They Talk Sex

Our guest grew up in a fundamentalist Seventh Day Adventist church and led a life of rebellion after she left it. High powered jobs and risky hookups shaped Melissa Duge Spiers before she learned that her father was a serial child predator shielded from the church, and thus began another stage in her reconstruction of self. Let’s talk about her memoir; called “Holy Disobedience - Sex, Sin, and Secrets in the Biggest Church No One Knows”. 2:00 leaving the church 4:00 leaning into the violent things7:00 family predators and patterns9:00 what is a “mass tort”?13:00 how SDA primed her for abusive relationships16:00 humor about sexual assault20:00 a book event in Portland?25:00 how to deal with social isolation30:00 how to handle sex-repulsion feelings34:00 opposition to her 37:00 “Adventist Risk Management”40:00 abusing a weiner dog! James Dobson44:00 SDA vs Catholics47:00 who owns the eatery?50:00 atheism today and sex tipsFIND YOUR GUEST: TT & IG @the.glory.whole & @melissadugespiers_writer FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Our guest is a male provider of touch to women clients. He has worked as a surrogate partner, coach and more. Let's talk about clients, and attachment, and our own personal relationship tips and pitfalls. 2:00 a somatic approach to sex4:00 better sex comes from body awareness7:00 when it sucks to be 'in your body'11:00 requirements for working as a surrogate15:00 go explore!19:00 some of us are drawn to sex work18:00 male sw profiles from hell22:00 why pay for it?30:00 clients attaching to him37:00 no dating at this time40:00 sunlight and showering is key for me44:00 orgasm retreat-events48:00 upcoming events 52:00 aim to diversify and inform self, how?55:00 sex tips and breathingFIND YOUR GUEST: JamesHumecky.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Miss M has worked in sex in a variety of ways, but never a brothel. Let’s talk about the pros and cons of sugaring, escorting, companion and dominatrix work - and why sex workers tend to prefer decriminalization instead of legalization models, when given the option. We’ve also got safety and pleasure tips for everyone!1:00 SA to escorting 5:00 she applied to Sheri’s 8:00 brothel surveillance 12:00 structure doesn’t equal equity16:00 tips for safety20:00 is this what it’s like dating?25:00 find her Substack here: @menopausemermaid Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 26:00 dating30:00 thoughts on policing34:00 police in portland lately38:00 confidentiality is coolSponsored by Love-Blanket.com 45:00 Unionizing in Nevada news49:00 concerns re: ownership of image55:00 DECRIM not legalization plz 58:00 sex tips 1:00:00 female condoms are cool!FIND YOUR GUEST: Substack @ menopausemermaidFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Sceness at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Sinn Sage is an an Adult Video Hall of Famer, who offers reflections and advice for people who want to make their own materials and seek to understand the market. Let’s talk about how years of pornmaking has lended insight into intimacy and the politics between touch and advocacy. 2:00 how she got started5:00 burnout and spark8:00 facesitting and fetish themes11:00 AVN evolutions and COVID15:00 Pornhubs problematic origins 18:00 ad revenue tiers?22:00 learned boundaries in SW25:00 theater nerd overlap Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com29:00 having a favorite 35:00 relationship advice for SWs38:00 advice for using apps 42:00 advice for newbies in the industry47:00 thots on coaching?52:00 she wants all SWs to earn more54:00 Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com58:00 clips4sale and platform rules1:01:00 manyvids drama and changes1:05:00 custom video guidelines1:09:00 helping guide people to intimacy FIND YOUR GUEST: Sinn-Sage.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenesat Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

This is a pleasure-centric episode! Learn some tips for pleasing people with vulvas, and get an insider’s idea of different ways to play. Allison Moon talks sex geek stuff like lesbianism, theater, disability, and sexual skills. 2:00 GIRLSEX 101 is about queer sex5:00 straight men like this book too8:00 Guide to Getting It/On11:00 college professor in the PNW14:00 Sex Geek Summer Camp18:00 listening will make you better21:00 more tips for sex with women Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com 26:00 beware scammers selling stuff30:00 oral sex tips33:00 don’t kick me off online plz 36:00 more oral sex tips39:00 transphobes hate her! Sponsored by Lovecrave.com45:00 SWOON - a short rom/com film about sex work and disability47:00 leftist movements can leave people behind51:00 sex can be silly and bizarre 54:00 @DirtyLola and Reid Mihalko shoutouts57:00 a renaissance around sex positive media is possible FIND YOUR GUEST: AlliedMoon.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Kaytlin Bailey is a comedian and former escort who founded a nonprofit organization that uses storytelling to advocate for human rights. She produces conferences and podcasts episodes and is touring The Oldest Profession Live Show now! Let’s talk about 10,000 years of sex work in history.3:00 feminism succeeds with inclusion of sw7:00 sw in history 10:00 feedback from audiences13:00 internalized shame15:00 the Honest Courtesan - maggiemcneil.com18:00 sugaring and escort background22:00 - Get 10% off your feministtrash.com order with code STRIPPERWRITER25:00 Veronica Franco - fascinating historical figure29:00 reminder to save your money if you can33:00 fundraising and sugaring 37:00 differences in activism40:00 what is “bad” money?43:00 attitude is everything 47:00 flagging or signaling 50:00 it’s expensive to look “naturally pretty”54:00 how to gauge compassion about sw?57:00 how to be an ally 1:00:00 danger vs opportunity 1:02:00 sex tips from a married person jkFIND YOUR GUEST: kaytlinbailey.com/,  AND AT theoldestprofession.org/FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenesat Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Suzannah Weiss is an American sexologist and author of “Eve’s Blessing”, which discusses how people with vulvas can lead pleasurable lives in a world that normalizes their pain, specifically related to sex, childbirth and menstruation. This book is for gender diverse people, and is not a critique of the Bible, but a more sex-positive re-imagining of it. 3:00 chronic lyme disease, pain or no-gasm 7:00 stories from others10:00 what is “the female experience”13:00 medical forms and language can make it confusing15:00 gaslighting example18:00 PAXIL may mess up your vag21:00 hormonal birth control side effects25:00 CONDOMANIA.COM - code THEYTALKSEX 10% off first order28:00 the Bible’s pain of child-raising?32:00 wine is not the answer in this case36:00 side effects of sexual violence40:00 OF Bible Passages 43:00 advocate for yourself during doctor visits45:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com46:00 about 5% of people have endometriosis?50:00 should periods be so painful?53:00 reminder, she’s a sex therapist in CA56:00 sex tips!FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @suzannahwiseFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Your questions on STIs, dating, and pleasure, answered by Mariah Caudillo of @SexedFiles of IG. She's worked in schools for a decade and is an online program creator for a major health care clinic. Let's talk health and fun sex stuff.3:00 day and night jobs!7:00 teaching in schools for a decade 10:00 bacterial vs virtual STIs14:00 M.Gen is a new STI! Fun!16:00 Qs for a new partner?22:00 HPV info 25:00 THEYTALKSEX for 15% off first order Condomania.com27:00 Bacterial Vaginosis is an STI?34:00 the vagina is like a sleeping bag37:00 how much is too much masturbation?43:00 Sponsored by LoveBlanket.com - get 10% off via theytalksex.com45:00 cock ring questions 48:00 hallucinations while orgasming?51:00 what to do about a chronic UTI?54:00 how to stay motivated as a teacher 57:00 NY Post is trash1:01:00 more on online harassment1:03:00 sex tips!FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @sexedfiles FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)Please rate and review this podcast :)

Phoenix Rising met your host as a newbie stripper in the previous decade -  and she rejoins Elle to reflect in the podcast, years later. What has changed or been learned? This is a big advice episode for all strippers and people who love them. Let’s talk drama, burnout, injuries, aging, judgement, and self-care.I first interviewed Phoenix Rising as a newbie stripper, in our previous decade -  and she rejoins your host as a thriving veteran, years later. This is a big advice episode for all strippers and people who love them. Let’s talk drama, burnout, injuries, aging, judgement, and self-care.3:00 animal rescue 5:00 club experience8:00 shoutout to PUMPS in NY12:00 Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com17:00 shoutout to @yourtoxicaddiction on IG20:00 club conflict with peers23:00 how to avoid burnout25:00 mental capacity and energy28:00 on music and branding34:00 common stripper injuries 38:00 balls to the wall pain40:00 TheyTalkSex.com has discount codes for cool gifts :)43:00 on the terms “baby stripper and veteran”47:00 aging in the industry50:00 body hair removal53:00 body hair and strippers56:00 quizzed on Charlie Kirk during dances?1:02:00 stripper documentary “Cheers:PDX”FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @motherlucifer FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Not your average grandma…better! Ruby Lynne of The Granny Panty podcast started sex work at the age of fifty three and today she’s a prolific media creator with a background in public health. Let’s learn some marketing and professional’s tips while discussing better practices for self care and health of yourself and your loved ones. 2:00 public health and porn!5:00 M.Gen is a new STI8:00 podcasting and networking with oldies12:00 on being outed by a family ‘friend’ 16:00 high school reunions20:00 being stalked via Paypal24:00 $500 a month to STI test!27:00 studio work30:00 sexting apps and etiquette 33:00 more ^^^37:00 losing friends and family41:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com45:00 roleplay and moods48:00 we need an award category!56:00 what keeps us young?FIND YOUR GUEST thegrannypantypodcast.com/ rubylynne.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Tricia Wise is a full time herpes educator and visual artist, and we talk about how to be a safer slut, and stay happier while being mentally ill. Get some updated HSV information, and get connected with her Shadownbanned podcast and upcoming zine project.2:00 meet your shadowbanned host5:00 SEGGS instead of sex8:00 it’s disheartening to get flagged12:00 HSV 1 vs 216:00 symptoms that we experience 19:00 take the herpes survey study!SPFPP.ORG23:00 dating red flags?28:00 dating tips and anxiety texting32:00 getting the ICK for protection35:00 reframing the scare38:00 code THEYTALKSEX for 10% off Love-Blanket.com42:00 harness that OCD in healthier ways45:00 1 in 5, or 1 in 8 people have herpes48:00 sex tipssssFIND YOUR GUEST safeslut.shopand youtube.com/@safeslutFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Are you feeling stressed out more often than feels normal? Let’s hear from our guest and therapist Carolanne Marcantonio who offers some explanation for what’s happening in your brain and body when you feel like you’re running from big game hunters, and want to anxiety-poop, or cry. 3:00 meet your punk guest6:00 career advice from Dr. Ruth!9:00 Fight, flight, freeze, fawn12:00 stomach problems 15:00 ladders of inference18:00 more examples22:00 tips to ground yourself 24:00 discount code THEYTALKSEX28:00 shake it off, literally33:00 thesystemsthinker.com37:00 SPONSORED BY Netherlandswax.com42:00 can your partner work with you?45:00 real vs perceived threat48:00 ChatGPT sucks, why?50:00 book recommendations 55:00 more book recs!59:00 sex tips!FIND OUR GUEST : wisetherapylcsw.com/carolanne-marcantonioIG @SexTherapyBrooklynFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Did you know that violence against people in the adult industries is a common type of police misconduct? Our guest and journalist Isidoro Rodriguez uncovers what he’s learned through interviews and study of two at-odds populations: cops and sex workers. Let’s talk about how power and criminalization of prostitution makes it impossible to protect marginalized people in our America.3:00 embedded with police academy 5:00 sadistic, altruistic, apathetic8:00 concepts of consent10:00 did you have any biases?13:00 I just want to learn16:00 how to screen for predators?20:00 officer-health and wellness24:00 THEYTALKSEX for 10% off love-blanket.com/27:00 what are Good Samaritan laws?30:00 Rights For Girls is not overly helpful or ethical as an org.33:00 please don’t make our clients into criminals35:00 trauma can lead to bias38:00 billboard ads would help 41:00 clients don’t like talking on record either44:00 don’t punish all the liquor buyers47:00 safe harbor laws aren’t enough 50:00 I hope for a nice cop 53:00 don’t police homelessness or mental illness56:00 Jessie Sage, Blair Hopkins, Kaytlin Bailey are experts on this 1:01:00 more reliable news sources1:06:00 sex tips FIND YOUR GUEST https://www.isidoro-rodriguez.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Jae Tracy grew up through severe parental abuse and trafficking and is finally able to speak about her experiences, in order to bolster other survivors and to teach the warning signs. Let’s talk about living as an adult with a family trauma history, and thriving as an individual after.1:00 we met in the strip club4:00 she can finally share her story of childhood7:00 charming and abusive mother10:00 meth and alcohol and “the wrong crowd”13:00 Lutheran grandparents16:00 Find her on Youtube @ Jae Tracy19:00 a step up from home life24:00 supporting a parent in their sobriety?27:00 what feels good for yourself 30:00 sex after trauma 35:00 how to explain sex work vs trafficking36:00 ways to spot abuse?43:00 foster kids across state housing?46:00 social worker problems49:00 racism in parenting52:00 get silly and wild in sex FIND MORE OF JAE’S WORK HERE: LinkedIn: Instagram: Substack: YouTube: Original Soft White Underbelly Interview: https://youtu.be/4sfHCQIzK3YFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Leanne Lawson is an amateur adult content creator living in Canada who stumbled upon an online world of pro-fascism trans women(!) Let’s talk about internalized violence and power structures in adult work, trans and queer spaces.1:00 trans women who love Trump?3:00 the “Tucker Carlson of trans women”5:00 barred from the strip club9:00 trans-on-trans violence13:00 pick-me!14:00 trans women with privilege?19:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com22:00 examples of infighting and sabotage26:00 dating lesbians29:00 I'd be more successful if I shut up32:00 on roasting people36:00 picking your battles40:00 trans-medicalism 46:00 outdated terms for people49:00 what changed for you?54:00 just one Republican with a trans kid59:00 some people do anything for Likes1:03:00 stop copying Sex workers if you hate us!1:08:00 a sex tip Find Leanne Lawson on TikTok and IG @crashout3oh4OnlyFans.com/crashout3oh4Special mentions to @Liam.nissan and @mohatesmedia FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

What can you learn from an online adult entertainer, YouTuber, and digital marketing professional? Misty Maven creates content for her subscription sites, sells worn clothing items, and tells us about her learning curves and ongoing practices for engaging online. Let’s talk webcam and sex work!3:00 prior work experience6:00 why they started sworking9:00 selling worn garments 12:00 twerking videos 15:00 connecting with others19:00 nosy and interested in others23:00 what about the future?26:00 talking with mom about worry30:00 regrets in the future?34:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com37:00 beware of scammers40:00 amazon scammers specifically 43:00 creators who scam?47:00 economics 50:00 advertising on social media 54:00 tips for starting out58:00 Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com1:01:00 Colombian webcam workers and coercion1:06:00 exploitation in commercial labor overseas and here1:10:00 what’s next for Misty?FIND YOUR GUEST: on YouTube @Mistymistymisty and all links can be found at mistythemaven.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Ready for some inner child work? Our guest was tired of talking about their traumatic incidents and was ready to feel better in their body and relationships again - let’s talk dealing with attachment trauma and healing methods with Mx Harris Hill.3:00 heal your PTSD faster?7:00 inner child work 11:00 if you can feel you14:00 hypersexuality and substances, PTSD16:00 golden rules for working with people 19:00 inherently traumatized + trans?22:00 jealousy triggered 25:00 stop relying on them for so muchSponsored by Netherlandswax.com33:00 core wound therapy36:00 dating three and power dynamics39:00 more advice power dynamics Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com45:00 on dating an avoidant 48:00 on being anxiously attached51:00 co-dependency and materials54:00 future plans and corporate influencing?FIND YOUR GUEST: at MxHarrisHill.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Vada Everlove is a Certified DV Survivor’s Advocate and poet of erotica. She survived sexual abuse and grooming and discusses the connections between purity culture, misogyny and abuse. We reframe some bad narratives and talk connections between polyamory and trauma-healing.3:00 17 and 30 years old 8:00 some symptoms of CPTSD10:00 vaginismus and vulvodynia13:00 numbing your vagina with lidocaine15:00 pleasure after abuse17:00 anatomy and consent for kids 19:00 @ BookofWhoredom - our guest on IG22:00 Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com24:00 maintaining sanity while online 27:00 more on that ^30:00 dating after escaping that35:00 polyamory and feminism relating 38:00 tradwife fantasy42:00 Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com45:00 Trump proposed birth bonus49:00 a poem reading53:00 afraid to fall in love with more than one person57:00 a few of our favorite things, cucking and gay boysFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)