The Kevin Miller Podcast

You have some giftings. Some inherent skills and talents. Or think of it this way, you have some things that come to you easier than they do to others. I can look at each of my kids and tell you what abilities seem to come more naturally for some than others, right out of the womb. That doesn’t make them an expert but it showcases the areas they will more likely be able to achieve mastery in. The thing is, what comes fairly easy to us we generally devalue. It doesn’t seem so impressive to us. One because it is just easier, and two, we often end up around other people who can do what we do well. When I was a pro cyclist it wasn’t that impressive to me, cause I was always around other pro cyclists and was focused on all the guys who were better than I was. You have some natural giftings and talents. Once you become aware of them, you most start honing them. Then you’ll serve yourself well to figure out how to work at them. Not all of them. I think I have a lot of giftings and some I don’t care to monetize, they are just for my enjoyment or even just for my family. But finding a gift you can monetize is…glory. In this episode I’m back with Japan’s #1 self-help guru, Ken Honda, author of Happy Money which was the focus of our first show together. This is my Values, Motives, & Habits episode where we go behind the curtain of Ken’s life. When we talked about the category of career this was Ken’s primary focus, helping people find their gifts and monetize their gifts. He finds it to be a primary source of, happy money. When you work at something you enjoy and find great value in, you are happier with the money you get as a result, and even happier to spend it, manage it, save it, and invest it. This focus stood out to me, but you’ll also hear Ken Discuss topics such as he he sees money as spiritual. His focus on relationships of what he can do for another person, which sounds pithy, but belies the fact we generally are in front of another person thinking about our own needs. Health and wellness is a challenge for Ken as he says he loves American food, hamburgers and fries, and in his culture is teases as a chubby guy. Mentally he struggles with the world's suffering which he has a sensitive heart for, and works to bolster himself so he can better handle it. As a celebrity in Japan he is often noticed out in public and takes great delight in striking up conversations with fans and getting to know them. I've already gotten feedback on our first discussion together, with people attesting to the joy in hearing Ken Honda's happy demeanor and desire to serve others. You can find Ken Honda’s book, Happy Money, anywhere, and connect directly with him at Kenhonda.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There was a time before money when we gathered, harvested, and produced what we needed. Or we took what we gathered, harvested, and produced and traded with someone else for something they had. It was an exchange. Today we gather, harvest, and produce a product or service that is sold for money. And we are given money. And we pay money for most all the product and services we need. Money is simply a unit of exchange. And yet it is anything. Anything but simple. And today many of us, most of us, have some negative feelings toward money. From irritation towards suicide, and most of us have negative feelings that keep a level of anxiety going and it's eating away at us, little buy little and eroding our mental and physical health and our overall wellness and success. My guest today is a self-help legend and celebrity in Japan where he's sold nearly $9 million books about this topic. Ken Honda is the author of Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace with Your Money. But it's not money Ken is concerned about, it's your happy soul. This is why he has most of his own country following him, and now is claiming hearts around the world, including now, America. He joined me via Zoom from near Tokyo and we just had a super sweet time together. So much so that he requested my book and will be endorsing it for the Japanese market. I think you'll find a significant paradigm shift in your perspective on money and a new hope for feeling better about it. I did. Truly. There are products and services we don't want to spend money on. Such as, we don't want to give $1,000 to a car mechanic to fix something that went wrong on our car. So we give the mechanic money with sad feelings. Sad energy. And the mechanics is on the receiving end of getting sad money. Would you like to change this perspective, as the customer and the mechanic? Listen in to Ken Honda. He's going to help. We start off addressing the common negative feelings many people have towards money, and turn it on its head. It's not money we are upset with. It's really the work we don't like and aren't proud of, that we are doing to earn money. It's more about how we are earning our money than the money itself. I think you will be so stoked with this episode you'll want to share it with everyone you know. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue on with our Functional Medicine questions from listeners for Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert who addresses questions from his experience with thousands of patients striving to get past the mere symptoms of their health and discern the root cause issues so they can have true…wellness. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this episode, Ted asks how to maintain muscle tone after 65. Beth feels most successful people have coaches and asks how to find a coach you can trust? Wayne wants to know about testing options like food allergies. Mark shares about finding a functional medicine provider in his area, and Don asks how to kick chronic ear infections. Again, there should be a topic or three that is highly relevant to you or someone you love. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi Self-Helpful listeners. This is a new format of episode and it’s just you and me. While I may be your guide here on the podcast, digging into self-help messages with today’s more important influencers in the world of personal growth and development, you know I’m also a fellow traveler on my own journey to grow and progress in my life. With that in mind, I’m here now to share a short episode with you on how a recent message is influencing my own life, and see if you relate. I’m like you and living in my own story and these podcast guests and messages change my story. So I’m calling this part 4 of my series on Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller’s book, Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. There are some significant points from the message I’m really pondering and grappling with regarding my own story and life experience.. This concept of, “It’s all in your head” is dramatically hurtful and hopeful to me. Walk with me a minute as I explain. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In minding our mindset and thinking about our thinking, we bring into question how much of our perspectives and even beliefs are based on the fictional stories our brains write to protect us. This sounds minimizing of our so called realities, but I just want you to think about occurrences which have happened in your life, things you’ve experienced with other people, and how they later recount the reality that happened, and you’re standing there thinking, “That is not at all what happened!” As you had a very different experience. And that’s the issue. Something happens, and we all experience it differently. The thing DID happen. But we all perceive it differently. It means different things to you. What excites one person may terrify another. And this type of natural reaction in our minds is normal. The opportunity we are hitting on here is in accepting that a good percentage of our reality and therefore beliefs are made up in our mind from how we’ve experienced things. Our mind and experiences and memories are not made up of facts. They are made up of stories. And as such, we can evolve to consider a bigger story and more context and possibility, and this can radically alter our lives. This is part 3 on Michael Hyatt’s book, Mind Your Mindset, and today I asked a special guest to co-host with me, Broadway and film star Renée Marino who I did a series with here on the podcast just recently regarding her book and message, “Becoming A Master Communicator.” I asked Renée to come discuss this topic with me because what and how we communicate, her specialty, is ultimately a reflexion of our mindset, and also because we just had such resonance and energy in our previous shows, and I got such good feedback about it, I wanted to bring her back on. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been talking about the need to mind our mindset, which is the title of Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller’s new book, with their research showcasing a majority of what we think and believe is not fact, but the stories our brain creates to help us make sense of things and ultimately protect us. I’m back for part two with Michael to walk and talk through his personal Values, Motives, and Habits. We begin on spirituality and he shares his appreciation of his faith community helping him not be left alone with his own stories and benefitting from their input and correction. It struck me how important relationships are as an overall antidote to getting lost and isolated in my own stories and beliefs that again, per Michael and Megan’s research, is not fact but the story my brain has written. I need input from friends and guides and coaches and therapists to balance me out. This is acute to me as in my own introversion and self-protection can drive me to isolate and be left alone to get lost in my own stories and i have to proactively seek out and share my stories with others to keep me from getting lost. Michael also shares about his desire for loyalty in relationships, dialing up his energy to live longer and better for his family, how he starts his day, getting bored with his work and liking to change things up, how a financial advisor my dad recommended to him gave him a new lease on his outlook on money, and how he feels his non-productive time leads him to his greatest productivity. Again, Michael Hyatt’s new book is called Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. You can get the book and his MIND YOUR MINDSET COURSE for free at mindyourmindsetbook.com/selfhelpful. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue the question and answer session from our last Functional Friday episode and here we address listener inquiries about balancing exercise in regards to our effort and always killing ourselves. Losing momentum is a big topic, as anyone with a new health & wellness initiative will…lose momentum. We address the faith you have in doing what you set out to do, how to stop nervous eating, and end with a biggie…how to kick the sugar habit. Which nobody really wants to do, including me. I’m with my fun Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and just as with the last Functional Friday episode, much of what we discuss are examples Randy shares from first hand experiences with thousands of patients who pay cash to have him get to the root problems of their issues. Not everyone can get in to work with Dr James, but you can inquire at truelifemedicine.com or just email them directly at [email protected] The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Just think positive. It’s all in your head. Look on the bright side. Just write a better story.” Who here has had one of these cliches spoken to them and it just pissed you off or deflated you? It feels so affirming and even offensive to an honest experience and feeling we’ve had. The events we experience in life are…our truth. They happened and we were there and what we experienced is just, true. And yet right there is the problem, and opportunity. What we experience is just how our brain processed the event. As you’ll hear in this episode, two people are in the woods and a bear walks past their camp. One is ecstatic about experiencing a bear in the wild while the other is terrified of the possible danger because they had a friend who was hurt by a bear. What is true? They saw a bear. The rest of the experience is just what they thought based upon their personal perceptions. This is our life. A bit of fact and the rest we make up around it. With that in mind, we have the opportunity to question what we think and feel and work to consider a bigger and more reasonable reality than our negative propensities often manufactures. This isn’t just an idea, this is brain science, and my guest is Michael Hyatt and this is my fourth time having him on the show. Michael was CEO of Thomas Nelson publishing and today is a prolific author of wisdom and leader and mentor to a lot of the celebrity guests I’ve had on this show. Michael has had several New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and USA Today bestselling books, including Platform, Living Forward, Your Best Year Ever, Free to Focus, The Vision Driven Leader, and Win at Work & Succeed at Life. But this new book written by him and his daughter Megan, is top shelf for me. The book is called Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. But I ask you to wait right there. This again is not just another pithy swipe at just trying to put a silver lining on things. You’re going to hear Michael site scientific research on how our brain literally takes any incident, let’s call it an objective reality, then your neurons go to work concocting a story around it so you can make sense of it, but what is really mind blowing to realize is the primary story your brain goes to work creating is a story that will protect you. This makes sense evolutionary when you are literally often in survival mode. But if you truly grasp that life is happening and your imperfect brain, and we’ll get into that, goes to work doing what it can with what it has, which is not everything needed, to create a story that protects you in the moment. This is why you hear a friend or your spouse tell a story of something you both experienced it and you are sitting there wondering what on earth they are talking about. You were there and that is not at all what happened, right? Well. It’s not right. Or wrong. It’s the story your brain wrote. And if this is the case, much of the trauma and limitations and negative beliefs we have about ourselves in reference to what we have experienced, or what we think we have experienced…are in question. And maybe, we are capable of more. This is the episode. Get Michael’s book you also get his MIND YOUR MINDSET COURSE for free, it’s normally $479. mindyourmindsetbook.com/selfhelpful. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If we are really honest, we begin most relationships with an agenda in mind. A transaction. We are wanting something for ourselves out of it. I know many people will reject that, and I reject their rejection. We either are hoping for something from the other person, or what we are doing for them makes us feel good about ourselves. Which is ok! Our focus today, is before you seek to get anything from anyone in a relationship, you need to earn the right. And in a relationship, this usually takes a while. But most people start relationships by talking about themselves or trying to solidify an opportunity, whether it’s a job, a date, a new friendship or a work opportunity. And they do it prematurely, before they’ve actually made any true, meaningful connection and in truth, provided some value to the other person. This is part three on Renée Marino and her message on becoming a master communicator. This is my peer discussion my co-host is Dan Miller. One, because he’s a professional communicator. Two, because he and my mom met Renée at an event put on by a big publisher and they texted me saying I just had to have her on the show, which I’ll be forever grateful for. Three, because as most of you know, Dan is my Dad, and we have great conversations together and as you’ll hear at the top of the show, I credit him with schooling me as a kid in how to communicate and win friends and influence people. I cite it as the best education I ever received and it’s very much why I find myself now with a top ranked podcast. We got overwhelming feedback about my first two episodes with Renée Marino, so I really encourage you to check them out if you haven’t yet. You can find Renée’s new book, "Becoming a Master Communicator,” anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. You can find Dan Miller at 48days.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “If you could get insight and help into an area of your personal health and wellness, where would it be? What would you ask?” The responses were very candid and covered a wide range of issues. So many, we are doing two parts to this Q&A. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this Q&A episode we go deep regarding hormones, nutrition, and screen time. We, is myself and my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. Much of what we discuss are examples Randy shares from first hand experiences with thousands of patients who pay cash to have him get to the root problems of their issues. On that note, while not everyone can get in to see him, I frequently hear about new patients working with him who heard him here on the Self-Helpful podcast. You can connect with him at truelifemedicine.com or just email them directly at [email protected]. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we think of great relationships we inherently think of being such a great and attractive person that others are just drawn to us. I think we are errantly programmed in grade school where it literally is a popularity contest. If you’re big or strong or pretty or a star quarterback, you are voted homecoming and prom royalty. This doesn’t work in the real world where we grow up and actually want to feel connected to people and if someone can’t do that we don’t care what their skills and looks. Think of the people in your life you feel cared for by. What is the common denominator? They listen to you. They care about your life and opinions. You matter to them. So do you want more or better relationships? They don’t come from telling people how great you are. They come from listening to others and helping them feel great about themselves. I’m with Renée Marino for part 2 to walk and talk through her personal Values, Motives, and Habits. In part 1 we hit on the key message from her book, Becoming a Master Communicator. Renée is a Broadway star and played the lead female role in Clint Eastwood's, Jersey Boys. She knows…communication. I discuss her personal relationship values she led off with just this...listening. Her goal is to be what she calls, a "complete listener." Listen in to hear how she defines this. She shares her recent efforts with inner child work. Her health and wellness goals center around being a powerful communicator with herself and giving focus to her self-worth, and the dangers in her career if she tied her identity and worth to the casting directors opinion of her. At the end in asking Renee about the things she does just to give herself joy and inspiration, she cites dancing, and singing, and you get a treat, as she gives us a stanza from "Someone to Watch Over Me." You can get Renee’s book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At the end of the day, at the end of our life, what matters is meaningful relationships. What purpose in living would you find if you woke up tomorrow as the only person left on earth? Now, what makes up healthy relationships? Think about it. It's communication. A car will go nowhere if it doesn't have wheels. The wheels of any relationship, is communication. And like any skill, we aren't just naturally an expert. Communicating well is a learned skill. Would you like to increase the health and success of your relationships? There is no better way to do it quickly and effectively than learning how to communicate better. So in this show I'm with Renée Marino. Renée is a bonafide Broadway star, singing, acting, and dancing in West Side Story, Pretty Woman, and Jersey Boys. Her lead role in the latter caught the eye of Clint Eastwood who took her from the stage and cast her for the lead female role in his film, Jersey Boys. Renée's livelihood is communicating. She must connect with and move the audience, and she's a master. Following the film, Renée turned her attention to the professional and personal world and is showing us the heart and skill of real communication. The kind that does just what Renée does on stage, on film, and in her personal life...truly connects us with others in a meaningful way that moves them to engage with us. We start talking about her growing up in New Jersey in an Italian American family where communication was their love language, taking her first steps on stage, and even into her marriage to an introvert and how they honor each other's styles of communication. As you'll quickly hear, I don't know that I've ever connected and resonated more with a guest on the show, which attests to Renée's skill of connecting through communication. You're going to enjoy this. Renée has culminated her methodology of communicating in her book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" which you can get anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We tend to think of our brain as a static tool we use for our life, not as a muscle we can grow and increase the capacity and ability of. We’re talking about increasing the power of our brains, something we can all do. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. We will address behavioral problems like ADHD, cognitive decline like dementia and alzheimers, and even traumatic brain injury. The first part of the show is relevant for us all, then we get into those specific pathologies. Pathologies that are primarily treated symptomatically with the perception that wherever the brain is, is where it will remain and decline and the best we can do is use pharmaceuticals to try and slow things down or mask them. We have far better news and testimonials to the true possibilities. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine yourself stepping onto a tennis court, golf course, or dance floor for the first time and immediately having correct form and performing perfectly. It’s a dumb concept as we all know it’s impossible. To even be decent requires a good bit of training and practice. Now think of all the relationships in your life. Did you have training in how to relate well? Did you practice specific relational tactics and techniques in order to be a great listener, conversationalist and expertly hone your personal relationship skills? It’s doubtful. To make matters more challenging, we actually, all, had some poor relationship skills taught to us so we come into all relationships with some poor and unhealthy form. To start improving we must first audit ourselves. This is part three of my series on Nedra Glover Tawwab and her brand new book, Drama Free. In this episode I’m joined by my frequent co-host, and brother, Jared Angaza. Yep, full blood brother and different last name. I asked Jared to join me because he’s done so much work in his own relational journey and he understands the challenges, and the benefits. We really give focus to the need and opportunity of getting clear on your relational dysfunctions. Even in the absolute best of families with great love, acceptance, and support, there are no perfect people. And as you are imperfect, you will likely adopt unhealthy perspectives around some relational concepts regardless. So getting your learned and adopted dysfunctions on the table is the first step in you having drama free relationships, as Nedra is leading us. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. You can find her on Instagram where 1.6M people are following her relational guidance. And find her new book, Drama Free, anywhere. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a renowned and prolific therapist, Nedra Glover Tawwab habitually sits with patients who are suffering today from decisions they made yesterday, last week and decades ago. So when I asked her where she’s most at risk for jeopardizing her own mental health, she shared it was in not caring for her future self. I think we can all relate to that. I’m back with Nedra to talk about her Values, Motives, and Habits. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert who celebrities and 1.6M people on Instagram turn to for relational guidance. Her new book is called Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. In this episode we start off with spirituality and Nedra talks about her efforts to find peace in her busy, taxing days. Nedra said she finds kindness very spiritually fulfilling. Relationships is her area of expertise, you can catch her on Red Table Talk talking with Jada Pinkett Smith and her family on how to set boundaries. In addition of course to having healthy boundaries, Nedra gives focus to each relationship and really considering what she wants the relationship to be like and being aware of her expectations. Regarding health and wellness she tries to eat clean and exercise but unashamedly loves candy. In her work and increasing success she is looking at how to better scale her business. With money she questions what is enough and is keen on having more conversations around money. And last with personal interests she shares how she is a very aesthetic person and finds great joy in deciding how she'll dress and present herself on any given day and she finds great joy in creating beautiful and calming environments, whether it's her office, home or yard. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you don’t really like your job or a person you’re in relationship with, the negative thoughts unconsciously affect your actions and behaviors and you end up sabotaging things and you make everything worse. Friends, this is a primary culprit in your efforts to be fit and well. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and I want you to think about these words; Food. Dieting. Exercise. When you read or hear those words, what feelings arise? Excitement or dread? Pride or shame? Guilt? We find so many people desiring to improve their health, get fit, and lose weight, but there are often negative feelings about these very things that sabotage their efforts. This show is about being aware and getting them on the table, so to speak. Not to eradicate them however. As you’ll hear in the show, often these feelings have roots back in childhood our young adulthood and they run deep. Maybe you can truly overcome and erase them. But we believe more immediate overcoming can be had by figuring out how to manage the negative feelings and move beyond them even as they still exist. Thus awareness and management is our primary objective. As Functional Medicine is a root issue methodology, this topic is foundational to your journey to wellness. I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our recent episode series was regarding the longest scientific study ever on happiness, which showcased that our greatest source of happiness comes from relationships. Yet our greatest struggles are often in relationships, so that is where we are going now. If you are in relationship with anyone, you likely have some, or a lot of unhealth in the relationship. So I’ve brought an expert. A year and a half ago I had Nedra Glover Tawwab on the show for her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace. This was a look internally at ourselves and shoring ourselves up for good relationships. Now Nedra has a brand new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. We dig deep into the relational issues that we all tend to just settle for and expect we have to endure long-term. Or we allow to actually destroy a relationship. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Her expertise is in helping people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. This is why I had her on the show, boundaries and relational assertiveness have never really existed in me. Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show and her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice. When I had her on the show 1.5 years ago she had 500k followers on Instagram. Today she has ove 1.6M who are tuning in for her relational counsel. I’m honored to have had her back for a long journey into the hard relational issues we seldom reconcile. This is a hopeful episode. A note, after the 1 hour mark we get into some sensitive topics I don’t think you’ll want to miss. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The results of the longest scientific study on happiness showed us the primary source for our happiness, today and over our life, is relationships. Obviously not the bad and toxic relationships, but the good, healthy and fulfilling ones. Which of course then begs the big question of what makes a good, healthy, and fulfilling relationship? This is part three on Robert Waldinger and a peer discussion on the study he shares in his book, The Good Life. My co-host is Tom Ziglar. Tom is CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar, the legend who inspired us that all we do is second to the relationships we have. Opening this discussion on the topic of what makes good relationships and Tom said, trust. I’d ask you to think of your best relationships and consider the level of trust, but in truth, the concept may be more apparent when I ask you to think of your most strained relationships and ask if trust is at the root of the issue? I suspect you’ll find it is. So for us then, a key understanding is what does and does not create trust in relationships? What you’ll find out is there are many thing we unknowingly do and don’t do that erode our trust with others and create relational downfalls. Listen in to get informed. Find Robert Waldinger’s book, The Good Life, anywhere you get books. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stress is depicted as the devil of our time. Everyone is stressed out and suffering from too much stress and the thing we want most as a culture is less stress. Our levels of anxiety are at an all time high as if it was a wartime scenario and the pathological manifestations continue to skyrocket. The thing is, however, stress itself isn’t a bad thing. It’s the body’s appropriate response to pressure and tension. The stress of working out and exercise is desperately needed by our bodies. It’s what makes us stronger and/or helps us maintain our strength so we don’t atrophy. But we stress our muscles and lungs, then recover. We can’t stay in a constant state of stress. Mentally is no different. When we are stressed mentally it’s not necessarily a bad thing. In a moment of crisis or challenge it’s the body’s way of dealing with the issue. And then, we need to recover. And there are often times when we are in a state of stress that in health, we should actually be a good bit more calm about. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, to discuss the good and bad of stress. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My recent show with Dr Robert Waldinger focused on the world’s longest scientific study of happiness. If you heard part 1 in episode 1095, you heard the results are…relationships. So it’s no surprise when I ask Bob what his relational values are, that he cites as a priority…his own social fitness. This is my Values, Motives & Habits show and I walk with Bob through the key aspects of his life. Bob is professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital. His TED titled, “What makes a good life?” has over 43 million views and I highly recommend you check it out. We talk about the role spirituality played in people's happiness, including his own. He's been married for 36 years and we discuss quantity vs quality time together. For health and wellness Bob strives to follow Neal Maxwell's guidance of "Never giving up what you want most for what you want today," though we share a strong inclination toward dark chocolate that he moderates to keep his weight where he wants it. He does share that taking care of one's health is one of the two predictors of happiness. He addresses his mental state by meditating and is actual a Zen master and teaches meditation all over the world. He admittedly enjoys his work and is involved in a lot and works a bit more than he should. Regarding finances he views money as neutral after basic needs are met, but regarding the study on happiness cites that having money often gives people a feeling of freedom. I asked Bob about his personal interests and pursuits and he framed the question around what he does to create energy for himself, which I love and am adopting for the show from now on. He shared that he loves talking about interesting ideas and brainstorming, we discussed the concept of flow, and he recently started taking singing and Spanish lessons. Bob’s co-authored book, The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness, has just been released. Find it wherever you get your books, and connect with Bob at robertwaldinger.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nothing sells more these days than the hope and promise of happiness. We are desperate for happiness because apparently we’re not finding it enough. We look for it in our money, possessions, entertainment and experiences. Now I bring you, literally the world’s longest study on…happiness. And the solution to our need is not surprising. The root of our happiness is…relationships. That’s it. After 80 years of studying generations of people, what gives us the most happiness is relationships. Which is a simple answer, but not an easy one. Many of our relationships bring us more trauma, and stress, and sadness than happiness. So what’s the real story? My guest is Robert Waldinger, a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School who is director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital which conducted this study. If you aren’t aware of Bob, you may have come across his TED talk, titled, “What makes a good life?” which has over over 43 million views. Bob is also cofounder of the Lifespan Research Foundation. He received his AB from Harvard College and his MD from Harvard Medical School and is a practicing psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, and he directs a psychotherapy teaching program for Harvard psychiatry residents. Bob is also a Zen master (Roshi) and teaches meditation in New England and around the world. From this study, Robert has now co-authored the book, The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness, which is being released the day after this episode goes live. Find The Good Life wherever you get your books, and you’re about to hear us discuss the highlights on what provides happiness that were most profound to me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The focus of this show is increasing fertility. Fertility is a growing issue just as so many others. When there are systemic pathologies within us, they can manifest in many ways. Fertility is one. And a quick note, if pregnancy is not a current area of interest for you, please consider passing this on to anyone you know who is trying to get or stay pregnant. They need to hear this. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. I’m with my co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and we began the show talking about infertility, but getting pregnant is step one, then just as important of course is staying pregnant and avoiding miscarriage and premature birth. Nearly 20% of couples are not able to conceive and another 10-20% miscarry. Then about 10% have premature births. Folks, that’s nearly 50% of all couples who will experience significant difficulty ending up with a full term, healthy baby. This show is paramount regarding pregnancy. As you’ll hear, we stumble into an issue that astounds me regarding what causes our bodies to say “No!” to getting and staying pregnant. This is news you will seldom hear regarding the subject. The Self-Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With every guest I have on this Self-Helpful podcast, I ask them about their personal Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life, following the seven spokes in the Ziglar Wheel of Life. In this show I bring my key co-hosts back to talk through our highlights in each spoke for the year. Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar Inc and son of legendary motivator Zig Ziglar, and Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, are with me and we all share our highlight learnings, ponderings, and resources in the seven spokes, which include Spiritual, Relational, Health & Wellness, Mindset, Career, Money & Personal Interests. For the three of us, our daily vocations are almost exclusively investigating and leading others in self-help. Tom works with many executives and coaches, Randy works with patients, and I work with you, my Self-Helpful audience, and select individuals I coach. But here I turn the tables on us. What did we most pursue and grapple with, and what resources did we utilize, which include people, books, and more. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To ring in the new year I have a special show for you where we take to task…leadership. I don’t find that people are as interested in the traditional concept of leadership as they are just being able to be a positive influence in other’s lives and helping and serving them. This is actually what true leadership is. My guests today are my most frequent co-hosts. Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, and Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar. These two men are two of my closest and dearest friends, and two of the greatest experts and students of self-help and personal growth. My initial intent was to have us audit our own year of self-help and offer insight and resources, but Tom got on to this topic of leadership and we just couldn’t let it go, as it hit to the core of our work and personal lives and we did a lot of discussion on parenting and influencing people. I stuck with the topic and my original intent you’ll hear in the next episode of Self-Helpful. We dig deep into the purpose we all find in solving problems and bringing solutions to others. The power and inspiration of being curious. And the necessity of personal and social awareness for ultimate success and fulfillment. The Self-Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hormone issues affect more and more people everyday. Testosterone and estrogen get major focus but those aren’t the only ones. Could your hormones be off and causing you problems like fatigue, mood swings, menstrual suffering, infertility, low energy and low muscle mass, weight gain and low libido? In this show we cover the primary symptoms of hormone dysregulation in women, men, and children. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about hormones. When you have physical and mental struggles, we’d all like to find a specific culprit that can be addressed and fixed and all of the sudden we feel great. Seldom is there any one such thing, but if there was…hormones issues are surprisingly common. I’m with my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, and with a lot of his patients showcasing various maladies, he is working with them on hormone treatments. Listen in and see if you find issues you relate to, and some direction to get help. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the workplace and in life, great opportunity comes to those who set themselves apart. We’re not talking about attention seeking or being better than others, but simply being clear and communicating what you can uniquely offer, which is the point. Whatever you do, you can do uniquely. Again, not better or brand new, but something coming from you in a new way, perspective, flavor or application. This is part 3 on Matt McWilliams and the message in his new book, “Turning Passions Into Profits.” In this episode I bring on Dan Miller, famed author of “48 Days To The Work You Love” and one of the premier experts and voices regarding turning passions into profits. Matt cites Dan as a teacher and mentor, so no more fitting person to continue this discussion. Dan is also…my father. We really land on the necessity and opportunity of standing out with what you can uniquely offer, and this isn’t simply a discussion for work and business. Think about your personal life and those you are most drawn to and feel cared by. You will likely be very clear on what about them most stands out to you, and you can audit yourself for what you want people to feel from you. You can still preorder Matt’s book, “Turning Passions Into Profits” now at passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self and get over $700 of bonuses. You can find Dan Miller at 48days.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My guest has ADHD, but he doesn’t see it as a problem and instead works to leverage it as a benefit. He also has low empathy, but here too he finds times where it’s actually a benefit. I’m back for part 2 with Matt McWilliams after talking about the message in his new book, Turn Your Passions Into Profits. This is my Values, Motives & Habits episode where we go behind the curtain to find out what drives Matt and how he lives from within his passions. He does admit that ADHD makes it hard to practice quiet time, which he knows is important and works to achieve. He shares his journey of losing 88 pounds which he cites was holding him back. In his work and with his team a primary objective is to "ruthlessly protect our downtime." And regarding work and money we discuss a line I pulled from his social media where he says, “I vacillate between wanting to change the world and wanting to be independently wealthy by the end of next Tuesday." You can preorder Matt’s book, “Turning Passions Into Profits” now at passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self and get over $700 of bonuses. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We tend to think of diabetes as something you have or not, like a broken leg. But diabetes in simple terms is an issue of your body being able to deal with sugar, and in our culture we all take in more sugar than our body is equipped to deal well with. In America more than one out of three Americans have diabetes or prediabetes. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we are breaking down diabetes. I’m with my co host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and he showcases that we are all on the diabetes spectrum and it’s not simply an issue of whether we tip over the edge into a full on diabetes diagnosis or not. The causes and symptoms of prediabetes need to be on your radar for yourself and if you have kids…for them. What are the chief culprits, and it’s not just high sugar foods and drinks. Who is more at risk and why? This show is relevant for everyone, us included. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Work at what you love. Work at what you’re passionate about. We hear this message a lot, yet few people are really doing it, and I’m submitting here that we tend to view it wrong. Let’s drop the baggage you may think of around words like love and passion and just think on something you care about. Wouldn’t you rather have a surgeon working on you who knows more than how to do the surgery, but really, inherently cares about helping people? If she/he does care, they will likely do a better job and help you and themselves far more. What do you care about that is a good fit for you and the marketplace. Then, how do you best make money with it? This is our focus today, to take an age old issue and breath new, paradigm shifting light into it. My guest is Matt McWilliams. Matt has been helping people make money about what they care about for a long time, including names you’ll likely know such as Shark Tank’s Kevin Harrington, Tony Robbins, Michael Hyatt, Claire Diaz-Ortiz, Lewis Howes, Brian Tracy and more. I’ve know Matt a long time and know first hand from scores of people how he’s helped them hone in on something they care about, and then, his specialty, how to make money from it. Not simply so you can make money, but so you can…in order to keep doing what you care about. I want you doing what you care about. It makes you happy and fulfilled and from that you will give happiness and fulfillment to others! Matt is just now releasing his new book titled, “Turn Your Passions Into Profits” and it was my muse for this discussion. He really turns the tables on many of our misconceptions around this concept, so you’ll hear some paradigm shifting info right off the bat. Of interest, my publisher wants me to get 250 or more pre-orders of my book on Amazon before publication date, as it helps take it to the top of the rankings. Matt has over 1,200 already. You can pre-order now at passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self and get a truckload of add on bonuses. passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you break it down and really look at it, nearly all our attempts to love others are action based. They are things we do. One of the bestselling self-help books of all time is The 5 Love Languages and it cites words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, physical touch and acts of service. But all of those are…acts. Things we do. And yet where we feel the most love from people is not in any act, but in them connecting with us. Being love, in essence, not doing love. This is part 3 on the message from Humble The Poet and his new book, How To Be Loved. Today I’m talking about Humble and his message with again, my brother, Jared Angaza. I just keep having guests that are right in Jared’s wheelhouse of experience, so I brought him back on. I’ve gotten a lot of positive feedback about Jared and his insight, and as you hear me mention in this show, he’s the brand and culture architect behind my new look, which you can see at kevinmiller.co. You can connect with him at jaredangaza.com. Here we also take aim at the idea of you not being able to love others beyond the extent to which you love yourself. What we came to is…you can loathe yourself and still do…a lot of loving. You can do a lot of acts of love. But it’s pretty impossible to be the love they need, if you can’t be the love you need for yourself. It’s a big distinction. What this episode will do is help you see why so many of your efforts to love others don’t end up being the love they really need and you’re killing yourself for nothing. You can make a shift, and quit wearing yourself out, and finally connect in a way that matters to you and those you…love. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Happiness” is a dramatically popular topic today, as many are not feeling so happy. A very real issue however is whether you have the mental and physical ability to even adequately receive and retain happiness, and further, joy and hope. If you keep scrambling for happy moments but it doesn’t last, maybe you have a leak. Imagine I had a pitcher of your favorite beverage, wine, coffee, or tea. You hold your mug or glass out and I pour in the glorious elixir. But alas, before your container reaches your lips, the liquid drains out through multiple cracks. You get nothing. So you go back for a refill only to never get it to your lips. Are you pursuing happiness but some of it is falling through the cracks of your compromised body and mind which don’t have the capacity to contain it? This is my Functional Friday episode and I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we talk through this very real and present issue, a growing issue, in our culture today. What is causing the leaks and what to do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is about relationships, but to explain it I’m going to use the analogy of digestive problems and foods. If you struggle with IBS or gas and bloating and such, and you want to get better, you’ve got to become aware of your sensitivities. What foods help and hurt you. With relationships it’s no different. Some relationships are glorious, and some cause you discomfort, if not flat out pain. To have peace you must know your personal and relational priorities and values so you can create a sustainable menu that produces good results. This is one of the things I got from talking again with Humble The Poet in this Values, Motives & Habits episode, as he discussed how a priority in his relational health is having clarity of his own priorities and values when it comes to the relationships he invests in. Some other aspects of his values we covered...spiritually his focus is minimizing lust, greed, anger, attachment and ego. He doesn't want to arrive at death safely but to live life on the edges. He views movement as medicine and of great intrigue to me was he labeled his life as a writer where he sits still for such long periods of time, as not as healthy of that as a bartender who is always on the move, lifting, bending and reaching. I now have to deal with this concept as a writer, which I'm not sure I appreciate. Humble consistently sees a therapist so he's getting counsel from someone who is not a stakeholder in his life. Great way to put it. He doesn't participate in social media much himself, he has a team do it for him. And as a full time artist he discusses his pursuit of slow art that is better for the soul and ultimately more lucrative. Find Humble’s new book, “How To Be Loved” anywhere and find him and all his social media at HumbleThePoet.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At the end of the day, and our lives, there is nothing we desire more than love. To be chosen by others and given their affection, devotion, and commitment. Yet relational statistics showcase we are pretty poor at achieving peaceful, enduring, and fulfilling love. Bottom line, most of us are doing it wrong. We define love incorrectly and we pursue it errantly. That may sound like a big claim, but I think in a few moments you will agree with me, and find a new lease on your ability to arrive at love, immediately. My guest is Humble The Poet. He’s a Canadian-born rapper, spoken-word artist, poet, internationally bestselling author, and former elementary school teacher. What began as reciting spoken word poetry in coffee shops to impress girls evolved into a creative adventure that has spanned the last 10 years; crossing genres, mediums and oceans. His first two books, UNLEARN & THINGS NOBODY CAN TEACH US, have become international bestsellers. What caught my eye was his huge social media following, and him using his platform to help people learn and grow and in this case…love. His new book is How To Be Loved. Friends, I read the book and it just resonated. Hugely. Which is why I ultimately invited him on the show. I have so many high profile doctors and professors and researchers, and yet Humble speaks from the research in his own life. He headlines the concept of his book with, “Love doesn’t have to be earned or found, it has to be realized.” This show will change your paradigm on what love is and how to finally, with peace, realize it. Find Humble’s new book, “How To Be Loved” anywhere and find him and all his social media at HumbleThePoet.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our bodies are like a wood burning stove. To a degree you can throw anything in them and they’ll burn it for energy to keep your heart beating. So putting in 10 twinkies or a salad, what’s the difference? Most of our culture’s focus just goes to weight gain or loss, so the idea is the salad has less calories and the twinkies will make you fat. But let’s put weight on the backburner and just focus on overall wellness and ability. Let’s make brain function, energy, resilience and longevity the muse. How do we eat for those goals? How do you eat so you feel more hopeful and joyful? How does food factor into mental health? Depression? Food is far more than just fuel to burn. The nutritional value in the food is either burning and building us, or burning and depleting us. It is our most powerful medicine, or poison. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. My cohost is Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. We spend the bulk of this episode discussing the psychology and concept of what and how we eat, then around the 60 minute mark talk about the literal foods we eat and advocate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When will you be enough? The question bothers me. I’m a fan of growing and striving and achieving and to a fair degree I feel it is a responsibility to do so. There are aspects of myself I’m not satisfied with. And yet a primary tenet of emotional health is to be ok with yourself, right now. Can you come to a place of being enough right now, even though you’re not content to just stop and coast from here on in your life? Still be an aspiring person? This is part 3 of my series on Peter Moo - tar -bar - ze who lived a horrifically abused and neglected life in Africa from his birth in a small town outside of Uganda up living on the streets till age 15, when thanks to the opportunity afforded to him by one family, he went on to attend and graduate from universities and ultimately move to America where he’s an entrepreneur, foster father, and now author of the book, “Now I am Known”. I invited my brother, Jared Angaza, to cohost with me again, as Jared spent a decade in Africa working amongst street kids like Peter. We talk a bit about his experience, but our primary discussion landed on what Jared cited as the epidemic of enoughness that seems to span all of humanity, whether you lived on the streets and slept in a sewer in Africa, or you lived in a million dollar home in Beverly Hills. Find Peter’s book, Know I Am Known, a self-help classic in my opinion, anywhere and visit Nowiamknownfoundation.org to connect with Peter and his incredible story. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As you are here, right now, listening to this show, you have survived. No matter what has happened to you, you’ve made it to be in existence at this precise moment with the ability to be listening to a podcast. There are so many, many others who have not made it. Why…have you survived? What is the purpose for you having come this far? This is what propels my guest, Peter Mutabazi who is back for Part 2 as we walk through his personal values, motives, and habits. Here he shares again some of the dramatic abuse and hardship on all levels he endured. You name the abuse, Peter had some of the worst of it. And yet he made it while his list of family and friends who did not only make it but who are no longer even alive, is vast. It is from the fact he survived that he feels his greatest purpose. As you’ll hear him share, he just can’t believe there is not a purpose for why he survived, and he wants to fully use himself to help others not only survive, but thrive. His book that propelled me to have him on the show is called Now I Am Known: How a Street Kid Turned Foster Dad Found Acceptance and True Worth, that to me is one of the best self-help resources I’ve come across in a long, long time, as it blatantly showcases so many of our emotional and relational dysfunctions that Peter endured and is still working through in order to function healthfully and help others do the same. I am also encouraging everyone to visit Peter’s website at Nowiamknownfoundation.org and consider booking him to speak, and helping in his efforts to foster and adopt more children. Nowiamknownfoundation.org. The Self-Helpful podcast with Kevin Miller is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have a 1984 Jeep CJ7 that barely runs. It only has 90,000 miles and it was driven gently by my mother in law for most of its life. The reason it’s in such bad shape? It just sat still for years on end without being driven. The hoses dry rotted, the lubes dried up, and now it is so decrepit it’s nearly beyond reviving. Our bodies are the same. They were made to move. To have our lungs and muscles stretched. If you’ve ever worn a cast you know how fast muscles and strength atrophies when not used. Our entire body is this way. But today we don’t need to move in order to live. I do most of my work from a home office and to make a good living the most strenuous thing I need to do is walk down the stairs. So, we have to create artificial movement. This is caused…exercise. But what exercises are good? How much is enough? This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about exercise. I asked this question on Facebook, “How often do you exercise, for how long, what exercises do you do, and why? You are going to hear a lot of ideas and perspectives and I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert. We’ll walk and talk you through the responses and offer some counsel and guidance. This is a great show to share with those who struggle with exercise, as we hit on some of the goofiness of it, though of course uphold the necessity. The Self-Helpful with Kevin Miller podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What you are about to hear is more than a story of an abused kid in Africa who ran away from home and then lived on the streets and slept in the sewer in a nearby city. A kid who literally never had anything provided for him, only taken, until he got one big break at age 15 when he had never had shoes. He only ate every few days. He’d never slept in a bed or ridden in a car. But with one man’s help he went to school, attended universities and immigrated to America where today he fosters and adopts children. What I want you to hear however is this is a story relevant to us all because this boy endured such tremendous hardship and difficulty that his escape provides a uniquely stark depiction of the emotional overcoming we all must do if we want to be at peace with the world around us. My guest, Peter Mutabazi was that kid. Today at 48 he’s an entrepreneur, an international advocate for children, and the founder of Now I Am Known, a corporation that supplies resources that encourage and affirm children. Peter is a single father of an adopted white son and foster dad to many. Peter has worked for World Vision and the International Committee of the Red Cross, and has appeared on BBC and the TODAY show. He currently lives in Charlotte, North Carolina where he fosters children and flips homes and has over 200k followers on Instagram at fosterdadflipper. Peter tells his story and lessons in his new book, “Now I am Known” and while I shamelessly promote every guests book, this one is dear to me. He walks through a life of difficulty that will shock you, but ends each chapter with the lessons learned and grace he’s found that will equip and convict you to alter your circumstances or perspective and likely both. Right now Peter is striving to be a full-time, single dad to many kids. If you have an organization, he’s a powerful speaker. Visit Nowiamknownfoundation.org and consider booking him to speak, and helping in his efforts. Right now his growing family needs a new van, a babysitter, and they raise money to provide support for new foster families and kids aging out of foster care. Nowiamknownfoundation.org. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As you listen right now, you are likely thinking of hearing or learning something of interest, and something that will help equip or direct you toward more of what you want from life. We are all here striving to grow and better ourselves for an end result. Otherwise you’d just be listening to music or listening to a crime or comedy show. And I’m a full out believer in this concept of learning and growing which is the point of this Self-Helpful podcast. And, I’m ever more interested in seeing a challenge or commitment catapulting our learning curve from zero to hero almost overnight and in some aspects, bypassing all this stuff. Meaning, you can listen to a year of my shows. This summer my book, “What Drives You” comes out, but you can skip that. And instead just make a big commitment to something you care about, and it will do more to shape you than any amount of content, teaching and guidance. This is the message we got from legendary visionary and humanitarian Lynne Twist in her book, "Living a Committed Life: Finding Freedom and Fulfillment in a Purpose Larger Than Yourself.” This is part 3 on Lynne and her message and I invited a special guest to co-host the discussion with me. Jared Angaza is an activist and philanthropist. He spent over a decade in Rwanda and Kenya working to pull women and children out of sex slavery. As of late he has devoted himself to the space industry, specifically Space For Humanity, and advocating the overview effect recently made famous by Star Trek celebrity William Shatner. Those are mere bookends of a life dedicated to big efforts. Jared cites Lynne Twist as a primary inspiration to his life and has lived what Lynne talks about and experienced the devotion to a cause as the most profound tool for shaping him into the kind of person who can make a world impact. Jared is also my full on blood brother. While in Africa he changed his last name from Miller to Angaza to fully embrace his purpose, passion and vision. Following is our discussion on how this message of commitment from Lynne Twist has played out in Jared’s life and the lives of others we’ve walked with. You’ll also hear some brotherly riffing on some past adventures. You can find Jared at Jaredangaza.com, and of course find Lynne Twist’s book, Living a Committed Life, anywhere. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re in an age when prescription drugs and surgeries are prescribed with little hesitation, especially in the American “healthcare” system. Yet most health minded people, like you who listen to this Self-Helpful podcast, are not so eager to just accept a pill or to go under the knife. I’ve been prone to boycott such things. But my dear friend Randy James, our resident Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine Expert, has taught me there are times when these methodologies are helpful and even necessary. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about prescription drugs and surgeries. In a perfect world with perfect health, we’d not need such things. But it’s not a perfect world and none of us can be in perfect health. Sometimes we get injured or sick and relatively broken and then, pharmaceuticals and surgeries are life savers. We’d just like to see those times as very few and very far between. And when they are needed, what can you do to prepare yourself for the best outcomes? The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do we see a movie depict someone bumbling along, not doing so well, lacking in a lot of personal areas…then a big incident happens, and they quickly rise to the occasion, going from hero to zero. I wonder what percentage of movies depict this, the hero story. So we all tune in to all the self-help info, like this podcast, to try and become the hero. But isn’t it interesting that they don’t show this in the movie. They don’t show the person bumbling along and then years of personal development happen to create them into better people. They incident happens. A purpose. And they just get up and forget about themselves to a big degree, and become what’s needed to overcome whatever the incident is. The purpose is what refines them. This is the message of Lynne Twist who I’m back with to discuss her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment. You’ll hear, over and over again, how it’s her purpose that directs every area of her life and drives her. You will not…hear any pithy claims or directives, just her humble recount of what she values and how she practices that value…and she comes back over and over to her purpose. Lynne talks about her "unrelenting stand for the possibility of life." Her efforts to have appreciation for her life. Her belief in the omnipotence we all have for the conversations in our life. She sees her body as an instrument she must take care of and in her 70s she's doing parcourse. We really get into her mentioning how you can pick up on someone's mood long before we pick up on their attitude, and I've continued to talk about and ponder this. This and so much more... It’s an incredibly intriguing and for me, convicting conversation. Find Lynne Twist’s brand new book, “Living a Committed LIfe” anywhere, and connect with her at Soulofmoney.org. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We as people tend to think of learning and training and preparing, so that…we can commit to something truly big and worthy. A grand purpose. My guest today argues, in the most compassionate way possible, we have it backwards, and that the greatest people ever known simply committed to something they believed in, and the journey within it is what made them great. It crafted and honed them. The challenge and trials and triumphs along the way is what refined them. Then the charge is not to prepare to commit, but to commit now, and become what the commitment requires, along the way. My guest is Lynne Twist, a recognized global visionary and legendary humanitarian. Lynne wowed the world with her first book, The Soul of Money, but I have her on the show for her brand new book releasing currently, "Living a Committed Life: Finding Freedom and Fulfillment in a Purpose Larger Than Yourself.” That’s what caught me, this 180 look at making big commitments. That again, the greats, like Ghandi, didn’t prepare to change the world. They just committed to it and the effort formed them into the people big enough to do it. Lynne’s story is the same, as her journey began when she heard about the The Hunger Project where their goal was to end world hunger, and knew she was supposed to devote her life to it. She spent a decade there and has influenced more people through more humanitarian efforts than nearly anyone. Lynne has been an advisor to the Desmond Tutu Foundation. The United Nations honored her with a “Woman of Distinction” award. From working with Mother Teresa in Calcutta to the refugee camps in Ethiopia and the threatened rainforests of the Amazon, Lynne’s on-the-ground work has brought her a deep understanding of the social tapestry of the world and the historical landscape of the times we are living in. Over the past 40 years Lynne has worked with over 100,000 people in 50 countries in the arenas of fundraising with integrity, conscious philanthropy, strategic visioning and having a healthy relationship with money. Find Lynne Twist’s brand new book, “Living a Committed LIfe” anywhere, and connect with her at Soulofmoney.org. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here we are striving to motivate and instigate our own good health, and then we have our kids. The cultural norm is to just let them eat, and what they want to eat is what the food industry pumps out to their taste buds. Which I get. As a kid I was eating Lucky Charms and Captain Crunch for breakfast and in my teenage years thought Cheerios and Life cereal were health food. Inspiring kids to eat and live healthy is a massive level of effort. But then, what is our goal? This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about what we want for our kids. What responsibility do we take for their well being? Are you hoping your kid will someday move out, get a great education, land a job or start a business, make money and raise a family? Then how do we equip them for that? There are no easy answers and in this show Dr James and I discuss the challenges and consequences of fostering wellness in our kids. For context, my cohost Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, has three kids in his home between 16 and 12, I have five at home between 17 and 10. And please let me tell you it is always a struggle, so rest assured you won’t hear us brag about our kids happily eating raw carrots and hummus for every meal. But friends I’ve seen the battles with kids and spouses completely sabotage someone's efforts at wellness. This is a big show. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Going without close relationships is like going without water. It dehydrates our life and ultimately we’ll die. A slow death of the soul. Yet when we rely on those relationships for our self worth we endure a similar death of the soul. It’s like needing water for life, but drowning in it. This is part 3 of my focus on Melody Beattie, legendary author of Codependent No More. Here I’m with my frequent co-host and dear friend, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we get real with how to grapple with this tension in our actual lives. A common perspective in close relationships, especially marriages and significant others, is a literal joining of lives. Where “two become one.” But how do we translate this? Is it two separate lives joining to live a new life together, or do the individuals disappear and all that exists are the lives in union? That’s one issue. Another is our self-worth, and the health and necessity to have it in and of ourselves. We naturally look to others to tell us of our worth, starting with our parents and early caregivers, then on to schoolmates, teachers and authority figures, but ultimately most of us land with a significant otherwise devote to and unfortunately, often rely on to give us all the affirmations, acceptance and approval we desire. And this is a recipe for failure. Then there is the issue of loving others. We all valiantly strive to serve and love others, yet generally miss loving ourselves. Can we truly love others more and beyond loving ourselves? It doesn’t generally pan out. This is our discussion and grappling today. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you could choose right now what tomorrow would look like, if you had complete freedom, would you rather be consumed with something you are interested in, or be entertained? Really think about it. And you can take it further if you feel exhausted and would just love a day of entertainment. For how long? Two days? A week? A month? I ask because I’m back for part 2 with Melodie Beattie, legendary self-help pioneer and famed author of Codependent No More and we’re talking through her personal Values, Motives & Habits. In regards to spirituality and her overall ethos and purpose of life she said, “My job is to make life interesting, not have life entertained.” Now, I like some good entertainment as much as anyone. I love getting into a great story in a fiction book or movie. Yet I’m aware that when I’m highly interested in something I have little time for entertainment, and when I do read or watch something entertaining, it’s generally about people who are completely interested in something…a cause or mission or purpose. So would you rather voyeuristically watch people interested in something, or be the person interested in something? On a similar note, Melody shared how she keeps a barometer on herself regarding service to others and said, “If I get too selfish my life stops working well” and it showcases her primary interest in…people. I also appreciated her quip to me, saying, “You want the truth or want me to make something up?” She’s as real as they come. Which is why at age 74 one of her personal joys is listening to the Rolling Stones. You can get her newly revised and updated Codependent No More book…anywhere, as it’s currently at the top of the bestseller charts. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We as humans are driven by our appetites. Yet much of the health and wellness culture is around curbing and suppressing our appetites, and for the most part, it’s just a recipe for failure. Today my cohost Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert discuss our personal belief. And it is that we will seldom succeed in squelching our appetites, and we…don’t. I love feeding my appetites and one of the things that adds joy to my life is great food and drink. Our goal is to strive to upgrade and elevate our appetites. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. Regarding appetites, our goal is to try to evolve and grow our appetites to crave more life giving food and less life taking foods. As a pro cyclist my evenings often consisted of walking down to the 7 Eleven in Ft Collins to get a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, and a 4-pack of Reese's Cups for the walk home. I still have that appetite, but today I fill it with some dark chocolate and sea salt covered almonds and a glass of red wine. Would I be better to not snack after dinner at all? Probably. But I’m just not going to. I love feeding my appetites. I’d also like a big bowl of popped corn, but my body doesn’t like corn and eating it disrupts my sleep. So I do some salty nuts or some bean or cauliflower chips to get my salt fix. You get the idea. How can you imbibe your appetites and still have the health and wellness you desire. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are codependent. So am I. So is everyone, to a degree. We are humans and we innately look for the A’s from other people; approval, affirmation, attention, and acceptance. How codependent we are relates to how much we need those A’s to feel ok about ourselves. It’s nice to get them, but are we ok without them? Can we be at peace without desperately needing positive feedback from other people? The answer is yes and this show will discuss how. With me is…Melody Beattie. Yes, the famed author of Codependent No More. Melody is literally cited as one of the pioneers of the self-help movement. Her breakthrough book still remains the resource on codependency and after 7 million sales she’s revised and updated it. Newsweek name Codependent No More one of the four essential self-help books of all time. Melody actually added a chapter on trauma to this revised edition and it’s at the top of the best seller charts, once again. I could not be more honored to have her on the show and as usual, I dig into the questions I have for myself regarding codependency. When I asked her about her own life regrets, she flatly stated, “I regret that I've spent much of my life ragging on myself for not being enough.” This is a thoughtful, pondering discussion with Melody where her compassion for herself and others will pour through. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we look at jobs and businesses our natural inclination is to look to something we’ve learned to do, that people will pay us for. Generally it’s something we’ve done enough to get good at, and we work to get better and hope to make more. What we are significantly missing in the culture is the most important thing for our ultimate success potential; doing something we enjoy enough to gain a level of mastery and sustainability with. We have a majority of people in the workplace and business world engaged in things they have gotten good at. And quite possibly find satisfaction in. But it’s activities that drain them. Not many people, not nearly enough, spend a majority of their time doing the things they truly enjoy and get energy from. Hard work, but inspiring work. This is part 3 of my series on business management guru Patrick Lencioni and his new book, The 6 Types of Working Genius. You can get the book, but you can take the assessment right now at workinggenius.com for only $25. It gives you 6 types of working genius and showcases the two areas of your working genius, that’s the great stuff, the two areas of your working competency, this is often where people are working at what they are good at but it’s not their genius, then the two areas of working frustration…where you’ll see why certain tasks and roles just totally drain and frustrate you. I am with my co host Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar, to discuss this further. We both share our assessments and I share one from my oldest son that showcases why I often missed giving him what he needed from me as a father, so you parents will be interested. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “For all my health, wellness, and fitness minded friends, what is the primary motive (reason) that drives you to stick with your healthy lifestyle plan?” This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…We received a wealth of responses to this question and I’m joined by my co-host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. And close friend. We spent a good while talking through many of the responses. There were definite threads and recurring themes of motive for health and wellness and I believe you'll find yourself inspired and equipped to further commit to your pursuit of being as well as possible. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode…I’m back with heralded business leader, best selling author, renowned speaker and top podcast host, Patrick Lencioni, who I find to be masterfully insightful regarding human behavior and performance, which is what he’s famous for and why he’s one of the most influential people in the business world today. This is my values, motives, and habits episode and you’re about to hear Patrick’s insight into his own behavior and performance and what drives him. A key perspective we land on is how as he strives for success in his life, he continues to work on being, as he says, “peacefully detached from the outcome.” He shares a story and we dig into this very attractive, yet seemingly impossible endeavor. Also in the discussion he shares his desire to conduct himself like the very earliest followers of Jesus. How he went awry in his closest relationships thinking his job was to fix and serve at the sake of his own well being. In sharing about his health and wellness routine he divulges his early participation in running sports was due to childhood wounds he was trying to address, as he was terrified that if he was simply mediocre, he'd go unnoticed by his family. He talks through this further and how it caused him to initially lead his life in a defensive posture, and how he worked out of this perspective. In discussing work values Patrick shares that in his experience the most successful businesses, organizations, and families are quite messy. You can hear him explain this further. We then get more into this concept of being detached from the big outcomes of our life. And we end with Patrick admitting he is trying to discover and engage with things that just give him personal pleasure as he continues to work out of the obligatory feeling of his life being all about service to others and forgetting about himself. If you missed part one of our discussion together where we talked about his new book and assessment, The 6 Types Of Working Genius, find the book anywhere and take the assessment right away at workinggenius.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices