Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

This call is about realizing the freedom of being your authentic self and setting boundaries. Today's caller, Rhonda, is used to putting other people first but she wants deeper, more authentic relationships. She feels stuck in the limiting beliefs and fears of her childhood. We work through her gift of discernment and how she can give her authentic self an outlet. It's a perfect conversation for what is going on collectively right now. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode250] To some degree, I think we are people pleasers or at least invested in making sure other people like us a large percentage of the time. But, more and more, we're living in a world where that simply doesn't work. It doesn't work because it stifles our authentic expression and it also doesn't work because we have too many people pleasers and not enough changemakers. How can we create a better world if we are afraid of upsetting other people? A great leader cares more about the truth then people's feelings. It's not a permission slip to be a jerk, however sometimes the truth does hurt, and that's okay. We have to be willing to receive the truth, allow it to sting a little bit but then go, all right what can I learn. And, we have to be willing to give the truth and be okay if people are upset with us. It's okay, their upset is their responsibility. Your responsibility is to speak the truth with love. We need people who see injustices and call them out. If you are feeling stuck, reframe it. You are not stuck. You are waking up. You may be in a bit of uncertainty because you are breaking free of old patterns but you are not stuck! Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified retreat in Austin, Sept 24-27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a people pleaser? Are you often more concerned with being liked and having people be okay than you are with actually speaking your truth? Did you grow up in a home where you had to take care of your parents and parent them so they were happy and your own needs weren't met? If you are a parent, are you able to be Mama or Papa Bear to your child but often have trouble giving yourself that same fierce love? Do you have the gift of discernment but you often don't speak up and use your gift to be able to see the truth? And, are you willing to make the truth more important than the need to be liked? Rhonda's Question: Rhonda feels stuck in people-pleasing mode. She wants deeper relationships where she can truly be seen. Rhonda's Key Insights and Ahas: She doesn't feel lovable or let people love her. She is driven to please other people. She feels tired and wants to regain her energy. In her childhood, she felt the need to make peace between her parents. She is waking up from a limiting belief about her worthiness. She wants to be her authentic self. She is passionate about her children. She supported her son through his cancer treatments. She feels powerful and strong. She is going through marriage therapy. She is aware when other people take advantage. She doesn't want to hurt people. She has the gift of discernment. How to Get Over It and On With It: Let go of the belief that she is stuck. Connect with her inner child and provide the unconditional love, trust, and validation she is seeking through people-pleasing. Use her gift of discernment and access the part of herself that is committed to love, life, and connection. Discover things she is passionate about. Speak up for her wants and needs with truth and love. Give her authentic self an outlet. Speak with her husband about her love for him. Takeaways: Speak the truth. Look at your relationships — where do you need to set boundaries or reinforce them? Find the fierce warrior inside of you and give support to the little boy or a little girl inside of you. For help finding your voice, check out my Love Amplified retreat. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Christine chats with longtime friend and colleague, Mike Robbins about how to learn, grow, and just be an overall better human. His new book WE'RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER: Creating a Team Culture of High Performance, Trust, and Belonging is incredibly timely. For the past 20 years, he's been a sought-after speaker and consultant who delivers keynotes and seminars for some of the top organizations in the world. He and his work have been featured in the New York Times and the Harvard Business Review, as well as on NPR and ABC News. He's a regular contributor to Forbes, hosts his own podcast (called We're All in This Together), and his books have been translated into 15 different languages.

This incredibly touching call is about forgiveness and letting go of guilt. Today's caller, Lynn, feels she was partially responsible for her son's death and wants to be free of the guilt so she can mourn his passing. Lynn is very brave to be vulnerable and share her story. In this session, we work through a tough topic, especially for mothers. Be prepared. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode249] When something happens, we can blame ourselves so much that we become the judge and the jury that crucifies us. We can get stuck in a thick soup of guilt. And, when we have a big trauma, like the passing of someone, we can think that we're only upset about that event especially when it is something big like losing a child. However, most traumas, massive expectation hangovers, or losses trigger past things that made us feel in similar ways. We can get stuck in a loop that we can't get out of in terms of the guilt cycle. It's difficult to process grief when you are stuck in guilt. Grief is hard and when we add guilt to it, it can feel unsurmountable. When you lose someone, especially a child, I don't know that the pain ever goes away. However, going through the grief process helps to heal it enough for you to be able to move forward. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you suffer from guilt? Have you done something and you think that you did something terribly wrong and you just can't forgive yourself, even if it's years later? Are you a parent, especially a mother, who thinks no matter what you do you are never doing enough? Have you had a break up that you never really got over? Specifically a break up where you were left for another person? Do you know things spiritually but have a hard time accepting them on a human level? Lynn's Question: Lynn has been grieving over her son's death but hasn't been able to forgive herself for his suffering. Lynn's Key Insights and Ahas: She feels divided between her emotional and spiritual self. She is stuck in feelings of grief, guilt, and regret. She sought help from grief groups and through multiple healing techniques. Her son was the victim of a violent crime. She feels she should have done more to help her son. Her ex-husband left her and their three children for another woman. She may be keeping her son's memory alive through her guilt and shame. She has a limiting belief that she could have done better as a mom. She wants to be free of the guilt so she can mourn her son. She doesn't feel supported in her current marriage. How to Get Over It and On With It: Do deep forgiveness work and process anger from her past. Give herself permission to open her heart and to be happy again. Resist punishing herself. Takeaways: If you are feeling guilty about something, do some journaling. Ask yourself, 'What is this bringing up from my past that I need to forgive myself for?' Forgive yourself for buying into any judgments you have made against yourself. Mothers, it's OK to have boundaries with your children. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Mindset coach and clinical therapist Topsie Vandenbosch joins Christine to talk about how to have a healthier mindset. We talk about getting out of unhealthy situations, getting over imposter syndrome and Topsie works with female entrepreneurs who are str

This call is about identifying what is blocking you from stepping into your power. Today's caller, Ram, has something to say but fears the judgment of others. He is repressing anger about never being seen for who he truly is. How many of us identify with that? [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode248] When we have stuck emotions we feel stuck in life because it takes a lot of energy to suppress repressed emotions. Repressing our emotions robs us of our creative expression and our creative energy. So, unless we deal with our anger and rage it's going to leak out in other ways and it's going to sabotage us. When men, in particular, don't deal with their anger and hurt in healthy ways or they don't step into their power in a healthy way, they try to overpower others. Men who don't take the more aggressive route generally become passive and neither help us because we need strong men to fight this fight with us. I acknowledge men who are willing to learn to process anger in a healthy way. Sometimes we give too much power to people who can't see us and that is what is beautiful about the awakening happening right now. So much is coming up and out in our world as more and more people are speaking their truth. We need awake people and lightworkers in all fields to bring consciousness and love into the world. No one else can give us permission to be ourselves. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you're in limbo — like you know what to do and feel called to do it but just can't seem to make it happen? Do you feel disconnected from either your masculine or feminine energy? Are you scared, even terrified, of judgment from others, which keeps you from moving forward? Do you feel like a fish out of water in your culture, country, or family? Ram's Question: Ram thinks he is in healing limbo. He feels disconnected from his masculine energy and is scared to show his true self to the world. Ram's Key Insights and Ahas: He is sensitive and empathic. His previous career/identity was frantic and Madmen like. He is afraid to share his true nature. He feels disconnected from his culture. He doesn't feel he can be his true self. He becomes deeply invested in his work. He is tapping into the collective frustration. He lives vicariously through other people. He feels the way to survive is to mute himself. There is anger in his body and it wants attention. He feels wronged, suppressed, and disempowered. He is breaking a paradigm. Managing his anger is taking all his energy. How to Get Over It and On With It: Work to change external circumstances to shift internally. Find the anger within and release it to become empowered. Work with anger in a healthy way. Go to ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease for my Temper Tantrum technique from Expectation Hangover or join the Personal Mastery course. Move into self-forgiveness. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

In this episode, Christine speaks about how to navigate this challenging time with love. She also shares her insight on how and why this is the "Great Awakening" we have all been preparing for. Christine shares how we can all heal racism and how being anti-racist is truly about being a loving and awakening human being along with action steps you can take. Learn how you can step into your unique role in this changing ecosystem. Receive a prayer you can use to help shift mass consciousness.

This call is about self-compassion and empowerment. Today's caller, Alex, judges herself for not being where she feels she 'should' be in life and for not breaking free from a toxic relationship. She wants guidance on how to move forward but must first work through her unresolved wounding. No one makes significant changes by beating themselves up. True transformation and true change come from love. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode247] When we judge ourselves as a failure we continue to feel like a failure because adding judgment only creates more self-loathing and it lowers our self-worth. It's important to know that at any given moment we are doing the best we can at the time. It's not an excuse not to do better. It is like Maya Angelou says 'the first time you didn't know any better, the second time you know better, so do better.' We always have the opportunity. There is always another time. The amazing thing about life is that as time keeps going on we are consistently presented with additional opportunities to do better. But, if you look back and only see yourself as a failure you're not going to have the confidence and self-love you need to actually do better the next time you will just keep repeating the same 'failure.' It is important that we feel empowered so we don't give our power away to others or exert our power over others. Take a deep dive into how to understand your attachment style and heal your inner child in our three-day virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can't join us live, it will be recorded. ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you're failing at life and not where you should be? Do you have an alcoholic or addict parent and maybe did you have another parent that you were close to — maybe even a little too close? Is it hard for you to break free of toxic relationships or situations even though you know that they are not healthy for you? Alex's Question: Alex is tired of feeling like a victim and would like clarity on how to move forward in her life. Alex's Key Insights and Ahas: She walked away from a toxic relationship but keeps in contact with him. She is looking for a new job. She feels like a failure and has hit rock bottom. Her father is an alcoholic and a workaholic. Her father didn't pay much attention to her. She lost touch with herself at a young age. She feels alone. She didn't find value in therapy. She is very close to her mother and doesn't want to disappoint her. She carries around shame. She wants to learn to love herself. She is love-starved. How to Get Over It and On With It: Research codependence and work to break free of her codependent patterns. Focus on self-compassion and empowerment. Remind herself daily that she is enough and she doesn't need anyone else's approval. Believe that she can take care of herself and meet her own needs. Consider getting a coach or therapist to guide her. Reparent herself and speak to herself in a more loving way. Investigate her spiritual life more. Takeaways: Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild. Look where you might have codependent patterns. Do some online research or check out Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie. Make a list of all your perceived failures or mistakes and reframe them. For every single one, I want you to write down at least three things you learn from them to start to see your failures and mistakes from a different perspective. Do something that fills your cup. Do something that makes you feel safe and nurtured, something that calms that inner child. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Enjoy this information rich episode where Christine speaks with one of the thought-leaders in women's brain health. Learn how you can protect your memory and avoid Alzheimer's disease. Dr. Lisa Mosconi, PhD, is the director of the Women's Brain Initiative and associate director of the Alzheimer's Prevention Clinic at Weill Cornell Medical College, where she serves as an associate professor of neuroscience in neurology and radiology. In addition, she is an adjunct faculty member at the NYU Department of Psychiatry and the author of Brain Food and The XX Brain.

This call is about overcoming a desire for control to feel safe. Today's caller, Jasmine, is wondering why she has a strange relationship with her boyfriend and her sister and why she sabotages her work experience. What it comes down to is an issue with control and fear of intimacy created to protect herself due to her early experiences with an emotionally unavailable parent. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode246] During a time when we feel out of control or too controlled we develop a compensatory strategy of 'I have to be in control of everything to protect myself to avoid intimacy.' Attachment styles are developed based on our early experiences in relationships. In the avoidant attachment style, we avoid or fear emotional intimacy because usually had a parent who was aloof, emotionally removed, unaffectionate, rejecting, or not attuned to our childhood emotional needs. Maybe the parent provided food and shelter but children need affection and nurturing as well. When a child doesn't have emotional availability or affection they can develop an avoidant attachment style. In adulthood, this can show up as being extremely independent and self-directed, controlling, and often uncomfortable with intimacy. Those with an avoidant attachment style often get the rap of being commitment-phobes but it's more that they have difficulty with commitment. They either rationalize themselves out of deep intimacy or they have certain complaints when in a relationship. Grounding ourselves in the present moment and breathwork are great for people who have an avoidant attachment style. Take a deep dive into how to understand your attachment style and heal your inner child in our three-day virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can't join us live, it will be recorded. ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild. Email [email protected] to discuss what may be blocking you from joining in. To learn more about compensatory strategies get a free download from my book, Expectation Hangover at ChristineHassler.com/CS. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a habit of pushing people away? Do you give too much advice to certain people? Do you remember, as a child, having a lot of affection being hugged and feeling safe and nurtured in your home or do you remember feeling kind of alone? Do you often sabotage an opportunity or relationship professional or personal even if it's something you really want? Jasmine's Question: Jasmine has a difficult time connecting in her relationships and pulls away before she gets what she wants. Jasmine's Key Insights and Ahas: She is trying to change the role she plays in her sister's life. She shrugs off affection when her boyfriend reaches out. She wants things done a certain way. She has adopted a protective pattern of control. She has had very little intimacy in her life. Her mother was emotionally unavailable. As a child, she learned that loving other people meant telling them what to do. Her father wasn't around. She doesn't recognize the progress she has made. She may have a deep fear of rejection. She has a body memory of being rejected when giving love. How to Get Over It and On With It: Research the avoidant attachment style. Check-in with herself, with love, to see how she is doing. Be more compassionate with herself. Release self-judgment and add unconditional love. Ground herself in the present because intimacy happens in the present moment. Adopt the mantra of 'I am safe. That was then. This is now.' and 'It is safe to let love in.' Takeaways: Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild. To learn more about compensatory strategies get a free download from my book, Expectation Hangover at ChristineHassler.com/CS. Be patient with yourself and your growth. Practice by naming your feelings and saying to yourself 'I am safe. That was then. This is now.' Listen to my Coaches Corner episode #217 on attachment styles. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

You are in for a treat a very talented and inspirational guest joins Christine on the podcast. IN-Q is a National Poetry Slam champion, award-winning poet, and multi-platinum songwriter. He is on Oprah's SuperSoul 100 list of the world's most influential thought leaders. He inspires audiences around the world through his live performances and storytelling workshops. IN-Q brings his words to paper in his heartfelt and entertaining debut book Inquire Within. His poetry contemplates themes of love, life, presence, forgiveness, and social issues including climate change, gun violence, racism and more. After hearing IN-Q and reading his poetry, you'll never look at poetry the same way again. Learn more and grab a copy here: https://in-q.com/

This is a call about knowing that you matter without constantly proving yourself. Today's caller, Britney, is putting a lot of pressure on herself. She wants guidance on building her career but until she heals her inner child she will keep running into roadblocks. If you are career-driven you may relate to this. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode245] What we all need the most is for someone to really see us and understand us. If we are addicted to anything, be it success or alcohol, it is an attempt to cure pain or heal a wound. Any addiction is an attempt to numb something. We can be addicted to success or making something out of ourselves but that is not the purpose of our life. The purpose of the human experience is to come to the awareness that we are whole, complete, and loved no matter what we do. And, we are someone no matter what we do. We are one with everyone. That is why we are here. When we do inner child work and we do the work of the spirit we realize there is nothing external that solves our internal tasks. There is nothing external that completes us. Inner child work can lead us to more aligned and greater success because we're not hitting as many roadblocks. I don't want you to think that accepting ourselves and loving ourselves makes us complacent. Accepting and loving ourselves provides us with inspiration and success because it comes from a more aligned place. Tap into your inner knowing and intuition with this gift from me. It offers help with intuitive decision making and how to navigate the unknown with 6 Steps to Bypass Your Practical Mind. Text 'Christine' to 444999. Take a deep dive into how to heal your inner child in our 3-day virtual Inner Child workshop on June 5th-7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can't join us live it will be recorded. Take advantage of the early bird discount if you sign up by May 25th at ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you are not living into your purpose or potential or like you should be doing more? Did you have parents that were very success-oriented and expected a lot from you? As a child, did you have a passion for something artistic or outside of the conventional box or what your parents maybe wanted you to do but you were discouraged from pursuing it because you were told you could never make money at it? Do you feel blocked in the area of your life and it seems like no matter what you do you just can't shift it? Britney's Question: Britney would like to know more about stepping into her purpose. Britney's Key Insights and Ahas: She disassociates and has self-worth issues. She feels she is a strong hustler but is tired of it. She is having trouble taking her career to the next level. She feels she is not where she is supposed to be. She pushes away love because she feels she doesn't deserve it. She was told she wouldn't succeed in the arts. She craved support and validation from her parents. She feels like she doesn't matter and has to prove herself. Her parents believe the way out of suffering is money and success. She is breaking a generational pattern. She wants to play more. She consistently looks for something external to heal internally. How to Get Over It and On With It: Learn to release the expectations she puts on herself. Perform the Empty Chair Process. Look inside herself and not to external sources for healing. Takeaways: Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild and get a $100 early bird discount if you register before May 25th. Write a letter to that little boy or little girl inside of you about how worthy they are, what you love about them, and start validating yourself, not for what you do but for who you are. If you are carrying anger or resentment write a couple a few letters that you never mail. Stop hustling and do the internal work. Tap more into your intuition and inner child. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Influential thought-leader, lifelong martial-artist, dedicated Yoga and meditation practitioner, retired Navy SEAL commander, successful serial entrepreneur, best-selling author, selfless mentor and teacher—Mark Divine joins Christine on the podcast today. We discuss how to be courageous during this challenging time. Mark teaches us the 7 Commitments essential to building elite teams (and just being a great leader of yourself!) that are part of his new book, Staring down the Wolf. Learn more here: staringdownthewolf.com

This is a call about discovering your purpose by healing past wounds. Today's caller, Mark, is feeling confused about his purpose after his divorce. He is struggling with his identity as he obsesses about his ex. After discussing his childhood, his wounding may have come from a family member long before he got married. Moving forward is clearer when you clean up the past. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode244] There are so many ways we can be disconnected from our purpose. One of the main ways we become disconnected is when we play the role of peacekeeper. Our unconscious mind starts to become more concerned with being a peacekeeper than fulfilling our soul's destiny. We believe that being a peacekeeper keeps us safe and gets us validation. But being a peacekeeper or being what other people want us to be, drains a lot of our energy. And, it's important when finding our purpose that we deal with our anger, resentment, sadness, and shame because often our purpose is underneath those things. Once we see through the unconscious programming, we understand better who we really are. When you clean up the past, the future becomes clear. And in the clarity, you know what your next steps are. You know what to do about your job or relationships because old wounding and unconscious programming are no longer blinding you from seeing your path. All human beings have both feminine and masculine energies they need to nurture. Our masculine energy thrives on the muse-like energy that is feminine. Feminine energy is inspiring, evocative, innovative, encouraging, and temptress. We are in an unprecedented time of uncertainty and worry and overwhelm are running rampant. Do you have the tools to rise to your full strength, wisdom, and power? Please join me on May 13–16 for the Resilience Summit hosted by Ashley Turner. There are 24 interviews, including mine, about the science, spirituality, and psychology of resilience and best practices to build your inner strength. Visit ChristineHassler.com/ResilienceSummit. Join Stefanos and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel depressed, frustrated, or lack motivation? Do you question what your purpose is and often feel like you're destined to do great things but you just don't know what they are? Growing up, did you feel you had a good balance of masculine and feminine behavior modeled to you? Do you have an ex or any person in your life that is not in your life anymore that you just keep obsessing about or can't quite seem to let them go? Mark's Question: Mark recently got divorced but is still obsessing about his ex and would like guidance on how to move forward and find purpose in his life. Mark's Key Insights and Ahas: He is critical of himself. He says he is depressed. He is searching for his purpose. He married his 'mom.' He has never felt accepted by the women in his life. He considers his mother and ex strong women. His mother emasculated him when he was younger. He spent his life trying to please and appease the feminine. His father is his best friend. He feels he was destined to lead. He had to be the peacekeeper in his family. He is afraid of his anger. He craves love and acceptance. He wants permission to be himself. How to Get Over It and On With It: He needs to find a healthy release for his anger and resentment. He needs to find a healthy model of feminine energy. He needs to write letters to his ex and his mother he doesn't intend to send. He needs to tap into his feminine energy and find the muse inside himself. He has to stop making getting a woman's approval his purpose. He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course. Takeaways: Journal about what your parents modeled for you around masculine and feminine energy. Are there any F-U letters you need to write to release some anger? Go to ChristineHassler.com/AngerRelease to get the Temper Tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

This is a MUST listen for all women and men who want to understand women better. Functional medicine and woman's hormone expert Alisa Vitti joins Christine to discuss how our "infradian rhythm" which is tied to our menstrual cycle impacts all aspects of your life. You'll learn what to eat, how to exercise, and how to work depending on what phase of your cycle you are in. By tapping into your biological rhythm, you'll get more done with less effort, fuel your body with the nutrients it needs and enjoy the freedom that comes from living in FLO. Alissa Vitta is also the author of Woman Code and In the Flo. The is the creator of MyFLO, the #1 paid period app and the first and only period tracking and cycle syncing app. Learn more at floliving.com

This is a call about imposter syndrome and feeling worthy. Today's caller, Odysseus, feels that time is running out for him to have a deep, loving relationship or to have the career he desires. He would like guidance on how to 'fix' his pattern of stopping and starting things. We work through his limiting beliefs and discuss ways he can begin accepting himself. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode243] A lot of times imposter syndrome comes from having competing intentions. We have our grown-up conscious self who wants to go out and help people, be a visionary, and have a big business but then we've got this younger part of us, our inner child or adolescent, who feels like they're going to get rejected and doesn't feel safe. It holds us back and that's why we often feel like we're taking one step forward and one step back. And, for all of you that use words like quitter, lazy, self-sabotage — all those kinds of things — please don't call yourself those names anymore. Those patterns are protective patterns that think that they're doing you good so you need to understand them rather than hate on them and judge them and think to change them. In many ways, it can be harder for men to connect with their inner child. But both men and women have a little child inside of them and he or she doesn't want the shutdown, old-school masculine or the overwhelmed, unsupported feminine parent. It wants a loving present parent. So, give yourself that gift. Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on navigating uncertainty and dealing with expectation hangovers on May 6th and the upcoming call on imposter syndrome. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the library of past and future group calls. Become part of my community for only $20. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a habit of what feels like quitting? Would you say you are a bit of the black sheep of your family? Do you want to do something but you just keep getting in your own way? Do you have a fix-it approach to personal development? Odysseus's Question: Odysseus would like guidance about a relationship and his finances and career. Odysseus's Key Insights and Ahas: He feels he quits things too soon and he doesn't put forth much effort. He is a personal growth junkie. He has cheated on his ex-girlfriends. He battles with his limiting beliefs. He has a pattern of low self-worth. He doesn't feel worthy of having a good relationship. He didn't feel wanted by his brothers as a child. He was bullied when he was young. He has Crohn's disease. He has a distant connection with his father. His parents didn't know how to parent his energy. He aspires to be a coach but doubts he will follow through. He feels like his time is running out. How to Get Over It and On With It: He needs to be kinder and gentler to himself. He needs to search inside for who he really is. He needs to create another pattern that protects him without limiting himself through reparenting. He needs to start listening to his inner child and journal about what he says. He needs to move into acceptance of himself and stop the judgments. He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course. Takeaways: Journal with your inner child. Choose different ages and write down both sides of your conversation. Look at where imposter syndrome comes up for you and find the competing intention. There is a part of you that wants to move forward and be seen but the scared part of you that wants to protect yourself. Celebrate your progress even if it's just a small step in the direction you want to go. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

In this special coaches corner, Christine guides you through a beautiful meditation that will bring you both calm and clarity during this time.

This is a call about overcoming codependent and anxious patterns. Today's caller, Carson, is looking outside of himself for his worth. He would like to know how he can begin to heal and learn to trust himself. This call is a classic case of looking for what we didn't get as a child in other people, as an adult. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode242] Anything that made you feel unsafe, small, or unimportant as a child or adolescent can create codependent behaviors. The need to attach to someone else develops as a way to counteract the feelings of being small or unimportant. You try to grab on to someone to feel needed or to feel important in their eyes. Codependence can work in two ways. You could be the person that another person needs such as becoming a caretaker or rescuer. Or, you can be super needy. The behavior of grasping onto others and being needy is not sustainable. No one outside of us can make these wounds go away. We have to fill the voids ourselves. You have to learn to trust yourself so you can stop grabbing or clinging onto other people or allowing others to cling onto you to feel worthy. If you have any codependent patterns running, you must learn to get your needs met inside yourself. If you resonate with having similar feelings know that you can heal. Nothing is insurmountable. Stefanos and I will be hosting our second 'Be the Queen' virtual teaching and coaching on May 5th. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen. Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have your needs met as a child? If not, has that made you needy as an adult? Have you ever thought that you have codependent behaviors? Do people consistently disappoint, misunderstand, or abandon you? Have you ever felt truly seen or understood by someone? Carson's Question: Carson would like guidance on how to release his fear of abandonment and begin to trust again. Carson's Key Insights and Ahas: He has been struggling with his fear of abandonment. He is in a long-distance relationship. He doesn't feel supported or accepted by his family. He is codependent and has an anxious attachment style. He has felt misunderstood his entire life. He doesn't trust himself. He has a creative outlet. He is outsourcing his relief and happiness. He replays past situations in his head. He is seeking the things he didn't get as a child. How to Get Over It and On With It: He should do the release writing practice. He should do the temper tantrum technique. He should become an observer of his needs. He needs to say 'I am safe and I am loved' when he feels anxious. Takeaways: To break free of an anxious pattern, identify it, name it, acknowledge it, and accept it. Don't slap labels on yourself. You may have a part of you that is codependent but that is not who you are. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Today Asterian Astrologer Jade Luna joins me to discuss how the stars predicted this pandemic, what we can learn from it, and how we can move forward. Jade and I speak about the "new normal" emerging and this time as a beginning of a massive change of consciousness. Jade S. Luna is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format. Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia. Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations worldwide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high-level practice for over 18 years. You can learn more or book a session with him here: http://www.asterianastrology.com/

This is a call about how to heal anger and discover the passion and creativity that lie underneath. Today's caller, Keira, feels she got the short end of the stick in life. She has done a lot of personal growth work and introspection but she is still angry and sad and wants guidance on how to find her way through her feelings. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode241] As children or adolescents, we make unconscious vows of 'I will never be like mom,' or 'I'll never be like dad,' or 'I will never be like that person who teased me,' but just making that vow or that promise is not enough. If you don't heal the wounds that perpetuated making that vow, either you become like them or you go so far in the opposite direction that it becomes a shadow side. If we're angry all the time or angry at the world it breeds a deep sense of low self-worth. People who are angry generally have low self-worth because unprocessed anger creates an intense sense of separation. Which is another reason I'm so passionate about helping people process anger in a healthy way. Anger misdirected is dangerous but anger directed in a healthy way can be deeply healing. Underneath that anger is where we often find our passion and our purpose. If you feel shut down or you don't know what your purpose is or what you are supposed to do, do anger release work to see what is underneath your anger. You will become a clearer channel for ideas and innovation. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel like life just doesn't work out for you to matter how hard you try? Do you feel angry and/or sad and no matter how much personal development work you do? When it comes to emotions in your home growing up what did you observe? Have you been told you're too emotional or too reactive or too irrational or *fill in the blank* and you're questioning whether or not it is true? Keira's Question: Keira would like guidance on how to let go of her anger so she can enjoy life. Keira's Key Insights and Ahas: She is emotionally addicted to being angry. She judges herself for not being able to change. She wants to enjoy life. Her father let her down. She judges her mother for not being strong for her. She feels her older brother let her down. She gets triggered easily. She believes her soul is a passionate one. She is yearning to uncover her creativity. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to be grateful for how her anger has served her. She needs to learn how to channel and use her anger. She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover. She needs to dive deeper into her wounding to free herself of it. She needs to share her feelings with her mother by writing letters she doesn't intend to send. Takeaways: Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall. Find your voice during this time, whatever that means to you. Don't be too passive or too reactive. Find your middle ground. Channel your feelings into writing, speaking, dancing, cooking, creating; something non-result-based that is just fun. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

This is an incredibly informative and compassionate discussion about trauma. Trauma is something this is often misunderstood and mistreated which is why I'm so grateful to have had Elaine, who has been on the front lines of trauma, shed some light on this subject. Elaine Miller-Karas is the Director of Innovation, Vision and Creativity and co-founder of the Trauma Resource Institute and author of the book, Building Resiliency to Trauma, the Trauma and Community Resiliency Models® (2015). She has worked internationally to bring healing to the world's community. Her models to date have been brought to 102 countries in Asia, Africa, North America, the Mid-East, South America and Europe. She is a recognized international speaker and author. Elaine's book was recently selected by the United Nations curated on-line library as one of the innovations that can help meet the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals. Elaine is a founding member of the International Transformational Resilience Coalition and a leading advocate with regard to the impact of climate change on the human condition.

This is a call about releasing your anger to find your worth. Today's caller, Eliza, desires a relationship but doesn't feel worthy. As with many people who struggle with not-enoughness, unworthiness, or with people who are stuck, she has confused acceptance with resignation and her passion, fire, and worth lies beneath her anger. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode240] Emotional release work is like a workout. You may not feel like doing it if you didn't sleep well the night before or you had one too many glasses of wine but after you do it you feel so much better. During this time, emotional release work is very important. This isn't just a time to chill or to just clean out your closet. It's time to bring your shadow out into the light of awareness and be willing to feel your emotions. That's when things will start to move and shift. Please don't lie to yourself or brush things under the rug. Don't harbor resentment and call it acceptance. Acceptance is not avoiding confrontation; that's complacency, resignation, and emotional repression. You might say that you've accepted so-and-so for who they are but deep down you probably still have anger and pain. I believe that acceptance and forgiveness are beautiful places for all of us to be in but good luck being a human being and trying to bypass your emotions and get right to acceptance and forgiveness. That is a spiritual bypass. I hope that in this global Expectation Hangover we're having more people will do emotional release writing, emotional release work, and the temper tantrum technique to look at the ways that they're no longer able to sustain their behavior. Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall. Stefan and I will be hosting our second 'Be the Queen' virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle with feeling not enough or unworthiness? Did you have a parent you felt shut you down? Maybe you felt they were disappointed in you or they never looked at you with love or adoration? Do you feel stuck? Do you have trouble motivating yourself? Do you have a hard time speaking your truth to people? Do you prefer to stay in the status quo? Eliza's Question: Eliza wants to be in a relationship but feels unworthy of love. Eliza's Key Insights and Ahas: She believes she is unlikeable. She doesn't feel good enough, especially at work. She blames and judges herself. She is fluent in the 'I am not enough' language. She believes that blaming herself will help her heal. She would like to forgive her parents freely. She didn't feel seen by her father. She believes if she accepts her father then she will feel worthy. She doesn't feel loved by her family. She swallows resentment to try and keep the peace. She wants to feel loved and accepted. How to Get Over It and On With It: She should join our Be the Queen program. She needs to change her self-talk and re-parent herself. She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover. Takeaways: Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan. Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services.

Jessica Ortner joins Christine to speak about how the Emotional Freedom Technique, which is also called "Tapping," can help bring relief from difficult emotions and thoughts. Jess is a producer of The Tapping Solution, the breakthrough documentary film on EFT/meridian tapping. She guides you through a tapping process to help release worry and tension in this episode. You can also more free EFT resources at www.christinehassler.com/tapping.

This is a call about accessing faith when your logical mind has doubts. Today's caller, Emma, is feeling anxious about not being able to access her faith. She says the mental understanding of God has her optimistic about the future but she wasn't experientially getting it. And, an uncertain future is exacerbating her anxiety. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode239] A relationship with a higher power can be complicated just like a relationship with people. We can go through ebbs and flows where we are totally into it and we feel it and then there are times when we are questioning everything. Part of the reason many of us feel anger toward God is that we see a lot of suffering. We even see something like the pandemic and wonder if there really is a God. Remember that we are made from the image and likeness of God. The reason there is suffering in the world isn't necessarily because God or the universe did it, it is our free will that has created what we live with on a day-to-day basis. The universe, I believe, is always helping us move more and more toward evolution. It points out the contrast of when we are out of alignment with harmony, balance, and love. And as a collective, we have been out of alignment for a long time which is just one of the reasons we are experiencing this difficult time. If we project human behavior onto God or onto the universe it will never make sense to us. We have to see our higher power, without judgment. God/Universe is an all-knowing, all-loving thing. All it wants is for us to know ourselves as it, to know ourselves as unconditional love, untapped possibility, and oneness. We forget that God exists inside of each of us and we live in a world where we are still evolving. You don't have to earn God. The more we shift into the energy of love, the energy of gratitude, and the energy of worthiness, there will be less suffering. How can you experience the unconditional love of the universe if you don't feel worthy to receive it? Join Stef and me three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and download the call from 4/4/20 about anger. Stefan and I will be hosting our second 'Be the Queen' virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen. Consider/Ask Yourself: What does faith mean to you? Do you feel like you have it? Do you want to have faith but you just don't feel it? Do you think you are worthy of being loved and supported by God or a higher power? Are you a bit angry at God and the universe and you are not sure what to do about it? Emma's Question: Emma doesn't understand why she can't access feelings of faith; she would like guidance about how to find meaning and connection. Emma's Key Insights and Ahas: She is feeling anxious about the future. She believes she doesn't have faith. She doesn't connect with any particular religion. She has had bouts of extreme uncertainty. She doesn't believe things are fair. She has a pattern of being unable to express her feelings. She believes she is not enough and unworthy. She was bullied when she was a child. She has been repressing anger for a long time. Deep down she remembers what it is like to be connected. How to Get Over It and On With It: She should join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code 'HEALTH' and take advantage of the monthly payment plan. She needs a good emotional release. She needs to work through the anger by doing the empty chair practice putting God in the opposite chair. Takeaways: Download my free meditation to help you slip into your sense of faith and sense of spirituality. Download it at ChristineHassler.com/Faith. Tap into your worthiness by using a picture of yourself as a child and feel into love and worthiness. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services.

Join Christine as Stef as they offer tips for both couples and singles to keep love alive. If you're in a relationship, your partner can either be your greatest asset or the greatest source of irritation . . . we support you in making him or her your asset and share specific ways you can do that. And if you are single, you're going to love what we have to say about why this is a fantastic time to call in love. We also discuss our program for women who are calling in their man: www.christinehassler.com/bethequeen

This is a call about releasing anger to find passion and calm. Today's caller, Kirsten, is feeling anxious about what comes next for her. She is a stay-at-home mom who has fallen into the trap of looking for something external to relieve something internal. But as you know, something external never fixes or resolves what's going on internally. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode238] For many of us, we are so busy being 'human doings' that we forget about being human beings. And during this time when we are staying at home, we have an opportunity to come face-to-face with who we really are because we are less distracted. I encourage you, during this time, to go within and delve into nothingness and see what comes up. That's why my Mastery course is such a good investment at this time. This is the perfect time to do your inner work. Our passion and our true calling often reside underneath our anger. If we haven't addressed our anger, especially as women who tend not to let it out, it is hard to find our passion. And, passion and purpose is a juicy, fiery energy. What we think we want to do often comes from a place of conditioning. But when we release the energy of compassion, we open up the second chakra of our body and when we pull the anger out all of the passion opens up. Releasing anger in a healthy way, as in Expectation Hangover, basically it is finding a safe space. It is important that we voice our feelings at our parents in particular, not at them directly but in a therapeutic way. They don't need to know about it. In our effort to protect them, we suppress our feelings. When we get the anger out, let it go and eventually get to forgiveness, real forgiveness, then we can have healthier relationships with our parents. It is important to release our anger, release our sadness and to get our energy up and moving so it doesn't turn into anxiety, fear, pain, or disease. Would you like to work directly with me? I have two Private Client spots open. Email [email protected] for more information. Join Stef and me three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and allow us to support you. Stefan and I will be hosting our second 'Be the Queen' virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen/ Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you wondering what's next? Are you returning to the work environment or reevaluating what you want to be doing? Did you have a parent who had a temper but maybe it wasn't directed at you so you could see their loving side so you don't think it impacted you? Do you have a hard time feeling and expressing anger in a healthy way? Or, do you feel guilty about acknowledging your anger at someone you love because you feel protective of that person? How do you deal in calm when there is nothing to do? Does anxiety get triggered when you don't know what is next? Kirsten's Question: Kirsten feels lost and is trying to find herself now that her kids are getting older. Kirsten's Key Insights and Ahas: She is married with two children. She worries about where her worth and value will come from in the future. Her identity is based on her being a wife and mother. She was financially self-reliant from a very young age. She is not fond of relying on her husband for money. Her father had a temper and was aggressive with other family members. She feels anger toward her parents but is very protective of her father. She felt unsettled as a child. How to Get Over It and On With It: She should read 20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction, by Christine Hassler. She needs to work toward true forgiveness toward her father. She needs to practice release writing and start the sentences with "I am angry because…" She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course. Assignments and Takeaways: Go back and listen to Coaches Corner with Nicole Sachs on how emotions create chronic pain in our body. If you are in your twenties or early thirties, grab a copy of 20-Something, 20-Everything for women or 20-Something Manifesto: Quarter-Lifers Speak Out About Who They Are, What They Want, and How to Get It, by Christine Hassler. Re-read Expectation Hangover or join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code 'HEALTH' and take advantage of the monthly payment plan. Don't be afraid to follow any feelings of nervousness or anxiety into bigger feelings that reside underneath them. You will find your passion and calm. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation

Nicole Sachs, LCSW is a speaker, writer, podcaster and psychotherapist who has dedicated her work and her practice to the treatment of chronic pain, symptoms, syndromes and conditions. She is the author of the book The Meaning of Truth, and the online course FREEDOM FROM CHRONIC PAIN. Her brand, The Cure for Chronic Pain, includes a Website, Podcast and YouTube Channel. Her personal experience as well as work with thousands of people around the world have shaped and evolved Nicole's theories, which serve to teach those suffering how to heal themselves completely with no medication or surgery.

This is a call about feeling worthy, trusting yourself, and knowing you are enough. Today's caller, Lisa, mistakenly believes she is defective in some way, but it's not true. She initially questions her career path but we unpack her question to get to the root of what is blocking her. There are some powerful 'ahas' in this call. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode237] When our desires and our wants are not congruent with our beliefs about ourselves, we can fall into the trap of looking outside ourselves to make us feel a certain way. The universe will keep blocking that from happening because it wants us to learn that we can generate those feelings from inside ourselves and we don't need anyone or anything else to make us feel confident or believe in ourselves. Our life lessons, our parents, the things that impact our personality and behavioral patterns; all of it is changeable. All of that is healable, I promise you. What is not shiftable is your soul and your spirit. Your soul essence, who you are, your spirit can never be defective or deflated. Join Stef and I three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and allow us to support you. Listen to my last Coaches Corner where Emily Fletcher shares a meditation designed to help us stress less. After listening go to Zivameditation.com/online/ to get 50% off one of her mediation training. Stefan and I will be hosting our second 'Be the Queen' virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen/ Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel defective because you can't seem to get to where you want to be in your life? Are you trying a lot of things, hoping to find something you are passionate about or love doing? Did you have too much responsibility as a child? Do you have contradicting desires and beliefs? Lisa's Question: Lisa has spent years in a job she doesn't like and feels stuck but can't pinpoint what she really wants to do. Lisa's Key Insights and Ahas: She is in a career she doesn't like. She feels like she is a procrastinator and lazy. She took the first job she was offered. She wants to be in a more strategic position. She feels stressed. She started pursuing fashion as a hobby. She believes that she is unworthy. She has never felt connected to anything. She didn't have the opportunity to play and be herself as a child. She is a generational pattern breaker. She lived in a state of survival as a child. Her spirit wants more. She is doing EMDR therapy. Her desires and her wants are not congruent with her beliefs about herself. How to Get Over It and On With It: She should be proud of herself for getting out there and trying new things. She needs to reparent and heal herself. She needs to tap into her shadow self and express herself. She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course. Assignments and Takeaways: Think about things that you were shamed for as a child and have compassion for yourself, take back your power, and give yourself permission to start enjoying the things you love. Commit to feeling again. It's not about discipline, it's about being attuned to what is going on in the moment. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — For men interested in being on the show

Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and the leading expert in meditation for extraordinary performance. In this very timely interview, she speaks to why mediation is so imperative for our wellbeing - particularly for our immune system. Emily guides you through a powerful meditation and offers you 50% off her Ziza meditation training which you can access at https://zivameditation.com/online/ The Ziva Technique is a powerful trifecta of mindfulness, meditation and manifesting designed to unlock your full potential. Also check out her book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon.

This is a call about issue-based relationships. Today's caller, Megan, is curious about whether she should go back to a relationship that is on a break. She wants to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship. I explain what an issue-based relationship is and give her some guidance about how to listen to her inner knowing. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode236] The five relationships are issue-based, journey mate, compatibility, fantasy, and side-by-side partnership. Not every relationship is made to last forever or should last forever. Different relationships come for different reasons and teach us different things. When we understand what type of relationship we have then it is a little bit easier to deal with. An issue-based relationship is when our childhood wounds attract us to each other. We tend to date our unresolved issues from our childhood. Normally one person dumps feelings all over the other and the other person either dumps feelings back or tries to clean up the mess. They keep triggering each other and playing out patterns. When couples go to couple's counseling it doesn't really work because they keep trying to work on the relationship but they should be working on their own issues. It's like two people who speak totally different languages and you are trying to teach them how to speak a third language. For people in issue-based relationships, I recommend taking a break and separating, working on themselves, and then re-evaluating the relationship. By then they may decide the relationship is not what they want or they get back together. March 18, 2020, Stefanos and I are co-hosting a group call about relationships. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. If you missed my live group coaching call about how to care for your energetic and spiritual hygiene and cope during times of stress download it for free at Christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/ Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there someone from your past that you are considering bringing back into your life? Are you in an issue-based relationship? Have you been in a relationship that has felt like great chemistry but it was actually codependence? Are you willing to be on your own, or not in a relationship, for as long as it takes to see clearly what you need from a relationship? Megan's Question: Megan would like to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship. Megan's Key Insights and Ahas: She attended my Spring Retreat. She is in an issue-based relationship. She entered into the relationship from an unhealthy space. She has an opportunity to reconnect with her boyfriend who she has strong feelings for. She has a pattern of giving men multiple chances. Her father wasn't emotionally available. She feels an extremely strong connection to her boyfriend. She has a pattern of asking external sources for answers to her internal questions. She wants to get more into her healthy masculine. How to Get Over It and On With It: She may want to let her boyfriend complete his coaching before reconnecting. She needs to trust herself and her inner knowing. She should reaffirm advice from others by writing it down and considering how it feels to her. She should pray for the highest good of all parties. Assignments and Takeaways: Relationships are always learning opportunities. Look at your triggering relationships and consider what they are reflecting back to you. If you are in an issue-based relationship and are not getting anywhere, take a break and work separately for a year and then see where you stand. Evaluate the kind of partner you are being to yourself and work on your self-care and self-love. Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% organic cotton tampons, pads, and cleansing wipes you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are free of chemicals, fragrances, or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code 'OVERIT30' to get 30% off your first month's subscription. Get a starter pack subscription for just $5. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — For men interested in being on the show

This call is about reclaiming your sexuality and getting over body issues. Today's caller, Heidi, has felt shame about her sexuality since she was a child. During our conversation, I coach her through how to reclaim her sexuality and how she can feel safe in her body to experience pleasure. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode235] Being connected to our bodies and experiencing pleasure is important. There are a lot of therapies that help people move past eating disorders and fall back in love with their bodies. But, sexuality is a part of the therapy that is often left out. When we don't experience sensual or sexual pleasure or we disconnect from our body and are not satisfied we attempt to fill the void with food for satiation. For some, the only way to feel safe is to enforce some kind of control over their bodies which may create a body image issue or an eating disorder. We can store emotional pain in our reproductive organs just like we store tension in our shoulders. And it is common for many women to experience pain during sex or sex doesn't feel good to them. It is natural for human beings to want to experience pleasure. So, start introducing pleasure in ways that feel safe with you. We don't need to know the specifics behind our fears to heal ourselves and move on. Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th. Be part of my community for only $20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the recorded version of the call. Join Stefanos and me in Austin for our 'Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power.' To sign up for the event on September 24–27th go to ChristineHassler.com/austin. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have any body image issues? Have you had an eating disorder in the past or are struggling with it now? Were you raised in a very strict, religious, or repressed home? Were you shamed as a child or teenager? Do you experience pleasure in your current life? Do you enjoy sex? Could it be better? Heidi's Question: Heidi would like guidance on how to heal her body from an eating disorder. Heidi's Key Insights and Ahas: She sabotages herself and reverts to old patterns. She battles anorexia. She rarely felt safe as a child. She always tried to please her father. She felt shame around how she looked. Her family is very religious. She has disconnected from her sexuality. How to get over it and on with it: She needs to unlock her sacred sexuality. She should look for healers to help her. She needs to put more intention into her sex life with her husband. She needs to indulge in self-pleasure to feel safe in her body. Assignments and Takeaways: If you have been dealing with an eating disorder or body image issue, take an inventory of how much pleasure you have in your life. You don't need a partner to experience pleasure. Create pleasure dates with yourself. Somatic therapy, Pelvic Floor Therapy, Dancing, Tantra are all ways you can heal and help yourself to enjoy being in your body. Put more intention into your sex life. Enjoy being in your body. Don't disconnect from your physical experience. Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — What if you could take away the hassle of bra shopping and find the perfect fitting bra that is made for comfort in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz to find your perfect size, even if it's a half size. Third Love has donated over 15 million gently-used bras to women in need in the San Francisco Bay area. Use the link to get 15% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — For men interested in being on the show

This week Christine shares about her experience at Dr. Joe Dispenza's week-long advanced retreat - learn a little about who Dr. Joe is, what he teaches, and how to move through resistance when you are breaking out of your comfort zone. Christine also announces more about the retreat she is teaching in September: www.christinehassler.com/austin

This episode is about how to break addictive behaviors. Today's caller, Dee, had a chaotic childhood and is unconsciously creating chaos in her adult life because it feels familiar and safe. We work through the process of identifying her emotional addiction and unpack why it's hard to shift and then how to shift it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode234] How we know that an unresolved issue from our past or an old emotional addiction has created a pattern of acting that is so unconscious that we have a hard time 'controlling' it is at play is that we do something that doesn't match our current life. If you are doing something that doesn't match up to what your current life represents, you have some work to do in terms of going back and cleaning up the past. When we have a lot of chaos or are used to feeling it, we become addicted to negative or lower vibrational feelings, like anxiety. Sometimes the revved up, anxious, addicted behavior creates a feeling of peace because it is familiar. With any addiction, you are never after the substance. You are after the feeling the substance gives you. When we understand that the human psyche feels safety with certainty the brain continually hunts for what it knows to be familiar. It's way more than sabotage. It's a part of the brain that is so familiar with chaos that when everything is good and peaceful, it feels wrong or off. If you are in a behavior that feels incongruent with your current state, be aware that it is an emotional addiction. Drop into compassion and then feed your emotional addiction a different way. Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th. Be part of my community for only $20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information. Join Stefanos and me in Austin in the Fall for our Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power. To get on the 'interested' list go to ChristineHassler.com/austin. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a habit of overspending and/or overeating? Do you have a behavior where you see yourself doing it and you know you shouldn't but you just can't seem to stop? Did you grow up with a lot of chaos? Is the chaos gone but you continue to bring chaos into your life? How are you about going with the flow and letting go of control? Do you have a deep connection with a higher power? Dee's Question: Dee has a habit of overspending and overeating and would like guidance on how to break her past programming. Dee's Key Insights and Ahas: She's read Expectation Hangover. She continues to accrue debt. She overeats unhealthy foods. She's never been taught about money. She grew up with scarcity and chaos. There is addiction in her family. She is unconsciously creating chaos. She's always been a seeker. She doesn't feel worthy. She works in the spiritual arts. She feels positive about what to do next. How to Get Over It and On With It: If she can change where she focuses her energy, from spending to spiritual things will open up for her. She needs to stop herself in the moment and generate feelings of love. She needs to stir up the chemicals in her body and brain. When she feels an urge to spend or eat, she should put one hand on her heart and one on her head and give herself love. She needs to be gentle with herself while she breaks the cycle. Takeaways: If you are in a behavior that feels incongruent with your current state, be aware that it is an emotional addiction. Drop into compassion and then feed your emotional addiction in a different way. Sponsor: Rothy's — Rothy's makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and versatile shoes made from repurposed plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Get your Rothy's by using this link Rothys.com/over. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine's Personal Mastery Course Christine's Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

Amber Lilyestrom is a transformational branding strategist and business coach, author and speaker. She is the host of The Amber Lilyestrom Show podcast, which has over 100,000 monthly downloads . She is the creator of the Ignite Your Soul Summit, an annual live event in Portsmouth, NH and multiple life-changing online programs. Amber's mission is to empower women to position themselves as sought-after experts and thought leaders through the creation of an online brand presence. Her transformational mindset work sets her apart in an industry focused on a strategy-first, inner work later approach. She's worked with thousands of women worldwide building a seven-figure business from home, while also homeschooling her daughter and retiring her husband from his 11-year police career. Amber spent 10 years working in collegiate athletics marketing before launching her business. She managed the University of New Hampshire Wildcats brand, where she taught sports marketing and mentored student interns. She was recognized as one of the top sports marketing professionals in the nation and left her corporate career after a life-altering near-death experience that served as the catalyst for her to launch her business. You can learn more and connect with Amber at www.amberlilyestrom.com

This episode is about how to get over a breakup but we go much deeper than that. Today's caller, Miranda, had a profound spiritual experience during her previous relationship. She thought the feeling came from an external source when it actually came from her internal divine source because her mind was quiet enough to feel unconditional love for herself. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode233] We are all headed towards breaking old personality patterns and emotional addictions that have kept us in a certain frequency to elevate ourselves into a different energetic field. This is why journey mates come into our lives. There is a specific reason a journey mate comes into our lives. A journey mate relationship is a contract but it's a short-term contract. We come together with a person to have an important experience or to help us get through a difficult time we can't get through on our own. The other person acts as a mirror to show us the aspect inside of us we need to transform. Usually, once the experience or realization happens the relationship has to end. Often, I find these relationships end abruptly or under random circumstances. The reason the universe pulls two people apart is that a journey mate is only in our lives to show us something about ourselves or to help us discover inner qualities that we may not be able to access on our own. How do you access a deeper connection with the divine? I am a proud sponsor of B-school which is an online training program for modern entrepreneurs taught by Marie Forleo. When you register through my link you will receive special bonuses from me. I include four group coaching calls of 90 min each, four custom meditations for entrepreneurs, access to my Facebook group, a one day retreat, plus free access to my master class for coaches. Go to ChristineHassler.com/bschool or email [email protected] for more information. For free training videos from Marie go to ChristineHassler.com/training. Join Stefan and me in Austin in the Fall for our Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power. To get on the 'interested' list go to ChristineHassler.com/austin. Or join us on a live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th or 19th. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you struggling with getting over a breakup? Have you been in a deeply connected relationship but it ended abruptly or under shocking circumstances? Have you had a spiritual experience but are unable to have it again? Do you want to feel unconditional love, peace, and a deeper connection? Do you tend to be hard on yourself or have a fierce inner critic? Miranda's Question: Miranda had a spiritual experience in a relationship but since the relationship ended she hasn't been able to recreate the feeling and would like guidance on how to regain the feeling. Miranda's Key Insights and Ahas: She had a positive spiritual experience in which she felt unconditional love. She has a fierce inner critic. Her previous relationship ended abruptly. She realizes she sacrificed some of herself in the relationship. She overanalyzed what the relationship meant. She realizes she felt the love from an internal source, not an external one. She feels encouraged by her progress. She wants to capitalize on this chapter of her life. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to realize that what she experienced was a spiritual moment she allowed herself to have. She should look at the relationship as a gift but not put her ex on a pedestal. She shouldn't believe that she was rejected. She needs to fall more in love with herself every day. She needs to generate the elated feelings on her own. Takeaways: If you feel you have a Journey Mate relationship or had one, accept it. Write a letter you don't intend to send to thank the other person for the relationship and declaring it done. Get serious about your meditation practice. You should be feeling elevated when you finish. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine's Personal Mastery Course Christine's Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

Antonio Neves is an internationally recognized leadership speaker, author and award-winning journalist. He's the author of three books including, '50 Ways To Excel In Your First Job (and in Life) and he's currently working on his next book. On his podcast The Best Thing, he talks with fascinating people about the "best thing" to happen to them that would never appear on a resume, bio or come up in conversation. For nearly 10 years, Antonio has helped organizations increase workplace engagement, create strong cultures of accountability, and tell stories that make people lean in Antonio's clients and audiences are some of the largest brands in the world including. An award-winning journalist, Antonio worked as a correspondent, host and producer for over 10 years in New York City with top networks including NBC, PBS, BET Networks, Advertising Age and Nickelodeon.

This episode is about asking for what you need in relationships. Today's caller, Megan, feels overwhelmed when faced with too many choices and is afraid to be truly seen. She doesn't want her pattern of uncertainty to sabotage her new relationship. Like in many coaching sessions, her initial question isn't exactly what we focus on. This is for anyone who has trouble making decisions, doubts themselves, or is in sabotaging patterns. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode232] For empaths, love can feel overwhelming because we love so deeply. When we are in a relationship it can feel smothering and overwhelming. Instead of communicating that we need boundaries and space with love we are often afraid of confrontation or don't want to make the other person upset. So, we unconsciously push them away by either judging them internally, nitpicking, or acting out in other ways. Empaths need to know what they need — especially at the beginning of the relationship. When you are first dating someone you need to be vocal and ask for what you need. Boundaries in a relationship and asking for what you need is important. That way you don't have to build walls. You can have a door and that door can be open most of the time but sometimes you need to shut it and put on the do not disturb sign. The people in your life that love you will understand. It will allow them to spend time with themselves. When our heart is broken either through a breakup or the death of someone, we want to love again but we are scared because it feels risky. Fear of making the wrong decision will keep you from making the decision. Basically, fear complicates everything in your life. The more you can drop into love and your inner knowing and move out of the energy of fear the more clarity you will have in all aspects of your life. I am a proud sponsor of B-school which is an online training program for modern entrepreneurs taught by Marie Forleo. When you register through my link you will receive special bonuses from me. I include four group coaching calls of 90 min each, four custom meditations for entrepreneurs, access to my Facebook group, a one day retreat, plus free access to my master class for coaches. Go to ChristineHassler.com/bschool or email [email protected] for more information. For free training videos from Marie go to ChristineHassler.com/training. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you notice you have sabotaging behaviors? You can get close to what you want but then sabotaging thoughts or behaviors show up. When it comes to making decisions do you struggle and wonder if you made the right choice? Or, that you should be "doing something different." Have you lost someone you love either through the ending of a relationship or a death and you are scared to open your heart again? Do you make time regularly to connect to your inner wisdom and get answers from there? Megan's Question: Megan has a recurring pattern of feeling as if she isn't doing the right thing or feels she should be doing something else and would like guidance on how to change it. Megan's Key Insights and Ahas: She is an empath. She is in a new relationship. She is aware of her patterns. Her mother tried to control what she was eating. She is overwhelmed with too many choices. She is afraid of another heartbreak. She feels safer when she is alone. She has created a fortress around her heart. She is afraid to be seen. She is filled with doubt about her ability to write a book. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to establish healthy boundaries in her new relationship. She needs to ask for what she needs. She needs to recognize her gift of feeling deeply. She needs to connect more deeply to the divine inside of her. Takeaways: Make sure you have boundaries, not barriers. Don't build a fortress around yourself. Just put up the 'do not disturb' sign for a while. Risk big when it comes to loving! When fear comes up, remind yourself that with fear you are already in loss. If you are afraid of letting someone in, journal about what you don't want someone else to see. Often, we don't know what we are hiding. My 6-step Process to Making Intuitive Decisions is my gift to you. Send a text to 444999 and put 'Christine' in the subject line. If you are outside of the U.S. email [email protected] and request the free gift. Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% organic cotton tampons, pads, and cleansing wipes you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are free of chemicals, fragrances, or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code 'OVERIT30' to get 30% off your first month's subscription. Get a starter pack subscription for just $5. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine's Personal Mastery Course Christine's Si

This is a must listen, especially for aspiring or current entrepreneurs. Marie joins Christine for the 3rd time to inspire you with stories around her mantra, "Everything is figureoutable." We also talk about her signature program, B-School, for teaching modern, heart-centered entrepreneurs how to build a successful business. I also reveal my EPIC B-School bonuses for this year which you can access here: www.christinehassler.com/bschool

This episode is about self-soothing strategies for empaths. Today's caller, Alexis, wants guidance about how to find self-worth after getting out of an abusive relationship. But, we go deeper and discover that self-worth is just part of the issue. She realizes that moving toward self-soothing will be more beneficial to her at this time. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode231] We can't amp up our self-worth if we keep judging and shaming ourselves. If you are trying to increase your self-worth, I want you to consistently think of things you are proud of. Not just accomplishments but choices and characteristics and all courageous actions you have taken. Increase your feelings of pride and it will increase your self-worth. Narcissists are very attractive to empaths because empaths have huge hearts and can see what's behind narcissism. While narcissists are self-absorbed, empaths are often selfless and are more concerned with other people's happiness. If you are an empath who is with a narcissist, my encouragement to you is to get out of the relationship. No matter how much you love them they are unable to feel empathy and they can't give you the love and attention you deserve. It's a tough relationship to be in. And, trying to get out of triggers or uncomfortable feelings by thinking positive is a dead-end for a lot of people, especially empaths. One of your gifts is that you feel deeply so trying to escape your feelings through positive psychology or a pep talk may lead you astray because you are negating the very essence of who you are. If you are a feeling person, you have to honor your feelings. I am a proud sponsor of B-school which is an online training program for modern entrepreneurs taught by Marie Forleo. When you register through my link you will receive special bonuses from me. I include four group coaching calls of 90 min each, four custom meditations for entrepreneurs, access to my Facebook group, a one day retreat, plus free access to my master class for coaches. Go to ChristineHassler.com/bschool or email [email protected] for more information. For free training videos from Marie go to ChristineHassler.com/training. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you getting over a breakup? Do you ever fear you may be codependent or have codependent patterns? As a child, did you ever feel like you were walking on eggshells? How are you at self-soothing? When you get triggered, do you try to distract yourself to avoid dealing with the feelings? Alexis's Question: Alexis recently got out of an abusive relationship and would like guidance on how to boost her self-worth. Alexis's Key Insights and Ahas: She was in an abusive relationship for two years. She is working on being proud of herself. She would shut down when she tried to stand up for herself. Her ex would make her feel crazy. She is an empath. She feels blocked when trying to get to the core of her trauma. She is stuck in the awareness phase of personal development. There was a lot of tension in her childhood home. She felt abandoned and alone in the past. She doesn't follow through in many things in her life. She struggles with letting her feelings out. She is part of my Personal Mastery community. How to Get Over It and On With It: She should listen to the Coaches Corner with Dr. Judith Orloff. She needs to realize she is not alone because many empaths are attracted to narcissists. She needs to learn self-soothing techniques and strategies. She should journal in the form of release writing. Takeaways: Be proud of yourself. Listen to the Coaches Corner with Dr. Judith Orloff. Make a date to meet with your feelings when they come up if you are unable to process them in the moment. Use my release writing technique from Expectation Hangover when journaling. Place one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and say "I am loved and I am safe." Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Comfortable, perfectly-fitting bras that boost confidence. What if you could remove the hassle of bra shopping and find the most comfortable, perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes! Use the link to get 15% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. They have a 100% fit guarantee. Thirdlove donates returned bras to women in need. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine's Personal Mastery Course Christine's Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

Dr. Judith Orloff is a New York Times bestselling author, psychiatrist and is on the UCLA psychiatric clinical faculty. Dr. Orloff specializes in treating empaths and sensitive people in her Los Angeles based private practice. Judith Orloff MD asserts that we are keepers of an innate intuitive intelligence so perceptive that it can tell us how to heal — and prevent — illness. Yet intuition and spirituality are the very aspects of our wisdom usually disenfranchised from traditional health care. Dr. Orloff's latest book "The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People" (Sounds True, 2017) is an invaluable resource to help sensitive people of all kinds develop healthy coping mechanisms in our high-stimulus world without experiencing compassion fatigue or burnout. Empaths can then fully embody their gifts of intuition, creativity, and compassion. Dr. Orloff's work has been featured all over the world in various media outlets. You can learn more about at www.drjudithorloff.com.

This episode is about our money story. Today's caller, Emily, calls in asking about gaining clarity and her purpose but what we reveal is her relationship with money impacts many things for her. Her unconscious programming holds beliefs that are directly at odds with what she wants for herself. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode230] If you grew up not having a lot of money or being told money was evil then there you may have some trauma around having money. And just like going back and healing emotional wounds, we have to go back and heal our financial wounds as well. Our careers, being parents, or what we do in the world gets confused with what we think we are here on the earth to do. Your purpose in life isn't your career. We mistakenly think that it is our purpose. What I feel is true, is that our purpose is to evolve our soul as much as possible. Our purpose is to elevate our consciousness, move out of fear and judgment, and come back into knowing we are whole and we are love. Doing the work is the purpose. Our profession is just an expression of what we do. But, just because your purpose is not your career it doesn't mean you need to be in a soul-sucking career. Your purpose in life is also not to suffer. So, if you want to move out of something where you feel like you are suffering and your soul is being sucked out of your body while you are sitting in your cubicle, know that part of your purpose is joy. You deserve to do something that brings you more joy. Consider/Ask Yourself: When you think about money, what comes up for you? Do you feel abundant, neutral, excited, or stressed? Growing up, what were you told about money? Do you live paycheck-to-paycheck? Do you know what your purpose is and do you believe you can make money doing it? Emily's Question: Emily wants help in getting clear about her purpose and help with goal setting for the future. Emily's Key Insights and Ahas: She finds it difficult to plan for the future. She wants the burden and fear about money to be lifted to attain financial freedom. She wants to feel calm, free and living with purpose. Her mother had a scarcity mindset. As a child, she was told she was wise beyond her years and stubborn. Her adopted identity is in direct conflict with having money. Her unconscious programming tells her having money is bad. She is passionate about helping people. She is enrolled in my Personal Mastery Course. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundant mindset. She should read Money: A Love Story, by Kate Northrup and listen to podcasts about money. She needs to believe she is abundant. She needs to drop into her intuition. Takeaways: Look at your money story and check out the resources I mentioned in the podcast. Get some new belief systems in place. Work those belief systems. Tell yourself a different story and collect evidence for why the new story is true. Look at how you are making money in your life and if you feel you are "on purpose." Join me for my Spring Retreat in San Diego March 6th-8th. Sponsor: Rothy's — Rothy's makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and versatile shoes made from repurposed plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Get your Rothy's by using this link Rothys.com/over. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine's Personal Mastery Course Christine's Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

This episode is incredibly educational when it comes to our attachment styles. I talk with licensed psychotherapist Ellen Boeder about how attachment styles are formed, how they impact our adult relationships, and what we can do to heal them so we can have more secure attachments. A little more about Ellen . . . She has been a therapist since 2003. She has a strong background in yoga and meditation, and her graduate training in Transpersonal Psychology also deeply inform her work. Since getting married 12 years ago, and becoming a mother to two children, Ellen transitioned from working primarily with women to focusing on couples. Ellen is trained in PACT, a therapeutic modality for couples founded by Stan Tatkin, PsyD., that synthesizes attachment theory, neuroscience, and affect regulation models to support couples in creating an enduring and nourishing relationship through secure functioning. In addition to maintaining a part time private practice, Ellen is on faculty for the Relationship School—a business founded by her husband Jayson Gaddis that provides in depth relationship education for anyone who wants to learn, as well as training for relationship coaches.

This episode is about finding the tools to help you better deal with trauma and breaking the cycle of numbing. Today's caller, Charmaine, has had multiple traumas in her life and uses marijuana as a coping strategy. But this isn't a call about stopping marijuana use. When discussing any type of addiction or numbing device, you have to uncover the deeper issue. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode229] From my point of view, we can't deal with addiction effectively unless we deal with the core issue that is creating the addiction or coping strategy. Most addictions are coping strategies for when we didn't have the tools to deal with the drama and trauma that's happened in our life. Addiction to anything is a symptom of a deeper issue. When we speak of addiction, we often just think of drugs and alcohol but there are so many other things we use as coping and numbing strategies that become addictions. Sex, gaming, gambling, food, and even things like work, falling in love, and caretaking. Basically, anything we use to get us out of feeling our pain and feeling our big feelings is a coping strategy that can turn into an addiction. Because the way coping strategies work, is you have to keep upping the ante. The feelings get bigger and bigger and then it takes more energy to suppress them. And, there is not much of a difference between emotional, mental, and physical addiction. Because mental and emotional pain is most likely the cause of physical addiction. If you feel like you are addicted to something worse than marijuana, know that you can get to the other side of it and that judging yourself will not get you anywhere. It won't get you to stop being mean to yourself. The part of you that is reaching out for the coping strategy needs love and compassion. It needs to be healed. You probably developed your coping strategy because you had no better tools. Remember, there is not one style of therapy or coaching that is better than others. It's about what feels right to you. When it comes to working with any therapist or coach it's either a 'hell yeah' or 'hell no'! Better tools are available but know that it requires facing your feelings and some of the demons you buried a long time ago. To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email [email protected]. Consider/Ask Yourself: When it comes to feeling your pain, do you actually feel it or do you numb or distract yourself? Did you have parents who were super present and attentive? Have you done things you are ashamed of? Are you addicted to a substance or numbing technique like pot, alcohol, caretaking, overworking, or food? Charmaine's Question: Charmaine used marijuana to help her cope during a difficult time but would like to stop but doesn't know how. Charmaine's Key Insights and Ahas: She was in the military for 13 years and in an unhealthy marriage. She was kicked out of the military for drug use. She uses pot to numb herself from the trauma she experienced in her past. She feels shame and judges herself. Her parents neglected her. She was sexually molested when she was a child. She has seen a therapist who recommended Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has employed numbing mechanisms for her whole life. She has remarried a wonderful human being. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to find a long-term, quality therapist that resonates with her. She needs a safe space to feel her feelings. She shouldn't quit pot until she has the techniques to deal with her emotions. Takeaways: Be honest and compassionate with yourself if you are using a coping strategy that may border on addiction or is a full-blown addiction. If you feel as if you want a guide or therapist, pray about it. Set the intention to manifest the best healer for you. You have a divine appointment with the people in your life who are supposed to guide you. Trust that they are there. Join my Personal Mastery Course or my Spring Retreat. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine's Personal Mastery Course Christine's Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

Don't miss this episode! One of my soul sisters, Kate Reardon, drops some serious wisdom and compassion bombs in this episode. Kate is a naturopath, intuitive metaphysical healer, author, host of the podcast "Lean In" and co-founder of Natural Instincts Healing's Transformational Retreats. She is one of the most powerful and magical people I know. Enjoy this episode! Learn more about Kate's healing centers here: https://naturalinstincthealing.com/

This episode is about getting out of your head and in touch with spirit. Today's caller, Michelle, is intelligent and has a lot of awareness but her awareness and her thinking are blocking her from a deeper connection to spirit and to the essence of who she truly is. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode228] We can't answer spiritual questions with the mind. That is just the nature of spiritual questions. They can't be answered through the intellect. I have found that sometimes the smarter you are, or the more you are in your head, the harder it is to meditate, to find a connection to spirit, and to drop into your heart. It doesn't mean it's not possible. It just means when we have a strong mind it likes to hold on to thinking and control with a tighter grip. We think and think and think about how to figure something out but how do we figure out a truth? You can figure out a puzzle, you can figure out a math problem or how to build something but you can't figure out enoughness. There is no mathematical equation to figure out love. You just feel it. There is no structured formula to tell you that you feel love for somebody. It's a feeling and so is enoughness and oneness. When we have a strong thinking mind it's hard to access true unconditional love. It isn't until we have an experience of God that we really know we are whole and complete and knowing, no matter what. There are only a few spots left for my Signature Spring Retreat. To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email [email protected]. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you someone who really likes to know things? Do you struggle with worthiness or feeling enough? Does some part of you believe that worthiness is based on what you can do or accomplish? Or, that someone else's worthiness is based on what they can do? Do you feel connected to God? Does satisfaction or fulfillment feel fleeting to you? Michelle's Question: Michelle believes that worthiness is directly tied to actions and would like guidance on how to reframe the idea and feel worthy from a spiritual perspective. Michelle's Key Insights and Ahas: She feels unworthy spiritually. She never feels satisfied. She was raised in a religious household but doesn't subscribe to all the beliefs. She enjoys rules and structure in her life. She teaches yoga. She is mind-dominant. She associates her thoughts with who she is. She is ready to surrender. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to figure out who she is, if not her thinking mind. She should consider getting a dog. She needs to give God and the universe permission to send her clear messages or invitations. She needs to adopt a spiritual practice. She needs to see herself through the lens of self-compassion. She needs to consider joining other like-minded people at my Spring Retreat. Takeaways: Listen to last week's episode, Breaking Up with a Religion. Sign up for my Personal Mastery Course. Put out the call to have a spiritual experience for your highest good to bring in a workshop, the teacher, the ceremony to help you have an experience of God. Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% organic cotton tampons, pads, and other products you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are free of chemicals, fragrances, or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code 'OVERIT30' to get 30% off your first month's subscription. Get a starter pack subscription for just $5. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine's Personal Mastery Course Christine's Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

My husband, Stef Sifandos, is back on the show. We talk about how to disagree in any relationship in a healthy way and share our seven-step process for navigating an argument. This is great info for any relationship and imperative for romantic ones.

This episode is about consciously and completely leaving a religion someone else chose for you. Today's caller, Christina, has recently discovered what her core wounding is and she is in spiritual crisis. She would like guidance on how to protect herself during her vulnerable self-discovery process. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode227] When we leave a religion, whether we drift away from it or there is a point where we cut the cord, it is like a breakup. And, on some level, we are changing the course of our religious beliefs especially if we are baptized into a certain religion. Our soul, for whatever reason, decided to come through those parents who baptized us in a religion so when we leave it, it is important to have a healthy breakup with it. Not just leave in anger or run away. There are soul contracts. This makes it important to make peace when you leave it. Just like you would want to leave a relationship with looking at "What are the lessons I've learned," "What are the things that I really want to take with me," "What were the things I loved about the person," and "What are the gifts that came from the relationship?" We want to ask ourselves similar questions when we leave a religion. It's even a deeper spiritual process because then we have to find God, whatever God means to us, in a new way. And, dark energies can be a scary subject to speak of, especially when we grow up hearing about things like the Devil, Satan, or dark entities. Sometimes our own unprocessed, unconscious stuff can create some crazy visuals to get our attention about certain things. Instead of considering what the darkness means, try thinking about how you can increase your connection to the highest source of light and love. The most important thing is to surrender to unconditional love and light. There are only a few spots left for my Signature Spring Retreat. To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email [email protected]. If you live in Austin, Texas, keep your calendar open for the last two weeks of September for a retreat for both men and women hosted by me and Stefan. Consider/Ask Yourself: Were you baptized or raised in a particular religion but you left it or do not practice those traditions anymore? Do you feel not enough? Are you having trouble finding your tribe or the people you really connect with? Do you have experiences with dense or unexplained energies that you can't explain? Christina's Question: Christina recently discovered her core wounding and would like guidance on how to protect herself as she treads along the vulnerable path to self-discovery. Christina's Key Insights and Ahas: She yearns for the approval of others. She is a people pleaser. She is leaning into being an empath. She sometimes feels a dark masculine energy. She was raised as a Mormon but left the religion when she was 19. She has always been a sensitive person. She feels alone in her spirituality. There was sexual abuse within her family. She is searching for her tribe. She is in a spiritual crisis. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to take back her power and deepen her spiritual practice. She needs to stay out of judgment. She needs to practice chanting the sound 'hu.' She needs to ask for a spiritual teacher who can support her emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. She needs to embrace a conscious breakup plan from the Mormon religion. She needs to consider joining other empaths for my Spring Retreat. Takeaways: Practice the meditation from this podcast. If you have unresolved issues from a religion you don't practice anymore, consider how you can bring completion and healthy closure to it. Explore how you can make an intention to deepen your spiritual practice and connection to your higher power this year. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine's Personal Mastery Course Christine's Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

In this last episode to support you in feeling supported as you walk into this next decade, Christine offers a more feminine approach and guided meditation for clarifying goals. This is a must listen if you are feeling a call to be more repetitive and inspired.

This episode is about finding your voice when you have low self-worth. Today's caller, Sarah, calls in asking about a breakup but as usual, we dive deeper into core issues she has been carrying around since before her birth. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode226] Not being able to see things from a self-honoring perspective is one of the many side effects of low self-worth. People who have zero self-worth give up on themselves completely and don't call in or listen to podcasts like this. If you believe you have low self-worth I want you to recognize the ways in which you act that demonstrate your self-worth. I promise they are there. You can't just focus on how you have no or low self-worth because it's not true. You wouldn't be listening to this if you didn't. Acknowledge the ways you take care of yourself. Even if you are an introvert you need to take up space and be seen. Especially in your most intimate relationships. Low self-worth can make it challenging to attract a healthy relationship. If something in this call resonates with you, you may have a leaving pattern. A leaving pattern is a coping mechanism or a personality pattern we often develop if we have an in-the-womb trauma or birth trauma. It's when we don't feel safe to come into the world. The coping mechanism makes us good at checking out. It's also common for people who have a leaving pattern to avoid confrontation and often not speak up for themselves. A big part of healing the leaving pattern is to not tolerate shitty situations, to not settle. Don't miss out on tonight's group coaching call. It's about setting your intentions for the year and how to be an empath in 2020. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to join in and to access group coaching call archives visit ChristineHassler.com/group-coaching-replays To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email [email protected]. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you gone through a heartbreak that you still haven't gotten over? Do you often do things because you feel obligated or forced? Is it hard for you to speak up? Do you feel invisible? Is there a calling you want to pursue but self-doubt gets in the way? Sarah's Question: Sarah recently experienced a break-up from a relationship that she thought was "the one" and would like guidance on how to move forward. Sarah's Key Insights and Ahas: She says she hasn't had a broken heart before. She found herself changing during her relationship. She wouldn't speak up for herself. She didn't feel an intimate connection with her ex. Her parents divorced when she was 16. Her parents didn't know they were having twins. She is emotionally intimate with her twin sister. She has abandonment issues. She doesn't know how to handle the emotions she is feeling. She feels uncomfortable when she is given attention. She has low self-worth. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to release the judgment she places on herself. She needs to work with a therapist or coach using regressive therapy. Takeaways: Think about your birth and early childhood. Was there any trauma? Did you feel safe and wanted? Explore it and cover it in your personal development work. If you do relate to the leaving pattern, if you are good at checking out of your body and going into the spiritual world, I encourage you to do things to get you more into your body. Consider your own self-worth. If you resonate with it being low, commit to doing some work around it. Investing in yourself is a great way. Come to my Spring Retreat or Personal Mastery course. Make a list of all the people you've held back your words to and make a commitment to get them out. If you have a dream you want to pursue tell more people about it, own it. Sponsor: DR Vitamin Solutions is well known among nutritionists and vitamin junkies for sourcing quality brands from every niche of the supplement industry. DR Vitamin Solutions is offering 5% off all purchases to Over and On With It listeners if they use the discount code 'Hassler5' during check out at DRVitaminSolutions.com. Orders of $49 and over include free shipping. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine's Personal Mastery Course Christine's Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

With this New Year upon us, setting goals and intentions is in the air. In this follow-up episode to creating your 2020 vision, Christine guides you through her favorite ways to make changes that last! Also, join Christine for our next live virtual group coaching call which will be an intention setting workshop www.christinehassler.com/group. If you are interested in the journal Christine mentions in this episode, you can get it here: https://christinehassler.com/40-day-journal/