They Talk Sex

Our guest grew up in a fundamentalist Seventh Day Adventist church and led a life of rebellion after she left it. High powered jobs and risky hookups shaped Melissa Duge Spiers before she learned that her father was a serial child predator shielded from the church, and thus began another stage in her reconstruction of self. Let’s talk about her memoir; called “Holy Disobedience - Sex, Sin, and Secrets in the Biggest Church No One Knows”. 2:00 leaving the church 4:00 leaning into the violent things7:00 family predators and patterns9:00 what is a “mass tort”?13:00 how SDA primed her for abusive relationships16:00 humor about sexual assault20:00 a book event in Portland?25:00 how to deal with social isolation30:00 how to handle sex-repulsion feelings34:00 opposition to her 37:00 “Adventist Risk Management”40:00 abusing a weiner dog! James Dobson44:00 SDA vs Catholics47:00 who owns the eatery?50:00 atheism today and sex tipsFIND YOUR GUEST: TT & IG @the.glory.whole & @melissadugespiers_writer FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Our guest is a male provider of touch to women clients. He has worked as a surrogate partner, coach and more. Let's talk about clients, and attachment, and our own personal relationship tips and pitfalls. 2:00 a somatic approach to sex4:00 better sex comes from body awareness7:00 when it sucks to be 'in your body'11:00 requirements for working as a surrogate15:00 go explore!19:00 some of us are drawn to sex work18:00 male sw profiles from hell22:00 why pay for it?30:00 clients attaching to him37:00 no dating at this time40:00 sunlight and showering is key for me44:00 orgasm retreat-events48:00 upcoming events 52:00 aim to diversify and inform self, how?55:00 sex tips and breathingFIND YOUR GUEST: JamesHumecky.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Miss M has worked in sex in a variety of ways, but never a brothel. Let’s talk about the pros and cons of sugaring, escorting, companion and dominatrix work - and why sex workers tend to prefer decriminalization instead of legalization models, when given the option. We’ve also got safety and pleasure tips for everyone!1:00 SA to escorting 5:00 she applied to Sheri’s 8:00 brothel surveillance 12:00 structure doesn’t equal equity16:00 tips for safety20:00 is this what it’s like dating?25:00 find her Substack here: @menopausemermaid Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 26:00 dating30:00 thoughts on policing34:00 police in portland lately38:00 confidentiality is coolSponsored by Love-Blanket.com 45:00 Unionizing in Nevada news49:00 concerns re: ownership of image55:00 DECRIM not legalization plz 58:00 sex tips 1:00:00 female condoms are cool!FIND YOUR GUEST: Substack @ menopausemermaidFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Sceness at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Sinn Sage is an an Adult Video Hall of Famer, who offers reflections and advice for people who want to make their own materials and seek to understand the market. Let’s talk about how years of pornmaking has lended insight into intimacy and the politics between touch and advocacy. 2:00 how she got started5:00 burnout and spark8:00 facesitting and fetish themes11:00 AVN evolutions and COVID15:00 Pornhubs problematic origins 18:00 ad revenue tiers?22:00 learned boundaries in SW25:00 theater nerd overlap Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com29:00 having a favorite 35:00 relationship advice for SWs38:00 advice for using apps 42:00 advice for newbies in the industry47:00 thots on coaching?52:00 she wants all SWs to earn more54:00 Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com58:00 clips4sale and platform rules1:01:00 manyvids drama and changes1:05:00 custom video guidelines1:09:00 helping guide people to intimacy FIND YOUR GUEST: Sinn-Sage.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenesat Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

This is a pleasure-centric episode! Learn some tips for pleasing people with vulvas, and get an insider’s idea of different ways to play. Allison Moon talks sex geek stuff like lesbianism, theater, disability, and sexual skills. 2:00 GIRLSEX 101 is about queer sex5:00 straight men like this book too8:00 Guide to Getting It/On11:00 college professor in the PNW14:00 Sex Geek Summer Camp18:00 listening will make you better21:00 more tips for sex with women Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com 26:00 beware scammers selling stuff30:00 oral sex tips33:00 don’t kick me off online plz 36:00 more oral sex tips39:00 transphobes hate her! Sponsored by Lovecrave.com45:00 SWOON - a short rom/com film about sex work and disability47:00 leftist movements can leave people behind51:00 sex can be silly and bizarre 54:00 @DirtyLola and Reid Mihalko shoutouts57:00 a renaissance around sex positive media is possible FIND YOUR GUEST: AlliedMoon.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Kaytlin Bailey is a comedian and former escort who founded a nonprofit organization that uses storytelling to advocate for human rights. She produces conferences and podcasts episodes and is touring The Oldest Profession Live Show now! Let’s talk about 10,000 years of sex work in history.3:00 feminism succeeds with inclusion of sw7:00 sw in history 10:00 feedback from audiences13:00 internalized shame15:00 the Honest Courtesan - maggiemcneil.com18:00 sugaring and escort background22:00 - Get 10% off your feministtrash.com order with code STRIPPERWRITER25:00 Veronica Franco - fascinating historical figure29:00 reminder to save your money if you can33:00 fundraising and sugaring 37:00 differences in activism40:00 what is “bad” money?43:00 attitude is everything 47:00 flagging or signaling 50:00 it’s expensive to look “naturally pretty”54:00 how to gauge compassion about sw?57:00 how to be an ally 1:00:00 danger vs opportunity 1:02:00 sex tips from a married person jkFIND YOUR GUEST: kaytlinbailey.com/,  AND AT theoldestprofession.org/FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenesat Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Suzannah Weiss is an American sexologist and author of “Eve’s Blessing”, which discusses how people with vulvas can lead pleasurable lives in a world that normalizes their pain, specifically related to sex, childbirth and menstruation. This book is for gender diverse people, and is not a critique of the Bible, but a more sex-positive re-imagining of it. 3:00 chronic lyme disease, pain or no-gasm 7:00 stories from others10:00 what is “the female experience”13:00 medical forms and language can make it confusing15:00 gaslighting example18:00 PAXIL may mess up your vag21:00 hormonal birth control side effects25:00 CONDOMANIA.COM - code THEYTALKSEX 10% off first order28:00 the Bible’s pain of child-raising?32:00 wine is not the answer in this case36:00 side effects of sexual violence40:00 OF Bible Passages 43:00 advocate for yourself during doctor visits45:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com46:00 about 5% of people have endometriosis?50:00 should periods be so painful?53:00 reminder, she’s a sex therapist in CA56:00 sex tips!FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @suzannahwiseFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Your questions on STIs, dating, and pleasure, answered by Mariah Caudillo of @SexedFiles of IG. She's worked in schools for a decade and is an online program creator for a major health care clinic. Let's talk health and fun sex stuff.3:00 day and night jobs!7:00 teaching in schools for a decade 10:00 bacterial vs virtual STIs14:00 M.Gen is a new STI! Fun!16:00 Qs for a new partner?22:00 HPV info 25:00 THEYTALKSEX for 15% off first order Condomania.com27:00 Bacterial Vaginosis is an STI?34:00 the vagina is like a sleeping bag37:00 how much is too much masturbation?43:00 Sponsored by LoveBlanket.com - get 10% off via theytalksex.com45:00 cock ring questions 48:00 hallucinations while orgasming?51:00 what to do about a chronic UTI?54:00 how to stay motivated as a teacher 57:00 NY Post is trash1:01:00 more on online harassment1:03:00 sex tips!FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @sexedfiles FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)Please rate and review this podcast :)

Phoenix Rising met your host as a newbie stripper in the previous decade -  and she rejoins Elle to reflect in the podcast, years later. What has changed or been learned? This is a big advice episode for all strippers and people who love them. Let’s talk drama, burnout, injuries, aging, judgement, and self-care.I first interviewed Phoenix Rising as a newbie stripper, in our previous decade -  and she rejoins your host as a thriving veteran, years later. This is a big advice episode for all strippers and people who love them. Let’s talk drama, burnout, injuries, aging, judgement, and self-care.3:00 animal rescue 5:00 club experience8:00 shoutout to PUMPS in NY12:00 Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com17:00 shoutout to @yourtoxicaddiction on IG20:00 club conflict with peers23:00 how to avoid burnout25:00 mental capacity and energy28:00 on music and branding34:00 common stripper injuries 38:00 balls to the wall pain40:00 TheyTalkSex.com has discount codes for cool gifts :)43:00 on the terms “baby stripper and veteran”47:00 aging in the industry50:00 body hair removal53:00 body hair and strippers56:00 quizzed on Charlie Kirk during dances?1:02:00 stripper documentary “Cheers:PDX”FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @motherlucifer FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Not your average grandma…better! Ruby Lynne of The Granny Panty podcast started sex work at the age of fifty three and today she’s a prolific media creator with a background in public health. Let’s learn some marketing and professional’s tips while discussing better practices for self care and health of yourself and your loved ones. 2:00 public health and porn!5:00 M.Gen is a new STI8:00 podcasting and networking with oldies12:00 on being outed by a family ‘friend’ 16:00 high school reunions20:00 being stalked via Paypal24:00 $500 a month to STI test!27:00 studio work30:00 sexting apps and etiquette 33:00 more ^^^37:00 losing friends and family41:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com45:00 roleplay and moods48:00 we need an award category!56:00 what keeps us young?FIND YOUR GUEST thegrannypantypodcast.com/ rubylynne.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Tricia Wise is a full time herpes educator and visual artist, and we talk about how to be a safer slut, and stay happier while being mentally ill. Get some updated HSV information, and get connected with her Shadownbanned podcast and upcoming zine project.2:00 meet your shadowbanned host5:00 SEGGS instead of sex8:00 it’s disheartening to get flagged12:00 HSV 1 vs 216:00 symptoms that we experience 19:00 take the herpes survey study!SPFPP.ORG23:00 dating red flags?28:00 dating tips and anxiety texting32:00 getting the ICK for protection35:00 reframing the scare38:00 code THEYTALKSEX for 10% off Love-Blanket.com42:00 harness that OCD in healthier ways45:00 1 in 5, or 1 in 8 people have herpes48:00 sex tipssssFIND YOUR GUEST safeslut.shopand youtube.com/@safeslutFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Are you feeling stressed out more often than feels normal? Let’s hear from our guest and therapist Carolanne Marcantonio who offers some explanation for what’s happening in your brain and body when you feel like you’re running from big game hunters, and want to anxiety-poop, or cry. 3:00 meet your punk guest6:00 career advice from Dr. Ruth!9:00 Fight, flight, freeze, fawn12:00 stomach problems 15:00 ladders of inference18:00 more examples22:00 tips to ground yourself 24:00 discount code THEYTALKSEX28:00 shake it off, literally33:00 thesystemsthinker.com37:00 SPONSORED BY Netherlandswax.com42:00 can your partner work with you?45:00 real vs perceived threat48:00 ChatGPT sucks, why?50:00 book recommendations 55:00 more book recs!59:00 sex tips!FIND OUR GUEST : wisetherapylcsw.com/carolanne-marcantonioIG @SexTherapyBrooklynFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Did you know that violence against people in the adult industries is a common type of police misconduct? Our guest and journalist Isidoro Rodriguez uncovers what he’s learned through interviews and study of two at-odds populations: cops and sex workers. Let’s talk about how power and criminalization of prostitution makes it impossible to protect marginalized people in our America.3:00 embedded with police academy 5:00 sadistic, altruistic, apathetic8:00 concepts of consent10:00 did you have any biases?13:00 I just want to learn16:00 how to screen for predators?20:00 officer-health and wellness24:00 THEYTALKSEX for 10% off love-blanket.com/27:00 what are Good Samaritan laws?30:00 Rights For Girls is not overly helpful or ethical as an org.33:00 please don’t make our clients into criminals35:00 trauma can lead to bias38:00 billboard ads would help 41:00 clients don’t like talking on record either44:00 don’t punish all the liquor buyers47:00 safe harbor laws aren’t enough 50:00 I hope for a nice cop 53:00 don’t police homelessness or mental illness56:00 Jessie Sage, Blair Hopkins, Kaytlin Bailey are experts on this 1:01:00 more reliable news sources1:06:00 sex tips FIND YOUR GUEST https://www.isidoro-rodriguez.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Jae Tracy grew up through severe parental abuse and trafficking and is finally able to speak about her experiences, in order to bolster other survivors and to teach the warning signs. Let’s talk about living as an adult with a family trauma history, and thriving as an individual after.1:00 we met in the strip club4:00 she can finally share her story of childhood7:00 charming and abusive mother10:00 meth and alcohol and “the wrong crowd”13:00 Lutheran grandparents16:00 Find her on Youtube @ Jae Tracy19:00 a step up from home life24:00 supporting a parent in their sobriety?27:00 what feels good for yourself 30:00 sex after trauma 35:00 how to explain sex work vs trafficking36:00 ways to spot abuse?43:00 foster kids across state housing?46:00 social worker problems49:00 racism in parenting52:00 get silly and wild in sex FIND MORE OF JAE’S WORK HERE: LinkedIn: Instagram: Substack: YouTube: Original Soft White Underbelly Interview: https://youtu.be/4sfHCQIzK3YFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Leanne Lawson is an amateur adult content creator living in Canada who stumbled upon an online world of pro-fascism trans women(!) Let’s talk about internalized violence and power structures in adult work, trans and queer spaces.1:00 trans women who love Trump?3:00 the “Tucker Carlson of trans women”5:00 barred from the strip club9:00 trans-on-trans violence13:00 pick-me!14:00 trans women with privilege?19:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com22:00 examples of infighting and sabotage26:00 dating lesbians29:00 I'd be more successful if I shut up32:00 on roasting people36:00 picking your battles40:00 trans-medicalism 46:00 outdated terms for people49:00 what changed for you?54:00 just one Republican with a trans kid59:00 some people do anything for Likes1:03:00 stop copying Sex workers if you hate us!1:08:00 a sex tip Find Leanne Lawson on TikTok and IG @crashout3oh4OnlyFans.com/crashout3oh4Special mentions to @Liam.nissan and @mohatesmedia FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

What can you learn from an online adult entertainer, YouTuber, and digital marketing professional? Misty Maven creates content for her subscription sites, sells worn clothing items, and tells us about her learning curves and ongoing practices for engaging online. Let’s talk webcam and sex work!3:00 prior work experience6:00 why they started sworking9:00 selling worn garments 12:00 twerking videos 15:00 connecting with others19:00 nosy and interested in others23:00 what about the future?26:00 talking with mom about worry30:00 regrets in the future?34:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com37:00 beware of scammers40:00 amazon scammers specifically 43:00 creators who scam?47:00 economics 50:00 advertising on social media 54:00 tips for starting out58:00 Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com1:01:00 Colombian webcam workers and coercion1:06:00 exploitation in commercial labor overseas and here1:10:00 what’s next for Misty?FIND YOUR GUEST: on YouTube @Mistymistymisty and all links can be found at mistythemaven.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Ready for some inner child work? Our guest was tired of talking about their traumatic incidents and was ready to feel better in their body and relationships again - let’s talk dealing with attachment trauma and healing methods with Mx Harris Hill.3:00 heal your PTSD faster?7:00 inner child work 11:00 if you can feel you14:00 hypersexuality and substances, PTSD16:00 golden rules for working with people 19:00 inherently traumatized + trans?22:00 jealousy triggered 25:00 stop relying on them for so muchSponsored by Netherlandswax.com33:00 core wound therapy36:00 dating three and power dynamics39:00 more advice power dynamics Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com45:00 on dating an avoidant 48:00 on being anxiously attached51:00 co-dependency and materials54:00 future plans and corporate influencing?FIND YOUR GUEST: at MxHarrisHill.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Vada Everlove is a Certified DV Survivor’s Advocate and poet of erotica. She survived sexual abuse and grooming and discusses the connections between purity culture, misogyny and abuse. We reframe some bad narratives and talk connections between polyamory and trauma-healing.3:00 17 and 30 years old 8:00 some symptoms of CPTSD10:00 vaginismus and vulvodynia13:00 numbing your vagina with lidocaine15:00 pleasure after abuse17:00 anatomy and consent for kids 19:00 @ BookofWhoredom - our guest on IG22:00 Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com24:00 maintaining sanity while online 27:00 more on that ^30:00 dating after escaping that35:00 polyamory and feminism relating 38:00 tradwife fantasy42:00 Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com45:00 Trump proposed birth bonus49:00 a poem reading53:00 afraid to fall in love with more than one person57:00 a few of our favorite things, cucking and gay boysFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Tara Jones is the founder and Executive Director of a small, grassroots non-profit called The Youth Sexpert Program. If you have kids or tweens or teens, there may be some tips in here for you! Let’s talk about youth and education2:00 building her own curriculum based on needs5:00 first tampon experience 8:00 talking to your kids, concerns11:00 continued –15:00 workshops that they offer18:00 NetherlandsWax.com22:00 it happens earlier than you might expect26:00 how to ask about your kid’s activity30:00 masturbation is the healthiest 34:00 what if your kid’s friend’s parents are transphobes?38:00 InstituteforSexuality.com40:00 Heartstopper is highly recommended45:00 people mobilizing, recommendations49:00 Arkansas and high teen birth rates53:00 amplifying stories and connecting youth peopleFIND YOUR GUEST: theyouthsexpertprogram.org/@theyouths3xpertprogram and theyouthsexpertprogram.org/FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Kali is a longtime stripper and photographer based in California and can currently be found on IG’s @TalesfromtheStrip17.Let’s talk strip club culture and horror stories, dressing room dogs and Juggalos. Join two “lifers” for safety tips, rants and advice for newbies and curious club-goers.4:00 ageism and aging in the club7:00 states and cities where she worked11:00 PDX has different requirements for clubs14:00 personal life things16:00 movie recommendation The Last Showgirl20:00 @talesfromthestrip1725:00 security cameras - yes or no?30:00 involving yourself with other drama34:00 don’t flash your money38:00 Sponsored by InstituteForSexuality.com44:00 friends with your exes46:00 HB 274355:00 asexuality and strippers58:00 safety thingsFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

How can we make better sex toys and for different bodies? Matty Hennesey of Eversense Toys explains how to find what you need - and creative uses for sex toys you may already have! Let’s talk care, cleaning, and adventures in sex work and adult retail.Find your guest at EversenseToys.comFind your host at ElleStanger.comThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows2:00 everyone should work in an adult store 5:00 who are these toys being designed for? 8:00 trans-forward toys 11:00 toy preview14:00 can be used by any body!17:00 gender affirming surgery20:00 I wish I’d had a trans person to talk to 24:00 try a butt plug for your vagSponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 28:00 how to clean your toys?32:00 diff uses for your toys!37:00 how to know if a cockring fits41:00 trial and errorSponsored by the Intimacy Experiment at instituteforsexuality.com 47:00 the baggie and the toothbrush combo51:00 hearing from online folks 54:00 trans and isolated?59:00 sober sex series in PDX1:02:00 how to find Elle on the chat appPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Our sex education and self-help podcast is back and talking blood! Rebel-doctor Evelin Dacker returns to give advice and info about the periods of time that we stop getting our periods. Let’s talk about pre-menopause.4:00 2-15 year range of perimenopause!8:00 examples of symptoms10:00 “old lady vulva” 13:00 a link to your mother’s history16:00 menopause means you’ve been period-free for a year18:00 sponsored by Intimacy Experiment Retreat - 20:00 elle’s free consultation with the Doc21:00 an overview of yeast infections in the vagina23:00 silicone lube is better for your vaginal health?25:00 Momotaro Apotheca recommended!28:00 birth control discussion34:00 sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com36:00 what to ask your doctor to test for?41:00 pumps and other holistic options44:00 pelvic floor things47:00 testosterone checks in people 50:00 be a good listener53:00 how Dr. Dacker and Elle met :)FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comFIND YOUR GUEST: WildWoman-Wellness.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Elle and Valentine are friends and partners in life and the adult industry! We take your questions about dating, self care, sex and work. Thank you for a great four years talking sex and season 5 will return in the spring.1:00 Guest IG @ xValentine_vonbettieX5:00 find her Casa Diablo now!7:00 dating another SW has baseline perks10:00 dating issues for SWs14:00 the work can be “bad” for some people’s health16:00 “Concussion” movie 19:00 Condomania.com - - code THEYTALKSEX for 15% off first order22:00 tips on building your SW website24:00 tips for long term pros36:00 tips for slow seasons 40:00 GetTheLayer.com - code ELLE for 10% off42:00 how to balance work and life with sleep?50:00 youthism and SW 55:00 how to ask for STI testing/results59:00 our sexualities are different 1:03:00 travel is a perk1:06:00 oral sex tips for vulvasFIND OUR GUEST: DarlingValentine.meFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

How does intimacy relate to sex and self worth? Our guest has years of family and marriage therapy under her belt, and she runs the sex education program your host attended. Let’s talk intimacy, sex tips and and ideas between Elle and her mentor, Dr. Roz Dischiavo.2:00 marriage and family therapist, sexual health program director5:00 cell phones are messing 7:00 broken heart syndrome? Takotsubo cardiomyopathy11:00 is eye contact creepy?15:00 cell phones and lower sex interactions18:00 connection prepares you for intimacy22:00 consultations with Gen Z25:00 Man Vs Bear 30:00 online dating35:00 examples of ways to show intimacy38:00 when they won’t make eye contact during sex43:00 touch body before genitals 47:00 how to practice intimacy without sex50:00 GetTheLayer.com - ELLE for 10% OFF53:00 preserve the relationship for later56:00 intimacy workshops in Phoenix, AZResource mentioned: IG @ablackfemaletherapistFIND YOUR GUEST: instituteforsexuality.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

What can hands do? Let’s talk with pleasure expert and coach Jennifer Rahner about kink and communication. Learn some basic tips and some safety practices, plus creative ideas for self pleasure and partner play. 1:00 Dr. Ruth started it4:00 a mid-life career switch 7:00 teaches non-monogamy, BDSM, masturbation and more10:00 CNS vs ENM discussion13:00 will the United States block Tryst?16:00 PH ban from states19:00 basic spanking tips 22:00 more spanking tips26:00 slapping safety tips29:00 choking safety tips33:00 why don’t hit or squeeze the front of the throat36:00 OkCupid for kink dating? (not sponsored, I wish!)40:00 if someone goes non-verbal45:00 GETTHELAYER.com - sex blanket! Discount code ELLE49:00 leftists tend to like kink more?54:00 monthly CNM discussion group - peer support57:00 #mommyknowsbestFIND OUR GUEST JenniferRahner.com FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s talk with a European brothel manager: Catherine de Noire works the overnight shift in one of the biggest venues in her part of the world, and hear the pros and cons of a legal system and how the workers navigate it.2:00 working the night shift6:00 how the club operates for the workers9:00 no middle-management12:00 no violent incidents in years15:00 crossing borders to work18:00 radical feminists and conservative christians23:00 no charge for first timers26:00 how Domestic violence relates to sex work29:00 be wary of being an ATM to the people in ur life32:00 taxes and police 36:00 condoms and testing40:00 “I’m clean”43:00 quantity vs quality?47:00 Nevada brothels compared to European50:00 American stigma 54:00 sexuality is playful 58:00 just enjoy the sexFIND OUR GUEST: Catherine De Noire on Threadsand on IG @ Catherine_de_noireFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

What's it like being a dominatrix to the devout AND to the de-constructing Mormons? Mx Novatrix serves and teaches in the SLC area of Utah, which is arguably the most sex-negative region in the United States. Let’s talk to them!2:00 episode begin5:00 Utah/Idaho mormons more intense than outside states10:00 mass exodus from Church in some ways15:00 Joseph Smith was a known con man18:00 yes these are problematic terms “indian” and “savages”22:00 return with honor ewwww26:00 what are Bishop’s interviews?30:00 confession or worship sessions33:00 Sisters and sissification36:00 be gay in quiet39:00 the magic underwear43:00 what are Blue Laws?46:00 trans masculine people in drag?50:00 No confession needed54:00 film - Touch of the Master’s Hand58:00 BDSM fear in therapistsFIND YOUR HOST: ExMormonDomme.comand also at MadazonCanCan.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Alexa Van danced in Portland stripclubs and wrote a novel one decade later - not as a memoir but as a way of processing alcoholism and unhealthy relationships. Why is it that the very thing that attracts so many people to ‘us’ is the thing they end up hating and wanting to change? Let’s talk stripclubs, dating, and art.2:00 - never worked at Sassy’s 4:00 - why is it that these men want to change me?9:00 - she is a raging alcoholic12:00 - double standard of working 15:00 - a lap dance is not disrespectful 20:00 - what makes a good shift?23:00 - negative impact of stigma28:00 - use cheap makeup33:00 - stripper warehouses of Vegas36:00 - nice partners do exist41:00 - on being a “minor” 18-20years old47:00 - social media suppression51:00 - ‘Seggs” is absurd55:00 - owner favoritism59:00 - sex tip!Your host is ElleStanger.comYour guest is www.alexavan.com@thebadalexavan IG@alexavanauthor tiktokFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Are you a current or former Christian still learning how to have guilt-free sex? Mattie Jo Cowsert is a recovering Evangelical who moved to New York City to find her husband - and then learned the world is bigger and more diverse than she had been raised to believe. Meet a shameless oversharer who wrote about her experiences with God, Sex, and Rich people.3:00 evangelical and moved to NYC7:00 sex and shame10:00 rich people were unexpected13:00 white, blue eyed woman privilege 18:00 where my Evangelicals at?20:00 abuse dismissed as sin25:00 jesus defended cheaters from death29:00 further reading for hip Christians34:00 what are “misogynist daywalkers”37:00 how to give yourself permission to have good sex41:00 disordered eating mention44:00 on spirituality now49:00 DOGMA was a weird movie 52:00 a confession from Mattie Jo55:00 red flags57:00 “sex ghosts” is a weird orgy1:01:00 progress and pushing forward1:06:00 have sex with people who respect youFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

What does penis health have to do with heart health? A lot! Erica Leroye was a teacher and a lover when a tragic death led her to a new calling: teaching people about penile health, and doing touch work around pleasure and healing. You’re invited to November’s ‘Soft Cock Week’, and listen here now to learn about the penis in its most common state: soft.3:00 - this episode can save lives8:00 - sex is outercourse and intercourse 12:00 - retrograde ejaculation and ED - common symptoms of undiagnosed diabetes16:00 - go to the Genital Gym19:00 - “you have to train for what you want to be good at”22:00 - how do I help men tap into the erotic self?25:00 - pleasure mapping29:00 - her fave way to play with a softie 33:00 - what is Soft Cock week?37:00 - what else can you learn?42:00 - what to eat?46:00 - create a scavenger hunt for a treat49:00 - trouble with orgasm52:00 - “is gooning bad?” 54:00 - disconnect between brain and penis59:00 - fear of penis in medical systems1:03:00 - am i normal? VISIT and JOIN https://www.softcockweek.com/Your guest can be found at https://www.softcockweek.com/soft-cock-blog/welcome-from-your-new-2024-hostessFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Lenora Claire was a business owner and public figure in Los Angeles before her stalker incidents led her to becoming a private investigator and media consultant.  Learn how survivors and perpetrators of stalking can be handled smarter, by a person who teaches better practices for true-crime coverage.2:00 - reality shows and progressive parents5:00 - crime show producers don’t know how to treat survivors7:00 - Batman and Superman to the rescue!10:00 - why blocking isn’t always best14:00 - risk assessment 18:00 - “what did you do to upset them?”23:00 - her current work25:00 - Private investigator things28:00 - women producers and empathy31:00 - British production companies doing it better34:00 - treated like dogshit by cops when reporting38:00 - how to help people open up?41:00 - disclosure tips45:00 - being judged on appearance 51:00 - what to NOT do to survivors in interview56:00 - what is the guiding purpose of the media?58:00 - a sex tip? Maybe :) FIND YOUR GUEST: lenoraclairellc.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Jack Parker has been doing sex work since just before he was an adult, and he’s now a writer and publisher of an anthology of stories from other trans-masculine sex workers. Let’s talk about how queerphobia makes unique spaces and options for some working guys in the arts and adult industries.3:00 sex work before 18, before public7:00 making $4 an hour? WHAT10:00 not enough options for advertising or undies14:00 how to transition without them knowing?17:00 any port in a storm23:00 my favorite part is strange bookings26:00 nightmare coworkers can make it hard28:00 enjoyable client sex32:00 age gaps with clients36:00 clients objectifying us, their own insecurities41:00 where to find the book!45:00 how to find trans masc providers50:00 targeting for homosexuality54:00 criticisms of jack’s work57:00 resources for more readingFIND YOUR GUEST on JackViolet.com and @mxjackparker on all socials.FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

If you’ve ever watched mainstream tv or movies with sex scenes in them, you can appreciate the people who make them look more realistic, while helping the performers be safest. Let’s talk with our guest Jamie Monahan, who works as an Intimacy Coordinator and Director.3:00 #MeToo history6:00 actors are taught to Say Yes8:00 sexual alignment on film 11:00 there is a lack of lube in film 14:00 history behind intimacy coordinator17:00 scenes that stuck in your mind21:00 other memorable scenes25:00 kissing on film28:00 elle’s preference on oral sex visuals/contact31:00 prosthetics are not common35:00 more rules and regulations40:00 the sounds of sex on film 45:00 don’t copy movies and that includes Titanic49:00 have you ever mimicked a film?54:00 SAG requirement to become ICYour guest is at www.Jamiemonahan.comIG/Facebook/X: @JmemonahanFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Elizabeth Foreman works sober in New Orleans strip clubs these days. Here she shares her experience with sex work and sobriety which has given her insight, tactics and coping mechanisms while she continues to share her healing journey with others. 4:00 disclaimer - experiential and not academic6:00 dancing instead of full-service9:00 confusing laws around sw and trafficking 13:00 NOLA vs PDX stripper economics17:00 how she got started in sobriety self-help20:00 alcoholism in the family and the club24:00 tips to not get drunk at the strip/club27:00 check-ins reminders29:00 AD -  getthelayer.com - discount code ELLE32:00 why do you use while working?37:00 mental strain of sobriety40:00 why we numb out or use it to enhance performance48:00 practicing setting boundaries54:00 don’t stop drinking abruptly57:00 what happens when you stop drinking?1:01:00 do you have the wrong prescription?1:05:00 resource share1:08:00 the downsides of AA1:12:00 ADHD and sex tips, slow downTip Elizabeth for her sobriety help to CASHAPP $liz4mannolaFor more self-help books mentioned in the episode: See this list by Raina LeGrandFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Erica Smith is a sex educator specializing in purity culture trauma and recovery. Let’s talk about dealing with shame and some tips for better sexual health and lives.4:00 a controversial event in 20007:00 working in abortion clinic, juvenile justice system10:00 youth in sex work or experiencing trafficking14:00 how purity culture relates to juvenile justice17:00 the Army of God loves fake anthrax20:00 sexually active teens23:00 she who is without shame!27:00 how to tell my partner I’m queer?30:00 use your hands more33:00 chronic health disclosures to partner?37:00 herpes shaming, we hate it40:00 purity culture grossness43:00 social media and sex education47:00 who is her clientele?50:00 tradwife trend will have impacts later - @missgingerlocks on IG53:00 confessions57:00 sex adviceFIND YOUR GUEST: purityculturedropout.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Have you ever been made to feel like an object instead of a person? Do you objectify others? What does objectification mean, how can we take our power back, make the best of it, or get off on it? Let’s talk with Suzannah Weiss, author of “Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject”2:00 See her live August 18th at Sanctuary club in Portland6:00 growing breasts made people treat her differently 9:00 sexuality healed her disordered eating!13:00 people being degrading at cam models16:00 this economy making me do more18:00 if a SW takes advantage!21:00 examples of objectification from others 24:00 “I don’t do bareback with someone I just met”28:00 former sex worker(?)30:00 examples of objectification in language33:00 Nina Menkes + film POV36:00 we need to see what women desire, more often39:00 it is a turn-on for me, being objectified 42:00 anxiety about fantasies in relationship 46:00 Stoya started hitachi reading! 50:00 less respect happens for escorts55:00 work stress - stigma 59:00 examples, more1:02:00 sex tips from suzannah and elleFind your guest at SuzannahWeiss.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

How can intentional psilocybin use help people heal from big life events, or create a better understanding of theirselves? Let’s talk with “trauma queen” expert and educator Jimanekia Eborn.4:00 policing to psychology 7:00 numbing vs pushing through 15:00 what has changed for you?17:00 tripping tips 20:00 how did shrooms impact you?23:00 AD - FeministTrash.com discount code STRIPPERWRITER27:00 more advice for tripping 30:00 sensory play ideas 34:00 small vs big trauma37:00 germ transfer overload41:00 AD GetTheLayer.com - discount code ELLE44:00 that medication might not work for you!48:00 dating a survivor class 52:00 you're going inside, not outside55:00 sex advice Check out Cintima.co and FIND YOUR GUEST: TraumaQueen.loveFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)Please rate and review this podcast :)

What’s it like to go to a clinic to receive an abortion? Our guest has been escorting patients for years and talks about the science of medical abortion, care tips and how to advocate for yourself when you need one. Meet the Executive Director of Nebraska Healthcare Resource, Shelley Mann.3:00 patient to clinic escort to executive director 6:00 why people need abortions8:00 known as the abortion lady 12:00 pointless to argue with these people 15:00 why are you so obsessed with me?18:00 AD: GetTheLayer.com - sex blanket!20:00 how to tell my boyfriend I need an abortion?23:00 find out as early as you can25:00 TRAP laws and “cardiac activity”28:00 more on clinics getting shut down31:00 “late term abortion” is not a medical term34:00 99% of abortions prior to 21 weeks 37:00 what can you do to prepare for an abortion?40:00 how to care for yourself after?43:00 what about a bad experience?49:00 pregnancy and birth is 13.5x more deadly than legal abortion53:00 www.plancpills.com, www.ineedana.com, www.abortionfunds.org55:00 sex tipContact Info: 312-663-0338. www.neabortionresources.org.FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Naomi left the strict Amish at seventeen, and worked for twenty years in adult entertainment, and wrote an erotic memoir about that time. We talk about dating, parenting, boundaries and sex clubs.1:00 raised as strict Amish, left at 174:00 literally pushed to audition by friends10:00 financial advice from a coworker 14:00 the regret was having to hide it18:00 online use21:00 being OUT to family?24:00 dark days and substance abuse28:00 coercive partner sex31:00 leaving the situation33:00 parenting a kid now37:00 I know that sex club!40:00 everybody is different! 45:00 how to prevent sexual assault in small communities?48:00 communication53:00 try new things!FIND YOUR GUEST: @AmishInspiration on IG, TikTokFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Miss Mei is a political organizer in Miami Florida and talks sex work, explains what can help prevent trafficking and police abuse, and gives tips on how to look for bad-actor organizations.3:00 - a friend got her work doing threesomes to begin SW6:00 - they prefer in-person work9:00 Slutwalk helped lead to #MeToo12:00 reclaiming the word Whore15:00 Amber Rose did not invent Slutwalk19:00 women’s spaces and nonbinary ppl 22:00 no arrests YET26:00 when the client follows your Other Work30:00 THEYTALK20 for 20% off MayerLabs.com condoms and lube32:00 child labor laws in Florida37:00 a long road ahead about record expungement 40:00 I grew up as a young whore47:00 @ Jonni_qwest is a pal50:00 In-fighting 54:00 “Sex Workers and the Left: Pass The Mic” Tryst.Link article 58:00 AOC endorsed anti-SW and homophobic organization NCOSE1:01:00 “we cannot defeat what we cannot define”1:04:00 should strippers be able to work at 18?1:07:00 fibromyalgia and copsFIND OUR GUEST at @MultiverseOfMei on Twitter/X/IGFind Decrim305.orgFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Mike Stabile is a journalist and documentary filmmaker and ol’ gay activist who has written about and advocated for sex workers and sexual speech for twenty years.2:00 - I was an anonymous hand once6:00 - why Twitter is relevant to free speech and liberties8:00 - Polari - slang speak of gay sailors and sw’s10:00 gay porn film history and Chuck Holmes15:00 - what is KOSA and why should we hate it?18:00 do u want the government to see your searches?21:00 age verification doesn’t work25:00 THEYTALK20 for 20% off MayerLabs.com29:00 do journalists fear cops?32:00 more fear about retribution?35:00 why journalists are fooled by cop press releases40:00 Tim Ballard and Operation Railroad is a scam42:00 “ending modern slavery” is a red flag 46:00 protecting safety and privacy49:00 if a journalist contacts you as a SW53:00 GetTheLayer.com - ELLE code for 10% off54:00 haters?58:00 conspiracy theories AGAIN1:02:00 be your own expert on your life1:04:00 Lorelei Lee tweet (they/them)FIND OUR GUEST: IG @fauxjob and Twitter/X @mikestabile and https://www.freespeechcoalition.com/staffFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Born in India, neurodivergent, non monogamous, a New York sex therapist who loves sex-positive spaces, let’s talk healing with Nikita Fernandes MHC-LP and learn some healing tips for life and sex.1:00 meet our guest3:00 women’s gender studies classes were key to critical thinking 6:00 assimilation as a safety mechanism9:00 tips for therapeutic movement 12:00 dance, hiking, kink, gym15:00 medical issues19:00 The People’s Book of Human Sexuality - Laureano23:00 coping tips26:00 more tension release tips28:00 fantasies around sexual assault 40:00 needing to offload or share to others43:00 what if I’m not responding to trauma?50:00 DBT (dialectical behavior therapy)55:00 partner jealousy and disclosure58:00 working all the time makes healing harderFIND OUR GUEST: healingwithnikita.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

He’s telling his life story besides the two random events that led to him working in the xxx industry as a Bull in the cuckold scene. “Thrash: “Penetrating the Business” author talks about filming and life.4:00 Brickhouse Magazine6:00 the pros of accessible technology9:00 @brickhousemag on Twitter13:00 there’s levels to it18:00 THEYTALK20 for 20% off lube/condoms at MayerLabs.com20:00 what is the best part of being a bull?24:00 filming vs real life29:00 a one man show on stage33:00 GetTheLayer.com code ELLE for 10%37:00 reflecting on the cuck episode40:00 does Thrash have preferences?43:00 trends in porn?47:00 becoming ambivalent to porn54:00 sex tipsFind our guest on:IG @thrashculture23FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Pomma is a xxx content creator who tirelessly informs followers on news, legislation, harm reduction practices, and hazards related to online sex work and adult industry work. Let's talk!4:00 what kind of work?7:00 money is tight for many 10:00 socialized to be performative as youth13:00 banned from social media ooops16:00 FOSTA SESTA19:00 facial recognition and TSA22:00 will this get me evicted?27:00 when your beloved sugar daddy dies30:00 the athletes of sex workers 35:00 thick models like London Andrews, Valentine Von Bettie39:00 some advice for receiving shibari ties 42:00 please do not ask to meet us while on paysites48:00 STRIPPERWRITER 20% OFF FeministTrash.com50:00 UNICEF supported bad legislation FOSTA and SESTA54:00 law enforcement raiding Backpage.com owners57:00 Decrim305, Cupcake Girls, SWOPBehindBars.org1:00:00 organizations we like1:03:00 sex tips for our audience?Find our guest on:IG: @onlypomma@notonlypommaTwitter: Succubusluut Tiktok: Juicypomma2.0 and LeaveJuicyPommaAloneFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)Please rate and review this podcast :)

His nickname is The Dick Whisperer and he’s spent years perfecting his penis-injections services and science: Meet the founder of PhalloFill . Let’s talk about why some men want to augment theirselves and why you should always follow post-procedure advice!3:00 - hair removal and penis augmentation4:00 - the P shot began7:00 porn, peer comparison, indirect teasing11:00 how to talk to youth about media 14:00 confidence in the workplace18:00 let’s talk about complication rates21:00 increase in sensitivity25:00 what is Hyaluronic acid?28:00 explaining the filler and amount31:00 Phalloboards.info - forum 34:00 he’s the penis master38:00 more science on filler41:00 what is fascia?46:00 example patient who needed a fixjob52:00 discussing costs55:00 width vs girthFIND OUR GUEST: PHALLOFILL.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

She’s a model, full contact fighter and martial arts instructor, genderfluid princess and more: lets meet Sybilla Bakzaza.3:00 martial arts, baseball, football, sailing, relay racing, US NAVY5:00 a commentary on Marine culture or US Navy8:00 (devil dock is a penis joke)9:00 cross-dressing as an entry12:00 American assimilation 18:00 what can suck about gym environments22:00 she has a team of Hulks on her side25:00 how to screen employers/venues?29:00 advice on showing up as trans in cis spaces?32:00 you gotta project confidence 34:00 red flags for clients39:00 on bullying in the workplace43:00 what is your support network?49:00 perception is more powerful than truth sometimes53:00 some people are only as good/bad as their commanders55:00 sex tips!59:00 some inspo and support from our guestFIND OUR GUEST: TikTok, OF, and Twitter and IG @ https://www.instagram.com/sybillabakzaza/FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Let’s explore the history behind masturbation misinformation, pseudoscience and shaming, with clinical psychologist and author Dr Eric Sprankle.3:00 how he got here7:00 a vast conspiracy to teach education (elle has worked with PH tho)10:00 history repeating on anti-porn 13:00 misinformation is the same 16:00 exploring negative online comments20:00 be a man - destroy your lungs23:00 how do people feel about the word?27:00 does ejaculation impact hormone levels?32:00 what do “sex rehab programs” look like?36:00 how can masturbation be harmful?38:00 chemical castration40:00 high libido does not equal offensive behavior45:00 sperm vs semen vs female ejaculate48:00 more about ejaculate fluid51:00 events causing shame56:00 online communities and hate groups1:01:00 white genocide conspiracy1:06:00 a cute childhood anecdote1:09:00 Dr Drew - how could you?!?FIND OUR GUEST: DrSprankle.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)

Our last episode of this season and O what fun - let’s talk cuckolding!  Join Mistress Elle for a chat with her favorite cuckold and hear how he discovered his kinky lifestyle, how he interacts most ethically with the women he worships, and please enjoy some of our funny stories, too.3:00 how he finds women to worship5:00 a catholic priest client - Lady Vi8:00 legal and artistic aid for a friend10:00 scrotal piercings for a leash11:00 Mickey Mod and Mistress Gia DeMarco13:00 first anal cream pie14:00 Mistress Sandi in Montreal16:00 his first ever cucking appointment - Mistress January Seraph21:00 there’s a lot of cum soon25:00 moral of the story is be yourself29:00 what’s the best part?33:00 beneath a woman and helping her36:00 how to protect yourself from scammers?39:00 losing friends over it?43:00 am I gay or less of a man?47:00 economic impacts?52:00 Americans are more taboo about sharing55:00 Shoutout to his Doms59:00 honored to be the firstFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)