They Talk Sex

Why do some people enjoy making visual erotica? How does censorship of consensual sex make it harder to address human trafficking? What can porn teach us for better, or worse? Guest and entertainer Ginger Banks explains her journey and offers resources for learning about porn and the people who make it.Timestamps:1:00 she’s been kicked off IG six times so far3:00 market research - what her clients like8:00 how do we do public education as whores?12:00 only some of “us” can talk about what we experience15:00 what is FOSTA SESTA and how is it killing people?19:00 her examples of ethical porn22:00 media coaching can helps us communicate25:00 most people have not had a threesome, ok27:00 reflections of an unhealthy relationship31:00 it might be tough to heal from someone if you still see them regularly34:00 on monetizing daddy issues39:00 respectability issues and attitudes43:00 receptive anal is the most likely way to transmit HIV47:00 how to not ripped off by clip sellers52:00 Ron Jeremy is a POS56:00 how to encourage safer venues1:01:00 Mia Khalifa and her story being manipulatedFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Got sexual health questions? Primary care physician and consent educator Dr Evelin Dacker has information and tips for people of all ages.Timestamps: 1:00 meet your doctor3:00 sexual health isn’t taught to most medical experts6:00 why does my vulva get wet with a tampon in?8:00 vulvodynia due to birth control for some folks12:00 does your doctor deserve your disclosure?15:00 being “out” as a sex-positive doctor 18:00 seeing sexuality through all the ages22:00 urinary tract infections and D-mannose 24:00 hysterectomy tips28:00 cervical orgasms 31:00 how is the CDC sex-negative?38:00 assess your actual risks41:00 multiple partners does not equal more STIs48:00 can a lot of masturbation hurt me?53:00 is there any benefit to semen retention?57:00 diabetes and erectile/engorgement complications1:00:00 resources and recsFIND YOUR GUEST: www.evelindacker.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Ever wanted to ask my slutty pals all your most embarrassing questions? We cover a lot with Valentine, a biracial, queer, veteran sex worker, and friend. Let’s talk dating, pornmaking, kink, burnout, and self-help.1:00 meet your guest, Valentine 4:00 why be closeted? 7:00 filming porn with mascs vs femmes10:00 pregnant sex workers and choice13:00 how we feel about sexting apps22:00 know how to set an appropriate vibe 27:00 tips for anxious club customers 31:00 strippers get nervous too35:00 and we fart on the customers we don’t like36:00 tips to prevent dating burnout40:00 more dating advice for sex workers and those who love us44:00 when your partner has anger issues49:00 how to do Dom/Sub in public, discreetly 55:00 how to enjoy sex after sexual assault59:00 you can conquer anything if you believe in yourself1:00:00 sensory issues and sex anxiety1:03:00 gender-neutral endearment1:08:00 libido differences in partners/couples1:13:00 penis envy in women?1:19:00 foot fetish-conflict advice 1:25:00 sworkers can teach us a lot!FIND YOUR GUEST: www.darlingvalentine.meFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

How does public opinion of sex toys shape their design? On vibrators, let’s talk history, personal preferences, and horror stories with guest and innovative toy designer Ti Chang.1:00 what was the first vibrator you ever owned?4:00 some buyers are ashamed of their pleasure8:00 standards and testing rigor of the future 12:00 sex toys in the mall? Yes and maybe15:00 common design issues or complaints18:00 pros of a tiny toy - less intimidating for new users21:00 suction toys can be intense for sensitive folks25:00 I learn something new with every sex convo 28:00 brief history of covert sex toys33:00 poorly made toys can hurt you37:00 magnets - how do they work? 40:00 listener submitted sex toy horror stories45:00 when toys get stuck in a rectum or colon48:00 tech can help with disabled sex too52:00 attitudes about pleasure informs how products are madeFind your host on ellestanger.comFollow your host on Patreon.com/strangebedfellows for just $1 a monthFIND YOUR GUEST: Lovecrave.com FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

How does a non-theistic religion relate to sexuality, consent, human trafficking, and personal rituals? Our expert academic Dr Sprankle teaches about history and the impacts of religiosity on human sexuality.1:00 he’s a twitter hit4:00 this is a good long running joke8:00 Satanists don’t believe in a literal devil10:00 no prohibitions on taboos, yes to consent 13:00 occultism or rationalism, and rituals 16:00 how society treats sex workers can lead to stressors21:00 a religion of Self25:00 listener questions 28:00 ejaculations are healthy31:00 ritual can be impactful34:00 the history of “satanic panic”39:00 underlying themes and messaging 45:00 a random web search 50:00 resources54:00 all the popes have been accused of satanismFIND YOUR GUEST: at drspankle.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

In a culture that doesn’t understand grief, how do survivors of intimate partner death loss navigate their sexuality? Counselor and author Megan Devine offers help with libido, relationships and shame.1:00 she was a counselor before her husband died3:00 reflecting on the “before” life7:00 death can feel like different rooms in hell 9:00 people are afraid of death and sexuality12:00 the blaming suicide survivors or victims13:00 elle’s advice for suicide grief survivors17:00 craving their body that no longer exists22:00 anchoring, comforting, sex can help26:00 what is normal?29:00 what is working for my healing? what is more dangerous?35:00 any kind of pleasure during grief can create guilt40:00 personal agency is important43:00 pleasure doesn’t cancel out pain47:00 skin to skin contact is soothing52:00 loving again feels scary55:00 a new podcast about grief - for helpers!1:00:00 when the connection urge still exists:1:05:00 resources and recommendations 1:08:00 sex after death advice means having curiosity FIND YOUR GUEST: at RefugeinGrief.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Have you ever accidentally or knowingly pushed on someone’s boundaries? We all have, so how do we communicate our needs and heal our harm? Let’s talk about queerness, flirting, sex, and accountability in trauma and relationships with writer Clementine Morrigan.1:00 meet your guest5:00 examples of how consent can be confused6:00 queer imposter syndrome10:00 verbal consent doesn’t work for everyone 13:00 i identify a traumatized, nice to meet you16:00 knowing your own triggers is quite helpful20:00 crossing men’s boundaries23:00 drinking, drugs, and consent27:00 taking a pause is necessary and sometimes sexy31:00 how to communicate when you’re tied up?36:00 subs gotta use their safe words when they need ‘em40:00 intent matters and is relevant45:00 kids and modeled consent50:00 penetration isn’t inherent to sex play53:00 sex without penetration is sex58:00 reflections of how we messed up beforeFind your host on ellestanger.comFollow your host on Patreon.com/strangebedfellows for just $1 a monthFIND YOUR GUEST: clementinemorrigan.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes atPatreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends atNetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.comThanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Is your heart still hurting and you need help with moving on? There’s a book for that, and I chat with the author, counselor Erin E. Davidson.1:00 guest background3:00 Elle’s quick tips for getting over people6:00 breakups can be a type of grief9:00 when you find excuses to contact them13:00 recruiting your breakup team17:00 rumination and “switching tracks”22:00 life will be better again if you can leave safely27:00 disenfranchised grief 31:00 on being judged for divorcing AGAIN35:00 the right relationship for the time being41:00 some silly study on feeling better over time45:00 breakup pain can go up and down50:00 resources53:00 Elle says F U to an exFIND YOUR GUEST: https://linktr.ee/erin.e.davidsonFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Foreskin removal and reconstruction: guest Eric Cunningham shares history and medical knowledge relating to penis-altering procedures around the world.1:00 language disclaimer 5:00 penis circumcision is fairly rare, worldwide8:00 circumcision in the US originated due to misbeliefs 11:00 war and enslavement and the marking of genitals15:00 Alexander the great wanted to stop genital cutting20:00 the Olympics relates to circumcision 30:00 chastity devices 32:00 surgeries conducted on genitals to prevent sexual function38:00 you have frenulums all over42:00 ribbed condoms mimic foreskin47:00 circumcision doesn’t seem to reduce STI transmission57:00 resource recommendations1:00:00 animals have foreskins tooFIND YOUR GUEST: Foregen.org FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

For all genders: size anxiety, euphoria, acceptance, and individuality is explained to us by author Elle Chase, CSE.1:00 this is about body acceptance, not love5:00 the burden of negative cultural influences10:00 gender roles for body image15:00 how are bigger bodied people treated differently?20:00 FOSTA/SESTA has hurt fat people 25:00 how can straight-sized sex workers help?31:00 Listener Questions35:00 fat jiggling is really sexy to a lot of people45:00 elle’s tips for anxiety and masturbation50:00 what IS restrictive eating?54:00 share what you love about your partner’s bigger body?58:00 elle loves scissoring1:02:00 more book resources and breathing remindersFIND YOUR GUEST: ellechase.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

 Learn some behind-the-scenes secrets and production tricks as we talk to a xxx performer who has been making adult content for a decade.1:00 Gem makes porn - meet your guest5:00 nude model contracts can be weird 10:00 would you prefer to let your spouse manage your OnlyFans?13:00 likes/dislikes about adult content creation17:00 chafed labias are a downside of a busy calendar23:00 this stuff isn’t always easy!26:00 on setting boundaries during live shows30:00 filming feedback and mishaps36:00 it sucks getting your period on camera40:00 how to not get your IG deleted by OnaArtist43:00 how we feel about anti porn people who claim they fight trafficking48:00 what could change about the web porn industries?52:00 sex tips and advice from GemFIND YOUR GUEST: Gem on Twitter and OnlyFans @lilshawtygem and @theshawtysupremeFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Gay and bisexual men have been hugely impactful on modern fitness and gym culture, and our writer and fitness expert explains how.2:00 meet your guest5:00 a famous bisexual sex worker flexing was one of the first film clips7:00 beefcake magazines9:00 excessive carbs can lower your libido?14:00 men, what keeps you closeted?18:00 discrimination prevents success22:00 hormones and steroid use 27:00 ethical steroid use and applications33:00 how often do you come out to people?38:00 homophobia/misogyny/racism in fitness on social media45:00 the Proud Boys and Vice relationship49:00 labial and scrotal wax can HURT53:00 carnivals and wrestlers and strippers1:00:00 good hygiene is good sex adviceFIND YOUR GUEST: https://peterdbaker.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

How do current laws and beliefs perpetuate opportunities for sexual abuse of people, specifically children, immigrants, trans people, BIPOC, and sex workers? Let’s talk with an Executive Director for a nonprofit that supports survivors and offers resources, the Cupcake Girls.2:00 meet our guest - why does a civilian work in anti-trafficking?5:00 police abuse in oregon 10:00 *deep breath reminder*13:00 doctors, lawyers, nurses might Out or report sex workers to police17:00 examples of how criminalization hurts people20:00 critically question your spirituality 21:00 more examples of how criminalization hurts people25:00 domestic violence can link to sex trafficking 29:00 generational trafficking is more common than you might think35:00 resource for secondary trauma - emma sullivan39:00 tips for talking with a partner about trauma43:00 sex workers are taxpayers too, LOL50:00 most anti-trafficking organizations require people to quit sex work to receive services55:00 How to donate1:00:00 planes and flights with people being transported 1:05:00 gender myths and trafficking 1:10:00 don’t make assumptions FIND YOUR GUESTt cupcakegirls.orgFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

 Let’s talk about genital self-touch with author Vic Liu and learn from Bang For All - their inclusive book on masturbation.2:00 why write a sex ed book on masturbation10:00 how masturbation can be good for you13:00 masturbation myths20:00 how to increase sensitivity in your vulva25:00 be mindful of your anal play27:00 anal numbing creams are so dangerous 32:00 vibrator dependency - why the brain can rely on simple methods40:00 elle asked listeners: what have you masturbated with?47:00 why teach sex education to k-12?49:00 child sexual abuse *trigger*52:00 resources FIND YOUR GUEST at https://www.vic-liu.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Which sexual scripts and stereotypes do you follow, even if they don’t feel good or make sense? Dr Chris Donaghue explains how to have sex outside the lines and expand your skills and attitudes with yourself and partners.5:00 throw out your expectations about what sex “should” be like 12:00 approach a partner’s body with curiosity regardless of gender18:00 controversial idea: fluid and expansive educators will understand sexuality better25:00 trying new things all the time 30:00 goth kids do it in the cemetery 33:00 dirty talk tips39:00 everybody likes different things, sexually44:00 using toys: our entire bodies can be stimulated52:00 on “heteroflexible” as a term 57:00 other examples of sexual scripts1:00:00 resource requestsFIND YOUR GUEST: https://www.drchrisdonaghue.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

What can it mean to be kinky and how can we play more safely and creatively? Domina Franco M.Ed has two decades of experience and gives advice and info about kink play and trauma. 4:00 what is kink? 8:00 how some types of play and relationships are pathologized 12:00 on being a joyful sadist and human furniture 20:00 slut play 28:00 a theory on why some people love submission32:00 Consensual Non-consent play or “rape role play”40:00 how to screen for safer dominant partners45:00 topping is a sacred responsibility54:00 mint green bandanas mean mommy kink1:00:00 book recommendations on kink and BDSMFIND YOUR GUEST https://www.dominafranco.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

We all experience jealousy and feel it on a spectrum: learn how to manage it with relationship-building expert Dr Joli Hamilton.3:00 different relationship styles 6:00 why call it CNM instead of ENM 14:00 what purposes does jealousy serve?18:00 people don’t like identifying they are jealous - feeling shame about feeling jealous19:00 how mismanaged jealousy can do great harm24:00 how do I ask to open up an existing relationship? 29:00 I hate my partner’s partner - what to do?38:00 how to own your jealousy48:00 germophobes and sharing52:00 celebrities who can’t be open55:00 polyamorous and parenting rights?1:00:00 stories can be helpfulFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

How to run yourself as a more sustainable, cheerful and profitable business: business coach Carmen Santos from Racks-to -Riches offers advice for veteran strippers, baby strippers, and civilians.1:10 most of us auditioning have zero or little knowledge of how to do the jobs4:00 communication and sales skills matter7:00 viewing yourself as a business10:00 intergenerational and gender issues relating to financial education15:00 employee vs contractor status17:00 annoying things that clients do - don’t do these!24:00 how to deal with those same old questions36:00 alcohol wears people down40:00 how to reframe aging in sex industries45:00 privacy and disclosure advice49:00 social media use is energy53:00 bad legislation and laws 55:00 what makes a good club59:00 business advice resources Follow your host on Patreon.com/strangebedfellows for just $1 a monthFIND YOUR GUEST: RackstoRiches.com FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)1:03:00 on dating yourself 

Facts, FAQs and communication about a common virus that many of us live with, with herpes educator and suicide-prevention organizer Courtney Brame.2:00 - herpes diagnoses can make people suicidal7:00 - shame about COVID and herpes 12:00 - skin friction is how herpes is transmitted, sexually or not19:00 - mental health and sexuality26:00 - disclosure: when should I?30:00 - the three most common responses to “I have herpes”38:00 - different ways to disclose to partners42:00 - therapists should be herpes literate 52:00 - immune system support is critical1:00:00 - what's' it like telling strangers you have herpes, regularly?FIND YOUR GUEST: SPFPP.orgFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Sex coach and author Stella Harris offers advice and tips on how to prep, plan and practice pleasure with three or more partners.4:00 why do people want to have threesomes?8:00 conflict is perhaps more likely with more people interacting12:00 having sex positive friends creates more opportunity for pleasure 17:00 on web options or paying for it24:00 how do you meet people for a third?27:00 sci-fi and fantasy nerds often engage in sexual diversity35:00 options for play that don’t involve fluid exchange or penetration 45:00 perks of being a unicorn50:00 most porn is not education59:00 bisexuality in men isn’t as supported 1:03:00 fantasy is not the same as reality1:07:00 more resource recommendationsFIND YOUR GUEST at StellaHarris.netFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Clinician and author Silva Neves explains common misconceptions about so-called “sex addiction” and gives help to folks navigating distressing concerns about their own sexualities.4:00 Lack of sexuality training with sex workers 7:30 sex addiction type treatment is shaming of people 9:40 why “sex addiction” is not an accurate term11:00 your body doesn’t withdraw from lack of sex, and can’t OD on sex19:00 trauma and attachment 20:00 non-monogamy 25:00 sex positivity includes body positivity Fetishes, poly, kinky, sex workers, disability, queer, asexual all need to be included in sex therapy27:00 what sex-positive really means29:00 asexuality is real 31:00 conversion “therapy”36:00 How to share a trauma story with partners40:00 porn doesn't make people violent47:00 relational trauma is common 51:00 what is digisesxuality?53:00 what is chemsex?59:00 how to surf your emotions1:11:00 monogamy is a christian conceptFIND YOUR GUEST: https://silvaneves.co.ukFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

On loving the work, being attacked by haters, trans man adult performer Trip Richards shares his experiences with pornmaking, dating, and censorship.8:00 we are a mish-mosh of identities12:00 perks of the work18:00 trans porn resources25:00 trip was deactivated on IG shortly after this recording28:00 on cis women + trans man porn demand32:00 most of us can’t be authentic in capitalism40:00 dating as a performer43:00 what was the pornhub scandal about?46:00 there’s more child abuse material uploaded to facebook than pornhub53:00 shame around desires causes violence57:00 he’s a cat dadFIND YOUR GUEST @ TWITTER TRIPLEXTRANSMANFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)