Shameless Leadership

From the time you were a little girl you were likely told to quiet or completely shut down your own instincts in order to make other people happy. “Give Uncle Bob a big hug!” “Wear the pink dress. That one looks the prettiest on you. And then you watched your mom seek your dad’s approval and permission over and over as if it were required. Maybe it was. And then you had your own baby and you got really good an ignoring your body as it screamed at you: “I’m hungry!” “I’m tired!” “I need a break.” You couldn’t eat or sleep or take a break because this baby needed you in order to stay alive. And now you’ve existed for perhaps decades silencing your instincts in order to meet others expectations, make others happy, and keep babies alive. And you’ve completely lost any sense of self-trust. You wonder why you don’t know what you’re passionate about or why you can’t figure out your purpose or why you don’t even have a favorite food anymore. It’s because you’ve lost the ability to trust your gut, to listen to your instincts, to trust that you are smart and worthy and qualified and deserving. If you’re reading this and thinking, “SHIT. She’s talking about me.”, this episode is for you. This is where you get to start building back your self-trust. This is where you learn to get quiet and curious and conscientious. This is where you begin. Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Blue Apron: Check out this week’s menu and get sixty dollars off when you visit http://www.blueapron.com/shameless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hitha Palepu is a Shameless Mom, a multi-hyphenate - an entrepreneur, investor, and author. She is the CEO of Rhoshan Pharmaceuticals, a specialty pharma company that develops injectable presentations of common oral drugs. Hitha is also an active angel investor, having invested in or advised 10+ women-led companies. How To Pack: Travel Smart for Any Trip is her first book and an extension of her popular blog, Hitha On The Go. Her #5SmartReads series reaches 35,000 women every week. Hitha is equally committed to philanthropy, serving on the board of Sundara Fund and Youth Represent, the steering committee of Lincoln Center Kids, and an ambassador of Beyond Capital. She lives in New York City with her husband and two sons. I stumbled upon Hitha during some Instagram stalking and I haven’t stopped stalking her since. She is a woman with a mission - or like 37 missions. I’m inspired by her daily. I think you will be too. I think we all need a little more Hitha in your lives. Listen in to hear Hitha share: How she carves out self-care every single week, even on the fullest weeks Her desire and methods around raising emotionally intelligent sons How she is raising her boys in two heritages - as Indians and Americans Her identity as a multi-hyphenate and all the roles she embraces Her hobby-that-may-become-a-business, #5smartreads How she got into angel investing, how it works, and how to get started Links Mentioned: Subscribe to Hitha’s #5smartreads updates: 5Smartreads @hithapalepu Instagram @tejalvpatel Apps: Instapaper or pocket Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove you will get a FREE FIVE PIECE gift set from Mrs. Meyer’s in festive holiday scents like Peppermint or Iowa Pine! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove. Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every year since launching The Shameless Mom Academy podcast, moms have asked me about how to manage families and boundaries around the holidays. So, every year I talk about it. Because I don’t believe you should compromise your joy to meet someone else’s needs. I want you to own your holidays. Own your peace. Own your joy. Own the magic. Own the boundaries. Own your disregard for others' expectations of you. That last part might sound harsh, insensitive, even downright selfish. And maybe it is. And maybe that’s ok! It is not your job to manage the expectations of 4 sets of grandparents, 7 aunts, 3 uncles, 37 cousins, 4 step-siblings, a half-sister and a partridge in a pear tree. IT’S NOT. Your job is to meet the needs of your immediate family unit - to create joy and magic and meaningful traditions for these most intimate relationships with the few people you adore more than anyone else in the world. It might be possible to do this and meet the needs of some extended family. And it might not. And that’s ok. If you have any dread over the upcoming holiday season, this ep is for you. Tune in to learn how to prioritize all the right things (your joy and peace!) and how to set boundaries around all the noise (even if you love the heck out of those noisy folks!) Links mentioned: SMA episode 371: Train People How To Treat You Thank you to our sponsors Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Farnoosh Torabi a Shameless Mom of 2 littles, a celebrated financial expert, host of the award-winning podcast So Money, and bestselling author of multiple books, including her latest: When She Makes More. She appears frequently on the NBC Today Show and is the resident financial contributor for O, The Oprah Magazine. She is also part of the founding team of Stacks House, the first-ever pop-up museum dedicated to financial literacy and empowerment. Farnoosh studied finance at Penn State and holds a Master's from The Columbia Graduate School of Journalism. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and two children. Listen in to hear Farnoosh share: Her relationship with money having grown up in an immigrant family that had to build financial security How to talk to your kids about money in the context of your family’s values The importance of teaching your kids delayed gratification with money When to have your kids open bank accounts Why she is owning being the purposeful breadwinner in her marriage - after previously claiming it was accidental The global impact when women make more money How she made more money after having kids Links mentioned: Join my FREE virtual workshop on November 16th: 5 Mindset Resets You Need To Shine Like A Mother >>> Shine My interview with Farnoosh on the So Money podcast: Farnoosh Book: When She Makes More Connect with Farnoosh: farnoosh Listen to Farnoosh’s podcast: So Money Farnoosh on Instagram: Farnoosh Torabi Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get your FREE 11x14 canvas, text SHAMELESS to 64000. Just pay shipping and handling. This offer won’t last. Text SHAMELESS to 64000. That’s SHAMELESS to 64000. Yumi: Head to Yumi and enter promo code shameless for $60 Off your first month of yumi! Equal Parts: Get into the rhythm of the kitchen, with friendly and inviting cookware, coaching, and guidance from Equal Parts. All with free shipping and free returns. Visit Equal Parts and get 15% off any purchase with code shameless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You are a BIG DEAL. No, really. You are a BIG DEAL. And the sooner you embrace this, the sooner you can amplify your identity and impact in this world. The world needs more of you. Seriously. We need you to SHOW UP and SHINE. We need you to be LOUD and PROUD. We need you to believe in yourself the way we believe in you. If every mom knew she was the BIG DEAL that she already is, women would have exponentially more power in the world. Being a BIG DEAL is not about leading with your ego or grandstanding all around town. It’s about owning your strengths and gifts and talents so you can leverage them in the most powerful ways. It’s about living in your confidence so you can cultivate joy and power while having a positive impact in your household, your communities, your organizations. It’s about living out loud so you can lead with purpose, passion, compassion, and conviction. There are 4 essential keys you need to embrace in order to own being a BIG DEAL: Belief Hope Desire Self Trust Listen in to this episode of The Shameless Mom Academy for a deep dive on all four of these keys so you can be more of a BIG DEAL #everydamnday! Links mentioned: Join my FREE virtual workshop on November 16th: 5 Mindset Resets You Need To Shine Like A Mother >>> SLAM Workshop Thank you to our sponsors: Care: To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership— visit Care when you subscribe. Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talk Space, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Alexia Vernon is the author of Step into Your Moxie: Amplify Your Voice, Visibility, and Influence in the World. Branded a “Moxie Maven” by President Obama’s White House Office of Public Engagement for her unique and effective approach to female empowerment, Alexia’s equal parts practical, poetic and playful delivery style makes her a sought-after speaking and leadership coach, consultant and trainer. Alexia has presented transformational keynotes and corporate trainings for Fortune 500 companies and professional associations, spoken at the United Nations and delivered a TEDx talk. She has gotten her gab on with media including CNN, NBC, ABC, CBS, and Forbes.com. She lives in Las Vegas, Nevada with her partner in business and life, Stephen, and their precocious, wide-eyed, preschool-aged daughter. Listen in to hear Alexia share: How to step into your moxie - and what that means & why it’s crucial Why speaking triggers women's shame and self-doubt and how to work through this Why speaking to large crowds can be easier than intimate conversations with just a few people Why her first 8 weeks of motherhood were the worst weeks of her life How she managed and treated her postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD How to teach your kids to speak with moxie and why it’s so critical - and her own experience of speaking with moxie when she was molested by a family member Links mentioned: Join my FREE virtual workshop on November 16th: 5 Mindset Resets You Need To Shine Like A Mother Connect with Alexia: Alexia Vernon Book: Step Into Your Moxie Free Guide: Alexia Vernon Social media: @alexiavernon Thank you to our sponsors: Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. EverlyWell: For 15% off an EverlyWell at-home lab test, visit EverlyWell and enter code SHAMELESS. Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native and use promo code shameless at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you struggle with seasonal depression, the winter blues or full-fledged Seasonal Affective Disorder? I recently asked members of our private Facebook group their biggest current struggle and I was overwhelmed with responses about the winter blues and seasonal depression. I am not a doctor and I don’t want to minimize the importance of seeing a doctor and exploring medication if you’re struggling with depression. In addition to medical support, there are so many ways to support your mental health as we enter these darker months. And much of this support starts now - from a proactive place. In this episode, I talk you through a variety of simple lifestyle upgrades (yes, upgrades!) that can have a profound impact on your mental health and quality of life during these winter months. You will learn how to: ID depression stressors and triggers Tune into your body and needs Shift your perspective on self-care Incorporate more joy Stay more connected during these months that can often feel very isolating Please share this episode with others who may be struggling as we enter these winter months. Your support could deeply impact another mama’s life. Links Mentioned: Join my FREE virtual workshop: 5 Mindset Resets You Need To Shine Like A Mother >>> shamelessmom.com/shine Thank you to our sponsors: Blue Apron: Check out this week’s menu and get sixty dollars off when you visit Blue Apron. care of: For 25% off your first order of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tavona Givens is a Shameless Mom to two sons, a coach, writer, speaker, and a widow. She has always been in the business of healing, as a massage therapist and reiki master for over 13 years. She has developed an exceptional way of building trust and connection with every person she works with. With the sudden passing of her husband in 2014, it has been her mission to create space for widowed mamas like herself to use their pain as a catalyst for growth. She is the proud mother of two sons James and Jordan. She lives for family, travel, waterfronts, podcasts, chocolate, laughter, and random acts of kindness. She holds a Bachelors in Liberal Arts, Master’s in Public Administration, and is VP of Education for ToastMasters. She is currently preparing to launch her own podcast. Tavona life was flipped upside down literally overnight with the very sudden passing of her husband, James. I heard Tavona’s story a couple years ago when she first joined my community and I knew I wanted to have her on as a guest someday. I am so honored to have her here to share what grief has looked like for her. Listen in to hear Tavona share: The intimate details of losing her husband very quickly and completely unexpectedly The trajectory of her grief and what it looks like 5 years after losing her husband How her boundaries and badassery have strengthened as she’s worked through grief The theory and impact of “widow brain” Her belief that trauma is not our destiny - it’s our greatest catalyst for growth How joy and hope and pain and grief all coexist How she’s rebuilt her life on her terms - including writing her ideal life narrative Links Mentioned: Tavona Givens Facebook Instagram: Tavona Givens Tavona Givens Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $65 off your first month and show your support for the show. Honey: Get Honey for FREE at Join Honey. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You are a leader. There is no way around it. #sorrynotsorry You lead in your household. You lead in your community. You lead in your profession. You lead in your relationships. You are a leader. So, how are you stepping into that role? How do you lead with integrity? How do you lead with compassion? How do you lead with just the right amount of power and purpose to inspire others to follow? There are 4 key characteristics to every great leader, whether they are leading a family of 4 or a multimillion-dollar organization: courage, confidence, compassion, and curiosity. All 4 complement each other in a very synergistic way. And when you have all 4 dialed in you can lead in the most dynamic ways - where you’re working in your greatest strengths, inspiring others to take positive action, and having the most profound impact. Listen in to learn how to more fully step into your role as a leader in order to get more of what you want and have the most impact along the way. Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Homer: Visit Learn With Homer to start a free 30-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jessica Sinarski is a Shameless Mom of 3, a clinical supervisor, consultant, writer, and educator. She is the author of RILEY THE BRAVE (available in English and Spanish) and the founder of BraveBrains, an organization committed to helping adults living and working with children who have experienced abuse, neglect, or significant losses. Jessica is a thought leader in connecting neuroscience with practice in adult-child relationships and has shared her expertise as a contributor to Fostering Families magazine, Adoptalk, blogs, and podcasts. She has trained thousands of parents and professionals across the country and maintains a private practice in Delaware, incorporating neurofeedback and attachment-based therapeutic models. Jessica shares some GOLD here as it pertains to our brains, our childrens’ brains, and how we can reverse stress to the brain. I learned so much in this conversation. I think you will too! Listen in to hear Jessica share: The major benefits of understanding brain function - to give you power and massive insight to improve the way you live and parent What is the most important thing for moms to know about the brain - for yourselves and your kids The impact of stress on a baby/child’s brain - and why it’s reversible The power of turning toward our trauma instead of hiding it and/or hiding from it Links mentioned: Connect with Jessica: Brave Brains Take the ACE Assessment Book: Parenting the Whole-Brain Child Twitter @jessicasinarski IG/FB: @rileythebrave Thank you to our sponsors: Literati: For a limited time, go to Literati and use promo code SHAMELESS for $20 off your first box. Plus, kids three and up get a special blacklight pen. Everlywell: For 15% off an EverlyWell at-home lab test, visit EverlyWell and enter code SHAMELESS. Stitch Fix Kids: Get started today at Stitch Fix to try Stitch Fix and get an extra 25% off when you keep everything in your box! And as a bonus, Stitch Fix will waive their $20 styling fee when you use this show’s special URL! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It is no secret that the people you spend the most time with will rub off on you. This begs the question - are you spending time with the right people? Are you investing in relationships with people who inspire you, push you, hold you accountable, cheer for you? Are you investing in relationships with people who have similar core values, who want to do good for the greater good, who want to elevate others as they climb, who want to elevate those who have less privilege? Are you investing in relationships with people who are doing big things, scary things, great things - the things you want to do? The relationships you invest in will determine your path, your growth, and your joy. And in many cases, they will clear the path for you, expediting your growth, bringing you joy you never thought possible. Listen in to hear why you must get yourself in the room with like-minded mamas and my secret growth formula that makes the relationships you build in these rooms invaluable to your growth. Links mentioned: Join our free Facebook group: Facebook Get your limited-time Early Bird ticket to Shameless Mom Con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy's and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dana V. Adams is a Shameless Mom of 4 boys, the founder of the Life Mapping Institute, author of Live Your Gift and the Live Your Gift Companion Guide, and considered one of the country’s top thought leaders on the life mapping process. For decades, first as a student and now as a teacher and mentor, Dana has inspired, empowered, and led thousands to embrace their life’s gifts to live happy, abundant and authentic lives. She leads the highly acclaimed Life Mapping Workshop to corporations and individuals. Dana’s life was deeply impacted by life mapping a few years ago, so she took it upon herself to reach out to the creator of the concept, Bill Cohen, to ask him if they collaborate - major Shameless move! He said yes and Dana has had the opportunity to build a truly transformational program at the Life Mapping Institute as a result of this collaboration. Listen in to hear Dana share: The process of breaking through the fear around setting goals How she got out of paralyzing fear in order to create space to go after her dreams of writing and speaking How losing her mom by suicide shifted her ability to resist perfectionism and start taking risks to become an author The power of putting things in the context they need to be in order to overcome her family stories around incest and suicide What her intuition feels like and how she has learned to listen to it more often How life mapping can get you in deeper touch with your intuition The importance of having a deep and clear understanding around the WHY attached to each of your goals Links Mentioned: Connect with Dana and find events: Life Mapping Institute Dana on Facebook Life Mapping Institute Dana on LinkedIn Dana on Instagram Life Mapping Institute Book: Live Your Gift Thank You to Our Sponsors: Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native and use promo code shameless at checkout. Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove you will get a FREE FIVE PIECE Fall Gift Set from Mrs. Meyer’s and Grove, free shipping AND a free 60-day VIP trial! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you suck at time management? I get it. I’ve been there. Like, this week. I have to laugh at the timing of this episode. I recorded it a few weeks ago, but at the time of writing this show description, my time couldn’t feel more tight. It has been one of those weeks where I’m constantly having to follow my own advice. In a week when all the things are exploding and imploding, I’m having to be exceptionally clear around why I’m spending time on every single task - to make sure that I’m not prioritizing the wrong thing at the wrong time. This is HARD. This means that I’m dropping a few balls - on purpose. And that’s ok. Time management is not about getting all the things done on time. It’s about getting the right things done at the right time. It’s about identifying what the “right things” even are. Listen in to this episode to learn how to: Work with your vision instead of against it when it comes to prioritization Gain clarity around action steps versus tasks (so important!) ID how you engage in procrastination and perfectionism (and how to stop) Eliminate/automate/delegate Links mentioned: Enrollment is open for Momentum Mamas! Join our life-changing membership community here: Momentum Thank you to our sponsors: BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my/our listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to www.brumate.com and use our code SHAMELESS15, that's BruMate. Honey: Get Honey for FREE at Honey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Torie Henderson is a Shameless Mom of two teens, a master certified life coach, public school teacher, and creator of LifeCoachingforParents.com. She has helped hundreds of overworked and exhausted Supermoms transform their parenting, their careers, and their lives. Torie is host of the Supermom is Getting Tired Podcast and is devoted to helping moms release the burdens and the guilt so they can truly enjoy this time of their lives. Listen in to hear Torie share: The connection between “helicopter parenting” and fear Noticing our feelings vs judging and feeling guilt around our situations How we can disconnect our identity from our children’s successes, struggles, and failures and recover from enmeshment with our kids Why we must let our children experience negative emotions How to stop over-parenting and do less for your children (especially teens!) Links mentioned: Enrollment is open for MOMENTUM Mamas for a very limited time at a big discount: Momentum Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020: Shameless Mom Con Connect with Torie: Life Coaching For Parents Facebook Page: Life Coaching For Parents Facebook Group: Supermom is Getting Tired Podcast on Itunes Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. Blue Apron: Check out this week’s menu and get sixty dollars off when you visit Blue Apron. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’ve known for the last few years that motherhood is a massive qualifier for any CEO role. For quite some time I’ve been compiling lists in my head of different ways motherhood prepares a woman to lead and negotiate and teach and advocate at the highest level. But when I sat down to create a master list of the TOP ways motherhood qualifies a woman to be a CEO, I could barely contain my excitement. The thoughts that had been swarming in my head for years came pouring out and the connections were so clear and so obvious. It is not a stretch by any means to state that motherhood qualifies you to lead at the very highest level. In fact, I would suggest that in some (many?) instances those who are not mothers are significantly less qualified to lead at the highest levels. Motherhood requires you to be a master multitasker, people manager, time manager, negotiator, decision-maker, action taker, planner, budgeter, teacher, coach, mentor, visionary, value creator, boundary enforcer, teammate and advocate who can be patient, persuasive, compassionate, fearless, agile, empathetic, resilient, intentional, resourceful, disciplined, determined, and tenacious as all get out. Tell me what other role, job, experience would make you more qualified to be a CEO? You are capable of being the CEO of your life, your household, your community, and any other organization you want to build or lead. If you’re not 100% certain of that already, this episode is for you. Listen in. More than once. Links mentioned: Enrollment is open for MOMENTUM Mamas for a very limited time at a big discount: Momentum Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020: Shameless Mom Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 30% off your first order, go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS30 when you subscribe. care of: For 25% off your first order of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take CareOf and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Arianna Taboada is a Shameless Mom, maternal health researcher, author, and owner of a consulting firm that helps female founders intelligently design maternity leave plans that meet their business model and personal needs. She draws from her expertise as a maternal health professional, combined with her experience as a business owner and mother, to provide highly personalized services for service-based entrepreneurs. Prior to her consulting practice, Arianna worked on maternal health issues for over a decade as a health educator, a social worker in a mental health clinic, a reproductive health researcher, and a yoga therapist. Listen in to hear Arianna share: How to approach maternity leave as experimental and not templated - understanding that you cannot predict what your situation might be The necessity of framing maternity leave as a basic human right 3 tips to “babyproof your business” for entrepreneur mamas Places and groups where you can connect with other new mamas in order to strengthen your social support networks How to create a transition plan back to prepare to re-enter your work postpartum Links mentioned: Get your Early Bird tickets to Shameless Mom Con 2020: shamelessmomcon.com Connect with Arianna: Arianna Taboada Instagram Postpartum Support International Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $65 off your first month and show your support for the show. Framebridge: Go to Framebridge and use promo code SHAMELESS you’ll save an additional 15% off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You can’t afford to be indifferent. You can’t afford to not care or have an opinion. When you let others have all the opinions and all the loud voices, you also let them have all the power. When you let others play big while you stay small, you risk losing or never even acquiring what is rightfully yours. When you don’t create space to own and honor your truths you miss opportunities to share your strengths, gifts, and talents with the world - massively limiting your impact and your legacy. When we as women don’t show ALL THE WAY UP we pay the ultimate price - perpetuating sexism and gender inequality on a global level. You might think I’m sounding a little dramatic here. A little “extra”, as the kids would say. I’m going big with this statement and my beliefs around this because I’m not willing to passively perpetuate gender inequality and I’m not interested in growing a community of passive women who want to stay cozy and comfy with the status quo. I’m here for you - and for your power, your gifts, your opinions, your stories, and the legacy you’re building. I’m here to see you get the promotion, get the raise, get a seat at the board room table and rock the mic on the biggest stages. So, let’s go be a little extra together, shall we? Links mentioned: Get your Early Bird tickets to Shameless Mom Con 2020: Shameless Mom Con Book: Moment of Lift by Melinda Gates Thank you to our sponsors: Homer: Visit Homer to start a free 30-day trial. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rising star Angela Lewis has garnered many roles in some of the most illustrious off-Broadway play productions to award-winning drama television series. Angela will make her return as ‘Aunt Louie’ on season 3 of the FX series, “Snowfall” created by award-winning director, John Singleton. Her role as ‘Aunt Louise Saint,’ a drug-addict with big dreams in the middle of the 1980’s crack cocaine epidemic in South-Central LA, is set to showcase her artistic talent of acting. With appearances in many popular hit TV shows, such as “iCarly”,“Code Black”, and “Ocean Mysteries with Jeff Corwin,'' Lewis is sure to show the industry her never-ending talent. Now residing in Los Angeles with her husband, Lewis spends her time between her film and TV projects by giving back to charities that have been significant to her such as Cancer Society of America, Black & Missing, and Leukemia Lymphoma Society. Listen in to hear Angela share: The impact of playing the role of a women from circumstances vastly different than her own The contrast of the War on Drugs in the 80’s between the opioid epidemic today The difference between “struggling” and putting in the hard work How she navigates being in the “machine” of Hollywood The growth, evolution, and accountability she wants to see in Hollywood Links mentioned: Connect with Angela on Instagram Join our free private FB group: Shameless Mom Join us for Shameless Mom Con 2020! Get your Early Bird tickets here! Thank you to our sponsors: Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove Collaborative you will get a FREE FIVE PIECE Gift Set from Mrs. Meyer and Grove, free shipping AND a free 60-day VIP trial! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove. Precious: Go to Precious App slash SHAMELESS and start your FREE three-day trial to Baby Art Unlimited. Brooklinen: Get 10% off AND free shipping when you use promo code SHAMELESS at Brooklinen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When the inspiration for this episode hit me I got super excited. Typical. But then I got a little worried. Not typical. I worried that I would put an episode out there that told you all to “BUILD SOMETHING!” and you all would say: “HOW?” “ WHEN?” “ WHYYYYY????” Look, you work your butt off as it is. I SEE YOU. You hustle like a mother to get yourself and the kids out the door in the morning, to run a household, to reach your professional aspirations, to keep allll the balls in the air. And now I’m gonna tell you to go build something on top of all that. It’s a tall order. And also…. It might be the key to your sanity, your joy, and your most ideal mental health. You were born to create something - whether it’s creating a plentiful garden, a knitting circle, a community of like-minded women, a side hustle selling makeup, or an online business. In creating something, you have the opportunity to tap into the truest parts of yourself. And this is crucial in motherhood. One of the most important parts of managing the motherload of motherhood is staying connected to YOU - and those parts of your identity that exist outside of marriage and motherhood that don’t have a ton of opportunity to SHINE unless you make the time to let them shine. In this episode, I’m going to talk you through 4 reasons to build something outside of marriage and motherhood and 5 ways to get to building. Building something that you’re ridiculously proud of doesn’t have to consume a ton of time and energy. And chances are the thing you build will actually give you energy and motivation in other areas of your life. Are you ready? Let’s do this! Links Mentioned: Join our free private FB group: Shameless Mom Join us for Shameless Mom Con 2020! Get your Early Bird tickets here! Thank you to our sponsors: Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy's and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Literati: For a limited time, go to Literati and use promo code SHAMELESS for $20 off your first box. Plus, kids three and up get a special blacklight pen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke are the co-founders of Thrive Inc. They’ve spent 20 years helping men, women, couples, and teams to resolve difficult conflicts and create strong, thriving relationships. They’ve written two books: The Beauty of Conflict and The Beauty of Conflict for Couples. They’ve given presentations on conflict resolution, communication, teamwork, and creative problem-solving at Fortune 100 companies like Johnson & Johnson, Microsoft, AT&T, and Nationwide, as well as, at organizations like the Gates Foundation, University of Washington Medical Center, and San Francisco Giants and many others. They also run transformational retreats for couples several times a year, including Couples Mojo and Couples Alive. They live and work in Northwest Montana. As someone who has historically been pretty conflict avoidant and was raised by two very conflict avoidant parents, I knew this conversation would be a good one for me to participate in! I learned a lot in this conversation and walked away with some new strategies that I’m excited to take with me in order to lean into tension instead of run like hell to get away from it. Listen in to hear CrisMarie and Susan share: Why conflict, not romance, is the key to a lasting relationship Why walking into tension is important and powerful How to use the 5-5-5 method of conflict resolution How to grow and evolve in a partnership to share dreams and needs Why compatibility is NOT the secret to a long and fulfilling relationship Why you need to show up as a “FULL ME” in your partnership Links mentioned: Shameless Mom Con 2020 tickets are available!! Early Bird tickets and buddy tickets are on super sale here: Click Funnels Connect with CrisMarie and Susan Get their book: Beauty of Conflict Connect with CrisMarie and Susan on Instagram Connect with CrisMarie and Susan on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my/our listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to Brumate and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

People will treat you according to your boundaries. If you let people walk all over you, they’ll keep walking all over you. If you let people spit on your face in the middle of your living room (or on Facebook), they’ll keep doing it. You have every right to have high standards and high expectations around how others are allowed to treat you. It’s ok to expect people to act in high integrity. It’s ok to let people know certain things don’t fly. It’s ok to draw a line in the sand and say, “NO MORE.” You deserve to be treated like the queen you are. You deserve to expect and demand respect from others. And when that doesn’t happen, you need to make it clear that it’s not ok and you will not stand for it. Listen in to learn 5 ways how you can better train people how to treat you #everydamnday - including powerful and painful examples from my own life and a major lesson from the queen herself, Brene Brown. Links Mentioned: Shameless Mom Con 2020 tickets are available!! Early Bird tickets and buddy tickets are on super sale here: Shameless Mom Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $65 off your first month and show your support for the show. BarkBox: Get a FREE EXTRA MONTH of Barkbox with any 6 or 12-month subscription by visiting BarkBox. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Michelle Barry Franco is a Shameless Mom to three teen daughters who works with founders and entrepreneurs, especially coaches & wellness experts, who want to become recognized leaders in their industry through speaking and thought leadership. She has helped many clients share their message and story on TEDx stages and at the best conferences in their industry, and along the way grow thriving businesses that make a positive difference in the world. Michelle is the author of Beyond Applause: Make a Meaningful Difference through Transformational Speaking and is the host of The Thought Leadership School podcast. Listen in to hear Michelle share: How the death of her brother to alcoholism turned her on to public speaking when she was just a teenager How to build your own stage instead of waiting for others to invite you on theirs How to get started as a speaker If you should speak for free or only paid gigs How speaking impacts identity (in all the best ways) Links mentioned: Shameless Mom Con 2020 tickets are available!! Early Bird tickets are on super sale here: Shameless Mom Get a free digital copy of Michelle’s book: Beyond Applause: Make a Meaningful Difference through Transformational Speaking Connect with Michelle: Michelle Barry Franco and The Thought Leadership School Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Thank you to our sponsors: Lovevery: Save $15 off your Play Kit subscription at Loveveryand use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Offer good until 10/31. Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native and use promo code shameless at checkout. Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I took a serious vow 10 weeks ago. I vowed to embrace adventure over chaos for the summer. I embraced this mission with all my heart. I had a strategic plan. I had a support crew. I had hope. And even with all that, this mission was HARD. There is no denying that there were moments of magic this summer. There were plenty of those. And for that, I’m beyond grateful. But I’m ending this season exhausted and in need of rest and reflection to figure out how I can do better next year. Even in the face of fatigue, there were some valuable takeaways from my “adventure over chaos” mission. I learned: I can be wildly productive in short stints of time if that’s all I have I can keep my business growing outside of the structure and routine I typically thrive in I can ask for help and everyone will immediately lean in to help me I can compartmentalize work and play more than I thought I could (barely, lol) My simple routines keep me grounded, even in chaos (morning practice and workouts, mainly) In the absence of full days to myself, small blocks of restorative time make a big difference I’m not as immune to mom guilt as I thought I was Listen in to this full episode if you’re also recovering from a season of overwhelm OR approaching a season of overwhelm. There are some powerful lessons shared that will help you through the hustle! Links mentioned: Shameless Mom Con 2020 tickets are available!! Early Bird tickets are on super sale here: Shameless Mom Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Liza Harper is a Shameless Mom, a divorce coach, and lover of personal growth and meditation who has a passion for helping women breakthrough divorce! She has helped many through coaching and development in the corporate world for over 17 years and now shares these same skills and life experience to help women navigate their divorce and live their new beginning. As a twice-divorced single mom of three, she knows firsthand how scary divorce can be. With the right tools, time, and allowance of love and acceptance of where you are, creating your new beginning is right on the horizon- and she is here to help you get there and Live By your DESIGN. Listen in to hear Liza share: Her experience of weathering two very different divorces while raising small children How to navigate the post-divorce learning curve to rebuild a life and define new boundaries Why you should get excited about forgiveness and the magic behind it How to navigate co-parenting with a partner who is stuck in a highly emotional, highly reactive space The evolution of the stigma around divorce and why she completely owns her divorces rather than hiding them Links Mentioned: live By Design Instagram Work with Liza by emailing her at [email protected] and using Shameless Mom in the subject line Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Framebridge: Go to Framebridge and use promo code SHAMELESS you’ll save an additional 15% off your first order. Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

September is the new January 1 for moms. Truly. We drop our kids off at school - FINALLY - and instantly have a renewed sense of self (and freedom!!) after a summer of adventure and chaos. So, let’s treat this season appropriately. Let’s hunker down and dig into new habits (or the reintegration of old habits that fell by the wayside over the last 3 months.) Let’s get back to what serves us as women, as leaders, as the CEOs of our lives. Let’s get back to our proactive, planning selves who refuse to spend one more day in the exhausting existence of summer reactivity (please tell me I’m not the only one who got trapped here for a few weeks?!) In today’s episode, I’m going to walk you through 3 powerful exercises that will allow you to take back your time and energy as you transition into a new school year and into the last few months of 2019. We will cover: How to delegate and reorg family roles so you can stop doing everything How to integrate weekly family meetings (and the specific protocol my family is using) How to integrate a simple morning routine that sets your entire day up for success This is the best time of year to create new routines that serve you and your entire family. Take advantage of this time to learn how to thrive in your daily life. Links mentioned: Download my 15 Minute Manifest Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Embr: Go to Embr and Save $50 with code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After leaving a career in corporate healthcare in 2016, Sarah set out to find work that better aligned with her passion and purpose. As co-owner of Black Pearl Coaching and Consulting, she served as a consultant to small businesses and nonprofits. Through this work, she accepted a position as the inaugural Executive Director with Lead(h)er, a nonprofit that connects women with mentors to fuel career and community engagement - a position she still holds to this day. In 2018, Sarah launched The Beautifull Project, an entrepreneurial effort that combined her past professional experience with her commitment to pursuing purposeful work. Using the power of collective storytelling, The Project invites women back to their bodies, encouraging, and supporting them as they learn to use their voice and take up space. When Sarah is not thinking up big ideas for The Project, she is shamelessly momming 3 teens, writing, reading, teaching yoga, and leaning as far as possible into an honest, authentic life. Listen in to hear Sarah share: Her experience growing up in a body she deemed to be “too big and too much” Her history of body image battles and disordered eating How her Beautifull Project was born out of the moment her doctor prescribed her speed and a 600 calorie a day diet for weight loss Why “being concerned” for a fat person’s health is a discriminatory crutch How she’s embracing living in a fat body How to talk to your kids about fatness and fat as a neutral descriptor Why thin people must be allies for fat people if we want to create space for all women to live safely in their bodies and in their power Links mentioned: Connect with Sarah Facebook: The Beautifull Project Instagram: @thebeautifullproject and @seeing_sarah The TED talk Podcast: Beauti: The Interviews Thank you to our sponsors: Embr: Go to Embr and Save $50 with code SHAMELESS at checkout. Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, my listeners get a free 5-piece cleaning set from Mrs. Meyer’s and Grove - a $30 value! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove Collaborative. Lovevery: Save $15 off your Play Kit subscription at Loveveryand use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Offer good until 10/31. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Recently I’ve spoken out about the crucial importance of cultivating emotional intelligence in young men. The official definition of emotional intelligence is: the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. Historically, men have not been raised to be emotionally intelligent, emotionally capable or emotionally available. Historically, we have largely failed to raise men who can handle interpersonal relationships or relationships with their larger communities judiciously and empathetically. Historically, we have taught men to stuff feelings, dismiss feelings, ignore feelings, and deny feelings. And the consequences are proving to be dire. There are so many horrific outcomes when we have multiple generations of men who are unable to identify their feelings, express their feelings, and relate to other peoples’ feelings. The result of generations of poor emotional intelligence among men is rape culture, diet culture, racism, sexism, men policing women’s bodies, rampant struggles with mental health, the addiction epidemic and so much more that we won’t see the full impact of for years to come. This is disturbing and distressing to say the least. Add to that the numbers and data we’re seeing around mass shootings - largely executed by young, white men - young white men who with known mental health struggles and/or dangerously radical views stemming from a lack of empathy and compassion for others. This is an emotional intelligence crisis. The responsibility of raising an emotionally intelligent young man (a young white man, in my case) in our current landscape is a critical task that cannot be taken lightly. A number of you have asked me how we can do our very best in raising emotionally intelligent young men - and just how I’m facing this responsibility head-on. In this episode, I’ll share the 8 things I’m doing to raise an emotionally intelligent, emotionally capable son. By no means do I think I’m doing it perfectly. But I think I’m getting a few things right and it’s all worth sharing if it helps any of our young men. Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $65 off your first month and show your support for the show. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Darcy Lockman is a journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership (Harper Collins). Her writing has appeared in the New York Times and the Washington Post, among others. Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo, chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She currently practices in New York City, where she lives with her husband and daughters. I have invested a lot of time learning about building equitable relationships in the last year. As someone who likes to take on all. the. things., I know what it’s like to be the doer and the know-er and the gatekeeper of everything in the family. It’s an exhausting, unfair, and unnecessary burden that we can improve - drastically. I couldn’t be more excited to invite you into this conversation with Darcy and me. Listen in to hear Darcy share: What “good” dads get away with Societal, multi-generational indoctrination of gender roles - even among progressive couples The truth about maternal gatekeeping and the potential damage around it The power of using your anger in adaptive ways to have a more equitable relationship The research-proven struggles and burdens of the mental load of motherhood, especially in the first 4 years Strategies to build a more equitable partnership with your partner Links mentioned: Connect with Darcy Book: All The Rage Twitter: @darcy_lockman Thank you to our sponsors: BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my/our listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to www.brumate.com and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate. Honey: Get Honey for FREE at Honey. Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The path to anywhere worth going will be marked with unexpected twists and turns. There will be highs and lows that you can’t imagine - that will push you and pull you and quite possibly bring you to your knees. Because that is the journey of the hero, the warrior, the survivor, the fighter. The journey to anywhere worth going will take strength and tenacity and patience and persistence you didn’t know you had. You will question yourself, your strength, your skills, and your values. You will want to scream. You will want to cry. You will want to quit. But you won’t. You will persist. Because you will remember where you’re going and why it’s imperative you get there. You will remember that when the going gets tough, you do not sit. You PERSIST. Listen in to hear how to build persistence in order to step into your power. Links mentioned: SMA Ep 28- Be a quitter SMA Ep 339 - Growth mindset Book: Mindset by Carol Dweck Thank you to our sponsors: Brooklinen: Get 10% off AND free shipping when you use promo code SHAMELESS at Brooklinen. Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native and use promo code shameless at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Carol Gavhane is co-founder of Asha Blooms, a handcrafted purposeful jewelry company dedicated to inspiring and uplifting people. Born out of her walk with secondary infertility, she and her husband created this business once it dawned on them that words and intentions really do matter. Each piece of jewelry is tied to a specific intention, and it’s their vision that others see themselves for who they already are – whole, loved, complete, courageous and renewed. Everything about their first child was fairly typical, but trying to add to the family afterwards was incredibly difficult. During those years, they tried everything under the sun to get or sustain pregnancy - clean eating, support groups, fertility yoga, acupuncture, meditation, negotiations with God, many visits to the fertility clinic, and so on. These services absolutely helped as they provided comfort or bits of positivity, but there were many dark days thrown in the mix. During this journey, Carol found a fertility bracelet that became a beacon of hope, a daily wearable reminder to continue on, which she did for nearly three years. Looking back, Carol credits science, hope, and intention with the creation of baby Henry. I had the opportunity to meet Carol a couple months ago through a colleague and our connection was instant and deep. I relate to so much of her story. I know a lot of other mamas out there are with Carol and me, as well. Listen in to hear Carol share: What secondary infertility is and how it flipped her life upside down for 3 years What infertility looks like on the outside vs. the inside of a woman's body and demeanor How she found hope and comfort in an unlikely place What inspired her to start a jewelry company and the special meaning behind her work Links Mentioned: Connect with Carol and see her gorgeous Asha Blooms jewelry Asha Blooms on Instagram Asha Blooms on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 40% off all subscriptions, go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you ready for some truth-telling??? It’s time to take off your armor. You deserve to embrace and appreciate all parts of yourself and your story, not just the pretty parts. You deserve to reframe and reset your mindset around the struggles in your life, not settle for constant self-doubt and negative self-talk. You deserve to get curious about who you are and where you want to go in life, not stay the course that is no longer lighting you up. You deserve to grow and expand and become a more positive, powerful, purposeful version of yourself, not shrink in frustration and worry that you'll never get all the things you want. Not only do you deserve all this - you are TRULY CAPABLE of all this. You are capable of embracing all of you and all of your story. You are capable of reframing and resetting your mindset so you can shut down that negative self-talk. You are capable of getting curious about where you want to go in the next 3, 6, 12 months and actually starting to take steps to get yourself there. You are capable of growing and expanding into a more positive, powerful and purposeful version of yourself starting right now. If you're struggling with your identity - who you are, where you've come from, where you want to go - you are not alone. And it's time to take off your armor. The armor that you think is protecting you is actually holding you back from taking action, building momentum, and realizing what you're truly capable of. Here’s what your armor might look like: keeping people at arm’s length Laughing when you are hurting instead of speaking up for yourself Keeping secrets and holding shame around your stories Playing small out of fear of failure or fear of looking silly Making others look small in order to feel better about yourself (gossiping about other women, telling other women’s stories, passing judgment on other women’s bodies, choices, success stories) Staying comfortable and stagnant instead of taking a chance to step into bigger roles/opportunities Tune into learn 7 steps to take off your armor and put on your cape. Thank you to our sponsors: care of: For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take CareOf and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout Lovevery: Save $15 off your Play Kit subscription at Loveveryand use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Offer good until 10/31. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Chrissy King is a writer, speaker, strength coach, and self-proclaimed truth-teller with a passion for intersectional feminism and creating a diverse and inclusive wellness industry. She has been featured in SELF, SHAPE, BuzzFeed, Muscle and Fitness, and Livestrong, among others. She empowers individuals to stop shrinking, start taking up space and use their energy to create their specific magic in the world. When she’s not serving her clients by empowering them to create stress-free and sustainable lifestyles and feel confident and empowered in their skin, she spends her time lifting all the weights, reading, traveling, and hanging with friends and family. I have wanted to have Chrissy come on the show for some time. I’ve followed her for years online and her messaging always resonates with me. I think this conversation is especially timely given the Monday’s episode about Beyonce’s recent messaging around body image. While I recorded this interview before the Beyonce episode, there are a lot of the same themes and reinforced messaging around the power in protecting and elevating women of all backgrounds, shapes, sizes, orientations. Listen in to hear Chrissy share: How passion in one area of your life can ignite passion in other areas of your life What intersectional feminism is and how it pertains to you Her terrifying move to publish an article titled, “Is Fitness Only For Thin White Women?” - and the response it drew The importance of noticing inclusion and diversity in ALL spaces - and why you need to call it out when it’s missing (which it usually is) How to manage your evolving relationship with your body Links mentioned: Facebook: Chrissy King Fitness Instagram: I Am Chrissy King Twitter: I Am Chrissy King Thank you to our sponsors: Embr: Go to Embr and Save $50 with code SHAMELESS at checkout. Framebridge: Go to Framebridge and use promo code SHAMELESS you’ll save an additional 15% off your first order. Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week I called out Beyonce in a social media post. A lot of really interesting lessons and insights came from the ensuing comments and conversation. I thought it was worth dedicating an entire episode to the results of that one social media post because it brought to light: The difference between shaming someone and holding them accountable How you can simultaneously be a victim and a perpetrator of diet culture Why thin women need to protect and elevate plus size women Why women should be hypersensitive to body shaming and how being dismissive of sizeism compromises women’s power on a global level How you can appreciate and find tremendous value in someone’s work and leadership while not agreeing with everything they say and stand for Thank you to our sponsors: BarkBox: Get a FREE EXTRA MONTH of Barkbox with any 6 or 12-month subscription by visiting BarkBox. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anne Moss Rogers is a TEDx speaker and owner of the popular Emotionally Naked blog. She is a social media and content marketing expert who turned into an 'accidental leader' as a suicide prevention advocate after her son Charles, who suffered from depression and addiction, died by suicide in June 2015. She has been interviewed by the New York Times and was the first suicide loss survivor ever invited to speak at the National Institute of Mental Health. Her blog, Emotionally Naked which focuses on subjects including suicide, grief, addiction, and mental illness reached over a half million views in its first three years. She has written a book, Diary of a Broken Mind that includes her son’s song lyrics, which will publish October 2019. Listen in to hear Anne Moss share: The warning signs of his son’s depression and anxiety The days and events leading up to her son’s death How she feels comforted and connected to Charles when she’s on stage talking about his death How she finds purpose in her day to day life after losing her child How she is leveraging technology and the internet to save the lives of actively suicidal people Links Mentioned: Connect with Anne moss Anne Moss’s Blog Anne Moss on Instagram Anne Moss on Facebook Special resources for Shameless Moms: Anne Moss Help eliminate stigma, join the emotionally naked tribe and enter to win a free copy of Diary of a Broken Mind due out in October 2019.: Emotionally Naked (or text to join at 66866) Thank you to our sponsors: Embr: Go to Embr and Save $50 with code SHAMELESS at checkout. Lovevery: Save $15 off your Play Kit subscription at Lovevery and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Offer good until 10/31. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Women are raised to believe we should make other people comfortable. We should be caretakers of others needs and desires and feelings - even when it comes at a cost to our own needs, desires, and feelings. Because of this indoctrination early in our lives, we also take it upon ourselves to make sure that we don’t outshine others - because that could make them feel bad or less than. Instead, we let ourselves feel bad and less than. We make it a priority to make other people comfortable. And in many cases this means we shrink and play small in front of others. We don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable and we certainly don’t want anyone to judge us for shining too brightly. So, we stay small, quiet, dull, demure instead - because showing up as bold, bright, big, brave feels too risky. Here are some instances in which you might make others uncomfortable with your shininess and badassery, as well as put yourself at risk of other people’s judgment: when you lose weight when you run a 5K, 10K or a marathon when you quit your job to stay home with your kids when you make a lot of money when you write a book when you start your own business when you go for a promotion when you go back to school to get an advanced degree when you put your child in full-time childcare when you go on an epic vacation when you take every Friday off when you get weekly massage when you buy your kid something fancy/”spoil” them when you buy a bigger house when you buy a tiny house when you announce you’re a photographer/event planner/jewelry designer/lifecoach/blogger/podcaster, speaker, writer when you say you want to be a mogul Have you ever achieved one of these items and intentionally not shared it with others? You kept is small and private out of fear that others would be uncomfortable with your success or achievement and/or that they might pass judgment on you and dull your shine? I want to encourage you to reframe how you think about other people's opinions. It’s not your job to tend to other people’s opinions. In fact, you should pay them no mind. It’s not your job to make other people comfortable. Their discomfort is about them, not you. And it’s their responsibility, not yours. It’s not your job to play small and stay small because others can’t or won’t step up and shine. Your job is to SHINE LIKE A MOTHER. And when you do so you will become a mirror that attracts people who want to see you in all your big, bold, brave badassery. When you start attracting these kinds of people, you will continue to be able to shine in brighter ways for all your days. Listen in for a deeper dive and 4 ways to deal with the uncomfortable, judgy people in your life. Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $65 off your first month and show your support for the show. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Susan Hyatt is a master certified life coach who has helped thousands of women to transform their bodies and lives. She’s the author of Bare, creator of the Bare Process, the Bare Deck, the Bare Podcast, and an online community called Bare Daily. With her fiery Facebook rants—including “Whoop Ass Wednesday,” where she reads a fresh batch of hate mail from Internet trolls and gives her sassiest response—Susan has gained an international following of women who love her honesty, humor, and fearlessness. Susan has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Woman’s World, Seventeen, and O: The Oprah Magazine, and was a Finalist for the Athena Award, honoring her work in the field of women’s empowerment. Listen in to hear Susan share: How she caught herself in cycles of emotional eating and how she stopped the cycle How she moved from body hate into body love How and why quitting diet culture will bring you more success (and more money) The role of the patriarchy in inspiring her body love How to use pleasure power instead of willpower to lose weight Replacement habits for comfort and joy that don’t involve emotional eating or drinking The importance of radical self-love and compassion and FUN in any achieving any goal Links Mentioned: Website Book Website Instagram: @SusanHyatt LinkedIn BARE Podcast (iTunes) Rich Coach Club Podcast (iTunes) Thank you to our sponsors: Brooklinen: Get 10% off AND free shipping when you use promo code SHAMELESS at Brooklinen. Simple Health: Simple Health provides a more convenient and affordable way to get birth control. Go to Simple Health and enter the code shameless at checkout to have your $20 prescription fee waived. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The truth about confidence is that it REQUIRES courage. If you take a good look back at your life, I bet you’ll see a clear connection between the times that you took courageous action and the defining moments when you became more confident. You’ll likely notice that these moments all involved: getting uncomfortable doing it scared pushing yourself further than you’ve ever gone facing fears head-on Some examples of this might include: Applying for a new, higher-level job Signing up for a 5K, 10K, marathon Speaking up in the face of injustice Reporting an abuser Asking for a raise Setting a firm boundary with a family member or long-time friend Moving across the country Leaving an abusive relationship Showing up to an event where you don’t know anyone Traveling alone Skydiving or bungee jumping Climbing a mountain Having a baby Advocating for your child’s needs Starting a business Leaving your marriage Fixing your marriage Starting a blog Asking for help Finding a therapist or coach Getting healthy Courage is contagious. When you do one courageous thing and subsequently build a little confidence, you automatically start looking for more opportunities to be courageous. Over time, you build momentum around being an action taker and dream chaser who enjoys the discomfort that comes with courageous action because you know the outcome will be a more confident sense of self, a more joy-filled life, and a world with bigger dreams realized. When you don’t take courage action on a regular basis, you become complacent. You don’t see yourself as someone who can grow or meet new goals. You feel stuck, unmotivated, uninspired. This is painful. So, choose your pain. The pain of complacency or the pain of courageous action. One has a much more positive and powerful outcome. Tune in to hear 7 ways to build courage that will train your brain to take courageous, confident, life-changing action on a regular basis. Links Mentioned: Enroll in MOMENTUM Mamas and get a complimentary ticket to Shameless Mom Con 2020: Momentum Thank you to our sponsors: BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to BruMate and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate. Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Laura Cathcart Robbins is a Shameless Mom, a writer, and a recovery thriver and survivor. In September 2018 she found herself in an all too familiar situation. She was the only one in the room. She was the only black woman in the room at Brave Magic, a famed writer’s retreat. After it was over, she wrote about her ‘only one’ experience in The Huffington Post and comments started flooding into her DM from people from all races, ethnicities, creeds, and nationalities who had felt ‘othered.’ Laura now hosts the podcast, The Only One In The Room, where she interviews a person about their ‘only one’ story each episode. On her show, you’ll hear raw, vulnerable, accounts from people who are like most of us. Laura’s hope is that The Only One In The Room will inspire a change of perspective in how we all see and hear each other’s stories. She hopes to make you think twice before judging the person standing next to you at a party, in the pick-up line at school or in a crowded subway car. Laura’s show and her work is for anyone who has ever felt alone in a room full of people – which is to say, her show and her work are for everyone. Listen in to hear Laura share: What it’s like to be the only black person in the room in 2018 The difference between visible only-ness vs invisible only-ness - like addiction, divorce, infertility, having a child with special needs What it feels like to be the only one in the room and how we’ve all been the only one in the room at some point The isolation of onlyness - and the antidote How to create opportunities and cultivate your biggest gifts from your onlyness Links Mentioned: The Only One In The Room Podcast Laura’s article in the Huffington Post Laura on Instagram Laura on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Get access to MOMENTUM Mamas and Shameless Mom Con 2020 during our wild & crazy Christmas in July event (starting July 20!) Get on our newsletter email list for full details: News Letter Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native and use promo code shameless at checkout. Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As you grow and evolve in different areas of your life it is imperative that you build support systems that serve you. This doesn’t typically happen by chance. It happens by design. While this takes effort and often vulnerability, the value of safe and sacred support systems is immeasurable. It is common to make the mistake of leaning on one person or one group for all your needs. If you want to be really well supported it’s important to have multiple networks and support systems to lean into. Here are some of my networks/support systems (in random order): Mom friends Female entrepreneur friends Podcaster friends Running/workout/training friends Forever Friends (high school/college) My marriage The purpose of these different support systems is that you need different networks to connect with people who are in the same place at the same time with the same needs, dreams, and interests. As you listen to this episode, you’ll learn why it’s not reasonable or wise to lean on one person or one group for all your needs. It’s so important to build these support systems because: You must have a place to shine You must have a safe place to be seen as you grow You must have sacred places to connect with like-minded people All of this preserves your mental health, improves your sense of worth, and helps you build a more dynamic identity. AND all of this helps you minimize and mitigate loneliness, isolation, depression, and anxiety. Listen in to learn: How to build support systems that serve you How to release relationships that don’t allow you to shine Why some people are no longer your people and how to be ok with that Where to find your squad and how to connect with them Thank you to our sponsors: Get access to MOMENTUM Mamas and Shameless Mom Con 2020 during our wild & crazy Christmas in July event (starting July 20!) Get on our newsletter email list for full details: News Letter Scary Mommy Speaks podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kim Strobel is a teacher, a consultant, a speaker, a happiness coach, and an aspiring author. But her personal life is just as full. When she’s not firing up educators with her signature mix of excitement and experience, she’s a die-hard runner, an advocate for her community’s abandoned animals, and a family-oriented gal who loves spending time with her husband Scott, their four children, two grandkids, and three pups. It’s tempting to believe that the Chief Happiness Officer herself has never known a down day. But the truth is, sometimes you have to live through darkness before you can thrive in the light. Kim spent her childhood and teen and young adult years dealing with panic attacks and crippling fear. Diagnosis of a seizure disorder and full panic disorder followed and with them a burgeoning fear that she would never be able to achieve her dreams. Listen in to hear how Kim overcame her crippling panic disorder and what her life looks like today - as a Happiness Coach, who is not immune to panic attack relapses. Listen in to hear Kim share: How she endured 8 years living with panic disorder, having 25 panic attacks a day at times How medical intervention and CBD therapy saved her life How to retrain your brain toward happiness 50% of your long term happiness is genetic, 10% is external circumstances, 40% is self-controlled/self-managed Top 5 happiness habits What your kids are really see when you show up imperfectly Links Mentioned: Connect with Kim Free Facebook Group Instagram Deepak Chopra Ananda meditation app Thank you to our sponsors: Scary Mommy Speaks podcast Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is a huge difference between dreaming and doing. Yet, sometimes we confuse the two. Dreaming lives in your head and your heart. Dreaming doesn’t have a plan. Dreaming is passive. Dreaming doesn’t have a start date. Dreaming doesn’t keep you accountable. Dreaming is not an accomplishment. Dreaming is picture perfect and linear, a series of perfect steps that take you to a perfect destination. Dreaming is future-oriented. It’s about later… when you have time when the kids are older when the circumstances are juuuuust so. Dreaming is outcome focused. Dreaming feels indulgent and delightful, like something you might not even be worthy of. In contrast… Doing is your dream in action. Doing is a plan. Doing has a start date, as well as an end date. Doing keeps you accountable. Doing is an accomplishment. Doing is not linear, its a series of highs and lows and lefts and rights and a few wrong turns that take you to a beautifully imperfect place that you’re ridiculously proud of. Doing is action oriented. Doing is present-oriented, not future-oriented. Doing is step focused - not outcome focused - where you’re always considering, “what is my next right step?” Doing feels scary, exciting, nerve-wracking, determined, and disciplined. Dreaming definitely serves a purpose. It provides: Hope Vision Clarity Joy Escape Doing serves a transformative experience: Sense of pride Sense of momentum Sense of accomplishment Increased self-worth New/evolved sense of identity At the crux of dreaming vs doing is a lot of decision making. I would argue that decisiveness is the biggest struggle of doing. Making decisions toward your dreams (the doing) can be crippling. But for the doing to take place, the decisions must be made. You must become a DECISION MAKER AND AN ACTION TAKER. It is the only path to your dreams. Listen in to hear how to learn how to become a better decision maker and action taker - in order to be a DOER who realizes all her dreams. Links mentioned: Shameless Mom Con WaitList Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love BarkBox: Get a FREE EXTRA MONTH of Barkbox with any 6 or 12-month subscription by visiting BarkBox Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Katie Goodman is an award-winning musical comedian, author, speaker, and life-coach. She is a nationally touring keynote speaker on the topic of using the tools of improv comedy in everyday life. Her musical comedy show, “Broad Comedy,” runs Off-Broadway and tours across the country. She has been seen on Showtime, on Current TV, and on TruTV. Her comedy videos, having amassed 3 million views, can be viewed online. She received a Time Out New York Critic’s Pick for Best Cabaret and is signed with Comedy Dynamics, North America’s largest independent record label. Her album “Halfway Closer To Dead” is available on iTunes. As a keynote speaker, workshop leader and trainer, Katie has taught over 10,000 people the art of improvisational comedy. She writes for O Magazine and is the author of Improvisation For The Spirit: Living A More Creative, Spontaneous and Courageous Life Using The Tools of Improv Comedy. And you’ll definitely want to check out her podcast, The Improvised Life with Katie Goodman. Listen in to hear Katie share: How you’re already using improvisation in your life - and how to use it more to your advantage Why learning improvisation is a valuable life skill How to practice getting lost and living in unpredictability - especially if you’re a control freak How to live more authentically by refusing to compete How to use improv to change your parenting game The magic of creating space in moments where you feel you have no control Links mentioned: Connect with Katie Tune into Katie’s podcast: The Improvised Life YouTube video: Half Way Closer To Dead Free Resource: Gag Your Inner Critic Worksheet Katie’s Website Katie’s Facebook Katie’s Instagram Katie’s Twitter Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. Simple Health: Simple Health provides a more convenient and affordable way to get birth control. Go to Simple Health and enter the code shameless at checkout to have your $20 prescription fee waived. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have recently had multiple mamas reach out to me to ask me to do an episode on self-worth. AND I’ve been repeatedly noticing that questioning one’s worthiness is a common stumbling block for a number of my coaching clients. In fact, perhaps the most common stumbling block. When it comes to self-worth, we need to look at a few things: Why do you feel a lack of worth? What is at the root of your struggles with self-worth? How is lack of worth showing up in your life? How is lack of worth holding you back in life? What are the dangerous risk factors of not cultivating a strong sense of self-worth? What simple action steps can you take to improve your self-worth? Cultivating a strong sense of self-worth can take time - as many of us have been sitting in self-doubt and grappling with negative self-talk for years, maybe decades. But when you start to identify the root of your struggles and see some of the patterns around poor self-worth in your life, it can quickly become clear how you can change course. Changing course doesn’t have to be big and overwhelming. It can be small, simple steps you take to integrate a more positive and powerful sense of self into your identity. And this can be SO FREEING. In this episode, I walk you through 9 such steps. So, let’s get to it, shall we? Let’s all step up and step into our badassery. Links mentioned: SMA Episode 341: How to Create Authentic Affirmations That Become Tangible Truths Thank you to our sponsors: Care: To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership— visit Care when you subscribe. care of: For 30% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care Of and enter the code SHAMELESS30 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After a successful fifteen-year career in the tech industry and noticing the amount of exposure her two young boys were giving to their tech devices Priyanka Raha took her passion for technology and her children’s future and launched her startup, PopSmartKids in February 2018. With PopSmartKids, she is driving the Mentoring-Over-Monitoring revolution and is committed to promoting digital citizenship and responsible online behavior. In June 2019, the company will officially launch PopSmartWrite, an interactive learning tool for children to create stories through writing. Priyanka holds a Bachelor's degree in Engineering (Electronics and Telecommunication) and an MBA in Strategy and Systems from Purdue University. She has worked and lived in nine cities across India, US, and Europe, before settling in Seattle, which she calls home now. A core member of the Female Founders Alliance and other female founder communities, she is a zealous supporter of women founders and women in tech. This year she spoke about mindful and meaningful tech at the Women in Tech Regatta Seattle. Listen in to Priyanka share: How to shift our mindset around technology to be about mindful integration instead of a sense of constant invasion How to use technology as a magic wand to support your child’s emotional development and create good global citizens How to use technology to open up communication rather than shut it down Playing the role of a mentor of technology use vs constant monitor and manager of technology use Links Mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 on March 27th & March 28th! Get on the WaitList for tickets here: Mom Con 2020 Connect with Priyanka and Pop Smart Kids Pop Smart Kids on Facebook Priyanka on Facebook Priyanka on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my/our listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to BruMate and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m going to challenge you on something today. Are you ready? I want to know how you get caught up in distraction from action? Do you get stuck in vicious loops of email → social media → checking work data and never actually dig into the projects that will take your business or career to the next level? Or maybe your vicious loop looks more like pick up toys → clean up kitchen → change laundry → check phone, over and over all day long? Or what about the constant loop of researching → planning → list making? Or maybe you make rules for yourself that distract you from the action - like, “I must wash all our baseboards and organize my closet before I start my [book/blog/podcast/apply for a job/write the email asking for a raise].” Sound familiar??? All of this is a distraction from the action - busyness that serves as a facade for productivity. We mistake tasks and to do’s for goals and action steps. There is a huge difference though. Tasks and to do’s don’t take a closer to realizing our dreams. In fact, they are often hiding places and safe spaces that hold us back from our dreams. Conversely, goals and action steps are critical steps toward accomplishments that reap great benefits - much greater than clean baseboards. Listen in to learn 5 steps to engage in MORE ACTION and LESS DISTRACTION. Links mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 on March 27th & March 28th! Get on the WaitList for tickets here: Mom Con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Paint Your Life: Get thirty percent off your painting. And FREE shipping. To get this special offer, text the word Shameless to 47-47-47. That’s Shameless to 47-47-47. Text S-H-A-M-E-L-E-S-S to 47-47-47. Message and data rates may apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Leanne Kabat is the CEO of MamaCon, an award-winning conference for moms, and host of The 5 Seasons of Connection™ podcast. She is also an author, speaker, parent coach, and former teacher who helps women live more intentionally, more confidently and more deeply connected to those they love using the transformational power of The 5 Seasons Strategy. Leanne developed this framework because in 2006 she received a medical diagnosis that gave her five years to live and every second with her three children mattered. Over a decade later, she is healthy, happy, and only two countries from reaching her life goal of visiting 50 countries before she turns 50. This is Leanne’s second time on the show and she always brings all the goosebumps and truthbombs, so I couldn’t be more excited to have her back to share her brilliance once again! Listen in to hear Leanne share: How a massive brain crash and being told she had 5 years to live uprooted and improved her life How to live like it matters The unexpected magic she discovered in her mission to help 50 mamas in 50 days The 5 seasons of parenting and how to navigate them How to weather parenting storms and know when it’s time to plant new seeds Links mentioned: Connect with Leanne Join Leanne’s free Facebook group SMA Episode 108 Leanne Kabat: When You Only Have 5 Years To Live Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 on March 27th & March 28th! Get on the WaitList for tickets here: Mom Con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Paint Your Life: Get thirty percent off your painting. And FREE shipping. To get this special offer, text the word Shameless to 47-47-47. That’s Shameless to 47-47-47. Text S-H-A-M-E-L-E-S-S to 47-47-47. Message and data rates may apply. ButcherBox: To receive $20 off your first box and a package of Free Bacon in every box for the Life of your subscription, go to ButcherBox/SHAMELESS or enter SHAMELESS at checkout. Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Someone is going to be the leader of your life. Will it be you? Being the leader of your life is a tremendous responsibility and a huge opportunity for all great things. How much are you capitalizing on that opportunity? As we enter a new season - a season where many moms find comfort in commiserating over lack of childcare and the countdown to the first day of school, I invite you to consider how you can be the leader of your life to make this summer full of adventure, full of magic, full of fire - all on your own damn terms. Yes, that is all truly in your power. Tune into this SMA episode for 4 powerful ways to be the leader of your life this summer - and #everydamnday. Links mentioned: Join us at Shameless Mom Con 2020 on March 27th & March 28th! Get on the WaitList for tickets here: Mom con 2020 Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. KiwiCo: Visit KiwiCo and get your first crate free! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Born and raised in the Chicago suburbs, Nicole DeBoom was a standout swimmer, qualifying for the 1988 Olympic Trials and later graduating from Yale University. She decided to pursue the sport of triathlon, and a lucky seat assignment introduced her to her future husband, Tim DeBoom (who would later become a 2-time Hawaii Ironman World Champion), on a flight to the 1995 Triathlon World Championships. Nicole started racing professionally in 1999, racking up countless podium finishes. During the final stage of her racing career in 2004, Nicole created and introduced something that had never been done before – the very first running skirt. Shortly afterward, Nicole went on to launch Skirt Sports with the mission of helping women find inspiration, confidence, and courage through the transformative power of running and fitness. Today, Skirt Sports is a national women’s apparel brand offering a full line of products that fit real women’s bodies and support their busy running lives. Currently, you can find Nicole chatting with customers at the Skirt Sports Boulder flagship store, helping women change their lives through her non-profit organization Running Start, interviewing visionaries for her popular podcast Run This World and chasing around her 7-year-old girl, Wilder. Nicole’s energy is as big and dynamic as her racing career. I think you’re going to love this conversation as much as I did! Listen in to hear Nicole share: How she went from being a professional athlete who didn’t want kids to have a daughter that completely changed her sense of identity How she adapted to NOT doing it all Her evolution from a professional athlete into a working mom with a mission (and the shift in identity when you no longer workout 3 times a day) Her mission in building a company that makes athletics and working out more feminine and more accessible to women of all abilities and body types What inspired her to start a nonprofit and the impact it’s had on other women Links mentioned: Connect with Nicole Shop Skirt SportsUse the code SHAMELESS20 for a discount Check out Running Start Nicole’s Podcast: Run This World Facebook: @nicoledeboom Instagram: @nicoledeboom Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 40% off all subscriptions, go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Wanna know the very best way to stay stuck and lost in your life? Keep telling yourself, “I’m stuck, I’m lost, I’m confused, I don’t know my passion… Your words matter and your thoughts matter. Your words create your thoughts. Your thoughts create your beliefs. Your beliefs create your actions. Your actions create your dreams – or your disasters. If you’re telling yourself you’re stuck, you will stay stuck. If you’re telling yourself you’re lost, you’ll stay lost. Soooo… What if you started telling yourself, “ I’m curious, I’m looking, I’m learning, I’m exploring, I’m gaining clarity”??? If you tell yourself you’re learning and exploring and gaining clarity, you’ll start noticing new things around you. You’ll start seeing things in a new light. You’ll feel your perspective shift – because you’ve given yourself permission to be open to the process of growth, rather than staying shut off and unable to bring in a new energy. You must stop blocking the very energy you need to get unstuck, the very energy you need to start finding yourself. Here are 6 action steps you can take today to stop staying stuck in your stories and lost in your life: Listen to SMA Ep 247 How to Pursue Your Passions Upgrade your language Get curious Create space and grace for exploration, learning, dreaming Write down your dreams and desires – the dreams you write down are the dreams that will most likely to happen Don’t need all the answers now - recognize you’re in a phase and embrace the phase for what it is Listen in for a deep dive into these 6 action steps! Links mentioned: SMA Episode 247: 7 Steps To Find Your Passion Thank you to our sponsors: Bioclarity: So go to BioClarity.com and get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their Bioclarity when you use my code SHAMELESS at checkout. ThirdLove: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Christine Hassler is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change your Present and Get What You Really Want. She left her successful job as a Hollywood agent to pursue a life she could be passionate about. For over a decade, as a keynote speaker, retreat facilitator, spiritual psychologist and life coach, and host of the top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It”, she has been teaching and inspiring people around the world. Christine believes once we get out of our own way, we can show up to make the meaningful impact we are here to make. Listen in to hear Christine share: Her rock bottom phase: finding herself in serious debt, constantly sick, suffering from depression, estranged from family, in a broken relationship with her fiance How to reframe “fixing” your life vs learning from your life lessons How to navigate expectation hangovers Why you shouldn’t prevent your child from feeling negative feelings How we use spiritual bypassing to forgive too quickly Why your inner critic must exist and to turn up inner wisdom to turn down your inner critic Links Mentioned: Connect with Christine Podcast: Over It and On With It Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Free Fly: You can get 20% off when you visit Free Fly and use promo code SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices