person one-day retreat in San Diego on October 12, 2023, and the self-paced evergreen course at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or email [email protected]. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you had a good life? Nothing bad has happened but you don't feel a sense of fulfillment? Are you the kind of person that gets fulfilled from doing and if you're not doing anything then you're looking for that sense of fulfillment? Did you have to grow up early and even though you didn't have a "bad" childhood you had a childhood that was interrupted a little too soon? Do you have an inward sense of purpose? Do you feel connected to something bigger than you, a sense of spirituality that can hold you in those times when nothing outside of you is bringing you fulfillment? Judith's Question: Judith is at a crossroads and would like guidance on how to overcome a feeling of general malaise. Judith's Key Insights and Ahas: She feels a sense of general malaise. She didn't have any major traumas in her life. Nothing feels wrong but nothing feels right either. She feels her purpose is to give energy to people and events. She makes herself busy when she is avoiding something. She felt she was the glue that held her family together in childhood. She often would like someone to take care of her. She is a recovering codependent. She didn't have catastrophic events in her life. She is always curious to learn. She is a therapist. She appreciates the journey aspect of life. How to Get Over It and On With It: Learn how to have a sense of purpose without "doing" anything. Start a spiritual journey to find a sense of purpose and meaning deep within. Join the Inner Child Workshop. Make a list of 3‒5 songs that change her state of being and listen to it when she feels blah. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good-looking clean cooking. Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and it is non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off on their full suite of products, including their new food storage sets. Be sure to use OVERIT at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Melody Wilding is the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on "Sensitive Strivers", her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a masters from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College. Learn more at melodywilding.com

This episode is about how to find a sense of home, safety, and security without being codependent. Today's caller, Stephania, gets low when going through rough patches and would like some tools to find safety and security within herself. Christine offers ways she can regulate her nervous system to find peace. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode389] Wanting to feel like home translates into how to feel more regulated inside. How to not be in the fight-or-flight part of our nervous system and settle into rest-and-digest. When we think of the metaphor of home, the feeling of home is safe, nourishing, relaxing, and fulfilling. At home, we know we are always going to have a full belly and a warm heart. That happens inside when we are in that more rested part of our nervous system. Finding our sense of home is doing the work and asking ourselves questions, but it is also about a consistent practice of knowing when we are dysregulated, aka triggered. So, when we're in our heads, our heart is beating fast, our stomach is in knots, and we are reactive and time-traveling. Something in the present is triggering us more than it needs to and reminds us of something in the past. When we are in a dysregulated state it's the practice of finding tools to bring us back into our body to regulate our nervous system. If a person changes because they have shame or judgment about a behavior versus if a person changes because they have compassion for their wounding and they want to feel peace; the latter change lasts. Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? Find out more about the Be the Queen program, which begins on February 28, 2023. It includes an in-person one-day retreat in San Diego on October 12, 2023, and the self-paced evergreen course at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or email [email protected]. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a history of having an anxious attachment style? Do you feel like you put everyone else's needs before yours? Do you feel dysregulated or triggered often, perhaps even jealous? Did you lack a parent who nurtured and loved you? Did you know that at least one of your parents, particularly your mother, loved you unconditionally? Stephania's Question: Stephania asks for tools to help her find safety within herself. Stephania's Key Insights and Ahas: She searches outside herself for safety and security. She is a people pleaser. She creates safety within her relationships with other people. She is aware of her codependent tendencies. Messages on her partner's phone triggered her. She and her partner are going to couples therapy. She doesn't know how to be compassionate with herself. She is sad because her mother didn't give her compassion. She didn't feel love from her mother and has been trying to fill the void. How to Get Over It and On With It: Regulate her nervous system. Take ownership of her tendencies and patterns without shame or judgment. She doesn't need to fix anything to make her lovable. Speak the language of love to herself. Tap into the mother archetype to embody what being a mother truly means. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My husband joins me today as we talk about my journey to calling him in after nearly a decade of being VERY single after my divorce. We offer both insight and some practical advice on how women can attract healthy men who are worthy of their hearts. Stef and I also share about one of our favorite programs, "Be the Queen" which starts this month. You can learn more and join us at https://christinehassler.com/bethequeen/

This episode is about reclaiming lost aspects of ourselves. Today's caller, Michael, feels lost. He keeps checking things off his list and achieving his goals but lacks purpose and satisfaction in life. Christine offers guidance about how he can reclaim the childhood parts of himself that were buried long ago. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode388] It doesn't matter whether we are gay or we are too tall, too thin, or we have the wrong skin color, whatever it is, as children, most of us fundamentally decide there is something wrong with us. It is at that point where our freedom, childish curiosity, wonderment, innocence, creativity, and radical self-acceptance dies. The second we are shamed for a part of who we are, it's like a part of us dies inside. When our childlike parts that are full of life and authenticity get cut off, we feel dead inside and lost because those parts were huge parts of our life. It's like a car with no steering wheel. Good luck getting around anywhere. You can sit in it, rev the engine, and play a radio but you can't go anywhere. We are not always consciously aware that we carry around the grief of the childhood parts of us that were not fully expressed. And, we will always feel lost if there is a part of us that is missing. As adults, we search for something to make that part of us feel alive again. We crave reclamation. Sometimes we desperately fight for what we want without knowing that we are fighting for it. We are always looking for safety. Whatever we are looking for outside of us has to be found inside. Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? If so, Christine and Stefanos held a free masterclass on Valentine's Day. Get the recording at christinehassler.com/lovemasterclass. And, find out more about the Be the Queen program, which includes an in-person one-day retreat and a self-paced recorded option at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or e-mail [email protected]. Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have to morph yourself as a child in order to be accepted or to feel not so different? Did people say they accepted you but inside you always felt different? Have you climbed a lot of mountains, gone to the summit, looked around, and said "wait a second, this is it?" and now you're looking for your next mountain to climb? Have you ever dealt with depression, feeling low in the deep dark nights of the soul, or considered ending your life? Michael's Question: Michael feels lost and would like guidance about how to reclaim freedom and purpose. Michael's Key Insights and Ahas: He has completed the Personal Mastery program. He has been through ups and downs in his life. He used to have vision and purpose but doesn't feel them any longer. He has experienced bouts of severe depression. He didn't feel like he belonged with boys or girls as a child. His coping strategy is suppression. He searches out role models. He overshares with people he trusts. He is looking for something outside of himself. He felt ashamed of being gay. He yearns to be seen for who he truly is. He sabotaged himself in order to force change. He numbed himself for most of his adult life. He reads tarot cards. How to Get Over It and On With It: He needs to liberate and fully express himself. Stop looking for something to do and commit to reclaiming his lost self to give himself the childhood he didn't have. Learn to channel his creativity, energy, and sensitivity. Takeaways: Join the Personal Mastery program. What parts of yourself do you need to reclaim? It is time for them to come alive again, so you can come alive again. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and to improve well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions. It tones the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Devin Burke is an international and TEDx speaker, the bestselling author of "The Sleep Advantage," the founder of Sleep Science Academy, and one of the top health and sleeps coaches in the world. His books, keynotes, programs, and videos have inspired thousands of people to improve their sleep, energy, and life. His mission is to give the 40+ million people who suffer from poor sleep the tools and support they need to stop suffering and start sleeping as quickly as possible.

This episode is about how to respond with curiosity to people who are not respecting you. Today's caller, Mica, is looking for guidance on how they can change their response to become more empowered when it comes to people not using the preferred pronouns they have asked them to use. This call opens our awareness to non-binary individuals who like to be called they and them and not the traditional pronouns we may be used to and about how growing up in a restrictive environment impacts us as adults. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode387] Identity, be it race, gender, or age, when we take it all out of the equation, all we are is love. Every single one of us is love. Often, it takes people who don't fit into a mold to teach those who do fit in more of a mold that nothing matters but who someone's essence is. Who we are as humans on this planet is just love and that's it. That is what we all are here to learn. What scares most of us about conflict is that we think we have to be confrontational. If we don't attack we think our only other option is to retreat or we feel we either have to charge ahead or collapse. That is a very common dynamic. The goal is to respond to people that aren't respecting you with curiosity versus confrontation. Curiosity is powerful. It is one of the most underused responses and ways to be. When we approach people with curiosity, they are able to hear. It allows us to make direct requests of them from a place of vulnerability and authenticity. The more we accept ourselves for who we are, the less oppression we face. It's not that there isn't oppression or people who don't respect who we are. But, when we can really come into full self-acceptance, we can teach people how to treat us and respect us. We also aren't letting our own nervous system get dysregulated due to someone else's ignorance or stubbornness. Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? If so, join Christine and Stefanos for a free masterclass on Valentine's Day, Feb. 14th, 2023 at 7:30 CST. Join live or get the recording at christinehassler.com/lovemasterclass. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you made requests of other individuals and they're just not listening or they are not honoring your requests? When you are in times of conflict, do you have the tendency to either attack or retreat? Do you want to find a more empowered way to respond? Did you grow up in an oppressive household and you did anything you could to try to fit in? Do you want to feel a sense of freedom to be yourself and not care what anybody else thinks and move into a place of radical self-acceptance and be free? Mica's Question: Mica has felt friction when establishing the pronouns they prefer and would like guidance on how to deal with conflict. Mica's Key Insights and Ahas: They came out as non-binary. They find it stressful when people push back on them. They read tarot cards. They are an aspiring life coach. Their biological father was a tyrant in their life. They had to have a defensive posture. They feel unseen and unheard. They have been non-binary since childhood but tried to identify as female. They have had to prove who they are throughout their life. They know they are here to teach people how to love. How to Get Over It and On With It: Approach conflicts with curiosity. Allow their nervous system to feel that people are safe. Know that they are allowed to ask for what they want and need. Feel confident in who they are, no matter what pronouns others use. Recognize when they are triggered and navigate their way through it differently. Radically accept themselves as love. Apologize to their younger self and free the part of them that felt stifled. Takeaways: Move into self-acceptance and work with your rebel part and tell it that it is free. Tell it there is nothing to prove and it doesn't have to fight. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and to improve well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions. It tones the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

One of my dear friends who is also an epic coach, speaker and author joins me to have a very intimate conversation about birth, death and so much more. A little more about Dr Neeta....She is the founder of Global GRIT Institute, a wellness education platform for optimizing wellbeing, and cofounder of Dharma Coaching Institute, a coaching organization training coaches to become the highest versions of themselves. That Sucked, Now What? is a real-talk guide to personal growth that draws on embracing the suck while breaking through to lasting, audacious resilience. You can access her free gifts at https://neetabhushan.com/book/