Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin's thoughts on reward systems in schools Extrinsic motivators Which children are actually receiving rewards? How to help children who aren't receiving rewards Emotion coaching Justin calls for a revolution For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: How to help your kids when they're over the top Cuddles go a long way to calming emotions When the kids are struggling with big emotions, that's when they need connection the most Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin and Kylie's lockdown experiences The "one hard thing" they did as a family over the holidays Looking for ways to serve each other Parenting is not about the kids, it's about us Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: 5 Questions to ask your kids at bedtime to create high quality night time nurture experiences Gratitude Optimism Open conversations Admitting your mistakes Endearing acknowledgements of love For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Falling in love with your child again once they become a teen Anger is a secondary emotion FEAR Being more vulnerable with your kids Keeping your connection strong Acne What to do with abusive teenagers Start with empathy Dr Ginni Mansberg and Jo Lamble's book The New Teen AgePurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie's top tips for how to ditch the dummy The earlier the better Keep the dummy only for certain times As parents we need to become a little more comfortable with our children being uncomfortable Try using it less and less Fast is slow & slow is fast Cuddles, songs, distractions, routine No going back Listen to yesterday's podcast here - #307 Becoming a Better Person with Cameron & Alison DaddoPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie and Justin's relationship history Dr Justin shares the experiences that led him to Happy Families Emotions are contagious Should parents have a license? Intimacy through the years of marriage Building resilience in kids Find the original at Separate Bathrooms - Becoming a Better PersonFor a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: adjusting to returning to school building hope for the future empowering children to overcome challenges For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie discuss their all-time favourite movies A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood Consistency matters Keep your promises The signature of mediocracy is chronic inconsistency Get your house in order For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Dr Amy Graham discusses data collected from a study on digital devices & children The power of an example is the most effective way to effect change Digital distractions Parent concerns Using devices after bedtime Screens as babysitters Screen limits #113 Technology In Our Schools (Featuring Dr Amy Graham)Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie has a minor car mishap When things go wrong, remember that people matter, things don't For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: We can do hard things together You've got to love the hills because the hills make you strong Challenge - do something hard together as a family For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Sometimes we need to lighten up in the parenting game Challenge - practise saying "yes" to the kids, see what happens For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: It's not your job as a parent to fix every challenge your child may face Challenge for older kids - when things aren't going well, help your kids by being a support system as they find solutions to the problem Challenge for younger kids - if the task before them is too big, don't fix it for them but fix it with them For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin speaks with Kimberly Ewertz about her own experience with divorce and her book Family Redefined How do parents tell their kids that they are separating? What impact does divorce have on children? A child's identity is their family What's the best thing to do to ameliorate the negative effects your child may experience from a family rupture? Learn more about Kimberly Ewertz's book Family Redefined.Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: When you criticise a child, they don't stop loving you. They stop loving themselves Turn criticism into unconditional love Challenge - help your child feel like they matter or belong, no matter what they do. For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kids spell love T-I-M-E Connection is the currency of relationships Challenge - find one way to connect with your children For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie share our Little Wins Wednesday Winner from last week The youngest Miss Coulson receives a bedroom makeover Letting go of our own agendas Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie respond to an email from a listener about breaking bad parenting habits The habit loop - cue, craving, response, reward. The product of parenting is not the child, it's the parent The only way to raise great kids is to be great ourselves How to break a habit Decide ahead of time what you're going to do instead Practice, practice, practice Under pressure we revert to our most practiced behaviour Hold the mirror up to yourself after every interaction James Clear Atomic HabitsPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie speak with Mark McCrindle about his book Generation Alpha How generation labels came to be What's going to happen to Generation Alpha? What do parents need to focus on? Don't outsource your parenting -Delay the access-Communicate the values-Behavioural skills-AccountabilityLearn more about Mark McCrindle and his book Generation AlphaFor a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's coming up to the mid-year school break and while that means holidays it also means report card season.In this episode Justin discusses why you should throw your child's report card straight into the bin, and why report cards are unhelpful, especially for our younger students.You can read The Case Against Grades by Alfie Kohn here.For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: The Coulson family experience the loss of their dog Benson The Coulson daughters grieve in their own ways Kylie shares a beautiful poem about what we can learn from dogs Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie had a really great experience having an intimate conversation with her oldest daughter Justin announces the Little Wins Wednesday winner from last week Justin's 17 year old gets her drivers license Kylie is hanging on by a thread Podcast episode mentioned by our Little Wins Wednesday winner - #278 Teens in TroublePurchase a ticket to Sex & Sensibility or find it in your Happy Families Membership.Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning - this episode includes mature themes*Topics discussed in this episode: Kids Helpline counsellors started seeing a need in teens during Covid19 99% increase in duty of care In Victoria that percentage increased to 184% Lockdown, loss of peers, additional pressure on families, job loss The more lockdowns, the greater the risk of mental health problems What parents can do to protect their children Kids just want someone to listen to them If you or anyone you know needs help, please don't hesitate to call Kids Helpline or ParentlinePurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning - this episode includes mature themes*Topics discussed in this episode: Jess gets personal and shares her backstory to how she came to write this book What can mentors do to prevent substance abuse in kids? How to know if you're relying on substances too much Legalisation The opposite of addiction is connection Justin gets personal and shares about his extended family's experiences with alcohol Risk factors & prevention measures Jessica Lahey - Author of The Addiction InoculationPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: What to do when the expert's parenting techniques 'don't work' Getting parenting right isn't about habits, it's about our hearts Are we supposed to intervene? Knowing when to step out The vicious cycle For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With it being a public holiday for most of the country today, Dr Justin keeps it short and simple on the podcast so that you can spend more time with your family!In this tip Justin asks the question - how much do your kids know about their families stories?Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie shares about her difficult Sunday night & how she rectified the situation Justin shares about a traumatic experience for his family #277 Fight ClubPurchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie answer a listener's question about cross country Should you make your child do cross country? How to get your kids excited about participating Explore their world Help your children recognise their strengths Competition undermines our wellbeing Purchase a copy of Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning - this episode includes mature themes*Topics discussed in this episode: How does society view sex today? How can parents help their children make safe choices? 10 top tips from Emma The significance of sex — can it be recovered through consent alone? by Emma Wood#226 More Than Consent Education with Melinda Tankard ReistFor a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie shares some stories from what they've been learning in Book Club Justin & Kylie answer a listener's question about bed time 3 E's Look at the science Experiment #231 Ten-agers - an Interview With Madonna KingJoin Kylie for Book Club in your Happy Families MembershipPurchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie's trouble with wedgies Justin's trouble with roofs and leaf blowers Secrets for a stronger relationship Purchase a copy of Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie discuss their one on one meetings with their kids Kylie receives a special note from one of her daughters Justin helps his daughter with an assignment We hear from Evelynne about what Justin's really like behind the scenes For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: How do you support your children through a big family move? Empowering your children Acceptance Compassion Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Warning - Content involves mature themes*Topics discussed in this episode: Self control Entitlement The Golden Rule - treat others as you would like to be treated Consent education Kids need to feel safe in order to learn Culture Masculinity For more information on Megan MaasPurchase a copy of The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie respond to a listener's question about their troubled teen The product of parenting is the parent, not the child Put yourself in their shoes Emotion coaching Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: What to do when the kids just won't stop fighting Better ways to resolve conflict Emotion catching Intervening Shorter disputes - warmer relationships For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie share the latest Little Wins Wednesday winner Justin & Kylie make time for each other It's hard to be a good parent when you're not around Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Diagnosing learning disorders Breastfeeding Psychological control Studies/articles mentioned in this podcast -Breastfeeding Duration Is Associated With Domain-Specific Improvements in Cognitive Performance in 9–10-Year-Old ChildrenRelative age and specific learning disorder diagnoses: A Finnish population-based cohort studyPsychological Control and Internalizing Problems: The Mediating Role of Mother-Child Relationship QualityPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Warning - Content involves mature themes*Topics discussed in this episode: The correlation between pornography & consent What is pornography? When are children being exposed? Why it's difficult for researchers to gain access to statistics surrounding children & pornography What sort of content are children viewing? How to have effective & positive conversations with your kids How does pornography effect children's behaviour Sensitive teenage brains For more information on Megan MassPurchase a copy of The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie share about how they manage their family Weekly couples meeting, weekly family meeting & quarterly couples immersion How to get your partner on the same page Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Ingratitude & entitlement Gratitude inspires us to do good How to tell if your kids are entitled Red flags Modelling gratitude Working together No doesn't always have to be a hard no Minimise competition For a happier family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this week's instalment of I'll Do Better Tomorrow Justin took the kids for a very windy beach day Kylie's having trouble getting Miss 7 into the bath Purchase a copy of The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Consent & respect 4 kinds of boys Valuing sexual intimacy Having this conversation with your boys Mental illness & suicide Parenting with a supportive village Boys are later to maturity Boy tribes Understanding their changes Love fiercely First conversation with Maggie - #269 Maggie Dent on Raising Boys Part 1For more information on Maggie Dent and her book From Boys to MenFor a happier family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: How young boys are treated in our schooling system Societal norms about boys Formalised learning Evidence shows that we speak more harshly to boys For more information on Maggie Dent and her book From Boys to MenFor a happier family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode Justin and Kylie respond to a question about an eight year old with body image issues.Much of the information in today's podcast comes from Miss-Connection by Dr Justin Coulson which is available for purchase here.Purchase a copy of Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: In this episode Justin & Kylie chat about ways we can be more playful with our kids. Creating margin Intention Mindset Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this week's instalment of I'll Do Better TomorrowKylie's very, very large bathFor a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie's learning to play the piano Making margin Recreation = re-creation Learning when to say yes & no Getting enough sleep If you can't have it all, be intentional about your priorities Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: How the best parents learn to let go in order to let their children succeed The emotional toll on parents when their child isn't doing well Autonomy supportive vs directive parents Low thresholds for frustration Desirable difficulties Top tips Chores/duties The perils of praise Jessica Lahey - Author of the New York Times Best Seller 'The Gift of Failure'The Opposite of Spoiled by Ron LieberPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.