The Art of Charm

Dan Harris (@danbharris) is a co-anchor of Nightline and the weekend edition of Good Morning America on ABC News. He's the author of 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works -- A True Story, about a fidgety, skeptical newsman who reluctantly became a meditator.The Cheat Sheet:If you're like most people, your deceptive inner voice acts as a malevolent puppeteer -- and it doesn't have your best interests at heart.When trying to come to terms with this malevolent puppeteer, meditation is more effective (and much easier) than you probably think.Contrary to popular misconception, meditation is more than just thinking about nothing (that's reserved for Zen masters and dead people).Even those of us with short attention spans (like Dan Harris) can learn to focus for the nanoseconds it takes to meditate and use it to come to terms with our malevolent puppeteer.The mindfulness found through meditation is a way to view the contents of our mind with nonjudgmental remove -- there are verifiable, scientific results, and there's nothing woo about it.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dan-harris-10-percent-happier-episode-500/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to give us a woman's perspective on setting boundaries and cracking the Narcissist Code.The Cheat Sheet:Women often fall into the role of the caretaker -- but how can they avoid becoming overcaretakers who habitually attract jerks, narcissists, and man children?Understand what it takes to set boundaries and how this filters out the wrong type of partner.Learn how to crack the Narcissist Code from the minute you say "hello."Get rid of old, harmful patterns of behavior with the Old Tape exercise.Discover what it takes for people to stop accusing you of being "too nice."And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kimberly-seltzer-how-to-set-boundaries-episode-499/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.We'll send all of this to your inbox if you text CHARMED to 33444.And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!In this episode:Should you be content with a so-called "good" career at a good company and stop complaining just because you're not using the skills and natural talents that make you feel alive?Do millennials really deserve most of the bashing they get from their supposedly wiser elders? As discussed recently with Gary Vaynerchuk, negative first impressions aren't set in stone. Just because someone doesn't like you now doesn't mean they won't warm up to you later.Do you ever worry if constantly doing the "right" thing is holding you back from experiencing life fully?What do you do when you don't drink, but all the dating advice you get tells you bars are the best place to meet new people?How do you not look like "the gay guy" when you're out on the town with a group of five or six women?Should an Army officer consider investing time in an advanced degree?Listener Xavier calls in [as you can too at (415) 429-1915!] and gives us some excellent advice and useful tools for people moving to a new town.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected] or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-55-fear-of-a-millennial-planet/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Jeff Spencer (@jeffspencer) is here to tell us how he enables the impossible when everything's on the line. He's helped Olympic athletes win gold medals, he's helped businessmen make millions of dollars, and he's helped thought leaders move to the next level with his Champion's Blueprint program. "I'm the red telephone!" -Dr. Jeff Spencer The Cheat Sheet: Learn how to create a life that's in alignment with your talents. Hear Dr. Spencer's personal account of the 1972 Munich Summer Olympics tragedy. Decide how you're going to show up every day -- because how you act reflects on other people's performance. What's your legacy statement? (If you don't have one, you'll learn how to create it.) Why can't you outrun your blind spots? And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dr-jeff-spencer-champions-blueprint-episode-498/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to give us a woman's perspective on flirting.The Cheat Sheet:What is the definition of flirting -- and how does it differ between women and men?Learn the top five excuses why women don't flirt or use femininity in dating and in the work force.Discover three practical ways to flirt that will attract what you want.Use Kimberly's magic formula for attraction (The Three Fs: have Fun, pay attention to Fashion, and tap into your Flirty femininity).Tune in to Kimberly's Dating GPS.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kimberly-seltzer-flirting-for-women-episode-497/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!AJ fills in for Jordan this time around, so let's cut to it!In this episode:No matter how confident you are, presentations take preparation. Don't let one bombed presentation knock you off a confident course. Have you checked out Toastmasters?Is it ever too soon to tell a romantic interest that you'll be moving to a new town (or a new country)?As a man, are you ever too old to rock the long hair?What do you do when your significant other seemingly stops caring about their appearance?Can a remorseful emotional cheater restore trust and mend the relationship they broke?Do you have to be hard wired to be an entrepreneur -- and if you're not, can you change your programming?Ever wondered how to anticipate someone's thought patterns?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected] or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-54-long-hair-dont-care/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scott Barry Kaufman (@sbkaufman) believes in the power of imagination and creativity to transform society for the better. He's the co-author of Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind, which details the 10 habits of highly creative people.The Cheat Sheet:What's the difference between imagination and creativity?Learn how creative people have "messy" minds (and why this doesn't mean what it sounds like it means).What is creative thinking?Openness to new experiences is the number one best predictor of creativity.Understand how adopting the Outsider's Mindset -- looking at your everyday experiences (such as work) as an outsider -- can give you new and creative insights.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/scott-barry-kaufman-wired-to-create-episode-496/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Philip McKernan (@PhilipMcKernan) is like a life flow chiropractor. He helps people find or reconnect to what it is they truly love by aligning with their own intuition instead of suppressing it for the expectations of others and appeasement of a misleading mindset."We will literally live entire existences, build entire empires, and build entire businesses because we are seeking the validation of people around us -- and most people would be in complete denial of that reality." -Philip McKernanThe Cheat Sheet:If you're not living a life you love, it's time to have a tough conversation with yourself.How will an intuitive "soulset" serve you beyond the limitations of an intellectually driven (and inauthentic) mindset?What is intuition, and does it have a place in business?Why do we build webs of ever-increasing complexity around ourselves?It takes courage to step away from something that's not working -- but it's almost always worth it.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/philip-mckernan-intuitive-clarity-episode-495/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.We'll send all of this to your inbox if you text CHARMED to 33444.And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!In this episode:What should you do when you start falling for your best friend's girlfriend?Can a college kid go through a midlife crisis?Do grandparents have any right to complain about the name that's been given to their grandkid?Approach anxiety happens to us all. How do we get over it?You're vanilla and your partner's kinky. Is it possible to find a middle ground that satisfies you both?How do you handle the friendly neighborhood player who flirts with your wife in public -- right in front of you?Jordan's video this week is about how emotional reasoning sabotages success in all of us (and what we can do about it).Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected] or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-53-not-crazy-for-kinky/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gary Vaynerchuk (@garyvee) revisits The Art of Charm to talk about his new book #AskGaryVee: One Entrepreneur's Take on Leadership, Social Media, and Self-Awareness and answer questions from listeners and AoC alumni."Everybody old cares way more about how they made their money vs. how much they made." -Gary VaynerchukThe Cheat Sheet:With so many platforms at his disposal, why does Gary continue to write books?Where does a workaholic like Gary stand on the concept of work/life balance?When do we quit if something isn't working?How do you know if you're hard-wired to be an entrepreneur?How do we balance the hunger required to achieve Plan A while not taking too much comfort in Plan B?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/gary-vaynerchuk-askgaryvee-episode-494/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Teresa de Grosbois (@TeresaDee) is an influence expert sought by entrepreneurs and large corporations wanting to better understand how local word of mouth can suddenly turn epidemic, and she's the author of Mass Influence: The Habits of the Highly Influential.The Cheat Sheet:Why is developing a knack for mass influence more important than just offering improvement to your own life?Learn the simple habits you can build to become someone who can easily create meaningful change and support others in doing the same.Discover how influencers think and the habits they follow, including the unspoken rule book they play byWhat are the top mistakes to avoid when dealing with influential people?Discover what you need to know to get past the gatekeepers in meeting influencers.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/teresa-de-grosbois-mass-influence-episode-493/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.In this episode:Can your personal growth still thrive if you're in a relationship with an underachiever?A man in sweatpants every night is just as unsexy as a woman in sweatpants every night.Should an interviewer ever challenge a subject matter expert if their experience with the subject differs?An Art of Charm bootcamp veteran explains why he chose our residency program over some of the larger ones out there (and what he told his friends who asked what he was doing on his week away).How important is your grade point average in college compared to actually learning something useful?What do you do when you see someone clearly engaging in supplicative behavior?Check out Jordan's video this week about why you need to cultivate discipline to win.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected] or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-52-supplicative-sweatpants/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch), author of Love Factually, rejoins us to explain how men can enter, exit, and recover from relationships in a way that benefits them...all based on science.The Cheat Sheet:Is "love at first sight" a real thing? Science has the surprising answer.Women have shaped men psychologically over the course of evolutionary history.How do mating strategies differ between men and women?Learn the best predictors for whether your partner will cheat or be faithful.What (specifically) should you say to someone you need to break up with?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/duana-welch-love-logically-episode-492/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jay Baer (@JayBaer), author of Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers, shows us why we should strive to understand our haters and communicate with them instead of getting defensive or -- worse -- ignoring them altogether."When you answer your critics in public, they never see it coming. You can blow their minds and steal their hearts." -Jay BaerThe Cheat Sheet:Customer retention should take precedence over acquiring new customers in any business, yet marketing budgets overwhelmingly exceed customer service budgets across all industries. Why?Thanks to social media, customer complaints are more public than ever. A smart company will see this as an opportunity for customer engagement and satisfaction rather than a setback.80 percent of businesses say they deliver superior customer service. Eight percent of their customers agree.The Rule of Two: never interact with someone online more than twice. If they love you, there's no need to answer more than twice. If they hate you, there's no need to answer more than twice.Learn to harness The Hatrix and identify the two types of haters -- onstage haters and offstage haters -- and understand what they ultimately want (and how you can win them over).And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jay-baer-hug-your-haters-episode-491/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.All right, let's cut to it!In this episode:How do you make friends when you've moved to a new place and you've never been away from your hometown before?A listener shares a story relative to Fan Mail Friday #49, and helps prove our demographic is ever-changing.The book-learning is with you, young medical student. But you are not a Jedi doctor yet."Achievers always support doing things to better themselves and people around them instead of accepting where they currently are."How do you know who to invest in and focus on rather than spreading yourself too thin on people who don't see your value?When is it okay to express your opinions to your friends, and how do you know when you're overreaching?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected] or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-51-bubonic-plague-friday/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Michael Roderick (@MichaelRoderick) went from being a high school teacher to a broadway producer in two years. Here, he shares what he's learned about the different ways we connect and how they tie into our own issues around giving and asking.The Cheat Sheet:You may understand the importance of creating a network, but do you understand the importance of curating that network?Are the people in your network as invested in your success as you are in theirs?Find out how to break your network down into four categories and discover who to focus your energy and time on.Understand the difference between framework and formula (and which is more effective).Learn the GATE strategy for creating a balance in your life around giving, asking, thanking, and experimenting.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/michael-roderick-small-pond-enterprises-episode-490/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Russ Roberts (@EconTalker) talks about how economics can help us understand the world around us and lead better lives. He's the author of How Adam Smith Can Change Your Life: An Unexpected Guide to Human Nature and Happiness and host of the EconTalk podcast.The Cheat Sheet:Adam Smith's deepest insight into human nature -- what really makes us tick -- is being loved and lovely.Learn about the impartial spectator -- Smith's basis for our conscienceWhat are the dangers of self-deception at work and at home?The father of capitalism thought that seeking wealth for its own sake is a fool's game and corrupts us.Even in 1759, Adam Smith understood the seductive power of gadgets, celebrities, and powerful politicians.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/russ-roberts-how-adam-smith-can-change-your-life-episode-489/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #50, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right!In this episode:Remember this one important rule when someone keeps blowing you off: your time is your most valuable commodity.Sunblocking and risking vitamin D deficiency (as discussed with Dr. Rhonda Patrick in episode 485) vs. not sunblocking and risking skin cancer.Trying to be productive but you can't get past the nervous anxiety that makes it hard to get a good night's sleep, leaves you prone to distractions, makes you unable to express what's really on your mind, and keeps you habitually doing things you wish you wouldn't? As far as solutions go, Jordan is not mad about adderall.When is the right time to bring a possibly serious significant other to a family function?What cover story do you tell people when you're gone for the week of an AoC bootcamp program?Should you get into the habit of rejecting friendships or relationships that won't give you what you want?Does relationship advice that's coming from someone in a long-term relationship tend to be one-sided in favor of a certain gender over another?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected] or even, thanks to our friends at Burner App, leave us a voicemail or text at (415) 429-1915!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-50-not-mad-about-adderall/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Ben Michaelis (@DrBenMichaelis) is a motivational psychologist and author of Your Next Big Thing: Ten Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy. Here, he shows us how to stop trying to avoid stress and, instead, utilize it in intelligent ways."The tighter we hold onto things and try to control them, oftentimes the more difficult it is to have influence over them." -Dr. Ben MichaelisThe Cheat Sheet:Stress is inevitable, so stop trying to avoid it and learn to leverage it for constructive purposes.Is anxiety the same thing as stress?Understand how cognitive biases get in your way.Learn the difference between eustress and distress -- and how to get the right amount of the right kind of stress when you need it.How do we overcome our evolutionary programming to focus on actual problems vs. imaginary problems?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/ben-michaelis-your-next-big-thing-episode-488/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brian Koppelman (@BrianKoppelman) was a blocked writer until he was 30. Now, he's the showrunner, co-creator, and executive producer of Billions on Showtime and the host of Slate's The Moment podcast. How did he turn things around? He's here to discuss this and share his Hollywood stories with us on The Art of Charm. "The armchair quarterback is easy to filter out; just look and see what kind of work they're producing." -Brian Koppelman The Cheat Sheet: Law school is an expensive (but not completely useless) place to learn life lessons. How do you know when you've done work of "undeniable" quality -- in the absolute sense? The line between being an artist and being delusional is very thin. If you want to be a screenwriter, read a thousand screenplays. We focus so much on the hustle that sometimes we forget to focus on the work. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/brian-koppelman-making-billions-episode-487/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #49! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Be careful of giving too much significance to someone you think of as a "significant other" -- especially if years have passed and you've only interacted online or by phone.A college enrollment counselor responds to a question last week regarding deportation and passes along what may prove to be important information about Optional Practical Training.Is it "once a cheater, always a cheater," or "once a snooper, always a snooper?" Therapy may provide the answers you seek.A mom responds to the listener who was wondering how to justify to his wife the benefits of coming to an AoC bootcamp.Your good friend confides in you that she was having an affair with someone who's married and has kids, but it's ended and she's devastated. What do you do?When most components of a relationship are ideal but one person grew up working hard for every penny and the other person never had to, how can you balance the dynamic?We can find some serious gold in the emotional buttons that trigger us. Find out what those triggers mean, how to find them, and what to do about them in Jordan's new video here!Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-49-do-it-for-the-children/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Frances Cole Jones (@FCJones), author of How to Wow, wants you (yes, you!) to know that charisma is something you can learn and cultivate for better job interviews, sales pitches, presentations, and connecting with others.The Cheat Sheet:Understand the impact of body language on communication (by managing your own and reading that of others).Learn how to listen for intent as well as content.Use this proven language for increasing listener buy-in from 60 percent to 94 percent.How should you stand when you want to convey authority?How should you sit when you want to gain someone’s trust?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/frances-cole-jones-how-to-wow-episode-486/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Rhonda Patrick (@foundmyfitness) of FoundMyFitness.com talks about micronutrient deficiencies on metabolism, inflammation, DNA damage, and aging as well as the role of vitamin D and omega-3 fatty acids in brain function.The Cheat Sheet:Just because you don’t have scurvy doesn’t mean you’re getting all the vitamins and minerals your body needs.Genetics get credited (or blamed) for cognitive function when what we eat and how we live have just as much (or more) impact.How does stress affect your capacity to learn?Learn what inflammation is and why reducing it is key to health and longevity.Why should you use a sauna two to three times per week?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dr-rhonda-patrick-found-my-fitness-episode-485/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #48! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Was Cal Newport's advice to entrepreneurs in episode 482 of The Art of Charm too practical? (We get some clarification from the source.)As the new guy on the job, you might expect some lighthearted newbie-ribbing from your boss and coworkers -- but what do you do when it seems to cross the line between having fun and making you appear incompetent?The Art of Charm's not for everybody.What's our advice to a teacher who is wondering how to give out advice to students (especially regarding the go to college/don't go to college conundrum)?How do you hug someone without being awkward or creepy?Is six months too soon to make a genuine proposal to your foreign-born sweetheart who may otherwise face deportation?We should revel in having awesome friends instead of comparing ourselves to them. Jordan tells us how to stop comparing ourselves to others in this video.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-48-derple-hazing/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dov Gordon (@dovgordon) helps consultants, experts, and small professional service firms build a steady, consistent, predictable flow of ideal clients. He also tells us why it's important to take "Seddon Days" by putting our priorities in perspective and what we can learn by pondering the gravity of The Last Webinar.The Cheat Sheet:As a business owner, why would you ever take on a client who's not a good fit?What was The Last Webinar, and what does it mean to take a Seddon Day?Ask yourself Mike's five questions from The Last Webinar.Do you postpone life for work? If so, why are you working?It's not morbid to consider the welfare of your loved ones if you should shuffle off your mortal coil before they do -- it's practical.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dov-gordon-the-last-webinar-episode-484/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pat Flynn (@patflynn) helps entrepreneurs build and grow successful online businesses with his book Will It Fly?: How to Test Your Next Business Idea So You Don't Waste Your Time and Money and the Smart Passive Income podcast and blog.The Cheat Sheet:An entrepreneur needs to develop a mindset of steely resolve to overcome resistance from family, friends, not-friends, and -- most important -- him or herself.How do you assure your worried spouse you're mitigating risk for a new venture and not condemning your family to bankruptcy (without falling into the switchtracking trap)?Would you pass The Airport Test?Use these four quadrants to determine what makes (or would make) your life awesome.Try the 3 Ps Exercise to make sure your business plan is worth pursuing before wasting your time and money.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/pat-flynn-will-it-fly-episode-483/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #47! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend. To mix things up a little, AJ joins us for this episode!In this episode:What's the difference between confidence and arrogance, and how can you make sure you're gaining the former while losing the latter?How can you slow your roll and stop habitually falling madly in love on first dates?Should you get romantically involved with an old flame who's "only" separated?What do you do when your best friend's spouse seems to hate you?How should you address self-deprecation while flirting?Is there any way to atone for awkward interactions you've had in the past with people who frequent your usual haunts?When you stop fretting about figuring out your life's passion, it may just find you. Channel your energy into more play time and watch this video!Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-47-self-deprecation-and-arrogance/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cal Newport (@calnewport) shows us how to cultivate meaningful and successful working lives while debunking the "follow your passion" advice that lesser professors peddle to the masses. The Cheat Sheet: Why is "follow your passion" bad advice -- and what are some better alternatives? The traits that make work great are rare and valuable -- so you need rare and valuable skills (career capital) in the workplace. How does cognitive residue significantly reduce our cognitive capacity (and how can we lessen its impact in our modern world of countless distractions)? Understand the difference between a craftsman mindset and a passion mindset -- and which will serve you better. Working right trumps finding the right work. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/cal-newport-so-good-they-cant-ignore-you-episode-482/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cameron Herold (@CameronHerold) tells us how we can double our revenue and profit in three years or less in his book Double Double.The Cheat Sheet:What's the real harm in a serial entrepreneur's lack of focus?Sometimes, working backwards is the best way forward.What does R&D really stand for?Learn why you should work on your B team to make them A players and lose the C players.Focus your learning on what's coming next.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/cameron-herold-double-double-episode-481/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #46! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! Kim Seltzer joins Jordan in this episode to offer a genuine therapist's perspective. Enjoy!In this episode:What dating advice do we have for a couple in a 14-year marriage who just decided to start swinging?How do you deal with a workplace bully who stalks you, threatens violence against you, tries to sabotage your career, and makes you wary of trusting anyone?Is a confident, married wingwoman hurting her single friends' chances at romance more than she's helping them?How do you get your best friend to stop idealizing and pining for his ex-girlfriend and move on with his life?What do you do when you've given up on all religions, but only seem to attract women who have strong ties to their faith?What's the benefit of outdressing your colleagues (especially when your colleagues dress like day-drinking beach drifters)?How do you fix sabotaging self-talk? Jordan talks about it in this latest video.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-46-outdressing-your-bullies/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) practices and teaches the skills of learning to love wholeheartedly by looking at what gets in the way, and discusses her book Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love.The Cheat Sheet:There are five natural stages through which romantic relationships cycle: The Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, Decision, and Wholehearted Love.Why does "falling in love" make us do crazy things?When your relationship winds up in an anxiety-fueled loop, how can you break out?What does Linda recommend for spicing up a perfunctory sex life?Understand these three components of good sex: desire, arousal, and orgasm.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/linda-carroll-love-cycles-episode-480/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bill Caskey and Bryan Neale (@advancedselling) of The Advanced Selling Podcast show us we don't have to be in sales to master our "inner game" mindset and get what we want out of life.The Cheat Sheet:Whether we realize it or not, we're all in sales -- no matter what we're trying to accomplish.Understand that your philosophy has an impact on your words and results.Learn how the age-old concept of detachment gives you the power in virtually any situation -- and makes you attractive to your audience.Discover what amateurs say and sound like -- and how to be professional in what you do.Check out this language framework to use in your next meaningful conversation.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bill-caskey-and-bryan-neale-advanced-selling-episode-479/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #45! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How can you objectively qualify relationship red flags in your own situation when your people-pleasing tendencies have blurred the current boundaries on which that relationship was founded?How do you build your socializing and friendship skills up when depression has made you take a long hiatus from being around people?To what extent should one allow the workplace to touch one's personal life (especially when one-sided romantic interest pierces the usual veil of professionalism)?They say practice makes perfect -- are you missing out on this practice by not dating casually when you've made a choice to wait until you're more ready to settle down?What advice does a former kidnapping victim have for someone who keeps getting "manjacked?"If you know you're moving to another country soon, is it wrong to lead on "a sure thing" without telling them?How can practicing gratitude change your life forever?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-45-red-flag-intervention/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maria Konnikova (@mkonnikova) shows us how we can defend ourselves against would-be con artists and use the same principles for more benign purposes in her new book The Confidence Game.The Cheat Sheet:As it turns out, you can fool an honest man. But cynics -- by their own overconfidence in being savvy and "scamproof" -- are just as susceptible to deception. Technology and the abundance of information most of us freely surrender to the Internet makes the con artist's job easier than ever before.What type of person becomes a con artist?How can we avoid getting scammed?Understand how belief works, why we over-believe in some things (even when we have no evidence for them), and how this plays into our susceptibility to deception.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/maria-konnikova-the-confidence-game-episode-478/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Steve Kamb (@stevekamb) gives us a blueprint to follow, based on game mechanics and nerd culture, to finally accomplish things in our lives we've always wanted but never found the time for in his first book, Level Up Your Life.The Cheat Sheet:Stuck in a rut? Need to get in shape and add more adventure to your life? Take your own hero's journey and stop letting fictional characters have all the fun.What is The Progress Principle, and how does it help us stay motivated in pursuit of larger goals?How can you ensure you'll return to your hero's journey when you occasionally falter (as most mere mortals do from time to time)?Life is a multiplayer game.Learn how to identify and quantify your fear, and then take action and use that fear to succeed.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/steve-kamb-level-up-your-life-episode-477/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #44! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!Because Jordan is out of town, Kim Seltzer joins Jason for today's Fan Mail Friday!In this episode:How does someone with Tourette syndrome make good first impressions?How do you break up with someone who has mental health issues?What do you do when you're happy with where you live, but your spouse wants to move to a city that's a thousand miles away?How does a woman who already has a boyfriend make new platonic male friends without leading anyone on?How does someone who's been out of the dating scene for a while due to self-confidence issues get back into it -- especially in an unfamiliar town?What really creates attraction? (And what do you do when you find yourself constantly attracted to the "wrong" people?)Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-44-data-dating/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jon Acuff (@JonAcuff) shares how we can rescue Monday, reinvent our work, and never get stuck -- at any age or stage of career -- in his new book Do Over.The Cheat Sheet:90 percent of Americans are disengaged from work -- are you among them?If you spend as many hours watching television as the average American, binge-ification is ruining your hustle.In spite of its current trendiness, most people shouldn't be entrepreneurs. (Though those who are geared for it wouldn't have it any other way.)Anyone can't do everything. Examples: Not everyone should write a book. Not everyone should release an album. Not everyone should try out for the NFL.Ask these five questions to figure out what skills you really have.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jon-acuff-do-over-episode-476/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) shows us how use the SMART goal system from his new Freedom Journal to accomplish a number one objective in 100 days.The Cheat Sheet:What is the number one reason some entrepreneurs succeed while others fail?Which is more likely to win the battle of changing your life: the physical presence of a giant book that constantly reminds you of its presence versus just another easily ignored app?What's the advantage of trying to accomplish one goal in 100 days over trying to accomplish several? FOCUS (Follow One Course Until Success).How do you ensure your one goal is SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Timely)?Can a regular goal be turned into a SMART goal partway through?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/john-lee-dumas-smart-goals-episode-475/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #43! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How do you keep your work ethic strong when you're surrounded by countless distractions and people whose goals are short-sighted?What are the best habits you can cultivate if you're looking to improve yourself?What adjustments and expectations will make a move from the country to the big city go as smoothly as possible?It would seem like you dodged a bullet when an ex-fiance breaks it off and moves back in with the terrible boyfriend she had before you -- if it weren't for the fact she's carrying your unborn child. What do you do now?If you're afraid to strike up conversations with strangers, what are some exercises you can do to beat approach anxiety?How do you date when you're living with your parents for the next few years while paying off a massive debt?How do you find a positive in every negative?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-43-ignore-mom-talk-to-strangers/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rob Scott (@rob_scott) is a master coach known for hijacking people's minds, rewiring their limiting beliefs, and leaving them completely transformed.The Cheat Sheet:Why is self-sabotage such a common characteristic among human beings, and how can we break away from it?Our beliefs are like lenses; they alter the way we view reality, and they're designed to be invisible -- which can make changing faulty beliefs all the more difficult.What's the "ninja move" that will help you identify and correct your own lenses?Learn how Rob overcame three decades of rough personal history to triumph over a victim mindset and take responsibility for his own course of actions -- even through a life-threatening illness.There are three steps to changing your limiting beliefs: awareness (look), new choice (challenge), and subconscious pattern (replace).And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/rob-scott-identity-shifting-mastermind-episode-474/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm team (@TheArtofCharm) recounts personal favorite episodes from 2015. Did your favorite episode get left out? Leave a comment and let us know!The Cheat Sheet:Could you name your five favorite Art of Charm episodes from 2015?Are you sure?You just thought of another five, didn't you?Or was it more like 10? 20? 30?It's almost impossible, but we tried! Here are the results.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/aoc-best-of-2015-episode-473/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #42! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Does consistently getting bored with people you date indicate there's a problem with you?What happens when you're only attracted to people who are "super hot" -- and what's wrong with grading potential romantic interests on a scale of one to 10?How can long-distance relationships become long-lasting relationships?Can we make shorter, more condensed Art of Charm podcasts?Do you need to change your technique to pick up people of another ethnicity or culture?What happens in Reno doesn't always stay in Reno.How to stop worrying and assume a positive outcome, instead.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-42-what-happens-in-reno/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shawn Rafferty (@SafetyBlueprint) is here to show us how to avoid being victimized by harnessing the key principles of situational and observational awareness and making them a permanent part of our daily routine.The Cheat Sheet:What's more important than knowing how to react to a confrontation?Learning how to avoid danger is less of an investment of time and energy than learning how to fight -- and more likely to keep you alive.What are the differences between situational and observational awareness?Even though we statistically live during the safest time in human history, cultivating a natural awareness of potential threats pays off more than willful blindness when bad people mark you as an easy target.Learn some tips for becoming a hard target.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/shawn-rafferty-the-safety-blueprint-episode-472/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matt Moore (@HHOFD) is here to show you how to become a better version of yourself -- personally, in relationships, in friendships, and in business -- by cooking and sharing food with others.The Cheat Sheet:If you aren't cooking, why aren't you cooking?Among its benefits, cooking for yourself promotes self-sufficiency, good health, and creativity.What is the number one goal of a chef at a restaurant?Contrary to popular opinion, bacon is not the be-all, end-all of great foods. You can create something healthier and just as satisfying if you know how.We often stress the importance of networking; cooking offers you a chance to be more social and generous.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/matt-moore-the-gentlemans-kitchen-episode-471/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #41! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:"Pull my finger" is the new "It's not you -- it's me." How do you tactfully let a lifelong friend know that their sudden weight gain has you worried for their health?Is going to college still worth it?We all do stupid things when we're young -- but they often make for interesting stories we tell our whole lives. What happens when we get older and wiser and feel like our new stories aren't as exciting?When one person in a steady relationship makes a lot more money, why does the other person always get stuck picking up the tab on dates?What should you not talk about on a first date -- especially if you want to ensure a second date?What sore spots in the past may have left you feeling insecure about something? Jordan talks about it in this week's short video.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-41-winds-of-change/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scott Harrison (@scottharrison) has convinced more than 20,000 people to give up their birthday presents to raise money for people who need access to clean, safe water in developing countries. And in only nine years, charity: water has raised more than $200M from one million supporters. But his goals are far more ambitious...The Cheat Sheet:While most Americans take access to clean water for granted, 663 million people (nearly 1 in 10 people in the world) live without it.Without clean water, people suffer from countless health problems (like diseases, parasites, and tumors), a lack of education (especially teenage girls who have to take a week off of school every month for lack of washrooms), and a lack of income (especially women who have to spend hours every day traveling to gather it).On a soul-searching trip to Africa, ex-club promoter Scott Harrison started charity: water to help bring clean water to these suffering millions -- because he witnessed firsthand what happens to people without it.A six-year-old named Lory gave up his birthday presents one year, asking family and friends to donate $6 each, instead, to help build clean water projects. He raised $2,386. How much could you raise?How did Scott start charity: water from his friend's couch while $30,000 in debt?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/scott-harrison-give-up-your-birthday-episode-470/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) presents this toolbox episode about networking and social capital basics that will give you an important leg up in your own relationship development skills!The Cheat Sheet:Relationship development (and, by extension, the dreaded word 'networking') is the highest leverage point you can learn in business and your personal life.How do you make real connections at so-called networking events -- and elsewhere?Any opportunity that you have to meet someone becomes another gate to opening your network.How can you add value to interactions with people as you're beginning to build your network -- even if you feel you have nothing to offer?Avoid the pitfalls of agenda-based (inauthentic) networking and learn how to be authentic when making important connections that will last for years to come.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/aoc-toolbox-social-capital-basics-episode-469/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #40! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:In the 21st century, who pays for what and when in the world of (American) dating?When is the right time to bring your serious significant other home to meet the family?Does your relationship have what it takes to level up?How does the responsible, punctual one stop feeling like a weird lurker while waiting for habitually tardy friends?When traveling alone, how do you meet people -- of any gender -- while making it clear that you're not hitting on them?How do you overcome the fear of giving a disastrous toast at a wedding?If you have outdated or inaccurate programming in your brain, you simply can't interpret things differently until you rewire your programming. Jordan talks about it a bit in this short video.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-40-disastrous-toasts-and-punctual-lurkers/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kabir Sehgal (@HiKabir) looks at biological, psychological, and external factors that help us make sense of how we interact with our dollars in his book Coined: the Rich Life of Money and How Its History Has Shaped Us.The Cheat Sheet:What happens in your brain when you think about money? There's a science for that, and it's called neuroeconomics.The anticipation of gaining money tends to provoke a stronger reaction than having money -- part of our survival wiring?The way we deal with money is coded on a genetic level -- in fact, about 20 percent of your credit score is influenced by your genetics.Why should you pay with cash if you're trying to save money (beyond the obvious reason of avoiding excessive interest payments)?Why is the sun a good business barometer?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kabir-sehgal-the-darwin-of-dollars-episode-468/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jay Samit (@jaysamit) is a leading technology innovator and serial entrepreneur who tells us how to master personal transformation, seize opportunity, and thrive in this era of endless innovation.The Cheat Sheet:Are you living your life, or are you just paying bills until you die?Whether by choice or what's already happening, your world will be disrupted by change. It's either an obstacle or an opportunity -- the choice is yours.You don't have to be a brilliant inventor to solve today's problems; examine how existing systems can be modified and combined for new solutions.What is the Zombie Idea -- and how and why should it be cultivated?You can hire expertise, but you can't hire persistence.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jay-samit-disrupt-you-episode-467/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices