Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

*Warning - Content involves mature themes*Topics discussed in this episode: Justin responds to an email from a listener who is struggling with how to help their child Gender dysphoria 100% affirmation model within the medical field Gender fluidity Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this special Mother's Day Reflection: Justin interviews his six daughters about why they love their Mum so much Kylie dives deep into her journey as a Mum For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this week's instalment of I'll Do Better Tomorrow Justin's TV tale Ditching family time to get those 'must do' jobs done If stuff gets lost it will turn up Everyone makes mistakes Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: 3 keywords that remind Justin's mum about stories from Justin's childhood Kylie's first impression on her in-law's One of the hardest lessons Dr Justin's mum has had to learn Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Parents are shoving obstacles out of their children's way, hoping it will help them avoid failure Depriving kids of learning opportunities Why parents insist on taking over? Directive parenting Competition in parenting Parental investment How do we overcome this? Do I want _ now or do I want a child who can do _ well later? Thinking long term Jessica Lahey - Author of the New York Times Best Seller 'The Gift of Failure'Tim Harford, AdaptPurchase The Do's & Don't of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie's Mum shares some of her favourite stories of Kylie growing up Justin's first impression on his in-law's Kylie asks her Mum some curly questions Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's a public holiday in Queensland today, so it's a quick tip around competence and confidence, so that you can get back to more time with your family!For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's a holiday in Queensland, so we've almost taken the day off!So you can spend more time with your family, we've rolled out an uber short tip for the day - this time focusing on strengths. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie is learning to juggle immediate family & extended family expectations Justin speaks with his teenage daughters about pornography Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie's been up in the gym workin' on her fitness Do kids under 13 need to be on social media? Neurological highs 4 Neurochemicals - D.O.S.E How to boost these neurochemicals naturally in our kids Buzzfeed article - Facebook Is Building An Instagram For Kids Under The Age Of 13Purchase a ticket to Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

***Content may be distressing for some listeners***Topics discussed in this episode: Domestic violence vs domestic abuse A pervasive, systemic issue in the court systems What is domestic abuse defined as? Significant power balances Coercive control What we can do to help Isolation How to develop a Safety Plan Domestic and Family Violence Prevention MonthPurchase See What You Made Me Do by Jess HillFor a happy family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] you are in danger, don’t feel safe, or fear for someone else’s safety, call Triple Zero (000) immediately and ask for Queensland Police.For non-urgent police assistance, phone Policelink on 131 444. If you wish to speak with someone about domestic and family violence, you can contact: 📞 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811📞 DVConnect Mensline on 1800 600 636 📞 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732If you wish to speak to someone about your mental health and wellbeing, you can contact:📞 Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636📞 Lifeline on 13 11 14 📞 Mensline Australia on 1300 78 99 78Children and young people 📞 Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800 📞 Headspace on 1800 650 890If you require more information, support or resources, visit: www.qld.gov.au/domesticviolenceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin is struggling with the amount of devices & device time in their house Justin & Kylie discuss a news report about an 8 year old who turned Pro at Fortnite The 3 C's of screen time - Consumption, Connection & Creation Active vs passive use of screens Kids and smartphones: a warning for parents about harmful impactsPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie answer a listener's question about her toddler's tantrums Is there a detrimental impact from using bribery to get your toddler to do what you want? Developmental realities Theory of mind Toddlers live in the present Toddlers need more structure than any other age group Using cues Allow your toddler time to do things on their own Autonomy supportive parenting Don't take the kids shopping, if you can Purchase a ticket to Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Littlest Miss Coulson was excited for a special Saturday chore Justin took one of his daughters out for a special birthday ice-cream Kids spell love T.I.M.E Kylie left the kids with a list of chores and she came home to a wonderful surprise If we don't give our children opportunities to surprise us, they never will For a happy family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Too much screen time delays school readiness What does a child need in order to be school-ready? 22% of children are considered to be developmentally vulnerable Is TV better than hand held devices? Children need to be outside Does 'harsh parenting' lead to smaller brains?Too much screen time delays school readinessPurchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Punishment teaches power Rewards, like punishments, can only get temporary compliance The more you reward people for doing something, the more they tend to lose interest in whatever they had to do to get the reward All rewards are sugar coated control Intrinsic & extrinsic motivation Talk less, ask more Kids learn to make good decisions by making decisions, not by being obedient You can get mindless obedience in the short term if the reward is juicy enough or the punishment is awful enough. What you can never get is a child who is happy, more ethical, more compassionate, caring or more of an independent thinker. Learn more about Alfie Kohn and his book Punished by RewardsPurchase a ticket to Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Why are manners important? What is their purpose? Manners & consent Respect & consideration Table manners Bodily functions Gratitude Permission Interrupting Knocking before entering Reading over someone's shoulder Offering to help Cover your mouth when you cough Be an example For a happy family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie discuss the in's & out's of pocket money How old should children be to get pocket money? How much should we pay them? Teach them to save Teach them about charitable donations, sacrifice & delayed gratification Be consistent Purchase a ticket to our live webinar tonight - Pot, Pills & ParentingPurchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie took the kids and spent some time getting away together They took the kids to the Easter show Justin shares about a difficult phone call with Kylie, who was very upset Kylie shares about Miss Emily who received lots of presents for her birthday For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin speaks with Doctor Ethan Kross about teaching our children (and ourselves) how to learn to harness self control. Diverting attention The Batman effect Inner mental mentors Psychological self distance The Toolbox Project The implications of teaching children self-control strategies For a happy family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Parents have been struggling with their teenager's mood swings since the dawn of time. There is a better way! Emotional regulation The marshmallow experiment Mood swings Reflect their emotions Emotion coaching Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode:Justin speaks with Professer Sarah Coyne about her 20 years of study on the impact of media on children & families.Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Australia has recently been listed as the second in the world for bullying. How did we let this happen? What can we do about it? For a happy family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Whether it be Facebook, TikTok, Instagram or Snapchat, if your kids are on social media they ARE going to exposed to things you don’t want them to see. What’s the appropriate age for social media? How long can we keep our kids wrapped safely in bubble wrap? When do we start to remove some of those layers? Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode:Justin speaks with Dr Kathryn Modecki about the true impact of mobile phones on our families.To learn more about the study mentioned or to participate in the next one, please click here.Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

***This episode is not intended for children***Topics discussed in this episode: The story of Chanel Contost How can school & home collaborate on sex education? Access to information Sex education needs to be wholistic & comprehensive Rape & Sexual Assault Research & AdvocacySpring FeverBig Talk EducationFor a happy family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode:Justin speaks with Ant Williams about his career in sports psychology, his accomplishments in free diving and how doing so has taught him life lessons that helped him become a better parent.Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Dr Justin Coulson speaks with Lenore Skenazy - president of Let Grow, a non-profit promoting childhood independence and resilience, and founder of the Free-Range Kids movement. Lenore is a mother who lives in Queens and her controversial decision to let her then-9-year-old son take the New York City Subway home alone became a national story and prompted massive media attention. She was dubbed, "America's Worst Mom." For a happy family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: What's the right age for a sleepover? Get to know the families & ask the right questions Talk to your child & go over the ground rules Give them an out For a happy family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Coulson daughter #2 is working with children and getting a sense of what life is like post-school Why traditions matter Traditions give you a sense of identity Traditions gather your family together Purchase The Do's & Don't of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: I-spy Spotto I went to the shops and I bought The alphabet game Car cricket Old MacDonald Had A Farm Bingo This Is The Song That Never Ends Peel The Avocado The Fart Game Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie's struggling with a particularly challenging child The negativity bias The importance of reflection Justin plays Push Dad Off The Bed with his girls Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Problematic Internet Use and Depression Fathers' Involvement in Infant Parenting Over-responsive parenting For a happier family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Madonna shares about how she wrote her newest book Ten-Ager What issues are 10 year old girls facing? Friendships & the drive to fit in Do our daughters know how to cultivate their friendships? Labelling Bullying Physical fitness Physical affection Learn more about Madonna King and purchase her book Ten-AgerPurchase The Do's & Don't of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: What happens to children whose parents pay them to succeed? What are the cons? Explore, Explain, Empower Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie shares the story of their first daughter learning how to drive. It didn't end well! Fast is slow and slow is fast Justin shares a story about working for his father & how he learnt about the process of induction Kylie takes one of their daughters through the process of induction in laundry Purchase The Do's & Don't of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Does helping out our kids with forgotten items make us good or bad parents? Justin shares how he dealt with a daughter who refused to put on her seat belt "Autonomy supported parenting is hard work" For a happy family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Emotional work, admin work & project work Kylie tests Justin on his level of involvement in the cognitive load Justin & Kylie discuss what they do to share the load together Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or Parenting On The Same Page or find them in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Melinda shares about the story of Chanel Contost Sexist culture grooms sexist boys The porn industry is corrosive to connection Consent education is setting the bar far too low We must address the conditioning role of pornography How can we teach consent in our own home? Learn more about Melinda Tankard Reist & Collective ShoutPurchase How to Talk To Your Kids About Pornography & Good Pictures Bad PicturesMelinda’s essay mentioned in the podcastPurchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Watch Justin's viral Goalcast Video Autonomy supported parenting Do we trust that our children will make the right decisions? Strength based parenting Defining strengths Join Kylie for the final week of Book Club via our Happy Families Membership.Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Tonight's Happy Families Member Webinar on Parenting on the Same Page John Gottman's research around how you not only take on a set of problems with your spouse or partner, but you become a set of problems for them You can't change your spouse/partner Trusting your partner Purchase The Do's & Don't of Discipline or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie went on a road trip with her girls & used some conversation starters with the kids Kylie shares a story about something naughty she did as a kid Justin has started running with his daughter every morning & they came across an obstacle Conversation starters - The Art of ConversationPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie discuss 3 pieces of research Teenagers & sleep 3 E's of effective discipline Boys & reading How our children have faired during Covid19 For a happier family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Susie shares about how she got to this point in her career Comparing how our parents parented vs how we parent Permission to parent the way you want to Learn to say yes/no when you want to Learn more about Susie O'Brien or purchase her book The Secret to Half-Arsed ParentingPurchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: A sneak peek into what they'll be discussing in Book Club tonight Kylie shares about a not-so-nice memorable experience from school We are wired for resilience Fixed mindsets Justin shares the story of Olly Neal Join Kylie for week 3 of Book Club in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Purchase Tweens, Teens & ScreensPurchase 9 Ways to a Resilient ChildFind us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Making friends gets trickier the older we get Has it become taboo to just show up at a friend's house? The positive impacts of sharing intimate relationships with those around us For a happier family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin took one of his daughters on a Daddy-Daughter date Kylie shares about an experience she had with their youngest daughter #208 I'll Do Better TomorrowBluey Sleepytime episodePurchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Mature content warning. This is not an episode suitable for children*Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie speak with Rebecca Sparrow Who is responsible for teaching students about consent? What are we missing when teaching our children about sex? Consent isn't only about sex Personal boundaries Permission & respect Justin reads from his book Miss-Connection, page 204-206 Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Gossip is a healthy form of curiosity How to foster boredom in your children with the down sides Susan answers some rapid fire questions from Kylie & Justin Find out more about Susan Engel & her books The Hungry Mind & The Intellectual Lives of ChildrenListen to the other 2 podcasts here - #206 Curious Kids with Susan Engel & #211 We Don't Need To Know Everything with Susan EngelPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in our Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie shares some sneak peeks into this week's Book Club topics The marshmallow experiment Self control can be taught Adversity, Belief & Consequence Ethan Kross podcast episode - #128 Self Control Can Be A Learned Behaviour (Featuring Ethan Kross)Episode with Taryn - #207 Taming That Voice Inside Your HeadJoin Kylie for Book Club on 9 Ways to a Resilient Child in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen!Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.