All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

It’s perfectly normal to disagree from time to time. But when your focus is more on being right and convincing your husband to see things your way, it can lead to bickering and arguing. If this unhealthy communication habit has created a wedge between you and your spouse and if you are ready to get […]

Do you ever do something not because you truly want to, but because you feel like you should? We are currently living in a unique time where life feels like it’s happening to us and you’re just going through the motions. Obligated living can create stress and strain in marriage as you deny parts of […]

Every marriage is going to have some hard, rocky times that you will need to navigate. The goal is not to be happy all the time, but to maintain your inner joy and contentment even in the hard times. The best way to do this, regardless of external circumstances, is to focus on self-improvement and […]

Our brains are wired to want more. This happens all the time in marriage. It could be wanting more help, communication, attention, or passion. Having more of whatever that thing is, seems to be the cure-all to the marriage struggles. What I have observed is that in the various scenarios, most people are making some […]

Loving your marriage again is something that is within your control. It doesn’t require your husband to do a complete 180. It doesn’t need to take a long time. In this episode, I break down five specific mindset shifts that can change your experience in your marriage and get you back on track with loving […]

Welcome to another episode! I am so happy that you are here. Today we are going to talk about God and your marriage. I believe that if you want to transform your marriage, consider how you can make God’s presence the center of your union. I would like to share with you five practical steps […]

Happy New Year! Welcome to 2021. Today, I want to continue the conversation from last week’s episode. I hope that you took some time to answer the 20 questions provided to paint a clear picture of 2020’s lessons and successes in your marriage. It is now time to focus on how you want to experience […]

It is that time to wrap up 2020 and make way for 2021. This year is definitely one for the books. Whether you experienced successes beyond your wildest dreams or became a stronger person for the hardships you endured.

Merry Christmas to you all! This is the time of year that we can be refueled with hope, joy, and reminded of the miracles of this world. The level of your belief in what’s possible is one important key to your happiness, growth, and success in your marriage. Your beliefs determine your actions and your […]

What if I told you that the fastest way to change your husband is to change the way you think about him. I know you’re probably thinking, “why am I always the one who has to change something to make our marriage better, he’s most of the problem?” It seems unfair, but it can also […]

Becoming your best self involves enhancing all areas of your life to encourage growth, reduce distractions, and focus on the goals you want to achieve. While you may feel that your best self is an unattainable version of you in the distance, you can take action now that allows you to start experiencing a better […]

Oftentimes we ruminate on the things about our husbands that we don’t like. But these things are beyond our control. Doing this makes us feel worse instead of better. I want to offer you another option that will make you feel empowered and positive about your marriage. This involves focusing more on you – your […]

As‌ ‌the‌ ‌Thanksgiving‌ ‌Holiday‌ ‌approaches,‌ ‌I‌ ‌am‌ ‌reflecting‌ ‌on‌ ‌the‌ ‌meaning‌ ‌of‌ ‌gratitude,‌ ‌and‌ ‌in‌ ‌particular,‌ ‌about‌ ‌how‌ ‌feeling‌ ‌and‌ ‌expressing‌ ‌gratitude‌ ‌can‌ ‌help‌ ‌us‌ ‌create‌ ‌a‌ ‌marriage‌ ‌we‌ ‌genuinely‌ ‌enjoy‌ ‌again.‌ ‌Gratitude‌ ‌helps‌ ‌us‌ ‌feel‌ ‌more‌ ‌positive‌ ‌emotions,‌ ‌improve‌ ‌our‌ ‌health,‌ ‌deal‌ ‌with‌ ‌adversity,‌ ‌and‌ ‌build‌ ‌strong‌ ‌relationships.‌ ‌If‌ ‌your‌ ‌marriage‌ ‌is‌ ‌already‌ ‌happy,‌ ‌gratitude‌ ‌can‌ ‌make‌ ‌it‌ […]

It’s common for many couples to fall out of sync. If you are looking for ways to improve the dynamics in your marriage, this episode is for you. Today I’m sharing a three-step framework that will bring you immediate improvements to have a better experience in your marriage. These strategies will help you argue less, […]

The goal of marriage for all of us is to have a happy and nurturing relationship. This goal can seem impossible when you don’t get along with your spouse. So what do you do if this is the reality of your marriage? Well, there are many ways to revamp your relationship to make it better […]

In every marriage, there are things about our spouse that are going to irritate, annoy, and frustrate us. Whatever it is that you feel is not balanced or moving in a positive direction for your marriage, I’ve come up with a tool that will be extraordinarily helpful for you. This exercise will direct you with […]

Today we are going to talk about the difference between responsibility vs. responsiveness. Typically, when we experience a negative emotional reaction towards someone else, our first inclination is to blame the other person. I want to empower you to own your emotions and not make anyone else responsible for how you feel. I also break […]

Welcome to part 2 of Let It Go! In today’s episode, I will be sharing 3 impactful principles that you can use to actually let go of that issue or situation that you have been holding on to that has been hindering the growth, joy, and peace in your marriage. To get the most out […]

Too many people go through their marriages confined in the space of negative experiences. You don’t have to be one of them. It takes energy to make positive things happen. Holding onto an undesirable past or present takes up too much mental and emotional space and energy. So, how do you get to that point […]

No one expects their marriage to arrive at a place where things are not good. We all want a marriage that feels amazing and one that is happy. If you are on a journey to make your marriage good again, this episode is for you. I break down exactly how marriages become “not good” and […]

Today is the final part of the mini-series and we will be exploring why your life seems worse off because of your marriage. I know that it may feel that everything that is wrong about your marriage may require your husband to change somehow to make those things better but I want you to check in […]

Welcome to part 2 of the mimi series! In today’s episode, we will dive into why you may be feeling so miserable in your marriage. Feeling unhappy in a marriage is normal. All relationships have ups and downs. However, this should not be the overwhelming emotion that you feel in your marriage on a regular […]

Hello and welcome back to another episode. You are in for a treat because today's episode kicks off part1 of a three-part mini-series breaking down 3 of the most common experiences people have when their marriage feels like it's fallen off track. The mini-series will cover the following topics:Part 1. Why You Feel StuckPart 2. Why You Feel MiserablePart 3. Why Your Life is Worse Off In today's episode, Why you feel stuck, I will reveal to you the one and the only reason you continue to feel stuck in your marriage. I then share exactly what you need to think about and get really clear in order to move forward. And if you are looking to hire a coach and want more of my help in doing the things that work in improving your marriage, reach out for a complimentary consultation. Simply visit my website, www.drchavonne.com/ to book your FREE 1-hour call today.

If you are wondering how to respond to your husband who has grown cold and distant, this is the podcast episode for you. I know it feels like a lonely time and that the answer is to just have your husband snap out of it. However, there are things you could be doing to either help the situation […]

So often we exacerbate issues by making a circumstance worse than it really is simply by layering on so much more to the facts than necessary. This causes a situation to be heavier, harder and more difficult than it needs to be. When we react to these exacerbations we say things that are unkind and […]

How do you know if you are making decisions from a place of clarity? When it comes to your marriage you might currently be in a space where you feel that your decision to stay is cloudy or muddy. If that is you, listen in as I introduce the concept of clean and clear decisions […]

Today we will be discussing a very common desire among many of us. And that is our desire for our husbands to change. It seems like THE answer to so many things in our marriage. I’m going to share with you four very specific things that I have personally tried that have helped to spark […]

Today I would like to introduce the concept of Emotional Training. This concept can be compared to working out. You build muscles because you push yourself beyond what is comfortable and then the muscle gets stronger and bigger and you're leaner. It is the same for emotional training. It is the idea that you are willing to push yourself past what feels comfortable in order for you to grow and for the growth of your marriage. The more expansive you are in your emotions, the more life you get to experience. The benefits are endless.In this episode, I share three powerful questions to ask yourself. Listen in to learn more.

We don’t often have the full awareness of our impact on our husband and on the dynamics within the marriage. We are never taught how to truly self-reflect and use that for our growth. Today we will be discussing the Growth Effect and exploring the new outcomes you can create in your life/marriage as a result […]

Hello there! I am so happy to be back and to be spending this time with you. Today I want to share with you the concept of Radical Responsibility. Radical Responsibility is you taking full ownership of the experience you have, the result you create, or dynamics between you and your husband. This is not something we […]

During times of crisis, who do you choose to be? During this episode, I share 5 major distinctions between what is considered the “norm” or “ordinary” and how to rise and elevate yourself to the level of extraordinary.No matter what is happening outside of you, you control how you respond and your thoughts about it all. Tune in and assess where you’ve been keeping yourself during the current health crisis we face as a world.

We are still navigating unprecedented times. This past week has been unexpected and for some extremely nerve-racking. As a wife and mother myself, I share some of the same concerns, questions, and issues. This week I want to offer how I’ve personally been managing being at home, juggling work, homeschooling my kids, and interacting with my husband.Tune in as I offer both the mindset and strategies I adopted to have an incredible week.And if having my support is what you need right now, reach out today to schedule your complimentary call to discuss working together: bit.ly/schedulewithchavonne

Things are very uncertain right now. If you are experiencing anxiety and worry this episode is for you. In it, I break down why you are feeling the way you feel, and what you most need to know in order to access a sense of peace. There are 5 specific things I recommend you focus on so that you don’t spiral into panic and despair. Tune in as I provide some of my most effective coaching tools to help you process worst-case scenarios in these trying times. And if you would like to work with me 1-on-1 to manage your emotions, schedule a complimentary call using this link: bit.ly/schedulewithchavonne

In this episode I’m sharing a 7 step process to manage your mind during stressful and anxiety-provoking situations. Whether it’s something in your marriage, or something related to the current health crisis, tune in and receive the tools you need to remain in a peaceful emotional state. And if you are looking to hire a coach and want more of my help in doing this work more deeply, reach out for a complimentary consultation at bit.ly/schedulewithchavonne

We all have the tendency to tell ourselves the story that we are doing everything we can but that our efforts are not producing the result we want. If you ever felt like you are doing what you “should” be doing or that you’ve tried all you can and things are not working out as you expected in your marriage then this episode is for you.I challenge you to look deep within and determine how committed you are to doing all that it takes. In this episode, I share ideas for why you may not be getting the results you want, and what simple question you can ask yourself right now that would make all the difference.And if you are looking to hire a coach and want more of my help in doing the things that work in improving your marriage, reach out for a complimentary consultation at bit.ly/schedulewithchavonne

Most of us have heard the saying before that pain is inevitable. This is definitely true in marriages. We all have experienced disappointments, let downs or a mismatch of expectations that led to us grieving the loss of what we expected marriage to be like. When we don’t know the purpose of this pain this can be really difficult.What I want to share with you today is how you can make your healing process from that pain more productive and purposeful. Press play and get ready for a powerful conversation.If you are currently on a healing journey and you feel like you need coaching...you need my assistance, I invite you to reach out to explore what working together could look like. Visit bit.ly/schedulewithchavonne for a free one-hour discovery call.

Today we will be exploring the concept of Emotional Laziness. And no, I’m not calling you lazy! This is where you have the energy, the ability or the capability to do something but you are just not doing it. In other words, when it comes to your marriage, you prefer for your husband to take care of your emotional needs of connection, happiness, […]

Today we will be exploring your thoughts. Your thoughts over time become deeply engrained beliefs that affect your perception and interpretation of reality. The very thoughts running through your mind can help to manifest the marriage/life of your dreams but first, you need to shift and control them.I will be sharing with you some valuable tips on how to challenge your thoughts and current beliefs to change your perception about your life/marriage.Press play and let’s get to work on creating thoughts that serve you.

I hope that 2020 has been amazing for you so far. I believe that 2020 will be an awesome year. Everything you want is in your reach. As you may have noticed, I took a hiatus from producing podcast episodes. It’s been a while but I’m back and it’s on and popping! During my break, […]

In my experience as a coach, I find that when women come to me about an issue they are facing in their marriage, the issue is usually not new. It’s been brewing for years. As a result, they feel stuck as if their marriage will never get better. The great news is that being in […]

Happy Anniversary to US! Today as my husband and I celebrate our 8th year of marriage. We would like to spend some time in conversation with you to share 8 lessons that we have learned in our time as husband and wife. This is a real conversation. Invite your husband to join you as you […]

I’ve got 2 BIG announcements/surprises for you this week! I’m not even going to give you a hint. You just have to listen in to hear them yourself. But I will tell you that the content for this episode is so important for you to grasp. Every marriage has its ups and downs. And if […]

One of the greatest ah-ha moments of my life is truly grasping the idea that your thoughts create everything about how you experience your life and marriage. We often look outside of ourselves and feel as though life happens to us. But I believe life is just happening and that we always get to choose our thoughts about it. When […]

Today we are talking about GUILT. We ALL feel it. We all act out of it. It’s a normal human emotion. The problem comes when we don’t know how to manage guilt in our lives. We over-extend ourselves, we get resentful when we feel taken advantage of, we sacrifice our needs for the needs of […]

Today I want to ease us both into new, uncharted territory for this podcast episode. Yup, we are going to have the sex talk! We will be discussing sex in the form of a checkbox. The reason for this topic in this format is because some of us may view sex as a task, an […]

In this episode, I share the 5 Marriage Power Tools everyone should have. As you work to improve and rebuild your marriage you want to focus on mastering these very specific things. Creating a happier marriage involves reducing tension and arguments, rebuilding friendship and creating emotional intimacy. Listen in as I show you exactly how […]

Today we are talking about conflict in marriage. It’s something every marriage experiences and I believe it can be an extraordinary teacher. In this episode, I’ll share 5 specific ways that conflict can help you grow and actually strengthen your marriage if you allow it.

Parallel Lives in Marriage is a concept of separateness while living in the same home. It may or may not include tension and conflict, but in most cases, there is no passion or intimate connection. This is a real phenomenon that is happening in many marriages and can be for short or long periods of […]

Today we are talking about competition matches in marriage. I am sure that when you got married you never imagined that you would be in a competitive match. The goal was to create a unified life with your spouse and live a seamless life together. However, somewhere along the lines, you deterred from the same path. Today we […]

Today our discussion will be centered around The Hard Part of Getting What You Want. The journey to creating anything different in your life requires growth. With growth sometimes comes discomfort, and sometimes things go wrong that makes you think you...