Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

This call is about finding our nurturing, loving feminine inner voice. Today's caller, Lex, would like guidance with her patterns of inconsistency and quieting the harsh, critical voice of her mother in her head. This call will resonate with anyone who had a challenging, traumatic, dysfunctional, or abusive relationship with their mother. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode275] When we do not process our anger, it creates a rebel or saboteur within us. It is difficult to be consistent if we never had a model of a loving or consistent parent. We create a rebel to protect ourselves from emotional abuse and the rebel energy is often tied to anger. If you have a rebel or a self-sabotager, think about how it is anger in disguise. The more we deal with our anger and deal with the ways we have been abused, betrayed, or neglected, the less we rely on the rebel to protect us. If a child has a parent with a narcissistic personality disorder or is mentally abusive in some way, the child knows kindness can't be trusted. They have to walk on eggshells all the time. So, when kind loving energy does come it is difficult to be open to it and trust it. Even though deep down we all trust feminine energy, deeply-ingrained patterns can confuse it with past experiences with females in our past. Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a mother wound or a wound with the feminine that is disconnecting you from your femininity, your love of your body, or your ability to care and nurture yourself? Do you have an inner rebel and every time you get consistent about something that rebel comes in and just throws you off track? Did you have a parent that stood by when your other parent abused you or didn't treat you well and it made you feel like you just weren't protected? Do you struggle with trusting yourself or other people? Lex's Question: Lex is looking for guidance on how to be consistent with her health routine. Lex's Key Insights and Ahas: She is concerned about her health and weight. She suffers from Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). She wants people to think about her positively. She is inconsistent and self-sabotages herself. People treat her differently because of her physical appearance. Her mother had narcissistic tendencies. Her father didn't offer her safety from her mother. She is passionate about justice and human rights. She wasn't nurtured in her childhood. She has perfectionistic tendencies. She doesn't feel enough and doesn't trust. She was triggered by meditation. Her inner rebel helps her to survive and protects her. She gets stuck in a cycle of pushing, rebelling, and hopelessness. How to Get Over It and On With It: Call in nurturing, mothering energy. Look for guides to help her find her voice, her sovereignty. Listen to and surround herself with feminine voices. Deal with the anger she feels toward her mother through emotional release writing. Do the temper-tantrum technique from Expectation Hangover or Personal Mastery. Find a therapist who works with somatic, trauma, or behavioral therapy. When she hears her inner critic speak up, recognize it, and comfort herself. Ask Yourself: If you resonate with wanting to draw in more of the feminine voice and you want to find your loving, nurturing feminine side, surround yourself with loving, nurturing feminine energy voices. Have a conversation with your rebel, ask it what it is protecting you from. Do anger release work to see if you are rebelling because you are angry. Download my temper tantrum technique at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. Forgive yourself for your past actions. Celebrate all the ways you have shifted and your growth. Sponsor: Organifi — is an organic superfood powdered tea that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and delicious. Not all of us have the time or means to get the natural, fresh, organic vegetables we need. I upgrade my nutrition every single day with Organifi Harmony, Organifi Gold Chocolate, or Red Juice. For 20% off your order, go to Organifi.com/overit and use the code 'OVERIT' at checkout to receive 20% off all products. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

To wrap up the love and relationship series, Christine and Stef have a special gift for you. They recorded an experiential process to support you on your journey to Sacred Union. In this episode, they define what Sacred Union is and explain the process. To download the experiential exercise for free, go to https://christinehassler.com/sacredunion/

This call is about seeing a partner's inner child wounding in an issue-based relationship. Today's couple, Lorena and Jonathon, are looking for guidance on how to connect more intimately with each other and manage their masculine and feminine energies in their relationship. We uncover that inner child wounding is more at play in the relationship than masculine/feminine dynamics. Couples and singles will find value in today's episode. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode274] In a relationship, we cannot hope the other person heals us or completes us. That is codependency. However, we can set the intention for the relationship to be a safe space to heal. That is the beauty of a relationship. We always want to be doing our own work and healing our own stuff. Then, we can use the relationship, which is often a triggering event, as a place to heal our inner child wounding. It is key in your intimate relationship to see his little boy, or see her little girl and understand the wounding. Know that what you need might be different than what your partner needs. Often, we love based on how we want to be loved and how our inner child needs to be loved versus how the other person in our life needs to be loved. A conscious couple/sacred union doesn't mean everything's okay all the time and we are living in awesome ecstasy, having total non-violent communication, and having amazing sex all the time. We are human; it doesn't always work like that. Being a conscious couple/sacred union means you are willing to do the work. If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you're showing up too masculine or too feminine in your relationship? Is your relationship going through challenges, maybe you have separated, and you want to restart and get a fresh take on an old relationship? Do you understand how your inner child experiences and your inner child wounding is impacting your intimacy and relationship? Are you willing to see your current or future partner through the eyes of love? Are you willing to see that little boy or a little girl inside of them and truly seek to understand your partner rather than judge them or have expectations of them? Lorena & Jonathon's Question: Lorena and Jonathon are looking for guidance on how to connect intimately and manage their masculine and feminine energies within the relationship. Lorena & Jonathon's Key Insights and Ahas: They have been together for 12 years. They separated for a time. He is cautious about being in his masculine. She is in her masculine a lot. They both come from dysfunctional families. They are in an issue-based relationship. She lived in fear as a child and couldn't trust people in her life. He spent a lot of time trying to fit in. She has high expectations of herself and others. He gets angry and frustrated when he hears negative feedback. She wants to feel more emotionally connected to him. How to Get Over It and On With It: Jonathon — Find his inner parent who responds to the critical voice that tells him he is enough. Jonathon — Listen to Episode #273 with Ron. Jonathon — Find his fire and tap into his repressed anger. Lorena — Tell her little girl she is safe and know she can relax now. Lorena — Acknowledge her husband for what he does. Understand each other's inner child wounding. Find three questions to ask each other as a nighttime ritual. Give each other more hugs throughout the day. Ask Yourself: Are you seeing and understanding your partner's wounding? Are you loving your partner and treating them the way you need to be treated and expecting them to do the same. Or, are you loving them based on what they need? Do you clearly communicate what you need from your partner? What is your biggest hurt from childhood and how does it show up in your relationship? What is your deepest desire and how can you ask for what you need in your relationship? Sponsor: Rothy's — Get or give stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy's. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest winter styles from Rothy's by using this link Rothys.com/over. With free returns and exchanges on eligible products. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Couples get on the Waitl

Christine and Stef sit down with an awesome couple who also both happen to be coaches and therapists. Listen in to a very honest conversation about what it takes to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship. A little more about our guests: Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and entrepreneur, is the founder of The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping people work out their differences and have fulfilling long-term partnerships. Jayson is considered a world leader in relationships. He founded The Relationship School®, is the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching®. He trains people from around the world how to be effective relational leaders and coaches. He's been married to his amazing wife since 2007 and has two beautiful kids. They live in Boulder, Colorado. When he doesn't live and breathe this relationship stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him. Ellen Boeder Bio Ellen Boeder, MA, LPC is a psychotherapist and coach for couples in Boulder, Colorado, who has been interested in how relationships actually work for as long as she can remember. Studying with innovative researchers and cutting edge practitioners in the field of psychology, relationships, and also yoga, for over 20 years has helped her integrate her approach to working with people in a sensitive, straightforward, deeply informed, and embodied way. The most high-level training she does is usually at home with her husband and two young children, as she finds her way through the real, raw, and beautiful experience of being deeply intertwined with others. Ellen is also a faculty member for The Relationship School, is a long time yoga practitioner, and writes a blog that incorporates her studies in psychology with her life experience as a mother, called Rearranged by Motherhood.

This call is about overcoming apathy and releasing anger. Today's caller, Ron, was constantly shamed by a volatile father. As an adult, he feels detached and numb. He uses apathy as a coping mechanism. We work through how he can release his feelings and do inner child work. I offer some techniques and strategies to help him regain a healthy masculine identity. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode273] When men have a volatile father, they become passive or hyper-aggressive. They go to extremes. They can become the alpha-dog and lash out or they become passive with emotional eating. It is a common father wound for men to have a degree of shame that goes in either direction. Shame is toxic and the way it impacts us all as humans is similar and different. How it impacts men is particularly detrimental, for women as well, but I've seen it impact men in a way where they lose touch with their masculine energy and become more passive in life. It is nearly impossible to come out of being raised in a fear-based home, having a volatile parent, and never feeling like you got the love, affection, and approval you needed and grow up having no issues with it. As you might intellectually want yourself to be different, until you go back and do the healing work and dive deep, you are going to find yourself in the pantry sneak eating or whatever your version of that is. If you are not living the life you want to be living, it is just feedback that there is more work to do. Inner child wounding is sometimes tough to get at because we bury it so deep. There is no shame and being willing to forgive the person is the first step. If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel uncomfortable in your own skin? Are you chronologically an adult and keep up with your grown-up responsibilities, but inside you don't feel like one? Are you mostly passive except for those occasional moments you lose your temper? Did you get the love, attention, and affection you truly need and deserve from your parents, especially your father? Ron's Question: Ron does not feel comfortable in his skin and he feels he does not belong. He would like guidance on how to break through the patterns. Ron's Key Insights and Ahas: He practices negative self-talk. He doesn't feel like an adult, even though he is responsible. He is afraid he will get in trouble for what he does. He hides his eating habits. His father was quick to anger and volatile. He feels detached from his family. He has numbed himself and feels apathy toward his parents. He craves feeling and pleasure. He does try to get his anger out. How to Get Over It and On With It: Connect to his aggression, rage, and anger to get to the hurt. Do the Temper Tantrum Technique from Expectation Hangover. Write an 'F-U' letter to his parents he doesn't send. Tap into his masculine energy to find his fire, his warrior to allow him to feel again. Find his inner coach voice, not his inner critic. Takeaways: If you aren't feeling like an adult, think about where you got frozen in childhood. Many people freeze at a certain age even though we can do adult things. Do emotional processing. Use this free anger release download, ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. If you find yourself sneak eating or the kind of behavior you do in the shadows to soothe yourself or give you momentary pleasure and escapism when you feel the urge to do it, put your hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and ask your little one what they need. If eating is a coping mechanism for you, listen to my "Coaches Corner with Samantha Skelly, Hungry for Happiness" Reconnect to your little one and give them a chance to express their feelings. Be the parent to yourself you never had. Sponsor: Rothy's — Get your new favorite stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy's. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy's by using this link Rothys.com/over. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine answers questions from single women and covers topics such as dating apps, healing sexual trauma, getting over ex's, removing intimacy blocks, and much more. You can apply for Be the Queen here: www.christinehassler.com/bethequeen You can download Christine's free Gratitude meditation here: https://christinehassler.com/gratitude

This call is about recognizing competing intentions and forgiveness. Today's caller, Michelle, is facing challenges when calling in a partner, her person, someone to share her life with. A childhood wound regarding trust keeps repeating because she has not healed it yet. Even if you are not single, this call has something in it for you. We work through blocks when it comes to trusting people, and competing intentions. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode272] When we have competing intentions, we have a longing and a desire. Yet, we also have protective strategies of "I may get hurt." It is the intention that is keeping you protected that will win. This is why we feel like we are sabotaging ourselves. We keep repeating the same pattern over and over again. The angrier we are, the better we are at protecting ourselves. The more we keep the wall up. Remember, when we forgive, it's not about condoning actions or forgiving the actions that hurt us. It is about forgiving the misunderstandings and misperceptions and misbeliefs we bought into, based on what happened. The power of your desire, the power of what you want IS powerful. Don't think it cannot bring you what you want. You have to look at what is blocking it. One of the best ways we can protect ourselves from future hurts is to heal our past hurts. In December, I am offering the next round of personal development grant money. The grant money can be used for mental or emotional therapy, coaching, or anything that enhances your emotional wellbeing. To sign up to receive $500 go to ChristineHassler.com/grant. If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a similar expectation hangover happening repeatedly? Are you aware of a childhood wound and know it impacts your life, but you can't seem to shift it? Are you single and want to be with a partner, your person, especially, after this challenging year? Do you have trouble trusting people, especially when it comes to the opposite sex? Michelle's Question: Michelle wants to find someone to share her life with, her person. Michelle's Key Insights and Ahas: Her brother passed away unexpectedly. She is the youngest of five children from a big family. She's never been married but wants to find someone to share life with. She has a broken heart about her family breaking up. Her father left her mother for another woman. She believes she can't trust people and attracts men she can't trust. She has put up a wall around her heart. She may have low self-worth and a rough inner critic. She has been in therapy. She has competing intentions. She is angry and feels she needs to protect herself. Her feminine desire is being blocked by masculine anger. How to Get Over It and On With It: Find a way to protect herself in a healthy way. Speak with her younger self about releasing her anger. Realize she doesn't have to trust every person, just one who is worthy. Forgive herself for what she made her father's actions mean. Reparent herself by acknowledging her father isn't representative of all men. Start trusting herself. Believe she can have a healthy, happy relationship. Takeaways: Consider what your competing intentions are. Is there something you want in your life but what is the protective block you have that is keeping you from getting it? Get to the source of your issue. Remember, with forgiveness, you are not forgiving the actions, you are forgiving the misunderstandings and limiting beliefs you bought into, based on the action. If today's episode resonated with you, re-listen to it. If you want to apply to the Be the Queen program in January, go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen. Sponsor: Organifi — is an organic superfood powdered tea that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and delicious. Not all of us have the time or means to get the natural, fresh, organic vegetables we need. I upgrade my nutrition every single day with Organifi Gold, Organifi Gold Chocolate, or Green Juice. For 20% off your order, go to Organifi.com/overit and use the code 'OVERIT' at checkout to receive 20% off your order. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Stef joins Christine to answer more listener questions on libido, ghosting, loving an empath, masculine/feminine dynamics and much more! To access the recording of the group call go here: https://christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/ To apply for Be the Queen go here: https://christinehassler.com/bethequeen/

This call is about restoration and compassion. Today's caller, Yaira, keeps going, going, going until she burns herself out. She is committed to believing that it is just who she is but the crux of this call is when she says she was trying to escape her circumstances. If you relate to being uncomfortable in stillness you will find this call useful. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode271] For any of you who have grown up in a chaotic home, it is common for you to want to go, go, go because stillness brought up feelings of how long is it going to be before the other shoe drops? Stillness can feel traumatic because you are bracing yourself for something bad to come. If you relate to feeling like this, you have to reorient your body, your inner child, and your subconscious mind to stillness. Reinforce the idea that just because you are still it doesn't mean you are trapped or in danger. If you feel you have already done a lot of personal development work, know that you are not done. You are never done. Just accept it. The hard work is at the beginning. What phase are you in on your personal growth journey? There are some of you who are very aware and who have lived in a "house" that has been constructed for a while and continue doing maintenance. But, others of you are still in the personal development building stage where there is a lot of work yet to do. It's OK. Please don't discredit the work you have done just because you have more work to do. Don't minimize what you have done because there is something else you discovered that needs healing. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you passionate and committed to things, but sometimes you burn yourself out and don't know how to stop? Do you trust yourself? Do you have issues with not pacing yourself? Do you ever feel like you are out of control? You want to do a lot of things but feel like you have no stop button? Is there something in your life, your past perhaps, you are trying to escape from? Yaira's Question: Yaira wants to push projects forward but experiences burn out and would like guidance on how to break her "negative" habits. Yaira's Key Insights and Ahas: She gets excited about starting new projects. She experiences burnout when she pushes herself too hard. She feels safe and grounded in some aspects but fearful in others. She can be overindulgent. She does not trust herself to set limitations or boundaries. She does not have strong family bonds. She grew up in a chaotic household and had to figure things out by herself. She has not realized how much her past has impacted her. She has done a lot of personal development work. She wants to be in full control of her life. How to Get Over It and On With It: Find a way to work with her energy in a way that conserves her energy. Tell her younger self that she is free and has dominion over her life. Call forward her inner parent. Do a body scan or yoga practice to restore her body. Speak to herself with compassion. Takeaways: If you are passionate, make sure to balance yourself out by being compassionate. Passion is fire energy, and it will burn you out if you do not balance it out. Find the voice of your inner parents and explain things to yourself. Find your "pull" motivation. Consider how much of what you are doing is motivated by "push or away from" energy versus the "toward energy" that pulls you toward your vision. Sponsor: Rothy's — Get your new favorite stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy's. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy's by using this link Rothys.com/over. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is a juicy one! Christine answers questions from our last group coaching call about love, sex, and relationships. To access the recording of the group call go here: https://christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/ To get your amazing Organifi products, go here: www.organifi.com/overit

This call is about bringing more harmony into your life. Today's caller, Brian, loves his work but is searching for more work-life balance. He enjoys being the person who is always available to others but takes little time for himself. This episode is enlightening for those who get validation from being the reliable, go-to person. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode270] There is no such thing as work-life balance. They are not two separate things. Work is part of life. It's about putting more harmony in your life by doing things to balance out the huge time suckers. If you work a lot or are with your kids a lot, what are you doing to balance it out? Have you created boundaries to make time for yourself? Do you have a self-care practice? Is it your once-a-week therapy session? What things are you doing to balance out the things in your life that are time-consuming? The ego generally gets a bad wrap in the personal development space. But, we all have an ego. We all need to feel like we matter. Every human needs to feel important. The ego is how we get validation. We just need to be careful that validation doesn't become linked to our identity. Every pattern we are involved in has costs and payoffs. Does the imbalance in your life cost you more than it pays out? This is an intense time so be mindful of what you allow into your mind. Choose what you want your individual experience to be. In November, I am launching the next round of personal development grant money. The grant money can be used for therapy, coaching, or anything that enhances your emotional wellbeing. To sign up to receive $500 go to ChristineHassler.com/grant. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you need more work-life balance? Do you often feel like you can't get away from your responsibilities? Do you believe that if you set boundaries or are not available or responsible all the time, things will fall apart? Do you relate to being the go-to person? Do you get validation for being the go-to-person? Does it make you feel needed? Brian's Question: Brian would like guidance on how to bring more work-life balance into his world. Brian's Key Insights and Ahas: He works a lot of hours. He loves his job and likes to make things work. He enjoys being a reliable person. He feels pressured to always be available. He values being a good resource at work. He would like to move toward being a leader. His life is mostly about other people. How to Get Over It and On With It: Expand his purpose with self-reflection. Pay attention to his self-talk. Be kind and gentle with himself. Create a schedule of when he is available. Adopt a five-minute morning meditation or breathwork practice. Takeaways: Think about what you are doing; does it give you a sense of identity and purpose? What is it costing you? Is it time to evolve out of being the people pleaser or the go-to person? Think about the boundaries you need to put in place to break some patterns. What are the simple, non-time-consuming things you can set up that weigh a lot and will make a big difference? Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Over and On With It listeners can try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. Go to ShipStation.com and click on the microphone at the top of the page to let Shipstation help your business grow and thrive. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Samantha Skelly is a 7-figure entrepreneur, sought after international speaker, best-selling author, and wellness coaching expert. She founded both Hungry for Happiness, a movement that helps people experience true transformation and happiness through trained certified coaches who utilize emotional and energetic coaching techniques, and PAUSE Breathwork, which has a mission to unite humanity by helping people breathe, feel, and thrive. Samantha has revolutionized the weight loss and self-help industries by examining the individual and underlying causes of food, body, and self-love issues. You can check her out on the popular Hungry for Happiness podcast and her best-selling HayHouse book, Hungry For Happiness which you can learn more about here: https://www.hungryforhappiness.com/hungry-for-happiness-book/

This call is about moving past programmed beliefs to uncover your authentic beliefs. Today's caller, Meagan, is feeling unfulfilled and directionless. After her father's passing, she had to take on a lot of responsibility quickly but did not receive support from her family. What we discover is that she has competing intentions or programmed beliefs that are bumping up against her authentic beliefs. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode269] Life during our late 20s and early 30s can be difficult because it is at a time in life when it's a weird combination of trying to figure out our future while also trying to clean up our past. We don't want to repeat our past but it's hard to get clarity on the future when we have not cleaned up our past first. Often, our programmed beliefs and conditioning bump up against who we authentically are and it creates conflict. Whenever we are doing clearing work or processing work of our past, at the same time we must reprogram our brain with the beliefs we want to believe, or the beliefs that we authentically believe. Sometimes we just need a little reminder of what those are. And, as we start to clear things out we want to make sure we put new programs in, otherwise, the brain tends to hang on to the old stuff. Secure your spot for the next live group coaching call about sex, intimacy, love, and relationships. The live call starts at 5 pm PST on 11/11/20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the library of past and future group calls. Become part of my community for only $20. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel like you are not on the "right path" or don't have the direction in your life that you want? Do you feel like you "should" have a more secure career path? Growing up, did you feel free to express yourself creatively, and emotionally? Have you ever experienced a loss you have yet to fully grieve? Meagan's Question: Meagan would like guidance on finding direction and fulfillment in her life. Meagan's Key Insights and Ahas: She feels she lacks direction. She was jolted into adulthood much sooner than she expected after her father's passing. She has not fully grieved her father. She felt a lack of support in her family. She tried to be perfect to get love from her parents. She never felt fully expressed. She would like to be a Human Design Reader. She recently spoke with a counselor about her grief. She wants to move and create a community for herself. How to Get Over It and On With It: Invest in her wellness. Surround herself with people who have an explorer spirit. Confirm her authentic beliefs through books, podcasts, or other personal development media. Break the pattern of overthinking everything. Express herself creatively and emotionally. Takeaways: Reflect on what are your programmed beliefs and your authentic beliefs. If you live in your head a lot, give your emotions an exit route by releasing them. Consider looking into Human Design. Listen to my podcast with Erin Claire Jones. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches. Coaches Corner #241 with Erin Claire Jones on Human Design

A must-listen for both men and women! Traver Boehm joins Christine to talk about why so many men are emotionally unavailable or displaying unhealthy masculinity and how to shift it. Traver is inspiring millions of men to shift their experience of masculinity by combining the Primal Masculine with the Divine Masculine. He is an author, speaker, and founder of the ManUncivilized Movement, as well as a former Strength & Conditioning coach, a CrossFit gym owner, an MMA fighter, a bodyguard, an acupuncturist, and a surfer. (Check out his amazing TEDx talk by clicking here.) Website: www.manuncivilized.com Instagram: @traverboehm

This call is about developing authentic relationships by being authentic. Today's caller, Kylie, is individuating and is trying to figure out how to have a grown-up relationship with her mother. This call is useful for those of you who are wondering how to have an adult relationship with your parents and break free of the patterns that were set up in childhood. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode268] When we become an adult, we start to step into sovereignty. Our parents, or caregivers, raised us and they were our authority figure. We were dependent on them. As children, we couldn't care for ourselves and were not supposed to. We were subjected to whatever patterns our parents imprinted upon us. Since as children we are sponges, we absorbed many of the way they did things, the way they feel their emotions, and the way they relate. We learned as children to adapt to those behaviors and be whoever we think we need to be, to be safe, to be loved, and protected. Then, as adults, as we step into sovereignty and we are not dependent on our parents, and we are dependent on ourselves, we have to consider the relational dynamic that was set up when we were dependent and had no sovereignty, no power. The patterns that were set up your parental dynamic, either with one or both of your parents when they were set up, you had no choice in the matter. Today, you do. Do you still want to keep playing out the patterns that were imposed and imprinted on you as a child, now that you are an adult? Or, do you want to individuate and have a healthy adult relationship with your parents? If so, it may involve upsetting them. The other person being upset is often a side effect of setting boundaries. You cannot wait until you are sure the other person will not be upset to do it. To create a vision for a relationship that requires another person who is not doing their work can leave you with a massive expectation hangover. I have a guided talk in the Calm app. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you walk on eggshells or have anxiety when it comes to one or both of your parents or anyone in your life? Do you often feel yourself contorting into what you think someone wants you to be so you avoid upsetting them? Do you feel like you are growing at a faster rate than your parents? Or, have outgrown your parents and you're not sure how to have a relationship with them? Are you authentic and sovereign in your relationships or do you tend to give your power away? Kylie's Question: Kylie wants guidance on how to develop a more authentic relationship with her mother. Kylie's Key Insights and Ahas: She rarely speaks with her mother even though they live close. Her parents divorced when she was six. She decided she does not want to follow her mother's path. There is some co-dependent patterning. She is careful about how she communicates with her mother. She does not want to disappoint her mother. She is in tune with her body and working on her personal development. She embraces intimacy with others. She gives her mom a lot of power while disempowering herself. How to Get Over It and On With It: Be careful not to take the caretaking role with her mother. Be unapologetically herself. Let it be OK that her mother gets upset. Ask her boyfriend to call her out when she rolls back into her previous patterns. Takeaways: Stop editing yourself in relationships, especially the ones closest to you. It is okay to rock the boat. No hiding, no avoiding. Embrace "carefrontations" and speak your truth. Do not parent your parents. Ask yourself why you chose your parents. Look at the ways you are not sovereign. Where are you giving your power away? Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you listen to this show, you are most likely an older soul and you are going to love this episode with Ainslie MacLeod. He is an internationally acclaimed past-life psychic, spiritual teacher, and award-winning author of The Instruction, The Transformation, and most recently, The Old Soul's Guidebook. Ainslie specializes in exploring past lives to reveal your life's purpose and has been a featured guest on Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations Series. He lives on a tranquil island in the Pacific Northwest. Learn more about Ainslie, sign up for his membership community, and take your soul type quiz at: ainsliemacleod.com

This call is about seeking an external change to fill an internal void. Today's caller, Leigh, wants to make a career change because she is not fulfilled by her current career. But her career switch is not the priority, it is about healing and breaking patterns. This call is important for any of you who feel stuck, who want to make a change, especially a career change, but are not doing it. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode267] Practical decisions are often fear-influenced decisions. Fear-influenced decisions are not wrong. We feel we have to make decisions that give us more certainty. But, we sacrifice a lot of our beliefs, our magic, and our dreams when we do. As human beings, we learn through contrast, so it is OK to make fear-influenced decisions. There are a lot of reasons why we do not make the changes we want to make. It can come back to childhood wounding and it can also be because we don't have the right foundation. We often seek out relationships or careers to give us what we didn't get in childhood. For example, you might be seeking out someone in a relationship who makes you feel safe. Or, you may be seeking out a career to make you feel self-expressed and free. Many of our quests for fulfillment are a call for healing. But, remember, we never want to use something external to fill an internal void. Empaths are sponges. We soak up a lot of information. One of the tendencies of empaths is that we take too much of other people's guidance. We take on people's feelings and accept what people tell us we should do. If you are an empath, think about that, feel into that. Do you allow other people to tell you who you are and what you should do, versus trusting your own discernment? Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel a call to do something different but can't seem to make the change? Did you grow up feeling like you had the attention you desired and deserved or are you starved for attention and emotional expression? Are you in a relationship where you feel fully supported? Are you afraid to speak your needs and go after your dream? Leigh's Question: Leigh wants to make a career change and would like guidance about how to follow her dreams. Leigh's Key Insights and Ahas: She is interested in a career in personal development or healing arts. She is currently a lawyer but not passionate about her work. She has two children under five. She loves deep conversations. She needs financial security. People always question what her heart desires. She felt alone and not heard as a child. She wants to follow her heart. She is an empathetic, feelings-based person. Her husband doesn't understand why she needs a change. How to Get Over It and On With It: Prioritize herself and her marriage. Talk with a coach or therapist where she can feel heard and supported. Get into the habit of expressing her emotions. Express herself in her marriage. Takeaways: Get a consistent, habitual form of support in a therapeutic environment. Remember, there is divine timing for everything. If you feel you are not moving forward in the direction you want, it doesn't mean you're not moving forward. You may have to re-route your path. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this quickie episode Christine shares tips for how to get out of limbo and make a choice so that you can move forward. If you are struggling over a decision, don't miss this one!

This call is about eliminating the imprints put on us by other people. Today's caller, Rory, has childhood wounding from her father's verbal abuse and her mother's lack of support. She feels stuck in her life but she is just in a loop of patterns she created to cope with not getting what she needed as a child. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode266] Whatever parent's love we crave most or whichever parent we felt the most distant from is usually who we tend to find a relationship with or we model ourselves after. And, that is what we are always chasing as an adult. We want our parents to be proud of us but especially our fathers. Knowing your dad is proud of you is massive. We want to know our mom loves us unconditionally and dad is really proud of us. It helps our self-esteem. If you are someone who feels stuck, realize you are not stuck. You are just caught in a loop based on your imprints and your patterns and your wounding. You have to find an exit route. And, often the exit route is what you did not get as a child that you need to give yourself. People are often good at giving others what they are horrible about giving to themselves. You may be nurturing and compassionate towards others but hard on yourself. Or, patient with others but completely impatient with yourself. Anything we give in overflow to others is what we need to give ourselves. What are you giving that you're not receiving? Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel stuck in your life? Do you keep trying but things just aren't happening? Do you consistently start things but don't finish them? Did you grow up in a household where both parents were really hard on you? Did you feel like nothing you ever did was right? Are you excellent at giving others compassion, acceptance, and understanding but not so great about giving it to yourself? Rory's Question: Rory feels she has hit a wall and doesn't understand why she doesn't finish things she starts. Rory's Key Insights and Ahas: She grew up with a lack of love. As a child, she was told she was different, sensitive, and that she would fail. She wonders what the point of her life is. She has a pattern of quitting. She has recurring disturbing dreams about her father and sister. She didn't get any completion energy from her father. She internalized her father's voice. She attaches negative connotations to journaling. She feels pressure to do a lot of things. She doesn't speak to herself with compassion. She has a fierce inner critic. How to Get Over It and On With It: Nourish herself with the things she didn't get. Bring more healthy masculine energy into life. Reduce the amount of doing and be compassionate with herself. Realize external things won't take the place of her passions. Write out and record what she wishes her mother would have said and listen to it several times a day. Listen to this episode again to reflect on how she is talking to herself. Takeaways: What loop are you in and what are the imprints and patterns that have you in a loop? How can you find an exit route? What did you always want from your father or mother but didn't get and start giving it to yourself? Listen to the voices in your head and to the ones that are mean, the ones that push you, the ones that don't accept you say, "Who is this, who is this?" and separate yourself from those voices. Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. ShipStation helps your business grow and thrive. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Omar is a gifted Storyteller, Public Speaker, and Life Coach specializing in Addiction Recovery and Emotional Healing work. He's the host of the incredibly popular SHAIR Recovery podcast. He delivers a powerful message of overcoming drug addiction and an inspirational 16-year journey of recovery. Omar is a successful self-made entrepreneur, is married to his soul mate, and lives in one of the most beautiful places in the world, Costa Rica. He has transformed his life through recovery, personal development, and coaching and now he helps people all over the world transform their lives. Listen and learn more: https://theshairpodcast.com/ https://omarpinto.com/

This call is about treating ourselves with compassion, encouragement, and unconditional love when we have a mother wound. Today's caller, Megan, believes people avoid her because she has too many problems. What we uncover during our session is that she has created a false independence because it is how she copes with having a neglectful mother. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode265] When we don't have anyone holding us, we hold things inside. The difference between being a victim with friends and being vulnerable is being a victim is always complaining about the same thing, never empowering yourself, and never doing anything differently. Being vulnerable is sharing what's in your heart, and taking responsibility. It's when you are not looking for a solution, not always complaining about the same thing but just having an open heart and being intentional about how you choose to shift it, even if it's just being more compassionate with yourself. Victims don't make too many friends unless they just hang out with other victims and they can all throw pity parties together. This doesn't mean to not be vulnerable. You can be vulnerable without going into victim consciousness. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you are too much for people? Do you feel you lose friendships or people avoid you because your life is hard and you think that you are just too much? What events in your childhood are keeping you stuck? Do you have an attitude that nothing works out and things are hard? Did you have a mother who was not there for you or who neglected you, or who you were not enough for? Megan's Question: Megan feels she is too intense or too much for other people and would like guidance on how to break free of the pattern. Megan's Key Insights and Ahas: People pull away or avoid her. She had three near-death experiences as a child. Her parents divorced. She feels isolated. She struggles with low self-worth. Her mother was neglectful in many forms. She is mothering herself the way she was mothered. She attracts emotionally unavailable people. How to Get Over It and On With It: Nourish her relationship with herself. Separate from her struggles to connect more deeply with herself. Communicate with an advisor or good friend. Takeaways: Do the hand exercise and give it a voice. Consider what you think of when you think of a "mother" and write out a list of the qualities that make an amazing, loving mother and integrate those qualities into your life. Work on being vulnerable and intimate with your friends. Sponsor: Jenni Kayne — If you love clothes that are both stylish and super comfortable with a dash of refined simplicity, you will love Jenni Kayne. Having comfortable cozy items is essential at any time of year. Use the code 'OVERIT' for 20% off at checkout! Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Emily Pereira joins Christine to talk about getting over heartbreak, leaving a "safe/successful" life and finding love and happiness in unexpected places. She is an international retreat leader, yoga teacher, and women's coach specializing in helping women call in intimate, heart-thumping, passionate, I got-your-back-no-matter-what love. Her raw vulnerable storytelling laced with mind-blowing ahas about women's empowerment have reached over 5 million people worldwide. She has written for some of the biggest media outlets of our generation and her first book, a memoir, The Quest: from the Hollywood Hills to the Amazon Jungle, one woman's search for enough will be released Nov. 10th 2020. She is also the host of "The Quest for Love Summit" - a 7-Day Virtual Experience curated to help you discover the secrets to wild attraction, cosmic connection and committed devotion. You can join for free at: https://thequestforlovesummit.com/ Emily lives in Santa Teresa, a seaside village along Costa Rica's Pacific coast, with her husband, Manex and two small children, Saïa Moon & Teotihuacán where together they founded the Sunrise Mountain Retreat and Wellness Center.

This call is about how fear of commitment may truly be fear of loss. Today's caller, Rachel, is collecting evidence about why she doesn't want to be in a relationship because it will be too much work even though she says she would like to have a relationship. We talk about how the losses she experienced as a child may be coloring her perception of what a relationship will be like and how interdependent relationships can help us heal. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode264] People who felt very alone as children will lead a solitary life and think that it's what they want because they want to avoid a wound about being lonely as a child. They stay in that energetic and continue living a lonely, solitary life because they don't know any different. It keeps the old wound from coming up. It may not make a lot of logical sense but if you are someone who lives a solitary or lonely life, and you believe that you are an introvert and you like it better, is it really true? Or, is loneliness a wound from your childhood you are perpetuating in your adulthood? When we don't have stability or structure in our life or childhood, things become overwhelming as an adult. It's because there is still a traumatized child running the show. This is why having a lot going on, for someone who moved around a lot, had a parent that died, or didn't have someone there to provide structure and stability, is hard. Just a few things can seem overwhelming. Until we do healing work, our perception is influenced by past wounding because we expect to see what we have seen in the past. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you not getting into a relationship because you don't want one or because you are scared? Do you have a history of loss? Has loss been a major teacher for you? Are you afraid that if anyone gets too close, you will lose them? Do you spend a lot of time alone and think that you like that better? Do you believe your inner child wounding could actually be healed in a relationship? Do you avoid relationships because you're afraid you're going to get hurt? Rachel's Question: Rachel has experienced multiple losses and would like guidance on how to approach relationships in her life. Rachel's Key Insights and Ahas: She believes a relationship would be a lot of work. Her mother passed when she was seven. She was separated from her family members when her mother passed. She was adopted at 14 by a family friend. She may be looking for a caretaker in a relationship. She wants a relationship but is not sure it will fit her life. She would like a relationship with someone she can count on. She is craving a nurturing partner. She leads a solitary life and feels safer hiding herself. She has a lot of love to give. How to Get Over It and On With It: Stop letting the loss she experienced define her. Open her heart to herself, other people, or an animal. Consider if she makes decisions from her heart or fear. Watch or read things that model a nurturing love. Takeaways: Know that the thing that has been the primary teacher in your life does not have to be a consistent lesson. For any decision you are dealing with, ask yourself if you are making the choice from fear or from your heart. Connect to your mothering, nurturing energy, whether you are male or female. If you are someone who deals with loneliness, give love to yourself and others. Sponsor: Rothy's — Get your new favorite stylish, versatile, sustainable shoes and bags made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy's. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet and are machine washable. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy's by using this link Rothys.com/over and get free shipping and free returns. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Meera Lee Patel is a self-taught artist and the author of Start Where You Are, Made Out of Stars, and My Friend Fear, and—most recently—Create Your Own Calm. She creates work to inspire and encourage others to connect with themselves, each other, and the world around them. In this episode we talk about how you can incorporate art and creativity into your wellness routine and meditation practice. Learn more about Meera here: https://meeralee.com/

This call is about effectively communicating your needs to break unhealthy patterns in relationships. Today's caller, Julie, is aware of the unhealthy patterns in her relationships but is uncertain why the patterns aren't shifting. The amazing thing about relationships, romantic or friendship, is that they can provide healing ground for inner child wounding if we feel safe enough to do it. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode263] We all have masculine and feminine energy within us, no matter how we identify. Often, the way we present in life is not our core essence. Masculine energy likes to feel respected. It's on the top of the priority list for men. And, for the female-identifying people that doesn't mean that you don't want to be respected but for the feminine essence it is a lot more about feeling safe and respect is part of that. It is about feeling safe physically, feeling safe emotionally, and feeling safe sexually. Masculine and feminine energy is something Stefanos and I teach a lot. It's another avenue of personal development we can learn about and in relationships, especially intimate relationships, it's really important to have polarity, otherwise, you either kind of go into roommate mode or you have a lot of arguments. When healing a romantic relationship there are two key aspects. The inner child piece and the polarity piece. It is hard to get the polarity piece in place when the inner child piece isn't in place. So how the inner child piece helps with the polarity piece is as children we are more in touch with our core essence, either feminine or masculine, and it's because of inner child wounding that those masks get put on. The more we give ourselves what we need inside ourselves the more we give the little one inside of us what we didn't get as children. Remember inner child work in a relationship is meeting our needs, parenting ourselves in the way that we didn't get, and then communicating our needs in a non-attacking, non-passive-aggressive, non-manipulative way to our partners. It's a lot to be human, be a parent, and be in a relationship, but when we understand our inner child, understand how to parent, and understand polarity it becomes a little less overwhelming and a little easier. Level 2 of the Virtual Inner Child Workshop will be held on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Level2 to sign up or visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have patterns that keep showing up in your life, or your relationships, and no matter what you do you just can't seem to shake them? Were you raised in a home where you had to parent your parents and you had to be both the mother and the father? Do you tend to parent your children in a way that is opposite to how you were parented but when it comes to your own relationship with your inner child you're still parenting yourself the way you were parented? Do you relate to feeling like things are going well but you are just waiting for the other shoe to drop so you can't really enjoy the good happening in your life? Julie's Question: Julie has grown a lot with personal development work but she can't seem to shake the patterns of waiting for something to go wrong. Julie's Key Insights and Ahas: She separated herself from an abusive marriage. She looks for things to go wrong. Her mother is bi-polar. She is currently in a romantic relationship. Her partner speaks another language. She didn't have a close relationship with her father. She adopted a protective strategy. She is in Personal Mastery. Her mother criticized her. She fears being disappointed and hurt. How to Get Over It and On With It: Use her relationship as a healing container. Work with her inner child, little Julie. Give love and encouragement in place of self-judgment. Step into her feminine. Talk with her partner about getting her needs met. Be gentle with herself. Takeaways: Ask yourself, 'what did I need most in childhood that I didn't get?' and give it to yourself. Make it a priority to give yourself whatever it is. If you want to learn more about the masculine-feminine dynamic, I like the book, Intimate Communion by David Deida. If you want to try it on Audible you can go to Audibletrial.com/overitandonwithit to get a discount. If you're in a relationship, think of how you can meet the needs of your inner child and then communicate those needs to your partner in a non-passive-aggressive, non-attacking, or non-manipulative way. Do the inner child work. Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For informa

On this episode one of Christine's friends and trusted advisors, Stephanie Roman joins her on the show to talk about being an empath and tapping into your psychic gifts. You will be so incredibly inspired by her story and love her insight on how to live a healthy, empowered life as an empath. Stephanie channels the Divine to give you messages that resonate in helping you remember your most authentic self and path. She lovingly holds a magic mirror up to you so you can see how wonderful and beautiful you are in the eyes of God. This seemingly simple process helps you feel that connection to something bigger that sometimes becomes lost by our society valuing external direction over your own. She believes that EVERY person is psychic and that each person experiences multiple different types of abilities over a lifetime. One of her huge missions is helping you recognize and experiment with how to stop doubting your gift in order to integrate them into whatever your big dreams are. She proudly calls herself a "Psychic Trainer" and helps her clients take bigger and bigger leaps of faith in their life by empowering them to know that THEY have all the answers. You can learn more about here here: https://www.psychictrainerstephanie.com/ If you are interested in her six-week program for empaths, you can call or text her at (469) 332-7228‬

This call is about coming to terms with leaving an abusive past behind. Today's caller, Julie, grew up in an abusive home and struggles with how much responsibility she has to stay involved in the family dynamic of her family of origin. We discuss body memories and what she is experiencing at a soul level. Until we parent our inner child the way it needs to be parented, that part of us continues to hook into the past to try to get our needs met. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode262] Whatever your story is, there's no reason to carry around shame or judgment of it and there is no reason to over-identify with it. If you think because of your past you have to have an awful life, or you will never become what you want to become, or use it as a scapegoat or excuse, you don't. Your story is part of your life. It is something that has formed you but it doesn't have to limit you. And, there's no need to be embarrassed or ashamed about it. Your story is your story, that's it. The body is often the language of the subconscious mind. And, with emotions, our body can be stuck in time because it remembers a trauma that happened. Many of our emotions are coming from the subconscious level, especially the programmed emotions. Those are the ones we have been feeling since we were a child, based on things that happened or things we were told. Emotions that we feel over and over again that are pervasive and repetitive are emotional addictions. Oftentimes, right before we break an addiction, cravings for the experience get stronger. It's hard to break karma and step into massive soul lessons because we know we are breaking free of something major we have been hanging on to for lifetimes. Level 2 of the Virtual Inner Child Workshop will be held on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Level2 to sign up or visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you know the difference between your actual feelings or feelings that have just been a programmed response? Are you estranged from a family member or do you feel it may be healthy not to be in contact with a certain family member or a friend? Do you feel guilty or ashamed by your parents and do things out of obligation? Do you want to break free of the wounding of childhood and create a new kind of healthy family moving forward? Julie's Question: Julie would like guidance on how to discern her programmed feelings from her actual feelings. Julie's Key Insights and Ahas: She grew up in an abusive home. She could never do anything right. She will be adopting a baby and doesn't want to repeat the cycle. She feels as if she can't escape her past. She doesn't speak with her mother. She feels debilitated but is ready to purge the feelings. She feels ready to be a mother. How to Get Over It and On With It: Reach out to a somatic therapist who is trauma-informed. Look at how far she has come and acknowledge herself for it. Forgive herself for the self-imposed blame. Emancipate herself from being controlled and betrayed. Takeaways: Do the inner child work. Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2. Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. ShipStation helps your business grow and thrive. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode, Kate Northrup joins me to talk about how we can adapt to these challenging times by actually doing less. We also discuss how to get over being an "achievement addict" and drop into more self-trust and receptivity. As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital empire that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. She's committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Kate teaches data-driven and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. Kate is also the author of two books: Money: A Love Story and Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Ambitious Women. You can learn more about Kate at: https://katenorthrup.com/ And more about her membership community here: https://origincollective.com/ Also, join me this weekend Sept 10th-14th for the Integrated Feminine Online Symposium. Go to www.theintegratedfeminine.com, use coupon code CHRISTINE10 for 10% off.

This call is about being able to meet your own needs. Today's caller, Melissa, had a challenging childhood and is being triggered in her current relationship. She would like guidance on how to communicate her needs to her partner. We work through how her triggers are serving her and the expression of a need versus the expectation of a need to be filled by someone else. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode261] We often choose spouses and relationship partners who help us heal unmet needs and wounds from our parents. As humans, on a metaphysical, even spiritual level, we need other people. And, we need people to meet certain needs. And, when we learn how to meet our needs ourselves we get better at communicating healthy needs to others. We live in an interdependent world, yet we are sovereign beings. This means we must take an inside-out approach. First, we have to be independent in fulfilling our own needs internally and not project them on others. When we understand how to communicate our needs, not from a needy place but a place of bonding in our relationships, we can then connect and express with others toward interdependence. There is the difference between being needy, or trying to get someone else to fill a need, and clearly expressing our needs to another person in a way that we can teach them how to meet it. If you missed the Virtual Inner Child Workshop Level 1, you can still listen to it. It is necessary if you want to join in for Level 2, on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: As a child, did you ever feel abandoned or neglected? Do you get triggered in your relationships when you feel someone else is not meeting your needs or showing up the way you like them to? Do you have a pattern of reaching out to others to get your needs met? Can you say without a shadow of a doubt you know how to meet your own needs? Melissa's Question: Melissa doesn't completely understand her needs and feelings. She wants guidance on how to recognize her boundaries and give herself what she needs when she is triggered. Melissa's Key Insights and Ahas: She wants to understand her feelings and needs. She projects her abandonment wounds on to her husband. She is aware of her abandonment wounding. She was left alone while her parents comforted her younger brother. She never felt supported by her parents. She is triggered by her husband's attention to his work. She attended the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1. She reached out to her mother but was disappointed by her response. She wants to establish a connection with her mother. She feels overburdened with managing her emotions. How to Get Over It and On With It: Do the empty chair process from Expectation Hangover. Write her mother a letter she does not intend to send. Use her triggers to discover how she can meet her own needs. Takeaways: Think about the things you want from other people and make a list of your unmet needs and see how you may not be doing those things for yourself. Learn how to communicate your needs to people in your life. Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2. Sponsor: Jenni Kayne — If you love clothes that are both stylish and super comfortable with a dash of refined simplicity, you will love Jenni Kayne. Make getting dressed the easiest part of your routine with Jenni Kayne's modern essentials. Use the code 'OVERIT' for 20% off at checkout! Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine gives you ten very do-able tips for how to increase your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health during these intense times. When there is so much division and uncertainty in the external world, it is critically important to create calm in your internal world. To join us for the Inner Child Workshops, go to www.christinehassler.com/innerchildbundle

This call is about maintaining boundaries when dealing with anger or rage. Today's caller, Dana, is in a difficult situation. Her husband rages out at her and her children, but she loves him and wants the relationship to work. We work through ways she can maintain her boundaries and ways she can show up in the relationship to create a cohesive healing environment. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode260] First, if you are in a situation where there is a cycle of abuse get clear about whether you need to leave or if you need to reach out for support for assistance. Anyone who has been abused and then becomes abusive has a great deal of shame. One thing we know to be true is that love is incredibly healing. And, often when someone is in an environment where they do not feel judged, their protective behaviors begin to fade. Creating a loving, non-judgmental, feminine space for the person may help them heal. Remember, feminine energy is not weak or submissive. We don't just tolerate whatever happens to keep the peace and love everything. Feminine energy is fiercely loving and compassionate. It's the combination of compassion and nurturing that holds space and is non-judgmental but also the protective mama bear. If you missed the Inner Child workshop, you can still listen to it. It is necessary if you want to join in for Level 2, which begins Sept. 25th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/innerchild. This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in October, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. We are also enrolling angels who would like to make a financial contribution to someone else's personal development, go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to get more information. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you living with, or have you ever lived with someone who had rages, or explosive bouts of anger? How are you at expressing your anger? Are you honest about it to do it in a healthy way, or do you internalize it, then it leaks out through judgment to criticism or irritability either at yourself or others? Do you feel you have worked on yourself but can't believe you are still dealing with an issue you've been working on in therapy for years? Do you allow yourself to be vulnerable when it comes to expressing your needs? How do you do it? Dana's Question: Dana would like guidance on how to hold boundaries when it comes to dealing with her husband's anger. Dana's Key Insights and Ahas: Her husband rages out. She has tried different ways to keep peace in the house. She feels overburdened with responsibility. She has empathy for her husband. Her husband had a traumatic childhood. She has done a lot of therapy around her relationship with her mother. She loves her husband and wants to make their relationship work. She has difficulty holding her boundaries. She has a high tolerance for being treated poorly. How to Get Over It and On With It: Create a feminine, loving, non-judgmental, shame-free space for her husband. Make an agreement with her closest friend to assist her in leaving if things get worse. Consult with a professional together with her husband. Maintain firm boundaries when it comes to rage. Takeaways: If you are in a situation where there is a cycle of abuse, get clear about whether you need to leave or if you need to reach out for support for assistance. If you are in any type of relationship and you know you want to stay in it, look at your end of it. How can you show up to create a more cohesive, healing environment for the other person? Be aware of your self-abuser, especially if you have had abuse in your life, a lot of times we internalize it. Consider listening to the Inner Child workshop. Allow yourself to feel your feelings and allow yourself to communicate with vulnerability. Sponsor: Rothy's — Get your new favorite stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy's. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy's by using this link Rothys.com/over. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Michael Gay who is a therapist joins Christine to discuss how we deal and heal from trauma. He has his M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a focus in Transpersonal Psychology. Michael has worked in the field of counseling for the last 14 years as a guide, therapist, and trainer. He was a Wilderness Therapy guide for 6 years, leading and facilitating deep transformational work with teens, adults, and families in the mountains and high desert. He has also worked extensively in the field of addiction and recovery. He specializes in work with depression, groups, trauma, PTSD, grief, and families. In addition to his M.A., Michael completed a 3 year training at the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and continues to train at the Gestalt Equine Institute. As a therapist and facilitator, Michael uses experiential and body based methods. Many approaches to therapy and inner work stay at the intellectual and cognitive level, which rarely or slowly affect deep structural change. Engaging in more experiential and embodied work seems to bring the shifts people were unable to find in mainstream therapy. You can learn more about Michael or reach out to him about working with him at https://www.michaelgaycounseling.com/

This call is about transforming shame, celebrating your gifts, and sharing them with others. Today's caller, Melissa, is building a health coaching business and wants to embrace her purpose whole-heartedly but is holding back her light because of self-judgment and shame. We discuss things she can do to focus her energy on getting the things she wants from life as she serves others with her personal experience. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode259] Many people feel physical shame in some way. It can cause us to wear masks and deprive us of joy and self-expression. And, usually the thing we are most self-conscious about people don't even notice or think about as much as we do. If they do notice, they often don't evaluate us because of it. I've never formed an opinion on someone because of their physical characteristics, and honestly, if someone does form an opinion about you because of something completely superficial, do you really want that person in your life? Why are you fighting for approval from people you don't really like? We give our power away when we seek the approval of others. We can be too judgmental of other people, mostly because we are too judgmental of ourselves. If you want to put yourself out there in whatever way you feel called to do it, please do. You are needed. We need more people who have the consciousness of light and love being loud in the world. Too many people have loud voices that shouldn't have a microphone. So, get your voice out there. Stop letting fear of rejection and fear of judgment hold you back. Not everyone is going to like you and it is okay. You're depriving the people who do resonate with you the connection and service you have to offer. Think about the magic you can create by not avoiding the people that may not like you or reject you and focus on compassionately serving others. Stop falling into the avoidance trap and step into your love and light. Are you ready to take your personal development to the next level and invest in yourself? Would an ally and a guide be helpful to you during this time? If so, I have two one-on-one coaching spots available. This type of deep work has incredible ripple effects in all areas of your life. Email [email protected] for more information. This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you think that you have to be perfect or at a certain point before you really go after your dreams and what you want? Do you carry around shame? Do you feel a calling to do something, be it starting a business, applying for a new job, or dating again but are scared to do it because you're afraid of judgment? Has shame robbed you of feeling a sense of belonging? Are you tired of letting shame rob you of what you deeply desire? Melissa's Question: Melissa has a hard time speaking up and would like guidance on how to heal the shame she feels to gain the confidence to put herself out there. Melissa's Key Insights and Ahas: She lacks self-confidence. She attended the inner child workshop. She is building a coaching business. She lacked confidence because of a physical trait. She feels people may judge her. Shame disempowers her. She outsources her self-worth. She has a limiting belief that she isn't enough. She numbed herself because she felt different from her peers. How to Get Over It and On With It: Allow herself to be seen without the expectation of perfection. Do things that promote living into her purpose and her mission. Inspire others with her personal journey. Accept herself fully for who she is. Takeaways: Take actions every day that move you into the vibration of who you want to be and what you want to do. Turn your shame into compassion and service. Use it to feel compassion for others who are feeling shame. Stop giving others power over you. Step into your love and light and make your voice heard. Live into your highest truth. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode, Christine follows up on some of the topics from last week's show as well as offers suggestions for some actions you can take. You'll also be guided through a calming and empowering meditation at the end of the show. Resources mentioned: Free Awakened Leadership series: https://speaker.spiritualtechnologytoawaken.com/christine Podcast Interview with Robert F Kennedy Jr: https://www.lukestorey.com/lifestylistpodcast/shot-in-the-dark-blowing-the-whistle-on-the-vaccne-industry-covd-w/-robert-f-kennedy-jr-299 Human Trafficking Resources: https://bit.ly/antihumantraffickingresources Shawn Stevenson IG: https://www.instagram.com/shawnmodel/ Podcast: https://themodelhealthshow.com/podcasts/

This call is about recognizing the value of your unique gifts. Today's caller, Tracy, believes she has difficulty being vulnerable and thinks it is holding her business back. But, as we explore her childhood experience, we discover that she is playing out old programming, feeling like she didn't matter as the youngest sibling in her family. Her fear of rejection may be keeping her from getting what she wants. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode258] There are parts of us that are just us or the things that make us unique. We may not be as vulnerable as the next person, as funny as the next person, or as creative or outspoken or extroverted as other people are. When we measure ourselves against others it can make us feel like something is wrong with us. It can create blind spots or judgments of things we have taken on from society. And one of the things so many of us, especially in this world of personal development, have taken on is the expectation that we need to be vulnerable to be fully seen. Vulnerability needs to be earned. Vulnerability is incredible and necessary, however, it's not something we just give away. It's OK that it has to be earned. It makes it more authentic. August 28–30, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email [email protected]. If you can't attend the workshop in its entirety, you will have online access to it for 30 days. A portion of the proceeds from this event will be donated to rescue organizations. This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a hard time putting yourself out there when it comes to business, dating, or making friends? Do you have a hard time being vulnerable? Are you slow to warm to people or does it take a while for people to get in? As a child, did you grow up feeling like you were in the shadow of someone else? Were you a younger sibling who always felt behind in some way or just something that made you feel not enough? Are you trying to change something in your present but you can't make the change? Tracy's Question: Tracy feels stuck and would like guidance on tapping into her vulnerability to take more risks. Tracy's Key Insights and Ahas: She keeps people at a distance. She would like the confidence to take more risks. She fears rejection. She felt disregarded by her family. Her family is critical and envious of her decisions. Her negative self-talk comes from not feeling good enough. She is triggered more often as an adult than she was as a child. She perpetuates the idea that she doesn't matter. She doesn't take compliments well. How to Get Over It and On With It: Change the programming that creates her self-talk. Know that she matters. Reassure her little girl of her value. Reach out and offer to share her gifts with people. Takeaways: Join the Inner Child Workshop. Know you have the ability to reparent yourself. Write down your limiting beliefs and question why you believe them. If you are a coach who wants to build their business, hire a coach, or participate in a program. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Where are the leaders during this intense time? Look in the mirror. It's time for YOU to step up. In this episode, Christine talks about why you are needed as a leader. She also shares about COVID, vaccines, human trafficking and more . . . and asks you to think for yourself. Seeking truth and not believing everything we are told is crucial right now. Christine shares thoughts and resources and asks you to use both critical and esoteric thinking to form your beliefs and motivate your actions. Resources mentioned: Dr. Sherri Tenpenny's interview on London Real: https://www.globalplayer.com/podcasts/episodes/7DrbmW4/ Christina Hildabrant's video on vaccines: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OSVLChgt330&feature=youtu.be John Paul Rice on IGTV: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CDpLP3IlaXy/ His film: A Chid's Voice

This call is about healing trauma that comes from being sexualized as a child. Recent events have triggered today's caller, Bianca, who was traumatized by her parents as a child. And, even though she was subjected to pitiful parenting, she still wants to love and protect them. We discuss the importance of making her healing a priority and how nothing that happened was her fault. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode257] People who have been abused, especially by people they love and trust, are usually not quick to jump to anger. They may minimize the evilness of the actions. So, when we are working with people who have been victims in any way, we have to have compassion for the side of them that loves and wants to protect their abusers. It often takes some time for them to get to anger and to take action because it is a deep and confusing entanglement for the victim. We have to put ourselves in the victim's shoes and realize they love these people. We cannot expect them to have the same reaction as we do. They cannot get to the anger and disgust right away because they don't see their abusers as awful people. If the abusers are their parents, they may still be trying to get love from them. If you have endured trauma and are ready to heal, know that it is not something you can navigate alone just by listening to a podcast, doing an online workshop, or reading some books about it. It is important to find a trauma-informed therapist. August 28–30, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email [email protected]. If you can't attend the workshop in its entirety you will have online access to it for 30 days. A portion of the proceeds from this event will be donated to rescue organizations. Consider/Ask Yourself: Were you raised in what you know or think was an abusive environment but since you have no to very little memories you doubt it or even minimize it? Do you have sexual anxiety? Is it hard for you to feel relaxed when it comes to sex or even someone being affectionate, touching you? Do you dissociate from your body? Do you wonder if it's because something not so right happened to you when you were a kid? Has there been someone in your life you love a lot, like a parent who's also hurt you, and so it's hard for you to face the pain because you love the person that hurt you and you want to protect them? Did what I shared about human trafficking rattle you? Are you feeling called to be involved to save the children from these horrific acts? Bianca's Question: Bianca feels sexual anxiety and would like guidance on how to start healing. Bianca's Key Insights and Ahas: Her parents groomed and sexualized her. Her father physically abused her. She has very few memories of her childhood. A recent event triggered her memories. She has a high tolerance for hurt. She wants to help her parents, not hurt them. She hasn't found a compassionate therapist who makes her feel safe. She has a gentle side and a warrior side. She still loves her parents but may not be able to forgive them. She feels uncomfortable when her significant other is physically affectionate. Her body doesn't know the difference between pain and pleasure. How to Get Over It and On With It: Find a professional therapist to work with. Understand that nothing that happened was her fault. Make herself a priority, not her parents. Know that there is a way to heal. Follow the stories of other survivors. Find allies to help her heal. Takeaways: If you are a victim in any way of mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, or sexual abuse, get help. Trauma is not something that heals on its own. It's not like a cut on your hand that just scabs over. Professional help is a requirement. If you were activated by this episode and you want to get involved here are three resources, OurRescue.org, SharedHope.org, and DestinyRescue.org. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Cory Allen is an author, podcast host, meditation teacher, and audio engineer. He is passionate about how to live better using principles of mindfulness, neuroscience, and philosophy. We discuss Cory's journey to meditation and how it is an effective tool for adding coherence, awareness, and compassion to life. You can learn more from Cory through his book, Now is the Way, and his online meditation course called Release Into Now. He is excellent at teaching people how to meditate with clear and concise methods. Connect with Cory here: http://www.cory-allen.com/

This call is about how to move feelings, especially if those feelings get stuck as energy in your body. Today's caller, Luanna, is having difficulty expressing her feelings and vulnerability. This episode demonstrates what it looks like when you actualize recommendations or therapies perfectly but the tension and tightness in your body don't shift. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode256] We all give our parents too much power. We make what they said and what they did matter way too much. Remember, our parents are humans, and more importantly, they are wounded inner children who probably didn't get the parenting they needed. So, if you're holding on to something your parents did, said, or just their voices in your head, I encourage you to get it out and find your own inner parent. Anger is not useful when it is in our heads because there is no release for it. If it is hard for you to get angry and use or write angry words, you may be resistant to doing it because you feel like you are betraying the person. If this feels true for you, start by moving energy through sound, movement, and breathwork. This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live. August 28–30, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email [email protected]. If you can't attend the workshop in its entirety you will have online access to it for 30-days. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel like your feelings get stuck or maybe you do, with tension in your belly, tightness in your chest, and no matter what you do just can't seem to move it? Did you grow up thinking or being told that vulnerability was weak, that you had to be strong and you felt like your emotions couldn't be expressed? Do you get in your head a lot? Can you psychoanalyze yourself but when it comes to feeling your feelings you get a little lost? Are you someone that can endure a lot but when it comes to letting it go, it isn't easy? Luanna's Question: Luanna struggles to express her vulnerability. She would like guidance on how to release her emotions and live free of her mother's control. Luanna's Key Insights and Ahas: She feels her energy is stuck in her belly. She is starting a business. She hears her mother's voice telling her she is not capable of attaining her dreams. As a child, she wanted her mother to let her express her feelings. She adopts her mother's limiting beliefs as her own. She isn't going after what she wants because she doesn't want to hurt her family. It is hard for her to feel anger. How to Get Over It and On With It: Give herself permission to be angry and feel her feelings. Stop giving her mother power over her life. Practice release writing, dancing, or physical exertion to release the energy. Find a therapist who practices Somatic Therapy. Make a guttural sound with deep breaths to release her anger and sadness. Create a safe space for healing. Takeaways: Empower yourself. Stop giving something your parents said or did more energy than it deserves. If you have a hard time getting angry because it feels like a betrayal, use movement or sound or do letter writing instead. If feelings feel stuck, try a somatic, body-based approach. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

If you've been searching for a place to help you simplify your life, declutter your mind, and connect with your heart then you are going to love this conversation. Courtney Carver joins Christine to talk about minimalism. She created Be More with Less and minimalist fashion challenge Project 333 after spending much of her adult life tired, stressed, sick and doing work she didn't care about to make ends meet. After years of decluttering and letting go, she realized that happiness isn't waiting for us, it's within us. Learn more here: https://bemorewithless.com/

This call is a deep dive into what causes anger and what lies beneath the surface of anger. As a child, today's caller, Sean, experienced emotional abuse from his parents. He would like to move past managing his anger and start healing it. Oftentimes, men put on a mask and reject the scared little boy who experienced wounding. And in many ways, little boys are more sensitive and tender than little girls but they are told to hide their feelings. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode255] Men deal with anger in aggressive or passive ways. If anger isn't dealt with in a healthy way, men either become aggressive and have outbursts such as yelling and throwing things, putting those they love through emotional turmoil. Or, they are super-passive and withdraw. They allow other people, especially women to push them around and emasculate them. Passive anger gets turned inward because they become incredibly self-critical. Anger left unprocessed or anger left unhealed creates incredible self-criticism. We are hard on ourselves when we have unprocessed anger. When we communicate from a wounded place we can be lethal. People can't hear us because they have to defend themselves. A lot of times when we attempt to avoid sadness, we laugh. We default to humor because our pain is so big that it is hard to feel it. I encourage people to go into the pain on a regular basis and own the anger to break out of the cycle. When we tap into anger it can feel scary. It is important to have someone who can hold a safe space for us. On the last weekend of August, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. The early bird discount of $100 off is available until July 31st. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email [email protected]. If you can't attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days. Consider/Ask Yourself: How is your temper? Do you tend to hold things inside and then, once you reach your breaking point, you snap? Do you often react in an angry or impatient way and you feel scared or hurt people in your life? As a child, did you truly feel like someone held space for your emotions? Are there people in your life, perhaps even your parents, that you cannot forgive, even though intellectually, you know you should? Sean's Question: Sean has a sizable amount of anger and would like guidance on how to release it. Sean's Key Insights and Ahas: He is married with children. He's grown tired of causing chaos in his home. There was mental and emotional abuse in his childhood home. He had an eating disorder. He judges himself for being angry. He has tried to express his feelings. He has done personal and grief work. He gets triggered when he feels criticized. His current family dynamic reminds him of his childhood. He uses humor as a coping mechanism. He judges his parents. How to Get Over It and On With It: Acknowledge that it is healthy to have anger. Find a healthy physical release for the anger. Be mindful of using humor as a deflection. Connect with his inner child when he is triggered to anger. Release his feelings with writing. Stop blaming his parents and own his feelings. Give himself unconditional love and acceptance. Discontinue managing his wounds and start healing them. Takeaways: Look at your relationship with anger. Do you relate to being the more outburst aggressive or are you more passive and internalize it? Create a space for you to do the temper tantrum technique. Go to ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease for a free download. Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop. Own those parts of yourself you may not like so much. If you continue to shame, judge, and blame them, they are not going to heal. Sponsor: Rothy's — Rothy's makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and versatile shoes made from repurposed plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Get your Rothy's by using this link Rothys.com/over. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Charlene Izere is a multi-passionate entrepreneur. She is the founder of 3 brands: Melanin & Money, Wellness Delivered, and Soulful Systems. Through her platforms, she empowers women to live life on their own terms through systems, self-care, and entrepreneurship. As a Black woman, carving out her empire out here in these entrepreneurial streets, she knows first hand how disheartening it can be to feel underrepresented, longing for community, and support by women who get it. Her mission? To put money and opportunity in the hands of Black women. When Charlene isn't strategizing with her clients or hosting an event, she enjoys playing video games, collaging, and self-caring.

This call is about reconnecting with an inner child. Today's caller, Tanya, grew up in an unstable environment and, as a result, second-guesses the choices she makes. She invites people into her life in an effort to get the love she never received as a child but the relationships play out much like her childhood, chaotic and uncertain. We discuss the ways she can reconnect with herself through vulnerability and gratitude. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode254] When you are dating, making friends, or when you are just out in the world, you want authenticity. You don't want to go on a date with someone or be in a business meeting with someone who is inauthentic. Who wants that? We can expect authenticity. We want someone to be real and we want them to tell us the truth but we have to earn a person's vulnerability. When someone is vulnerable with us it should feel like actual true intimacy, not like we are special or we are getting an inside look. Be mindful of that. Don't get seduced by faux vulnerability. There is a lot of seductive vulnerability and fake vulnerability in the world. We can expect and should expect authenticity from people but we must earn their vulnerability. Seductive vulnerability is if you are new in meeting someone or dating someone and they start being super vulnerable, like telling you their deepest darkest secrets and opening up without a lot of trust built between you. It may make you feel special but it is more seductive vulnerability than true vulnerability. True vulnerability comes when you feel safe with another person and you feel seen. The last weekend of August, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. The early bird discount of $100 off is available until July 31st. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email [email protected]. If you can't attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days. Consider/Ask Yourself: What happens when you feel out of control? Do you blame others then blame yourself? What do you do to try to get control back? Do you have a feeling like you're always doing it wrong, constantly questioning yourself, or constantly feeling like when something goes wrong it's your fault? Did you grow up in a home where you had a lot of uncertainty? How do you feel about intimacy and true vulnerability? Are you vulnerable in your relationships and have true intimacy with others? Or, are there still some patterns that prevent you from true vulnerability and intimacy? Have you ever been seduced by someone else's faux vulnerability? Tanya's Question: Tanya questions herself and her choices and is asking for guidance about being vulnerable. Tanya's Key Insights and Ahas: She blames herself and always feels wrong. There was a lot of uncertainty in her home growing up. She has done a lot of inner child work. She has a history of dating the wrong people. Her mother's moods controlled her young life. She evaluates other people as above or below her. She evaluates herself through a systematic approach. She constantly tried to figure out how to get her mother's love. She put up a wall to protect herself. She is seeking connection. How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize she is not wrong. Learn how to be in a relationship with feelings and vulnerability. Give up dating for a while and work on being in friendships. Be mindful of the difference between authentic vulnerability and charm. Do deep inner child work and reconnect with herself. Recognize the full-body yeses in her life. Takeaways: Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop. Look at, especially if you're dating and have relationships, at how you are playing out unresolved wounding with either mom or dad in those relationships. Research vulnerability. Brené Brown is a great resource for vulnerability. If you are blaming yourself for something because it's giving you a false sense of control, be aware of what you are doing and make a list of all the things you are certain of, and then follow that up with a list of all the things you're grateful for. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Want to learn more about how you are individually designed as a human? Then you're going to love this episode with Erin Claire Jones. Erin uses Human Design to help thousands of individuals and companies step into their work and their lives as their truest selves and to their highest potential. Human Design is a synthesis of ancient wisdom and modern science that sheds light on a person's energetic makeup, as well as specific tools they can use to live at their happiest, healthiest, highest potential. It doesn't change who they are; it teaches them who they are. It offers insight into what's possible, and highlights the significance of understanding and living as the fullest expression of themselves. Her work as a guide, coach, and speaker has attracted a growing community of over 50,000 people who turn to her teachings for practical tools, digestible tips, and deeper self-knowledge they can access to live with greater ease and authenticity every single day. To get your Blueprint, a personalized guide to your unique design: erinclairejones.com/blueprint The code CHRISTINE will get you 10% off your Blueprint.

This call is about going all in. Today's caller, Trevi, is uncomfortable taking risks because she fears she will not live up to her high expectations. I offer her tips about how to remove the obstacles that are getting in the way of her going all-in and stepping fully into her dreams. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode253] Children need their parents and other people to feel proud of them. It isn't an ego thing. We all need validation. We need the feeling of pride. And, as children, we needed it from mostly our caretakers but if we didn't get it, it is imperative that we give it to ourselves. You will be amazed when your little one inside, or that part of you that feels insecure, feels pride. Hope and possibility will fill you up. If you want to feel inspired, feel proud first. When you give your inner child what you need they will feel satiated and not hold you back. It's okay to take risks and it's okay if you need reinforcement and reassurance before you take the risk. Some of us don't like risk and a lot of that has to do with our natural tendencies and our childhood. But if we don't take risks, if we don't keep trying, then we may never have awesome experiences. Don't be afraid to try or to be afraid of your future self and your high-expectations. The last weekend of August, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. The early bird discount of $100 off is available until July 31st. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email [email protected]. If you can't attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days. Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have something you want such as a career, relationship, or a move but you're scared to go all-in? Are you afraid of your high-expectations because you don't want to fail? What is your relationship to risk? Do you prefer to play it safe? Do you feel proud of yourself, not just for your accomplishments but for who you are? Trevi's Question: Trevi would like guidance on how to transform her career from a corporate job to her dream job of being a yoga teacher and coach. Trevi's Key Insights and Ahas: She is scared of not being able to meet her expectations. She is worried about what other people think. She has high expectations for herself. She feels disappointed when she doesn't meet her high standards. She chased validation from her parents. She still chases validation from external sources. She talks herself out of things she wants. She is proud of herself for who she is. When she gives her little girl what she needs she feels satiated. How to Get Over It and On With It: Reparent the part of herself that needs validation. Reassure the little girl inside of her and feel that she is seen and loved. Takeaways: It's okay to take some risks and it's okay if you need reinforcement and reassurance before you take the risk. Feel proud of yourself. Write down or say out loud to the mirror ten reasons you are proud of yourself. Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

This is MUST listen episode. I've been wanting to bring on an expert to talk about the psychological and emotional issues surrounding racism as well as give guidance to overcome the guilt, shame, and trauma so many people are experiencing. I am thrilled that I found April Dawn Harter who joins me to break down what actually causes and perpetuates racism and how to heal it. April is a former medical social worker, where she provided counseling to her patients and their family members to help them cope with the trauma of medical emergencies in the state of Texas. She later moved to Colorado and started her private practice to serve QTPOC patients with a history of racial trauma. After having worked with QTPOC, she decided to help prevent racism in society by working with white clients as a coach using the Racist Signature Theory. Finally, she opened up the Racism Recovery Center to provide psychotherapy for the treatment of racism. You can learn more here: https://www.racismrecoverycenter.com/

This call is about doing deep inner child work. Today's caller, Anna, is being blocked by a defense mechanism and doesn't feel she is making progress in her personal development work. We talk about how she can come back to love and remove judgment. It is useful to reach out externally for support, however, we have to be our own internal support as well. The help she needs will come from within. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode252] When you feel you are backtracking in your personal development, know that what is really happening is that a trigger is exposing a deeper layer so you can go to a deeper level of healing and love. Our behaviors, coping strategies, and our defense mechanisms are all there to protect us from hurt and confirm our biases. People who have low self-worth and think their value comes from doing will be very critical of themselves and will constantly try to do and create a result. When our 'come from' is "I'm broken," "I hope this fixes me," or "something is wrong with me," it slows down our healing because the energy that our personal development is riding on is judgment rather than love. As we learn to meet our own needs and tend to the little one inside of us and make the place inside of us that feels not enough, or not worthy, make it known that our needs ARE valuable and worthy. And, as we realize our needs are valuable and worthy, we then unconsciously train other people about how to meet our needs better and we are able to consciously ask people to meet our needs better. Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified Live retreat in Austin, Sept 24–27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat. The last weekend of August, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email [email protected]. If you can't attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you're backtracking or not making progress in terms of your personal development? Do you experience great frustration with your life, work, relationships, or where you live? Growing up, did you feel like your needs were met? Did you feel like your parents understood you, saw you, and knew how to meet your needs? When it comes to yourself and your path, do you approach it with love, compassion, and acceptance, or with judgment and frustration? Anna's Question: Anna feels that time is passing in her life but she isn't making any progress; she would like guidance on how to move forward. Anna's Key Insights and Ahas: She feels she is not making progress in life. She feels other people judge her. She is unhappy in her work, community, and relationships. Her parents were emotionally unavailable. She gets depressed when she is not accomplishing things. She felt her needs didn't matter and couldn't be met. She has consistently searched externally to get her needs met. She helped raise a family member. She feels angry and hurt that her parents weren't there for her. She has built a wall around her heart. She adopted self-criticism as a defense mechanism. She is not broken. How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize she is the only one that can meet her needs. Deeply connect with her little girl and feel her feelings. Reflect internally without judgment and support and trust herself. Takeaways: Look at your 'come from' in your personal development. Up your self-compassion and talk to that little one inside. Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop. Think of how you'd be with a child or animal. How would you meet their needs? How would you anticipate their needs? Use this to access how to meet your own needs. Acknowledge your progress. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Remit Sethi is the author of the NYT bestseller "I Will Teach You How to Be Rich" and is known as a financial guru to millions. He is an expert on teaching how to break through psychological money blocks so you can live a rich life. In this episode Ramit shares some incredible tips for how to get out of panic around money during this stressful time as well as advice for how to lead a "rich" life (and you get to define what "rich" means to you!). Learn more about Ramit at: https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/

This call is about personal growth and the effect it may have on a long-term relationship. Today's caller, Sara, is working through her past trauma and childhood wounds and making a connection with her inner child. But, her relationship with her husband is not shifting. She is wondering if it is a relationship dynamic that will adjust. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode251] Even though the person who is doing more growth work and has more consciousness in a relationship has more responsibility, we can never change anyone through our love. However, if we break the issue-based dynamic we are in with someone then it presents an opportunity for them to break free of their patterns and maybe deal with some of their stuff. Our love cannot save anyone, change anyone, or heal anyone. That is a job we have to do ourselves. We are all 100% responsible for changing, healing, and inspiring ourselves. If we try to get someone to change, we are continuing to involve ourselves in the relational dynamic which perpetuates the unhealthy patterns and childhood wounding. Healing doesn't come from trying to change another person. It comes from doing your own work within the context of a relationship. Most of our wounding happens in a relationship and most of our wounding can be healed in a relationship. If you are in a relationship and would like a couples coaching call on this podcast go to ChristineHassler.com/couples. Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified Live retreat in Austin, Sept 24–27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat. At the end of August, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild. If you can't tune in for the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you still dealing with the pain of a chaotic or traumatic childhood? Have you been doing a lot of personal growth work and now you're concerned that you may have outgrown your partner? Do you feel your relationship has an expiration date? Do you really want your partner to change and you're doing everything you can to get him or her to change? Sara's Question: Sara is making significant changes in her life and is looking for more intimacy and connection in her relationship. Sara's Key Insights and Ahas: She has been making personal development breakthroughs. She is open to change and doing new things. She is looking for connection and intimacy from her relationship. Her husband has a different love language. She needs to feel safe in a relationship. There has been gaslighting in her childhood and marriage. She is in an issue-based relationship. She has an anxious attachment style. She has an emotional addiction of going into Hopeless/Helpless. She is in a soul contract. How to Get Over It and On With It: Couples coaching is helpful. Take care of little Sara, reassure her, and give herself what she needs. Love her husband for exactly who he is. Lead her relationship with love. Try interrupting rigid patterns with humor and lightness. Takeaways: If you are in a partnership where you are growing but you don't think your partner is, instead of thinking you need to leave, give it your all unless the relationship is toxic. Talk to the little boy or girl inside of you, ask them what they need, and give it to them. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

You'll love Christine's discussion with energy reader, medium, empath and energy coach Alea Lovely. Alea uses her empathic and intuitive gifts to help people discover and move past their blocks. She also hosts an amazing podcast "Spiritual Sh*t" where she interviews guests and shares her compassion and wisdom. You can learn more about Alea and her services here: https://thelovelyalea.com/bio