The Kevin Miller Podcast

We are at an all-time high of mental health being a mainstream topic. My experience is people are either fairly tuned in to it, or they just don’t have much thought towards it. Similar to spirituality. And in neglecting to audit and tend to our individual mental health we are missing out on key aspects of our performance. I know I have and it’s a constant challenge to make it a priority. Culturally we stay very busy and have very little margin and downtime, if any, in our day to day lives. We think getting a brain-break with entertainment or exercise or sleep is enough. But we’re seeing that this is more like being on a long road trip and stopping for 5-10 minutes at a rest area. It’s a little break for the engine, but not hardly enough for it to cool down. What most of us need is a daily tune-up. Not just to let the engine cool off, but to get fresh fluids, check for leaks and make sure the tires are rotated and balanced. This is what meditation offers. And let me start by admitting this is possibly my least favorite health and wellness effort. I’d honestly rather fast from food. So we’ve brought in a guest. Ariel Garten. Ariel is a neuroscientist, innovator, and entrepreneur on a mission to help people understand how the mind works and empower them to live their best lives through meditation. She is the co-founder and visionary of a highly successful tech start-up called Muse, which tracks your brain during meditation to give you real-time feedback, guiding you into true rest and letting you know when you are actively allowing your mind to recover. Muse is a multi-sensor meditation device, a headband, that syncs with an app on your phone and provides real-time feedback on your brain activity, heart rate, breathing, and body movements to help you build a consistent meditation practice. I use the “desert” mode and as I try to rest, it tells me how I’m doing by the level of the wind. As I slow down and settle my mind I hear the tell tale birds chirping. The app monitors my progress day to day so I can see my accumulative results and progress. It’s really ingenious and takes the guesswork out of wondering if you really have your mind at rest. This episode is about the benefits of resting your mind and being present, not the Muse app and technology, though you can check it out at choosemuse.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know this quote, “It's not how many times you get knocked down that counts, it's how many times you get back up.” The quote is attributed both to legendary army officer George Custer and legendary football coach Vince Lombardy. As I said in a previous episode in this series, I get this concept if you’re in the middle of a battle or football game. But otherwise, I feel it’s fairly misleading and has us all missing out on available growth from our challenges. If you are alive, you will encounter something you desired to achieve, not working out, or something negative you didn’t choose, happening to you. And there you are. How you deal with it has to do with your ultimate life success and achievement, and your general well-being…right down to your health and wellness. Just “getting back up again” or persevering may or may not positively serve you any more than being overcome and defeated. This is my wrap-up on the message and discussions with Dr Neeta Bhushan and the message in her new book, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. It brought me to grappling with how we as a society tend to polarize and view someone as an overcomer or a quitter. Like it’s simply two ends of a rope instead of a multifaceted spectrum with a lot of nuances. Walk with me a moment through some aspects I’m pondering and seeking to apply to my life. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being authentic is a big buzzword in our culture today. We want authenticity from others and we want to claim our own authenticity. Yet you’re about to get schooled in a stark, yet hopeful reality, and it starts with understanding and accepting that nobody comes into adulthood being authentically who they are, and discovering your true authenticity is a massive undertaking. The hope in this is in realizing that most of your personal struggles in your relationship with yourself and others and even the world, can only get better from this point as you start stepping into your authentic self. Two big points you are about to hear; You come into this world with an already installed operating system based on your genetics and it is further programmed and hardwired in during your upbringing. So you leave home with a solid OS. You don’t wake up on your own free and authentic. This is realization number one. Two, from the moment you come into this world your natural desire is to attach to others and this is far more important than being the authentic you, to the point you never really experience the authentic you. Right now, whether you are a navy seal, executive, stay at home parent or student you have spent your life with a priority of belonging and being attached to others far superseding being who you really are. And it’s diminished your entire life. My guest, expert, and guide on this subject is Vienna Pharaon. Her new book is called The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna has been posting her insights, driven from thousands of patient encounters, on Instagram has nearly 700k followers tuning in to find their authentic selves. Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for over fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice, Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Pharaon has been featured in The Economist, Netflix, Vice, and Motherly, and has led workshops for Peloton and Netflix, amongst others. The Origins of You is her first book and is endorsed by renowned therapists such as Nedra Glover Tawwab and Whitney Goodman who I’ve had on this show. As of this recording The Origins of You is at the top of the charts in Amazon. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a crux of the show we came to. When bad things happen, hard things happen, we want to know why. We want to figure it out so it doesn’t happen again. This is wisdom. But sometimes challenges and traumas happen that we submit - can’t be reconciled. That may ruffle the feathers of some people’s faith structure, which we’re going to do more of in this episode. This is part 3 on Neeta Bhushan and the message in her new book, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. To discuss recovery from challenge, trauma and even tragedy I brought on a co-host who has been through more than his fair share. Richie Norton was my guest for the second time in October, 2022 where we talked about the message in his book, Anti-Time Management. He has a powerful story which you’ll hear in just a moment, and we use it to tackle some weighty subjects. Richie shares times of literally asking, “Does God hate me?” It was from this we got into grappling with our staunch desire to reconcile everything when sometimes we simply can’t. And how to move past this. We discuss the futility of blame and Richie shares his quest to "Be better, not bitter." We discuss the mental difference of dealing with hard things that happen to us vs when we are the hard thing, meaning, we and maybe others suffer from our personal mistakes and failures. And we dig into Richie sharing how, through his family’s journey they sometimes took considerable time to grieve and recover and didn’t try to rush the recovery process. I think this will be a very hopeful episode for many of you who have endured hard things, and a greatly equipping episode for those of you who will. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My great friend. My doctor. My co-host here on the Functional Friday episodes. Randy James. Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. For the first years of knowing each other I pestered him with what the core pillars of health were and he’d always push back with the answer that…”It depends! What is core for one person may not be for another. It’s very personal to each person’s makeup and pathology.” So in this episode, I tried to hit him up again, but this time, I succeeded. I posed the question of what aspect of health is #1. I really expected some lively discourse. Instead, we actually came into an answer. At face value it’s an unfair question, which is why I wanted to spar with Randy on it, as again the entire point of Functional Medicine and our show is how individualized and unique our personal health is and there is no one size fits all solution. So to ask what aspect of health is number one is not a fair question. But as we talked about the concept of, “If you can only pick one area of health, which is most important?” we found ourselves coming to an actual agreement and bit of a revelation. To be candid, we recorded this show about a year ago and since then it’s forever altered my outlook on my health and wellness and some specific routines. I’ll give you the answer. It is…sleep. Your recovery. But I implore you to listen in and find out why, as if I had simply been told this without the grappling behind it, I don’t think I would have accepted it to the level I have. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m betting you would benefit from a getaway. It might be a couple hours. Or an afternoon. Maybe a day, and maybe a few days. But here is the thing. Everyone who knows you will benefit too. Your family. Your co-workers. Your employees. Chances are they desperately need you to get out and fill up some so they get more than the dregs. This is a quick message that I may be more qualified to offer than nearly anyone you know. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the gravest dangers of our lives is, we don’t know what we don’t know. I don’t think I’m dumb, but I will always have areas of ignorance to address. Ignorance is merely - lacking knowledge, information, or awareness about a particular thing. It’s our job to continually pursue our own self-awareness. I’m back with Dr Neeta Bhushan, author of That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. This is Part 2 where I walk with Neeta through her personal Values, Motives, and Habits. It was in discussing her spirituality where she talked about RSA; radical self-awareness, and taking responsibility for our blind spots. As time goes on this is where I put the greatest value for myself, and others. I’ve found people with exceptional success in some areas who suffer greatly, especially relationally and with personal peace, because they are forward-thinking and achieving, but not internally focused and aware. I have been one of those people. Neeta and I get more into this shortly. Another topic, relationships, Neeta talked about her desire for authentic relationships. Deep relationships. And I said, yes, we all want that. But many people struggle with how to find and have these and she surprised me with a resource she has on just that, how to create authentic relationships. Sign up at thatsuckednowwhat.com/resources and she’ll send it to you. We cover her personal health values, money and more, and I was intrigued in the work and career section where we ended up, in alignment with radical self-awareness, discussing in our work the need for and opportunity in RPA; radical purpose awareness. This was a rich discussion. Dr Neeta Bhushan founded the Global GRIT Institute and is cofounder of Dharma Coaching Institute. She has over 165,000 followers on Instagram and a popular podcast, The Brave Table where people tune in to hear her guidance on bouncing back. Check out the new book, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. The Self-Helpful podcast was founded by the Zig Ziglar corporation. If you are a coach or consultant and want to add credibility, clients, and impact to your business, go to Ziglar.com Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I kick off a series on bouncing back. Being resilient is the latest buzzword. But it's all another way of discussing how to recover from a setback. I have a few issues with the concept that I feel cause us all to miss what bouncing back really entails and how to effectively do it in our lives. And not just simply bounce back, but bounce back...better. A common phrase in the self-help world is, “It's not how many times you get knocked down that count, it's how many times you get back up.” The quote is attributed both to legendary army officer George Custer and legendary football coach Vince Lombardy. If you're talking about getting knocked down on the battlefield or football field, it makes sense. But in our lives, if we keep getting knocked down, just getting back up only to get knocked down again may showcase we haven't learned anything. If we are pursuing growth and evolution we will likely continue to face setbacks, but hopefully, they are at higher and higher levels and the setbacks aren't as severe. So just getting back up isn't the point, we want to learn from the knockdown and be wiser for it. Next, there are two different knockdown realities. One is when we get knocked down by someone or something. We are victimized in essence. Getting back up from this takes one perspective. But often we are knocked down by ourselves. By our own mistakes and failures. Getting back up from these takes a different type of mental power. Then also, some people have never been up to a point they want to bounce back to, as they were raised in a knocked-down level of existence. To take on this topic and these issues I've brought to you, Dr Neeta Bhushan. You'll want to hear the full story and details that make what I'm about to tell you even more profound, but when Neeta was 16 her mom died. When she was 17 her brother died. Then when she was 19 her Dad died and she became caregiver for her younger brother. She went on to have some great success or I wouldn't be talking to her now. But how the story goes will impact you. She started a successful cosmetic dentist business. She married and then divorced from an abusive marriage. She founded the Global GRIT Institute and is cofounder of Dharma Coaching Institute. She has over 165,000 followers on Instagram and a popular podcast, The Brave Table where people tune in to hear her guidance on bouncing back. And now she has a new book titled, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. If you go to thatsuckednowwhat.com Neeta has a free 44 page guide you can have. We cover deep territory in regards to what resilience and bouncing back really is and how it differs, depending on...a lot. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take all the self-help organizations in the world and you’ll be hardpressed to find any with as great a success record as AA, Alcoholics Anonymous. It’s free. Volunteer based. Informal. And yet it fulfills a primary human need; accountability. You have the group to commune with and receive support from, and you get a sponsor. It’s not someone following you around and slapping your hand every time you reach for a drink, but it’s someone who you know understands, cares, and will be there when you need it for support and encouragement. Another winner is Weight Watchers, founded in 1963, and to date is one of the most successful weight loss organizations of all time. Same reason. Social accountability. The support and encouragement from others. In recent times Peloton is a shining example of harnessing social accountability and support to the tune of an $8 billion dollar valuation and possibly claiming the top slot of top “unicorn investments” of all time. Social accountability is powerful because it works. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about the value of accountability. As powerful as social accountability is, our ultimate goal is to create personal accountability. The definition of accountability is, the fact or condition of being accountable; responsibility. Where social accountability helps by being responsible to others, personal accountability is far stronger and enduring, when you are responsible for and to yourself. In this episode we cover some key aspects to harnessing and developing both social and personal accountability in order to achieve the health and wellness you desire. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine you're on stage with nine other people who have the same skillset you do. The same degree and/or experience. Whatever you do or make, they all can as well. And the question is put to you...why choose you? Can you really stand there and explain why you are literally the best? Better than everyone standing next to you? Here's the thing, even if you actually were, there is little chance you could prove it and even less chance anyone would believe it. In today's marketplace there are too many options to choose from. Specializing gives you a great leg up, but even here it's hard to take the approach of being the best. And there is seldom opportunity in being the cheapest. Which basically leaves you with who you can best connect with and how. This is encapsulated in your creativity and your point of view, which is ultimately, your art. I'm wrapping up my series with Miriam Schulman, artist and guide to artists and author of Artpreneur: The Step-by-Step Guide to Making a Sustainable Living from Your Creativity. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m a 6’ tall, slim white man. I have an automobile, house, job and good income. No felonies. Imagine if myself and nine other identical men all created profiles on a dating app and that’s all we put. How many inquiries would we get? Probably zero. This is our world and marketplace today. No matter who you are or what you do, everyone is looking to know your story before they spend a minute or a dollar on you. They are looking for context on connecting points to determine if they find resonance with you or not. This is Part 3 of my series on Miriam Schulman. Her new book is called Artpreneur: The Step-by-Step Guide to Making a Sustainable Living from Your Creativity. If you are involved, or want to be, in the fine arts, and make a living at it, she is your guru. On a bigger scale she brings the message of how creativity and art in your work is a necessity in today’s overcrowded marketplace. I continue this discussion today with my frequent co-host Jared Angaza. Jared is a brand architect who has recently devoted himself to helping the space community tell their story. His expertise is in doing that, helping us all tell our story so we have the chance to connect with others, whether personally or professionally. He’s also my blood brother and who is helping me tell my story as a podcast host and author so you know if I’m someone you care to listen to or not! In this show we really hone in on not only the opportunity, but the absolute necessity to tell your story or get left behind. Looking at our work, what you do is no longer enough. You can’t be the best, nobody will believe that. But you can be unique. You are unique, even if you don’t realize it. Just as you must put on clothes to go to work, if you want opportunity in the marketplace, or trying to get a date, you’ve got to communicate who you are. Your identity. This is the only way people can know if they want to connect with you or not. If you try to play it safe and remain storyless, you’ll get just that. Less. And in today’s culture, letting your identity be known shows confidence, while remaining hidden makes you suspect. Be authentic, this isn’t about performing and being a show pony. It’s again, just like a personal profile in a dating app, merely sharing who you are and what you’re about as a service to people who might be interested. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It is from our creativity where our most valuable work and life events happen. Creativity is not just for the fine arts. We harness and rely on our creativity to generate our important ideas, critical thinking, and ultimately our ability to grasp onto hope in our lives, especially when things are challenging. And as life happens we can easily be at risk of depleting our creative juices, so to say. In this episode I’m back with artist and guide to artists, Miriam Schulman. You may have run across Miriam’s art and story featured on NBC’s “Parenthood” and the Amazon series “Hunters” with Al Pacino. In our first show together we discussed the concepts in her book, Artpreneur: The Step-by-Step Guide to Making a Sustainable Living from Your Creativity, and the opportunity and really, necessity, for us all to find our unique art and showcase a point of view in our work, no matter what we do. Here we get more personal and get into Miriam’s Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life. In the category of mental health she discusses the need for us to restore ourselves. Restore our hearts. In order to foster our creativity. When we are consumed and overwhelmed with busyness and worn out or even just stagnant and bored, we will find it extremely difficult to think with much creativity. So what do we do to restore it? This is a key topic of this show. You can find Miriam’s book Artpreneur everywhere and get a free chapter at schulmanart.com/believe. And right now I encourage you to find her podcast and check it out, The Inspiration Place. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you believe it? That Alzheimer’s can be prevented, stopped, and even reversed? It’s true. Does that mean it will be eradicated from our culture? We know how to stop obesity in an individual too, but it’s not happening here in America. This show is about you however, you and those close to you. Can you do something about preventing, stopping, and reversing Alzheimer’s? Absolutely. There are never any guarantees when it comes to one’s health, but there are probabilities you can count on. In this show we bring you quite possibly the world’s leading authority on prevention, stopping, and reversing Alzheimer’s. Dr Dale Bredesen, author of, The End of Alzheimers and The End of Alzheimer’s program. You need to realize most of the traditional leaders in the arena of Alzheimer’s aren’t of the belief you can do anything but manage Alzheimer’s and its inevitable decline. Alzheimer’s disease has become the third leading cause of death in the United States, after cardiovascular disease and cancer, destined to rob 45 million of the Americans currently living of their most fundamental reasoning capabilities if we do not do something to prevent and reverse the process. Dr Bredesen profoundly cites, “You know cancer survivors. Hardly anyone knows an Alzheimer’s survivor.” But he knows many. Dr Bredesen’s credentials and bio are long enough for a show in and of itself. If you are concerned about Alzheimer’s, and everyone should be, type B R E D E S E N and Alzheimer’s in your search engine and you’ll find all you want. Better yet, go to wherever you buy books and get his book, End of Alzheimer's Program. And visit drbredesen.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on Japanese self-help celebrity Ken Honda and his focus on Happy Money, and I’m going to bring it home to what I’m grappling…with striving to implement in my life as a result of Ken’s message. I’ve talked about this topic with Ken, with Tom Ziglar in part three, and I’ve been discussing it with people in my life. The truth is I’ve historically not had happy money. I’ve not felt fairly compensated for what I’ve offered the world and I’ve looked at money as an irritant in relation to just wanting to do what I cared about and trying to serve people and provide for my family. From what I’ve heard, many of you can relate to this. So, let’s consider it together for a moment. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People doing mundane tasks are replaced by robots. Now people producing basic content will likely be replaced by AI. What can’t ever be replaced? Your point of view. Your story and perspective. Your flavor and vibe. You buy many products and services today, not because they are proven to be the best, but because you want to associate yourself with the story behind them. With what they represent. This is the essence of art and creativity. I believe it’s a myth that some people are creative and others aren’t, but we limit our scope of where and how you can be creative. We’re about to blow that myth up. I’m with Miriam Schulman, an artist and founder of The Inspiration Place, where she helps other artists learn how to profit from their passion or become better artists. She’s helped thousands of artists around the world develop their skill sets and create more time and freedom to do what they love. Miriam’s art and story have been featured in major publications such as Forbes, The New York Times, Art of Man and been featured on NBC’s “Parenthood” and the Amazon series “Hunters” with Al Pacino. She has a very popular podcast called The Inspiration Place where she helps artists profit from their work, so they can keep doing it and do more of it. While we do talk about the aspects of profiting from your art, my initial focus is that if we don’t have art and creativity in our work, no matter what work it is, we will likely find ourselves phased out or left behind. Our core product or service is no longer enough to flourish. There are too many other providers and options. To stand out and succeed at a high level we must add a creative, unique aspect to what we do and include our point of view. As you’ll hear from this talk with Miriam, our point of view is we connect with others. And this is the point. AI can inform us of anything and everything. But it can’t connect. And this is your greatest opportunity. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been looking at how we view and feel about money and it keeps drawing me back to how influential our work is. We make money from the work we provide. From our efforts to help deliver a product or service. If we are not proud of the work we do. If we are not proud of the end product or service we help provide. If we are just doing it for the money…then the money we earn as a result, we have negative feelings about. The money itself becomes a focus of our frustration along with the work. This is far more than about money and about our personal self-approval. If you have any negative feelings about money, we’d have you consider how you feel about how you earn it. This is part three on my series about Ken Honda, Japan’s number one self-help guru, and his focus on the energy we have around money, which is the topic of his super best-selling book, Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace With Your Money. My co-host for a peer discussion is Tom Ziglar. Tom is son to the inspirational legend, Zig Ziglar and The Ziglar Show is where this podcast evolved from. Tom is an expert in the workplace and in this episode we dig further into how our feelings about our work and how we earn money are foundational to our overall feelings of money and ourselves as a whole. We also discuss how we feel about spending money on undesired and unexpected expenses and how to better handle it when you are the one taking money for such expenses. A reminder to check out Ken Honda’s book, Happy Money, anywhere, and connect directly with him at Kenhonda.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We wrap up our Functional Medicine questions from listeners for Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert who addresses questions from his experience with thousands of patients striving to get past the mere symptoms of their health and discern the root cause issues so they can have true…wellness. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this episode, we spend the first 25 minutes on Joe’s questions about food allergies and sensitivities with a bit of focus on children. Then Timothy asks how to address a short temper and I think you'll have your mind greatly opened to new possibilities in addressing behavioral issues overall. Last Jennifer asked about epigenetics and how to rewrite her diabetes and metabolism. She said, "I'm several years older than my family members were when they had their first heart attacks, strokes, and cancer surgeries and I'd like to add more years to that." Powerful topics you’ll gain much from. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The only reason you would be here and listening to this, right now, is because you already know the power of self-help. You are a believer. I’m here today to support and affirm you, and actually give you even more power for your self-help endeavors by dispelling some of the criticism self-help gets. The term self-help, in truth, can cause some feelings of anxiety, or fear for some people. None of us truly want to feel alone in our life and we can often doubt ourselves, so the idea of having to rely on self can be troubling. And there are plenty of people who, with vim and vigor, and I’d also say some wounding, who preach about how you can “only rely on yourself,” and that has a lot of danger in it as well. And yet here I am with a podcast named Self-Helpful as a massive advocate of self-help, but also an admitted critic to when it’s abused. In this episode, my new short form and direct, just me to you, I want to offer some perspectives so the concept of self-help is even more inspiring and equipping for you and you can use self-help resources in all forms, as powerful tools in your life to get…where you want to go. With peace, joy and ultimate fulfillment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have some giftings. Some inherent skills and talents. Or think of it this way, you have some things that come to you easier than they do to others. I can look at each of my kids and tell you what abilities seem to come more naturally for some than others, right out of the womb. That doesn’t make them an expert but it showcases the areas they will more likely be able to achieve mastery in. The thing is, what comes fairly easy to us we generally devalue. It doesn’t seem so impressive to us. One because it is just easier, and two, we often end up around other people who can do what we do well. When I was a pro cyclist it wasn’t that impressive to me, cause I was always around other pro cyclists and was focused on all the guys who were better than I was. You have some natural giftings and talents. Once you become aware of them, you most start honing them. Then you’ll serve yourself well to figure out how to work at them. Not all of them. I think I have a lot of giftings and some I don’t care to monetize, they are just for my enjoyment or even just for my family. But finding a gift you can monetize is…glory. In this episode I’m back with Japan’s #1 self-help guru, Ken Honda, author of Happy Money which was the focus of our first show together. This is my Values, Motives, & Habits episode where we go behind the curtain of Ken’s life. When we talked about the category of career this was Ken’s primary focus, helping people find their gifts and monetize their gifts. He finds it to be a primary source of, happy money. When you work at something you enjoy and find great value in, you are happier with the money you get as a result, and even happier to spend it, manage it, save it, and invest it. This focus stood out to me, but you’ll also hear Ken Discuss topics such as he he sees money as spiritual. His focus on relationships of what he can do for another person, which sounds pithy, but belies the fact we generally are in front of another person thinking about our own needs. Health and wellness is a challenge for Ken as he says he loves American food, hamburgers and fries, and in his culture is teases as a chubby guy. Mentally he struggles with the world's suffering which he has a sensitive heart for, and works to bolster himself so he can better handle it. As a celebrity in Japan he is often noticed out in public and takes great delight in striking up conversations with fans and getting to know them. I've already gotten feedback on our first discussion together, with people attesting to the joy in hearing Ken Honda's happy demeanor and desire to serve others. You can find Ken Honda’s book, Happy Money, anywhere, and connect directly with him at Kenhonda.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There was a time before money when we gathered, harvested, and produced what we needed. Or we took what we gathered, harvested, and produced and traded with someone else for something they had. It was an exchange. Today we gather, harvest, and produce a product or service that is sold for money. And we are given money. And we pay money for most all the product and services we need. Money is simply a unit of exchange. And yet it is anything. Anything but simple. And today many of us, most of us, have some negative feelings toward money. From irritation towards suicide, and most of us have negative feelings that keep a level of anxiety going and it's eating away at us, little buy little and eroding our mental and physical health and our overall wellness and success. My guest today is a self-help legend and celebrity in Japan where he's sold nearly $9 million books about this topic. Ken Honda is the author of Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace with Your Money. But it's not money Ken is concerned about, it's your happy soul. This is why he has most of his own country following him, and now is claiming hearts around the world, including now, America. He joined me via Zoom from near Tokyo and we just had a super sweet time together. So much so that he requested my book and will be endorsing it for the Japanese market. I think you'll find a significant paradigm shift in your perspective on money and a new hope for feeling better about it. I did. Truly. There are products and services we don't want to spend money on. Such as, we don't want to give $1,000 to a car mechanic to fix something that went wrong on our car. So we give the mechanic money with sad feelings. Sad energy. And the mechanics is on the receiving end of getting sad money. Would you like to change this perspective, as the customer and the mechanic? Listen in to Ken Honda. He's going to help. We start off addressing the common negative feelings many people have towards money, and turn it on its head. It's not money we are upset with. It's really the work we don't like and aren't proud of, that we are doing to earn money. It's more about how we are earning our money than the money itself. I think you will be so stoked with this episode you'll want to share it with everyone you know. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue on with our Functional Medicine questions from listeners for Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert who addresses questions from his experience with thousands of patients striving to get past the mere symptoms of their health and discern the root cause issues so they can have true…wellness. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this episode, Ted asks how to maintain muscle tone after 65. Beth feels most successful people have coaches and asks how to find a coach you can trust? Wayne wants to know about testing options like food allergies. Mark shares about finding a functional medicine provider in his area, and Don asks how to kick chronic ear infections. Again, there should be a topic or three that is highly relevant to you or someone you love. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi Self-Helpful listeners. This is a new format of episode and it’s just you and me. While I may be your guide here on the podcast, digging into self-help messages with today’s more important influencers in the world of personal growth and development, you know I’m also a fellow traveler on my own journey to grow and progress in my life. With that in mind, I’m here now to share a short episode with you on how a recent message is influencing my own life, and see if you relate. I’m like you and living in my own story and these podcast guests and messages change my story. So I’m calling this part 4 of my series on Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller’s book, Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. There are some significant points from the message I’m really pondering and grappling with regarding my own story and life experience.. This concept of, “It’s all in your head” is dramatically hurtful and hopeful to me. Walk with me a minute as I explain. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In minding our mindset and thinking about our thinking, we bring into question how much of our perspectives and even beliefs are based on the fictional stories our brains write to protect us. This sounds minimizing of our so called realities, but I just want you to think about occurrences which have happened in your life, things you’ve experienced with other people, and how they later recount the reality that happened, and you’re standing there thinking, “That is not at all what happened!” As you had a very different experience. And that’s the issue. Something happens, and we all experience it differently. The thing DID happen. But we all perceive it differently. It means different things to you. What excites one person may terrify another. And this type of natural reaction in our minds is normal. The opportunity we are hitting on here is in accepting that a good percentage of our reality and therefore beliefs are made up in our mind from how we’ve experienced things. Our mind and experiences and memories are not made up of facts. They are made up of stories. And as such, we can evolve to consider a bigger story and more context and possibility, and this can radically alter our lives. This is part 3 on Michael Hyatt’s book, Mind Your Mindset, and today I asked a special guest to co-host with me, Broadway and film star Renée Marino who I did a series with here on the podcast just recently regarding her book and message, “Becoming A Master Communicator.” I asked Renée to come discuss this topic with me because what and how we communicate, her specialty, is ultimately a reflexion of our mindset, and also because we just had such resonance and energy in our previous shows, and I got such good feedback about it, I wanted to bring her back on. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been talking about the need to mind our mindset, which is the title of Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller’s new book, with their research showcasing a majority of what we think and believe is not fact, but the stories our brain creates to help us make sense of things and ultimately protect us. I’m back for part two with Michael to walk and talk through his personal Values, Motives, and Habits. We begin on spirituality and he shares his appreciation of his faith community helping him not be left alone with his own stories and benefitting from their input and correction. It struck me how important relationships are as an overall antidote to getting lost and isolated in my own stories and beliefs that again, per Michael and Megan’s research, is not fact but the story my brain has written. I need input from friends and guides and coaches and therapists to balance me out. This is acute to me as in my own introversion and self-protection can drive me to isolate and be left alone to get lost in my own stories and i have to proactively seek out and share my stories with others to keep me from getting lost. Michael also shares about his desire for loyalty in relationships, dialing up his energy to live longer and better for his family, how he starts his day, getting bored with his work and liking to change things up, how a financial advisor my dad recommended to him gave him a new lease on his outlook on money, and how he feels his non-productive time leads him to his greatest productivity. Again, Michael Hyatt’s new book is called Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. You can get the book and his MIND YOUR MINDSET COURSE for free at mindyourmindsetbook.com/selfhelpful. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue the question and answer session from our last Functional Friday episode and here we address listener inquiries about balancing exercise in regards to our effort and always killing ourselves. Losing momentum is a big topic, as anyone with a new health & wellness initiative will…lose momentum. We address the faith you have in doing what you set out to do, how to stop nervous eating, and end with a biggie…how to kick the sugar habit. Which nobody really wants to do, including me. I’m with my fun Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and just as with the last Functional Friday episode, much of what we discuss are examples Randy shares from first hand experiences with thousands of patients who pay cash to have him get to the root problems of their issues. Not everyone can get in to work with Dr James, but you can inquire at truelifemedicine.com or just email them directly at [email protected] The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Just think positive. It’s all in your head. Look on the bright side. Just write a better story.” Who here has had one of these cliches spoken to them and it just pissed you off or deflated you? It feels so affirming and even offensive to an honest experience and feeling we’ve had. The events we experience in life are…our truth. They happened and we were there and what we experienced is just, true. And yet right there is the problem, and opportunity. What we experience is just how our brain processed the event. As you’ll hear in this episode, two people are in the woods and a bear walks past their camp. One is ecstatic about experiencing a bear in the wild while the other is terrified of the possible danger because they had a friend who was hurt by a bear. What is true? They saw a bear. The rest of the experience is just what they thought based upon their personal perceptions. This is our life. A bit of fact and the rest we make up around it. With that in mind, we have the opportunity to question what we think and feel and work to consider a bigger and more reasonable reality than our negative propensities often manufactures. This isn’t just an idea, this is brain science, and my guest is Michael Hyatt and this is my fourth time having him on the show. Michael was CEO of Thomas Nelson publishing and today is a prolific author of wisdom and leader and mentor to a lot of the celebrity guests I’ve had on this show. Michael has had several New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and USA Today bestselling books, including Platform, Living Forward, Your Best Year Ever, Free to Focus, The Vision Driven Leader, and Win at Work & Succeed at Life. But this new book written by him and his daughter Megan, is top shelf for me. The book is called Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. But I ask you to wait right there. This again is not just another pithy swipe at just trying to put a silver lining on things. You’re going to hear Michael site scientific research on how our brain literally takes any incident, let’s call it an objective reality, then your neurons go to work concocting a story around it so you can make sense of it, but what is really mind blowing to realize is the primary story your brain goes to work creating is a story that will protect you. This makes sense evolutionary when you are literally often in survival mode. But if you truly grasp that life is happening and your imperfect brain, and we’ll get into that, goes to work doing what it can with what it has, which is not everything needed, to create a story that protects you in the moment. This is why you hear a friend or your spouse tell a story of something you both experienced it and you are sitting there wondering what on earth they are talking about. You were there and that is not at all what happened, right? Well. It’s not right. Or wrong. It’s the story your brain wrote. And if this is the case, much of the trauma and limitations and negative beliefs we have about ourselves in reference to what we have experienced, or what we think we have experienced…are in question. And maybe, we are capable of more. This is the episode. Get Michael’s book you also get his MIND YOUR MINDSET COURSE for free, it’s normally $479. mindyourmindsetbook.com/selfhelpful. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If we are really honest, we begin most relationships with an agenda in mind. A transaction. We are wanting something for ourselves out of it. I know many people will reject that, and I reject their rejection. We either are hoping for something from the other person, or what we are doing for them makes us feel good about ourselves. Which is ok! Our focus today, is before you seek to get anything from anyone in a relationship, you need to earn the right. And in a relationship, this usually takes a while. But most people start relationships by talking about themselves or trying to solidify an opportunity, whether it’s a job, a date, a new friendship or a work opportunity. And they do it prematurely, before they’ve actually made any true, meaningful connection and in truth, provided some value to the other person. This is part three on Renée Marino and her message on becoming a master communicator. This is my peer discussion my co-host is Dan Miller. One, because he’s a professional communicator. Two, because he and my mom met Renée at an event put on by a big publisher and they texted me saying I just had to have her on the show, which I’ll be forever grateful for. Three, because as most of you know, Dan is my Dad, and we have great conversations together and as you’ll hear at the top of the show, I credit him with schooling me as a kid in how to communicate and win friends and influence people. I cite it as the best education I ever received and it’s very much why I find myself now with a top ranked podcast. We got overwhelming feedback about my first two episodes with Renée Marino, so I really encourage you to check them out if you haven’t yet. You can find Renée’s new book, "Becoming a Master Communicator,” anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. You can find Dan Miller at 48days.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “If you could get insight and help into an area of your personal health and wellness, where would it be? What would you ask?” The responses were very candid and covered a wide range of issues. So many, we are doing two parts to this Q&A. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this Q&A episode we go deep regarding hormones, nutrition, and screen time. We, is myself and my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. Much of what we discuss are examples Randy shares from first hand experiences with thousands of patients who pay cash to have him get to the root problems of their issues. On that note, while not everyone can get in to see him, I frequently hear about new patients working with him who heard him here on the Self-Helpful podcast. You can connect with him at truelifemedicine.com or just email them directly at [email protected]. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we think of great relationships we inherently think of being such a great and attractive person that others are just drawn to us. I think we are errantly programmed in grade school where it literally is a popularity contest. If you’re big or strong or pretty or a star quarterback, you are voted homecoming and prom royalty. This doesn’t work in the real world where we grow up and actually want to feel connected to people and if someone can’t do that we don’t care what their skills and looks. Think of the people in your life you feel cared for by. What is the common denominator? They listen to you. They care about your life and opinions. You matter to them. So do you want more or better relationships? They don’t come from telling people how great you are. They come from listening to others and helping them feel great about themselves. I’m with Renée Marino for part 2 to walk and talk through her personal Values, Motives, and Habits. In part 1 we hit on the key message from her book, Becoming a Master Communicator. Renée is a Broadway star and played the lead female role in Clint Eastwood's, Jersey Boys. She knows…communication. I discuss her personal relationship values she led off with just this...listening. Her goal is to be what she calls, a "complete listener." Listen in to hear how she defines this. She shares her recent efforts with inner child work. Her health and wellness goals center around being a powerful communicator with herself and giving focus to her self-worth, and the dangers in her career if she tied her identity and worth to the casting directors opinion of her. At the end in asking Renee about the things she does just to give herself joy and inspiration, she cites dancing, and singing, and you get a treat, as she gives us a stanza from "Someone to Watch Over Me." You can get Renee’s book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At the end of the day, at the end of our life, what matters is meaningful relationships. What purpose in living would you find if you woke up tomorrow as the only person left on earth? Now, what makes up healthy relationships? Think about it. It's communication. A car will go nowhere if it doesn't have wheels. The wheels of any relationship, is communication. And like any skill, we aren't just naturally an expert. Communicating well is a learned skill. Would you like to increase the health and success of your relationships? There is no better way to do it quickly and effectively than learning how to communicate better. So in this show I'm with Renée Marino. Renée is a bonafide Broadway star, singing, acting, and dancing in West Side Story, Pretty Woman, and Jersey Boys. Her lead role in the latter caught the eye of Clint Eastwood who took her from the stage and cast her for the lead female role in his film, Jersey Boys. Renée's livelihood is communicating. She must connect with and move the audience, and she's a master. Following the film, Renée turned her attention to the professional and personal world and is showing us the heart and skill of real communication. The kind that does just what Renée does on stage, on film, and in her personal life...truly connects us with others in a meaningful way that moves them to engage with us. We start talking about her growing up in New Jersey in an Italian American family where communication was their love language, taking her first steps on stage, and even into her marriage to an introvert and how they honor each other's styles of communication. As you'll quickly hear, I don't know that I've ever connected and resonated more with a guest on the show, which attests to Renée's skill of connecting through communication. You're going to enjoy this. Renée has culminated her methodology of communicating in her book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" which you can get anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We tend to think of our brain as a static tool we use for our life, not as a muscle we can grow and increase the capacity and ability of. We’re talking about increasing the power of our brains, something we can all do. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. We will address behavioral problems like ADHD, cognitive decline like dementia and alzheimers, and even traumatic brain injury. The first part of the show is relevant for us all, then we get into those specific pathologies. Pathologies that are primarily treated symptomatically with the perception that wherever the brain is, is where it will remain and decline and the best we can do is use pharmaceuticals to try and slow things down or mask them. We have far better news and testimonials to the true possibilities. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine yourself stepping onto a tennis court, golf course, or dance floor for the first time and immediately having correct form and performing perfectly. It’s a dumb concept as we all know it’s impossible. To even be decent requires a good bit of training and practice. Now think of all the relationships in your life. Did you have training in how to relate well? Did you practice specific relational tactics and techniques in order to be a great listener, conversationalist and expertly hone your personal relationship skills? It’s doubtful. To make matters more challenging, we actually, all, had some poor relationship skills taught to us so we come into all relationships with some poor and unhealthy form. To start improving we must first audit ourselves. This is part three of my series on Nedra Glover Tawwab and her brand new book, Drama Free. In this episode I’m joined by my frequent co-host, and brother, Jared Angaza. Yep, full blood brother and different last name. I asked Jared to join me because he’s done so much work in his own relational journey and he understands the challenges, and the benefits. We really give focus to the need and opportunity of getting clear on your relational dysfunctions. Even in the absolute best of families with great love, acceptance, and support, there are no perfect people. And as you are imperfect, you will likely adopt unhealthy perspectives around some relational concepts regardless. So getting your learned and adopted dysfunctions on the table is the first step in you having drama free relationships, as Nedra is leading us. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. You can find her on Instagram where 1.6M people are following her relational guidance. And find her new book, Drama Free, anywhere. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a renowned and prolific therapist, Nedra Glover Tawwab habitually sits with patients who are suffering today from decisions they made yesterday, last week and decades ago. So when I asked her where she’s most at risk for jeopardizing her own mental health, she shared it was in not caring for her future self. I think we can all relate to that. I’m back with Nedra to talk about her Values, Motives, and Habits. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert who celebrities and 1.6M people on Instagram turn to for relational guidance. Her new book is called Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. In this episode we start off with spirituality and Nedra talks about her efforts to find peace in her busy, taxing days. Nedra said she finds kindness very spiritually fulfilling. Relationships is her area of expertise, you can catch her on Red Table Talk talking with Jada Pinkett Smith and her family on how to set boundaries. In addition of course to having healthy boundaries, Nedra gives focus to each relationship and really considering what she wants the relationship to be like and being aware of her expectations. Regarding health and wellness she tries to eat clean and exercise but unashamedly loves candy. In her work and increasing success she is looking at how to better scale her business. With money she questions what is enough and is keen on having more conversations around money. And last with personal interests she shares how she is a very aesthetic person and finds great joy in deciding how she'll dress and present herself on any given day and she finds great joy in creating beautiful and calming environments, whether it's her office, home or yard. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you don’t really like your job or a person you’re in relationship with, the negative thoughts unconsciously affect your actions and behaviors and you end up sabotaging things and you make everything worse. Friends, this is a primary culprit in your efforts to be fit and well. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and I want you to think about these words; Food. Dieting. Exercise. When you read or hear those words, what feelings arise? Excitement or dread? Pride or shame? Guilt? We find so many people desiring to improve their health, get fit, and lose weight, but there are often negative feelings about these very things that sabotage their efforts. This show is about being aware and getting them on the table, so to speak. Not to eradicate them however. As you’ll hear in the show, often these feelings have roots back in childhood our young adulthood and they run deep. Maybe you can truly overcome and erase them. But we believe more immediate overcoming can be had by figuring out how to manage the negative feelings and move beyond them even as they still exist. Thus awareness and management is our primary objective. As Functional Medicine is a root issue methodology, this topic is foundational to your journey to wellness. I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our recent episode series was regarding the longest scientific study ever on happiness, which showcased that our greatest source of happiness comes from relationships. Yet our greatest struggles are often in relationships, so that is where we are going now. If you are in relationship with anyone, you likely have some, or a lot of unhealth in the relationship. So I’ve brought an expert. A year and a half ago I had Nedra Glover Tawwab on the show for her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace. This was a look internally at ourselves and shoring ourselves up for good relationships. Now Nedra has a brand new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. We dig deep into the relational issues that we all tend to just settle for and expect we have to endure long-term. Or we allow to actually destroy a relationship. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Her expertise is in helping people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. This is why I had her on the show, boundaries and relational assertiveness have never really existed in me. Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show and her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice. When I had her on the show 1.5 years ago she had 500k followers on Instagram. Today she has ove 1.6M who are tuning in for her relational counsel. I’m honored to have had her back for a long journey into the hard relational issues we seldom reconcile. This is a hopeful episode. A note, after the 1 hour mark we get into some sensitive topics I don’t think you’ll want to miss. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The results of the longest scientific study on happiness showed us the primary source for our happiness, today and over our life, is relationships. Obviously not the bad and toxic relationships, but the good, healthy and fulfilling ones. Which of course then begs the big question of what makes a good, healthy, and fulfilling relationship? This is part three on Robert Waldinger and a peer discussion on the study he shares in his book, The Good Life. My co-host is Tom Ziglar. Tom is CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar, the legend who inspired us that all we do is second to the relationships we have. Opening this discussion on the topic of what makes good relationships and Tom said, trust. I’d ask you to think of your best relationships and consider the level of trust, but in truth, the concept may be more apparent when I ask you to think of your most strained relationships and ask if trust is at the root of the issue? I suspect you’ll find it is. So for us then, a key understanding is what does and does not create trust in relationships? What you’ll find out is there are many thing we unknowingly do and don’t do that erode our trust with others and create relational downfalls. Listen in to get informed. Find Robert Waldinger’s book, The Good Life, anywhere you get books. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stress is depicted as the devil of our time. Everyone is stressed out and suffering from too much stress and the thing we want most as a culture is less stress. Our levels of anxiety are at an all time high as if it was a wartime scenario and the pathological manifestations continue to skyrocket. The thing is, however, stress itself isn’t a bad thing. It’s the body’s appropriate response to pressure and tension. The stress of working out and exercise is desperately needed by our bodies. It’s what makes us stronger and/or helps us maintain our strength so we don’t atrophy. But we stress our muscles and lungs, then recover. We can’t stay in a constant state of stress. Mentally is no different. When we are stressed mentally it’s not necessarily a bad thing. In a moment of crisis or challenge it’s the body’s way of dealing with the issue. And then, we need to recover. And there are often times when we are in a state of stress that in health, we should actually be a good bit more calm about. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, to discuss the good and bad of stress. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My recent show with Dr Robert Waldinger focused on the world’s longest scientific study of happiness. If you heard part 1 in episode 1095, you heard the results are…relationships. So it’s no surprise when I ask Bob what his relational values are, that he cites as a priority…his own social fitness. This is my Values, Motives & Habits show and I walk with Bob through the key aspects of his life. Bob is professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital. His TED titled, “What makes a good life?” has over 43 million views and I highly recommend you check it out. We talk about the role spirituality played in people's happiness, including his own. He's been married for 36 years and we discuss quantity vs quality time together. For health and wellness Bob strives to follow Neal Maxwell's guidance of "Never giving up what you want most for what you want today," though we share a strong inclination toward dark chocolate that he moderates to keep his weight where he wants it. He does share that taking care of one's health is one of the two predictors of happiness. He addresses his mental state by meditating and is actual a Zen master and teaches meditation all over the world. He admittedly enjoys his work and is involved in a lot and works a bit more than he should. Regarding finances he views money as neutral after basic needs are met, but regarding the study on happiness cites that having money often gives people a feeling of freedom. I asked Bob about his personal interests and pursuits and he framed the question around what he does to create energy for himself, which I love and am adopting for the show from now on. He shared that he loves talking about interesting ideas and brainstorming, we discussed the concept of flow, and he recently started taking singing and Spanish lessons. Bob’s co-authored book, The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness, has just been released. Find it wherever you get your books, and connect with Bob at robertwaldinger.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nothing sells more these days than the hope and promise of happiness. We are desperate for happiness because apparently we’re not finding it enough. We look for it in our money, possessions, entertainment and experiences. Now I bring you, literally the world’s longest study on…happiness. And the solution to our need is not surprising. The root of our happiness is…relationships. That’s it. After 80 years of studying generations of people, what gives us the most happiness is relationships. Which is a simple answer, but not an easy one. Many of our relationships bring us more trauma, and stress, and sadness than happiness. So what’s the real story? My guest is Robert Waldinger, a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School who is director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital which conducted this study. If you aren’t aware of Bob, you may have come across his TED talk, titled, “What makes a good life?” which has over over 43 million views. Bob is also cofounder of the Lifespan Research Foundation. He received his AB from Harvard College and his MD from Harvard Medical School and is a practicing psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, and he directs a psychotherapy teaching program for Harvard psychiatry residents. Bob is also a Zen master (Roshi) and teaches meditation in New England and around the world. From this study, Robert has now co-authored the book, The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness, which is being released the day after this episode goes live. Find The Good Life wherever you get your books, and you’re about to hear us discuss the highlights on what provides happiness that were most profound to me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The focus of this show is increasing fertility. Fertility is a growing issue just as so many others. When there are systemic pathologies within us, they can manifest in many ways. Fertility is one. And a quick note, if pregnancy is not a current area of interest for you, please consider passing this on to anyone you know who is trying to get or stay pregnant. They need to hear this. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. I’m with my co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and we began the show talking about infertility, but getting pregnant is step one, then just as important of course is staying pregnant and avoiding miscarriage and premature birth. Nearly 20% of couples are not able to conceive and another 10-20% miscarry. Then about 10% have premature births. Folks, that’s nearly 50% of all couples who will experience significant difficulty ending up with a full term, healthy baby. This show is paramount regarding pregnancy. As you’ll hear, we stumble into an issue that astounds me regarding what causes our bodies to say “No!” to getting and staying pregnant. This is news you will seldom hear regarding the subject. The Self-Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With every guest I have on this Self-Helpful podcast, I ask them about their personal Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life, following the seven spokes in the Ziglar Wheel of Life. In this show I bring my key co-hosts back to talk through our highlights in each spoke for the year. Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar Inc and son of legendary motivator Zig Ziglar, and Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, are with me and we all share our highlight learnings, ponderings, and resources in the seven spokes, which include Spiritual, Relational, Health & Wellness, Mindset, Career, Money & Personal Interests. For the three of us, our daily vocations are almost exclusively investigating and leading others in self-help. Tom works with many executives and coaches, Randy works with patients, and I work with you, my Self-Helpful audience, and select individuals I coach. But here I turn the tables on us. What did we most pursue and grapple with, and what resources did we utilize, which include people, books, and more. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To ring in the new year I have a special show for you where we take to task…leadership. I don’t find that people are as interested in the traditional concept of leadership as they are just being able to be a positive influence in other’s lives and helping and serving them. This is actually what true leadership is. My guests today are my most frequent co-hosts. Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, and Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar. These two men are two of my closest and dearest friends, and two of the greatest experts and students of self-help and personal growth. My initial intent was to have us audit our own year of self-help and offer insight and resources, but Tom got on to this topic of leadership and we just couldn’t let it go, as it hit to the core of our work and personal lives and we did a lot of discussion on parenting and influencing people. I stuck with the topic and my original intent you’ll hear in the next episode of Self-Helpful. We dig deep into the purpose we all find in solving problems and bringing solutions to others. The power and inspiration of being curious. And the necessity of personal and social awareness for ultimate success and fulfillment. The Self-Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hormone issues affect more and more people everyday. Testosterone and estrogen get major focus but those aren’t the only ones. Could your hormones be off and causing you problems like fatigue, mood swings, menstrual suffering, infertility, low energy and low muscle mass, weight gain and low libido? In this show we cover the primary symptoms of hormone dysregulation in women, men, and children. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about hormones. When you have physical and mental struggles, we’d all like to find a specific culprit that can be addressed and fixed and all of the sudden we feel great. Seldom is there any one such thing, but if there was…hormones issues are surprisingly common. I’m with my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, and with a lot of his patients showcasing various maladies, he is working with them on hormone treatments. Listen in and see if you find issues you relate to, and some direction to get help. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the workplace and in life, great opportunity comes to those who set themselves apart. We’re not talking about attention seeking or being better than others, but simply being clear and communicating what you can uniquely offer, which is the point. Whatever you do, you can do uniquely. Again, not better or brand new, but something coming from you in a new way, perspective, flavor or application. This is part 3 on Matt McWilliams and the message in his new book, “Turning Passions Into Profits.” In this episode I bring on Dan Miller, famed author of “48 Days To The Work You Love” and one of the premier experts and voices regarding turning passions into profits. Matt cites Dan as a teacher and mentor, so no more fitting person to continue this discussion. Dan is also…my father. We really land on the necessity and opportunity of standing out with what you can uniquely offer, and this isn’t simply a discussion for work and business. Think about your personal life and those you are most drawn to and feel cared by. You will likely be very clear on what about them most stands out to you, and you can audit yourself for what you want people to feel from you. You can still preorder Matt’s book, “Turning Passions Into Profits” now at passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self and get over $700 of bonuses. You can find Dan Miller at 48days.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My guest has ADHD, but he doesn’t see it as a problem and instead works to leverage it as a benefit. He also has low empathy, but here too he finds times where it’s actually a benefit. I’m back for part 2 with Matt McWilliams after talking about the message in his new book, Turn Your Passions Into Profits. This is my Values, Motives & Habits episode where we go behind the curtain to find out what drives Matt and how he lives from within his passions. He does admit that ADHD makes it hard to practice quiet time, which he knows is important and works to achieve. He shares his journey of losing 88 pounds which he cites was holding him back. In his work and with his team a primary objective is to "ruthlessly protect our downtime." And regarding work and money we discuss a line I pulled from his social media where he says, “I vacillate between wanting to change the world and wanting to be independently wealthy by the end of next Tuesday." You can preorder Matt’s book, “Turning Passions Into Profits” now at passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self and get over $700 of bonuses. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We tend to think of diabetes as something you have or not, like a broken leg. But diabetes in simple terms is an issue of your body being able to deal with sugar, and in our culture we all take in more sugar than our body is equipped to deal well with. In America more than one out of three Americans have diabetes or prediabetes. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we are breaking down diabetes. I’m with my co host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and he showcases that we are all on the diabetes spectrum and it’s not simply an issue of whether we tip over the edge into a full on diabetes diagnosis or not. The causes and symptoms of prediabetes need to be on your radar for yourself and if you have kids…for them. What are the chief culprits, and it’s not just high sugar foods and drinks. Who is more at risk and why? This show is relevant for everyone, us included. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Work at what you love. Work at what you’re passionate about. We hear this message a lot, yet few people are really doing it, and I’m submitting here that we tend to view it wrong. Let’s drop the baggage you may think of around words like love and passion and just think on something you care about. Wouldn’t you rather have a surgeon working on you who knows more than how to do the surgery, but really, inherently cares about helping people? If she/he does care, they will likely do a better job and help you and themselves far more. What do you care about that is a good fit for you and the marketplace. Then, how do you best make money with it? This is our focus today, to take an age old issue and breath new, paradigm shifting light into it. My guest is Matt McWilliams. Matt has been helping people make money about what they care about for a long time, including names you’ll likely know such as Shark Tank’s Kevin Harrington, Tony Robbins, Michael Hyatt, Claire Diaz-Ortiz, Lewis Howes, Brian Tracy and more. I’ve know Matt a long time and know first hand from scores of people how he’s helped them hone in on something they care about, and then, his specialty, how to make money from it. Not simply so you can make money, but so you can…in order to keep doing what you care about. I want you doing what you care about. It makes you happy and fulfilled and from that you will give happiness and fulfillment to others! Matt is just now releasing his new book titled, “Turn Your Passions Into Profits” and it was my muse for this discussion. He really turns the tables on many of our misconceptions around this concept, so you’ll hear some paradigm shifting info right off the bat. Of interest, my publisher wants me to get 250 or more pre-orders of my book on Amazon before publication date, as it helps take it to the top of the rankings. Matt has over 1,200 already. You can pre-order now at passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self and get a truckload of add on bonuses. passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you break it down and really look at it, nearly all our attempts to love others are action based. They are things we do. One of the bestselling self-help books of all time is The 5 Love Languages and it cites words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, physical touch and acts of service. But all of those are…acts. Things we do. And yet where we feel the most love from people is not in any act, but in them connecting with us. Being love, in essence, not doing love. This is part 3 on the message from Humble The Poet and his new book, How To Be Loved. Today I’m talking about Humble and his message with again, my brother, Jared Angaza. I just keep having guests that are right in Jared’s wheelhouse of experience, so I brought him back on. I’ve gotten a lot of positive feedback about Jared and his insight, and as you hear me mention in this show, he’s the brand and culture architect behind my new look, which you can see at kevinmiller.co. You can connect with him at jaredangaza.com. Here we also take aim at the idea of you not being able to love others beyond the extent to which you love yourself. What we came to is…you can loathe yourself and still do…a lot of loving. You can do a lot of acts of love. But it’s pretty impossible to be the love they need, if you can’t be the love you need for yourself. It’s a big distinction. What this episode will do is help you see why so many of your efforts to love others don’t end up being the love they really need and you’re killing yourself for nothing. You can make a shift, and quit wearing yourself out, and finally connect in a way that matters to you and those you…love. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Happiness” is a dramatically popular topic today, as many are not feeling so happy. A very real issue however is whether you have the mental and physical ability to even adequately receive and retain happiness, and further, joy and hope. If you keep scrambling for happy moments but it doesn’t last, maybe you have a leak. Imagine I had a pitcher of your favorite beverage, wine, coffee, or tea. You hold your mug or glass out and I pour in the glorious elixir. But alas, before your container reaches your lips, the liquid drains out through multiple cracks. You get nothing. So you go back for a refill only to never get it to your lips. Are you pursuing happiness but some of it is falling through the cracks of your compromised body and mind which don’t have the capacity to contain it? This is my Functional Friday episode and I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we talk through this very real and present issue, a growing issue, in our culture today. What is causing the leaks and what to do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is about relationships, but to explain it I’m going to use the analogy of digestive problems and foods. If you struggle with IBS or gas and bloating and such, and you want to get better, you’ve got to become aware of your sensitivities. What foods help and hurt you. With relationships it’s no different. Some relationships are glorious, and some cause you discomfort, if not flat out pain. To have peace you must know your personal and relational priorities and values so you can create a sustainable menu that produces good results. This is one of the things I got from talking again with Humble The Poet in this Values, Motives & Habits episode, as he discussed how a priority in his relational health is having clarity of his own priorities and values when it comes to the relationships he invests in. Some other aspects of his values we covered...spiritually his focus is minimizing lust, greed, anger, attachment and ego. He doesn't want to arrive at death safely but to live life on the edges. He views movement as medicine and of great intrigue to me was he labeled his life as a writer where he sits still for such long periods of time, as not as healthy of that as a bartender who is always on the move, lifting, bending and reaching. I now have to deal with this concept as a writer, which I'm not sure I appreciate. Humble consistently sees a therapist so he's getting counsel from someone who is not a stakeholder in his life. Great way to put it. He doesn't participate in social media much himself, he has a team do it for him. And as a full time artist he discusses his pursuit of slow art that is better for the soul and ultimately more lucrative. Find Humble’s new book, “How To Be Loved” anywhere and find him and all his social media at HumbleThePoet.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices