Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Welcome back to the segment called, What Would Kim Do? Kim dedicates these episodes to answering your questions directly. In this episode, you'll hear a strategy for overcoming past trauma that may be infiltrating your dating life. And if you're struggling to determine what exactly it is you want in a relationship, Kim dives into several tips on how to gain the clarity you need to attract the right kind of person. For those of you not meeting the kind of people you want, you'll get some advice on how to look inward to start the discovery process. You'll hear a question from a woman who's just coming off a separation and divorce. Kim shares some tips from her experience post-divorce encouraging you to get back to basics and discovering who you are independent from a relationship. This episode touches on a lot of juicy topics - listen in! Are you struggling with some of the same issues you heard on this episode? Join Kim's private Facebook group, the Love Makeover Insiders - a supportive community of women seeking to find healthy, happy relationships. You can sign up right here: https://www.facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/ Mark your calendars! Kim's going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the next Flirt Academy Workshop in San Francisco! She's got a workshop for women on July 25, and one for men on July 26! Get your tickets right here: https://www.facebook.com/events/460295508124942/ for men and https://www.facebook.com/events/840244789682404/ for women.

Be vulnerable, be authentic... be yourself! It's a lot easier said than done. This week, Kim interviews Robert Kandell, a speaker, Amazon bestselling author, and host of the podcast TuffLove. Robert has taught more than 10,000 people using his expertise in interpersonal communication in relationships. On this show, you'll hear an honest conversation where Robert shares the defining moment in his life when he was not seeing or hearing his wife's needs. You'll hear how he and his wife at the time began working to develop a practice around vulnerability and intimacy. Kim and Robert talk about society's definitions of masculinity and femininity, how it can discourage us to not open up or worse yet, create unrealistic expectations. Happiness is not achieved because we match society's definition perfectly, there's a lot of personal development work that goes into being truly happy with who we are. Kim asks Robert to define the steps to become more vulnerable and authentic. They walk you through how you can teach yourself to be more vulnerable through practice, repetition and learning the language! Tune in to hear about how to share personal and even intimate "secrets" you have with someone you're dating - especially if you're afraid to reveal something. Robert shares exactly how to bring up sensitive conversation topics with someone you're dating, whether it's date #1 or #10. If you're looking to be more vulnerable, authentic and show up more like your true self on dates, this episode is for you! Want to jumpstart your own development? Take the first step and sign up for a breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough And, if you're going to be in the San Francisco area July 25-26, Kim's Flirt Academy Workshop in partnership with The Great Love Debate is coming to you! Check out Kim's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/ for more details.

Have you ever heard of emotional attraction? Do you ever wonder how to create more meaningful connections with someone when you first meet? Most of us are familiar with physical attraction, but to build a strong, connected relationship it's important to move beyond the physical and learn to be more open in letting the opposite sex really feel you. This week, Kim dives into ways you can create a deep emotional attraction with your dates from the minute you meet them. If you feel like your conversations just scratch the surface or feel a lack of chemistry on dates, Kim delivers tips on how you can take them to the next level. You can move beyond simply describing your day, or what you like, to using feeling words that show who you are. This episode is your guide to creating an emotional connection and being vulnerable without going overboard. Listen in to save yourself from the dread of divulging too much too soon or holding back with your guard up on the first date! And, Kim dispels the myth that if you're not physically attracted to someone right away, you will never be. If you want to learn how to build emotional attraction and flirt effortlessly, sign up a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough If you've been relying on physical attraction to carry you through, or have found that you can't get to that next level in your dating life - Kim will help you crack the code to creating a deeper emotional attraction. And, if you're near Addison, Texas - Kim's Flirt Academy Workshop in partnership with The Great Love Debate is in your area tonight! Find out if the Flirt Academy is coming to a city near you on Kim's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/

Are you that super nice person who has a ton of friends, but not a lot of girlfriends or boyfriends? Do you find that no matter what you do, the opposite sex puts you in the friend zone? Everyone knows the feeling of crushing on someone who doesn't seem to notice or be at all receptive to your interest. And if you've ever been coached by Kim and you're a guy -- you'll recognize this week's expert interview! It's so exciting to have on Dr. Robert Glover, author of the celebrated book, "No More Mr. Nice Guy", and the forthcoming book, "Dating Essentials for Men". Dr. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on "Nice Guy Syndrome" and has helped thousands of men shed their Friend Zone label and find happy, healthy, relationships. Listen in as Kim shocks Dr. Glover with ways women get stuck in the friend zone as well! Kim and Dr. Glover discuss ways both men and women get stuck in the friend zone and how to overcome them. They talk through some easy tips on body language, style and conversation tools to flirt and demonstrate interest. When you start with being sure of yourself, knowing your strengths and accepting your personality, it helps you escalate sexual attraction! If you're finding yourself getting stuck as being the constant "nice guy or gal" and want to learn how to create more chemistry on dates, take the first step and sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough . Also, check out Dr. Glover's new book "Dating Essentials For Men" here: https://amzn.to/2Wr6Nbo

Welcome back to the second installment of Where Are They Now! These episodes are a great chance to catch up with people who have previously been coached by Kim who are now in happy, successful relationships. On this show, Kim has a conversation with Stephen back from Episode 24 in 2018. When we last heard from Stephen, he was trying to figure out how to balance not diving in too deep, too soon and taking it slow with the women he meets. Since then, Stephen met a wonderful woman and they've been in a great relationship full of adventures for a year. Stephen shares his mindset and dating life when he first started working with Kim. He was going on a lot of first dates that never progressed anywhere meaningful. In the next stage, he would date someone for several months, but inevitably their connection would fizzle out. Through working with Kim, Stephen has been able to grow and learn to build deeper, emotional relationships with the people he meets. Stephen now shares that with his current girlfriend exemplified by him being much more vulnerable, sharing feelings and being open and intentional in conversations. Listen in to hear the steps that Stephen took to get to that point and a fun game you can play with your next date to practice reconnecting on an emotional level! If you're ready for a stronger connection in your love life, just like Stephen - start with the first step as he did: sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim right now: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough And, if you want to join Kim's 14-Day Flirt & Femininity Challenge - it starts today June 5!! Click here to sign up and learn the key ingredients to attract the men everywhere: https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD

Do you believe that you have the power to grow and develop your dating skills, or do you think you get what you get out of pure luck? This week, Kim has a conversation with Melanie Benson, a performance optimizer, author and business coach about how to have a growth mindset. Melanie hosts the Amplify Your Success Podcast and her success tips are featured in Bloomberg Business Week, Woman's Day, and Parenting Magazine. There's a ton of talk out there about mindset - abundance vs. scarcity or fixed vs. growth - but how do you actually improve yours for the better? On this show, Kim and Melanie get into the details of what mindset is and how you can change yours to get what you want in life and love. If you want to meet the love of your life but you've been taking the same routes meeting people at the same parties or going to the same bars time after time, how do you push yourself to be the person that can attract what you say you want? In this conversation, Kim and Melanie talk through how you can start with one step to make big and bold changes. Perhaps you've tried taking baby step after baby step, and have realized you're going nowhere fast. To upgrade your mindset, determine the boldest thing you could think of to switch up your patterns and break yourself out of your comfort zone. Listen in this week if you want to start reconditioning your thought patterns and say out loud what you're willing to do to move forward in your dating life! Here's a bold move for you: sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim right now: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough And if you really want to be bold and brave, join Kim's 14-Day Flirt and Femininity Challenge starting June 6th to help you learn the key ingredients to attract men here https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD

Every week, Kim talks through dating difficulties and how to overcome them. One challenge many people experience is trying to date while straddling two cultures. Whether you grew up in a family with strong cultural values that differ from traditional American ones or are exploring the dating scene from a foreign perspective in any capacity, this episode is here to help! On this show, you'll meet Fred. He comes from a culture where the values of his Muslim faith were paramount, and intimate relationships between men and women are navigated quite differently than his experience in the American dating scene. Although he's tried to explore opportunities on dating apps like Bumble, he's feeling frustrated that his values don't seem to align well with the values of the women he's meeting both online and in person. Listen as Kim coaches Fred live through many of the challenges he's faced on his journey to find love and get married. Kim walks Fred through how to define realistic expectations for himself, begin creating his own "mini culture" that he defines outside the boundaries of his cultural background and develop a dating plan in America. If you're struggling to find a comfortable balance dating between cultures, or the entire dating world feels like a foreign experience to you -- help is out there! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough The relationship you want is out there, you just need to take action and get the tools you need to discover it! And, starting June 6th, you can join Kim's exclusive 14-Day Flirt and Femininity Challenge to help you learn the key ingredients to attract men. Join the private Facebook group challenge here: https://bit.ly/2YM4ddD

Have you ever had minor heart palpitations trying to decide what to text a guy back? Do you spend more time coming up with a million "what ifs" about potential dates than you do getting asked out? Are you constantly worried about being rejected or not being good enough? If so, this episode about how to deal with dating anxiety is for you! This week, Kim interviews Shira Myrow, mindfulness-based marriage and family therapist who is deeply committed to helping people process painful experiences and dysfunctional relationships into secure, resilient narratives. Kim starts off by defining what dating anxiety is and how the various symptoms can paralyze your dating life. Kim and Shira dive right into a conversation about how Shira began her work helping people develop relationship intelligence. When it comes to handling anxiety in dating, you can't manufacture a spark between two people, but you can learn how to have a happy, healthy, loving relationship! Shira talks about how to notice and deal with anxious thoughts before you spin down a rabbit hole or try so hard to suppress an anxious feeling that you never move past it. If you've had bad experiences dating, had issues with your family growing up or are just lost in how to manage your feelings and emotions as you embark on your journey, listen in for some useful tips! Anxiety in dating is super common, but there is a way to overcome it! Reduce your dating anxiety right now, and give Kim a call for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session. Coaching may be your best option for working through your anxiety and landing the relationship you want! https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Everyone has challenges with dating! Attracting the right kind of person for you is a skill you can build with practice. This week, you'll hear Kim's coaching session with Maria. She's a vibrant, confident, and successful woman looking for a man who can match her energy and inspire her. However, she has found that she consistently attracts the wrong type of guy for her. Maria shares her journey from when she first started working with Kim 4 years ago to now. For Maria, meeting men isn't the issue, it's sending signals to the right kind of guys that she's interested in a relationship, and not just a casual romance. When your life priorities shift, the time you spend focusing on your love life will change. Kim and Maria talk through how to take a conversation from surface level to an appropriate emotional place. Listen in to hear Maria's breakthrough moment where Kim cracks the code of why this keeps happening to her and gives her hands on tips in how to overcome it. And it's not what you might think! If you're looking to shift your perspective on dating to land the relationship you've always wanted, give Kim a call with a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough and have her crack the code on what you can do differently to attract the right one for you.

It's spring, and wedding season is here! If your mailbox is flooded with save-the-dates or your social calendar is booked solid for the next few months, listen up for an unconventional take on the weddings, marriage and relationships. This week, Kim interviews Jen Glantz, the founder of the viral business Bridesmaid for Hire and host of the podcast You're Not Getting Any Younger. After being asked by numerous friends (and strangers!) if she would be their bridesmaid, Jen decided to start charging for her services. After seeing hundreds of brides and grooms on their big day, Jen shares stories of all the love mistakes she's made throughout her life and in her more recent journey as an entrepreneur. Kim and Jen swap stories of the biggest misconceptions they had when just starting out in the dating world. These two talk through the importance of being clear on what you deserve in a relationship and taking intentional action. Jen shares her thoughts on the importance of communication in partnerships as well as a few fun stories from her days as a bridesmaid for hire. If you want to hear a lighthearted, playful conversation about mistakes in love and bouncing back better than ever, this show delivers wisdom on the experience needed to grow into your sexy confidence. If you're making love mistakes that are holding you back from being in the relationship you want and deserve, give Kim a call with a FREE breakthrough session: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough The things you uncover could lead you to a healthy, happy relationship in no time at all. And, Kim is going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the first ever Flirt Academy Workshop! Click here to find out more: https://www.facebook.com/events/787953384919390/

This week, we're diving into another episode answering your questions on What Would Kim Do! On this show, Kim fields multiple questions from listeners about how to get over the fear preventing you from making a change. You'll hear tips on how to look at online dating as a practice tool to flirt, engage in conversations and meet great men. And if you've had trouble connecting with men in general, listen closely! Kim shares how you can start getting comfortable being around male energy so you can be successful on dates. This episode is packed with questions from people that are having trouble getting out of their heads and dipping their toes into the dating pool. Kim talks through how to shake off your energy from work, parenting or stress and release your anxiety. If you are an over-thinker, are uncomfortable around men or feel a lot of anxiety around dating in general, this episode is for you!! You can begin the deeper work you may need to feel confident, sexy and playful in your life by scheduling a FREE breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. Getting started can be scary, but don't let fear paralyze you from finding the love you deserve. Also, Kim is going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the first ever, Flirt Academy Workshop starting in Charlotte NC May 6! Find out more here https://www.facebook.com/events/787953384919390/ or reach out to her and find out if Kim is coming to your hometown!

You've probably heard the old saying, in order to love someone else, you have to love yourself first. But that is a lot easier said than done. This week,Kim has a powerful conversation with Koya Webb, an internationally recognized yoga teacher, personal trainer, holistic health and wellness coach, author, and motivational speaker, who is revolutionizing the holistic living landscape. Kim and Koya talk about how to prioritize yourself over others so that you're able to help, give to and care for others in your life. Everyone wants to be loved, respected and told they're beautiful. Before that can truly sink in, however, we need to believe this about ourselves. Kim and Koya discuss how to achieve radical self-acceptance in our journey to truly be OK with who we are you have to see every challenge as an opportunity to grow. They share powerful tips in how to put that self-love into action. Kimemphasizes the importance of self-love in dating and shares useful tools on how to shift your perspective in order to find a partner who encourages you to be your best self. Koya talks through how to rise from the victim of your circumstances to the creator of your own path. Listen in for empowering tips and ideas that will help you live your life to the fullest. If you are having trouble seeing and believing in yourself and what you have to offer the world, sign up for a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim. You have the ability to shine brighter than ever, but we all need support and coaching to get there. Sign up right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough and make your next move. If you're in the Charlotte, North Carolina area - mark your calendars! Kim is going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the first ever, Flirt Academy Workshop! Click here to find out more: https://www.facebook.com/events/787953384919390/

Are you successful in every part of your life except for finding love? Do you have a hard time turning off your masculine, work energy so that you can show that feminine, sexy side? Or perhaps you never learned how to be comfortable in your femininity or you have turned off that side of you. Whatever your challenge might be, you will love this week's episode. Kim talks through how to tap into and use the art of feminine charm and debunks the myth that being in your feminine can somehow reduce your power, make you seem silly or easily dismissed. On the contrary, she brings in a recent study that qualifies feminine charm as an "impression management technique" that can help you achieve your goals in all areas of your life…including your love life. Every woman's definition of femininity is personal, but a few simple tips can help you land your next date while still being your authentic self. Listen in to hear Kim's tips on how to utilize your feminine charm effectively to attract men. If you want to learn how to be in your feminine more, this is a perfect opportunity to sign up for a FREE 30-minute call with Kim right now: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. You have the power to turn on the charm to achieve everything you want in love. And if you want hands on training in this area and you're in the Charlotte, North Carolina area - mark your calendars for May 6! Kim is going on the road with the Great Love Debate for the first ever, Flirt Academy Workshop! Message Kim directly on Facebook to find out more here https://www.facebook.com/SeltzerKimberly/

Today we're doing something a little different! Last year, Kim coached Anne on the show, who was a master at getting to the first date, but had issues when it came to securing a second. If you haven't listened yet, check back to the episode from April 3, 2018 "Coaching with Kim: How to Get Beyond the First Date"! Now, Anne is back to tell Kim all about the amazing new guy she met last year and how she's changed since being on the show. Last year, Anne was a pro at getting guys to feel incredible but wasn't getting the deeper connection and affection she needed in return. If you're like Anne, coming off of a divorce, or in anyrelationship that didn't fill you up, you're more likely to accept the crumbs instead of the cake. In fact, you might not even recognize the cake even when it's served to you! On this show, you'll hear Anne share the progress she's made since working with Kim. Plus, Anne shares the tips she used to get men to understand that she's interested in them. Listen also as she shares the tools Kim gave her to create a more intimate, deeper connection with her now boyfriend. Stay tuned throughout to hear the advice Anne would have given her self, knowing what she knows now. If you are accepting crumbs when you KNOW you deserve the cake, do what Anne did. Schedule a free breakthrough call with Kim right here, right now: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough One year from now, you too could be in the beautiful relationship you've always deserved!

Now that you're in a relationship, how do you keep the spark alive? Find out this week, as Kim interviews Relationship and Sensuality Coach Alexandra Stockwell. For 20 years, this physician turned relationship expert has helped men and women rediscover the pleasure, connection and freedom they want in their relationships. Alexandra has an abundance of tips on how to bring excitement and sensuality into even the most simple acts or touches. Kim and Alexandra talk through what they've taught their clients and how to date their partners again. They discuss the common trap that many long term relationships fall into and explain why the drama of conflict can easily be confused with passion and excitement. Stay tuned to hear how slowing things down can reignite attraction, the 6 qualities of a conscious partnership and the importance of getting clear on the vision for your relationship. If you want to break the monotony in your relationship, make a move and schedule a FREE 30-minute Breakthrough Call with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. One call might shed some light on what you've been missing.

Did you know that research says that no one is born with charisma? It's all learned behavior! On this week's episode, Kim dives into how anyone can learn her Charisma Quotient formula with special guest, Dr. Larry Senn. Larry is known widely as The Father of Corporate Culture and is the author of the fascinating book, "The Mood Elevator". Larry walks through the different levels of The Mood Elevator and how being curious and interested can help pull you up from the lower emotional states. Listen in to hear all about how Larry has kept the spark alive with his wife of 40 years and how he prioritizes his happiness daily. Kim talks through the 3 ingredients that make up her Charisma Quotient, and how it all starts from the outside in. When you can feel good about how you present yourself on the outside, that energy can permeate all other areas of your life. Larry shares lessons he's learned working to encourage a positive culture throughout his career at companies like Walmart and The Woolworth Company. Some of the same ideas apply whether you want to be happier at work, or happier in your relationship. Either way, Larry's insightful advice to reduce drama and emotional flareups in relationships is on point! If you've noticed that you have settled on the lower levels of the mood elevator when it comes to your self-confidence, then this is a perfect opportunity to schedule a FREE 30-minute breakthrough call with Kim. The first step to changing your mindset and raising your Charisma Quotient! Sign up for a free breakthrough session here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Boring dates... ghosting... narcissists... Sound familiar? In today's dating world, there's no shortage of bad dating experiences. When you embark on your journey to find love, how do you cope with the worst of the dating world and shake the negativity so you can find the one who's right for you? On this episode, you'll hear Kim coach a woman, Maura, who's had a string of bad dates and is looking for strategies to move forward baggage-free. Maura's been getting caught up in a couple of chemistry storms with men where she races through the first three dates like a whirlwind and then they come to a screeching stop before date four, only to find that the men were never really ready or available for a relationships. Kim and Maura talk through how to identify upfront what is within her control, and what is not. Maura makes some real revelations on why she's been rushing into the vortex of these tornado relationships and Kim gives her some practical tips on how to stop the cycle. This episode is focused on how to transcend your bad dating experiences by changing your mindset, approach and perspective which in the end will make you feel uplifted and optimistic. Kim helps Maura with some effective takeaways to relieve the pressure of a relationship and to just have fun! If you are in the market for a breakthrough to lift you out of a bad dating rut, sign up for a FREE call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. Just one private session could be your first step to finding the love you truly deserve.

When it comes to dating and socializing, how would you characterize yourself? Are you curious, adventurous and open to meeting new people? Or are you unsure, insecure or anxious and would rather stay home wrapped up in your comfy robe? Listen in this week to the latest installment of What Would Kim Do, the segment where Kim answers your questions based on what she would do in your situation. On this episode, Kim tackles how to increase your social confidence in your dating life and beyond. You'll hear questions from someone healing from a long-term toxic relationship, someone who has no idea how to flirt, and someone who has been living with her parents until her 40s and has no idea where to start. But they all have one thing in common: a lack of social confidence that's holding them back from making a genuine connection and finding love. Kim talks through how you can enter a new situation, engage in conversation with ease and make a meaningful connection. You'll also hear specific confidence hacks that you can deploy on your next date to trust you're making the right impression. If the idea of having a conversation with a new person already makes you feel exhausted and riddled with anxiety, pay close attention to the tips on this episode! It all starts with first taking action, and then practice, practice, practice. After listening to this and realize you need more personal help in taking action to build your confidence, then sign up for a FREE Breakthrough Call with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. In just 30 minutes, you could see your world from a whole new perspective!

Do you have a ton of dates but they never turn into anything more? Do your relationships tend to fizzle out after a short period? With the rate of divorce hovering close to 50%, how do you turn your dates into real relationships that stick? To answer that question, Kim interviews Dr. Diana Kirschner, PBS Love Expert, psychologist and best-selling author of "Love in 90 Days". She's helped tens of thousands of singles and couples learn what it takes to build lasting relationships. If your dating routine or relationship is becoming too predictable, short lived or just isn't filling you up, then this episode is for you. Dr. Diana's extensive experience, combined Kim's results-oriented signature outside in approach is a recipe for success in learning how to love yourself so you can find the lasting love you deserve. Dr. Diana and Kim share tips on how to date casually, keep men interested and how to know where to find the right guys for you. This conversation will give you a peek behind how changing your clothes and even your name can change who you attract and how you're perceived by others. Don't give up before the miracle - your perfect lasting match could be just around the corner. To learn more and grab Dr. Diana's book "Love in 90 Days" click here: https://lovein90days.com/book-bonus-sign-in/ref/Kim+Seltzer/ And don't forget to check out Kim's Love Makeover Bootcamp Retreat in Florida this April. Click here for more https://bl394-2e7bd4.pages.infusionsoft.net/

Do you hate dating and find it exhausting? If you're like a lot of people, you might prefer to be in a committed relationship and just skip the whole meeting-a-bunch-of-strangers-dating thing. So whether you're just getting out of a long term relationship, have always been a relationship-oriented person, or if you just don't know how to date, this episode was made for you. Listen in if the idea of meeting new people and "dating up a storm" makes you feel anxious or sucks the life out of you! On this show, Kim will walk you through the 5 steps to successful dating. She digs deeper into the strategies behind dating smarter, not harder without being attached to the outcome. You'll learn the importance of getting clarity on your dating goals and how creating a dating plan can empower you to take action. Kim will talk through how you can date without attachment, really have flirty FUN and enjoy getting to experience new people. Learn how you can create a magnetism and carry yourself with curiosity as you embark on your dating journey. And if this all still sounds really hard and you are ready to put this theory into practice, take the opportunity to learn more about Kim's new Love Makeover Bootcamp Retreat in Florida this April. Click here to learn more and sign up for a FREE call to see if it could be a good fit for you: https://bl394-2e7bd4.pages.infusionsoft.net/

Feeling secure when it comes to dating after divorce is easier said than done, especially when it has been a while. Listen in this week as Kim interviews Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt who shares her journey about learning to embrace her sensuality fully after divorce. This candid and real conversation is all about how you can successfully make the transition, as Allana says, from devastated to delicious! Allana discloses how she had to fall in love with masculine energy again, especially after she felt so disconnected from men. This lively discussion is full of juicy, fun and sexy tips on how to get back in touch with your playful, feminine side. Kim and Allana talk about the pitfalls and benefits of dating " unavailable" men as a necessary phase. This episode is an uplifting and lighthearted take on owning your confidence, embracing your flirtatious side, and getting curious! Get inspired to be bold and creative this week and let your ferocity shine! If you need a push to rediscover your sexy confidence after divorce, take the opportunity to learn more about Kim's new transformative Love Makeover Bootcamp in Florida this April. Click here to learn more: https://bl394-2e7bd4.pages.infusionsoft.net/

Women's body confidence has become a global issue. Women around the world, and especially in the US, UK, and Australia have reported that low body-esteem has prevented them from making moves in their love lives and career, big and small. This week, you'll hear Kim's live coaching call with Madison, who wants to feel vibrant and confident flirting with guys. Madison is a young singer, just starting to kick off her career. While she's fully secure hanging out with men as friends, when it comes to making a romantic or intimate connection, she struggles with feeling shame around potential rejection. Madison shares some family dynamics that have influenced her body image gremlins and Kim talks her through how to get rid of those old tapes playing on repeat. Kim gives Madison some tangible tips on how to access the "Rockstar" part of her before dates, that naturally comes out when she's performing on stage. This conversation is so uplifting, it will encourage you to access your inner rockstar and show up as your most sexy and confident self! If Madison's call resonates with you, and you want to begin working to find your sexy confidence, take the opportunity to learn more about Kim's new Love Makeover Bootcamp & Retreat in Florida this April. But act now…spots to this small group will go fast! Click here to learn more: https://bl394-2e7bd4.pages.infusionsoft.net/

Kim's back with another episode of What Would Kim Do? It's the segment where Kim answers your questions with concrete advice based on what she would do in your situation. This week, we're starting off with a classic gripe most women on the dating scene have, "Where can I find quality men?". And if you've been listening to the show, Kim's answer won't shock you but she does reveal the surprising story of how (and most importantly where) she met HER boyfriend of 5 years. If you struggle with feeling anxious or nervous in your dating life, Kim shares some simple tips on how to get out of your head and into a conversation. She will teach you the 3 phases of conversation and gives you tips in making more meaningful connections no matter how introverted or shy you feel. This episode is all about how you can encourage yourself to open up, get curious and get interested in other people both online and off! Remember, in order to attract new and different people or change the quality of conversation you're having on dates, you need to change up your approach! If you're getting curious about how you can make some powerful changes with sticking power, your opportunity is here! Kim is hosting a new exclusive Love Makeover Bootcamp & Retreat in Florida this April. But act now…spots to this small group will go fast! Inquire here for more information: https://bl394-2e7bd4.pages.infusionsoft.net/.

You know the feeling. You're swiping through your dating app of choice and all your options start blending together. If you keep this up, you're going to burn out! This week, Kim's switching things up. Listen in on her conversation with "The Great Love Debate's" Brian Howie, and the creator of the brand new dating app, Cove, Charles Messow. Charles has embarked on a journey to create a new kind of dating app, one designed for deeper and more meaningful connections. These three talk through the generational dating language gap. The rules have changed, but the fundamentals of making a genuine connection haven't. This conversation delivers both a male and female perspective to your burning dating questions! How do you start a successful conversation AND connection through an app? Should you pick up your date at their house? Bring them flowers? Can you just walk up to anyone in a bar anymore and strike up a conversation? In this day and age, people are retreating from the previous standards of dating and social interaction. You might think that our attention spans have been stunted and our trust in each other has diminished, but this episode will give you hope for the future! If you're ready to get out of your dating app rut and try something new, sign up for Kim's FREE private group for women looking to transform their love lives from the outside in here: https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL This group of amazing women will help support your goals! Charisma Quotient Podcast, hosted by: Kimberly Seltzer

Do you find yourself feeling guilty for taking care of yourself instead of others? Are you hesitant to set boundaries or ask for help when you really need it? This week, Kim coaches Jessica, a stay-at-home mom who wants to branch out and find her purpose outside of being a badass mom without guilt! Kim talks through a bit of scientific research that shows women are more likely than men to take care of everyone and everything -- and feel guilty if they don't! Jessica openly shares a story about her upbringing where she didn't get the attention she needed so she poured her energy into putting others first to feel validated. Kim dives into how Jessica can set some clear, healthy boundaries and set up a few simple systems that will allow her to take some much needed time for herself and not feel beholden to her role as a mom at all times. These lessons can apply to you whether you're a parent like Jessica or you often find yourself in the caretaker role in your romantic relationships. The more you run to meet the expectations of others without setting boundaries for yourself, the more you leave yourself open to being pushed to your breaking point and feeling depleted. This episode focuses on real, tangible tips to help you find your voice and rediscover your power to live your life on your own terms! And in the end, you will feel heard, respected and cared for. If this conversation speaks to you and you're interested in learning how you can prioritize self-care in 2019, sign up for a free breakthrough call with Kim right here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. One conversation could set you on a whole new path! Take action today. Charisma Quotient Podcast, hosted by: Kimberly Seltzer.

Have you set a big goal this year to meet your soulmate? Are you already feeling completely overwhelmed by that lofty promise to yourself? This week, Kim breaks down all your bad dating habits and addictions and gives you the tools to crush those habits this year. In order to make real connections, find love and eventually meet your soulmate, you'll have to break down that big goal into smaller pieces so you can accomplish what you set out to. Maybe you're spending all your time scrolling through Tinder, Bumble and Hinge and you're not actually engaging with people in the real world. Or, perhaps your stuck blaming others for your dating misfortunes instead of looking at what you can do to get a better outcome. Listen as Kim breaks down the top 5 bad dating habits people tend to have and important tips on how to break them. If you're spending endless time and energy with meaningless dates and relationships that don't yield the results you want, make sure you listen to this episode. The beginning of a new year is a perfect time to take stock of what you want, what you deserve and set real boundaries to ensure that you never accept less than you're worth. If this episode resonates with you and you see yourself and your habits in these examples, take the first step to make an active change this year and give Kim a call. You can schedule a FREE 30-minute breakthrough session with her personally right now by clicking this link: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain!

Do you tend to stay in things too long? How do you know when enough is enough -- when it's better to quit than stick it out? At what point do you release the fear of the unknown and move confidently into the next chapter of your life unburdened? This week, Kim interviews Dr. Lynn Marie Morski, author Quitting by Design and host of the podcast, Quit Happens. Lynn Marie teaches others how to quit rationally and strategically. This conversation is perfect for stepping into the New Year courageously, powerfully and without regrets! Kim and Lynn Marie discuss the fundamental components of deciding to quit with Kim's signature strategy of a cost/benefit analysis on relationships -- how big and bright is the light at the end of your tunnel and how dark and long is that tunnel to begin with? With Kim's background in psychology and Lynn Marie's medical training, this conversation is packed with breakdowns of human behavioral patterns and physiology that will reveal some surprising connections. Lynn Marie explains the 5 steps of quitting and differentiates between various levels. This dialogue will empower you to assess your relationships, friendships, and habits to decide whether or not a quit is right for you! And if you're ready to get unstuck in your love life and perhaps quit a relationship that isn't serving you schedule a FREE breakthrough session with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Come out of your shell this holiday season to meet someone special! This week Kim talks about how to add some sparkle to your holiday wardrobe and turn up the volume on your flirt game. During this time of year, there's a holiday party or event every other day, so accept every invitation you get or, throw your own event and get out of your comfort zone. The holidays don't have to induce dread! Shake it up this season and pull out these tips and tricks to make a new connection.

How do you believe in yourself when you've been told your whole life that you are not worth believing in? How do you get rid of those old, pesky messages that tell you you're not worth it? This week, Kim coaches Myra live on this episode. She is interested in building and strengthening her self worth and self-esteem. Myra opens up right away and shares her family history of emotional, sexual and physical abuse and how that has affected her relationship with herself and others. Kim talks her through how that history has diminished Myra's confidence and self-image, or what Kim calls her "old tapes." Kim talks her through some practical tips about how to quiet the voices in her head that tell her she's not good enough and to start looking at the positive accomplishments she's made in her family, her career and her life to give the evidence of her leadership abilities. You'll also hear tools you can implement to become a warrior and push through those voices to make you stronger so that you can strengthen your self esteem muscle. If you're like Myra and you've struggled with your self-confidence, this candid conversation will lift you up and give you the tools you need to start building your self-esteem and improving your relationships. It's never too late to begin working on loving yourself! And if you want to have a breakthrough just like Myra and learn to give yourself the credit you deserve, sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

This week, Kim's back with another episode of, What Would Kim Do? On this segment, Kim answers your questions by telling you what you should do in your situation. Kim starts by tackling the age-old question, why does it feel like all guys on online dating sites are only interested in sex? Of course, there are guys out there only interested in one thing, but if you're looking for a more serious relationship Kim challenges you to take inventory of what you're putting out there to see if you can change your results. And if most of your dating activity is through dating apps or Instagram, Kim shares what to say to transcend that online bubble and what to say to move the conversation from the online world to the real world. Next, this episode goes into how to check your confidence levels at different stages of a relationship -- with others and with yourself. Whether you're worried about gaining the confidence to strike up a conversation with someone new, sharing your feelings for the first time, or being able to look at yourself in the mirror and feel sexy, doing some personal work on your self-esteem is a great idea! This episode is packed with action steps you can take today to improve your self-esteem, decrease your anxiety around dating and relationships and improving your body image. If you want your question to be featured on a future episode, send them to Kim via direct Facebook message @SeltzerKimberly and while you're at it, join her private Facebook group Love Makeover Insiders for women committed to transforming their lives from the outside in! https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

What is your personal brand when it comes to dating? Do your actions and the clothes you wear align with your mindset in order to attract the kind of person you want? This week, Kim interviews the popular Paul Carrick Brunson, an entrepreneur, author, business columnist at USA Today and co-host of UK television show "Celebs Go Dating." A former matchmaker like Kim, Paul has reinvented his life and rebranded his career countless times. For him, rebranding himself has allowed him to create the life he desires and goals on his terms. This smart and engaging conversation is about how you can make sure that the way you show up to others (your brand), is how you want to be perceived. Kim and Paul talk about the importance of understanding your values first and then living them authentically. If you're feeling stuck, this interview will show you a new way of thinking that can open up your possibilities to reinvent your dating life, relationships and career. You have the ability within you to attract the life and love you want, but you need to take action to get there. Paul talks about the power of mindset and achievement in obtaining your goals. If you're not attracting the kind of relationships or career you're looking for, focus and action are essential skills to inspire the change you seek. And when you begin taking the steps to alter your life for the better, it will create a ripple effect to the lives of those around you! If you're looking to uncover how you can rebrand and design your love life, sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

Have you ever been on a date and you think you did all of the right things yet he still didn't ask you out again? Are you uncertain to what you might be doing that is affecting your chances of making a great first impression with your date? On this episode, Kim talks through 4 of the biggest mistakes that women make on first dates and why they don't get asked back out. On this candid episode, Kim shares common issues she observes from her clients and then walks you through easy solutions to help you overcome these challenges on your next first encounter with a man. You'll hear key ingredients to creating more chemistry on dates, including tips around flirting, dressing for the first date and giving signals you are interested. So before you declare that there are "No good men out there!" listen to this podcast and see if you can get a different result with the men you are meeting! And, if you're ready to kill it on your next first date, there's still time to be a part of Kim's new 21-Day Challenge: How To Rock Out A Great First Impression, that hooks the looks and seals the deals! Kim will be with you for 21 days starting December 3 where she'll give you practical tools to develop a new image that will build confidence and strengthen you emotionally, mentally and physically for only $47 so check it out and don't delay! https://eliteimagemakeovers.com/21DayChallenge/

Do you use your femininity to your advantage? Do you believe it's possible to be feminine and be taken seriously? Or do you worry about how your femininity may come across? This week, Kim interviews Kendrick Shope, the creator of Sales School, the leading sales training for women entrepreneurs. Kim and Kendrick have a funny, compelling and energetic conversation about how you can use your feminine power successfully in professional and personal situations, without the fear of being underestimated. As a sales expert in the media, Kendrick been featured on The Steve Harvey Show, NBC, and Forbes, among others. But at the beginning of her career, Kendrick was out in the field, selling everything from lumber to pharmaceuticals, and often, she was the only woman on her sales team. Kendrick shares stories of people underestimating her, telling her to change her methods, her accent and to tone down her femininity. Ultimately, as she and Kim discuss, it took confidence and persistence for her to change the expectations of her clients and her bosses, so she could show up as her authentic self. Even if you're not in sales, this conversation is still valuable for you! Kim discusses the ways femininity can be a big asset in the world of business and in attracting a partner. And you'll learn Kendrick believes that selling is the key that unlocks the door to what you want in life. That might be a discussion with your child, your significant other, your client, your date or your boss. If you need that boost to help you confidently express what you want using feminine communication, this interview will help inspire you to yell it from the rooftops! And, if you want to work on embracing your feminine side and create a winning image, be a part of Kim's new How To Rock Out A Great First Impression--The 21 Day Challenge that hooks the looks and seals the deals. Kim will be with you for 21 days starting November 28 where she'll be giving you practical tools you need to develop a new image that will build confidence and strengthen you emotionally, mentally and physically for only $47 so check it out and don't delay! https://eliteimagemakeovers.com/21DayChallenge/

Have you ever been told you're too picky when it comes to dating? Do you fear feeling that you're settling? How do you know if having high standards is helping you, or hurting you? This week on Coaching with Kim, you'll hear from Gwen, who's having trouble trusting her instincts in relationships. Gwen is willing to take smart risks when it comes to her career, but that doesn't translate to her love life. Gwen shares that her dad says she's too picky, and Kim probes for how that makes Gwen feel about the guys she chooses or not. This conversation is honest, open and reflective. Feeling secure and confident in your decisions, especially when you haven't had a lot of experience meeting people you connect with, is difficult for everyone - there's a learning curve! Getting really clear on what you want in a relationship doesn't just happen, it takes time and experience to build a clear vision. Kim encourages Gwen to acknowledge her accomplishments both personally and professionally and be open to dating for fun! When you take action, at first, it can be uncomfortable and anxiety-inducing, but the more you experience, the more you will grow and learn what you like, what you want and ultimately, who you are. If you are looking to take a step in the right direction to build your self-confidence, join Kim's private Facebook group for women looking to transform their love lives from the outside in, join Love Makeover Insiders here: https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week on the show, Kim unveils a new segment, What Would Kim Do? On these episodes, Kim takes your questions and answers them directly. Send us your questions about dating, love, relationships, building self-confidence and anything in between! On this segment, Kim answers questions about how to be in your feminine while still maintaining your confidence and power and how to deal with a date that won't let you get a word in. You'll hear a question from a woman who's dealing with a pretty bad breakup and Kim's advice on how to find yourself and your identity after a relationship ends. Next, Kim breaks down the difference between friendly and flirty for someone who finds themselves relegated to the friend zone constantly. Plus, Kim answers the ultimate question, how do you find a quality man? You'll have to listen though to find out the surprising answer. If you like this segment, let us know! Send your questions to Kim via direct Facebook message @SeltzerKimberly and while you're at it, join her private Facebook group Love Makeover Insiders for women committed to transforming their lives from the outside in! https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

Would you describe yourself as a confident person? Would others? Kim explains that confidence isn't innate, it's about having exposure and experience in something which makes us feel more secure. This week, Kim interviews Nada Lena, the founder and CEO of "Rise Up For You," a company dedicated to empowering and educating women across the globe. Nada is a motivational speaker, educator, entrepreneur, and an advocate for youth and women's empowerment. This episode is a lesson in harnessing and expressing your confidence fully! Nada shares her personal story about upending her life and moving across the world for love. Nada grew up in a supportive family, which helped her develop a base level of unshakeable confidence. However, when that relationship ended, Nada's confidence was nearly shattered. She couldn't believe that she was in this unstable position, especially since she had always remained in control of her circumstances up to that point. Kim asks Nada about how she rebuilt her confidence and how she uses those same lessons to teach other women how to establish their own sense of personal conviction. If you're working on building up your level of self esteem and confidence, this episode will give you some tangible tips to begin that journey. Take the first step towards showing up authentically as yourself no matter what the situation and join Kim and Nada at her Empowered Women Rise Conference November 3! Link here: LINK: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/empowered-women-rise-conference-networking-empowerment-self-development-tickets-48676606039 CODE FOR DISCOUNT: EWRKIM15

Are you filling up your fuel tank? No, not in your car... your emotional fuel tank. Are you expressing how you feel about things or do you shut down and find yourself in superficial relationships? This week on Coaching with Kim, you'll hear Kim help Michelle live with her challenges of shutting down and shutting out people in her life. She has a tendency to "shut down" in conversations with strangers and with the guy she is dating. They have some trouble getting past superficial conversation topics, but when she does express herself the response she gets just makes her feel like speaking up won't change anything. Kim digs into her family history, her relationship with her dad and her upbringing to discover the source of the shut downs. This conversation will show you that when you feel like no one is hearing you, the best thing you can do is to start unapologetically expressing yourself without fear of rejection. Kim gives Michelle some easy tools to use to begin building that muscle one step at the time. The biggest hurdle to expressing yourself is raising your emotional intelligence IQ. The first step? It all starts with a little awareness and then practice. If you're like Michelle and want to learn how to stop shutting down and be open to more intimate relationships, sign up for a FREE breakthrough call with Kim by scheduling it here https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough. Also join Kim at the Empowered Women Rise Conference November 3! LINK: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/empowered-women-rise-conference-networking-empowerment-self-development-tickets-48676606039 CODE FOR DISCOUNT: EWRKIM15

Do you identify yourself as shy? Does being an introvert help you feel protected or less pressure to engage socially with others? You're not alone. So many people are naturally inclined to be introverts, but that doesn't mean that your love life is a bust! This week, Kim interviews Corey Poirier, renowned TEDx Speaker, award-winning keynote speaker and host of the "Conversations with Passion Radio Show." Kim asks Corey to open up about his history as, "the shy kid" and how he overcame his fears to speak in front of audiences of thousands and interview more than 4,000 of the world's top leaders. His developed skills and tools helped him move beyond his comfort zone and push towards his goals. Kim and Corey start this conversation off right away with concrete tips you can use everyday to feel more comfortable getting out of your own way and make connection with others. This real conversation is filled with inspiring, relatable and concrete tips you can start using right away. It will help you understand that living for yourself instead of living for other people is one of the keys to being more fulfilled in life and relationships. And if you want to learn to get out there more and push past your shy tendencies, join Kim's private Facebook group the Love Makeover Insiders for woman transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

Do you modify your behavior to avoid a loss of love or affection? Do you find yourself being so consumed in your dates and relationships where you spend so much energy changing yourself in order to please or accommodate the other person or make them like you more? If either of those questions ring true for you, you may have some codependent tendencies and lose yourself in others. This week, Kim interviews Rose Cole, visionary leader, world-renowned speaker, author, mentor and spiritual guide to talk all about codependency and losing yourself in relationships. The term "codependency" is often misinterpreted, but this episode will clear up any misconceptions you may have. Kim and Rose talk through practical strategies that you can use to stop shrinking yourself and to be better able to express your needs. Rose shares the personal journey she went through that helped her come to terms with her codependency and ultimately, overcome it successfully. This caring conversation about healthy self-love will help you understand how to fill up your own love tank so you can lessen the need to seek validation from others. And there is a special surprise at the end that will relax and inspire you! If you're looking to discover your tendencies in relationships and break patterns that hold you back from being your full self in relationships, join Kim's new private Facebook group for women looking to transform their love lives from the outside in: https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

When you reflect on who you are, what your goals are and if you're meeting them... are you satisfied? Are you meeting the standards you set for yourself, or have you given up? Maybe you're just stuck in a rut! We all have the capacity to dig ourselves into ruts, stay stuck and play small with our ambitions. Admit it, you're always harder on yourself than your friends, relatives and loved ones. It's time for you to STOP making excuses, STOP arguing for your limitations and start taking action to make real change in your life! You deserve to be happy and have the relationships you actually want. But first, you need to get out of your own way. In this episode, Kim speaks candidly and directly about the top 5 reasons you stay STUCK in old patterns and how to develop new habits to create change. Chances are, you're actively participating in your own circumstances. Kim outlines the tools to break through what holds you back and to make some serious shifts in your life! If you need help CRACKING the code of one of your patterns that is holding you back, schedule a FREE 30 minute coaching session with Kim now here https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

How would you characterize your conversations and interactions on dates? Do you talk about your dreams, your feelings, your ambitions and really show who you are? Or are the topics you discuss more surface level like your profession, where you live or what restaurants you go to? This week, Kim coaches Linda live who's experiencing the latter. Linda doesn't have trouble meeting guys, but rather has difficulties moving past her superficial and guarded conversations. She thinks it's the men she's been out with because they rarely skim the surface and don't really put effort into getting to know her. But in this episode, Kim helps Linda unravel the real reason why deeper connections and attraction are not happening with men. Hint: It's not about the men! Listen closely as Kim talks about ways women wear armor to protect themselves and stay in their masculine conversation to play it "safe." There are nuances and tricks you can inject into your next interactions to improve the quality of conversation, stay in your feminine, be more playful and move past the surface. This episode will help you learn to express to your dates all you have to offer, be more open so that men can feel you and create a deeper attraction overall. If you want to learn more techniques for deepening your conversations and how to flirt with life, join Linda in Kim's private Facebook group the Love Makeover Insiders for woman transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week, Kim interviews Lauren Zander, author, life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company. Kim and Lauren have a lively, funny conversation about how to break bad habits that hold you back, and design your love life the way YOU want it to be. This show dives deep on figuring out how to give yourself appropriate consequences and rewards and how to make sure you're actually working towards that goal. Do you have a tendency to self-sabotage? Can you talk yourself into or out of just about anything? Lauren shares that before she got into the life coaching space, she realized that the little voices in the back of her head weren't actually on her team. She needed to create systems to encourage herself to be accountable... to herself. Kim and Lauren talk through how you can identify limiting beliefs - the ones that keep you from achieving what you say you want - and learn to create systems to hold yourself accountable. If there's one tip you should hold onto from this episode it's this: DO THE HOMEWORK. You will start to see results. If you're looking for a supportive community of women dedicated to break their limiting beliefs join Kim's free private Facebook group, Love Makeover Insiders for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

Dating is tough for everyone! But what if you knew there were common mistakes that you might be making when trying to attract a partner? There are repetitive behavioral patterns that show up in us over and over again. When you're able to recognize your patterns and challenges, you can make adjustments as needed to get a different result. This week, Kim talks through her 5 Dating Archetypes she has studied over the years as a dating and relationship coach and therapist. Open up your notepad or grab a pen because you're going to want to take notes. Now of course these archetypes are sometimes painted with a broad brush and you likely won't fit neatly into one box. However, pay attention to which characteristics Kim talks about that may have derailed a previous relationship of yours or have prevented you from getting to know someone on a deeper level. Listen to find out all about each one and the strategies you can use to break these patterns in order for you find love! If you want to find out exactly what your dating archetype is, follow this link: https://bit.ly/2JZsSYY and take the Dating Archetype Quiz!

Do you ever hear those pesky voices in your head that say, "You're not good enough," "You're not doing it right," or "No one wants to hear what you have to say?" On this candid and vulnerable episode of Coaching with Kim, you'll get an inside look into how to turn down the volume on these messages that hold you back from being yourself, staying present and making a genuine connection with others on dates. Listen as Kim coaches Adam, a great personable guy who has so much to offer but he has one big problem…the voices tell him that he's NOT enough. When it comes to dating, he finds himself hesitant to express himself fully and nervous to get vulnerable and make a more intimate connection with women he's interested in. We all have those voices of self-doubt that creep into our heads to varying degrees but most people don't know how to soften or get rid of them. Kim talks through some specific techniques that worked for Adam that you can apply in your everyday life. This open and real conversation will help you access and recall powerful, confident states that you've experienced in your life that you can call upon during moments of self-doubt in order to transcend those negative voices. If you want help quieting the gremlins in your head, take advantage of your opportunity to sign up for a FREE breakthrough session, just like Adam's with Kim HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

This week, Kim interviews Ryan Moran, an entrepreneur, founder of Capitalism.com and the host of the Freedom Fast Lane Podcast. This show is all about how to create an abundance mindset in your love life, especially when it looks like your options are scarce. Ryan and Kim have a candid conversation about how challenging and painful moments in our lives prompt us to identify patterns we want to change. While moments of adversity can catapult us to action, Kim introduces the fact that success can also motivate positive change. This interview will help connect the dots between how your brain physically responds to positive and negative stimuli, and how that actually shows up in your life. The key is that action promotes change, and the more you can jump straight into action, the bigger shifts you will begin to see. Remember, when you internalize the fact that there IS enough love to go around out there, you will begin to act as if that is true and start to see real results. This episode is full of incredible tips! As always, if you're looking for a supportive community to help push you to action where you're stuck, join Kim's free private Facebook group, Love Makeover Insiders for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

On this week's show, Kim talks all about how perfectionism is holding you back from putting yourself out there in the dating world. Are you reluctant to build a dating profile because you're waiting to take the perfect profile photo? Are you avoiding opportunities to meet new people because you're feeling self conscious or unconfident in your appearance? This episode will teach you that for whatever reason you are putting things off, underneath your need to be perfect is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure -- whatever it is -- until you take action, you will never move forward. Kim tells the story of 2 different clients, both experienced a form of "perfection paralysis", but they took different approaches to handling the problem. Waiting for everything to be perfect can feel easier and safer, but if you want to accomplish something new or create change in your life, you have to get out of your comfort zone and get into ACTION. This episode is honest, direct and gives you a little tough love to recognize that your perfectionism might be an excuse to stay stuck. If you need a jolt in your life to help you get unstuck, take advantage of your opportunity to sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

We all deal with adversity in our lives to varying degrees. But no matter what challenges you face, how you push past your pain makes all the difference. This week, Kim has a powerful conversation with Steven Maresca. Steven is an incredible resource and motivator for anyone looking to change their life through fitness. But, Steven isn't just your average fitness trainer. You'll hear him tell his personal story about a devastating accident he experienced six years ago. Since then, Steven has been on a journey of recovery, gratitude and relentless persistence. But make no mistake, his rehabilitation process wasn't easy and there were plenty of times where he wanted to quit. Kim and Steven discuss strategies you can use in your life to overcome any challenge you have. This episode brings up real, raw emotions and it's a great way to help you shift your perspective and see past the obstacles that can blind you in the moment. If you're looking for a strong community to help you overcome your challenges, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

On this episode, Coaching with Kim, you'll meet Danielle who's noticed a pattern in her relationships and is ready for a big shift. Kim and Danielle's coaching session focuses on "Attachment Theory", a psychological model that defines interpersonal relationships and how we respond when we feel unsafe, hurt, or fearful. There are 3 types of attachment styles Kim discusses on the show so you'll hear how these styles play out in her relationships. As the youngest of 7 daughters, she learned how to be invisible growing up and didn't learn how to express her feelings consistently. Now she's an independent powerhouse in her career but when it comes to romance nothing ever seems to stick. Kim helps Danielle sort through her experiences growing up and how they've informed her attachment style. This session is powerful because Danielle has committed to the most important first step...deciding to look inward and begin the process to change herself. This conversation will show you the power of how labeling and understanding your patterns can ignite a mindset shift inside you that will help you attract the kind of partner you really want. If you're looking for a more supportive community to help you with your love life, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

You know that exhilarating feeling when you meet someone new who showers you with compliments, makes you feel sexy confident and you can't get enough? But then, out of nowhere, almost as fast as everything started, the relationship is over and you're a wreck. We've all had some level of experience with these "tornado" relationships. In this episode, Kim talks about how to spot the difference between a healthy love and a toxic relationship. Both men and women can create this dynamic but the signs are the same no matter who's driving. Kim talks through typical warning signs you're about to enter the toxic zone. Kim maps out concrete ways you can make sure to not give away your power too soon and how you can recognize if you have a tendency to get sucked into addictive relationship behaviors that hurt you in the long run. If you're ready to take real steps to make a change, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week, Kim interviews wellness expert, Josh Trent. Josh hosts the Wellness Force Radio Podcast and has spent 15 years in the health and wellness industry. He's on a mission to help people live life well through developing physical and emotional intelligence. This conversation is packed with great information and gets intense, fast! Josh shares his personal journey of dealing with anxiety and drastic weight fluctuation. He introduces a powerful concept, "If I can breathe I can choose." These two discuss Josh's dating life, how he's moved off the dating apps and onto other more authentic forms of communication. Listen in for some good tips on how to reframe crippling anxiety, how to combat the epidemic of loneliness and the importance of taking loving care of your wellness and growth. And, if you're single looking to combat loneliness, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming love lives https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL