All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

What if this was the year that you go the marriage you wanted?I will show you how in a 5-step process called the Having What You Want Formula.In this episode, I break down how to identify what matters to you, what it looks like for you to create it, uncovering the obstacles currently in your way, how to be decisive and committed and how to take consistent, persistent action.If there's anything you want in your marriage, this episode will give you the road map to getting it.Ready to have me as your personal coach?Join my program, The Marriage UpGrade: marriageupgrade.drchavonne.comOr schedule a consultation call to discuss private coaching HERE.

It's Christmas Week! Let me wish you and yours a happy, healthy, holiday season.In this episode, I'm giving you exclusive content I shared at the recent Happiest Holiday Event I hosted inside The Marriage UpGrade.You'll learn the 5 most important steps for enjoying this holiday season MORE as a couple. Tune in, grab a notebook and pen and most importantly, APPLY what I share. It really will make such a difference in the dynamic between you and your spouse.For more information about The Marriage UpGrade, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

There are a certain set of things that stand in the way of you having the kind of marriage you want. Most often, we look at our spouse as being the main obstacle. In this episode we take a deep dive into looking at the things within ourselves that might be affecting our relationships. I share with you 5 specific internal obstacles that you want to explore and start working on. Making progress in these 5 areas will make conversations with your spouse much more productive, and create an opening for deeper and more meaningful connection.Mentioned in this episode: The Marriage UpGrade - my 6-month couples coaching program created to help you improve your communication and reconnect as a couple. Early enrollment is open until December 15, 2022. To sign up, visit: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

As humans living in the real world in front of us, it's sometimes hard to imagine things that are not our reality. Yet, believing in the possibility of something you don't see yet is exactly what's required to help you create it. In this episode we are diving into the topic of seeing beyond what's currently happening in your marriage.I'll offer some perspective and specific tools you can use to give you more hope and belief that what you want is possible. Also mentioned in this episode is my couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade. There you AND your spouse will learn the mindset, beliefs, and thoughts you can start thinking on PURPOSE so that you show up better for each other and the marriage you want. To learn more and to sign up, go here: MarriageUpGrade.DrChavonne.com

Do you have the thought, "my spouse is not making any effort?"If so, this podcast episode is for YOU. I'll share with you the specific 5 reasons you are having this belief and exactly what to do about it. Brace yourself, because this is a loving wake up call.This is an unhelpful thought pattern that snowballs on itself to create more disappointment, frustration and disconnection. Part of the process of loving your marriage again includes eliminating the thinking that keeps you stuck, assuming the worst about each other, and collecting a list of all that's not working.This episode will help you do just that.

Today we are diving into the topic of having an ALL IN Mentality for your marriage.This is one of the key differences between couples who make the improvements they want in their marriage, versus couples who stay stuck or ultimately separate.When you have an ALL IN Mentality, you approach your challenges from a different perspective. You see them as learning and growth opportunities. You keep going, even when it's hard. You get the help you need, even if it feels a bit vulnerable. Listen in as I show you what happens when you are willing to go all in, and the results you can expect to come to you.Also mentioned in this episode:The Marriage UpGrade - my 6 month coaching program to help you and your spouse improve your communication, connect more deeply, operate as a better team, and increase your physical intimacy. Learn more here: MarriageUpGrade.DrChavonne.com

What do you WANT? Have you ever stopped and really answered that question when it comes to your marriage. Whenever I pose this to clients, they tell me what they DON'T want, which is a tale-tell sign they are focusing on what's negative. One of the greatest skills you can develop in the journey to make your marriage better is to focus on what you want. To keep the goal right in front of you always.In this podcast episode, I share with you exactly why you have a hard time articulating what you want, and provide you with some practical steps to help you start getting clear. If you want to take this work deeper, I invite you to work with me inside The Marriage UpGrade. Learn more at my website: DrChavonne.com

Have you ever considered that your marriage is a living, breathing entity that needs you and your spouse to care for it? This is a perspective I teach - where you start thinking about caring for your marriage just as you would a newborn baby. In this episode I break down the 5 areas you need to focus on - why each is so important to the health of your precious marriage, and the specific questions you need to start asking yourself.I also share more about The Marriage UpGrade and how you can get starting caring for your marriage in a much more intentional and elevated way. To learn more and to sign up for Cohort 2, visit this site: MarriageUpGrade.DrChavonne.com

Tune in to this episode where I introduce the concept of Spouse Sabotage. There are known and hidden ways you are thinking about your spouse that create the image of them being your enemy instead of someone you are on a team with. As a result of the way you think about them, you show up a certain way. Ultimately, this is the model or operating system that's creating your current results. The human brain will always find what's not working and the ways your spouse is letting you down. Today we will be breaking down all the ways that happens. I'll also be sharing 3 specific tools and strategies you can use to keep you OUT of this habit. If you'd like help and support managing your mind about your spouse so that your interactions can be better, I invite you to work with me directly and master this process. For more information you can visit my website: DrChavonne.com

In this training replay, I share with you my top 3 tips for addressing communication breakdowns, lack of connection, not being on the same page, and lack of physical intimacy.Get straight to the point, honest advice about what you and your spouse need to start doing differently in order to have a better marriage. Ready to join The Marriage UpGrade? Now is the time. The marriage you want is truly possible for you if you both put in the work to create it.I am here to support you in doing that with a process that works. Join us here: DrChavonne

What if you could guarantee the success of your marriage? What if the kind of changes you want to see were actually inevitable? I think they are, and inside this episode, I show you how and why.You'll learn the exact mindset necessary to create the successful and happy marriage you want. You'll learn how to actually measure progress in a way that motivates you to keep going. You'll understand the specific steps you need to take when things fall off track.If there was any episode that will help you and your spouse make progress in new ways, this is IT. Tune in now and get the perspective that will make all the difference.And if you want to guarantee your success inside of The Marriage UpGrade, I invite you to enroll today. This 6-month coaching program will give you the guidance, tools, and support you need to break through the areas where you are stuck and FINALLY solve your marriage issues for good.For details and to join, go here: DrChavonne.comEnrollment ends July 29th, 2022.

In this training replay, we are diving into the topic of what really creates change in your marriage. So many couples are trying to make their marriage better. They are having all the conversations. They are setting the plans and coming to new agreements. Only after a few weeks they find themselves right back to where they were before.In this episode, I teach you about the most important factor in creating long-term change in your marriage - your IDENTITY.The way you and your spouse are operating is a function of how you think about and see yourselves. So before any behavior changes can truly take root, we've got to aligns your identity to match.Tune in and learn this little known secret that really will create the shifts you want to see.If you LOVE this content and find that it's super helpful for what you are dealing with, join me inside The Marriage UpGrade. This is my 6-month coaching program that will help you improve your communication, connection, unity, and intimacy.For more information, go here: DrChavonne.comEnrollment ends July 29, 2022.

In this episode we are diving into the topic of Boundaries. In marriage, it's so important that you protect your relationship.There are external boundaries - things outside the marriage that can help or harm your progress,And things within the marriage - internal boundaries - that can help or harm your progress.You'll learn exactly what these are and how they show up in your marriage as well as what to do to create a stronger container for your marriage to thrive.If you find this information helpful and want to be part of a great environment for your marriage to thrive, I encourage you to join The Marriage UpGrade.You'll work on the thing within each of you that need to change for your marriage to grow, and be surrounded by a community of other couples who are likeminded and working on the same goals with you.To learn more and to enroll, please visit my website: DrChavonne.com and see the tab "The Marriage UpGrade."Enrollment is open until July 29th, 2022.

You are in for a treat over the next few episodes.In conjunction with the launch of my new coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade, I hosted a series of live trainings on the topics I know will be most valuable for you.I'm releasing those training recordings in BONUS episodes.Today, we are talking all about How to Get on The Same Page. This is a hot topic a lot of couples struggle with, and I know the perspective, mindset, and tools I offer in this training will help you and your spouse finally move forward in this area.If you find this information helpful and want to take this work deeper so you can apply it and change your marriage for good, I invite you to join me inside The Marriage UpGrade, which is currently open for enrollment, now until July 29th.Go to DrChavonne.com and click The Marriage UpGrade tab to learn more and to sign up today.

In this training replay you will learn all about the concept of The Finnish Line Mentality.This is literally one of the MOST important concepts I teach.Everything you create in life has to have a clear vision of what you want.You have to spend time focused on the goals you have for the FUTURE, more than the disappointments of your PAST.I dive deep into this concept because it is the difference maker for couples who create the kind of marriage they want, vs. couples who stay stuck in a marriage that feels disappointing.Having a finish line mentality will help you to overcome any argument, tension, distance, or frustration in your marriage. It's always guiding you as a North Star.This is something you will master inside The Marriage UpGrade, my new coaching program for couples.To learn more about this work, and how it can help you, visit my website: DrChavonne.comEnrollment is open until July 29, 2022.

Today we are talking about JOY and why it's so important to improving the experience you have in your marriage.The joy and happiness you feel is totally under your control. In this episode I break down the critical elements to consider as you make your own intentional plan for more joy in your life.You emotional wellness and well-being has a huge impact on how you interact with your spouse and how you see your marriage.The Joy Plan concept will give you an instant upgrade.And if you want to know more about working with me in my new group coaching program, definitely join me for THE LAUNCH PARTY. This is THE event for couples who want to improve their marriage in a powerful way that also incorporates more fun and joy.For details and to RSVP YES, go to: https://drchavonne.com/launchparty/See you there!

One thing most couples are not prepared for is how to navigate their differences, especially around topics that are very important to them.In this episode, I'll share why that is, how dating sometimes sets you up for having the wrong expectations, and most importantly, how to work through the differences that might feel very hard for you.In this episode, you'll learn:-how your negative beliefs about each other make working through your differences harder-how to normalize your differences and see that all couples experience many of the same things-how to identify the right problem to be solved and stop blaming each other-how to be more empowered in standing for the things that matter most to youTune in and be sure you are subscribed so you don't miss a thing.In this episode, I also share information about my upcoming Launch Party in honor of my new group coaching program. You can get the details and register to attend this exclusive event by going to my website: drchavonne.com/launchparty

The experience you have in your marriage is based on three perspectives and in today's podcast episode, I'll break down exactly what they are. There are a certain set of beliefs that most people have when it comes to these three "sides" of the triangle and they cause frustration, disappointment, and unhappiness. But when you are able to shift your perspective and find new ways of seeing things that serve you and the kind of marriage you want to create, everything changes. Perception really is reality. And today, I'll take you through how to start creating a new and better reality in your marriage by focusing on three specific types of thoughts.

Marriage is spiritual. I think it's something we all know, but don't always access the full range of resources available to us on a spiritual level to ensure our marriage thrive.In this episode we are diving into the spiritual side of things and discussing how many of the things we need to do in order to have healthy marriages defy our natural human tendencies. I share how tapping into the power available to us from God helps us overcome our own roadblocks to loving each other well.I offer specific ways to incorporate spirituality into your marriage so that you and your spouse improve the experience you have with each other. If you are ready to elevate how you show up, and the experience you have in your marriage, this episode is for you.

So many exciting updates on the podcast today. Be sure that you are plugged in to me at drchavonne.com or on IG @chavonneperotteOn this episode we are talking all about the purpose of marriage. How you define what marriage is about drives everything about how you show up.I offer a perspective on marriage that will massively inform your goals, how you see yourself and your spouse. The way you see the purpose of marriage also significantly influences how you experience happiness and fulfillment.Tune in now to get yourself grounded in your purpose driven marriage now.

We live in a world where it's not the norm to celebrate yourself. We worry about appearing "too much" or offending someone by doing big, amazing things for ourselves. But the degree to which you are able to love and celebrate yourself is the degree to which you can receive that from others.In this episode, I'm sharing more on the concept of celebrating yourself, why it's so important, and the impact it has on your marriage. I leave you with specific ways you can start incorporating this practice now.I recently celebrated my birthday in a big way and give you the inside scoop into what that experience was like for me.I also want to invite you to join me for a new Masterclass I'm hosting Sunday, April 3rd at 8pm EST. It's called Happy Again. It' all about tapping into your own personal happiness as a strategy for improving your marriage.Register for free here: https://drchavonne.com/happy-again/

In marriage, you will have communication breakdowns. They look differently for each couple, but it's not necessarily a sign that something is going horribly wrong.In this podcast episode, I break down the most common forms of communication breakdowns and share with you the reasons why they happen.I also provide you with a shift in perspective that will dramatically improve the way you handle and recover from communication breakdowns. You'll walk away with 3 specific things to think about in a new way so that you create more connection rather than distance in your marriage.And if you are looking for more help applying this work and are ready to have my help through private coaching, reach out and schedule an initial call with me. Visit drhavonne.com/work-with-me to book your appointment.