Shameless Leadership

Last week, I got an email from a Shameless Mom that started with, “I'm A Badass Mom Who Is So Scared To Shine.” This mama went on to share, “I'm scared of owning my badass part of me. I'm scared what people will think of me if I get too big. I'm scared of being so successful that I am seen. I have never put these thoughts out there but they are there, bubbling at the surface…” I’m in conversations with moms who are afraid to shine on the regular. This is so common. And here’s the problem…. THE WORLD NEEDS YOU TO SHINE. When you shine, we all win. When you hide and shrink, we all lose. Listen in to hear my love note to this mama and all of you who are afraid to shine right now. You are not alone. I GOT YOU. Thank you to our sponsors: Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to Kosmatology.com​ and use code shameless at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Abbi Perets wants moms to know they don’t have to choose between kids and career. She’s the coach and mentor moms turn to when they want to break into freelance writing and earn great money from home, on their own terms. Abbi combines nearly 20 years of experience freelancing for some of the world’s biggest companies with firsthand knowledge of having five kids of her own — including one with special needs. She understands the unique challenges moms face every day and has created programs specifically tailored to meet those challenges and empower moms all over the world to have it all. Listen in to hear Abbi share: Why she moved from Pennsylvania to Israel to join the Israeli army at age 18 What prompted her to start freelance writing and how it saved her when her son had cancer How moms can get started in freelance writing What kinds of experience/expertise you need (and don’t need) to get started as a freelance writer The importance niching down and specializing in specific content areas as a writer How to believe in yourself and your ability when you’re doing something new Why she has no qualms about running her business and selling her services during COVID-19 Links mentioned: Connect with Abbi: Successful Freelance Mom Get Abbi’s free course: How to Be a Freelance Writer Instagram: Abbi Perets FB Group: Writing Mom Conference FB Page: Successful Freelance Mom Thank you to our sponsor: Built Bar: Built Bar is offering my listeners 20% off your first purchase! Go to Builtbar.com and enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to receive 20% off your first order! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Building confidence is like writing a book or running a marathon - you do it one action step, one word, one block at a time. It's not a one-and-done process. It's a lifetime of practice. A lifetime of choosing courage - often tiny acts of courage. In 2019 I did two of the most courageous things I've ever done: I hosted the first Shameless Mom Con. This was such a big and overwhelming task to take on. But I knew if I could pull it off it would be life changing for my attendees and for me. I learned how to ski. I know this might sound silly to classify as a massive act of courage, but for a girl who is terrified of speed and momentum and heights (read: chairlifts), this was a big deal. I was only able to take on these acts of courage because I am constantly working on building my confidence - especially around things that are hard or uncomfortable for me. I have practices that I engage in daily that allow me to step into my confidence #everydamnday. These are small things that do not take a lot of time but have big impact in my ability to keep my confidence high, especially in trying times. Right now we are in trying times - the likes of which we have never seen before. If there has ever been a time to cultivate confidence and remind ourselves just how much power innately exists inside of us, it is now. Often, cultivating confidence comes from tiny action steps repeated over and over that lead us to take on bigger goals (starting a business, running a marathon, creating and sharing our art, learning a new skill, taking on a new leadership role.) Listen in to learn 5 tiny action steps you can take each day that take mere minutes but have deep impact in your ability to cultivate the confidence you need to make it through trying times - perhaps even thrive through trying times. Links mentioned: Learn about my Tenacious Mamas Business & Leadership Mastermind: shamelessmom.com/tenacious Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Omolara Thomas Uwemedimo is a Shameless Mom and a board certified pediatrician of over 15 years and an academic faculty member for over a decade, providing coaching and mentorship programs for physicians of color. She is also the CEO of Strong Children Wellness, an innovative telemedicine practice that addresses both unmet health and social needs for families in New York and the founder of Melanin, Medicine & Motherhood, an organization focused on empowering and supporting the personal & professional development of Black women physicians, especially mothers, to achieve their vision and build their capacity to support other women of color. Her career has been defined by a passion for social justice, an advocate, a professor & researcher committed to ensuring all mothers and children, no matter their race, income, or background have an equal right to thrive. She has worked as a global physician in NYC, Boston, and in 12 countries across sub-Saharan Africa, Asia, and the Caribbean. Dr. Uwemedimo is a national speaker to both physician and community audiences in the fields of overcoming implicit bias and racism in healthcare settings, inclusion, and equity for women physicians in healthcare and health equity for marginalized children and families, including those from immigrant and Black communities. She has been featured in several media outlets including Essence.com, Newsweek, Reuters, NPR, and CNN Espanol. Listen in to hear Omolara share: Her experience being a physician in New York during COVID-19 Why she made the professional shift to serve female doctors of color The importance of vulnerability, community, and confidence as the antidote to burnout Why she decided to create a community specifically for women physicians of color Links mentioned: Connect with Dr. Omolara Check out the MPOWERED Collective Melanin Medicine Motherhood Podcast Omolara on Instagram Melanin Medicine Motherhood Facebook Group Omolara on Twitter Thank you to our sponsors: Built Bar: Built Bar is offering my listeners 20% off your first purchase! Go to Builtbar.com and enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to receive 20% off your first order! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Leadership is typically a series of imperfect action steps. Leaders tumble, fall, and crash just like anyone else. But when a leader tumbles, falls or crashes, there is an audience watching to see how they will stand back up, pick up the pieces, and put things back together. When a leader crashes and harm is done to others in the wake of their errors, people watch even more closely. When harm is done, trust is eroded. Trust is broken between the leader and anyone who was harmed, obviously. But trust is also broken between the leader and anyone who is watching if the bystanders don’t see the leader take active steps to rebuild trust with those who were harmed. Those harmed hope to be held. Those watching hope to see the leader offer protection to those hurting. This is how everyone can recover and heal and know that they are in a safe community. Positive leadership looks like owning your mistakes and owning when you’ve caused harm without providing excuses or placing blame on others. Positive leadership looks like having uncomfortable conversations publicly. Positive leadership looks like recognizing your blind spots and committing to active and ongoing learning so you can see them more fully. Positive leadership looks like inviting feedback when you have caused harm and engaging in conversation with those who are hurting. Positive leadership looks like protecting people in your community from abuse and trauma. Positive leadership looks like pushing pause on the day-to-day parts of your work to rebuild trust where you have broken trust. We are all leaders - whether you are leading families, PTAs, soccer teams or companies. You are a leader. You are going to screw up. You will crash. You will cause harm. How will you rebuild trust after you cause harm? Listen in to learn how leaders can do better when they cause harm, especially as it pertains to race and protecting people of color in your community. This episode is inspired by a leader who recently crashed and then opted not to protect those harmed. A community became fractured and the erosion of trust was massive. This example is a powerful example of how leaders, especially white leaders, need to do so much better. Women of color to follow on Instagram (follow these women, buy their books, listen to their podcasts, and support their work): Austen Channing Brown Rachel Cargle Layla Saad Rebekah Borucki Ijeoma Oluo Elizabeth Dialto Books: Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World and Become a Good Ancestor by Layla Saad This Will Be My Undoing by Morgan Jerkins How To Be An Antiracist by Ibram X Kendi So You Want To Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo I’m Still Here: Black Dignity In A World Made For Whiteness by Austen Channing Brown White Fragility by Robin Diangelo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Meagan Francis is a mom of five kids ages 11 - 22, author, writer, and co-host of The Mom Hour podcast. She regularly speaks and coaches women and moms on building sane and satisfying lives, embracing creativity, and reinventing their careers. Meagan has been momming for her entire adulthood, having her first child in her early twenties. She has been writing, blogging, and reinventing herself online for 15 years. She has learned a lot of lessons along the way. Her energy is infectious and her perspectives are so refreshing. Listen in to hear Meagan share: How current times are taking us back to Newbornland How she’s finding and creating joy in unpredictable times How she went from blogging to podcasting (and whether you should start a blog or a podcast!) How moms can find happiness and satisfaction in spite of the media telling us that motherhood is hard, overwhelming, and frustrating Why she is actively opting out and rejecting the current COVID climate around homeschooling The value of embracing constant reinvention Links mentioned: Connect with Meagan and The Mom Hour Podcast Learn about Meagan’s other podcasts The Mom Hour on IG Meagan on IG Thank you to our sponsors: Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to Kosmatology.com​ and use code shameless at checkout. StoryWorth: Get started right away without the need for shipping by going to StoryWorth.com/shameless. You’ll get $10 off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many of you have shared that the biggest and most relentless challenges of this time are finding motivation and personal time in this current version of Groundhogs Day. It is definitely challenging to motivate when you don’t know what’s coming, you feel you have very little control over your future, and you have no space to think through what you want your life to look like right now. I know one of my biggest challenges during this time has been the constant closeness of my family. Don’t get me wrong, there has been some magic in this. But also, it’s a LOT. And it’s never-ending. I was pretty accustomed to (and appreciative of) my quiet days working solo from home. There is nothing solo about my days anymore. Yes, I’m grateful to be working, but it’s overwhelming and exhausting to work full time with a child and a dog constantly by my side. I know many of you are doing this with more than one child by your side. I bow down…. During this time, we must create and fiercely protect small spaces of personal time. This will tremendously help us find motivation and stay motivated. I have been creating little pockets of personal time that break up my day and really help keep me moving forward with a decent attitude. Listen in to hear exactly how you can find more motivation by creating pockets of personal time each day. Thank you to our sponsors: Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30-day free trial and 50% off your next month! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Patrice Washington is a Shameless Mom to a 12-year-old daughter, an award-winning author, transformational speaker, hope-restoring coach, and media personality. And she is committed to redefining the term wealth for our generation. Patrice got her start as your favorite personal finance expert, “America’s Money Maven”, having tremendous success with her “mindset approach” to personal finance. A licensed real estate professional by her sophomore year in college and a real estate and mortgage broker at 21 years old, Patrice took her boutique brokerage from the dining room of her 700-square foot condo to a 7-figure real estate empire by just 25. After losing her fortune in the Great Recession, she dedicated her life to not just rebuilding and reinventing her own life but helping the masses move from debt management to money mastery. She has since expanded her brand and mission, encouraging women to chase purpose, not money. Patrice is committed to redefining the term “wealth”, using its original meaning, “well-being”. She encourages women to have “wealth” in all aspects of their lives by pursuing their purpose, being fulfilled, and earning more without ever chasing money. Through her teachings, Patrice empowers women to look at life through the lens of abundance and opportunity, instead of lack and scarcity. As the founder of Redefining Wealth and The Earn More Money Movement for Women, Patrice has built a thriving community of high-achieving women committed to creating a powerful life vision--in their careers, home, health, and personal finances. Every week, millions of listeners have tuned in to her weekly segment, Redefining Wealth with Patrice Washington as part of a top-rated and nationally syndicated radio show. Patrice’s podcast, The Redefining Wealth Podcast with Patrice Washington, which takes a deeper dive into her radio segment content, launched in 2017 with overwhelming success. Her popular podcast was recently featured on Forbes.com as one of "15 Inspiring Podcasts for Professionals of Every Stripe". Listen in to hear Patrice share: Why 2020 is her year of obedience How she has overcome being known as “the Money Maven” vs being Reagan’s mom Why it’s ok to suck at cooking - and to stop trying to make it better How to focus on what you want vs what you don’t want 3 pillars to redefining wealth How our self-image holds us back in all areas of our lives The connection between physical clutter and mental chaos in our lives How to truly live a life of purpose - on your own terms Links mentioned: Website: Patrice Washington Podcast: Redefining Wealth Instagram: @SeekWisdomPCW Twitter: @SeekWisdomPCW Facebook: @SeekWisdomPCW Youtube: Patrice Washington: SeekWisdomPCW Thank you to our sponsors: Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30-day free trial and 50% off your next month! Ooak Dental: Purchase at Amazon.com available NOW. Laurel Springs: Register your child at LaurelSprings.com/shameless today and receive a waived registration fee. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we get deeper into pandemic life, there is more and more need to take a critical look at what’s working for you, what’s not working, and what beneficial changes could be made during this uncertain time. Along these lines, there are a few things you may benefit from quitting. Years ago, I did an episode called, “Be a Quitter.” I’m a long time fan of quitting things that don’t serve me. In fact, I can’t stand supposed inspirational quotes that suggest we should not be quitters. I think we should frequently assess what’s no longer working for us and quit those things quickly and without hesitation, in order to make space for the things that serve us, promote good physical and mental health, allow for appropriate boundaries with others, and keep us evolving in the directions we want to grow and thrive. As you have settled into new routines over the past 6 weeks, it is likely that you’ve also settled into some routines that aren’t optimal. Listen in to this episode to assess where you’re at, what’s not working, and what you might consider quitting in order to maintain optimal mental health as you continue to move through this time. Thank you to our sponsor: Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to kosmatology.com​ and use code shameless at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

RB Fast is an activist, leader, envelope pusher, magic maker, and mother of a child who is creative, brave, and transgender. I asked RB to come on this show because I wanted to have a parent of a transgender child share with us what parenting can look like when there are major shifts around a child’s identity - shifts that the rest of the world might not understand or might not accept. When RB and I first started talking about doing this interview, she said she had to talk to her son about it. She wanted him to fully consent to this conversation - as well as set any boundaries he needed. RB also set boundaries around this conversation, as you’ll hear us talk about. This is such a beautiful and powerful example of sharing someone’s story in order to help others more clearly and deeply understand something, while also protecting someone’s boundaries. Listen in to hear RB share: Why she gave up her business to go back to a traditional job and why sometimes seemingly moving backward is actually moving forward How she creates boundaries around sharing a story of parenting a trans child and protecting her child at the same time How to practice curiosity over judgement if your child may be LGBTQ+ How parents can raise children who are strong allies Signing up for unconditional love couched in a universe of uncertainty Links Mentioned: Join The Shameless Mom Con Collective SMA Ep 256 with RB: The Advocacy Path RB on IG Thank you to our sponsors: Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Built Bar: Built Bar is offering my listeners 10% off your first purchase! Go to Builtbar.com and enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to receive Ooak Dental: Purchase at Amazon.com available NOW. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The life you are living right now is not normal. It is far from it. Pretending this is normal is dangerous. We can’t afford to normalize this because we would risk losing our compassion, our fighting spirit, and the opportunity to innovate and create solutions that are desperately needed right now. If we normalize this, we risk bypassing our grief and our suffering. We risk not learning critical lessons in order to know better and do better next time we are faced with a similar crisis. Right now, we are not ok. While we may be counting our blessings and feeling lucky and grateful in many ways, we are not ok. We get to be both. Two conflicting emotions get to exist: Not ok and lucky. Sad and hopeful. Tired and cheerful. Scared and joyful. Overwhelmed and grateful. Isolated yet overly connected and enmeshed with every member of our household (am I right??) We are not ok and we will not normalize this, but we do need to create a sense of normalcy in our everyday lives. Listen in to learn 4 ways to create normalcy when life is anything but normal. Links Mentioned: Join The Shameless Mom Con Collective: shamelessmomcon.com Thank you to our sponsors: Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Natalie Hixson is a Shameless Mom, wife, auntie and certified professional life coach who helps discouraged moms overcome destructive anger and burnout. After learning to thrive in motherhood and process anger in a healthy way, Natalie became convicted to help other moms avoid those dark years of motherhood by helping them to appreciate and process their anger, learn to identify their triggers, and ultimately control their reaction to those triggering situations. She enjoys her own motherhood journey by hanging with her husband Mike and their three daughters in beautiful Bozeman, Montana. She recharges with Jesus, coffee and adventures with her family like skiing in the winter, hiking and swimming in the summer and traveling year-round! Natalie was extremely transparent and generous in sharing her experience with destructive anger in motherhood in this episode. So many of you have reached out to me asking to talk more about anger and I couldn’t be more grateful to Natalie for taking this DEEP dive into this topic with me. Listen in to hear Natalie share: What it was like to grow up in an angry household How her anger got out of control, destructive and dangerous in motherhood How she overcame destructive anger The difference between healthy anger and destructive anger How to use “calm down time” to re regulate emotions during angry moments How to teach your kids about anger through your own anger management Why you need to validate your anger and/or mom guilt How to process anger in safe and healthy ways Why conflict in your household can be healthy and productive How to own your anger with your kids Links mentioned: Join the Shameless Mom Con Collective Connect with Natalie Natalie on FB Natalie on IG Natalie on Pinterest Get Natalie’s Trigger Tracker Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Right now, my listeners get an extended 14-day FREE trial membership to OPENFIT when you text SHAMELESS to 505050. EveryPlate: Check out delicious meal delivery options at EveryPlate.com. Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes we forget that we have power. So much power. That no one and no circumstances can take from us. We forget that we have the power to make choices, the power to decide (and upgrade) our thoughts, the power to manage and adjust expectations, the power to pause before reacting, the power to find joy in the middle of deep sadness, the power to build something when everything around us is seemingly falling apart. When we are in pain, it can be hard to find our power. But what if your pain is a prerequisite for your power? What if it is the pain that pushes you to reach in, lean in, own your power, and stand back up? Your power is abundant. It is limitless. It is expansive and constantly evolving. Right now you are likely in pain in one way or another, or perhaps in many ways. Know that from that pain you have the power to: * Manage and upgrade your thoughts * Determine your actions * Demonstrate love, compassion and kindness * Make choices that serve you and your family * Set boundaries * Choose to be purposeful and intentional * Restore hope * Connect with others in new ways * Be creative in how you operate in new norms * Adapt to circumstances that initially felt overwhelmingly uncomfortable * Change you see the world * Create new guidelines for how you want to live * Grow into new ways of being that feel positive and purposeful * Channel joy in the smallest moments of the day * Nurture relationships in new ways * Thrive under conditions that would normally seem oppressive I want you to look at the verbs that kick off each of the above examples of power: * Manage * Determine * Demonstrate * Make * Set * Choose * Restore * Connect * Be * Adapt * Change * Create * Grow * Channel * Nurture * Thrive These are all actions you are capable of, actions you have power over. What forms of power will you choose today? How will you harness your pain and turn it into something that allows you to KEEP GOING, to KEEP SHOWING UP, to KEEP SHINING? Listen in for more guidance to tap into your innate power during hard times. Links mentioned: Join the Shameless Mom Con Collective Thank you to our sponsor: Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove.co/SHAMELESS you will get FREE FIVE PIECE cleaning set from Mrs. Meyer’s and Grove - in crisp scents like mint or rose - a THIRTY DOLLAR value! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove.co/SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Monica Packer is passionate about teaching practical transformation. As a podcaster, growth coach, and podcast educator, she guides women to find sustainable growth by adopting progress over perfection. Monica is a former middle school teacher, a forever Oprah and Harry Potter fangirl, a perpetual cookie dough maker, and a beginning swimmer. She's a mama of four living in the Bay Area, CA. We recorded this interview before COVID-19 reared its ugly head. But there has never been a better time to learn how to better manage and even overcome perfectionism. We are all working so hard right now to keep the world spinning and Monica and I want to give you a ton of permission to just keep taking one imperfect step after another. Listen in to hear Monica share: The root of perfectionism and how it shows up specifically for moms How a lack of goal setting and action taking is also a form of perfectionism The truth about overachieving and underachieving perfectionists Her own experience with perfectionism that led her through eating disorders and suicidal ideation How leaning into the opposite side of perfectionism allows her to disconnect her worth from her achievements How to use imperfect action as exposure therapy to recover from perfectionism How you can prioritize progress over perfection How to model imperfect action to high achiever/perfectionist kids Links Mentioned: Join our 4 Week Shameless Mom Con Collective Connect with Monica: About Progress Monica on Instagram: @aboutprogress About Progress Podcast Thank you to our sponsors: Hylands: For more information about Hylands, visit: https://www.hylands.com/products/hylands-earache-drops Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When things get hard, you know how to show up. You know what matters most. You know where to set boundaries. You know what you stand for. You know how to prioritize your time and your efforts. You have weathered some big storms in your day and you always come out stronger on the other side. You set boundaries because you know what matters most right now and you know when the risks outweigh the benefits and when the benefits outweigh the risks. You are not afraid to take uncomfortable action because you are a mama bear who knows what it means to go after what you and your family need most. You are being tested in big ways right now. Really big ways. But it's ok. You got this. Because you know who you are. And you will continue returning to your roots. You will continue to lean into your core values. You will continue to be someone who does the right thing for your family and for the greater good. You may cry. You may bleed. But that does not dampen or dim the torch you are carrying that will lead you to the next place you need to land. You have seen hard times before. And you have found the cracks in order to let in the light. You are not someone who shies away from shining when the going gets tough. If you can keep returning to who you are you will continue to be comforted by your own strength and power and tenacity. Promise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sheri Gazitt is a Shameless Mom of 3, the founder of Teen Wise and is dedicated to guiding teens and parents through the ups and downs of adolescence. She advocates for teen mental wellness by advising foundations, appearing on TV, Radio, and podcasts, presenting to parents and teens, and writing for magazines both off and online. Coach Sheri also provides private coaching for teen girls to help them find their inner joy, tame stress, claim their confidence, and navigate friendships. Her latest program encourages parents to create space for their teen’s inner joy by resisting the rat race and prioritizing mental wellness over GPA's and college applications. Sheri’s mission is powerful and so necessary right now. Her work to reframe joy and connection for teens and parents is critical. Listen in to hear Sheri share: What inspired her work in teen advocacy Why her work with teens is JOY focused The main drivers of anxiety and depression in our youth The importance of stepping out of the kiddie and teen rat race Why you and your kid may benefit tremendously by letting go of a traditional path to success How to connect with your teens instead of just making sure they are checking boxes in achievement One step that parents can take right now, today to start making the shift to prioritizing joy over achievement Links mentioned: Join our free Hope, Happiness & Mental Health Challenge Connect with Sheri: Teen Wise Seattle Sheri on FB: Teen Wise Seattle Teen Wise Seattle Sheri’s program for moms of middle schoolers Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to www.thirdlove.com/shameless. Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fear doesn’t get to drive. In unpredictable and unprecedented times, fear is normal - and even healthy. Fear will sit right beside you, keeping an eye out for you, making sure you are awake and alert. Fear might be in your front seat, but fear does not get to drive your car. As Marie Forleo says in Everything Is Firgureoutable, “Fear is not the enemy. Waiting to stop feeling afraid is.” If you’re waiting to stop feeling afraid, you will waste a lot of precious time. You will miss out on joy. You will be blind to opportunities that are right in front of you. In this episode, we will talk about how you can embrace fear, tame fear, and find joy with fear sitting right beside you. Links mentioned: Join our free Hope, Happiness & Mental Health Challenge Thank you to our sponsors: Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to Kosmatology.com​ and use code shameless at checkout. Laurel Springs: Register your child at LaurelSprings.com/shameless today and receive a waived registration fee. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mikaela Kiner is a Shameless Mom of two teens, a certified executive coach, and experienced consultant. In 2015, Mikaela founded Reverb, a leading provider of flexible HR services for startups and growing companies in the Pacific Northwest. An HR professional for nearly twenty years, Mikaela enjoys coaching leaders at all levels and helping companies build healthy, inclusive cultures. She's been quoted in Fast Company, the Wall Street Journal, and The Muse, and is a member of the Forbes Human Resources Council. She’s the author Female Firebrands: Stories and Techniques to Ignite Change, Take Control, and Succeed in the Workplace. Mikaela has coached leaders at all levels who want to live and lead in a purposeful way based on their values. By acting as a sounding board and accountability partner, she supports her coaching clients in achieving their goals. She particularly enjoys working with entrepreneurs, executives, and high potential women leaders. Mikaela lives in Seattle and is happily married to Henry, who’s a musician, artist, and teacher. Their two children are good at challenging the status quo and are a constant source of learning and laughter. She is a strong believer that a healthy, inclusive culture is integral to the success of every organization. Listen in to hear Mikaela share: The diversity in interviews when interviewing 13 women with the exact same questions The truth about competition between women in the workplace The gift of Brene Brown telling her no How to use data to create equity in the workplace How to be a leader of inclusivity in the workplace Why research shows that moms make awesome leaders - especially if you have 2 or more kids The steps you can take to become a stronger leader today Links Mentioned: Connect with Mikaela: Reverb People Mikaela on IG: Reverb People Mikaela on Linked IN: Mikaela Kiner Book: Female Firebrands by Mikaela Kiner Article: Harvard Law Review: Primal Leadership Book: Multipliers by Liz Wiseman Podcast: I Hate My Boss Thank you to our sponsors: Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove.co/SHAMELESS you will get FREE FIVE PIECE Cleaning Set from Mrs. Meyer’s and Grove - a THIRTY DOLLAR value! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove.co/SHAMELESS. Undercover Tourist: Start planning your next theme park vacation now by visiting UndercoverTourist.com/SHAMELESS. That’s an additional discount using SHAMELESS on top of the big savings already offered through Undercover Tourist. Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to Kosmatology.com​ and use code shameless at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For those of us who enjoy control and predictability in life, these are tough (if not excruciating) times. We are living in a pandemic - something I ignorantly and blissfully thought only existed in history books and Bible stories… But, friends, we are still living. Just under very different circumstances than we are used to. Know this - we are standing at the start line of a marathon. We need to show up prepared to pace ourselves, stay nourished & hydrated and - most importantly - keep our head game STRONG. Some of you have heard the story of my one and only marathon. At mile 2 I decided I didn’t really feel like running anymore. I was just over it… And the following 4+ hours were absolutely grueling. I couldn’t mentally recover, which made me physically deteriorate at a rapid pace. In the case of COVID-19, we cannot afford to deteriorate at the start line, or at mile 2. We will need to be extremely intentional and diligent in managing our energy and expectations. We will need to be nimble, adaptable, and creative. We will need to create boundaries around the places (namely the internet) and people who drain us or create unnecessary fear, panic or anxiety within us. We also need to take radical responsibility for seeking hope and happiness during this marathon. If we are to sustain ourselves over the coming months, we must be able to find the cracks where the light is begging to come in. I promise they exist - but you will need to actively seek them out. I am in Seattle - the US epicenter of COVID-19. Our city is pretty much shut down. It is hard and heavy. And there is light. I can see the cracks. If I can see the cracks you can too. Listen in to learn 5 ways to find light in the darkness of COVID-19. Also, please join me for our upcoming free Hope, Happiness & Mental Health Challenge (sign up: shamelessmom.com/challenge). We start Monday, March 23rd. This challenge is the light you’re looking for. Links Mentioned: Hope, Happiness & Mental Health Challenge Thank you to our sponsors: Built Bar: Built Bar is offering my listeners 10% off your first purchase! Go to Builtbar.com and enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to receive 10% off your first order! Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code shameless at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Gerard + Jessie Pepper have been partners in crime since 2005. Their relationship started over a clean pile of laundry, and now they dish about life, love and how to keep from losing your mind on a podcast called Marriage Is Funny. Gerard loves his day job as a financial actuary, and Jessie continues to build her career as a lifestyle expert and online brand at StyleAndPepper.com. They enjoy preaching and speaking whenever possible, are always happiest while hosting friends and family in their home, and love being enthusiastic pet-parents to a rescue pup named Sadie Mae. Listen in to hear: Why they started a marriage podcast at the worst time in their marriage What is like to record a podcast with your partner when you’re annoyed with them Why they decided to be child free and why they opted to become foster parents instead The beautiful gifts and intense challenges of hosting short term foster placement The impact of foster parenting on their marriage If fostering has shifted their perspective on having children of their own. Links Mentioned: Marriage is funny Podcast Free Marriage Myths video series: Meet The Peppers Meet The Peppers / Grounded Marriage Jessie's personal IG: @styleandpepper Marriage is Funny IG: @meetthepeppers Connect with Jessie at jessieartigue.com Learn more about safe-families.org Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Betabrand: Right now, our listeners can get 20% off their first order when you go to betabrand.com/shameless (shameless must be lowercase). Lightstream: Just for my listeners: apply now to get an additional interest rate discount. The ONLY way to get this discount is to go to Lightstream.com/SHAMELESS.. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

‘Tis the season of disappointing other people. Fa la la la la…. As my platform has grown so has my exposure to judgement. In my personal and professional life, there are people who have been disappointed in me, even angry with me, over the last year or so. I will be honest with you, this kind of thing used to really eat me up inside. I’m not going to tell you that I’m super-cool with people being upset with me now. But I can tell you that I have done a lot of work to be ok with some people being mad at me - and me NOT OWNING their feelings. The truth is this: a person’s emotions are their own responsibility. I have repeatedly found that the people who are disappointed in me or angry with me have one or more of these things in common: A poor sense of self A general lack of self-awareness Poor coping skills A weak or completely lacking support system For these folks, I will forgive them in order to make peace in my own life so I can move forward. I will not make space for their energy or abuse, In fact, I will actively distance and separate myself from it. And, most importantly, I will not take responsibility for their emotions. If I hurt someone or cause someone harm, I will own that and apologize. I will take radical responsibility for myself and my actions - but not for others reactions to my actions. This is what it looks like to have boundaries. This is what it looks like to be a grown-up. It is not easy. But it is the only way to show all the way up for those who matter most to me. I would be doing myself and my loved ones a massive disservice if I took on my haters anger or displaced feelings. The same goes for you. How do you stay in your own way when it comes to other people’s opinions and judgments of you? You must take radical responsibility for that. This episode will teach you how. Links mentioned: Book: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Right now, my listeners get an extended 14-day FREE trial membership to OPENFIT when you text SHAMELESS to 505050. For All Moms Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fam-for-all-moms/id1494037915 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parijat Deshpande is Shameless Mom and the leading high-risk pregnancy expert, mind-body health specialist, trauma professional, speaker and author who teaches women how to deactivate their stress response before, during and after a high-risk pregnancy so they can give their baby a strong start to life. Her unique approach has served hundreds of women to manage pregnancy complications and reclaim a safety and trust in their bodies that they thought was eroded forever. Parijat is the author of bestselling book Pregnancy Brain: A Mind-Body Approach to Stress Management During a High-Risk Pregnancy. She is also the host of the popular podcast Delivering Miracles®, that discusses the real, raw side of family-building including infertility, loss, high-risk pregnancy, bed rest, prematurity and healing once baby comes home. Listen in to hear Parijat share: Her journey of serious and dangerous complications during fertility treatments that lead to the delivery of her 24 week old baby boy How she managed preterm labor, used her mind to dramatically impact her and her baby’s health, and bought her son a life giving 15 additional days in utero The very bittersweet journey of having a second child via a gestational carrier The impact of prenatal stress/trauma on pregnancy outcomes and how you can learn to self manage prenatal stress/trauma by re-regulating your nervous system The truth about trauma and how your body and brain resolve it - or not Links mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con Connect with Parijat Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to www.thirdlove.com/shameless Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If These Ovaries Could Talk Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/if-these-ovaries-could-talk/id1331160807 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You have probably heard the saying, “The only way out is through.” I would add to this that the only way into your power is through the pain and discomfort of growth. Power, achievement, growth, and success only come from putting yourself in situations that push you in new ways. And that can be ridiculously hard and scary. For me, there are often nearly impossible nerves to overcome, a racing heart that makes me unable to speak, a belly that cannot stop flip-flopping, and legs that won’t stop shaking. The more dramatic the symptoms, the more I know I’ll grow through the discomfort. Case in point: as I’ve taken up new challenges in skiing this year, I’ve experienced all the above symptoms very regularly. And I hate it. I hate it to the point that I get angry. Also, I’m growing in the biggest ways since I started skiing - as a skier, an athlete, and a woman who is becoming more powerful in all areas of life through actively embracing fear. It’s really hard. But I’m HERE. FOR. IT. If you want more power in your life you will have to get more uncomfortable. You will have to do hard things. There is no way around it. It is only through the consistent exposure to scary and hard things that we get to see who we are becoming, how much potential we have for success, and what kind of true joy we are capable of creating for ourselves. Listen in to hear how I’m using exposure therapy to face my biggest fears this year - and how it’s changing the game for me. Links mentioned: Join me for Shameless Mom Con Thank you to our sponsors: Laurel Springs: Register your child at LaurelSprings.com/shameless today and receive a waived registration fee. Thrive: Start thriving and help women in need today by going to ThriveCausemetics.com/shameless and use code shameless for 15% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Naomi Clark is the CEO of Her Money Map where she helps women transform their mindset around money and partners with them to create cash flow strategies that support their values and lifetime goals. Her mission is to help women crush their self-limiting beliefs and barriers when it comes to money. She believes one of the primary reasons women struggle with confidence in making financial decisions is in large part due to the patriarchy which is designed to make women feel doubtful and distracted. Naomi is also the creator and host of "The OutSpoken Girlfriend" podcast where she encourages and celebrates women to step into their best selves - their authentic selves. But this isn't your typical personal development podcast. As a self-described "sworn enemy of the patriarchy" Naomi provides strategies and tactics that teaches women how to dismantle the patriarchy as they pursue their best lives. In the "muggle world" Naomi has a degree in Finance with over 20 years of corporate experience in Accounting, Supply Chain Management, and Project Management. In addition to all this, Naomi is one of the OGs of the Shameless Mom community and one of our speakers for Shameless Mom Con 2020. I think you’re going to love hearing her story of growth and transformation as a Shameless Mom. Listen in to hear Naomi share: What the American Dream looked like for her as a black woman and why it was not so dreamy How letting her life get really small made her life miserable How setting the simple goal of cleaning off her dresser snowballed into cleaning up the vision for her life The truth about working against the patriarchy - and how she’s helping women do this powerful work Her powerful message for white moms and white women Links mentioned: Hear Naomi speak at Shameless Mom Con 2020 Connect with Naomi The Outspoken Girlfriend Podcast The Outspoken Girlfriend Facebook group Naomi on Instagram: The Out Spoken Girlfriend Thank you to our sponsors: Lightstream: Just for my listeners: apply now to get an additional interest rate discount. The ONLY way to get this discount is to go to Lightstream.com/SHAMELESS. com: To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership, visit Care.com/SHAMELESSMOM FamilyAlbum: Please find FamilyAlbum on your favorite app store, or by searching for FamilyAlbum on the web. And remember FamilyAlbum is all one word. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever met a woman who didn’t have anything to offer? Yeah, me neither. Every woman I’ve ever met has had something extraordinary and unique that qualifies her to take up her very own special place in this world. While you may fully recognize what other women have to offer, you may fail to see what you have to offer. You may think that everyone else has something to offer - and you don’t. This is simply untrue. This became glaring to me when I recently asked in our private FB group, “What’s holding you back from attending Shameless Mom Con?” A few mamas said they were worried they didn’t have anything to offer and thought they might not fit in with the other awesome attendees. Isn’t it funny (and sad!) how we get in our own way??? Listen in to hear me coach you out of this mindset that you have less to offer than anyone around you. Listen in to hear the truth. Links Mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Undercover Tourist: Start planning your next theme park vacation now by visiting UndercoverTourist.com/SHAMELESS. That’s an additional discount using SHAMELESS on top of the big savings already offered through Undercover Tourist. Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove.co/SHAMELESS you will get FREE FIVE PIECE Cleaning Set from Mrs. Meyer’s and Grove - a THIRTY DOLLAR value! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove.co/SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ashley Abercrombie fought to overcome addiction, rape, abortion, perfectionism and dysfunctional relationships to become an honest, whole and free woman (most days). She wore a mask more than half her life, and considers herself too old, and too annoyed to ever put that thing on again. Ashley is a speaker and a writer, featured in many magazines and digital outlets, including Darling, Relevant and Grit and Virtue. Her YouVersion Bible study, Finding God in the Hard Places, has been completed by over 200,000 people. Her first book will be released in the fall of 2019, with Baker Books. Alongside fellow author and speaker, Tiffany Bluhm, Ashley is the co-host for the hilarious and helpful podcast Why Tho. She has an unrelenting passion for justice, particularly anti-human trafficking and mass incarceration initiatives, and served the city of Los Angeles for seven years, winning commendations from the LAPD and Los Angeles Mayor’s office, before transitioning to Manhattan to pastor at Liberty Church, Downtown, alongside her husband, Cody. Ashley is an executive board bember of Treasures, a non-profit that reaches and supports women in the sex industry and victims of sexual exploitation, while training leaders globally. The Abercrombies are nearly brain dead from sleep deprivation, but love their life, raising two incredible sons, Levi (5) and Lucas (2), in their beautiful neighborhood in Harlem, New York. Listen in to hear Ashley share: How she gave up her PhD in pretending her life was great and get honest about her story and proudly own it - how to stop pretending and performing for others How enduring an eating disorder, addiction, sexual assault, and abortion led her to her current place of grace in life How our secrets inevitably lead to self harm The benefits of adjusting your expectations every morning instead of assuming every day will be great The exact action she takes to be honest with herself #everydamnday The beauty of recognizing the notion that time is your friend Why a day of rest is essential as a family How to have more holy gumption in order to live your best, most spirited life Links Mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con 2020 SMA Ep 322 with Tiffany Bluhm Connect with Ashley: Ashabercrombie IG & Twitter: @ashabercrombie Facebook: @ashabercrombienyc Thank you to our sponsors: Derma E: To get you started on trying their clean beauty solutions they are giving you 20% off sitewide with promo code SHAMELESS20 at https://dermae.com/. FamilyAlbum: Please find FamilyAlbum on your favorite app store, or by searching for FamilyAlbum on the web. And remember FamilyAlbum is all one word. Blinkist: Go to Blinkist.com/SHAMELESS try it FREE for 7 days AND save 25% off your new subscription. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I am taking a moment to celebrate Black History Month. To be honest, this moment feels too short and inadequate. I really wish I planned better for this month because this celebration deserves more attention than what I have created space for. While I aim to elevate black women and black moms all year long in the SMA, I understand the special importance of taking extra time to do this in February and I have already committed to dedicating more than one episode to this next year. I hope that in acknowledging my imperfect action here, other white allies will step up their game too. This is work is crucial, even when the steps feel too small. Something is better than nothing. And I vow to keep learning more so I can keep doing more. Listen in to learn how to celebrate black history and black women by becoming a better ally and, better yet, an accomplice. Please take notes as I share powerful resources and a fantastic list of podcasts hosted by black women whom I admire tremendously. I want you to go subscribe to them all! Links mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con 2020 Podcasts recommendations: Laura Cathcart Robbins: The Only One In The Room Nikita Burks-Hale: Journey Gurl Magic Naomi Clark: The Outspoken Girlfriend Tavona Givens: She Is Still Standing Tavona Givens Omolara Uwemedimo: Supermom Rehab Jamila Payne: Daily Success Show Nicole Walters: The Nicole Walters Podcast Rachel Rodgers: Million Dollar Badass Book recommendations: So You Want To Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo White Fragility by Robin Diangelo This Will Be My Undoing by Morgan Jerkins Me and White Supremacy by Layla Saad How To Be An Anti Racist by Ibram Kendi Thank you to our sponsors: Betabrand: Right now, our listeners can get 20% off their first order when you go to betabrand.com/shameless (shameless must be lowercase). Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code shameless at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Davide Di Giorgio is the number one international best-selling author of “Being UNapologetic”, a keynote and TEDx speaker, Comparanoia™ expert, and a speaking and confidence consultant for students, teachers, parents, influencers and celebrities. He is a writer for The Good Men Project, Thought Catalog, Thrive Global, and Success Profiles Magazine. His philanthropic endeavor, Project Being UNapologetic dares to tackle bullying and build confidence and self-esteem while funding dream projects for high school performing arts students. We don’t showcase Shameless men on the show very often, but when we do they are SO. GOOD. Davide is a brilliant and beautiful human and I’m so honored to have him join me for this conversation. Listen in to hear Davide share: How an incident in kindergarten kicked off years of being bullied How he broke the cycle of being victimized by life circumstances The very really struggle of Comparanoia™ How to manage and overcome Comparanoia™ How he coped with being abandoned by his parents when he came out at age 33 His experience in Shameless parenting in a non-traditional way How he’s practicing celebration during especially challenging times Links Mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con 2020 Connect with Davide: Being UNapologetic Watch Davide’s TEDx talk: The real power of choice: overcoming Comparanoia Join The unMOMtourage More about Overcoming Comparanoia: Overcoming Comparanoia The iCELEBRATE MATRIX: icelebrate.OvercomingComparanoia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I recently had a week where everything just felt so off and so out of my control. Can you relate? We’ve all been there. It’s hard. And... it’s ok to not be ok. Sometimes we try to just blow past our emotions or frustrations. We feel like we don’t have time for them. I mean, who has extra time to sit around feeling dumpy?? But it’s also necessary to process why we are not ok. Some questions to ask: What got me here? Why is it so uncomfortable? Did I make a poor choice? Am I absorbing and owning someone else’s junk? How can I make things better - not just put a bandaid on it - but really make it better? How can I create some space to figure out positive and powerful next steps? If you find yourself putting up a front on the regular, this episode is for you. Give yourself permission to stop faking fine and be less than awesome every now and then. Links mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con 2020 Book: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Right now, my listeners get an extended 14-day FREE trial membership to OPENFIT when you text SHAMELESS to 505050. Derma E: To get you started on trying their clean beauty solutions they are giving you 20% off sitewide with promo code SHAMELESS20 at https://dermae.com/. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Katie Krimitsos is a mom, wife, adventurer, podcaster and seeker. She's committed to brightening the light of women around the world through the Women's Meditation Network, guided meditations, and resources that are specifically created with the special journey of women in mind. Katie walked away from a business she built from the ground up at the peak of its success - because she had an inkling she was meant to do something different. She leaned in to self-trust - HARD. I’ve watched her navigate this journey and it’s been pretty amazing. This is the reason I asked her to be a keynote speaker at Shameless Mom Con. I know she’s going to inspire your pants off today and at Shameless Mom Con. Listen in to hear Katie share: Why she decided to shut down her business after her first 6 figure year How her mom allowed her to build massive self-trust How she approaches tough, life-altering decisions How to use meditation to be a better listener (to yourself) How to know when you’re moving in the right direction (and when you’re not) Links mentioned: See Katie keynote at Shameless Mom Con 2020 Connect with Katie: Women's Meditation Network Katie on Instagram Women's Meditation Network FREE guide: 5 Simple Steps To Start Your Meditation Practice Thank you to our sponsors: Grove Collaborative: Make your laundry more sustainable this new year. For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove.co/SHAMELESS you’ll get a FREE THREE PIECE set from Grove so you can start reducing your plastic waste. Plus, you’ll get free shipping AND a free 60-day VIP trial! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove.co/SHAMELESS. Wickbox: To get your $10 off your first box, go to www.wickbox.co and use coupon code SHAMELESS at checkout. FamilyAlbum: Please find FamilyAlbum on your favorite app store, or by searching for FamilyAlbum on the web. And remember FamilyAlbum is all one word. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

No one told me… I had no idea how much mental space motherhood would require. I didn’t know that my brain would learn to run endless concurrent lists of tasks and to dos and important data, all day, everyday. There have been days that I thought my brain would explode from all the keeping track of things. All the remembering of things. All the planning of things. All the noting and filing away of things. It never ends. It’s exhausting. But there are ways to better manage it. There are ways to protect your mental space - especially from the invasion of details, content, and drama that you don’t need, that sucks your precious mental space and mental energy when you let them in. Listen in to learn 6 ways to create more (super precious) mental space in motherhood. Links mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 SMA Ep 305: Managing the Mental Load of Motherhood Apps: Calm App, Headspace app Muse headband: Choose Muse Podcast: Women's Meditation Network Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to https://www.talkspace.com/, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to www.thirdlove.com/shameless Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ceca Mijatovic is a badass life coach and a host of the Truth & Dare Cancer Podcast. She focuses on helping women going through or living with cancer learn how to navigate their cancer journey alongside family and career, how to supercharge their self-healing, and how to recalibrate their lives by using cancer as a powerful catalyst for change. She has had her own battle with the “Big C” and it became a potent agent for positive change in her life, and now she wants to help other women use their diagnosis as an opportunity to transform their lives for the better. Prior to becoming a life coach, Ceca was in numerous leadership roles at Fortune 50 companies as well as startups. She is a founder of the Truth & Dare Cancer coaching practice where she helps women with cancer take charge of their health, their body, and their outcome! Listen in to hear Ceca share: Her road through infertility and how she decided to stop pursuing motherhood How she moved on and got closure on her motherhood dreams Why her diagnosis of uterine cancer brought her peace How she helps women find truth and strength and grace during cancer Why women with cancer need massive mindset coaching after diagnosis and cancer treatment How emotional healing parallels physical healing Why cancer is full of misery and magic The power of receiving Links Mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 Truth & Dare Cancer Podcast Connect with Ceca: Truth And Dare Cancer DARE Cancer coaching community Social FB + IG: @truthanddarecancer Thank you to our sponsors: Wickbox: To get your $10 off your first box, go to www.wickbox.co and use coupon code SHAMELESS at checkout. Lightstream: Just for my listeners: apply now to get an additional interest rate discount. The ONLY way to get this discount is to go to Lightstream.com/SHAMELESS. Derma E: To get you started on trying their clean beauty solutions they are giving you 20% off sitewide with promo code SHAMELESS20 at https://dermae.com/. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I recently did a full episode (Ep 391) on why moms lack self-trust. The quick & dirty is this: women are conditioned from a very early age to trust others thoughts/opinions/judgements/instincts over our own. So, by the time we get to motherhood, we are already struggling (greatly) to listen to our gut. And babies make this even harder - because we must prioritize their needs over our own. We stop noticing that we’re hungry or tired or in need of, well, anything. We learn to shut off our own needs entirely. If you didn’t listen to episode 391, go back and do that. THEN, listen in here to hear how you can relearn self-trust. In this episode, I teach you two powerful feedback loops that will help you learn how to trust your gut and your power in new and profound ways. The second feedback loop is the most critical, so make sure to listen to the end - especially if you’re someone who struggles to find success in the face of failure and struggles. I am dedicating myself to rebuilding self-trust in 2020. It is one of my top priorities this year. Any of you are welcome to join me on this journey of learning to trust again. I am ALL IN on listening inward this year. Let’s do it together! Links Mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 SMA Ep 391: Why Moms Lack Self Trust Thank you to our sponsors: Betabrand: Right now, our listeners can get 20% off their first order when you go to betabrand.com/shameless (shameless must be lowercase). FamilyAlbum: Please find FamilyAlbum on your favorite app store, or by searching for FamilyAlbum on the web. And remember FamilyAlbum is all one word. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Casey McGuire Davidson is a certified life coach, the founder of Hello Someday Coaching and creator of the “Sober Girl’s Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips To Help Get You Through Your First 30 Days”. She works with busy, successful women who want to reevaluate their relationship with alcohol, quit drinking, and create lives they love without their nightly glass (or bottle) of wine. She’s also a wife, a mom, a practical dreamer, recovering corporate ladder climber, retired people-pleaser and ex-red wine drinker, who's been known to crawl into bed at 9 pm and whisper "Don't worry...you're still a badass" to herself. Casey and I met at an event recently when she approached me as a fan of the SMA. We immediately hit it off and the second she told me that she works with moms who are reevaluating their relationship with alcohol I knew she had to come on the show. So many moms have a silent struggle with alcohol. I think it’s one of the most under talked about issues of motherhood. And that is not ok. Listen in to hear Casey share: How she relied on wine to manage her emotional and mental health What pushed her to attempt 100 days of sobriety What red wine represented for her and her fear of giving up something she loved so much How to view giving up alcohol as a positive powerful choice vs sad consequence The best question to ask yourself if you’re thinking about giving up drinking The pros and cons of different sobriety programs and why she believes some are better than others for women Links mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 Connect with Casey: Hello Someday Coaching Free Sober Girl’s Guide To Quitting Drinking: Sobriety Starter Kit Casey on Facebook: Hello Someday Casey on Instagram: Casey Mdavidson Thank you to our sponsors: FamilyAlbum: Please find FamilyAlbum on your favorite app store, or by searching for FamilyAlbum on the web. And remember FamilyAlbum is all one word. Magic Spoon: Go to magicspoon.com/SMA to grab a variety pack and try it today! And be sure to use our promo code SMA at checkout to get free shipping. Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 30% off your first order, go to mylola.com and use the code SHAMELESS30 when you subscribe. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In 2019 I set out to quit 3 things that were no longer serving me. Not only were these three things no longer serving me, they were sucking precious time and energy to the point I could no longer ignore their negative impact on my life. It would be cute and fun and just oh-so-perfect if I could have sat down to record this episode and shout from the rooftops, “I DID IT! I QUIT THESE THINGS THAT WERE NO LONGER SERVING ME!” But I didn’t. I had varying degrees of “success” in the quitting of each thing. I put success in quotes because we tend to gauge success in really black & white terms and one of the best lessons I’ve learned over the last couple years (as someone who really likes to keep things black & white), is that often the magic is in the gray. We think “success” lives in the black & white. But true success is in the gray - where you have the power to shift your perspective #everydamnday in order to find wins, gain growth, and feel the magic even when you haven’t found the “success” you were initially looking for. Listen in to learn with me as I share my “success” and my SUCCESS of kinda quitting three things that were no longer serving me. Links mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code shameless at checkout. Zola: Sign up at www.ZOLA.com/shameless today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kaitlyn Gresham is a Shameless Mom and the founder and Executive Director of Under the Same Tree - a non-profit organization that is preventing the effects of poverty through economic empowerment - equipping families affected by extreme poverty around the world to build their own income sources. They offer the opportunity for their supporters to match with a family served by their programs, to build meaningful relationships and the tangible opportunity to see the impact that is being made. Kaitlyn was born in Southern California and now lives in Saint Louis, Missouri with her husband, David, and daughter Valeria, who joined their family via adoption from Nicaragua in 2017. She has a Master’s degree in International Relations with a Graduate Certificate in Nonprofit Leadership, and she loves fish tacos, hiking, and sunshine. I was introduced to Kaitlyn through her nonprofit and immediately wanted to interview, as well as support her amazing cause. I am so excited to share Kaitlyn’s message and mission! Listen in to hear Kaitlyn share: How she knew from a very young age that she wanted to grow her family through adoption How she and her husband decided to adopt from the hardest to match adoptee list The limiting factors of opportunities for women and their babies in developing nations How her nonprofit provides opportunities for women in developing nations to start their own businesses and make their own money to create financial stability for their families as well provide economic growth in the local communities The beauty and power of women invest in others when they have any extra resources How she connects women entrepreneurs in the US to women in Kenya, Uganda, and Haiti Links mentioned: Connect with Kaitlyn: Under The Same Tree Mentorship Collective Kaitlyn on Facebook Kaitlyn on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Blinkist: Go to Blinkist.com/SHAMELESS try it FREE for 7 days AND save 25% off your new subscription. Hylands: For more information about Hylands, visit: https://www.hylands.com/products/hylands-earache-drops Grove Collaborative: Make your laundry more sustainable this new year. For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove.co/SHAMELESS you’ll get a FREE THREE PIECE set from Grove so you can start reducing your plastic waste. Plus, you’ll get free shipping AND a free 60-day VIP trial! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove.co/SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you are “in alignment” your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions are all supportive of each other. You feel a sense of ease knowing there is congruence between your heads, hearts, and actions. Alignment feels good - and powerful. Alignment allows us to feel stable and confident and even eager about our days, in spite of the daily hiccups that inevitably get thrown our way. When we are out of alignment, things feel quite different. We feel uneasy. We struggle in our relationships. We feel lost and unsure of our own sense of self and even our own self-worth. We tend to get sick more. We feel foggy and uninspired. We succumb to numbing behaviors like more alcohol, more sugar, more mindless social media scrolling, more TV binging. Being out of alignment does not feel good. It feels disempowering, sometimes even crippling. I want you to kick off this year with a conscientiousness around how congruent your thoughts, feelings, and motions are with your actions. Listen in to learn if you’re in alignment and how to get in alignment/stay in alignment in 2020! Links Mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to www.thirdlove.com/shameless FamilyAlbum: Please find FamilyAlbum on your favorite app store, or by searching for FamilyAlbum on the web. And remember FamilyAlbum is all one word. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Casey O’Roarty, Med, is a facilitator of personal growth and development. Her work encourages parents to discover the purpose of their journey, while also providing them with tools and a shift of mindset that allows them to deepen their relationships with themselves and their families. As a Positive Discipline Trainer since 2007 and certified coach, Casey has led countless groups through workshops and classes that have left them feeling empowered and excited about parenting. She also offers an engaging podcast, live and online classes, and individual coaching at Joyful Courage. Her first book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of YOUR Parenting Journey launched May 20th, 2019. Casey lives in the Pacific Northwest with greatest teachers – her husband, and two teenage kids. Casey and I have been running in parallel universe’s for the last couple years. I knew she was someone I wanted to connect with - and had a sense we would hit it off BIG TIME. Spoiler alert: we hit it off BIG TIME. Listen in and laugh along with us! Listen in to hear Casey share: How she lives and leads and makes sh*t happen as an unapologetic extrovert The basic human need of connection and mattering and how it relates to Positive Discipline Parenting The truth about your kids living in a reactive state How to find the courage to be imperfect How to move from the role of pilot to co-pilot when parenting teens Managing your own narrative vs your teen’s narrative Links Mentioned: 2020 Plan & Prep Pajama Party Connect with Casey: Joyful Courage Podcast: Joyful Courage Live and Love with Joyful Courage FB group Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens group FB Page: Joyful Courage IG Page: Joyful Courage Casey’s adolescent mental health summit: Joyful Courage Thank you to our sponsors: Betabrand: Right now, our listeners can get 20% off their first order when you go to betabrand.com/shameless (shameless must be lowercase). care of: For 25% off your first order of personalized care/of vitamins, visit www.takecareof.com and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Magic Spoon: Go to magicspoon.com/SMA to grab a variety pack and try it today! And be sure to use our promo code SMA at checkout to get free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Not gonna lie…. For years I thought this whole notion of picking theme words for the year was too “woo woo” for me. I didn’t see the point. At all. But then, a few years ago, I heard a colleague talking about her words for the year: Space & Grace. And suddenly I was like, “I NEED THOSE WORDS IN MY LIFE #everydamnday!!!” This was at a time in my life that I felt I had NO space and NO grace. I was overwhelmed, living in a lot of unknowns, and burning the candle at both ends - with no end in sight. So, I borrowed these two little words - Space & Grace - for the year. They mattered. They helped me shift my perspective on my situation. They gave me hope and encouragement and strength during a phase of life where I felt I had very little control. Ever since then, I have chosen words for the year. These words gift me intention and clarity focus. They create a filter through which I can make decisions for the year. They remind me who I am becoming. Listen in to hear how choosing theme words for the year might help you (a ton), how to go about picking the best words for your current life and dreams, and how to give yourself just enough space & grace to patiently let the right words come to you so they can have maximum impact on your year. Links mentioned: 2020 Plan & Prep Pajama Party Thank you to our sponsors: FamilyAlbum: Please find FamilyAlbum on your favorite app store, or by searching for FamilyAlbum on the web. And remember FamilyAlbum is all one word. Openfit: Right now, my listeners get a 14-day FREE trial membership to OPENFIT when you text SHAMELESS to 505050. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dana Pake is a Seattle-based Shameless Mom to two daughters, Ellie (10) and Holland (7). A recovering people pleaser and perfectionist, she's a work-in-progress learning to savor the present and the impermanence of life with light-hearted flexibility. She's a lot like you. Working every day to be the best version of herself while simultaneously breaking the mold of her roles as wife, mom, daughter, sister, and employee. Everyone has a story. Hers is punctuated by turning hardships into gifts. From her parent's divorce, living on her own since she was a senior in high school, weathering her father's suicide at age 19, outrunning Hurricane Maria and helping her husband through a difficult health episode, Dana has learned to metabolize hardship for inward and upward growth. When she's not spending her days creating in real-life moments and human interactions that matter at events as an experience designer, you can find her planning her next trip to parts unknown (whether that's exploring new corners of the world with her family or discovering new versions of herself). Listen in to hear Dana share: The impact of her parents divorce and how she became a parental figure to her sister at age 8 The impact of losing her father to suicide at age 19 How she and her family narrowly escaped Hurricane Maria in Puerto Rico and set off on a year-long nomadic adventure with her husband and two young daughters How she’s used work to hide, escape, and avoid pain, grief and growth - and how it’s caught up with her Her family motto: embrace the detours The power of the victim vs player mentality How owning her resilience informs her personal and professional decisions today Links Mentioned: 2020 Plan & Prep Pajama Party Find Dana onTwitter Find Dana on LinkedIN Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your social media feed is probably full of posts touting how awful 2019 has been. People who look back on a year of losses and defeat, eager to close the door and start over. I get it to some extent. And also… I think you are doing yourself a MASSIVE disservice if this is the attitude you choose to close the door on 2019 with. You did a lot this year. You did hard things. You did big things. You did brave things. You learned. You grew. You prospered. Sometimes you fell. And you got back up. You cleaned your wounds. You kept going. You are stronger for everything you endured this year. You are better for all the times you fell. You are tougher for all the times you ugly cried. This was a year of lessons and learning that will serve you WELL in 2020. And a lot of great things happened all over the world this year. You don’t get to see that when you track the traditional US news cycle. Listen to hear all the ways 2019 ROCKED in big ways and small. There will be some surprises in this episode for sure. I hope they inspire you to love your year and feel LIT UP about starting a new one. I am proud of all the hard things you did this year. I SEE YOU. Congrats on your growth in 2019. Links Mentioned: 2020 Plan & Prep Pajama Party Bored Panda article: I’m Honestly Fed Up With All The Bad News, So I Illustrated 50 Of The Best Ones From 2019 Thank you to our sponsor: Stitch Fix Kids: Get started today at StitchFix.com/KIDS/shameless to try Stitch Fix and get an extra 25% off when you keep everything in your box! And as a bonus, Stitch Fix will waive their $20 styling fee when you use this show’s special URL! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Born and raised in New York, Ali Levine has worked for some of the biggest names in the Fashion industry including Fragments, Coach, Talbots and Target as part of development and design. Ali relocated to Los Angeles, California where she fell head over heels in love with wardrobe styling. She is an expert when it comes to creating looks for her celebrity clients. From red carpet appearances, music videos to world tours, Ali a unique thumbprint that displays her talent as a Fashion stylist. Ali's New York persona took the limelight, when she recently appeared with her husband on Bravo's hit show, "Stripped." As a TV correspondent, she's covered red carpet events for Celebrity Page TV and makes regular appearance promoting herself as a brand. Ali's vibrant personality lights up the red carpet and tv appearance. After Ali's recent birth of her daughter Amelia, Ali has transitioned to mompreneur and mommy influencer across the board. Listen in to hear Ali share: Why confidence is your greatest accessory and how to step into your confidence when you’re really not feeling it Her philosophy around “there is peace in the pause” especially when life feels chaotic Her (NAKED) experience on the Bravo show Stripped How being on Stripped prepared her for her traumatic birth experience and postpartum depression The specific steps she took to work through postpartum depression Her use of CBD in her postpartum depression recovery How PPD prepared her for all that comes with motherhood Links mentioned: 2020 Plan & Prep Pajama Party Podcast: Striptd Down with Ali Levine Connect with Ali Ali on Instagram Thank you to our sponsor: Literati: For a limited time, go to Literatibooks.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for $20 off your first box. Plus, kids three and up get a special blacklight pen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is the week!! On Christmas day, the SMA will celebrate 400 episodes. DAMN. That’s not a small milestone. I have learned so much on this journey and I thought it would be fun to share some of the vulnerable behind the scenes moments with you. Listen in to hear: The top 4 gifts I’ve gleaned over 400 episodes The guests that I’ve been most nervous for A few of my most vulnerable moments on the show The parts that have looked awesome on social media, while being far less glamorous behind the scenes I love sharing the show with you all. And I love sharing BTS. I think it’s alllll super important. I can’t thank you enough for walking beside me on this journey. It just keeps getting better and that is in LARGE part because of YOU. Love, love, love… Sara Links mentioned: 2020 Plan & Prep Pajama Party Thank you to our sponsors: Hylands: For more information about Hylands, visit: https://www.hylands.com/products/hylands-earache-drops Zola: Sign up at www.ZOLA.com/shameless today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ariel Garten is a fearless neuroscientist, psychotherapist, mom, former fashion designer, and the female founder and visionary of an amazing and highly successful tech start-up Muse - a device that reads brains. She shows how through meditation and technology you can improve mental, physical, and emotional state to become our best possible self. If you’re anything like me and have struggled to find the inspiration to meditate on a regular basis, buckle up. This conversation is going to inspire you to find your zen in all sorts of imperfect and easy to implement ways! Listen in to hear Ariel share: Why she stepped down as CEO of her own company when she became a mother Her #1 tool to LET GO in order to build her dream life How to teach yourself that you are not your thoughts The neuroscience of meditation and how to dramatically improve your brain function over time How to integrate meditation as an imperfect practice The benefits of meditation for kids and simple ways to get started at a very young age How to find the power to quiet your mind and truly free your mind How to overcome barriers around fear in your mind Links Mentioned: 2020 Plan & Prep Pajama Party: Learn more about Muse Download the App: Meditation Studio Ariel’s Podcast: Untangle Ariel on LinkedIn Ariel on Twitter: @ariel_garten Ariel on Facebook Ariel on Instagram @ariels_musings Thank you to our sponsors: Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Stitch Fix Kids: Get started today at StitchFix.com/KIDS/shameless to try Stitch Fix and get an extra 25% off when you keep everything in your box! And as a bonus, Stitch Fix will waive their $20 styling fee when you use this show’s special URL! Yumi: Head to helloyumi.com/ and enter promo code shameless for $60 Off your first month of Yumi! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Time is possibly your most valuable and finite asset. Especially after becoming a mom, it can constantly feel like there is never enough time. Managing timing and having confidence around time management makes goes a long way in feeling confident you can achieve your goals. If you feel there is never enough time, you’ll feel like you never get to work toward your dreams. If you feel like you have a good grip on your time, you’ll feel a sense of spaciousness in your days - as if you have the space to work toward all the things you want to make happen. This is a game-changer. In this episode I’m going to share 7 ways to take back your time, including a slightly controversial opinion about unscheduling, canceling and quitting things every single week. If you’re ready to take back some time in order to create more mental space and more time to yourself to work toward your dreams, create more joy, or just take a darn nap, this episode is for you. Links mentioned: 2020 Plan & Prep Pajama Party: shamelessmom.com/pajamaparty SMA Ep 105: 7 Secrets To Slow Down & Simplify https://shamelessmom.com/episode/105-7-secrets-to-slow-down-simplify/ SMA Ep 379: 4 Time Management Mindset Shifts For Moms https://shamelessmom.com/episode/4-time-management-mindset-shifts-for-moms/ Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to www.rothys.com and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Cortney Baker is CEO of KidsCare Home Health, an 8-figure healthcare business serving children with special needs from Texas to Colorado. She was named the 2017 Texas Businesswoman of the Year, is a TEDx speaker and hosts the Women in Business podcast, where she shares inspirational stories of female entrepreneurs. As a leading authority on women’s leadership and a mother of three, Cortney is working to decrease the gender gap by inspiring women to lead with confidence and integrity. Using her depth of business experience and expertise, she is now helping grow 'grandbaby businesses' as she mentors and coaches creative women to shift from side hustler to CEO. Listen in to hear Cortney share: How she started motherhood as a brand new high school grad on food stamps How supporting her sister who has MS inspired her journey to build a multi-million dollar service-based business How can you build more power in your work, no matter what your current situation is Why you need to “keep your scrappy” while you level up Why she’s not willing to sit around and wait the predicted 100 years for gender equality to happen in corporate America (#screw100years) How having a stroke at age 37 shifted the legacy she is building Links Mentioned: Shameless Mom Con Early Bird & Buddy Tickets: shamelessmomcon.com Connect with Cortney: cortneybaker.com Cortney on Facebook facebook.com/drcortneybaker/ Cortney on Instagram instagram.com/drcortneybaker/ Podcast: Women In Business Business Road Map: cortneybaker.com/bizmap Thank you to our sponsors: Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove.co/SHAMELESS you will get a FREE FIVE PIECE gift set from Mrs. Meyer’s in festive holiday scents like Peppermint or Iowa Pine! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove.co/SHAMELESS. Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code shameless at checkout. Equal Parts: Get into the rhythm of the kitchen, with friendly and inviting cookware, coaching, and guidance from Equal Parts. All with free shipping and free returns. Visit equalparts.com and get 15% off any purchase with code shameless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Before you get too excited about kicking off a new year and a new decade, I’m going to invite you to release a few things from this year and this decade that are no longer serving you. While I don’t want to speak for you, I think many (maybe most) mamas could benefit from releasing these three things in particular: Procrastination & Perfectionism (they are sisters, btw) Other People’s Expectations The Lie: Everyone Else Has It All Figured Out If you want to make space for things that delight you and fill you up, you gotta release the things that are keeping you stuck and filling you with dread. If you want to make space for growth, you must see where your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors are keeping you small. So… let’s release all this ish together, shall we?!? Tune in to learn why these 3 releases are particularly important. Links mentioned: Shameless Mom Con Early Bird & Buddy Tickets: shamelessmomcon.com Thank you to our sponsors: Honey: Get Honey for FREE at JoinHoney.com/SHAMELESS. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to www.thirdlove.com/shameless Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mridu Parikh is a Shameless Mom of two teen boys, a Productivity Speaker, Trainer, and Coach who helps high achieving women skyrocket their time and energy while squashing overwhelm. She excites, educates, and entertains audiences all over the country on simple strategies to stop feeling scattered, overcome procrastination, and exceed goals, professionally and personally. Her strategies on streamlining tasks and mastering habits have been featured in The Huffington Post, US News & World Report, Good Housekeeping and many other media outlets, in addition to her own ROKU channel with over 200 videos on organizing. A former serial procrastinator, Mridu is a best-selling author of "Accomplish It: 7 Simple Actions To Get The Right Things Done And Achieve Your Goals." Listen in to hear Mridu share: How her practice of saying NO has given her tremendous clarity The power and importance of saying NO to yourself especially when you’re in the habit of creating undue urgency 3 tips to “doing it all” as a busy mom with lots of balls in the air Her BPS method to minimize overwhelm and stress The #1 thing moms say is missing from their life - and how to find it! Why she calls BS on people who say that can’t have structure in their life Links mentioned: Get your discounted tickets to Shameless Mom Con 2020: shamelessmomcon.com Connect with Mridu: lifeisorganized.com Free download: 21 Killer Hacks To Stop Feeling Overwhelmed https://lifeisorganized.com/hacks/ Book: Accomplish It: 7 Simple Actions To Get The Right Things Done And Achieve Your Goals Mridu on FB https://www.facebook.com/LifeIsOrganized/ Thank you to our sponsors: Framebridge: Go to framebridge.com and use promo code SHAMELESS you’ll save an additional 15% off your first order. Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to stamps.com, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box go to fabfitfun.com and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The media has been lying to you. They have been telling you to take bubble baths and drink copious amounts of wine and get manis & pedis all under the guise of self-care. While indulgent self-care is awesome and important, self-care is about much more than the infrequent pedicure. And sometimes the habits we label self-care are more of an escape that fills a void than a tool that serves us (read: copious amounts of wine.) The self-care you actually need is habits and routines that preserve your energy, promote excellent physical and mental health, and provide restoration from the hard days and long nights of motherhood. This kind of self-care looks like going to bed earlier, maintaining an exercise routine, taking time for yourself before your family rises, going to therapy, practicing meditation, being conscientious of your wine and sugar intake. This kind of self-care requires discipline. I know it’s not sexy and sometimes it’s not fun. Sometimes it actually feels like work, which feels unfair. But the results and the rewards will improve your physical and mental health, help you sustain your energy all day #everydamnday, and restore a sense of harmony that you didn’t think could exist - all of which is to say that your disciplined self-care might bring actual magic into your life. Listen in to learn: 9 ways you’re doing self-care wrong 8 ways to mindset upgrade around your self care Simple self-care upgrades that will dramatically improve your quality of life The difference between self-care as a discipline vs self-care as an indulgence (and why you need BOTH!) Links mentioned: Grab your discounted Shameless Mom Con tickets: shamelessmomcon.com Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 30% off your first order, go to mylola.com and use the code SHAMELESS30 when you subscribe. Honey: Get Honey for FREE at JoinHoney.com/SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stephanie Dalfonzo is a speaker, coach, hypnotist, and author of “Goodbye Anxiety, Hello Freedom!” She’s been researching holistic, natural and scientifically proven strategies to calm stress and anxiety for over 20 years. She is hired by people who are determined to create the life of their dreams but don’t know where to start. She helps them resolve past traumas to clear the way to truly living the life they’ve always dreamed of. Sharing inspirational empowerment with simple action steps, Stephanie has freed thousands of people, from tweens to 82, from their anxiety, stress, and fears. Listen in to hear Stephanie share: The difference between worry and anxiety and what is normal worry vs abnormal or heightened Simple and quick techniques you (and your kids) can use to immediately decrease anxiety The power of cellular memory and the power of healing your cellular memory to release your traumas and anxiety How you can change your brain to overcome anxiety How to use meditation in a more positive and blissful way Links mentioned: Meditation app: Insight Timer Connect with Stephanie: com/ Stephanie on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/stephanie.dalfonzo/ Stephanie on Twitter https://twitter.com/sdalfonzo Stephanie on Linked In https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniedalfonzo/ Thank you to our sponsors: Honey: Get Honey for FREE at JoinHoney.com/SHAMELESS. Canvas People: To get your FREE 11x14 canvas, text SHAMELESS to 64000. Just pay shipping and handling. This offer won’t last. Text SHAMELESS to 64000. That’s SHAMELESS to 64000. Stitch Fix Kids: Get started today at StitchFix.com/KIDS/shameless to try Stitch Fix and get an extra 25% off when you keep everything in your box! And as a bonus, Stitch Fix will waive their $20 styling fee when you use this show’s special URL! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices