Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

When it comes to the initial phases in dating where it often feels like a whirlwind of emotions, romance and crazy-amazing sex, men and women have very different experiences. Why? Falling in love for a man isn't the same as it is for a woman. On this week's show, Kim interviews the celebrated bestselling author John Gray for a juicy discussion on specifically how men and women date differently. He is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. He helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in personal and professional relationships. Kim and John dig right in to talk about John's incredible history and back story, including the relationship with his wife. You'll hear about John's 8 basic distinctions between men and women. Once you understand the differences, it helps you translate your needs to the person you're dating, regardless of gender. John opens up about the process of creating a series of positive dating experiences and how that gets you to find the successful relationship you desire. This episode is FULL of unique tips along with powerful life and relationship advice. Listen in to hear Kim and John's conversation about the stages of dating and how challenges are given to you to ultimately create stronger relationships. If you are ready to start working on yourself and make the changes in the way you do relationships, sign up for a free coaching call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. In just ONE 30-minute call, you could be on your way to discovering how you can find the love.

This week, Kim connects with her recent coaching client, Amanda, for another episode of Where Are They Now? This is the segment where Kim chats with the women and men she's worked with before to learn how their lives have transformed outside and in. When you listen to these episodes, you will be inspired and motivated to hear not only that these tips and tools actually work, but that there is sticking power to people's successes. Amanda's story with Kim began 3 months prior to this episode as a divorced woman starting over after 11 years of marriage. Amanda felt completely lost and lacked motivation to date. More specifically, it was revealed that she needed help working on expressing her needs, relieving herself of some of the old tapes that were keeping her stuck as a caregiver and to stop self-medicating with alcohol as a release to cope. Now after just 3 months coaching with Kim, Amanda's having fun dating a younger man, just bought a new house, and has the confidence to up level her career with a new job! Now, she's got a new man and a whole new outlook on life. Kim helped Amanda uncover some codependent tendencies she carried with her into her relationship and you'll hear how she learned to prioritize her own self-care and self-awareness. You'll even hear how Kim helped bring to the surface something Amanda didn't even know she was saying in order to accommodate other people. Listen to the end for some advice from Amanda if you're on the fence about reaching out for coaching or help. Imagine where you could be in 3 months, a year or even two years from now! If you've been getting the same results over and over again and you need something new in your life to break that pattern, sign up for a FREE coaching session with Kim right now: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. In just 30 minutes you could have a whole new outlook and specific next steps to start loving yourself and your new life.

Do you feel invisible? Do you think that people notice everyone else in the room but you? Do you wonder why others don't seem to hear you, or maybe... you'd rather they don't look at you at all? On this week's episode, Kim talks through the Top 5 Ways You're Making Yourself Invisible and gives you actionable strategies to break that pattern. In fact, there are some crucial things you might be doing subconsciously to keep yourself invisible. Whether you're looking to be seen, or you just need a boost of confidence to come out of your shell and shine, Kim shares what you can do to get there! If you have ever felt that you accept less than you deserve, often find yourself in lopsided relationships or interactions, or feel like people always misinterpret your intentions, then this show was made for you! You'll hear Kim talk through how in your quest to be polite or avoid confrontation, others may view you as passive-aggressive. Listen in to hear tips on how a few simple body language or conversation tricks can change everything, without having to change who you are! This episode will help you ask yourself some big questions. And if you are tired of being invisible and really want to get a handle on this part of your life, then sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with her right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough One call could help you understand how this invisibility can be blocking you in all areas of your life. Be seen and be heard! Sign up today.

When you put yourself out there in the dating world, you're marketing your social capital. That means your interpersonal value, your looks, your income and more -- it's all the value you bring to the table. The more your self-esteem increases, the more your social capital increases. This week on the show, Kim interviews a master of social capital, Cayla Craft. Cayla is a bestselling author, self-made millionaire, top sales influencer and host of the Mommy Millionaire Podcast. She went from saving lives in the ER as a nurse to helping women own their own successful business. Cayla shares her transformation from ER nurse to network marketing powerhouse, and how she came into her own as her financial independence solidified. Kim and Cayla discuss getting clear on who you are and who you want to be so you can take action every single day to align with the best version of yourself. You'll hear Cayla's quick trick on how to check in with yourself and make sure you're operating at the highest level possible throughout the day. Kim and Cayla discuss how to effectively market yourself in business AND in dating. This conversation will encourage you to take a good look at who you want to be or become and what you truly deserve. Learn the secret to attracting the kind of people and opportunities to you want into your life. If you're looking to increase your social capital, or start attracting what and who you really deserve, sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. In a 30-minute 1-on-1 call with Kim, you'll be able to gain clarity on what you want and how to market yourself to live the life you want.

Would you describe yourself as someone who hates confrontation? Do you do things simply to please others because you want to be a peacekeeper? Or maybe you find yourself in constant discomfort when there are tense situations. This week, tune in and listen to Kim's interview with powerhouse duo CrisMarie Clarke and Susan Campbell. CrisMarie and Susan co-founded the company Thrive! and have a brand new book, The Beauty of Conflict. They work with leadership teams, management groups, project teams and senior executive teams to resolve conflict in real-time and use it to drive collective creativity, profits, and extraordinary results. CrisMarie and Susan teach that conflict is natural when smart, passionate people work together towards an ambitious goal. Kim, CrisMarie, and Susan discuss that oftentimes, in an effort to avoid conflict, you actually end up causing MORE conflict because people don't know who you really are and what you really want. This conversation displays the beauty in conflict and how expressing yourself to solve problems gets you to a better solution every time. Listen in to learn about how not having your voice to speak up can be a career-limiting and relationship-limiting move. Especially if you are a people-pleaser, you'll learn that simply pacifying others and not speaking up about what you want may actually be causing more confusion about your motives. If you're searching for conflict-resolution strategies in your personal or professional life, you're in the right place! You'll get a fundamental understanding in how to resolve issues and confront problems head-on without burning bridges or conceding your true feelings. Take the first step and sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough In just half an hour, you will have usable, valuable insights into how you can express your needs and wants successfully. Sign up today!

We're back with another episode of What Would Kim Do? Surprising Answers to Your Love Questions! On these episodes, Kim answers listener questions directly. This week you'll hear answers about how to stop attracting unavailable guys, how to gain the confidence to ask women out without using gimmicks or pick-up lines, and how to adjust your online dating profile to entice the kind of person you'll actually like! If you're frustrated because you're not attracting or meeting the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with, this episode will give you some great insight into how you can change your approach to get a different result. If you're anxious or nervous about asking women (or men!) out, then stay tuned for the second question Kim answers. She provides some tangible strategies to create curiosity and ask questions designed to get positive responses. Overall, this is about sending signals to the world that you're available and open. That's the best way to put yourself out there and go after what you want! If you want your question to be featured on a future episode, reach out to Kim on Facebook @SeltzerKimberly. And, if you're looking to connect with a group of women dedicated to changing their love stories, then join Kim's free Facebook group, the Love Makeover Insiders: https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL Sometimes it's scary to ask for help, but you are NOT alone. Join Kim's group for a built-in community of women who are on their journey to change their story from the outside in.

How many times have you been asked, why are you still single? Sure, it's frustrating to hear - but what if you knew you were self-sabotaging and contributing to your own single status? This week on the show, Kim interviews women's addiction and recovery expert, Tracy O'Malley. Tracy has helped thousands of women emerge from overwhelm to create thriving businesses. Kim and Tracy have a lively, personal discussion about the root of self-sabotage and how this dynamic keeps you stuck. Tracy shares her journey recovering from addiction and demonstrates the fine line between self-care and self-sabotage when it came to her relationships. If you have a tendency to expect the worst result and are often disappointed with the outcome you get, this episode was made for you. Listen in to discover how you may be contributing to your own failures because of negative beliefs you're holding onto. They go into actionable tips on how to get around repeating old patterns from your past that don't serve you. This is an uplifting, inspiring and deep conversation that you will find a ton of value in. Kim and Tracy connect over one of the biggest love lessons ever - if you don't repair it, you'll repeat it! Self-sabotage can happen to anyone, but you don't have to handle it alone. If you're struggling with repeating bad patterns for yourself in your love life, break the cycle with a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim. You can sign up right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough and within just half an hour you can start to uncover your path forward.

What are your dating fears? It's easy to say that you haven't met the right person or you're not ready for a relationship. With the potential for great love and happiness comes the risk of disappointment. This week, Kim knocks out the Top 5 Dating Fears that keep you from finding love AND gives you actionable tips to conquer them. Whether you get uncontrollable butterflies in your stomach before a first date or cringe thinking about the prospect of meeting someone new or perhaps your palms get sweaty when you think about being vulnerable -- chances are she'll cover it on this episode. Listen in to hear about how your fear of rejection or abandonment may be a self-fulfilling prophecy and what you can do to remove yourself from that negative cycle and get a different result. If you have a ton of anxiety around dating, chances are that its fear getting in the way which Kim will help you uncover. She first dissects parts of your fears and then kicks you gear to face your fear. Kim talks through different strategies to prepare yourself to tackle your fear head-on without letting your worst instincts hold you back. A lot of times, the fear we feel is derived from wanting to be perfect. Kim discusses how that perfectionist need can be tempered so you can let go, have fun, and flirt without the fear of making a mistake. The biggest thing you'll learn from this episode is... EVERYONE is afraid and that you are not alone! If you want to ensure that your fears are not holding you back from finding love, sign up for a FREE break through call with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. In 30 minutes you'll learn where the fears are coming from and tips on how to address them.

How do you maintain confidence throughout the dating process, even when things don't work out? Online dating has produced so many changes to how we date. Now, you can connect with thousands of singles in seconds, but how do you find the best match for you? When you operate from a fear of rejection, even the most confident people are not immune to the negative impact it can have on your dating life. On this episode, you will meet Katherine, who began coaching with Kim because she was in the market for an image and dating confidence makeover. Now that her pictures are getting her clicks and interest, she's deep in the throes of the online dating vortex and is struggling to have fun, be flirtatious and exude the confidence while on the dates. The good news is, she's got a ton of matches, the challenge is sorting through to find the *right* kind of guy she can get excited about. Kim and Katherine talk through her most recent hurdle -- two dates canceling last minute -- and what Katherine can do to manage her expectations and feelings of disappointment. Kim talks about the paradox of choice and why more people report feeling higher levels of anxiety around it. When dating feels transactional, establishing a meaningful connection isn't easy! If you're working to increase your self-esteem, or have little or negative dating experiences, these effects can be even more painful. But it can be if you are armed with knowledge, realistic expectations and a heavy dose of self-compassion. This conversation is energetic, honest and leaves you with a positive impression that there is a light at the end of the tunnel! Kim talks Katherine through specific ways she can get out of her head on dates, release the burden of the expectation and shift her mindset to get a different result. If you're looking to gain more confidence in your flirting skills - back by popular demand - Kim is rebooting her 14-Day Flirt + Femininity Challenge on August 19th! If you're serious about changing your story, join a group of motivated, action-taking women and sign up here: https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD

Whether you're casually dating, or you're in a long-term relationship, setting boundaries is imperative! In order to have a healthy relationship, both parties need to be comfortable sharing their needs without fear of judgment or retaliation. This week on the show, Kim interviews relationship coach, and host of the podcast Love with Integrity, Silvy Khoucasian. Silvy has coached countless singles and couples throughout her career to have fulfilling, happy relationships by focusing on setting healthy boundaries. Kim and Silvy talk through the importance of owning your needs and wants from the minute you start dating someone. Even though it seems scary to be vulnerable, ultimately by communicating up front your needs and passions, you are setting up both you and your partner for success. Silvy digs into the different boundaries that people with various kinds of attachment styles tend to need during the different dating phases. If you've felt nervous, anxious or tend to avoid boundary-setting conversations, listen up! This conversation will deliver you specific language to use to steer the other person in the direction of what you love and seeing how they respond. Whether your instinct on a first date is to rattle off all your major boundaries, or if you avoid sharing what you need and want, this conversation covers that and everything in between. When you operate from a place of honest vulnerability, it can be empowering and help you reduce the fear and anxiety around potential rejection. If you are looking for strategies on how to set boundaries while dating and in relationships, this episode has got you covered! It is possible to show someone else the truth of who you are and bring up your vulnerabilities in an open and inviting way. If you have difficulties setting boundaries and want a road map in how to do it, sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough In just half an hour, you will have usable, valuable insights into how you can express your needs and wants successfully. Sign up today (limited spots available)

This week, we're doing something special to mark the 100th Episode of the Charisma Quotient! This episode is a conversation between Kim and the never heard before show's producer Anna, counting down the Top 5 episodes thus far. You'll hear a short clip from each episode and Kim breaking down the biggest Life Love Lessons while sharing some incredible client success stories around each lesson. Wherever you are in your love journey, this episode will have a tip you can use! It's like the greatest hits of the podcast up to this point. Listen in to learn how to evaluate your own behavior on dates and what to look for when you're attracting the wrong kind of partner for you. Or, if you have a tendency to stay in relationships for too long, #5 on the countdown will give you some insight into how to shift your results. For the ladies, if you're caught up in feeling like there are no good men out there or that you just aren't speaking the same language as the men you date, #2 on the countdown will answer some of your questions. Plus, Kim reads several notes from former clients who have discovered the confidence and courage inside themselves to live their best love life. You'll hear a story from a woman who's meeting, flirting and connecting with great men in new places, a woman who finally attracted the right guy for her, and a beautiful, touching story from a woman who discovered her fairytale romance that brings tears to Kim's eyes. If you enjoy the show and look forward to new episodes each week, take a moment to rate the show on iTunes or your favorite podcast app, write a review or tell a friend, family member or coworker to listen. You could even write a review that tells others the life love lessons you've learned from listening. The more people rate, review and subscribe, the easier it is for others to find the show. It really does help! The Charisma Quotient team is so grateful to YOU, our amazing listeners for sticking with us and growing this community for 100 episodes!

What do men really want? Are they only looking for physical attractiveness and sexual chemistry, or something more meaningful? On this week's show, Kim interviews dating and relationship coach Scot McKay, founder of X & Y Communications with his wife Emily. Now a four-time Amazon #1 bestselling author, Scot hosts the popular podcast Moutain Top and he has been invited to speak at high profile conferences and over 400 media outlets have consulted him, including ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox, BBC, MTV, Forbes, Lifetime, Men's Health and The Wall Street Journal. Although the title of this episode is focused on what men are looking for, this podcast is for BOTH genders. This funny and energetic conversation starts with giving you some real insights into how to attract a real "quality man." Kim and Scot also riff back and forth on how men and women tend to misinterpret the intentions of the opposite sex. Plus, listen in for some useful tips about how to perfect your online dating profile. Scot shares some stories from when he was still dating to demonstrate some strategies around how men can take the lead on a date without the fear of their actions being misinterpreted as creepy or pushy. Especially in the era of #MeToo where both women and men are more aware than ever of how they come off to one another, this conversation will help you ease some tension for both genders! If you want to learn how to look your best on your online dating profile sign up for Kim's new 90-Minute Dating Profile Makeover here: https://bl394-500ee6.pages.infusionsoft.net/ Kim is also going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the next Flirt Academy Workshop in San Francisco July 25! Get your tickets as there are a few slots left https://www.facebook.com/events/840244789682404/

Do you consider yourself a relationship person and hate dating? Do you find yourself going 0-60 on the first date, interrogating the other person to see if they're your next soulmate? Or perhaps you are getting attached to the outcome with your dates. On this episode of Coaching with Kim, you'll meet Louise and hear about some surprising mistakes relationship-oriented people make when dating. Louise has been on a professional development kick, working on herself to be more confident and successful at work. Now, she's working with Kim to level up her game in the personal and romance department. After her divorce, she dove right back into a long term relationship and now she's trying to figure out how to just date without the attachment of a relationship. Louise is having difficulties finding herself as a fun-loving, dynamic single woman separate from a man. She shares that many of her first dates feel boring and she wants to introduce more fun into her dating experience. Kim helps Louise identify some caretaking patterns from her childhood that have leaked into how she operates in relationships and dating now. If you have a tendency to support others before considering your own needs, Kim shares some strategies to use to reduce the guilty feelings that come up when you start prioritizing you. This episode is packed with practical tips on how to date as well as enhance the quality of your conversations, be more curious and make more authentic connections. If you want to learn how to date more proactively as opposed to reactively and feel more in control of your dating life like Louise - sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough Kim's going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the next Flirt Academy Workshop in San Francisco! She's got a workshop for women on July 25! Get your tickets here https://www.facebook.com/events/840244789682404/

Do you ever wish you could change the story to your love life? Have you thought about talking to someone to help you do that? After today's special episode, you will be inspired to do both! On this powerful episode, Kim interviews the popular Lori Gottlieb, a celebrated psychotherapist and NY Times bestselling author of the new book, "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone." https://amzn.to/2JK3DqX Currently being adapted as a TV series on ABC with Eva Longoria, the book dives into Lori's personal experience seeking therapy after a crisis threatens to crush her world and details several stories based on her patients over the years. As a former therapist herself, Kim shares her experience post-divorce when she needed to reach out for more support to change her love story. Lori and Kim have a special conversation discussing the truth that even professionals need professional guidance in their personal lives. Nobody is immune from the struggle and by sharing stories, we can all break patterns and heal. This conversation is fundamentally about how to allow yourself to be emotionally open with other people. Whether it's with your next date or your therapist, this episode will show you the difference between true vulnerability and TMI! If you've ever found yourself dating the "same person" over and over again, or repeating patterns you can't figure out how to break, listen closely! You will hear concrete advice from 2 licensed professionals about how to break your cycle. It's rarely easy to reach out for help when you need it, but when you do you strengthen relationships and change the story of your love life. Take the first step in talking with someone by signing up for a breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough Also, if you're going to be in the San Francisco area July 25-26, Kim's Flirt Academy Workshop in partnership with The Great Love Debate is coming to you! Check out Kim's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/ for more details.

Welcome back to the segment called, What Would Kim Do? Kim dedicates these episodes to answering your questions directly. In this episode, you'll hear a strategy for overcoming past trauma that may be infiltrating your dating life. And if you're struggling to determine what exactly it is you want in a relationship, Kim dives into several tips on how to gain the clarity you need to attract the right kind of person. For those of you not meeting the kind of people you want, you'll get some advice on how to look inward to start the discovery process. You'll hear a question from a woman who's just coming off a separation and divorce. Kim shares some tips from her experience post-divorce encouraging you to get back to basics and discovering who you are independent from a relationship. This episode touches on a lot of juicy topics - listen in! Are you struggling with some of the same issues you heard on this episode? Join Kim's private Facebook group, the Love Makeover Insiders - a supportive community of women seeking to find healthy, happy relationships. You can sign up right here: https://www.facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/ Mark your calendars! Kim's going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the next Flirt Academy Workshop in San Francisco! She's got a workshop for women on July 25, and one for men on July 26! Get your tickets right here: https://www.facebook.com/events/460295508124942/ for men and https://www.facebook.com/events/840244789682404/ for women.

Be vulnerable, be authentic... be yourself! It's a lot easier said than done. This week, Kim interviews Robert Kandell, a speaker, Amazon bestselling author, and host of the podcast TuffLove. Robert has taught more than 10,000 people using his expertise in interpersonal communication in relationships. On this show, you'll hear an honest conversation where Robert shares the defining moment in his life when he was not seeing or hearing his wife's needs. You'll hear how he and his wife at the time began working to develop a practice around vulnerability and intimacy. Kim and Robert talk about society's definitions of masculinity and femininity, how it can discourage us to not open up or worse yet, create unrealistic expectations. Happiness is not achieved because we match society's definition perfectly, there's a lot of personal development work that goes into being truly happy with who we are. Kim asks Robert to define the steps to become more vulnerable and authentic. They walk you through how you can teach yourself to be more vulnerable through practice, repetition and learning the language! Tune in to hear about how to share personal and even intimate "secrets" you have with someone you're dating - especially if you're afraid to reveal something. Robert shares exactly how to bring up sensitive conversation topics with someone you're dating, whether it's date #1 or #10. If you're looking to be more vulnerable, authentic and show up more like your true self on dates, this episode is for you! Want to jumpstart your own development? Take the first step and sign up for a breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough And, if you're going to be in the San Francisco area July 25-26, Kim's Flirt Academy Workshop in partnership with The Great Love Debate is coming to you! Check out Kim's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/ for more details.

Have you ever heard of emotional attraction? Do you ever wonder how to create more meaningful connections with someone when you first meet? Most of us are familiar with physical attraction, but to build a strong, connected relationship it's important to move beyond the physical and learn to be more open in letting the opposite sex really feel you. This week, Kim dives into ways you can create a deep emotional attraction with your dates from the minute you meet them. If you feel like your conversations just scratch the surface or feel a lack of chemistry on dates, Kim delivers tips on how you can take them to the next level. You can move beyond simply describing your day, or what you like, to using feeling words that show who you are. This episode is your guide to creating an emotional connection and being vulnerable without going overboard. Listen in to save yourself from the dread of divulging too much too soon or holding back with your guard up on the first date! And, Kim dispels the myth that if you're not physically attracted to someone right away, you will never be. If you want to learn how to build emotional attraction and flirt effortlessly, sign up a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough If you've been relying on physical attraction to carry you through, or have found that you can't get to that next level in your dating life - Kim will help you crack the code to creating a deeper emotional attraction. And, if you're near Addison, Texas - Kim's Flirt Academy Workshop in partnership with The Great Love Debate is in your area tonight! Find out if the Flirt Academy is coming to a city near you on Kim's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/

Are you that super nice person who has a ton of friends, but not a lot of girlfriends or boyfriends? Do you find that no matter what you do, the opposite sex puts you in the friend zone? Everyone knows the feeling of crushing on someone who doesn't seem to notice or be at all receptive to your interest. And if you've ever been coached by Kim and you're a guy -- you'll recognize this week's expert interview! It's so exciting to have on Dr. Robert Glover, author of the celebrated book, "No More Mr. Nice Guy", and the forthcoming book, "Dating Essentials for Men". Dr. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on "Nice Guy Syndrome" and has helped thousands of men shed their Friend Zone label and find happy, healthy, relationships. Listen in as Kim shocks Dr. Glover with ways women get stuck in the friend zone as well! Kim and Dr. Glover discuss ways both men and women get stuck in the friend zone and how to overcome them. They talk through some easy tips on body language, style and conversation tools to flirt and demonstrate interest. When you start with being sure of yourself, knowing your strengths and accepting your personality, it helps you escalate sexual attraction! If you're finding yourself getting stuck as being the constant "nice guy or gal" and want to learn how to create more chemistry on dates, take the first step and sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough . Also, check out Dr. Glover's new book "Dating Essentials For Men" here: https://amzn.to/2Wr6Nbo

Welcome back to the second installment of Where Are They Now! These episodes are a great chance to catch up with people who have previously been coached by Kim who are now in happy, successful relationships. On this show, Kim has a conversation with Stephen back from Episode 24 in 2018. When we last heard from Stephen, he was trying to figure out how to balance not diving in too deep, too soon and taking it slow with the women he meets. Since then, Stephen met a wonderful woman and they've been in a great relationship full of adventures for a year. Stephen shares his mindset and dating life when he first started working with Kim. He was going on a lot of first dates that never progressed anywhere meaningful. In the next stage, he would date someone for several months, but inevitably their connection would fizzle out. Through working with Kim, Stephen has been able to grow and learn to build deeper, emotional relationships with the people he meets. Stephen now shares that with his current girlfriend exemplified by him being much more vulnerable, sharing feelings and being open and intentional in conversations. Listen in to hear the steps that Stephen took to get to that point and a fun game you can play with your next date to practice reconnecting on an emotional level! If you're ready for a stronger connection in your love life, just like Stephen - start with the first step as he did: sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim right now: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough And, if you want to join Kim's 14-Day Flirt & Femininity Challenge - it starts today June 5!! Click here to sign up and learn the key ingredients to attract the men everywhere: https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD

Do you believe that you have the power to grow and develop your dating skills, or do you think you get what you get out of pure luck? This week, Kim has a conversation with Melanie Benson, a performance optimizer, author and business coach about how to have a growth mindset. Melanie hosts the Amplify Your Success Podcast and her success tips are featured in Bloomberg Business Week, Woman's Day, and Parenting Magazine. There's a ton of talk out there about mindset - abundance vs. scarcity or fixed vs. growth - but how do you actually improve yours for the better? On this show, Kim and Melanie get into the details of what mindset is and how you can change yours to get what you want in life and love. If you want to meet the love of your life but you've been taking the same routes meeting people at the same parties or going to the same bars time after time, how do you push yourself to be the person that can attract what you say you want? In this conversation, Kim and Melanie talk through how you can start with one step to make big and bold changes. Perhaps you've tried taking baby step after baby step, and have realized you're going nowhere fast. To upgrade your mindset, determine the boldest thing you could think of to switch up your patterns and break yourself out of your comfort zone. Listen in this week if you want to start reconditioning your thought patterns and say out loud what you're willing to do to move forward in your dating life! Here's a bold move for you: sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim right now: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough And if you really want to be bold and brave, join Kim's 14-Day Flirt and Femininity Challenge starting June 6th to help you learn the key ingredients to attract men here https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD

Every week, Kim talks through dating difficulties and how to overcome them. One challenge many people experience is trying to date while straddling two cultures. Whether you grew up in a family with strong cultural values that differ from traditional American ones or are exploring the dating scene from a foreign perspective in any capacity, this episode is here to help! On this show, you'll meet Fred. He comes from a culture where the values of his Muslim faith were paramount, and intimate relationships between men and women are navigated quite differently than his experience in the American dating scene. Although he's tried to explore opportunities on dating apps like Bumble, he's feeling frustrated that his values don't seem to align well with the values of the women he's meeting both online and in person. Listen as Kim coaches Fred live through many of the challenges he's faced on his journey to find love and get married. Kim walks Fred through how to define realistic expectations for himself, begin creating his own "mini culture" that he defines outside the boundaries of his cultural background and develop a dating plan in America. If you're struggling to find a comfortable balance dating between cultures, or the entire dating world feels like a foreign experience to you -- help is out there! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough The relationship you want is out there, you just need to take action and get the tools you need to discover it! And, starting June 6th, you can join Kim's exclusive 14-Day Flirt and Femininity Challenge to help you learn the key ingredients to attract men. Join the private Facebook group challenge here: https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD

Have you ever had minor heart palpitations trying to decide what to text a guy back? Do you spend more time coming up with a million "what ifs" about potential dates than you do getting asked out? Are you constantly worried about being rejected or not being good enough? If so, this episode about how to deal with dating anxiety is for you! This week, Kim interviews Shira Myrow, mindfulness-based marriage and family therapist who is deeply committed to helping people process painful experiences and dysfunctional relationships into secure, resilient narratives. Kim starts off by defining what dating anxiety is and how the various symptoms can paralyze your dating life. Kim and Shira dive right into a conversation about how Shira began her work helping people develop relationship intelligence. When it comes to handling anxiety in dating, you can't manufacture a spark between two people, but you can learn how to have a happy, healthy, loving relationship! Shira talks about how to notice and deal with anxious thoughts before you spin down a rabbit hole or try so hard to suppress an anxious feeling that you never move past it. If you've had bad experiences dating, had issues with your family growing up or are just lost in how to manage your feelings and emotions as you embark on your journey, listen in for some useful tips! Anxiety in dating is super common, but there is a way to overcome it! Reduce your dating anxiety right now, and give Kim a call for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session. Coaching may be your best option for working through your anxiety and landing the relationship you want! https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Everyone has challenges with dating! Attracting the right kind of person for you is a skill you can build with practice. This week, you'll hear Kim's coaching session with Maria. She's a vibrant, confident, and successful woman looking for a man who can match her energy and inspire her. However, she has found that she consistently attracts the wrong type of guy for her. Maria shares her journey from when she first started working with Kim 4 years ago to now. For Maria, meeting men isn't the issue, it's sending signals to the right kind of guys that she's interested in a relationship, and not just a casual romance. When your life priorities shift, the time you spend focusing on your love life will change. Kim and Maria talk through how to take a conversation from surface level to an appropriate emotional place. Listen in to hear Maria's breakthrough moment where Kim cracks the code of why this keeps happening to her and gives her hands on tips in how to overcome it. And it's not what you might think! If you're looking to shift your perspective on dating to land the relationship you've always wanted, give Kim a call with a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough and have her crack the code on what you can do differently to attract the right one for you.

It's spring, and wedding season is here! If your mailbox is flooded with save-the-dates or your social calendar is booked solid for the next few months, listen up for an unconventional take on the weddings, marriage and relationships. This week, Kim interviews Jen Glantz, the founder of the viral business Bridesmaid for Hire and host of the podcast You're Not Getting Any Younger. After being asked by numerous friends (and strangers!) if she would be their bridesmaid, Jen decided to start charging for her services. After seeing hundreds of brides and grooms on their big day, Jen shares stories of all the love mistakes she's made throughout her life and in her more recent journey as an entrepreneur. Kim and Jen swap stories of the biggest misconceptions they had when just starting out in the dating world. These two talk through the importance of being clear on what you deserve in a relationship and taking intentional action. Jen shares her thoughts on the importance of communication in partnerships as well as a few fun stories from her days as a bridesmaid for hire. If you want to hear a lighthearted, playful conversation about mistakes in love and bouncing back better than ever, this show delivers wisdom on the experience needed to grow into your sexy confidence. If you're making love mistakes that are holding you back from being in the relationship you want and deserve, give Kim a call with a FREE breakthrough session: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough The things you uncover could lead you to a healthy, happy relationship in no time at all. And, Kim is going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the first ever Flirt Academy Workshop! Click here to find out more: https://www.facebook.com/events/787953384919390/

This week, we're diving into another episode answering your questions on What Would Kim Do! On this show, Kim fields multiple questions from listeners about how to get over the fear preventing you from making a change. You'll hear tips on how to look at online dating as a practice tool to flirt, engage in conversations and meet great men. And if you've had trouble connecting with men in general, listen closely! Kim shares how you can start getting comfortable being around male energy so you can be successful on dates. This episode is packed with questions from people that are having trouble getting out of their heads and dipping their toes into the dating pool. Kim talks through how to shake off your energy from work, parenting or stress and release your anxiety. If you are an over-thinker, are uncomfortable around men or feel a lot of anxiety around dating in general, this episode is for you!! You can begin the deeper work you may need to feel confident, sexy and playful in your life by scheduling a FREE breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. Getting started can be scary, but don't let fear paralyze you from finding the love you deserve. Also, Kim is going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the first ever, Flirt Academy Workshop starting in Charlotte NC May 6! Find out more here https://www.facebook.com/events/787953384919390/ or reach out to her and find out if Kim is coming to your hometown!

You've probably heard the old saying, in order to love someone else, you have to love yourself first. But that is a lot easier said than done. This week,Kim has a powerful conversation with Koya Webb, an internationally recognized yoga teacher, personal trainer, holistic health and wellness coach, author, and motivational speaker, who is revolutionizing the holistic living landscape. Kim and Koya talk about how to prioritize yourself over others so that you're able to help, give to and care for others in your life. Everyone wants to be loved, respected and told they're beautiful. Before that can truly sink in, however, we need to believe this about ourselves. Kim and Koya discuss how to achieve radical self-acceptance in our journey to truly be OK with who we are you have to see every challenge as an opportunity to grow. They share powerful tips in how to put that self-love into action. Kimemphasizes the importance of self-love in dating and shares useful tools on how to shift your perspective in order to find a partner who encourages you to be your best self. Koya talks through how to rise from the victim of your circumstances to the creator of your own path. Listen in for empowering tips and ideas that will help you live your life to the fullest. If you are having trouble seeing and believing in yourself and what you have to offer the world, sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim. You have the ability to shine brighter than ever, but we all need support and coaching to get there. Sign up right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough and make your next move. If you're in the Charlotte, North Carolina area - mark your calendars! Kim is going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the first ever, Flirt Academy Workshop! Click here to find out more: https://www.facebook.com/events/787953384919390/

Are you successful in every part of your life except for finding love? Do you have a hard time turning off your masculine, work energy so that you can show that feminine, sexy side? Or perhaps you never learned how to be comfortable in your femininity or you have turned off that side of you. Whatever your challenge might be, you will love this week's episode. Kim talks through how to tap into and use the art of feminine charm and debunks the myth that being in your feminine can somehow reduce your power, make you seem silly or easily dismissed. On the contrary, she brings in a recent study that qualifies feminine charm as an "impression management technique" that can help you achieve your goals in all areas of your life…including your love life. Every woman's definition of femininity is personal, but a few simple tips can help you land your next date while still being your authentic self. Listen in to hear Kim's tips on how to utilize your feminine charm effectively to attract men. If you want to learn how to be in your feminine more, this is a perfect opportunity to sign up for a FREE 30-minute call with Kim right now: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. You have the power to turn on the charm to achieve everything you want in love. And if you want hands on training in this area and you're in the Charlotte, North Carolina area - mark your calendars for May 6! Kim is going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the first ever, Flirt Academy Workshop! Message Kim directly on Facebook to find out more here https://www.facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/

Today we're doing something a little different! Last year, Kim coached Anne on the show, who was a master at getting to the first date, but had issues when it came to securing a second. If you haven't listened yet, check back to the episode from April 3, 2018 "Coaching with Kim: How to Get Beyond the First Date"! Now, Anne is back to tell Kim all about the amazing new guy she met last year and how she's changed since being on the show. Last year, Anne was a pro at getting guys to feel incredible but wasn't getting the deeper connection and affection she needed in return. If you're like Anne, coming off of a divorce, or in anyrelationship that didn't fill you up, you're more likely to accept the crumbs instead of the cake. In fact, you might not even recognize the cake even when it's served to you! On this show, you'll hear Anne share the progress she's made since working with Kim. Plus, Anne shares the tips she used to get men to understand that she's interested in them. Listen also as she shares the tools Kim gave her to create a more intimate, deeper connection with her now boyfriend. Stay tuned throughout to hear the advice Anne would have given her self, knowing what she knows now. If you are accepting crumbs when you KNOW you deserve the cake, do what Anne did. Schedule a free breakthrough call with Kim right here, right now: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough One year from now, you too could be in the beautiful relationship you've always deserved!

Now that you're in a relationship, how do you keep the spark alive? Find out this week, as Kim interviews Relationship and Sensuality Coach Alexandra Stockwell. For 20 years, this physician turned relationship expert has helped men and women rediscover the pleasure, connection and freedom they want in their relationships. Alexandra has an abundance of tips on how to bring excitement and sensuality into even the most simple acts or touches. Kim and Alexandra talk through what they've taught their clients and how to date their partners again. They discuss the common trap that many long term relationships fall into and explain why the drama of conflict can easily be confused with passion and excitement. Stay tuned to hear how slowing things down can reignite attraction, the 6 qualities of a conscious partnership and the importance of getting clear on the vision for your relationship. If you want to break the monotony in your relationship, make a move and schedule a FREE 30-minute Breakthrough Call with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. One call might shed some light on what you've been missing.

Did you know that research says that no one is born with charisma? It's all learned behavior! On this week's episode, Kim dives into how anyone can learn her Charisma Quotient formula with special guest, Dr. Larry Senn. Larry is known widely as The Father of Corporate Culture and is the author of the fascinating book, "The Mood Elevator". Larry walks through the different levels of The Mood Elevator and how being curious and interested can help pull you up from the lower emotional states. Listen in to hear all about how Larry has kept the spark alive with his wife of 40 years and how he prioritizes his happiness daily. Kim talks through the 3 ingredients that make up her Charisma Quotient, and how it all starts from the outside in. When you can feel good about how you present yourself on the outside, that energy can permeate all other areas of your life. Larry shares lessons he's learned working to encourage a positive culture throughout his career at companies like Walmart and The Woolworth Company. Some of the same ideas apply whether you want to be happier at work, or happier in your relationship. Either way, Larry's insightful advice to reduce drama and emotional flareups in relationships is on point! If you've noticed that you have settled on the lower levels of the mood elevator when it comes to your self-confidence, then this is a perfect opportunity to schedule a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim. The first step to changing your mindset and raising your Charisma Quotient! Sign up for a free breakthrough session here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Boring dates... ghosting... narcissists... Sound familiar? In today's dating world, there's no shortage of bad dating experiences. When you embark on your journey to find love, how do you cope with the worst of the dating world and shake the negativity so you can find the one who's right for you? On this episode, you'll hear Kim coach a woman, Maura, who's had a string of bad dates and is looking for strategies to move forward baggage-free. Maura's been getting caught up in a couple of chemistry storms with men where she races through the first three dates like a whirlwind and then they come to a screeching stop before date four, only to find that the men were never really ready or available for a relationships. Kim and Maura talk through how to identify upfront what is within her control, and what is not. Maura makes some real revelations on why she's been rushing into the vortex of these tornado relationships and Kim gives her some practical tips on how to stop the cycle. This episode is focused on how to transcend your bad dating experiences by changing your mindset, approach and perspective which in the end will make you feel uplifted and optimistic. Kim helps Maura with some effective takeaways to relieve the pressure of a relationship and to just have fun! If you are in the market for a breakthrough to lift you out of a bad dating rut, sign up for a FREE call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. Just one private session could be your first step to finding the love you truly deserve.

When it comes to dating and socializing, how would you characterize yourself? Are you curious, adventurous and open to meeting new people? Or are you unsure, insecure or anxious and would rather stay home wrapped up in your comfy robe? Listen in this week to the latest installment of What Would Kim Do, the segment where Kim answers your questions based on what she would do in your situation. On this episode, Kim tackles how to increase your social confidence in your dating life and beyond. You'll hear questions from someone healing from a long-term toxic relationship, someone who has no idea how to flirt, and someone who has been living with her parents until her 40s and has no idea where to start. But they all have one thing in common: a lack of social confidence that's holding them back from making a genuine connection and finding love. Kim talks through how you can enter a new situation, engage in conversation with ease and make a meaningful connection. You'll also hear specific confidence hacks that you can deploy on your next date to trust you're making the right impression. If the idea of having a conversation with a new person already makes you feel exhausted and riddled with anxiety, pay close attention to the tips on this episode! It all starts with first taking action, and then practice, practice, practice. After listening to this and realize you need more personal help in taking action to build your confidence, then sign up for a FREE Breakthrough Call with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. In just 30 minutes, you could see your world from a whole new perspective!

Do you have a ton of dates but they never turn into anything more? Do your relationships tend to fizzle out after a short period? With the rate of divorce hovering close to 50%, how do you turn your dates into real relationships that stick? To answer that question, Kim interviews Dr. Diana Kirschner, PBS Love Expert, psychologist and best-selling author of "Love in 90 Days". She's helped tens of thousands of singles and couples learn what it takes to build lasting relationships. If your dating routine or relationship is becoming too predictable, short lived or just isn't filling you up, then this episode is for you. Dr. Diana's extensive experience, combined Kim's results-oriented signature outside in approach is a recipe for success in learning how to love yourself so you can find the lasting love you deserve. Dr. Diana and Kim share tips on how to date casually, keep men interested and how to know where to find the right guys for you. This conversation will give you a peek behind how changing your clothes and even your name can change who you attract and how you're perceived by others. Don't give up before the miracle - your perfect lasting match could be just around the corner. To learn more and grab Dr. Diana's book "Love in 90 Days" click here: https://lovein90days.com/book-bonus-sign-in/ref/Kim+Seltzer/ And don't forget to check out Kim's Love Makeover Bootcamp Retreat in Florida this April. Click here for more https://bl394-2e7bd4.pages.infusionsoft.net/

Do you hate dating and find it exhausting? If you're like a lot of people, you might prefer to be in a committed relationship and just skip the whole meeting-a-bunch-of-strangers-dating thing. So whether you're just getting out of a long term relationship, have always been a relationship-oriented person, or if you just don't know how to date, this episode was made for you. Listen in if the idea of meeting new people and "dating up a storm" makes you feel anxious or sucks the life out of you! On this show, Kim will walk you through the 5 steps to successful dating. She digs deeper into the strategies behind dating smarter, not harder without being attached to the outcome. You'll learn the importance of getting clarity on your dating goals and how creating a dating plan can empower you to take action. Kim will talk through how you can date without attachment, really have flirty FUN and enjoy getting to experience new people. Learn how you can create a magnetism and carry yourself with curiosity as you embark on your dating journey. And if this all still sounds really hard and you are ready to put this theory into practice, take the opportunity to learn more about Kim's new Love Makeover Bootcamp Retreat in Florida this April. Click here to learn more and sign up for a FREE call to see if it could be a good fit for you: https://bl394-2e7bd4.pages.infusionsoft.net/

Feeling secure when it comes to dating after divorce is easier said than done, especially when it has been a while. Listen in this week as Kim interviews Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt who shares her journey about learning to embrace her sensuality fully after divorce. This candid and real conversation is all about how you can successfully make the transition, as Allana says, from devastated to delicious! Allana discloses how she had to fall in love with masculine energy again, especially after she felt so disconnected from men. This lively discussion is full of juicy, fun and sexy tips on how to get back in touch with your playful, feminine side. Kim and Allana talk about the pitfalls and benefits of dating " unavailable" men as a necessary phase. This episode is an uplifting and lighthearted take on owning your confidence, embracing your flirtatious side, and getting curious! Get inspired to be bold and creative this week and let your ferocity shine! If you need a push to rediscover your sexy confidence after divorce, take the opportunity to learn more about Kim's new transformative Love Makeover Bootcamp in Florida this April. Click here to learn more: https://bl394-2e7bd4.pages.infusionsoft.net/

Women's body confidence has become a global issue. Women around the world, and especially in the US, UK, and Australia have reported that low body-esteem has prevented them from making moves in their love lives and career, big and small. This week, you'll hear Kim's live coaching call with Madison, who wants to feel vibrant and confident flirting with guys. Madison is a young singer, just starting to kick off her career. While she's fully secure hanging out with men as friends, when it comes to making a romantic or intimate connection, she struggles with feeling shame around potential rejection. Madison shares some family dynamics that have influenced her body image gremlins and Kim talks her through how to get rid of those old tapes playing on repeat. Kim gives Madison some tangible tips on how to access the "Rockstar" part of her before dates, that naturally comes out when she's performing on stage. This conversation is so uplifting, it will encourage you to access your inner rockstar and show up as your most sexy and confident self! If Madison's call resonates with you, and you want to begin working to find your sexy confidence, take the opportunity to learn more about Kim's new Love Makeover Bootcamp & Retreat in Florida this April. But act now…spots to this small group will go fast! Click here to learn more: https://bl394-2e7bd4.pages.infusionsoft.net/

Kim's back with another episode of What Would Kim Do? It's the segment where Kim answers your questions with concrete advice based on what she would do in your situation. This week, we're starting off with a classic gripe most women on the dating scene have, "Where can I find quality men?". And if you've been listening to the show, Kim's answer won't shock you but she does reveal the surprising story of how (and most importantly where) she met HER boyfriend of 5 years. If you struggle with feeling anxious or nervous in your dating life, Kim shares some simple tips on how to get out of your head and into a conversation. She will teach you the 3 phases of conversation and gives you tips in making more meaningful connections no matter how introverted or shy you feel. This episode is all about how you can encourage yourself to open up, get curious and get interested in other people both online and off! Remember, in order to attract new and different people or change the quality of conversation you're having on dates, you need to change up your approach! If you're getting curious about how you can make some powerful changes with sticking power, your opportunity is here! Kim is hosting a new exclusive Love Makeover Bootcamp & Retreat in Florida this April. But act now…spots to this small group will go fast! Inquire here for more information: https://bl394-2e7bd4.pages.infusionsoft.net/.

You know the feeling. You're swiping through your dating app of choice and all your options start blending together. If you keep this up, you're going to burn out! This week, Kim's switching things up. Listen in on her conversation with "The Great Love Debate's" Brian Howie, and the creator of the brand new dating app, Cove, Charles Messow. Charles has embarked on a journey to create a new kind of dating app, one designed for deeper and more meaningful connections. These three talk through the generational dating language gap. The rules have changed, but the fundamentals of making a genuine connection haven't. This conversation delivers both a male and female perspective to your burning dating questions! How do you start a successful conversation AND connection through an app? Should you pick up your date at their house? Bring them flowers? Can you just walk up to anyone in a bar anymore and strike up a conversation? In this day and age, people are retreating from the previous standards of dating and social interaction. You might think that our attention spans have been stunted and our trust in each other has diminished, but this episode will give you hope for the future! If you're ready to get out of your dating app rut and try something new, sign up for Kim's FREE private group for women looking to transform their love lives from the outside in here: https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL This group of amazing women will help support your goals! Charisma Quotient Podcast, hosted by: Kimberly Seltzer

Do you find yourself feeling guilty for taking care of yourself instead of others? Are you hesitant to set boundaries or ask for help when you really need it? This week, Kim coaches Jessica, a stay-at-home mom who wants to branch out and find her purpose outside of being a badass mom without guilt! Kim talks through a bit of scientific research that shows women are more likely than men to take care of everyone and everything -- and feel guilty if they don't! Jessica openly shares a story about her upbringing where she didn't get the attention she needed so she poured her energy into putting others first to feel validated. Kim dives into how Jessica can set some clear, healthy boundaries and set up a few simple systems that will allow her to take some much needed time for herself and not feel beholden to her role as a mom at all times. These lessons can apply to you whether you're a parent like Jessica or you often find yourself in the caretaker role in your romantic relationships. The more you run to meet the expectations of others without setting boundaries for yourself, the more you leave yourself open to being pushed to your breaking point and feeling depleted. This episode focuses on real, tangible tips to help you find your voice and rediscover your power to live your life on your own terms! And in the end, you will feel heard, respected and cared for. If this conversation speaks to you and you're interested in learning how you can prioritize self-care in 2019, sign up for a free breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. One conversation could set you on a whole new path! Take action today. Charisma Quotient Podcast, hosted by: Kimberly Seltzer.

Have you set a big goal this year to meet your soulmate? Are you already feeling completely overwhelmed by that lofty promise to yourself? This week, Kim breaks down all your bad dating habits and addictions and gives you the tools to crush those habits this year. In order to make real connections, find love and eventually meet your soulmate, you'll have to break down that big goal into smaller pieces so you can accomplish what you set out to. Maybe you're spending all your time scrolling through Tinder, Bumble and Hinge and you're not actually engaging with people in the real world. Or, perhaps your stuck blaming others for your dating misfortunes instead of looking at what you can do to get a better outcome. Listen as Kim breaks down the top 5 bad dating habits people tend to have and important tips on how to break them. If you're spending endless time and energy with meaningless dates and relationships that don't yield the results you want, make sure you listen to this episode. The beginning of a new year is a perfect time to take stock of what you want, what you deserve and set real boundaries to ensure that you never accept less than you're worth. If this episode resonates with you and you see yourself and your habits in these examples, take the first step to make an active change this year and give Kim a call. You can schedule a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session with her personally right now by clicking this link: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain!

Do you tend to stay in things too long? How do you know when enough is enough -- when it's better to quit than stick it out? At what point do you release the fear of the unknown and move confidently into the next chapter of your life unburdened? This week, Kim interviews Dr. Lynn Marie Morski, author Quitting by Design and host of the podcast, Quit Happens. Lynn Marie teaches others how to quit rationally and strategically. This conversation is perfect for stepping into the New Year courageously, powerfully and without regrets! Kim and Lynn Marie discuss the fundamental components of deciding to quit with Kim's signature strategy of a cost/benefit analysis on relationships -- how big and bright is the light at the end of your tunnel and how dark and long is that tunnel to begin with? With Kim's background in psychology and Lynn Marie's medical training, this conversation is packed with breakdowns of human behavioral patterns and physiology that will reveal some surprising connections. Lynn Marie explains the 5 steps of quitting and differentiates between various levels. This dialogue will empower you to assess your relationships, friendships, and habits to decide whether or not a quit is right for you! And if you're ready to get unstuck in your love life and perhaps quit a relationship that isn't serving you schedule a FREE breakthrough session with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Come out of your shell this holiday season to meet someone special! This week Kim talks about how to add some sparkle to your holiday wardrobe and turn up the volume on your flirt game. During this time of year, there's a holiday party or event every other day, so accept every invitation you get or, throw your own event and get out of your comfort zone. The holidays don't have to induce dread! Shake it up this season and pull out these tips and tricks to make a new connection.

How do you believe in yourself when you've been told your whole life that you are not worth believing in? How do you get rid of those old, pesky messages that tell you you're not worth it? This week, Kim coaches Myra live on this episode. She is interested in building and strengthening her self worth and self-esteem. Myra opens up right away and shares her family history of emotional, sexual and physical abuse and how that has affected her relationship with herself and others. Kim talks her through how that history has diminished Myra's confidence and self-image, or what Kim calls her "old tapes." Kim talks her through some practical tips about how to quiet the voices in her head that tell her she's not good enough and to start looking at the positive accomplishments she's made in her family, her career and her life to give the evidence of her leadership abilities. You'll also hear tools you can implement to become a warrior and push through those voices to make you stronger so that you can strengthen your self esteem muscle. If you're like Myra and you've struggled with your self-confidence, this candid conversation will lift you up and give you the tools you need to start building your self-esteem and improving your relationships. It's never too late to begin working on loving yourself! And if you want to have a breakthrough just like Myra and learn to give yourself the credit you deserve, sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

This week, Kim's back with another episode of, What Would Kim Do? On this segment, Kim answers your questions by telling you what you should do in your situation. Kim starts by tackling the age-old question, why does it feel like all guys on online dating sites are only interested in sex? Of course, there are guys out there only interested in one thing, but if you're looking for a more serious relationship Kim challenges you to take inventory of what you're putting out there to see if you can change your results. And if most of your dating activity is through dating apps or Instagram, Kim shares what to say to transcend that online bubble and what to say to move the conversation from the online world to the real world. Next, this episode goes into how to check your confidence levels at different stages of a relationship -- with others and with yourself. Whether you're worried about gaining the confidence to strike up a conversation with someone new, sharing your feelings for the first time, or being able to look at yourself in the mirror and feel sexy, doing some personal work on your self-esteem is a great idea! This episode is packed with action steps you can take today to improve your self-esteem, decrease your anxiety around dating and relationships and improving your body image. If you want your question to be featured on a future episode, send them to Kim via direct Facebook message @SeltzerKimberly and while you're at it, join her private Facebook group Love Makeover Insiders for women committed to transforming their lives from the outside in! https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

What is your personal brand when it comes to dating? Do your actions and the clothes you wear align with your mindset in order to attract the kind of person you want? This week, Kim interviews the popular Paul Carrick Brunson, an entrepreneur, author, business columnist at USA Today and co-host of UK television show "Celebs Go Dating." A former matchmaker like Kim, Paul has reinvented his life and rebranded his career countless times. For him, rebranding himself has allowed him to create the life he desires and goals on his terms. This smart and engaging conversation is about how you can make sure that the way you show up to others (your brand), is how you want to be perceived. Kim and Paul talk about the importance of understanding your values first and then living them authentically. If you're feeling stuck, this interview will show you a new way of thinking that can open up your possibilities to reinvent your dating life, relationships and career. You have the ability within you to attract the life and love you want, but you need to take action to get there. Paul talks about the power of mindset and achievement in obtaining your goals. If you're not attracting the kind of relationships or career you're looking for, focus and action are essential skills to inspire the change you seek. And when you begin taking the steps to alter your life for the better, it will create a ripple effect to the lives of those around you! If you're looking to uncover how you can rebrand and design your love life, sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Have you ever been on a date and you think you did all of the right things yet he still didn't ask you out again? Are you uncertain to what you might be doing that is affecting your chances of making a great first impression with your date? On this episode, Kim talks through 4 of the biggest mistakes that women make on first dates and why they don't get asked back out. On this candid episode, Kim shares common issues she observes from her clients and then walks you through easy solutions to help you overcome these challenges on your next first encounter with a man. You'll hear key ingredients to creating more chemistry on dates, including tips around flirting, dressing for the first date and giving signals you are interested. So before you declare that there are "No good men out there!" listen to this podcast and see if you can get a different result with the men you are meeting! And, if you're ready to kill it on your next first date, there's still time to be a part of Kim's new 21-Day Challenge: How To Rock Out A Great First Impression, that hooks the looks and seals the deals! Kim will be with you for 21 days starting December 3 where she'll give you practical tools to develop a new image that will build confidence and strengthen you emotionally, mentally and physically for only $47 so check it out and don't delay! https://eliteimagemakeovers.com/21DayChallenge/

Do you use your femininity to your advantage? Do you believe it's possible to be feminine and be taken seriously? Or do you worry about how your femininity may come across? This week, Kim interviews Kendrick Shope, the creator of Sales School, the leading sales training for women entrepreneurs. Kim and Kendrick have a funny, compelling and energetic conversation about how you can use your feminine power successfully in professional and personal situations, without the fear of being underestimated. As a sales expert in the media, Kendrick been featured on The Steve Harvey Show, NBC, and Forbes, among others. But at the beginning of her career, Kendrick was out in the field, selling everything from lumber to pharmaceuticals, and often, she was the only woman on her sales team. Kendrick shares stories of people underestimating her, telling her to change her methods, her accent and to tone down her femininity. Ultimately, as she and Kim discuss, it took confidence and persistence for her to change the expectations of her clients and her bosses, so she could show up as her authentic self. Even if you're not in sales, this conversation is still valuable for you! Kim discusses the ways femininity can be a big asset in the world of business and in attracting a partner. And you'll learn Kendrick believes that selling is the key that unlocks the door to what you want in life. That might be a discussion with your child, your significant other, your client, your date or your boss. If you need that boost to help you confidently express what you want using feminine communication, this interview will help inspire you to yell it from the rooftops! And, if you want to work on embracing your feminine side and create a winning image, be a part of Kim's new How To Rock Out A Great First Impression--The 21 Day Challenge that hooks the looks and seals the deals. Kim will be with you for 21 days starting November 28 where she'll be giving you practical tools you need to develop a new image that will build confidence and strengthen you emotionally, mentally and physically for only $47 so check it out and don't delay! https://eliteimagemakeovers.com/21DayChallenge/

Have you ever been told you're too picky when it comes to dating? Do you fear feeling that you're settling? How do you know if having high standards is helping you, or hurting you? This week on Coaching with Kim, you'll hear from Gwen, who's having trouble trusting her instincts in relationships. Gwen is willing to take smart risks when it comes to her career, but that doesn't translate to her love life. Gwen shares that her dad says she's too picky, and Kim probes for how that makes Gwen feel about the guys she chooses or not. This conversation is honest, open and reflective. Feeling secure and confident in your decisions, especially when you haven't had a lot of experience meeting people you connect with, is difficult for everyone - there's a learning curve! Getting really clear on what you want in a relationship doesn't just happen, it takes time and experience to build a clear vision. Kim encourages Gwen to acknowledge her accomplishments both personally and professionally and be open to dating for fun! When you take action, at first, it can be uncomfortable and anxiety-inducing, but the more you experience, the more you will grow and learn what you like, what you want and ultimately, who you are. If you are looking to take a step in the right direction to build your self-confidence, join Kim's private Facebook group for women looking to transform their love lives from the outside in, join Love Makeover Insiders here: https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week on the show, Kim unveils a new segment, What Would Kim Do? On these episodes, Kim takes your questions and answers them directly. Send us your questions about dating, love, relationships, building self-confidence and anything in between! On this segment, Kim answers questions about how to be in your feminine while still maintaining your confidence and power and how to deal with a date that won't let you get a word in. You'll hear a question from a woman who's dealing with a pretty bad breakup and Kim's advice on how to find yourself and your identity after a relationship ends. Next, Kim breaks down the difference between friendly and flirty for someone who finds themselves relegated to the friend zone constantly. Plus, Kim answers the ultimate question, how do you find a quality man? You'll have to listen though to find out the surprising answer. If you like this segment, let us know! Send your questions to Kim via direct Facebook message @SeltzerKimberly and while you're at it, join her private Facebook group Love Makeover Insiders for women committed to transforming their lives from the outside in! https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

Would you describe yourself as a confident person? Would others? Kim explains that confidence isn't innate, it's about having exposure and experience in something which makes us feel more secure. This week, Kim interviews Nada Lena, the founder and CEO of "Rise Up For You," a company dedicated to empowering and educating women across the globe. Nada is a motivational speaker, educator, entrepreneur, and an advocate for youth and women's empowerment. This episode is a lesson in harnessing and expressing your confidence fully! Nada shares her personal story about upending her life and moving across the world for love. Nada grew up in a supportive family, which helped her develop a base level of unshakeable confidence. However, when that relationship ended, Nada's confidence was nearly shattered. She couldn't believe that she was in this unstable position, especially since she had always remained in control of her circumstances up to that point. Kim asks Nada about how she rebuilt her confidence and how she uses those same lessons to teach other women how to establish their own sense of personal conviction. If you're working on building up your level of self esteem and confidence, this episode will give you some tangible tips to begin that journey. Take the first step towards showing up authentically as yourself no matter what the situation and join Kim and Nada at her Empowered Women Rise Conference November 3! Link here: LINK: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/empowered-women-rise-conference-networking-empowerment-self-development-tickets-48676606039 CODE FOR DISCOUNT: EWRKIM15