The Kevin Miller Podcast

At the end of the day, and our lives, there is nothing we desire more than love. To be chosen by others and given their affection, devotion, and commitment. Yet relational statistics showcase we are pretty poor at achieving peaceful, enduring, and fulfilling love. Bottom line, most of us are doing it wrong. We define love incorrectly and we pursue it errantly. That may sound like a big claim, but I think in a few moments you will agree with me, and find a new lease on your ability to arrive at love, immediately. My guest is Humble The Poet. He’s a Canadian-born rapper, spoken-word artist, poet, internationally bestselling author, and former elementary school teacher. What began as reciting spoken word poetry in coffee shops to impress girls evolved into a creative adventure that has spanned the last 10 years; crossing genres, mediums and oceans. His first two books, UNLEARN & THINGS NOBODY CAN TEACH US, have become international bestsellers. What caught my eye was his huge social media following, and him using his platform to help people learn and grow and in this case…love. His new book is How To Be Loved. Friends, I read the book and it just resonated. Hugely. Which is why I ultimately invited him on the show. I have so many high profile doctors and professors and researchers, and yet Humble speaks from the research in his own life. He headlines the concept of his book with, “Love doesn’t have to be earned or found, it has to be realized.” This show will change your paradigm on what love is and how to finally, with peace, realize it. Find Humble’s new book, “How To Be Loved” anywhere and find him and all his social media at HumbleThePoet.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our bodies are like a wood burning stove. To a degree you can throw anything in them and they’ll burn it for energy to keep your heart beating. So putting in 10 twinkies or a salad, what’s the difference? Most of our culture’s focus just goes to weight gain or loss, so the idea is the salad has less calories and the twinkies will make you fat. But let’s put weight on the backburner and just focus on overall wellness and ability. Let’s make brain function, energy, resilience and longevity the muse. How do we eat for those goals? How do you eat so you feel more hopeful and joyful? How does food factor into mental health? Depression? Food is far more than just fuel to burn. The nutritional value in the food is either burning and building us, or burning and depleting us. It is our most powerful medicine, or poison. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. My cohost is Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. We spend the bulk of this episode discussing the psychology and concept of what and how we eat, then around the 60 minute mark talk about the literal foods we eat and advocate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When will you be enough? The question bothers me. I’m a fan of growing and striving and achieving and to a fair degree I feel it is a responsibility to do so. There are aspects of myself I’m not satisfied with. And yet a primary tenet of emotional health is to be ok with yourself, right now. Can you come to a place of being enough right now, even though you’re not content to just stop and coast from here on in your life? Still be an aspiring person? This is part 3 of my series on Peter Moo - tar -bar - ze who lived a horrifically abused and neglected life in Africa from his birth in a small town outside of Uganda up living on the streets till age 15, when thanks to the opportunity afforded to him by one family, he went on to attend and graduate from universities and ultimately move to America where he’s an entrepreneur, foster father, and now author of the book, “Now I am Known”. I invited my brother, Jared Angaza, to cohost with me again, as Jared spent a decade in Africa working amongst street kids like Peter. We talk a bit about his experience, but our primary discussion landed on what Jared cited as the epidemic of enoughness that seems to span all of humanity, whether you lived on the streets and slept in a sewer in Africa, or you lived in a million dollar home in Beverly Hills. Find Peter’s book, Know I Am Known, a self-help classic in my opinion, anywhere and visit Nowiamknownfoundation.org to connect with Peter and his incredible story. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As you are here, right now, listening to this show, you have survived. No matter what has happened to you, you’ve made it to be in existence at this precise moment with the ability to be listening to a podcast. There are so many, many others who have not made it. Why…have you survived? What is the purpose for you having come this far? This is what propels my guest, Peter Mutabazi who is back for Part 2 as we walk through his personal values, motives, and habits. Here he shares again some of the dramatic abuse and hardship on all levels he endured. You name the abuse, Peter had some of the worst of it. And yet he made it while his list of family and friends who did not only make it but who are no longer even alive, is vast. It is from the fact he survived that he feels his greatest purpose. As you’ll hear him share, he just can’t believe there is not a purpose for why he survived, and he wants to fully use himself to help others not only survive, but thrive. His book that propelled me to have him on the show is called Now I Am Known: How a Street Kid Turned Foster Dad Found Acceptance and True Worth, that to me is one of the best self-help resources I’ve come across in a long, long time, as it blatantly showcases so many of our emotional and relational dysfunctions that Peter endured and is still working through in order to function healthfully and help others do the same. I am also encouraging everyone to visit Peter’s website at Nowiamknownfoundation.org and consider booking him to speak, and helping in his efforts to foster and adopt more children. Nowiamknownfoundation.org. The Self-Helpful podcast with Kevin Miller is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have a 1984 Jeep CJ7 that barely runs. It only has 90,000 miles and it was driven gently by my mother in law for most of its life. The reason it’s in such bad shape? It just sat still for years on end without being driven. The hoses dry rotted, the lubes dried up, and now it is so decrepit it’s nearly beyond reviving. Our bodies are the same. They were made to move. To have our lungs and muscles stretched. If you’ve ever worn a cast you know how fast muscles and strength atrophies when not used. Our entire body is this way. But today we don’t need to move in order to live. I do most of my work from a home office and to make a good living the most strenuous thing I need to do is walk down the stairs. So, we have to create artificial movement. This is caused…exercise. But what exercises are good? How much is enough? This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about exercise. I asked this question on Facebook, “How often do you exercise, for how long, what exercises do you do, and why? You are going to hear a lot of ideas and perspectives and I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert. We’ll walk and talk you through the responses and offer some counsel and guidance. This is a great show to share with those who struggle with exercise, as we hit on some of the goofiness of it, though of course uphold the necessity. The Self-Helpful with Kevin Miller podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What you are about to hear is more than a story of an abused kid in Africa who ran away from home and then lived on the streets and slept in the sewer in a nearby city. A kid who literally never had anything provided for him, only taken, until he got one big break at age 15 when he had never had shoes. He only ate every few days. He’d never slept in a bed or ridden in a car. But with one man’s help he went to school, attended universities and immigrated to America where today he fosters and adopts children. What I want you to hear however is this is a story relevant to us all because this boy endured such tremendous hardship and difficulty that his escape provides a uniquely stark depiction of the emotional overcoming we all must do if we want to be at peace with the world around us. My guest, Peter Mutabazi was that kid. Today at 48 he’s an entrepreneur, an international advocate for children, and the founder of Now I Am Known, a corporation that supplies resources that encourage and affirm children. Peter is a single father of an adopted white son and foster dad to many. Peter has worked for World Vision and the International Committee of the Red Cross, and has appeared on BBC and the TODAY show. He currently lives in Charlotte, North Carolina where he fosters children and flips homes and has over 200k followers on Instagram at fosterdadflipper. Peter tells his story and lessons in his new book, “Now I am Known” and while I shamelessly promote every guests book, this one is dear to me. He walks through a life of difficulty that will shock you, but ends each chapter with the lessons learned and grace he’s found that will equip and convict you to alter your circumstances or perspective and likely both. Right now Peter is striving to be a full-time, single dad to many kids. If you have an organization, he’s a powerful speaker. Visit Nowiamknownfoundation.org and consider booking him to speak, and helping in his efforts. Right now his growing family needs a new van, a babysitter, and they raise money to provide support for new foster families and kids aging out of foster care. Nowiamknownfoundation.org. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As you listen right now, you are likely thinking of hearing or learning something of interest, and something that will help equip or direct you toward more of what you want from life. We are all here striving to grow and better ourselves for an end result. Otherwise you’d just be listening to music or listening to a crime or comedy show. And I’m a full out believer in this concept of learning and growing which is the point of this Self-Helpful podcast. And, I’m ever more interested in seeing a challenge or commitment catapulting our learning curve from zero to hero almost overnight and in some aspects, bypassing all this stuff. Meaning, you can listen to a year of my shows. This summer my book, “What Drives You” comes out, but you can skip that. And instead just make a big commitment to something you care about, and it will do more to shape you than any amount of content, teaching and guidance. This is the message we got from legendary visionary and humanitarian Lynne Twist in her book, "Living a Committed Life: Finding Freedom and Fulfillment in a Purpose Larger Than Yourself.” This is part 3 on Lynne and her message and I invited a special guest to co-host the discussion with me. Jared Angaza is an activist and philanthropist. He spent over a decade in Rwanda and Kenya working to pull women and children out of sex slavery. As of late he has devoted himself to the space industry, specifically Space For Humanity, and advocating the overview effect recently made famous by Star Trek celebrity William Shatner. Those are mere bookends of a life dedicated to big efforts. Jared cites Lynne Twist as a primary inspiration to his life and has lived what Lynne talks about and experienced the devotion to a cause as the most profound tool for shaping him into the kind of person who can make a world impact. Jared is also my full on blood brother. While in Africa he changed his last name from Miller to Angaza to fully embrace his purpose, passion and vision. Following is our discussion on how this message of commitment from Lynne Twist has played out in Jared’s life and the lives of others we’ve walked with. You’ll also hear some brotherly riffing on some past adventures. You can find Jared at Jaredangaza.com, and of course find Lynne Twist’s book, Living a Committed Life, anywhere. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re in an age when prescription drugs and surgeries are prescribed with little hesitation, especially in the American “healthcare” system. Yet most health minded people, like you who listen to this Self-Helpful podcast, are not so eager to just accept a pill or to go under the knife. I’ve been prone to boycott such things. But my dear friend Randy James, our resident Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine Expert, has taught me there are times when these methodologies are helpful and even necessary. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about prescription drugs and surgeries. In a perfect world with perfect health, we’d not need such things. But it’s not a perfect world and none of us can be in perfect health. Sometimes we get injured or sick and relatively broken and then, pharmaceuticals and surgeries are life savers. We’d just like to see those times as very few and very far between. And when they are needed, what can you do to prepare yourself for the best outcomes? The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do we see a movie depict someone bumbling along, not doing so well, lacking in a lot of personal areas…then a big incident happens, and they quickly rise to the occasion, going from hero to zero. I wonder what percentage of movies depict this, the hero story. So we all tune in to all the self-help info, like this podcast, to try and become the hero. But isn’t it interesting that they don’t show this in the movie. They don’t show the person bumbling along and then years of personal development happen to create them into better people. They incident happens. A purpose. And they just get up and forget about themselves to a big degree, and become what’s needed to overcome whatever the incident is. The purpose is what refines them. This is the message of Lynne Twist who I’m back with to discuss her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment. You’ll hear, over and over again, how it’s her purpose that directs every area of her life and drives her. You will not…hear any pithy claims or directives, just her humble recount of what she values and how she practices that value…and she comes back over and over to her purpose. Lynne talks about her "unrelenting stand for the possibility of life." Her efforts to have appreciation for her life. Her belief in the omnipotence we all have for the conversations in our life. She sees her body as an instrument she must take care of and in her 70s she's doing parcourse. We really get into her mentioning how you can pick up on someone's mood long before we pick up on their attitude, and I've continued to talk about and ponder this. This and so much more... It’s an incredibly intriguing and for me, convicting conversation. Find Lynne Twist’s brand new book, “Living a Committed LIfe” anywhere, and connect with her at Soulofmoney.org. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We as people tend to think of learning and training and preparing, so that…we can commit to something truly big and worthy. A grand purpose. My guest today argues, in the most compassionate way possible, we have it backwards, and that the greatest people ever known simply committed to something they believed in, and the journey within it is what made them great. It crafted and honed them. The challenge and trials and triumphs along the way is what refined them. Then the charge is not to prepare to commit, but to commit now, and become what the commitment requires, along the way. My guest is Lynne Twist, a recognized global visionary and legendary humanitarian. Lynne wowed the world with her first book, The Soul of Money, but I have her on the show for her brand new book releasing currently, "Living a Committed Life: Finding Freedom and Fulfillment in a Purpose Larger Than Yourself.” That’s what caught me, this 180 look at making big commitments. That again, the greats, like Ghandi, didn’t prepare to change the world. They just committed to it and the effort formed them into the people big enough to do it. Lynne’s story is the same, as her journey began when she heard about the The Hunger Project where their goal was to end world hunger, and knew she was supposed to devote her life to it. She spent a decade there and has influenced more people through more humanitarian efforts than nearly anyone. Lynne has been an advisor to the Desmond Tutu Foundation. The United Nations honored her with a “Woman of Distinction” award. From working with Mother Teresa in Calcutta to the refugee camps in Ethiopia and the threatened rainforests of the Amazon, Lynne’s on-the-ground work has brought her a deep understanding of the social tapestry of the world and the historical landscape of the times we are living in. Over the past 40 years Lynne has worked with over 100,000 people in 50 countries in the arenas of fundraising with integrity, conscious philanthropy, strategic visioning and having a healthy relationship with money. Find Lynne Twist’s brand new book, “Living a Committed LIfe” anywhere, and connect with her at Soulofmoney.org. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here we are striving to motivate and instigate our own good health, and then we have our kids. The cultural norm is to just let them eat, and what they want to eat is what the food industry pumps out to their taste buds. Which I get. As a kid I was eating Lucky Charms and Captain Crunch for breakfast and in my teenage years thought Cheerios and Life cereal were health food. Inspiring kids to eat and live healthy is a massive level of effort. But then, what is our goal? This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about what we want for our kids. What responsibility do we take for their well being? Are you hoping your kid will someday move out, get a great education, land a job or start a business, make money and raise a family? Then how do we equip them for that? There are no easy answers and in this show Dr James and I discuss the challenges and consequences of fostering wellness in our kids. For context, my cohost Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, has three kids in his home between 16 and 12, I have five at home between 17 and 10. And please let me tell you it is always a struggle, so rest assured you won’t hear us brag about our kids happily eating raw carrots and hummus for every meal. But friends I’ve seen the battles with kids and spouses completely sabotage someone's efforts at wellness. This is a big show. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Going without close relationships is like going without water. It dehydrates our life and ultimately we’ll die. A slow death of the soul. Yet when we rely on those relationships for our self worth we endure a similar death of the soul. It’s like needing water for life, but drowning in it. This is part 3 of my focus on Melody Beattie, legendary author of Codependent No More. Here I’m with my frequent co-host and dear friend, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we get real with how to grapple with this tension in our actual lives. A common perspective in close relationships, especially marriages and significant others, is a literal joining of lives. Where “two become one.” But how do we translate this? Is it two separate lives joining to live a new life together, or do the individuals disappear and all that exists are the lives in union? That’s one issue. Another is our self-worth, and the health and necessity to have it in and of ourselves. We naturally look to others to tell us of our worth, starting with our parents and early caregivers, then on to schoolmates, teachers and authority figures, but ultimately most of us land with a significant otherwise devote to and unfortunately, often rely on to give us all the affirmations, acceptance and approval we desire. And this is a recipe for failure. Then there is the issue of loving others. We all valiantly strive to serve and love others, yet generally miss loving ourselves. Can we truly love others more and beyond loving ourselves? It doesn’t generally pan out. This is our discussion and grappling today. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you could choose right now what tomorrow would look like, if you had complete freedom, would you rather be consumed with something you are interested in, or be entertained? Really think about it. And you can take it further if you feel exhausted and would just love a day of entertainment. For how long? Two days? A week? A month? I ask because I’m back for part 2 with Melodie Beattie, legendary self-help pioneer and famed author of Codependent No More and we’re talking through her personal Values, Motives & Habits. In regards to spirituality and her overall ethos and purpose of life she said, “My job is to make life interesting, not have life entertained.” Now, I like some good entertainment as much as anyone. I love getting into a great story in a fiction book or movie. Yet I’m aware that when I’m highly interested in something I have little time for entertainment, and when I do read or watch something entertaining, it’s generally about people who are completely interested in something…a cause or mission or purpose. So would you rather voyeuristically watch people interested in something, or be the person interested in something? On a similar note, Melody shared how she keeps a barometer on herself regarding service to others and said, “If I get too selfish my life stops working well” and it showcases her primary interest in…people. I also appreciated her quip to me, saying, “You want the truth or want me to make something up?” She’s as real as they come. Which is why at age 74 one of her personal joys is listening to the Rolling Stones. You can get her newly revised and updated Codependent No More book…anywhere, as it’s currently at the top of the bestseller charts. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We as humans are driven by our appetites. Yet much of the health and wellness culture is around curbing and suppressing our appetites, and for the most part, it’s just a recipe for failure. Today my cohost Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert discuss our personal belief. And it is that we will seldom succeed in squelching our appetites, and we…don’t. I love feeding my appetites and one of the things that adds joy to my life is great food and drink. Our goal is to strive to upgrade and elevate our appetites. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. Regarding appetites, our goal is to try to evolve and grow our appetites to crave more life giving food and less life taking foods. As a pro cyclist my evenings often consisted of walking down to the 7 Eleven in Ft Collins to get a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, and a 4-pack of Reese's Cups for the walk home. I still have that appetite, but today I fill it with some dark chocolate and sea salt covered almonds and a glass of red wine. Would I be better to not snack after dinner at all? Probably. But I’m just not going to. I love feeding my appetites. I’d also like a big bowl of popped corn, but my body doesn’t like corn and eating it disrupts my sleep. So I do some salty nuts or some bean or cauliflower chips to get my salt fix. You get the idea. How can you imbibe your appetites and still have the health and wellness you desire. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are codependent. So am I. So is everyone, to a degree. We are humans and we innately look for the A’s from other people; approval, affirmation, attention, and acceptance. How codependent we are relates to how much we need those A’s to feel ok about ourselves. It’s nice to get them, but are we ok without them? Can we be at peace without desperately needing positive feedback from other people? The answer is yes and this show will discuss how. With me is…Melody Beattie. Yes, the famed author of Codependent No More. Melody is literally cited as one of the pioneers of the self-help movement. Her breakthrough book still remains the resource on codependency and after 7 million sales she’s revised and updated it. Newsweek name Codependent No More one of the four essential self-help books of all time. Melody actually added a chapter on trauma to this revised edition and it’s at the top of the best seller charts, once again. I could not be more honored to have her on the show and as usual, I dig into the questions I have for myself regarding codependency. When I asked her about her own life regrets, she flatly stated, “I regret that I've spent much of my life ragging on myself for not being enough.” This is a thoughtful, pondering discussion with Melody where her compassion for herself and others will pour through. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we look at jobs and businesses our natural inclination is to look to something we’ve learned to do, that people will pay us for. Generally it’s something we’ve done enough to get good at, and we work to get better and hope to make more. What we are significantly missing in the culture is the most important thing for our ultimate success potential; doing something we enjoy enough to gain a level of mastery and sustainability with. We have a majority of people in the workplace and business world engaged in things they have gotten good at. And quite possibly find satisfaction in. But it’s activities that drain them. Not many people, not nearly enough, spend a majority of their time doing the things they truly enjoy and get energy from. Hard work, but inspiring work. This is part 3 of my series on business management guru Patrick Lencioni and his new book, The 6 Types of Working Genius. You can get the book, but you can take the assessment right now at workinggenius.com for only $25. It gives you 6 types of working genius and showcases the two areas of your working genius, that’s the great stuff, the two areas of your working competency, this is often where people are working at what they are good at but it’s not their genius, then the two areas of working frustration…where you’ll see why certain tasks and roles just totally drain and frustrate you. I am with my co host Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar, to discuss this further. We both share our assessments and I share one from my oldest son that showcases why I often missed giving him what he needed from me as a father, so you parents will be interested. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “For all my health, wellness, and fitness minded friends, what is the primary motive (reason) that drives you to stick with your healthy lifestyle plan?” This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…We received a wealth of responses to this question and I’m joined by my co-host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. And close friend. We spent a good while talking through many of the responses. There were definite threads and recurring themes of motive for health and wellness and I believe you'll find yourself inspired and equipped to further commit to your pursuit of being as well as possible. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode…I’m back with heralded business leader, best selling author, renowned speaker and top podcast host, Patrick Lencioni, who I find to be masterfully insightful regarding human behavior and performance, which is what he’s famous for and why he’s one of the most influential people in the business world today. This is my values, motives, and habits episode and you’re about to hear Patrick’s insight into his own behavior and performance and what drives him. A key perspective we land on is how as he strives for success in his life, he continues to work on being, as he says, “peacefully detached from the outcome.” He shares a story and we dig into this very attractive, yet seemingly impossible endeavor. Also in the discussion he shares his desire to conduct himself like the very earliest followers of Jesus. How he went awry in his closest relationships thinking his job was to fix and serve at the sake of his own well being. In sharing about his health and wellness routine he divulges his early participation in running sports was due to childhood wounds he was trying to address, as he was terrified that if he was simply mediocre, he'd go unnoticed by his family. He talks through this further and how it caused him to initially lead his life in a defensive posture, and how he worked out of this perspective. In discussing work values Patrick shares that in his experience the most successful businesses, organizations, and families are quite messy. You can hear him explain this further. We then get more into this concept of being detached from the big outcomes of our life. And we end with Patrick admitting he is trying to discover and engage with things that just give him personal pleasure as he continues to work out of the obligatory feeling of his life being all about service to others and forgetting about himself. If you missed part one of our discussion together where we talked about his new book and assessment, The 6 Types Of Working Genius, find the book anywhere and take the assessment right away at workinggenius.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To be your best self, you need to be doing your best work. The great news is, the product or service of your work focus is not what makes your work great, but the specific tasks and roles you are fulfilling, day in and day out. If they fit you, you’ll flourish in your work and have great joy and satisfaction in your life. If it doesn’t fit you, your work success will suffer, and your mental health will suffer far worse. So how do you know which tasks and roles you should be engaged in? We have a quick and simple test for you to take. My guest today is Patrick Lencioni. Patrick is one of the foremost influencers in business management and his expertise is teams. He’s author of 11 best selling books and most anyone in business in America has read The Five Dysfunctions of a Team. He’s a prolific speaker who stands in front of thousands of leaders each year at business’s greatest conferences. This is the second time I’ve had Patrick on the show and I experience him as one of the more insightful people I know regarding human behavior and performance. He’s just come out with a new book, The 6 Types of Working Genius, which right now is sitting in the top 400 books overall in Amazon, and climbing. Along with the book is an online assessment that takes about 10 minutes, and it spits out…your working genius. Take it right now at workinggenius.com. I have my whole family taking it because I want them working not just at what they are good at and can make money from, but what gives them inspiration and energy for their life. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you were on your own, you’d likely make all the positive health changes you desire. Eat cleaner. Exercise. Meditate. Go to sleep earlier. Do less screens. But you’re not alone. You may have a spouse. Kids. Co-workers. Friends and family. People who are living out the cultural norms. There are the office donuts, birthday cakes, and pizza. Beers after work. A spouse and kids who want their meat and potatoes, and chips while watching a show. The church potlucks. BBQ parties. Someone who labels you a health nut if you abstain from imbibing in it all, or go for a walk or run during your lunch break. And on and on. We as humans most long to fit in and the pressure isn’t just about being weak and folding, it’s often about being kind and not wanting to offend. It’s a very real and present danger we don’t give enough gravity to. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we we tackle this issue. I’m with my co host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. Cultural pressure is not a conspiracy theory, it’s merely humanity and our very nature. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We generally talk about negative things in our life in a way that brings us and those listening to us, further down. When something hard happens to you and you blame, accuse, and criticize, this is what we call venting. This wraps up my series with Whitney Goodman, author of Toxic Positivity, and she is probably the fifth or six therapist I’ve had on the show who cites from much research, that venting only pours gas on the fire. It does not help. But neither does stuffing it. What does? Sharing how you feel. This is at the root issue we are circumventing. When something bad happens to you, the blaming, accusing, and criticizing is just victim response to the truth, which is…you are hurting in some capacity. In Brene’ Brown’s book, Atlas of the Heart, which we discuss in this show, she gives us 87 different emotions we can choose from and from them discuss the issue really at hand. When we discuss how we feel, we can then address the pain and gain ground in reconciling it. And in sharing our emotions, not our criticism, with someone else, instead of also dragging them in and down with venting, we instead evoke their connection and compassion which also helps us instead of further hurting ourselves. Join me and my co host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, as we drill down on this issue and walking it out in our roles as spouses, parents, and co workers. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back for Part 2 with Whitney Goodman, author of Toxic Positivity, to walk through her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive her to guide us in working through our emotions instead of just slapping a happy face on things, and what she does to design a life that fulfills her. Along the discussion I press in on some of the areas and her perspective as a full time therapist and what she is seeing in the culture. We walk through her spiritual values and discuss what she calls an interfaith marriage with her husband and how she feels much of America’s toxic positivity was born in the Christian church she was raised in. In mental health Whitney talks about the toll it’s taking on us all as we gravitate toward strong identification with certain groups and are more disconnected from individuals in our culture and her own striving for awareness as to how her beliefs are affecting her. She decompresses by reading fiction and we discovered we’re both reading some of Colleen Hoover’s books. As for achievements, her leading goal right now with a relatively young marriage and first child is having a strong marriage and kids who like her. Her new book, bestselling book again is TOXIC POSITIVITY: KEEPING IT REAL IN A WORLD OBSESSED WITH BEING HAPPY, and you can find her and over half a million followers on instagram at sitwithwhit. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This show is about figuring out root issues to your health, especially when you are doing so many of the right things. So I have a daughter who eats clean. Cleaner than I do. She works out pretty vigorously near daily. She loves where she lives and her work. She works with a counselor every week on her mental health. She has hope and inspiration. And yet, she has been dealing with increasing discomfort in her guts. Bloating and more. And having skin rashes. And she’s frustrated. Really frustrated. She’s doing the work and not getting the results she wanted. So where do we turn? Advanced diagnostics. Labs. Tests. And not just the basic ones you get from a traditional doctor. I’ve talked with countless people who feel bad, go to a regular doc for lab test and are simply told, “Well, everything looks ok, but we can give you a med for the symptoms.” This is like going to a car mechanic saying your car pulls violently to the left and the mechanic saying, “Well, it all looks ok, but we can rig a bungee cord to your steering wheel to pull it to the right more for you.” Basic lab tests do little more than tell you you aren’t dying. Just yet. Advanced diagnostics go deep and wide and can help detect the deficiencies and errors in our body that are manifesting into us not feeling and performing well. I’m joined by Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine expert who specializes in using advanced labs. And in this actual case, he’s used them to get to root issues for my daughter, that he’s now treating. We’ll talk through advanced labs and diagnostics to help you navigate what might help you get insight into your health. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we challenge the cultural concept of positivity. Meaning our propensity to take a hard circumstance, event, and feeling, and simply spray painting positivity over it. We aren’t making a case for being negative at all, but rather, to accept the hard feelings we encounter, consider them with understanding, and then yes, ultimately move past with greater insight and wisdom to ultimately seek a beneficial outcome. My guest is Whitney Goodman, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who has taken on our concept of positivity and has an instagram following of well over half a million followers who are finding great help from her guidance and encouragement that life is well worth living, but treating it as a continual self-improvement project and bypassing our true feelings doesn’t leave room for a full, quality life. I brought Whitney on the show because I’m a staunch believer in positivity. Zig Ziglar’s famous quote, “Positive thinking won't let you do anything, but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will,” and I believe this. But to jump from a negative experience and right to positive thinking robs us from the growth, learning, and peace we find in between. Whitney has taken her years of work as a therapist studying cultural positivity and now written the book, “TOXIC POSITIVITY: KEEPING IT REAL IN A WORLD OBSESSED WITH BEING HAPPY.” The book is a great dive into how we’ve distorted the concept of positivity, and how we can better handle the hard things in life and ultimately acknowledge them, but not be overwhelmed and controlled by them. Find Whitney Goodman at www.sitwithwhit.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally . Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your...true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our talk spawned by Richie Norton and his new book, Anti-Time management, but digging more into clarifying what our values are and how we craft our day to day activities and tasks to support them. It can get a bit mind boggling to realize how much we do that does not have much to do with what we truly value, and in the same respects how we can miss the value in many worthwhile activities. I have with me, Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and proud son of Zig Ziglar, a patron saint of the self-help movement. As a business coach Tom shares the focus they give to the point of our businesses being to serve our life goals. But we can take this further to claim the point of all we do should be to support our life goals. Our schooling, our relationships, our efforts to make money and even our hobbies and interests. Also of profound interest as we discuss goals, Tom asks the question, “What is worse than not setting goals?” The answer, “Setting the wrong goals and achieving them,” and it got us into discussing how not intentionally setting goals sets us up to achieve the wrong goals. But the heart is digging further into asking ourselves, what we truly value. A quick note of apology, you’ll hear some audio degradation on Tom’s side, just some slight pauses, as we had some lagging internet. I don’t think it will be a deterrent but I’m sensitive to the audio quality we deliver. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and we are talking about how to best guard yourself against illness and disease. We recently got asked about this and we actually addressed it in a show we posted in March 2020 at the beginning of COVID. So I’m reposting it. Forgive the references to the beginning pandemic, but it is still so highly relevant. Everyday we are all exposed to so many opportunities for illness, and genetically or from our lifestyle choices, any one of us could be at the tipping point of a disease propensity already within us, just waiting for an open door. I’m with my co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert. I actually got COVID in March of 2020. For the first time. I came down with it two more times since then. Randy, never has. Yet most of my biometric markers are stronger than his. We can’t fairly state why I got it and he didn’t. I did, however, recover each time. Many people didn’t. So what constitutes your best chances for defense from coming down with an illness or disease, or if you get it, recovering quicker and more fully? That is the essence of this show. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I’m back with Richie Norton, author of Anti-Time Management, to walk through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive him to help us get the most out of our time and design a life that fulfills him and his adventure seeking family. Some highlights from Richie's values, motives, and habits; spiritually he's constantly seeking after knowledge and has expanded his scope of resources. He feels the most valuable concept of the future will be discernment. Relationally his filter for relationships is between transactional and transformational. He wants to create experiences, smile and laugh a lot and hug hard. In health and wellness he has to guard against his propensity to "eat his emotions." He walks a lot, does a lot of push ups and as a true Hawaii resident, he surfs a lot. Regarding mental health he got into talking about burnout not being from working too much, but working at what doesn't inspire and interest you. That stood out as great insight to me. While money is not his primary motive for his work, Richie cites that the lack of it shouldn't keep you from the experiences you desire. I like that way of looking at it. Again, you can find Richie’s book, “Anti-Time Management: Reclaim Your Time and Revolutionize Your Results with the Power of Time Tipping” everywhere, find his podcast at The Richie Norton Show, and his website is richienorton.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we’re charged to stop attempting time management and my guest takes the very concept to task as something never intended to benefit us at all. Instead he masterfully guides us in how to tip time to our advantage. It’s not a hack or a secret but a reawakening as to how we are viewing and budgeting our time, and I’d ask you to consider if your so called time management is working for you? Do you feel efficient? Do you have margin? Are you getting things done that are not just urgent, but important and valuable to you? My guest is Richie Norton and this is his second appearance on my show. Once in a while I find someone who every influencer seems to be influenced by. A recent look at Richie’s social media finds him in pictures with Pat Flynn, Tom & Lisa Bilyeu, Ben Hardy, Chris Ducker, and Chalene Johnson. He doesn’t just know these people, but he does business with them and they look to him for guidance. He’s also just an incredibly inspirational guy who elevates the energy of any place he goes. Richie is an executive coach to CEOs and is featured in Forbes, Bloomberg Businessweek, Inc., Entrepreneur, and Huffington Post. He’s also CEO and Cofounder of PROUDUCT—an INC. 5000 company—a global entrepreneurship solution helping businesses go from idea to market with full-service sourcing, product strategy, and end-to-end supply chain. He is the author of several books and it was his book, The Power of Starting Something Stupid, that got me to invite him on this show the first time. This time it’s his brand new book, “Anti-Time Management: Reclaim Your Time and Revolutionize Your Results with the Power of Time Tipping.” What you’re about to hear is a very thoughtful conversation that begins with Richie observing we as a culture have ever increasing full calendars, but emptier lives. The rest of the conversation is Richie’s guidance in how you can change that, right away. You can find Richie’s book, “Anti-Time Management: Reclaim Your Time and Revolutionize Your Results with the Power of Time Tipping” everywhere, find his podcast at The Richie Norton Show, and his website is richienorton.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others, and today we discuss How To Accelerate Your Wellness By Clarifying The End Result. I’m joined by my co-host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. Most people look at dealing with their health and wellness as a problem or desire and miss the true end result. We don’t want to lose weight because doing so is fun, we want to look better, feel better, and fit in our clothes. Many people don’t want to exercise, but they want to have more muscle or mobility and capacity. Most people don’t want to sleep or meditate or fast from food, but they may desire to do so for and end result. And there is your power. What is the end result you are gunning for? The why? Randy will ask patients at the beginning of treatment if their goal is to be in the next Olympics, or slide into a nursing home in the next few years.The question sounds facetious and few will choose either side, but the point is to consider and decide on where you want to be on that polarized spectrum. It also brings to the surface that most people are just looking at the face-value problems and not giving focus to the most powerful ally in their wellness journey, which is the clarity of and then commitment to a clear, envisioned end result that transcends the mere problem or lack. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I continue the discussion brought forth by Wendy Smith and the message in her book with Marianne Lewis, "Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems.” Here I bring in my frequent co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert to further unwrap this concept. Randy and I have been best friends for over a decade and as we grapple, ponder, and consider life as business owners, spouses, parents, friends, and followers of God we so often come to, as Randy says, “the bother.” The issues are so seldom black and white or right or wrong, so here we take the concept head on and talk about how it plays out in our own lives in all those roles. You’ll hear us talk about how being flexible and considerate of seemingly opposing sides runs the risk of setting double standards, if not coming off outright hypocritical. And it often leads us with just what Wendy and Marianne uncovered, a true dilemma instead of an easy answer. Instead of conclusive beliefs to paint over our lives we have to be present in the moment and what is at stake in any particular circumstance. And ultimately the issue calls us to get very clear on our overall values, while being, again, flexible, in how we may achieve them. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Wendy K Smith, expert on organizational paradoxes and co-author of Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems, and we are walking through her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive her to help us avoid the pitfalls and anxiety of either/or thinking, and what she does to design a life that fulfills her. Which of course includes holding the tensions of…both/and thinking. Some highlights…she shares her Jewish upbringing and rabbis who advocated ongoing conversations where Wendy cites, they rarely came up with conclusive answers. Which of course is highly relatable to her topic of holding the tensions of paradox where it’s just not black and white, right and wrong. She discusses the obvious tensions most of us have with work and family. Her health and wellness goals center around what will help her, “Show up in the world in the most productive way.” For her career, a perspective she strives for is, “It’s not about making the right decision, but about making the decision right.” And even though she’s just had her book come out and is a more than ever sought after speaker, she cites a favorite achievement as of late, witnessing the emotional intelligence and empathy from her 10 year old child. That and more is coming up. Again, you can get Wendy K Smith and Marriane W Lewis’ book, Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems at Amazon or anywhere. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are talking about possibly the number one, easiest way to make an immediate positive impact in your health and wellness, whether it’s losing weight or getting more energy. You ready? Track it. What you track, you just can’t help but improve. I am not a big believer in “hacks”, but if there are any, this may be the one, most true health and wellness hack. The simple act of tracking certain aspects of your daily life will literally result in bettering your health and wellness. It’s simple psychology. If you write down or take a picture of everything you eat every day, for a week, you will almost inadvertently make better food choices. If you track your physical activity every day for a week, you will end the week having done more physical activity, even without being very intentional about it. Awareness changes our behavior and action. In this episode Dr Randy James and I discuss how the simple act of tracking key areas of our lives like Sleep, Heart Rate, Food, Activity and a few others will by proxy elevate your health and wellness. Of course you can go further than mere awareness and take solid action to utilize the data you receive and improve it. Tracking is an incredibly powerful tool and as you will hear in this episode, making it possible to ascertain and improve areas of our lives we would otherwise be ignorant and impotent to address. I can say it is also an absolute propensity of our world’s most successful, influential, and healthy people to track their health and wellness, just as they track and budget their time and money. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We can better solve tough problems and make decisions we feel confident about, by not taking an either-or, black and white, or right and wrong approach to them. We are in a culture and media that is radically doing just that. And yet most truths and daily decisions we must make are not a result of right or wrong issues that we will live or die from, but rather, choices we make where one may prove more beneficial than another. When we hold things as right/wrong, good/bad, and either or we cause ourselves undo anxiety. And further, we are pressured to make one sided decisions without the wisdom we’d benefit from if we didn’t view different perspectives as opposing forces. This show is meant to equip you to make smarter decisions, and with less anxiety and more confidence. With me is Wendy K. Smith, a Harvard educated, award-winning academic and the Dana J. Johnson Professor of Management and faculty director of the Women’s Leadership Initiative at University of Delaware. She is an expert on organizational paradoxes, exploring how leaders and individuals effectively respond to contradictory, yet interdependent demands. She spends her time continually working to better manage the paradoxes of life that we all face. Wendy’s research focuses on strategic paradoxes – how leaders and senior teams effectively respond to contradictory agendas. Not with us, but a co-author of their new book,"Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems" is Marianne W. Lewis who is dean and professor of management at the Lindner College of Business, University of Cincinnati. Marianne too is thought leader in organizational paradoxes exploring tensions and competing demands surrounding leadership and innovation. Again, the book containing the message in the following discussion is Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems which you can find at Amazon or anywhere. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on Dr Benjamin Hardy and the message from his latest book, Be Your Future Self Now. Tom Ziglar joins me today and the conversation veers into Tom calling us to not fall in love with success, but with the habits that create success, and I absolutely agree with the concept. Think about it. The healthiest people I know, and the ones most at peace in their health, are not those that love looking in the mirror at themselves or love the scale, they are the ones who enjoy the daily activities of moving their bodies and procuring and eating whole and healthy foods. They enjoy slowing down to be present. They are in love with the daily habits of health. You can say the same about financial health and success and relational health and so forth. If you want to achieve success in any certain area, you’ll be best served to find habits leading to it, that you truly enjoy and look forward to. For one person with exercise, they may love running indoors on a treadmill with the TV on or a book, while another only enjoys it outside, while another loathes running and looks forward to classes at the gym with friends, while another would far rather chop wood and mow their lawn for physical activity. The point again, is finding habits of growth you enjoy. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my Functional Friday episode and I’m of course with my dear friend and frequent co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. We’re going to talk about nutritional supplements. Are they really necessary for you to spend time and money on, and if so, why? We seldom feel much difference in our immediate health from these expensive pills, powders, and tinctures and they are generally just a hassle to maintain. The compliance rate for taking nutritional supplements is horrific. We heard from a rep it was about 6% after 90 days. My experience says this is true. Traditional medical practitioners downplay the validity of nutritional supplements while the health industry generally way overdoes it and everyone’s supplement is promoted as the magic pill for…everything. Which is a stupid and impossible claim. If you’re not taking any nutritional supplements, we’ll give you some key ones to consider. Conversely if you’re taking a handful a day, or more…you might want to question if you’re really able to assimilate that much. And just because some supplement changed your friend’s life, it doesn’t mean it will do a thing for you. In this episode I believe you’ll hear information that will take some of the doubt, frustration, and confusion away. For most of you, it should help save you money, hassle, and increase the efficacy of any supplements you choose to partake of. I will say, my co host Dr James is a believer in supplements, but quite a minimalist. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Dr Benjamin Hardy to walk through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment. His books have sold hundreds of thousands of copies, and his blogs have been read by hundreds of millions. His latest book is Be Your Future Self Now and was our topic in part one of our discussion, in episode 1047. I actually walked through Dr Benjamin Hardy’s habits for success in March 2018 when I had him on the show, so here we really looked at how his values and habits have changed since then. He is not his future self, four years later. And attesting to the power of really looking at who is is becoming, he shares a lot of his own evolution. Some highlights...spiritually he recognizes his past self was a lot more human doing, than human being, and his continued desire to slow down and...be. This is the top of my list as well. Relationally, even though four years ago he says he was a devoted father, in some ways he had not truly embraced being a parent like he's striving to today, making it more of a priority and sacred role. He is also growing to be much more relationally oriented and collaborative in his life. We get into an interesting discussion he credits Dan Sullivan for bringing to him, of relationally being a buyer more than a seller, and our propensity to all generally be trying to sell ourselves to others. In health and wellness he culminates by admitting he's overall just striving to be better to himself, and what this looks like. Mentally he is working to be less reactive and with money he talks about his chosen perspective of everything happening for you, not to you. You'll hear more in the episode. Ben’s new book, Be Your Future Self Now, can be found everywhere, and check this out, if you’ll go to futureself.com/free, those of you in America can get free Kindle codes and get the book…free! No catch. He just bought a ton of codes and offered them to me to share with you. You can connect with him at benjaminhardy.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are talking about your future self. Who are you becoming? Who do you want to become? And the question is, can you conceptualize and connect with that person right now, and from this connection, drastically accelerate your personal growth and success? I’m with Dr Benjamin Hardy, who you hear me refer to often. His first book, Willpower Doesn’t Work, is at the top of my book referral list. His second book, “Personality Isn’t Permanent” is up there too. His recent book with Dan Sullivan, The Gap And The Gain, is a runaway best seller. His books have sold hundreds of thousands of copies, and his blogs have been read by hundreds of millions. Ben is also the intro story in my forthcoming book which you’ll see…sometime in 2023. This is my third time having Ben on the show, and the occasion is his brand new book, Be Your Future Self Now: The Science of Intentional Transformation. When I talked to him about a year ago he shared his research and piqued my interest with the “End of history illusion”, which we start this episode off talking about, and I think you’ll want to hear about it. As we talked in this episode, what intrigued me as much or more than just trying to become your future self now, was Ben’s concept of how powerful it is for our progress and ultimate success if we’ll connect with our future self. This is something we do pretty well as kids, but after entering into adulthood, we basically lose any perspective on who we are expecting to become. And we so often lose our way. Ben is an organizational psychologist and has devoted significant research to the issue and become a leading expert on the application of the Future Self science. Ben’s new book, Be Your Future Self Now, can be found everywhere, and check this out, if you’ll go to futureself.com/free, those of you in America can get free Kindle codes and get the book…free! No catch. He just bought a ton of codes and offered them to me to share with you. You can connect with him at benjaminhardy.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the ability and capacity to pursue all we desire, and the topic of this episodes is Having The Courage To Live Better. People who live with different health habits than the norm often get labeled as extremist. If you don’t partake of the office pizza or the church donuts or the family potlock and you go for a run during your lunch break or play tennis on your date instead of seeing a movie, you’re a “health nut.” Like you’ve joined a new religion. In truth, this reality and social pressure is enough to deter many people from practicing the healthier habits they would otherwise adopt. A core longing of humanity is to belong, and conforming to our surroundings is a natural desire and reaction. When you join a gang, the entire point is to conform to its ways. We all belong to numerous “gangs” of sorts and we generally accept their subsequent social pressures. Most people have three primary gangs; their immediate family, their workplace, and friends and extended family. Bucking the norms is difficult. But for you to adopt a healthy lifestyle that does not include the norms of our current times, requires seemingly “extreme” choices. We live in a time when characteristics such as kindness, compassion, ethics, and justice seem extreme as well. It may simply come down to the courage to do what is best for yourself and humanity. Which often is not in fact, the norm. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on Kindra Hall and the message from her new book, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life. In this episode I’m joined by my co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor, Functional Medicine expert, and my dear friend to discuss how we create and accept our stories and the conversation veers towards…striving and aspiring, and the tension between being ok and at peace and in essence, content, with the here and now. With who and how you are and what you have, right now. There is a big piece of all of us who can feel tired of the constant striving and just want to be at peace and have joy, now. And to that, we agree and desire as well. And yet, is that enough? Do we just find a good place of comfort and leave it at that. Coast from there on? Or is there a responsibility, to God, to others, to ourselves, to take what we have, and grow and give? Continually? As you’ll hear, we feel there is. The issue is often simply the spirit of our striving. Like the old religious perspective, do we carry our belief like a song in our heart, or a burden on our back? If your striving gets to feeling like a burden, I’d say…stop. Maybe you need a time of rest. Or recalibration. If you are giving and serving and striving in bitterness, acting as a martyr, and wearing yourself out, you’re likely not helping anyone too much. The goal is to give from a full heart. To grow and strive in joy. This is where you’ll find us discussing and grappling with you in this episode. Find Kindra Hall’s book, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life, which was the muse and catalyst of our discussion, anywhere, and connect with her at kindrahall.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with best-selling author and the former Chief Storytelling Officer of SUCCESS Magazine, Kindra Hall, to walk through her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive her to lead us in the stories we write about our lives, and design a life that fulfills her. In episode 1042, the longest show I’ve ever published, Kindra and I talked about…story. Specifically the message in her new book, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life. Here we go behind the scenes into the ever evolving story she is writing in her current life. The Cliff Notes I think you’ll want to hear more about, regarding her spirituality she pondered that her purpose is easy when she understands it, but hard when she doesn’t. A key for her health and wellness is to consider the most essential uses of her time. On mental health, Kindra said she is consistently paying attention to what is working, and what isn’t. And being aware that what did work might not anymore. In work and career we got to talking about our propensity to feel we need to put in a solid week, 40 hours or whatever, when so often, as she said, "I can create magic in only 10." We ended on achievements and I think you'll be curious to hear how Kindra views her own story regarding what she wants to achieve, as she admits that she's currently aware the big achievements so often did not provide as much fulfillment as the achievements she wasn't even looking for, like yesterday's testimonial from a teacher about her child's character. Kindra is the 191st guest I’ve had on my show and is one of the most thoughtful and interesting conversationalist I’ve experienced. Find her book anywhere and connect with Kindra at kindrahall.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cost is one of the primary deterrents many people cite for healthy living. Buying whole foods, nutritional supplements, exercising, and seeking alternative health care simply costs more money and can often lead us to minimizing or abandoning the effort altogether. Then there is the time expense of working out every day and grocery shopping for fresh food and cooking and cleaning. It is not convenient and time is...money. It can all be overwhelming and demoralizing in an already busy life. When it comes to fast food and processed foods, many people who would be willing to eat healthier simply fail due to convenience and time savings. So what do you do? In this episode we talk with empathy, but also with some helpful perspectives and solutions to help you on your journey and desire for health amidst the increased cost of money and time. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all wake up every day and participate in what we feel is simply our reality. Yet it’s truly a storyline we’ve created, or accepted, or feel we are forced to live and in that case, agreed with and submitted to. For you, which is it? This is not some hoodoo guro motivation that life is make-believe and we simply decide to have it be something else better. That is offensive. But it is interesting how we live our daily lives and we let things like marriage, children, getting hired or fired from a job, an injury or even a windfall of money, totally change our story. If that’s the case, can’t we not only do things to change our stories for the better, but can we also change our perspective of our stories right away and make things better? And I have with me, Kindra Hall. Kindra is the best-selling author and the former Chief Storytelling Officer of SUCCESS Magazine, whose work and research teaches individuals and brands to harness and leverage the power of their stories. Her first book, Stories that Stick debuted at #2 on the Wall Street Journal Bestseller List and Forbes said it “may be the most valuable business book you read." Inc.com said her newest book, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life is "the business book you need to read in 2022." I however read this new book, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life and felt it was a must-have conversation for…all of us. As humans. And what follows is my longest interview to date because the topics are so profoundly important. Find her book anywhere and connect with Kindra at kindrahall.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on Elliott Bisnow, co-founder of the Summit Series events, part festival, part personal development conference. His book, Make No Small Plans, gives focus to the entrepreneurial journey, and the power of hosting and attending events. One of the masters in both categories who I know personally, is Dan Miller, author of 48 Days To The Work You Love and host of the 48 Days podcast. I know him personally as…my Dad. I asked him to listen to my show with Elliot, episode 1038, then join me to discuss it. You’re about to hear our conversation. As this is the Self-Help(ful) show and my focus is just that, this episode addresses some of why we want self-help, and it’s to grow ourselves and live out our values, which we do, or want to do, in our work. And being an entrepreneur is a great way to, help ourselves. So here talked about what evidence you look for in being an entrepreneur. We then discussed what makes for great events in this day and age and how Dan has done it with so many events where it was more family gathering than seminar. A week prior to this recording we attended a podcast convention together and we share what we learned and the opportunities in both podcasting and events. Then we dwelled a good bit on just that, opportunity. In podcasting, event hosting, and so many areas of business endeavors, things are evolving at a more rapid pace than ever. The good news is it leaves the door open for innovation and entry for anyone who comes in savvy. A reminder you can find Elliott Bisnow’s book, No Small Plans, anywhere, and connect with him and his events at summit.co. Dan Miller you can find at 48days.com or his podcast, 48 Days. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the ability and capacity to pursue all we desire, and today we discuss the sensitive and actually volatile topic of your health being your fault. Your genetics matter. Heck, you could be born with a severe deformity. You could have been dealt a bad hand. Which means you must do harder and work more than someone else to be at your best capacity. And your best capacity may be less than someone else’s and even less than the norm. The good news here however is simply how much power and control you do however, have over your health and wellness. Why did we get to the place culturally of not wanting control and responsibility for our health? Would you rather know you have significant power to help yourself feel and be better? Also, the biggest area of blame most of us have regarding our health and wellness is simply ignorance. What we don’t know. But again, this is great news, as we are highly capable of learning. I encourage you to brave up and listen to this episode and you may very well find a new level of hope and confidence in helping you feel and perform better, so you can do what you want to do. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Elliott Bisnow to walk through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive him to produce the massive Summit Series personal development events, and design a life that fulfills him. Elliotts life is spent with the elite of self-help and business success and he has some incredible insight he puts in place for his own success. Such as using meditation as a tuner for the brain. His exercise is being a sparring partner for elite tennis players. On the health and wellness front, he battled bad asthma until doing a dietary cleanse, basically an elimination diet, and his asthma disappeared. His daily decision making process is focused on making decisions that will create less stress in the future. In business he talks about how we do business being more important than what we do in business. And regarding money and his own success he places more value on not wanting things, than what more he wants. It’s a quality discussion. You can get the book, Make No Small Plans, which we discussed in episode 1038, anywhere, and find Elliott and his pals at Summit.co and info on their November 2022 event I’m looking to attend. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We take a bit of a detour from pure self-help in this episode. I started off with the story of a guy who wanted to be an entrepreneur, yet had no idea how to be, and was as he said, “socially uncalibrated,” which in his case meant he was the guy always trying to sell you something that everyone avoided. His first two attempts at being an entrepreneur, completely failed. Completely. Meaning he created a business and didn’t make one sale. It’s a great story for anyone who feels out of their depth or who is meeting literally zero success in some endeavors. My guest, is Elliot Bisnow. Elliott’s somewhat ridiculous story takes him from literally zero, to now being co-founder of Summit Group, which began and still includes the Summit Series events that are as much festival as self-help conference. They’ve held 250 of the events, loaded with celebrities, thought-leaders, billionaires and politicians. And lots of people like you and me. The event has hosted luminaries like Jeff Bezos (bay-zos), Richard Branson, Jessica Alba, Shonda Rhimes, Brené Brown, and Al Gore in some of the most beautiful places on earth like Playa del Carmen, Mexico, Squaw Valley, California, and Washington, D.C. In this talk though, we really got into discussing the nuances of what makes the events so successful, as opposed to all the events you are used to attending. How they focus on who is attending and where the event takes place, even more than who is speaking. So if you have any interest in holding events, whether paid for as a business, or even just socially, you’ll want to hear this. We even talk about what to look for in events as an attendee. Just really intriguing. A little more on Elliott, he’s a startup investor, having made almost 50 early stage investments, including Uber, Coinbase, Warby Parker & Allbirds. At the start of the show in a moment, you’ll hear he’s talking to me from Powder Mountain ski resort in Utah, America’s largest ski resort which he is co-owner of. Elliott and his three biz partners recently published the book, MAKE NO SMALL PLANS, which entails the again, fairly ridiculous story of how four, very average guys, created such a successful company after doing so many things wrong. I think you’ll find great comfort and come away feeling you can be as clueless, and successful, as they have been. The story really inspired me to think bigger than I have as of late. You can get the book, Make No Small Plans, anywhere, and find Elliott and his pals at Summit.co. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The title “How To Feast On Fasting” is meant to help us change our paradigm. Look, I adore food and eating. I’m generally always looking toward my next meal. I enjoy it so much I won’t waste the effort or calories on just any food. I want quality food and excellent tastes. I also don’t like to deprive myself, and in my perspective, I literally don’t. I do however, often delay. I look at fasting this way. I grew up with fasting being a spiritual discipline, which is surely can be. I also know of some radical puritans who abstain from many pleasures as a lifelong discipline. Great for them. That’s not me either. I look at it more mechanically. Most of us are running on too much anxiety and cortisol, we eat on the run and thoughtlessly, and we are very, very often eating foods that our body struggles to deal with and a lot of inflammatory ingredients like gluten, dairy, sugar, and chemicals. So think of it like your car overheating and realize most of us have some overheating going on internally in our gut and digestion. What do you do when a car is overheating on the highway? You pull over and let it cool down. You have to. Or it will blow. Think of fasting this way. Whether you do some intermittent fasting and eat less often, or go an entire day. Or two. Or five. You are simply letting your body recover from digesting. Mentally as well though, we can fast from all varieties of things for the same reason, or just to increase our gratitude. I’m joined by my co host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert at truelifemedicine.com. While we don’t expect to get you excited about fasting, I think you’ll find yourself better able to consider the benefits and find ways to do it that you can handle. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Series wrap up on Andy Norman and his book, Mental Immunity. Here I bring on my frequent co-host, Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and son to Zig Ziglar, to talk about this concept of how we view our beliefs. What came out on the discussion was a question of what is more important. Our beliefs, or relationships? In our culture now that is arguing and polarizing about beliefs, what we most have is just a fight from two warring sides. And how similar is it often in our personal relationships? No one is considering the other, they are just arguing their side. Without putting the relationship first, it’s hard to find validity for even making an effort. We lead off discussing a Facebook post Tom made after listening to my initial talk with Andy in episodes 1033, where Tom said, "To reject unconditional love is to embrace hate." Think about that? As you’re about to hear, this was from talking about how we view and fight for our beliefs. You’ll want to hear more and see how you feel about the statement. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Andy Norman to walk through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive him to help us create mental immunity and consider our beliefs, and design a life that fulfills him. Previously in episode 1033 we talked about the message in Andy’s book, Mental Immunity: Infectious Ideas, Mind-Parasites, and the Search for a Better Way to Think. Andy is striving to help people develop immunity to bad ideas, and my focus with him was looking at how we define and embrace our beliefs. Here we cover Andy’s personal values and habits. The very things from which his own beliefs are derived from. He discusses how he sifts his own ideas through a filter of asking if it’s actually useful or true. Relationally he talks about “emotional dislocation” and we banter a bit about the issue of “objective reality.” Spiritually he cites his upbringing simply expected a devotion to serve a greater good and this still guides him today. You can find Andy’s book Mental Immunity anywhere and connect with him at andynorman.org. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have a story for you. A case study of health turnaround and success for you. Dan Miller is the bestselling author of “48 Days To The Work You Love” and a prolific writer, speaker and coach. However at the end of 2018 at age 71 he found himself barely able to work. He shares the incredible amount of resources he sought for help, including his Primary Care Physician simply stating, “Hey, you’re getting old, make peace with it.” Today he is back to more energy, vitality and overall wellness than he’s experienced in many years. He said, “I didn’t simply get back to where I was before my decline, I’ve far surpassed it.” As you’ll hear in the show, he’s now excitedly finalizing two new books for his publisher and planning out the next 20 years of his productive life. It’s no miracle. It’s just the basics. It’s the things you can do too. Now at age 72, I’d pit his cognitive abilities and much of his physical abilities as well, against the average 50 year old. I believe you’ll relate to much of what you’ll hear in this candid conversation between Dan, Dr Randy James, and myself, as you found out…how Dan did it. What the story is.. And for disclosure, Dan is my Dad! Many of you will know him from his top ranked “48 Days” podcast. You can find him at 48days.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices