The Art of Charm
The Art of Charm · http://www.TheArtOfCharm.com
Show overview
The Art of Charm has been publishing since 2007, and across the 19 years since has built a catalogue of 1,047 episodes, alongside 1 trailer or bonus episode. That works out to roughly 840 hours of audio in total. Releases follow a weekly cadence.
Episodes typically run thirty-five to sixty minutes — most land between 33 min and 1h 3m — though episode length varies meaningfully from one episode to the next. It is catalogued as a EN-language Education show.
The show is actively publishing — the most recent episode landed 3 days ago, with 36 episodes already out so far this year. The busiest year was 2017, with 204 episodes published. Published by http://www.TheArtOfCharm.com.
From the publisher
The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.
Latest Episodes
View all 1,047 episodesWhy You Feel Stuck in Life | Simone Stolzoff
How Status Corrupts Good People | Tom Hardin
How to Build a Powerful Network Without Networking Events | Social Intelligence Briefing
Why Logic Doesn’t Persuade Anyone | Josh Bandoch
How Mentally Strong People Prepare for Bad Days | Social Intelligence Briefing
Your Environment Is Controlling You | Leidy Klotz
The Tiny Habit That Makes Relationships Stronger | Social Intelligence Briefing
How to Build Real Confidence | Amy Morin
Why People Don’t Feel Close to You | Social Intelligence Briefing
Why Nice People Stay Stuck | Dr. Jeffrey Pfeffer
Avoid This Charisma Killer | Social Intel Brief
Want the fastest way to kill your charisma? Pull out your phone. AJ and Johnny break down the research showing that even the mere presence of a phone lowers connection, weakens closeness, and quietly destroys the nonverbal signals people read as charisma. Presence isn’t just internal — it’s visible. This episode gives you three simple ways to become more charismatic immediately by removing distraction, catching emotional bids, and slowing your pace. Chapters 00:00 – The fastest way to kill charisma01:00 – What the phone-in-the-room research shows02:00 – Why phones weaken your presence03:20 – The phone turns your body into a “maybe”04:00 – Three ways to become more charismatic fast05:00 – Why presence beats performance Join us at UnlockYourXFactor.com Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout. Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. charisma, presence, attention, communication skills, body language, emotional bids, social intelligence, connection, distraction, smartphone habits, listening skills, nonverbal communication, interpersonal skills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Stop Letting AI Think for You | Dr. Vivienne Ming
AI is making us faster — but is it also making us worse? AJ and Johnny sit down with Dr. Ming to unpack what it really means to become “robot proof” in a world where AI can answer almost anything. The danger isn’t just automation — it’s cognitive offloading. When machines do our thinking for us, we may get better results in the moment while quietly losing the very skills that make humans valuable. This episode explores the traits that matter most in the AI era: curiosity, resilience, perspective-taking, and the ability to think through uncertainty instead of outsourcing it. Chapters 00:00 – What “robot proof” actually means10:00 – Why AI can make you worse while helping you21:00 – GPT is the new GPS31:00 – The difference between users and “cyborgs”42:00 – Why AI should stretch your thinking, not replace it54:00 – The human skills that will matter most A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Episode resources: Robot Proof Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Why AI Is Telling You to Break Up | Social Intelligence Briefing
Why is AI so quick to tell people to break up? AJ and Johnny unpack what relationship advice culture gets wrong — and why outsourcing hard conversations to Reddit, group chats, or AI can quietly weaken trust. The real problem usually isn’t conflict. It’s avoidance. This episode breaks down why honesty feels risky, how emotional bids and validation build intimacy, and the three moves that make hard conversations safer, cleaner, and more connecting. Chapters 00:00 – Why AI keeps telling people to break up01:25 – What happens when you outsource hard conversations03:00 – Why avoidance weakens trust04:45 – The truth you haven’t said yet06:00 – Validation before defense07:15 – Clean truth vs. vague peace Join us at UnlockYourXFactor.com Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout. Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. relationship advice, communication skills, conflict avoidance, emotional intimacy, validation, trust building, difficult conversations, emotional bids, relationship communication, honesty, modern dating, connection skills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Why Conversations Turn Into Arguments | Julia Minson
Why do disagreements spiral into conflict — even when both people think they’re being reasonable? AJ and Johnny sit down with psychologist Julia to break down the biggest mistake we make in conflict: assuming we understand the other person. From “naive realism” to the limits of perspective-taking, this episode reveals why most arguments become two people trying to correct each other instead of actually listening. You’ll learn a more effective approach: using language to show real understanding, ask better questions, and stay engaged — even when you strongly disagree. Chapters 00:00 – Why we misunderstand disagreement07:00 – The trap of “I’m right, you’re wrong”15:00 – Why perspective-taking fails22:00 – Listening with your mouth30:00 – The HERE framework for better conflict42:00 – Why facts don’t win arguments A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Episode resources: DisagreeingBetter.com Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok disagreement, conflict resolution, communication skills, listening skills, perspective taking, social psychology, emotional intelligence, difficult conversations, receptiveness, argument dynamics, relationship communication, understanding others Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
"We Should Hang Out” Usually Goes Nowhere | Social Intelligence Briefing
“We should hang out sometime” sounds like interest — but usually leads nowhere. AJ and Johnny break down why adult friendships stall in ambiguity, and how most people mistake vague warmth for real momentum. A great conversation isn’t enough — connection only grows when someone adds structure, continuity, and repetition. This episode gives you three simple moves to turn good interactions into real friendships — without forcing it or overthinking it. Chapters 00:00 – Why “we should hang out” goes nowhere 01:20 – The difference between chemistry and momentum02:20 – Turning vague interest into real plans03:45 – Why generic follow-ups fail05:00 – Continuity: the key to connection06:30 – Rhythm beats intensity in friendships Take the 13 hidden tests to determine whether you are in or out at ArtOfCharm.com/test Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout. Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok/ friendship, adult friendships, social connection, communication skills, follow up, social momentum, relationship building, ambiguity, conversational skills, social intelligence, connection habits Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Job Search Mistake Everyone Makes | Michelle Schafer
Career coach Michelle Schafer joins AJ to break down what most people get wrong during a job search — especially in today’s uncertain market. Instead of spraying hundreds of applications, Michelle explains how clarity, relationships, and storytelling drive real opportunities. From defining what energizes you to leveraging weak ties and crafting outcome-focused resumes, she shares practical strategies for navigating layoffs, reinvention, and career transitions with purpose. If you’re feeling stuck, anxious about the job market, or thinking about your next move, this conversation shows how to turn uncertainty into momentum. Chapters 00:00 – Why panic applying hurts your job search07:00 – The five questions that clarify your career direction14:00 – Why networking drives 80% of opportunities21:00 – Reinvention and discovering transferable skills30:00 – Building visibility and relationships on LinkedIn41:00 – Turning resume skills into measurable outcomes A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Episode resources: Cultivating Career Growth MSchaferCoaching.ca Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok career transitions, job search strategy, networking, career reinvention, transferable skills, professional branding, LinkedIn networking, job market strategy, career clarity, resume outcomes, professional relationships, career growth, career coaching Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How to Build Friendship Faster: Why Trust Is Earned, Not Felt
Ever meet someone you instantly “click” with — but the connection never turns into a real friendship? AJ and Johnny explain why chemistry alone doesn’t create adult friendships. Research shows trust forms through repeated patterns, not one great conversation. Real closeness grows from small signals: reliability, gradual self-disclosure, and making people feel understood. In this episode, you’ll learn three practical ways to build trust faster and turn good conversations into real relationships. Chapters: 00:00 – Why instant chemistry rarely creates real friendships01:00 – Trust grows from patterns, not one conversation02:00 – The power of small reliability signals03:30 – The right level of self-disclosure05:00 – Making people feel understood06:45 – The trust patterns that build real friendships Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout. Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok/ friendship building, trust building, social connection, adult friendships, relationship skills, social intelligence, communication skills, self disclosure, emotional validation, conversational skills, trust patterns, connection psychology Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Your Beliefs Are Sabotaging You | Nir Eyal
Why do high performers know exactly what to do — yet still fail to take action? AJ and Johnny sit down with Nir Eyal, bestselling author of Hooked and Indistractable, to explore the hidden force behind motivation: belief. Nir explains why information alone doesn’t change behavior, how limiting beliefs quietly filter what we see and feel, and why many people stay stuck despite having the right strategy. From separating pain from suffering to building a “portfolio of perspectives,” this episode reveals how changing your beliefs can unlock persistence, better relationships, and the motivation to follow through. Chapters 00:00 – Why knowing what to do isn’t enough07:00 – Beliefs: the filter shaping your reality16:00 – Pain vs. suffering and the role of interpretation24:00 – The four-question method to challenge beliefs34:00 – Motivation’s missing piece: belief44:00 – Persistence, mindset, and lasting change A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Episode resources: Beyond Belief Book Free Belief Change Guide http://nirandfar.com Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok limiting beliefs, motivation psychology, behavior change, mindset, persistence, emotional interpretation, belief systems, decision making, internal locus of control, cognitive reframing, personal growth, relationships, psychological resilience, self awareness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Hidden Tests in Every Important Conversation | Social Intelligence Briefing
Ever leave a conversation feeling like it went well — only to realize later nothing actually moved forward? AJ and Johnny break down the hidden layer in high-level conversations: the subtle tests happening beneath the surface. When someone says “tell me about yourself,” “send me an email,” or “we should stay in touch,” the real evaluation often isn’t about the literal words. This episode explains how successful people use small conversational signals to quickly assess judgment, value, and alignment — and why missing those cues can quietly close doors. Chapters: 00:00 – The conversation that felt good but went nowhere01:10 – The hidden test underneath casual questions02:15 – Why “tell me about yourself” is really a judgment test03:40 – The truth behind “we should stay in touch”04:45 – How vague signals reveal your psychology06:00 – Seeing the second layer in high-stakes conversations Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout. Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok/ social intelligence, networking conversations, communication skills, social cues, reading the room, conversational dynamics, professional networking, hidden social tests, interpreting signals, high stakes conversations, influence, relationship building, social awareness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Hidden Status Game of Hypocrisy | Michael Hallsworth
We love calling out hypocrisy — especially in leaders, corporations, and politics. But what if our obsession with inconsistency is doing more harm than good? AJ sits down with Michael to unpack why hypocrisy is deeply human, how media and status games amplify outrage, and why demanding total consistency can actually create worse leadership and more dishonesty. From power dynamics and “purity regimes” to induced hypocrisy and personal growth, this episode offers a smarter framework for judging inconsistency — in others and in yourself. Chapters 00:00 – Why hypocrisy feels so good to call out07:30 – The trap of equating consistency with integrity16:00 – Power, status, and hypocrisy in culture25:00 – Transparency and the “purity regime” problem33:30 – A better rubric for judging inconsistency39:00 – Using your own hypocrisy to create change A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Episode resources: The Hypocrisy Trap Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok hypocrisy, integrity, power dynamics, status games, leadership trust, moral judgment, social psychology, outrage culture, transparency, consistency bias, self development, behavior change, induced hypocrisy, workplace culture, reputation management Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices