Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Topics discussed in this episode: Lockdown is hard on our kids Toys and games to entertain kids Activity ideas for young kids and big kids Encouragement if you're struggling and stressed For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin and Kylie's principles for being great parents Do the important things first before the 'not so important' things fill up your life. Why you need to get enough sleep! Check out Steven Covey's Big Rocks video here.For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Tips for getting through 'the monthly cycle'. Reading recommendations for older kids. Spontaneous family adventures. Check out Justin's reading recommendations: The Keepers Trilogy by Lian Tanner The Chronicles of Narnia by C.S Lewis For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: 01.09 - Smacking Physical punishment consistently predicts increases in child behaviour problems over time Physical punishment is not associated with positive outcomes over time Physical punishment increases the risk of involvement with child protection services The only evidence of children illiciting physical punishment is for externalising behaviour Physical punishment predicts worsening behaviour over time 07.20 Screen usage and reading When do children need to start learning to read? What do screens get in the way of? 10.45 Which country has the most burnt out parents? How do we assess parental burnout? How to minimise and navigate parental burnout? Physical punishment and child outcomes: a narrative review of prospective studiesLongitudinal Associations Between Screen Use and Reading in Preschool-Aged ChildrenParental Burnout Around the Globe: A 42-Country Study International Investigation of Parental BurnoutFor a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Study stress What causes all of the stress? Stress isn't about having too much to do, it's about how to get it all done Motivation & wellbeing Life balance Tips to help kids get through their exams The obession with 'the number' at the end of year 12 Time management vs scheduled outcomes Command words Unmotivated teens You can get a copy of Katie’s Free Parent Guide:‘The 3 Huge Mistakes (even smart!) Students Make in Exams and Assignments’at www.rocksolidstudy.comAnd check out her free and super-practical video tips at the Grade Transformation blog:www.gradetransformation.com.auPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: How to guide an 18 year old while respecting their decisions Minimising the contention at home Having an honest conversation The importance of autonomy Connection Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Important ADHD background information Tips for parenting ADHD children Three basic psychological needs For more information and to register for Justin's ADHD webinar click here.For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Jacob Townsend's powerful example of confidence with a stutter Justin's experience with his daughter - connection is the currency of our relationships Kids spell love T-I-M-E Justin and Kylie's experience in guiding their daughter through a breakup For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: How we create influence through connection Why trust is so important Asking a simple question like 'what do you think' can empower our kids For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Timestamps for this episode: 00.32 Justin introduces Andrew 00.53 Is it appropriate to say we manage the tricky behaviours of others around us? 01.53 Andrew's acronym R.E.S.O.L.V.E. 02.09 R.espond with respect 02.46 E.ngage 03.35 S.eek understanding 04.39 O.bserve their feelings 05.47 L.ower the tone 07.37 V.alue add 08.17 E.mpower 08.55 Ad break 09.40 How to use the R.E.S.O.L.V.E. model with a tricky toddler 12.23 How to use the R.E.S.O.L.V.E. model with a tricky teenager 15.12 Technology and teens 16.24 Justin's summary 17.46 Andrew's process of forming his model Tricky Behaviours by Andrew FullerFor a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: How toddlers and pre-schoolers are biologically wired Tips and tricks for working parents during lockdowns Change and variety will keep toddlers entertained for longer Read Dr Jenny Chesters' 'Parenting During Lockdown' article here.Read Dr Jenny Chesters' full report on 'Life Satisfaction During the 2020 Pandemic in Australia' here.For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin has been thoroughly enjoying watching the Olympics The sexism on display when the Norwegian Beach Handball Team chose to compete in shorts instead of bikini bottoms How we can encourage our children in any activity without taking it too far Facebook post mentioned#321 I'll Do Better TomorrowFor a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie reviews her decision to read her daughter's journal Justin was distracted from quality time with his daughter #321 I'll Do Better TomorrowFor a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: The Goonies Grease The Princess Bride North Shore Pretty Woman Dirty Dancing Dead Poet's Society Remember The Titans Hidden Figures She's The Man Bend It Like Beckham Jumanji Cinderella Man Les Misérables We Bought A Zoo Ferris Bueller's Day Off The Last of the Mohicans #320 And the Oscar Goes ToPurchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: How to look after your own mental health while parenting What is Super Sense? How to tap into your own Super Sense How to help our kids tap into their own Super Sense Hurry is the enemy of love Learn more about Steve Biddulph and his new book Fully HumanFor a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Celebrating 1 million downloads on our podcast! Review of 5/10 top highights from the year Mothers Day Bath Disaster How to Make Roadtrips Work Goodbye Benson Raising Boys Interview with Maggie Dent One of Justin's most embarrasing moments Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Celebrating 1 million downloads on our podcast! Review of 5/10 top highights from the year Kylie Quits Crap-House Wife Running With a Wedgie Conversation with Susie O'Bryant Mother's Day episode For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Hamish Blake's birthday cake extravaganza Turning self-comparison into inspiration to be better Justin scored a hug with his 7-yr-old Kylie read her daughter's journal For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Monster's Inc Brother Bear Finding Nemo Mulan Brave Moana The Lego Movie Wreck It Ralph Tarzan Pocahontas The Princess Bride The Greatest Showman The Sandlot Kids The Sound of Music Mary Poppins Spirit Toy Story How To Train a Dragon Cheaper By The Dozen National Treasure The Slipper & The Rose The King & I The Scarlet Pimpernel Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Andrew Fuller's new book The A to Z of Feelings Feelings are often confusing How do parent's stay on top of their own big feelings? Dealing with lockdown For a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Finland's National Sleepyhead Day Listener question about leg hair removal at a young age for girls Young girls and body image The 3 E's Susan Engel - Beauty SickFor a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: The secret to family success in the mornings Justin shares the poem Welcome To Holland by Emily Perl Kingsley Remove judgment Move forward with acceptance Learn to find joy Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie get outside with the family Mazes, minigolf & happy kids Meltdowns Kylie's struggle with feeling pressure to be the perfect parent For a happier family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Rates of postnatal depression in new mothers during Covid lockdowns Bed sharing in the first 6 months of life Vaccinations & how to regulate the stress Listening to our teenagers Parental listening when adolescents self-disclose: A preregistered experimental studyRates of postnatal depression among new mothers rose sharply during lockdownTrajectories of Distress Regulation During Preschool VaccinationsBed-Sharing in the First 6 MonthsFor a happier family try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: What does it mean to feel like you belong? The plant metaphor School belonging Long term benefits of belonging What can parents do if their children don't feel as though they belong? Show an interest Attitudes Dr Kelly-Ann AllenPurchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin's thoughts on reward systems in schools Extrinsic motivators Which children are actually receiving rewards? How to help children who aren't receiving rewards Emotion coaching Justin calls for a revolution For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: How to help your kids when they're over the top Cuddles go a long way to calming emotions When the kids are struggling with big emotions, that's when they need connection the most Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin and Kylie's lockdown experiences The "one hard thing" they did as a family over the holidays Looking for ways to serve each other Parenting is not about the kids, it's about us Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: 5 Questions to ask your kids at bedtime to create high quality night time nurture experiences Gratitude Optimism Open conversations Admitting your mistakes Endearing acknowledgements of love For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Falling in love with your child again once they become a teen Anger is a secondary emotion FEAR Being more vulnerable with your kids Keeping your connection strong Acne What to do with abusive teenagers Start with empathy Dr Ginni Mansberg and Jo Lamble's book The New Teen AgePurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie's top tips for how to ditch the dummy The earlier the better Keep the dummy only for certain times As parents we need to become a little more comfortable with our children being uncomfortable Try using it less and less Fast is slow & slow is fast Cuddles, songs, distractions, routine No going back Listen to yesterday's podcast here - #307 Becoming a Better Person with Cameron & Alison DaddoPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie and Justin's relationship history Dr Justin shares the experiences that led him to Happy Families Emotions are contagious Should parents have a license? Intimacy through the years of marriage Building resilience in kids Find the original at Separate Bathrooms - Becoming a Better PersonFor a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: adjusting to returning to school building hope for the future empowering children to overcome challenges For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie discuss their all-time favourite movies A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood Consistency matters Keep your promises The signature of mediocracy is chronic inconsistency Get your house in order For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Dr Amy Graham discusses data collected from a study on digital devices & children The power of an example is the most effective way to effect change Digital distractions Parent concerns Using devices after bedtime Screens as babysitters Screen limits #113 Technology In Our Schools (Featuring Dr Amy Graham)Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie has a minor car mishap When things go wrong, remember that people matter, things don't For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: We can do hard things together You've got to love the hills because the hills make you strong Challenge - do something hard together as a family For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Sometimes we need to lighten up in the parenting game Challenge - practise saying "yes" to the kids, see what happens For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: It's not your job as a parent to fix every challenge your child may face Challenge for older kids - when things aren't going well, help your kids by being a support system as they find solutions to the problem Challenge for younger kids - if the task before them is too big, don't fix it for them but fix it with them For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin speaks with Kimberly Ewertz about her own experience with divorce and her book Family Redefined How do parents tell their kids that they are separating? What impact does divorce have on children? A child's identity is their family What's the best thing to do to ameliorate the negative effects your child may experience from a family rupture? Learn more about Kimberly Ewertz's book Family Redefined.Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: When you criticise a child, they don't stop loving you. They stop loving themselves Turn criticism into unconditional love Challenge - help your child feel like they matter or belong, no matter what they do. For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kids spell love T-I-M-E Connection is the currency of relationships Challenge - find one way to connect with your children For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie share our Little Wins Wednesday Winner from last week The youngest Miss Coulson receives a bedroom makeover Letting go of our own agendas Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie respond to an email from a listener about breaking bad parenting habits The habit loop - cue, craving, response, reward. The product of parenting is not the child, it's the parent The only way to raise great kids is to be great ourselves How to break a habit Decide ahead of time what you're going to do instead Practice, practice, practice Under pressure we revert to our most practiced behaviour Hold the mirror up to yourself after every interaction James Clear Atomic HabitsPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Justin & Kylie speak with Mark McCrindle about his book Generation Alpha How generation labels came to be What's going to happen to Generation Alpha? What do parents need to focus on? Don't outsource your parenting -Delay the access-Communicate the values-Behavioural skills-AccountabilityLearn more about Mark McCrindle and his book Generation AlphaFor a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's coming up to the mid-year school break and while that means holidays it also means report card season.In this episode Justin discusses why you should throw your child's report card straight into the bin, and why report cards are unhelpful, especially for our younger students.You can read The Case Against Grades by Alfie Kohn here.For a happy family, try a Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: The Coulson family experience the loss of their dog Benson The Coulson daughters grieve in their own ways Kylie shares a beautiful poem about what we can learn from dogs Purchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed in this episode: Kylie had a really great experience having an intimate conversation with her oldest daughter Justin announces the Little Wins Wednesday winner from last week Justin's 17 year old gets her drivers license Kylie is hanging on by a thread Podcast episode mentioned by our Little Wins Wednesday winner - #278 Teens in TroublePurchase a ticket to Sex & Sensibility or find it in your Happy Families Membership.Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning - this episode includes mature themes*Topics discussed in this episode: Kids Helpline counsellors started seeing a need in teens during Covid19 99% increase in duty of care In Victoria that percentage increased to 184% Lockdown, loss of peers, additional pressure on families, job loss The more lockdowns, the greater the risk of mental health problems What parents can do to protect their children Kids just want someone to listen to them If you or anyone you know needs help, please don't hesitate to call Kids Helpline or ParentlinePurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning - this episode includes mature themes*Topics discussed in this episode: Jess gets personal and shares her backstory to how she came to write this book What can mentors do to prevent substance abuse in kids? How to know if you're relying on substances too much Legalisation The opposite of addiction is connection Justin gets personal and shares about his extended family's experiences with alcohol Risk factors & prevention measures Jessica Lahey - Author of The Addiction InoculationPurchase Tweens, Teens & Screens or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy FamiliesEmail us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.