Shift Your Perspective

These past few years have been difficult; it has exposed us to our limiting beliefs—the ones telling us we're supposed to sacrifice and struggle to reach all the necessary life milestones. But basing our goals on the milestones of past generations or living under our family's limiting beliefs isn't acceptable to us anymore. Information and theories on change are plentiful. Still, we will never create meaningful and practical changes in our lives without action. But how do we do that? Listen to my conversation with Erin Baute and Sandhya Sudhakar as they discuss how.

Merrian-Webster dictionary defines Self-Doubt as, "a lack of faith in oneself : a feeling of doubt or uncertainty about one's abilities, actions, etc." So, self-doubt occurs when we lack confidence in ourselves or feel incapable of doing things we need to do from making our dreams come true. So where does self-doubt come from and how do we move beyond it? Listen in as I share two major influences on my continuing journey of self-identity, Neville Goddard and Rev Ike. I also share a song by The Staple Singers from 1971 that will help you to cast off the source of your self-doubt this week.

As Allan Watts said, do you see yourself as a victim of the world, or do you see yourself as the world; do you believe in life's "possibility" or "impossibility"? It's not always easy to move beyond the difficulties of your life (we all have trials and tribulations), but there is a way out of them, but it isn't what you think; you've been taught the wrong way to get out of them. Listen in as Sabrina Victoria reflects on her journey of transformation, both in herself and the circumstances in her life, and what it took to make that happen.

If you don't let go of your grip on fear, you won't change; don't get stuck in group dogma because you'll stop growing. If you want transformation in your life (confidence, included), you need to stop reaching for the "fix" of spiritual practices instead of embodying the spirit you've always been. Listen in as Madhur-Nain Webster returns to the show to discuss this topic.

When we go through very stressful and challenging things in our lives, if we are not careful, we can reinforce limiting beliefs about ourselves, our lives, and how the world should be. Going through trauma can actually release our orthodox beliefs of guilt, shame, and negative thought patterns. So the question becomes, how do we do free ourselves from our habit of clinging onto the things that prevent our growth and expansion? Listen in as Benita Conde returns to the show to discuss this very topic.

Are you giving more weight to how other people think you should be, how you should be living your life? If you allow them, others (family, friends, society) will shape your self-image and beliefs according to how they need you to be; a self-serving act, mainly because they don't want to feel uncomfortable with you shining brightly. So how do you let go of the limited identity that others have created for you and live wholely as yourself? Listen in as Madhur-Nain Webster returns to the show to discuss this very topic.

I am firmly convinced that when people tell you that happiness isn't sustainable, it is because they have never really experienced it for themselves. So what does happiness look like? How does it feel? How do you make it real in your life? Thích Nhất Hạnh said happiness is available now and that we should help ourselves to it. But how do you do that? Listen in as I share my recent experience learning to accept and dwell in continuous happiness.

Everyone tells you that you need to listen to your inner voice, follow your intuition or internal GPS, reach your goals, follow your passion, be confident, etc. However, most don't realize that your inner voice is negatively programmed (the blind leading the blind). So what are you supposed to do? Listen in as I share my experiences in understanding what your small still voice truly is and how you can use it to believe in yourself finally.

Why do we allow fear and self-doubt to control us? Because others do? If we know we can create our realities with our thoughts, why do we still create experiences of limitations and failures? Because we were told to believe in impossibility? Listen in as share my experiences in understanding what true freedom is; how we can live our lives in the way we choose because, after all, all things are possible to those who believe.

Your prayers, dreams, and visualizations won't become a reality if you doubt that they won't come to pass, or if you beg for them. So how do you make your dreams of success, happiness, or whatever you are desiring become real enough that you are actually experiencing them outside of your imagination and desire? Listen in as I discuss what I have learned on this journey so far.

We all get caught up in comparing our journeys with another's; we determine our self-worth on that comparison. It is a deadly trap to fall into. That is unless we are willing to respond to a different narrative, a different perspective, a human consciousness, but without diminishing our own unique hero's journey. Listen in as my friend Oleg Lougheed and I catch up and share his shifts in perspectives after his recent travels in Ghana.

You become what you think about; there's no way around this – it's everywhere, from all ancient stoic thinkers, spiritual wisdom, and yes, even quantum physics. So how do you stop allowing fear and self-doubt from keeping you stuck in a cycle of guilt, shame, low self-esteem, and hopelessness, and move into a state of confidence and possibility? Listen in as I discuss my understanding of the Divine creative power we have and switch it from creating our nightmares to our dreams.

I get it! The world tells you that meditation is about silence, no thoughts and that you must do it every morning in a prayer position; RULES AND REGULATIONS are what they are selling, period! As Buddha instructs, meditation is the way to become aware that you are The Quantum Observer and the power that brings. And as 2004 Nobel Prize recipient Frank Wilczek stated, "God plays a deep yet strictly rule-based game which looks like dice to us." So what does this mean? Listen in as I answer fellow Phoenix Pooja Panchal's question about mediation and Quantum Observation.

I get it! The world tells you that meditation is about silence, no thoughts and that you must do it every morning in a prayer position; RULES AND REGULATIONS are what they are selling, period! As Buddha instructs, meditation is the way to become aware that you are The Quantum Observer and the power that brings. And as 2004 Nobel Prize recipient Frank Wilczek stated, "God plays a deep yet strictly rule-based game which looks like dice to us." So what does this mean? Listen in as I answer fellow Phoenix Pooja Panchal's question about mediation and Quantum Observation.

Why do we give all of our power to negative thinking? Why do we feel guilt and shame when we realize that we have been thinking negatively? I am sure you have heard the expression, "Fear is a liar." The truth is, it isn't, and it isn't something you need to be afraid of because there is another way. What do I mean by all of this? Listen in as I discuss the culmination of 9 years of research (and personal application) into fear, self-doubt, and negative thinking.

How do you court blind faith? You simply notice that doubt as a judge that wants to keep you in your Old Story and answer it with faith in the New Story. You acknowledge that there are forces at work you cannot see that could be helping you, showing you a new way, giving you hope. Bob Litwin, the author of Live The Best Story Of Your Life, returns to the show to help further explain how you can leave your past/Old Story behind and step into the unseen future of your New Story and not give up.

Do you think you are the only one suffering under the control and power of fear, self-doubt, lack, impossibility? I know I did 9 years ago; it's the reason I created this podcast 6 years ago, to bust that myth wide open. But how do you actually break free from the grip of fear, to release fear and step into your self-confidence nature? Yes, it isn't easy in the beginning to do, but I will share with you my experience of how it has been done throughout all time because it is the same for everyone. Listen in as I answer a question from fellow Phoenix, Shawn Gibson, regarding understanding I Corthinians 10.

Transforming our self-image is a process. A process that more often comes gradually, which isn't always agreeable with our conditioning of seeking instant gratification. But as the Buddha expression goes, that which grows rapidly, withers just as quickly. So when the appearance of "failure" in our individual transformation produces thoughts of guilt and shame, how do we view things in such a way that doesn't hinder our growth? Listen in as one of my favorite guests, Madhur-Nain, returns to the show to discuss this very thing!

It doesn't matter what has happened to you or how big of a mess your life is. If you begin today to repeat over and over the beliefs you want to believe in, they will become a reality for you. But how do you practice this so your affirmations genuinely become a reality for you? Listen in as I discuss the Claude M. Bristol quote, "Repetition of the same chant, the same incantations, the same affirmations leads to belief, and once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen."

Is the fear of the unknown keeping you from your dreams? Is the voice of doubt whispering in your ear, "How is that ever going to happen for you? It's possible for others, but you?!" How do you know which way to turn? How do you leave your past behind you? How do you live out your dreams in confidence and freedom? Listen in as I answer this question from listener and fellow Phoenix, Angela Smith.

Toxic Positivity, what a mess! How do you deal with negative thoughts when you feel the pressure to think positive all the time, especially when you know that we become what we think about? How do you deal with the overwhelming guilt and shame that we feel when we realize we have allowed negativity to creep back into our minds? Listen in as I answer this question from listener and fellow Phoenix, Tanya Fraser.

Everyone tells you that you have to journal, right? You might have even tried it and given up on it. Journaling is a potent tool to reprogram your self-image and your subconscious mind, but how can you do it in a way that actually (and finally) works for you? Listen in as I discuss my research of the past 9 years into how reprogramming the subconscious works through the journaling process.

Are you struggling with negative thoughts, thoughts of fear, and self-doubt? Do you believe yourself to be weak, incapable, that your dreams are impossible for you? Listen in as I discuss the only Universal law of thought you need to know. If you can understand it, your life will radically change before your ideas and all your hopes and dreams will finally come true!

Why do you fail to reach any of your goals or dreams? Why does it seem that nothing ever changes in your life? You have heard, "We become what we think about," but do you really believe it? Your answer to this question holds the answers (and the power) you are seeking to make changes in your life. Listen in as I help you to fully understanding the power of "I AM."

Why do we give all the love and compassion we have to others, but are afraid to do the same for ourselves? Why do we put other's needs first, often at the expense of our own? What do we do when we discovered that we have repeated the patterns we've worked so hard to change? Listen in as my returning guest, Amanda JP Brown talks about the lessons learned about releasing family and societal conditioning and expectations over the past year after her recent divorce.

Why aren't positive affirmations working for you? Why do you give up on your dreams? Why do you never reach your goals? It all has to do with your core self identity, which is a negative one. So, how do you change your concept of yourself from unable, unworthy, to one of capable, endless possibilities? Listen in as I share my experiences and research into what positive affirmations really are and how to use them properly so you can finally get the results you are seeking.

Why are you struggling with believing in yourself? Why are you not seeing any transformation in your confidence, your life, and the accomplishment of your dreams and goals? Do you still think of yourself as something separate for the Divine Source? Still think you need to "earn and deserve" before anything will change? In this episode, I share a lecture from Rev. Ike which will help you to understand why.

You've heard, "We become what we think about." But, do you realize that your negative self-image is affecting everything in your environment, including how your children belief in themselves? In this episode, I will be discussing the CG Jung quote, "Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent."

This episode is by the request of Nancy from Carson City Nevada, asking me to explain why "I am not a Christian" even though I use the text. Listen in as I explain how I've taken the advice of a previous Christian guest on the show to, "Throw out the bathwater, just not the Baby." As well as my research into why and how the message of Christ was distorted when the Roman Empire took it over in 381 AD.

What do you do when things take a turn for the worse when life decides to mistreat you, even when you have done all the right things? What do you do with the anger and the fear, so they don't destroy your life and peacefulness? Listen in as I share a recent, transformative experience on how to take back your power from any problematic situation.

What kind of mental pictures are you allowing in your mind, playing over and over and over again? Rejection, failure, fear? All changes in your life begins changing your core-belief about yourself, but how? In this episode, I will be discussing the Claude M Bristol quote, "Undoubtedly, we become what we envisage."

It is natural to want to find relief from your pain and suffering. The problem is that you are looking for a remedy in the world around you; the whole world is offering solutions to your concerns, but they are pointing to things that will never help you. So if not without, then where? In this episode, I will be discussing the Louise Bogan quote, "I cannot believe that the inscrutable universe turns on an axis of suffering; surely the strange beauty of the world must somewhere rest on pure joy."

We all have individual paths to the rediscovery of our Divine nature and unconditional love that comes with it. My guest is Doug Cartwright is the Author of Holy Sh*t We're Alive. Doug's story is a psychedelic journey into meditation, silent retreats, astrophysics, neuroscience, philosophy, and all forms of self-healing. It's how he found the purpose of life, realized his mistakes and built a new reality. Doug's story is how he shifted his perspective on life—and it's how you can learn to shift yours.

Your 'prayer' is your internal belief about any given desire you may have. Are you asking to be confident, but believing that you cannot? Then guess which one will be answered for you? So how do you switch from the negative 'prayers' that you are imagining in your mind to positive ones? In this episode, I will be discussing the Dr Joseph Murphy quote, "Your desire is your prayer. Picture the fulfillment of your desire now and fell its reality and you will experience the joy of the answered prayer."

"You don't understand; it isn't possible for me." When confronted with 'how' your dreams and goals are supposed to become a reality, does this thought come to you? So how are you to ignore the 'facts' of life and belief in the possibility of your dreams? In this episode, I will be discussing the Albert Einstein quote, "Imagination is more important than knowledge."

According to the Enneagram, each of the nine personality types is defined by a particular core belief about how the world works. This core belief drives your deepest motivations and fears and shapes how you see the world and the people around you. Erin Baute of Living the Enneagram discusses how the enneagram acts as a guide for each of us on our trek through life, and it can help create a map where we get to choose what serves us best at any given moment.

Are people not acting the way you think they should? Are you trying to get them to treat you with respect and courtesy? Can you see they are making a mess out of their lives, and you are trying to help them out but not seeing any changes? In this episode, I will be discussing the Voltaire quote, "Think about how difficult it is to change yourself, and you will realize how insignificant are your chances to change others."

Are you resisting that inner voice within, the one that is calling you to do great things? Why? Is it because you think it's wrong; that others will make fun of you? That it isn't real, that you must be mistaken in hearing because you are uncertain of what it is? In this episode, I will be discussing the Joseph Chilton Pearce quote, "We must accept that this creative pulse within us is God's creative pulse itself."

It wasn't that long ago, people believed that once you reached a certain age, you were pretty stuck in the behavioral and belief patterns – that we were just born that way and we had to make the most of what life dealt us. But that wasn't the case at all, as neuroscience has proven. Dr. Erik Reis Co-Founder of Health and Wellness at Nobody Studios joins me to discuss how we can optimize and become better versions of ourselves, through the rewiring our brains and how one actually does that.

You want to increase your self-confidence, you get over toxic relationships, you want to reach your goals and dreams. But the changes you are seeking within yourself and your life are slow in coming. What you are to do? In this episode, I will be discussing the Eddie Cantor quote, "Slow down and enjoy life. It's not only the scenery you miss by going too fast – you also miss the sens of where you are going and why."

When you make mistakes (hey, you're human), do you beat yourself up or wallow in guilt and shame? How do you re-frame your thinking around the inner critic and the mistakes you make along your journey of breaking free from self-doubt, fear, and those karmic family patterns? In this episode, I will be discussing the Colette quote, "You will do foolish things, but do them with enthusiasm."

How do you know what direction to go and what to think or do when the world is swirling in chaos, confusion, and anxiety? How about if you are simply blocked by an unseen fear or by self-doubt? You've got to ask for the answers and guidance, but where and how? In this episode, I will be discussing the Sophocles quote, "Look and you will find it – what is unsought will go undetected."

Do you find yourself telling the people in your life what to do, even if it is for their own good? How about telling them how they should behave and treat you? How is that working out for you? Would you like to know why you are seeing any changes in them? In this episode, I will be discussing the Cesar Chavez quote, "When we are really honest with ourselves we must admit out lives are all that really belong to us. So it is how we use our lives that determines the kind of men we are."

Why do we resist the pull of our dreams? Why do we prefer to cling to our fears and doubts instead of just letting go and allowing everything to flow to us? In this episode, I will be discussing the Rumi quote, "Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray."

How do we break our relationship with the negative, criticizing voice with us? How do we reestablish a relationship with that inner voice of self-love and self-acceptance? Tricia Livermore of Soul Business Advisor and Certified HeartMath Mentor, joins me to discuss how we can learn from the triggering events in our lives and reflect what they are trying to teach us, so we can be free from the inner-critic.

Isn't it funny how we can excel in one area of our lives, and we are riddled with doubt and fear in others? Have you given up on a dream or goal because you don't believe you can do it or that it is even possible for you? In this episode, I will be discussing the Mahatma Gandhi quote, "If I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it, even if I may not have it in the beginning."

Are you stuck in the pattern of thinking, "One day it will happen when the time is right, and I get it all together?" Do you tell everyone (and yourself), "I'm working on it?" Do you realize that this is a form of procrastination and that the only way to "become something" is to "be it" right here and now, in the present moment? In this episode, I will be discussing the Zen Paradigm, "Stop thinking and talking about it, and there is nothing you will not be able to know."

Why do we readily believe in the negative possibilities of life, that it is all we can expect from life? Why do we have a hard time believing in anything positive in nature, that it can't possibly happen for us? How do you stand up to fear and believe in the possibility of positive things happening in your life? In this episode, I will be discussing the Susan Jeffers quote, "We have been taught to believe that negative equals realistic and positive equals unrealistic."

Are you struggling to get by and living under the anxiety of how things are ever going to change? Are you sick of the way things are in your life; hell-bent on getting more? What if I told you this is the wrong way to go about it, that this very attitude keeps you from experiencing a real change in your life? In this episode, I will be discussing the Tony Gaskins quote, "To be content doesn't mean you don't desire more. It means you're thankful for what you have and patient for what's to come."

Go confidently and live the life of my dreams?! How am I suppose to do that with everything I have to do? How do you create and live your dream-life when the "must's and should's" of life are weighting your down? In this episode, I will be discussing the Henry David Thoreau quote, "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined."