The Kevin Miller Podcast

When we look back on who we were five years ago, even more so 10 years ago, we recognize ourselves as very different people today. Yet today we think who we are is really…who we are. But in five years you’ll look back to yourself, right now, and realize how much you’ve changed. ⁣ ⁣ So think to what was normal for you five or ten years ago? What was normal, that you don’t do at all now? If you are growing and evolving, things will have changed. So…how about today? What is normal to you right now, that doesn’t have to be? That for your best wellness, probably shouldn’t be? ⁣ ⁣ The power is in realizing we as people have such a hard time shifting from what is normal to us right now. What is normal is comfortable. It’s secure. To change it requires decision-making, discipline, and to a great degree it’s simply a hassle. And we live lives with little margin and a hassle, even a seemingly little hassle, feels like a big obstacle. ⁣ ⁣ This is our Functional Friday episode and I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we discuss some of the normal maladies that have been normalized in our culture. Not because they are ok, but we’ve just made peace with them. If you want long-term wellness, this is not a good peace. But changing them for the better is not ultimately that hard, it’s just that initial shift to create a new normal, that once we do…is fairly easy. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friends, many of you have listened to this podcast for many years. You’ve listened to me dig into the stories and messages of over 200 of our world’s most profound and important influencers in the self-help space. You listened as I hosted The Ziglar Show and went from 50,000 listeners to over 300,000, then as we transitioned to the Self-Helpful show and grew to over 600,000 listeners. We’ve had over 60 million downloads and are ranked in the top 1.5% of all podcasts on the planet. ⁣ ⁣ So first…thank you. Along the way of this journey, you’ve heard some of my own story and much of my own perspective on self-help. With the size of my audience I had been approached about writing a book, but it wasn’t until a couple years ago I felt driven…to actually write one. What Drives You: How to Discover Your Unique Motivators and Accelerate Growth in Work and Life, published by McGraw Hill, releases May 10, 2023 on Amazon, and you can pre-order now. ⁣ ⁣ While it’s popular to offer bonuses and incentives to pre-order, because it helps with Amazon rankings, I’m going to refrain for now. At the end of the day, the bonus is you find something in the book that elevates your experience of…everything. Of life at large. ⁣ ⁣ In this episode I’m going to briefly tell you what the book is intended to offer you. I give big focus to two primary myths we have about drive. Then I lead you through the key areas of life, the same ones I lead every guest through, and guide you to creating healthy and strong drive in each area. A great premise to the book is the endorsement on the back cover from Jordan Harbinger, host of the Jordan Harbinger Show which often ranks in the top 50 of all podcasts in America, ⁣"Everyone is enamored with habits, but having good habits assumes you have the core motives and drive to create, implement, and sustain them. What Drives You is really the prequel to habits, as it helps you establish your why, which is what actually drives what you will and won't ever do.⁣ This book should be required reading for anyone desiring to actually improve themselves." You can go find What Drives You by me, Kevin Miller, on Amazon right now, and for insight on the book, stay tuned and I’ll give you a tutorial on what you can expect to gain from it. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In my experience with myself, and with others, when we seek out another human we do so like a heat-seeking missile. We seldom, if ever…stop. And ask what we are wanting from the interaction. Often it’s merely transactional. Sometimes this is ok, in the workplace especially. But even then, whenever we want the best and most from someone we will serve them and ourselves well if we connect. And we can connect best with them when we again, pause for a moment, and connect with ourselves. How are we feeling about us? How are we feeling about the person we are about to approach? What are we wanting from the interaction? I’m back with Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of her most recent book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. As you heard us cover in part one, friendships are, or can be, our life source. Here we continue the conversation as I walk with her through her Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life fulfillment. It’s on the topic of relationships where Laura cites she works to connect with herself before she can connect with others. We dig into that, and cover other subjects. Spiritually Laura talks about coming to Christianity, and today fully embracing Jesus, but not the religion of Christianity, which I sure can relate to. Her health and wellness is a challenge and she shares how she came to a place and realized she’d lived her entire life from the neck up, and really has to work at caring for her body, as she cares for her mind. Regarding mindset I asked Laura where she needs to watch out most, and she said she can tend to “Catastrophize” everything. On an interesting note, her husband Jeff is a television and film director, producer, and screenwriter and is best known for co-creating the reality stunt show Jackass with Spike Jonze and Johnny Knoxville. June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know relationships are ultimately what we desire most. This is where we get the most happiness and fulfillment. Yet we generally don’t make friendships a priority, and as you’re about to hear, there is a high chance you have been doing friendships…wrong. This episode is intended to give you a new perspective on how to look at friendships, and go about them, and get clear on what you are hoping to get from them. ⁣ ⁣ My guest is Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. Laura worked in film and television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, and Paramount Pictures before pursuing writing full time. She writes primarily to women about friendship, anxiety, motherhood, and marriage. But her new book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, got my attention. ⁣ ⁣ I appreciate Laura’s focus on women, but I recognized the need for this message on Friends is relevant to everyone. To me. My primary interest that you’ll hear us dive into is how we tend to put way too much pressure on one or two friendships, like our spouse or a best friend, and a main point of Laura’s book is how our relational needs are meant to be filled by multiple friendships. ⁣ ⁣ But another significant topic we cover is what friendship is really supposed to be about. It’s not just for fun and support, but literal guidance and counsel, and few of us are allowing friendships to be this for us. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all spend a lot of time listening to wise counsel. Getting guidance. Gleaning great information and trying to apply it to our lives. Sometimes however, what is most inspiring is simply to hear from others on the same journey we are. The good, the bad and the ugly. Which is ultimately, hopeful. ⁣ ⁣ I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “What area of your health do you feel good about and what area do you not?” What followed were many personal testimonies of strengths and weaknesses in everyone’s personal wellness pursuit. ⁣ ⁣ Some of the deficits and struggles cited and discussed were on the topics of hydration, weight, exercise, alcohol, and more. We also delved into more complex issues of cholesterol, biotoxin illness, chronic fatigue, mental health and the all encompassing reality that the answers for our individual health are just that…very, very individual. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In our series on stoicism, I kept coming back to the aspect of control. Controlling our emotions. Controlling our reactions. Controlling our internal world so as to not be controlled by the outer world. ⁣ ⁣ It’s a valid perspective, but then I was reminded that I don’t actually want control any more than I want money. I just want what money can hopefully buy. Likewise, I just want what control can hopefully afford me. And the word that surfaced was…harmony. ⁣ ⁣ I often find myself saying I want peace, but I struggle with that sounding like I just want life to be easy and stress free, which is not the case. I want the trials and challenges that are so fulfilling to overcome. I want the hero story. But within the ups and down, I want to feel a balance and a rhythm I understand, which is what harmony is. ⁣ ⁣ A definition of harmony I greatly appreciate is, an interweaving of different accounts into a single narrative. Our daily life in this world is made up of different accounts of so many things. The stoic way of life is a life devoted to a commitment to a single narrative amongst all those accounts. ⁣ ⁣ But don’t get caught up in the word stoic. It is an example of a clarified and committed mindset and way of life. You don’t have to give it a name, but to find success you will want to decide upon your own way of life and have it clearly defined. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit, alongside Tom Ziglar. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s the difference between a hero and a villain? Virtue. Which is defined as, “Behavior showing high moral standards.” Having a purpose for good as opposed to evil, or even just others as opposed to self alone. We love the character who is resolute upon doing the right thing and seeing it through no matter what. ⁣ ⁣ We spend billions of dollars on superhero stories that depict this. People didn’t tear up at the end of The Avengers: Endgame when Ironman dies just because a battle is won. It’s because it was a battle for good. ⁣ ⁣ We’ve been studying stoicism which is based on virtue, and from this, a decided way of life. In truth it’s the rare individual who actually outlines and commits to a clarified way of life. I feel most people want to be good, and at heart, they are. But without intention we go about our days being swayed by the culture and circumstances. ⁣ ⁣ This is part three of my series on Tanner Campbell and his rapidly growing podcast, Practical Stoicism. People are flocking to it and I believe this is why; they are longing for meaning, purpose, and to know what they are about. Stoicism is just that, knowing what you are about. ⁣ ⁣ I invited Tom Ziglar to discuss this with me. Tom is son of Zig Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar Inc., and renowned author, speaker and coach. And my dear friend. The Ziglar way is just that, a decided way of life. One of virtue, honor, trust, and faith. ⁣ ⁣ Right at the beginning Tom quips that after hearing my initial talk with Tanner, he now feels, “He’s a stoic and he didn’t know it.” We talk about living out virtue, faith, religion, self-control, and integrity. Tom also discusses five aspects of trust, which we both believe is our greatest asset. ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Each of us is waking up every day and engaging in a “way of life.” It’s either one we’ve chosen, or one we’ve allowed ourselves to fall into. Though in truth, none of us ever lives a perfect day, so we are all then on the spectrum of living how we intentionally want and living at the mercy of our appetites and ignorance. The more aware, decided, and convicted we are to a way of life we uphold and are dedicated to, the more we will fall on the healthier side of the spectrum. ⁣ ⁣ As Tanner Campbell and I discussed at the outset of our initial talk together in episode 1143, stoicism can be said to be a state of mind, but in this episode as we are discussing Tanner’s personal efforts to live a stoic life, we unwrap the pursuit of an aspiring way of life. This is my values, motives and habits episode, part 2 of this series on Tanner Campbell and stoicism. ⁣ ⁣ Tanner Campbell is an American philosopher of Stoicism whose goal is to clear up contemporary miscommunications about Stoicism, with a focus to uphold what virtue is. He shares this daily in his Practical Stoicism podcast which has quickly catapulted to the top podcast rankings. Here Tanner talks through his pursuit of Hierocles concept of “circles of concern” which radiates outward, from family to friends, community, non-human animals, and the environment. ⁣ ⁣ In Tanner’s desire for personal awareness his mantra is asking, “What does this action or thought say about my character,” and “Who can I walk alongside and be helpful to in a meaningful way?” In discussing health and wellness, Tanner cites this area is not his strong suit, but his motive is in asking himself, “If I don’t care about my health, what does it say about my character?” This and more coming up. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ah. The vacation. Or a holiday, depending on where you’re from. It’s supposed to be a term that makes us all smile and feel warm, nostalgic, and hopeful. However, many of you will feel a bit, or a lot, of anxiety at hearing the term. And rightly so. ⁣ ⁣ Vacation has been part of life for a long time to give us a rest from the toil of everyday life. Even if you love your work it is beneficial to get away to rest and recreate. But a listener wrote in recently asking for ideas, as he recently got back from vacation and felt he wasted it. Many of us struggle with needing a vacation from our vacations because they were exciting, but exhausting. ⁣ ⁣ This is my Functional Friday episode and I’m with Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, and he and I ultimately zeroed in on three different types of vacations that all have benefits, but the value is in understanding what you are getting into and what to expect, and thus what you can do to prepare and get the most out of your vacations, so you do in fact, look forward to and benefit from them. ⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are many personality profiles you can use. Knowing your type does not by proxy…help you. You need to know how to utilize it. This is part 4 of our series on Ian Morgan Cron and his insight and guidance into the Enneagram personality assessment. In this episode, I’m going to cover 7 aspects of our discussion that have really stuck out to me and seem to be resonating with other listeners. I want to quote something I read this morning by dandapani in his book, “The Power Of Unwavering Focus”, which I’m studying in preparation for having him on the show tomorrow, he cited a mentor of his, Michael Lutzenkirchen, who said, “While I appear as a teacher to you, I'm a student of the subject. And I hope it always stays that way.” I greatly appreciate this, and in truth, I feel the best teachers are those who are, and understand they are, still students. Always students. It’s from this the greatest teaching comes. I of course recommend Ian Cron’s books. His recent book is The Story Of You and was the impetus for this series. His initial book is called “The Road Back To You” and seven years after initial publication the book is still in the top 1,000 rankings in Amazon. That is rock star status. You can read the books and get a great understanding of what Enneagram number you are. Or…go take the assessment. Ian has it at typologyinstitute.com, just click on iEQ9 at the top of the page. And you can use the discount code SELFHELP to receive 20% off a monthly or annual subscription which provides access to all 3 of his courses on how to harness the Enneagram. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar. Join me June 15-16 of 2023 in Dallas for the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is reality? Is there a reality? We would say a tree falling on your house, or inheriting twenty million dollars are objective realities. They actually did happen. Those would be facts. But it’s our perception and interpretation of them that matter. That becomes our reality. Are those events good or bad? Why did they happen? ⁣ ⁣ Stoicism is interested in our impression and assent, which I paraphrase to say our interpretation and ensuing belief. Then Stoicism would ask what our role and responsibility are. The topic and concept of stoicism has gained popularity as of late but I haven’t given it a focus here on the show. Now…we hit it. Or to be fair, we hit one tangent of it. There are others and I’ll be looking to have more discussion around the topic in coming episodes. ⁣ ⁣ For this series, I’ve brought on Tanner Campbell. Tanner is an American philosopher of Stoicism whose goal is to clear up contemporary miscommunications about Stoicism, with a focus to uphold what virtue is, against some traditional interpretations of Stoicism, and as Tanner says, “Challenge the watered down Silicon Valley take.” ⁣ ⁣ Of relevance, it was only 15 months ago when Tanner launched his podcast, called, Practical Stoicism. The show has “gone viral” as they say, and has already eclipsed 500,000 downloads per month and is growing rapidly. Which is to say the show has done in 15 months what it took me many, many years to achieve. At this rate it will likely become the top one or two podcasts on stoicism on planet Earth in the next year. ⁣ ⁣ A note, stoicism, like AA, has a primary spiritual component to it. I wasn’t shy in pressing in on this with Tanner. Not to advocate it, as it doesn’t line up with my personal faith either, but to do an honest unpacking of it. You are free to adopt what feels useful to you. The core principles of stoicism I feel we would all do well to engage with, and that’s the focus of our show. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗬𝗲𝘁 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗹𝘆 𝗙𝗹𝘂𝗶𝗱 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗦𝘁𝘆𝗹𝗲 | 𝗜𝗮𝗻 𝗖𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝟯 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗝𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗔𝗻𝗴𝗮𝘇𝗮⁣ ⁣ We all want to know who and what we are. We want to understand ourselves so we can understand this world we live in. Our tendency is to label ourselves as this personality style or that personality style, just as we seek out genetic testing to know where we came from. We want clarity. ⁣ ⁣ We’ve been talking about the Enneagram after having expert Ian Morgan Cron on the show and discussing his book, The Story of You: An Enneagram Journey to Becoming Your True Self. This is part three where I bring on a co-host who has experience in the topic, and I invited Jared Angaza on the show. ⁣ ⁣ Most of you have heard Jared on here before and every time I have him on I get feedback on how people are touched by his heart and insight. Jared is the brand architect behind many influencers and as of late, many of the leading space industry organizations like Space for Humanity. And he’s now partner here with me on the Self-Helpful podcast. ⁣ ⁣ He’s also…my brother. Full blood brother, the last name is different because…he changed it. He did so to adopt an identity he wanted to embrace, which is much the reason for this episode. Becoming aware of, understanding, and harnessing the beauty of your personality in order to, as the slogan of this show says, elevate your personal experience of life, and the way you show up for others. A slogan Jared wrote, by the way. ⁣ ⁣ In here we get into the Enneagram and Jared shares how we can be our authentic selves, and in this case, know our primary Enneagram type, and also understand how to fluidly flow into other types, as in essence, all the types live within us, even as we have a type or two that are our natural design. Listen in and you’ll find inspiration in knowing who and how you are and how to wield your authentic self in broader and deeper ways. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We want our sleep to be like plugging our phone in overnight. You plug it in when the battery is low and wake to find it fully charged, energy-filled and ready for a quality day. ⁣ ⁣ Don’t you want to be the same? Go to bed and wake up fully charged? But is that happening for you? Do you ever sleep through the night only to wake unrested and not...fully charged? ⁣ ⁣ There is a lot of content out about sleep, but I hear most of it focused on actually getting to sleep, staying asleep, and getting enough sleep. But we find people going to sleep fairly quickly, getting 8 hours of sleep, but waking up…tired. ⁣ ⁣ And they fight exhaustion during the day. Other symptoms are anxiety, depression, and hopelessness. Struggles with making decisions, critical and creative thinking . ⁣ ⁣ The question is...how is your sleep? Is it actually recharging you? Let’s talk about it and look at how to know and how to get what you need. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As this Self-Helpful podcast grows and as I continually read, review and critique the latest and greatest knowledge being shared about self-help, I’m frequently exposed to misconceptions around what self-help is, and isn’t. ⁣ ⁣ I admit my own constructive criticism of the category, yet and surprised by often incredibly wise people who sometimes give unconstructive criticism to the concept of self-help. I find myself wanting to ask them, if self-help is not the foundation of our personal evolution, then whose help is? ⁣ ⁣ Who else is responsible for helping us as adults? While achieving the best and fullness of what life has to offer will only come from us getting guidance from others, it requires us to step up for the getting. This is a brief episode about stepping up with inspired intention. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, very few if any of us will have one job. One thing we do from young adulthood till the end of our lives. Which is fine. ⁣ ⁣ The marketplace today is full of opportunity to try our hand at many different endeavors. While we can do many different things to earn a buck, long-term vocational fulfillment will come from working in roles and doing tasks that fit our skills, and more so, our values. ⁣ ⁣ When we are self-aware and know our values we not only can find work and pursuits that fit and fulfill us, as our guest shares, we will often fall into them and they, in essence, find us. ⁣ ⁣ Ian Morgan Cron has been an author, speaker, consultant, coach, therapist, spiritual director and even award-winning songwriter. But all along the way he found he was doing the same thing amongst all these careers. He had the same motivation. He wanted to help people enter into a deeper conversation with the mystery of who they are and with the meaning of their lives.⁣ ⁣ This is part two with Ian where I walk through the Values, Motives, and Habits of his life, and this was the conversation around his work and career that was entirely relevant to our previous discuss on the Enneagram, the personality tool he is an expert in and advocate of. ⁣ ⁣ In this talk we cover his time as an Episcopal priest. He goes to AA meetings five times per week. He loves rigorous, hot yoga sessions. He talks about the first half of life being about addition and the second part being about subtraction, as while he can afford whatever he wants he is selling off his large home, cars, and more to simplify. He'd rather spend time getting himself into environments where he will bump into God. ⁣ ⁣ Find Ian’s book, The Story of You: An Enneagram Journey to Becoming Your True Self and you can visit his website, typologyinstitute.com and take the Enneagram test and find his online courses. Use the discount code SELFHELP to receive 20% off a monthly or annual subscription which provides access to all 3 of his courses⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We were all kids living in a life we didn’t choose, for better or worse. To make sense of it, our minds crafted a story. It’s impossible for it to be a perfectly reasonable story. It has flaws and fractures in it that are hurting our progress, achievement, peace, and fulfillment today, to some degree. How do you become aware and course correct? Whether you’ve heard of the Enneagram or not, this is going to be a new perspective. At face value, it’s a personality profile, but we’re going to take you on an eye-opening and really hope-filled journey. My guest is Ian Morgan Cron. Ian is a bestselling author, psychotherapist, Enneagram teacher, Episcopal priest, and the host of the popular podcast "Typology," which has over 20 million downloads. His books include the Enneagram primer The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery, which has sold over 1 million copies. Not long ago I had renowned author and influencer Michael Hyatt on the show, for the fourth time, and after our three-hour conversation he said, “You’ve got to have Ian Cron on the show.” I didn’t need more than that, but then I got into Ian’s new book, The Story of You: An Enneagram Journey to Becoming Your True Self, and I agreed. Ian takes us through the Enneagram’s nine personality types and brilliantly showcases our propensities and especially where we tend to fall when we are unaware of ourselves. Many, if not most of you, will want to take the Enneagram as you hear this conversation. And if you’ve taken it before, you’ll likely want to do it again. You can go to Ian’s website, typologyinstitute.com and take the test and find his online courses. Use the discount code SELFHELP to receive 20% off a monthly or annual subscription which provides access to all 3 of his courses The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Low energy is an ongoing national pandemic. Not many years ago coffee was a little pick me up for the mornings that people enjoyed. Now there isn’t a checkout counter in America that doesn’t offer some type of energy drink. The “energy drink” industry that didn’t exist in the recent past was estimated at $86.35 billion in 2021, $91.94 billion in 2022 and is forecasted at $177.5 billion in 2030. Billions off our increased lack of energy. What is happening to us? Our voracious appetite for any resource claiming to give us more energy but it’s generally like tying helium balloons to a sinking ship. The problem is the sinking ship. How can we get it riding high on the water on its own? Energy is simply a symptom of a deeper issue and there is no one way to increase consistent energy. But there is much you can address to help yourself. In this episode I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine expert, to discuss some of the key issues that zap our energy and the primary initiatives you can take to give you more energy. Not in the moment, but long term, every day. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Understanding and becoming our authentic selves may be our greatest life quest. And I’d pose that it is just that, a lifelong quest. To expect less is to minimize and miss it. Honestly friends, it’s not something I really gave gravity and focus to till…recent years. I’ve been pursuing personal performance most of my life, but I missed personal understanding and awareness. I see a lot of high performers who this is the case for. And it catches up to you, unless you want to settle for achievements only and miss true peace and fulfillment. I don’t want to settle, which is a big reason why I’m here, studying the best of the best in self-help and bringing my findings to you so we can learn and grow together. This aspect of authenticity was brought to me by Vienna Pharaon, renowned NY therapist and author of The Origins of You. She has been my muse and this is part four and my wrap-up of the series. It’s left me with five key takeaways that I’ll be grappling with and striving to apply to my own life. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been talking about authenticity. The authentic you. Who and where is it? First off, it’s not a totally unfiltered you. It’s not just a raw you. It’s a you who has become self-aware and at peace by resolving your hurts, wounds, angers and voids. And in that, it’s a journey to becoming authentic, to the greatest degree you can. Our muse is Vienna Pharaon, who I’ve been talking with. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists. Her new book is called, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna has nearly 700k followers tuning in on Instagram at her @mindfulmft account to get help discovering and becoming their authentic selves. This is part 3 where I bring a peer on to co-host with me. Someone who has experience in this topic. I chose Broadway and film star Renée Marino. I brought Renée on the show a few months ago to talk about her book, “Becoming A Master Communicator,” and we just hit it off. This is the second time I’ve asked her to co-host with me because it’s a topic she is close to. As you’ll hear in a moment, when hardship hit Renée’s life she realized she was repeating negative patterns and she started therapy with a counselor on “inner child work.” And right there. If the phrase, “inner child work” rubs you wrong in any way, I feel you. At face value I have no desire to waste my time looking backward and trying to uncover feelings from my past. I struggle to even remember how I felt as a kid. But please listen, the point is to figure out how you may have reacted unhealthfully to events in your early years, and brought them forward into your adult life. And…you did. So did I. This is an audit. If you’ve ever bought a used car in recent years, you’ve likely gotten a CarFax so you can know the history of the car. How it’s been maintained, any wrecks or recalls, how many owners and more. What occurs to me as I continue looking into the origins of me, is how unaware I’ve been about some wrecks along the way that have not been resolved and are impeding my progress. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Even if we are being authentic, we often put on different faces for the roles we have in life. I’d like to think I’m the same guy all the time, but how I interact with my 10 year old daughter is different from how I interact with a podcast guest. I’m still me, but I have different expectations and engage from different orientations based on who I’m in front of. Sometimes we can struggle to switch gears. This is my part two session, Values, Motives, and Habits with Vienna Pharaon, licensed marriage and family therapist, one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists, and now author of her first book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna has nearly 700k followers tuning in on Instagram to find their authentic selves. It is in the beginning topic of Spirituality where Vienna discusses her efforts to “de-role” in her life, a concept I’ve not heard defined quite like this before. You’re also going to hear a special insert in this episode, as at the end of the show, Vienna asked to share something else that greatly altered her spiritual life. The death of her dog and holding him as he took his last breath. She shares how it shifted her relationship with death and made it less scary. I was really honored Vienna was moved to share this. Honestly her candor and relatability touched me as well. She really engaged in our conversation much more like a patient than a counselor and I felt I was just talking with a friend. I’d say this is why she has such a massive following of people who feel the same. Other highlights you’ll hear, regarding Relationships, Vienna works to accept limitations and strengths in her relationships. With Health & Wellness she says for her, “Movement is salve.” Mind & Mental Health are her profession and she shares she learned to like alone time because she was a single child, yet also shares she’s an introvert and I press in as to which she gives more credit to regarding wanting alone time…it’s a bit of nature vs nurture discussion. With Work/Career Vienna said she loves being in meaningful conversations with people, and with Money & Finances she shares how her relationship with money has changed throughout her life and makes a quip that I found really interesting and asked her to explain, when she said, “Wounds and gifts are neighbors.” The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are at an all-time high of mental health being a mainstream topic. My experience is people are either fairly tuned in to it, or they just don’t have much thought towards it. Similar to spirituality. And in neglecting to audit and tend to our individual mental health we are missing out on key aspects of our performance. I know I have and it’s a constant challenge to make it a priority. Culturally we stay very busy and have very little margin and downtime, if any, in our day to day lives. We think getting a brain-break with entertainment or exercise or sleep is enough. But we’re seeing that this is more like being on a long road trip and stopping for 5-10 minutes at a rest area. It’s a little break for the engine, but not hardly enough for it to cool down. What most of us need is a daily tune-up. Not just to let the engine cool off, but to get fresh fluids, check for leaks and make sure the tires are rotated and balanced. This is what meditation offers. And let me start by admitting this is possibly my least favorite health and wellness effort. I’d honestly rather fast from food. So we’ve brought in a guest. Ariel Garten. Ariel is a neuroscientist, innovator, and entrepreneur on a mission to help people understand how the mind works and empower them to live their best lives through meditation. She is the co-founder and visionary of a highly successful tech start-up called Muse, which tracks your brain during meditation to give you real-time feedback, guiding you into true rest and letting you know when you are actively allowing your mind to recover. Muse is a multi-sensor meditation device, a headband, that syncs with an app on your phone and provides real-time feedback on your brain activity, heart rate, breathing, and body movements to help you build a consistent meditation practice. I use the “desert” mode and as I try to rest, it tells me how I’m doing by the level of the wind. As I slow down and settle my mind I hear the tell tale birds chirping. The app monitors my progress day to day so I can see my accumulative results and progress. It’s really ingenious and takes the guesswork out of wondering if you really have your mind at rest. This episode is about the benefits of resting your mind and being present, not the Muse app and technology, though you can check it out at choosemuse.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know this quote, “It's not how many times you get knocked down that counts, it's how many times you get back up.” The quote is attributed both to legendary army officer George Custer and legendary football coach Vince Lombardy. As I said in a previous episode in this series, I get this concept if you’re in the middle of a battle or football game. But otherwise, I feel it’s fairly misleading and has us all missing out on available growth from our challenges. If you are alive, you will encounter something you desired to achieve, not working out, or something negative you didn’t choose, happening to you. And there you are. How you deal with it has to do with your ultimate life success and achievement, and your general well-being…right down to your health and wellness. Just “getting back up again” or persevering may or may not positively serve you any more than being overcome and defeated. This is my wrap-up on the message and discussions with Dr Neeta Bhushan and the message in her new book, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. It brought me to grappling with how we as a society tend to polarize and view someone as an overcomer or a quitter. Like it’s simply two ends of a rope instead of a multifaceted spectrum with a lot of nuances. Walk with me a moment through some aspects I’m pondering and seeking to apply to my life. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being authentic is a big buzzword in our culture today. We want authenticity from others and we want to claim our own authenticity. Yet you’re about to get schooled in a stark, yet hopeful reality, and it starts with understanding and accepting that nobody comes into adulthood being authentically who they are, and discovering your true authenticity is a massive undertaking. The hope in this is in realizing that most of your personal struggles in your relationship with yourself and others and even the world, can only get better from this point as you start stepping into your authentic self. Two big points you are about to hear; You come into this world with an already installed operating system based on your genetics and it is further programmed and hardwired in during your upbringing. So you leave home with a solid OS. You don’t wake up on your own free and authentic. This is realization number one. Two, from the moment you come into this world your natural desire is to attach to others and this is far more important than being the authentic you, to the point you never really experience the authentic you. Right now, whether you are a navy seal, executive, stay at home parent or student you have spent your life with a priority of belonging and being attached to others far superseding being who you really are. And it’s diminished your entire life. My guest, expert, and guide on this subject is Vienna Pharaon. Her new book is called The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna has been posting her insights, driven from thousands of patient encounters, on Instagram has nearly 700k followers tuning in to find their authentic selves. Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for over fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice, Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Pharaon has been featured in The Economist, Netflix, Vice, and Motherly, and has led workshops for Peloton and Netflix, amongst others. The Origins of You is her first book and is endorsed by renowned therapists such as Nedra Glover Tawwab and Whitney Goodman who I’ve had on this show. As of this recording The Origins of You is at the top of the charts in Amazon. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a crux of the show we came to. When bad things happen, hard things happen, we want to know why. We want to figure it out so it doesn’t happen again. This is wisdom. But sometimes challenges and traumas happen that we submit - can’t be reconciled. That may ruffle the feathers of some people’s faith structure, which we’re going to do more of in this episode. This is part 3 on Neeta Bhushan and the message in her new book, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. To discuss recovery from challenge, trauma and even tragedy I brought on a co-host who has been through more than his fair share. Richie Norton was my guest for the second time in October, 2022 where we talked about the message in his book, Anti-Time Management. He has a powerful story which you’ll hear in just a moment, and we use it to tackle some weighty subjects. Richie shares times of literally asking, “Does God hate me?” It was from this we got into grappling with our staunch desire to reconcile everything when sometimes we simply can’t. And how to move past this. We discuss the futility of blame and Richie shares his quest to "Be better, not bitter." We discuss the mental difference of dealing with hard things that happen to us vs when we are the hard thing, meaning, we and maybe others suffer from our personal mistakes and failures. And we dig into Richie sharing how, through his family’s journey they sometimes took considerable time to grieve and recover and didn’t try to rush the recovery process. I think this will be a very hopeful episode for many of you who have endured hard things, and a greatly equipping episode for those of you who will. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My great friend. My doctor. My co-host here on the Functional Friday episodes. Randy James. Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. For the first years of knowing each other I pestered him with what the core pillars of health were and he’d always push back with the answer that…”It depends! What is core for one person may not be for another. It’s very personal to each person’s makeup and pathology.” So in this episode, I tried to hit him up again, but this time, I succeeded. I posed the question of what aspect of health is #1. I really expected some lively discourse. Instead, we actually came into an answer. At face value it’s an unfair question, which is why I wanted to spar with Randy on it, as again the entire point of Functional Medicine and our show is how individualized and unique our personal health is and there is no one size fits all solution. So to ask what aspect of health is number one is not a fair question. But as we talked about the concept of, “If you can only pick one area of health, which is most important?” we found ourselves coming to an actual agreement and bit of a revelation. To be candid, we recorded this show about a year ago and since then it’s forever altered my outlook on my health and wellness and some specific routines. I’ll give you the answer. It is…sleep. Your recovery. But I implore you to listen in and find out why, as if I had simply been told this without the grappling behind it, I don’t think I would have accepted it to the level I have. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m betting you would benefit from a getaway. It might be a couple hours. Or an afternoon. Maybe a day, and maybe a few days. But here is the thing. Everyone who knows you will benefit too. Your family. Your co-workers. Your employees. Chances are they desperately need you to get out and fill up some so they get more than the dregs. This is a quick message that I may be more qualified to offer than nearly anyone you know. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the gravest dangers of our lives is, we don’t know what we don’t know. I don’t think I’m dumb, but I will always have areas of ignorance to address. Ignorance is merely - lacking knowledge, information, or awareness about a particular thing. It’s our job to continually pursue our own self-awareness. I’m back with Dr Neeta Bhushan, author of That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. This is Part 2 where I walk with Neeta through her personal Values, Motives, and Habits. It was in discussing her spirituality where she talked about RSA; radical self-awareness, and taking responsibility for our blind spots. As time goes on this is where I put the greatest value for myself, and others. I’ve found people with exceptional success in some areas who suffer greatly, especially relationally and with personal peace, because they are forward-thinking and achieving, but not internally focused and aware. I have been one of those people. Neeta and I get more into this shortly. Another topic, relationships, Neeta talked about her desire for authentic relationships. Deep relationships. And I said, yes, we all want that. But many people struggle with how to find and have these and she surprised me with a resource she has on just that, how to create authentic relationships. Sign up at thatsuckednowwhat.com/resources and she’ll send it to you. We cover her personal health values, money and more, and I was intrigued in the work and career section where we ended up, in alignment with radical self-awareness, discussing in our work the need for and opportunity in RPA; radical purpose awareness. This was a rich discussion. Dr Neeta Bhushan founded the Global GRIT Institute and is cofounder of Dharma Coaching Institute. She has over 165,000 followers on Instagram and a popular podcast, The Brave Table where people tune in to hear her guidance on bouncing back. Check out the new book, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. The Self-Helpful podcast was founded by the Zig Ziglar corporation. If you are a coach or consultant and want to add credibility, clients, and impact to your business, go to Ziglar.com Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I kick off a series on bouncing back. Being resilient is the latest buzzword. But it's all another way of discussing how to recover from a setback. I have a few issues with the concept that I feel cause us all to miss what bouncing back really entails and how to effectively do it in our lives. And not just simply bounce back, but bounce back...better. A common phrase in the self-help world is, “It's not how many times you get knocked down that count, it's how many times you get back up.” The quote is attributed both to legendary army officer George Custer and legendary football coach Vince Lombardy. If you're talking about getting knocked down on the battlefield or football field, it makes sense. But in our lives, if we keep getting knocked down, just getting back up only to get knocked down again may showcase we haven't learned anything. If we are pursuing growth and evolution we will likely continue to face setbacks, but hopefully, they are at higher and higher levels and the setbacks aren't as severe. So just getting back up isn't the point, we want to learn from the knockdown and be wiser for it. Next, there are two different knockdown realities. One is when we get knocked down by someone or something. We are victimized in essence. Getting back up from this takes one perspective. But often we are knocked down by ourselves. By our own mistakes and failures. Getting back up from these takes a different type of mental power. Then also, some people have never been up to a point they want to bounce back to, as they were raised in a knocked-down level of existence. To take on this topic and these issues I've brought to you, Dr Neeta Bhushan. You'll want to hear the full story and details that make what I'm about to tell you even more profound, but when Neeta was 16 her mom died. When she was 17 her brother died. Then when she was 19 her Dad died and she became caregiver for her younger brother. She went on to have some great success or I wouldn't be talking to her now. But how the story goes will impact you. She started a successful cosmetic dentist business. She married and then divorced from an abusive marriage. She founded the Global GRIT Institute and is cofounder of Dharma Coaching Institute. She has over 165,000 followers on Instagram and a popular podcast, The Brave Table where people tune in to hear her guidance on bouncing back. And now she has a new book titled, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. If you go to thatsuckednowwhat.com Neeta has a free 44 page guide you can have. We cover deep territory in regards to what resilience and bouncing back really is and how it differs, depending on...a lot. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take all the self-help organizations in the world and you’ll be hardpressed to find any with as great a success record as AA, Alcoholics Anonymous. It’s free. Volunteer based. Informal. And yet it fulfills a primary human need; accountability. You have the group to commune with and receive support from, and you get a sponsor. It’s not someone following you around and slapping your hand every time you reach for a drink, but it’s someone who you know understands, cares, and will be there when you need it for support and encouragement. Another winner is Weight Watchers, founded in 1963, and to date is one of the most successful weight loss organizations of all time. Same reason. Social accountability. The support and encouragement from others. In recent times Peloton is a shining example of harnessing social accountability and support to the tune of an $8 billion dollar valuation and possibly claiming the top slot of top “unicorn investments” of all time. Social accountability is powerful because it works. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about the value of accountability. As powerful as social accountability is, our ultimate goal is to create personal accountability. The definition of accountability is, the fact or condition of being accountable; responsibility. Where social accountability helps by being responsible to others, personal accountability is far stronger and enduring, when you are responsible for and to yourself. In this episode we cover some key aspects to harnessing and developing both social and personal accountability in order to achieve the health and wellness you desire. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine you're on stage with nine other people who have the same skillset you do. The same degree and/or experience. Whatever you do or make, they all can as well. And the question is put to you...why choose you? Can you really stand there and explain why you are literally the best? Better than everyone standing next to you? Here's the thing, even if you actually were, there is little chance you could prove it and even less chance anyone would believe it. In today's marketplace there are too many options to choose from. Specializing gives you a great leg up, but even here it's hard to take the approach of being the best. And there is seldom opportunity in being the cheapest. Which basically leaves you with who you can best connect with and how. This is encapsulated in your creativity and your point of view, which is ultimately, your art. I'm wrapping up my series with Miriam Schulman, artist and guide to artists and author of Artpreneur: The Step-by-Step Guide to Making a Sustainable Living from Your Creativity. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m a 6’ tall, slim white man. I have an automobile, house, job and good income. No felonies. Imagine if myself and nine other identical men all created profiles on a dating app and that’s all we put. How many inquiries would we get? Probably zero. This is our world and marketplace today. No matter who you are or what you do, everyone is looking to know your story before they spend a minute or a dollar on you. They are looking for context on connecting points to determine if they find resonance with you or not. This is Part 3 of my series on Miriam Schulman. Her new book is called Artpreneur: The Step-by-Step Guide to Making a Sustainable Living from Your Creativity. If you are involved, or want to be, in the fine arts, and make a living at it, she is your guru. On a bigger scale she brings the message of how creativity and art in your work is a necessity in today’s overcrowded marketplace. I continue this discussion today with my frequent co-host Jared Angaza. Jared is a brand architect who has recently devoted himself to helping the space community tell their story. His expertise is in doing that, helping us all tell our story so we have the chance to connect with others, whether personally or professionally. He’s also my blood brother and who is helping me tell my story as a podcast host and author so you know if I’m someone you care to listen to or not! In this show we really hone in on not only the opportunity, but the absolute necessity to tell your story or get left behind. Looking at our work, what you do is no longer enough. You can’t be the best, nobody will believe that. But you can be unique. You are unique, even if you don’t realize it. Just as you must put on clothes to go to work, if you want opportunity in the marketplace, or trying to get a date, you’ve got to communicate who you are. Your identity. This is the only way people can know if they want to connect with you or not. If you try to play it safe and remain storyless, you’ll get just that. Less. And in today’s culture, letting your identity be known shows confidence, while remaining hidden makes you suspect. Be authentic, this isn’t about performing and being a show pony. It’s again, just like a personal profile in a dating app, merely sharing who you are and what you’re about as a service to people who might be interested. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It is from our creativity where our most valuable work and life events happen. Creativity is not just for the fine arts. We harness and rely on our creativity to generate our important ideas, critical thinking, and ultimately our ability to grasp onto hope in our lives, especially when things are challenging. And as life happens we can easily be at risk of depleting our creative juices, so to say. In this episode I’m back with artist and guide to artists, Miriam Schulman. You may have run across Miriam’s art and story featured on NBC’s “Parenthood” and the Amazon series “Hunters” with Al Pacino. In our first show together we discussed the concepts in her book, Artpreneur: The Step-by-Step Guide to Making a Sustainable Living from Your Creativity, and the opportunity and really, necessity, for us all to find our unique art and showcase a point of view in our work, no matter what we do. Here we get more personal and get into Miriam’s Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life. In the category of mental health she discusses the need for us to restore ourselves. Restore our hearts. In order to foster our creativity. When we are consumed and overwhelmed with busyness and worn out or even just stagnant and bored, we will find it extremely difficult to think with much creativity. So what do we do to restore it? This is a key topic of this show. You can find Miriam’s book Artpreneur everywhere and get a free chapter at schulmanart.com/believe. And right now I encourage you to find her podcast and check it out, The Inspiration Place. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you believe it? That Alzheimer’s can be prevented, stopped, and even reversed? It’s true. Does that mean it will be eradicated from our culture? We know how to stop obesity in an individual too, but it’s not happening here in America. This show is about you however, you and those close to you. Can you do something about preventing, stopping, and reversing Alzheimer’s? Absolutely. There are never any guarantees when it comes to one’s health, but there are probabilities you can count on. In this show we bring you quite possibly the world’s leading authority on prevention, stopping, and reversing Alzheimer’s. Dr Dale Bredesen, author of, The End of Alzheimers and The End of Alzheimer’s program. You need to realize most of the traditional leaders in the arena of Alzheimer’s aren’t of the belief you can do anything but manage Alzheimer’s and its inevitable decline. Alzheimer’s disease has become the third leading cause of death in the United States, after cardiovascular disease and cancer, destined to rob 45 million of the Americans currently living of their most fundamental reasoning capabilities if we do not do something to prevent and reverse the process. Dr Bredesen profoundly cites, “You know cancer survivors. Hardly anyone knows an Alzheimer’s survivor.” But he knows many. Dr Bredesen’s credentials and bio are long enough for a show in and of itself. If you are concerned about Alzheimer’s, and everyone should be, type B R E D E S E N and Alzheimer’s in your search engine and you’ll find all you want. Better yet, go to wherever you buy books and get his book, End of Alzheimer's Program. And visit drbredesen.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on Japanese self-help celebrity Ken Honda and his focus on Happy Money, and I’m going to bring it home to what I’m grappling…with striving to implement in my life as a result of Ken’s message. I’ve talked about this topic with Ken, with Tom Ziglar in part three, and I’ve been discussing it with people in my life. The truth is I’ve historically not had happy money. I’ve not felt fairly compensated for what I’ve offered the world and I’ve looked at money as an irritant in relation to just wanting to do what I cared about and trying to serve people and provide for my family. From what I’ve heard, many of you can relate to this. So, let’s consider it together for a moment. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People doing mundane tasks are replaced by robots. Now people producing basic content will likely be replaced by AI. What can’t ever be replaced? Your point of view. Your story and perspective. Your flavor and vibe. You buy many products and services today, not because they are proven to be the best, but because you want to associate yourself with the story behind them. With what they represent. This is the essence of art and creativity. I believe it’s a myth that some people are creative and others aren’t, but we limit our scope of where and how you can be creative. We’re about to blow that myth up. I’m with Miriam Schulman, an artist and founder of The Inspiration Place, where she helps other artists learn how to profit from their passion or become better artists. She’s helped thousands of artists around the world develop their skill sets and create more time and freedom to do what they love. Miriam’s art and story have been featured in major publications such as Forbes, The New York Times, Art of Man and been featured on NBC’s “Parenthood” and the Amazon series “Hunters” with Al Pacino. She has a very popular podcast called The Inspiration Place where she helps artists profit from their work, so they can keep doing it and do more of it. While we do talk about the aspects of profiting from your art, my initial focus is that if we don’t have art and creativity in our work, no matter what work it is, we will likely find ourselves phased out or left behind. Our core product or service is no longer enough to flourish. There are too many other providers and options. To stand out and succeed at a high level we must add a creative, unique aspect to what we do and include our point of view. As you’ll hear from this talk with Miriam, our point of view is we connect with others. And this is the point. AI can inform us of anything and everything. But it can’t connect. And this is your greatest opportunity. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been looking at how we view and feel about money and it keeps drawing me back to how influential our work is. We make money from the work we provide. From our efforts to help deliver a product or service. If we are not proud of the work we do. If we are not proud of the end product or service we help provide. If we are just doing it for the money…then the money we earn as a result, we have negative feelings about. The money itself becomes a focus of our frustration along with the work. This is far more than about money and about our personal self-approval. If you have any negative feelings about money, we’d have you consider how you feel about how you earn it. This is part three on my series about Ken Honda, Japan’s number one self-help guru, and his focus on the energy we have around money, which is the topic of his super best-selling book, Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace With Your Money. My co-host for a peer discussion is Tom Ziglar. Tom is son to the inspirational legend, Zig Ziglar and The Ziglar Show is where this podcast evolved from. Tom is an expert in the workplace and in this episode we dig further into how our feelings about our work and how we earn money are foundational to our overall feelings of money and ourselves as a whole. We also discuss how we feel about spending money on undesired and unexpected expenses and how to better handle it when you are the one taking money for such expenses. A reminder to check out Ken Honda’s book, Happy Money, anywhere, and connect directly with him at Kenhonda.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We wrap up our Functional Medicine questions from listeners for Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert who addresses questions from his experience with thousands of patients striving to get past the mere symptoms of their health and discern the root cause issues so they can have true…wellness. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this episode, we spend the first 25 minutes on Joe’s questions about food allergies and sensitivities with a bit of focus on children. Then Timothy asks how to address a short temper and I think you'll have your mind greatly opened to new possibilities in addressing behavioral issues overall. Last Jennifer asked about epigenetics and how to rewrite her diabetes and metabolism. She said, "I'm several years older than my family members were when they had their first heart attacks, strokes, and cancer surgeries and I'd like to add more years to that." Powerful topics you’ll gain much from. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The only reason you would be here and listening to this, right now, is because you already know the power of self-help. You are a believer. I’m here today to support and affirm you, and actually give you even more power for your self-help endeavors by dispelling some of the criticism self-help gets. The term self-help, in truth, can cause some feelings of anxiety, or fear for some people. None of us truly want to feel alone in our life and we can often doubt ourselves, so the idea of having to rely on self can be troubling. And there are plenty of people who, with vim and vigor, and I’d also say some wounding, who preach about how you can “only rely on yourself,” and that has a lot of danger in it as well. And yet here I am with a podcast named Self-Helpful as a massive advocate of self-help, but also an admitted critic to when it’s abused. In this episode, my new short form and direct, just me to you, I want to offer some perspectives so the concept of self-help is even more inspiring and equipping for you and you can use self-help resources in all forms, as powerful tools in your life to get…where you want to go. With peace, joy and ultimate fulfillment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have some giftings. Some inherent skills and talents. Or think of it this way, you have some things that come to you easier than they do to others. I can look at each of my kids and tell you what abilities seem to come more naturally for some than others, right out of the womb. That doesn’t make them an expert but it showcases the areas they will more likely be able to achieve mastery in. The thing is, what comes fairly easy to us we generally devalue. It doesn’t seem so impressive to us. One because it is just easier, and two, we often end up around other people who can do what we do well. When I was a pro cyclist it wasn’t that impressive to me, cause I was always around other pro cyclists and was focused on all the guys who were better than I was. You have some natural giftings and talents. Once you become aware of them, you most start honing them. Then you’ll serve yourself well to figure out how to work at them. Not all of them. I think I have a lot of giftings and some I don’t care to monetize, they are just for my enjoyment or even just for my family. But finding a gift you can monetize is…glory. In this episode I’m back with Japan’s #1 self-help guru, Ken Honda, author of Happy Money which was the focus of our first show together. This is my Values, Motives, & Habits episode where we go behind the curtain of Ken’s life. When we talked about the category of career this was Ken’s primary focus, helping people find their gifts and monetize their gifts. He finds it to be a primary source of, happy money. When you work at something you enjoy and find great value in, you are happier with the money you get as a result, and even happier to spend it, manage it, save it, and invest it. This focus stood out to me, but you’ll also hear Ken Discuss topics such as he he sees money as spiritual. His focus on relationships of what he can do for another person, which sounds pithy, but belies the fact we generally are in front of another person thinking about our own needs. Health and wellness is a challenge for Ken as he says he loves American food, hamburgers and fries, and in his culture is teases as a chubby guy. Mentally he struggles with the world's suffering which he has a sensitive heart for, and works to bolster himself so he can better handle it. As a celebrity in Japan he is often noticed out in public and takes great delight in striking up conversations with fans and getting to know them. I've already gotten feedback on our first discussion together, with people attesting to the joy in hearing Ken Honda's happy demeanor and desire to serve others. You can find Ken Honda’s book, Happy Money, anywhere, and connect directly with him at Kenhonda.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There was a time before money when we gathered, harvested, and produced what we needed. Or we took what we gathered, harvested, and produced and traded with someone else for something they had. It was an exchange. Today we gather, harvest, and produce a product or service that is sold for money. And we are given money. And we pay money for most all the product and services we need. Money is simply a unit of exchange. And yet it is anything. Anything but simple. And today many of us, most of us, have some negative feelings toward money. From irritation towards suicide, and most of us have negative feelings that keep a level of anxiety going and it's eating away at us, little buy little and eroding our mental and physical health and our overall wellness and success. My guest today is a self-help legend and celebrity in Japan where he's sold nearly $9 million books about this topic. Ken Honda is the author of Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace with Your Money. But it's not money Ken is concerned about, it's your happy soul. This is why he has most of his own country following him, and now is claiming hearts around the world, including now, America. He joined me via Zoom from near Tokyo and we just had a super sweet time together. So much so that he requested my book and will be endorsing it for the Japanese market. I think you'll find a significant paradigm shift in your perspective on money and a new hope for feeling better about it. I did. Truly. There are products and services we don't want to spend money on. Such as, we don't want to give $1,000 to a car mechanic to fix something that went wrong on our car. So we give the mechanic money with sad feelings. Sad energy. And the mechanics is on the receiving end of getting sad money. Would you like to change this perspective, as the customer and the mechanic? Listen in to Ken Honda. He's going to help. We start off addressing the common negative feelings many people have towards money, and turn it on its head. It's not money we are upset with. It's really the work we don't like and aren't proud of, that we are doing to earn money. It's more about how we are earning our money than the money itself. I think you will be so stoked with this episode you'll want to share it with everyone you know. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue on with our Functional Medicine questions from listeners for Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert who addresses questions from his experience with thousands of patients striving to get past the mere symptoms of their health and discern the root cause issues so they can have true…wellness. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this episode, Ted asks how to maintain muscle tone after 65. Beth feels most successful people have coaches and asks how to find a coach you can trust? Wayne wants to know about testing options like food allergies. Mark shares about finding a functional medicine provider in his area, and Don asks how to kick chronic ear infections. Again, there should be a topic or three that is highly relevant to you or someone you love. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi Self-Helpful listeners. This is a new format of episode and it’s just you and me. While I may be your guide here on the podcast, digging into self-help messages with today’s more important influencers in the world of personal growth and development, you know I’m also a fellow traveler on my own journey to grow and progress in my life. With that in mind, I’m here now to share a short episode with you on how a recent message is influencing my own life, and see if you relate. I’m like you and living in my own story and these podcast guests and messages change my story. So I’m calling this part 4 of my series on Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller’s book, Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. There are some significant points from the message I’m really pondering and grappling with regarding my own story and life experience.. This concept of, “It’s all in your head” is dramatically hurtful and hopeful to me. Walk with me a minute as I explain. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In minding our mindset and thinking about our thinking, we bring into question how much of our perspectives and even beliefs are based on the fictional stories our brains write to protect us. This sounds minimizing of our so called realities, but I just want you to think about occurrences which have happened in your life, things you’ve experienced with other people, and how they later recount the reality that happened, and you’re standing there thinking, “That is not at all what happened!” As you had a very different experience. And that’s the issue. Something happens, and we all experience it differently. The thing DID happen. But we all perceive it differently. It means different things to you. What excites one person may terrify another. And this type of natural reaction in our minds is normal. The opportunity we are hitting on here is in accepting that a good percentage of our reality and therefore beliefs are made up in our mind from how we’ve experienced things. Our mind and experiences and memories are not made up of facts. They are made up of stories. And as such, we can evolve to consider a bigger story and more context and possibility, and this can radically alter our lives. This is part 3 on Michael Hyatt’s book, Mind Your Mindset, and today I asked a special guest to co-host with me, Broadway and film star Renée Marino who I did a series with here on the podcast just recently regarding her book and message, “Becoming A Master Communicator.” I asked Renée to come discuss this topic with me because what and how we communicate, her specialty, is ultimately a reflexion of our mindset, and also because we just had such resonance and energy in our previous shows, and I got such good feedback about it, I wanted to bring her back on. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been talking about the need to mind our mindset, which is the title of Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller’s new book, with their research showcasing a majority of what we think and believe is not fact, but the stories our brain creates to help us make sense of things and ultimately protect us. I’m back for part two with Michael to walk and talk through his personal Values, Motives, and Habits. We begin on spirituality and he shares his appreciation of his faith community helping him not be left alone with his own stories and benefitting from their input and correction. It struck me how important relationships are as an overall antidote to getting lost and isolated in my own stories and beliefs that again, per Michael and Megan’s research, is not fact but the story my brain has written. I need input from friends and guides and coaches and therapists to balance me out. This is acute to me as in my own introversion and self-protection can drive me to isolate and be left alone to get lost in my own stories and i have to proactively seek out and share my stories with others to keep me from getting lost. Michael also shares about his desire for loyalty in relationships, dialing up his energy to live longer and better for his family, how he starts his day, getting bored with his work and liking to change things up, how a financial advisor my dad recommended to him gave him a new lease on his outlook on money, and how he feels his non-productive time leads him to his greatest productivity. Again, Michael Hyatt’s new book is called Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. You can get the book and his MIND YOUR MINDSET COURSE for free at mindyourmindsetbook.com/selfhelpful. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue the question and answer session from our last Functional Friday episode and here we address listener inquiries about balancing exercise in regards to our effort and always killing ourselves. Losing momentum is a big topic, as anyone with a new health & wellness initiative will…lose momentum. We address the faith you have in doing what you set out to do, how to stop nervous eating, and end with a biggie…how to kick the sugar habit. Which nobody really wants to do, including me. I’m with my fun Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and just as with the last Functional Friday episode, much of what we discuss are examples Randy shares from first hand experiences with thousands of patients who pay cash to have him get to the root problems of their issues. Not everyone can get in to work with Dr James, but you can inquire at truelifemedicine.com or just email them directly at [email protected] The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Just think positive. It’s all in your head. Look on the bright side. Just write a better story.” Who here has had one of these cliches spoken to them and it just pissed you off or deflated you? It feels so affirming and even offensive to an honest experience and feeling we’ve had. The events we experience in life are…our truth. They happened and we were there and what we experienced is just, true. And yet right there is the problem, and opportunity. What we experience is just how our brain processed the event. As you’ll hear in this episode, two people are in the woods and a bear walks past their camp. One is ecstatic about experiencing a bear in the wild while the other is terrified of the possible danger because they had a friend who was hurt by a bear. What is true? They saw a bear. The rest of the experience is just what they thought based upon their personal perceptions. This is our life. A bit of fact and the rest we make up around it. With that in mind, we have the opportunity to question what we think and feel and work to consider a bigger and more reasonable reality than our negative propensities often manufactures. This isn’t just an idea, this is brain science, and my guest is Michael Hyatt and this is my fourth time having him on the show. Michael was CEO of Thomas Nelson publishing and today is a prolific author of wisdom and leader and mentor to a lot of the celebrity guests I’ve had on this show. Michael has had several New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and USA Today bestselling books, including Platform, Living Forward, Your Best Year Ever, Free to Focus, The Vision Driven Leader, and Win at Work & Succeed at Life. But this new book written by him and his daughter Megan, is top shelf for me. The book is called Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. But I ask you to wait right there. This again is not just another pithy swipe at just trying to put a silver lining on things. You’re going to hear Michael site scientific research on how our brain literally takes any incident, let’s call it an objective reality, then your neurons go to work concocting a story around it so you can make sense of it, but what is really mind blowing to realize is the primary story your brain goes to work creating is a story that will protect you. This makes sense evolutionary when you are literally often in survival mode. But if you truly grasp that life is happening and your imperfect brain, and we’ll get into that, goes to work doing what it can with what it has, which is not everything needed, to create a story that protects you in the moment. This is why you hear a friend or your spouse tell a story of something you both experienced it and you are sitting there wondering what on earth they are talking about. You were there and that is not at all what happened, right? Well. It’s not right. Or wrong. It’s the story your brain wrote. And if this is the case, much of the trauma and limitations and negative beliefs we have about ourselves in reference to what we have experienced, or what we think we have experienced…are in question. And maybe, we are capable of more. This is the episode. Get Michael’s book you also get his MIND YOUR MINDSET COURSE for free, it’s normally $479. mindyourmindsetbook.com/selfhelpful. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If we are really honest, we begin most relationships with an agenda in mind. A transaction. We are wanting something for ourselves out of it. I know many people will reject that, and I reject their rejection. We either are hoping for something from the other person, or what we are doing for them makes us feel good about ourselves. Which is ok! Our focus today, is before you seek to get anything from anyone in a relationship, you need to earn the right. And in a relationship, this usually takes a while. But most people start relationships by talking about themselves or trying to solidify an opportunity, whether it’s a job, a date, a new friendship or a work opportunity. And they do it prematurely, before they’ve actually made any true, meaningful connection and in truth, provided some value to the other person. This is part three on Renée Marino and her message on becoming a master communicator. This is my peer discussion my co-host is Dan Miller. One, because he’s a professional communicator. Two, because he and my mom met Renée at an event put on by a big publisher and they texted me saying I just had to have her on the show, which I’ll be forever grateful for. Three, because as most of you know, Dan is my Dad, and we have great conversations together and as you’ll hear at the top of the show, I credit him with schooling me as a kid in how to communicate and win friends and influence people. I cite it as the best education I ever received and it’s very much why I find myself now with a top ranked podcast. We got overwhelming feedback about my first two episodes with Renée Marino, so I really encourage you to check them out if you haven’t yet. You can find Renée’s new book, "Becoming a Master Communicator,” anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. You can find Dan Miller at 48days.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “If you could get insight and help into an area of your personal health and wellness, where would it be? What would you ask?” The responses were very candid and covered a wide range of issues. So many, we are doing two parts to this Q&A. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this Q&A episode we go deep regarding hormones, nutrition, and screen time. We, is myself and my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. Much of what we discuss are examples Randy shares from first hand experiences with thousands of patients who pay cash to have him get to the root problems of their issues. On that note, while not everyone can get in to see him, I frequently hear about new patients working with him who heard him here on the Self-Helpful podcast. You can connect with him at truelifemedicine.com or just email them directly at [email protected]. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we think of great relationships we inherently think of being such a great and attractive person that others are just drawn to us. I think we are errantly programmed in grade school where it literally is a popularity contest. If you’re big or strong or pretty or a star quarterback, you are voted homecoming and prom royalty. This doesn’t work in the real world where we grow up and actually want to feel connected to people and if someone can’t do that we don’t care what their skills and looks. Think of the people in your life you feel cared for by. What is the common denominator? They listen to you. They care about your life and opinions. You matter to them. So do you want more or better relationships? They don’t come from telling people how great you are. They come from listening to others and helping them feel great about themselves. I’m with Renée Marino for part 2 to walk and talk through her personal Values, Motives, and Habits. In part 1 we hit on the key message from her book, Becoming a Master Communicator. Renée is a Broadway star and played the lead female role in Clint Eastwood's, Jersey Boys. She knows…communication. I discuss her personal relationship values she led off with just this...listening. Her goal is to be what she calls, a "complete listener." Listen in to hear how she defines this. She shares her recent efforts with inner child work. Her health and wellness goals center around being a powerful communicator with herself and giving focus to her self-worth, and the dangers in her career if she tied her identity and worth to the casting directors opinion of her. At the end in asking Renee about the things she does just to give herself joy and inspiration, she cites dancing, and singing, and you get a treat, as she gives us a stanza from "Someone to Watch Over Me." You can get Renee’s book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At the end of the day, at the end of our life, what matters is meaningful relationships. What purpose in living would you find if you woke up tomorrow as the only person left on earth? Now, what makes up healthy relationships? Think about it. It's communication. A car will go nowhere if it doesn't have wheels. The wheels of any relationship, is communication. And like any skill, we aren't just naturally an expert. Communicating well is a learned skill. Would you like to increase the health and success of your relationships? There is no better way to do it quickly and effectively than learning how to communicate better. So in this show I'm with Renée Marino. Renée is a bonafide Broadway star, singing, acting, and dancing in West Side Story, Pretty Woman, and Jersey Boys. Her lead role in the latter caught the eye of Clint Eastwood who took her from the stage and cast her for the lead female role in his film, Jersey Boys. Renée's livelihood is communicating. She must connect with and move the audience, and she's a master. Following the film, Renée turned her attention to the professional and personal world and is showing us the heart and skill of real communication. The kind that does just what Renée does on stage, on film, and in her personal life...truly connects us with others in a meaningful way that moves them to engage with us. We start talking about her growing up in New Jersey in an Italian American family where communication was their love language, taking her first steps on stage, and even into her marriage to an introvert and how they honor each other's styles of communication. As you'll quickly hear, I don't know that I've ever connected and resonated more with a guest on the show, which attests to Renée's skill of connecting through communication. You're going to enjoy this. Renée has culminated her methodology of communicating in her book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" which you can get anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices