The Alpha Male Coach Podcast

We’ve just finished the four-part series on emotion and today we start our next four-part series on the results and benefits of cognitive mastery and emotional ownership. We talk a lot about why it’s an alpha trait to have cognitive mastery and emotional ownership as a skillset, but what we don’t speak about enough are the benefits this learning will have on your life. In this episode, we discover the first of the four benefits of cognitive mastery and emotional ownership: Future-focused thinking. Future-focused thinking is an alpha trait because it allows you to become the co-creator of your own life, lead your own path, and fulfill your reason for living. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/60

Indulgent emotions are those that you are comfortable with but don’t serve you at all; in other words, they don’t get you the results you want. Doubt is a good example of an indulgent emotion: it feels like it might protect you in some way when it fact it only prevents you from reaching your goals. Doubt is a beta condition that puts you in a place ahead of time, therefore anticipating an outcome based on the past. This outcome more often than not comprises failure, and therefore the doubt makes you fail even before you’ve tried! Comfort is another popular indulgence: we want to avoid the unfamiliar and tend to revert to the known whenever the going gets too tough. But get this, being uncomfortable is an inevitable part of growth. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/59

Today I am taking a break from the emotion series to share something extra special and exciting with you! The idea of an impossible goal might seem difficult, it might seem like a waste of time, but I am here to explain to you, brother, about how I think it is absolutely necessary to your growth and success! Oftentimes we set goals and the lack of results deter us from pursuing them properly. The right way to go about it is to rather think about daily steps towards the goal and forget about the immediate results, you can achieve amazing and impossible things but it will take time. If you focus on the next step rather than the final result you can build a habit that will take you there! Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/58

A lot of us struggle with social and approach anxiety, worrying and stressing about interacting with and meeting people. The good news is that this is a problem that you can overcome, just like I did! I used to find it very hard to attend gathering and parties and would find excuses to not go or drink too much when I did, to buffer these feelings. The main lesson here is to take ownership of our feelings and concerns. It can often feel like we know what others might be thinking of us or problems they may have with the way we look or act. As soon as you realize that these thoughts are not theirs, but yours, you can start to change these patterns and feel less anxiety. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/57

It is said that shame is the most human of emotions, something we all share. But that does not mean we cannot improve our relationship to this feeling and alter the path of where it comes from. Shame does not arise from things we do or experience, it is the result of thoughts that we have about ourselves and how others view us. As soon as we start taking control of these thoughts and rearranging our patterns of behavior in a more nourishing and intentional way, we can break free from the cycle of shame and hiding away from the world. The word shame is a derivative of the idea of covering up or staying hidden and this is what we do when we feel ashamed. It is also what continues the pattern! Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/56

Contrary to what you might believe or may have been told, loneliness is not such a big deal. Like so many other things, we tend to think that changing our circumstances is going to make us feel less lonely. But the problem is never the circumstance but rather the thoughts we have about that circumstance. We often speak about loneliness as if it’s an all-consuming state of being, but it’s a time-limited feeling like any other. It’s fleeting. It also has nothing to do with the lack of people around you because it’s possible to experience intense loneliness while surrounded by people. We create this loneliness by alienating ourselves from others and believing that we are rejected or misunderstood by them. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/55

Welcome, brothers. Today I am here to speak about the idea that controlling your thoughts can allow you to also control the emotions you feel on a daily basis. When you start thinking differently about the way you think, you start creating your life in a different, more intentional way. I talk more about the three steps you can take to reprogramming your thinking in order to get out of a victim state and into one where you are in charge of your feelings. These steps are emotional awareness, emotional ownership, and finally, cognitive mastery. Picture your emotions like drinks at a bar that you can order. You get to choose which ones you drink! Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/54

Today on the show I sit down to talk about morning anxiety-producing thinking and how it can be managed. I share some of the mental strategies that I have researched and practiced myself which have been very effective for me in learning to create more positive thought patterns in my life, which start when I wake up. Most of us wake up and immediately experience some kind of negative and obsessive thought pattern, which can often end up affecting the entire day. What most of us don’t realize though, is that these thought patterns are actually a natural brain activity called the Beta state. This is proven by the fact that even when outside events change or get better, the brain still tends to worry about them, or even finds new things to worry about. Coming to this important realization can help us to catch ourselves in that state, see it for what it is, and in doing so, step back from it. From this more distanced place, we can then actively change those thoughts from bad to good. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/53

Today is particularly special because we’re on episode number 52, which means the podcast has been running for a full year! I’ve helped many of you guys on your way to cognitive mastery, and today I’m going to be sharing everything I’ve taught myself and my students over the past year. How I will approach this overview is by going over each level of the model, namely circumstance, thought, feeling, action and result. But while it may be tempting to understand it in terms of positive thinking, it is not – it’s far more. It’s not about changing the way you think, but about changing the way you think about thinking! Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/52

There are so many people out there who are hanging onto the past and defining themselves by what they did or did not do or what happened or didn’t happen to them as kids. It can be so easy to get wrapped up in thinking about the past, which is why in today’s episode, we are talking about how to get rid of it. The past can be 30 years ago and things that happened to us as children or it could be something more recent, such as choice we made five years ago that cost us the job of our dreams. What is so important to understand is that it is not the past that affects you, but rather the story you tell yourself about the past. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/51

Money is not a problem in and of itself. It is a mere circumstance. We recently spoke about wanting from abundance and not scarcity, which basically requires you to stop thinking about everything you don’t have and instead focus on the things you already have – and wanting them! It’s not the money in your bank account that makes you feel either good or bad, but the narrative you tell yourself about that money – what that money means. Separating money from the thoughts about the money is an important step in breaking out of the beta mindset you have. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/50

There is so much to be said about goal setting and its effects! There are even some schools of thought that would have you believe that goals might take you out of present focussed mentality. This episode is all about how you can remain in the present while setting up for the future you are dreaming of. Writing out goals that you have dreamed up provides the brain with structure, it creates a framework for us to move forward and experience progress. If we doing the imaginary and solidifying parts of this process correctly, we can train our brains to have more belief and stronger commitments to goals. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/49

Rejection is not about you. When someone does not buy your product or your service, or when that woman says no when you ask her out, it has got nothing to do with you. Regardless of how terrible rejection can feel – that energy that causes shame and makes you want to hide – it is not a message about who you are, your ability as a man or your worth as a human being. It is always about the thoughts of that person, and nothing more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/48

Let\'s face it, procrastination is a big problem for a lot of us! If we could just get things done without delay and stress our lives would probably be vastly improved. On top of this, the end product of our efforts, whatever we are working on will also benefit from healthier practices around creation and concentration. I have the answer to these problems and this episode is all about breaking through those bad habits that are keeping us from reaching our potential. The main issue lies in our fear and perfectionism, two related conditions. When we aim for perfection, we often are avoiding things that make us scared. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/47

Who doesn’t want to have an amazing day every day? You guys will enjoy this episode because I am going to be teaching you how to have consistently great days in which you get a lot of work done. For this episode to have its full impact, it’s imperative for you to have an organizational system in place, a calendar according to which your day is structured, so be sure to catch up with the previous episode if you haven’t yet. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/46

Changing your life begins with changing your mind. I get a diversity of requests from all of you guys on a daily basis, and the reason why I am able to help you in ANY of those areas is that I am a causal coach: I work with your internal process, with your brain. So whether you want to develop in terms of your finances, relationships or health, I can guide you along a path that has helped many others achieve their goals. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/45

There might be some of you out there who, even after listening to me for a while, still don’t believe that you can have the mindset that I talk about. You might think that it’s impossible for you to achieve your elevated alpha state, but this is simply not true. The fact that I’m able to teach all of this is because I’ve gone through it myself, so it’s possible for everyone. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/44

Jealousy and envy are powerful emotions, ones into which we men have been socialized. These emotions result from comparing our appearance, wealth and social status with other men and feeling the need to compete in these areas. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/43

What does it mean to trust someone? We have the misconception that trust is dependent on another person’s actions and that they are able to break or violate our trust. But this is the beta condition talking. Trust is determined only by the thoughts we have about someone. If we believe that they are reliable, honest, capable and strong, then we trust them, regardless of whether they actually are those things. If we believe it about them, then trust remains intact. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/42

All of our lives are relationships. It infiltrates every aspect of our lives and is, therefore, one of the most important parts of our existence. We are social creatures who are wired for these connections, so what do you do when a relationship changes when you don’t want it to? Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/41

We’re continuing our discussion on buffering, but today I specifically get into pornography, something that has affected many of our lives either directly or indirectly – mine included. As with many other buffers, pornography entraps us in a cycle of shame and guilt that only causes more negative feelings and an increasing desire to then escape from them. And we all know the downward spiral from there! Because porn is so easily accessible and always only a few clicks away, it has become a near epidemic problem that is causing massive rifts in our relationships with women and with ourselves. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/40

Buffering can be anything we do to keep us from really experiencing reality. I know I’ve done it in my life, and whether it’s pornography, food, alcohol, drugs, even people-pleasing, it’s fair to say this is something everybody on the planet has done at one time or another. And who can blame us? We live in a world where we can get a hit of false pleasure anytime we want. Well, brother, it’s not doing you any favors. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/39

Join me on the podcast today and discover some incredibly effective tools for dropping the unhealthy habits and adding new ones that contribute to you elevating your alpha and becoming the person you truly want to be. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/38

Tune in this week to discover why your brain actually always wants to be evolving and how your Beta condition gets in the way by setting the lowest standards possible for you. The best way to prove to yourself that you have what it takes to better your life is to improve your health, and I’m sharing the how and why today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/37

Tune in this week to discover why, in the Beta condition, you’ve got the concept of health all wrong, my brother. I’m covering why mental and physical have to be intrinsically linked, and why a true Alpha Male doesn’t need to prove his health to anyone. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/36

Actions are neutral. Straight up, your actions and the actions of those around you are nothing more than neutral circumstances. Any action can be broken down easily into a mathematical equation. So why do some actions seem right or wrong, difficult or easy, and why does cognitive mastery make such a huge difference in how you view actions? Tune in this week to discover how future-focused thinking – thinking like the Alpha Male that you are – will make taking action something you don’t even think twice about. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/35

Tune into this episode to discover how you can appreciate the past while not letting it define you altogether, how to elevate your Alpha state and start believing from a future-focused place. The Beta condition uses way too much of our emotional energy keeping us stuck, so it’s time to stop believing its stories and be the best man we can be. We owe it to not only ourselves, but the entire world to be an example of what is possible if we live truly 100% in our Alpha state. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/34

Tune into this week’s show and discover how everything in your life is a reflection of your beliefs, and how monitoring your thoughts about what you believe is possible, what you deserve, and what you’re capable of will change your entire existence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/33

Tune into the podcast this week and discover what’s holding you back from becoming the best version of yourself, and more importantly, why your Beta condition is stopping you from even imagining what that dude is like. I’m diving into looking deep into yourself and setting yourself up for the external shifts you want to make and the internal shifts that will get you there. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/32

As a coach myself (with three coaches of my own), I know how powerful coaching can be for everybody in all parts of life. Through coaching, you can learn how to move beyond wellness and start to be the person that you have always wanted to be in a way that works well for you. On this week’s podcast, join me as we discuss the value of coaching, how it differs from therapy, and how you can utilize coaching as a great tool for continuing your development to be the Alpha Male who is in control of his own thoughts. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/31

Join me on the podcast this week and discover why you make it mean that, when some girl in a bar doesn’t want to go home with you, she is rejecting you. You should know by now, brother, there is more to it than the first place your brain goes to, and hold tight because I’ve got the definitive three-step process that will allow you to never feel or fear rejection ever again. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/30

Join me on the podcast this week and discover why we get scared, why fear is always a Beta condition manifestation, why living in fear is irrational and unnecessary, and how, step by step, you can process your feelings of fear when they occur in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/29

Tune into this episode as I discuss what confidence is, what it is not, and how to achieve the self-confidence you’ve always envied in others. Confidence is the tool of the Alpha to achieve whatever he desires, and understanding it and doing the work will change your life, my brother. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/28

Join me on the podcast this week to discover why, as an Alpha, you are perfectly capable of giving and receiving unconditional love. I’m discussing where the feeling of love actually comes from, and why it is impossible for the Beta condition to love unconditionally, and how you can show yourself love in spite of anything – and I mean anything – you may have done in the past. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/27

Tune in this week and discover how you can live a life where you are in control of your actions, not by forcing yourself, but by really wanting and believing what you are doing is the right thing to do. I’m sharing my three tips to elevate your Alpha and start taking action from a place of intention. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/26

The point of today’s podcast is to ask yourself, “So what?” When you start to learn how to separate thoughts from facts, you’re going to ask yourself this a lot, and this is just the start of how to frame the way you process the world around you. I’m sharing four foolproof ways you guys can take a look at yourself and the story you’re trying to tell, and form that you can distinguish what is BS and what isn’t. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/25

Listen in this week and you will understand how to get whatever you want from your interactions with people by removing the emotion from your requests. You do what you want to do, and the same goes for everyone else. Once you understand that, you can start to use it to your advantage. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/24

We’re talking about bullies, the victims of bullies, and vulnerability. This is one of my favorite topics because it opens us up to a whole new way of thinking, especially contrasting this principle to what we’re taught as kids, and what we even tell adults who are “victims.” Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/23

When we set expectations for what our actions will yield, this triggers a whole bunch of emotions about what it means if our expectations come to fruition, and worse, what it means about us if they don’t materialize. Join me on the show this week to discover five ways you can leave behind your habit of setting expectations for the actions you take and letting your emotions get caught up in things you have no control over. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/22

Join me on the podcast this week as I explain the exact definition of taking responsibility for your decisions and actions. I’m breaking down, aligned with the universal truth, why the Alpha does not judge circumstances, and how you can embody this in order to elevate your Alpha. Betas blame – Alphas accept that they are responsible. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/21

This week, I’ve got something for my guys who are in relationships. Whether you’ve just met or you’ve been married for years, we’ve all got things in mind we’d love our partners to do for us, right? Making requests of your girlfriend is fine, but when you make it mean something emotionally for you when they don’t do it, then we have a problem. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/20

Join me this week on the podcast to discover how to approach whoever you want to, with complete confidence. Using The Model, you will see why you are worthy. You might think you’re too short, unfit, poor, or whatever, but by elevating your Alpha, you will see that you are more than worthy of any woman you want. When you implement this in your life, your results will change forever. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/19

Listen in on the podcast today as I break down all of the reasons we stay in the Beta condition that we’re born with, and even why it makes us feel safe. Once you know what this looks like, working on elevating your Alpha becomes an absolute breeze – trust me. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/18

Join me this week for a unique insight into the mind of the Alpha and the Beta in a totally relatable way. Whether you’re a guy who’s into superheroes or not, trust me, this will provide unbelievable clarity on how your thinking about your circumstances determines the results you get in this world. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/17

Join me on the podcast this week as I quantify the Alpha state for you and discover how you can achieve your Alpha state. Whether you want to find the woman of your dreams and settle down, whether you want a different woman every night, whether you want to buy yourself a Ferrari or a Volvo, this is the secret to achieving exactly what you’ve always dreamed of. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/16

Join me on the podcast this week to discover how having an Alpha mindset when it comes to earning and spending money will change your life, and how the Beta gets into trouble, even if he has money, through making choices that revolve around scarcity. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/15

Tune into this week’s episode to discover why the way you think about food and exercise has the power to overrule your appetite and even your physical state, allowing you to change your life for the better forever. Get full show and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/14

Do you ever find yourself worrying, when talking to a woman, that she is not going to behave in a way that you want her to in order for you to know how she’s thinking about you? Do you fear hearing the words I love you, but I’m not in love with you? If you think you’re doing everything you can, but still getting nowhere, that might be a sign you should check your brain, brother. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/13

Tune in this week to discover what I do as The Alpha Male Coach and open yourself up to how this work could change your life. You are already an Alpha. You were born an Alpha, so it’s time to unleash what is already inside you and start thriving. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/12

The relationships we maintain and how we feel about them has much less to do with the person or thing that we are connecting with, but rather how we think about that thing or person. Join me on the podcast this week and discover how a real Alpha Male uses The Model in analyzing his relationships, focusing on the things he has control over. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/11