Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Are you filling up your fuel tank? No, not in your car... your emotional fuel tank. Are you expressing how you feel about things or do you shut down and find yourself in superficial relationships? This week on Coaching with Kim, you'll hear Kim help Michelle live with her challenges of shutting down and shutting out people in her life. She has a tendency to "shut down" in conversations with strangers and with the guy she is dating. They have some trouble getting past superficial conversation topics, but when she does express herself the response she gets just makes her feel like speaking up won't change anything. Kim digs into her family history, her relationship with her dad and her upbringing to discover the source of the shut downs. This conversation will show you that when you feel like no one is hearing you, the best thing you can do is to start unapologetically expressing yourself without fear of rejection. Kim gives Michelle some easy tools to use to begin building that muscle one step at the time. The biggest hurdle to expressing yourself is raising your emotional intelligence IQ. The first step? It all starts with a little awareness and then practice. If you're like Michelle and want to learn how to stop shutting down and be open to more intimate relationships, sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with Kim by scheduling it here https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. Also join Kim at the Empowered Women Rise Conference November 3! LINK: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/empowered-women-rise-conference-networking-empowerment-self-development-tickets-48676606039 CODE FOR DISCOUNT: EWRKIM15

Do you identify yourself as shy? Does being an introvert help you feel protected or less pressure to engage socially with others? You're not alone. So many people are naturally inclined to be introverts, but that doesn't mean that your love life is a bust! This week, Kim interviews Corey Poirier, renowned TEDx Speaker, award-winning keynote speaker and host of the "Conversations with Passion Radio Show." Kim asks Corey to open up about his history as, "the shy kid" and how he overcame his fears to speak in front of audiences of thousands and interview more than 4,000 of the world's top leaders. His developed skills and tools helped him move beyond his comfort zone and push towards his goals. Kim and Corey start this conversation off right away with concrete tips you can use everyday to feel more comfortable getting out of your own way and make connection with others. This real conversation is filled with inspiring, relatable and concrete tips you can start using right away. It will help you understand that living for yourself instead of living for other people is one of the keys to being more fulfilled in life and relationships. And if you want to learn to get out there more and push past your shy tendencies, join Kim's private Facebook group the Love Makeover Insiders for woman transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

Do you modify your behavior to avoid a loss of love or affection? Do you find yourself being so consumed in your dates and relationships where you spend so much energy changing yourself in order to please or accommodate the other person or make them like you more? If either of those questions ring true for you, you may have some codependent tendencies and lose yourself in others. This week, Kim interviews Rose Cole, visionary leader, world-renowned speaker, author, mentor and spiritual guide to talk all about codependency and losing yourself in relationships. The term "codependency" is often misinterpreted, but this episode will clear up any misconceptions you may have. Kim and Rose talk through practical strategies that you can use to stop shrinking yourself and to be better able to express your needs. Rose shares the personal journey she went through that helped her come to terms with her codependency and ultimately, overcome it successfully. This caring conversation about healthy self-love will help you understand how to fill up your own love tank so you can lessen the need to seek validation from others. And there is a special surprise at the end that will relax and inspire you! If you're looking to discover your tendencies in relationships and break patterns that hold you back from being your full self in relationships, join Kim's new private Facebook group for women looking to transform their love lives from the outside in: https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

When you reflect on who you are, what your goals are and if you're meeting them... are you satisfied? Are you meeting the standards you set for yourself, or have you given up? Maybe you're just stuck in a rut! We all have the capacity to dig ourselves into ruts, stay stuck and play small with our ambitions. Admit it, you're always harder on yourself than your friends, relatives and loved ones. It's time for you to STOP making excuses, STOP arguing for your limitations and start taking action to make real change in your life! You deserve to be happy and have the relationships you actually want. But first, you need to get out of your own way. In this episode, Kim speaks candidly and directly about the top 5 reasons you stay STUCK in old patterns and how to develop new habits to create change. Chances are, you're actively participating in your own circumstances. Kim outlines the tools to break through what holds you back and to make some serious shifts in your life! If you need help CRACKING the code of one of your patterns that is holding you back, schedule a FREE 30 minute coaching session with Kim now here https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

How would you characterize your conversations and interactions on dates? Do you talk about your dreams, your feelings, your ambitions and really show who you are? Or are the topics you discuss more surface level like your profession, where you live or what restaurants you go to? This week, Kim coaches Linda live who's experiencing the latter. Linda doesn't have trouble meeting guys, but rather has difficulties moving past her superficial and guarded conversations. She thinks it's the men she's been out with because they rarely skim the surface and don't really put effort into getting to know her. But in this episode, Kim helps Linda unravel the real reason why deeper connections and attraction are not happening with men. Hint: It's not about the men! Listen closely as Kim talks about ways women wear armor to protect themselves and stay in their masculine conversation to play it "safe." There are nuances and tricks you can inject into your next interactions to improve the quality of conversation, stay in your feminine, be more playful and move past the surface. This episode will help you learn to express to your dates all you have to offer, be more open so that men can feel you and create a deeper attraction overall. If you want to learn more techniques for deepening your conversations and how to flirt with life, join Linda in Kim's private Facebook group the Love Makeover Insiders for woman transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week, Kim interviews Lauren Zander, author, life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company. Kim and Lauren have a lively, funny conversation about how to break bad habits that hold you back, and design your love life the way YOU want it to be. This show dives deep on figuring out how to give yourself appropriate consequences and rewards and how to make sure you're actually working towards that goal. Do you have a tendency to self-sabotage? Can you talk yourself into or out of just about anything? Lauren shares that before she got into the life coaching space, she realized that the little voices in the back of her head weren't actually on her team. She needed to create systems to encourage herself to be accountable... to herself. Kim and Lauren talk through how you can identify limiting beliefs - the ones that keep you from achieving what you say you want - and learn to create systems to hold yourself accountable. If there's one tip you should hold onto from this episode it's this: DO THE HOMEWORK. You will start to see results. If you're looking for a supportive community of women dedicated to break their limiting beliefs join Kim's free private Facebook group, Love Makeover Insiders for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

Dating is tough for everyone! But what if you knew there were common mistakes that you might be making when trying to attract a partner? There are repetitive behavioral patterns that show up in us over and over again. When you're able to recognize your patterns and challenges, you can make adjustments as needed to get a different result. This week, Kim talks through her 5 Dating Archetypes she has studied over the years as a dating and relationship coach and therapist. Open up your notepad or grab a pen because you're going to want to take notes. Now of course these archetypes are sometimes painted with a broad brush and you likely won't fit neatly into one box. However, pay attention to which characteristics Kim talks about that may have derailed a previous relationship of yours or have prevented you from getting to know someone on a deeper level. Listen to find out all about each one and the strategies you can use to break these patterns in order for you find love! If you want to find out exactly what your dating archetype is, follow this link: https://bit.ly/2JZsSYY and take the Dating Archetype Quiz!

Do you ever hear those pesky voices in your head that say, "You're not good enough," "You're not doing it right," or "No one wants to hear what you have to say?" On this candid and vulnerable episode of Coaching with Kim, you'll get an inside look into how to turn down the volume on these messages that hold you back from being yourself, staying present and making a genuine connection with others on dates. Listen as Kim coaches Adam, a great personable guy who has so much to offer but he has one big problem…the voices tell him that he's NOT enough. When it comes to dating, he finds himself hesitant to express himself fully and nervous to get vulnerable and make a more intimate connection with women he's interested in. We all have those voices of self-doubt that creep into our heads to varying degrees but most people don't know how to soften or get rid of them. Kim talks through some specific techniques that worked for Adam that you can apply in your everyday life. This open and real conversation will help you access and recall powerful, confident states that you've experienced in your life that you can call upon during moments of self-doubt in order to transcend those negative voices. If you want help quieting the gremlins in your head, take advantage of your opportunity to sign up for a FREE breakthrough session, just like Adam's with Kim HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

This week, Kim interviews Ryan Moran, an entrepreneur, founder of Capitalism.com and the host of the Freedom Fast Lane Podcast. This show is all about how to create an abundance mindset in your love life, especially when it looks like your options are scarce. Ryan and Kim have a candid conversation about how challenging and painful moments in our lives prompt us to identify patterns we want to change. While moments of adversity can catapult us to action, Kim introduces the fact that success can also motivate positive change. This interview will help connect the dots between how your brain physically responds to positive and negative stimuli, and how that actually shows up in your life. The key is that action promotes change, and the more you can jump straight into action, the bigger shifts you will begin to see. Remember, when you internalize the fact that there IS enough love to go around out there, you will begin to act as if that is true and start to see real results. This episode is full of incredible tips! As always, if you're looking for a supportive community to help push you to action where you're stuck, join Kim's free private Facebook group, Love Makeover Insiders for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

On this week's show, Kim talks all about how perfectionism is holding you back from putting yourself out there in the dating world. Are you reluctant to build a dating profile because you're waiting to take the perfect profile photo? Are you avoiding opportunities to meet new people because you're feeling self conscious or unconfident in your appearance? This episode will teach you that for whatever reason you are putting things off, underneath your need to be perfect is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure -- whatever it is -- until you take action, you will never move forward. Kim tells the story of 2 different clients, both experienced a form of "perfection paralysis", but they took different approaches to handling the problem. Waiting for everything to be perfect can feel easier and safer, but if you want to accomplish something new or create change in your life, you have to get out of your comfort zone and get into ACTION. This episode is honest, direct and gives you a little tough love to recognize that your perfectionism might be an excuse to stay stuck. If you need a jolt in your life to help you get unstuck, take advantage of your opportunity to sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

We all deal with adversity in our lives to varying degrees. But no matter what challenges you face, how you push past your pain makes all the difference. This week, Kim has a powerful conversation with Steven Maresca. Steven is an incredible resource and motivator for anyone looking to change their life through fitness. But, Steven isn't just your average fitness trainer. You'll hear him tell his personal story about a devastating accident he experienced six years ago. Since then, Steven has been on a journey of recovery, gratitude and relentless persistence. But make no mistake, his rehabilitation process wasn't easy and there were plenty of times where he wanted to quit. Kim and Steven discuss strategies you can use in your life to overcome any challenge you have. This episode brings up real, raw emotions and it's a great way to help you shift your perspective and see past the obstacles that can blind you in the moment. If you're looking for a strong community to help you overcome your challenges, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

On this episode, Coaching with Kim, you'll meet Danielle who's noticed a pattern in her relationships and is ready for a big shift. Kim and Danielle's coaching session focuses on "Attachment Theory", a psychological model that defines interpersonal relationships and how we respond when we feel unsafe, hurt, or fearful. There are 3 types of attachment styles Kim discusses on the show so you'll hear how these styles play out in her relationships. As the youngest of 7 daughters, she learned how to be invisible growing up and didn't learn how to express her feelings consistently. Now she's an independent powerhouse in her career but when it comes to romance nothing ever seems to stick. Kim helps Danielle sort through her experiences growing up and how they've informed her attachment style. This session is powerful because Danielle has committed to the most important first step...deciding to look inward and begin the process to change herself. This conversation will show you the power of how labeling and understanding your patterns can ignite a mindset shift inside you that will help you attract the kind of partner you really want. If you're looking for a more supportive community to help you with your love life, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

You know that exhilarating feeling when you meet someone new who showers you with compliments, makes you feel sexy confident and you can't get enough? But then, out of nowhere, almost as fast as everything started, the relationship is over and you're a wreck. We've all had some level of experience with these "tornado" relationships. In this episode, Kim talks about how to spot the difference between a healthy love and a toxic relationship. Both men and women can create this dynamic but the signs are the same no matter who's driving. Kim talks through typical warning signs you're about to enter the toxic zone. Kim maps out concrete ways you can make sure to not give away your power too soon and how you can recognize if you have a tendency to get sucked into addictive relationship behaviors that hurt you in the long run. If you're ready to take real steps to make a change, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week, Kim interviews wellness expert, Josh Trent. Josh hosts the Wellness Force Radio Podcast and has spent 15 years in the health and wellness industry. He's on a mission to help people live life well through developing physical and emotional intelligence. This conversation is packed with great information and gets intense, fast! Josh shares his personal journey of dealing with anxiety and drastic weight fluctuation. He introduces a powerful concept, "If I can breathe I can choose." These two discuss Josh's dating life, how he's moved off the dating apps and onto other more authentic forms of communication. Listen in for some good tips on how to reframe crippling anxiety, how to combat the epidemic of loneliness and the importance of taking loving care of your wellness and growth. And, if you're single looking to combat loneliness, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming love lives https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week on Coaching with Kim, Kim talks to Marion -- all the way from France! Marion is a school teacher, who got divorced 10 years ago, and has dated several men over the years since her split. Now, she's dating an amazing guy she really likes and can see a future with, but there are a few red flags and she needs some advice on. This guy just got out of his marriage and Marion is worried that she's his rebound. Kim discusses how men respond to break ups and Marion's family and dating history might be impacting her decision to stay in this relationship. Kim also uncovers some key issues from her childhood that have crept up in her dating life consistently. Listen as Kim provides Marion with some tangible steps to help her determine whether this guy truly has the qualities she wants in a partner, or if she's blinded by what she hopes he will be. When you're ready to uncover why you're choosing the same people over and over, sign up for a FREE breakthrough session, just like Marion's with Kim HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

One day you and your guy are texting back and forth and then, suddenly - you never hear from him again. On this week's episode Kim talks all about ghosting, why men do it, how to recognize the signs, and how to deal with the aftermath. You'll learn there are only a few reasons why men disappear without notice and almost all of them disqualify these men from being good partners for you. Kim breaks down how to stop focusing on why he stopped communicating and instead focus on how not to take it personally and move on. This is an empowering look on how you can deal with this bad dating behavior and move on confidently without getting stuck wondering, what if? And, if you want to connect with an incredible community of women who are all transforming their love lives from the outside in, join Kim's private Love Makeover Insiders Facebook Group HERE: https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

Don't you wish you were on vacation right now? Work, friends, family, and life itself can be stressful. Why add dating to that list? This week, Kim discusses how a vacation mentality is essential in your dating life. When you're on vacation, you let loose, you relax and you're more likely to try something you wouldn't normally, because hey, you're on vacation right? When you apply that logic to your dating life, you open yourself up to love. After you listen and you realize you need a vacation, contact Kim about an exclusive retreat coming up that you will want to know about! http://bit.ly/2shKDJ5

Fear manifests itself in so many ways in relationships. There's the fear of intimacy, the fear of abandonment, the fear of being alone and countless others. This week Kim talks to Melanie Curtis - author, speaker and fierce life coach, about how to take a leap of faith and crush your fears! Melanie has been skydiving more than 10,000 times - something that would terrify most of us - but that means she's a pro at facing scary things head on and pushing through no matter what. Kim and Melanie discuss the fact that inspiration means nothing without the action to back it up. Melanie shares her process on how to confront fear by acknowledging it exists, drilling down to the core of that fear and determining if it's is real or imagined. Kim and Melanie talk through how important it is to normalize our fears through validation and most of all, focus on solutions. This conversation will show you that you are capable of conquering your fears in relationships, because it's all about building social and emotional skills. If you want help conquering your fears in the dating world, sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

This week on Coaching with Kim, Kim talks to Dena, who's having trouble trusting the men she dates. This episode is all about how to trust others, without giving away your power. Dena is struggling with some ghosts of her past - two divorces and an experience with infidelity. She embodies the role of "giver" in all areas of her life and has attracted men who are "takers". In the past, she's fallen victim to dynamics where men take advantage of her giving nature and she lacks the tools to set boundaries, ask for what she wants and not lower her standards in order to please the other person. This coaching session is a great lesson on how you can build your self-confidence and trust your own value. Kim gives some great tips about how and when to lower your guard and allow yourself to be vulnerable in order to open yourself up to new opportunities. If you're ready and willing to step in a new direction in your love life, sign up for a FREE breakthrough session, just like Dena's with Kim HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

This week Kim interviews Benjamin Ritter, host of the Live for Yourself podcast. Ben is a leader in public health and an executive and personal consultant with a focus in dating and relationships. Benjamin and Kim talk about their personal experiences with BIG, life-altering changes. Kim deep dives into the topic of how states of change can alter your perspective and that practice should be encouraged. Ben and Kim discuss that when you're not truly living for yourself, it feels like the world is acting on you, instead of you making conscious choices to live in alignment with your goals and priorities. Ben gives some concrete action steps towards reprogramming your training so that you can align your values, your goals and your actions. This conversation focuses on our stressors, their causes and how to use those things as fuel to change ourselves for the better. If you're ready to make a MAJOR change in your life and even induce your own break state, sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Have you ever dated a narcissist? Well if you have, you're not alone! This week, Kim discusses how to spot narcissists from a mile away and how to avoid them! If you're on a date with a suspected narcissist, Kim shares some great tips on how to weed them out. Here's the thing, if you're a natural caregiver, you're more inclined to be accommodating and give in to their selfish needs. Kim talks about how to check your own behavior to make sure you're not allowing someone to take your power away. You do have the power to stop attracting narcissists and this episode will show you how to get off this negative track. If you've had a history of lopsided relationships and are looking to make a shift in your love life, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week on Coaching with Kim, Kim chats with Easter, who's struggling to feel recognized and appreciated at work. Although Easter currently has a loving relationship with a supportive partner, Kim dovetails into how patterns at work relate to relationships and social confidence in your life overall. Kim and Easter talk through Easter's upbringing in a socially isolated, strict religious household and how that experience directly impacts her experience at work. Easter has gone through some big transformations in her life that helped her move on from a bad marriage and break programming from her background she wanted to release. Kim helps her identify what she did to move forward from her childhood and marriage and apply that to her career. Kim gives Easter some specific strategies to break through her patterns and help her identify and envision what she truly wants for her professional life. If you're interested in having a FREE breakthrough session like Easter's, Sign up HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough for your own today!

Kim talks with Vedic Astrologer and Relationship Coach, Carol Allen about what goes into attracting a relationship that will last. Vedic astrology is an old Indian system that is said to be much more predictive of your love life than your run of the mill magazine horoscope. Kim and Carol have a lively and personal conversation about getting confident and clear on what you want in a relationship, alignment and missed connections with soulmates. Carol and Kim mind-meld on astrology and psychology, and talk through how our past is deeply connected to our future. Find out how negative experiences from the past might be interfering with your relationships now and ways you can be powerful enough to change possible outcomes. Discover how being committed to getting clear on what you want and where you're at in your life is essential to attracting the kind of relationship you want. And if you're looking to get clear on your love goals, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

It's never too late to find love! This week Kim dispells the myth that you can't find love after 40. You can! You know the old tropes, "There are no good men out there!" and "All women are crazy!" Neither of these are true and your belief in them is holding you back from dating successfully. If you're having trouble believing that you are capable of dating after 40, this episode is the first step to shifting your perspective. Kim gives some great tips for pushing yourself to get back out there. Once we hit 40, we tend to narrow our view of what's possible for ourselves...but that's a mistake. Dating after 40 can be better than ever! Kim explains how dating later in life can be fun, invigorating, and rewarding - especially if you allow yourself to be open to new experiences, new people and hopefully, a new relationship. And, if you're looking to jumpstart your dating plan, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

Back by popular demand, Kim has an candid conversation with friend of the show, Jordan Harbinger. Jordan opens up to Kim about his experience leaving Art of Charm and creating his new show, The Jordan Harbinger Show. Kim talks through how big changes in our lives can feel just like a major breakup. When something that consumes a huge part of your life is suddenly gone, whether it's a job, or a relationship, it can feel like part of your identity has been taken away. Hindsight is 20/20, and now that some time has passed, Jordan's had the chance to reflect and process his feelings. Kim and Jordan uncover some actionable tips on how to recover from a breakup without breaking down, how to create a fresh start, how to find your own identity again and how to prioritize working on yourself instead of dwelling on the past. Progress happens when you allow yourself to feel your emotional pain, but breakthroughs are solidified when you push through that pain and commit to moving forward. So, if you're looking for help working through something in your life, sign up for a breakthrough session with Kim today! Just click the link here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

On this week's coaching episode, Kim does a deep dive with Melissa about how ghosts from the past can haunt new relationships. Melissa is in a new relationship with a great guy and things are going well. But...she can't shake off the anxiety that bubbles up when she doesn't hear from him. In fact, 24 hours without a text is causing her to feel like the relationship is ending! Kim talks through some emotional patterns that originated in Melissa's family with her father and helps her discover for the first time how these patterns have triggered anxiety with her new guy. Kim discusses the source of Melissa's fear of abandonment and how the subconscious mind can bring these issues to the forefront, even in a happy, loving relationship. Many of us, just like Melissa, have feared that a guy might suddenly lose interest in us, ghost us, or move on without closure. So don't miss Kim's tips for boosting your self-esteem, getting to know how your new beau shows affection, and how to deal with the source of your fears head on. This conversation is the epitome of an emotional breakthrough! If you're ready to take the first step in uncovering what's blocking you from finding love in your life, join Kim's FREE private Love Makeover Insider's Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week, Kim discusses the emotional and physical responses to breakups that make us feel unsexy, unconfident and totally alone. And who better to discuss how to regain your spark, than dating expert and creator of Sexy Confidence, Adam LoDolce! Adam and Kim have a lively discussion in how committing to action is essential for pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. When you're stuck in a post-breakup rut, the practice of creating new habits is essential. Adam gives some great tips on how to move past rejection by first healing through rediscovering your personal identity. Kim and Adam agree that confidence is defined as exposure and experience. If you're not feeling sexy and confident in your dating life, listen to this fun conversation that will help you boost your love life. Kim knows as well as anyone that breakups can feel like a major loss or even a death, but these tips will help you see the light and realize that you can get your sexy back! If you're looking for a community to support you in getting your mojo back, join Kim's Love Makeover Insider's Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love life from the outside in! https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

On this week's show, Kim talks through all the ways you could be holding yourself back from finding your next relationship. Whether you need a push to get out of the house to meet new people and expose yourself to the energy of the opposite sex, or you need to practice feeling flirty and sexy with a new outfit - Kim has you covered. This episode takes a deep dive into reclaiming your power and shows you that you can make positive choices that will lead you to the love you want! Kim shares useful tips on how to find the courage to change your routine, meet new people and feel confident in yourself while taking a proactive approach to dating. If you need an extra boost, join Kim's exclusive Love Makeover Insiders Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love life from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week Kim interviews the unstoppable Bill Wooditch - a sales expert, speaker and best-selling author. Kim talks to Bill about how he motivated himself to change through his journey, how he was able to direct his focus and push through when failure seemed like the only option. They talk about how to identify and use both internal and external motivators to propel out of your comfort zone and towards what you want. This empowering conversation will help you realize that your past is simply a condition, but it doesn't have to determine your future. For starters, not bringing your past to the table (especially on the first date), always show up as your best self (hint: it's all about the outfit) and finally, be authentic, caring and LISTEN! This is a fun conversation you won't want to miss. If you are looking for a little external motivation to get out there and show up as your best self, sign up HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough for a breakthrough session with Kim today! Also join her private Love Makeover Insiders Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love life inside & out https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week a powerful and emotional live coaching episode with Kim's client, Anne. She's mastered the art of getting guys to the first date, but when it comes to securing the second one, she's stumped! Kim uncovers the REAL reasons why Anne can't get past the first encounter and why she can't find chemistry with any guy she meets. And it's not what you might think! Here Kim helps Anne face some surprising and revealing truths. Anne learns that when you gain clarity about what you want, and you express that intention directly, you begin attracting the kind of partners that match that intention. There are some juicy tips in how to get past fears and create connections upon first impression. If you are tired of feeling burnt out with dating and are interested in having your own breakthrough session either on air or off…sign up and book a time to talk with Kim HERE https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Does the thought of trying to curate the perfect online dating profile sound worse than a root canal? If so, don't worry…you are not alone! This week, Kim's got you covered as she takes you through the Dos and Don'ts of Virtual Dating. You'll learn simple tips on how to create an attention grabbing profile that will impress your next match. Kim talks about how to make a positive and lasting first impression. And, she'll walk you through how to engage in an online conversation so you don't come off like a robot in a business meeting. Remember, your online profile doesn't have to be perfect, it just has to be all about you. And, if you're looking to revamp your online profile and love life schedule a FREE breakthrough session with Kim and find out what is preventing you from finding love https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

This week, every question you've ever had about how to maximize return on your online dating profile answered. Kim interviews Julie Spira, America's top online dating expert and digital matchmaker. Julie has spent her career mastering online dating from the early days of chatrooms, to the explosion of dating apps on the market today. No matter what platform you're using, if you're building your profile online, you won't want to miss her tips! Julie and Kim discuss what kind of pictures will catch your next date's attention and what to avoid. Plus, they discuss how integrating questions directly into your profile are foolproof conversation starters. If you're ready to update your dating profile, look no further. And, if you need a new outfit perfect for your next profile picture, be sure to grab Kim's FREE body type guide for men https://bl394-9b4f27.pages.infusionsoft.net/ and women https://bl394-8b8478.pages.infusionsoft.net/ to learn what clothes work for you and not against you!

Are you interested in just having fun, growing into a relationship, or something else? It's up to you! This week on Coaching with Kim you will learn how to tell if you're sending the right signals and how to determine your pacing in a new relationship. In this episode, you'll meet Sue -- she got married when she was 20 and divorced 31 years later. Now she's single, revamping her wardrobe, putting herself out there on dating apps and seeing a few new guys. Along with finding her voice in her newly single role, Sue is trying to strike the right balance with her flirting style. Kim helps Sue understand how getting clear on what she wants is essential to be able to send the right signals. If you're like Sue and have recently gotten out of a long relationship or marriage, it's all too easy to fall back into old patterns. Kim shares some tips on how to resist the urge to dive back into another relationship and take the opportunity to casually date new, different people. Kim also helps her talk about expressing her needs and wants confidently. And don't forget, if you want to put these skills to the test - sign up for Kim's Dating Makeover Retreat April 12-15 http://bit.ly/2D9IL7Y

Stop being a shapeshifter and find the real you! This week, Kim talks about shapeshifting, or the ability to morph into what others want to see in order to be liked or praised. You may have recognized this phenomenon in others, or yourself. While shapeshifting can be a positive (it comes with incredible sales skills!), but it's impossible to maintain balanced relationships when one person is hiding who they really are. Kim goes through how to detect if you or your date is shapeshifting, how to express your needs outside your script and how to date for yourself! These tips will show you how to talk about what you love, what you stand for and what makes you tick without overdoing it or being needy. And, if you spot a shapeshifter in your life, this episode will teach you how to call them out and encourage them to express their authentic self. Don't forget, if you want to put these skills to the test - sign up for Kim's Dating Makeover Retreat April 12-15 http://bit.ly/2D9IL7Y

Kim and former shy guy Myke Macapinlac, founder of Social Confidence Mastery, discuss how the right outfit and little confidence can change everything for you. Myke is a lifestyle entrepreneur and social dynamic specialist who helps shy guys become socially confident. This week, Kim and Myke talk about how the clothing you wear impacts your world. And ladies you'll LOVE hearing a man's perspective on this. You'll hear some great tips on building self-assurance and how clothes can be a vehicle to help you feel attractive every day. Myke talks about how loving yourself, having a fulfilling lifestyle, dressing well and having rewarding friendships all come before finding lasting love in your life. If you're doubting whether this system actually works - it is scientifically proven that your outfit can put you in a different psychological state! Plus, if you need help getting a date to be in that relationship sign up for Kim's Dating Makeover Retreat! April 12-15 http://bit.ly/2D9IL7Y

This week on Coaching with Kim: a man's perspective! Kim talks with Stephen, a guy who's navigating his way through the casual dating space. Right now, he's trying to figure out how to balance diving in too deep too soon and taking it slow with the women he's seen recently. Stephen grew up in a family that wasn't super emotionally open. Kim talks through how this has likely manifested itself in his adult relationships. And, he highlights a major point about flirting that all the ladies listening should take note of. Finally, this episode is a great reminder that you are not responsible for other people's feelings as long as you express yourself in a truthful, respectful way. And, if you think Kim could help you work through something you're struggling with in your love life send an email to [email protected] for a chance to be featured on an episode of Coaching With Kim! OR if you need help feeling confident and sexy to attract the right man...sign up for Kim's Dating Makeover Retreat April 12-15 http://bit.ly/2D9IL7Y

It's that time of year again - stores are overflowing with heart shaped boxes of chocolate, teddy bears and bouquets of roses. Don't panic! The Valentine's Day frenzy doesn't have to make you feel insecure, lonely, or unsexy. Remember, feeling sexy is all about how you view yourself... and it's all up to you. In this week's episode, Kim gives some important tips about how you can feel and look sexy every single day. Embrace your feminine side, buy a new dress, throw on a pair of heels, or make a Pinterest board of sexy selfies! Kim shares some great strategies to empower you to feel good and love yourself as you are right now. Make sure to check out seltzerstyle.com and download her FREE sexy body shape guide to find out how to flatter your figure every day of the week. And, if you're looking to a fun weekend getaway to put these skills into practice, sign up for Kim's Dating and Makeover Retreat April 12-15 http://bit.ly/2D9IL7Y

Dr. Ish Major has been decoding the way men think and act in dating and relationships for his entire career. A board-certified psychiatrist and resident relationship expert on WEtv's Marriage Bootcamp, Dr. Ish has obviously seen his share of broken relationships! In today's episode, Kim and Ish discuss how men and women both assume they know exactly what the opposite sex wants - and nothing could be further from the truth! Ish shares some incredible tips on how to avoid making assumptions on your next date or in your current relationship. Here's a hint - say exactly what you want up front. These two break down some key differences in how men and women process and communicate information, why men and women lie and tell you how to set expectations for your partner. And, if you're in a relationship RIGHT NOW that needs some major TLC, sign up for Dr. Ish's Relationship Rescue and Recovery Boot Camp! https://drishmajor.mykajabi.com/a/7334/Rhe6FYYL or if you need help getting a date to be in that relationship sign up for Kim's Dating Makeover Retreat April 12-15 http://bit.ly/2D9IL7Y

Do people accuse you of being "too nice?" This week is all about getting over that "nice syndrome" so many of us suffer from. And no, this doesn't mean you being aloof or hurtful to people! It means, learning to express your needs and wants confidently without having to tiptoe around people you worry may disagree with you. Kim discusses how getting over your "nice syndrome" can help foster better friendships, improve professional interactions, and of course, attract dates. Plus, she talks about how to spot a narcissist from a mile away, gives some specific tips for how to express your needs without making the other person get defensive and how reciprocity is a huge common denominator in fulfilling partnerships. And, if you're looking for a fun weekend getaway to put these skills into practice, check out Kim's Dating and Makeover Retreat http://bit.ly/2D9IL7Y April 12-15!

This week, Kim talks to a matchmaking heavy hitter, CEO of eHarmony, Grant Langston. Grant has been with eHarmony since the beginning and has racked up a TON of knowledge and useful tips . He breaks down some of eHarmony's research on the science of compatibility and discusses what happy couples have in common that unhappy couples don't. Kim talks through understanding and recognizing every type of chemistry you may have with a love interest, whether it's intellectual, emotional, physical or spiritual. This conversation will show you that it's possible to break your bad dating habits and give you useful tips on how to tell if your partner can build a long-term, fulfilling relationship. Plus, if you're looking for a quick getaway to put these skills to the test, check out Kim's Dating & Makeover Retreat: http://bit.ly/2D9IL7Y April 12-15

We've made it out of the holiday season and we're on to the New Year! It's always good to reflect on the past, but sometimes we get stuck thinking about our challenges and get too negative. This year, ditch those negative emotions and say, "Out with the old, in with the new!" If you're still mulling over your New Years resolutions, start here. Get rid of those old clothes that have been weighing you down and pick up something fun, flirty and new. And while you're at it, toss the friends that are bringing toxic energy into your life. This is the time of year to assess your professional goals and recalibrate. Kim gives you tips on how to find the motivation inside and outside yourself to make these BIG changes happen. Plus, if you're looking for a quick getaway to put these skills to the test, check out Kim's Dating and Makeover Retreat: http://bit.ly/2AbH6Qs beginning January 8!

On this week's episode of Coaching with Kim, Kim chats with Sandy about confidently expressing your needs and wants. Sandy talks about her childhood, where she grew up learning to prioritize the needs of others due to her mother's cancer diagnoses. Like many people do, she carried this behavior on into adulthood and discovered that when it comes to romantic relationships - solely prioritizing the needs of a partner hasn't lead to a stable long term relationship. Kim talks through the process of identifying how you feel, determining what you want and finally, how to express that to your partner. And, if you're looking for a quick getaway to put these skills to the test, check out Kim's Dating and Makeover Retreat https://www.myretreatsunlimited.com/dating-makeover-retreat-2/

This week, Kim interviews Empowerment Strategist and host of the Fit 2 Love Podcast, JJ Flizanes. Kim and JJ discuss body image and the myths we tell ourselves that trap us into feeling insecure. JJ shares some useful tips for thinking about food and cravings, shifting your mindset towards awareness, and recognizing the power you hold internally to help you change your life. And to put these skills to the test, check out Kim's upcoming retreat program, Charisma Quotient Dating Makeover Bootcamp http://bit.ly/2AbH6Qs beginning January 8!

Welcome to the latest installment of Coaching with Kim! This week, Kim coaches Carol, a client with a demanding career and a busy social life. They discuss Carol's pattern of choosing men who are emotionally unavailable - and being able to distinguish that trait before getting too emotionally involved. Kim talks through Carol's fears surrounding being open and vulnerable. And to put these skills to the test, check out Kim's upcoming retreat program, Charisma Quotient Dating Makeover Bootcamp http://bit.ly/2AbH6Qs beginning January 8!

Come out of your shell this holiday season to meet someone special! This week Kim talks about how to add some sparkle to your holiday wardrobe and turn up the volume on your flirt game. During this time of year, there's a holiday party or event every other day, so accept every invitation you get or, throw your own event and get out of your comfort zone. The holidays don't have to induce dread! Shake it up this season and pull out these tips and tricks to make a new connection. And to put these skills to the test, check out Kim's upcoming retreat program, Charisma Quotient Dating Makeover Bootcamp http://bit.ly/2AbH6Qs beginning January 8!

Just in time for the onslaught of holiday parties - this week, Kim interviews body language expert, Lisa Mitchell. This season is all about mixing, mingling and celebrating and what better way to step up your game at cocktail hour with some practical body language tips to improve your social interactions. Clueing into body language cues and non verbal communication are essential skills to enhancing your self confidence in dating and in life! Gain your own super powers of communication and connection by listening to this episode. And to put these skills to the test, check out Kim's upcoming retreat program, Charisma Quotient Dating Makeover Bootcamp http://bit.ly/2AbH6Qs beginning January 8!

We've all had the experience of looking in the mirror and picking out all the aspects of our bodies that we hate. In this week's episode, you'll hear from Kim directly about a few actionable tips you can take right now to makeover your body image for the better! Learning to focus on the features of your body that you love can give you confidence in how you carry yourself and is the first step to a true body image mindset shift. And don't forget to check out Kim's upcoming Charisma Quotient Dating Makeover Bootcamp starting Jan 8. Spaces are limited! http://bit.ly/2AbH6Qs

It's time for another round of coaching with Kim! In this week's episode, Kim talks to Jae about how to initiate conversations, open up emotionally and getting comfortable with being vulnerable sooner. You'll hear Kim role play with Jae live how to use her secret Social Engagement Formula to do that. Yes, it's about meeting someone you connect with, but it's also about allowing yourself to express your ideas and feelings in order to make that deeper connection. To put these skills to the test and learn the art of connection, check out Kim's upcoming retreat program, Charisma Quotient Dating Makeover Bootcamp http://bit.ly/2AbH6Qs

Breakups. We've all had them - and even if you know it's the right move, it's never easy. Kim discusses and advises about breakups, among other relationship issues with former TV's Married At First Sight expert, Rachel DeAlto. Rachel, a fellow relationship expert, motivational speaker and TV personality gets personal about her own breakup and how she's handled the aftermath.

Don't you wish you were on vacation right now? Work, friends, family, and life itself can be stressful. Why add dating to that list? This week, Kim discusses how a vacation mentality is essential in your dating life. When you're on vacation, you let loose, you relax and you're more likely to try something you wouldn't normally, because hey, you're on vacation right? When you apply that logic to your dating life, you open yourself up to love. After you listen and you realize you need a vacation, contact Kim about an exclusive retreat coming up that you will want to know about! http://bit.ly/2shKDJ5