Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Right now, you're probably longing for real, human contact and you might be feeling stressed out and lonely. Moving to socialize online as you're observing ever-shifting distancing guidelines can be daunting, but you may have a better opportunity virtually to connect with others than ever before! EPISODE 146 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled: Digital Dating Trends And Social Connection: Interview With Geoff Cook This week, Kimmy addresses this issue with an authority on the topic of virtual connection, serial entrepreneur Geoff Cook. Geoff is the CEO and co-founder of Meet Group, a social dating and live streaming company behind Meet Me, Tagged, and Growlr. Kimmy and Geoff jump right in to talk about how people are using technology differently to connect, date and find sustained love. Kimmy asks Geoff to shed some light on the major trends in the virtual dating space and how our current reality of physical distance has created a space for fun new ways to connect. You'll hear some fascinating stats on how the increased desire for virtual and video options across all age groups. Plus, Geoff delves into the future of virtual dating. You may be surprised to find out that video and live streaming are here to stay, even after quarantine -- listen in to hear why! Kimmy highlights the importance in combining technology, first impression management and conversational skills training in order to be a successful dater today. This discussion is incredibly informative and will help broaden your perspective about how to navigate the dating landscape now and in the future. If you are feeling disconnected and you want to know how to make a great first impression online to meet someone, reach out to Kimmy for help. You can sign up for a complimentary call with Kimmy here: meetme.so/kimbreakthrough It's one thing to swipe through matches at a record pace, and it's another to understand how to make a real, genuine connection online. All it takes is one call to start your journey to meet this new reality. EPISODE 146 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled: Digital Dating Trends And Social Connection: Interview With Geoff Cook. The Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ The Charisma Quotient Podcast: Building Confidence, Making Connections, and Finding Love from the Outside In is hosted by Kimmy Seltzer. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Sharing a wide array of relational topics, The Charisma Quotient Podcast focuses on the themes of building confidence, making connections, and finding love from the outside in.⁣ ************************************************⁣ This Podcast is available on:⁣ Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/Charisma_Quotient ⁣ Libsyn: https://charismaquotient.libsyn.com/⁣ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2mLh5AwLC0xryeKzKyph2g And many other podcast sites. ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Twitter: https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ ⁣ Facebook: https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

We are in the process of redefining how we date, communicate and fall in love. We're all navigating the challenges and opportunities of modern dating, especially with the advent of online dating platforms. Whether or not you have engaged in the online dating world, there are some very real trends that have a strong impact on the courtship process. EPISODE 145 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled: Modern Dating Trends: Interview With Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu This week on the show, Kimmy has an incredibly timely conversation with the women of the popular Dateable podcast, Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick. This episode gives you an insider's look into the universe of modern dating trends that covers traditional vs. modern gender roles, virtual sex parties, surprising fetishes, and the common issues that everyone trying to find love experiences in this new dating world. These three jump right in to dissect tons of juicy topics, provide some much needed comic relief, and bring a broad perspective that will help you find ways of how you can progress in your dating life in this new era. Kimmy asks Yue and Julie to analyze major dating trends that prove that everyone's dating experiences, desires and challenges are often more similar than you might think. If you are struggling to engage in online dating, especially amid a global pandemic where online dating may be your only way to meet someone new, this interview demonstrates how it's actually possible. Based on Yue and Julies research, Kimmy gives insightful tips in how to navigate dating during the pandemic and what to focus on to create a deeper emotional connection online. If this conversation sparked your curiosity and you want to learn how to date in this new world, consider getting in touch with Kimmy right here: meetme.so/kimbreakthrough for a complimentary exploratory call. This just might be the push you need to get unstuck and making progress in meeting someone in today's world. EPISODE 145 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled: Modern Dating Trends: Interview With Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu. The Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ The Charisma Quotient Podcast: Building Confidence, Making Connections, and Finding Love from the Outside In is hosted by Kimmy Seltzer. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Sharing a wide array of relational topics, The Charisma Quotient Podcast focuses on the themes of building confidence, making connections, and finding love from the outside in.⁣ ************************************************⁣ This Podcast is available on:⁣ Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/Charisma_Quotient ⁣ Libsyn: https://charismaquotient.libsyn.com/⁣ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2mLh5AwLC0xryeKzKyph2g And many other podcast sites. ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Twitter: https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ ⁣ Facebook: https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

This episode proves that there is still potential for dating success despite the obstacles felt during this pandemic. Kimmy's back with another inspirational episode of, Where Are They Now? On these shows, Kimmy has inspirational conversations with former clients who have achieved success which will motivate and show you that finding love is possible, even during a pandemic! EPISODE 144 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled: A Dating Pandemic Success Story: Where Are They Now With Dena In this show, you'll meet Dena who is in an incredible new relationship with a great guy she met online during lockdown. Dena started her journey with Kimmy doing one of the first live Coaching With Kimmy episodes two years ago on this podcast and then shortly after became a client. As a teacher from a small town who'd gone through two marriages, Dena was comfortable caring for other people. She came to Kimmy because she was ready to start putting herself first, even though she was terrified and completely confused how to do so. Kimmy and Dena talk through why Dena was willing to appease the men she dated and not express her needs, wants, or emotions. This conversation looks back at the breakthrough moment where Dena realized she needed to change something and the skills she learned working with Kimmy that allowed her to move forward. You'll hear tips on how to share your feelings and draw boundaries, all while fortifying your relationship. You'll be uplifted by hearing how Dena came around to prioritizing and loving herself so she could attract the kind of man she really wanted. You may be surprised to learn the various tactics Dena did to land her new relationship while social distancing and how it has flourished and grown through video chatting. If communication is a big value for you, this episode also dives deep on how couples can communicate effectively, even on a cross country road trip! Despite what is happening during this time, we all seek love and connection which is what we need right now. If you are wanting to seek that love but not quite sure how to get it, consider a free coaching call with Kimmy and take action here meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. It's possible to build a healthy, happy, and fulfilling relationship even while in quarantine! This is the perfect time to check in with yourself, ask yourself if you know what you really want, and trust yourself to make the decision to grow. Episode 144 is: A Dating Pandemic Success Story: Where Are They Now With Dena. The Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ The Charisma Quotient Podcast: Building Confidence, Making Connections, and Finding Love from the Outside In is hosted by Kimmy Seltzer. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Sharing a wide array of relational topics, The Charisma Quotient Podcast focuses on the themes of building confidence, making connections, and finding love from the outside in.⁣ ************************************************⁣ This Podcast is available on:⁣ Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/Charisma_Quotient ⁣ Libsyn: https://charismaquotient.libsyn.com/⁣ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2mLh5AwLC0xryeKzKyph2g And many other podcast sites. ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Twitter: https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ ⁣ Facebook: https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Loving Again After Loss: 5 Steps Moving Past Grief How do you move past loss to find love again? Grieving and loss are inevitable parts of life but right now, you may feel unprepared or overwhelmed. Before you can move forward in your dating life, you need to have the tools to move past grief and rebound. EPISODE 143 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is: Loving Again After Loss: 5 Steps to Moving Past Grief This week Kimmy addresses our collective experience of loss at this time. She breaks down 5 actionable steps you can take to move past a loss with healthy tips, proven facts and a new perspective. Sometimes, when you're experiencing a loss, you think you know what you want but you really need to take the time to heal. But trying to get back into the game too early without addressing the grief, may lead you down a path you ultimately won't want. Listen in to hear Kimmy walk through how to tell the difference. You'll hear some tips about how to rediscover yourself and what to pay attention to in order to dial in on what you actually want. Stay tuned to hear how you can get in touch with your emotions and face your fears instead of letting them run you. Kimmy covers the importance of slowly dealing with loss and taking the time to care for yourself by getting back to basics and putting yourself first. Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist Kimmy Seltzer shares that, "It's important to not jump into something before you are ready. Otherwise, you might fall flat on your face when a "rebound" relationship fails, which gives you a false perspective and disappointment around dating." Its important to face these challenges and take the necessary time to get your footing and opening the doors to finding love again with these 5 necessary steps. If you're feeling frozen by dealing with a significant loss in your life, consider reaching out for support. Kimmy offers FREE coaching here http://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. You are capable of rising from the losses in your life in order to find love again by taking these 5 necessary steps. Episode 143 is: Loving Again After Loss: 5 Steps to Moving Past Grief. The Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ The Charisma Quotient Podcast: Building Confidence, Making Connections, and Finding Love from the Outside In is hosted by Kimmy Seltzer. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Sharing a wide array of relational topics, The Charisma Quotient Podcast focuses on the themes of building confidence, making connections, and finding love from the outside in.⁣ ************************************************⁣ This Podcast is available on:⁣ Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/Charisma_Quotient ⁣ Libsyn: https://charismaquotient.libsyn.com/⁣ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2mLh5AwLC0xryeKzKyph2g And many other podcast sites. ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Twitter: https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ ⁣ Facebook: https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

How do you proceed to reopen your dating life and find love even in this new world where we continue to practice social distancing? ⁣ ⁣ As we all start talking about reopening, no matter where you are in the world there is a new normal. And it looks quite different than the world we once knew. ⁣ ⁣ EPISODE 142 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled: Reopening your dating life again. A three phased approach.⁣ ⁣ People are now forced to slow down, build emotional connections, be more thoughtful in their interactions and court one another. ⁣ ⁣ We are now entering a new way of dating and love that might be here to stay. And if you learn to take a slow three phased approach, you will be able to attract a more meaningful and longer lasting relationship possibly than ever before.⁣ ⁣ People are now forced to slow down, build emotional connections, be more thoughtful in their interactions and court one another. The further we are physically from one another, the more vulnerable we need to be to get closer to each other emotionally. We are now entering a new way of approaching dating and love that might be here to stay. Kimmy dives into the three phases, benefits of slow love and tips on how to move beyond the virtual stage. Listen in to hear a story about a client who's in a healthy, virtual relationship and why it's the best relationship she's ever been in, despite the distance. ⁣ ⁣ Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist Kimmy Seltzer shares that "It might feel to you like a big waste of time chatting on texts endlessly and going on video dates that never end. But here is the thing...how much time did you waste going on endless, meaningless dates only to lead you down a path of disappointment?" ⁣ ⁣ Slow love works and is the key to having a phased, more thoughtful approach to dating to find love in this new normal. In this episode Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist Kimmy Seltzer walks you through reopening your dating life again with a three phased approach.⁣ ⁣ By applying a slow phased approach, you will be able to attract a more meaningful and longer lasting relationship possibly than ever before. ⁣ ⁣ Slow love works and is the key to having a phased, more thoughtful approach to dating to find love in this new normal.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ If you want to know which of these phases you should be focusing on, schedule a free Social Distancing Strategy Call with Kimmy here https://go.oncehub.com/socialdistancingsession⁣ ⁣ ⁣ Episode 142 is titled: Reopening your dating life again. A three phased approach. The Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Libsyn and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ The Charisma Quotient Podcast. ⁣ Building Confidence, Making Connections and Finding Love from the outside in is hosted by Kimmy Seltzer. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Sharing a wide array of relational topics, The Charisma Quotient Podcast focuses on the themes of building confidence, making connections, and finding love from the outside in.⁣ ************************************************⁣ This Podcast is available on:⁣ Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/Charisma_Quotient ⁣ Libsyn: https://charismaquotient.libsyn.com/⁣ And many other podcast sites.⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Twitter: https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ ⁣ Facebook: https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers ************************************************⁣ Reopening your dating life again. A three phased approach

Our ideas about how the world works are based on how the world meets our own expectations. Those expectations affect our experience - for good or bad- and can influence our reactions and responses to just about everything and everyone that we encounter. Interview With Christy Whitman: Managing Expectations And Detaching From Outcomes is the title of the Charisma Quotient Podcast Episode 141 hosted by Confidence Therapist & Authentic Dating Strategist Kimmy Seltzer. To dive into what this means, and what this looks like in practice, Kimmy brings on Christy Whitman to talk through how we can better manage our expectations of ourselves. Christy is a transformational leader, celebrity coach, and bestselling author of "Quantum Success: 7 Essential Laws for a Thriving, Joyful, and Prosperous Relationship with Work and Money". Right at the top, Christy shares her personal story of how she discovered meditation and becoming more in tune with her thoughts, her mood, and how those affect her relationships. If you're struggling to treat yourself well, or you don't see yourself as the kind of person who can attract a quality partner, this is the show for you. Listen in to get a little insight into how Christy shook her bad body habit and started to hold herself to different standards that allowed her to begin attracting the kind of love she really deserved. This conversation brings to light how connected all the elements of your life are to your thoughts, behaviors, and actions. Kimmy and Christy discuss how your own experiences and expectations of yourself are directly tied to your unrealistic expectations of others. Kimmy deep dives with Christy ways you can release yourself from the self-created trap of bad expectations and why you should learn to detach from being so focused on outcomes, especially in relation to dating. Listen in to hear answers to the 3 questions Christy asks her clients to zone in on their true "why." If this conversation resonated with you, and you feel that fire to start paying more attention to how you talk to yourself, consider chatting with Kimmy to start the conversation. Don't let yourself get stuck in the drama triangle of what you think you should do and beat yourself up for not rising to those expectations, you need to shift and find a new perspective. If you are finding yourself having unrealistic expectations with your love life and having a hard time staying present, schedule a call with Kimmy here meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. You have the power to change your reality! Hosted by Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist, Kimmy Seltzer. The Charisma Quotient shares an array of topics focused on Building Confidence, Making Connections and Finding Love. ************************************************ Charisma Quotient Episode 141: Interview With Christy Whitman: Managing Expectations And Detaching From Outcomes ************************************************ Connect with Kimmy through any of these links: Chat With Kimmy: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough https://kimmyseltzer.com/ https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

How to move conversations off of apps and dating sites and into actual dates. Coaching With Kimmy: Keeping Conversations And Dates Going is the title of the Charisma Quotient Podcast Episode 140 hosted by Confidence Therapist & Authentic Dating Strategist Kimmy Seltzer. This week, Kimmy's back with another episode of Coaching with Kimmy. In this segment, Kimmy works with a caller live to crack the code to what's holding them back from finding love! You'll meet Cara, a vibrant woman in her early 30's who's been struggling to thrive on dates both online and off for almost 10 years now. She agreed to get a laser coaching on the show after taking a flirt workshop with Kimmy and realized she's had trouble flirting via text and email and hasn't been able to get past the first couple of dates without the interaction feeling like a formal business meeting. Kimmy dives right in asking Cara about her experience as an adolescent with rejection which is affecting how she interacts with men on dates. Kimmy walks Cara through how her fear of rejection and low self-esteem are causing her to have disconnected, guarded and boring interactions both online and off. This inspiring, uplifting conversation brings up the big question--how much do you value yourself and how is this holding you back? Kimmy nails down targeted hacks to help Cara raise her perception of herself, engage in more playful conversations and progress to actual dates. Plus, listen in to hear Kimmy read a Bumble conversation between one of her clients and a guy she met on the app. You'll hear Kimmy, in real-time, breakdown their conversation to show you *exactly* how to shift the tone and style of your messages to get the results you want. If you find yourself having trouble creating emotional connections or engaging in playful conversations while you're dating online, take this opportunity to get in touch with Kimmy for a free Conversation Booster Breakthrough session here: meetme.so/kimbreakthrough where she will diagnose specific challenges you are having in your conversations and on dates and shed some light around you can skip shallow small talk and have deeper connections overall. What you put out is what you get back, and now is the time to brush up on flirting and conversation skills so you can get back out there stronger than ever before! Hosted by Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist, Kimmy Seltzer. The Charisma Quotient shares an array of topics focused on Building Confidence, Making Connections and Finding Love. ************************************************ Charisma Quotient Episode 140: Coaching With Kimmy: Keeping Conversations And Dates Going ************************************************ Connect with Kimmy through any of these links: Chat With Kimmy: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough https://kimmyseltzer.com/ https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

How to get a great handle on the right mindset for your dating life in the middle of uncertain times. Uncertainty While Dating: The Benefits And The Bad Excuses is the title of the Charisma Quotient Podcast Episode 139 hosted by Confidence Therapist & Authentic Dating Strategist Kimmy Seltzer. With all the mixed messages swirling around what will happen after this pandemic, it's undeniable that we're living in a state of uncertainty. In this episode, Kimmy dives right in to acknowledge the fact that we're collectively experiencing the effects of a scarcity mindset and an uncertainty while dating. If you struggle with anxiety and are constantly seeking to control your world, life and dating right now can feel even more overwhelming. In this show, Kimmy breaks down her top 5 tips for how to use this uncertain time to your advantage. It IS possible to thrive right now and use this uncertainty to your benefit, despite what you may have been feeling so far. Listen in to hear exactly what you need to focus on to start shifting your perspective so you can use this period to grow and evolve instead of standing still. You'll hear steps to take around how to shift your mindset from focusing on unproductive worries to more productive ones. And, if you're missing your typical work, exercise, or social routine, you'll get advice on how to reintroduce routine to your day to bring back some predictability. Kimmy talks through some secret benefits to virtual dating that you can absolutely be grateful for and use it instead to build emotional connections. Finally, you'll hear a letter from a listener who's contemplating giving up on virtual dating while we're operating under stay-at-home orders. Stick around until the end to hear why Kimmy thinks that's the LAST thing anyone should use this time to do! If this episode is resonating with you, and you feel yourself grasping to control every aspect of your dating life and you're feeling completely overwhelmed and burned out, schedule a free call with Kimmy here: meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. Uncertainty while dating isn't always a negative thing if you know how to use it to your advantage. You are capable of thriving right now -- you just need the tools to make it happen! Hosted by Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist, Kimmy Seltzer. The Charisma Quotient shares an array of topics focused on Building Confidence, Making Connections and Finding Love. ************************************************ Charisma Quotient Episode 139: Uncertainty While Dating: The Benefits And The Bad Excuses ************************************************ Connect with Kimmy through any of these links: Chat With Kimmy: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough https://kimmyseltzer.com/ https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

Do you have a hard time knowing what to say when you meet someone? Are conversations boring and disconnected? Making meaningful conversations are key to having deeper connections with people. So what's the best way to engage someone in conversation? In this episode, Kimmy interviews entrepreneur, speaker and founder of the Turnkey Podcast Company, Doug Sandler. He's interviewed tons of celebs like Ariana Huffington, John C. Maxwell, and Gary V., and has mastered the art of engaging people one on one. Kimmy and Doug dive deep on how to manage perfectionist tendencies and get into action mode. If you're struggling to move past superficial conversations, exhausted by small talk or find yourself craving more meaningful connections, this show breaks it down into simple steps in how to move past that. These two also discuss how it's all too easy to get trapped by getting in your head and thinking that every decision you make is final. In reality, you can have second, third—even infinite chances to meet the right person, it's just honing in on the skills to do that. This conversation shows that it takes work, practice and bravery to succeed. Take a good hard look at the quality of connections you've been making lately both online and off and ask yourself if you've been making true connections or not. If you're coming up short by being misunderstood, or not able to progress to another interaction or date, hop on a breakthrough call with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough and start to discover the power to create deep, real relationships with the people you want today. And if you are not feeling confidence putting signals out there with your body, join Kim and fitness expert Adam Schaeuble in the 14-Day Fit & Flirty Challenge https://s1cdup9s.pages.infusionsoft.net/# starting April 27th. Hosted by Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist, Kimmy Seltzer. The Charisma Quotient shares an array of topics focused on Building Confidence, Making Connections and Finding Love. Charisma Quotient Episode 138: Interview With Doug Sandler: How To Move Conversations & Strengthen Connections Connect with Kimmy through any of these links: Chat With Kimmy: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough https://kimmyseltzer.com/ https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/

Do you truly feel confident in your body? Do you lack self-confidence in how sexy you are? There is a connection and symbiotic relationship between your health, body confidence and attraction. This week, Kimmy Seltzer is infusing fitness elements to your style, emotional and social intelligence and talking all about body confidence. To help with this, Kimmy's bringing on an incredible fitness expert, Adam Schaeuble, The PHD (aka Previously Heavy Dude). Adam shares the story of how he hit rock bottom when he weighed 327 lbs and what he did to jumpstart his own weight loss journey. Now, he runs a gym and boot camp program where he works with thousands of women and men to deliver practical, motivational tools helping them release what's holding them back and be the best version of themselves. Kimmy and Adam dive into talking about blame and guilt when it comes to accomplishing a challenge like weight loss or finding success in love. If you have found yourself pointing to external factors about why you're not landing the dates you want, or why you haven't stuck to exercise and health plans in the past, this episode will help give you the tools to feel more in control of your results. This uplifting, fun conversation will show you that you don't need to be a certain size, weight or shape to find the confidence and love you deserve--it's all about working to build the confidence you need to project the high self-esteem that attracts someone worthy of you! Listen in to hear the surprising #1 reason people don't lose weight along with Adam's tips on how to successfully stick to a health and exercise plan for the long term. Plus, stick around until the end to hear all the details about Kimmy and Adam's *NEW* 14-DAY FIT & FLIRTY CHALLENGE https://s1cdup9s.pages.infusionsoft.net/# starting April 27th. If you're stuck in quarantine, wondering how you're going to find the motivation to maintain healthy habits and sex appeal while you're at home, consider joining them. Sign up today to take back control of your body confidence with daily challenges and exercises to ramp up your health, hotness and sex appeal. Hosted by Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist, Kimmy Seltzer. The Charisma Quotient shares an array of topics focused on Building Confidence, Making Connections and Finding Love. Charisma Quotient Episode 137: Interview With Adam Schaeuble: Your Health, Body Confidence & Attraction Connect with Kimmy through any of these links: Chat With Kimmy: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough https://kimmyseltzer.com/ https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer/ https://facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/

Welcome back to another episode of Coaching with Kimmy: Where Are They Now? In this segment, Kimmy speaks directly with former clients to find out where they are on their love journey, what changed since they started working with her and the secrets to their success! On this episode, you'll meet Heather who found Kimmy six years ago, recovering from a divorce as a newly single mom and how Kimmy led her down the path to finding true love. Right at the top, listen in as Heather thinks back to the challenges and insecurity she was facing in her life. After she left her marriage, she got into another relationship quickly--before she was able to truly discover what she wanted in a new relationship. Kimmy prompts Heather to share details about her upbringing that shine a light on Heather's perfectionist streak and I-can-do-it-all attitude. If you've ever felt desperate to figure out what's going wrong in your dating life because you're in control of every other aspect of your life, this episode is for you. From the moment they connected with one another, Kimmy was able to deliver the honest, caring, tough-love approach Heather needed to see her path forward more clearly. It wasn't about finding the perfect man, it was about making a real connection with a man worthy of being in Heather's life. Of course, Kimmy asks Heather to spill all the details about the man who's been in Heather's life for 5 years now! Plus, you'll hear Heather walk through how she used Kimmy's expertise to date online, without meeting in person. While you may be in quarantine right now, it's still possible to discover incredible emotional connections using dating apps. Seriously! Now is the right time to focus on yourself and discover what you want, and who truly deserves *you*. You can schedule a time to chat with Kimmy right here: meetme.so/kimbreakthrough and talk through it all just as Heather started out doing 6 years ago! Hosted by Authentic Dating and Strategic Makeover Authority Kimmy Seltzer, The Charisma Quotient shares an array of topics focused on Building Confidence, Making Connections and Finding Love. Charisma Quotient Episode 136: Coaching With Kimmy: Where Are They Now With Heather Connect with Kimmy through any of these links: Chat With Kimmy: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough https://seltzerstyle.com/ https://twitter.com/SeltzerKimberly/ https://facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/

Did you know that clutter can affect your love life? If you're like us, you've been staying safe and healthy by sheltering in place to slow down the spread of coronavirus. With all this newfound time at home, you might be thinking it's time to purge your space of clutter! This week on the show, Kimmy Seltzer brings on Ken Lauher, a Feng Shui expert, consultant and coach who helps high-performers use the art of Feng Shui to declutter their minds and achieve their biggest goals. You'll hear how Ken went from working on Wall Street to embracing the power of Feng Shui and how he teaches those principles to help his clients discover healthier, wealthier, more abundant lives. Kimmy facilitates a deep discussion with Ken in how you can create and attract love starting with your home and closet. Ken talks through how trauma, drama and stress can takeover our minds and cause crippling fear, anxiety and self-doubt. When you experience these feelings in your love life, there are some simple Feng Shui tools you can use to begin to walk out of fear and start to embrace yourself confidently. Ken divulges the area of your home you need to evaluate in order to encourage an abundant love life while Kimmy dives into colors you can wear in order to attract a great match! This conversation hits home on the fact that your space is a direct reflection of what's going on in your head. Now that you're likely spending a lot more time at home, it's the perfect opportunity to reflect on what your space is saying about what's really going on for you and learn how to create a positive love environment. If you want to explore more deeply into Ken's take on modern Feng Shui, Charisma Quotient listeners can join his membership program now for 50% off the regular price. If you're ready to tackle the mess in your closet, check out Kimmy's FREE Wardrobe Guide! Don't let yourself hide behind old clothes, old patterns, and old habits that don't serve the person you deserve to be. Hosted by Authentic Dating and Strategic Makeover Authority Kimmy Seltzer, The Charisma Quotient shares an array of topics focused on Building Confidence, Making Connections and Finding Love. Charisma Quotient Episode 135: Interview With Ken Lauher: Feng Shui For Love Connect with Kimmy through any of these links: Chat With Kimmy: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough https://seltzerstyle.com/ https://twitter.com/SeltzerKimberly/ https://facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/

Do you have questions about dating during the Coronavirus? Kimmy Seltzer has surprising answers to your love questions on this special segment where she answers your dating and relationship questions during this uncertain time. With the advent of the coronavirus outbreak, those of us wading into the dating pool need to get creative with how we create connections with one another without being able to meet in-person. While you can't physically connect with new people, in this week's episode of Surprising Answers To Your Love Questions During A Coronavirus, Kimmy Seltzer explains how you can socially connect on a deep level now more than ever. This episode will show you that you can create that feeling of closeness, combat loneliness and use your newfound spare time to foster connection in a new way. You'll hear a question from a woman who's dealing with feeling alone and looking for ways to be kinder to herself in those moments. Kimmy tackles this tough question strategically by reviewing 5 steps to combat loneliness. What do you do if you've got a string of in-person dates lined up, but all the bars and restaurants are closed and you've been told to shelter in place? Listen in as Kimmy discusses creative ways to date and work on dating skills while at home. She shares her top tips for how to transition to online dating if you haven't before and how to have great virtual dates. Plus, you'll get answers that will help you boost your conversation skills in the apps and lockdown dates like never before. Listen in to hear answers on how you can start creating a different kind of chemistry by relying less on physicality, and more on emotions. If you're still feeling lost when it comes to fostering connections online, this is a great opportunity to join a supportive online community of amazing women in Kimmy's FREE private Facebook group, The Love Makeover Insiders. This is a chance to actually meet other wing women and create incredible, deep connections online! There's no better time than right now to start exploring the online playground and create new connections without meeting in person. Hosted by Authentic Dating and Strategic Makeover Authority Kimmy Seltzer, The Charisma Quotient shares an array of topics focused on Building Confidence, Making Connections and Finding Love. Charisma Quotient Episode 134: Surprising Answers To Your Love Questions During A Coronavirus. Connect with Kimmy through any of these links: Chat With Kimmy: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough https://seltzerstyle.com/ Twitter: @SeltzerKimberly Facebook: Kimberly Seltzer

Is it even possible with all that is going on in the media and across the world to be dating and staying connected to others during the Coronavirus? Kimmy Seltzer, shares her thoughts on maintaining personal connections in dating and in life with all the uncertainty and fear that is surrounding the coronavirus outbreak. Health officials and government warnings have kept an intense focus on a series of messages to self-quarantine as well as avoiding close personal interactions. For this week's episode called 'Dating and staying connected to others during a Coronavirus' of The Charisma Quotient, Kimmy Seltzer explains how physical or social distancing does not have to equate to total social and emotional isolation. Learning to foster these types of connections without physical contact can make a positive and healthy difference in these negative times that feel overrun with fear. Some believe when our desires for personal connections are not met, it can result in both physical and mental negative health outcomes. In this episode, Kim reviews five applicable steps to bring a renewed sense of motivation, connection, and focus with an authentic route to finding love during the coronavirus pandemic or for that matter, any type of quarantine situation. By bringing this breakneck speed of news, opinion, and information to a slower pace and identifying the 'outbreak' as a chance to break away from methods that were not working before, this could be a perfect time to reset and focus on the needs you may have been ignoring. Making the intentional choices to become healthy, happy and connected can create the opportunities to find others or that special other person that is looking for someone just like you. Whether your focus is dating and staying connected to others during a coronavirus, a pandemic, an outbreak or whatever else has you in a place of fear, Kimmy Seltzer brings a knowledge, an expertise and an array of experiences that may help you connect with that one special person… regardless of what is going on around the rest of the world. To start getting more confident and connected with potential dates, check out this *Free Photo Guidelines* for men and women to help boost your profile and start getting the kind of matches you're looking for. Plus, when you download it you'll get a discount on a Profile Makeover session with Kimmy. Hosted by Authentic Dating and Strategic Makeover Authority Kimmy Seltzer, The Charisma Quotient shares an array of topics focused on Building Confidence, Making Connections and Finding Love. Charisma Quotient Episode 133: Dating and Staying Connected to Others During the Coronavirus Connect with Kimmy here: https://seltzerstyle.com/ https://twitter.com/SeltzerKimberly/ https://facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/

Why do some people actually accelerate and have success even when there are huge obstacles in their life and others don't? Do you allow the constant walls in front of you get in the way of achieving the life and love you want? You have the power to break down these barriers by challenging the way you think and act. When you're working towards a goal, how do you go about tackling your biggest obstacles and rising to the occasion so you can progress? This week, Kim brings on a global leader in breaking barriers for women in business, Nikki Barua. As the Founder & CEO of Beyond Barriers, a platform that helps women leaders gain momentum and unlock innovative and adaptive digital-age strategies, Nikki is a master in helping you think outside of your comfort zone and be successful. Kim and Nikki begin by discussing why and how it is harmful tying yourself self-worth to the opinions of others is. As women, we often have to work harder to unlearn unhelpful patterns that diminish our confidence. If you're a people-pleaser, this can create a huge obstacle! You will learn tips about how to get around the barrier of feeling guilty when you set a boundary and how you can instead gain the clarity you need to discover what you really feel and want. Nikki explains how to stop letting others set goals for you and move into setting those benchmarks for yourself. If you need to break through the barriers that are holding you back in your love life, then reach out to Kim for a free breakthrough call here: http://charismaquotient.com/apply/. This one call could be the turning point where you stop searching for someone or something that others want for you and start prioritizing what will make you truly happy!

Welcome back to another episode of Where Are They Now? where you'll hear from inspirational women and men who have found success in love and life after coaching with Kim. In this episode, you'll meet Julie, a vibrant, classicly trained pianist podcast listener who found Kim because she was feeling paralyzed by her perfectionism and overanalyzed everything which was preventing her from finding love. Julie shares that she was driven to work with Kim because she had reached the end of her rope and needed help to get on the path of finding the right kind of relationship for her. After investing to work with Kim, you'll learn the story of how Julie learned to release anxiety and land the amazing dream guy she is dating today. Kim asks Julie to reflect back on how she grew up and the kind of people she used to attract earlier in her life. They discuss how Julie's perception of what a man "should" be has transformed while working together and the tools she learned along the way to stay in a successful relationship. This conversation will encourage you to get out of your comfort zone, let go of perfectionism and switch up your patterns to attract the right partner into your life. Listen in to hear key tips to lower anxiety and gain a clear picture of the reality of the situation so that you can date smarter. If you're struggling to get different results in your dating life or you're dealing with increasing anxiety around love, take this opportunity to learn the same lesson Julie did. Sign up for a free breakthrough call with Kim right here: meetme.so/kimbreakthrough This one call may be the very step you need to make a big difference in your love life. You could be the next star in these episodes to talk about your success story!

You're a smart, strong, successful woman. In nearly every area of your life, you're operating on the highest level. But when it comes to your love life you can't seem to find a worthy partner despite your best efforts. In this episode, Kim and her guest, dating coach Evan Marc Katz, debunk 3 major myths about why smart, strong successful women sometimes have trouble finding love. As a dating coach to powerful women since 2003, Evan is a best-selling author and the who has helped thousands of women find happy, healthy and long-term relationships. Evan digs into how he got started in the dating space and shares how he transformed from a 'serial-dater' to a happily married man. Kim and Evan discuss how making real connections on a date isn't about how much you've achieved or accomplished. Instead, it's all about how someone feels when they're with you. If you're under the impression that all smart, successful, alpha men only want to date women 'beneath' them or that you need to change who you are in order for a man to be attracted to you, you need to listen to this episode! Kim and Evan volley back and forth about how you can reframe your thought process and release yourself from the old patterns that have held you back in the past. This conversation will show you that building confidence in dating (as you have in many other areas in your life!) is all about gaining experience. It's time for you to get out of your own way and make changes you can control. So, if you're ready to stop trying to achieve a loving relationship and start attracting a great partner, sign up right here for a free breakthrough call with Kim: meetme.so/kimbreakthrough You are capable of finding the supportive, strong, successful and long-lasting relationship you've been searching for! Now is the time to recognize your strengths and apply them in the right way to discover the love you deserve.

How well do you know yourself? Do you know what your purpose is and how true to yourself are you being when you put yourself out there into the dating universe? This week, Kim has a special returning guest who breaks down exactly what the most successful people out there do to find their purpose and passion (and how you can do it too). Corey Poirier is a multiple-time TEDx and sought-after keynote speaker and host of the top-rated Conversations with Passion Radio Show. He's interviewed more than 5,000 of the world's top leaders to uncover the underlying purpose and passion that makes them unstoppable. Now, you can get his new book that explains it all, The Book of WHY (and HOW) for just 99 cents until Feb 23rd! Check it out right here: http://www.thebookofwhy.com/ Kim and Corey talk through how Corey discovered his passion and the journey he went on to reveal his purpose. In this episode, you'll go through some major lessons and tips you need to know that will help you shift in ways to think about your purpose and how to achieve the goals that excite you to attract someone great in your life. If you're struggling to find your purpose and passion or you are having trouble attracting the caliber of person you want as a partner, reach out to Kim here: meetme.so/kimbreakthrough The path to shifting your mindset and connecting with high quality people is possible for you! It's time to make the choice to create space in your life for what (and who!) you really want.

Love is in the air this week and you deserve to soak it all up! With Valentine's Day on the way, now is your opportunity to invest in you by building your relationship with yourself and learning to attract love! Every day Kim hears from people who don't know where to go to meet their match and has been wrapped up with their work life. An email from someone who would rather be alone than pick the wrong guy again. A Facebook message from someone who feels unattractive and fears being seen. The truth is, it's not hard to create a love life you deserve. In this special episode, Kim's delivering you a sneak peek of her brand new course, The Love Academy that will get you results in your love life. As part of Kim's incredible podcast community, you're getting an inside scoop of the secret ingredients to her signature Charisma Quotient Formula and how you can use this to attract love. This show breaks down the 3 major components: Style Intelligence, Emotional Intelligence, and Social Intelligence and how to apply it in your dating life. If you've been a long-time listener of the podcast, you know that Kim offers in-person coaching, phone-coaching, virtual makeovers and more to help women and men all over the world find love. If you've ever thought about working with Kim before, but didn't have the budget to make it happen, or it wasn't the right time for you -- you've got to check out this special offer to early access to The Love Academy. Not only will you get an on-demand video course you can watch (and listen, just like the podcast!), but you'll also get access to a private Facebook community of other wing-women, and group coaching sessions to get your questions answered directly by Kim. If this episode resonates with you and you're tired of feeling lonely, detached, numbing out swiping on dating apps and not attracting love in your life and you're ready to start getting real results, then start taking action with this course. Check out this exclusive Love Academy pre-sale offer right here: https://bl394-94b6ab.pages.infusionsoft.net/ See you inside!

Are soul mates real? Is there one special, perfect person out there made especially for you? This week on the show, Kim and her expert guest answer some soulful questions: Does your relationship have a destiny? How do you find your soulmate? You'll benefit from the wisdom of Cynthia Clark, who has helped more than 7,000 busy professionals find lasting love and soulmate connections through the soulmate code system. Using the science of palmistry she helps you understand your love language for powerful soul connections. First, you'll learn what a soul mate actually is and how your definition impacts the quality of your relationship. When you find your soul mate, these bonds open you up and help you and your partner grow personally through the relationship. You might be surprised to find out how fate and destiny play into this definition. Listen in to hear how Cynthia defines everyone's "relationship genius" and what you can do to discover yours! Kim asks Cynthia about the different kinds of soul mate archetypes and ties it into her dating archetypes, how to identify yours and find the right match for you. Cynthia shares the secrets to your love life that could be hiding in your hands. Tune in to hear all about. If you want to join Cynthia's Soul Mate Connection Membership program, sign up here: https://cynthiaclark.simplero.com/products/79167-Soulmate-Connection-Basic-Membership?ref=16265-Kim-Seltzer. And after you learn your soulmate archetype, you'll want to learn what your dating archetype is by taking my exclusive Dating Archetype Quiz here https://bit.ly/2JZsSYY so you know how to overcome your challenges and capture that soulmate. Each step you take on your path brings to closer to finding love you deserve!

Do you believe that you are capable of everything you want to achieve in your life? Do you believe you deserve a loving, happy, and healthy relationship? This week, Kim tackles a BIG question we've all had: are you GOOD ENOUGH? It doesn't matter if you're already successful by other people's standards or if you're just starting your life's journey--we all deal with feeling like we're not *enough* for a lot of different reasons. But sometimes those negative messages are so loud that it negatively affects your ability to attract a healthy relationship. If you have ever questioned whether or not you're good enough to deserve what you want, this show was made just for you! Kim dives into how your experience growing up informs how you think about yourself. If you've ever found yourself trying to fix other people or putting others before yourself consistently, it may be your way to seek approval or validation which could be killing your love life. Kim delivers essential tips that will help you reprogram the inner critic so that you can walk into your next date, networking event or any social situation feeling good enough. When you're ready to shed your insecurities and be honest about your strengths, you begin to shine and attract the kind of people in your life who actually deserve you. In our social media-obsessed world, it can become all too easy to compare yourself to others. To combat that, you'll hear about what you can do to boost your body confidence, starting with downloading your free body type guide on Kim's site, seltzerstyle.com. So, if you're ready to stop the Gremlins in your head and start being your best self - sign up for a free breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough You deserve to see yourself as attractive, sexy and yes…good enough!

Are you afraid to put yourself out there or are you ready to speak out and be heard? Did you know that finding and owning your voice is a huge part of interaction and attraction? When it comes to finding love, owning your voice is essential - but finding the courage to speak up AND be vulnerable can be tough. Luckily, Kim's bringing on an expert at finding the voice from within - celebrated voice actor and coach, David Rosenthal. As CEO of Global Voice Acting Academy, he's voiced thousands of commercials and video games and has helped countless people discover their inner ability to move through the world without fear. David discusses details of how you can build up your self-confidence and conversational skills with some easy to do exercises. You'll hear some of the things David does with his clients so you can test them yourself and start establishing your voice now. This conversation will help you feel empowered to play! Learn how to experiment with your tonality, speed, and volume so you can bring your stories to life. And listen in to hear David coach Kim in a quick improv session to learn how it's done! If you're looking to improve your self-confidence, speak your truth and find your voice, reach out to Kim for a free 30-minute breakthrough session:https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. If you find yourself shrinking in conversations or you feel scared to shared your opinions, thoughts and stories with others - it's time to break out and make a change! Book your call today.

We're back with the first "What Would Kim Do?" segment of 2020! Write in your dating and love questions to @SeltzerKimberly on Facebook, and your question could be featured on an upcoming episode. This week, Kim talks through how to conquer your fears around rejection, get comfortable with who you are, how to date as a single parent and get clarity on what you want in a partner. If you've ever struggled with addiction or addictive tendencies, you'll also want to pay attention to this episode. Kim answers a question about how addiction can seriously affect your love life and what to do about it. You'll hear a question with an insightful answer as to why it's helpful to learn to not get too attached as you date. Listen in for some ninja tips on how to find your voice and get out of your own way. When you know what you want and feel good with who you are, you have the freedom to try new things and be yourself without fear. This episode will show you that choosing to give people a chance helps you learn how to make dating fun and more connected! Once you know that you want to start attracting different people into your life, you've got to make a plan to accomplish it! If you are looking to make some concrete changes, get in touch with Kim and hop on the phone for a free breakthrough call here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough Getting coaching can be the biggest catalyst to jump start in your love life in a whole new way!

Are you comfortable being seen? Now that it is a new year, it's a great time to push yourself to be more visible so that you can attract great things. The image you project to others is a direct reflection of who you are and how others perceive you. So, you won't be surprised to learn that image is the first key to your ability to find love. This week, Kim interviews Debbi Dachinger. She's a media visibility expert, keynote speaker and author of three international bestselling books. She has been interviewed on over 1,000 media outlets and hosts the syndicated, award-winning Dare to Dream podcast. Kim jumps in by sharing a personal story that demonstrates what happens when you hide in your clothes and play small. These two dish it out better than anyone about the magic that happens in your personal and professional life when you seek to be seen, heard, and served. Debbi divulges her rules for creating a visibility factor that work on TV, on dates, and more! Kim and Debbi discuss the importance of recognizing and respecting how you feel and how to allow those feelings to surface authentically. The trick is, expressing that in an honest, genuine way that builds connection. This episode proves that when your outer image reflects the authentic person you are inside, incredible results will follow. Stick around until the end to hear Debbi's rendition of a love song about one of her crushes! If you are struggling to feel visible, open and connected, you'll definitely want to listen to this uplifting and fun episode to learn how to be a celebrity in your own love life. And to kick off the new year right with new energy and goals, sign up for a free breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough Connect with Kim to talk through what comes up for you when you think about your image and some concrete steps you can take to show up as your best self in 2020.

Kicking off 2020 with an inspiring success story, Kim's back with another episode of Where Are They Now? You'll hear from Cathy, a client of Kim's who, after coaching with Kim, has made some amazing strides. Her confidence has soared! Her ability to take action in alignment with what she wants has built positive momentum in all areas of her life. When Cathy first got in touch with Kim, she was struggling with overthinking and overanalyzing which was causing some major anxiety and stumbling blocks with dating. If you've ever experienced that, you know how hard it can be to stay out of your head and allow yourself to be present and connect in the moment. Cathy and Kim talk through how they were able to work together and create a structure that helped Cathy get clearer on what she wanted. They discuss that by learning new skills and rooting out the origins of her anxiety, Cathy is now meeting guys left and right! Your ability to flirt and be comfortable getting attention and being seen are all connected. Listen in to hear Kim's #1 tip around how to find joy when you're dating without attachment. It's a new year! This is a moment to look at your life with a fresh perspective and get inspired by the successes of others so you can create success on your terms! All it takes is one call. Sign up for your breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough You could even be featured on a future episode of Where Are They Now with your success story! If you're ready to work through your anxiety around dating, or you're having trouble expressing yourself through all the thoughts swirling around in your head, get in touch with Kim. Start 2020 off right!

This holiday season, Kim asks the hard question: Are you naughty or nice? What if this holiday season was about receiving more than giving? On this week's show, Kim reveals to 5 Ways You Can Be Naughty Instead of Nice in your love life. Listen in, some of her tips might surprise you! When it comes to dating, you can achieve a healthy balance by being a little naughty! This doesn't mean being over the top but instead learning how to set more boundaries for yourself and let go of the tendency to always be polite. Sometimes naughtiness can go too far, but sometimes it's OK to be a little selfish! This show is all about how to strike the right balance for you and bring some variety into your love life to help you let go, take risks and find love. It's about breaking out of the hamster wheel, expressing yourself and not taking yourself too seriously so that you create opportunity to find real love...not love that is fabricated based on what others want for you. If you're feeling like you are giving more than receiving, it might be time to find your voice, speak up and choose to be naughtier than you usually are! And, if you've noticed you've started to feel resentment and overwhelmed about putting other people's happiness before your own, here's something you can do to end 2019 on a high note! Sign up for a breakthrough call with Kim, right here https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough: and allow yourself to put YOU first!

So how many times do you cover your ears or put on a fake smile in fear of being yourself? How much energy do you expend worrying about being normal, proper or polite in order to be accepted? This week, we're getting *real*. Really freaking real by learning how to be your authentic self to attract love. Kim interviews Lisa Cherney, host of the ground-breaking Get F**king Real Podcast and founder of the GFR Squad. Lisa works with entrepreneurs and business owners to strip the masks and get real into order to help people fulfill their mission. This conversation cuts to the core fast - you might be surprised how Lisa's tips usually reserved for marketers and entrepreneurs are completely applicable in the dating world. Here's the truth, when you hide your authentic and vulnerable side, you actually attract lopsided relationships and you're much more likely to feel resentment. Kim and Lisa discuss how if you find yourself "tolerating" people, situations or environments around you, it sucks up both negative energy and physical space in your life. You'll hear some juicy, incredible tips from both experts about how to let go of the things in your life that don't feel good and how that will allow the universe to attract positivity. Listen as Lisa shares her unique GFR commandments and how those can help you in relationships and love. And, stick around to hear a great trick you can use to help you figure out the source of your self-doubt so you can learn how to overcome it. If you're sick and tired of not being honest with yourself and with others and you're dying to feel the energy, passion, and spark in your life again, you'll love this episode! If you want to understand the tools to give yourself permission to get real and find your authentic self, you've got to sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with Kim by clicking right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough It's almost the end of the decade, it's not worth spending another moment not living as the REAL you.

Many of you may have heard of the Law of Attraction which is the ability for you to attract what you're focused on into your life. However, many of you may not have heard of the Law of Action...taking intentional actions that are in alignment with your goals. Without implementing the Law of Action into your life, the Law of Attraction will never generate results. In this episode of the Charisma Quotient, Kim interviews Rob Actis, the perfect guest to discuss the incredible ability to take action! Rob is the #1 bestselling author of The Law of Action and a renowned voice-actor (along with plenty of other titles, he even narrates his own book)! Kim and Rob dive right in and discuss many of Rob's life experiences that left him sure that he was still on this planet for a reason. Through personal and family health scares, a slew of near-death experiences, Rob says he loves being alive and truly lives each day like it's his last on earth. Kim asks Rob how he managed to get through some of his more harrowing experiences and how he has been able to *choose* intentional action even when it's really difficult. You'll hear Rob's method for building a foundation of momentum starting small and snowballing to MASSIVE action. Kim and Rob talk through the motivating events that launch us into action and tangible steps you can do to get there. One tip this show will teach you...when you surround yourself with positive people who encourage you, lift you up and push you forward, it's a lot easier to have a positive viewpoint of your capabilities. This episode is all about practical advice to empower yourself to take action, one step at a time towards whatever you want to achieve! You have to start somewhere so here is the PERFECT action for you and it's with a community of motivating women to encourage you. It's the LAST DAY to sign up for Kim's Flirt & Femininity Challenge - it STARTS TODAY and it's not to late! Click here to sign up: https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD now.

It's time for another episode of Where Are They Now?, the segment where Kim brings back former coaching clients to share success stories and progress. There is a light at the end of the tunnel! This week, you'll meet Ivy, a podcast listener of 2 years and a veteran of Kim's Flirt and Femininity Challenge and private coaching program. When Ivy started with Kim, she had no dating experience and had a lot of fears that were holding her back. She needed someone to hold her accountable to her goals and help her take the leap into self-love and confidence so she started with the 14-Day online challenge. Seeing how effective the program was for her, at the end Ivy was determined to take it to the next level and coach with Kim through private phone coaching. Kim and Ivy discuss how picky she used to be regarding men, how her perfectionism got in the way of letting go on dates and just having fun, and how she was limiting her opportunities with this mindset. This conversation is inspiring and uplifting! You'll hear all about how Ivy transformed to be able to express her emotions more clearly, learned to respect herself fully and get to know and love the woman she is. With her new found confidence, Ivy is now dating up a storm and actually having fun doing it! And, if you love a good makeover transformation, you've got to head over to Kim's Instagram page @kimmyseltzer to see Ivy's transformation for yourself! If you're listening and find that motivation is the obstacle blocking your path, this is your chance to break out of your pattern and start where Ivy did! Sign up for the next round of Kim's Flirt and Femininity Challenge by clicking right here: https://bit.ly/2YM4ddDThis is a private group just for women like you to learn flirting techniques, feel more connected with your body and feminine energy. The challenge starts on December 11th, so sign up while you can!

What does it truly mean to move from surviving to thriving? How do you maintain optimism throughout the challenges that life and love present? This week on the show, Kim interviews a powerhouse in the realm of thriving, Lou Diamond, host of the Thrive Loud podcast. Kim and Lou talk about the difference between surviving and thriving in today's digital age and how to push yourself to meet all the goals you set. The more you reward yourself for using a positive outlook, focusing on using and celebrating your strengths, the more you will move towards thriving in your life. Kim and Lou discuss Lou's history in this space and all of the lessons he's learned along the way about how to course correct. Lou dives into simple steps you can take to transform your greatest adversities into your biggest strengths and discover your superpowers. This conversation is inspirational and motivating. It will help you recognize moments in your own life where you have an opportunity to thrive and move towards your goals. And, if you're ready to start to thrive in your dating life, now is your chance to kick into high gear. Kim is running another Flirt and Femininity Challenge starting December 11! It's a private group just for women where Kim assigns a daily challenge around flirting for you to implement in real-time. If you need to work on holding yourself accountable to your goals, this challenge is the perfect fit! Click here to join and see you inside https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD.

Do you have a strong desire to change but lack the motivation? When you're trying to change your behavior, your motivation needs to be stronger than your fears, but how do you actually make it happen? This week, Kim delivers 6 Motivation Hacks that will help you stir up your passion and drive to make the changes you want in your life. If you listen to this podcast as part of your routine (we love that!), but we know it can be all too easy to listen, go about your regular life and put aside things you might have been inspired to do. On this show, Kim will reveal the secrets to unlock and embrace your desire to get different results in your life! And, if you're having trouble launching yourself into a new behavior, Kim will explain how to gamify your goals so that you can take small steps regularly towards the things you want to improve. If you stick to any of the motivation tips you'll learn in this episode, you will really start to see a difference. Ultimately, you have the power to make the changes you want to see in yourself but you have to have the motivation to do so. It definitely helps if you have a supportive community set up to hold you accountable for your commitments. Well, you're in luck! Back by popular demand, Kim is running another Flirt and Femininity Challenge https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD. It's a private group just for women where Kim assigns a daily challenge around flirting for you to implement in real-time. Plus, to give you a little extra kick of motivation... the first 10 women that sign up for a breakthrough session with Kim will be entered into the Flirt & Femininity Challenge for FREE ($47 value)!! If you need to work on holding yourself accountable for your goals, this double challenge is the perfect fit! Schedule it now! https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

This week on the Charisma Quotient Kim and her guest, host of the Men on Purpose Podcast Emerald GreenForest are talking two major topics you might be surprised to find out are totally related -- Love and Money! Known as the Wealthy Life Mentor, Emerald shares the steps to her wealthy life mindset. You'll hear client stories and examples that show how interconnected the success of your love life and your money in the bank are. It all tracks back to mindset. Kim and Emerald's conversation will prompt you to ask yourself, are you inviting in opportunities to your life that help you grow and expand, or do your intentions tell a different story? Kim asks Emerald to go into the details and origins of her wealthy mindset steps and explain how those can relate to discovering abundance in your dating life too. You'll also hear why creative types have trouble maintaining an interest in dating apps! This conversation will help you think outside the box and achieve success in your dating life by looking at one area of success in your life, and apply them where you want to see improvement. If this conversation speaks to you and you're looking to shift your perspective, sign up for a free breakthrough call with Kim. She will help you learn to create wealth in your love life! Click here to sign up: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Are you a leader in your own love life? Do you have the courage to take control of your love life? This week on the show, Kim interviews a powerhouse in courageous leadership, Rich "Trigger" Bontrager. As a Motivational Speaker, Pastor, Storyteller and Coach, Rich helps people rise above what holds them back to create confidence and empower leaders and communicators. Rich and Kim jump right in to talk about Rich's childhood and how he has defied the odds and overcome several different health issues that doctors were sure he couldn't come back from. He talks through how his health issues have impacted his relationships and how he was able to maintain courage and confidence throughout. This conversation is inspiring and will help you create hope for the future. Resilience in your pursuit of finding love is essential for success, but it's not always easy to create. You'll learn some concrete tips to have courage to defy the odds in your love life and understand the importance of becoming the leader you need to be in order to attract what you want. Whatever your baggage is, whatever you believe is holding you back in your life from finding the love you want -- this show will help give you the tools not to bring that baggage with you. If you want to learn how to have the courage, defy the odds and be a leader in your love life, then hop on a FREE breakthrough call with Kim now. You can sign up right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough She will definitely help you get there!

Kim's back with another episode of What Would Kim Do? This is the segment where Kim answers your questions by explaining what she would do in your situation. If you want your question to be featured on a future episode, connect with Kim on Facebook via direct message @SeltzerKimberly. On this show, you'll hear an answer for what to do if you're interested in attracting someone who you think is "out of your league". Then, you'll hear a question from a man who says he's looking for an emotionally open and available woman who feels misunderstood in the process of meeting women. Kim's answer dives into the push and pull between what you say you want, and what you're putting out there. And, find out how you can use Pinterest to actually increase your self-image and start seeing yourself outside of the mirror! This episode will show you that practice makes perfect, how to gain self love and starting with a smile can set your intention for any interaction. If you listen in week to week and you have a pile of questions for Kim, we have the perfect solution for you. Sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough Your first step to getting the answers you've been looking for in your love life is a couple of clicks away! For those of you in the New York City area, Kim is bringing the Flirt Academy to you! On Tuesday, November 5th, she's hosting a workshop for women to learn how to flirt with sexy confidence and own any room you are in! Sign up right here: https://www.facebook.com/events/440617036809810/

Engaging in a healthy lifestyle and creating balance between your emotional and physical wellbeing is key to helping you find lasting love in your life. That's why we're dedicating a whole show to helping you choose to live the lifestyle that works best for you and your health needs. This week on the show, Kim interviews Rob Dionne, a celebrated health and wellness coach based in L.A. who is the host of the Open Sky Fitness Podcast with his amazing wife Devon. Rob's latest endeavor is OCD, the Official Coffee Diet, designed to help people drop body fat and increase their energy quickly. Robs starts right off by opening up about his personal life and a major event that happened in his childhood dealing with the health of a loved one that totally rocked his world. Ever since then, his perspective on what it *really* means to live a healthy lifestyle completely shifted from his upbringing of carb and dairy-heavy diets. Rob goes through some of the differences and benefits of Whole 30, Paleo, and Keto diets you've been hearing about in the media for the last several years. Kim and Rob talk through Rob's history of yo-yo dieting, dieting for fitness competitions, and he and his wife's transition into adopting a comprehensive view of healthy living -- not just dieting. And, since this is the Charisma Quotient, you'll hear Kim compare the typical way people date online (swipe after swipe, after swipe), to figuring out something more consistent that feels good over time, not just for a quick hit. This conversation will help you think about healthy living in a more holistic way, keeping your physical and emotional health in check. You can't diet or date in short spurts without a consistent strategy or consistent goals. If you're looking to create more balance in your love life sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. And, if you're in New York City next month, come to her exclusive Flirt Academy November 5th, sign up soon! It's a small group, with limited seating. Grab your tickets here: https://www.facebook.com/events/440617036809810/

You've read every advice column on romance, endured years of therapy, bought every single book on how to find love...and yet you keep striking out in the dating scene! So, what's really going on? It could be any number of things, but... have you ever stopped to think that you might be overthinking things? If you find yourself getting stuck in your head, ruminating on what happened, what could happen, or what you want to happen, this episode is your answer. Kim will teach you to get out of your head in order to stay present and date successfully. You'll hear a story about a guy Kim coached who exemplified the classic case of overthinking. His experiences might sound familiar to you, and the solutions he worked on with Kim may surprise you! This show is super informative because it demonstrates how important it is to be present in order to make new connections and create attraction. You'll learn several strategies and secret weapons of how to filter through all of the noise and information overload, so you can focus on creating a meaningful connection with the person sitting next to you. If you subscribe to the belief that it's easier to study than to "act", then sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim so you can start with putting yourself into action right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. And, if you're in New York City next month, come to her exclusive Flirt Academy November 5th! It's a small group with limited seating so grab your tickets now! Click here: https://www.facebook.com/events/440617036809810/

When it comes to the initial phases in dating where it often feels like a whirlwind of emotions, romance and crazy-amazing sex, men and women have very different experiences. Why? Falling in love for a man isn't the same as it is for a woman. On this week's show, Kim interviews the celebrated bestselling author John Gray for a juicy discussion on specifically how men and women date differently. He is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. He helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in personal and professional relationships. Kim and John dig right in to talk about John's incredible history and back story, including the relationship with his wife. You'll hear about John's 8 basic distinctions between men and women. Once you understand the differences, it helps you translate your needs to the person you're dating, regardless of gender. John opens up about the process of creating a series of positive dating experiences and how that gets you to find the successful relationship you desire. This episode is FULL of unique tips along with powerful life and relationship advice. Listen in to hear Kim and John's conversation about the stages of dating and how challenges are given to you to ultimately create stronger relationships. If you are ready to start working on yourself and make the changes in the way you do relationships, sign up for a free coaching call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. In just ONE 30-minute call, you could be on your way to discovering how you can find the love.

This week, Kim connects with her recent coaching client, Amanda, for another episode of Where Are They Now? This is the segment where Kim chats with the women and men she's worked with before to learn how their lives have transformed outside and in. When you listen to these episodes, you will be inspired and motivated to hear not only that these tips and tools actually work, but that there is sticking power to people's successes. Amanda's story with Kim began 3 months prior to this episode as a divorced woman starting over after 11 years of marriage. Amanda felt completely lost and lacked motivation to date. More specifically, it was revealed that she needed help working on expressing her needs, relieving herself of some of the old tapes that were keeping her stuck as a caregiver and to stop self-medicating with alcohol as a release to cope. Now after just 3 months coaching with Kim, Amanda's having fun dating a younger man, just bought a new house, and has the confidence to up level her career with a new job! Now, she's got a new man and a whole new outlook on life. Kim helped Amanda uncover some codependent tendencies she carried with her into her relationship and you'll hear how she learned to prioritize her own self-care and self-awareness. You'll even hear how Kim helped bring to the surface something Amanda didn't even know she was saying in order to accommodate other people. Listen to the end for some advice from Amanda if you're on the fence about reaching out for coaching or help. Imagine where you could be in 3 months, a year or even two years from now! If you've been getting the same results over and over again and you need something new in your life to break that pattern, sign up for a FREE coaching session with Kim right now: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. In just 30 minutes you could have a whole new outlook and specific next steps to start loving yourself and your new life.

Do you feel invisible? Do you think that people notice everyone else in the room but you? Do you wonder why others don't seem to hear you, or maybe... you'd rather they don't look at you at all? On this week's episode, Kim talks through the Top 5 Ways You're Making Yourself Invisible and gives you actionable strategies to break that pattern. In fact, there are some crucial things you might be doing subconsciously to keep yourself invisible. Whether you're looking to be seen, or you just need a boost of confidence to come out of your shell and shine, Kim shares what you can do to get there! If you have ever felt that you accept less than you deserve, often find yourself in lopsided relationships or interactions, or feel like people always misinterpret your intentions, then this show was made for you! You'll hear Kim talk through how in your quest to be polite or avoid confrontation, others may view you as passive-aggressive. Listen in to hear tips on how a few simple body language or conversation tricks can change everything, without having to change who you are! This episode will help you ask yourself some big questions. And if you are tired of being invisible and really want to get a handle on this part of your life, then sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with her right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough One call could help you understand how this invisibility can be blocking you in all areas of your life. Be seen and be heard! Sign up today.

When you put yourself out there in the dating world, you're marketing your social capital. That means your interpersonal value, your looks, your income and more -- it's all the value you bring to the table. The more your self-esteem increases, the more your social capital increases. This week on the show, Kim interviews a master of social capital, Cayla Craft. Cayla is a bestselling author, self-made millionaire, top sales influencer and host of the Mommy Millionaire Podcast. She went from saving lives in the ER as a nurse to helping women own their own successful business. Cayla shares her transformation from ER nurse to network marketing powerhouse, and how she came into her own as her financial independence solidified. Kim and Cayla discuss getting clear on who you are and who you want to be so you can take action every single day to align with the best version of yourself. You'll hear Cayla's quick trick on how to check in with yourself and make sure you're operating at the highest level possible throughout the day. Kim and Cayla discuss how to effectively market yourself in business AND in dating. This conversation will encourage you to take a good look at who you want to be or become and what you truly deserve. Learn the secret to attracting the kind of people and opportunities to you want into your life. If you're looking to increase your social capital, or start attracting what and who you really deserve, sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. In a 30-minute 1-on-1 call with Kim, you'll be able to gain clarity on what you want and how to market yourself to live the life you want.

Would you describe yourself as someone who hates confrontation? Do you do things simply to please others because you want to be a peacekeeper? Or maybe you find yourself in constant discomfort when there are tense situations. This week, tune in and listen to Kim's interview with powerhouse duo CrisMarie Clarke and Susan Campbell. CrisMarie and Susan co-founded the company Thrive! and have a brand new book, The Beauty of Conflict. They work with leadership teams, management groups, project teams and senior executive teams to resolve conflict in real-time and use it to drive collective creativity, profits, and extraordinary results. CrisMarie and Susan teach that conflict is natural when smart, passionate people work together towards an ambitious goal. Kim, CrisMarie, and Susan discuss that oftentimes, in an effort to avoid conflict, you actually end up causing MORE conflict because people don't know who you really are and what you really want. This conversation displays the beauty in conflict and how expressing yourself to solve problems gets you to a better solution every time. Listen in to learn about how not having your voice to speak up can be a career-limiting and relationship-limiting move. Especially if you are a people-pleaser, you'll learn that simply pacifying others and not speaking up about what you want may actually be causing more confusion about your motives. If you're searching for conflict-resolution strategies in your personal or professional life, you're in the right place! You'll get a fundamental understanding in how to resolve issues and confront problems head-on without burning bridges or conceding your true feelings. Take the first step and sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough In just half an hour, you will have usable, valuable insights into how you can express your needs and wants successfully. Sign up today!

We're back with another episode of What Would Kim Do? Surprising Answers to Your Love Questions! On these episodes, Kim answers listener questions directly. This week you'll hear answers about how to stop attracting unavailable guys, how to gain the confidence to ask women out without using gimmicks or pick-up lines, and how to adjust your online dating profile to entice the kind of person you'll actually like! If you're frustrated because you're not attracting or meeting the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with, this episode will give you some great insight into how you can change your approach to get a different result. If you're anxious or nervous about asking women (or men!) out, then stay tuned for the second question Kim answers. She provides some tangible strategies to create curiosity and ask questions designed to get positive responses. Overall, this is about sending signals to the world that you're available and open. That's the best way to put yourself out there and go after what you want! If you want your question to be featured on a future episode, reach out to Kim on Facebook @SeltzerKimberly. And, if you're looking to connect with a group of women dedicated to changing their love stories, then join Kim's free Facebook group, the Love Makeover Insiders: https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL Sometimes it's scary to ask for help, but you are NOT alone. Join Kim's group for a built-in community of women who are on their journey to change their story from the outside in.

How many times have you been asked, why are you still single? Sure, it's frustrating to hear - but what if you knew you were self-sabotaging and contributing to your own single status? This week on the show, Kim interviews women's addiction and recovery expert, Tracy O'Malley. Tracy has helped thousands of women emerge from overwhelm to create thriving businesses. Kim and Tracy have a lively, personal discussion about the root of self-sabotage and how this dynamic keeps you stuck. Tracy shares her journey recovering from addiction and demonstrates the fine line between self-care and self-sabotage when it came to her relationships. If you have a tendency to expect the worst result and are often disappointed with the outcome you get, this episode was made for you. Listen in to discover how you may be contributing to your own failures because of negative beliefs you're holding onto. They go into actionable tips on how to get around repeating old patterns from your past that don't serve you. This is an uplifting, inspiring and deep conversation that you will find a ton of value in. Kim and Tracy connect over one of the biggest love lessons ever - if you don't repair it, you'll repeat it! Self-sabotage can happen to anyone, but you don't have to handle it alone. If you're struggling with repeating bad patterns for yourself in your love life, break the cycle with a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim. You can sign up right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough and within just half an hour you can start to uncover your path forward.

What are your dating fears? It's easy to say that you haven't met the right person or you're not ready for a relationship. With the potential for great love and happiness comes the risk of disappointment. This week, Kim knocks out the Top 5 Dating Fears that keep you from finding love AND gives you actionable tips to conquer them. Whether you get uncontrollable butterflies in your stomach before a first date or cringe thinking about the prospect of meeting someone new or perhaps your palms get sweaty when you think about being vulnerable -- chances are she'll cover it on this episode. Listen in to hear about how your fear of rejection or abandonment may be a self-fulfilling prophecy and what you can do to remove yourself from that negative cycle and get a different result. If you have a ton of anxiety around dating, chances are that its fear getting in the way which Kim will help you uncover. She first dissects parts of your fears and then kicks you gear to face your fear. Kim talks through different strategies to prepare yourself to tackle your fear head-on without letting your worst instincts hold you back. A lot of times, the fear we feel is derived from wanting to be perfect. Kim discusses how that perfectionist need can be tempered so you can let go, have fun, and flirt without the fear of making a mistake. The biggest thing you'll learn from this episode is... EVERYONE is afraid and that you are not alone! If you want to ensure that your fears are not holding you back from finding love, sign up for a FREE break through call with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. In 30 minutes you'll learn where the fears are coming from and tips on how to address them.

How do you maintain confidence throughout the dating process, even when things don't work out? Online dating has produced so many changes to how we date. Now, you can connect with thousands of singles in seconds, but how do you find the best match for you? When you operate from a fear of rejection, even the most confident people are not immune to the negative impact it can have on your dating life. On this episode, you will meet Katherine, who began coaching with Kim because she was in the market for an image and dating confidence makeover. Now that her pictures are getting her clicks and interest, she's deep in the throes of the online dating vortex and is struggling to have fun, be flirtatious and exude the confidence while on the dates. The good news is, she's got a ton of matches, the challenge is sorting through to find the *right* kind of guy she can get excited about. Kim and Katherine talk through her most recent hurdle -- two dates canceling last minute -- and what Katherine can do to manage her expectations and feelings of disappointment. Kim talks about the paradox of choice and why more people report feeling higher levels of anxiety around it. When dating feels transactional, establishing a meaningful connection isn't easy! If you're working to increase your self-esteem, or have little or negative dating experiences, these effects can be even more painful. But it can be if you are armed with knowledge, realistic expectations and a heavy dose of self-compassion. This conversation is energetic, honest and leaves you with a positive impression that there is a light at the end of the tunnel! Kim talks Katherine through specific ways she can get out of her head on dates, release the burden of the expectation and shift her mindset to get a different result. If you're looking to gain more confidence in your flirting skills - back by popular demand - Kim is rebooting her 14-Day Flirt + Femininity Challenge on August 19th! If you're serious about changing your story, join a group of motivated, action-taking women and sign up here: https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD

Whether you're casually dating, or you're in a long-term relationship, setting boundaries is imperative! In order to have a healthy relationship, both parties need to be comfortable sharing their needs without fear of judgment or retaliation. This week on the show, Kim interviews relationship coach, and host of the podcast Love with Integrity, Silvy Khoucasian. Silvy has coached countless singles and couples throughout her career to have fulfilling, happy relationships by focusing on setting healthy boundaries. Kim and Silvy talk through the importance of owning your needs and wants from the minute you start dating someone. Even though it seems scary to be vulnerable, ultimately by communicating up front your needs and passions, you are setting up both you and your partner for success. Silvy digs into the different boundaries that people with various kinds of attachment styles tend to need during the different dating phases. If you've felt nervous, anxious or tend to avoid boundary-setting conversations, listen up! This conversation will deliver you specific language to use to steer the other person in the direction of what you love and seeing how they respond. Whether your instinct on a first date is to rattle off all your major boundaries, or if you avoid sharing what you need and want, this conversation covers that and everything in between. When you operate from a place of honest vulnerability, it can be empowering and help you reduce the fear and anxiety around potential rejection. If you are looking for strategies on how to set boundaries while dating and in relationships, this episode has got you covered! It is possible to show someone else the truth of who you are and bring up your vulnerabilities in an open and inviting way. If you have difficulties setting boundaries and want a road map in how to do it, sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough In just half an hour, you will have usable, valuable insights into how you can express your needs and wants successfully. Sign up today (limited spots available)

This week, we're doing something special to mark the 100th Episode of the Charisma Quotient! This episode is a conversation between Kim and the never heard before show's producer Anna, counting down the Top 5 episodes thus far. You'll hear a short clip from each episode and Kim breaking down the biggest Life Love Lessons while sharing some incredible client success stories around each lesson. Wherever you are in your love journey, this episode will have a tip you can use! It's like the greatest hits of the podcast up to this point. Listen in to learn how to evaluate your own behavior on dates and what to look for when you're attracting the wrong kind of partner for you. Or, if you have a tendency to stay in relationships for too long, #5 on the countdown will give you some insight into how to shift your results. For the ladies, if you're caught up in feeling like there are no good men out there or that you just aren't speaking the same language as the men you date, #2 on the countdown will answer some of your questions. Plus, Kim reads several notes from former clients who have discovered the confidence and courage inside themselves to live their best love life. You'll hear a story from a woman who's meeting, flirting and connecting with great men in new places, a woman who finally attracted the right guy for her, and a beautiful, touching story from a woman who discovered her fairytale romance that brings tears to Kim's eyes. If you enjoy the show and look forward to new episodes each week, take a moment to rate the show on iTunes or your favorite podcast app, write a review or tell a friend, family member or coworker to listen. You could even write a review that tells others the life love lessons you've learned from listening. The more people rate, review and subscribe, the easier it is for others to find the show. It really does help! The Charisma Quotient team is so grateful to YOU, our amazing listeners for sticking with us and growing this community for 100 episodes!

What do men really want? Are they only looking for physical attractiveness and sexual chemistry, or something more meaningful? On this week's show, Kim interviews dating and relationship coach Scot McKay, founder of X & Y Communications with his wife Emily. Now a four-time Amazon #1 bestselling author, Scot hosts the popular podcast Moutain Top and he has been invited to speak at high profile conferences and over 400 media outlets have consulted him, including ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox, BBC, MTV, Forbes, Lifetime, Men's Health and The Wall Street Journal. Although the title of this episode is focused on what men are looking for, this podcast is for BOTH genders. This funny and energetic conversation starts with giving you some real insights into how to attract a real "quality man." Kim and Scot also riff back and forth on how men and women tend to misinterpret the intentions of the opposite sex. Plus, listen in for some useful tips about how to perfect your online dating profile. Scot shares some stories from when he was still dating to demonstrate some strategies around how men can take the lead on a date without the fear of their actions being misinterpreted as creepy or pushy. Especially in the era of #MeToo where both women and men are more aware than ever of how they come off to one another, this conversation will help you ease some tension for both genders! If you want to learn how to look your best on your online dating profile sign up for Kim's new 90-Minute Dating Profile Makeover here: https://bl394-500ee6.pages.infusionsoft.net/ Kim is also going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the next Flirt Academy Workshop in San Francisco July 25! Get your tickets as there are a few slots left https://www.facebook.com/events/840244789682404/

Do you consider yourself a relationship person and hate dating? Do you find yourself going 0-60 on the first date, interrogating the other person to see if they're your next soulmate? Or perhaps you are getting attached to the outcome with your dates. On this episode of Coaching with Kim, you'll meet Louise and hear about some surprising mistakes relationship-oriented people make when dating. Louise has been on a professional development kick, working on herself to be more confident and successful at work. Now, she's working with Kim to level up her game in the personal and romance department. After her divorce, she dove right back into a long term relationship and now she's trying to figure out how to just date without the attachment of a relationship. Louise is having difficulties finding herself as a fun-loving, dynamic single woman separate from a man. She shares that many of her first dates feel boring and she wants to introduce more fun into her dating experience. Kim helps Louise identify some caretaking patterns from her childhood that have leaked into how she operates in relationships and dating now. If you have a tendency to support others before considering your own needs, Kim shares some strategies to use to reduce the guilty feelings that come up when you start prioritizing you. This episode is packed with practical tips on how to date as well as enhance the quality of your conversations, be more curious and make more authentic connections. If you want to learn how to date more proactively as opposed to reactively and feel more in control of your dating life like Louise - sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough Kim's going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the next Flirt Academy Workshop in San Francisco! She's got a workshop for women on July 25! Get your tickets here https://www.facebook.com/events/840244789682404/

Do you ever wish you could change the story to your love life? Have you thought about talking to someone to help you do that? After today's special episode, you will be inspired to do both! On this powerful episode, Kim interviews the popular Lori Gottlieb, a celebrated psychotherapist and NY Times bestselling author of the new book, "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone." https://amzn.to/2JK3DqX Currently being adapted as a TV series on ABC with Eva Longoria, the book dives into Lori's personal experience seeking therapy after a crisis threatens to crush her world and details several stories based on her patients over the years. As a former therapist herself, Kim shares her experience post-divorce when she needed to reach out for more support to change her love story. Lori and Kim have a special conversation discussing the truth that even professionals need professional guidance in their personal lives. Nobody is immune from the struggle and by sharing stories, we can all break patterns and heal. This conversation is fundamentally about how to allow yourself to be emotionally open with other people. Whether it's with your next date or your therapist, this episode will show you the difference between true vulnerability and TMI! If you've ever found yourself dating the "same person" over and over again, or repeating patterns you can't figure out how to break, listen closely! You will hear concrete advice from 2 licensed professionals about how to break your cycle. It's rarely easy to reach out for help when you need it, but when you do you strengthen relationships and change the story of your love life. Take the first step in talking with someone by signing up for a breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough Also, if you're going to be in the San Francisco area July 25-26, Kim's Flirt Academy Workshop in partnership with The Great Love Debate is coming to you! Check out Kim's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/ for more details.