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If I’m telling the truth, I used to think affirmations were kinda ridiculous. In fact, a few years ago I tried doing affirmations every morning, as prescribed by someone else, and I just felt like a total fool. About a year ago, I decided to give them another go – on my own terms. After some thoughtful consideration, I declared 13 affirmations that felt authentic to who I am. They felt a little uncomfortable, yes, but they felt concrete and actionable and in alignment with my core values – which actually felt powerful and exciting instead of ridiculous. I have been writing affirmations pretty much daily for almost a year and I’ve seen my desire and ability to take confident and courageous action SKYROCKET. Since my technique has been feeling good and getting me actual tangible results, I thought it would be worth sharing with you. Listen in to hear 9 steps to creating meaningful affirmations that become actual TRUTHS in your life. These are the actual steps I have taken to create the affirmations that I write #everydamnday – the affirmations that are actually deeply, positively impacting my daily life and my ability to reach my biggest goals ever. Links mentioned: Grab your ticket for my Bubbles & Blueprints Virtual Workshop on June 8th or June 13th Thank you to our sponsors: Care of: For 30% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS30 at checkout. Open-fit: Join the Open-fit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Open-fit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Andrea Owen is an author, mentor, and professional certified life coach who helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead. She has helped thousands of women manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life. She is the proud author of How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness which has been translated into 16 languages, as well as her inaugural book, 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve. When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or hosting retreats, Andrea is busy competing in triathlons, chasing her 11-year-old son and 9-year-old daughter or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”. Andrea is a returning guest. I specifically asked her to come back to the show to talk my in-depth on a topic we didn’t have time to dive into in her first interview here - her alcohol use, abuse, and recovery. Alcohol misuse among women is at an all-time high - because the billion dollar alcohol industry (run by men) is marketing wine to women as a daily coping mechanism. This is problematic is so many ways. Regardless of your relationship with alcohol, I think you’ll learn something from this episode. Andrea is sober and I have 1-2 drinks on a regular basis - so you’re going to get two perspectives in this conversation. Listen in to hear Andrea share: The danger of stigmatizing alcoholism How wine culture - targeted at women, especially moms - makes it ok to use alcohol as a coping skill The danger of normalizing alcohol use in everyday scenarios The truth about the mental gymnastics & negotiation around alcohol use How she navigated her son’s autism diagnosis and her father’s death sober How sobriety brought her courage and self-confidence to take on anything in life Links mentioned: Connect with Andrea: Andrea Owen SMA Ep 194 with Andrea Owen: Your Kick-Ass Life Resource: She Recovers Resource: Hip Sobriety Resource: The Temper Book: This Naked Mind by Annie Grace Andrea on Facebook Andrea on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. Ava: Ladies, it’s finally time to understand your body. Visit avawomen.com to learn more. You can receive $20 off your order by going to Ava and using my code SHAMELESS. Swanky Badger: You can go create your own personalized Father’s Day gift today by going to swanky badger dot com, forward slash SHAMELESS and you’ll get 10% off your first purchase. That’s Swanky Badger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether you are facing a day full of awesome or a day full of crap, you get to choose how you manage your head and your heart #everydamnday. You can choose to let the universe get the best of you or you can choose to use your best self to get exactly what you need out of the day. You can choose to see limitations or opportunities every single day. You can choose to be sucked in and pulled down by circumstances or you can RISE UP and touch what feels positive, productive and purposeful. You can shrink in fear and trepidation or you can remind yourself that you have already proven yourself to be strong, powerful, capable, resourceful, and resilient over and over and over in this lifetime – and today will be no different. Every day you get to choose to tap into growth mindset – or not. I’m not saying this is an easy choice – some days it’s hard, even grueling. But the more your practice the more your trust yourself – to stretch into possibility and potential and find what you want and what you need even in situations where it seems there is no way to win. Listen in to learn 4 powerful ways to readily tap into growth mindset #everydamnday. Links Mentioned: Grab your ticket for my Bubbles & Blueprints Virtual Workshop on June 8th or June 13th. Resources Mentioned: Book: Mindset by Carol Dweck Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Bioclarity: So go to Bioclarity and get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their website when you use my code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith is an author, speaker, and board-certified physician. She has an active medical practice in Alabama (near the Birmingham area). Dr. Dalton-Smith is a national and international media resource on the mind, body, spirit connection and has been featured in Women's Day, Redbook, and First For Women magazine. She is the author of Set Free to Live and Come Empty (winner 2016 Golden Scroll Nonfiction Book of the Year and 2016 Illumination Award Gold medalist). She is a member of the Christian Medical and Dental Association and a repeat keynote speaker at their annual gathering. She has shared her tips on merging faith and medicine with over 16,000 health care professionals to encourage the current and next generation of doctors to treat the whole person. I wanted to Dr. Saundra to come on the show to talk about her new book Sacred Rest. This is a really eye-opening conversation that provides a ton of insight into 7 different types of rest and why each is important. Dr. Saundra’s work goes much deeper than just the need for sleep. I think this conversation will be just the permission you might need to incorporate more types of rest (and joy!) into your daily life. Listen in to hear Saundra share: How ⅔ of the population is sleep deprived The truth behind highly functional, high producing women (hint: low joy, low quality of life) The difference between sleep and rest and why you need both The 7 types of rest - sleep is only 50% one of the types! How to use flow break cycles to have the work rest ratio to recover the energy you need to have energy during all waking hours How to have rest periods even in the midst of family/kid chaos, as well as model rest to your kids Links mentioned: Quiz: Rest Quiz Website: I Choose My Best Life Book: I Choose My Best Life Twitter Handle: @DrDaltonSmith Facebook Page: Dr. Saundra Dalton – Smith Instagram: @DrDaltonSmith Pinterest: @DrDaltonSmith Thank you to our sponsors: Swanky Badger: You can go create your own personalized Father’s Day gift today by going to swanky badger dot com, forward slash SHAMELESS and you’ll get 10% off your first purchase. That’s Swanky Badger. KiwiCo.: Visit KiwiCo and get your first crate free! My Intent: Go to My Intent and use code SHAMELESSMOM for 30% off until May 31. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lack of true connection in our lives is a verified epidemic - meaning there are actual studies that show that we (women especially) are feeling more isolated, lonely, and depressed than ever before. The most beautiful I have witnessed since starting the Shameless Mom Academy is the connection between so many of you. It started in our free private Facebook group. It carried over into our MOMENTUM Mamas membership community, and it was the most magical part of Shameless Mom Con. Connection with other women is what saves us from ourselves. Yet, we often really struggle to find connections that are true and deep and meaningful. In this episode, I share 6 symptoms of lack of connection - everything from jealousy to low worth, to holding on to secrets. Then I walk you through 6 ways you can implement and integrate more conscientious connections in your life. Lastly, I give you 5 ways to take the first step toward more meaningful connections starting today. If you feel like you need to find “your people”, this episode is for you. Links Mentioned: Save $50 on my Bubbles & Blueprints Workshop Get on the Shameless Mom Con 2020 Wait List Thank you to our sponsors: Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Free fly apparel: You can get 20% off when you visit Free Fly Apparel and use promo code SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bonnie Mae is a Shameless Mom to two sons ages 10 and 12, as well as a survivor and warrior of an abusive relationship that spanned 10 years. She has a passion for advocating for the needs and safety of her children as well as herself. She has an associates degree in human services. She used to think she wasn’t using putting her degree to good use - until recently. She recently took the bold, brave steps to become an educator and speaker to youth and young adults - teaching around all issues related to domestic violence. She teaches the warning signs of abusive behavior, offers advice on how to safely get out of abusive relationships, and coaches around the impact of abuse on one’s life. She speaks at various organizations, as well as middle and high schools. Bonnie reached out to me a few months ago when I said I wanted to broach the subject of domestic violence on the show. I’m deeply honored that she took the brave step to share her story and her lessons with us all. Her story will have ripple effects that she will never see - that may well save lives of other Shameless Moms. Listen in to hear Bonnie share: How she internalized emotional abuse and believed she as worthless as her husband told her she was Why she stayed with an abusive partner for 7 years - and how abusers manipulate their victims Her rock bottom moment and how she finally got her kids and herself safely out of her husband’s grip The steps leading up to her terminating her ex-husband’s parental rights How she talks to her kids about their family’s abusive past The impactful new direction her past is giving to her current life Her top recommendation to women currently in abusive relationships Resources mentioned: Connect with Bonnie on Instagram Connect with Bonnie on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Open Fit: Join the Open-fit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Open-fit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Cheers: Visit Cheers Health and Enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to Get 10% off your first order and a free gift. Swanky Badger: You can go create your own personalized Father’s Day gift today by going to swanky badger dot com, forward slash SHAMELESS and you’ll get 10% off your first purchase. That’s Swanky Badger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of the themes I’ve been seeing repeatedly in our community recently is around feeling stuck in roles that feel out of alignment with our core values. This shows up in our jobs when we see that companies we work for don’t truly stand behind their mission statements. This happens in our families when we see our siblings, parents or in-laws not acting in high integrity. This happens in our friendships when we see the women around us judging and gossiping and putting other women down. This is hard to watch and even harder to be a part of when we feel we are right in the middle of it all. It often feels like a massive breach of our own integrity - which feels confusing and really conflicting. I want to challenge you to step back from these situations for a moment to get a better view of what’s going on and consider the ways you can RISE UP when you’re in the middle of situations which feel our of integrity and out of alignment with your personal and professional core values. Here are 7 ways to start to RISE UP in work and life: Position yourself as a leader Unapologetically own your strengths, gifts, and ZOG Unapologetically own what you suck at Know what you stand for Know what you don’t stand for Know the difference between tattling and documenting/reporting Be humble and gracious, while still standing in your power (rather than shrinking in gratitude) Listen in to this full episode to hear the deep dive on these 7 techniques. Links Mentioned: Get on the WaitList for Shameless Mom Con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Katie the Cookie Bee: Katie the Cookie Bee Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Bioclarity: So go to Bioclarity and get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their website when you use my code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I had the honor of talking to two powerful leaders who love to talk politics - even though they are on opposite sides of many issues. If you struggle to have compassionate conversations around politics with friends & family who have differing beliefs and belief systems, this conversation will be really eye-opening and helpful. Sarah Stewart Holland (from the left) has always loved politics, although her political opinions have changed d rastically over the years. She worked in politics and on Capitol Hill before moving back to her hometown of Paducah, KY, where she served on the Paducah City Commission. She is happily married and the mother of three sons. Sarah likes her bourbon on ice, her romantic dramas with a British accent and her iPhone fully charged. Beth Silvers (from the right) owns and operates Checking In with Beth Silvers, a life and business coaching practice. She has been recognized as one of Ohio’s Most Powerful and Influential Women by the Ohio Diversity Council, a Human Resources GameChanger by Workforce Magazine, and one of Cincinnati’s Forty Under 40 business leaders. Beth lives in Union with her husband, Chad; daughters Jane (8) and Ellen (3), and miniature schnauzer, Lucy. She loves people, politics, poetry, and watermelon. Listen in to hear Beth and Sarah share: The typically strongest values on the right vs the left How your family of origin impacts your politics The power of observing vs judging The value of getting curious instead of confrontational The power of acknowledging and addressing shared concerns and shared values Why people of privilege need to have the uncomfortable conversations How to navigate difficult conversations with grace Why it’s important for moms to be politically engaged Links mentioned: Podcast: Pantsuit Politics Get Sarah and Beth’s Book: I Think You’re Wrong (But I’m Listening): A Guide To Grace Filled Political Conversations Book: The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt Instagram - Pantsuit Politics Pantsuit Politics Twitter Pantsuit Politics Facebook Twitter - Pantsuit Politics Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. Rothy's: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy's and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shameless Mom Con was last weekend and the power, momentum, and magic that came out of 3 days of Shameless Mom togetherness is enough to light my life - like forever. I had no idea how overwhelmingly powerful this event would be until it started. And from the moment it started - when 30 MOMENTUM Mamas descended on my hotel suite, shortly followed by another 20+ Shameless Moms - it was very clear that this was going to be a life-changing few days. Within our first 10 minutes together I felt like we were all long lost friends - and maybe we were??? Maybe we had all been looking for each other for a very long time. I know many of you could not attend the event, so I wanted to bring some of Shameless Mom Con to you. In this episode, I’m going to share some highlights from the event, as well as share 6 major Shameless Mom Con takeaways with you. These 6 takeaways have the potential to shift your life in big ways. Take notes! Links mentioned: Get on the Shameless Mom Con 2020 Waitlist shameless Mom Con. Thank you to our sponsors: AVA: Ladies, it’s finally time to understand your body. Visit avawomen.com to learn more. You can receive $20 off your order by going to AVA and using my code SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Susie Pettit has been helping women live lives they love for over 10 years. She is the host of the podcast Love Your Life Show and owner of the Wellness Company Strength: Mind & Body, LLC. She is a certified Life + Wellness Coach and a mom of 3 teenage sons. Susie is passionate about helping women live lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside. She spent more than half her life living a life she did not love; as a people pleaser, codependent perfectionist, trying desperately to win an award for ‘Martyr of the Year’. Luckily she hit rock bottom and now has the breadth of experience to teach first hand about setting healthy boundaries, beating your inner critic, conscious parenting, and how to use mindfulness-based tools to beat overwhelm and anxiety. She uses two foundational frameworks: Her 5 Pillars of Wellness and the Thought Model. Listen in to hear Susie share: Being raised by my controlling and manipulative parents and building a life based on their standards, not her own identity How she stopped looking for external validation All her worst fears came true, she hit rock bottom, and she rose from the ashes How people pleasers are actually people deceivers The thought-model around the think-feel-act loop that gives you control in the most challenging moments in your life and how to use the “power pause” Why having no contact with her parents and siblings is the most loving relationship she can have with them How to increase your emotional intelligence and emotional literacy How to get out of your own way during challenging communication with others When you should treat your parents like toddlers - yes, really... Links Mentioned: Connect with Susie Susie’s Podcast: Love Your Life Show Sara’s interview on Susie’s show: Love Your Life Show com: 10 Day Consciousness Cleanse use the code SHAMELESS to get 50% off Check out Susie’s Thought Model Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace. Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I talk a *lot* about perfectionism and how it shows up for me. The more I talk about it the more I hear you all saying, “ME TOO!!!” If you tend to be a perfectionist and or high achiever and/or Type A kinda gal, this episode will speak to you. It might even scream at you… There are three BIG mistakes that I see perfectionist/high achiever/Type A women make over and over. These are mistakes that we make even when we think we’ve overcome our perfectionism. I mean, let’s be honest, we’re all works in progress and old habits DIE HARD. Here are the 3 BIG mistakes I see a lot of us (yep, including me) make over and over: We’re constantly waiting for the “right time” to take action in our life We listen to fear instead of embracing resistance We don’t give ourselves space & grace we truly need to evolve If any of this speaks to you - this episode is a must listen. Make sure to let me know how this conversation landed for you. I always love hearing from you! Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Join the Openfit 30 day challenge and get a special extended 30 day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, my listeners get a 3-piece cleaning set from Mrs. Meyer’s spring scents, a free 60-day VIP membership, and a surprise bonus gift just for you when you sign up and place an order of $20 or more. Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and Shameless Mom, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital empire with her husband, Mike Watts, that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. They are committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Kate teaches data-driven and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. Kate recently birthed her second book into the world, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms. I’m telling you, you need this book in your life. Kate’s name has been on my 2019 Dream Guest List - and as luck would have it, her team reached out to me before we got around to reaching out to her. When I told her about this, she said, “Oh yeah! That’s called egg wisdom.” To which I replied, “Huh?!?” She told me all about egg wisdom later in the interview and it was simply fascinating. Kate is going to open your mind up in a few new directions today and I can’t wait to hear how this resonates with you. Definitely let me know! Listen in to hear Kate share: Why it pays to pay more attention to your period and how to tap into the ways it gives you renewed energy and productivity How to tap into your “egg wisdom” to attract more of what you want without working harder How mother’s brains are rewired and how to use this to your advantage The power of doing less to accomplish more Links mentioned: Kate's Instagram Facebook Youtube Kate's new book, Do Less Kate’s Podcast: The Kate & Mike Show Thank you to our sponsors: Hylands: For more information about Hylands, visit Hylands. Cheers Health: Visit Cheers Health and Enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to Get 10% off your first order and a free gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dear Perfectionist Friend, I SEE you. I see you stuck in your mess. I see you holding all those dreams, but crippled by analysis paralysis every time you think about taking the next step. I see you waiting until just the right time to take the next right step - yet never actually finding just the right time. I see you wanting more and feeling nervous, sometimes even terrified, about going after more. I see you worrying about what others might think if you flop. I see you anxiously stuffing your dreams into deep hiding places because you think you might fail. If you want to know how I can see you so clearly, it’s because I AM you. I know what it’s like to desire perfection so deeply you cannot make a decision or take any action - because... FEAR. I know what it’s like to spend inordinate amounts of mental energy on a decision because you think making the wrong decision could ruin everything. I know what it’s like to stay stuck in your head full of worry and doubt, while parading through the world with a big cheesy grin that screams, “I’m fine. I’m even better than fine. I’m GREAT. #EVERYDAMNDAY. SO GREAT!” - but actually, feel not great at all. Probably the most valuable lesson I’ve learned in motherhood and entrepreneurship is that perfect sucks. In fact, perfect is paralyzing. And imperfect action is ridiculously liberating. If you fancy yourself a perfectionistic kinda gal, this episode will open your eyes in all the best ways. Listen in - maybe more than once. And take notes on the beautiful, life-changing gifts of imperfect action. Thank you to our sponsors: BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to www.brumate.com and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dave Hollis is husband to Rachel Hollis, father to Jackson, Sawyer, Ford and Noah Hollis and the CEO of the Hollis Company after a 17 year run at Disney left his role as President, Theatrical Distribution for The Walt Disney Studios. Dave looks to take the experiences as global theatrical sales head for Disney, Pixar, Marvel, and Lucas film to the expansion plans in the next, exciting phase of Hollis Company — focusing on media (books/podcasts/radio/tv), live events and merchandise. Dave drives a 1969 Ford Bronco and intermittently likes the family dog, Jeffrey. I invited Dave to come on the show to talk about what it’s like to have a massive shift in identity as he flipped his profession upside down to leave a successful career in order to support his wife’s career. I also wanted to learn more about his journey into personal development, as so many of you have asked me how we can get our partners more involved and invested in areas of growth and evolution. I so appreciate Dave showing up to this conversation so OPEN & READY. Listen in to hear Dave share: The challenges that present themselves in the face of massive success The power and gift of discipline when life is moving at 100 MPH How his identity has evolved as he walked away from his successful career to support Rachel’s career and dreams His fears and vulnerability around building a new identity How women can get their partners involved and invested in personal development (without nagging & preaching!) Why he stopped using alcohol as a coping skill What his “ally” tattoo means to him as a straight white man who is fully aware of his white privilege A sneak peek into his upcoming book! Links Mentioned: Connect with Dave and Rachel at The Hollis Co. Tune into Rachel and Dave’s morning show on Instagram Dave on Instagram Dave on Facebook Rise Podcast with Rachel Hollis Rise Together Podcast with Rachel and Dave Hollis Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 40% off all subscriptions, go to My Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Hylands: Hylands: For more information about Hylands, visit Hylands. FabFitFun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to FabFitFun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is going to sound pretty controversial, but I’m saying it anyway. Because of #truth... Mom guilt is a lie. That’s not to say your feelings of guilt aren’t real. THEY ARE. But, as you sit in those feelings, please know this: Mom guilt is a social construct in which women are indoctrinated to think they should feel bad for ever prioritizing themselves, their identity, their careers, or their happiness over their kids. You know how I know this is true?? Because I know the following: Men are not asked, “How do you do it all? How do you juggle your career with your family? Men are not asked, “Don’t you feel bad when you have to travel for work and you don’t get to see your kids for 3 days?” Men don’t have to internalize messages like, “I don’t know how you work so much. I would feel so bad not being at my kid’s games/practices/plays/recitals.” When men consider taking up new hobbies/activities they don’t automatically think, “That would be awesome, but I would feel so bad taking that time away from my family.” Women are indoctrinated to feel like shitty moms if they prioritize their careers, their self-care, their sanity over their families needs. Men are encouraged to prioritize their careers and hobbies over their families needs - “Climb that corporate ladder!” “You gotta start golfing with us, man!” “Meet us every Saturday for pick up basketball!” I share this all because I want you to take a hard look at your relationship with mom guilt. Guilt of any kind is not productive. It keeps us stuck. It holds us back. It does not serve any positive purpose. So, it you’re spending time stuck in mom guilt, you’re wasting time and energy that could be used for so many other positive things in your life. Let’s flip this social construct on its head so we can all be more intentional about how we use our energy, our gifts, and our rights to rest (yes, you get to rest more when you stop feeling so damn guilty!) Listen in to this episode to go on a deep dive into how you’ve been indoctrinated - and how to GET OUT. Links mentioned: Book: Drop The Ball by Tiffany Dufu Thank you to our sponsors: Bioclarity: Go to BioClarity to get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their website when you use my code LOVELY at checkout. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Debi Silber, is a Shameless Mom to 4 kids ages 16-23 years old, as well as the founder of The PBT Institute, is a Transformational Psychologist and health, mindset, and personal development, expert. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis. Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, amongst others. Her doctoral study led to two discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal. Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, she's created a proven approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from a life crisis, specializing in betrayal. In addition to Debi’s education and professional experience in the field of betrayal and forgiveness - she has lived it all, multiple times. Her passion comes from her journey, from finding herself in places she didn’t plan, mending and rebuilding relationships that nearly broke her. Listen in to hear Debi share: Why it’s only the people who are closest to us can actually betray us Why you must unpack all the components of a betrayal The three things that do NOT work when trying to heal from betrayal The 5 Stages from betrayal to post-betrayal breakthrough The necessary path of a betrayer: apology/remorse/restitution How to heal your shame after betrayal The layers & stages of forgiveness and building trust Links mentioned: Connect with Debi: The PBT Institute Debi Silber’s Twitter Debi Silber’s Facebook Page Debi Silber’s YouTube channel Book: Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping Thank you to our sponsors: Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Rothy's: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I think we can all agree that marriage is hard. It is also awesome. But it does not come without intentional work. It’s easy to glorify other people's' marriages and assume they “have it all” when that is never actually the case. I recently read Michelle Obama’s book, Becoming. Then I went as saw her speak here in Seattle. In both instances, I was touched by the way she talks about marriage and essentially the “secrets” of her marriage. She is married to a dreamer, while she is admittedly much more pragmatic. She is married to someone who wants to serve all the people, while she wants to prioritize serving her family and those closest to her. She is married to someone who can’t manage his time to save his life, while she loves structure and schedules and routine (and being on time for it all)! In reading Michelle’s book and hearing her talk, I was able to curate four secrets to a successful marriage that I think will help all the rest of us: Set clear boundaries and expectations Assume your partners have the best intentions Assume your partner can actually do the things they say they can Shamelessly build, own, and grow your own identity Listen in for a deep dive on these concepts around marriage (and to learn how to see your partners' most annoying characteristics as gifts)! AND make sure to stick around for the end when we talk about asking for support rather than permission. This is a game changer in how you can maintain your identity as well as a high level of respect and equity in your marriage. Thank you to our sponsors: Cheers Health: Visit Cheers Health and Enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to Get 10% off your first order and a free gift. CareOf: For 50% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit CareOf and enter the code SHAMELESS50 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kara Loewentheil is a Master Certified Coach and Host of the UnF*ck Your Brain Podcast. Three years ago she did what every Jewish parent dreams of for their child: She left her legal career running a think tank to become a life coach. Now she teaches feminist women how to undo the effects of patriarchy in their brains and create true authentic confidence from inside. She has grown her coaching business from zero to seven figures in the last 3 years and is passionate about teaching women how to overcome anxiety and self-doubt so they can take on the world. I have recommended Kara’s podcast more than any other in the last 6 months and so many people have come back to tell me it has transformed their mental game. So, I knew I needed to get Kara on the show. Whether you’re wanting to change the way you feel about your body or become a master thought manager in order to change the outcomes in your life, Kara’s brilliance will transform your thought patterns and shift your behavior in powerful ways. Listen in to hear Kara share: What thought work is and the power you have to choose your thoughts The practice of shifting into neutral thoughts, rather than forcing ourselves into positive thoughts Why you should embrace that all humans suffer Why thought work is more valuable and beneficial than any diet How thought work can shift your relationship with your body Links mentioned: Connect with Kara: Unf*ck Your Brain Kara’s free challenge: Free Five-Day Confidence Challenge Kara’s podcast: Unf*ck Your Brain Podcast Thank you to our sponsors: Free Fly: You can get 20% off when you visit Free Fly and use promo code SHAMELESS. KiwiCo: Visit KiwiCo and get your first crate free! BarkBox: Get a FREE EXTRA MONTH of Barkbox with any 6 or 12-month subscription by visiting BarkBox. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A few of you have asked me to do an episode specifically on the struggles of being a stay at home mom (SAHM). I’m excited to talk about this, cause I’ll be honest… My life’s dream was to be a stay at home mom and 4 months of that “dream” damn near killed me. I cried uncle and quit that gig (and hired a nanny) when Vinnie was still tiny. So, I have the UTMOST respect for those of you who stay home with your babies (of any age - even school age)! I posted on Facebook a couple weeks ago and asked for SAHMs to share their biggest struggles and I found the responses FASCINATING. First of all, it was really interesting to get a sneak peek into your lives. But the most fascinating part??? A lot of your struggles are so similar to working moms’ struggles. And here we all are thinking that working moms and stay at home moms have so little in common and can’t possibly “get” the other sides perspective. Not so. Regardless if you’re a SAHM or working mom or work from home mom, I think you’ll learn something from this episode. Big thanks to everyone who has reached out to me about this topic and contributed your stories and struggles. So much love for you. Links mentioned: Get your ticket to Shameless Mom Con Thank you to our sponsors: ButcherBox - Get the Ultimate Breakfast Bundle - that’s 2 packages of Bacon and 2 lbs. of Breakfast Sausage for FREE in your first box PLUS $20 off your first box, go to Butcher Box OR enter promo code SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tiffany Bluhm wants every woman to recognize, embrace, and pursue the big dreams and beauty born inside of them. The author, blogger, speaker, teacher, podcast host, wife, and mother shares her personal stories of self-value and self-doubt, international adoption, entrepreneurship, marriage, heartbreak, motherhood, and more with an ever-growing audience now numbering in the hundreds of thousands. In addition to reaching readers via her own blog, Tiffany shares her disarmingly perceptive, honest, and frequently funny writing on other popular outlets including ScaryMommy.com, Deeply Rooted Magazine, and more. As co-host of the Why Tho podcast and an in-demand speaker, Tiffany also leads key conversations about modern faith, contemporary women, culture, and so much more. She has penned two books: the acclaimed Bible study Never Alone, released in February 2018, and her newly released book, SHE DREAMS: LIVE THE LIFE YOU WERE CREATED FOR, Tiffany lives in Tacoma, Washington, with her husband and is a Shameless Mom to her 4 and 8-year-old sons. Listen in to hear Tiffany share: Her story of being born in an orphanage in Dehli India and adopted by a white family at age 2 Her experience of being unlike everyone around her from the time she was born because of her birth story and her skin color How rejection at age 21 reopened her birth rejection trauma The suicide rate and mental health struggles are 8 times greater in adoptees Why her decision to adopt internationally had nothing to do with her experience of being adopted How she has faced discrimination as an East Indian woman, especially since 9/11 How she is talking to her kids about systemic racism and walking her black son through his own awareness of discrimination at a young age Links Mentioned: Connect with Tiffany: Tiffany Bluhm Tiffany on Facebook: Tiffany Bluhm Tiffany on Instagram: Tiffany Bluhm Tiffany on Twitter: Tiffany Bluhm Get Tiffany’s Book: She Dreams Watch Tiffany’s Women To Watch Talk: Youtube Thank you to our sponsors: Instacart Brumate Betabrand Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Heaviness can show up in our lives in a lot of ways. Sometimes it’s a trauma like a cancer diagnosis or the death of a parent. Sometimes it’s a transition like a new job or a new baby or moving to a new city. Sometimes it’s a stressful phase - lots of expectations at work, a partner who is traveling a lot. Sometimes it’s general overwhelm - so. many. things. to keep up with #everydamnday In these times of heaviness, sometimes we are tempted to tell ourselves to “Stay Strong!” and “Power Through!” But the reality, sometimes you actually TRULY need a break - a respite. And after that break, you will actually be more STRONG and POWERFUL. It is really important to make a concerted effort to lighten our load and lighten up sometimes (probably more often than you think). When we give ourselves the space & grace to do so, we come back to focus, we have renewed our mental and emotional reserves. This rejuvenation is almost always palpable. These breaks for levity and lightness are so valuable. Listen in to hear a deep dive on these 10 ways to lighten your load and lighten up: Dedicate time for play - whatever that means for you Find your zen Listen to funny podcasts Watch a comedy special or funny Netflix series Engage in menial tasks Find an inspiring place to complete hard tasks Go shopping Make hard things fun Read a funny book Give yourself rewards Links Mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con: Shameless Mom Con Thank you to our sponsors: Open Fit Grove Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lori Kennedy is the founder and CEO of The Wellness Business Hub, which provides professional training and personal development for health practitioners looking to build and grow their businesses online. She’s also a mom and lover of all things related to coffee. Lori’s two foundational programs, The Wellness Business Academy and The 10K Success System, are growing a powerful community of health leaders who are transforming the way healthcare is done all over the world. She is also the host of The Business of Becoming Podcast for entrepreneurs who want to build the business and life of their dreams… all on their own terms. This is Lori’s second time on the show. I wanted her to come back on to talk about her very personal experience as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and an empath, who is also raising a highly empathic kids. Lori is always such a thoughtful sharer of knowledge & wisdom and this conversation is no exception. Listen in to hear Lori share: How she recognized she is a highly sensitive person and empath, which she had identified as social anxiety for years How she protects her energy while running a massive business How she works around being contained in small spaces and crowds How she conserves energy for the right people and the right time Why she takes pride in her firm boundaries The best trick to turning around a hard morning or a hard day How to see your child(ren)’s empathic tendencies How to create space for empathic kids to process & release Links mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con in Seattle on April 26th & 27th: Shameless Mom Con Connect with Lori: The Wellness Business Hub Lori on Facebook: Lori Kennedyinc Lori on Instagram Lori Kennedyinc Thank you to our sponsors: Hello Fresh: Save $80 off your first month of meals by visiting Hello Fresh and entering the promo code SHAMELESS80 at checkout. Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talk Space and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Bioclarity: Go to Bio Clarity to get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their website when you use my code LOVELY at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we are celebrating 3 years of The Shameless Mom Academy. I launched this show three years ago not knowing up much I would love it, not knowing how much it would change my life, not knowing how many lives it would touch. The last 3 years have been a blur and a dream - and the best part is that we are only getting started. The growth of this podcast stems directly from you all implementing what you learn on the show. You consistently turn the advice into action. You are open to learning and growing and expecting more out of your life, your marriage, motherhood, and your career. You show up and take imperfect action and get vulnerable and ask for help. I am SO HERE for all of this. 3 years, 319 episodes, 160 guests, 1.5 million downloads in 140 countries - and this is just the beginning. When I look back on all this, I can tell you the most valuable pieces have been the community, the connections, the impact and how that has stretched & expanded your identity and mine. Thank you for every single download, share, comment, like, DM, review, email. YOU make The Shameless Mom Academy the Shameless dream that could. Links mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con in Seattle on April 26th & 27th: Shameless Mom Con Thank you to our sponsors: Hourglass Cosmetics: Get free shipping with your purchase of a full sized Caution Mascara at Hourglass Cosmetics and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kristen is the founder of Brilliantly, a brand that provides the support women need on their journey toward feeling vital and strong in their mind and body after a mastectomy. Motivated by her own personal experience, she is committed to providing solutions that help women deal with long term physical and emotional needs so they can prosper in their post-surgical life. Listen in to hear Kristen share: How losing her mom to metastatic breast cancer at age 23 led her to have a preventative mastectomy How she talked to family, friends, and her kids about her decision What her surgical journey looked like and the unexpected challenges it presented How to be a better self-advocate and how to seek support in advocacy The impacts of surgery and scars on body image Links Mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con on April 26th & 27th: Shameless Mom Con Connect with Kristen: Brilliantly Kristen on Instagram - @Brilliantly and @kristen_brilliantly Thank you to our sponsors: Rothy's: Go to Rothys and enter shameless to get your new favorite flats and free shipping Simple Health: Don’t miss your chance to try this service for free - my listeners get the $20 prescription fee waived by going to Simple Health or entering code shameless at checkout. Fabfitfun: Use my code SHAMELESS to get $10.00 off your first box! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you expect abundance, you will find abundance in all areas of your life. If you expect scarcity, you will find scarcity. We receive what we are looking for and what we are open to. When you know you can do great things, you do great things. When you know you can do hard things, you do hard things. What you get out of life and the circumstances you create for yourself are your doing. When it comes to abundance, women often sell themselves short. We don’t feel worthy or deserving. We think others deserve things more than us. We weirdly think that if we have more, there will be less for others. This is all untrue. Here are truths I want you to adopt in order to expect abundance in your life: You are innately deserving of good things You deserve good things as much as anyone else You are just a qualified and capable as anyone else Your beliefs will determine your outcome You having more doesn’t take away from others - it actually creates more for everyone Links Mentioned: Join us as Shameless Mom Con on April 26th & 27th: Shameless Mom Con SMA Interview with Rachel Rodgers: Million Dollar Badass Rachel Rodgers Farnoosh Torabi So Money Interview Rachel Rodgers Thank you to our sponsors: Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Care Of: For 50% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, go to Take Care Of and enter: shameless50 Cove: For a one month for free offer use code: With Cove Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Abbey Ashley is the Founder of The Virtual Savvy. She helps aspiring virtual assistants launch and grows their own at-home business from scratch. Abbey started her own virtual assistant business in 2013 and was able to double the salary from her full-time corporate job, working only 20 hours a week... in just 30 days! She's since gone on to grow a multi-six figure business and retire her husband ALL from her at-home business. It's now her passion to help others start their own VA business so they can taste the freedom and flexibility of entrepreneurship as well. Listen in to hear Abbey share: How she started her virtual assistant business and replaced her full-time income while on maternity leave What kinds of work moms can do from home as a VA How to get started as a VA (it’s easier than you think!) The pros and cons of working for a VA company vs starting your own VA business How she has gotten over mom guilt in order to embrace being a high achieving entrepreneur Links Mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con on April 26th & 27th: Shameless Mom Con Connect with Abbey: The Virtual Savvy Get Abbey’s Checklist: Checklist Abbey on Facebook Abbey on Instagram Abbey on YouTube Thank you to our sponsors: Grove Collaborative: Shop at Grove Collaborative today and get a FREE $30 Mrs. Meyer’s gift set with your first order at Grove Collaborative. Headspace: If you’ve been wanting to add mediation to your life, check out the Headspace app and get a free month trial at Head Space Open-fit: Join the Open-fit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Open-fit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When I look around to see who’s taking action in their lives, I see a lot of women doing two things: Waiting for an permission Waiting for an invitation Stop. Please. There is no reason to ask permission to play bigger in your life. There is no reason to wait for an invitation. NONE. These are actually just “noble obstacles”, as Jon Acuff calls them. These are the obstacles that we let stand in our way as a crutch to stay comfortable, procrastinate, dwell in our own perfectionism, live in fear, and keep our lives way. too. small. Today, I’m giving you 4 steps to start playing bigger in your life without asking permission: Take a seat at the table Know your worth and your power Assume you’re qualified Reach out and connect with the big dogs 99% of the time, there is not a benefit in waiting to take action. 99% of the time, the best time to take action is now. 99% of the time the best time to play bigger is now. 99% of the time when you start to play bigger, you get to live bigger. 99% of the time the net result is RADNESS. Are you ready to take a seat at the table? Links Mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con on April 26th & 27th: Shameless Mom Con Thank you to our sponsors: Care: Save 30% off your Care.com Premium Membership by going to Care. Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Carin Rockind is a leading happiness expert, motivational speaker, and the creator of PurposeGirl, a movement to empower purpose-driven living. She has taught thousands of people real-life strategies to reclaim their happiness, and live to their fullest potential of success and well-being. Having survived domestic abuse, divorce, and armed robbery, she teaches others to be resilient through stress and grow from trauma. After fifteen years as a marketing executive, Carin pursued her great passion: teaching women to thrive. Carin was one of the first 250 people in the world to earn a Masters degree in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she has also served as adjunct faculty. Carin speaks at large companies worldwide and is a regular contributor to national media such as NBC, CBS, PBS, and NPR. She recently launched Women's Global Happiness Day in over fifty cities around the globe. Listen in to hear Carin share: How being held a gunpoint changed the trajectory of her life Why women are less happy today than 30 years ago How we ignore living in our own bodies - because we’re conditioned to try to live in men’s bodies Why happiness sometimes actually sucks How her second miscarriage at age 43 sent her into a deep depression and then inspired her to launch Women’s Global Happiness Day The power, beauty, and opportunity of Post Traumatic Growth Links Mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con on April 26th/27th: Shameless Mom Con 2019 Connect with Carin: Carin Rockind Carin’s podcast: Purpose Girl podcast Check out Women’s Global Happiness Day: Women’s Global Happiness Day Carin on Facebook Carin on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Betabrand: Get 20% off the most comfy Dress Pant Yoga Pants ever at Beta Brand. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A few weeks ago I made a post on social media about magic and discomfort being soulmates. This is the straight up #truth, friends. Embrace it. The next morning I was listening to SuperSoul Conversations with Oprah and she 100% confirmed my theory (cause O and I are BFFs. Obviously.) On Oprah’s show, she was interviewing Steven Pressfield and they were talking about resistance - and that resistance MUST exist in all opportunities that provide growth, evolution, and magic. In fact, Steven said, “ Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the life unlived within us. Between the two stands Resistance.” WOW. YES. So much YES. I see so many Shameless Moms embracing the resistance to make big things happen. And it is MAGIC. It is powerful and profound, and life-altering. And I see Shameless Moms who feel the resistance and take it as a sign that something is not meant to be. Mama…. NO. I want you to lean into the resistance. See it. Embrace it. Own it. Walk through it. It will change you - in all the BEST ways. Listen in to hear me share the 3 phases of leaning into resistance that will allow you to walk through resistance, find your power and declare a magical VICTORY on the other side. Links Mentioned: Shameless Mom Con: Shameless Mom SuperSoul Conversations with Oprah and Steven Pressfield: Unlock Your Creative Genius Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lisa Woodruff is a Shameless Mom to two teenagers and the founder of Organize 365, the creator of the 100 Day Home Organization Program, the Sunday Basket Workshop and Sunday Basket Workshop Paper Organization Certification Program. As the Amazon bestselling author of The Mindset of Organization, Take Back Your House One Phase at a Time & How ADHD Affects Home Organization. Lisa shares her belief that organization is not a skill you are born with. It is a skill that is developed over time and changes with each season of life. Lisa has helped thousands of women reclaim their homes and finally get organized with her focus on functional organizing, encouragement, and humor her through her weekly podcasts Organize 365. Listen in to hear Lisa share: How everyone can benefit from organization, even if you’re not an organizer by nature How to better manage the (research proven) 28 hours of week required to manage a home How to implement her Sunday Basket system that will create a ton of freedom in your week and in your head Specific steps to get kids involved in organization The science behind how much time and energy you safe when you commit small amounts of time organization Links Mentioned: Connect with Lisa: Organize365 Lisa’s 100 Day Organization Program Join Lisa’s FB group: Organize365 Thank you to our sponsors: Grove Collaborative: Shop at Grove Collaborative today and get a FREE $30 Mrs. Meyer’s gift set with your first order at Grove. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native Deodorant and use promo code shameless at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For the better part of 2018, I was trying to figure out the best way to talk about race in The Shameless Mom Academy. I was doing all the research, learning all the things, curating all the resources. I wanted to be able to have the most valuable, productive, well-planned conversation possible. Then I realized something. I was sitting up on my high horse of white privilege waiting to make this as comfortable as possible for me, so I could make it as perfect as possible for you. And that is NOT how this conversation should go. This is not about my comfort. This is not about tying anything up in a bow. And by waiting to have this conversation with you, I was not only sitting in my white privilege, I was continuing to make space for white supremacy at the expense of people of color, including my friends of color and Shameless Moms of color. So, a few days ago, after an incident in this community that screamed of privilege, I knew I could not sit this out any longer. By waiting to talk about this I was doing harm, I was being complicit. I was part of the problem and not part of the solution. I sat down and recorded this to share what I’m learning about white privilege, how I’m navigating it and what resources I’m finding to be the most informative and valuable. My hope is that you find this informative and eye-opening. After over a year of reading and research, I have been humbled over and over by how little I understood about white privilege and how much I was doing to contribute to the problem more than the solution. Please note the people and resources listed below. These women have been instrumental in my learning over the last year - and have been powerful forces of education and support in countless conversations about race at the expense of their own time, energy, and resources. They are heroes and warriors. Resources: Books: Me and White Supremacy Workbook by Layla Saad This Will Be My Undoing by Morgan Jerkins We’re Going To Need More Wine by Gabrielle Union I’m Judging You by Luvvie So You Want To Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo The Last Black Unicorn by Tiffany Haddish White Fragility by Robin Diangelo Hunger by Roxane Gay This Body Is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor Becoming by Michelle Obama People to follow on social media: Layla Saad Rachel Cargle Ijeoma Oluo Danielle Brooks Sonya Renee Taylor Lena Waithe Laverne Cox Tracee Ellis Ross Issa Rae Serena Williams Ericka Hart Jessamyn Roxane Gay Catrice Jackson ShiShi Rose Morgan Jerkins Please note this list is not comprehensive. These are resources that have been helpful to me. I would love to know if there are others that have been helpful to you. Thank you to our sponsors: Bioclarity: Go to BioClarity and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to get your free clarifying masque when you purchase a skincare routine. Hourglass Cosmetics: Get free shipping with your purchase of a full sized Caution Mascara at Hourglass Cosmetics and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jenell B Stewart is the founder and editor in chief of the award-winning website Kinky Curly Coily Me. She launched her career by educating and uplifting women with natural hair by way of her extremely popular website and YouTube channel. Jenell has been featured in Essence Magazine, Black Enterprise, and starred on the Dr.Oz television show as a Beauty Expert. Jenell has a masters in education, is a wife and mom of two beautiful children ages 4 and 6. Jenell’s love Of motherhood prompted her to create her lifestyle brand self titled Jenell B Stewart where she discusses a range of topics including mom life, entrepreneurship, wellness, mental health, marriage, traveling, and faith. Jenell is always Looking for innovative ways to engage with her vastly growing audience which reaches over 1 Million. She launched a women’s empowerment podcast self-titled the Jenell B Stewart Podcast where she empowers women especially moms, to live their best life. Listen in to hear Jenell share: How she used her strengths as a strong-willed child to create her own career rather than follow a prescribed path The painful practices that young black girls endure managing their hair The phases and impact of the “natural hair journey” for a black woman How to she turned a hobby into a side hustle and then into a full-time business that supports other women How she manages imposter syndrome Why you should go to therapy now - before you hit crisis mode Links Mentioned: Connect with Jenell: Kinky Curly Coily Me or Jenell B. Stewart Chris Rock hair documentary: Good Hair Jenell on Youtube Jenell on Instagram Jenell on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talk Space and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy's and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How much do you let yourself BE SEEN on a daily basis? Do you stand in your power, own your space, and show up as your unapologetic self #everydamnday? Or do you find yourself hiding, avoiding, shrinking, blending in, apologizing, settling for a life (or a job or friendships or a marriage) that you don’t truly love? If you are ready to BE SEEN in any area of your life, this episode is for you. I walk you through 8 commons ways women avoid being seen and 7 steps you can take to start BEING SEEN #everydamnday. Warning: you’ll probably be pretty pumped up to go out and BE SEEN at the end of this episode - which is awesome, because we are going to do a free BE SEEN Challenge in The Shameless Mom Academy starting Monday, February 18th. Register for the challenge here: Be Seen. Links Mentioned: Join our free 7 Day BE SEEN Challenge: Be Seen Thank you to our sponsors: care of: For 50% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Careof and enter the code SHAMELESS50 at checkout. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Laura Vanderkam is the author of several time management books, including Off the Clock, I Know How She Does It, and 168 Hours. Her TED talk, "How to gain control of your free time," has been viewed more than 7 million times. She is the co-host, with Sarah Hart-Unger, of the podcast Best of Both Worlds. She lives outside Philadelphia with her husband and four children, and blogs at LauraVanderkam.com. Laura sent me a copy of Off The Clock and I could not put it down. The stories were so compelling and her tactics around time management made me straight up PUMPED UP about being a better time manager in order to create more time in my life and more space in my head. Take notes on this episode. There are so many fantastic pointers! Listen in to hear Laura share: The secrets of people who have all the time in the world How a mom or 18-month-old triplets created 3 hours of personal time for herself #everydamnday What she learned from time tracking her habits for 8,784 hours How to change your perspective on time and immediately have more time in your day How to better prioritize time for things you actually enjoy Why checking our phones makes us feel like we have less time How to use memories to expand the time Why you should plan your upcoming weeks on Friday and not Sunday (or Monday!) Links Mentioned: Connect with Laura: Laura Vanderkam Tune into Laura’s podcast: Best of Both World Laura on Facebook Laura on Twitter Laura on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Headspace: If you’ve been wanting to add mediation to your life, check out the Headspace app and get a free month trial at Head Space. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you are a perfectionist or recovering perfectionist, motherhood might just kick your butt in the worst ways. Motherhood requires you to give up control of everything: when you eat when you sleep when you shower how clean your house is when you get your work done how to manage others (babies are not manageable, neither are husbands) how to manage emotions (cause an exhausted, hormonal mama has no emotional regulation) how your body looks/feels You can’t control any of it AND you’re supposed to be actually enjoying some of it. WHAT? HOW??? Adaptability is the gift of motherhood. But, I’ll be the first to tell you it does not feel like a gift to a Type A perfectionistic kinda gal. Adaptability might be your worst life skill. In fact, if you dislike spontaneity, last minute change of schedules, going with the flow, figuring things out on the fly, motherhood will knock you down. And you won’t be able to get back up until you learn to become more adaptable. No one tells you about the very necessary skill of motherhood. You just see everyone around you being all adaptable and you’re thinking, “how the hell do they do it?” How do other moms not lose their minds when naptime doesn’t happen? How do other moms keep their cool when they have to cancel something fun because of a sick kid or a massive tantrum? How do other moms go with the flow and take the punches so effortlessly? Some of them do not control freaks by nature like you and me. And some of them have learned to lean into the unpredictability of motherhood – which I know sounds just awful, but it’s actually really helpful. Improving your adaptability will help you enjoy motherhood and get out of your own way when things change on a dime (like every hour of #everydamnday.) Listen in to hear how you can start taking small steps to become more adaptable and start building confidence around your ability to go with the flow like all your zen mama friends. Links Mentioned: Get on the Wait List for Shameless Mom Con in Seattle, WA: Shameless Mom Join me at Inspired Mama in Grand Haven, MI Thank you to our sponsors: Betabrand: Get 20% off the most comfy Dress Pant Yoga Pants ever at Beta brand. Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 40% off all subscriptions, go to My Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m so excited to welcome Shannon Jamail back to the SMA. I invited Shannon to come back to the show because I wanted to talk about her book, Surrender. In the book, she shares how she conscientiously moved out of fear, anxiety, stress, negative thinking, judgment, and imposter syndrome and into forgiveness, surrender, love, joy, and purpose. Every chapter has a powerful story/experience from Shannon’s life, coupled with her lessons learned and actionable steps that are very accessible to the reader (you and me!) I found the book to be so helpful to me, especially when it comes to forgiveness and moving forward from the stuckness that old resentments keep you in. Listen in to hear Shannon share: How she had to apply her own principles of SURRENDER to her own life after she burned down her own kitchen (literally) How to embrace and move through anxiety and shift into a “Do it afraid” mindset How to move past resentment and into forgiveness in family relationships Active steps to forgiving someone How to more actively choose LOVE in your life and the universal truths to choosing love Links Mentioned: Connect with Shannon: Mind-Body Complete (use the code SHAMELESS10 to save 10% off Shannon’s shop/book/retreats!) Shannon on Facebook Shannon on Instagram Shannon’s podcast, Happy Hour with Shannon and Dee Shannon on Twitter Shannon on LinkedIn Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have to laugh as I was recording this episode because I kept accidentally saying “the motherload” every time I went to say “the mental load of motherhood”. And let’s be honest. The mental load of motherhood is THE MOTHERLOAD. The Motherload (aka the mental load of motherhood) includes the 175 running lists you keep in your head in every single moment of #everydamnday. It includes: every school form you need to sign tonight how much creamer you have left in the fridge how many rolls of TP you have in the house when you need to call your mom what bills you need to pay by next Wednesday when the kids have their next day off school every single email you need to reply to today and which ones can wait until tomorrow what time the babysitter is coming on Friday which hotel you need to book for spring break which of your kid’s friends can’t have peanuts which of your kid’s friends you need to buy bday gifts for which socks your kid will NOT wear how many pairs of clean undies every single person in the household has left before you have to do laundry again what you’re having for dinner tonight and tomorrow and the next night and the next night and the next night and the next night which kid will eat crusts which kid will eat carrots which water bottle the kid will drink out of which water bottle the kid won’t drink out of You are a damn library of information. You are basically hosting your own world wide web in your head. It’s a lot. It’s too much. It’s maddening. And sometimes it feels SUPER unfair. The Motherload is exhausting on so many levels. I want to give you some hope. But I’m going to warn you that this will require some work on your part. But the work will be REWARDING. The work will lessen the load! When it comes to The Motherload, we tend to make it really hard on ourselves. We get in our own way over and over. We get stuck in perfectionism and martyrdom and make ourselves miserable. Listen in as I give you 4 methods to manage the madness. These methods are simple (although not necessarily easy if you’re Type A like me) and they are going to dramatically improve your life and create space in your head (who doesn’t need more space in their head?!) Links Mentioned: Join me for Inspired Mama in Grand Haven, MI on March 23rd: Inspired Mama Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rachel Steinman is the debut author of “Inherited: An Insane Family Memoir,” coming out soon. Described as a literary Jackie Collins, Rachel’s writing is steamy and confessional while remaining poignant and inspirational. Rachel received her Bachelor's in Psychology from UC Santa Barbara and her Masters in Education from UCLA. She’s written a treatment for a TV series based on her book and is working on adapting the story to become a serial podcast. When she’s not writing personal essays, she's writing editorial copy part-time for a luxury lifestyle business. Rachel lives in Los Angeles with her Internet marketing genius and hilarious husband, their athletic, musical and bright teenage daughters (13 and 16), and their ridiculously cute rescue puppy. I reached out to Rachel after she shared part of her story in a Facebook group we’re in. She shared that she was writing a memoir about four suicides in her family and her path to mental health advocacy. Rachel’s family story is tragic, but not without some valuable lessons. And her journey in uncovering the layers of her family story is beyond compelling. I am so grateful she agreed to come on the show and share her story with us. Listen in to hear Rachel share: How she found her grandfather’s unfinished memoir that told the story of 4 family suicides How learning her family history helped her destigmatize mental illness The importance of teaching your kids about their families stories, traumas, and risk factors How family trauma becomes a part of our DNA How she faced her family after writing about their darkest moments – and strengthened strained relationships Links Mentioned: Find Rachel’s writing on Medium Rachel Steinman Follow Rachel on Twitter Connect to resources at The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): NAMI Thank you to our sponsors: Hello Fresh: Save $80 off your first month of meals by visiting Hello Fresh and entering the promo code SHAMELESS80 at checkout. Hourglass Cosmetics: Get free shipping with your purchase of a full sized Caution Mascara at Hourglass Cosmetics and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m not gonna sugar coat it. You will have hard days. Like, curl up in a ball and cry hard days. Like lay on the floor kicking and screaming hard days. Like, lose your cool with your kids hard days. Like, hate your husband hard days. Like you want to throw your coffee in your co-workers face hard days. It’s going to happen. And here’s the deal. You can handle it. You can do hard things. You are resourceful and resilient. You have superpowers. You can make magic happen. But without firmly believing in these 5 things, you won’t be able to turn your hard days around. You must firmly believe you can change the course of your day. You must deeply connect to your ability to shift your own narrative and trajectory in the middle of your hardest moments. This takes some work - and a lot of practice. The good news is that the chaos of kids gives you plenty of opportunities to practice, right?? So, don’t worry, you have plenty of time to become an expert Terrible Day Turn Arounder. In this episode, my very special guest Vinnie Dean joins me to talk about our recent opportunity to turn around a terrible day. It was a hard day, friends. There were a lot of tears. We were both exhausted and shaken – unsure we could change the course of the day (and it was only 10 am). But WE DID IT. I talk you through how Vinnie and I turned our day around as well as 6 tips you can put in your back pocket for the next time you need to turn around a terrible day. Links Mentioned: Join me at Inspired Mama on March 23rd: Inspired Mama Thank you to our sponsors: Bioclarity: Go to Bio Clarity and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to get your free clarifying masque when you purchase a skincare routine. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

By age 28, Nicole Walters was a highly-paid executive at a Fortune 500 company, managing multibillion-dollar accounts. But something wasn’t right. “My job was feeding my family, but not my soul,” she says. So in YRTK, Nicole quit her corporate job to open her own business and product development consulting firm, The Monetized Life. As her audience ramped up, so did her revenue—she made $11,000 in the first three weeks of working with small business clients full time. Now, when she’s not hanging out with her husband and their three adopted kids, she shares her secrets to earning “passive income” with other entrepreneurs through her wildly popular online course, 1K1Day. “I teach people how to add commas to their bank accounts,” says Nicole. “They learn that they don’t have to trade time for money.” I discovered Nicole on Instagram and was immediately drawn to her story of becoming an unexpected overnight Shameless Mom to 3 sweet daughters. I am so excited to share her Shameless story with you all! Listen in to hear Nicole share: How she became an unexpected, overnight mom to 3 daughters The boundaries she built around her commitment to motherhood, even before she knew she would become a legal guardian to her daughters The hilarious and brilliant ways she shows up (sometimes virally) to motherhood How and why she quit her corporate job online, in front of 10,000 people Her secrets to building a multi 7 figure business Links Mentioned: Connect with Nicole: tv Nicole on Facebook Nicole on Instagram Nicole on Periscope Nicole on Youtube Nicole on Twitter Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talk space and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. For 50% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care of and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Simple Health: Find a better way to get birth control – delivered right to your door. Go to Simple Health or use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to have your $20 prescription fee waived. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I recently had a conversation with a group of women about the secrets we hold and how they hold us back. Truth be told, a lot of women hold onto secrets for the better part of their lives - and these secrets cripple us in multiple areas our lives. If you have been holding onto a family secret since you were a little girl, there is a part of you who is stuck in the body and mind of that little girl. Holding on to secrets and not allowing ourselves to process and heal from them can arrest our development and impede our ability to deeply connect with others. When we start to share our secrets with trusted people we experience freedom, healing, relief, and power. And we often find that our secrets were not as big as we let them become in our own minds. When you share your secrets in groups of women, you’ll quickly learn that everyone has secrets, stories, and experiences that have felt crippling to them at certain times in their lives. And when we start sharing these stories, we begin to heal and we allow ourselves to connect more deeply in our relationships with others - win/win! In this episode, I’m going to share with you a series of secrets that other women have allowed me to share, as well as a few of my own. I think you’ll see through these examples how your sharing your secrets can set you FREE and allow you to be more SEEN - which can be life-changing. Thank you to our sponsors: Butcherbox: For $20 off your first box and 2lbs of FREE salmon go to Butcher Box shameless and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $20 off your order and get 2 lbs of FREE ground beef in every box for the life of your subscription! Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door with free delivery on your first order when you go to Instacart or use the free mobile Instacart app and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As the founder of Stack-It! Mamas, Rose Wetzel loves empowering women when they feel most vulnerable – after giving birth (at least that’s when SHE felt most vulnerable). A personal trainer and professional athlete (obstacle course racing, specializing in Spartan Races and American Ninja Warrior), Rose has to stay fit for her livelihood (getting paid to work out sounds nice, right?), but after a post-delivery complication/emergency surgery set her back many months, she had to start from scratch to rebuild her fitness, while working through postpartum depression, and worrying about her husband’s rare cancer returning. (It hasn't!) She tried all the tools in her trainer toolbox, but when she didn’t get efficient results, she got creative…until one day something clicked. In fact, it worked so well that not only did she get her strength and career back on track, but she realized her new calling: to focus on helping women feel fit, energetic, and confident after having a baby, AND make sure their results lasted. Her new method, call the Stack-It! Method flips traditional fitness on its head - helping you restore your energy through self-care routines that involve habits other than working out - like baths and rest! Rose and I worked together as personal trainers years ago, and the minute I found out she was pregnant, I told her she had to come on the show one day. I could not be more excited to share her story with you for our 300th episode! Listen in to hear Rose share: How being the youngest daughter of 9 kids shaped her life Her rock bottom postpartum moment she took to Facebook live to share with the world How she clawed her way out of postpartum depression and back to the podium The impact of childbirth and motherhood on the life of a professional athlete Her mindset resets around not reaching her biggest goals in the last year How she’s preparing for her upcoming year of racing and American Ninja Links Mentioned: Join my Plan & Prep Pajama Party: Pajama Party Connect with Rose: Rose Wetzel Join the Stack-It! Mamas FB group Follow Rose on Facebook Follow Rose on Instagram Rose’s husband Tim’s Blog: Race Sherpa Rises Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you are a high achiever, or a perfectionist, or prone to anxiety or depression, you likely already feel totally behind on your New Year’s goals/resolutions. I am with you. As a high achiever prone to anxiety it’s easy for me to feel totally behind if I haven’t met three new goals by January 2nd at noon. So, we’re in this together. Let me help you out….. You are not behind. You are right where you’re meant to be. In today’s episode, I’m going to walk you through 5 uncommon & unconventional but super effective New Year’s practices that will help you exhale and allow you to create space for everything you truly want in 2019. I’m going to give you a sneak peek at these 5 practices, but you also must listen in so you can see how these practices will be the most useful and effective for you! 5 Uncommon, Unconventional, but Super Effective New Year’s Practices: Don’t start anything new on January 1 Spend some time with your calendar Spend more time listening than planning Don’t start with goals, start with dream lists (this is *magic*) Plan small, even tiny, action steps - not leaps On top of this deep dive into these 5 practices, I also give you 5 DO NOT DO practices that will probably clear a ton of negative space in your head, in order to make space for GREATNESS in 2019. You ready??? Links Mentioned: Join me for my 2019 Plan & Prep Pajama Party: shamelessmom.com/pajamaparty Thank you to our sponsors: com: Save 30% off your Care.com Premium Membership by going to Care. Beachbody On Demand: Start your free trial and get access to their 14 days results plan when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Molly Mahar is Shameless Mom to Max and Juliet and the founder of Stratejoy — an online community that has helped thousands of women reclaim joy and meaning in their world. She’s an entrepreneur, mama, and adventurer obsessed with taboo topics, designing personal experiments, and the power of sisterhood. Molly teaches everything she knows about claiming ownership of your life + your truth in her 10-month program, Reclamation. A free spirit with a passion for mindful entrepreneurship, Molly loves sharing her knowledge with others and cracking numerous self-deprecating jokes. Bonus if she gets to be barefoot + dole out hugs upon entry! She has spoken at numerous events and conferences and been featured in The Washington Post and Forbes. Molly’s superpowers are telling the truth kindly, gathering awesome women together, and yes — reclaiming joy. I have been dying to connect with Molly for years, so I am so excited that we got to finally have this conversation. I think you’re going to love it! Listen in to hear Molly share: Her desire to pursue and embrace mastery in 2019 How she learned she pregnant – when she thought she had bipolar disorder Why she wiped out half her business and half her income on purpose Specific practices you can use to reconnect and reclaim your truth How to pay attention to what brings you pleasure and joy– and make decisions around those feelings The 4 questions you should have answers to in order to pull yourself out of tough moments and days Links Mentioned: Register for my 2019 Plan & Prep Pajama Party: Pajama Party Connect with Molly: Stratejoy Learn more about Reclamation: Reclamation Follow Molly on Instagram: Molly Mahar Follow Stratejoy on Instagram: Stratejoy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I could not be more grateful to each and every guest who joined me in the SMA in 2018. So many of these interviews had BIG impact. A wanted to share a variety of the episodes I found to be the most impactful in 2018 – based on the guest's stories, my experience with the interview, and your feedback on these episodes. If you missed any of these, go listen NOW. If you want to know which episodes are worth a second listen, it’s these ones. Enjoy! Episode 194 with Andrea Owen: Your Kick-Ass Life How women hold ourselves back from happiness and numb ourselves with food, alcohol, TV and social media. Episode 210 with Kelly Herron: Not Today Mother F*cker How she survived a vicious attack and used her terrifying story to become a warrior. Episode 238 with Dana Malstaff: Divorce, Proactive Crying, and Getting Naked How getting to know herself better led her to divorce and a new sense of hope. Episode 240 with Debbie Reber: Differently Wired The pervasiveness of Differently Wired kids and how we can be more supportive of their gifts, talents, and strengths Episode 244 with Dr. Jenny Yip: Coping with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Her story of OCD in different phases of her life and how she helps treat other moms and kids with OCD and anxiety. Episodes 246 and 248 Danny J: Saved By The Daughter She Placed For Adoption Part 1 and Part 2 How having a baby and placing her for adoption at 16 saved her from her eating disorder, depression and suicidal ideation Episode 264 with Jessica Butts: Front Seat Life How knowing and embracing your personality type can change the course of your life Episode 270 with Nichole Sylvester: Surviving Abuse, Addition, and Murder How she addiction and abuse, and hit rock bottom when her ex-boyfriend murdered a woman in her home Episode 280 with Courtney Shorter: Grief, Joy, and Soul Free Mamas How her 10-year infertility journey led to a brain tumor, the loss of twin baby girls, and ultimately her sweet boy, Hendrix. Episode 284 with Rachel Rodgers: Million Dollar Badass How she emerged from a childhood impacted by poverty, addiction, mental health issues, and the loss of her father at the age of 12 to become a 7 figure earner. And why she firmly believes all women should aim to be 7 figure earners. Links Mentioned: Register for the 2019 Plan & Prep Pajama Party: Pajama Party Take Jessica Butts’s personality quiz Get Nichole Sylvester’s book: Oh Shift Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Karen has over 30 years of experience working with couples and families facing transition, loss, growth and change. Her work as a Collaborative Divorce Coach spurred her determination to write “The Co-Parenting Handbook” with Kristin Little, Child Specialist. Parents learn the best ways to support their children, strengthen their co-parenting, and discover the necessary tools to skillfully create a two-home family. “The Parenting Plan Workbook” followed with contributor Felicia Malsby Soleil, JD. And most recently, Karen and Patricia Papernow, PhD released The Stepfamily Handbook, for parents ready to date and hoping to one day successfully create a stepfamily. As a teacher, trainer, facilitator, Karen played an instrumental role in developing the year-long facilitator training program for the Compassionate Listening Project. As a certified Compassionate Listening trainer, Karen utilizes this heart-centered approach to authentic speaking and capable listening used around the world in high-conflict situations such as Israel/Palestine. Her deep listening skills make all the difference working with co-parent pairs in conflict as they find their way through the pain of divorce into a future with optimism. Listen in to hear Karen share: How to parallel parent if integrated co parenting is not possible When you should see a co parent coach How to know when kids are really struggling with divorce/restructuring of family How to know when kids are ready for you to introduce new partners into your family unit What to do when your partner is not capable of co parenting How reading the Co Parent Manual can improve, and potentially save, your marriage NOW Links Mentioned: Connect with Karen: https://coachmediateconsult.com Subscribe to Karen’s Youtube channel Karen’s Book: The Co Parenting Handbook Thank you to our sponsors: Hourglass Cosmetics: Get free shipping with your purchase of a full sized Caution Mascara at hourglasscosmetics.com/shameless and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Katie’s Crib podcast: Check out this new podcast hosted by new mom Katie Lowes, who played Quinn on the hit show Scandal. Check out Katie’s Crib on shondaland.com or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

With just a few days left in 2018, I wanted to take a minute to reflect on my biggest shifts of the year. I have to tell you, when I sat down to think about this I had no idea what I would come up with. I am so glad I did this exercise, as it allowed me to see a lot of growth and triumph. I can close the door on this year knowing I stretched myself in a number of powerful ways and I’ve laid the groundwork to do more of the same in 2019. Cause a girl’s growing is never done! I’m really excited to share my 5 Biggest Shift of 2018 with you. Although, if I’m being honest, a couple of these made me pretty uncomfortable, which you’ll hear me express as I talk through them. In fact, one of them I didn’t even want to talk about. But you know I’m not about holding back. So you get to be in on ALL OF IT. What have your biggest shifts in 2018 been? I would LOVE to hear from you! Links Mentioned: SMA Ep 194: Your Kick-Ass Life with Andrea Own Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Radiah Rhodes is a visionary, entrepreneur, designer, engineer, and coach. After two decades of experience leading small businesses and Fortune 100 companies in the beauty and information technology industries, Radiah became known for her strategic insights, impeccable design aesthetic, and natural ability to connect, lead, and get results. She has led and coached many executives and organizations to deliver exceptional business results and launched a strong portfolio of multi-million dollar products and services around the globe. Most recently Radiah authored the book, Being is the New Doing: A Divine Guide to Owning Your Energy, Time and Peace of Mind. She also launched a collection of brands and products designed to transform and expand your intention and well-being. As an entrepreneur, corporate leader, wife, and Shameless Mom to two amazing and active children, Radiah knows what it takes to be extraordinary in life and leadership. She trains clients on how to tap into and leverage their intention as the fuel and fire to create any desired outcome with ease and authenticity. Listen in to hear Radiah share: Why intention is a measure of how you’re showing up and who you’re being How to elevate your intention through regimens and routines that open up space in your life How making declarations about who are can help you redefine yourself Why you need a rotating “energy leader” in your household Why you must recognize that your Busy Badge defines who are you being… is it working for you or against you? Why we get stuck staying small in order to stay safe Links Mentioned: Connect with Radiah at Evok: Evok Life Get Radiah’s book: Being is the New Doing Check out Radiah’s Evok INTENTION Planner System Thank you to our sponsors: Read Me Romance Podcast: Check out the sizzling new podcast, Read Me Romance, with hosts Alexa Riley and Tessa Bailey. Tune in at Read Me Romance or wherever you listen to podcasts. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy's and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Lola: Get 100% organic tampons delivered right to your door for 40% off. Go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Raise your hand if you’re a quitter! Oh, you’re not?? Fantastic. While it’s likely that you wouldn’t identify as a quitter, you probably feel like quitting things on a regular basis. Annnnd, it's possible you actually do quit things sometimes – maybe even on a regular basis. We quit diets and workout programs and books and friendships and jobs and clubs and committees and marriages. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes quitting is 100% the right move. See link below for my episode on the merits of being a quitter! But, sometimes we need to pull up our big girl pants and SHOW UP and POWER THROUGH and DO HARD THINGS. On these days, when we can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel and we’re not sure there will ever be a pay off for our valiant efforts, we need some skills to keep us going. This episode will give you the skills you need to keep moving forward, to keep taking action, to prove to yourself that you are a powerful, resilient, tenacious badass who gets what she wants and needs out of life. Cause you actually ARE that lady already. I know it. Let me show you. Links Mentioned: SMA Ep 28: Be A Quitter SMA FB Group: Shameless Mom #everydamnday Download my 15 Minute Manifest: 15MM Get on my email list to get the 2019 Plan & Prep Pajama Party Invitation: News Letter Thank you to our sponsors: Mack Weldon: For 20% off your first order of the most comfortable underwear, socks and leisure wear your guy will ever wear, go to Mack Weldon and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, go to Canvas People and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jody is the Shameless mom, a wife, and a nature lover. She’s a two-time Amazon bestselling author of “Let Love in 101; A Practice Guide to Happiness” and her most recent book “Mommy Reboot; A Busy Mom’s Guide to Self-Care”. Jody is a self-care coach working exclusively with busy moms who want to feel less overwhelmed and more fulfilled and she’s known in her industry for transforming the lives of moms through the art of self-care. She’s the face behind the Mommy Reboot Facebook group, a rapidly growing worldwide community of busy moms who are passionate and determined to be a good mom by taking care of themselves. Jody’s vision is for a world where women around the globe are caring for and nurturing themselves as easily as they do for their children and families. She believes that “self-care can no longer be a cutesy catchphrase, it must be...a movement...a revolution, and a new way of living for the modern day woman.” Listen in to hear Jody share: How she survived losing her dad to suicide, finding herself pregnant by her drug dealer boyfriend, and leaving her marriage to an unfaithful husband when she had a 10-month-old baby Why and how to be grateful for opportunities for resilience Your (surprising) #1 job as a mom and a woman How to incorporate self-care in non-traditional, unconventional, simple ways The truth about self-care and why it must be more than a cutesy catchphrase – and more of a revolution Links Mentioned: Connect with Jody: A Mommy Reboot Join the Mommy Reboot Facebook community: Groups Mommy Reboot Follow Jody on Instagram @mommyreboot Follow Jody on Twitter @mommyreboot Thank you to our sponsors: Homesick Candles: Save 10% off any order over $50 and get free shipping at Home Sick when you use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Kathie Lee Gifford book - The Gift That I Can Give You: Get 30% off Kathie Lee’s children’s book, The Gift That I Can Give You at Songfinch: To save $20 off your Personalized Song From Scratch, go to Songfinch and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices