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I could not be more grateful to each and every guest who joined me in the SMA in 2018. So many of these interviews had BIG impact. A wanted to share a variety of the episodes I found to be the most impactful in 2018 – based on the guest's stories, my experience with the interview, and your feedback on these episodes. If you missed any of these, go listen NOW. If you want to know which episodes are worth a second listen, it’s these ones. Enjoy! Episode 194 with Andrea Owen: Your Kick-Ass Life How women hold ourselves back from happiness and numb ourselves with food, alcohol, TV and social media. Episode 210 with Kelly Herron: Not Today Mother F*cker How she survived a vicious attack and used her terrifying story to become a warrior. Episode 238 with Dana Malstaff: Divorce, Proactive Crying, and Getting Naked How getting to know herself better led her to divorce and a new sense of hope. Episode 240 with Debbie Reber: Differently Wired The pervasiveness of Differently Wired kids and how we can be more supportive of their gifts, talents, and strengths Episode 244 with Dr. Jenny Yip: Coping with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Her story of OCD in different phases of her life and how she helps treat other moms and kids with OCD and anxiety. Episodes 246 and 248 Danny J: Saved By The Daughter She Placed For Adoption Part 1 and Part 2 How having a baby and placing her for adoption at 16 saved her from her eating disorder, depression and suicidal ideation Episode 264 with Jessica Butts: Front Seat Life How knowing and embracing your personality type can change the course of your life Episode 270 with Nichole Sylvester: Surviving Abuse, Addition, and Murder How she addiction and abuse, and hit rock bottom when her ex-boyfriend murdered a woman in her home Episode 280 with Courtney Shorter: Grief, Joy, and Soul Free Mamas How her 10-year infertility journey led to a brain tumor, the loss of twin baby girls, and ultimately her sweet boy, Hendrix. Episode 284 with Rachel Rodgers: Million Dollar Badass How she emerged from a childhood impacted by poverty, addiction, mental health issues, and the loss of her father at the age of 12 to become a 7 figure earner. And why she firmly believes all women should aim to be 7 figure earners. Links Mentioned: Register for the 2019 Plan & Prep Pajama Party: Pajama Party Take Jessica Butts’s personality quiz Get Nichole Sylvester’s book: Oh Shift Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Karen has over 30 years of experience working with couples and families facing transition, loss, growth and change. Her work as a Collaborative Divorce Coach spurred her determination to write “The Co-Parenting Handbook” with Kristin Little, Child Specialist. Parents learn the best ways to support their children, strengthen their co-parenting, and discover the necessary tools to skillfully create a two-home family. “The Parenting Plan Workbook” followed with contributor Felicia Malsby Soleil, JD. And most recently, Karen and Patricia Papernow, PhD released The Stepfamily Handbook, for parents ready to date and hoping to one day successfully create a stepfamily. As a teacher, trainer, facilitator, Karen played an instrumental role in developing the year-long facilitator training program for the Compassionate Listening Project. As a certified Compassionate Listening trainer, Karen utilizes this heart-centered approach to authentic speaking and capable listening used around the world in high-conflict situations such as Israel/Palestine. Her deep listening skills make all the difference working with co-parent pairs in conflict as they find their way through the pain of divorce into a future with optimism. Listen in to hear Karen share: How to parallel parent if integrated co parenting is not possible When you should see a co parent coach How to know when kids are really struggling with divorce/restructuring of family How to know when kids are ready for you to introduce new partners into your family unit What to do when your partner is not capable of co parenting How reading the Co Parent Manual can improve, and potentially save, your marriage NOW Links Mentioned: Connect with Karen: https://coachmediateconsult.com Subscribe to Karen’s Youtube channel Karen’s Book: The Co Parenting Handbook Thank you to our sponsors: Hourglass Cosmetics: Get free shipping with your purchase of a full sized Caution Mascara at hourglasscosmetics.com/shameless and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Katie’s Crib podcast: Check out this new podcast hosted by new mom Katie Lowes, who played Quinn on the hit show Scandal. Check out Katie’s Crib on shondaland.com or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

With just a few days left in 2018, I wanted to take a minute to reflect on my biggest shifts of the year. I have to tell you, when I sat down to think about this I had no idea what I would come up with. I am so glad I did this exercise, as it allowed me to see a lot of growth and triumph. I can close the door on this year knowing I stretched myself in a number of powerful ways and I’ve laid the groundwork to do more of the same in 2019. Cause a girl’s growing is never done! I’m really excited to share my 5 Biggest Shift of 2018 with you. Although, if I’m being honest, a couple of these made me pretty uncomfortable, which you’ll hear me express as I talk through them. In fact, one of them I didn’t even want to talk about. But you know I’m not about holding back. So you get to be in on ALL OF IT. What have your biggest shifts in 2018 been? I would LOVE to hear from you! Links Mentioned: SMA Ep 194: Your Kick-Ass Life with Andrea Own Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Radiah Rhodes is a visionary, entrepreneur, designer, engineer, and coach. After two decades of experience leading small businesses and Fortune 100 companies in the beauty and information technology industries, Radiah became known for her strategic insights, impeccable design aesthetic, and natural ability to connect, lead, and get results. She has led and coached many executives and organizations to deliver exceptional business results and launched a strong portfolio of multi-million dollar products and services around the globe. Most recently Radiah authored the book, Being is the New Doing: A Divine Guide to Owning Your Energy, Time and Peace of Mind. She also launched a collection of brands and products designed to transform and expand your intention and well-being. As an entrepreneur, corporate leader, wife, and Shameless Mom to two amazing and active children, Radiah knows what it takes to be extraordinary in life and leadership. She trains clients on how to tap into and leverage their intention as the fuel and fire to create any desired outcome with ease and authenticity. Listen in to hear Radiah share: Why intention is a measure of how you’re showing up and who you’re being How to elevate your intention through regimens and routines that open up space in your life How making declarations about who are can help you redefine yourself Why you need a rotating “energy leader” in your household Why you must recognize that your Busy Badge defines who are you being… is it working for you or against you? Why we get stuck staying small in order to stay safe Links Mentioned: Connect with Radiah at Evok: Evok Life Get Radiah’s book: Being is the New Doing Check out Radiah’s Evok INTENTION Planner System Thank you to our sponsors: Read Me Romance Podcast: Check out the sizzling new podcast, Read Me Romance, with hosts Alexa Riley and Tessa Bailey. Tune in at Read Me Romance or wherever you listen to podcasts. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy's and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Lola: Get 100% organic tampons delivered right to your door for 40% off. Go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Raise your hand if you’re a quitter! Oh, you’re not?? Fantastic. While it’s likely that you wouldn’t identify as a quitter, you probably feel like quitting things on a regular basis. Annnnd, it's possible you actually do quit things sometimes – maybe even on a regular basis. We quit diets and workout programs and books and friendships and jobs and clubs and committees and marriages. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes quitting is 100% the right move. See link below for my episode on the merits of being a quitter! But, sometimes we need to pull up our big girl pants and SHOW UP and POWER THROUGH and DO HARD THINGS. On these days, when we can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel and we’re not sure there will ever be a pay off for our valiant efforts, we need some skills to keep us going. This episode will give you the skills you need to keep moving forward, to keep taking action, to prove to yourself that you are a powerful, resilient, tenacious badass who gets what she wants and needs out of life. Cause you actually ARE that lady already. I know it. Let me show you. Links Mentioned: SMA Ep 28: Be A Quitter SMA FB Group: Shameless Mom #everydamnday Download my 15 Minute Manifest: 15MM Get on my email list to get the 2019 Plan & Prep Pajama Party Invitation: News Letter Thank you to our sponsors: Mack Weldon: For 20% off your first order of the most comfortable underwear, socks and leisure wear your guy will ever wear, go to Mack Weldon and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jody is the Shameless mom, a wife, and a nature lover. She’s a two-time Amazon bestselling author of “Let Love in 101; A Practice Guide to Happiness” and her most recent book “Mommy Reboot; A Busy Mom’s Guide to Self-Care”. Jody is a self-care coach working exclusively with busy moms who want to feel less overwhelmed and more fulfilled and she’s known in her industry for transforming the lives of moms through the art of self-care. She’s the face behind the Mommy Reboot Facebook group, a rapidly growing worldwide community of busy moms who are passionate and determined to be a good mom by taking care of themselves. Jody’s vision is for a world where women around the globe are caring for and nurturing themselves as easily as they do for their children and families. She believes that “self-care can no longer be a cutesy catchphrase, it must be...a movement...a revolution, and a new way of living for the modern day woman.” Listen in to hear Jody share: How she survived losing her dad to suicide, finding herself pregnant by her drug dealer boyfriend, and leaving her marriage to an unfaithful husband when she had a 10-month-old baby Why and how to be grateful for opportunities for resilience Your (surprising) #1 job as a mom and a woman How to incorporate self-care in non-traditional, unconventional, simple ways The truth about self-care and why it must be more than a cutesy catchphrase – and more of a revolution Links Mentioned: Connect with Jody: A Mommy Reboot Join the Mommy Reboot Facebook community: Groups Mommy Reboot Follow Jody on Instagram @mommyreboot Follow Jody on Twitter @mommyreboot Thank you to our sponsors: Homesick Candles: Save 10% off any order over $50 and get free shipping at Home Sick when you use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Kathie Lee Gifford book - The Gift That I Can Give You: Get 30% off Kathie Lee’s children’s book, The Gift That I Can Give You at Songfinch: To save $20 off your Personalized Song From Scratch, go to Songfinch and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Let’s get really clear about something real quick… You deserve to enjoy your holidays. You deserve to eat the cookies. You deserve to drink the nog. You deserve to live it up and laugh out loud and love lots in all the ways that fill your soul. AND, you deserve to do all this guilt-free. That said, I want you to be mindful and intentional about what truly brings you joy. I want you to be aware of delightful indulgence vs mindless consumption. For me, delightful indulgence is: A piece of my Aunt Sara’s chocolate cake A glass of a full-bodied red Extra time spent with family and friends Crab dipped in melted butter at my Aunt Marybeth’s annual crab feed Wearing pajamas all day Watching Elf 87 times A cold, crisp run in the sun in my mom’s neighborhood Putting my phone down and being more present For me, delightful indulgence is NOT: Going to bed so full my stomach hurts Being wide awake with insomnia because I had 3 glasses of wine after dinner Eating so many cookies I have a massive sugar rush and then crash an hour later Hungover parenting Skipping workouts Constant posting to FB/IG Because I know what my delightful indulgences are, I am careful to prioritize those things. In fact, I often pass up a lot of other things to make space for these delightful indulgences. I’ll skip the nog in order to enjoy the red. I’ll pass on the cookies to enjoy every bite of the cake. I’ll switch to club soda after 2 glasses of wine so I will sleep well. I’ll decide which days I’m wearing PJs all day, so I can also determine which days I’m getting up to go running. Determine your delightful indulgences. Then make space for them. Then, say NO to the things that are not as awesome as your delightful indulgences. Don’t be in constant consumption mode. Be in thoughtful consumption mode. You will enjoy every bit of your holidays more. Tune into this episode to get specific pointers on how to be intentional around your delightful indulgences so you can spend your holidays in delighted JOY. Thank you to our sponsors: BarkBox: Get a free month of Barkbox with any 6 or 12-month subscription by visiting Bark Box. Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fortune is a Shameless Dad and the oldest of two kids. These things should have made him a responsible, motivated leader – which he is today. But his road to get here reads differently… Although he graduated from university with honors & an opportunity to play professional baseball, he chose to become an accountant for the government. But, the government wasn’t challenging enough for his active imagination. So, he started studying successful people and decided that’s what he wanted to do with his life. It was at this point that his life changed. It got much worse before it got better. Financial success in real estate revealed emotional & mental wounds that needed healing. Before he could make those shifts in mindset, he battled addiction, 5 felony charges, and found himself facing a potential 12-year prison sentence. He then wrote a book about his journey & the lessons he learned along the way. As a father, coach, author, & speaker, Fortune brings a unique approach to understanding the wisdom of living a purpose-driven life. You’ll learn from him not only the practical steps for improving the major areas of your life; but also the scientific evidence & spiritual elements that lead to a blessed life and business. Listen in to hear Fortune share: His entrance into fatherhood as an addict How facing 5 felony charges and a 12-year prison sentence turned his life around How he got clean in order to show up for his kids The power of habit in overcoming addiction How he uses his No Doubt Mindset to stay focused and successful Links Mentioned: Connect with Fortune: D Arlando Fortune Download Fortune’s free audiobook: Overcoming Procrastination Follow Fortune on Facebook Follow Fortune on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talk Space and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We spend a lot of time in the SMA talking about the comparison as it relates to us as women. But we haven’t really dug into how we compare our kids to other kids. I’m noticing as Vinnie gets older that kiddie comparison is A THING. I think some of the kiddie comparison trap stems from the same place as our own comparison trap: our own insecurities, poor self-worth, self-doubt as women and moms - and maybe some guilt, too?? In this episode, I dig into 5 ways to look at your child’s strengths, struggles, and phases a little differently. I share ways to focus on the power of perseverance, problem-solving, resourcefulness, and compassion over disparity, weaknesses, and fitting in. I also encourage you to work on YOU. If you’re comparing your child to other children, you might have some Shameless work to do on yourself. Let me know how this episode resonates with you and how you have seen kiddie comparison traps play out in your circles of moms. Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fab Fit Fun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Julie Ciardi is a Shameless divorced and remarried mom of 3 kiddos. She divorced when her oldest two kids were 2 and 4. She remarried and now has a third child, age 4, with her new husband. She has a very modern blended family. She recently took a flying leap from corporate, leaving behind a high paying multi-six figure salary to be an entrepreneur with 2 businesses. She launched a brick and mortar women’s boutique, Haven Boutique, where she styles women for their daily hustle. Then she launched her podcast, Divorced Mommy to help divorced moms with their mindset and long-term vision to create the life they want and their children need. Listen in to hear Julie share: How to conscientiously frame your story around your divorce How to model to your friends and family around how to talk about your family’s rearrangement The mindset resets to start rebuilding your life and mental space during and after divorce How she and her children’s dad manage their 50/50 co-parenting/custody schedule How to find power and strength in divorce Links Mentioned: Connect with Julie: Divorced Mommy Blog Podcast: Divorced Mommy Divorced Mommy on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Kathie Lee Gifford book - The Gift That I Can Give You: Get 30% off Kathie Lee’s children’s book, The Gift That I Can Give You at Faith Gateway and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I recently polled our Shameless Mom #everydamnday Facebook group, asking what you all needed help with right now. I got over a tons of responses and many of those responses had a lot of likes – letting me know that a lot of you are facing the same obstacles. But the most liked response was, “How to protect energy and boundaries so you still have joy during the holidays.” This response was the most liked comment by a landslide. Here’s the deal about the holidays – you have every right to create the experience you want. You have every right to say NO. You have every right to create space to rest. You have every right to create more joy and less stress. You have every right to make it all about you and your immediate family and not about a million other people. You have every right to unapologetically set boundaries, protect your energy, and enjoy the heck out of yourself. Here are 4 ways to protect your energy and build better boundaries so your next month can be more of a fairy tale and less of a nightmare. I’m going to dive into how to make space for the things and people you love, how to prioritize things that bring you joy, and how to actually RELAX over the holidays. Sound good?!? Links Mentioned: Join MOMENTUM Mamas (enrollment closes at 5 pm on November 26th!): Shameless Mom Thank you to our sponsors: Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Heather Boorman lives an intensely joy-filled and full life as a homeschooling mom to 3 fringy kids and the executive director and therapist with Boorman Counseling. She passionately advocates for differently wired kids and adults through her work as a national speaker, writer & podcaster at The Fringy Bit. Heather’s also the author of The Gifted Kids Workbook, which provides mindfulness-based activities to help kids reduce stress, balance emotions, and build confidence. Listen in to hear Heather share: How she meets the unique needs of her three fringy kids through a mix of homeschooling and traditional schooling Her definition of fringy kids Common misconceptions of gifted kids and parenting gifted kids The importance of self-compassion when parenting fringy kids Why it’s ok to go AWOL sometimes – and what to do if you suspect another mom might have gone AWOL Links and Resources Mentioned: Get on the Wait List for MOMENTUM Mamas Wait List Connect with Heather online: The Fringy Bit Connect with Heather locally: Boorman Counseling Connect with Heather on Facebook Workbook: The Gifted Kids Workbook Thank you to our sponsors: Songfinch: To save $20 off your Personalized Song From Scratch, go to Songfinch and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Homesick Candles: Save 10% off any order over $50 and get free shipping at Homesick Candles when you use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Hint Water: To get 36 bottles of Hint Water for just $36 visit Hint Drink Water and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week I gave a talk to Moms In Finance in Seattle and it was pure FIRE and GOLD. It was basically a combination of FIVE podcast episodes I’ve already done wrapped up into a 30-minute talk that will totally change how you turn your struggles into strengths and take power in your life to rewrite ALLLL the stories that are keeping you stuck as all get out. Listen, we all have our “stuff”….. And most of us let our “stuff” dictate our struggles. We let our “stuff” create stories in our heads that keep us stuck. We allow our “stuff” to hold us back from finding and thriving in our strengths. How about we just stop? Stop sitting in your stuff. Stop settling for stuck. Start shining your story. Start standing in your strengths. Listen in to hear exactly how. Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 241: Turn Your Struggles Into Strengths SMA Episode 149: Stop Saying Sorry SMA Episode 28: Be A Quitter SMA Episode 221: 7 Phrases of Freedom SMA Episode 237: 15 Minute Manifest Get on the MOMENTUM Mamas Wait List Thank you to our sponsor: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, text SHAMELESS to 484848. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rachel Rodgers is a woman of color, a mother of four and a seven-figure business owner -- in that order. Rachel started her career working as a lawyer with nonprofits, federal judges and Hillary Clinton. Rachel is founder of Million Dollar Badass, a high-level Mastermind for women looking to take their businesses from 6 to 7 figures. She firmly believes all women should desire to become millionaires – because of the profound impact a woman’s money can make on the world. Rachel is also my business coach. I adore her, even though she terrifies me on the reg by pushing me to think WAY bigger than I am comfortable with. Everyone woman needs a Rachel in her life. I can’t to share my Rachel with you. Listen in to hear Rachel share: How she emerged from a childhood impacted my poverty, addiction, mental health issues, and the loss of her father at the age of 12 to become a 7 figure earner The power and value in knowing our stories and how they impact our current reality Why all women should aim to become millionaires The risks of living in a scarcity mindset How to overcome mindset obstacles in order to live a million dollar lifestyle Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 235: Why I Want to Be a Shameless Millionaire Website Hello Seven Podcast: Hello Seven Facebook Group Hello Seven Instagram @rachelrodgersesq Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Kathie Lee Gifford book - The Gift That I Can Give You: Get 30% off Kathie Lee’s children’s book, The Gift That I Can Give You at Faith Gateway and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It was pointed out to me a few weeks ago that I might be the kind of person who makes up BIG stories in my head that are often UNTRUE. This happens when I think someone might be mad at me or when I think I’ve been wronged or when anything feels unjust in my world. I’m quick to make assumptions, jump to conclusions, and sometimes downright freak the heck out. And it’s often all for nothing. The story I created in my head was just that – a story – with no basis in reality. Can anyone else relate? So, the reason this happens is a thinking process called the Ladder of Inference. This is where we take in an experience or some sort of data and then filter it, determine it it’s a threat or a benefit to us, make assumptions, jump to conclusions, form beliefs and take action based on these beliefs. I’m really good at climbing that damn Ladder of Inference super fast, which can totally mess up my head and sometimes my interactions with others. I know I’m not alone here. Listen in to hear how you might be climbing this ladder with me and how it’s potentially damaging your relationships and maybe even your upcoming holidays. Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get 100% organic tampons delivered right to your door for 40% off. Go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Taryn Perry is a Shameless Mom of 4 and a 6 figure earner as a Beachbody coach. She became a Beachbody coach 10 years ago to prove the infomercials were a big fat lie and she lost 25 pounds and built a whole new career, replacing her 6 figure commercial real estate salary in just 3 years. Since then she has worked with multiple MLMs and in multiple fitness spaces as a Turbo Kick instructor, a CrossFit coach, a Boot Camp coach and a Core de Force instructor. She recently added nutrition credentials to resume as well. She never stops showing up for herself (at 4am) or her business, which has taken her to the top ranks of Beachbody and landed her on QVC with Tony Horton. I’ve known Taryn for years and I’ve watched her do more in her MLM than any other woman I know. Given how many moms I know test the network marketing waters, I had to ask Taryn to come on the show and share her secrets. Listen in to hear Taryn share: How she built her business on connection and relationships, not through sales The power of consistency How she manages the naysayers What her exact paychecks have looked like over the last 3 years Her secret sauce to making a magical career in a network marketing business Links Mentioned (go to shamelessmom.com and click on Ep 282 for clickable links): Taryn on Instagram Free Kitchen & Ab Makeover ebook Join Taryn’s Free Facebook Community: Momstrong Project Thank you to our sponsors: Kathie Lee Gifford book - The Gift That I Can Give You: Get 30% off Kathie Lee’s children’s book, The Gift That I Can Give You at Faith Gateway and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to thirdlove.com/shameless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you’re listening to this episode, you have been a part of my journey to 1 million downloads in some way and I can’t thank you enough. I did not get here alone. I got here because YOU listened, downloaded, subscribed, reviewed and shared this podcast. For that, I am beyond grateful. Over the course of almost 300 episodes and over 1,000,000 downloads, I have learned some truly valuable lessons that apply to so many areas of life. I think you’ll be surprised at how much some of my lessons may apply to your life - today. So, listen in as I share what I’ve learned when it comes to consistency, gratitude & grace, asking, and connecting. And then go practice these things in your own life #everydamnday. You might be blown away by the amazing places they take you. Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 199: The C Word You Need To Use Way More Often Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talk Space and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Courtney Shorter is the Owner and Event Designer at RyanMorgan Events and Soul Free Mamas, where she plans memorable events and retreats that bring people together… Courtney has always loved planning gatherings, parties, and yes...meetings! Fascinated by all the details in dressing up, dancing, the music, lights, the food, and the glamour. Much like a stylist helps her clients find the best garments to showcase the greatest versions of who they are; Courtney helps her clients throw the best party or event to exhibit the very best of what they have to offer. Over the last few years, life has been a world wind of joy and pain but Courtney’s mission is always to find the joy... She loves to bring fun and help families find their joy. Her company, named after her twin angel babies, Ryan and Morgan, is built on a bedrock of love, a passion for what’s possible and a commitment to be an unstoppable force for good! As a way to honor her babies, after many years of event planning and heartbreak, she recently extended her business to empower women who have experienced infant loss, miscarriages, and/or women who are living with infertility. Courtney has created a powerful space for women that crave to be heard and supported along this lonely journey. Listen in to hear Courtney share: How her 10-year infertility journey led her to find a brain tumor The story of the birth and loss of her 1 pound twin girls How finding regular joy saved her from her grief Why she created her own grief group to connect women of color experiencing grief Thank you to our sponsor: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fab Fit Fun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Links Mentioned (clickable links are available if you go to shamelessmom.com and click on Episode 280): Connect with Courtney at Ryan Morgan Events Join Courtney’s private Facebook group: Soul Free Mamas Get Sara’s Shameless Friday emails: The Shameless Mom Academy Follow The Shameless Mom Academy on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A recent conversation in our Shameless Mom #everydamnday Facebook group stopped me in my tracks. One Shameless Mom posted that she only got a couple hours of time to herself each month. And that her partner thought this was an appropriate amount of time – he didn’t see why she might need anymore. I found this disconcerting. But more disconcerting was the chorus of moms who commented saying they too didn’t get much if any, time to themselves on a regular basis. MAMAS. This is NOT ok. Time to yourself is essential. Time spent serving no one but you is crucial. Sacrificing regular time to yourself is sacrificing your true self and your basic need to cultivate your identity outside of the roles of mother and wife. Whether its taking a bath, going out with girlfriends, getting a massage, sitting alone reading in a coffee shop, going to book club, taking a photography class, joining a knitting circle – you need time just for you. And this time should not be a gift from your partner. This time should be a requirement of your relationship. In this episode, I dig into these 4 steps to getting more time in your life: Make it a requirement, not a reward Ask for support, not permission Work in small doses #everydamnday Opt out and unscheduled whenever possible Thank you to our sponsors: Homesick Candles: Save 10% off any order over $50 and get free shipping at Home Sick when you use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential and help them create the life their soul craves. Heather is the creator of the New & Noteworthy Podcast, Mom Is In Control, and has been featured on/in the OWN network, Huffington Post, and various other media outlets. Through her Courageous Rewrite Initiative, Heather gives voice to many humans who courageously took inspired action to create lives they’re proud of. With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they lead, work, play, and parent. Listen in to Heather share: Why she’s excited to have her mom move in with her despite their challenging past How she went from almost taking her own life to almost having her life taken from her Why you need to focus on energy management NOT time management Why you need to slow down to speed up The phases of Survival  Momentum  Thrival  Creative Abundance and how they touch different areas of your life The power (for you) in giving your child a safe place to experience any emotion Links Mentioned: Heather’s podcast: Mom Is In Control Connect with Heather: http://heatherchauvin.com Join Heather’s Facebook group Thank you to our sponsors: BarkBox: Get a free month of Barkbox with any 6 or 12 month subscription by visiting www.barkbox.com/shameless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I often tell people that my “mommy podcast” is not about momming. It’s no about how to potty train your kid or get through sleep training. It’s generally NOT parenting advice. Except now. Because I will shamelessly declare that there are a few instances in which I will use my platform to give parenting advice. Protecting your kids from predators and sexual violence is one of those instances. A few weeks ago I released an episode titled, “How To Not Raise A Rapist.” After that episode, I got a number of messages asking, “What about our daughters? How do we protect our girls from predators.” I immediately knew I needed to create this follow up episode. And this episode is not just about protecting your daughters. It’s about protecting girls and boys from predators. In this episode, you’ll learn: 17 tools to protect your kids from predators 6 reasons victims don’t report assaults 6 things every parent should know about predators The reality of people who perp on kids and the exact behaviors they use to build trusting relationships before they victimize Resources/Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 271: How to Not Raise A Rapist Book: It’s Not The Stork (for young children) Book: It’s So Amazing (for slightly older children) Book: It’s Perfectly Normal (for preteens) (and follow up books) SMA Episode 120 with Amy Lang: Bird and Bees and Kids Resource - RAINN: https://www.rainn.org Article - Parents Magazine: How To Protect Your Kids From A Predator Thank you to our sponsor: Follain: Save over 50% and get Follain’s Clean Essentials Kit today for only $22. Go to www.follain.com/shameless and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout to get free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Katie Krimitsos is a Shameless Mom, wife, adventurer, podcaster, business strategist, seeker and change maker. She's committed to brightening the light of women around the world - through her Biz Women Rock community, which supports Women Entrepreneurs - and now through Meditation for Women, guided meditations that are specifically created with the special journey of women in mind. These meditations are tools to help women reconnect with the divine wisdom already inside of each us so we may live our own, extraordinary lives. I connected with Katie at an event after some light stalking… She had the most magnetic energy and I knew I wanted to connect with her. We ended up chatting and I immediately felt like I found a new friend. I am so excited to share her with you. Listen in to hear Katie share: How motherhood exploded her universe in unpredictable, expansive, dynamic ways How she created her Mompreneur Mission Statement and what she included in it How she has reframed and renamed “mom guilt” so it doesn’t exist in her world Why it’s a myth that you have to make less money in motherhood When and why you should push pause, get quiet, and take a timeout How transparency and sharing helps us turn our struggles into strengths Links Mentioned: Connect with Katie: Biz Women Rock Join Katie’s private Facebook group Katie’s Meditation Podcast: Meditation for Women Katie’s Business Podcast: Biz Women Rock Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Scentbird: To save 50% off your first order and get your first scent for just $7.50, go to Scentbird and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Like most women, I spent a lot of my life trying to blend in. I wanted to be the same as all the people around me. In fact, I hated that I had red hair and freckles for my entire childhood. I didn’t like looking different. However, today, as a 42-year-old woman, mom, wife, entrepreneur, I LOVE standing out. I love being my own unique person. I love being recognized for what makes me different. I love my red hair and freckles (and I get super offended with certain skin care companies say they have creams to minimize/lighten freckles – WTF?!? Not cool.) I’ve come a long way in owning my differences, embracing my oddities, and sharing my true self. And the result has been magical – as now I attract all the best people into my life. When I was trying to blend in I had a lot of relationships that were NOT satisfying. Sometimes I felt misunderstood and like I needed to hide parts of myself. No more. Now I let my freak flag fly and the people I attract people have many of the same values as me, and often the same interests (Real Housewives, entrepreneurship, fitness, personal and professional development, mental health awareness). I actually build friendships around geeking out on common interests instead of pretending to like what someone else likes. And, it’s SO MUCH BETTER. Who knew??? Listen in to this episode to learn 4 ways you can let your freak flag fly and how flying your freak flag will change the dynamics of your relationships. Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. RXBAR: RXBAR is offering you an exclusive pack of 6 adult bars and 4 kids bars + 25% off your first order when you go to RXBAR and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Marina Pearson is a Shameless Mom to 3-year-old Leo, host on The Joy of Being Podcast, bestselling author and investor. Aside from being featured on/in ITV This Morning (in Europe), Marie Claire, The Guardian and The Daily Mail she lives her life working on projects that light her up. When she isn't spending time with her son at the beach in Javea Spain (where she lives) she is running exclusive Joyriding Retreats in Spain for women/mums in business who want to ditch the overwhelm or overseeing her investments, or hosting her Joy of Being Podcast where she interviews transformation professionals, business owners and creatives on how moms and women in business can live a life full of joy and freedom. Listen in to hear Marina share: The power of not limiting yourself to one title/role The power of stressing less and living more How she mothered in spite of feeling she lacked the “mom gene” How to create space between emotion and reactions in order to feel more in control of your reactions How she manages a challenging/unconventional custody schedule The difference between easy and effortless and how to create more effortlessness in your life The truth about Connection (yes, it starts with a capital C) Links Mentioned: Marina’s Podcast: Joy of Being Connect with Marina: Marina Pearson Free Resource: Joy Catalyst Scorecard Marina on Instagram Marina’s free Joy of Being Facebook group Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talk Space and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m guessing someone at some point told you something like, “If you take good care of yourself, you’ll be so much more able to take good care of others.” Can we just call BS on this?!? First of all, you are allowed to take good care of yourself because you damn well deserve it, not because you need to serve others better. AND… When is the last time anyone ever told a dude to take good care of himself so he could better serve others? Ummmm, never. You wear a million hats and serve others in a million ways. But if you don’t serve yourself first, you won’t see the beauty in any of it. You’ll be anxious, bitter, overwhelmed, exhausted, and uninspired to use your best gifts to their full capacity. When you show up in any role do it FOR YOU. Prove how strong you are FOR YOU. Show how patient you are FOR YOU. Let yourself cry FOR YOU. Be assertive with your voice FOR YOU. Share your time and energy FOR YOU. Laugh out loud FOR YOU. Become an artist FOR YOU. Run a marathon FOR YOU. Quit your job FOR YOU. Go for the promotion FOR YOU. The idea that you should take care of yourself so you can better take care of others is bullshit. Take care of yourself because you are a hero, friend, mother, daughter, visionary, QUEEN, ruler, woman who damn well deserves to take care of yourself FOR YOU. Thank you to our sponsor: care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit www.takecareof.com and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Colleen Hauk is a public speaker, co-author of the bestselling book, Women Who Ignite, a Certified Professional Success Coach and creator of YOU SO NEW ™, a program designed for successful professionals who fail to take care of their personal life. All of this coupled with over 15 years of corporate leadership, training, and consultative selling, Colleen shares her skills, personal experiences and research in a unique way to authentically connect and empower high-performers to ‘have it all’ without losing it all. Married to her supportive husband, Matt, they live in Southern California where both were born and raised. They enjoy life with their beautiful children, Jordan (24), Ethan (12), and Reese (9), camping, hosting fun-filled evenings with friends, and spending quality time with their nearby extended family. Listen in to hear Colleen share: How picture perfect lives aren’t usually picture perfect The costs of prioritizing her work over everything else The impact of her family having to walk on eggshells around her How to live the “and” life How to define your own version of “having it all” How she intentionally integrates her personal and professional life Links Mentioned: Connect with Colleen: Colleen Hauk Colleen’s Free Guide: The Me-Time Starter Guide Get Colleen’s Best Selling Book: Women Who Ignite Colleen on Facebook Colleen on Instagram Colleen on Twitter Colleen on LinkedIn Thank you to our sponsor: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are so many things I want to scream out of rage and disillusionment right now. But that is not what is most productive. What is most productive is being an intentional part of the solution. The solution is to dismantle rape culture. And it starts HERE. It starts with how we are raising our boys. Now. Today. It starts with the conversations you’re having with your sons and the behavior you’re modeling. Is it a big undertaking? Yes. Can we do it? Yes. In this episode, I explain the exact (science/research based) parenting my husband and I are committed to because we are committed to not raising a rapist. If I had a daughter, I would want to know that every boy, young man, and the older man she was in contact with understood and valued these guiding principles. Please listen and share with everyone you know who is participating in any way to raise the next generation of men. See full show notes in link in bio for recommended articles and books related to raising emotionally intelligent boys. Resources: Article: 3 Do’s and Don’ts For Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids Article: 5 Ways To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Boys In The Era Of Toxic Masculinity Article: How To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids Book: Raising Cain: Protecting The Emotional Life of Boys Book: Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nichole Sylvester is International Bestselling Author of OH SHIFT: A Journey from Chaos to Consciousness and host of the OH SHIFT Show. She is a Shameless single mother to her 13-year-old daughter, a Spiritual Success Coach and a transformational speaker on a mission to guide people home, to themselves, to discover their innate power. She supports thousands of people per year through her online programs, private coaching, and retreats. I heard Nichole in an interview on another podcast recently and immediately Instagram stalked her and asked her to come on the SMA. Her story is mind-blowing. From watching her dad OD in front of her to smuggling drugs taped to her body between states to having a woman murdered in her own home at the hands of her abusive ex-boyfriend, Nichole’s journey is more than you think one woman can endure. Yet, here she is. A survivor and a warrior and a powerful thought leader. Listen in to hear Nichole share: How she survived rock bottom when her ex-boyfriend murdered a woman in her home How she drugged her abusive boyfriend to escape with her daughter How she turned a life of addiction and abuse into a life of service and purpose The power and purpose of radical compassion How to move into the “lesson and leadership” phase to share your story Why you need to start with celebration in your life in order to get over feeling like you’re not enough Links Mentioned: Connect with Nichole: Nichole Sylvester Nichole’s Book: OH SHIFT Nichole’s Podcast: OH SHIFT Show Nichole on Instagram Nichole on Facebook 5-day money mindset challenge: Own Your Money Shift Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Green Chef: For $50 off your first box of Green Chef meals go to Green Chef. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every now and then I get an email from a Shameless Mom that just blows me away. A couple weeks ago I got one such email – detailing a mama’s struggle with her current relationship with an addict and her past decision to terminate a pregnancy. What was so overwhelmingly touching about this email was that a lot of the email was about how HAPPY this mama is. That 96.34% of the time she is extremely happy, caring, empathetic, and grateful. But then there was the admission that, “the murky undercurrents of my past sometimes swirl with the polluted storm of my present; and my sunny disposition is immediately overcast by a darkness so ominous and pensive, that I fear I will suffocate under all the darkness......” I asked this Shameless Mom if I could share her story and do some processing on this episode and she so kindly agreed. To any mama who has struggled to make peace with your past or is currently struggling to find peace in the present, this is for you. Links Mentioned: Resource: Design Mom Gabrielle Blair speaks on abortion Thank you to our sponsor: Lola: Get 100% organic tampons delivered right to your door for 40% off. Go to my Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Erika Tebbens is a Sales Strategist for female entrepreneurs. She teaches women to sell in a way that feels good, instead of "pushy." She's also a leader who encourages women to play bigger and show up more boldly in business, and in life. She runs a vibrant and dynamic group for women in business and does public speaking for passionate, female entrepreneurs. When she isn't working, you can find her sipping black coffee on her couch with her husband, 13-year-old son, and two very spoiled dogs. I was so excited to have Erika join us in the SMA because I wanted to ask her about all her unconventional hobbies and interests – like roller derby, running for political office, and building a successful direct marketing business. I was so curious to learn what guided her confident behavior. I loved hear her story and I think you will too! Listen in to hear Erika share: How roller derby stopped her from being “swallowed” by motherhood What inspired her to get involved in politics even though she didn’t have the traditional credentials – and the powerful ripple effect her campaign had How she maintains the confidence to try new, scary things on a regular basis Why she left a successful MLM/direct marketing company Tips on selling without being sleazy (KEY for any moms in sales and/or direct marketing positions!) Links Mentioned: Connect with Erika: Erika Tebbens Erika’s course: Sell It Sister Erika on Instagram Erika on Facebook Erika’s free Facebook group Thank you to our sponsors: Scentbird: To save 50% off your first order and get your first scent for just $7.50, go to Scentbird and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout RXBAR: RXBAR is offering you an exclusive pack of 6 adult bars and 4 kids bars + 25% off your first order when you go to RXBAR and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is a saying that goes something like, “A goal without a deadline is just a dream.” I couldn’t agree more. Don’t get me wrong - dreams are nice. But a goal with a deadline is much more likely to dramatically change your life. An early mentor of mine used to always say, “Cut your deadlines in half.” His purpose in giving this advice is that if you could accomplish something in half the time you thought possible, you’ll constantly be raising the bar for yourself. You recognize quickly that you are strong and powerful beyond measure. In this episode, I’m going to dig into how to start setting better deadlines and actually meet them. I will also talk about your procrastination habits that might be really impeding progress toward your goals on a regular basis. This is something most of us are guilty of and it’s usually subconscious. The best time to set a deadline is right NOW. You ready? Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. True Botanicals: to get free samples and save $20 off your order of $40 or more for your first purchase, go to True Botanicals and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jessica Turner is here to share her new book, Stretched Too Thin. She is also the author of the Wall Street Journal bestselling book The Fringe Hours and the founder of the popular lifestyle blog The Mom Creative. Additionally, she is an award-winning marketing professional, speaker, and freelance writer. She has been featured in numerous media outlets including The Today Show, O Magazine, Pregnancy & Newborn Magazine, Better Homes and Gardens, and Inc.com. She and her husband, Matthew, live with their three children in Nashville, Tennessee. Kids 10, 7, 3.5 Jessica is a mover and a shaker to her core. She is also completely Shameless about how she builds a guilt-free life (read: empire) in which she gets to live out all her dreams, in spite of conventional norms and myths around mom guilt and work-life balance. Listen in to hear Jessica share: How she manages working a full-time corporate job plus being a writer on the side – GUILT FREE Most common mom challenges and how to manage them The power of noting and affirming mom’s similar experiences How we can better manage the mental load of motherhood and professional aspirations How to let guilt be a motivator in your life The difference between work/life balance and work/life satisfaction Links Mentioned: Connect with Jessica: The Mom Creative Jessica’s book: Stretched Too Thin Jessica on Facebook Jessica on Twitter Jessica on Instagram Book Snobbery on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get 100% organic tampons delivered right to your door for 40% off. Go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week I tore my heart out and left in a kindergarten classroom in the pocket of my sweet Vinnie. It was a journey to get to that day, and just when I thought I had won the day by not having a monumental meltdown, Vinnie had a monumental meltdown on the way home from school and I was reminded that my work here will never be done. Which is a relief in this time of transition… Even if you aren’t like me and didn’t have to tear your heart out and leave it in a kindergarten classroom last week, this is likely a season of transition for you. Aside from tearing my heart out last week, I love transitioning between seasons. I try to be really intentional about what I’m gearing up for, what I want to get out of it, and how I want to grow during each and every season. I know there will always be bumps. Nothing will ever go completely according to plan. But growth will occur. And on the other side of that growth is amazing things I can’t even imagine yet…. It’s a constant pursuit of imperfect perfection and magic, right?!? If you’re wondering how you can embrace the transition into fall and how you can reset & reframe your mindset so you can really OWN the heck out of the rest of 2018, this episode is for you! Listen in to hear me share some powerful mindset resets that will light up your fall! Links Mentioned: Free Resource: 15 Minute Manifest Membership Community: MOMENTUM Mamas Email me: [email protected] Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com/shameless and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jessica Butts is CEO and Founder of Front Seat Life.org where she helps inspire, motivate and educate people to live their life from the front seat using their innate abilities. She is also the author of the popular books, “Live Your Life from the Front Seat” and “Don’t Do Stuff You Suck At”. Jessica is a retired psychotherapist. Today she is a life and business coach, and Myers-Briggs expert whose mission is to inspire others to accomplish magnificent things by embracing their innateness. She shares her message around the country in her sassy, no-holds-barred entertaining manner. Leaving the corporate world after 15 years to start her own company has been the hardest and most rewarding challenge of her life. As an ENFJ, Jessica thinks outside the box, leads with her heart and is obsessively organized. She’s passionate about personal development, traveling, deep connections with those in her life and helping create aha’s for her clients. I knew from the moment Jessica and I hit record that this conversation would be FIRE and she did not disappoint. Get ready for a super high value, fast pace convo that miiight just knock your socks off. To get the most out of this conversation, do Jessica’s free assessment (link below) before listening in, so you can know your personality type as we discuss all things personality type! Listen in to hear Jessica share: How knowing and embracing your personality type can change the course of your life How intuitive type people can thrive in a world dominated by sensors The struggle of feelers and why we’re often misread by others and marginalized How to assess your kids Links Mentioned: Connect with Jessica: Jessica Butts Jessica on Instagram Free Myers Briggs Assessment Thank you to our sponsors: Butcherbox: For grass fed beef, organic chicken and heritage breed pork delivered to your door go to Butcher Box/shameless and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $20 off your order and get 2 lbs of FREE ground beef in every box for the life of your subscription! Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fab Fit Fun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I only recently realized anxiety has been a part of my life for almost my entire life. When worry has been your gift for as long as you can remember, you don’t really think about it being anything other than normal. A few years ago a sleep doctor asked me for how much of my life I had been hyper-vigilant. Me? Hyper-vigilant? Huh…. I had never thought about myself or my worry this way. I sat quietly and thought for a moment and then clearly and immediately knew the exact age. I was 8 was when I started trying to stay awake all night in case we were robbed. I woke up screaming nightly, convinced I heard someone moving our kitchen table across the linoleum floor (cause robbers usually go for kitchen tables first??) It became such an obsession that my mom eventually took me to a child psychologist to see why I might be so preoccupied with these intrusive thoughts. Today, I have other obsessions and intrusive thought patterns. As of late, they have been mostly related to sending my child off to kindergarten. While I am ridiculously excited to see him leaping toward this next step with his eyes and heart wide open, I am in deep mourning that we are closing the door on a chapter of our lives that has exploded and exposed my mind and heart to the world in ways I never thought possible. This transition has my anxiety all sorts of fired up and ready for action. In this episode, I share a recent event that put me over the edge and my top three tactics that help me keep my anxiety manageable in these tender and trying times of my life. To all you Shameless Moms who are also blessed with the gift of worry, you are not alone. I am with you. Always. Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. True Botanicals: to get free samples and save $20 off your order of $40 or more for your first purchase, go to True Botanicals and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Janna Denton-Howes is a Shameless Mom to 2 daughters and marriage coach who is pioneering a movement for women to free themselves from sexual expectations and redefine intimacy in their marriages. Affectionately called, "Chief Libido Officer" and "Husband Whisperer" by her participants and coaching clients, Janna not only helps married women take sex off their to-do lists but shows couples how to transform conflict into connection in 5 seconds or less! One of her greatest accomplishments in life has been to beat the odds of teenage marriage and still be partnered up with her prom date, 18 years later. When she isn't working from her garden shed office, you can find her having a beach fire with her husband and their two daughters or curled up with a book about the male brain. Listen in to hear her share: Why the culture around sex is changing for the better Causes of low libido in women and why your low libido has nothing to do with you What men really want: to be desired and admired Women really want: protection and connection Routines to make intimacy easier, more relaxed, and more enjoyable How couples can make a 180-degree shift in their relationship Links Mentioned: Connect with Janna: Janna Denton Howes Janna on Facebook Janna on Youtube Janna's Program: 30 Days to Wanting it More Janna’s 7 Day Pleasure Challenge Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’ll be honest, boundaries are tricky for me. I’m a people pleaser for sure. But I’m also acutely aware of my (shamelessly selfish) needs. Over the last few years, I have gotten so much better at practicing what I preach and now I really embrace certain boundaries and 100% OWN them. Getting clarity around boundaries is so freeing. It has allowed me to have an immediate go-to responses to things that used to make me feel guilty and take up waaaay too much mental energy. As a result of all these boundaries I stopped saying yes to a bunch of things – and there are 5 things that really stand out. You might want to stop saying yes to these 5 things too. You have my blessing. Thank you to our sponsors: True Botanicals: to get free samples and save $20 off your order of $40 or more for your first purchase, go to True Botanicals and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jill Angie of Not Your Average Runner is an RRCA certified running coach and Master certified life coach who wants to live in a world where everyone is free to feel fit and fabulous at any size. She started the Not Your Average Runner movement in 2013 to show that runners come in all shapes, sizes, and speeds, and since then has assembled a global community of revolutionaries that are taking the running world by storm. Jill and I dig into all things running and body positivity here. We both firmly believe that you are already 100% perfect as is. And you can be a runner at any size or speed. We also both firmly believe you will find more power in all areas of your life if you start running. If you’ve been looking for the inspiration to get yourself moving, this is it. Promise. Listen in to hear Jill share: Why she walked away from her marriage to be more authentic in her life How getting half-naked in the middle Brooklyn impacted and improved her body image Why running equals freedom and power at any size or pace How to overcome self-doubt to get yourself out the door for the first time How to become a Rebel Runner (hint: you already are one) Options for the best plus size running bra Links Mentioned: Join the Shameless Mom MOMENTUM Mamas Connect with Jill: Not Your Average Runner Not Your Average Runner Podcast Not Your Average Runner on Facebook Join the Not Your Average Runner Free Facebook Group Not Your Average Runner on Instagram Jill’s Favorite Bra Brands: Enell (use code jillship at Enell for free shipping) and She Fit Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of the things I am most convinced of in life is our ability to control our outcomes by controlling our thoughts. If you think positive and powerful thoughts, you will do positive and powerful things. If your thoughts are filled with self-doubt and harsh judgment of your abilities, you will likely find yourself stuck in a place you don’t know how to move out of. This isn’t to say changing your thoughts comes easily. It doesn’t. But it comes steadily with small investments in critical thinking and intentional integration. Harv Eker says, “No thought lives in your head rent-free.” Each thought you have will either be an investment or a cost. It will either move your toward happiness and success or away from it. It will either empower you or disempower you. That’s why it’s imperative you choose your thoughts and beliefs wisely.” One of the biggest responsibilities you have to yourself is to manage your thoughts in a manner that allows you to live a life you feel proud of, that you feel at peace with, and that you feel in charge of. Listen in to learn how to better manage your thoughts in order to get the outcomes you really want in life. If you need help and ongoing support with any of this, make sure to check out our MOMENTUM Mamas program. Registration is open with discount pricing this week only. This program promises to make you a BOSS of your thoughts. Links Mentioned: Join the Shameless Mom MOMENTUM Mamas Danny J interview: Saved By The Daughter She Placed For Adoption Part 1 and Part 2 Thank you to our sponsors: RXBAR: RXBAR is offering you an exclusive pack of 6 adult bars and 4 kids bars + 25% off your first order when you go to RX BAR and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fab Fit Fun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mindset is everything. It can make you and it can break you. When it comes to winning at life, you have to do a lot of mindset work. It’s the only way to see your gifts, appreciate your gifts, and fully utilize your gifts. A mindset reset can help you find joy and success in the most difficult of situations. A champion mindset keeps you resilient and powerful at all times. If you think about the people around you who are winning at life – you can probably see that they do indeed have a champion mindset. In this episode, I’m going to share with you how you can have a champion mindset through 6 steps: Relentless pursuit and focus Putting on blinders Protecting your headspace (get rid of crabs) Taking radical responsibility for reprogramming self-limiting beliefs Viewing everything as practice Staying in motion/momentum Links Mentioned: Free ebook: 15 Minute Manifest Book: You Are a Badass At Making Money Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

RB Fast is a leadership coach for schools and nonprofits based in Denver, CO. She travels the globe facilitating workshops and retreats focused on team building, strategy, and leadership growth. From large conferences to private boardrooms, RB shows up as a partner and guide for every client. When she isn't helping organizations realize their big vision, she's probably in her garden and kitchen preparing delicious food for the people she loves, including her beloved husband, Steve, daughter, Mia or snuggling her fur babies, Moe and Dexter. RB started her journey into motherhood as a full time student and bartender who could only afford to take 9 days of maternity leave. 9 days. The journey inspired her to take conscientious action to create a more powerful life. Today, she is very thoughtful and intentional in how she weaves social justice and advocacy into her parenting and her professional work with non-profits. Listen in to hear RB share: The value of creating your own beautiful space Her 9-day maternity leave and the postpartum depression that followed What life was like working as a bartender until 3:30 am and being a full-time student with a newborn baby How she started a business by making a list of her skills and posting it to Facebook Survival vs perfectionism – and why survival mode is way more productive and perfectionism might be a luxury you can’t afford The importance of learning and listening to others stories/experience/perspectives The advocacy path learning/questioning/action Links Mentioned: SMA Ep 234: Megan Flatt: How to Own Your Mama Advantage Connect with RB: Beeline Consulting Resource: Nonprofit Board Health Checkup RB on Twitter RB on Instagram Website: Vote Smart Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s easy for us to underestimate our own power. Giving birth is the single most powerful a woman can do. I chose to do it unmedicated. I don’t think this is necessarily the best way, but it’s the way I chose. And my low-risk pregnancy allowed me to do this at home. I learned through my home birth experience that I can do really hard things. That said, I would not opt for another unmedicated birth. It’s interesting how experience can change our perspective, isn’t it? This is the story of Vinnie’s birth and my maddening realization that sometimes the only way out is through. Thank you to our sponsors: Care.com: Save 30% off your Care.com Premium Membership by going to Shameless Mom. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Christine McAlister is an entrepreneur, business coach and the author of The Income Replacement Formula: Seven Simple Steps To Doing What You Love And Making Six Figures From Anywhere. An expert on turning tragedy into triumph, she founded her company, Life With Passion, after the full-term stillbirth of her first daughter, Maeve. She's been featured in Inc., Business Insider, The Huffington Post, and the Entrepreneurs On Fire podcast. Christine helps high-achievers all over the world to quit and stay out of their 9-5s, by building businesses out of their passions. Christine and her husband and 2-year old "rainbow baby" Fiora live with their 2 rescue dogs, near their Arabian horses, in Louisville, Kentucky. I wanted to have Christine on the show to talk about her traumatic story of loss and how she found herself a completely new person a few years later. We talk about how motherhood changes us forever, especially in the face of loss and trauma. Christine’s passion and energy are infectious. It is so clear that she has built the life that is best for her passions and she’s obviously very talented when it comes to helping others do the same! Listen in to hear Christine share: How she endured the loss of her daughter, Mauve, and the lessons learned from her trauma Why she left a successful business to build something new Why she believes, “when the mindset is strong, the strategy is simple.” How to identify your passions and determine if you should (or shouldn’t!) build a business around them The 7 steps of a freedom based lifestyle Links Mentioned: Get a free chapter of Christine’s book: Life With Passion Get Christine’s book: The Income Replacement Formula Join Christine’s private Facebook group Christine on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m going to be a little controversial here and tell you that if you feel you don’t have enough time in your day, it’s your own fault. I don’t say this because I doubt you are super busy. I know you have a lot of balls in the air. I totally get it. But I also know that the constant overwhelm of busyness is usually due to two things: Taking on too many things and not being clear on what you need to say no to Poor planning/use of the precious time you have I don’t say any of this to point fingers or place blame, as I don’t think I’ve ever met a mom who didn’t struggle with this. So, I promise, we are all in this together. How about we get serious about owning out time and feeling in control of our days, shall we? Listen in as I give you 6 proven tiny tweaks to help you better manage your day and increase your productivity. Warning: the implementation of any one of these tweaks will ease your overwhelm tremendously. Be prepared to feel lighter and more free almost immediately. Links Mentioned: Shameless Mom Momentum Mamas Wait List Podcast: Online Marketing Made Easy With Amy Porterfield Product Recommendation: Panda Planner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Beryl Young is a Shameless Mom to her 8-year-old daughter, as well as the founder of Recapture Self and creator of Momtography® photography classes. Inspired by Beryl’s traumatic entrance into motherhood, Momtography® began in 2011 in the DC Metro Area as a creative business experiment. Over the past 7 years, Momtography® has expanded to include an online learning experience and local classes across the US taught by licensed teachers in 12 cities. Beryl calls herself a creative coach who grants women permission to seek an identity beyond motherhood using creativity as a tool for living a bigger, bolder, more meaningful life. Beryl is a highly inspired and creative woman who will motivate you to seek new creative pathways for sure. I had so much fun chatting with her and I’m pretty sure she will spark something in you as well. It can be very challenging to find creative outlets when you are managing the overwhelm and necessary nitty-gritty of motherhood. Beryl is going to teach you how to start digging into creative spaces in simple and fun ways. Listen in to hear Beryl share: The value of living in integrity personally and professionally How family planning and trauma changed her professional direction How to use The 100 Steps Project to initiate creativity How you can communicate with your partner to get more time to pursue your interest Life hacks to get creative and stop over thinking everything How to stay wildly creative and also be successful as an entrepreneur How getting tattooed and dying her hair helped her thrive with anxiety Links Mentioned: Connect with Beryl: Recapture Self SMA Ep 234: Megan Flatt: How to Own Your Mama Advantage SMA Ep 200: Gretchen Rubin: The Four Tendencies Beryl’s Free Photo Challenge Beryl on Instagram Beryl on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: PlanetBox Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last month, we found ourselves in the middle of a string of traumatic lies at the hands of someone we trusted on the most vulnerable level. Managing that kind of deceit was overwhelming. It took some time to figure out how to move forward. When someone breaks your trust in a big way, it’s easy for your mind to go to dark places. It’s easy to give into fear. It’s easy to make up stories in your head that do not serve you. In this episode, I’ll share how someone deceived my family and our community. I’ll also share how I managed this situation. As someone who can’t even handle being told a white lie, this was a tough situation for me. But I learned how to not make it about me and how to move on, even feeling some compassion for the person who caused so much harm. I’m sharing this episode in hopes it will help others who have been deceived on any level and might be struggling to process the deceit and move forward. Links Mentioned: Join the Momentum Mamas Wait List: Shameless Mom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lauren Golden is a Shameless Mom to 3 kids and loves helping mamas free themselves from the 9-5 grind. She launched The Free Mama Movement to show working moms that they don’t have to choose between family and financial stability. Hundreds of families today are happier and more fulfilled thanks to Lauren and her online programs. Whether you’re a single mom, a military mom, or a mom in a two-parent family who doesn’t want to sacrifice your time with your babies in order to provide for them, Lauren wants you to know that you don’t have to. Today, as the fearless leader of The Free Mama Movement and a thriving community of over 3,500 women, Lauren is passionate about showing other moms how to start and run a successful freelancing business from home. In her upcoming book, she shares her own story — along with plenty of practical advice for anyone looking to leave the 9-5 behind and make a real living from home. Lauren has amazing energy and I knew within moments of starting this interview that we would have some magical synergy. I am so excited to introduce you to Lauren, her story and her work! Listen in to hear Lauren share: How a traumatic loss changed her life and made her quickly quit her job How she went about “crafting” the life she really wanted Her belief in the “have-it-all” lifestyle The negative impact of business building on a marriage Why “busy” is a dirty word How to cut your responsibilities in half Links Mentioned: Connect with Lauren: The Free Mama Movement Lauren on Facebook Lauren’s free Free Mama Movement Facebook group Lauren on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Canidae: We talk about families, and your pet is an important part of your family and they deserve the best. Go to Canidae to try CANIDAE for free by requesting a free sample and get other special offers! care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care of and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Everyone struggles with Imposter Syndrome. EVERYONE. Over the last year or so I have been noticing how prevalent Imposter Syndrome is among some of the most successful people I know. It has become abundantly clear that we all struggle with feeling worthy. So, now that I’ve confirmed that this is a problem for you, lol, I’m going to talk to you about how to manage it. Listen in to hear me share: What Imposter Syndrome is and how it might be impacting your life The time I saw Macklemore struggle with Imposter Syndrome How I see the women over apologizing, minimizing, and giving away their self-worth The negative feedback loop that keeps you stuck in Imposter Syndrome mindset 3 ways you can stop shrinking 6 ways to improve your confidence in less than 10 minutes a day 5 ongoing practices that will help you overcome Imposter Syndrome Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 149: Stop Saying Sorry Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, text SHAMELESS to 484848. Daily Harvest: To get 3 FREE cups/smoothies in your first order, go to Daily Harvest and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Please Note: This is Part 2 of Danny-J’s story. If you didn’t listen to Episode 246 last week, go back and listen to that first! Danny-J is an award-winning entrepreneur, coach, podcast host, and storyteller. As the former founder of The Sweaty Betties, an online fitness community, Danny-J discovered the most effective method for capturing attention and increasing revenue—sharing personal and brand stories. Danny-J's work can be heard in her weekly podcast, The Best Life Podcast and can be followed in real time on all the social media platforms. As a real-life example of "Truth is Stranger than Fiction" she uses her real "Jerry Springer Life" stories to engage with her audience, teaches life lessons and inspires others to rewrite their stories. Danny-J now teaches innovative brands and influencers to close more sales, become better leaders and blow up their brands with the irresistible power of sharing. She also helps tens of thousands of families become debt-free by sharing her real life getting out of debt story and challenge #FindTheMoneyProject. I have been following Danny on social media for a while now. When I learned she gave up a baby for adoption as a teen mom, I asked her to come on the show to be interviewed as a Shameless Mom. Danny’s story is filled with trauma and heartache, but it ends in triumph and so much love and joy that she could never have anticipated as a young desperate and clinically depressed young woman. In this interview, we dive deep into Danny’s childhood, which was deeply impacted by her family’s religion, sexual abuse at the hands of her cousin, learning her biological father was a sperm donor, a serious eating disorder, depression with ongoing suicidal ideation, and a pregnancy at age 15 that ultimately saved her life. Listen in to hear Danny share: How having a baby at 16 saved her from her eating disorder, depression and suicidal thoughts How giving up her baby actually gave her life purpose again How her grown daughter coached her on meeting her sperm donor bio dad last year How opening all the doors in her biological family relationships has improved all her relationships with her parents Why she is a Shameless Mom even though she didn’t raise her daughter Links Mentioned: Connect with Danny: Danny J Danny’s podcast with Jill Coleman: The Best Life Podcast(Episodes 18 and 19 are her adoption story and her interview with her daughter) The Best Life Podcast on Instagram Danny J on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of the most common questions I get is, “How do I find my passions?” Author Kristin Hannah says, “Finding your passion isn't just about careers and money. It's about finding your authentic self. The one you've buried beneath other people's needs.” I couldn’t agree more. It is easy for moms to lose themselves in motherhood. It is very common to wake up one day, years into motherhood, and wonder: What am I passionate about? What are my hobbies? What would I do with myself if I had free time? What makes me happy outside of my family? How would I fill my time if I didn’t have kids to take care of? What is my favorite food? Do I even have a favorite color? The path to finding your passions and bringing TONS more joy and magic into your life is pretty simple, but not necessarily easy. It takes some time, but it’s well worth it – and the discovery can be really fun. Listen in to this episode as I share 7 steps to find your passions in life (beyond motherhood and family life.) I think you’ll be excited about starting a new journey of exploration after you take this in! Thank you to our sponsors: Fitfabfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to FabFitFun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Canidae: We talk about families, and your pet is an important part of your family and they deserve the best. Go to Canidae to try CANIDAE for free by requesting a free sample and get other special offers! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices