The Alpha Male Coach Podcast

Kevin begins this week with a 3 part series titled \"Training for Chaos\" for the current situation we are all dealing with. We may be in a quarantine, but that isn\'t a reason to stop elevating your alpha! We will go over mind management, and why the world needs us more than ever.

Kevin goes into his experience of radical change from victim (beta) to the alpha mindset. The progressive change of thought patterns that were the building blocks of the model.

Continuing with beliefs this week, we\'re discussing how thoughts turn into beliefs. We use the brain to practice thoughts, in order to turn them into beliefs. We then use our belief to drive our actions, which will then reinforce the belief that gives us an emotion. In this episode we learn a technique called \"ladder thoughts\" and why it works better than positive affirmations. An overly positive affirmation is often rejected by the brain. Thinking a thought that\'s further than where you are, but close enough to your current thought will help transition your thinking into more positive thoughts.

Continuing the belief series, we look at the benefits of believing in the model. The model reveals what our beliefs are, no matter how the beliefs affect us. We look at the idea \"thought-swapping\" and how it leads to different feelings, actions, and results. Our life doesn\'t happen to us, our thoughts happen to us. And when we start changing our thoughts, we change our life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/believing-the-universal-truth

Last week we went over beliefs in a general overview, as we view them in the model. This week we are going to go deep into binary beliefs: why we believe something is \"good\" or \"bad\". We review how understanding that circumstances are neutral plays into the alpha mindset. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/binary-beliefs

March is the month of creating new beliefs with the Spartan Academy. We are going to take a deep look at what a belief actually is, and the defining characteristics of beliefs. There is a relationship between your thoughts and beliefs that we will break down in this episode. You will understand that beliefs are NOT facts. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/what-is-a-belief/

We often view vulnerability in away that makes us look or feel weak. In this episode, we talk about what vulnerability is, and how it fits into the model and how we can use it to live in a more authentic alpha state. We look at the challenge of being intimate without being vulnerable, and why we need them to work together. We make a comparison of the beta condition\'s view point on vulnerability, and the alpha updated definition. How we can go from giving away the keys to our emotions, to taking ownership of our emotions. We talk about strategies to make vulnerability less stressful. We\'re going to learn that having a better relationship with vulnerability through the alpha state can help us shatter limiting beliefs. After listening to this episode you will have a much better understanding of how necessary vulnerability is when to intimacy. You will understand how all of your relationships are effected by this idea, and how to get started on changing this in your favor.

February is the month for talking about emotional intelligence at the Spartan Academy and this episode is one that’s been a long-time coming: Love languages. This thought-model is based on an international best-selling book, yet it is clear as day that there are flaws with the thinking it’s based on it. While this is not a book review, we look at the ways that this type of thinking leaves you stuck in the beta condition. As the love language theory places our ability to feel the love in the hands of someone else, it immediately takes out of the alpha state. It not only abdicates emotional power, but it also does not fundamentally acknowledge that love comes from what we think, not someone else’s actions. In the alpha state, where you are mastering your emotional intelligence, you are fully aware of this. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/69

Our entire lives are controlled by how we feel. If we have not developed emotional intelligence, we end up suffering under the perceived negativity of emotions we think we have no control over. In this episode, we get into what it means to develop emotional intelligence and how it makes us free. We talk about how humans tend to seek out good feelings while avoiding bad ones, but how that tendency leads to buffering and addiction. A far superior strategy is learning how to manage uncomfortable emotions by seeing them as chemical reactions which are neither negative or positive. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/68

Recently listeners have been asking whether the Alpha state, due to having the emotions ‘under control,’ is, therefore, a purely rational state. In this episode, we discuss how the Alpha state, rather than being rational, is in fact beyond both rationality and the emotions. The Alpha state is a quantum state! We look at some concepts in quantum mechanics such as superposition and wave function collapse, discovering how the Alpha mindset works in incredibly similar ways. Rather than being in a beta place of restrictive, binary thinking, we begin to understand how we are completely free instead. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/67

Get ready to hear about two high-level concepts that can be applied to the process of developing cognitive mastery in this episode. These concepts are what we call the Alpha Mirror principle and the Inversion principle, and in the conversation that follows, we break down how each of them works. These concepts are implicated in thinking negative things about others, thinking others are having negative thoughts about ourselves, and feeling victimized in a situation where somebody says or does something mean to us. The central technique to rising above these perceptions is realizing that anything we think about others is actually what we think about ourselves. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/66

Today we take a deep dive into the abstract idea of what it means to operate from the alpha state. Remember guys, we are born into the beta condition, so the alpha state is one that we need to contend for. When we reach the final stage of beta development, we experience a period of turmoil during which we are uncertain about ourselves in the context of a community and have the sense that things are not as they should be. The good news is that once your consciousness of the alpha state is awakened, it cannot be undone, and you will no longer be satisfied with the beta state. The alpha state involves an awareness that you are an individual — apart from all other people — and that you are solely responsible for yourself. It cultivates the understanding that you are the master of your own mind and emotions and that having this control is more important than any result you think you want. When you are operating from your alpha state, you also refrain from judging people’s actions and you respect views, opinions, and beliefs that are different from your own. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/65

Brothers, it is an absolute privilege for me to be your guide to elevating your alpha once again on the show today. This week’s episode is all about switching from a limiting ‘how to’ mindset into a place of cognitive mastery and self-empowerment provided by visualizing oneself in a place of ‘having done’. We are currently living in an information age where the chances are very high that a resource exists which contains all the information you would ever need to accomplish anything you could think of. The problem is that for many of us, having the resolve and willpower to take the steps required to follow that resource is what is lacking. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/64

Welcome to the fourth episode in our four-part series on the results and benefits of cognitive mastery and emotional ownership. Today we focus on conscious action and mastery of behavior. We come to understand their benefits and also hear two techniques that we can use to achieve them. We firstly talk about the central pillar in cognitive mastery, which is that thoughts control emotions and actions, and that thoughts themselves are controllable. The tree analogy helps us to understand cognitive mastery. Its roots are awareness of circumstance versus self-belief, and its fruits are future-focused thinking, self-confidence, amazing relationships, and mastery of behavior. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/63

Today, we continue to find out about the results and benefits of cognitive mastery and emotional ownership. This is episode three of the four-part series and it explores indomitable self-confidence. We’ve spoken about self-confidence a lot on the show and we all know self-confidence is the feelings we have about ourselves and all our feelings come from our thinking so what we think of ourselves comes from how we feel. We begin by discussing the five roots of the cognitive mastery and emotional ownership tree and the benefits of the tree. The skills that make this tree strong are awareness, thought choice, emotional processing, massive action and results production. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/62

Today we continue the cognitive mastery and emotional ownership series. This is the second episode and it explores the benefits of amazing relationships. Time and again we have spoken about relationships on the show. So, this is a dedicated discussion to the bounty of beautiful relationships. We begin by exploring what relationships are. We discover before you can enjoy amazing relationships, you must first cultivate one with yourself! This is a pillar of cognitive mastery and emotional ownership. You will learn why once this foundation is in place, fostering healthy relationships will come into your life with greater ease. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/61

We’ve just finished the four-part series on emotion and today we start our next four-part series on the results and benefits of cognitive mastery and emotional ownership. We talk a lot about why it’s an alpha trait to have cognitive mastery and emotional ownership as a skillset, but what we don’t speak about enough are the benefits this learning will have on your life. In this episode, we discover the first of the four benefits of cognitive mastery and emotional ownership: Future-focused thinking. Future-focused thinking is an alpha trait because it allows you to become the co-creator of your own life, lead your own path, and fulfill your reason for living. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/60

Indulgent emotions are those that you are comfortable with but don’t serve you at all; in other words, they don’t get you the results you want. Doubt is a good example of an indulgent emotion: it feels like it might protect you in some way when it fact it only prevents you from reaching your goals. Doubt is a beta condition that puts you in a place ahead of time, therefore anticipating an outcome based on the past. This outcome more often than not comprises failure, and therefore the doubt makes you fail even before you’ve tried! Comfort is another popular indulgence: we want to avoid the unfamiliar and tend to revert to the known whenever the going gets too tough. But get this, being uncomfortable is an inevitable part of growth. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/59

Today I am taking a break from the emotion series to share something extra special and exciting with you! The idea of an impossible goal might seem difficult, it might seem like a waste of time, but I am here to explain to you, brother, about how I think it is absolutely necessary to your growth and success! Oftentimes we set goals and the lack of results deter us from pursuing them properly. The right way to go about it is to rather think about daily steps towards the goal and forget about the immediate results, you can achieve amazing and impossible things but it will take time. If you focus on the next step rather than the final result you can build a habit that will take you there! Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/58

A lot of us struggle with social and approach anxiety, worrying and stressing about interacting with and meeting people. The good news is that this is a problem that you can overcome, just like I did! I used to find it very hard to attend gathering and parties and would find excuses to not go or drink too much when I did, to buffer these feelings. The main lesson here is to take ownership of our feelings and concerns. It can often feel like we know what others might be thinking of us or problems they may have with the way we look or act. As soon as you realize that these thoughts are not theirs, but yours, you can start to change these patterns and feel less anxiety. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/57

It is said that shame is the most human of emotions, something we all share. But that does not mean we cannot improve our relationship to this feeling and alter the path of where it comes from. Shame does not arise from things we do or experience, it is the result of thoughts that we have about ourselves and how others view us. As soon as we start taking control of these thoughts and rearranging our patterns of behavior in a more nourishing and intentional way, we can break free from the cycle of shame and hiding away from the world. The word shame is a derivative of the idea of covering up or staying hidden and this is what we do when we feel ashamed. It is also what continues the pattern! Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/56

Contrary to what you might believe or may have been told, loneliness is not such a big deal. Like so many other things, we tend to think that changing our circumstances is going to make us feel less lonely. But the problem is never the circumstance but rather the thoughts we have about that circumstance. We often speak about loneliness as if it’s an all-consuming state of being, but it’s a time-limited feeling like any other. It’s fleeting. It also has nothing to do with the lack of people around you because it’s possible to experience intense loneliness while surrounded by people. We create this loneliness by alienating ourselves from others and believing that we are rejected or misunderstood by them. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/55

Welcome, brothers. Today I am here to speak about the idea that controlling your thoughts can allow you to also control the emotions you feel on a daily basis. When you start thinking differently about the way you think, you start creating your life in a different, more intentional way. I talk more about the three steps you can take to reprogramming your thinking in order to get out of a victim state and into one where you are in charge of your feelings. These steps are emotional awareness, emotional ownership, and finally, cognitive mastery. Picture your emotions like drinks at a bar that you can order. You get to choose which ones you drink! Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/54

Today on the show I sit down to talk about morning anxiety-producing thinking and how it can be managed. I share some of the mental strategies that I have researched and practiced myself which have been very effective for me in learning to create more positive thought patterns in my life, which start when I wake up. Most of us wake up and immediately experience some kind of negative and obsessive thought pattern, which can often end up affecting the entire day. What most of us don’t realize though, is that these thought patterns are actually a natural brain activity called the Beta state. This is proven by the fact that even when outside events change or get better, the brain still tends to worry about them, or even finds new things to worry about. Coming to this important realization can help us to catch ourselves in that state, see it for what it is, and in doing so, step back from it. From this more distanced place, we can then actively change those thoughts from bad to good. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/53

Today is particularly special because we’re on episode number 52, which means the podcast has been running for a full year! I’ve helped many of you guys on your way to cognitive mastery, and today I’m going to be sharing everything I’ve taught myself and my students over the past year. How I will approach this overview is by going over each level of the model, namely circumstance, thought, feeling, action and result. But while it may be tempting to understand it in terms of positive thinking, it is not – it’s far more. It’s not about changing the way you think, but about changing the way you think about thinking! Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/52

There are so many people out there who are hanging onto the past and defining themselves by what they did or did not do or what happened or didn’t happen to them as kids. It can be so easy to get wrapped up in thinking about the past, which is why in today’s episode, we are talking about how to get rid of it. The past can be 30 years ago and things that happened to us as children or it could be something more recent, such as choice we made five years ago that cost us the job of our dreams. What is so important to understand is that it is not the past that affects you, but rather the story you tell yourself about the past. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/51

Money is not a problem in and of itself. It is a mere circumstance. We recently spoke about wanting from abundance and not scarcity, which basically requires you to stop thinking about everything you don’t have and instead focus on the things you already have – and wanting them! It’s not the money in your bank account that makes you feel either good or bad, but the narrative you tell yourself about that money – what that money means. Separating money from the thoughts about the money is an important step in breaking out of the beta mindset you have. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/50

There is so much to be said about goal setting and its effects! There are even some schools of thought that would have you believe that goals might take you out of present focussed mentality. This episode is all about how you can remain in the present while setting up for the future you are dreaming of. Writing out goals that you have dreamed up provides the brain with structure, it creates a framework for us to move forward and experience progress. If we doing the imaginary and solidifying parts of this process correctly, we can train our brains to have more belief and stronger commitments to goals. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/49

Rejection is not about you. When someone does not buy your product or your service, or when that woman says no when you ask her out, it has got nothing to do with you. Regardless of how terrible rejection can feel – that energy that causes shame and makes you want to hide – it is not a message about who you are, your ability as a man or your worth as a human being. It is always about the thoughts of that person, and nothing more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/48

Let\'s face it, procrastination is a big problem for a lot of us! If we could just get things done without delay and stress our lives would probably be vastly improved. On top of this, the end product of our efforts, whatever we are working on will also benefit from healthier practices around creation and concentration. I have the answer to these problems and this episode is all about breaking through those bad habits that are keeping us from reaching our potential. The main issue lies in our fear and perfectionism, two related conditions. When we aim for perfection, we often are avoiding things that make us scared. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/47

Who doesn’t want to have an amazing day every day? You guys will enjoy this episode because I am going to be teaching you how to have consistently great days in which you get a lot of work done. For this episode to have its full impact, it’s imperative for you to have an organizational system in place, a calendar according to which your day is structured, so be sure to catch up with the previous episode if you haven’t yet. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/46

Changing your life begins with changing your mind. I get a diversity of requests from all of you guys on a daily basis, and the reason why I am able to help you in ANY of those areas is that I am a causal coach: I work with your internal process, with your brain. So whether you want to develop in terms of your finances, relationships or health, I can guide you along a path that has helped many others achieve their goals. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/45

There might be some of you out there who, even after listening to me for a while, still don’t believe that you can have the mindset that I talk about. You might think that it’s impossible for you to achieve your elevated alpha state, but this is simply not true. The fact that I’m able to teach all of this is because I’ve gone through it myself, so it’s possible for everyone. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/44

Jealousy and envy are powerful emotions, ones into which we men have been socialized. These emotions result from comparing our appearance, wealth and social status with other men and feeling the need to compete in these areas. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/43

What does it mean to trust someone? We have the misconception that trust is dependent on another person’s actions and that they are able to break or violate our trust. But this is the beta condition talking. Trust is determined only by the thoughts we have about someone. If we believe that they are reliable, honest, capable and strong, then we trust them, regardless of whether they actually are those things. If we believe it about them, then trust remains intact. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/42

All of our lives are relationships. It infiltrates every aspect of our lives and is, therefore, one of the most important parts of our existence. We are social creatures who are wired for these connections, so what do you do when a relationship changes when you don’t want it to? Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/41

We’re continuing our discussion on buffering, but today I specifically get into pornography, something that has affected many of our lives either directly or indirectly – mine included. As with many other buffers, pornography entraps us in a cycle of shame and guilt that only causes more negative feelings and an increasing desire to then escape from them. And we all know the downward spiral from there! Because porn is so easily accessible and always only a few clicks away, it has become a near epidemic problem that is causing massive rifts in our relationships with women and with ourselves. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/40

Buffering can be anything we do to keep us from really experiencing reality. I know I’ve done it in my life, and whether it’s pornography, food, alcohol, drugs, even people-pleasing, it’s fair to say this is something everybody on the planet has done at one time or another. And who can blame us? We live in a world where we can get a hit of false pleasure anytime we want. Well, brother, it’s not doing you any favors. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/39

Join me on the podcast today and discover some incredibly effective tools for dropping the unhealthy habits and adding new ones that contribute to you elevating your alpha and becoming the person you truly want to be. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/38

Tune in this week to discover why your brain actually always wants to be evolving and how your Beta condition gets in the way by setting the lowest standards possible for you. The best way to prove to yourself that you have what it takes to better your life is to improve your health, and I’m sharing the how and why today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/37

Tune in this week to discover why, in the Beta condition, you’ve got the concept of health all wrong, my brother. I’m covering why mental and physical have to be intrinsically linked, and why a true Alpha Male doesn’t need to prove his health to anyone. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/36

Actions are neutral. Straight up, your actions and the actions of those around you are nothing more than neutral circumstances. Any action can be broken down easily into a mathematical equation. So why do some actions seem right or wrong, difficult or easy, and why does cognitive mastery make such a huge difference in how you view actions? Tune in this week to discover how future-focused thinking – thinking like the Alpha Male that you are – will make taking action something you don’t even think twice about. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/35

Tune into this episode to discover how you can appreciate the past while not letting it define you altogether, how to elevate your Alpha state and start believing from a future-focused place. The Beta condition uses way too much of our emotional energy keeping us stuck, so it’s time to stop believing its stories and be the best man we can be. We owe it to not only ourselves, but the entire world to be an example of what is possible if we live truly 100% in our Alpha state. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/34

Tune into this week’s show and discover how everything in your life is a reflection of your beliefs, and how monitoring your thoughts about what you believe is possible, what you deserve, and what you’re capable of will change your entire existence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/33

Tune into the podcast this week and discover what’s holding you back from becoming the best version of yourself, and more importantly, why your Beta condition is stopping you from even imagining what that dude is like. I’m diving into looking deep into yourself and setting yourself up for the external shifts you want to make and the internal shifts that will get you there. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/32

As a coach myself (with three coaches of my own), I know how powerful coaching can be for everybody in all parts of life. Through coaching, you can learn how to move beyond wellness and start to be the person that you have always wanted to be in a way that works well for you. On this week’s podcast, join me as we discuss the value of coaching, how it differs from therapy, and how you can utilize coaching as a great tool for continuing your development to be the Alpha Male who is in control of his own thoughts. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/31

Join me on the podcast this week and discover why you make it mean that, when some girl in a bar doesn’t want to go home with you, she is rejecting you. You should know by now, brother, there is more to it than the first place your brain goes to, and hold tight because I’ve got the definitive three-step process that will allow you to never feel or fear rejection ever again. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/30

Join me on the podcast this week and discover why we get scared, why fear is always a Beta condition manifestation, why living in fear is irrational and unnecessary, and how, step by step, you can process your feelings of fear when they occur in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/29

Tune into this episode as I discuss what confidence is, what it is not, and how to achieve the self-confidence you’ve always envied in others. Confidence is the tool of the Alpha to achieve whatever he desires, and understanding it and doing the work will change your life, my brother. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/28

Join me on the podcast this week to discover why, as an Alpha, you are perfectly capable of giving and receiving unconditional love. I’m discussing where the feeling of love actually comes from, and why it is impossible for the Beta condition to love unconditionally, and how you can show yourself love in spite of anything – and I mean anything – you may have done in the past. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thealphamalecoach.com/27