UGLY

If you miss your bus, it’s not that deep another bus will come. If your train is cancelled, it’s really not that deep another train will come soon. Use this analogy for your life. If a romantic relationship doesn’t work out, don’t panic - there will always be another date to meet the love of your life. If a friendship deteriorates, it’s not that deep - a connection better than you could have hoped is round the corner. If you didn’t get the job, don’t panic there will always be another interview opportunity. How GRATEFUL are you that certain things didn’t work out in your life, so when things ‘go wrong’ it’s not really that deep in fact it’s a blessing in disguise. Things that really ARE that deep are choosing who you surround yourself with and a few other important things. You can only control one thing in this life, it’s yourself - your decisions. Ily

The phrase ‘you should know better’ sits forefront of our mind when something goes wrong, because we have probably not learnt our ‘lesson’. In today’s episode, I talk about how to stop repeating cycles of poor choices by the power of self reflection. Topics include: Alchemising emotions into an output to stop regretting things, shifting your ‘why is this happening to me’ mindset to ‘why is this happening FOR me’, recognise bad decisions to make better ones, doing ‘better’ doesn’t mean you have to be perfect and SO MUCH more!

“What you’re not changing you’re choosing” Essentially 7 conscious decisions to make in your life to grow and change into the person you want to be - Have the courage to: have your feelings hurt, walk away, forgive, stop trying to change people and more! Ily

Forget ‘new year, new me’ and think lessons you had to learn last year that can change the you of THIS year. On todays episode I discuss my favourite life lessons I’ve adopted that have changed my life for the better, for example: letting go of who you were, how to not have regrets, how to not settle, small circles bigger peace, investing in your looks and your ‘5 year plan’. I hope you enjoy, love ya!

19 things I have learnt in my 19 years that I am either taking into my twenties or leaving with my teenage years. I talk all things lessons, habits, fashion, friendships, goals, romance, life style choices and of course mental health. This episode is for those who are scared about their twenties or are wanting some guidance on these next years. You are doing great. ILY

Welcome to my ‘everything I know about’ series - helping you recognise when a friendship isn’t working anymore, timing, everything happening for a reason and the art of letting go. ‘You can only meet someone as far as they have met themselves’ Friendships don’t have to be messy, draining or hard work - friendships should feel like a home away from home. But equally, the beauty of seeing each other and understanding each other is the KEY to an amazing partnership romantic or platonic.

It’s in our human nature to care about what people think about us, but if that person doesn’t even have your number to even call you up and tell you that opinion of you - the opinion itself is a reflection of themselves not you. We waste so much time and energy caring about what people say about us, but you can’t progress in life if that time is spent thinking of other peoples opinions. I have the mentality ‘if they haven’t said it to my face, they haven’t said it all’ - for peace of mind, neglect and ignore the care for others opinions as it’s none of your business. Bad things or negative opinions said about you is THEIR time wasted, don’t reciprocate this time lost and only care about the opinions of those closest to you - yourself, your family and your best friend. ILYSM.

‘Everything that has happened to me bad or good is a lesson’ - I always try to not have regrets in my life because everything happens for a reason, I discuss how I don’t regret any negative relationships, friendships, jobs that didn’t work out, love I’ve given out etc and seeing it as a LESSON. what can that experience teach me, what will I not accept from someone moving forward in my life. ILYSM

you are so much more than a body and so much more than the way you stomach looks on a random Tuesday. Never value your ability to be loved on the way you look, surround yourself with people that never make you want to hide yourself, how to stop comparing yourself to people on the internet and how to stop punishing your body rather celebrate it. ILYSM

an episode dedicated to advice I have given my friends surrounding toxic friendships, relationship problems, confidence issues, feeling drained or unmotivated and other self conscious issues. All I can say is that everything happens for a reason, take anything negative as a lesson and be greatful to constantly be learning to accept the full cake not crumbs ;) ILY

On today’s episode I discuss how to become comfortable in your own skin through recognising the fact ‘flaws’ are not real. Learn that you are NOT your intrusive, negative thoughts and focus on constantly affirming your value by: recognising you are so much more than just a body, never invalidating your feelings, identifying the root and not the cause of an insecurity, spending time with people who make you feel good about yourself, accepting the way you look and so much more. ilysm

your mental health should always be a forefront priority of your life, therefore being ‘selfish’ is not a bad thing. In today’s episode I speak about treating yourself as your own best friend, my 4 steps I take whenever I feel low and more mental health tips to put in boundaries with others to prioritise your health. ILYSM

TW: talk of eating disorders. Even after recovery there may still be thoughts, habits and feelings engrained within our brain therefore do we really recover? Diet culture is so embedded within our day to day media consumption and even physical visual reminders such as in super markets that it is hard to ‘get over’. I discuss how to learn to co-exist with that voice in your head, accepting sometimes you need to be kind to yourself, how to celebrate the fact you look different to people online, food isn’t the enemy and how to treat yourself with empathy. You are SO much more than just a body. ILY

The prevalence of social media and how often we see beautiful people we so easily fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to strangers - killing confidence and individuality. I discuss how to be accepting of yourself, how fast fashion is ruining ‘personal style’, insecurities and how it is a good thing that you are not the person you once was. FILM ANALYSIS - ‘Her’ Spike Jonzse ‘I am yours and I am not yours - even those who are not of physical form pine for love and the simple art of connection - communication’

‘Date yourself instead’ is the foremost important thing I can tell to a hopeless romantic, being a hopeless romantic means you can’t just ‘play it cool’ or ‘play hard to get’ - we as humans are meant to FEEL and celebrate these emotions of passion and don’t apologise for it. I talk about ways to express hopeless romantic feelings, the impact hookup culture has on romantics, dating yourself instead and to not change yourself for anyone. MOVIE CULTURE - todays movie analysis I talk about Sofia Coppolas 2023 ‘Priscilla’ and my essay on the use or lack of sound to portray the universal feminine yearning for companionship.

Today’s episode discusses both the policing of women aging and also the artistic inspiration of saltburns most disturbing scenes. In the first half, I breakdown the ‘retinol girls vs ribbon women’ discussion on TikTok about wanting to be older as a young girl, but ribbon bows being girlhood reminiscence to young adults - As well as the fear of aging, saltburn, books I’m reading, celebrity crushes and in the last half - everything I would say in a face time call to my best friend. ILY.

How to not care what people think. You have to practice who you want to be, emulate that person on your Pinterest board and take every situation as ‘what would my dream self do’. I discuss how you are what you consume media wise, who you are in your alone time is reflected when you are around others, to attract your dream life you must project confidence in yourself, how to not care about people’s opinions, how to ‘fake it till you make it’, healing from anxiety and loving yourself as well as your looks. ILYSM

I have struggled with allowing myself peace with my mental health or even just not trying to control every little thing - I discuss both my ‘Let them’ and ‘open door’ theories regarding forcing friendships/relationships, how to love your own company, how to stop being so hard on yourself, wearing what YOU want to wear without fear of judgement, spending time wisely with good people and creative ways to give an outlet for your mental health in bad times. (TW) mentions of allowing yourself to enjoy food and not see it as the enemy. ILYSM

In a society that tells you to ‘play it cool’ around your crush or to not be so passionate about things you love or not over dress because the occasion is casual or to not be so emotional about little things - FEEL. We as humans are meant to feel and express every little emotion, being emotional made me create this very podcast - empathy will never be a bad thing. Saying how you feel will never ruin a real connection, romantic OR platonic. Stop playing it cool and start being yourself - beautiful and emotional. Be a hopeless romantic!! ILY

on todays episode I discuss the concept of comparison and not feeling worthy due to being so hard on yourself. There is often a deeper meaning to being hard on yourself such as unhealed trauma or being fearful of other peoples opinions/judgement. Learn to be kind to yourself and surround yourself with the right people, recognise the fact putting yourself down is not going to help achieve your dreams of goals - give yourself time and empathy to be yourself again. Protect your peace but don’t lose yourself in the process. ILY.

‘it’s okay to not be okay’ At this time of year it is so easy to slip back into old habits and hide away, however in todays episode I speak about romanticising your autumn and teaching yourself that it is okay to ask for help. There is no shame in being an emotional person, we as humans are meant to feel - so put those feelings into a journal, a piece of art or even taking yourself simply out for coffee. You are not stupid or naïeve for being emotional. Make movie traditions with your friends, find new recipes, new playlists, new routines etc. ILY

a new version of ‘how to reomantisize your life’ focusing on aspects such as embracing your fashion sense, going on solo dates, falling in love with yourself and much much more. ILY

‘You are worthy of love because of the way you love’ - I find that we should always be seeking out romance if we aren’t experiencing it, but I think that love should be found in other things and not measured by 2 people. You are worthy of the most wonderful, fulfilling and movie like love whether it be platonic or romantic but first and foremost, love ISNT about two people it’s about yourself. Practice the urge to love with yourself and putting kindness into your every day. Just because you may never have been in a relationship doesn’t mean you never will, and it certainly doesn’t mean you are not worthy of it. ILYSM.

If I could ever give ANYONE a piece of advice I would say ‘never look at anything as a negative experience, look at it as a lesson - what did it teach me?’ My advice discusses: the damage of people pleasing, owning who you are, experimenting, how to not care what people think, damage of high school romance/lack of, how to navigate bad friendships, quality over quantity of friends, the journey of your mental health, words to live by, how to love your own company, accepting the love we think we deserve and MUCH more. Never hate on your past self for the actions you took, understand why you did them and again see them as a lesson. ILYSM.

In a male dominated sport, 2023 saw the inaugural year of ‘Formula 1 Academy’ an all female single seater series pushing for more opportunities for women in motorsport. I talk you through what Formula 1 academy is, iconic women in the sport, what this means for the 2024 season, the issue of broadcasting and my grid predictions! ILY

On todays episode I wanted to talk about those days you wake up and feel sad or emotionless sometimes for no reason at all, I discuss what I do on bad mental health days such as: acknowledging why I may feel this way, it’s okay to ask for help, setting routines, self care days, treating myself with extra empathy, journalling, Pinterest boards and finding passions etc. I’m so proud of you and you will have better days soon. ILY

If your social anxiety is forcing you into your comfort zone and isolating you from becoming a social butterfly I talk you through how I got myself out of a rut and into a charismatic mind set that enabled me all the opportunities I have today. I talk about having confidence in yourself, friend groups, how to step out your comfort zone, why to stop saying no sometimes, beauty out of discomfort, don’t be scared to be judged, why to not care about people’s opinions, lessons and why being a social butterfly is beautiful! I believe in you. ILYSM

it’s so easy to fall into the trap of ‘fitting in’ when your scared of other people’s opinions, today I discuss how I found myself and listened to my heart on what I wanted to truly wear, how I wanted to look and the dreams I wanted to follow. I learned how to not care about other peoples opinions, stop people pleasing, cut people off, chase my dreams, divine timing (‘everything happens for a reason’) and turn negative energy into productivity. I found my dream style, dream hair, dream look, dream future out of experimentation/trial and error and today I talk you through HOW TO - ILYSM

Welcome to my new ‘HOW TO’ series! Where I help you better your mental health and overall life. On todays episode I discuss how to protect your head and heart aswell as attracting the right people, life surrounds us with relationships (platonic and romantic) but how do we ensure all of these relationships are beneficial for us? Boundaries! I talk about how I cut people off, recognised energy drainers and more. You do not deserve to be treated the way certain people treated you, you deserve the most wonderful relationships and it all starts with realising you deserve the world because you are beautiful! ILY

now I don’t explain the 3-6-9 method BUT I do discuss gratitude manifestation methods such as journalling, mood boards, delusion, song connection to dream events, practicing who you want to be and many more! You wouldn’t be given your dreams if you weren’t capable of them, open the door now and express romanticising your life through everything - do it for your future self ILYSM

Hello and welcome to my annual met gala opinions talk where I have no qualification in fashion to discuss these looks but I love clothes and the met gala! I discuss my favourites, controversial opinions, the theme, men’s fashion at the met gala and other people’s perspectives also! Enjoy!

TW mention of body image. Have you ever been called a pick me for liking a certain sport? On todays episode I discuss the damage competitive sports can have on young girls in regard to body image, toxic friendships, losing the love for your sport and the feminist take on the advantages men can have over women in certain sports. I discuss the patronising response from people when you openly admit to liking a sport considered ‘masculine’ - you do NOT have to prove yourself to anyone. AND a snippet of my episode surrounding the phrase ‘pick me’ where we as a society are perpetrating stereotypes of certain sports beloning to men when we call girls ‘pick me’ if they like a certain sport. I also speak about finding your idols and inspirations such as Lissie Mackintosh! ILYSM

TW throughout episode mentions of body image, diet culture etc - A big anxiety when summer is round the corner is diet culture that has been engrained into our heads through comparison and beauty expectations. I have in the past struggled with my body image especially in the summer wearing a bikini, but in this episode I talk about how I have become confident and content in my body because life is too short to hate your reflection. You are more than just a body and you are perfect the way you are. Celebrate your body and nourish it in gratitude for all it has done for you, admire someone’s beauty without questioning your own especially in the summer! Wear that bikini and eat that desert - do whatever you want! ILY

anxiety can feel like it’s a cloud slowly taking over your life, but it doesn’t control you - let it visit, let it teach you and then let it go don’t let it overstay. acknowledge where this anxiety is stemming from, recognise what you can do to help and find new healthy coping mechanisms. anxiety is not a weakness, reach out to people and ask for help there is no shame in feeling this emotion - feed that ball of anxiety into your art whether it be poetry, reading, writing. anxiety and mental health doesn’t always have to be something to ‘get rid of’ and push to the back of your mind so it goes away, it is something to heal from and grow from. you have all the time in the world. ILY

hello my loves!! on todays fashion based episode i discuss how i went from desperately caring what people thought about what i wore to now not caring at all! everyone has their own personal opinions on fashion choices, so why not just wear what you want? people will talk either way so you may aswell be happy while they are doing it! i went from wearing what i thought people wanted me to wear/what i thought i would get the least judged in to now wearing thing i think are cool regardless. wear whatever you want life is too short and to do that try out charity shops, pinterest and many other ways to find your personal style! ILY

on today episode surrounding ‘dating culture in gen z’ i discuss and give help towards topics such as - the confusion of situationships, dating labels, the right ones don’t leave, do i believe in right person wrong time, the importance of timing, everything happens for a reason, ghosting, dating at your own pace, no is a full sentence, put that energy for someone else into yourself, delusion, don’t go back to your ex, getting over an ex, protect your energy, you are your greatest investment ILY

Confidence to me is being okay with being me, not comparing myself to how someone looks and what they wear or changing myself to being someone I think will be liked the most. Never dull yourself down to please other people, realise that adopting the ‘idgaf’ mentality is all about building up the most authentic version of yourself and not caring of people don’t like it. When you become confident in yourself you find so much happiness and romance within the world because YOU and truly YOU are now in it. Confidence is fake it till you make it, but also lack of confidence can stem down to your environment and peers. Learn the art of cutting people off and recognising it as self care, if there is a voice inside you that so desperately wants to wear a full metallic suit - listen to it, heal it and nurture it because it is a side of you that wants to come out. If you are scared of being judged for wearing a cool outfit in public, that person may ‘judge’ you for two seconds then you will never see them ever again so who cares what they think! ILY

I genuinely believe the greatest investment I have ever made is a journal, you will never be alone with a pen and paper. When I was at my lowest my journal was my solitude and escape, i humanised my journal and essentially thank it for saving me when I was at my lowest. A journal doesn’t always have to be negative, you can draw, write poetry, stick memories of dinners and drinks out. Anything you want, your journal is your peace of mind and release from reality - it is something that will listen with no judgment if you need to vent. ILYSM.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be bitter, love is all around you regardless of your relationship status. If you are single this Valentine’s Day, that does not mean you are unlovable or undesirable - It simply means your single. That. Is. All. Love and happiness is not defined by two, cultivate love for yourself and then you will spread love everywhere you go. On a political note - All in all Valentine’s Day is a consumerist push, but on a romantic note - Valentine’s Day does not always mean ‘romantic’ love, celebrate it with your friends, family and recognise that if you are ‘alone’ you are not lonely! ILYSM

Whether it be in romantic, platonic or even relationships with yourselves - we learn lessons from getting hurt. But acknowledge that the lesson isn’t that you aren’t pretty enough or aren’t funny enough but that you simply have a beautiful capability for compassion. You have a heart so big you are able to give out love and experience it, sometimes it may not work out the way we want it to but that’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Recognise that sadness can create art, heartbreak can create learning and self love to be your priority. Compassion is not a weakness, do not shut yourself off from love but see it as something you have a wonderful capability to have. ILYSM.

We all have our own anxieties, and one universal perhaps to the teen age group is the fear of rejection - whether it be romantically, socially or fashionably we may believe we are not enough or feel unworthy of putting ourselves out there. So what if someone doesn’t like you back? It may hurt but feed that emotion of sadness or anger into art, make a painting or a new playlist. If you fear you aren’t enough to make new friends, their loss - ask someone new to go for coffee or go to lunch together as you never know they may be the greatest friend you will ever make! Put yourself out there and listen to your heart, the fear of rejection is holding you back. Ily <3

‘admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own’ find validation not from others, but from yourself, your kindness and compassion. There is nothing ‘wrong’ with the way your stomach or thighs look, there is nothing wrong with the fact you don’t look exactly like the biggest celebrity star. You are NOT just a body, you are emotions, knowledge, opinions, experiences etc. It is so easy to adopt the mentality of self destruction when we compare, whether it comes to eating habits, the fear of rejection but who cares if someone doesn’t like the way your hair is styled? Or your outfit that day? Will you care about their own opinion in 5 years time? Do not let the walls your built up for protection, turn into a prison. Allow yourself to recognise food as a friend not your enemy, your body as a piece of art not something to change, your looks to be a beautiful project not something to compare and your mind to be a butterfly. You are beautiful, don’t ever let anyone make you think otherwise. ILY

In 2022 i am so grateful for the experiences and people that shaped the person I am today, whether that be negative or positive. Each lesson I learnt I am able to grow from and bring it into 2023 with me - so on todays episode I want to share with you lessons I will be weaving into the 2023 version of myself with me. Lessons in love, friendship, cutting people off, wearing wtf you want, no contact, dreams, pressure, the damage of comparison, spending time alone and much more. ILYSM. Thank you for listening to me in 2022, I am grateful for all of you.

On todays episode, I speak about the two biggest things for moving into a new year 1. Lessons and growth 2. Dreams. I speak about the importance of recognising negative experiences in 2022 as lessons and not punishing yourself for whatever happened/didn’t happen in 2022 - cutting people off, healing and not avoiding, boundaries and stagnant energy. But also…. Dreams, making vision boards and the power of expressing all you wish for in the new year through words. You deserve to bring the most beautiful energy, people and goals into the new year - release anyone or anything that dampens your dreams. ILYSM <3

when I came out it seemed like the scariest and most daunting thing at that moment, I experienced homophobia and lost a lot of friends - overall I rushed my coming out process because I had no idea how to do it or who to come out to. But on todays episode I discuss how coming out should be YOUR experience and how you want to do it, never feel pressured or rushed into coming out, negative responses from friends or family, hate criming experiences, labels, celebrating being you and never ever ever ever EVER apologising for being unapologetically you. You deserve to be yourself no matter anyone’s opinion. And if their opinion changes of you, cut them off! ILYSM.

on todays episode I discuss the beauty of being a hopeless romantic, that does not mean the entirety of the episode delves into romantic relationships - I talk about mainly looking at life through a rose tinted vision; finding romance everywhere you go such as going to cafes, nature, literature, music, loving yourself, letting people go that hurt you and most importantly NEVER EVER apologise for being a hopeless romantic. Open your heart up and let yourself find love in every aspect of life, including yourself. ILY

after being possibly one of the worlds biggest people pleasers, I recognised I wasn’t getting treated and respected by those I considered close friends the way I should have - and it was all because I let people walk all over me. I let slide treatment that taught others it’s okay to not be a nice person because ‘she will forgive me instantly anyways’. NO. On todays episode, I discuss boundaries I set in place in regards to friendships/relationships and my own well being. Setting boundaries may seem selfish to some such as saying ‘No’ because no is a full sentence end of story. I love you with all my heart.

we are brought up around the idea of ‘relationships’ and question whether we are enough as a person if we cannot seem to find one. No matter if we are wonderful people we still seem to believe we deserve less, we therefore settle for less and get hurt - in others words we settle for crumbs rather than the whole cake. Just because you are alone does not mean you are not enough. You are enough. You do not have to change yourself. You do not have to ‘fix’ yourself. You are NOT hard to love. I discuss relying on others for validation rather than healing the issue at hand, the damage of hookup culture, willing to get heartbroken because you simply love love, the chase and much more. You deserve the most wonderful love in the world - don’t forget that. ILYSM

Hello my loves! On todays episode, I wanted to delve into every aspect in 2022 that defines comparison, whether it be looks your body image, success passion - anything essentially that makes you feel like a lesser version and someone else. we as humans go onto social media and can pick out five aspects from simply someone’s face that we find beautiful, but we do not have. we consider this a negative thing and therefore breakdown ourselves to try and look like that person because we think it is a bad thing that we look unique or that we look different. in 2022 we constantly criticise ourselves and bully ourselves because we don’t fit into the perfect beauty standard. Therefore I want to help you break down this barrier and genuinely love yourself. No matter what size trousers society tells you, you should be love you with all my heart.

hello bestie, on todays episode I have been inspired to help on what to do when you feel down - it’s so easy to isolate and shut yourself out from the world when you feel low in yourself. But I discuss the important of finding just one person to actually listen to you, finding a passion, resting without feeling guilty, romanticising mundane activities and etc. ILYSM