Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

This episode is about taking risks or making changes when you don't feel safe or secure on some level. Today's caller, Julie, feels stressed about making money because she is not doing something she is passionate about. Christine offers her guidance on how to shift her perspective into making an intentional transition. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode403] One of my pet peeves of the personal development industry is the implied pressure to just make changes, take leaps, or have courage. And, while it is important to be able to make changes and to be able to take leaps, when you feel not safe on some level, it is going to be challenging. It's always a blend of not staying in something that is familiar and "safe" but not what you want to be doing for so long that you get accustomed to feeling safe but not feeling alive, Not really feeling like you're doing what you're passionate about. Because the years will go by and your dream will quickly fade. However, you don't want to just drop everything and make a drastic change when you don't feel safe. When it comes to safety, we are humans who have basic needs. We have the need for love. We have the need for feeling that our physical needs are met also. There is a part of us that if we're not doing what we love or what we really desire, it can be difficult to make money at it because if we're really being called to something else, and we're not listening to it, often we'll have a sabotaging part that will come up. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. There is still time to get the early bird discount. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode to find out what happens during the retreat ChristineHassler.com/2022/08/coaches-corner-346. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a people-pleaser and make decisions based on what you think other people want from you versus what you truly want from yourself? Are you making choices or doing things that are breeding resentment, maybe in your marriage, a friendship, in business, or with your parents? Do you feel unsafe and unstable in some way and you are doing something just for the money? Do you want to make a change but you feel like you just can't because you're not financially "stable" enough? Julie's Question: Julie is looking for guidance about personal finances. Julie's Key Insights and Ahas: She and her husband feel stressed about money. She is self-employed in her small business. She started working with an IFS therapist. She consumes a lot of information about her small business. She is a people-pleaser. She feels pressure from her husband to make more money. She likes helping people. She tires of doing what other people think she should do. She felt love from her parents was conditional. She judges herself for not doing what she wants to do. She has a love/hate relationship with money. How to Get Over It and On With It: Create a self-love-healing plan and an action plan. Approach her work from a different perspective. Identify where her triggers originate. Create safety in her system. Love herself through it. Check out the upcoming Women's Retreat. Takeaways: What are the steps, both internally and externally, you need to take to make an intentional transition? Get your applications in to join Christine at her Signature Retreat. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and improving well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions to tone the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Aviva Romm MD is both a midwife and a Yale trained MD and Board Certified Family Physician with specialties in Integrative Gynecology, Obstetric and Pediatrics, with a focus on women's endocrinology. She's also a world renown herbalist, and author of the textbook, Botanical Medicines for Women's Health, as well as 8 other books, including The Adrenal Thyroid Revolution and her new book, Hormone Intelligence, an instant New York Times Bestseller, which explores the impact of the world we live in on women's hormones and health, and brings us a new medicine for women that is at once holistic and natural, while being grounded in the best science and medicine have to offer. A practitioner, teacher, activist and advocate of both environmental health and women's reproductive rights and health, she has been bridging the best of traditional medicine, total health ecology, and good science for over three decades. Her podcast, articles, books, and online programs are wildly popular and successful, helping women take back their health, She practices medicine in both NY and MA, and lives in the Berkshires of Western MA. Learn more at: https://avivaromm.com/

This episode is about feeling safe in our bodies by regulating the nervous system. Today's caller, Nicole, struggles to change her body weight and feels she lacks motivation and follow-through to do so. She asks for practical tips on how to shift it and create peace and love within herself. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode402] Nervous system regulation is bringing awareness to our state of being. Meaning, are we in a state of hyperarousal or hypoarousal? Both states can be a trauma response. Trauma, simply defined, is too much, too fast, too soon, or too little for too long. Hyperarousal means we are anxious, constantly bracing ourselves, staying busy and distracted to avoid pain, or we are nervous, vigilant, and possibly aggressive. Hypoarousal means we can be depressed, or we may lack motivation. We can even go into apathy or indifference. Whether it is hyper or hypo, it means we are functioning with an unregulated nervous system. It is hard for people in an unregulated state to be present. A regulated nervous system is when we feel safe inside our body. Yet, it doesn't mean we're in a meditative state and doesn't mean we are a Zen master. For those who grew up in an unsafe or chaotic house, your baseline is not going to be regulated. You can do all the emotional processing in the world to move the trauma and do inner child work but you have to practice a nervous system reset multiple times a day. Elementum Coaching Institute is beginning its 3rd year with a comprehensive 7-month program starting in September 2023. This program is for coaches of all skill levels. Apply to become a certified coach and get a 3-month business bonus at https://elementumcoachinginstitute.com. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel busy all the time and there don't seem to be enough hours in a day? Have you been wanting to release weight but you just can't seem to let it go? Do you know the benefits of self-love and self-care but you can't seem to do them? Did you grow up in a chaotic household and you long for peace and calm in your life? Nicole's Question: She struggles with prioritizing herself, practicing self-love, and having self-worth issues. She wants to lose weight but doesn't understand why she cannot stay motivated to do so. Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas: She attended the Be the Queen program. Her father didn't value overweight people. Her mother was self-critical. She tries to eat healthily and has a gym membership. She loves being outside, dancing, and being with her dog. She is finishing her Master's degree. She finds little time to do the things she loves. Her nervous system baseline is hyper-aroused. She longed for peace and calm in her chaotic childhood home. She focuses on losing weight. She tells herself she will do the things she loves when she loses weight. She is a people-pleaser. How to Get Over It and On With It: Break the pattern of being in a hyper-aroused state. Recalibrate her nervous system with hourly breaks and resets. Check out Style Space and use the promo code Christine10. Create peace and calm in her home and body. Practice transitions and be conscious about her next move. Practice saying no to create space for herself. Takeaways: Find online content about nervous system regulation. Sponsor: StoryWorth — Looking for a meaningful Father's Day gift? Storyworth helps your loved ones feel special, unique, and connected by sharing and preserving their precious memories. For a limited time, get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/overit. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Anna Lozano is a Coach and Mentor who supports people in changing their mindset and frequency to create their deepest desires. In her coaching and advocacy work, she emphasizes the importance of leading with feminine energy in entrepreneurship. She works with female founders and CEO's, product and service based entrepreneurs, who are looking to launch and scale their businesses. Get the FREE gift of a 3 day program of "Quantum Wealth" she is offering my audience here: https://anna-lozano.mykajabi.com/offers/LhwAzZUv?coupon_code=CHRISTINEH

This episode is about getting over someone we can't seem to get over. Today's caller, Matthais, is hung up on someone he can't seem to get over but, as usual, it has to do with something much deeper. Often, it is the relationships that don't work out that teach us the most. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode401] As children, we are naturally intimate, but if our parents can't be intimate back we start to shut down. Because intimacy feels scary and unfamiliar. And, even though everyone wants to be loved, they push love away because love has hurt them in the past. So, when love comes to us we push it away because it is unfamiliar. An avoidant attachment relationship pattern is when someone loves us and we push them away. It's because love feels unfamiliar and scary. Love feels like it hurts because as children, we naturally love our parents. When we don't feel that love back from our parents in the way we as children give love, it's very disorienting and it can make us not trust love. So, when someone wants to love us, it feels unfamiliar and unsafe. Whereas, when there is someone distant and aloof with us and maybe love bombs us, it feels great in the beginning but then the great feeling fades. Or, the person will give us ultimatums we have to fulfill and make us chase them. It makes us yearn for something familiar to us, and we often confuse the feeling with love because it is familiar. When we are hung up on someone, we think we are missing them but what we are missing is something we need to embody within ourselves. When we heal our inner child, we begin to choose the love we truly desire, not a feeling that triggers us. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there someone that you've broken up with or that broke up with you but you just can't seem to let them go? Did you have a parent that wasn't there for you in the way that you truly desired? Do you relate to having an avoidant attachment style? Did you have a parent that parentified you or even made you their spouse and you didn't get to be a kid? Matthais's Question: He had a painful breakup that he can't seem to get over. He would like guidance on how to get over it and move forward. Matthais's Key Insights and Ahas: He hasn't felt emotional pain in his life before like he did with this breakup. He is having difficulty connecting with new people. He was very much in love. The breakup was abrupt. His ex triggered something deep inside of him. He has some wounding in his past about his looks. His ex said he triggered her childhood wounding. He has an avoidant attachment style. His parents divorced when he was 15 and has struggled with it for 25 years. His mother was caring but he has been the only man in his mother's life. He may be choosing partners who mirror his relationship with his father. He hasn't experienced true intimacy. He felt his dad didn't want him and his mother parentified him. He is attracted to controlling women. How to Get Over It and On With It: Discontinue any communication with his ex. Let her go. When he thinks of his ex, tell himself that it wasn't a healthy love and that real love is safe. Work on his inner child by exploring the self-guided Inner Child Workshop. Feel into self-love. Takeaways: Read the book Attached or dive into the Coaches Corner episodes on attachment styles. Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any purifier. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Emily is the founder of Ziva and has taught the Ziva Technique to over 40,000 people. Her best-selling book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon and has been translated into 12 languages. In 2021, she launched zivaKIDS, the first meditation course of its kind for kids ages 4-14. A formerly stressed Broadway performer who was going gray at 27, Emily discovered a powerful practice that cured her insomnia and improved her health on the first day. The Ziva Technique is a powerful combination of mindfulness, meditation and manifesting designed to help you get better at life, not meditation. You can join her for a FREE embodiment and manifestation event on May 17th at christinehassler.com/emily

This episode is about pausing and not deciding. Today's caller, Lydia, has been experiencing massive changes in her life over the past year. She is questioning whether or not to get married. She wants guidance about how she can relieve the pressure of making a choice and how to know what is right for her. She finds that sometimes not making a choice is the best choice. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode400] There's nothing wrong with questioning. There is always a purpose in it. When we're in a place of doubt or questioning, it's good to explore it. When there's so much change happening, it can put us in more of a fight-or-flight survival-based response and we come from the emotionally reactive part of our brain. Or it can put our priorities and our values front and center to make us question anything that is not aligned. When we are experiencing a lot of change or grief, it takes a while to find our footing. In times of transition and change, major decisions can be tricky. The part of us that likes to control and to know things, can have a hard time when we go back and forth about big decisions. If your life is steady right now; if you're not going through grief or a big change, but you are finding it difficult to make a choice, you might just be scared of change. You might just need to make a choice. But, if your life has a lot of chaos in it or there are a lot of changes and uncertainty about making another big choice, that's when you can take time to pause and let what is in alignment with you rise to the surface. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat . There is still time to get the early bird discount. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there something you're trying to decide, or choose about, like a relationship, or whether to leave a job and you just can't get clarity or, you could talk yourself into either direction? Are you grieving? Did you just lose someone that was important to you and it's clouding your ability to choose? Did you go through a breakup or a job loss where you felt a sense of rejection and your self-confidence took a hit? Do you like to control? Do you like to have answers and being in that in-between of not making a choice can be a little wobbly for you? Lydia's Question: Many things in her life are changing. She is grieving the loss of her mother and having doubts about getting married. She would like guidance on how to move forward with confidence. Lydia's Key Insights and Ahas: She is grieving the loss of her mother. She is going through a job transition. She is planning her wedding and a move. She is questioning her decision to get married. She is judging her fiance and feels guilty about it. As an adult, she had to distance herself from her mother. Her job transition left her feeling rejected. She feels resistance when she tries to make a choice. She doesn't have safety in her nervous system. She is concerned about disappointing people. How to Get Over It and On With It: Pause, give herself some grace, and wait to make a choice about her relationship. Allow herself to be in the unknown as much as possible. Work on establishing safety in her nervous system. Surrender and take off the pressure to make a choice. Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code "Overit" and get up to 35% off on selected models. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you feel like you have a lot of awareness but things in your life are not changing…it may be time for some "experiential" work. In this episode Christine and Jill about what happens at Christine's Signature Retreat to help you discern if it's right for you. More info about the retreat here: https://christinehassler.com/signatureretreat/

This episode is about going back to move forward. Today's caller, Samm, missed out on some developmental learnings in childhood. She wants to empower others but is still not sure she can fully empower herself. If you feel that you don't have clarity about something, or feel you can't take the next step forward, it might be because of past trauma. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode399] We all need to have compassion and be easier on ourselves when we miss out on things in our childhood that make parts of adulthood harder. Remember, compassion is different than scapegoating. If we blame everything on our childhood and everything is our parent's fault, that is being the victim. That is scapegoating. It's very different from compassion. Compassion is understanding that we never got to that developmental stage as a child. So, it is harder for us to do it as adults. We need to have patience and compassion with ourselves. We all need to have compassion and be easier on ourselves when we miss out on things in our childhood that make parts of adulthood harder. It's necessary for us to go back and give our inner child what they didn't have and then move forward. To expect ourselves to feel safe, to put ourselves out there, as a coach for example, when we didn't have safety as a child is like expecting a one-year-old to do algebra. It's just completely unrealistic. It is not developmentally possible. Please be kind to yourself. Look at what you did not get in childhood that may have impacted you and not from the perspective of being damaged or broken. We have the parents we have to learn what we need to learn in this lifetime. Elementum Coaching Institute is beginning its 3rd year in September 2023. Christine co-founded Elementum Coaching to assist coaches and would-be coaches with the skills needed to build their businesses. Attend the free webinar for more information on May 15, 2023. To take advantage of early bird pricing and get more information about the upcoming Coach on Fire workshop go to https://elementumcoachinginstitute.com/coach-on-fire-workshop. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you're unclear about something or do you lack clarity in some way? Did you have a childhood where you did not feel safe? Do you often feel disconnected from your own inner child? Is there something you want to do but you keep telling yourself that you're just stuck and you can't move forward? Samm's Question: Samm seeks clarity and would like guidance on how to create a safe place without feeling paralyzed to act on it. Samm's Key Insights and Ahas: She is a coach. She holds herself back when expressing herself. When she feels like putting her heart into something, she gets paralyzed and scared. Her parents were addicts. She chose a different path. She didn't feel safe as a child. She doubts she can fully support herself or others. She has been in survival mode for most of her life. She has a freeze response as part of her nervous system wiring. She feels she is not enough. As a child, she yearned to feel like she was important and that she mattered. She wanted to be held and know everything would be OK. She would like to build a group container with her clients. She wants to help empower others. She internalizes her sadness and has difficulty getting mad. How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion for where she's come from. Work with herself with patience and love. Connect with the motherly part of her. Allow herself to get angry. Recognize when she is in a trauma response and make her inner child feel safe. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good-looking clean cooking. Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off on their full suite of products, including their new food storage sets. Be sure to use OVERIT at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Natalie Lue is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. She just released a new book, The Joy of Saying No, which highlights her six-step plan to help readers find their "no" so they can create healthier boundaries and reconnect with their values and authentic self.

This episode is about healing past trauma without reliving it. Today's caller, Suzy, knows there is trauma in her past but fears she must relive it to heal it. This conversation is helpful if you know there are things in your past you haven't dealt with and don't know where to start or have fears about addressing them. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode398] When we experience trauma, we disassociate. We have to do it. It doesn't make us weak. It doesn't make us not vulnerable. And, it doesn't make us not emotionally intelligent. It is what we do to survive. We need to have compassion for our disassociation because it is a coping strategy and it's the only way we can survive trauma. There comes a time when all the dissociation starts to add up, and it may make us feel dead inside. It is important that we do not go back and relive our trauma. We can use current-day triggers to ask — What is this triggering inside me? What is this reminding me of? Then, give ourselves the permission to feel and express all the feelings we didn't get to express, state our needs, and make our requests. That is how we heal. That's how we repair not by reliving the trauma. Riding a current trigger or feeling back in time to see where we end up is one of the most useful ways to heal. It's about giving ourselves a voice, giving ourselves the freedom to express ourselves, giving ourselves compassion, and nurturing ourselves to meet the needs that didn't get met at that time. It's not about reliving our experiences. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. It is October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have trouble accessing feelings from your past? You can talk about your past but there's no emotion there. Are you finding you do have emotion in your current day situations and you don't quite know what to do with those triggers? Were you emotionally abandoned by your parents? Maybe they were physically there but they didn't really meet your emotional needs. Do you have trouble accessing your inner child? Suzy's Question: Suzy knows there are things in her past she has not dealt with but she doesn't know where to start or how to address them. Suzy's Key Insights and Ahas: She is seeing a therapist. Her past is affecting her current relationships. She feels abandoned by her husband. She feels sad and lonely. She fears reliving her past trauma. As a child, her physical needs were met but not her emotional needs. She has tried to share her feelings with her mother. She feels hopeless. She has never felt safe. She is surprised by the wise words from her inner child. She is capable of holding herself through her feelings. How to Get Over It and On With It: Commit to continue to talk with her inner child. Recognize her triggers as an opportunity to check in with her inner child. Write or send herself a message starting with "I learned…, I feel…, what I am going to do moving forward is…". Get pictures of herself from different ages and see which she connects more deeply with. Be gentle with herself as she maneuvers the healing process. Takeaways: If you are afraid to deal with your past, find a qualified practitioner. Check in with your inner child whenever you feel triggered. Come to the Signature Retreat in October. Listen to the previously recorded 3-day Inner Child Workshop. Be gentle and patient with yourself. Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code "Overit" and get up to 35% off on selected models. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My longtime friend and the #1 resource I recommend when it comes to shifting your relationship with money, Kate Northrup, joins me today for an insightful and inspiring conversation about money. As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital platform called The Origin Company that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. She's committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out. Kate teaches data and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. She's the author of Money: A Love Story and Do Less and the creator of the Do Less Planner System. Kate's work has been featured by Oprah Daily, The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women's Health, Glamour, The NY Times, Harvard Business Review, and more. She lives with her husband and their daughters in Miami. You can access her FREE workshop "Plenty" which will help you Clear Your Money Blocks and Discover True Prosperity While Positively Impacting the World here: christinehassler.com/relaxedmoney

This episode is about a conflict between what our inner child wants and what our adult self needs. Today's caller, Cindy, is in a relationship that she knows she needs to leave but she feels frozen. She is looking for guidance on how to move forward and take action. This can be applied to anything whether it is a relationship, a job, or a pattern. There are some great tidbits about why we don't shift. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode397] When we know there is an action we need to take but we just can't seem to do it we can analyze it, process it, and have awareness about it but we may still feel frozen and unable to take action. Freeze is a trauma response. It doesn't matter how much we know what we "should" do when we are in a trauma response it all gets overridden with survival patterns. Our inner child believes that we will heal a wound by being with someone similar to the person who prompted our trauma. One of the best ways that you can make a change in your life is to do something different to get out of your comfort zone but to do it with a lot of love. For empathetic or people with co-dependent threads, love bombing is like a drug. Whether someone's a diagnosed narcissist or they have narcissistic tendencies, love bombing is not about the person receiving the love bomb. It's about control. It's not love. So, choose yourself. Legitimately and authentically love yourself out of the situation. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their own consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. It is October 13-15 in San Diego, CA. Early bird pricing ends soon so to sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a situation, relationship, friendship, or work situation where you know you need to make a change but you just can't seem to do it? Do you know that some of your choices are coming from your inner child but can't seem to make different choices? Do you often let fear stop you from doing something you need to do? Are you frustrated with yourself because you know better but you just keep wondering why you're not doing better? Cindy's Question: Cindy is in a toxic marriage. She wants to end the relationship and get a divorce but she feels stuck and is not sure how to move forward. Cindy's Key Insights and Ahas: She is finding it difficult to make a decision. She struggles with shame and anger about not leaving. She feels frozen. She feels her partner and her father are similar. Her father had an undiagnosed mental problem. Her partner love bombed her at the beginning of her relationship. She knows the relationship is not good for her. She feels her partner destroyed her life. She knows she has choices to make. She is a people pleaser. She feels financially tied to the relationship. Her partner plays on her core wounds. She found it easier to get out of her first marriage. She will keep herself away from men that come with red flags. How to Get Over It and On With It: Talk to her inner child about what love truly is. Assure her inner child that she will take care of her. Attend Christine's Signature Retreat. Make a decision by May 1, 2023. Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any filter. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My friend Brooke Nichol joins me to talk about how to build a business by being great at relationships with people. Brooke is a registered nurse and the owner of Saving Face in Austin, TX. Her specialty is relationships and keeping clients looking natural and the best version of themselves. She has organically grown to two locations, becoming the most sought out feel good destination in Austin. She has an extensive background and training from world renowned plastic surgeons and experts in the field of aesthetics. She was named top 100 injector in the US in 2018. She is a national trainer for Allergan and was named top 10 lip expert in 2020. Brooke serves on Advisory Boards for Allergan and Revance. Brooke is a true entrepreneur who wears many hats. She is mama to two beautiful children, Knox (5), Miller (8). She created Post Love Skincare and will soon launch Saving Face Academy. There is much growth for Saving Face in the future and Brooke is quite certain that goodness will bring about more goodness.

This episode is about healing anxiety, unworthiness, and shame. Today's caller, Matt, recently came clean about some secrets about his past with his partner. He sabotaged his relationship but would like to date again, fully able to love and commit. Any listeners who felt instability in their childhood will benefit from this conversation. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode396] Often, the people who are most free-spirited are the adults who as children wanted stability and didn't have it. They've never known stability so they have to fall in love with freedom or fall in love with not having accountability. If you were adopted, didn't have time with your mother, or something happened, it doesn't mean you are doomed for life. Give yourself the dignity of your process. Give yourself the compassion, TLC, mothering, and nurturing you didn't receive. Having compassion for yourself and an understanding of why you are the way you are is important. Adoption is a beautiful thing. There are so many people who have had much better lives because they've been adopted versus if they had stayed with their biological parents. And people who choose to give their child up for adoption because they know another family could give them a better life are angels in so many ways. Adoption can create a beautiful life for someone. And if you do meditation, or a personal practice with the intention of fixing something, remember nothing heals in judgment. Go into modalities to feel, to heal, and to allow what is there, not try to get rid of it. Because nothing heals when we think we are broken. Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you grow up feeling a sense of not belonging? Perhaps you were adopted, you were a different race or culture and you had that feeling of where do I fit? Do you deal with a sense of anxiety? Do you ever feel a sense of unworthiness? Have you shown up in relationships, friendships, or any aspects of your life that you haven't been proud of or that you have shame about? Have you held secrets and told lies? Matt's Question: Matt wants to start dating again but would like guidance on how to heal from his deep childhood wounding. Matt's Key Insights and Ahas: He moved into a van to pursue a new life. He felt isolated after three months. He kept his trauma a secret. He was sexually abused. He was adopted by parents of a different race. He used drugs and alcohol to cope with his trauma. He is on a self-awareness journey. He opened up to his partner and they broke up. He cheated on his partner during their time together. He joined a 12-step program. He is struggling with rejection and failure. He doesn't truly trust himself. He has always felt like an outcast in many ways. He hasn't been able to love and commit in past relationships. He knows he is loved and wanted but often forgets. How to Get Over It and On With It: Use meditation and breathwork to rebirth himself and remove judgmental thoughts. Have compassion for his journey. Know that he deserves to be loved and accepted. Find a practitioner to help him love his inner child. Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code "Overit" and get up to 35% off on selected models. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you want to truly understand the power of surrender and acceptance, don't miss this episode! KUTE BLACKSON is a beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events including A-Fest, YPO (Young Presidents' Organization), and EO (Entrepreneurs' Organization). He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a select group of one hundred of the world's foremost authorities in the personal development industry. Winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden Award, Blackson is widely considered a next generation leader in the field of personal development. His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life's purpose. www.kuteblackson.com

This episode is about love and relationships. Today's caller, Rocio, is in a pattern that is blocking her from calling in love. She would like guidance on how much of her dating is based on divine timing or if there are things she can do to date from a more empowered, emotionally available space. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode395] A lot of times we think we are emotionally available because we want love and connection and we've done the work to make ourselves vulnerable. But, often, there is a hurt part of us that is a protective mechanism that makes us put a guard up so we are not completely emotionally available. We are co-creators in our life. The spirit of the divine meets us at the point of action and intention. If we are not actively participating in getting what we desire, then we are not fully meeting the divine at the point of action and intention. If we have fear, it can block us. A lot of the time we spend avoiding love because we are afraid of rejection more than we are into opening ourselves up and putting ourselves out there. When we have a parent that created an anxious attachment style, we draw in people who trigger that feeling inside of us because we are attempting to heal it. As children, we can't advocate for ourselves as we can as adults. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you frustrated with dating and want to know how you can shift it? Did you think everything was going well with the last person you dated and then it just didn't work out? If you look back at it, did you miss some red flags? Did you have a parent you craved more from and you can see how that wound impacts how you date? Are you willing to be vulnerable, emotionally available, and honest about what works for you and what doesn't? Rocio's Question: Rocio would like guidance about how much she should trust timing and intuition to call in love. Rocio's Key Insights and Ahas: She has been meeting emotionally unavailable guys. She fears rejection and being vulnerable. Recently she thought she met someone and their energies aligned but there were inconsistencies. She feels that she is putting herself out there and trusting her intuition. There were inconsistencies in her relationship with her father. She is not fully healed from an unmet need from her childhood. She wants to call in a relationship. How to Get Over It and On With It: If triggered, call it out and stand up for herself right away. Normalize being emotionally available and asking for what she wants. Don't let her fear of rejection stop her from speaking her truth. Trust herself to express her needs. Remember the guys she dates are not her father. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good-looking clean cooking. Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and it is non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off on their full suite of products, including their new food storage sets. Be sure to use OVERIT at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

McCall McPherson is a Physician Assistant, a thyroid-patient gone expert after suffering for years due to mismanagement of her own thyroid disorder. She is the founder of Modern Thyroid Clinic, a functional medicine practice in Austin, Texas specializing in complex thyroid disorders and a believer that with proper care and treatment there is no reason to still have thyroid symptoms. Learn more about her practice here: https://www.modernthyroidclinic.com/ And her course for optimal thyroid function here: http://www.mccallmcpherson.com/#/courses/

This episode is about relationships. Today's caller, Anthony, feels ready to call in love and fulfill his purpose but is unsure why he feels blocked. He would like guidance about how to move past the blocks and step into the life he desires. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode394] If you are in your 20s, remember you have time. Be patient with yourself and be patient with the way life is going to unfold. Especially, those of you who are on a personal development path. There is a co-creation aspect to growth and there is a part of you, a higher-self part of you, that may keep you from some of the things your ego and mind want right now because how you are meant to evolve is more important. Trust the unfolding of your life. Trust divine timing. And, try not to put pressure on yourself to get something by a certain age. Put intention into yourself to know yourself, love, accept, and be a good partner to yourself. We all have places inside where we might feel a little insecure and it's normal to feel like that. When we have had challenges we can wonder who will want us in that state. Our unmet needs come up when we are dating until we really work on it. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you wanting to call in a relationship but you don't exactly know how? Is there a part of you that is confident about what you have to offer but then a part of you wonders if someone will really love that one thing? Did you have a super present parent, or did you have one or maybe both parents that weren't so available and you may be looking for a relationship to fulfill that void? Anthony's Question: Anthony wants to know how to find a committed relationship as well as walk fully into his purpose. Anthony's Key Insights and Ahas: He is looking for someone to grow with. He feels that something is missing. He helps people take control of their health. He's never been in a relationship and feels like it is time. He wants to be more emotionally secure. He has trouble sleeping due to physical pain. He had Lyme disease. His father was emotionally unavailable. He feels he can't fully access love and compassion for himself. He didn't have a role model of emotional acceptance. He has an unfulfilled childhood need. How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion, love, and acceptance for himself. Begin a meditation practice to get more in tune with his emotional self. Do the things he loves to do. Make it a priority to be the best father and partner to himself. Sponsor: Cured Nutrition — What a difference a good night's sleep makes. And, CBN Nighttime Oil with sleep support properties makes a good night's sleep possible. Other Cured products include RISE, and ZEN to balance out well-being. Go to CuredNutrition.com/OVERIT to get 20% off your entire order. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Steven Chandler is one of my coaching mentors. Being his client over 10 years ago dramatically improved my success. The "MindShift" he offers frees people from unnecessary pessimism and puts them back in touch with the source of their enthusiasm for work and life. Although Steve Chandler graduated from the University of Arizona with a degree in Creative Writing and Political Science, and spent four years in the military studying language and psychological warfare; he credits his own life experiences with failure as the most valuable tools for helping others. Steve's audiences are inspired by stories of his "low points" – it gives them hope, because they realize that they are not nearly as bad off as he was – they figure if Steve can transform his life, so can they! Steve Chandler is now the author of 30 books that have been translated into over 25 languages. His personal success coaching, public speaking and business consulting have been used by CEOs, top professionals, major universities, and over 30 Fortune 500 companies. He has twice won the national Audio of the Year award from King Features Syndicate. A popular guest on TV and radio talk shows, Steve Chandler has recently been called "the most powerful public speaker in America today." Steve is also a master coach that has helped train hundreds of coaches to transform many lives and businesses. He created the Coaching Prosperity School to assist coaches to build a strong practice and create great clients www.CoachingProsperitySchool.com You can learn more at https://www.stevechandler.com/index.html

This episode is about when we just can't seem to get back to feeling ourselves. Today's caller, Monica, has been injured by trauma over the last several years. She feels stuck and can't seem to recharge. She asks for guidance on how to get over it and on with it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode393] When we are not feeling like ourselves. It can be frightening. We need to remind ourselves that even though we don't feel like ourselves at the moment, we know who we are. When we have been through a lot of trauma, just because it's over doesn't mean it's over. Time does not heal all wounds when it comes to trauma. Our nervous system gets unregulated. We get depleted. Our brain gets all scrambled. We get put into survival mode, and it is hard to connect to creativity, to other people, and sometimes to spirituality. When we are completely depleted and in survival mode, there are things that happen in our brains that make it impossible to do it. But, at the same time, we have conditioning that tells us we should be able to get over things. But, whether it is trauma or transition, there is an in-between state when we want to get back to how we used to be but oftentimes there is a newer version of ourselves post-trauma, post-transition, that we don't know yet. That is a beautiful new version of ourselves. We need to give ourselves the grace, compassion, passion, support, and time to get there. Christine is hosting her Signature Women's Retreat on October 10‒13, 2023 in San Diego, CA. To take advantage of the early bird special and reserve your spot, go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you had a rough couple of years and even though the storms are over you still feel that you can't get over it? Are you in a place in life where you're not really depressed but you're just not yourself? Have you been through a lot of trauma, or difficult times and you can't seem to shake it? Have you ever considered that you may have PTSD? Monica's Question: Monica has had a difficult few years. She feels she has nothing left to give and wants to get over it and on with it. Monica's Key Insights and Ahas: Several people in her life took their own lives. She was in a motorcycle accident. She owns her own business. She goes from crisis mode to crisis mode. She has been in survival mode for a long time. She judges herself for not being able to move on. She may have PTSD. She self-isolates at times and needs to recharge. She doesn't understand why she feels the way she does. She feels stuck. How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize there is nothing wrong with her. Look for a trauma-trained practitioner that can help with nervous system trauma, such as EMDR. Do things that nourish her, like a massage, and replenish herself. Takeaways: If you are suffering from PTSD or PTSI, reach out for help. Recovery is not something you should do alone. Sponsor: Cured Nutrition — What a difference a good night's sleep makes. And, CBN Nighttime Oil with sleep support properties makes a good night's sleep possible. Other Cured products include RISE, and ZEN to balance out well-being. Go to CuredNutrition.com/OVERIT to get 20% off your entire order. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

We cover a lot of ground about mental health, emotional processing and feeling comfortable with ALL our emotions. Alex Wills, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist. He is a graduate of the Sackler School of Medicine and completed his residency and fellowship training in Hawaii with additional training from Columbia University. He is the owner of Perma Mental Health, a private psychiatric practice with offices across Idaho. Alex's clinical days are spent using the Radical Emotional Acceptance method to help patients heal from issues ranging from past traumas to interpersonal struggles in their marriages. Give a F*ck, Actually is based on that experience. Learn more at www.RadicalEmotionalAcceptance.com The breathing website mentioned is: https://xhalr.com/

This episode is about busting through limiting beliefs to get down to love and truth. Today's caller, Andrew, finds himself at a challenging crossroads in his marriage. He would like to know how to be supportive of his wife after her recent cancer diagnosis without becoming a doormat. There are many common, limiting beliefs when it comes to love and romance. One belief is the success of a relationship is based on the time it lasts. So, if there is a breakup or divorce, the relationship was considered a failure. Or, if you love someone, you must love them unconditionally and stay with them, for better or for worse, no matter what. Another limiting belief is, the purpose of a romantic relationship is to find THE one who completes you. Diagnoses can be an opportunity for deep healing and transformation. Sometimes, what is for the highest good is not always the easiest or most obvious choice. It basically comes down to love and truth. People in a relationship can be growing at different speeds, but still along the same path. Remember, spirituality is not tolerating people treating us the way they want to treat us. Love and truth go together. Self-honoring choices are often for the highest good of all, and that is the ultimate high road. We can love, encourage, support, and be an example for people, but we cannot save anyone else, that is up to them. Would you like to raise your wealth consciousness? Another Group Coaching Call is coming. In it, we talk about money and prosperity. It is only $20 to join in on Tues. March 21st, 2023 at 7:30 pm CST. Don't worry if you cannot make it live, it will be recorded. I will include a guided meditation and group coaching questions. Go to christinehassler.com/group to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: What soul lessons are you currently learning from your relationship or relationship status? Are you making your relationship with yourself or your higher power a priority? Are any of your relationships at a point where you are growing in a different direction from each other? Do you wonder if being there for someone else in a supportive way is putting your own needs at risk? What is the difference between having a spiritual orientation to your relationship, and doing a spiritual bypass and becoming a bit of a doormat? Andrew's Question: Andrew's relationship is experiencing trials and tribulations. He would like to know how to spiritually cope with his wife's recent thyroid cancer diagnosis. Andrew's Key Insights and Ahas: His wife's hormones have been elevated due to a thyroid problem. He feels spirituality calling him. It's not his responsibility to save his wife. He has recently started a spiritual practice. He doesn't believe his wife is a willing participant in the relationship. His current lesson may not yet be resolved. It is now up to him to re-parent himself. How to Get Over It and On With It: Write his wife a letter to share what feels about her and how the diagnosis may be a wake-up call to stay committed to working on their relationship. Also, let her know he cannot do it alone. Hug his wife every day. Take 100% responsibility for his 50%. Takeaways: Look back at your romantic relationships to see what lessons you have learned. Write down how each partner has been a soul mate. Nurture a relationship with a higher power. Do something intentional and devotional every day for someone you care about. If there is a difficult conversation you need to have, write a letter and either read the letter to the person or give it to them. Sponsor: Cured Nutrition — What a difference a good night's sleep makes. And, CBN Nighttime Oil with sleep support properties makes a good night's sleep possible. Other Cured products include RISE, and ZEN to balance out well-being. Go to CuredNutrition.com/OVERIT to get 20% off your entire order. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is a very important conversation about how all of our devices both help and hinder our lives. Gloria Mark studies the impact of digital media on people's lives: their attention spans, multitasking, distraction, mood and behavior when they use their computers and smartphones. She also studies the future of work, and how remote work impacts how we use our devices. Dr Mark is Chancellor's Professor ofInformatics at the University of California, Irvine and has been a visiting senior researcher at Microsoft Research since 2012. She received her PhD from Columbia University in psychology. She regularly publishes in the top conferences and journals in her field. She was inducted into the ACM SIGCHI Academy in 2017 recognizing leaders in the field of human-computer interaction. She has presented her work at SXSW and the AspenIdeas Festival, and her work has appeared in The New York Times, Wall StreetJournal, NPR, The Atlantic, the BBC, and many others.

This episode is about shifting your external world while making internal changes. Today's caller, Jenn, has been through transformational changes and believes she is confused about her work as a relationship coach. Anyone who is on the growth path will relate to this call in some way. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode391] As we uncover and heal our issues, either in relationships or in the physical, we shift our vibration. Our energetic selves change, which creates a shift in what we're attracted to and what we attract. Dis-ease and/or toxic relationships are heavy in energetic weight. As we heal, clear, and forgive, it shifts our vibration and creates changes in our outside world. Some changes happen naturally and some just give us an unsettling feeling about something not being right. As we shift consciousness, our identity shifts and as it does it can feel confusing because our external life is not congruent with our internal life. Just because you don't have clarity about something or something doesn't feel as fulfilling as it used to, doesn't mean you are confused. You are in a time of change and transformation. For something to transform, it must go through a period of chaos and uncertainty. Don't rush to figure it out — allow it to be revealed. Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? Find out more about the Be the Queen program, which began on February 28, 2023. It includes an in-person one-day retreat in San Diego on October 12, 2023, and the self-paced evergreen course at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or email [email protected]. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there some aspect of your life that doesn't feel right, or just feels off? Have you healed a relationship or physical issue that has catalyzed wanting to make changes in other aspects of your life? Can you relate to being a chameleon to stay safe? Are you a people pleaser? Are you scared of being vulnerable or being seen? Jenn's Question: Jenn feels she has lost her inspiration and passion for her business. She wants to gain clarity about her coaching business. Jenn's Key Insights and Ahas: She had a falling out with her mother. She was physically ill. She internalizes her mother's issues. She was a people pleaser and chameleon around her mother. She has always been there for others. Her relationship coaching feels shallow to her now. She's committed to getting out of her head. How to Get Over It and On With It: Bring more of her own voice into her business. Don't underestimate the value she brings to her clients. Consider the way the people she appreciates share their stories. Share more of her emotional depths. Takeaways: Get Expectation Hangover if you don't have it already, and in the spiritual section do the lesson quest exercise under the role of the seeker. Take an inventory of your external life. Does it match your internal life? How can you be more vulnerable and honest? Think of the ways you are a people pleaser or play small. How can you step into a deeper level of authenticity? Where are you telling yourself you are confused when you are not? Can you allow yourself to be in uncertainty? Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community @ChristinHassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler

CC: Loving (and leaving) an addict with Dana Killion Dana Killion debut memoir, Where the Shadows Dance: He Got Sober. I Got Broken, explores her struggle as she became collateral damage in her husband's self-destruction. After saving him, she realized she also needed to save herself. She is the author of the Andrea Kellner Mystery series. You can pre-order her new book here

This episode is about why we may feel blah like nothing's wrong but it is not right either. Today's caller, Judith, keeps herself busy to avoid things in her life and would like guidance on how to find a sense of purpose. If you have ever had a sense that nothing feels terribly wrong but nothing feels really right either, or you are not depressed and just feel blah, you will enjoy this episode. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode390] So many people are operating with the sense that nothing is really wrong but nothing feels quite right either. Some may not even know that it's not ideal to have a sense of malaise. If you have a pattern or a way you've gotten love, fulfillment, attention, acknowledgment, recognition, etc., and you feel a sense of malaise, or that nothing's wrong but nothing feels right either, it is usually an indicator that you are using some kind of behavior to give you a sense of fulfillment. Try making a choice not to do something that gives yourself a sense of fulfillment because it's a pattern or a reaction. Instead, consciously and intentionally choose to go in a direction that will enhance internal fulfillment. Because we cannot get true lasting internal fulfillment from external sources or external behavior. Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? Find out more about the Be the Queen program, which began on February 28, 2023. It includes an in-person one-day retreat in San Diego on October 12, 2023, and the self-paced evergreen course at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or email [email protected]. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you had a good life? Nothing bad has happened but you don't feel a sense of fulfillment? Are you the kind of person that gets fulfilled from doing and if you're not doing anything then you're looking for that sense of fulfillment? Did you have to grow up early and even though you didn't have a "bad" childhood you had a childhood that was interrupted a little too soon? Do you have an inward sense of purpose? Do you feel connected to something bigger than you, a sense of spirituality that can hold you in those times when nothing outside of you is bringing you fulfillment? Judith's Question: Judith is at a crossroads and would like guidance on how to overcome a feeling of general malaise. Judith's Key Insights and Ahas: She feels a sense of general malaise. She didn't have any major traumas in her life. Nothing feels wrong but nothing feels right either. She feels her purpose is to give energy to people and events. She makes herself busy when she is avoiding something. She felt she was the glue that held her family together in childhood. She often would like someone to take care of her. She is a recovering codependent. She didn't have catastrophic events in her life. She is always curious to learn. She is a therapist. She appreciates the journey aspect of life. How to Get Over It and On With It: Learn how to have a sense of purpose without "doing" anything. Start a spiritual journey to find a sense of purpose and meaning deep within. Join the Inner Child Workshop. Make a list of 3‒5 songs that change her state of being and listen to it when she feels blah. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good-looking clean cooking. Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and it is non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off on their full suite of products, including their new food storage sets. Be sure to use OVERIT at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Melody Wilding is the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on "Sensitive Strivers", her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a masters from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College. Learn more at melodywilding.com

This episode is about how to find a sense of home, safety, and security without being codependent. Today's caller, Stephania, gets low when going through rough patches and would like some tools to find safety and security within herself. Christine offers ways she can regulate her nervous system to find peace. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode389] Wanting to feel like home translates into how to feel more regulated inside. How to not be in the fight-or-flight part of our nervous system and settle into rest-and-digest. When we think of the metaphor of home, the feeling of home is safe, nourishing, relaxing, and fulfilling. At home, we know we are always going to have a full belly and a warm heart. That happens inside when we are in that more rested part of our nervous system. Finding our sense of home is doing the work and asking ourselves questions, but it is also about a consistent practice of knowing when we are dysregulated, aka triggered. So, when we're in our heads, our heart is beating fast, our stomach is in knots, and we are reactive and time-traveling. Something in the present is triggering us more than it needs to and reminds us of something in the past. When we are in a dysregulated state it's the practice of finding tools to bring us back into our body to regulate our nervous system. If a person changes because they have shame or judgment about a behavior versus if a person changes because they have compassion for their wounding and they want to feel peace; the latter change lasts. Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? Find out more about the Be the Queen program, which begins on February 28, 2023. It includes an in-person one-day retreat in San Diego on October 12, 2023, and the self-paced evergreen course at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or email [email protected]. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a history of having an anxious attachment style? Do you feel like you put everyone else's needs before yours? Do you feel dysregulated or triggered often, perhaps even jealous? Did you lack a parent who nurtured and loved you? Did you know that at least one of your parents, particularly your mother, loved you unconditionally? Stephania's Question: Stephania asks for tools to help her find safety within herself. Stephania's Key Insights and Ahas: She searches outside herself for safety and security. She is a people pleaser. She creates safety within her relationships with other people. She is aware of her codependent tendencies. Messages on her partner's phone triggered her. She and her partner are going to couples therapy. She doesn't know how to be compassionate with herself. She is sad because her mother didn't give her compassion. She didn't feel love from her mother and has been trying to fill the void. How to Get Over It and On With It: Regulate her nervous system. Take ownership of her tendencies and patterns without shame or judgment. She doesn't need to fix anything to make her lovable. Speak the language of love to herself. Tap into the mother archetype to embody what being a mother truly means. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My husband joins me today as we talk about my journey to calling him in after nearly a decade of being VERY single after my divorce. We offer both insight and some practical advice on how women can attract healthy men who are worthy of their hearts. Stef and I also share about one of our favorite programs, "Be the Queen" which starts this month. You can learn more and join us at https://christinehassler.com/bethequeen/

This episode is about reclaiming lost aspects of ourselves. Today's caller, Michael, feels lost. He keeps checking things off his list and achieving his goals but lacks purpose and satisfaction in life. Christine offers guidance about how he can reclaim the childhood parts of himself that were buried long ago. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode388] It doesn't matter whether we are gay or we are too tall, too thin, or we have the wrong skin color, whatever it is, as children, most of us fundamentally decide there is something wrong with us. It is at that point where our freedom, childish curiosity, wonderment, innocence, creativity, and radical self-acceptance dies. The second we are shamed for a part of who we are, it's like a part of us dies inside. When our childlike parts that are full of life and authenticity get cut off, we feel dead inside and lost because those parts were huge parts of our life. It's like a car with no steering wheel. Good luck getting around anywhere. You can sit in it, rev the engine, and play a radio but you can't go anywhere. We are not always consciously aware that we carry around the grief of the childhood parts of us that were not fully expressed. And, we will always feel lost if there is a part of us that is missing. As adults, we search for something to make that part of us feel alive again. We crave reclamation. Sometimes we desperately fight for what we want without knowing that we are fighting for it. We are always looking for safety. Whatever we are looking for outside of us has to be found inside. Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? If so, Christine and Stefanos held a free masterclass on Valentine's Day. Get the recording at christinehassler.com/lovemasterclass. And, find out more about the Be the Queen program, which includes an in-person one-day retreat and a self-paced recorded option at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or e-mail [email protected]. Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have to morph yourself as a child in order to be accepted or to feel not so different? Did people say they accepted you but inside you always felt different? Have you climbed a lot of mountains, gone to the summit, looked around, and said "wait a second, this is it?" and now you're looking for your next mountain to climb? Have you ever dealt with depression, feeling low in the deep dark nights of the soul, or considered ending your life? Michael's Question: Michael feels lost and would like guidance about how to reclaim freedom and purpose. Michael's Key Insights and Ahas: He has completed the Personal Mastery program. He has been through ups and downs in his life. He used to have vision and purpose but doesn't feel them any longer. He has experienced bouts of severe depression. He didn't feel like he belonged with boys or girls as a child. His coping strategy is suppression. He searches out role models. He overshares with people he trusts. He is looking for something outside of himself. He felt ashamed of being gay. He yearns to be seen for who he truly is. He sabotaged himself in order to force change. He numbed himself for most of his adult life. He reads tarot cards. How to Get Over It and On With It: He needs to liberate and fully express himself. Stop looking for something to do and commit to reclaiming his lost self to give himself the childhood he didn't have. Learn to channel his creativity, energy, and sensitivity. Takeaways: Join the Personal Mastery program. What parts of yourself do you need to reclaim? It is time for them to come alive again, so you can come alive again. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and to improve well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions. It tones the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Devin Burke is an international and TEDx speaker, the bestselling author of "The Sleep Advantage," the founder of Sleep Science Academy, and one of the top health and sleeps coaches in the world. His books, keynotes, programs, and videos have inspired thousands of people to improve their sleep, energy, and life. His mission is to give the 40+ million people who suffer from poor sleep the tools and support they need to stop suffering and start sleeping as quickly as possible.

This episode is about how to respond with curiosity to people who are not respecting you. Today's caller, Mica, is looking for guidance on how they can change their response to become more empowered when it comes to people not using the preferred pronouns they have asked them to use. This call opens our awareness to non-binary individuals who like to be called they and them and not the traditional pronouns we may be used to and about how growing up in a restrictive environment impacts us as adults. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode387] Identity, be it race, gender, or age, when we take it all out of the equation, all we are is love. Every single one of us is love. Often, it takes people who don't fit into a mold to teach those who do fit in more of a mold that nothing matters but who someone's essence is. Who we are as humans on this planet is just love and that's it. That is what we all are here to learn. What scares most of us about conflict is that we think we have to be confrontational. If we don't attack we think our only other option is to retreat or we feel we either have to charge ahead or collapse. That is a very common dynamic. The goal is to respond to people that aren't respecting you with curiosity versus confrontation. Curiosity is powerful. It is one of the most underused responses and ways to be. When we approach people with curiosity, they are able to hear. It allows us to make direct requests of them from a place of vulnerability and authenticity. The more we accept ourselves for who we are, the less oppression we face. It's not that there isn't oppression or people who don't respect who we are. But, when we can really come into full self-acceptance, we can teach people how to treat us and respect us. We also aren't letting our own nervous system get dysregulated due to someone else's ignorance or stubbornness. Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? If so, join Christine and Stefanos for a free masterclass on Valentine's Day, Feb. 14th, 2023 at 7:30 CST. Join live or get the recording at christinehassler.com/lovemasterclass. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you made requests of other individuals and they're just not listening or they are not honoring your requests? When you are in times of conflict, do you have the tendency to either attack or retreat? Do you want to find a more empowered way to respond? Did you grow up in an oppressive household and you did anything you could to try to fit in? Do you want to feel a sense of freedom to be yourself and not care what anybody else thinks and move into a place of radical self-acceptance and be free? Mica's Question: Mica has felt friction when establishing the pronouns they prefer and would like guidance on how to deal with conflict. Mica's Key Insights and Ahas: They came out as non-binary. They find it stressful when people push back on them. They read tarot cards. They are an aspiring life coach. Their biological father was a tyrant in their life. They had to have a defensive posture. They feel unseen and unheard. They have been non-binary since childhood but tried to identify as female. They have had to prove who they are throughout their life. They know they are here to teach people how to love. How to Get Over It and On With It: Approach conflicts with curiosity. Allow their nervous system to feel that people are safe. Know that they are allowed to ask for what they want and need. Feel confident in who they are, no matter what pronouns others use. Recognize when they are triggered and navigate their way through it differently. Radically accept themselves as love. Apologize to their younger self and free the part of them that felt stifled. Takeaways: Move into self-acceptance and work with your rebel part and tell it that it is free. Tell it there is nothing to prove and it doesn't have to fight. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and to improve well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions. It tones the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

One of my dear friends who is also an epic coach, speaker and author joins me to have a very intimate conversation about birth, death and so much more. A little more about Dr Neeta....She is the founder of Global GRIT Institute, a wellness education platform for optimizing wellbeing, and cofounder of Dharma Coaching Institute, a coaching organization training coaches to become the highest versions of themselves. That Sucked, Now What? is a real-talk guide to personal growth that draws on embracing the suck while breaking through to lasting, audacious resilience. You can access her free gifts at https://neetabhushan.com/book/

This episode is about breaking bad dating patterns. Today's caller, Amber, is aware that she has a pattern of dating men with issues, but she is unsure how to shift it. She asks for guidance about why she continually calls in the same type of person and how she can change it. No matter what your relationship status, this call will help you to closely connect to your inner child to shift current-day issues. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode386] Very few people in their childhood experience pure unconditional love. Most people have to come up with strategies to feel loved and they often never do feel love unconditionally. As a child, if our parents aren't okay, we are not okay. We all speak a language of love that often is not love. As children, it was the only way we knew to survive because we all need love and we all need to feel connected to our caretaker. We may think it is love but it is the only way we know how to relate. We can drive ourselves crazy trying to deal with present-day issues, or trying to change something in the present but unless we find the root cause it is really hard to shift things. It is akin to having a chronic health problem. We try to find a functional medicine doctor to help us get to the root cause of our issue. If we don't, we are just throwing medication and treatments at the symptoms. We never just want to treat the symptoms. We want to treat the root cause of our issues. If you are in a relationship you know is not working or is not healthy. Get out of it and look for the root cause. Focus on being a partner and parent to yourself. Until we re-parent ourselves, we play out the patterns of our unmet needs. Until we become a great partner to ourselves we are not going to have the conscious partnership we truly desire. Are you ready to find love and call in your person? If so, join the next Group Coaching Call on February 7th, 2023 at 7:30 pm CST. For only $20, Christine and Stefanos are providing live coaching. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have a parent that you had to parent or a parent that did not meet your needs? Do you have a pattern of rescuing people in relationships or do you call in partners that have a lot of issues? Do you want a conscious healthy relationship but you just don't know how to shift the pattern that you are in? Do you know how to mother or father your inner child? Amber's Question: Amber has a pattern of dating partners with issues. She would like guidance on how to shift it to have a healthy, conscious relationship. Amber's Key Insights and Ahas: Her mother was emotionally unavailable. As a child, she felt she had to take on a parental role. She has been seeing a therapist. She is drawn to men she can nurture and protect. She dates men for a few months and then breaks up with them. She finds it hard to nurture her inner child. She feels that she does not deserve love. How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize her dating patterns stem from her unmet childhood needs. Create a list of red flags and when those flags emerge in a new relationship, break up with the person. Mother herself so she does not feel the need to mother others. Understand that her mother was hurt and didn't have the opportunity to heal herself. Connect with her inner child to help her feel love. Take a year off from dating. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — offers fabulous looking clean cooking. Caraway cookware is beautiful, easy to clean and use and it is non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off limited-time offer and use OVERIT at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Robert Waldinger joins me to talk about happiness - what it is, how we can be happy, myths about happiness and so much more. As a psychiatrist and the 4th director of the longest study on happiness, he is full of both wisdom and heart. He also invites you to a wonderful happiness challenge that I encourage you to take. More about Robert... he is a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital, and cofounder of the Lifespan Research Foundation. Dr. Waldinger received his AB from Harvard College and his MD from Harvard Medical School. He is a practicing psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, and he directs a psychotherapy teaching program for Harvard psychiatry residents. He is also a Zen master (Roshi) and teaches meditation in New England and around the world. Robert is the co-author of the book The Good Life: Lessons From the World's Longest Scientific Study on Happiness)

This episode is about getting over an unwanted breakup and so much more. Today's caller, Nicole, was surprised when her husband of two years asked for a divorce citing different communication styles. She would like guidance on how to get over the breakup and how to use what she is learning about herself to heal her triggers. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode385] When we grow up with the feeling of struggle, or we feel our parents struggle, we can't just be kids. We can't completely relax. So, in our adult relationships, we look for relief. Other people can help us heal and can be amazing sources of support but no one can save us from ourselves. We can rely on people to hold space for us and they can be amazing support systems. But if we are always looking to someone else to fill a void, save us, help us, or end our struggles, then we never really embody the knowing that we can fill that void, or deal with that struggle ourselves. It is super empowering to know we can do that ourselves and know we don't need to rely on someone else for love, stability, or safety. The answers are never outside of ourselves. They are always found within. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you going through a change that you didn't want and you're having a hard time with it? Did you grow up struggling or was your family struggling, particularly your parents, and you find yourself struggling in life? Are you afraid you manifested "bad" things in life? Do you ever become someone that you're not in order to get love? Nicole's Question: Nicole feels she manifested her divorce and would like guidance on how to get over it. Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas: She was shocked when her ex-husband of two years asked for a divorce. She feels she may have manifested the situation. She fears she may have sabotaged her relationship. Her childhood was filled with struggle and strife. She suppressed her true nature in the relationship. She feels that her ex is perfect and met every item on her checklist. She projected children into their future. She truly enjoyed the relationship. She feels the need to be her fiery self in a relationship. She has had to conform at other times in her life. She did everything she could to save her marriage. She doubts her abilities and doesn't feel deserving. She feels that struggling has value and is a normal part of life. She put her ex-husband on a pedestal. She will go into learning mode, not victim mode. How to Get Over It and On With It: Manage her reactivity and how she communicates her feelings. Feel joy, stability, and comfort within herself. Work with a coach, or counselor, to keep her on the healing path. Use her experience as a lesson to heal her triggers. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and to improve well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions. It tones the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I'm delighted to have Erika back on the show to give all of you an energetic clearing (make sure to stay until the end of the podcast for that!) Erika is an intuitive healer and channel that helps release beliefs and programs that keep us stuck. If you have done tons of personal development but still feel like things aren't shifting the way you desire, don't miss this episode! You can book a session with Erika and learn more about her work and events here: https://www.erikaalaura.com/

This episode is about navigating a different path than your family. Today's caller, George, grew up in a healthy family environment but always felt he was on a different spiritual path than the rest of his family. He asks for guidance about accepting differences and for practices to heal his inner child. If you are a generational pattern breaker, or if you are choosing a different path than the one your family is on, this episode offers guidance for you too. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode384] For many generational pattern breakers, we are conflicted between our soul path and our family lineage. We are born knowing we are on a different path. We all come into life with our level of consciousness, the beliefs we adhere to, and our soul path. It may be difficult to understand when all the other members of a family are committed to something we may not be committed to. We have the family we are born into and then we find our soul family. When we choose something different, it can feel terrifying to break out of the family norm. One of our survival needs is wired to our nervous system and the part of our nervous system that is connected to fight, flight, freeze, or fawn is belonging. When we sever any type of tie to family, even if we can logically understand it, it still wakes up our need for belonging. It can bring up feelings of guilt or shame. We believe that our family should be the ones who know us best but sometimes they are not. And, that is okay. It doesn't mean we can't love them or have a relationship with them, it just means that we find our soul family in other places. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like the outsider in your family or the generational pattern breaker? Have you made a choice your family doesn't approve of? Is your family trying to fix you, trying to convince you to come back to their religion, business, or hometown? Do you feel like your own flesh and blood doesn't really understand you? George's Question: George wants to know how to navigate and set boundaries within the relationship he has with his family. George's Key Insights and Ahas: He was raised in a Christian household yet his current spiritual path differs. He feels distant from his family. He wants his family to accept him for who he is. He asked his family to respect his spiritual journey. He had a healthy upbringing but felt misunderstood. He feels like an outsider for leaving the rural community that his family lives and worships in. He realizes he is living his life for himself and not his family. He is having a difficult time accepting that there are issues they will not be able to connect on. For a long time, he associated spirituality with the Christian religion. He is currently experiencing a higher level of spiritual growth. In some ways, he has always felt different and unique in his family. His inner child is reluctant to let his feelings go. How to Get Over It and On With It: Know that the connection he wants with his family may not be possible. Understand no spiritual path is better, they are just different. Have a conversation with his inner child who didn't feel understood and have compassion and love for himself. Enjoy his relationship with his family without talking about religion or spirituality. Practice dominant handwriting, the empty chair process, or journaling when talking with his inner child. Allow his spiritual practice to lead him through his experience. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, improving well-being, and increasing high-quality sleep. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions. It tones the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Dr. Cabral, a functional and naturopathic doctor, joins me again to talk about what truly keeps us healthy and how important is it to measure certain things in our body so we can PREVENT disease, aging and just feeling not great. Listen to him analyze my results from a minerals and metals test and be one of the first to receive a FREE minerals and metals test plus analysis here: https://shop.stephencabral.com/over-it-on-with-it-free-lp003 More about Dr Cabral: Dr. Cabral has more than 20 years in the natural health field, worldwide internships, dozens of certifications, and a doctoral degree in Naturopathy. He is the host of his top rated podcast, "The Cabral Concept" where he's gotten over 30 million downloads. He has appeared in every type of media outlet as a national health & wellness consultant, as well as a contributor to MTV, Men's Health, Women's Day, Maxim, SELF, Diet.com, NutritionData, Conde Nast, and many others. He has also authored and co-authored 4 books including his #1 International Best Selling book, the Rain Barrel Effect, and has published over 1,100 articles. Dr. Cabral is the Founder & CEO of Equi.Life, a health & wellness company that offers At-Home Lab Testing, Coaching Calls with an IHP Certified Health Coach and over 125+ Supplements & Protocols. In addition, Dr. Cabral is the Founder & CEO of the Integrative Health Practitioner Institute where he has certified thousands of people all over the world as Integrative Health Practitioners so that they can heal themselves and heal others.

This episode is about a pattern of withdrawal and doing deep work when you are not resourced. Today's caller, Linet, is a sleep-deprived new mother who finds it difficult to express her emotions with her partner. When her partner expresses his feelings she feels judged. Christine guides Linet through ways she can use her current situation to heal the pains of the past and lean into love. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode383] Oftentimes, when we are dealing with lower hormones, we can't rely on biology. We need psychology and we need to use our heart. It is not the time to do deep work and bring up painful experiences from our past when we are sleep-deprived, hormonally challenged, or adjusting to major life changes. If you are currently under-resourced it is not the time to dig deep into core wounding. Doing so can reactivate the trauma because you don't have enough resources to hold you through the process. But, it could be the time to break patterns and choose more into experiences you wish you had as a child. When it comes to pattern breaks it takes a commitment. Whether you are finding a way for your child or your inner child we have got to find a way to break a pattern. Patterns are patterns for a reason and breaking a pattern is a choice. If we keep doing the same thing we keep getting the same results. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a pattern of withdrawing or related to the avoidant attachment style? Do you get angry at yourself or others but underneath you are just sad? When your partner comes to you being vulnerable, do you feel as if you have done something wrong? When they make a request of you, do you judge them or judge yourself? Do you want to break a pattern in your parenting? Would you like to be a different parent than the way you were parented? Linet's Question: Linet would like to express her concerns without sounding critical or judgmental and learn how to eliminate roadblocks in her relationships. Linet's Key Insights and Ahas: She has problems expressing her emotions. She feels angry, frustrated, and distant often. When her husband shares his emotions, she feels judged. Her relationship is 1.5 years old. She is a new mother and recently lost her libido during postpartum. She is hard on herself and has expectation hangovers. She isn't sleeping well. She has had to hold it all together throughout her life. Intimacy frightens her. Her mother didn't make her feel safe to share her emotions. She finds it easy to connect and nurture her daughter. When she withdraws, she wants to be loved. She is ready to break patterns. This is her first relationship that has lasted more than three months. How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion for herself during major changes in her life. Practice leaning into love when she wants to withdraw. Avoid doing deep work until she is fully resourced. When she wants to withdraw, ask for a hug instead. Give little Linet the hugs she needs. Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code "Overit" and get up to 35% off on selected models. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Layla Martin is a thought leader in the ever-emerging worlds of sexual wellness, Tantra, erotic empowerment, and personal development. As founder of the VITA™ Method, she's been certifying professionals in a Tantric approach to Love, Sex, and Relationships for over 7 years and has taught over 12,000 paid clients. For 20 years, Layla traveled the world as a devoted student of Tantra, training with the most high-level teachers of this powerful tradition. She studied human sexuality, neuroscience, and biology at Stanford University, and immersed herself in the energetic traditions of Taoism and early witchcraft. Along the way, she personally curated a dynamic, holistic system from over 10,000 hours of practice that blends ancient traditions with modern techniques. The VITA™ Method is proven to help heal trauma, release limiting beliefs, and awaken life-changing levels of pleasure. You can learn more about her VITA certification program at christinehassler.com/layla

This is the second part of my annual ritual to complete this year and step forward into 2023 with intention! In this episode, I guide you through a receiving process and meditation to start 2023 with steps to get clear about what you want to call in. Be sure to listen to the 2022 release episode to prepare you to receive freely. We are $30 off on our breathwork and meditation series. Go to ChristineHassler.com/breathwork and use the promo code HOLIDAY. And, January 10th is the first virtual group coaching night of 2023! Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good looking, clean cooking. Caraway cookware is beautiful, easy to clean and use and it is non-toxic. It has a naturally slick ceramic surface and comes in cookware and bakeware sets. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off limited-time offer and use Overit at checkout. Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Welcome to my annual two-part ritual to complete this year and step forward into the next with intention! In this episode, I guide you through a step-by-step process to complete 2022 with awareness and intention and let it go! And stay tuned for next week.

This episode is about getting past the fear and pain of rejection. Today's caller, Lisa, is triggered when she feels not chosen or rejected by others and would like to know why. Christine connects some powerful dots that may help you connect some dots in your life. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode381] Sometimes we adopt the behavior of a parent we empathize with or a parent we felt sad for. So, when we realize we are tender about something, first, we need to take 100% responsibility for it. Then look at what we need to heal and recognize we need to have self-love and self-care to work with our wounding. Repetitive triggers or sets of feelings that keep coming up over and over again are pointing us toward healing. Like our bodies letting us know we are sick by getting a fever or runny nose. Our repetitive triggers let us know there is an unresolved wound that needs healing. Two important things to remember: When our pain, experience, or our trigger feeling doesn't really match the reality of what is going on, it always means we are time traveling. It means we always are being reminded of people — usually from our childhood — when our current reaction really doesn't match the circumstances. Rejection is painful but a lot of times we are not being rejected. And, we can't just do our inner work and then tolerate behavior that isn't great. A lot of people fall into the trap of believing it is their wounding and not letting others take responsibility for their actions. As we heal, we learn to ask for what we need, speak our truth, and authentically self-express. Check out Christine's Reflect and Release 2022 podcast and the Call in the New Year podcast being released the first week of January. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you notice that you almost overreact when you feel rejected or your experience often doesn't match the reality of what's going on? When you feel left out or when you feel not chosen, does it just bring up terrible sadness for you? Do you constantly need reassurance that you are chosen, you are loved, and liked? Did your parents go through a divorce when you were a child and it is still impacting you today, and possibly impacting your fear of rejection? Lisa's Question: Lisa would like guidance on how to overcome her fear of rejection. Lisa's Key Insights and Ahas: She is triggered when she feels not chosen or left out. Her reactions aren't in-line with what is happening. Previous relationships may be triggering her. Her parents divorced when she was six. She told her dad she wanted to live with her mom. Her sense of belonging was rattled. She has a sensitivity to rejection. She is never sure what is her fear or what is an infraction. She tests her partner. She modeled her father after not being chosen. How to Get Over It and On With It: When she feels triggered, ask herself what her inner child needs, then provide it. Ask her partner and friends to support her. Have a conversation with her partner about the things she would like. Do the Inner Child Workshop. Takeaways: Look at where your pain around rejection may link to a sense of not belonging and how you can give your inner child now what it needed then. Consider how you can help heal your fear of rejection by making clear requests of others. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Ramit Sethi is the NYT best selling author of I Will Teach You To Be Rich and host of the I Will Teach You To Be Rich Podcast where he speaks directly with couples about how to build a better relationship with money and with each other.

This episode is about honoring lost loved ones and loving our way through grief. Today's caller, Kate, is a young woman who is grieving the loss of her mother. Christine offers comfort and ways she can feel joy alongside the tears by doing things in a way that honors the beautiful memories of her mother. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode380] In this crazy ride of a life, there are times of unbelievable joy, heart-bursting gratitude, and sometimes heart-wrenching grief. These are all aspects of love. Yet, none of us live forever, and we are all going to lose people we love. Loss is one of the hardest things we encounter in the human experience. We don't get out of this world without suffering. But, if we see grief and loss as part of love and we can see our grief as an expression of love, then it helps us have the courage to actually feel our way through it. It is helpful to be honest about our feelings and not worry about drowning in them but rather be intentional about welcoming our feelings and know that we have a life preserver and will not drown. We are more likely to drown in feelings we suppress than in feelings we allow. The beautiful and difficult thing about the human experience is that we feel deeply, especially if we've shifted ourselves out of patterns of suppression, distraction, repression, and numbing. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you lost someone or something recently and you are afraid to dive into your grief because you don't know how deep it will go? Do you have a parent that is on the other side and you'd like to cultivate a relationship with them or do things in their honor? Are you saving things or not doing things in your life and grief could be an inspiration to do them? Are you willing to open your heart fully to love even if that means losing? Kate's Question: As the holidays approach, Kate is grieving over the loss of her mother. She is searching for guidance on how to handle her grief. Kate's Key Insights and Ahas: Her mother passed away after a battle with cancer. She is in her early 20s. She and her mother bonded over gardening. People are offering condolences and advice on how to get over her grief. She is an only child. Her mother wants her to be happy. She finds solace in her partner and her puppy. She finds it beneficial to talk with her therapist. Her mother taught her about kindness and love. She finds it difficult to reach out for support from her family. How to Get Over It and On With It: Know that her mother will forever be in her heart. Live and do things in a way that will honor her mother, like making her favorite tea. Find joy in her memories and find joy alongside the tears and the loss. She is doing a great job of taking care of herself. Reach out to family members for support. Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code "Overit" and get up to 35% off on selected models. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

John Kim, LMFT, also known as the Angry Therapist pioneered the online life coaching movement seven years ago, after going through a divorce which led to his total re-birth. He quickly built a devoted following of fans who loved the frank and authentic insights that he freely shared on social media. Kim became known as an unconventional therapist who worked out of the box by seeing clients at coffee shops, on hikes, in a CrossFit box. John and his partner, Vanessa, live together in Los Angeles with their daughter. Together, they co-authored the book IT'S NOT ME, IT'S YOU: Break the Blame Cycle, Relationship Better .

This episode is about making the changes we know we need to make. Today's caller, Toni, has done personal development work but still feels stuck in her relationship. Christine explores the possibility that Toni knows the changes she needs to make but is letting the fear of change hold her back from taking action. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode379] Remember not to judge progress by external shifts. While external shifts are important it takes time for things to shift. Often, the season we are in is the awareness or the processing. We need to work our way up to making a change. But, eventually, we do have to make the change. Because awareness isn't enough. Integration and true transformation only happen when we change behavior. It doesn't matter how much processing we do or how much information we have. The process of true transformation requires making big changes. In life, if we could just connect the dots and things would change, life would be easy. It doesn't work that way, for things to change we often have to take bold action. Often, we know the changes we need to make but we don't want to make them. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a situation you know needs to change but you just are terrified of making the change? Have you done all the work but still feel stuck? Do you relate to being a people pleaser and a caregiver and you feel great in the role of taking care of others but no one's taking care of you? Toni's Question: Toni is feeling stuck in her relationship and is looking for guidance on how to make a change. Toni's Key Insights and Ahas: She does personal development work but something isn't shifting. Her five-year relationship is issue-based. Her partner may be emotionally unavailable. She feels her relationship may not go the distance. She had instability in her childhood. She wanted safety and security from her father but didn't receive them. She cared for her father during his alcoholism until his passing. She is a caretaker in all of her relationships. Awareness has become her safety and security. The only way she has gotten love is by taking care of others. When she gets overwhelmed she shuts down. She is afraid to leave her relationship. How to Get Over It and On With It: Acknowledge and celebrate shifts she has experienced. Make some big, scary changes. Leave the relationship. Stop using fear to not make a change. Get support through a coach, therapist, accountability partner, or friend. Takeaways: Where are you stuck because you aren't taking a step forward? Sponsor: Organifi — is ready to help you stay healthy and to get the nutrients you need during the holidays! The body needs both macro and micronutrients for optimal health. Organifi's Gold includes a turmeric blend. To get 20% off orders for yourself or as gifts use the promo code 'OVERIT' at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

It's the holiday season which means you may be around some people that push your buttons. One of the best ways to avoid getting too many buttons pushed is setting healthy boundaries. But what exactly are healthy boundaries? When do we set them? And how do we do it in a way that is loving? These are the questions I answer in today's episode.